Wearing my Wedding Ring as a Widower - People Have Asked Me How Long

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    Jenny Appleford or Kyle Appleford
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    DIAGNOSIS:
    March 19th, 2021 Stage IIIA Non Small Cell Lung Cancer (Non-Smoking)
    February 2022 Stage IV Non Small Cell Lung Cancer (spreading to Brain, and other parts of lung and lymph nodes)
    Gene Mutation EGFR with Exon 20 Insertion
    TREATMENTS: Received or currently Receiving
    2021: 8 Rounds of Chemotherapy (Carboplatin and Paclitaxel) with 30 concurrent radiation treatments to chest and lung
    Failed Immunotherapy directly after Chemo and Radiation (Durvalumab, 1 round)
    2022: Chemotherapy
    10 rounds of Chemotherapy (Carboplatin, Alimta, and Avastin)
    6 with Carboplatin, 4 without
    Targeted Brain Radiation (Completed)
    Most Recent Treatment plan, prior to passing:
    Whole Brain and Spine Proton Therapy (Radiation) 13 sessions
    Clinical Trial Medication NOLA
    The purpose of my channel is to document my cancer journey to look back on, and/or help anyone else going through anything similar. It is also to potentially help loved ones supporting those who are in this fight as well. This is also an easy way to update a lot of people at once. My main goal is to have footage of this journey for my husband and children to look back on. I originally created this channel as a sort of video diary for my
    family.
    Thank you so much for following along on this journey. Your love and support help me so much.

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  • @dawnsabo5664
    @dawnsabo5664 7 днів тому +864

    You wear your ring for as long as YOU want to.

    • @suzanne296
      @suzanne296 7 днів тому +18

      Agree

    • @lynny5510
      @lynny5510 7 днів тому +40

      My husband passed away 3 yrs ago Nov 22 of this yr. I still wear my wedding ring. As far as I am concerned I am still his wife and he is my husband. You should wear your ring as long as YOU want/need to. There is no right or wrong. It always amazes me how many people think it is ok to even ask that question.

    • @rixanneh18
      @rixanneh18 7 днів тому +11

      absolutely

    • @ColonelTC
      @ColonelTC 7 днів тому +19

      my father died 13 years ago and my mom still wears her rings! Now she is 90 and no chance of remarrying but we love seeing her wear her rings

    • @amandabushby8090
      @amandabushby8090 7 днів тому +10

      Thank you for sharing Kyle such a hard topic. Your conversations are soo raw and truthful. You are learning to live without Jen.
      Your videos are helpful.
      Thank you 🙏

  • @joanyoder5880
    @joanyoder5880 7 днів тому +140

    My husband and I were married 73 years before he passed away. We were high school sweethearts so we actually had 75 years when he passed. I took his wedding ring and had it sized so I could wear it with my wedding band, that way he is always with me along in my heart. I am Almost 95 years old and not looking for a replacement so I will continue to wear the rings until I die.

    • @JenniferC-wb6tv
      @JenniferC-wb6tv 7 днів тому +8

      Amazing. My parents have been married 69 years.

    • @lydiamoore142
      @lydiamoore142 7 днів тому +5

      Wow ! Awesome,

    • @purpleviolet2058
      @purpleviolet2058 7 днів тому +3

      Wow! That's totally awesome!💯

    • @Justme-tr3mo
      @Justme-tr3mo 5 днів тому +5

      My mom just passed but she unfortunately never got blessed with a husband. Now ages married to Jesus for eternity

    • @clairestephens4916
      @clairestephens4916 4 дні тому +7

      I'm not even close to my 90's, I'll be 54 on September 30th and I'm not looking for a "replacement" either ❤, BTW I love it that you called it that. My husband died in 2017, so 7 1/2 years ago. He's now been gone longer than we were together. He had already been diagnosed with a "terminal" disease when we got together in 2010 so I knew that I was going to outlive him from the start. Even though we only had 7 years together, I still miss him every single day.

  • @DU2273
    @DU2273 7 днів тому +778

    It’s absolutely NOBODY’S business how long he wears it!!

    • @terri9129
      @terri9129 7 днів тому +15

      Agree

    • @carlabass7413
      @carlabass7413 7 днів тому +28

      Totally agree nobody’s business. They should never even have asked.

    • @marianna7702
      @marianna7702 7 днів тому +11

      Exactly.

    • @sallyH6661
      @sallyH6661 7 днів тому +10

      Agree

    • @soliquidsnake3990
      @soliquidsnake3990 7 днів тому +15

      That one youtuber got re-married less than a year later to another widower and people freaked out. You can't win with people online.

  • @pattownley8823
    @pattownley8823 7 днів тому +102

    My sweet husband died 5 1/2 years ago and I still wear my ring. In my heart he is and always will be my husband. I have been asked when I am going to remove it. I answer why? He is still my husband. It should not affect anyone else and reminds me of our wonderful 40 years.❤❤❤

  • @gregandtamie
    @gregandtamie 7 днів тому +368

    The ring has no beginning and no end. The circle goes on and on forever, as does your love for Jenny. Wear it and take comfort in it.

