Why It's Not Over - It Was Never Over With The Narcissist - Narcissism Channels
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I’m back! Fantastic channel! I only spending time with the very best! I got you on my short list! After checking out all these channels! Time is limited best I be choosy !
He ALWys tells me he Loves me byt hes living with his Ex wife and daughter he says hes just living there because they have a daughter toghether and he has not done for his daughter out of his drug use while he was with me
Gives them everthing hes never done fir meI had to pay everything while he smoked his money up now him and his ex wife get high and he is living with them and he says its not like tha yeah rt.
So true, they cant bond to anyone. They dont get attached so its not a big deal to leave someone. They can only do Infatuation and Obsession.
Are you meaning that the narcissist will not come back. What a luck when he will not search where I am. He even wrote that I should search here where I live for friend. I don't live where he lives. He lives in another continent as where I live. I am not waiting for him. And I don't want to see him again. I deleted all his photos from my cellphone. And I blocked him in Facebook Messenger and in WhatsApp. Blocked his number and deleted all from the device. I don't have an agenda where I write each phone number. From my side it's over. And he will not search for me because his ex wife wanted to come back to him. He wrote it before I blocked him that his ex wife wanted to come back to him.
Yep, please DO NOT open your door, answer the phone or respond in any way. They are creative, stay on your toes at all times. When you are healed, help the others.
Yes he will even act like he’s sick to get me back. SMH tricky.
Amen!
AMEN, and ignore those flying monkeys. They get gratification in the narcs behaviors unto others...
@@brookewetuski5074 mozjusssys
@@BLIQUEMIST26 My x narc did the same and would pretend on the phone that he was sick too! It was a trip!
This explains why it never *feels* over despite the fact that there has never really been a real relationship. So trippy.
Never a real relationship. A harem garage!!!
It's like the rug was never under your feet.
When it's certain time to resume charge in your life only you can be the one to trip yourself up then.
You even start tripping up the narcissist.
Yep not a relationship. It's a paracite attachment.
No closure. The make you fall in love and once they get bored they change and its brutal because we are authentic. They are only mirroring who we are. Everything good in him was literally me when i stopped to think about it.
@@bcool5208 yup, it's the no closure that keeps you ruminating for years...I am coming up to 2 years and still struggling.. but it is much better than before for sure.
I’ve been restored by God!! I can’t describe how happy I am now. No more walking on eggshells. No more emotional abuse. It feels so good having God with me without the distraction
Amen Serene!
Amen!!!! Every word; I feel the same.
No lie I put everything into her and the eggshell thing man always snapping at me for everything im glad I left her she was really crazy
@@kasperkilos407 I'M GLAD YOU ARE FREE.
Yes no more eggshells
I never had peace when I was married to my husband. Never felt secure in what we had. Always felt like I was in turmoil in my spirit. And now I know why.
I understand that feeling, just on struggling with the discard after a 20yr relstio ship , discard 3moths agp
same here! I fully understand!
Classic analogy! Let them indulge in their hamburger patties and bologne. We're steak. He's on his 5th hamburger patty hoping it was the steak that I am. Too much pride to admit he was wrong. Thanks Dave!
Will said.
Aliens must know that narcs are minced meat...🤭😁✌
They don't say Sorry.
They have no empathy or self reflection to even own up to anything..
Narcs don't know how to love ...simple as that.
And will end up alone and lonely x 👍
Not sure alone and lonely is good enough. There needs to be more significant payment.
