Detransitioner Interview: Botched Surgery, Regret, & The Social Contagion
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0:00 The Misguided Journey To Transition
10:30 Why Shape Regrets Gettting Bottom Surgery
23:30 How Hormones Negatively Affected Shape
26:10 Shape's Choice To Present Feminine Even After Realizing He's Not A Woman
33:00 Shape's Botched Bottom Surgery Results
39:30 Lived Experience of Women vs Trans Women
48:30 Shape Misses Manhood, Talks Developing Osteoperosis & Bone Issues
56:40 How Doctors Are Misleading "Trans" Patients
1:07:50 Shape's Emotional Relationship With His Family After Transition
1:10:45 What Could Have Been Differently To Save Shape?
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Ignoring and silencing people like these two is the real transphobia
Based
I couldn’t have said it any better.
Mhmm 💓
if people are silencing blaire why doesn’t she shut the fuck up like … ever LOL
No one ignores and silences them. The truth is a lot of research has been done and the rate of regret is 1-2 %. It is horrible this happens but it is not typical.
how can trans activists pretend that blaire is this cruel, awful person when she's here showing compassion to people that are being outcast, name called and ignored by those same activists.
Because she highlights their awful ideology.
@@K_F_P *EDIT: i misread KFP's reply. i'm dumb. please ignore.*
and what ideology is that? this was an interview with someone sharing their personal experience of something awful that was done to them. to me it seems that the people trying to silence these victims are doing it do defend an ideology. and for what? the people you are protecting are not trans people, they are doctors and pharmaceutical companies who financially benefit from these "mistakes"
@@K_F_P found the greedy surgeon 😷
Always remember ideology tribalism is real toxic behavior
People love being f****** cheap
You can never truly know somebody if you're projecting your own belief on them to them
You seem to be under the mistaken assumption that those on the left are not zombies.
"it was more like social dysphoria not gender dysphoria, I just wanted to be accepted." That is the message that needs to be spread far and wide to teenagers thinking of going through this process. Thank you ShapeShifter for your bravery in speaking out. I really hope that you have a support network around you.
I agree that was right on point. I am in aww with these courageous and honest human beings ❣️
I think that is definitely a huge part! I used to think I had to look a certain way to be accepted. A little thinner, then when I was too thin, I wanted to be a little curvier! I wanted to change everything from my nose to my lips and I hated my stomach after giving birth. I was never satisfied with anything.
I absolutely agree. I saw this when all this started. Every insecure teenager wants to be accepted and special and 95% of teenagers fit tht bill. When this first started they said it was only 1-2% of the population. It has become a real viral contagion. It is now infecting like half the population it seems. 49:31
Totally agree
IT DOESNT MEAN ALL CASES ARE LIKE THAAAATTTT
The laughter is disguising so much pain. “I wish someone had hugged me.” That says it all.
yes. I belive shape has said that it is nervous laughter.
I hope she finds peace. It’s so tragic.
@@shastacastorHe’s a he 🙏
♥️😢♥️
Shape Shifter has always said he has a nervous laughter. My heart breaks every time I hear his laugh. Knowing how nervous he is. What was really shocking is he's 5'1". I wish he finds happiness one day.
I am not sure why people don't admit that these doctors are basically experimenting with these surgeries.
Are they? Do you have any proof of that contention? No doubt some surgeries will be experimental, as new techniques are always being developed for all types of surgery. However, these surgeries have being going on for some time now so some related procedures must be well established at this point.
Doctors, especially surgeons hold a lot of power. So when they are selling the fantasy solution that some confused young person believes will fix all their problems…..
@@kevinarnold8634 > Sir, you are defending the indefensible. Listen to the de-transitioners, and those who are essentially “gelded” for life. And now they are arrogantly doing this to kids. Children!
What kind of ‘Doctor’ would cut the breasts off of a 12 year old little girl because she *thinks* she is really a boy? I’ve seen pictures of this.
@@kevinarnold8634 A huge part of the problem is all those private clinics in the USA that want to earn money by jumping on the woke bandwagon. In Europe and Asia these surgeries are done for decades. Of course, it's complicated surgery and there are risks, but if done professionally they are not experimental.
@kevinarnold8634 lobotomies went on for over TWENTY years before that medical practice finally started getting phased out. Over 60,000 people who needed therapy and mental health care were instead funneled quickly into surgery; they were then mutilated and their lives were destroyed. At the time drs were insistent that removing lobes of the brain would cure their patients of all their ills. Parents were being encouraged to have their daughters lobotomized if they weren't showing an interest in traditional female ideals such as marrying and having children and they instead wanted to pursue male activities like college and voting. Getting your daughter lobotomized would make her become obedient and feminine, the way she was truly meant to be from birth. Even President Roosevelt bought into it and in 1941 (which was when he was actively serving in office btw), it was about ten years deep into lobotomies being regularly practiced and he consented to have one performed on his 23 yr old daughter after being pressured by outsiders that it would "fix" her wild independent tomboy attitude. Any of that sound familiar at all?
Just because they technically and clinically know how to do these procedures doesn't mean that those procedures automatically equate to a positive long term quality of life for the patients afterwards. Today we look back at lobotomies in abject horror and wonder how society could have let this happen to so many people for so long when it's clearly incredibly harmful. How could those Drs have been so stupid? How could this horrific experiment spread so far and wide that even the white house was affected by it? I fear that 100 years from now people will look back at these new experimental genitalia surgeries that have been performed on young people who's brain isn't fully developed yet, or mentally ill people who need psych treatment for trauma, etc and not amputation, (and to be clear, even if it's been around for 10 years-in the medical community that is still considered brand-new) and that they will views us with the same mix of horror and disgust and confusion that we today view those who allowed, even encouraged, lobotomies to happen.
The anxiety and panic in his voice, like he's rushing to finally get it all out breaks me 😭
Makes me pray for everyone to recover
I know 😢
Yes I know that feeling and I’ll feel it with every one of those particular breaths as I watch this entire interview. It’s heartbreaking.
*She, I believe she wants those pronouns.
But yh I could sense that too
@@Yasmina312 Shapeshifter told Blaire to use he/him pronouns.
u can see she is under a lot of mental stress, she is using firced laugh as a relief. Wishing her all the heal and health she needs
He
@@alelricstreamer don't police speech ❤
@@nikemaraje5he goes by he
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@@nikemaraje5they’re detransitioning so I do believe he’s alright with being called he
It broke my heart hearing " I wish someone would have just given me a hug and talking to me about it". People need more compassion on all sides.
Absolutely. I think the noise polarising online is making it harder to do this all the time and it's so fucking sad.
It's sad for people that went through this but its also so terrifying that they won't be the last. It's just so heartbreaking
I can relate to that too- I grew up in an abusive home, emotionally neglected, really troubled, abusive long time boyfriend (now ex thank god), was abusing drugs, raped, only a few days after being raped someone I thought was my friend sexually took advantage of me and the bad state I was in, suffering from depression suicidal thoughts suicidal actions and anxiety, had no one to turn to, and I can honestly say that if someone had just given me a hug and said "You're loved, wanted, cared about, and there's nothing wrong with you (because in my mind if my own mom didn't love me why would anyone else and on top of everything else I was going through my self confidence was nonexistent)" I probably would've burst into tears.
Like you said compassion can go a LONG way.
These doctors are creating a generation of life long patients.
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Right on the money! Literally... This js the best scenario possible for the doctors and it's so sad
Money
That’s the end goal and they’re accomplishing it very well. Big Pharma is the culprit of the majority of evil we see in this world
Young ppl too
he called himself a cash cow for big pharma and it's absolutely true-they secured a customer for life
so this is a story about a profit driven healthcare system.
