People are saying “I see emotion so he’s not a psychopath” or “He described being angry when his gf cheated on him so he’s not.” Watched an interview with a psychiatrist who said “the idea that psychopaths have NO emotion is a misconception. They feel a range of emotions, they just feel for THEMSELVES, not for YOU.”
They can have more limited emotional range. They also tend to not regulate them well when they are extreme which is rare. One emotion they especially struggle with and also have trouble recognizing in others is disgust. Which explains why serial killers could often and even chose to get their hands dirty. Disgust is a protection emotion, IE you see a nasty festering contagious wound, you'd probably avoid it. That and gore isn't safe to be around, it's a biohazard.
interesting point and likely true. however thinking that all psychopaths operate in the same way is problematic when people study human nature and the brain. we are all wired differently so no reason to think psychopaths are an exception to that rule
Pretty much. If you don't want to give a formal clinical diagnosis term you could say it's a 'license to be an arsehole' and an 'excuse to avoid responsibility for my actions'. You often hear 'oh i did that because i have XYZ personality disorder'. Pure bollocks. The ICD-10 and DSM-5 are for assisting clinicians and don't absolve an individual from responsibility for their decisions and actions. And shouldn't absolve them from the subsequent consequences either IMO. A lot of this is cultural and whatever is the current zeitgeist. Playing the insanity card is not uncommon in the criminal justice system. It can also ameliorate sentencing by raising issues of capacity and culpability which any good defense lawyer knows full well.
@@davewade30 I laughed out loud after he says, "nah I don't even know what that feels like" ahaha. so what were you looking for when you closed your eyes then? obviously just for show.
This is interesting to me because it seems like, while lacking empathy for others, he has made an intellectual decision that success for him means making a positive impact on the world. Being a "good person" doesn't necessarily mean being inherently good and taking joy in doing good. It is about choosing to do good. It's about actions. He may be driven by self interest but it has led him down a path to contributing in a meaningful way to society. This is what rehabilitation actually looks like. He faced real consequences for his choices and learned from that.
I don't believe him at all. A great narrative though. And a nice sales pitch at the end. It'hard enough to change an aspect of your daily routine much less who you are to the core and what he's practiced since 2 years old
he helps people, that are broken - cuz they are easy to manipulate. Its like full controll over a human. Look Body-language, he is very proud to tell us he put that old men in a coma. He cant hide it. But that are prototype psychos, they cant change. He is just good in playing this "normal men"
Psychopaths have always been really interesting to me, because I myself deal with constant anxiety and overthinking. A psychopath almost seems the exact opposite. Never nervous, never overthinking, etc. Just as foreign a concept for me to understand walking in his shoes, as it is for him to walk in mine. Really interesting.
I agree with you as someone who is anxious and try my best to stay calm in any circumstance but it's challenging. So yeah , even if we shouldn't like psychopaths but their ability to be totally chill is something to envy not gonna lie
I’m a diagnosed psychopath, and I’ve never thought about harming others I just couldn’t care less about them and I lack empathy, but I can sympathize with them. I’m mostly calm, and keep to myself but admittedly I do enjoy power and being in a position of dominance. To me “ Good” and “ Evil” do not exist, it’s all relative. Any technology we build that obeys the laws of physics will work, everything else is a social construct made up by these primates that call themselves humans
@@ArmyOfTennessee Same except in my family it runs in the female line.My mum was Scottish.Came to Canada as a WW2 war bride.We are difficult women but men love us for some weird reason 🤣
He gets lighter sentences, comes off as nice and charming, and smiles after attempting to empathize w/ his victim, and y’all still say he is a sociopath and not a born psychopath. He wasn’t even trying to manipulate, and you guys still got manipulated!
@@noahdwhitney That is true in a clinical setting; I just view it as having no empathy and remorse, which is about as broad as it gets. Colloquially it’s still used
Totally. He is diagnosed with ASPD and is a psychopath. But he comes of as honest, and admits wrongdoing, he tries to look at his negatives. All these things are likable traits. Humans are easily manipulated.
More psychopaths and sociopaths please. We need more real interviews. The stereotypical film portrayal is often the only depiction people have of these personality types.
I don't think he's a psychopath, though. He's an intelligent sensitive person completely dissociated by childhood trauma, seeking to make sense of things and fill the gap where emotion should be. Now that he's found his centre, I think he will start to get in touch with his capacity to feel. Because everyone's always treated him as an outsider, he may have a distorted view of what emotions feel like. I think we all pretend to feel more than we do, in quite a lot of circumstances. I really liked him saying he "thinks sorry" for the guy he hit, rather than "feeling sorry" for him. Being precise and honest about how he actually feels is the best way to find his own emotional compass.
@AlisonWonderland999 yeah no...with this kind of disorder the brain is simply not wired to feel those emotions. There is a deformity in the grey matter on the frontal lobe of the brain. No amount of therapy or "finding yourself" will allow for these emotions to suddenly surface. It is all cognitive, not affective.
The amount of psychopaths out there who are quite charismatic and likeable people is actually scary. Everyone imagines the shut-in serial killer types but that's actually quite rare and many are successful in businesses and various aspects of life. They can be very charming and engaging, much like this fella, they just don't understand emotions at all. A psychopath can't understand why they should care what others thing, how to feel bad about something or regrets, they simply keep doing what they do.
We absolutely understand your emotions. Some of us prey on them. We just don't experience them with you. This doesn't even mean we don't consider them important. After all they affect behaviour.
As an Autistic woman with off the charts affective empathy (I save worms in the rain), I am beginning to see why we get a bad wrap in terms of our body language and tone, as my body language matches the Psychopaths I have watched on here, and I process things analytically, but I am overwhelmed by empathy, people just don't believe it - which causes reactive bullying tbh. My cognitive empathy for Allistic society/thinking is not great as I don't vibe with power, control, popularity, money etc etc. My internal sense of justice and honesty is also overwhelming
I'm the same and autistic watch Dan Autism on youtube he is very good. I found out last year I didn't know. I used to safe snails a lot in the garden. People called me crazy and obsessed.
I dated a psychopath. I came to see she had zero empathy; felt entitled; was superficially charming, but it was all false as she would continually put down any friend/ acquaintance behind their back. Taking a risk ( esp with sex ) was a big turn on for her. She was also a surpreme narcissist, had no empathy for anyone but herself; she was violent (I dumped her immediately); untrustworthy and a cheat. One in 200 people in the UK is a psychopath. You deal with them everyday. I hear she has a string of broken relationships behind her (incl. divorcing a rich older guy, but was infuriated that she got only the minimum she was entitled to out of him). I just _hope_ that she never has kids
I've been there. Got into a fight with her and she started to lie to everyone in college about me. Everyone gives her the benefit of the doubt. Few ppl give it to me. It ruined my life on campus. I don't enjoy being there at all anymore. It started out so beautifully. Even my friends don't fully understand what i've been through and i don't feel truely comfortable with any of them. It's only those who have nothing to do with this that i am still fully relaxed around. I made mistakes but this is an incredible punishment for it.
@@thewouldyouratherguy Same same. When I confronted her about her cheating that I found out about, she tried to lie her way out of it. I let her talk, and then revealed that I had proof. She immediately became violent ( tried to knee me in the balls, bit my arm (!), spat in my face ). Then she wrote on her Facebook that *I* had hit *her*. I only knew she wrote it as a friend told me. I asked him to take a screen shot of it. I texted her that she had better remove that post immediately or I would sue her. I had already taken a photo of the bite mark and nail marks on my arm from her attack ( I see have the marks in my skin). I then met with one of the girls she didn't like, and during our catch up just dropped little bits of the story. This girl was a hopeless gossip, so over a couple of weeks the whole story got out. It turned out a lot of people didn't like her, and so my reputation was saved. But it could have been very problematic. A year after she left town my doorbell rang, and when I opened it, there she was, with professionally applied hair and makeup in a sexy outfit. I just said that prostitutes weren't allowed in the building, and if she was there when I left in 20 minutes, I would call the police. She knew I was serious, so when I closed the door, she left. When I came out of the building she had written in lipstick "I still love you xxx" and a big love heart on my letterbox. That was designed for my girlfriend to see, and so cause friction in my new relationship. Psychopaths - they are so weird. I had already told my girlfriend that I had dated a psychopath, showed her a picture of her and said that if we were ever to bump into her, to just ignore her and keep walking. And that's just the tip of the iceberg of her lying, cheating and weird behaviour.
When I was young I had a boyfriend who fit all the criteria for antisocial personality disorder. He was extremely manipulative and made me look like the evil one in the relationship. Even when he tried to physically attack me in front of friends they all went to talk to him and help him through the situation. He manipulated them to believe I was so evil that I deserved that. It was absurd.
I am a male and had same type a colleague with same features and I quit after almost 3 months.psychopaths are discusting and manipulative,controlling,liars and aggressive people.evil
Going through similar, was violent before moving out, in custody court and he manages to manipulate and convince everyone he's ok and I'm the only one with problems. Even my attourney and my parents get convinced by him.
This is SO important. Too many people make the mistake of thinking everybody thinks/feels the same as them. They are SO bewildered by the crimes of sociopaths/narcissists/psychopaths that the only way they can comprehend their actions is to label it as 'Evil'. Evil does not exist,.. 'Evil' is to Psychology what 'Magic' is to Science. The more exposure there is of the entire spectrum of consciousness the sooner there will be adequate care for those who the hardest to care FOR. That line he offered after he was asked if he felt remorse "I think sorry. I just don't feel it.'' was a BRILLIANT way of illustrating the mindset of someone who lacks empathy. Also its VERY important that we remember that these people didn't CHOOSE to have emotional bald patches in their feelings any more than others 'choose' to be colour blind. I appreciate and respect this guy for sharing his story, as well as the genuine attempt to navigate his shortcomings.
He is the garden variety, your neighbourhood type of psychopath. There are what you could call evil psychopaths too, if we have decided as a society that we can truly judge people who have empathy disability. I knew someone as a teenager who was most certainly like this man, his name is Tobias and he had formed attachment with 1 person, his friend since childhood. He most certainly didn't 'feel' in the typical way and the only way to hurt him was to hurt his friend or tell him his friend preferred someone else. He had many girlfriends and never felt anything for any of them, was always in a fight somewhere, showed absolutely no indication of sympathy or empathy - unless you hurt his access to something, he had plenty of angst over himself. I think in 43 years I've met possibly 2 psychopaths, the second one has ADHD and possibly also high functioning Autism, he scored very high on psychopathy. I wouldn't say he necessarily have the same personality disorder, but he certainly has many psychopathic traits. I don't think there is a way to SEE them out and about, unless they are INCREDIBLY 'other' and 'different' to the absurd. Most are just garden variety - they feel a little wrong, you may feel a little creeped out around them and you slowly notice(those who don't learn to mask) that they are slightly off and don't respond appropriately. Some are GREAT pretenders. Some are actors of the highest degree, some people confuse narcissism and psychopathy, not all psychopaths are going to automatically be as dangerous as a narcissist would be if you allowed them. My ADHD/Autistic friend, he flips the switch and he's an outgoing and very CHARMING individual who says all the right things and laughs at all the correct times - but there is no real emotion there, it's a performance and it's chilling. He fool the absolute majority.
I wonder how much you'd still respect this guy if you got to hear all of his victims stories about his violence. This man is dangerous and his inability to feel remorse means his capacity for violence will always remain high..
@t3hpenguinofd00m It's true, though. The fact that he doesn't feel remorse and can't empathise with others makes him far more likely to do bad things again.
They are so confident and don't have any self doubt because they don't have a Self in the first place. That's what I call fake confidence. Real confidence comes from embracing and incorporating the Self, which is incredibly rare. Most super confident people are just super dissociated and fake. They are so dissociated and shutdown from feelings that their whole persona is crafted and fake. If people criticize or even hate their persona? No problem, deep down they hate it too and know how grotesque it is. So they truly don't care about the opinions of others because their mask makes them invulnerable. If people hate on the mask, it is just a mask anyway, not their real Self.
I read the Jon Ronson book 'The Psychopath Test' which details about people like this. One guy said he only knew what fear was because it was the look on his victims faces as he killed them.
I am a fully licensed psychotherapist and I don’t use the term psychopath. For me there are just degrees of trauma that we use these labels to describe, many of which necessitate the need to cut off from emotions. Based on what Lewis says in this video there’s a very good reason why he can’t feel his emotions - every time he did when he was younger, he was hurt in ways that most of us wouldn’t even be able to conceive of. In order to feel his emotions, he would also have to connect with an enormous amount of pain and embodied trauma - and thats a very, very big ask.
I’m sorry, but him pausing to close his eyes and check if he feels remorse had me fucking rolling. And when he opened his eyes to say “No” fucking hell, I can’t. 😂😂😂
A lot of people really don’t understand antisocial personality disorder. They still feel emotions but it’s mostly centred around THEMSELVES, they learn to display emotions to appear normal. Psychopathic and sociopathic traits fall under cluster B. It’s also possible to have traits from multiple personality disorders, so he very well may display behaviour similar to BPD when it comes to interpersonal relationships but if they don’t serve his purpose he feels no emotion or empathy towards them. They lack empathy does not mean they don’t have empathy again it self centred
There isn t "empathy" towards myself. The word by itself means i feel/get others. So aspd = cognitive empathy. Misses the emotional part. Anger they feel yes & ego related emotions as you describe it. Healthy ppl have a self. In theory. Nowdays most NT live w the ego (like disordered ppl).. i mean having a self if the person doesn t bother to know his self/be aware/like i m Anna i beleive this & that etc.. means nothing. Point is healthy developed personality has emotional/cognitive empathy => understanding+feeling others. Why don t aspd emotionally bond if they have emotions? Bcs this isn t a choice for a NT it happens as a need. By watching babies (or ND ppl who totally lack empathy & are online trying to be seen/supported by other humans like ppl in victims of npd groups) humans are social creatures so NT get aspd..idk about psycopathy maybe it s somehow uniquely different..
Its basically thought that the disorder or personality core for men is malignant Narcissism. BPD/ASPD with NPD. Women is completely different (malignant hysteria, also don't get at me for the distinction, or sexism, it ain't me 😂) and tend to be more cunning and interpersonallly aggresive where men are more temper tantrum prone. Hence the "urge to destroy stuff" and the EXTREME likelihood to be in prison because of it. 😂😂😂
I would elaborate that some living with ASPD have a severe lack of traditional ego. Many truly do not care if they or the people around them live, die, or experience severe bodily injury or social ostracization. These people will have no positive or negative sense of self, shame, pride, or public image. Some get just as much stimulus screwing themselves over as they do someone else. I say stimulus because I want to stress the point that these are people who neurologically don't experience the 'color spectrum' of emotions most people feel. It's like emotionally living in greyscale while everyone else lives in color. Joy, sadness, and pain all get reduced and equalized to a very small spectrum of types of 'stimulus'. Life revolves around the individual experience but the individual experience contains no desire to preserve or bolster the self. Many who fit the diagnostic criteria for ASPD are therefore ego-driven in a way that is not on par with modern or historical definitions of narcissism (though many understandably view the two concepts as synonymous). A lack of self-preservation mixed with a severe lack of emotional discernment leads many with ASPD to seek out situations where others severely harm them because it is stimulating and feels no better or worse than them harming someone else. People with ASPD exist along a continuum ranging from an extreme level of traditional ego (aka narcissism) while others sit at the far end of the continuum and experience no sense of self and zero desire for self-preservation. They still have ego, it just looks VERY different from the way the general population conceptualizes the self. Psychology as an academic field is in its infancy and one of the main downsides to the concepts of ASPD and 'cluster B' personalities is that it lumps those with a lack of empathy together with inadequate room for nuance due to a lack of research material. A lack of empathy can manifest in an extremely wide range of behaviors while simultaneously stemming from an extremely wide range of factors including emotional trauma, poor socialization, head trauma, exposure to environmental pollutants such as lead, or dozens if not hundreds of temporary or permanent medical conditions and neurological abnormalities. All of these unique causes can lead to incredibly unique manifestations of 'low empathy'. ASPD is a MASSIVE umbrella term that attempts to describe the behaviors of tens if not hundreds of millions of people using research which was almost entirely generated using the male prison population. There are most likely hundreds of sub-categories and unique manifestations of 'ASPD' that simply have yet to be discovered and documented in an academic context.
"Empathy" they have sharp cognitive empathy and pseudo presenting emotional empathy to extrapolate what they want out of people but inherently they have no emotional empathy.
Him retelling the story of the man he punched & the man ended up in a coma, his entire body changed, he was so proud of what he’s done. I zoomed in into his eyes since the beginning of the interview - rewatched to watch the body language and it is insane how proud he is of what he’s done. Psychopaths are born, sociopaths are made and him being s.abused & physically abused as a child made him 10000 times worse. Thank God he hasn’t killed anyone.
A natural animal impulse - we're built to feel big and grand when we're dominant. The dilemma with a sociopathic person is the restraints are off - a normal person will feel proud at winning the fight, but *also* sad about the suffering of the other party.