So will all those who protected Max Landis & all the pathological rape & abuse…and then covered by calling it “heartbreak” over someone else ;)
My ex can’t be alone she goes to one man to the next. I even called her out day before she moved away. Relationship came to end because being relocated thank goodness but she begged me forever to go with her but her red flags kept me at home. I told her she have a new guy with first week or two. She tried to deny it I told her Bs only fooling yourself not buying into that crap. I be damn I was right. Guy she with is the guy I caught her talking too behind my back when we went out of town together. Guy got drunk tried calling me and video calling me on my messenger. Wish I could’ve answered but do not disturb was on didn’t hear it. She tried crying her eyes out on our way home trying to convince me which was a show because she got caught. Lied about blocking and deleted him. She has him under control he does everything she says lol he has no friends no family no home only reason why he moved in with her and she felt bad for him trying even nice but all that’s about is she has someone she can control now and all about her because he has no one else . He’s a idiot has no clue
The only way that you will get closure is to find closure for yourself. You will not get closure from the narc.
It was never really over because it never really started. Imagine for a moment that is is actually over, because it is. My false self engaged in a shared fantasy with another false self. It's not real. None of it was real. Not only is it OVER but he doesn't even exist. Period. End of story. Done. Now I focus on being a genuine person genuinely relating to other genuine people.
Absolutely! Well put!
I am still stuck.....please don't judge......I am numb.....bewildered.....so much so that I feel like God has abandoned me.......
@@louiseboyd8896 I think that’s a very real and understandable comment. With dealing with these kind of ppl, u begin to question EVERYTHING at TIMES. I wish u lots of love, hugs, positive light and ur faith too and videos like these or also The Royal We and others are really good as well. I’ve been there and it took me another 4 years or so to finally have the means to get out but just take one day at a time. I still have to do that. I wish u much healing and love ❤️
@@MysticalMistyMarie thank you for caring.....I would like to add that the covid isolation made me more dependent on the narc....I am learning to stay centered grey rocking him now when he calls....that's about the best I can do right now....and focus on my artwork....there's still a part of me that hopes he'll change....I also dread meeting someone new and going through all of this again.....
@@louiseboyd8896 I hear u and after the HELL I went thru, I’m working on MYSELF for ONCE in 7 or more years. My x narc, had me doing so much for him and sucking all my energy and worth, that my own health starting to fall apart. I can honestly tell u, I have a therapist but if they have never walked in our shoes literally and dealt with a narcissistic relationship, they won’t truly know wat hell we have gone thru or are going thru. I have learned more and gotten more therapy from this channel, The Royal We Channel is great too, also HD Tudor ( is a narc) and explains how he operates. That’s very interesting too! When u know why they do wat they do and u know the whys and how’s, I can say that it makes it easier to move on when u have the answers. Sounds like ur doing all the right things Louise , and I wouldn’t focus on jumping into another relationship, I would try to go back to self love first and foremost. And if u do find someone else that is worthy of ur love, then u can be whole again once u work on loving urself first. I hope this helps and I hope u check out those other channels too. This one and those and some others have been saviors for me. I hope u continue to love forever hun! Much love to u and just remember ur not alone... hugs 🤗
Stay no contact ! I could never ever go back to that abuse ever again. Thanks to you Dave for the knowledge you have given me 🙏🙌
2 years no contact. But the creature still abuses me.
Omg, I'm back on daves channel as my narc turned up at my front door 3 days ago. I'm a Mrs a. I did my hurting, recovering, gaining the knowledge in Jan 19. I'm in a survived and thrived place, you get me...)) so, I thought it was a delivery, that knock on the door. I opened it and its him. I froze...why wouldn't I. Then I became super calm. What are you doing here I said. Oh, he said, just letting you know I have recently moved around the corner and if you see me, I am not stalking you. Hm. OK. Then something about the epiphany he has now had. Great, gotta go I said. Then, of course my brain has spent the past three days downloading all the trauma memories. I think God wants me to grow more, to show that I have learned the lesson. Well, I think I have. 2 years of therapy made me remember an answer I gave my therapist. The question was what would you do if presented with this situation again....run said I, step back, do not engage, do not get involved in the first place. Oh no, not again. I'm not going back to jezebel spirit hell .
Love isn't like a light switch. You can't just flip a switch and shut it off.
THIS IS THEEEEEEEEE ONLY STATEMENT A STRONG ONE MUST HEAR...