@@ginaritchie451 like all the other story
When he said that...I said Bingo. That is why this agenda is being pushed on children. This is so evil.
Especially once these people get different cancers and who knows what else from years of hormones. This is unbelievably sad and a true horror story.
@@frannyy9309 then who will they try to blame?!
I transitioned into a man about 8 yrs ago. Although I always wanted to be a “boy” was an underlining trauma response from losing my father at age 3. No one had the education of CPTSD and what I experienced all throughout my childhood/adult life. I never fully grieved my fathers death and I was trying to become a masculine figure to replace what I didn’t have. I also was over weight and bullied because of that. Never had a guy interested in me and the words of “I want to be a boy” turned into “why don’t I have a bf?” Once I started to realize women liked me more than men. I started dating women as a lesbian. Then I was still confused not even enjoying dating or being intimate with them. It was just the high of the chase and someone actually paying attention to me. After a breakup I instantly transitioned thinking if I was a “man” then maybe girls would like me and my life would be better. After high of the changes of hormones. I still was depressed and lost in life. Ended up addicted to drugs and chasing people. After really discovering all of this on my own. I really see that my transition was a trauma response… it is an identity issue that is MISSED. Although I don’t see myself as any gender I do wish to de-transition to find the girl I once buried to find what I was missing with my father. It really is bravery to take the vulnerability to de transition and admit/accept those harsh realities.
I’m glad more people are speaking about this.
And what is most absurd is they say this can't happen, that people can't be confused on who they are attracted to or who they feel they are. I myself could look at girls and think she is pretty and being bi was like the in thing when I was a teen, I tried a 3some with a couple and it was the worst experience of my life and in no way could I ever go down on a girl either, I was young and confused and like you had my own trauma growing up, this is why I know for certain that young minds can be confused about their sexuality. I hope you heal within and find some peace with everything.
Transsexual man with CPTSD, BPD, + here… My heart goes out to you. I’m so sorry you’ve had this experience. I am not detransitioned or planning on it, but I acknowledge that my trauma is a part of who I am, and I mean that in every way. I think this is the case for MOST people. Rather true transsexual or not, no one is acknowledging the background. Just ‘oh you wanna be a boy? here’s some testosterone!’ not including the wait time, it was so incredibly easy for me to get a prescription. I still wish I had proper treatment and therapy prior to starting my transition but regret does nothing for me. Maybe I would’ve turned out differently, maybe I would be the same. I can think of so many traumatic experiences that would make a vulnerable person think they are trans. For example, little boys seeing their sister being showed physical and emotional affection, consideration, love, etc… when every once in a while they get a pat on the back and a “good job son.” like if I was a girl people would love me. you know? If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here for you. Sending healing vibes ❤️
These comments tho. For one, Ptsd is so misunderstood but it's something people generally think they understand. In my experience, they don't.
Also I think it's getting harder and harder to talk about trauma and gender. I remember trying to talk to a young person in my life about their trauma needing to be addressed before steps were taken but because they'd become convinced it was through a lack of support it was the moment the conversation shut down and almost everyone else was like "naaaah itll be fine" and I don't think I've ever felt so frightened and impotent.
Fwiw to the people leaving these comments, it does really help people like parents and family of young people now. Not like as a case study but it can give parents a firmer sense that they're right not at least try and have this conversation.
I felt a bit gaslit at the time (not by the chikd obvs) into this doubt spiral that I was rejecting or felt disappointed. It's like you know you don't, but you fear that you do. So I'm just so grateful that these comments can be found and read x
This is some incredible self awareness to come to these realizations for yourself! You have been through a lot but i can tell it has shaped you into a better person for it. I hope you find the strength and support to accept all the parts of yourself, beyond gender as a social construct or a scientific determination-but just as a human being 🤍
Her consistent nervous giggles are heartbreaking 🥺 i feel so bad, i couldn't imagine the draining depths of confusion and emotions 😢
Yeah, I laugh when I get nervous as well and people think a laugh means that something is funny, no, not all the time.
I also laugh when I'm nervous.
Jeffree Star is exactly who comes to my mind when I think of a man who wants to present physically as a woman but mentally is still a man, not a trans person. And there’s nothing wrong with that. It hurts to see that not only society but medical professionals (!) are pushing their agenda onto troubled, often lost and insecure people. Great interview.
Yes exactly. I mentioned him in the other video on Blaire’s main channel. He doesn’t believe in all this non-binary crap going around too. Even me as a “cis” woman sometimes I wish I could dress more masculine certain days because I love fashion in general. I love being feminine but my creative side just wants to be tomboyish some days. That doesn’t mean I’m trans or non-binary lmao.
This is such a great point! Jeffree is obviously a very feminine presenting person but anyone who’s watched him for a while can tell his ‘soul’, if I can call it that, is definitely male. Which is totally fine! You can be a dude through and through and still enjoy wearing makeup and pink wigs.
Same with Pete Burns, he discussed it in big brother, he sees himself totally as a man, dates men and women but needs to present the way he does, he said women do not own skirts and feminine clothes etc, women can wear trousers, so why can't he wear a dress?
Jeffree himself has said that pronouns don't matter to him nor do gender labels. He just identifies as androgynous.
John McLean is another one
why did i start crying when she did “they didn’t protect me from myself” oh my GOD! this is insane!!
No one is responsible for that. He just needs to be honest with himself
@@bijlesopzuid2594 he seems to be aware of the fact, that in the end it was his own decision but it’s the fact that no one cared enough to really warn him about the consequences and much worse, no one was loving enough to tell him, that he was perfect the way he was and that yes, he struggled with multiple issues but that those can be worked on and that he should wait til after he dealt with those issues to make such a fundamental and final decision.
@@Iwoasasaned Agreed, especially when you take into account that these doctors are giving children the same freedom. Yeah, he was an adult when he transitioned and now that he’s been through so much he regrets it deeply. Just imagine kids when they grow up and many of them definitely will grow out of this or go too far and have some regret- And they will also remember how nobody warned them :(.
These doctors are just virtue signaling and following the money.
Who is she? He is a guy and identifies as a man. Blaire even used "he/him" pronouns when introducing him.
@@bijlesopzuid2594 I don’t agree with that when it comes to mental illness. You would protect an anorexic person from themself, a schizophrenic from themselves. Gender dysphoria is a mental illness and all this “affirmation care” without question is so so harmful! They need intense therapy before anything else.
1 year later and this video is more relevant than ever. This is what we need to be showing the parents of children that are adamant on letting a child make a decision that adults can’t even be sure of.
Just taking birth control made me asexual. I started at 13 and took it till 23. There was little desire/lubrication/orgasm at all. Even after I quit taking it for 10 years this state persisted. Only after I managed to get pregnant did my system reset and I had a real puberty and was finally able to enjoy sex. Hormones are no joke.