    • @vickieyoung7122
      @vickieyoung7122 7 днів тому +17

      I love that analogy

    • @melissalehman2891
      @melissalehman2891 7 днів тому +12

      Absolutely !!! Beautifully said !💕

    • @Sedgies
      @Sedgies 7 днів тому +8

      Perfectly said!!!!❤

    • @gregandtamie
      @gregandtamie 7 днів тому +6

      @@vickieyoung7122 , thanks so much.

    • @gregandtamie
      @gregandtamie 7 днів тому +4

      @@melissalehman2891 , thanks so much ❤

  • @beadornedbymaggie
    @beadornedbymaggie 7 днів тому +142

    There needs to be more men like Kyle in the world. His love for Jenny is so deep and so genuine. The kind of true love that is almost non existent in today's world.
    That ring is like a token of his love for Jenny. Let it stay on his finger for as long as it brings him closer to her and brings him comfort. That's pure love right there. 🥰

    • @suzantherrien3708
      @suzantherrien3708 7 днів тому +3

      Amen ❤️

    • @jackiemorris8585
      @jackiemorris8585 6 днів тому +2

      Kyle is one in a million.

    • @vanessaburckhard3081
      @vanessaburckhard3081 4 дні тому

      Kyle, you can where that ring as long as you want to. We love you and you're a very wonderful man and you were a wonderful husband to Jenny and father to the kids. We love and respect you and your family so do what makes you feel comfortable❤🙏. We are all there for you❤❤. We will always love you 😍.

    • @nicksterp2805
      @nicksterp2805 3 дні тому

      Amen a real gentleman

  • @JeanPhillips-p9h
    @JeanPhillips-p9h 7 днів тому +393

    My dear husband passed in 2014 from lung cancer. I an now 70 years young. I still wear mine. My engaement ring was bought in Bermuda on our first cruise. I will wear it till I cross over to heaven.

    • @chuckles1357
      @chuckles1357 7 днів тому +27

      I am 70 as well and my husband passed in 2020... The ring stays on!

    • @chriscutler8025
      @chriscutler8025 7 днів тому +20

      Kyle you don't need to explain to anyone.Your Still With Jenny it's not even a year keep being gentle with yourself.Jen is always with you

    • @ildikoparker920
      @ildikoparker920 7 днів тому +2

      Yes but you are aged and you won't be getting married again

    • @maxine3587
      @maxine3587 7 днів тому +6

      A lot of people who remarry still wear their first ring.
      You can't erase a person's past, and who would even want to?

    • @ildikoparker920
      @ildikoparker920 7 днів тому +3

      @@maxine3587 God says each marriage is binding so each ring is not necessary to wear it is only a symbol on earth

  • @muffydragonslayer
    @muffydragonslayer 7 днів тому +96

    You wear that ring as long as your beautiful heart desires Kyle❤️
    That ring is part of you and Jenny❤️

  • @kimberlyhacker5216
    @kimberlyhacker5216 7 днів тому +296

    Do what your heart feels. My mom passed 8 yrs ago, and my dad still wears his.

    • @bananabicycleseat6796
      @bananabicycleseat6796 7 днів тому +11

      My dad passed away 11 years ago and my mom still wears hers. They had an awesome love story too. He is the love of her life since she was 18, newly graduated from HS. They married three months after they met

    • @Inge68
      @Inge68 7 днів тому +5

      My mom to

    • @murlepeterson6028
      @murlepeterson6028 6 днів тому +2

      My mom wore her's never took it off or moved it

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    @Malaikamuskan-v5z 6 днів тому +193

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      @socialworkgroupa5256 6 днів тому +1

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    • @chrisbenoit5044
      @chrisbenoit5044 6 днів тому

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    • @AfkAliaga
      @AfkAliaga 6 днів тому

      I wish they were readily available in my place.
      Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
      He's constantly talking about killing someone.
      He's violent. Anyone reading this
      Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

    • @socialworkgroupa5256
      @socialworkgroupa5256 6 днів тому

      Is he on instagram?

    • @chrisbenoit5044
      @chrisbenoit5044 6 днів тому

      Yes he is Steve_porassss

  • @grandmacarol3073
    @grandmacarol3073 7 днів тому +140

    11 years later and I’m still wearing my wedding rings. I never take them off. It’s comforting.

  • @eastcoastrabbit4474
    @eastcoastrabbit4474 7 днів тому +62

    Ever since your lovely wife passed away I've not been able to watch your videos, your grief is so raw still. I think this is the first video I've watched in over 6mths. You are a wonderful man who did his absolute best taking care of, and loving his partner. Really, you've set the bar incredibly high. How could you not want to wear your ring still? It's a beautiful show of love for the deepest connection you've ever had. All the best to you, and your children.