Exactly,I won’t even say what he done to me and our daughter last year,I’m still angry. I don’t know if it’s him or the flying monkey ignorant enablers I’m more mad with,them probably cos I have no care for them
@@karriesaunders8597 It's really hard to not be angry. Justifiably so with all of the abuse we've endured or are still enduring.
In my own opinion...It's really hard to forgive but it's needed not so much for them but for yourself. ❤
Self love comes first.💞 You started that by leaving them and walking away. That takes great strength!
Congratulations!😊
What worked for me was to mourn the person who you thought they were and let go of the evil they had become. Break that soul tie. Anger is you still being connected to the abusers in your life.
I'm not a coach or a counselor.
I'm still a work in progress in my healing process and am sharing what I've been learning and what has been working for me. Dave is awesome as is many other survivors out there that are spreading the word. I was so hurt and angry for so long. That anger did me more harm than good in my healing but I think it was a necessary too.
I learned from it. Feel it, take it in and let it go.
One day it hit me.... My anger meant that my ex narc/narcs were still in control.
Choosing love and forgiveness is so much more powerful than what they can or could ever offer to anyone.
I hope you will soon find your own inner peace.❤ Stay strong!
Sending you prayers for strength with hugs and love in your healing journey. 🤗💞
We're all in this together. 💞
@@mt.gamecalls2566 they are on the wrong path in the wrong place and every time they take this path they have become more evil looking,it’s insane. We all lose.
That's what mine is doing right now. The light switch
They have already claimed their next spouse. I was devastated because I had been praying for God to stop him from abusing another woman.
Their just fule.... Its a facade.... It won't last.
The new supply will fail badly.... X
No one_ would be capable to hurt_ harm_ destroy_ and control another person _ unless Satan is with that person : we wresttle not_against flesh .....
Thanks for writing it down. It is so obvious but sometimes it needs to be seen.
Jezabel
You did a video about 2 years ago, I'll never forget it, you said " leave them to their strippers" aka...bottom feeders. And I did 💜
I needed to hear it, even though it's been 10 years since I went through that hell. It took me a very long time to find my smile again. I finally got strong enough to go no contact 18 months ago, and that's when the true healing came to me. It would've gone on forever, the push pull game, if I hadn't gone no contact.
It never gets any better, they will continue to pull you in, hurt you then push you away again, and again and again. You have got to let go and start a new life, and you'll soon find your best life ever!! ♥️
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
THIS IS LITERALLY HOW HE THINKS ABOUT THE BREAK UP. He doesn’t understand how it hurts to let go of someone you love. This example was SPOT ON!!! Thank you
I had the same comment yesterday, he said stop ringing , you just have to get over it , after 20yrs
Even though I've been spied on since the discard, I really can't imagine she would ever attempt to come back. I seriously verbally burned the bridge after she left with a few emails. I've had to repent and renounce what I said even though it's true. She knows that I know too much about her, which in itself is a blessing. God is still working on my anger toward her and her monkey crew, wish I could say I'm 100% but not even close. Wisdom, patience, peace, hope. We must endure. Love to all who have been caught in a narcs web of destruction, God bless
Lucky you if they don’t
let all the toxic emotions out - dont worry about how long it takes. you will be 100 again.stay no contact
Sounds very familiar he was scared because he said I know more about him than anyone, ugh I wish I didn’t know!
@Andrew Blake Eccles Well said, I suffered the same, put a stop to it straight away no contact all the way. Treatment practically mirrors yours, unbelievable when there running low they try to crawl they way back in. The door was slammed shut, locked and the key thrown away, never again will I allow myself to be treated like that, thriving and surviving stay strong friend, kind regards and stay safe Nigel.
Yes I said same thing 🎉😂😂😂
And then he says he doesnt want to be in a relationship. But he will be friends. Then you find out he is already back with his long term supply, and there were lots of other girls along the way. Total crap.