Similar situation here. I was forced on birth control because I am autistic and my parents didn’t want to deal with , and I quote, “my autistic hormones”???? So I was forced on bc, gained 175 pounds, was an emotionless zombie… I was on depo for 5-6 years starting at the age of 13! I am now 21 and struggling to get pregnant. I am sincerely hoping that that shit didn’t fuck me up as bad as I hear that it can. :((( I feel so broken as a woman. I want a huge family with tons of happy little kids that came from MY belly. Nothing against adoption it’s just not for me, not for any moral reasons I just want my own kids! And I feel so sad and empty. :( I’m glad that you say when you got pregnant everything kind of reset though. I’m doing everything right, I can only hope now. ✨ 🤗 xoxoxo thank you for helping me not feel crazy and alone. 🫶🏽
I took birth control for acne then started painting as soon as I got off. I cried in art class when I was on birth control because I couldn’t feel creative until I got off.
i started BC in my mid 20s because of very painful periods that i later learned were caused by ovarian cysts. i was on it for almost 4 years, and for almost the entire time i was on it, my already low sex drive disappeared completely and i literally couldnt orgasm. i also gained a lot of weight. when i stopped taking BC i realized just how much it was affecting me. my periods still havent returned to ‘normal’ over a year later. its been rough and i regret ever taking it.
i was never told any of that could happen; i mean i was old enough to know that hormones werent something inconsequential, but BC is so common and pushed so heavily that i figured it couldnt actually be anything bad or harmful.
i genuinely think that women are often just an afterthought when it comes to medical care, even when its sex-specific. unfortunately i think trans people are being similarly used and abused.
@@gooeyglitterygirlygutzz Please before all the children make sure you're as non dependent on any drugs as possible, along with a good support network and therapy. Not to mention a loving 😍 husband who wants children as much as you do! 🌹 Children can be big stressors, and not always playful, obedient or happy.🧚♂🧚♀🧚
When I went in BC it was because I was sexually active in my early 20s so. Then I met my future husband and went off bc when we wanted to start a family.. it took 3 months to get pregnant after stopping and after my first was born.. my dr put me back on bc at 4 months postpartum.. ( yea full strength bc) and my breast milk dried up in a week and I was devastated I stopped taking bc and haven’t looked back .. I didnt realize how bad I felt on BC until I went off it and back on .. major headaches .. low libido.. mood swings .. that crap messed me up
Just because you like feminine things or masculine things, it doesn't make you the opposite gender. Being a femboy or tomboy is perfectly fine. Being androgynous is perfectly fine. Don't let people convince you that you need to chop off for feel happy
Hopping under this comment to say just because you like things typically associated with the sex you were born as doesn't make you any less trans if you experience gender dysphoria. As a transsexual man who likes to have long hair and dresses I thought I was going insane for a long time because I didn't want to allow myself to view myself as a man. Because how can I be a man if I like dresses? Well there are a lot of man out there who like dresses. The dysphoria wasn't any less present just because I enjoy feminine things.
Hobbies and Interests don't define gender.
You can be a biological woman liking trucks. That's fine and pretty cool at that and doesn't make you any less of a woman.
You can also be a trans woman who likes trucks. That doesn't make you any less worthy of medical treatment.
@@Mikey_was_here ffs. There is no such thing as trans, just people who are immensely unhappy with themselves. It's terribly sad, but it doesn't change who you are. Nothing will. No surgery, hormones, or clothes can make you the opposite sex.
@@Madonnalitta1 Being trans is a medical issue. There's gender dysphoria which is a medical condition. Otherwise people who are trans wouldn't have a reason to be unhappy in their body. Of course nothing you do will make you the opposite sex. You're right with that. But there are things that can lessen the medical condition like clothes, hormones and surgeries.
Finally some sense. You can still be a be a man or a woman or non-binary regardless of what phenotypical traits your body possesses. Your actions have no bearing on your gender. Also thank you so much for giving me permission to be androgynous oh mighty one, I highly appreciate that from a weeble who speaks from such confidence, as if they are the leader of the trans community, oh thank you for letting me express myself in this way as your opinion carries so much weight for me. I'm so glad tomboys and femboys can exist thanks to you!
If one wishes to have vaginoplasty or have mammoplasty that is up to the individual and shouldn't be forced on anyone. I'm glad it was my choice to replace my genitalia instead of having others force me to keep it.
Yeeesss... I wish everyone would see this instead of taking hormones and having irreversible surgery. Its so risky. And dangerous.
I like what the Blonde lady said, “Sometimes it’s better to have the bitter truth, than a sweet LIE”
I like that saying.... perfect!!! ✌🏻✌🏻✌🏻
Yep!! Just like that drawing of a bunch of people standing in line to a booth that says "comfortable lies". And then there was a booth with no one standing at it and the sign said "uncomfortable truths".
@@brianweatherman1207 >> I’ve seen that cartoon somewhere!
He is not a "lady." The entire video should have told you that.
Shape* is literally talking about how he is not a lady in this video. Wtf
As a psychiatry doctor myself, I'm so terribly sorry for the neglect that you suffered at the hands of doctors 😢💔
@bellabee8235 , Your page has no content. Sure you're a" Psychiatry Dr.which you could call yourself what it is A Psychiatrist or Dr of Psyciatry.
@@PatriciaAShelton-no6cq I don't post my work on my social media. But if you'd like specifics I'm what is called a Psychiatry Registrar :)
@@PatriciaAShelton-no6cq please don't tell me what to call myself! I use the term psychiatry doctor or mental health doctor as not everyone knows what a registrar is
So you're not a doctor? You're a fraud.
I remember meeting a trans woman 20+ years ago that shared her transition story and specifically remember her saying that a major requirement was that she had to completely live her life as a woman for 2 full years before a doctor could complete any surgeries.
That's what Buck Angel said, too. He had to live life as a man for a full year, first. I feel like it's a really responsible decision.
It was different years ago, that has totally changed now. People are able to make quick decisions and they are often very dangerous decisions
How can a boy under the age of 18 live their life as an adult human female?
@@sharonwhitfield2906 it was only over 18 I believe
@@sharonwhitfield2906 A male can never truly live the life of a female.
"you're not in the wrong body" "I wish someone hugged me and told me I'd never be a woman" broke me
People should be told men can be feminine and women can be masculine and that's okay but they shouldn't mutilate themselves.
@@jacksteve1372 Yeah... like remember tomboys???
People tell them this all the time and get called TERFs/ transphobic
If someone tries he’s called transphobic 😞
@@grymoniaracemosa4062 exactly!!! I feel for him but if a doctor have tried to stop him from having those surgeries, he would have been called of on Twitter as transphobic. And he would have find another doctor who’s willing to do it.
As Jordan Peterson said, "There are masculine girls; there are feminine boys. What are we going to do? Carve them up?"
Genuinely feel that Shape Shifter should travel the Western World telling their story. It’s something that needs to be heard, thank you Blaire for bringing Shapeshifter on to your show ❤
His.
@@Alyshakulta Dramatic. Anyways.
@@Alyshakulta their is gender neutral, you might just be psychotic
@@aleahbracewell9004 how?
@@goopy1000because it’s not that deep
Holy shit. I never been super pro trans and maybe at times I been very vocal and ignorant about it. This video really gave me 1. A deeper understanding of Trans ppl 2. A more educated and compassionate way of looking at transgender people. 3. It’s really sad how society pushes this narrative to make money, instead of really help ppl understand what is going on and if transitioning is really the right choice for them. We keep pushing all this pro movement, without the research and education to make sure that it’s the right way to go.
Feel so bad for him. That nervous laugh kills me. Blaire thanks for shining a light on this. You both are beautiful!
I know, I found his laugh so endearing. I wish I could give him a hug.
@@AdultHumanXX the embodiment of " 😅 "
"I now realize I felt dead inside for years." *laughs
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Ikr. So sad :(
His nervous laugh could be a coping mechanism to regulate one's emotions. As well as a defense mechanism against emotions that may make us feel weak or vulnerable. My heart goes out to him and to everyone who is being lied to and manipulated.