  • @jacquelinehand-dennis2573
    @jacquelinehand-dennis2573 7 днів тому +109

    Your still a new widower. You still feel married. Unless they have lost a spouse, they wouldn’t know. Sending hugs

    • @paulaross3106
      @paulaross3106 7 днів тому +10

      I am a widow & I cherish wearing my wedding ring. These are precious memories that are precious to me. You are doing what is good for you! Wear the ring❤❤❤❤❤

    • @paulaross3106
      @paulaross3106 7 днів тому +5

      Amen to your feelings 🙏🙏❤

    • @KendallErkenbeck
      @KendallErkenbeck 7 днів тому +2

      When you lose your spouse you’re still married I think about you so much Kyle I love watching you and going back and watching old videos with Jen also. ❤

    • @444.kierstxn
      @444.kierstxn 7 днів тому +3

      It’s not that he still *feels* married … he still IS married. Just because her earthly presence has ended doesn’t mean their love and relationship has❤

    • @simfimpim
      @simfimpim 5 днів тому +1

      @@444.kierstxn In Christianity and Judaism marriage ends at death. But I totally understand how someone can still feel married after a spouse dies. Most people still feel that way although according to the law and Judeo-Christian views, the marriage bond is over at the death of a spouse.

  • @renae740
    @renae740 7 днів тому +58

    What's the right answer? Whatever you feel and gives you comfort is the right answer for you.

  • @ven0006
    @ven0006 7 днів тому +151

    I am shocked that anyone at all would ask about your wedding ring and how long you are going to wear it. None of their business. You wear it your whole life through if you want to!

    • @carmelaburrone5029
      @carmelaburrone5029 7 днів тому +12

      I agree 100%. My Dad passed 15 yrs before my Mom , and she wore her wedding ring until the day she died. People need to MYOB.

    • @people_watcher
      @people_watcher 7 днів тому +10

      Agree. Its rude

    • @Freddybender123
      @Freddybender123 7 днів тому +5

      Agreed people are so damn miserable and want to bring others down so Kyle keep keeping on❤

    • @dianabadillo2646
      @dianabadillo2646 7 днів тому +3

      I completely agree with your comment.

    • @thegamingawesome6476
      @thegamingawesome6476 7 днів тому +3

      I agree 💯

  • @rebeccawhite6075
    @rebeccawhite6075 7 днів тому +65

    My dad has been gone 22 years and my mom still wears her ring. Every year we celebrate their wedding anniversary because in her heart she is still married to him. Everyone has to do what's right for them. You do you Kyle. ❤

    • @margaretneanover3385
      @margaretneanover3385 3 дні тому +1

      Nice. It's not even that as for twenty four yrs later , some do. They had their times and the ring is the memory of why. It's simply their comfort if they choose to wear. It's usually kept , so those are closer holders .😊

  • @cdsurvivor
    @cdsurvivor 7 днів тому +237

    Shocked anyone would ask this! You’re still married, she is still your wife. wear your ring as long as you want. Love that about you, you keep Sweet Jenny ‘s memory alive for sure!! You’re an amazing husband and father!! Sending love to you Ellis & Winnie!!❤️🫶🤍🙏

    • @colleen1219
      @colleen1219 7 днів тому +13

      I agree it really has nothing to do with anyone else. Everything to do with his personal journey. No one gets to dictate how grief should be handled.

    • @deeh7105
      @deeh7105 7 днів тому +15

      Absolutely!! I'm so proud of you for keeping wearing your ring. Jenny is still your wife. ❤I appreciate so much how you keep Jenny's spirit and presence alive. ❤ That is so respectful and honorable. ❤

    • @Jenna-Roo
      @Jenna-Roo 7 днів тому +8

      Amen! ❤✌🏻🙏🏼🦋🐞

    • @twilagenco1538
      @twilagenco1538 7 днів тому +10

      I still wear mine and it's been 10 year's and yes I still call him my husband and I still cry. I love my husband.

    • @ildikoparker920
      @ildikoparker920 7 днів тому +7

      @@cdsurvivor I have left a comment. No one is mentioning what Gods word says. Your ring is only a material symbol on earth but your union is joined by God. People especially women must have 20crt diamonds to show she is married do we think God cares. He doesn't care if you through it away God wants our devotion.

  • @charlesrichard315
    @charlesrichard315 7 днів тому +48

    I lost my husband suddenly 5 weeks ago. I am wearing his wedding band on my wedding ring finger. I am so happy for your channel. You give me hope. Most nights I pray not to wake up. I want to be with him. But he would be mad so I live day by day sometimes hour by hour. Seeing your strength is awe inspiring and I hope to get there.

    • @CMama612
      @CMama612 7 днів тому +8

      I’m so sorry. Minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day is all you can do right now

    • @TheDowntown02
      @TheDowntown02 7 днів тому

      How did he pass unexpectedly? My dad had the same fate 1 year ago out of nowhere.

    • @monicawood-wd8tg
      @monicawood-wd8tg 5 днів тому +1

      I still wear my wedding ring and always will.