THEY ARE DELUSIONAL, LYING, AND ENTITLED.
@@treelover1050 totally, the things he would say , I would think who is he talking about? He knows nothing about me.
@@sambam9129 THEY DON'T WANT TO KNOW US & OR CARE ABOUT US. THEY ARE A WASTE OF TIME & ABSOLUTELY CAN'T BE TRUSTED. I HOPE YOU ARE FEELING BETTER. I AM 20 MONTHS NO CONTACT.
@@treelover1050 you’re right! No doubt in my mind. I’ve been about 3 mths NC. Feeling stronger now. Look forward to when I don’t think about his bs anymore. Congrats to you 20 months
Yes!
Haha. I just ditched my narc. Big supply loss for him 😁 I did need to hear this and I love your humour.
This is so on point! I recall my ex-narc comparing women to breakfast cereal. He said, like cereal, there are all different kinds and you have to try them all to figure out which one is best 🙄. Thank you for doing such good work!
There's no way the narc will come back. He's told so many lies about me and blamed so many things on me...he would lose a lot of people if he tried.
I didn’t think so either but he did
They still do, they always do. Stay on your toes and don’t give in.
I thought the exact same thing. After so many hurtful, hurtful lies, the smear campaign etc, I never ever EVER thought he would have the nerve to come back. But come back he did. What they do is whisper sweet nothings to you without anyone else really knowing - anything to try and reel you back in. Beware - it will not be public knowledge because they don't want to look foolish - having to backtrack on everything they've said and done in the past will only make them look pathetic to others, so they are sly about who they tell - they tell only you (or the people close to you so it gets back to you). They keep it on the down low! Hoping that you'll fall for their manipulations so they can tell everyone 'oh, she begged me for another chance!' While they are trying to reel you back in though, they'll be grooming someone else. If you don't fall for it and don't respond the way they want, they'll just disappear and go to the harem garage, or whoever they've had waiting in the wings. They are lazy and don't want to work for you, because it is not real love, so they take the low hanging fruit instead. It's too easy and they don't care who it is. When that doesn't work out, and he has no other supply, he'll be back. He will be apologising like mad too and trying to love bomb you again, so beware!
I agree! He would look so foolish if he came back after the smear campaign and the lies he told everyone. Even his kids. He would never come back
@@raindropsandroses594 my ex narc would go to the extreme of actually making it look like I was chasing her on the phone. Even though she's the one who initiated conversations she would say things like "stop calling me" when she was the one who was calling me. When people are sort of treating you like the soy Burger instead of the Prime Steak, yet Whispering sweet nothings into your ear just like it happened to me, believe them! Never believe what an narc says. Instead watch what they actually do! (This should help pull you out of a cognitive dissonance talespin. I used to fall for it FOR A SECOND a little too easy here and there)
I went back once for real and paid a dear price almost with my life.
And - I’m not kidding.
It’s never over for the same reason why it never started.
Never I'm Mrs A all the way I'm healing every day and I'm at peace ☮️☮️
In the prideful heart of Satan dwells : me_myself_and i _ the very same way that in the prideful heart of a Narcissist dwells : me_myself_and i : no words of interpretation is needed ......
yes they are self centered
❤️ .. so spot on! I felt this deeply.. I was put on the shelf numerous times while he sampled more “condiments” .. so unfair.. but by Gods grace and my therapist I’m getting over the trauma.
@ ice world
Lord forbid if we tried other condiments! There would be Hell to pay.
@@sherriepawlikowski4935 you know it!! He always accused me of it every time he would come back.. pathetic..
I appreciate your time and your knowledge period in the last few weeks I've been watching lots of UA-cam videos on narcissism. It really helps me let go of a lot of things.. no I'm just learning how to deal with my narcissist EX to try to co-parent so I can be in my two daughters lives that she surprised to withhold from me because the kids are the only school she has.