He is only the tip of the ice burg when it comes to those that are victims of this dangerous gender experiment they're performing on our young adults and children. And now certain states are allowing prepubescent children to receive gender "affirmation" treatment. It's unbelievable that the mentally ill are running the asylum we call the Western world. There is no excuse for this. Go ahead, dress anyway you want, choose your hair, wear makeup or don't, date either sex or both. But please don't cut off healthy functioning body parts, because you were promised an unrealistic utopia on the other side of the recovery room. 🙏❤️✌️
This just simply broke my f'in heart. As a society, we HAVE TO STOP trying to force everyone into these tiny boxes of existence.
I think a lot of people are trying to fit themselves in a box…. It’s not society doing this. There are a ton of us who are resisting this and trying to scream that you don’t need a label. Find your individuality, love yourself, accept yourself. It’s mostly insecure and/or traumatized people who are jumping on this bandwagon.
@@michellemorrow7 With the help of social media, the pharmaceutical, the mental health, and the medical establishment unfortunately.
its not a tiny box of existence anymore its an ENDLESS existence with many genders and endless identities.
Exactly it’s them finding their niche. Not us boxing them up.
It amazes how mental health is now socially such an important part of taking care of yourself. That it’s flabbergasting to me that its the one thing not properly applied to individuals struggling with their identity. It really gives credence to the idea that all of this is just a glorified experiment on traumatized people
I have major severe depression and a desire to take my own life, and this little laughs that he gives, I recognize this a lot. A do this also almost every time I talk, when what I really want it's to cry non stop.
He's in extreme emotional pain. People around him should check on him on the daily basis. I'm not kidding.
even watching him on insta. the whole time he looks really sad
As a liberal from MA, I agree whole heartedly with this entire episode. This is devastating and children cannot consent to this. This story is so tragic and sad but it is so important for teens to have another perspective since it is life altering. ShapeShifter, I’m so sorry for what happened to you and hopefully what happened to you can help prevent hundreds and hundreds of other people from running into these issues.
Liberalism is a disease
Calling a patient “difficult” after suffering all of the hell that he went through just shows what kind of Dr’s do this horror show work.
“Difficult” = “causing problems for me and my reputation”
It's very normal. It doesn't matter the area of medicine. A lot of doctors won't go in and fix other doctors work. Not just trans doctors. It's why it's particularly dangerous to go overseas for surgery - if they make mistakes, a local doctor won't touch you.
It's not really that they see you as a difficult patient, more that they just don't want the hassle or possible negative reputation that comes with trying to attempt to fix a botched surgery.
Is it right? I see both sides. It absolutely sucks for the patient, but I also get where the Dr is coming from.
Yes, doctors can be real monsters.
Oh they care about is the cash. If they cared about the person they wouldn't be doing the surgery in the first place. They use the fact that the customer asked for the procedure as a justification for them doing it No it's not a justification just because of person ask for something because they were mentally ill at the time they asked for it. You as a doctor should not be doing these procedures.
@@MsAussieSheila the difference is that in a usual surgery doctors will inform you tell you in detail about the risks of each particular procedure . On the contrary other doctors seem to chop off penises without informing the patient about the risks-final result and they seem to care only about the dollars..
As a detransitioner myself, I can't thank you enough for platforming these stories.
Bless your heart, and remember that everything you have walked through in this life, makes you a very important person for so many kids, who are facing the same thing. You are essential, and we desperately need you in the fight to save our kids.
I hope you find comfort in yourself. You were always enough and we love you 💚
This is a very real conversation that needs to be heard by all parents and teens.
My heart breaks for shape shifter, such a lovely person, sold a lie and left with no support or solution 😞
The whole part about the bottom surgery and not being able to have sex, plus the nonexistent libido absolutely killed me. What a trauma to carry.
😢
No libido is common for women on hormonal birth control, we're just expected to put up with it.
The "vagina" these people are left with is basically an open wound.
Not that deep, but I'm sure it's an annoyance.
@@Vran4743 I find it very deep. This is something most people take for granted, one of the basic joys in life. Forgive the comparison, but i compare it to people who cannot enjoy solid foods anymore. You are forced to miss out on one of the most basic joys in life, forever. The things that makes life worth living....
"This is like a sexual lobotomy. This is the lobotomy of the 21st century". That about sums it up. The whole medical experiment is monstrous! I would posit that the surgery, in and of itself, IS a complication. Much love to you both! Thank you for doing this interview.
Yeah I agree with that comparison as well. I fully believe society will look back on these surgeries with the same bewilderment and flat out disgust as we look back at lobotomies nowadays. How was that allowed to happen? People really thought that was ok? Will be common questions. Guarantee it.
Reminds me of the line from 1984 where the government official tells the protagonist that they are "working on getting rid of the human orgasm entirely," implying that they want it so that people's only energetic outlet is work and devotion to the State.
This is exactly the comparison I made
A lot of people are seeing this now and I hope that at some point these doctors, surgeons and therapist get brought up on charges. Since what they're doing is butchery to solve "social problems" get their money and drop the person into the wild.
@@ExeErdna - They won’t be. Sadly, they were FORCED to conform. I’ve seen videos of folks in Dr’s offices going completely ballistic because “THEY” have been called by the wrong pronoun.
Folks have been forced to conform again their own religious/political beliefs, morals and ethics out of fear of being called a PHOBE.
This literally makes me want to cry. I really pray for her mental healing. The health care industry SUCKS no matter what you identify as. We are made to think some of these professionals care so much about us and our well being and the sad truth is they don’t.
Shape is so incredibly articulate and brilliant. He's got so much to give to the world. Take care and keep your head up x
I miss when people where just androgynous, they were biologically male or female but lived , dressed ,identified as whatever they wanted. I felt so sad that he was going to come on the podcast as non-binary or felt he had to have label at all. He seemed so beautiful and so cool and down to earth , its fine for shape shifter to just be Shape shifter. Society had regressed so much where people feel they need a label to be who they are.
Same !
Its when big pharma & Drs found out they could profit from it.
Exactly, thank you.
damn thanks for putting my thoughts into world... people take me for transphobic when I say there is a reality of being either a man or a woman (except for a tiny percentage of intersex people). Man and Woman mean something. It still is fine for any one to express themselves through mannerism, sexual orientation and fashion as more or less feminine/androgenous. People don't all have to perfectly fit in the typical female or male stereotype. But can we please take this transition/pronoun craze back?
Well said, I couldn't agree more.
I also think that a lot of people look for validation outside of themselves(especially since social media) instead of looking inward.
As a trans guy who doesn’t regret transitioning at all… these conversations are so important to have nowadays.
Thank you for saying that
Isn’t the point to not view yourself as a guy? I’m honestly confused.
@@TayTerTottiez I dunno, it's weird. They're not fooling anyone
@@TayTerTottiez I think this person is female to male, not male to female like Blaire. So that's why they want to be seen as a guy.
@@birdenthusiastg5570 ah I see see that’s just overly confusing to me because it’s almost like he was just into a fetish not actually on the right track inside of his understanding of who he was.
This is why years of therapy before transitioning would be good
i am so proud of him for speaking out and saying "that's bullshit" "you were not born in the wrong body"
"You don't have to change a fucking thing about yourself for anyone else".......Best advice EVER. No matter what your situation is, that advice covers it. Outside influence and pressure is what fucks people up more than anything else. What does your heart and your gut say to you? THAT should take priority over anyone else's idea or perception of who you should be. At the end of the day, when the door closes behind you, you are one with your heart and soul, don't let anyone else take that from you and decide what is best for you.
