Great video and great message. This message is so vital especially with the divorce rates still rising. Put immigration,economic hardships, wars and criminal promiscuity and you have a ticking time bomb and a generation of bpd sufferers. I dated a lady that had a daughter that grew up without a dad and has bpd. This was the most painful experience that I have encountered. This problem made me go in psychology and am currently doing my masters. I have empathy for these wonderful people and would love to help them. My thinking on the causes is in line with this video. Also Pink sounds like she has bpd
Yep I tested with a small amount of bpd and borderline tendencies my mom is a borderline enfj it’s been rough but im happy im taking responsibility for myself which is very hard to do for some people with the disorder. But I do find myself looking at other men a lot unfortunately also got into fights and caused a lot of drama in my teens as well. Parents are divorced but I try to keep a good relationship with them both and forgive. Dad is also my same type an enfp and sister is intj lol.
I think that’s a huge plus that you are connected with your MBTI type. That’s awesome and can be difficult for many borderlines to connect with- so perhaps you have tendencies but not the hardships of a full disorder. Keep working at it. We all have struggles and challenges in life and it sounds like you’re doing a great job healing and making your life the best it can be.
Daddy (a good, decent man) goes to work everyday leaving the baby with her (religious fanatic) mother. Each day the poor baby feels abandoned to a harsh, judgmental situation. Baby grows up with intense fear of abandonment, as well as a badly battered sense of self…. Finally she chooses romantic partners that are 25 or 30 years older than she is and passes through a series of intense, unstable relationships, each break-up marked by delusional fears of being left alone - BPD exploding everywhere.
My issues are many and run so deep but as I've been told so many times when I try to express myself that I'm only throwing pity parties I just don't bother anymore.. These are my demons .,I don't fight them anymore now we just cuddle.
Juniper Moontree It sounds like instead of fighting against things you cannot change, you are reaching a point of acceptance which believe it or not could be The beginning of you healing. I would suggest focusing on small areas that you can work on to begin healing. Thanks for commenting and I wish you the best.
Also I really love your message not just because it's good overall but I believe fathers are just as important also.. If they weren't then we wouldn't have as much issues in society as we do.. It goes back far in history I'm sure.. the misconception that daddy doesn't need to be there, he's just a seed and a wallet/facility
The world does not need any more people with bpd! We, especially in the USA, need to talk about Mental illnesses more, get it out in the open and be more conscience and empathetic about people who suffer from mental illness and how it negatively effects their loved ones.
Thank you for this video. Hypothetically, if a depressed and anxious mother took care of an infant (the father = absent), could BPD arise in that child following a break between that child and father in teenage years? The child and father grew close after he started coming home more often, then he shattered her trust in her teenage years - causing a sort of abandonment crisis.
So sorry to hear that. It could definitely trigger it if the foundation or genetics are already there. But it can be tricky to diagnose teenagers because a great majority of them act out because their hormones are also going bananas to help them phase into adulthood. Prayers for healing.
Is possible that a person can have cured themselves without therapy? Also do you have a condition C-PTSD (complex post traumatic syndrome) in the states and If so how do you differentiate between this and BPD?
Kasandra I do think it's possible for someone to cure themselves with a lot of hard work and an understanding of the different components of the disorder. Healing is a long process. I think it would be extremely rewarding for those who can. I've heard of C-PTSD. I'm not sure how knowledgeable people are about it here in the states. However, to me borderline is borderline. But understanding the concept of CPTSD can help gain a deeper understanding of bpd and the trauma of having it which can lead to more healing which is the ultimate goal. Not sure that I completely buy into the concept though although I think it is helpful. I really need to study it more. What is your opinion of it? Is it very prevalent where you are from?
Tams PsychAdvice Idk.. C-PTSD/complex trauma at least is probably common everywhere because abuse is happening everywhere in some shape or form.. if it's not at home then it's bullying are school/ work etc or both I'm of the opinion that BPD is extremely common.. because so many ppl walk over other ppl to get where they want and conveniently "forget" or actually forget.. I've come across a lot of ppl who lie very easily, even when it's not necessary.. I've seen them show affective empathy too though.. not being glib and pretending to be compassionate.. if it is an act then they should win a freaking Oscar lol I don't go out of my way to hurt anyone.. if anything I'm too concerned.. I've tried to stop that too though because I've become agoraphobic from it a few times I've got ADHD ASD various kinds of anxiety but the situational kind never leaves me.. pretty sure I've got OCD in some form.. I've had Persistent Depressive Disorder since I was about 5.. I know I've got abandonment issues but I don't feel strongly about everything.. I don't get angry at the drop of a hat.. not internally or externally.. I accumulate things for way too long.. I let a lot of things go like a healthy person but the things that do stick.. a long period of time will go by and if more and more is added to the pile.. constantly.. after way too long and I break and the other person is stunned.. because Idk how to set boundaries or raise an issue or see it as pointless because I've known for a fact that a person can outright lie to my face.. whether it's just us 2 in the room or in front of a bunch of other ppl.. so usually it's not like I haven't tried with this person.. a few times even..