Narc tried to steal my vacuum after I let him use it. He wouldn't give it back until I tricked him into relinquishing it. He locked me down literally in 4 days of meeting him. I escaped literally with my life after 5 months. Been no contact 35 days and feeling the need in my soul to text him God help me.
Damn Oxytocin and Plenty of Fish!
Be strong! Don't contact him PLEASE!?! THEY DO NOT CHANGE!
My ex narc.. Actually ramed his hover.. Over my broken ankle...... 🤯
Literally hovered me.....
Absalutly...
Don't... Fight the temptation......
🙏
You'd be going back to hell.... Run and keep running..... X
hoover obsessed! ☺ ...the one who ensnared me was too!
an innate fetish for vacuuming ..loves henry the hoover way more than he will ever love any human in his life ....he sucks!
It's over because I say it's over. Dont push me narc, the police will help you if your lucky.
🤣that's right!!
No contact has helped me n so many ways!! That's the only way these narcissists will respect you.a empath with boundaries is a narcissist end!
Hi Dave, you look a little down Brother. Just want you to know you're a huge inspiration for those of us who went through the fire and came out looking for answers. You've helped me and countless others realize what happened, and provided a way towards healing. Much love and respect.
God Bless You Dave, you have been a blessing to many of us❗️🙏🏻
He even told me at the time before I knew what he was..mid range npd..he said he cant love..I thought yes you can everyone can. He did love me in the beginning..but now I know it was just love bomb ..stupid me ..he was the meanest person I have ever met..an angel in the street and the devil in the house...
Good morning Dave. Thank you for mentioning that love at first sight doesn’t exit-I knew it was only in movies 🍿 😊 and THE HOOVER? Never answer it; the aftermath of it can be devastating.
Well said, couldn't have made it clearer myself, kind regards Nigel.
Thats my first flag i ignored. I literally convinced myself I fell in love the second i saw him.
Dave, this is so moving. Probably the best video you've put out yet. I love the hamburger metaphor. You are grace on this wicked world.
I am Dijon mustard... He hates mustard on everything. Thanks for that, David. Symbolic, but true. I needed to hear it...
I will pray for successful meets for you.
May God s favor rain down on you, always. I am too far away, but carry me spiritually along...in your prayers. Still crying. Ooops Abba, je t adore. Je m abandonne une fois de plus. Pardonne ma faiblesse.
PLEASE dont wait for the Narc!! The narc cant love you. Get back at the NARC by being your amazing self, looking good, and moving on!
Oh it's over alright. At the end if this month it will be 2 years since things pretty much ended with a HUGE final blowup in October 2019 - when I had to play the "I know you're a narcissist" card. I then blocked and never looked back. The phonecalls from the supplies have dwindled to virtually nothing. I pray he meets a really wonderful girl who treats him right like he deserves - pulling the same crap on him but worse. He wouldn't know what hit him. Relationships are not all they are made up to be. I think staying single is my best bet.
I am so thankful I found your channel Dave - I couldn't have done this without you!
been watching Dave for a long time now, little by little his messages were and still are becoming clearer and clearer. I pray every morning that I may find a woman that I can spend the rest of my life loving and cherishing.... God brought me to Dave's channel and he will bring me my perfect soulmate also.
the waiting is the hardest part...tic toc!
Omg Dave this is an excellent example … the best I’ve heard so far … well said 😊
He went in a rage because I wasn't afraid to tell him all the red flags.
The cheating too..
He still won't admit it. Even tho he throws the supplies in my face.
I'm finally done. No one will ever control and twist everything on me.
I'm loyal, loving, trustworthy.
Everything he isn't.
He has so many double life's and I refuse to be apart of it anymore
Hi I had all that old toffee from my ex ...'I don't wanna be with you ...I'll be your friend tho '.
I told him never to speak to me again and walked away.
Why would I want a friend that broke me !!!