    • @RebeccaOCD
      @RebeccaOCD 5 днів тому +1

      I am very sorry. Sending you love and prayers.

  • @JaneVankassel
    @JaneVankassel 7 днів тому +76

    Kyle, you just remember what Jenny said to us all, we won’t judge you, and your allowed to be happy, Jenny is, and always will, be WITH YOU, and your beautiful children. You do whatever you want to do, when you feel YOU are ready, you will know, and Jenny will be smiling down upon you, because she asked all of us, not to judge, and we never would, 😊xxx

  • @Karen-r4w
    @Karen-r4w 7 днів тому +38

    The ring is their symbol of their love. He is honoring that for her and their children and himself. THAT IS A GREAT GUY. JUST KEEP BEING YOU KYLE.

  • @locky63red2007
    @locky63red2007 7 днів тому +77

    I lost my wife of 39 years 18 months ago. I cant imagine ever not wearing my wedding ring. I have hers on a chain around my neck.
    Every one is different. Do what you feel is right for you.

  • @frubarkis
    @frubarkis 7 днів тому +35

    I don´t think I´ve ever seen or heard someone talking with such warmth and love as you do when you talk about Jenny, your children, your thought about family, marriage and life. If all men were like you, there wouldn´t be any wars. You gave that incredible love to your beautiful wife and friend. That warms my heart.

  • @GaleMckee-up4ks
    @GaleMckee-up4ks 7 днів тому +53

    My husband died when he was 34 years old i was 20 i am now 66 my wedding ring has never been off my finger.

    • @Mmmcalber
      @Mmmcalber 7 днів тому +7

      Beautiful ❤

    • @ChristineSaupe
      @ChristineSaupe 6 днів тому +7

      How lovely. Much blessings to you. I hope your husband knew how much he was loved xxxxxx

  • @KP-ly1qw
    @KP-ly1qw 7 днів тому +40

    Absolutely shocked that anyone would even consider it unusual that you’re still wearing your wedding ring. You wear it until you’re ready to take it off and if that’s never then that’s just fine!❤

  • @sadieyoung7397
    @sadieyoung7397 7 днів тому +71

    I seriously cannot understand why people think this is anyone’s business except for Kyle’s. Society have forgotten their manners or they just weren’t taught them, even online. It’s a symbol of your marriage. You wear it for as long as you want. It’s your level of comfort. The ring is part of who you are Kyle ❤

  • @krismills4393
    @krismills4393 7 днів тому +22

    Grieving is so mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting.

  • @foggyqubti6288
    @foggyqubti6288 7 днів тому +67

    Hi I'm still wearing mine after 5 years....❤

  • @aidans666
    @aidans666 7 днів тому +23

    My grandfather passed in 2000 and my grandmother still wears her ring.

  • @ellenfr3100
    @ellenfr3100 7 днів тому +83

    When I was widowed young 25 years ago I took off my wedding ring and put it in the casket with my husband at the funeral, a symbol that my love & heart would always be with him. I had my engagement ring reset. The diamond is in the middle and our birthstones on each side. It is beautiful and I will wear it for the rest of my life.

    • @betsybabf748
      @betsybabf748 7 днів тому +8

      I put my band in my husband's shirt pocket in the casket. I wear my diamond and had another band made, which his name carved, not engraved, into the gold across the front, which I still proudly wear. 💗

    • @sara-lindamitchell1926
      @sara-lindamitchell1926 7 днів тому +2

      🫶🏻 you are so brave and addressing these things and talking about how you feel so openly is commendable. I like listening to you and I'm here to listen👂to whatever you have to say! As the 1 year anniversary approaches I have been struggling - and I didn't even know Jenny personally 😢

  • @graceking8729
    @graceking8729 7 днів тому +25

    There is another man on UA-cam whose wife died of cancer. People asked about his wedding ring, He said he was not taking his ring off. You do you. I support you in your decisions as a viewer. It is sad someone asked that!

  • @Trac489
    @Trac489 7 днів тому +42

    Wearing your ring is a given. I would never question it.

  • @claret4381
    @claret4381 7 днів тому +17

    I agree with you Kyle.
    It is part of you.
    If I lost my husband I would Continue to wear my ring for ever.
    I am 38yrs.
    I LOVE you and I genuinely miss Jenny.
    ❤❤

  • @kimberlyfleck-xk3in
    @kimberlyfleck-xk3in 7 днів тому +39

    You hold such high honor, respect, and love for your marriage. You kept your vows to Jen and the Lord. Hold on to whatever you need to as long as you need.