@@danielwalley6554I would never commit any crimes cause I don't wanna be in prison and I don't think I'm a psychopath but why would you ever feel sad if someone, who starts fighting you, suffers? Isn't that idealistic? Imo people, who attack me can't suffer enough.
Had a 7 year old in my class like this, got the parent to see sense and he's diagnosed and seeing a psychologist. He got this blank-eyed stare when angry, like his personality switched, when he was attacking his classmates. Scary...
Diagnosed with what? Psychopathy isn't a diagnosis. ASPD can't be diagnosed before adult age. At best the kid can be diagnosed with ODD which is often a manifestation of abuse and dysfunction. Why are you a teacher and encouraging this parent to scapegoat their child? Tell them to go to family therapy instead.
@sallyann985 he has the precursor to Anti-social Personality Disorder, which has a different name in children, as you say, although not ODD, rather Conduct Disorder. And no, I'm not stigmatising him, I got him help because I care deeply about my students. I care that he wanted to make friends with the other children but lacks all types of empathy and so struggled and was rejected by his peers. I am actually very knowledgeable about these issues and specialise in SEND, and have personal experience myself with a diagnosis. So try not to jump to conclusions!
@@SkepticalTeacher ASPD doesn't have a different name in children. No child can be diagnosed with a personality disorder, period. CD and ODD can develop into ASPD but they may not. Your initial comment very much made it sound like you were labeling a 7 year old a psychopath...
It's a very scary realization when you figure out there's people like this in the world who you never, ever want to cross because they literally feel nothing in response to your pain. They will ruin your life and not bat an eye.
You can teach a child (in early infancy, between the ages of 0-2) to respond to others in an anti-social way. You can do it through a few methods. 1. Mostly ignore the child. Do not respond to crying or laughing or anything really. Think about yourself mostly. Do what suits you. Don't pay attention to the child. Definitely don't be very affectionate. Don't ever indicate or tell the child that you love them or care for them deeply. 2. Be abusive to an infant. Be neglectful. Be harmful. Be inconsistent. Make it difficult for the child to know when you are going to be neutral, positive or negative towards them. Put your child into harmful situations. Let your child hear you arguing or being abuseful towards others frequently. Let yourself be abused by someone. Don't leave an abusive or harmful situation. Keep the child in a volatile situation. 3. Over-indulge your child. Be too much of a helicopter parent. Make them totally dependent on you so they are unable to make decisions for themselves easily. Put your child's needs before your own at all times. Stop to listen to them whenever they interrupt you. Make all family outings and holiday decisions based on what the child wants. Give in to the child's wants whenever you can. Unfortunately, even being super 'loving' (as in example #3) is just as harmful to the psyche of your child. How you are treated and spoken to in the first couple of years of your life will teach you how to respond. For most people, these patterns set up their behaviours, thoughts and responses for the rest of their lives. If you are someone who has had one of these childhoods, and you want help, look into 'schema therapy.' There's a good series that explains this therapy here on YT. Look up 'the PSYCH collective' for an indepth explanation. Better than that, find someone who can help you identify your automatic thoughts and responses and help you to retrain these thoughts. It will be a lot fo work, and it will be a lifelong work on yourself, but it will be worth it.
Experienced neglect for first three years. My mother used to leave me with bottle of formula for her day work. I remember always feeling very lonely. She also never played with me later in life. Was always against me when I was bullied, it felt horrible. "They bully you because they are strong and adequate, and you are not" , she always told. So she defended them. Still more empathic then my parents. You cant make child a sociopath without enough genetics involved. In army, people try to make psychopaths from normal people and it does not work. I a bit shizotypal, but its genetical, not traumatic. I experienced ego death in 18 and in 23 years old. It put my heart at peace and bliss, and opened aot of love for people. Sadly, I cant heal people without their agreement tobwalk this path. Seeing them suffering without having keys to their mind is the hardest part now.
Love this. It really goes to show the spectrum of a disorder like Antisocial Personality. He clearly has a desire to feel remorse, but an inability to access it. I wish him well and hope that exposure like this can help propel science to better aid those who suffer from the disorder and disorders like it.
@@Roz-y2dIf he gets well, he will maybe help more people and hurt less people. So it is only rational to wish him well, for the benefit of other people. 😉 People don't stop hurting others when they suffer and violence doesn't lessen violence. On the contrary. If the person has a will to stop hurting others, they need the support.
When you say "he clearly has a desire to feel remorse", remember that he doesn't feel anything, and desire is a feeling. You've just been charmed by a psychopath - but they're good at that.
depends on who is doing the thinking. Psychopathy is not super common. its rare for people to become one it needs horrible circumstances. Or they have keep murdering people . which is also rare.
Obviously there are many comments about this man and psychopaths in general here, but one thing I really like about this interview is the send-off. Deciding that you are helpless and cannot learn/improve/grow is crippling and not the move. I don't know if this man meant what he said but I do know for the majority of people listening, that is an important message!
i am guessing the fact he's good looking and well spoken has saved him from repercussions that would have seen him punished far harder and institutionalised for far longer than occurred. anger is often poison for the person feeling it, but for lewis his anger is poison and dangerous for others who 'trigger' him. fascinating telling and honest though. great video.
Yeah, I'm surprised there aren't more comments about his glorious head of hair 😂 Now just imagine how much more a good -looking female psychopath gets away with! He at least gets caught and called out for his violence. A female might never get caught in her lies and manipulations.
He stated in the video that he knows his light sentencing was because of his physical presentation and being articulate, and he said he knows that’s not fair. So you’re definitely right, but at least he’s aware that it wasn’t correct.
@@wanderingbelle7 I think he's lying, just like him I have gotten away with stuff I shouldn't have because I'm smart and pretty, but that's not the full story: I am very calculated (manipulating) and I'm sure he is too. He says the right thing at the right time to the right person. There are prettier people who got in trouble for less, much less. Narcissists are manipulators but they get caught because their ego traps them where a psychopath will sneak out. Most criminals are narcissists, psychopaths stand out and can get their way out because they are far more charming. Human beings don't like jealousy and that's what can tell a narc and a psychopath apart. People will sympathize with a psychopath because (s)he has no jealousy, unlike a narc.
I cried because of a lonely acorn when I was very young and would get sad when not finishing my dinner - I thought the leftover food was sad because it wasn’t able to be eaten. I have too much empathy man 😂
He was sexually abused by someone in his childhood , He doesn't speak about his sexual abuse trauma. There's a correlation, it appears sexual abuse creates personality disorders . To not feel anything, to block out emotional anguish that overwhelmed a powerless child . Survival in feeling no emotion.
@@hyperadapted ya my mother broke my nose with a baseball bat, starved me etc. l view people as cattle, don't distinguish between homeless or celebrity...
Physical attention is what’s familiar, violent childhood seems to attract violence which is familiar which is interpreted as attention /affection … you were never unworthy , your father felt unworthy and beat you . Glad you are here and successful in your honesty now . Feelings can be frightening, be kind to yourself ❤you’ve come so far !
These are videos that make me happy the internet exists. Nurturing compassion among internet users for outcasts and demons of society is how we squelch tragedy from occurring.
This man is chasing anything that will make him FEEL. Adrenaline from crime, drugs. Cutting, because physical pain lets him feel something. Getting jumped and beaten so he feels something other than blank. Psychopathy is a legit physical brain anomaly. A retardation of the areas of the brain that make up empathy, guilt, regret, anxiety, fear etc. We can build new pathways and neurons in our brains. But what nobody is saying is that: he is self aware and trying to figure himself out. He is not soulless. He is legit trying and that blows my mind. I’ve seen other interviews with psychopathy as the focal point ( usually serial killers) and they just don’t care to even try. I have to be honest and say Lewis may be a psychopath but he’s LEAGUES farther along than my narcissist, extremely abusive ex-husband.
I genuinely feel so sorry for him. He is missing the best parts of being human. Yes, emotions are chaos, and they created messes and difficulties. But to live without emotional intimacy, human connection. Falling in and out of love, the love for a child, a parent, and friend. I am such a creature of emotion I just can't imagine that. He's very bright and a brilliant speaker. I hope that someday he finds what he's looking for.
"I dont even know what that feels like" Shows the kind of parenting and environment he grew up in. Can't even fathom compassion and empathy, because he probably experienced so little of it at such crucial developmental stages.
There are brain structures that are responsible for these emotions. They are not present in some people. Just like with autism, ADHD or any other mental handicaps. But you go on, judge away.
That “working on himself” part is probably a condition of his suspended sentence. He knows he’s incurable, but perhaps he’s got to look like he’s cooperating in some rehabilitation sense. This man really doesn’t care and never will care about anybody but himself.
Tbh I feel sympathy for some of these. I'm not excusing any of their crimes at all, even a psychopath could stop themself from breaking the law (as high functioning psychopaths do) but its not their fault they don't have empathy, remorse, or strong emotional processing. Psychopaths are born, they literally have a problem in their brain that has been there since childhood and no amount of medical or psychological science can fix it. Sociopaths partly develop their disorder trauma but even they will most likely never be able to learn empathy or remorse. The fact that you can be born into this world and be forced to live a life where you will never be able to love or feel like others do is frightening to me.
That’s a wild assertion to make with such complete confidence about someone you don’t know. He may very well actually want to improve. No one knows that for sure but him. Even if it’s a desire driven by wanting a better life for himself, that’s still wanting to be better and if he succeeds in improving it will benefit those around him too. Or you could be right and he could be completely faking. You don’t know what he feels and neither do I nor anyone else, so it’s not wise to make a negative blanket statement about someone you don’t know.
Don’t self diagnose yourself too quickly folks. Thought I was a sociopath for a long time. Turns out it’s BPD. Life has improved drastically knowing how to approach my “problem” states and the fact that I have hope is a big differentiator. Self deprecation isn’t just for laughs. It will sink into your subconscious and you’ll start to fulfill your own prophecy. Dont be too quick to self diagnose these fairly uncommon conditions.
@@d_teex09x44 talked to a professional I trusted and made sure they weren’t a lazy doctor (lot of them out there, even if they are smart or experienced). Made sure they asked the right questions and were patient with a diagnosis. Would be pretty unprofessional to assume a diagnosis after a few descriptions or short conversation. My therapist was online, but she is brilliant and we have a mutual respect for eachother
Ive been wondering the same thing. One of my parent has BPD and i posess some traits similiar to that. Internet ASPD tests give me "High sociopathy" consistently.
@@feralingo yeah, lots of similarities of symptoms either sociopath/narcism. Made me feel bad about myself for awhile. That’s why you have to be careful accepting labels too quickly. We’re all different & the brain isn’t an exact science
Unfortunately I’m the inverse, it’s been apparent I’m a psychopath for probably over a decade now but to say it’s difficult to find information is an understatement. The problem is it gets lumped in with made up social constructivist disorders like ASPD, of which only 6% of people would qualify for a diagnosis of psychopathy (>30 PCL-R). It seems psychopathy is potentially an adaptive evolutionary strategy for a r-selected ecology/fast-lige history, and from a neurobiological perspective up regulation of RPL10P9 and ZNF132, and downregulation of CDH5 and OPRD1, as well as astrocytes, RPL10P9 and MT-RNR2 seem to be the base of psychopathy, with the dopaminergic system being responsible for up to 93% of all psychopathic behaviour. It’s also found throughout the animal kingdom with male chimpanzees having similar rates as humans.
i dont think i will ever get tired in the study of certain pathological issues such as psychopathy and other anti social disorders. its definitely a throwback evolutionary trait that was necessary for one reason or another but detrimental in other areas of human interaction. its a survival trait of some kind
Yeah. I also find it fascinating that it’s now being discovered that it’s possible to develop these personality traits - sociopathy, lack of empathy - histrionic personality disorder, bpd ect due to childhood trauma apparently. I would imagine that most cases are genetic but some are developed in childhood.
@@dthompson5234What do you mean by “now”? It’s been known for a while that abuse and trauma have negative effects on the development of personality in children. People are genetically predisposed to certain mental disorders if there’s a family history , just like some people are predisposed to heart disease and cancer. Doesn’t mean that trauma doesn’t create broken, disturbed people.
Wow that's impressive. I almost never have patience to watch something till the end, but this - I couldn't take my eyes off and my ears off. I love it! He is very smart. How many times I spoke to so many people mentioning how important it is to work on yourself. Like, just one conflict situation takes half a day of analyzing, writing diary, digging deep into yourself, putting lots of effort to plan and come up with solutions for your future self. Almost nobody understands that. I love this guy, thank you!
Lol he literally paused for like 30 seconds to see if he could feel any remorse or regret what he did to that guy, and he said he didn't feel a thing. But you love him?
He has all the classic traits of psychopathy. Listen to what he says, it's all in relation to him (his brother, his girlfriend, etc.) and he gets great enjoyment when he recounts his behavior. This in itself is of great stimulus for him. Just like when psychopathic killers when caught tell of their kills, it's a form of reliving the experience, and they crave that. Even after therapy his career involves helping people using himself/his story as tools, so a level of narcissism also, reliving his experiences again, breaking people down to build them up, involves a great level of control over someone. On the surface he's portraying a changed man, but his language is still in relation to him.
I dont think he thinks his diagnosis changed. He’s just saying hes done work to manage his mental illness, which does change you in a lot of ways and even if it doesn’t, its still admirable, especially when many people with his illness dont seek help because of the stigma.
@@emmettkeyser1110I mean most psychopaths are also narcissists, or at the very least a rock throw away from being one they don’t care about anyone else at all and only seek personal stimulation and if people have to get used or hurt to make that happen then that’s completely okay, and they’ll sleep like a baby afterwards I know that’s not narcissism to a T but it’s pretty damn close enough as a baseline for most psychopaths.
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I get the feeling he is a sociopath more than a psychopath... he mentioned he felt unloved and was abused, and as far as I know sociopath is made, and his mentioned wanting to belong, also he didn't premeditate what he did, it was impulsive, and that is more of how sociopaths see red...
I think he glossed over "why didn't my dad love me?" I think in his formative years he felt that and it likely hurt him. Until eventually he became numb and since he didn't feel loved he didn't feel other people deserved love either. - my humble opinion as a father of 3 boys
I noticed this as well! Thank you for commenting this! Emotional nurture by parents is vital. Especially for boys. Children learn to develop and regulate their emotions from our emotional embodiment and our emotional stability. From the perspective of a mother of a son.
This is a good man. He can barely feel anything and could easily say “I don’t care.” Yet he seeks to conquer his disorder and wants to know what it is to feel, especially love. Really hoping for that man to find that one day and hope he finds much joy in it.
I can strongly relate to this. I've been diagnosed with ASPD, I recognize when people become nervous about things they consider important, such as a job interview or an exam. However, I never understood what makes them so nervous or where that fear comes from, because I don't care about what people think of my actions. As for love, I've never loved a partner; I just find them entertaining, and once they no longer are, I leave. I also have to stop and think, 'If I say this or do that, he won't stop bitching for days... Ah well, better to ask for forgiveness than permission.' As a child and teen I was violent, it made me feel something for once, but that went away with age.
The only way to cure social anxiety is to throw yourself into new social situations over and over again until you prove to your own brain that you're safe. Nothing else works. Try it and see.
@@Miche- it went away with age because everybody became more of a physical threat than you🤣 the way you act is nice and all but you better be glad police exists or you’d be COOKED acting that way
I noticed that he quickly grazed over that as well…which I found interesting. That experience as well as his parents being alcoholics clearly contributes to the way he’s developed, or the way he underdeveloped. The ego that developed to protect himself to feel like he can survive in this world, won’t allow him to go there. Unfortunately he doesn’t have the tools physiologically or emotionally to navigate such trauma and violation. His desire to feel like he’s in power and in control I believe is too potent. Emotional trauma and emotional suppression in childhood can manifest in psychopathy especially without early treatment.
Any disorder falls on a spectrum. You also have to take into consideration the GENDER, nationality and socio-economical status of the sufferer. I'm a girl who was born in a nice rich neighbourhood...of course even though I have aspd, Ive always been less inclined of some bloke in some degraded area to commit violent crimes. I would shoplift and get drunk...I wasnt on the streets punching people. Sociopath CAN feel amotion like anger and sadness.
This interview made it clear for me that not even psychopaths are all the same, nor even close to being the same, after watching many other interviews as well. Obviously, some have different goals than others, some have a strong sense of self while others don't, yet the scary thing about that is that there's no pattern that makes it clear whenever someone's a psychopath or not. They all mask in their own way, really, while some seem really kind and "normal", others may seem less like normal people, but at the end of the day, all of those people are psychopaths who don't feel empathy, remorse or guilt. The only "pattern" I've noticed in the interviews is that those psychopaths are often talking about the benefits of not having a wide range of emotions but also about the boredom that comes with it
yeah its right, but he do this, because with that he have full controll over a human. Dont twist it with rehab. from his illness. Look for the Body language, he cant hide the proud look when he told us where he hit this old men and put him in a coma. He works on him maybe for the better, but his real self will still be the same. Psychos cant outbreak this pattern
@@trunksx3765 better doing this than doing nothing at all, who cares the reason why people do things, at least he does something about it instead of just talking.