That was 4 years ago. Narc free forever 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍 xx
Had the same, reacted the same way, well done and stay strong kind regards and stay safe Nigel from Wales.
LOVE NEVER ENDS! I felt that deeply. They don't know how to love. Thank you so much Dave for shedding light and salt on the earth!
Thank you so much! I love all your videos! I was 26 days no contact but he found me in the neighborhood and got out of his car at a red light and came up to me with food. I won't ever feel the same. I love ketchup. I could have it every day and not get tired of it...i don't want any other condiments! I get what you are saying about the demons.
That was an amazing analogy!! Perfectly put! Thank you Jesus for this word!! God Bless you Dave!!
Newbies listen to Dave everyday. His knowledge and humor heals us all. These are Godless people and they are loveless. Pray …. and as much as you want someone don’t let him/her back in! Never ever open up your door…
Right on Dave! It is good to put ourselves in their shoes, or tried to, and understand they can't truly love. And that is very sad.
Thank you Dave
I'm recovering from this abuse
Great analogy Dave! I relate 100% We are not here to become supply to each other. It’s an unhealthy way to live and love. I’m done become on the condiment shelves.
X nar use to say:
I can't eat 🍕 pizza 🍕 for the rest of my life. He needs Variety in his life.
I’m that special person. This message is for me. This channel is my life line.
Outstanding video! You created the perfect mental picture of what is happening. I just signed the final divorce papers. No contact for 9 months.
Aloha, Dave, excellent analogy. You are making a difference - inspiring Believers & influencing others to become Believers. Please keep speaking to those Mrs. Bs out there & converting them to Mr. & Mrs. A.🙏☝️💖
This site has helped me so much. There are days it’s very hard, but I’m NC for almost 2 years. Legal emails only. He remarried very quickly his 5th yes 5th wife. I stayed for 30 years, wife #3…. I was so,so blind. My love was real…. His never was, ever. So hard to grasp at times. He married an extremely young girl… same age as our daughter… he’s a degenerate and black soul.
I remember working 8 hour's in a radiation therapy cliniinc every day. Picking up my children every day, that I had to pay for, even though being married to a narcissist therapist. She made almost 6 figures a year. I was bringing home about 250 every 2 week's while she just banking her pay. I had to live off hamburger. There's much more to this story, but I'll save it. God bless all that have surefire from this.
I had to always be there for my Ex if I missed 1 call it would be world war 3 and accusing me of cheating but now thinking back when i would ring him randomly he would be in a bad mood and ask “what do u want” like I was nothing to him. I left after he discarded me 7 times and I’m never looking back, I know I’ll be the best he’s ever had I have a heart of gold I’m ready to find someone that’s just like me not someone who’s mirrors everything I do.
Lol .. Dave .. he can have all those condiments .. Mine is GRADE A .. one he can’t have !
@ anat asiss
Or can't afford because all they spent there money on beer & drugs.
YOU DESERVE REAL LOVE.
Another great one!! We love you, Dave!
I think it's over for good. I caused a horrific narc injury. I told him if he died tomorrow I would be happy. My words should have been seasoned with salt and they weren't. Which I am upset about. I went down to his level. But I am not sad that he's gone it was a blessing in disguise.
Thank you for your perspective Dave I really appreciate it. Learning about the narcissist is very good knowledge to have so you can pick them out of groups at work and home life
You are so welcome
What's funny when they cheat. They confuse the condiments..that's why they show up and give you things that you don't like, but that mayo likes it..and it could be the wrong pop, wrong smokes lmaooooo another way they tell on themselves.
I could tell by things he would say. Like he always said txt me when we were together. I could tell when he was with someone new he would take on the way they spoke and acted. Like txt me changed to message me. Weird but true. The way he dressed and things would change.