Tams PsychAdvice I'm only just coming to understand what BPD is somewhat.. only from trying to figure out other ppl in my life and I do have abandonment issues.. I don't feel strongly about everything though.. I have to be in a certain situation.. I don't lie not unless it's a white lie to get out of something nor tend to forget if I've hurt someone.. if anything I've screwed myself up further because I couldn't stop ruminating about it.. I have some other conditions which frustrate ppl .. so add social anxiety etc to failure etc and bad concoction.. I don't exactly have "the gift of the gab' ..I'm not the type ppl gravitate to like my mum who has a lot of BPD traits.. I feel like she has next to no self awareness and I'm painfully self aware ..I don't anger at the drop of a hat and I prefer the truth rather than being humoured.. I don't think that someone doesn't love me if they disagree with me about something and am capable of agreeing to disagree and if they prove me wrong in an argument I can admit it right there and am capable of apologizing and been told I apologize to ppl too much by a few ppl.. I don't go out of my way to hurt others.. don't climb any social ladders.. can't even sell products at the spa I work at, I'd be fired if it was anywhere else.. my threshold is probably extremely delayed if anything..I sometimes process things much later.. I've literally only realized what somebody meant by what they said like 2/3yrs after they said it lol.. I was like Adam Sandlers character from Anger Management and last few years I realized I actually have a lot of deep seated anger and it's reared it's ugly head in public x2.. it's not me normally.. and I'm pretty ashamed and feel really guilty about it as I should
Great video and great message. This message is so vital especially with the divorce rates still rising. Put immigration,economic hardships, wars and criminal promiscuity and you have a ticking time bomb and a generation of bpd sufferers. I dated a lady that had a daughter that grew up without a dad and has bpd. This was the most painful experience that I have encountered. This problem made me go in psychology and am currently doing my masters. I have empathy for these wonderful people and would love to help them. My thinking on the causes is in line with this video. Also Pink sounds like she has bpd
Yep I tested with a small amount of bpd and borderline tendencies my mom is a borderline enfj it’s been rough but im happy im taking responsibility for myself which is very hard to do for some people with the disorder. But I do find myself looking at other men a lot unfortunately also got into fights and caused a lot of drama in my teens as well. Parents are divorced but I try to keep a good relationship with them both and forgive. Dad is also my same type an enfp and sister is intj lol.
I think that’s a huge plus that you are connected with your MBTI type. That’s awesome and can be difficult for many borderlines to connect with- so perhaps you have tendencies but not the hardships of a full disorder. Keep working at it. We all have struggles and challenges in life and it sounds like you’re doing a great job healing and making your life the best it can be.
Thank you for this - explains why I have histrionic PD
danelle grobler you're welcome! Thanks for watching.
Daddy (a good, decent man) goes to work everyday leaving the baby with her (religious fanatic) mother. Each day the poor baby feels abandoned to a harsh, judgmental situation. Baby grows up with intense fear of abandonment, as well as a badly battered sense of self…. Finally she chooses romantic partners that are 25 or 30 years older than she is and passes through a series of intense, unstable relationships, each break-up marked by delusional fears of being left alone - BPD exploding everywhere.
charles bromberick Wow! You painted an amazing picture of how Bpd can form. Thanks for sharing and watching!
My issues are many and run so deep but as I've been told so many times when I try to express myself that I'm only throwing pity parties I just don't bother anymore.. These are my demons .,I don't fight them anymore now we just cuddle.
Juniper Moontree It sounds like instead of fighting against things you cannot change, you are reaching a point of acceptance which believe it or not could be The beginning of you healing. I would suggest focusing on small areas that you can work on to begin healing. Thanks for commenting and I wish you the best.
Nice Job !
Thank you so much lovely this made so much sense xx
Thank you for making this video
Chris Strong You're so welcome. It was something that had been on my heart for a long time so I'm glad you find it helpful.
Also I really love your message not just because it's good overall but I believe fathers are just as important also.. If they weren't then we wouldn't have as much issues in society as we do.. It goes back far in history I'm sure.. the misconception that daddy doesn't need to be there, he's just a seed and a wallet/facility
Kasandra Such a great point. Thanks so much for your support--makes me glad I did this video!