@@NGC1433my ex is a psychopath and some of what Lewis says is similar to my ex, when I wanted to leave he would absolutely go crazy scary crazy including threats of taking his own life or mine or the kids, 6 years out and it’s still going and now he is in trouble with the law for hurting others. Only on a few occasions he would mention abuse as a child too, the things he did though were sadistic
Saying “i found a girlfriend “ is perfectly fine to use. Lots of people say that. “ I found love”, “ I found this great guy”. “I found the love of my life “. “I found my future wife “, etc.
Psychopaths can feel rage and sometimes they use it as an advantage. They also feel fear and pain for themselves. They are not totally devoid of emotion. They are devoid of empathy for you. But, they rate high on cognitive empathy. They can read you like an emotional x-ray and that is how they get you.
We do care about people who are close to us, but not really about others. I was diagnosed as autistic from my teenage years to the few lasts months. I asked for another opinion, and they did an MRI, a few of them actually, and cognitive tests as well. They discovered that my brain didn't function properly and never developed the amygdala as it's supposed to be. I have a cognitive understanding of emotions, but I don't feel them to the same level as other people. I'm 51, and I know what I have, finally. I'm also an adrenaline junkie. I love fast cars, and I currently drive an audi RS6 Avant 2016. It's heavily modified, so it can go faster. I don't want to go in detail, but this guy is telling the truth. I have a lot of superficial charms, and I use it to get away with many things. I never had any problems finding a girlfriend or being in a relationship, but I became bored easily. The part when he says he got angry because of his girlfriend is relatable, he didn't care about his girlfriend, he care about being humiliated and felt sorry for himself. We do have emotions, but usually, we have them for ourselves. He felt sorry for himself.
When you say you don’t care about others. Most people who aren’t psychopaths also feel just neutral about strangers. But if a stranger is in need of help or is in distress/depressed we do feel for them and try to help if possible. Do you also feel the drive to help or not?
@@jackoh991excuse me. They’re not the opposite….. AT ALL. Both autistic and psychopathic brains develop incorrectly and don’t go through the necesarry neural pruning to correctly process or experience empathy. They’re often co-morbid. Autism used to be a term for SYMPTOMS of “psychopathic schizophrenia.” It’s considered its own spectrum of disorders now but where on earth did you get the idea they are opposite? They’re often one and the same. That’s why so many autistics cannot experience empathy and then will go on for paragraphs about how much “empathy” they feel for a stuffed animal or something. They literally cannot experience, or process, empathy.
@@nataliaalfonso2662 opposites as psychopaths have high cognitive empathy and low affective empathy, and autistics have low cognitive empathy and high affective empathy. Hence opposites. As one is brain developing unusually the opposite would obviously also have to be a brain developing unusually. The opposite of one type of unusual is common or usual. The opposite of white isn't grey.
The fact that he has severe abandonment issues and (for example) slit his throat when his gf said she cheated on him, indicates that he has BPD in addition to ASPD
ASD is autism spectrum disorder. ASPD is what he was diagnosed with which is an umbrella term for both sociopathy and psychopathy. I dont think he's a psychopath because they're much, much more calculated whereas sociopaths are more impulsive and erratic (like how he said he slit his throat and doesnt know why or what he was doing). Sociopaths can fear abandonment too. So probably just ASPD sociopath because borderlines feel ALOT of negative emotions frequently which is not really what he described here
@@cm-yu6gusorry...I meant to write ASPD - not ASD. I am a mental health professional:) Without knowing anything about his except for this video, I'd say psychopathy and BPD. He shows no fear and doesn't crazy under pressure...sociopaths do
@jenniferhodgson1827 except he did crazy under pressure? Like when his gf told him he cheated he acted very wild and unexpected, even surprising himself like not sure what he's even doing, or like how he saw the guy and 'involuntarily' punched him. BPD also have ALOT of fear and are unstable under pressure so I'm not sure how you could be both a psychopath aswell as have bpd, esp as your reasoning for not being a socio is the pressure and fear aspect. Borderlines have an extremely high amount of anxiety which he said himself he doesn't. Most notably though he just doesn't have the 'deadness' behind the eyes that psychopaths have so i think he's a sociopath. Sorry, just trying to understand your conclusion esp as you work in mental health
I was thinking the same thing. For some reason, being around her family where he felt loved and loveable for the first time in his life, that seemed to have opened a tiny door somewhere. His drunken parents sound like an absolute nightmare, kicking him on the ground? Then they banned him from the family for causing problem? smh This is a scapegoating story like I've never heard before. No wonder he is full of rage. Also, BPD is pretty much the opposite problem of psycopathy. Borderlines are all over the place with their extreme emotional swings, and this guy is fairly close to emotionally flat, although not completely. Psychopaths are very very calm. They can't feel fear like the rest of us, so when their life is threatened they feel exhilaration in stead. Borderlines are all anxiety, rage, grandiosity and worthlessness, and they bounce between all those things like a rubber ball.
The self development section of the video is very good and relatable for me Alcohol had given me nothing but court fees and prison time along with a very rocky 4 year relationship. going through that self developing stage now since getting sober. It’s very tough out here.
Psychopaths can try to emulate empathy and emotion on others, but the main emotions they feel revolve around self-interested and self-beneficial things.
Yes, my former sister in law, scary and sneaky violent. It was much later told me, it wasn't she was only hating me, I'm childhood she already cause trouble. Had also sexual interest in my ex husband, gladly he never let her do things. Sad is that we didn't knew better and our marriage stranded. My ex husband is now aware the actions of his sister had such great impact he really needs therapy.
He’s describing a “narcissistic injury”… the rejection from her brought out all his abandonment trauma and it became like a psychotic break. That’s when their mask comes off. It’s really just about their ego, and they will punish anyone around them, in the worst ways, when their ego is suffering a narcissistic injury. That’s when sometimes, Narcs or sociopaths can finally kill their victims. There is never one spec of taking accountability. Not in the moment and not post the event. Like here, he is very emotionally removed from the consequences of his rages, as in how they would affect others. Yet he speaks positively about his feelings of satisfaction when he describes attacking other males.
I didn’t hear that. He seems to be self aware enough to know his limitations and weaknesses and seems to be actively focused on growing and learning and becoming more emotionally equipped. Also, clearly you have no obligation to respond but what’s wrong with a mask when society hates and fears what’s behind it?
@@MB-pf7gvWhat's wrong with a mask is like saying what's wrong with lying. You're presenting a false self. So I guess you don't have any problem with being catfished, right? What's more problematic is the damage you do to yourself by lying to yourself. You will get to the end of your life feeling hallow, trapped in a life you never wanted yet can't blame anyone else for it. You did it to yourself.
Scary is a bad word, I guess that's what is probably the best term for others. I'd describe it as self destructive and needing to diffuse internal tension... It's very rarely ever about the other person or caring about what they think. That's more NPD. They care about being scary. If Psycopathy has sadistic edges or traits, it's still more about aggression being released then seeing fear in another, maybe even stimulation and maybe even feeling powerful. You see how it's all self centered tho? It's very much so about chronic lack of self soothing ability and about soothing those pesky emotions. It's not even emotions as he's stated, more so just this indescribable tension feeling and need to be aggressive in the moment. 🤷
Um. No. Fighting with people when your normal emotional state is completely flat (in other words you don't feel good, you don't feel bad, you feel nothing much) is like a high. This is exactly why psychopaths so often get into crime and violence. It causes them to feel something. The adrenaline of an uncertain conflict that could go very wrong; upsetting or hurting other people and seeing that happen. It's a rush when you otherwise feel nothing. The fact that they genuinely don't have empathy for anyone else allows them to do this. They are not merely acting reactively to the world like people who have been hurt. They literally don't have the ability to feel empathy; that part of their brain isn't developed and this difference can be seen in brain scans. You can actually tell a brain scan of a healthy person from someone who has psychopathy because of how their brain is structured. The most a psychologist can really do with an adult psychopath (and it has to be with someone who *genuinely* wants to cooperate, which is already extremely difficult to establish) is teach them what appropriate boundaries would be and how to navigate the world in a way that doesn't victimize, where they would need to refer to this taught roadmap constantly in life because they would never just personally FEEL sorry about something and so not do it. They'd need the roadmap of how not to victimize to refer to and then the commitment to stick to it even though it doesn't really benefit them. Most psychologists simply focus on harm reduction with such patients and only a small percentage of patients would even use this info in a healthy way to better their lives rather than to use this psychological education to better manipulate people for their own benefit, so loads of psychologists won't even do proactive therapy with them because of literally ethical concerns. People so fundamentally misunderstand sociopathy/psychopathy these days and it's strange.
So, there is a fundamental misunderstanding on what empathy is, specifically emotional. Cognitive is the ability to read peoples emotional state and what autistic spectrum persons can struggle with. Emotional is anchoring shared emotional states with another person. Let me explain: I give my friend a gift. Friend is happy with gift. My brain, due to my emotional empathy being functional or even highly developed interprets their happiness/joy as my own. Because my friend is connected to me, my empathy responds and my empathy is my brains ability to take another separate human being (or animal's) emotional status and interpret it as ones own. What's the benefit of this? Again, quid pro quo. Guess what my friend is doing? My friend sees that I'm happy, because they are happy. Their brain is doing the SAME thing mine is doing, because we are close. Their brain sees my happiness at there happiness and feels even more happy than they did before, because there are two happy people and I'm happy directly because they are happy (the mechanism not being altruistic doesn't matter) They get happier because not only is their baseline happiness over the gift still there because a good friend gave them one, but their friend is also happy about their happiness. My brain sees them get even happier and it becomes a feed back loop. This is why when people get excited to see each other or happy over something with another person it can escalate to screeching, laughing or other technical coping mechanisms for extreme emotion. And yes, the same can happen when someone is sad (this is why you learn to be able to allow someone else to feel what they feel with out amplifying negative emotions. Which people fail at, that's why people escalate in a fight) People think empathy is some magical weird ideology or some choice, but it is a mechanical functional mechanism in the brain taken care of by various parts that interplay with eac other. It is not a choice. It can be increased and decreased both with practice, but also with circumstance. We also have selective empathy. If you feel very little or even aggression to another human being, you think they are less than you. If you find someone to be equal and they suffer even if you don't know them, you tend to get PTSD to their suffering or other issues. We can only hate that which we find lower than ourselves. The danger in psychopathy is that this is the default. Everyone is lower than the self if they can't connect to anyone but the self. This is why people are tools, toys or obstacles, not people and they don't have capacity to care. Some psychopaths have had stable loving childhoods and come to the conclusion that it is beneficial to act or try to understand empathy and mimic caring about others because it benefits them (they're also not wrong, that's why empathy as a developed mechanism in the brain has made us top dog on the planet. I can name a pen bob, lose it or have it break and feel sad legitimately for a little while for an inanimate object. It's why we tell stories and get engrossed in them. We experience another's life and exercise theory of mind.) Psychopaths generally have extremely limited to outright missing ability for this quid pro quo exchange. Their brain doesn't extend others well being and suffering in the same measure as part of their own. They do not feel the "part of me is missing" when they lose those close to them. Because it is a literal interpretation from the brains empathetic parts to see someone missing as part of ones self. When loved ones die or leave us in some way, we feel like we lose pieces of ourselves. This is exactly why and why many characterize it as that and also why heart break and loss can actually ruin a persons life. Last but not least, ASPD is a spectrum and psychopathy is generally on one of the ends as something more extreme. A lot of serial killers tend to be psychopaths, also because disgust response is not functioning in people with that level of psychopathy. While there are definitely ways society can help psychopaths integrate and thrive with out risking harm to others, there is a reason the disorder has a negative reputation. It's also not fair of society to expect someone who physically due to brain construction can't do something well or sometimes at all. And no, there is no benefit to the disorder. A lot of the touted ones are things regular people can learn. A common one is bomb defusal due to lower fear response. But thing is, if a psychopath could get away with it and not get in trouble, they might choose to eat a sandwich instead of diffuse the bomb. Others dying doesn't matter because their brain doesn't have capacity to care. It's not a choice, it's mechanics. Where as someone else trained in the same job will diffuse the bomb because they will think about all the people who would die otherwise. Surgeons are the same thing. I'd rather have one that does care about a person surviving rather than only "beating" the game of removing or fixing something internally, especially because psychopaths are super prone to boredom. Having to police someone who doesn't have this innate mechanism going on is more taxing on society. Deterrents like jail time or even corporal punishment only go so far too. If we can find a cure for the disorder as a developmental problem as we have for other things in the past, like common diseases and such, I think we should. There are lots of mental health disorders that are misunderstood, but most of them don't go into territory where they can become a danger to others. And those that do, get different treatment and help to minimize impact on others well being (or at least should. Mental health overall is not taken seriously, even though the brain is nothing but a fleshy mass of pink tissue run by chemicals, hormones and electricity.).
I agree with everything you’ve said though I’m not sure about the aggression and seeing people as lesser part. My dad was a boxer/boxing coach so maybe it’s as simple as that, but Idk I’ve always just had people try pick on me at times I’ve been in bad state of minds, though admittedly my bad state of minds is mostly just self pity but for whatever reason life tends to have a way of people picking on me in these moments and I’ve always enjoyed being able to beat the breaks off them in these moments. The most recent example of this is one of my sisters committed suicide this year actually, the literal day after her funeral I was riding an electric scooter home (lol) and life being life, 2 pricks in a car slowed down while passing me and one egged me. I felt honestly violated but calm it was weird, I followed them to the end of the street and they had to wait for traffic, the idiot that threw the egg at me still had the passenger seat window down and I put my hand in grabbed him by the hair pulled his head halfway out the window and, started to elbow his head trying to break his neck in all honesty punched him several times too really just tried to f him up as bad as I could in the short time I had, before the driver got so scared that he just put his foot down and started driving off hoping I’d let go of his friend out of not wanting to get ran over lol. People like that I hate and I happily enjoy hurting them and seeing the laughter from egging me turn into, absolute terror realising I’m about to f them up badly. And all that might sound near psychotic i honestly don’t know but anyone who’s good to me i would never even raise my voice to out of respect. I also love animals, I was cutting wood once years ago and I was with one other guy, there was a bunch of small bats (I guess babies because they couldn’t fly) in one tree and I went to pick up one of the logs, to see one of the bats stuck to the log trembling in fear and hearing the loud chainsaw in the background and tbh it made me feel sick, there was no fiber in my being that would allow me to hurt the little guy and I spent probably 20-30 minutes or so just trying to find him a semi safe spot with his other bats instead of just squishing them and be done with it. Anyone I see people mistreating animals in person I have no problem hurting them for being such a weak coward though.
Cheers for the discussion, mate. One question: If he was abused by someone and then they died, should he care? I was abused by my whole family. Now they’re all dead and I never once felt sorrow but relief and peace. Would I be a psychopath if I felt absolutely nothing? Isn’t being numb a counterproductive defense mechanism to keep people away emotionally? I just don’t like to use stuff like that as diagnostic criteria since , unfairly, there are only three responses to stress and trauma. He chose “fight.” But he’s got a mental illness?
@@MB-pf7gv Why would you be abnormal for not feeling grief for people who abused you? I'd call you completely normal. Some people want to make victims out of everyone and who's it helping when you enable abusive people.
I can't help but wonder if this is some form of dissociation, like having ' no access' rather than an actual absence? I dissociate a lot but in the opposite way, like I don't feel things that happen to me but I feel mostly empathy. I can't help but think he might have something similar. I feel for him.
From all the research I've done on this, the latest study I could find was that it's not a matter of lack of connectivity, IE some wire mixed up (like with foot fetish or even sadism (not the BDSM type, but the other one)) but grey matter is missing and never develop, around 13% in areas we think pertain to empathy if I remember right. it's a totally different ball game to find out the lights don't turn on because there is no electrical wiring, vs simply needing to go to a circuit board. It makes addressing it a lot more complicated if not impossible with current understanding about the human brain. There are also studies that show trying to teach psychopaths empathy through exercises mostly just makes them better at manipulating other people. Not dissimilar to how narcissistic personality disorder gets worse with therapy and is incurable. In fact, both disorders have similar problems. It's possible that NPD is a person with psychopathy that through environment becomes NPD. Especially since it can be genetic, but not a guarantee when a narcissist has kids. That said, there might be new research that expands on it or has totally new findings which change the way we think. That's what's cool about science.
There's most likely the cause and effect with the interplay of both things. IE: because they have blocked themselves off from accessing and therefore developing for one reason or another, then there is no grey matter and connectivity. You know what I'm saying? Both things can be true at once. I believe it is possible for one to be ok psychopathic and have a change or radical shift that changes things. I can say from personal experience that the key to that in part if this is actually the case Is having someone you respect in your life that is very empathetic to teach you and then the combined use of MDMA. No joke that's what I believe. @@vixxcelacea2778
You are weak both intellectually and emotionally. Let me explain something to you. I have no reference point to understand you and you have no reference point to understand me. And the more you try, the more of an amusing toy you become to me. For your own sake, grow up.