One day we were giving his friend and gf a ride to a hotel. Knucklehead/x narc said remember when we came here. I was livid because it wasn't Me. I never been to that hotel. He tried to gaslight me on that one 2. 😵 😬 😤
I know right even the way they text you..now I can think back and tell .like he went from texting words then using emojis like a 20 yr old..but they always tell on themselves..like an argument we had around that time he was mad because I went out with my best friend and he screamed "next thing you know you will doing a 20 yr old on your friends couch" and funny thing was that he came up missing 2 weeks before that and said he spent the night on his friends couch..and if they show you a woman. Or man for that fact and say how unattractive that person is..well that's who they are messing with..they always think they are so smart lmaooooo always telling on themselves
The narc comes back every year to see if my behaviors changed. But got caught cheating beind my back..... many women and baby mothers..behind my back.and thinks its ok.......but something wrong with my behavior lol
Dave, thank you for another talk! I can see youre full of the Holy Spirit! Prayers for all of us survivors in Jesus Christ.♥️♥️♥️♥️💖💖💖💖💖🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
"There's honey mustard on the stair climber" lol love your analogies Dave.
I laughed at that one to 😆
I never knew what I had fallen into. I had no knowledge of a person ever having npd until 2 years ago. The hurt and pain a person takes inside it's not worth it. I constantly walked on eggshells no matter what I did it seemed never good enough.
It's over when you stop playing games.
Dave TG God took me off that shelf few years ago and left my narcissist ex husband to have all the women in the world that he wants and now he doesn't need to sneak behind my back to get them, I did deserve better than that, he was bought up in an household where his Father was EXACTLY THE SAME no respect for family or women after 28 years of totally being disrespected have now found my own value and worth, thanks Dave for this, one positive note that comes into my head is that my ex husband is getting older and I certainly won't be looking after him in old age, not my problem anymore TG everyone on this stay well strong, happy and healthy.
I needed to hear this .., bless you 🙏
Mine found love thru dating sites. Lol. Have at it ladies. Lee M from Elizabeth City, NC.
😂👍🏽
Thank you for this golden knowledge sir ❤
This is so correct!!!! This gave me the extra clarity I needed
11 months complete no contact, soon a celebration.
Because of the knowledge, feeling more secure, in control and grounded. *This* changed me for the better in many aspects of my life. What a lesson. What a crazy lesson. 💗
Thanks Dave.
Standing strong and feeling powerful.
So proud of me.
I have been on the narc abuse cycle off and on for over 40 years. In November after several years of his back and forth abuse and discarding me he left. He wanted me back in December as friends and I told him I didn't want to be his friend. October he bought us wedding bands and marriage license too. He was in a panic. Then he told me to tear up the license and that I was trash and not worthy of marrying. I was a mess. What he didn't know was that I had been going to domestic violence shelter for help from his physical and emotional abuse for over a year. Plus a close friend of his over a year ago who is a Christian told my ex that he had a demon of anger in him and that it was destroying me. This woman kept in touch with me and encouraged me to get out of the relationship. I also found a group of christian women some of whom had survived abuse and they started praying for me. Here it is February and I have been no contact since December by "his choice" but really by my choice. Without God and all the support and prayers from this church and one other couple at this church who keep in contact daily with me I never would have made it out! I watch your channel and have been quietly watching from the beginning. I watch tic tok videos from survivors and I listen to worship songs everyday and several online ministers and read my bible and journal every day. God is amazing and has saved me from my ex!
Wow, that made so much sense.. thank u...I blocked my narcissist on my android, now he keeps calling my house phone, he can't get thru on my android smart phone, , I answered the house phone, he was surprised and hurt I had blocked him on my android/ smart phone...I told him I'm busy, I was very clear with him that i dont have time for his nonsense...I've been praying for his salvation and after listening to listening to u every night, I dont obsess over him anymore...I feel better not thinking about him constantly,...he's in Gods hands now, I've given my troubles to Him...God has healed my heart and my painful thoughts...anyway, thanks again, and God bless...!
Real good to see you, again, Dave. I missed you, and your videos. Thank you for helping us. God bless you, always.