I worked as a nurse at the University of Miami Hospital (UMH)l for 5 years. I worked in the SICU - Surgical ICU 3yrs. We call it "The Frankenstein Unit". I had to care for MANY trans patients with surgeries gone way bad. Many of them coming from other countries. They are in such pain mentally and physically
I honestly think after having to care for these people it is medical malpractice and evil to perform these surgeries. God bless this brave soul for sharing his story.
Please share your stories, ITs important to share how the medical community has abused trans individuals. This is exactly like the 21st century lobotomy,,,Sexual Lobotomy
Thank you for speaking out.
I almost cried when I heard this story. I just had peritoneal penile vaginoplasty at Kamol Hospital in Thailand and it has been nothing short of amazing, with none of the complications Shapeshifter has experienced. I wonder how their experience would have been different if they also had full depth, full sensation, and a naturally lubricating vaginal canal as I have. If they want a revision to restore all these things, I recommend Kamol Hospital. It’s not too late, many girls go there for revisions and are very very happy. So it’s inaccurate to say science/surgery is not capable of helping trans women achieve the body they desire. My vagina/vulva is wonderful and I am now complete.
This, of course, is completely apart from the mental issues Shspeshifter suffers from.
@@jnorman1530 How long ago did you go to Kamol Hospital for the surgery? Any concern with coming back to the USA and having complications?
@@alextalionis944 I'm curious too
All the stupid Blaire White is canceled videos can kiss my ass. She’s been making good, deep, thought content that brings other perspectives for a long and consistent amount of time. Everyone makes mistakes. But her videos are so valuable. She may not be a “yes person” for an echo chamber but her videos are important to many aspects. Value having different perspectives and being willing to listen to all perspectives.
I totally agree..
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When I first saw Blaire's videos I thought she was a natural born woman.
I wonder if the animosity towards her from the Trans community is jealousy?
Not only is Blaire beautiful, she is very sensible and emotionally mature.
Things like bottom surgery NEED talking about, Detransitioning is becoming more common, and there will be many other people suffering like Shape.
Everyone should look up standard of care and guidelines in transitioning if you actually care like you’re pretending to. You don’t though. You just need to now use these 2 evil bitches to spread more hate against trans people. No doctor is performing a surgery because you walk in one day wanting to transition. These people are vetted immensely and will always have a therapist in the works for months. Also, the study she sites is really pathetic if you read thru it. It’s like saying heart failure patients die from their blood pressure medicine. No, they just have heart failure and are at a higher risk of death! Saying trans people (an at-risk for suicide population) die from suicide AS COMPARED TO CIS PPL AFTER SURGERY is very moronic and a terrible conclusion to form. That number would’ve been much worse had they compared trans people WITHOUT having completed surgery - as evidenced by many studies. I honestly think she’s just mad because she got botched and now has to lead a sexless, sad, conservative lifestyle. I think she’s an evil bitch arming conservatives with nonsense talking points and a ridiculous study. I’m a physician btw. Osteoporosis and scoliosis are both chronic in nature and do not simply appear after transitioning. Supplementing estrogen actually helps with calcium absorption and bone building.
Agreed, I don’t even always agree with her, but that what makes the content valuable in my opinion
I'm straight not heartless. My heart genuinely goes out to people like this. Y'all are in my prayers.
Body dysmorphia vs gender dysphoria! Amazing point Blaire! That’s why I think therapy (non-gender affirming therapy but actual therapy) can help individuals work through some other underlying conditions (depression, anxiety, etc) AND help them decipher for themselves if they truly have gender dysphoria or possibly body dysmorphia which is actually super common in adolescent girls. Then that person can make an informed decision for themselves of whether or not they would like to proceed with these procedures
I’m a straight female and this was such an eye opening video. Thank you for sharing your story and just know that even straight conservative people care and are empathic to your community. I hope then more people decide not to get this surgery.
This was my thoughts as well. There are many conservatives who will embrace de transition folks and provide support. Their honesty is so brave and so necessary.
I hope Shape Shifter is opened up to a new support system.
@@naturegazer6749Their message needs to be heard. The medications and surgeries don't have enough trials . It's literally "practicing" medicine...
Especially for children. Not only testosterone and estrogen but especially IMHO the puberty blockers. That means 11 year olds are prescribed the medications that sterilize them amongst other horrors. These doctors who prescribe these meds for children need to have their license taken away immediately
Glad you said that. ❤
@@naturegazer6749 if. XD c f
Same here.
The laugh because of stress is so accurate. People who are stressed usually try to show the opposite for others, in this way we do not get the pitty reaction. I am so sorry for you. Such an amazing human being.
Yes it’s a defense mechanism most likely trying not to cry I know that’s why I do it I just wanted to hug him 😢
It’s annoying ash bro laughs in a raspy voice every min😐
@@Butters18001is that really what you were hearing the entire time he was pouring his soul out???? You should pray and try to get in touch with your heart, and God. This man is suffering, and that laugh was him trying not to make Claire feel the need to suffer with him... everyone does that when they are hurting because off something they themselves did, so are trying not to exhibit self pity, when they know it was their decisions that looked them to this point. I have so much compassion for him....
I am praying for him, because only Jesus can help him to heal from all of this trauma and accept himself.
@@Butters18001😒
Yeah. The breaks of nervous laughter were killing me. 😫
This level of honesty and common sense is highly needed and appreciated.
He's beautiful, in and out. That made me sad. I'm blown away by that conversation.
“I wish somebody would have just hugged me as a child.”😢😭
My son who is 11 has a friend, a little girl; she has told him and her other friends that she is trans. I know that this baby girl has had lots of trauma in her young life, she’s been talking lately of surgery and transitioning… AT 11 YEARS OLD!?😭 Leave the children alone! Thank you both for this real talk.
That is so tragic. 😥
Yeah its terrifying what we are doing to kids as a society rn, its insanity that we have to get to a point of thousands of kids suffering from their past decisions to see that it was a mistake 😔
I've seen that sometimes young girls want to transition (not only because female puberty is like getting hit by a semi-truck. One day you're playing soccer with the boys and the next day you're being looked at differently and have unwanted attention from people and you don't "feel right" in your own body.) Because of trauma from their past. I've seen a couple people say they wanted to transition because of sexual abuse and that they felt like they could take back their power by being a man. I've also seen a video on the destruction of feminity and how we're telling young girls that feminity isn't powerful in its own way and that you should aspire to be more masculine.
It's all so sad since it's resulting in permanent mutilation and sometimes they don't even realize it until after the damage has already been done.
@@user-tn2pz7ze2o this is all so true!!! It pisses me off that "neo" feminism is basically telling girls to embrace masculine qualities to "empower" themselves. I feel it's all an attempt to drive women away from the power of divine femininity. Because it is divine. We create life, we nurture the next generation, we can bring men to their knees. But trying to be more like men does the opposite.
@@user-tn2pz7ze2o I know girls who were anorexic/bulimic and essentially they had been in traumatic sexual situations and they didn’t want to grow up. They saw being anorexic as a way of keeping power over their body and also by being underweight they thought they would get less attention from a sexual point of view. I mean this understanding has come about after years of searching to find out why they did what they did etc and then they finally understood! Puberty is so tough on girls. Girls that are like eleven years old getting stared at by grown men just because they have boobs is a really hard thing for girls to understand/cope with. Then if you have bad periods 😩
42:00 Blair, there's nothing wrong with not knowing what it is like to be an actual woman, there's something wrong with claiming you do when you don't. That's why you are watchable. Because you are honest and don't gaslight women and say you are exactly the same as us.