I have antisocial personality too, people misunderstand a lot of times and usually I don't disclose. I'm not a monster, but i have the potential to be really cruel if someone crosses me, for the most part I see it as having different motivations. Life can seem a bit meaningless at some point when I see myself missing out on stuff, but even if i have this thought I end up not caring. I'm quite impulsive(have adhd too) but meds take care of that. I usually conform to the world or people around me because it makes things easier for me, going completely against the current is just not a good place to be. If you are nice to me though I will be nice to you and you can be sure I don't do it because I feel obliged to or because i care deeply about you, I ACTIVELY CHOOSE to be nice to you in return, which is meaningful I believe. I see a lot of people doing or saying things only because it is expected of them or they are driven by some emotion, for me it's a conscious thought to do something nice idk if that makes sense
As a close family member of a person with aspd, it will get deeper than that, when my stepfather died he KNEW he was evil. He knew that for all his meticulous public relations management, it was all a lie, and that he had wasted his life. In the end he had nothing.
@@patrickthestar132 You will carry the weight of your actions, even if no one else can see them. When my stepfather was dying he tried to trick me into forgiving him, he wanted me to say it was OK and save him from the sheer emptiness he had spent so many years creating. But i didn't care about him. Even if he was genuinely sorry it didn't matter. Because he had done so little good noone cared when he died. In the end, though he had spent a lifetime convincing everyone of his strength he was so weak, He wanted desperately to apologize, but could not bear the humiliation. He could not say "i am sorry" There was nothing to do. I just quietly shut the door in his face, and left him to be swallowed, not by hell and retribution, but by nothingness. He died a few weeks later, babbling incoherently, mad from morphine and crying for his mother. Such a waste. Learn from my stepfather's mistakes. I believe in you, you are not evil. You have a great power, use it for good, .He had a choice, you have a choice. You can do better, so do better. I believe in you, you are not evil Show the world how much good a person with ASPD can do, or you will end up like him, beyond salvation.
thats the difference in normal empathy and cognitive empathy. i also have aspd, and i say that if i take the time to 'act out with empathy' even tho its fake, i know thats what expected of me, and for me to fake it for you is in a certain way me caring for you.
its actually quite interesting to see him keep catching himself not displaying empathy and correcting it. or atleast not using an empathetic word to discribe something.. like he recognizes that he dosnt feel empathy for others but also acknoweldges that that isnt normal so has to backtrack to put value onto that person. like where he pauses to try and feel guilty.. he knows he should feel something but is just unable to like put himself in their shoes and feel what they must have felt.
I'm Autistic, high functioning, diagnosed at the age of 10 by the NHS. My special interest is in a combination of personality, psychology and psychiatry, what motivates people, why they are motivated by what they are, how this presents in their life, what their morality, character and moral compass in relation to that are etc..., to form a cohesive image of those around me. This does come from a need for control over people, if i can in their head i can drive their actions and feel less anxious. Seem Psychopathic? I do to me.
@@deadgiveaway-z3i I agree NDs can come across as psychopathic but from a vibe perspective you’re opposite ends of the spectrum to me. An autistics desire to learn all about humans and what makes us us is from a very human desire to mimic and mask so they fit in and to be accepted by the tribe. Yes it’s controlling but it’s how autistics protect themselves from being ostracised from the group. A psychopaths driver ,to me, is to learn people’s behaviours to fit in so they can ultimately control the group. I know that there’s some overlap though so it’s totally possible to be autistic and psychopatic! I think I know a few tbh lol
I don’t think this seem like a psychopathic trait. I actually think it’s how most people socialise, most people do everything for their own gain. Considering that you have autism, it makes sense that you try to control social situations with your knowledge of psychology etc. You are trying to gain insight and even though it’s for your own good, you don’t try to gain insight in what people are thinking/feeling to hurt them. That’s were the difference is.
What I noticed about people diagnosed with Autism is that they tend to be very logical and study people's behavior because they don't always understand social cues. Some might have the aspd as well but more often, they just think differently. One thing that differentiates psychopaths from the rest is that they don't feel fear and anxiety, so if I were you, I'd ask myself that.
I think it's so important to understand that people cannot be blamed for being born with the brain they have. Despite some horrific things people have done, this is their brain, and thats how people are wired. Can you imagine growing up believing you're bad and unworthy all the time because of the brain you didn't choose to be born with?
yes i can imagine that, and being in the mind that i am, with functioning human emotions, i can know that i would still be accountable for my actions. Just because they "can't control it" doesn't make anything they do any better. They are parasites, monsters, utterly selfish creatures that shouldn't be allowed in a society where they would do anything with NO limits to get what they want.
@amoney9119 Of course. Being understanding and open-minded doesn't mean their behaviour is condoned, and the people who pose a risk should 'get away' with something. There is a big difference.
I appreciate that you're putting in that work to understand an aspect of existence that you're not. I'm 40 and I'm still trying to work it out. I'm sure I fit into the spectrum of psychopathy, I've hurt ppl on purpose and didn't lose a wink of sleep. Legit menace for 38. Food is bland, colors don't pop unless there is an element of risk... we love, but our love is ownership. I've experimented with sacrifice for MY ppl and learned there is a place for us in a healthy community. Pretending we "get" or care about the abstract feelings of others isn't necessary, the autistics are more successful now than all of human history and some of them are damned respected in their field... and so long as we practice restraint and never act on impulse, we can find success without self-distruction. Do the work not everyone can. It's a bit manipulative just classier, and a tool for every job....
The system suspended his sentence and let this animal out to attack others again? What a failure of a justice system. He deserved significant jail time for his first brain damage charge. Every attack past the first was the fault of the justice system.
It's higher-order emotions like compassion & empathy that elude them. Anger and even regret they can probably get to. As in, "I regret killing that person - bc now I'm in prison." Props to this guy for recognizing his pathology. Sadly, he may not be able to develop these emotions. Mimicking them may be the best he can do, and of course this will help him to "pass" as normal.
What the hell you mean by "develop these emotions" ??? The brain structures are physically not there. You can not develop an absent system. or do you think say, gay people should just "work on their straightness" ?
@@NGC1433 I did say, "he may not be able to develop these emotions." Others seemed to get it, but you seem unusually outraged. Let me re-phrase it for you and your unstable affect, "He absolutely *will not* be able to develop these emotions bc the brain structures are physically not there!!!" I added the 3 exclamation marks to match your ??? Your tangential swing to gay people "working on their straightness" is a weird straw-man; did you want to talk about this? I don't have strong theories about what "makes people gay" - sorry if it's something that you're struggling with 😉
Dr Ramani talks about the range of ASPD well. It sounds to be like Lewis is perhaps sociopaths rather than psychopath so I don’t think he was born this way. There certainly is hope for change and it’s amazing how he has gotten to the place he has.
The key to psychopathy though is it is apparent around 14 which is when he states he was getting orders related to his behaviour, generational trauma/disorder, if he was abused and parents were alcoholic chances are one of them were, there you find the generational connection, that’s how they are born
As much as it is difficult for me to relate and to like someone like this, I feel I have to admire his growth and self awareness. Imagine how difficult is growing up with essentially no emotions and not understanding how everyone else acts on it when you have nothing at all. Again, I could never enjoy the presence of a psychopath - they're arrogant and ignorant by nature - but this guy has worked hard to fit into society despite feeling like - and probably being repeatedly told - he had no place his whole life.
He seems like a sociopath more than a psyhcopath.. it seems like his family experiences, especially from his father, were traumatic which created the sociopathy. Psychopaths are born due to neurological issues, sociopaths are bred.
Antisocial Personality Disorder (sociopathy and psychopathy) are almost universally agreed to be caused by mixed of both nature and nurture. Meaning you probably need to be predisposed, but it probably typically also needs the right environment to trigger those genes. If what you said was ever considered true, it's definitely not anymore by psychology.
I'm still confused by the apparent difference because I read The Psychopath Inside and the author calls himself a "psychopath lite" or borderline psychopath. He said that psychopathy develops due to a 3 legged stool effect of bad genetics, brain chemistry and abuse. He didn't find reason to use the word sociopath. .. But it does seem some people become psychopaths despite a good upbringing- like the gangster Mad Frankie Fraser who tortured people for the Richardsons.
Emotional "burdens" are what makes a person strong. If you don't have internal conflict about morality, then you can never understand the level of strength that comes from having that conflict within. People with empathy can do 100% of the same things psychopaths can. It's just more of a challenge and therefore is more meaningful. The most empathetic person to ever exist can achieve 100% of all the same things, plus more. Empathy is the future.
I’ve Autism and I recognize the flat reduced feeling combined with wanting to feel happiness en the fuzzy love. Wanting to Feel interested in life. Wanting to care and not fake my kindness. Pretty strange since my doctor told me I apparently can adapt to others non verbal clues. 😅
@nataliaalfonso2662 the people I love most in my life have asd. And they are the kindest most genuine people I know. Just because we don't inherently know how to socially engage doesn't mean we don't care xx
As a sociopath - we FEEL. We just literally do not care about what you feel or the outcome for you. We laugh, it’s just at typically inappropriate times. A particularly deserved death may be amusing so people see a smirk. We want friends, we just don’t understand HOW to maintain a relationship because we don’t have the ability to care. We live bored. We have to destroy things, people or ourselves to feel what you feel when you’re having a good day. We aren’t dead inside, we just….don’t care.
@@OasisJones that’s the thing - a majority of us don’t hurt others, just ourselves. Morals are still in play. Like I know it’s morally wrong to harm others so I don’t do it. Killing pets? Beating spouses and children? Nope. These are things a killer, addict, abuse victim, psychopath or a combination of all three does - a standard sociopath will typically leave because morally we know what’s right and wrong. I cannot speak for psychopaths - though it seems the major difference between us is the desire to charm and manipulate others. Sociopaths don’t care enough for that song and dance. We KNOW we should care so we mask up and try to fit in.
Hurt people hurt and healed people heal... this guy is a case in point. Broken family, sexually abused as a kid etc. Impressive how he's turned things around.
@@WildandFree4 Untrue on both counts... also the term "sociopath" (which in any case was previously used interchangeably with 'psychopath') is no longer used as a diagnostic category at all. Much like BPD, psychopathy is largely understood today as arising out of a mix of genetic and environmental factors.
@@slevinh7803 I mean - kind of. The thing is I was complicit in my own manipulation. I would hide his manipulation from other people like it was our little secret because I couldn't admit I was being manipulated. It's pretty messed up really.
Trust me chatting pure shit. "My parents didnt love me, I was an alcoholic at 17, I was addicted to gear, I used to scrap twice a night". Bet he was just a skinny little pussy growing up who never got into trouble once. Mad how many people have fell for it in the comments tho
that was Todd, i liked that character alot, glad he came back El Camino. I feel he depicted a psychopath in a more realistic way, he seemned more confused with emotions than someone inherently evil
He slit his throat but it didn't leave any scar, yeah, sure.. Compulsive liar. I have forgiveness for people like this, but I have learned the hard way not to have any empathy anymore for people like this, they bring so much suffering into humans and always play the victim (been in a relationship with a guy who most definitely have antisocial personality disorder). But it's good he's working on himself whatever that means. All I'm wondering is, can they actually get "better"? Or if they work on themselves do they just learn to "fake" good emotions? Very interesting interview.
Individuals with ASPD may engage in risky or harmful behaviors, but these actions are usually directed toward others rather than self-inflicted. Self-harm is more commonly associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD), which involves emotional instability, intense interpersonal relationships, and self-destructive behaviors.
He's describing the void of feelings which are the results of the brain damages behind psychopathy/antisocial personality disorder but it sounds more like emotionally unstable personality disorder in his case. (Formerly known as borderline) Especially since theres abuse in his childhood. And borderlines caused by CPTSD.
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People are saying “I see emotion so he’s not a psychopath” or “He described being angry when his gf cheated on him so he’s not.” Watched an interview with a psychiatrist who said “the idea that psychopaths have NO emotion is a misconception. They feel a range of emotions, they just feel for THEMSELVES, not for YOU.”
They can have more limited emotional range. They also tend to not regulate them well when they are extreme which is rare. One emotion they especially struggle with and also have trouble recognizing in others is disgust. Which explains why serial killers could often and even chose to get their hands dirty. Disgust is a protection emotion, IE you see a nasty festering contagious wound, you'd probably avoid it. That and gore isn't safe to be around, it's a biohazard.
interesting point and likely true. however thinking that all psychopaths operate in the same way is problematic when people study human nature and the brain. we are all wired differently so no reason to think psychopaths are an exception to that rule
No thats a narcissism thing
Having a nap was ya an ur a liar if u was that bad u would be sectioned
Pretty much. If you don't want to give a formal clinical diagnosis term you could say it's a 'license to be an arsehole' and an 'excuse to avoid responsibility for my actions'. You often hear 'oh i did that because i have XYZ personality disorder'. Pure bollocks. The ICD-10 and DSM-5 are for assisting clinicians and don't absolve an individual from responsibility for their decisions and actions. And shouldn't absolve them from the subsequent consequences either IMO. A lot of this is cultural and whatever is the current zeitgeist. Playing the insanity card is not uncommon in the criminal justice system. It can also ameliorate sentencing by raising issues of capacity and culpability which any good defense lawyer knows full well.
"I think sorry. I just don't feel it."
That sums it up nicely.
❤. Exactly.
@@RHathemoment ??? Why the heart emoji?
@@Roz-y2d lol this is comments psychos abound used to it yet?
Suffering is optional pain is inevitable
@@danaparfitt2491 Other way around
Bro actually stopped the interview for a solid 10 seconds to close his eyes and “try to feel remorse” 😂 😂 💀
No normal person dose that proves he must be a psycopath 🤣
He's got a bit of troll in him! 😂
Looool
yeah...lol what an actor. this is bs. forget about what you see on the surface and maybe youll get what you see and hear
@@davewade30 I laughed out loud after he says, "nah I don't even know what that feels like" ahaha. so what were you looking for when you closed your eyes then? obviously just for show.
This is interesting to me because it seems like, while lacking empathy for others, he has made an intellectual decision that success for him means making a positive impact on the world. Being a "good person" doesn't necessarily mean being inherently good and taking joy in doing good. It is about choosing to do good. It's about actions. He may be driven by self interest but it has led him down a path to contributing in a meaningful way to society. This is what rehabilitation actually looks like. He faced real consequences for his choices and learned from that.
I don't believe him at all. A great narrative though. And a nice sales pitch at the end. It'hard enough to change an aspect of your daily routine much less who you are to the core and what he's practiced since 2 years old
he helps people, that are broken - cuz they are easy to manipulate. Its like full controll over a human. Look Body-language, he is very proud to tell us he put that old men in a coma. He cant hide it. But that are prototype psychos, they cant change. He is just good in playing this "normal men"
@@trunksx3765 what do you mean by "normal man"? What makes him un-normal?
😢😢 I 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢 19:40 😢😢😢😢
Enlightened self interest
Pausing to think about if you give a fuck is nasty work 😂😂
☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️ “hmmm… nnnehh” 🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Love that guy.Relatable as F😂
Hilarious
He was putting on an act. He knew damn well he didn’t give af before the pause😂😂😂
Psychopaths have always been really interesting to me, because I myself deal with constant anxiety and overthinking. A psychopath almost seems the exact opposite. Never nervous, never overthinking, etc. Just as foreign a concept for me to understand walking in his shoes, as it is for him to walk in mine. Really interesting.
same
Same.
I agree with you as someone who is anxious and try my best to stay calm in any circumstance but it's challenging. So yeah , even if we shouldn't like psychopaths but their ability to be totally chill is something to envy not gonna lie
I’m a diagnosed psychopath, and I’ve never thought about harming others I just couldn’t care less about them and I lack empathy, but I can sympathize with them. I’m mostly calm, and keep to myself but admittedly I do enjoy power and being in a position of dominance. To me “ Good” and “ Evil” do not exist, it’s all relative. Any technology we build that obeys the laws of physics will work, everything else is a social construct made up by these primates that call themselves humans
@@ArmyOfTennessee Same except in my family it runs in the female line.My mum was Scottish.Came to Canada as a WW2 war bride.We are difficult women but men love us for some weird reason 🤣
He gets lighter sentences, comes off as nice and charming, and smiles after attempting to empathize w/ his victim, and y’all still say he is a sociopath and not a born psychopath. He wasn’t even trying to manipulate, and you guys still got manipulated!
"Attempting" is the keyword. Lol. Definitely a psychopath.
@@kelzzzs223 Yeah. He probably wanted to and still couldn’t do it. I wouldn’t blame him either, life gets boring like this.
There’s no such distinction. Sociopath is outdated terminology. It’s not a dichotomy.
@@noahdwhitney That is true in a clinical setting; I just view it as having no empathy and remorse, which is about as broad as it gets. Colloquially it’s still used
Totally. He is diagnosed with ASPD and is a psychopath. But he comes of as honest, and admits wrongdoing, he tries to look at his negatives. All these things are likable traits. Humans are easily manipulated.
Even his jokes are insane lol. You can tell he finds the humor then looks to analyze your response. Very interesting!