The world does not need any more people with bpd! We, especially in the USA, need to talk about Mental illnesses more, get it out in the open and be more conscience and empathetic about people who suffer from mental illness and how it negatively effects their loved ones.
I love that! So true
True
Andreas Landgren 🙂
Thank you for this video. Hypothetically, if a depressed and anxious mother took care of an infant (the father = absent), could BPD arise in that child following a break between that child and father in teenage years? The child and father grew close after he started coming home more often, then he shattered her trust in her teenage years - causing a sort of abandonment crisis.
So sorry to hear that. It could definitely trigger it if the foundation or genetics are already there. But it can be tricky to diagnose teenagers because a great majority of them act out because their hormones are also going bananas to help them phase into adulthood. Prayers for healing.
@@TamsPsychAdvice Noted. Thank you for the advice and well wishes! Thank you so much for talking about this.
Is possible that a person can have cured themselves without therapy?
Also do you have a condition C-PTSD (complex post traumatic syndrome) in the states and If so how do you differentiate between this and BPD?
Kasandra I do think it's possible for someone to cure themselves with a lot of hard work and an understanding of the different components of the disorder. Healing is a long process. I think it would be extremely rewarding for those who can. I've heard of C-PTSD. I'm not sure how knowledgeable people are about it here in the states. However, to me borderline is borderline. But understanding the concept of CPTSD can help gain a deeper understanding of bpd and the trauma of having it which can lead to more healing which is the ultimate goal. Not sure that I completely buy into the concept though although I think it is helpful. I really need to study it more. What is your opinion of it? Is it very prevalent where you are from?
Tams PsychAdvice Idk.. C-PTSD/complex trauma at least is probably common everywhere because abuse is happening everywhere in some shape or form.. if it's not at home then it's bullying are school/ work etc or both
I'm of the opinion that BPD is extremely common.. because so many ppl walk over other ppl to get where they want and conveniently "forget" or actually forget.. I've come across a lot of ppl who lie very easily, even when it's not necessary.. I've seen them show affective empathy too though.. not being glib and pretending to be compassionate.. if it is an act then they should win a freaking Oscar lol
I don't go out of my way to hurt anyone.. if anything I'm too concerned.. I've tried to stop that too though because I've become agoraphobic from it a few times
I've got ADHD ASD various kinds of anxiety but the situational kind never leaves me.. pretty sure I've got OCD in some form.. I've had Persistent Depressive Disorder since I was about 5..
I know I've got abandonment issues but I don't feel strongly about everything.. I don't get angry at the drop of a hat.. not internally or externally.. I accumulate things for way too long.. I let a lot of things go like a healthy person but the things that do stick.. a long period of time will go by and if more and more is added to the pile.. constantly.. after way too long and I break and the other person is stunned.. because Idk how to set boundaries or raise an issue or see it as pointless because I've known for a fact that a person can outright lie to my face.. whether it's just us 2 in the room or in front of a bunch of other ppl.. so usually it's not like I haven't tried with this person.. a few times even..
Tams PsychAdvice I'm only just coming to understand what BPD is somewhat.. only from trying to figure out other ppl in my life and I do have abandonment issues.. I don't feel strongly about everything though.. I have to be in a certain situation.. I don't lie not unless it's a white lie to get out of something nor tend to forget if I've hurt someone.. if anything I've screwed myself up further because I couldn't stop ruminating about it.. I have some other conditions which frustrate ppl .. so add social anxiety etc to failure etc and bad concoction.. I don't exactly have "the gift of the gab' ..I'm not the type ppl gravitate to like my mum who has a lot of BPD traits.. I feel like she has next to no self awareness and I'm painfully self aware ..I don't anger at the drop of a hat and I prefer the truth rather than being humoured.. I don't think that someone doesn't love me if they disagree with me about something and am capable of agreeing to disagree and if they prove me wrong in an argument I can admit it right there and am capable of apologizing and been told I apologize to ppl too much by a few ppl.. I don't go out of my way to hurt others.. don't climb any social ladders.. can't even sell products at the spa I work at, I'd be fired if it was anywhere else.. my threshold is probably extremely delayed if anything..I sometimes process things much later.. I've literally only realized what somebody meant by what they said like 2/3yrs after they said it lol.. I was like Adam Sandlers character from Anger Management and last few years I realized I actually have a lot of deep seated anger and it's reared it's ugly head in public x2.. it's not me normally.. and I'm pretty ashamed and feel really guilty about it as I should
Hyperbolic Temperament is a distinguishing feature between Borderline Personality Disorder and Mood Dysregulation.