It takes emotional intelligence
Exactly. Blaire not being biologically female isn’t something I hold against her. As Blaire has said before she wouldn’t have it any other way and she’s ok with being a transwoman. It’s part of the reason why she has a major female following, because Blaire doesn’t gaslight as you said.
you can say female instead of "actual woman". she's a woman, just a trans one.
Well said!! Probably the best comment I’ve read!! Why do people do this gaslighting shit? So crazy!!
@@EmmaxoOCE Yep. A lot of tran/swomen just kinda give me the vibe of a mansplaining man, but in a wig.
Just because you pop estrogen doesn't give you a pass to be a misogynist. You were raised male, your misogyny will be treated as male misogyny.
I don’t understand how they let these sort of sad stories happen?? When having cosmetic surgery, they have to tell you the down sides but something so impactful as this, they don’t! 😱. Shapes, sending you all love and healing ❤️❤️
The fact that there is so little information for bio women out there about the effects of estrogen during menopause, I can't even imagine what it's like for these folks....so sorry you have gone through this living hell. Welcome to the world of medicine for women.
Truly one of the best interviews I've ever seen. As a straight, white, and conservative male I love this approach to sharing information that needs to be heard. I hate that it is perceived as "transphobic" to discuss the reality of making lifelong medical decisions.
I too hate that anything not 100% in line with allowing medical transitioning for anyone who wants it, including young children, in perceived as “transphobic”. I am to the point that I will gladly take the label of being “transphobic” in order to stand against the insanely horrifying & abusive push onto children & teens that they can just “be” whatever gender they want (including made up genders that don’t even exist) & can make such serious decisions like blockers, & surgery that is IRREVERSIBLE.
If being against that is transphobic, then I guess that’s exactly what I am 🤷🏻♀️
@vee Are you 'speaking up' against transition as a general principle or teens taking hormones & having irriversable surgeries?
Agreed
One of the best, most meaningful and impactful interviews I've ever seen
you're right i am not a conservative or liberal however i also dislike that it is perceived as transphobic to discuss a very physical and consequential reality.
@@iiovlay in the modern lexicon the suffix phobia has come to umbrella a number of sociological phenomena such as "homophobia". ultimately the suffix is used to demonstrate 1. an irrational fear and 2. prejudice and discrimination based on this irrational fear. Hope that helps your understanding ! xo
What an amazingly strong individual this person is, and I am so sad for him to have gone through so much unnecessary pain & drama & sadness. So brave of him to be able to speak his truth & warn others about the dangers of this surgery.
I think it’s really important to hear stories of people who regret transitioning. It’s not transphobic. I am 100% behind anyone who wants to transition. Be who you want to be to be happy. It’s none of my business but I think it should be a long process because it’s not something you can just easily take back. In order to fully understand something you need to look at both sides. The good and the bad .
I hate when people say that detransitioners detract from the trans movement. It’s not true. The fact is people who decide to detransition are still very much a part of the trans community and it’s SO important that we lift these people up and hear their story.
Trans people only have a problem wirh detransitioners when they try and ban transioning as a whole cause realistically they are the 99% of people statically are happy with gender affirming care. It's like saying you had botched plastic surgery therefore all plastic surgery is bad. Or you had a bad doctor so therefore all doctors are bad
Amen
100% Agree and detransitioning should be studied to provide better Aftercare, treatments etc
Vivem lutando contra o preconceito, mas são preconceituosas, falam que as pessoas podem ser o que quiserem, mas quando alguém quer destransicionar não pode, que absurdo
i agree, their story is just as important as everyone else’s. it’s their reality, and they should be allowed to turn to the community, tell their story without being ostracized or ridiculed
The saddest part of this whole film is the sad little laughs every time Shapeshifter says something really traumatic or painful. I feel so sorry for him - he's been so badly let down by the so-called doctors and the whole stupid "affirmation only" policy.
And isn't it ridiculous that it costs MORE to have detransition surgery than it does to have transitional surgery!
Yup there will be more. I found d quite a few of these horror stories on UA-cam.
The laughs are sobs, yes!
She’s clearly traumatized. It’s so sad to watch, she needs a hug first and foremost
@@toiletseatscholar78 link? Title?
@@THEEck5000 Just type in Transgender Horror Stories, or sentences of this nature and you will find plenty....I would have my kids watch these before ever considering transitioning. This particular interview is really thought provoking.
This is such an impactful story; he deserves a big hug, I hope he now has a good support group full of love. I'm sorry that he had to go through all this with no one really caring for his mental health only seeing someone vulnerable who could be misguided into spending all that money on procedures that he didn't need.
My hearts go out to people dealing with this negatively. I appreciate hearing this story. Hopefully you can reach the people that need to hear this. I pray there’s justice from dealing with any abusive doctors too.
My heart really goes out to him :( when he said (yesterday) that he wished someone had just given him a hug and told him it was okay, that's heartbreaking. It's a travesty no one had done that
Yes he seems like such a vulnerable person and he was clearly swept up in all this gender woo woo as a result.
When he said that i seriously choked up, had to really fight back the tears
@@heleninglis9961 same here :(
It’s sad but trust and believe he would have called anyone who tried to reach a PHOBE! He only says that because he’s seen the light. Sadly, it’s too late to undo what he’s done physically.
I’m glad he’s sharing. Sadly, everyone has to have their own revelations.
@@thatbemefool exactly. We are being silenced, everybody is screeching "kill the terfs", "punch a terf" and yet, we are right all along.
I am sorry for him, but also furious -- we will never have our apologies for thousands of threats and hatred.
For many people it's going to be informative and possibly life saving
it´s life saving for sure!
@@edgarmarafuga143 I've been here from the start, still watching and... I just hope that at least one person will see this and maybe take the steps and work through the questions that Shape Shifter now asks themself every damn day. Just use a little cognitive effort and not entirely rely on what everyone else is telling them.
I almost cried when I heard this story. I just had peritoneal penile vaginoplasty at Kamol Hospital in Thailand and it has been nothing short of amazing, with none of the complications Shapeshifter has experienced. I wonder how their experience would have been different if they also had full depth, full sensation, and a naturally lubricating vaginal canal as I have. If they want a revision to restore all these things, I recommend Kamol Hospital. It’s not too late, many girls go there for revisions and are very very happy. So it’s inaccurate to say science/surgery is not capable of helping trans women achieve the body they desire. My vagina/vulva is wonderful and I am now complete.
This, of course, is completely apart from the mental issues Shspeshifter suffers
For real
Yes but as much as he says he wished someone had warned him, he admits he was too brainwashed and determined to listen. Hopefully this does wake up some people not to take such drastic measures though...
This conversation is so raw and so important. To have patients ignored or blamed because their doctors don't want this included in the data points or it doesn't push the current narrative is malpractice worthy, in my opinion. Unsuccessful surgical outcomes are as important, if not more so, than successful outcomes because every outcome needs to be studied to give the entire picture, especially if something went wrong.
It’s so good to have these videos. Especially for parents to show to their kids before they make a move to get surgeries done.
Heartbreaking. My spouse is a psychologist and works with men who wish to transition. He said he is going to have them watch this powerful interview. Thank you, Shapeshifter.
Thank you, Blaire.
What is the solution? Then? For someone who is truly trans?
Then he's a good psychologist; providing your patients ALL information in the matter is key to them making a real informed decision. If someone makes a decision on something without knowing the all the potential consequences (pros/cons), then they made a manipulated "decision".