More psychopaths and sociopaths please. We need more real interviews. The stereotypical film portrayal is often the only depiction people have of these personality types.
ya, theyre always the "evil" type, when in reality, not alot of them are psychopathic murderers, sometimes theyre just dick holes lol
I don't think he's a psychopath, though. He's an intelligent sensitive person completely dissociated by childhood trauma, seeking to make sense of things and fill the gap where emotion should be. Now that he's found his centre, I think he will start to get in touch with his capacity to feel. Because everyone's always treated him as an outsider, he may have a distorted view of what emotions feel like. I think we all pretend to feel more than we do, in quite a lot of circumstances. I really liked him saying he "thinks sorry" for the guy he hit, rather than "feeling sorry" for him. Being precise and honest about how he actually feels is the best way to find his own emotional compass.
I love how people on the internet ignore a professional diagnosis and just decide for themselves what they believe 🤣
@@bengrove97 I must admit, it's my favourite activity and I am totally unqualified for it!!!! 🤣
@AlisonWonderland999 yeah no...with this kind of disorder the brain is simply not wired to feel those emotions. There is a deformity in the grey matter on the frontal lobe of the brain. No amount of therapy or "finding yourself" will allow for these emotions to suddenly surface. It is all cognitive, not affective.
The amount of psychopaths out there who are quite charismatic and likeable people is actually scary. Everyone imagines the shut-in serial killer types but that's actually quite rare and many are successful in businesses and various aspects of life. They can be very charming and engaging, much like this fella, they just don't understand emotions at all. A psychopath can't understand why they should care what others thing, how to feel bad about something or regrets, they simply keep doing what they do.
Psychopaths are known to be charming and socially skileld
Why is it scary exactly? As long as they aren't harming people it doesn't even matter really.
We absolutely understand your emotions. Some of us prey on them. We just don't experience them with you. This doesn't even mean we don't consider them important. After all they affect behaviour.
this guy is not likeable at all. smug idiot.
@@ParadoxXx-eh8bt you cant understand something you cant feel. you can partly observe it from outside but you dont understand it.
As an Autistic woman with off the charts affective empathy (I save worms in the rain), I am beginning to see why we get a bad wrap in terms of our body language and tone, as my body language matches the Psychopaths I have watched on here, and I process things analytically, but I am overwhelmed by empathy, people just don't believe it - which causes reactive bullying tbh. My cognitive empathy for Allistic society/thinking is not great as I don't vibe with power, control, popularity, money etc etc. My internal sense of justice and honesty is also overwhelming
I swear you just described me 👀
Ok nerd
I'm the same and autistic watch Dan Autism on youtube he is very good. I found out last year I didn't know. I used to safe snails a lot in the garden. People called me crazy and obsessed.
@user-wu3mw2iu7x how dare you , ugh what a comment. I think you need to sit there right to that guy in the video. Awful being
@@charlie-girl72 I get empathy for objects also.
I dated a psychopath. I came to see she had zero empathy; felt entitled; was superficially charming, but it was all false as she would continually put down any friend/ acquaintance behind their back. Taking a risk ( esp with sex ) was a big turn on for her. She was also a surpreme narcissist, had no empathy for anyone but herself; she was violent (I dumped her immediately); untrustworthy and a cheat. One in 200 people in the UK is a psychopath. You deal with them everyday. I hear she has a string of broken relationships behind her (incl. divorcing a rich older guy, but was infuriated that she got only the minimum she was entitled to out of him). I just _hope_ that she never has kids
To je mi líto. Zkušenost s psychopaty jsem taky měl. Jsou to extrémně nebezpeční lidé, snad už jste od té osoby pryč a je vám líp.
@@Fecius Dekuji. Ano, uz mam ceskou holku a ona je nejlepsi !
I've been there. Got into a fight with her and she started to lie to everyone in college about me. Everyone gives her the benefit of the doubt. Few ppl give it to me. It ruined my life on campus. I don't enjoy being there at all anymore. It started out so beautifully. Even my friends don't fully understand what i've been through and i don't feel truely comfortable with any of them. It's only those who have nothing to do with this that i am still fully relaxed around. I made mistakes but this is an incredible punishment for it.
@@Czechbound ❤
@@thewouldyouratherguy Same same. When I confronted her about her cheating that I found out about, she tried to lie her way out of it. I let her talk, and then revealed that I had proof. She immediately became violent ( tried to knee me in the balls, bit my arm (!), spat in my face ). Then she wrote on her Facebook that *I* had hit *her*. I only knew she wrote it as a friend told me. I asked him to take a screen shot of it. I texted her that she had better remove that post immediately or I would sue her. I had already taken a photo of the bite mark and nail marks on my arm from her attack ( I see have the marks in my skin). I then met with one of the girls she didn't like, and during our catch up just dropped little bits of the story. This girl was a hopeless gossip, so over a couple of weeks the whole story got out. It turned out a lot of people didn't like her, and so my reputation was saved. But it could have been very problematic. A year after she left town my doorbell rang, and when I opened it, there she was, with professionally applied hair and makeup in a sexy outfit. I just said that prostitutes weren't allowed in the building, and if she was there when I left in 20 minutes, I would call the police. She knew I was serious, so when I closed the door, she left. When I came out of the building she had written in lipstick "I still love you xxx" and a big love heart on my letterbox. That was designed for my girlfriend to see, and so cause friction in my new relationship. Psychopaths - they are so weird. I had already told my girlfriend that I had dated a psychopath, showed her a picture of her and said that if we were ever to bump into her, to just ignore her and keep walking. And that's just the tip of the iceberg of her lying, cheating and weird behaviour.
When I was young I had a boyfriend who fit all the criteria for antisocial personality disorder. He was extremely manipulative and made me look like the evil one in the relationship. Even when he tried to physically attack me in front of friends they all went to talk to him and help him through the situation. He manipulated them to believe I was so evil that I deserved that. It was absurd.
that’s so scary 😧 I hope he’s not in your life anymore.
I am a male and had same type a colleague with same features and I quit after almost 3 months.psychopaths are discusting and manipulative,controlling,liars and aggressive people.evil
How did u manage to get out of it and let him go
Going through similar, was violent before moving out, in custody court and he manages to manipulate and convince everyone he's ok and I'm the only one with problems. Even my attourney and my parents get convinced by him.
been there
This is SO important.
Too many people make the mistake of thinking everybody thinks/feels the same as them.
They are SO bewildered by the crimes of sociopaths/narcissists/psychopaths that the only way they can comprehend their actions is to label it as 'Evil'.
Evil does not exist,..
'Evil' is to Psychology what 'Magic' is to Science.
The more exposure there is of the entire spectrum of consciousness the sooner there will be adequate care for those who the hardest to care FOR.
That line he offered after he was asked if he felt remorse
"I think sorry. I just don't feel it.'' was a BRILLIANT way of illustrating the mindset of someone who lacks empathy.
Also its VERY important that we remember that these people didn't CHOOSE to have emotional bald patches in their feelings any more than others 'choose' to be colour blind.
I appreciate and respect this guy for sharing his story, as well as the genuine attempt to navigate his shortcomings.
He is the garden variety, your neighbourhood type of psychopath. There are what you could call evil psychopaths too, if we have decided as a society that we can truly judge people who have empathy disability.
I knew someone as a teenager who was most certainly like this man, his name is Tobias and he had formed attachment with 1 person, his friend since childhood. He most certainly didn't 'feel' in the typical way and the only way to hurt him was to hurt his friend or tell him his friend preferred someone else. He had many girlfriends and never felt anything for any of them, was always in a fight somewhere, showed absolutely no indication of sympathy or empathy - unless you hurt his access to something, he had plenty of angst over himself.
I think in 43 years I've met possibly 2 psychopaths, the second one has ADHD and possibly also high functioning Autism, he scored very high on psychopathy. I wouldn't say he necessarily have the same personality disorder, but he certainly has many psychopathic traits. I don't think there is a way to SEE them out and about, unless they are INCREDIBLY 'other' and 'different' to the absurd. Most are just garden variety - they feel a little wrong, you may feel a little creeped out around them and you slowly notice(those who don't learn to mask) that they are slightly off and don't respond appropriately. Some are GREAT pretenders.
Some are actors of the highest degree, some people confuse narcissism and psychopathy, not all psychopaths are going to automatically be as dangerous as a narcissist would be if you allowed them.
My ADHD/Autistic friend, he flips the switch and he's an outgoing and very CHARMING individual who says all the right things and laughs at all the correct times - but there is no real emotion there, it's a performance and it's chilling. He fool the absolute majority.
Evil is a philosophy, trying to understand it scientifically is a fools erand
I wonder how much you'd still respect this guy if you got to hear all of his victims stories about his violence. This man is dangerous and his inability to feel remorse means his capacity for violence will always remain high..
@@foghornfoggyfacethat's a super unhelpful attitude.
@t3hpenguinofd00m It's true, though. The fact that he doesn't feel remorse and can't empathise with others makes him far more likely to do bad things again.
"not having the luxury of hitting rock bottom, to realise you need to work on yourself" beautiful. I needed my rock bottom to excel
"i don't have any self doubt or lack of confidence" - that sounds nice.
The cost is dumping the discomfort you’d usually experience from those emotions onto others.
Yes and no. Can stop you doing stupid things.
They are so confident and don't have any self doubt because they don't have a Self in the first place. That's what I call fake confidence. Real confidence comes from embracing and incorporating the Self, which is incredibly rare. Most super confident people are just super dissociated and fake.
They are so dissociated and shutdown from feelings that their whole persona is crafted and fake. If people criticize or even hate their persona? No problem, deep down they hate it too and know how grotesque it is. So they truly don't care about the opinions of others because their mask makes them invulnerable. If people hate on the mask, it is just a mask anyway, not their real Self.
@dragonmage7980 except to him there is no cost.
It’s false confidence, not based in competence wich just makes you arrogant
I read the Jon Ronson book 'The Psychopath Test' which details about people like this. One guy said he only knew what fear was because it was the look on his victims faces as he killed them.
Wow. Dat guy must be the bravest guy dat ever lived. Wow.
@@whitemountainapache3297 not really, he’s a murderer who has no idea how to feel.
thats crazy, maybe im too paranoid, but i workout everyday nearly and carry non illegal weapons in case i come across a crazy like that
@@ADHDIYuk that's pretty brave
@@saberhap2639 pretty scary
Wow, it’s amazing how many fully licensed and trained psychologists there are in the comments section!
lol
We are legion.
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I am a fully licensed psychotherapist and I don’t use the term psychopath. For me there are just degrees of trauma that we use these labels to describe, many of which necessitate the need to cut off from emotions. Based on what Lewis says in this video there’s a very good reason why he can’t feel his emotions - every time he did when he was younger, he was hurt in ways that most of us wouldn’t even be able to conceive of. In order to feel his emotions, he would also have to connect with an enormous amount of pain and embodied trauma - and thats a very, very big ask.
I know! Almost as impressive as actual psychologists who constantly misdiagnose people.
I’m sorry, but him pausing to close his eyes and check if he feels remorse had me fucking rolling. And when he opened his eyes to say “No” fucking hell, I can’t. 😂😂😂
Youre a kid
Very funny lol
Bro tried to check if he cared
Same. Comedy gold if you ask me 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 too real
A lot of people really don’t understand antisocial personality disorder. They still feel emotions but it’s mostly centred around THEMSELVES, they learn to display emotions to appear normal. Psychopathic and sociopathic traits fall under cluster B. It’s also possible to have traits from multiple personality disorders, so he very well may display behaviour similar to BPD when it comes to interpersonal relationships but if they don’t serve his purpose he feels no emotion or empathy towards them. They lack empathy does not mean they don’t have empathy again it self centred
There isn t "empathy" towards myself. The word by itself means i feel/get others. So aspd = cognitive empathy. Misses the emotional part. Anger they feel yes & ego related emotions as you describe it. Healthy ppl have a self. In theory. Nowdays most NT live w the ego (like disordered ppl).. i mean having a self if the person doesn t bother to know his self/be aware/like i m Anna i beleive this & that etc.. means nothing. Point is healthy developed personality has emotional/cognitive empathy => understanding+feeling others. Why don t aspd emotionally bond if they have emotions? Bcs this isn t a choice for a NT it happens as a need. By watching babies (or ND ppl who totally lack empathy & are online trying to be seen/supported by other humans like ppl in victims of npd groups) humans are social creatures so NT get aspd..idk about psycopathy maybe it s somehow uniquely different..
Its basically thought that the disorder or personality core for men is malignant Narcissism.
BPD/ASPD with NPD.
Women is completely different (malignant hysteria, also don't get at me for the distinction, or sexism, it ain't me 😂) and tend to be more cunning and interpersonallly aggresive where men are more temper tantrum prone.
Hence the "urge to destroy stuff" and the EXTREME likelihood to be in prison because of it. 😂😂😂
Empathy means feeling others emotions Not oneselfs
I would elaborate that some living with ASPD have a severe lack of traditional ego. Many truly do not care if they or the people around them live, die, or experience severe bodily injury or social ostracization. These people will have no positive or negative sense of self, shame, pride, or public image. Some get just as much stimulus screwing themselves over as they do someone else. I say stimulus because I want to stress the point that these are people who neurologically don't experience the 'color spectrum' of emotions most people feel. It's like emotionally living in greyscale while everyone else lives in color. Joy, sadness, and pain all get reduced and equalized to a very small spectrum of types of 'stimulus'. Life revolves around the individual experience but the individual experience contains no desire to preserve or bolster the self. Many who fit the diagnostic criteria for ASPD are therefore ego-driven in a way that is not on par with modern or historical definitions of narcissism (though many understandably view the two concepts as synonymous).
A lack of self-preservation mixed with a severe lack of emotional discernment leads many with ASPD to seek out situations where others severely harm them because it is stimulating and feels no better or worse than them harming someone else. People with ASPD exist along a continuum ranging from an extreme level of traditional ego (aka narcissism) while others sit at the far end of the continuum and experience no sense of self and zero desire for self-preservation. They still have ego, it just looks VERY different from the way the general population conceptualizes the self.
Psychology as an academic field is in its infancy and one of the main downsides to the concepts of ASPD and 'cluster B' personalities is that it lumps those with a lack of empathy together with inadequate room for nuance due to a lack of research material. A lack of empathy can manifest in an extremely wide range of behaviors while simultaneously stemming from an extremely wide range of factors including emotional trauma, poor socialization, head trauma, exposure to environmental pollutants such as lead, or dozens if not hundreds of temporary or permanent medical conditions and neurological abnormalities. All of these unique causes can lead to incredibly unique manifestations of 'low empathy'. ASPD is a MASSIVE umbrella term that attempts to describe the behaviors of tens if not hundreds of millions of people using research which was almost entirely generated using the male prison population. There are most likely hundreds of sub-categories and unique manifestations of 'ASPD' that simply have yet to be discovered and documented in an academic context.
"Empathy" they have sharp cognitive empathy and pseudo presenting emotional empathy to extrapolate what they want out of people but inherently they have no emotional empathy.
Him retelling the story of the man he punched & the man ended up in a coma, his entire body changed, he was so proud of what he’s done. I zoomed in into his eyes since the beginning of the interview - rewatched to watch the body language and it is insane how proud he is of what he’s done. Psychopaths are born, sociopaths are made and him being s.abused & physically abused as a child made him 10000 times worse. Thank God he hasn’t killed anyone.
its sad cuz hes proud of beating ppl weaker than him, not an accomplishment really
A natural animal impulse - we're built to feel big and grand when we're dominant. The dilemma with a sociopathic person is the restraints are off - a normal person will feel proud at winning the fight, but *also* sad about the suffering of the other party.
@@danielwalley6554I would never commit any crimes cause I don't wanna be in prison and I don't think I'm a psychopath but why would you ever feel sad if someone, who starts fighting you, suffers? Isn't that idealistic? Imo people, who attack me can't suffer enough.
How can you tell?
Yet.
Had a 7 year old in my class like this, got the parent to see sense and he's diagnosed and seeing a psychologist. He got this blank-eyed stare when angry, like his personality switched, when he was attacking his classmates. Scary...
Diagnosed with what? Psychopathy isn't a diagnosis. ASPD can't be diagnosed before adult age. At best the kid can be diagnosed with ODD which is often a manifestation of abuse and dysfunction. Why are you a teacher and encouraging this parent to scapegoat their child? Tell them to go to family therapy instead.
@sallyann985 he has the precursor to Anti-social Personality Disorder, which has a different name in children, as you say, although not ODD, rather Conduct Disorder. And no, I'm not stigmatising him, I got him help because I care deeply about my students. I care that he wanted to make friends with the other children but lacks all types of empathy and so struggled and was rejected by his peers. I am actually very knowledgeable about these issues and specialise in SEND, and have personal experience myself with a diagnosis. So try not to jump to conclusions!
@@sallyann985 because, well you know why. We can't diagnose because it's not right and we aren't clinicians, but we all know why she's doing this 😂
@@SkepticalTeacher ASPD doesn't have a different name in children. No child can be diagnosed with a personality disorder, period. CD and ODD can develop into ASPD but they may not. Your initial comment very much made it sound like you were labeling a 7 year old a psychopath...