  • @suepalladino4515
    @suepalladino4515 7 днів тому +19

    My husband will be gone 3 years in October and I still wear my rings. They give me comfort

  • @kaylal8078
    @kaylal8078 7 днів тому +36

    Keep the ring on Kyle. Don't let anyone make you think it's wrong. It's still only been a short time so wear it as long as you want to.
    I cant believe people have even asked about it x

  • @sharonzolna3375
    @sharonzolna3375 7 днів тому +14

    You have more wisdom and survival instinct than I think you realize. I am a 78 year old widow, and I know I would have the opportunity to date or marry again if I chose, but I am still In love with my husband of 28 years who passed in June and I always will be. I feel exactly the same way you do. I will wear my ring and love my husband until the day I die. I am a Christian and I know Larry and I will reunite in heaven. God bless you and grant you comfort and healing. ❤

  • @03111959
    @03111959 7 днів тому +42

    If your heart tells you to wear your wedding ring then just wear it Kyle. Nobody has the right to tell you when you have to take your wedding ring off. Follow your heart Kyle ❤🙏

  • @hts1443
    @hts1443 7 днів тому +14

    Your finger, your ring period ❤

  • @lizgold5824
    @lizgold5824 7 днів тому +40

    The ring is a symbol of. Their. Love ❤️ 😊

  • @christinejackson963
    @christinejackson963 7 днів тому +14

    Wear it! No questions…Do what you want and how you feel.

  • @rhondablaski6246
    @rhondablaski6246 7 днів тому +21

    It's NOBODY'S BUSINESS. We all grieve
    differently. What is wrong with people !?!? It's been for me, almost 10 years. I now wear mine on my pinky finger. And always will. You are the most caring and thoughtful man I've ever had the pleasure of getting to know through your videos. You do Kyle. And ignore the inconsiderate people out there. ❤

  • @ropesofpearls9758
    @ropesofpearls9758 4 години тому

    I'm so sorry for your loss! Please wear your ring as long as you want. Praying for you and your family.🙏🏽

  • @blessingsonthecoast
    @blessingsonthecoast 7 днів тому +25

    Your wedding ring has such significance to you, Kyle. It is a symbol of your love and that has not changed. There are no rules; you do exactly what gives you comfort. I actually love wearing my parents' wedding rings, because it symbolizes their beautiful union, and it just makes me happy. Sending you lots of prayers for your comfort. 🙏

  • @RoseannSpann
    @RoseannSpann 7 днів тому +11

    I am so proud of you, you keep doing what makes you feel comfortable. That is the right thing.

  • @terrypeters8635
    @terrypeters8635 7 днів тому +25

    You and Jenny have a bond in marriage, you wear your ring as long as you want. People have no right to tell you that you shouldn’t wear it. It’s a symbol of love, it may even bring you comfort to feel it during hard times. Your heart tells you what you need and if it is saying to keep it on then you keep it on.

  • @pattyrosener6306
    @pattyrosener6306 7 днів тому +10

    At first, after my husband died, my ring gave me comfort, but after a time it made me sad to look at it - a constant reminder that he's not here. It is a deeply personal decision. If and when you decide to stop wearing it, you'll know when it's time. ((Hugs))

  • @MiriamZahra
    @MiriamZahra 7 днів тому +20

    That ring is a sign of the strong bond that you have with Jenny that nothing can break not even death And the love you have is everlasting keep on wearing the ring as long as you like may God be with you and may your beautiful Jenny rest peacefully 🌹

  • @toryisawesomeable
    @toryisawesomeable 7 днів тому +13

    There's no "right" or "wrong" answer with these things. It's your ring, your marriage, your life, and your grief. Do what feels right to you, and if that changes at some point, that's okay too.
    My dad passed about a week after Jenny. My parents were never big on wearing their wedding rings. But my mom got a new ring a few months ago that has symbolism to her of being a widow and she wears it like a wedding ring. Everyone's different, it's about what feels best to YOU.

  • @cindiegrimm5983
    @cindiegrimm5983 7 днів тому +24

    Kyle, next month will be 16 years since I lost my husband. Wearing your ring is absolutely personal choice. You will know when you are ready. For me it was 2 years. I realized it was causing me more depression and sadness than comfort. I did replace it with a different style ring because after 39 years that finger felt 'empty'. It was the right choice for me, but yes, it is each person's choice and feelings that will let you know when it's time. You are 'pre-grieving' this first Angelversary. I think all of us do . Everything is hitting you harder right now , and that too is normal. HUGS Grief is an evil, sneaky , monster.

  • @megandrynan6080
    @megandrynan6080 2 години тому

    I can't even imagine what you must be going through. Grieve for as long as you need to. 🙏 Even as the years go by, you'll always be mourning the loss of Jenny in some way. She was a special person.

  • @LorieSmith-v9l
    @LorieSmith-v9l 7 днів тому +20

    Wear your ring as long as you want. You have to know what's best for you.

  • @miyukishinozuka4138
    @miyukishinozuka4138 7 днів тому +9

    You said today's topic may only relate to someone who lost a spouse, but your message resonates beyond that. I lost a dog, but he was the love of my life. He was my son. When people ask you when you are taking the ring off, it is very similar to when people ask me when I'm getting another dog. It angers me because it diminishes how special and loved my dog was (is) and that these people seem to suggest that he is replaceable. It's a rude and insensitive comment. Your ring is your forever love for Jenny, your happiness, what feels like home, a beautiful era. You can keep that ring on forever if you want.