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Thank you kindly
Great Video..Thank you for sharing and spreading the knowledge !
I Look forward to every video Dave !!
More to come!
Thank you Dave.....be blessed always!
Dave,this was the best, analogy ever, I am finally laughing,thank you!
Thanks again Dave for another inspirational video! 🙏🏻🥰
😁"Dipping Sauces"🥴!! I Love it!!!💙💙💙💙💙💙Thank you Dave!
I know. I’m back, Dave. I finally moved out. I’m on the road to freedom. I am trusting God to help me to really help myself.
Welcome Back!
Great analogies always Dave! I can relate that’s why we have to stay on our path and never go back!
Thanks dear friend, never ever go back!
I was shown this but I was the stake house and the new supply was 2 day hot dog on a roller from a convenient store
Thank You. I am in such despair. I know it was for me. I almost scrolled it away. My life is so sabotaged all the time and I've reached to point if no solutions right now. He doesn't let me go.
The second narc I met came back last months after 6 years. I couldn’t believe the nerve. I texted , I’m in circadian rhythm . Good night. No more calls! I hope he moved on .Amen.
i have been watching your channel for over year this has been by far my favourite i love how you explained this SO AWESOME!!!!! Im so blessed i lefted him and never looked back once.... im no condiment!!!!! thank you THANK YOU
I had to go back and listen to this message a couple of days and now I get it! We had been an Item for almost 4 decades. Then he has lined up an accommodating supply and his family of flying monkeys have given his adultery and abandoning his wife and sons their blessing. The first week he didn’t come home, I said, ”I was wondering if you can sleep or eat? I can hardly swallow now that you’re not here” He said he was sleeping fine and getting a little chubby as a matter of fact. COLD! He lost his Chemical rush. And, he will lose it again. Faster and faster. Im caught up again Dave. Thank you.
Thank you Jesus for this video
Amen
It's never over until you go no contact. I wish there was a softer solution than that. But hard problems require hard solutions. Otherwise, LOW CONTACT is all you can do, if financially dependent. ( I wish I could just say it's so easy doing a "just don't react" stance. But these people will push you so hard that eventually you're going to slip and react every once in awhile. Don't beat yourself up over it! Just hang in there and do as little contact as humanly possible)
Another good one from the past. TY Dave. Great
Wow ! Such a good video ..."they don't know what love is" ... you are so right. God help them ! 🙏
I am so grateful 🙏 for this video..it made so much sense to me and u put it perfectly. I recently came out of a relationship similar to what u described and felt utterly confused..I felt like maybe I was a narc but through introspection and a renewed faith in God I discovered I was a codependent empath. My friends, family and even me ex all warned me and I still loved her as though it was my steak.. all along she treated it like just a hamburger with cheese
Dave I want to say: I love you brother, I barely write comments on your posts but I always like it and listen to you for last two years and love your words and wisdom I see the spirits are talking trough you. May god bless you brother ♥️🙏
Thank you I needed to hear this!!
Honey mustard on the stair climber lol
Thankyou Dave yes I needed to hear that 🙏🏻❤
It always felt this way even though we are apart it stills feels like we are in a relationship cause it ends by him giving me silent treatment then coming back in life again talking to me etc. It like it never ends.
My ex narcissist wife thought that having empathy or any deep level of emotions beyond immediate family was a weakness that she had to go inward to free herself from. This is the narcissist idea of inner work. In her mind being free of those 2 things gave her the edge over new supply. That’s how I know it’s going to be worse for that new supply
Thanks Dave , you are incredible insightful.
OMG this is so helpful. At the very end you talk about having to pay someone to weed the garden - this is so accurate. It wasn't that long ago I said to him all the good people will go because you will push then away so eventually they will leave and you will be left with the hanger ons. The ones that want your money etc and what will you do then. This is just so true. Sad but true. Sometimes you have to move on although you really didn't want to but being there is too painful and detrimental to your health.