@@AnimosityIncarnate what?
It's a very scary realization when you figure out there's people like this in the world who you never, ever want to cross because they literally feel nothing in response to your pain. They will ruin your life and not bat an eye.
You can teach a child (in early infancy, between the ages of 0-2) to respond to others in an anti-social way. You can do it through a few methods.
1. Mostly ignore the child. Do not respond to crying or laughing or anything really. Think about yourself mostly. Do what suits you. Don't pay attention to the child. Definitely don't be very affectionate. Don't ever indicate or tell the child that you love them or care for them deeply.
2. Be abusive to an infant. Be neglectful. Be harmful. Be inconsistent. Make it difficult for the child to know when you are going to be neutral, positive or negative towards them. Put your child into harmful situations. Let your child hear you arguing or being abuseful towards others frequently. Let yourself be abused by someone. Don't leave an abusive or harmful situation. Keep the child in a volatile situation.
3. Over-indulge your child. Be too much of a helicopter parent. Make them totally dependent on you so they are unable to make decisions for themselves easily. Put your child's needs before your own at all times. Stop to listen to them whenever they interrupt you. Make all family outings and holiday decisions based on what the child wants. Give in to the child's wants whenever you can.
Unfortunately, even being super 'loving' (as in example #3) is just as harmful to the psyche of your child.
How you are treated and spoken to in the first couple of years of your life will teach you how to respond. For most people, these patterns set up their behaviours, thoughts and responses for the rest of their lives.
If you are someone who has had one of these childhoods, and you want help, look into 'schema therapy.' There's a good series that explains this therapy here on YT. Look up 'the PSYCH collective' for an indepth explanation. Better than that, find someone who can help you identify your automatic thoughts and responses and help you to retrain these thoughts. It will be a lot fo work, and it will be a lifelong work on yourself, but it will be worth it.
It's possible to work with kids who have experienced #3 and allow them to grow. A lack of attachment is much, much harder to overcome.
Experienced neglect for first three years. My mother used to leave me with bottle of formula for her day work. I remember always feeling very lonely. She also never played with me later in life. Was always against me when I was bullied, it felt horrible. "They bully you because they are strong and adequate, and you are not" , she always told. So she defended them.
Still more empathic then my parents.
You cant make child a sociopath without enough genetics involved.
In army, people try to make psychopaths from normal people and it does not work.
I a bit shizotypal, but its genetical, not traumatic.
I experienced ego death in 18 and in 23 years old. It put my heart at peace and bliss, and opened aot of love for people. Sadly, I cant heal people without their agreement tobwalk this path. Seeing them suffering without having keys to their mind is the hardest part now.
A phsycopath is born, not made. It is a neurological condition that is usually genetic. You are talking about sociopaths
Genes are ultimately about all the unresolved transgenerational trauma, or Simply the uncured Evil passing form one generation to another
Thx mom.
Love this. It really goes to show the spectrum of a disorder like Antisocial Personality. He clearly has a desire to feel remorse, but an inability to access it. I wish him well and hope that exposure like this can help propel science to better aid those who suffer from the disorder and disorders like it.
Give it a rest, he’s really hurt people.
Wish your wellness on those who can reciprocate it.
@@Roz-y2dIf he gets well, he will maybe help more people and hurt less people. So it is only rational to wish him well, for the benefit of other people. 😉 People don't stop hurting others when they suffer and violence doesn't lessen violence. On the contrary. If the person has a will to stop hurting others, they need the support.
When you say "he clearly has a desire to feel remorse", remember that he doesn't feel anything, and desire is a feeling. You've just been charmed by a psychopath - but they're good at that.
Best comment I have read. I too wish him well.
People don't realize how normal this disorder is! So much more common than we think
depends on who is doing the thinking. Psychopathy is not super common. its rare for people to become one it needs horrible circumstances. Or they have keep murdering people . which is also rare.
Obviously there are many comments about this man and psychopaths in general here, but one thing I really like about this interview is the send-off. Deciding that you are helpless and cannot learn/improve/grow is crippling and not the move. I don't know if this man meant what he said but I do know for the majority of people listening, that is an important message!
i am guessing the fact he's good looking and well spoken has saved him from repercussions that would have seen him punished far harder and institutionalised for far longer than occurred. anger is often poison for the person feeling it, but for lewis his anger is poison and dangerous for others who 'trigger' him. fascinating telling and honest though. great video.
Yeah, I'm surprised there aren't more comments about his glorious head of hair 😂 Now just imagine how much more a good -looking female psychopath gets away with! He at least gets caught and called out for his violence. A female might never get caught in her lies and manipulations.
He stated in the video that he knows his light sentencing was because of his physical presentation and being articulate, and he said he knows that’s not fair. So you’re definitely right, but at least he’s aware that it wasn’t correct.
@@wanderingbelle7 I think he's lying, just like him I have gotten away with stuff I shouldn't have because I'm smart and pretty, but that's not the full story: I am very calculated (manipulating) and I'm sure he is too. He says the right thing at the right time to the right person. There are prettier people who got in trouble for less, much less.
Narcissists are manipulators but they get caught because their ego traps them where a psychopath will sneak out. Most criminals are narcissists, psychopaths stand out and can get their way out because they are far more charming. Human beings don't like jealousy and that's what can tell a narc and a psychopath apart. People will sympathize with a psychopath because (s)he has no jealousy, unlike a narc.
I cried because of a lonely acorn when I was very young and would get sad when not finishing my dinner - I thought the leftover food was sad because it wasn’t able to be eaten. I have too much empathy man 😂
You’ve got all of mine
man that ice age acorn😢
@@Mansoor-Khan that’s the one 😭😂
@@-_Blitz_- shit i was not the only one🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@Mansoor-Khan No way! There are others!!! 😂
He was sexually abused by someone in his childhood ,
He doesn't speak about his sexual abuse trauma.
There's a correlation, it appears sexual abuse creates personality disorders .
To not feel anything, to block out emotional anguish that overwhelmed a powerless child .
Survival in feeling no emotion.
That sounds more like a sociopath, which unlike a psychopath, is more environmentally driven rather than inborn
Stop lying
@@hyperadapted ya my mother broke my nose with a baseball bat, starved me etc. l view people as cattle, don't distinguish between homeless or celebrity...
@@lyndenmanningdamn…
@@kimsherlock8969 My opinion changed about him when he spoke about his sexual abuse but I don't condone any of his behaviour and violence.
Physical attention is what’s familiar, violent childhood seems to attract violence which is familiar which is interpreted as attention /affection … you were never unworthy , your father felt unworthy and beat you . Glad you are here and successful in your honesty now . Feelings can be frightening, be kind to yourself ❤you’ve come so far !
These are videos that make me happy the internet exists. Nurturing compassion among internet users for outcasts and demons of society is how we squelch tragedy from occurring.
This man is chasing anything that will make him FEEL. Adrenaline from crime, drugs. Cutting, because physical pain lets him feel something. Getting jumped and beaten so he feels something other than blank. Psychopathy is a legit physical brain anomaly. A retardation of the areas of the brain that make up empathy, guilt, regret, anxiety, fear etc. We can build new pathways and neurons in our brains. But what nobody is saying is that: he is self aware and trying to figure himself out. He is not soulless. He is legit trying and that blows my mind. I’ve seen other interviews with psychopathy as the focal point ( usually serial killers) and they just don’t care to even try. I have to be honest and say
Lewis may be a psychopath but he’s LEAGUES farther along than my narcissist, extremely abusive ex-husband.
Or he might be manipulating us…?
I genuinely feel so sorry for him. He is missing the best parts of being human. Yes, emotions are chaos, and they created messes and difficulties. But to live without emotional intimacy, human connection. Falling in and out of love, the love for a child, a parent, and friend. I am such a creature of emotion I just can't imagine that. He's very bright and a brilliant speaker. I hope that someday he finds what he's looking for.
"I dont even know what that feels like"
Shows the kind of parenting and environment he grew up in. Can't even fathom compassion and empathy, because he probably experienced so little of it at such crucial developmental stages.
There are brain structures that are responsible for these emotions. They are not present in some people. Just like with autism, ADHD or any other mental handicaps.
But you go on, judge away.
he was also born that way. brain is different.
It's not just the upbringing that matters, he could be born a psycho.
That “working on himself” part is probably a condition of his suspended sentence. He knows he’s incurable, but perhaps he’s got to look like he’s cooperating in some rehabilitation sense. This man really doesn’t care and never will care about anybody but himself.
ya, he knows deep down he cant change, he just has to put on a mask, i guess i can respect the fact that hes trying to look like it
Yup
You didn't watch the whole video clearly 😂 You missed out because he had a lot to say about the future
Tbh I feel sympathy for some of these. I'm not excusing any of their crimes at all, even a psychopath could stop themself from breaking the law (as high functioning psychopaths do) but its not their fault they don't have empathy, remorse, or strong emotional processing. Psychopaths are born, they literally have a problem in their brain that has been there since childhood and no amount of medical or psychological science can fix it. Sociopaths partly develop their disorder trauma but even they will most likely never be able to learn empathy or remorse.
The fact that you can be born into this world and be forced to live a life where you will never be able to love or feel like others do is frightening to me.
That’s a wild assertion to make with such complete confidence about someone you don’t know. He may very well actually want to improve. No one knows that for sure but him. Even if it’s a desire driven by wanting a better life for himself, that’s still wanting to be better and if he succeeds in improving it will benefit those around him too. Or you could be right and he could be completely faking. You don’t know what he feels and neither do I nor anyone else, so it’s not wise to make a negative blanket statement about someone you don’t know.
Don’t self diagnose yourself too quickly folks.
Thought I was a sociopath for a long time. Turns out it’s BPD.
Life has improved drastically knowing how to approach my “problem” states and the fact that I have hope is a big differentiator.
Self deprecation isn’t just for laughs. It will sink into your subconscious and you’ll start to fulfill your own prophecy.
Dont be too quick to self diagnose these fairly uncommon conditions.
Out of curiosity, how did you get diagnosed?
@@d_teex09x44 talked to a professional I trusted and made sure they weren’t a lazy doctor (lot of them out there, even if they are smart or experienced).
Made sure they asked the right questions and were patient with a diagnosis. Would be pretty unprofessional to assume a diagnosis after a few descriptions or short conversation.
My therapist was online, but she is brilliant and we have a mutual respect for eachother
Ive been wondering the same thing. One of my parent has BPD and i posess some traits similiar to that. Internet ASPD tests give me "High sociopathy" consistently.
@@feralingo yeah, lots of similarities of symptoms either sociopath/narcism.
Made me feel bad about myself for awhile. That’s why you have to be careful accepting labels too quickly. We’re all different & the brain isn’t an exact science
Unfortunately I’m the inverse, it’s been apparent I’m a psychopath for probably over a decade now but to say it’s difficult to find information is an understatement. The problem is it gets lumped in with made up social constructivist disorders like ASPD, of which only 6% of people would qualify for a diagnosis of psychopathy (>30 PCL-R). It seems psychopathy is potentially an adaptive evolutionary strategy for a r-selected ecology/fast-lige history, and from a neurobiological perspective up regulation of RPL10P9 and ZNF132, and downregulation of CDH5 and OPRD1, as well as astrocytes, RPL10P9 and MT-RNR2 seem to be the base of psychopathy, with the dopaminergic system being responsible for up to 93% of all psychopathic behaviour. It’s also found throughout the animal kingdom with male chimpanzees having similar rates as humans.
i dont think i will ever get tired in the study of certain pathological issues such as psychopathy and other anti social disorders. its definitely a throwback evolutionary trait that was necessary for one reason or another but detrimental in other areas of human interaction. its a survival trait of some kind
Yeah. I also find it fascinating that it’s now being discovered that it’s possible to develop these personality traits - sociopathy, lack of empathy - histrionic personality disorder, bpd ect due to childhood trauma apparently. I would imagine that most cases are genetic but some are developed in childhood.
It’s a right hemisphere deficit disorder.
Same! I think I'm going to write my upcoming thesis on psychopaths
@@Talk2JenniferToday interesting. what will your thesis be about exactly?
@@dthompson5234What do you mean by “now”? It’s been known for a while that abuse and trauma have negative effects on the development of personality in children. People are genetically predisposed to certain mental disorders if there’s a family history , just like some people are predisposed to heart disease and cancer. Doesn’t mean that trauma doesn’t create broken, disturbed people.
Wow that's impressive. I almost never have patience to watch something till the end, but this - I couldn't take my eyes off and my ears off. I love it! He is very smart. How many times I spoke to so many people mentioning how important it is to work on yourself. Like, just one conflict situation takes half a day of analyzing, writing diary, digging deep into yourself, putting lots of effort to plan and come up with solutions for your future self. Almost nobody understands that. I love this guy, thank you!
You would be his next victim lol
Lol he literally paused for like 30 seconds to see if he could feel any remorse or regret what he did to that guy, and he said he didn't feel a thing. But you love him?
He has all the classic traits of psychopathy. Listen to what he says, it's all in relation to him (his brother, his girlfriend, etc.) and he gets great enjoyment when he recounts his behavior. This in itself is of great stimulus for him. Just like when psychopathic killers when caught tell of their kills, it's a form of reliving the experience, and they crave that.
Even after therapy his career involves helping people using himself/his story as tools, so a level of narcissism also, reliving his experiences again, breaking people down to build them up, involves a great level of control over someone. On the surface he's portraying a changed man, but his language is still in relation to him.
I dont think he thinks his diagnosis changed. He’s just saying hes done work to manage his mental illness, which does change you in a lot of ways and even if it doesn’t, its still admirable, especially when many people with his illness dont seek help because of the stigma.
He never claimed to have cured his psychopathy 🧐
It’s impossible to cure yourself of psychopathy.
Narcissism is not psychopathy. It’s a disorder. Maybe he’s also a narcissist but that is separate from being a “psychopath”.
@@emmettkeyser1110I mean most psychopaths are also narcissists, or at the very least a rock throw away from being one they don’t care about anyone else at all and only seek personal stimulation and if people have to get used or hurt to make that happen then that’s completely okay, and they’ll sleep like a baby afterwards I know that’s not narcissism to a T but it’s pretty damn close enough as a baseline for most psychopaths.
I get the feeling he is a sociopath more than a psychopath... he mentioned he felt unloved and was abused, and as far as I know sociopath is made, and his mentioned wanting to belong, also he didn't premeditate what he did, it was impulsive, and that is more of how sociopaths see red...
Thank you for this interview. I appreciate Lewis for agreeing to come on and share his story.
I think he glossed over "why didn't my dad love me?" I think in his formative years he felt that and it likely hurt him. Until eventually he became numb and since he didn't feel loved he didn't feel other people deserved love either. - my humble opinion as a father of 3 boys
I noticed this as well! Thank you for commenting this!
Emotional nurture by parents is vital. Especially for boys. Children learn to develop and regulate their emotions from our emotional embodiment and our emotional stability. From the perspective of a mother of a son.
It litterally is Brian cell death in part of the brain
This is a good man. He can barely feel anything and could easily say “I don’t care.” Yet he seeks to conquer his disorder and wants to know what it is to feel, especially love. Really hoping for that man to find that one day and hope he finds much joy in it.
I can strongly relate to this. I've been diagnosed with ASPD, I recognize when people become nervous about things they consider important, such as a job interview or an exam. However, I never understood what makes them so nervous or where that fear comes from, because I don't care about what people think of my actions. As for love, I've never loved a partner; I just find them entertaining, and once they no longer are, I leave. I also have to stop and think, 'If I say this or do that, he won't stop bitching for days... Ah well, better to ask for forgiveness than permission.' As a child and teen I was violent, it made me feel something for once, but that went away with age.
I also dont understand what makes me nervous, scared ( i have social anxiety), but it does and it sucks, i blush all the time.
The only way to cure social anxiety is to throw yourself into new social situations over and over again until you prove to your own brain that you're safe. Nothing else works. Try it and see.
@@Miche- do you feel lonely or empty?
@@dianahracanti No, I find the company of others, often than not, annoying. I have to "perform" everytime I go out and meet people.
@@Miche- it went away with age because everybody became more of a physical threat than you🤣 the way you act is nice and all but you better be glad police exists or you’d be COOKED acting that way
He shared he was sexually abused before the age of 17. Would have been interesting to hear more about his feelings/thoughts around that trauma
I noticed that he quickly grazed over that as well…which I found interesting. That experience as well as his parents being alcoholics clearly contributes to the way he’s developed, or the way he underdeveloped.
The ego that developed to protect himself to feel like he can survive in this world, won’t allow him to go there. Unfortunately he doesn’t have the tools physiologically or emotionally to navigate such trauma and violation. His desire to feel like he’s in power and in control I believe is too potent. Emotional trauma and emotional suppression in childhood can manifest in psychopathy especially without early treatment.
@@THEKALA5 yes I had to listen again, I thought I missheard
A psychopath imo or malignant narcissist would have used this as an excuse for his behaviours. He didn’t.