  • @southerncaladygolfer8651
    @southerncaladygolfer8651 7 днів тому +22

    My husband died 10 years ago and I still wear my wedding ring most of the time. It has been a long time and I have dated and have even had a couple of serious relationships. My wedding ring is a part of me and my life’s history. Sometimes I wear it on my right hand, sometimes on my left hand. It is a part of me and I will always greave my husband’s passing. Grief has so many stages. The love never goes away so why would the grief? As the years go by you will deal with Jenny’s loss in many different ways. Jenny wanted you to eventually find someone to grow old with and I have no doubt that you will because you have shown all of us how loving and kind you are. Loss and the grief that comes with it takes time and it’s different for everyone. If wearing your wedding ring gives you peace and comfort then wear it proudly. There are no rules or right answers. We all lost Jenny so can understand in a small way what you are living with. Time does heal but the amount of time has no definition. ❤️

    • @Rachel_Ryder
      @Rachel_Ryder 7 днів тому

      Amen, and the right companion wouldn’t want him to take it off.

  • @parastrivedi5685
    @parastrivedi5685 7 днів тому +12

    Your ring represents your immense love for your Jenny. It is your comfort zone and it is your way of celebrating all your the wonderful times you’ve shared with her. Don’t worry about what others think. Nobody needs to define how you should live. I can see that you are a great husband, my brother.

  • @rickfarina
    @rickfarina 7 днів тому +13

    Good for you, it's so refreshing to see a young man who loves his wife so much. Well done, Jenny will be happy to know how much you love her still. God bless you and your children. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @russellmania4542
    @russellmania4542 7 днів тому +9

    Til death do we part and even then, still wear it. My husband and I discussed if something happens to one of us, would we want our rings left on us or for eachother to keep them and we both said .. we want our rings to remain on our fingers! My hubby wants his on him for burial and if we decide cremation, we will place our rings in with our ashes. We are soulmates to infinity and beyond.
    ITS YOUR CHOICE AND YOU DO YOU ❤

  • @carolynnhilsinger9083
    @carolynnhilsinger9083 7 днів тому +15

    My husband of 53 years died over two years ago. I still wear my wedding ring. I have no plans to take it off. He is still my husband to me. I don’t want another one. Many people have said really ignorant things. It doesn’t make me angry. I know they don’t understand. Please do whatever you need to do. That is what I do. I was with him my entire life. We met when I was 19. None of our past together went away when he died. Our children are still trying to cope from day to day. We are all struggling. I wish you had had more time with Jenny. No amount of time is really enough. Please know that you are not alone in your grief. There are many of us out here who know exactly what you are going through. I am so sorry that this happened to you, Jenny and your children. No one can decide how you feel or should feel. There is no right answer to anything you do. It breaks my heart to see your pain.

  • @soonzach4017
    @soonzach4017 7 днів тому +8

    Kyle, you took very good care of Jenny and very good father to 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️👍

  • @riaanbester5477
    @riaanbester5477 7 днів тому +19

    The fact that you are still wearing it just underlines the person we have grown to know and love here.

  • @MarlaSims-xj9jm
    @MarlaSims-xj9jm 7 годин тому

    You do you!! My mother wore her wedding ring until she passed and she had found someone and still wore it for the very reason you said. As you said to your students might just be what you can say when she gets brought up by new people. Sending you love and strength ♥️

  • @Susan-l3r
    @Susan-l3r 7 днів тому +12

    Wear it always, why wouldnt you, im a widow but i still see myself as married, death parted my husband and i but am still his wife and always will be so be proud to wear your wedding ring Kyle xx

  • @donaldjackson583
    @donaldjackson583 7 днів тому +11

    Kyle you owe no one an answer. There is nothing wrong with wearing your wedding ring after your spouse’s passing. You are still grieving and when the time is right you will know. So sorry people feel they have to ask you this question. You do what is right for you. My heart goes out to you. My daughter lost her husband 2 1/2 years ago. He was 45 when he passed. She is just beginning to come out of grief but it has been hard. Just remember a brighter day will come.

  • @honeycalame5692
    @honeycalame5692 6 днів тому +6

    I’m coming up on three years of being a widow in November. I still wear my rings and also my husband had never taken his off since I put it on his finger at our wedding. We were married 52 years. I felt like since he chose to never ever remove it, I was not going to decide that for him, so he is buried with his wedding ring on and that makes me feel good. I love your videos. God bless you!

  • @lc74diva
    @lc74diva 7 днів тому +11

    Wear it as long as you feel is right for you. ❤

  • @Renee406Mt
    @Renee406Mt 7 днів тому +15

    My cousin lost her husband 3 years ago, her ring is on her finger it helps her feel close to her precious husband. Listening to you Kyle your telling your love story, your ring holds all of those memories ❤ You are a beautiful soul.