@@tarcisiasiniscalchi6641
They need to be fully educated on all the possible risks BEFORE making any permanent changes to their bodies and as Blair's guess said, no doctor checked on his past trauma as a kid, which would have provided a lot of answers as to why he wanted to "transition" in the first place.
@@tarcisiasiniscalchi6641 then theyll be completely sure that they are trans. Someone who isnt, will reconsider. Blaire is happy with her decision, yet she didnt get the bottom surgery. Its good that theyre talking about this because Shapshifter maybe would be happier had he kept his penis. It damaged his sex life permanently and thats important in a persons life… its information that needs to be shared.
@@emmanuelking9988 the part were he says they told him he needed to transition because he liked feminine things. I remember liking boy toys and activities and I was told multiple times, “thats
For boys!”
Eventually i wanted to transition because id finally be able to do stuff that for my culture, was only for boys… as a thirty yr old, I am glad I realized im just a woman that enjoys different activities… i dont want to be a man
Proper psychological help is a must before the permanent changes to someones body and life
At 49:00 "The essence of a woman has been reduced to the extraction of synthetic estrogen and that's a false reductionist way of thinking. That is dangerous"
That's powerful statement right there
@@rebeccarambo2893 And you've interviewed everyone in the world on this subject?
@@rebeccarambo2893 I don’t mean to be tried but I have heard many trans activist say
That D transitioning was extremely rare. That’s not what I’m seeing. And the medical problems that this person had sustained is truly catastrophic. For this reason, I do not believe children can give informed consent. I’m all for live and let live and if someone has dysphoria so severe that they need to present as the opposite gender, I’m fine with that. My issue is children
This is so sad! I hate how people, especially young people, are being lied to. I hope more people come forward and share the realities of sex change surgery.
Man alive I learned a lot watching this! ShapeShifter has been through so much but I think he will be able to help so many. Thanks for having him on
It’s not informed consent when people don’t have all the information. These stories need to be told
This happens in literally every modality of modern healthcare. Doctors usually don't keep up on the latest advancements and research in their fields, they simply follow the currently accepted prescription/treatment plans until enough people are harmed to file class action lawsuits.
There’s level to consent now ?.
@@Ozzierob 'Informed consent' is a medical term that means your doctor tells you all of the known risks and benefits to the procedure or medication that you're considering. It basically doesn't happen - ever - but it's supposed to, always.
I agree with you! They are being misled in the name of money! Thinking they're going to have a wonderful life after they trans over... it will solve all their problems! And then when they experience problems the doctors don't want anything to do with them! We need to hear the good the ugly and the bad! ✌🏻✌🏻
40:10 I’m glad you mentioned that part. About dressing as a charicature of a woman. Most women don’t look like Jessica Rabbit. The average woman doesn’t always have a full face of makeup, hair done up, slinky dress and high heels. When I see videos of trans women that is almost always the look they are trying to achieve. They don’t go for the casual look. They go for the over sexualized glamorous look.
I am a new subscriber and this is my first interview I have watched and my heart is so heavy after hearing this. There has to be more that we can do to keep this from happening to other people. Please keep telling your story. So many people and children need to hear this truth. Stay strong.
I can’t even imagine the feeling of pain associated with that kind of regret.
"I wish someone hugged me and told me you can present feminine..." These words need to be on posters for all to see.
Brilliant interview. Thank you.
I love how Shape says how they went from a bottom to a Top. It is so true that your sexuality changes over your lifetime. I had a similar experience of going from a bottom to a switch.
What is a bottom?
@@cynthiaagadamaga465 someone who receives instead of gives during sex
@@cynthiaagadamaga465your the more submissive one? If that makes sense or your the one on the bottom when it comes to having sex
This conversation was needed and was here for the whole story! God bless and be with you both! I loved this
The saddest part of this is that vulnerable people are left to deal with the after affects of these surgeries… It’s heart breaking
Facts 💯
Yes. And when they regret it later, they shunned and bullied the same people who once called them stunning and brave.
@@aevenova9780 Amen, my friend...not to mention that the -QT+ "community" also dismissed others (re: the people who had previously encountered serious problems & disappointment with their own transitions, & thus they tried to warn 'Shape Shifter' about the dangers of doing so beforehand) as merely being "tranny chasers" (SS's own terminology, btw) who wanted 'him' to remain male, rather than transition...freaking malevolent, sociopathic liars & hypocrites...
Yes…. and going into surgery thinking that after they are gonna be able to have a normal sex life. It’s so awful.
Semi relevant here: I had a bunion surgery at 15 and another one at 19… My entire body is different from those surgeries and I am now 31. I was even told to never do a stand up job again, work out different, move different, wear different shoes for the rest of my life or risk injury (Not because of the bunions alone, but the reason they formed isn’t something that can be fixed).
It is insane to me how such a simple and technically “small“ surgery still has so many affects on my body and forever will, yet we are allowing children to drastically change their bodies natural inclination. STOP their puberty, introduce hormones their bodies are NOT built to handle, and permanently change their body parts. My gait is different, joints are different, stability and general mobility is different. Just from simple foot surgery. TRANS SURGERY AND HRT IS NO JOKE AND ITS NOTHING TO DO IN THE HEAT OF THE MOMENT.
Spiral fractured fibula/ severe sprain of the ankle: 2 surgeries to correct it & I have a fallen arch, a deformation in the ankle itself (due to the fallen arch) & permanent nerve damage (pain, burning & numbness) from the incisions).
Fractured clavicle: 1 surgery (so far) to correct it & I have permanent nerve damage (pain, burning & numbness) from the incision.
I cannot fathom WHY anyone would wish to voluntarily go under the knife for anything except physical medical necessity.
Good to know because that’s something I have considered before
@@BM-fz9yc I can honestly say that in my case it was necessary because they were really bad long before I had the surgeries. The reason that they were bad was because my tendon has just about zero stretch. It is rock solid literally. So I had to get it done, but because my tendon still is essentially all but immobile, The stretch on it due to the bunion ectomy‘s has caused pull in other areas. If you have bunions due to age, because you wear heels a lot, but you have pretty decent mobility in your tendon (a good way to check is sit in a squatting position with your toes pointed straight out, if your heels touch the floor you’re good) Bunionectomy, definitely go for it because bunions can cause a lot of issues. I never had that mobility in a crouched position, and I still don’t, so while the bunionectomy helped in some areas it has changed everything I mentioned before
@@d.l831 I need to get bunion surgery at some point but I was looking into less invasive types of them. I'm 22. I have had bunions form because my muscles in my leg are tight and i have flat feet or whatever. the doctor said I need o get the tendon released too I've always been nervous about the surgery because I was wondering about working and everything because I work in the food industry, that's what I went to school for. so I have always pushed t back but the pain has gotten worse, but the bunions haven't gotten much bigger because of me being proactive about taking are of my feet.
Try sapien medicine channel on UA-cam.
Thank you for having this conversation. I’m crying and praying for healing. We just have to love ourselves and each other for the unique individuals we are. ❤
Wow your guest has been through a lot. I’m glad your shedding light of this topic. Many people just need someone to talk to that can help them appreciate themselves as they are. Learning to be patient and also like your guest said think critically about things that have life long ramifications is so important. Most people go through so many changes mentally and physically during puberty and in to their 20s. However with age, increased knowledge, life experience we become more confident in who are and more self aware. And so it’s very understandable that many people end up regretting changing elements of themselves irreversibly.
I love how Blair interviews she doesn't interrupt she knows when to listen and when to chime in.