Any disorder falls on a spectrum. You also have to take into consideration the GENDER, nationality and socio-economical status of the sufferer. I'm a girl who was born in a nice rich neighbourhood...of course even though I have aspd, Ive always been less inclined of some bloke in some degraded area to commit violent crimes. I would shoplift and get drunk...I wasnt on the streets punching people. Sociopath CAN feel amotion like anger and sadness.
He's a psychopath. They don't care. Sociopaths can still care about their own people. Slight difference
You can’t even spell emotion
This interview made it clear for me that not even psychopaths are all the same, nor even close to being the same, after watching many other interviews as well. Obviously, some have different goals than others, some have a strong sense of self while others don't, yet the scary thing about that is that there's no pattern that makes it clear whenever someone's a psychopath or not. They all mask in their own way, really, while some seem really kind and "normal", others may seem less like normal people, but at the end of the day, all of those people are psychopaths who don't feel empathy, remorse or guilt. The only "pattern" I've noticed in the interviews is that those psychopaths are often talking about the benefits of not having a wide range of emotions but also about the boredom that comes with it
Good on Lewis for turning his life around and moving from hurting to helping people.
yeah its right, but he do this, because with that he have full controll over a human. Dont twist it with rehab. from his illness. Look for the Body language, he cant hide the proud look when he told us where he hit this old men and put him in a coma. He works on him maybe for the better, but his real self will still be the same. Psychos cant outbreak this pattern
@@trunksx3765 better doing this than doing nothing at all, who cares the reason why people do things, at least he does something about it instead of just talking.
@@trunksx376540 isn’t old… to be fair
His confusion at his own lack of inner life and other's reactions to him is striking.
It’s interesting with his abuse history that he’s not considered a sociopath rather than a psychopath.
Well, just google up the difference between the terms and you will find out why...
@@NGC1433my ex is a psychopath and some of what Lewis says is similar to my ex, when I wanted to leave he would absolutely go crazy scary crazy including threats of taking his own life or mine or the kids, 6 years out and it’s still going and now he is in trouble with the law for hurting others. Only on a few occasions he would mention abuse as a child too, the things he did though were sadistic
So fascinating as he is truly searching to find empathy, but the thing with this condition is that it simply isn’t there
yeah, i was wondering that too, does he not realize that he is basically incapable of certain feelings
I wonder if their feelings are just deeply repressed...I think I've heard psychoanalysts saying something like that
Saying “i found a girlfriend “ is perfectly fine to use. Lots of people say that. “ I found love”, “ I found this great guy”. “I found the love of my life “. “I found my future wife “, etc.
Psychopaths can feel rage and sometimes they use it as an advantage. They also feel fear and pain for themselves. They are not totally devoid of emotion. They are devoid of empathy for you. But, they rate high on cognitive empathy. They can read you like an emotional x-ray and that is how they get you.
We do care about people who are close to us, but not really about others. I was diagnosed as autistic from my teenage years to the few lasts months. I asked for another opinion, and they did an MRI, a few of them actually, and cognitive tests as well. They discovered that my brain didn't function properly and never developed the amygdala as it's supposed to be. I have a cognitive understanding of emotions, but I don't feel them to the same level as other people.
I'm 51, and I know what I have, finally. I'm also an adrenaline junkie. I love fast cars, and I currently drive an audi RS6 Avant 2016. It's heavily modified, so it can go faster. I don't want to go in detail, but this guy is telling the truth. I have a lot of superficial charms, and I use it to get away with many things. I never had any problems finding a girlfriend or being in a relationship, but I became bored easily. The part when he says he got angry because of his girlfriend is relatable, he didn't care about his girlfriend, he care about being humiliated and felt sorry for himself. We do have emotions, but usually, we have them for ourselves. He felt sorry for himself.
To be fair, i think most Audi driver have some level have some level of psychopathy
Given that autism is basically the opposite of psychopathy how on earth did they get them mixed up?!
When you say you don’t care about others. Most people who aren’t psychopaths also feel just neutral about strangers. But if a stranger is in need of help or is in distress/depressed we do feel for them and try to help if possible. Do you also feel the drive to help or not?
@@jackoh991excuse me. They’re not the opposite….. AT ALL. Both autistic and psychopathic brains develop incorrectly and don’t go through the necesarry neural pruning to correctly process or experience empathy.
They’re often co-morbid.
Autism used to be a term for SYMPTOMS of “psychopathic schizophrenia.”
It’s considered its own spectrum of disorders now but where on earth did you get the idea they are opposite?
They’re often one and the same.
That’s why so many autistics cannot experience empathy and then will go on for paragraphs about how much “empathy” they feel for a stuffed animal or something.
They literally cannot experience, or process, empathy.
@@nataliaalfonso2662 opposites as psychopaths have high cognitive empathy and low affective empathy, and autistics have low cognitive empathy and high affective empathy. Hence opposites.
As one is brain developing unusually the opposite would obviously also have to be a brain developing unusually. The opposite of one type of unusual is common or usual. The opposite of white isn't grey.
"I think sorry for him". Very insightful
The fact that he has severe abandonment issues and (for example) slit his throat when his gf said she cheated on him, indicates that he has BPD in addition to ASPD
ASD is autism spectrum disorder. ASPD is what he was diagnosed with which is an umbrella term for both sociopathy and psychopathy. I dont think he's a psychopath because they're much, much more calculated whereas sociopaths are more impulsive and erratic (like how he said he slit his throat and doesnt know why or what he was doing). Sociopaths can fear abandonment too. So probably just ASPD sociopath because borderlines feel ALOT of negative emotions frequently which is not really what he described here
@@cm-yu6gusorry...I meant to write ASPD - not ASD.
I am a mental health professional:)
Without knowing anything about his except for this video, I'd say psychopathy and BPD. He shows no fear and doesn't crazy under pressure...sociopaths do
@jenniferhodgson1827 except he did crazy under pressure? Like when his gf told him he cheated he acted very wild and unexpected, even surprising himself like not sure what he's even doing, or like how he saw the guy and 'involuntarily' punched him. BPD also have ALOT of fear and are unstable under pressure so I'm not sure how you could be both a psychopath aswell as have bpd, esp as your reasoning for not being a socio is the pressure and fear aspect. Borderlines have an extremely high amount of anxiety which he said himself he doesn't. Most notably though he just doesn't have the 'deadness' behind the eyes that psychopaths have so i think he's a sociopath. Sorry, just trying to understand your conclusion esp as you work in mental health
I was thinking the same thing. For some reason, being around her family where he felt loved and loveable for the first time in his life, that seemed to have opened a tiny door somewhere.
His drunken parents sound like an absolute nightmare, kicking him on the ground? Then they banned him from the family for causing problem? smh This is a scapegoating story like I've never heard before. No wonder he is full of rage.
Also, BPD is pretty much the opposite problem of psycopathy. Borderlines are all over the place with their extreme emotional swings, and this guy is fairly close to emotionally flat, although not completely.
Psychopaths are very very calm. They can't feel fear like the rest of us, so when their life is threatened they feel exhilaration in stead. Borderlines are all anxiety, rage, grandiosity and worthlessness, and they bounce between all those things like a rubber ball.
Crazy? Should we be using that word as a mental health professional? It just feeds the stigma. @@Talk2JenniferToday
The self development section of the video is very good and relatable for me
Alcohol had given me nothing but court fees and prison time along with a very rocky 4 year relationship.
going through that self developing stage now since getting sober.
It’s very tough out here.
Psychopaths can try to emulate empathy and emotion on others, but the main emotions they feel revolve around self-interested and self-beneficial things.
Yes, my former sister in law, scary and sneaky violent. It was much later told me, it wasn't she was only hating me, I'm childhood she already cause trouble. Had also sexual interest in my ex husband, gladly he never let her do things. Sad is that we didn't knew better and our marriage stranded. My ex husband is now aware the actions of his sister had such great impact he really needs therapy.
He’s describing a “narcissistic injury”… the rejection from her brought out all his abandonment trauma and it became like a psychotic break. That’s when their mask comes off. It’s really just about their ego, and they will punish anyone around them, in the worst ways, when their ego is suffering a narcissistic injury. That’s when sometimes, Narcs or sociopaths can finally kill their victims. There is never one spec of taking accountability. Not in the moment and not post the event. Like here, he is very emotionally removed from the consequences of his rages, as in how they would affect others. Yet he speaks positively about his feelings of satisfaction when he describes attacking other males.
I didn’t hear that. He seems to be self aware enough to know his limitations and weaknesses and seems to be actively focused on growing and learning and becoming more emotionally equipped.
Also, clearly you have no obligation to respond but what’s wrong with a mask when society hates and fears what’s behind it?
@@MB-pf7gvWhat's wrong with a mask is like saying what's wrong with lying. You're presenting a false self. So I guess you don't have any problem with being catfished, right? What's more problematic is the damage you do to yourself by lying to yourself. You will get to the end of your life feeling hallow, trapped in a life you never wanted yet can't blame anyone else for it. You did it to yourself.
@@stuart4rd700correct this is how they manipulate so easily, you start thinking oh it’s ok, that’s the first fall into the traps
you cab see him (at least apparently) feeling pleasure when he speaks about punching the guy...not feel guilt etc
very creepy
he cant hide that, yeah. It gives him controll and power. Its logical. He helps now people that are broken, cuz they are easy to manipulate.
Smashing things shows people that you’re scary… so it’s a protective factor.
Scary is a bad word, I guess that's what is probably the best term for others.
I'd describe it as self destructive and needing to diffuse internal tension...
It's very rarely ever about the other person or caring about what they think. That's more NPD. They care about being scary.
If Psycopathy has sadistic edges or traits, it's still more about aggression being released then seeing fear in another, maybe even stimulation and maybe even feeling powerful.
You see how it's all self centered tho? It's very much so about chronic lack of self soothing ability and about soothing those pesky emotions. It's not even emotions as he's stated, more so just this indescribable tension feeling and need to be aggressive in the moment. 🤷
Um. No. Fighting with people when your normal emotional state is completely flat (in other words you don't feel good, you don't feel bad, you feel nothing much) is like a high. This is exactly why psychopaths so often get into crime and violence. It causes them to feel something. The adrenaline of an uncertain conflict that could go very wrong; upsetting or hurting other people and seeing that happen. It's a rush when you otherwise feel nothing. The fact that they genuinely don't have empathy for anyone else allows them to do this.
They are not merely acting reactively to the world like people who have been hurt. They literally don't have the ability to feel empathy; that part of their brain isn't developed and this difference can be seen in brain scans. You can actually tell a brain scan of a healthy person from someone who has psychopathy because of how their brain is structured. The most a psychologist can really do with an adult psychopath (and it has to be with someone who *genuinely* wants to cooperate, which is already extremely difficult to establish) is teach them what appropriate boundaries would be and how to navigate the world in a way that doesn't victimize, where they would need to refer to this taught roadmap constantly in life because they would never just personally FEEL sorry about something and so not do it. They'd need the roadmap of how not to victimize to refer to and then the commitment to stick to it even though it doesn't really benefit them.
Most psychologists simply focus on harm reduction with such patients and only a small percentage of patients would even use this info in a healthy way to better their lives rather than to use this psychological education to better manipulate people for their own benefit, so loads of psychologists won't even do proactive therapy with them because of literally ethical concerns.
People so fundamentally misunderstand sociopathy/psychopathy these days and it's strange.
So, there is a fundamental misunderstanding on what empathy is, specifically emotional. Cognitive is the ability to read peoples emotional state and what autistic spectrum persons can struggle with. Emotional is anchoring shared emotional states with another person. Let me explain:
I give my friend a gift. Friend is happy with gift. My brain, due to my emotional empathy being functional or even highly developed interprets their happiness/joy as my own. Because my friend is connected to me, my empathy responds and my empathy is my brains ability to take another separate human being (or animal's) emotional status and interpret it as ones own.
What's the benefit of this? Again, quid pro quo. Guess what my friend is doing? My friend sees that I'm happy, because they are happy. Their brain is doing the SAME thing mine is doing, because we are close. Their brain sees my happiness at there happiness and feels even more happy than they did before, because there are two happy people and I'm happy directly because they are happy (the mechanism not being altruistic doesn't matter) They get happier because not only is their baseline happiness over the gift still there because a good friend gave them one, but their friend is also happy about their happiness. My brain sees them get even happier and it becomes a feed back loop.
This is why when people get excited to see each other or happy over something with another person it can escalate to screeching, laughing or other technical coping mechanisms for extreme emotion.
And yes, the same can happen when someone is sad (this is why you learn to be able to allow someone else to feel what they feel with out amplifying negative emotions. Which people fail at, that's why people escalate in a fight)
People think empathy is some magical weird ideology or some choice, but it is a mechanical functional mechanism in the brain taken care of by various parts that interplay with eac other. It is not a choice. It can be increased and decreased both with practice, but also with circumstance. We also have selective empathy. If you feel very little or even aggression to another human being, you think they are less than you. If you find someone to be equal and they suffer even if you don't know them, you tend to get PTSD to their suffering or other issues. We can only hate that which we find lower than ourselves.
The danger in psychopathy is that this is the default. Everyone is lower than the self if they can't connect to anyone but the self. This is why people are tools, toys or obstacles, not people and they don't have capacity to care.
Some psychopaths have had stable loving childhoods and come to the conclusion that it is beneficial to act or try to understand empathy and mimic caring about others because it benefits them (they're also not wrong, that's why empathy as a developed mechanism in the brain has made us top dog on the planet. I can name a pen bob, lose it or have it break and feel sad legitimately for a little while for an inanimate object. It's why we tell stories and get engrossed in them. We experience another's life and exercise theory of mind.)
Psychopaths generally have extremely limited to outright missing ability for this quid pro quo exchange. Their brain doesn't extend others well being and suffering in the same measure as part of their own.
They do not feel the "part of me is missing" when they lose those close to them. Because it is a literal interpretation from the brains empathetic parts to see someone missing as part of ones self. When loved ones die or leave us in some way, we feel like we lose pieces of ourselves. This is exactly why and why many characterize it as that and also why heart break and loss can actually ruin a persons life.
Last but not least, ASPD is a spectrum and psychopathy is generally on one of the ends as something more extreme. A lot of serial killers tend to be psychopaths, also because disgust response is not functioning in people with that level of psychopathy.
While there are definitely ways society can help psychopaths integrate and thrive with out risking harm to others, there is a reason the disorder has a negative reputation.
It's also not fair of society to expect someone who physically due to brain construction can't do something well or sometimes at all.
And no, there is no benefit to the disorder. A lot of the touted ones are things regular people can learn. A common one is bomb defusal due to lower fear response. But thing is, if a psychopath could get away with it and not get in trouble, they might choose to eat a sandwich instead of diffuse the bomb. Others dying doesn't matter because their brain doesn't have capacity to care. It's not a choice, it's mechanics. Where as someone else trained in the same job will diffuse the bomb because they will think about all the people who would die otherwise. Surgeons are the same thing. I'd rather have one that does care about a person surviving rather than only "beating" the game of removing or fixing something internally, especially because psychopaths are super prone to boredom.
Having to police someone who doesn't have this innate mechanism going on is more taxing on society. Deterrents like jail time or even corporal punishment only go so far too. If we can find a cure for the disorder as a developmental problem as we have for other things in the past, like common diseases and such, I think we should. There are lots of mental health disorders that are misunderstood, but most of them don't go into territory where they can become a danger to others. And those that do, get different treatment and help to minimize impact on others well being (or at least should. Mental health overall is not taken seriously, even though the brain is nothing but a fleshy mass of pink tissue run by chemicals, hormones and electricity.).
I agree with everything you’ve said though I’m not sure about the aggression and seeing people as lesser part. My dad was a boxer/boxing coach so maybe it’s as simple as that, but Idk I’ve always just had people try pick on me at times I’ve been in bad state of minds, though admittedly my bad state of minds is mostly just self pity but for whatever reason life tends to have a way of people picking on me in these moments and I’ve always enjoyed being able to beat the breaks off them in these moments.
The most recent example of this is one of my sisters committed suicide this year actually, the literal day after her funeral I was riding an electric scooter home (lol) and life being life, 2 pricks in a car slowed down while passing me and one egged me.
I felt honestly violated but calm it was weird, I followed them to the end of the street and they had to wait for traffic, the idiot that threw the egg at me still had the passenger seat window down and I put my hand in grabbed him by the hair pulled his head halfway out the window and, started to elbow his head trying to break his neck in all honesty punched him several times too really just tried to f him up as bad as I could in the short time I had, before the driver got so scared that he just put his foot down and started driving off hoping I’d let go of his friend out of not wanting to get ran over lol.
People like that I hate and I happily enjoy hurting them and seeing the laughter from egging me turn into, absolute terror realising I’m about to f them up badly. And all that might sound near psychotic i honestly don’t know but anyone who’s good to me i would never even raise my voice to out of respect.
I also love animals, I was cutting wood once years ago and I was with one other guy, there was a bunch of small bats (I guess babies because they couldn’t fly) in one tree and I went to pick up one of the logs, to see one of the bats stuck to the log trembling in fear and hearing the loud chainsaw in the background and tbh it made me feel sick, there was no fiber in my being that would allow me to hurt the little guy and I spent probably 20-30 minutes or so just trying to find him a semi safe spot with his other bats instead of just squishing them and be done with it.