  • @HappyCorn-nf1ye
    @HappyCorn-nf1ye 6 днів тому +9

    Hi Kyle, I lost my husband of 32 yrs of marriage on 11/26/2024 following a battle with dementia & cancer. I'm still riding the waves of grief and I too continue to wear my wedding ring. Grief is the hardest thing and some days/nights are rough but I carry on because I need to remember and honor my husband and our life together. Please keep posting..this video has helped me realize my feelings are valid. Wishing you peace❤

  • @jeanettescott2018
    @jeanettescott2018 7 днів тому +12

    You speak from your heart Kyle. Spot on every time. We can’t do anything that we aren’t ready for ourselves, mentally and spiritually. Much love and prayers. Xxx❤

  • @deborahvanluyk4816
    @deborahvanluyk4816 7 днів тому +12

    I lost my husband of 36 + years, 3 years ago. I still wear my wedding rings and his and I don't plan on taking it off anytime soon. It makes me feel good. Continue doing things that make you feel good. Ignore what anyone else may say

  • @marinamartinez461
    @marinamartinez461 7 днів тому +13

    My husband passed away 2 months before Jenny due to cancer as well. My wedding ring is still on my finger, and it will remain there. It's a personal decision that each of us must make. It's more than just a piece of jewelry. Kyle when the right time comes you will know. People are way out of line for even asking that question 😒

  • @CMP6111
    @CMP6111 7 днів тому +8

    I’m so sorry that you’ve been asked about your ring. This is so personal. Your love story is so precious. You do not have to explain “why or when” to anyone. You are grieving. Wearing your ring is a reminder of Jenny and everything you two shared. Keep it on sweetie.❤️

  • @dominiquehould8981
    @dominiquehould8981 7 днів тому +16

    Dear Kyle , Jenny was your life, your soul mate, the mother of your precious children, i will never understand why people would even ask you such a personal question. You were the best husband and so kind and compassionate. Please wear your wedding ring as long as you wish to. We love you and Jenny and Ellis & Winnie❤❤

  • @christa9910
    @christa9910 7 днів тому +7

    Kyle, the love you shared was so special, I can understand where you are coming from. Like others have said, please do what makes your heart happy and brings you comfort.

  • @PLS424
    @PLS424 7 днів тому +15

    My husband passed almost 4 years ago now. I wear my ring every day. People have asked me why I still wear it. I say "because I'm still married"! My husband is not here now but I am still very married to him! It still brings me comfort every day and it keeps me feeling close to him. If I ever take it off it will be when I think I am ready. Don't let anyone make you question wearing your ring. It connects you to Jenny still. Blessings to you and your children Kyle.

  • @berenadelacruz628
    @berenadelacruz628 7 днів тому +9

    Your ring is infinite just like your love for Jenny Kyle, so wear it with all your heart❤🐞

  • @lorisheheen2198
    @lorisheheen2198 7 днів тому +13

    There is no right or wrong decision about wearing your wedding ring. Your ring represents the symbol of Love between you and Jenny. Wear it forever if you want to. God bless you and your beautiful little Angel's.🙏❤❤❤

  • @krismills4393
    @krismills4393 7 днів тому +8

    That ring is a symbol of the love you had for Jen. It's nobody's business. You are still grieving your loss. I am grieving the loss of my husband almost 3 months. It's just a really sucky place to be. I am not ready to say goodbye either.

  • @tiffanythomas82
    @tiffanythomas82 7 днів тому +13

    Everyone is different. If he wants to wear his ring let him be. He's comfortable and thats what matters❤

  • @sharonjames4661
    @sharonjames4661 7 днів тому +8

    Wear it forever.... it is whatever you want.... it makes you feel safe..... ❤

  • @wanya_telborn
    @wanya_telborn 7 днів тому +10

    Can’t believe people ask this so soon
    Sorry Kyle ❤

  • @paclose9018
    @paclose9018 7 днів тому +5

    Wear your ring forever if you want. I'm sure it makes you feel close to Jenny. It's no one else's business. You're right that you nred to do what's right for you. My mom was wearing her and my dad's ring, who had passed away 3 yrs before. They mean so much. ❤

  • @mandyjackson6894
    @mandyjackson6894 7 днів тому +11

    You wear your ring regardless of how long Jenny has gone. Just because she's no longer on this Earth, you are still married to each other. God bless beautiful Jenny. And Kyle you have been doing a wonderful job of raising your children. Jenny would be so proud of you all. Sending love and light to you all ❤❤🙏🙏

  • @susierichard4585
    @susierichard4585 7 днів тому +10

    Jenny will always be your wife forever,wear your ring for as long as you want💕💕💕

    • @Berrycool56
      @Berrycool56 4 дні тому

      No till death do you part ! Not married anymore

  • @donnabaardsen5372
    @donnabaardsen5372 7 днів тому +16

    Grief is very individual. My son died suddenly in June this year, from two undiagnosed medical conditions. My grief is crushing. My home is dedicated to him for as long as I want it to be. You, Kyle, grieve in your own way and time, and that is 100 percent ok!❤