She’s definitely a really good interviewer and interviewee.
She is really good, I've always been so impressed by Blaire
She really mastered this
I feel like Blair made a new friend here.
This is so sad. 10, 15 years ago we hated labels. Now people are labeling not only themselves, but others. Thank you both for sharing this conversation, I wish more people would see you for the important voices you are.
Yes! Living without any labels was a dream but now kids telling that those labels definds a person and let them explore their true identity. wtf
I just adore shapeshifters laugh and his work and experience are no longer in vain. Thank you and Blair for this.
I just listened to this entire video and I fully intended to fall asleep to it but I just couldn't. I was so engaged listening to Shapeshifter talk and how you just chimed in once in a while.. I cant believe how good of a listener you are and how articulate Shape is. Im going to go follow him right now and I am officially subscribing to you too! My feed has shown you so many times lately because I always stop and watch! I should have known I should'a just subbed from the first video hahah! Thank you to you both for your honesty and openness.
I transitioned at the age of 20 and came to the realization that trans-sex is as non-existent as trans-age, trans-race or trans-eye-color. You can't change biology. I pass as a women but I now know that I'm a feminine man and that it s beautiful thing. Please be careful, don't hurt your perfectly healthy bodies. Feminine men and masculine women are amazing.
I had friends ask if i ever considered getting surgery, then were shocked when i would ask "for what?" I grew up sorta walking the middle line in feminine and masculine traits and interests. I wanted to play in the mud and roughhouse, but i also wanted to put on a princess dress to do so. Had i ever transitioned i would have been miserable, personally. I am a woman and i am comfortable being a woman. Thank you for validating mine, and so many others, experiences. Feminine men and masculine women are indeed amazing 💕
im a transwoman and id still call myself a woman. im a biological male but im a woman
@@shashamiaow1504 No, you're not.
oh and btw you are just a feminine man. if you are trans, you would be having gender dysphoria unless you do surgery on your body. dont equate your case with everybody
You should sue those people enabling that.
His nervous laughter is both endearing and so sad. My heart really hurts for him. This was a great interview, Blaire.
I'm sorry this happened to her too. She seems like such a nice person.
This was a great interview. Its great to see shape shifter on here. His story is important. These two deserve their popularity. They are open and honest
this really hits home. i am a detrans woman and lesbian, and just the similarities while detransitioning as well as transitioning is...insane. there are SO many similarities that play out between men detransitioning and women detransitioning. not everything is the same, clearly. but just listening to him speak, the emotion, the regrets, this all speaks to me.
thank you for doing detransitioning stories. we often get shut down, called transphobic, our stories don't matter, we were never True Trans so we actually don't know anything, yadda yadda. but this allows us to get it out there, hopefully helping others from making the same regrets a lot of us have.
Because the root of this evil is mysogyny and homophobia.
What is very worrying, a woman on the scene said ''Lesbians are all Transing~ out''.... When I was young, ''Butch'' lesbians were just normal... but now it seems getting hormones and surgery is the way to go. Physically harmful to bones.
Sending you so much love 💛
Sorry you weren't trans to begin with, we need to keep saying you need gender dysphoria to be trans, this is why there is so many detransitioners
What’s crazy is if doctors and others weren’t influencing young people to transition in the first place then there wouldn’t even be as many people de transitioning. As a mother it makes me so angry that it’s literally being pushed on children
This is MOST disturbing. The doctors should be held accountable.
How about holding trans activists accountable?
@@silaslizzie43 The people who blatantly ignore the most basic of biological facts.
I watched just a part of it and i am overwhelmed by the honesty of your guest, for the openness and details that are never talked about. I feel so sad to hear your guest talking about the problematic consequences, health related specifically and the rest, my heart hurts. But someone had to talk about it out loud to save others. I admire the courage to put yourself out on the internet and going into intimate details in order to prevent and warn others to not repeat mistakes, that is altruistic!
People who are different, feel different are accepted but people trying to force others accepting a lie is never going to be tolerated, this direction leads to dictatorships and endangers a whole society.
The nervous laugh and how detached is speaking of the problems, makes me think the guest suffers of depression and is taking medication; i cried hearing these things.
Thank you so very much for sharing the details of your journey. It is so important for people, esp. young ppl to hear your experiences. Esp. when you are already so vulnerable and met doctors (who you thought you could trust) not knowing their lack of skilled training. Then the lack of follow-up...so many complicated issues that truly deserve time. God loves you! Miracles happen. Keep seeking the quality care you deserve.
It’s heartbreaking hearing them laugh nervously after describing trauma. People pleasing always 😞
I always do that like nervous laugh at everything trauma related. It's like a nervous that you can't stop doing. It's like I can't change the past I can't get back what I lost so all I can instead of going crazy is kinda laugh at it. Crying about doesn't seem to help me lol people think it's weird that I'm like nervous little laugh after things most people wouldn't do that.
This person is speaking hard, honest, beautiful truths. All youth's should watch this interview.
yesss...in the school and before and after the drag shows...at least...but i hope they will be forbidden soon as adult content.
@lemonssssssss4 true! and how long the decision process take place in reality and not after a drag queen show in school or boys wearing girl cloths...i also loved to take my brothers when i was a kid..this dont means anything!!!
I am so glad I am seeing these videos. It is very concerning that kids and adults are being pushed to make these decisions. Never being able to have children or even have an orgasm is so unbelievably sad to think about.
Being a biological woman with low testosterone my entire life....I can only imagine just how hard this is. I know I've suffered from NO sex drive and no energy my entire adulthood. Now that I'm hitting menopause I feel completely dead. I really feel for what you all go for. I agree, why can't we all just wear what we want to? Be the individuals we should be?
I really appreciate he admits that he doesn't know what it is like to be a woman... He knew what it was like to be a man on estrogen. I love his honesty! We need to create a space for transwomen to just be transwomen so they arent trying to be real women. The body mutilation stories are so sad!! My god, it is so horrible.
The other thing that is causing problems is biological men in women's sports and pageants. If this were to stop, transpeople would have so much more support from women.
"Hair and makeup doesn't make you a woman." It's sad that this is what need to hear now. Shapeshifter has been failed by so many people.
This is a remarkable interview - very straightforward, honest, and revealing. Thanks for all the detail - everyone needs to hear this
Both Blair and Shapeshifter are beautiful. Not just physically but in their personality. I can’t relate to being transgender but as an almost 60 year old woman I can understand feeling like I wasn’t beautiful enough. Finally as I approach 60 I am learning to accept myself. I am thankful to Blair and Shapeshifter for being open about their struggles. I want only the best for both of them.
physically, blaire might be. the other person is absolutely not. stop lying
@@booperdee2 no one cares what your sorry ass finds physically beautiful
It's never too late 🙂
I gotta say, I am absolutely jealous of Blaire’s beautiful hair, considering it’s natural despite the extensions 🥲
@A Don't sell yourself so short. You are beautiful too. Clearly your husband thinks you are because he helped you create your child, and that in itself is beautiful.
Tragic. Need more stories like this to be available so these confused kids can understand exactly how big a decision it is and how bad the consequences can get. You can always get the surgery. You can't fully reverse it. That decision can wait.
Oh Blair thank god for you for platforming this man , his story needs to be heard ! And yes Blair THIS WAS ONE OF THE MOST POWERFUL VIDEOS IVER EVER WATCHED / this is a real person , we need to crowd fund and start an INDEPENDENT INVESTIGATION DOCUMENTARIES TO EXPOSE THIS SHIT