Anyone I see people mistreating animals in person I have no problem hurting them for being such a weak coward though.
@@vixxcelacea2778 eat a sandwich ☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️ naaahhh🤣🤣
@@MonkeyLiggaScrumptiousNan I completely understand, I’m the exact same way which is why I love Muay Thai
Cheers for the discussion, mate. One question: If he was abused by someone and then they died, should he care?
I was abused by my whole family. Now they’re all dead and I never once felt sorrow but relief and peace. Would I be a psychopath if I felt absolutely nothing? Isn’t being numb a counterproductive defense mechanism to keep people away emotionally? I just don’t like to use stuff like that as diagnostic criteria since , unfairly, there are only three responses to stress and trauma. He chose “fight.” But he’s got a mental illness?
@@MB-pf7gv Why would you be abnormal for not feeling grief for people who abused you? I'd call you completely normal. Some people want to make victims out of everyone and who's it helping when you enable abusive people.
I can't help but wonder if this is some form of dissociation, like having ' no access' rather than an actual absence? I dissociate a lot but in the opposite way, like I don't feel things that happen to me but I feel mostly empathy. I can't help but think he might have something similar.
I feel for him.
Also at 23:06-23;07: i went to the cell and I looked in- it looked in the mirror.
From all the research I've done on this, the latest study I could find was that it's not a matter of lack of connectivity, IE some wire mixed up (like with foot fetish or even sadism (not the BDSM type, but the other one)) but grey matter is missing and never develop, around 13% in areas we think pertain to empathy if I remember right.
it's a totally different ball game to find out the lights don't turn on because there is no electrical wiring, vs simply needing to go to a circuit board.
It makes addressing it a lot more complicated if not impossible with current understanding about the human brain.
There are also studies that show trying to teach psychopaths empathy through exercises mostly just makes them better at manipulating other people.
Not dissimilar to how narcissistic personality disorder gets worse with therapy and is incurable. In fact, both disorders have similar problems. It's possible that NPD is a person with psychopathy that through environment becomes NPD. Especially since it can be genetic, but not a guarantee when a narcissist has kids.
That said, there might be new research that expands on it or has totally new findings which change the way we think. That's what's cool about science.
There's most likely the cause and effect with the interplay of both things. IE: because they have blocked themselves off from accessing and therefore developing for one reason or another, then there is no grey matter and connectivity. You know what I'm saying? Both things can be true at once. I believe it is possible for one to be ok psychopathic and have a change or radical shift that changes things. I can say from personal experience that the key to that in part if this is actually the case Is having someone you respect in your life that is very empathetic to teach you and then the combined use of MDMA. No joke that's what I believe. @@vixxcelacea2778
@@mejzzwejz713what a bore,probably friendless,
You are weak both intellectually and emotionally. Let me explain something to you. I have no reference point to understand you and you have no reference point to understand me. And the more you try, the more of an amusing toy you become to me. For your own sake, grow up.
The way he casually mentions his dad hit him and he was sexually abused....
And that his family said he can’t sit with them at the dinner table.
He is very articulate, if he could have controlled his worst impulses, he could have been ruthlessly successful.
wow, so much respect to this man for reflecting on his behavior and trauma! incredible!
I have antisocial personality too, people misunderstand a lot of times and usually I don't disclose. I'm not a monster, but i have the potential to be really cruel if someone crosses me, for the most part I see it as having different motivations. Life can seem a bit meaningless at some point when I see myself missing out on stuff, but even if i have this thought I end up not caring. I'm quite impulsive(have adhd too) but meds take care of that. I usually conform to the world or people around me because it makes things easier for me, going completely against the current is just not a good place to be. If you are nice to me though I will be nice to you and you can be sure I don't do it because I feel obliged to or because i care deeply about you, I ACTIVELY CHOOSE to be nice to you in return, which is meaningful I believe. I see a lot of people doing or saying things only because it is expected of them or they are driven by some emotion, for me it's a conscious thought to do something nice idk if that makes sense
As a close family member of a person with aspd, it will get deeper than that, when my stepfather died he KNEW he was evil. He knew that for all his meticulous public relations management, it was all a lie, and that he had wasted his life. In the end he had nothing.
@@andreaslind6338 i am not evil..
@@patrickthestar132 You will carry the weight of your actions, even if no one else can see them. When my stepfather was dying he tried to trick me into forgiving him, he wanted me to say it was OK and save him from the sheer emptiness he had spent so many years creating.
But i didn't care about him. Even if he was genuinely sorry it didn't matter. Because he had done so little good noone cared when he died. In the end, though he had spent a lifetime convincing everyone of his strength he was so weak, He wanted desperately to apologize, but could not bear the humiliation.
He could not say "i am sorry"
There was nothing to do. I just quietly shut the door in his face, and left him to be swallowed, not by hell and retribution, but by nothingness.
He died a few weeks later, babbling incoherently, mad from morphine and crying for his mother.
Such a waste.
Learn from my stepfather's mistakes. I believe in you, you are not evil. You have a great power, use it for good, .He had a choice, you have a choice. You can do better, so do better. I believe in you, you are not evil Show the world how much good a person with ASPD can do, or you will end up like him, beyond salvation.
thats the difference in normal empathy and cognitive empathy. i also have aspd, and i say that if i take the time to 'act out with empathy' even tho its fake, i know thats what expected of me, and for me to fake it for you is in a certain way me caring for you.
Interesting, are you born like that ?
its actually quite interesting to see him keep catching himself not displaying empathy and correcting it. or atleast not using an empathetic word to discribe something.. like he recognizes that he dosnt feel empathy for others but also acknoweldges that that isnt normal so has to backtrack to put value onto that person. like where he pauses to try and feel guilty.. he knows he should feel something but is just unable to like put himself in their shoes and feel what they must have felt.
I'm Autistic, high functioning, diagnosed at the age of 10 by the NHS. My special interest is in a combination of personality, psychology and psychiatry, what motivates people, why they are motivated by what they are, how this presents in their life, what their morality, character and moral compass in relation to that are etc..., to form a cohesive image of those around me. This does come from a need for control over people, if i can in their head i can drive their actions and feel less anxious. Seem Psychopathic? I do to me.
@@deadgiveaway-z3i I agree NDs can come across as psychopathic but from a vibe perspective you’re opposite ends of the spectrum to me. An autistics desire to learn all about humans and what makes us us is from a very human desire to mimic and mask so they fit in and to be accepted by the tribe. Yes it’s controlling but it’s how autistics protect themselves from being ostracised from the group. A psychopaths driver ,to me, is to learn people’s behaviours to fit in so they can ultimately control the group. I know that there’s some overlap though so it’s totally possible to be autistic and psychopatic! I think I know a few tbh lol
I don’t think this seem like a psychopathic trait. I actually think it’s how most people socialise, most people do everything for their own gain. Considering that you have autism, it makes sense that you try to control social situations with your knowledge of psychology etc.
You are trying to gain insight and even though it’s for your own good, you don’t try to gain insight in what people are thinking/feeling to hurt them. That’s were the difference is.
What I noticed about people diagnosed with Autism is that they tend to be very logical and study people's behavior because they don't always understand social cues. Some might have the aspd as well but more often, they just think differently. One thing that differentiates psychopaths from the rest is that they don't feel fear and anxiety, so if I were you, I'd ask myself that.
Well i feel the same and i think its just due to autism and not being able to get along that good with most ppl
I think it's so important to understand that people cannot be blamed for being born with the brain they have. Despite some horrific things people have done, this is their brain, and thats how people are wired. Can you imagine growing up believing you're bad and unworthy all the time because of the brain you didn't choose to be born with?
yes i can imagine that, and being in the mind that i am, with functioning human emotions, i can know that i would still be accountable for my actions. Just because they "can't control it" doesn't make anything they do any better. They are parasites, monsters, utterly selfish creatures that shouldn't be allowed in a society where they would do anything with NO limits to get what they want.
@amoney9119 Of course. Being understanding and open-minded doesn't mean their behaviour is condoned, and the people who pose a risk should 'get away' with something. There is a big difference.
I appreciate that you're putting in that work to understand an aspect of existence that you're not. I'm 40 and I'm still trying to work it out. I'm sure I fit into the spectrum of psychopathy, I've hurt ppl on purpose and didn't lose a wink of sleep. Legit menace for 38.
Food is bland, colors don't pop unless there is an element of risk... we love, but our love is ownership. I've experimented with sacrifice for MY ppl and learned there is a place for us in a healthy community. Pretending we "get" or care about the abstract feelings of others isn't necessary, the autistics are more successful now than all of human history and some of them are damned respected in their field... and so long as we practice restraint and never act on impulse, we can find success without self-distruction. Do the work not everyone can. It's a bit manipulative just classier, and a tool for every job....
The system suspended his sentence and let this animal out to attack others again? What a failure of a justice system. He deserved significant jail time for his first brain damage charge. Every attack past the first was the fault of the justice system.
Plenty of stupid judges
Exactly!!
agreed
And he admitted that if pushed he could be capable of killing someone.
@@tsteed97In that case he should be locked up for good!
It's higher-order emotions like compassion & empathy that elude them. Anger and even regret they can probably get to. As in, "I regret killing that person - bc now I'm in prison."
Props to this guy for recognizing his pathology. Sadly, he may not be able to develop these emotions. Mimicking them may be the best he can do, and of course this will help him to "pass" as normal.
What the hell you mean by "develop these emotions" ??? The brain structures are physically not there. You can not develop an absent system. or do you think say, gay people should just "work on their straightness" ?
@@NGC1433 I did say, "he may not be able to develop these emotions." Others seemed to get it, but you seem unusually outraged. Let me re-phrase it for you and your unstable affect, "He absolutely *will not* be able to develop these emotions bc the brain structures are physically not there!!!" I added the 3 exclamation marks to match your ??? Your tangential swing to gay people "working on their straightness" is a weird straw-man; did you want to talk about this? I don't have strong theories about what "makes people gay" - sorry if it's something that you're struggling with 😉
“I really wanna get to the point in my life where i can say ‘yes’ to that.”
Whooooaaaaa… 😳
Dr Ramani talks about the range of ASPD well. It sounds to be like Lewis is perhaps sociopaths rather than psychopath so I don’t think he was born this way. There certainly is hope for change and it’s amazing how he has gotten to the place he has.
The key to psychopathy though is it is apparent around 14 which is when he states he was getting orders related to his behaviour, generational trauma/disorder, if he was abused and parents were alcoholic chances are one of them were, there you find the generational connection, that’s how they are born
The fact that his family said “you can come in but won’t sit with us for dinner” says it all.
As much as it is difficult for me to relate and to like someone like this, I feel I have to admire his growth and self awareness. Imagine how difficult is growing up with essentially no emotions and not understanding how everyone else acts on it when you have nothing at all. Again, I could never enjoy the presence of a psychopath - they're arrogant and ignorant by nature - but this guy has worked hard to fit into society despite feeling like - and probably being repeatedly told - he had no place his whole life.
He seems like a sociopath more than a psyhcopath.. it seems like his family experiences, especially from his father, were traumatic which created the sociopathy. Psychopaths are born due to neurological issues, sociopaths are bred.
Antisocial Personality Disorder (sociopathy and psychopathy) are almost universally agreed to be caused by mixed of both nature and nurture. Meaning you probably need to be predisposed, but it probably typically also needs the right environment to trigger those genes.
If what you said was ever considered true, it's definitely not anymore by psychology.
I'm still confused by the apparent difference because I read The Psychopath Inside and the author calls himself a "psychopath lite" or borderline psychopath. He said that psychopathy develops due to a 3 legged stool effect of bad genetics, brain chemistry and abuse. He didn't find reason to use the word sociopath.
.. But it does seem some people become psychopaths despite a good upbringing- like the gangster Mad Frankie Fraser who tortured people for the Richardsons.
Phsycopath is an undefined umbrella term
Great interview! Really answered a lot of my questions. Thank you!
Emotional "burdens" are what makes a person strong. If you don't have internal conflict about morality, then you can never understand the level of strength that comes from having that conflict within. People with empathy can do 100% of the same things psychopaths can. It's just more of a challenge and therefore is more meaningful. The most empathetic person to ever exist can achieve 100% of all the same things, plus more. Empathy is the future.
Não é o que eu vejo a sociedade aplaudindo.
as we are more interconnected is harder to hide your true nature
@@dj007twk I'd call that a win
Every greatest strength has the opposite weakness and every weakness has a opposite strength
I’ve Autism and I recognize the flat reduced feeling combined with wanting to feel happiness en the fuzzy love. Wanting to Feel interested in life. Wanting to care and not fake my kindness. Pretty strange since my doctor told me I apparently can adapt to others non verbal clues. 😅
Are you sure you're autistic?
Autistics have excessive empathy and definitely don't need to fake caring for others
Psychopathy and autism are often one and the same. No neural pruning during neurological development.
Autism and psychopathy are often one and the same. No neural pruning during neurological development.
@@nataliaalfonso2662 evidence?
@nataliaalfonso2662 the people I love most in my life have asd. And they are the kindest most genuine people I know. Just because we don't inherently know how to socially engage doesn't mean we don't care xx
As a sociopath - we FEEL. We just literally do not care about what you feel or the outcome for you. We laugh, it’s just at typically inappropriate times. A particularly deserved death may be amusing so people see a smirk. We want friends, we just don’t understand HOW to maintain a relationship because we don’t have the ability to care. We live bored. We have to destroy things, people or ourselves to feel what you feel when you’re having a good day. We aren’t dead inside, we just….don’t care.
Can you do anything to mitigate that so you don’t hurt people, even if you don’t care?
@@OasisJones that’s the thing - a majority of us don’t hurt others, just ourselves. Morals are still in play. Like I know it’s morally wrong to harm others so I don’t do it.
Killing pets? Beating spouses and children? Nope. These are things a killer, addict, abuse victim, psychopath or a combination of all three does - a standard sociopath will typically leave because morally we know what’s right and wrong.
I cannot speak for psychopaths - though it seems the major difference between us is the desire to charm and manipulate others. Sociopaths don’t care enough for that song and dance. We KNOW we should care so we mask up and try to fit in.
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Hurt people hurt and healed people heal... this guy is a case in point. Broken family, sexually abused as a kid etc. Impressive how he's turned things around.
Yes but psychopaths are born that way. Sociopaths are made.
@@WildandFree4 Untrue on both counts... also the term "sociopath" (which in any case was previously used interchangeably with 'psychopath') is no longer used as a diagnostic category at all. Much like BPD, psychopathy is largely understood today as arising out of a mix of genetic and environmental factors.
I would not call him an "amazing human being"🤯
I got manipulated by a guy who was very much like him - energetic, engaging, good looking, charismatic. It didn't go well.
It’s not your fault, they are really good at what they do. Hopefully you are better now
Same
@@slevinh7803 I mean - kind of. The thing is I was complicit in my own manipulation. I would hide his manipulation from other people like it was our little secret because I couldn't admit I was being manipulated. It's pretty messed up really.
Why do I get a feeling this guy is a compulsive liar
They all are.
Evolution
Trust me chatting pure shit. "My parents didnt love me, I was an alcoholic at 17, I was addicted to gear, I used to scrap twice a night". Bet he was just a skinny little pussy growing up who never got into trouble once. Mad how many people have fell for it in the comments tho
@@ashleywhite4364 u wot
Because he's playing a role
Fascinating interview, really well put together.
Thank you!
This has been a fascinating interview, I've learned so much, hes very in tune with himself and his behaviours which really helped to understand him.
He reminds me of the the guy on the show breaking bad, who shoots that kid on a dirtbike, while they are robbing a train
yess
that was Todd, i liked that character alot, glad he came back El Camino. I feel he depicted a psychopath in a more realistic way, he seemned more confused with emotions than someone inherently evil
I see so many people who claim they can't help the way they are so despite what this guys done in the past he is at least trying to be a better person
Truly inspiring and educational. Thank you for sharing your experiences!
it's not about understanding.
it's about feeling.
It can work either way for empathic/neurotypical people, the point is that people with ASPD/psychopathy enjoy violating people.
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He slit his throat but it didn't leave any scar, yeah, sure.. Compulsive liar. I have forgiveness for people like this, but I have learned the hard way not to have any empathy anymore for people like this, they bring so much suffering into humans and always play the victim (been in a relationship with a guy who most definitely have antisocial personality disorder). But it's good he's working on himself whatever that means. All I'm wondering is, can they actually get "better"? Or if they work on themselves do they just learn to "fake" good emotions? Very interesting interview.
This guy has an amazing level of self awareness.
Individuals with ASPD may engage in risky or harmful behaviors, but these actions are usually directed toward others rather than self-inflicted. Self-harm is more commonly associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD), which involves emotional instability, intense interpersonal relationships, and self-destructive behaviors.
He's describing the void of feelings which are the results of the brain damages behind psychopathy/antisocial personality disorder but it sounds more like emotionally unstable personality disorder in his case. (Formerly known as borderline)
Especially since theres abuse in his childhood. And borderlines caused by CPTSD.