  • @michelekinor1018
    @michelekinor1018 7 днів тому +9

    I was married for 30 yrs. and went thur a divorce. Never married again. I still wear my ring on another finger. This ring means everything to me. Our divorce was hard but it's your family.❤

  • @LyndyLive
    @LyndyLive 7 днів тому +16

    There is no timetable for grief. My mom was widowed around your age and she wore hers for several years. Then she had it made into a special ring she could wear on her right hand.
    You will know when/if the time is right for you. ❤

  • @drh3057
    @drh3057 7 днів тому +10

    I would wear mine until I die, unless I remarried. For me, they broke the mold on my hubby.... so no-one can replace him. We have been married 42 years and we are high school sweethearts. You follow your heart my friend.😇

    • @Rachel_Ryder
      @Rachel_Ryder 7 днів тому

      I’m screenshotting this for my 15 year old son to read. He loves hearing about real life high school sweethearts - he recently acquired his first girlfriend and they’re quite close, both thinking they’ll get married one day… of course the chances are slim but I just say “of course you can get married someday, plenty of people marry their HS sweethearts.” I try to encourage whatever positive feelings he has, far-flung or not. Thanks for sharing this 🩷

  • @katemontanaro5198
    @katemontanaro5198 7 днів тому +9

    Kyle I am humble that you continue to allow is to journey with you in such a vulnerable way! Wishing you and your family a wonderful week ❤

  • @karen.S268
    @karen.S268 7 днів тому +4

    Jenny gave that ring to you when you exchanged vows...period!

  • @dawndexter9779
    @dawndexter9779 7 днів тому +8

    You wear your ring forever.....
    You will always feel married to jenny, couldn't see anyone ever, living up to jenny, it's not even been 1 year. Ignore people's churlish questions Kyle, none of their beeswax

  • @janicerost3134
    @janicerost3134 7 днів тому +9

    Can't you people leave him alone! Let him do what he wants - it's his life!

  • @pixelgamesdestiny
    @pixelgamesdestiny 7 днів тому +8

    I just want to add that Jenny was on the kindest, loving and genuine person I have ever met.( and this is through UA-cam I got to know Jenny). I can’t imagine actually being around here and being her real friend in life. I think about Jenny several times a week. She was one special person who will never be replaced. ❤❤❤

  • @lilbitofjoy6130
    @lilbitofjoy6130 5 годин тому

    I know a lady whose husband passed over 20 years ago tragically from a sudden heart attack. They had been married almost 27 years. He knew what was happening. He knew he was passing. He did just that in her lap and arms in the kitchen floor while they waited for an ambulance to arrive their son had called for. They were cooking supper and then they were in the floor. It was just that sudden. She still wears her wedding rings to this day and she is quick to say, I am falling in love with my husband more and more every day since he has passed just as I fell more and more in love with him every day while he was alive. The love, the marriage, the bond did not die with him. Do as you feel is right FOR YOU.

  • @jax3320
    @jax3320 7 днів тому +10

    I lost one of my best friends a few weeks ago to breast cancer. She was 33 and I’m still in shock. I can’t imagine losing a spouse. The love you have for Jenny is so beautiful ❤

  • @Denise_B17
    @Denise_B17 7 днів тому +4

    Love you and your family Kyle. Here for you no matter what. Please take care of yourself..

  • @Supdawg123
    @Supdawg123 7 днів тому +10

    I just want to pop in and remind you that you are doing such a good job, Kyle❤ Jenny is so proud of you for sticking to this UA-cam thing and continuing to include us in your journey. I am so grateful that Jen popped up randomly in my recommended videos and showed me the true meaning of what it is to be grateful and gracious. What a woman she is.
    Her impact on this world has been immeasurable and the way that you continue to spread the love and joy that she nurtured in your family is so special to me. I guess I just want to say THANK YOU! XOXO

  • @CindyHine-o2z
    @CindyHine-o2z 7 днів тому +8

    Kyle don't cry it will be alright u wear that ring as long u want it is a symbol of u and jenny love😊😊😊

    • @monicawood-wd8tg
      @monicawood-wd8tg 5 днів тому +1

      Don,t cry Kyle your wedding is a symbol of your love for Jenny

  • @cheart9190
    @cheart9190 7 днів тому +7

    Deeply, deeply moving. Thank you so much for your honesty. Praying for you and your children. X

  • @traceytobbe9122
    @traceytobbe9122 6 днів тому +4

    Hugest hugs. I know lots that still wear it. What a beautiful love story

  • @natlam26
    @natlam26 7 днів тому +5

    As you said, there is no right or wrong answer here. I personally find it wrong that someone would ask you about it. It’s such a personal thing. As usual, you have spoken about a sensitive topic so eloquently.

  • @jonathansonnier3078
    @jonathansonnier3078 7 днів тому +4

    Thanks for sharing bro…. You are making Jenny proud!