Hustle Culture is Not for Black Women. Why You're Exhausted | Black Girl Creative
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- Hustle Culture is not for Black People. Hustle culture is toxic and Black Women are EXHAUSTED. We Black Girl Creatives should opt out of a life that exhausts us, makes us sick, stresses us out and leaves us with nothing. You are more than what you make, you are worthy because you exist. Hustle and grind culture is a lie and it's not benefiting you. You don't have to earn your rest. You're already worthy.
Choose a life of ease, rest and enjoyment. You don't have to suffer to enjoy your life. If you're designing a life on your own terms, you get to decide what is enough money to thrive in your business, and make a living as an artist and creative. Say no to hustle culture, burnout, overwhelm and grind culture and choose to build a creative business that honors rest, ease, play and pace;
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Great points and outlook. I am so far removed from „The Culture“ because I have been so obscured from it (not always by choice). I choose to walk my own path because it makes me happy. What you said here resonates. It is so important that we remove ourselves from a mentality that we must work to die; live to work. As I transition from my career to my new business, it no longer becomes work because it is becoming a labour of love and contentment. 💪🏾🚚
I totally agree with you there! It definitely is becoming a labor of love for me too. And you're totally right. We are programmed at young ages to live to work... that's not living at ALL. I may do a follow up video on that thing in particular. It's so key! I celebrate you for living a life that is TRULY yours!
@@AleciaRenece Yes!! Please do a follow up and then do it some more. We (as people) tend to take a great idea and run with it, then we run out of breath; complacency. We need reminders to stay the course of independence and fulfilment. 😊🚚
@UCr0EXSQ1e5qPQYJXIn%F0%9F%8C%BA-sgRw Yeeeeeees!!! You are SO RIIIIGHT!!!
Many black women think that all aspects of life have to tough to be worthy.. I'm opting out and doing my own thing
Sadly, this is so true! I'm rejecting that. I want life on easy mode from here on out! I love that! ☺️💛🌺🌻
@@AleciaRenece same here!!
Exactly.
This!
opting out
As a woman in my 50s now who has worked so hard still to not be a millionaire but just to make it, I so resonate with your message. I destroyed my health in the process of taking care of the world and neglecting myself. I am so happy to hear a young person say this and create a new narrative for black women to live into that is more healthy and self-loving. Kudos to you!
“I’m gonna trust that God is going to take care of me.” That part right there!
My mother was a firm believer in taking an easy pace to work and life. She was ahead of her time by "quietly quitting " her work to shore up energy for more important things in life.
I love that so much. 💛
You have to are people will try and talk u out of resting and putting you first. It’s a shame bw have to try and sneak and rest.
To quote the G.O.A.T. Ms Toni Morrison - `You are not the job you do. You’re the person you are.’
LOVE THIS.
I have WFH for four years. I have declined many higher paying jobs because the freedom I have to manage my time is amazing. I take off, travel, and move about without having to stress about it.
Amen! I took a year off after being layed off twice by corporate. I watched Matlock, Mama's Family and MSW. And then......I never went back to corporate...started my own businesses and struggled for a while. And now I finally have a rhythm in my finances that I enjoy and appreciate. I don't do what I don't want to do and everyone around me knows and respects this. I told my adult son....I have never been happier.
I love this so much.
I watch the samething.🤣🤣🤣🤣
What's your business?
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Just a thought, "Hustle and grind" culture is low key the cousin of the "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" idea.....
"Are you living life for you or other people?" "You are more than how productive you are."
Shaunicy!!! Good morning! 💛💛💛 YEEEEEEEEEEES! Exactly. It TRULY IS!!! And that idea, we know, is FALSE. It's a lie. NO ONE has EVER pulled themselves up by their bootstraps. It's such a sad attempt at shaming folks. I reject ALL of that
💕💕💕🌺
And yes!!! Live for YOU! And I try to remind myself of that truth DAILY. 💛
I choose to live my life for me. The sacrifice is cutting out unproductive situations and people that have intrenched themselves into my life. But is it a sacrifice? Happiness is the goal and sometimes it has to hurt a little in order to meet that goal. Here’s to being happy and loving life on our terms. 😊🚚
@@ajisroadtrippin5505 Beautifully said !!! Cheers to that for SURE!!! I'm unapologetic and unrelenting about carving out a life that feels like home to ME, you know? It gets me SO excited!
This is why black women will be at the forefront of the next era. In my experience black women are the main ones who proudly forged their own identity and dgaf what anyone has to say. This is billed as having a bad attitude, but guess what? I have adopted this attitude and it’s what allowed me to finally be free. Society is fake bs. I make my own rules. I also hope more black people look into chaos magic, jazz and funk music. Those arts are about breaking the rules and recreating them to produce a masterpiece. I played jazz and funk and that’s why I also love trap. You can literally talk about whatever you want, rap sing mumble whatever and it still sounds great. Great concepts about how to create your own rules to benefit yourself and others.
I 1000% agree! I knew from my very first job at McDonalds I knew I was not meant to be working on no job. I have always had a job, but I never liked it! I got to a point where I was only taking temp contract jobs so I can work 3 to 6 mos and collect unemployment the rest of the time. I love living on my own term, waking up when I naturally wake AND take naps during the day! lol it's so lovely restful and mentally peaceful 😊
Yeeeeeeeeeees! That's how it is SUPPOSED to be. This culture has us dreaming of working forever... Like living just to work. And it's not natural. Other cultures are very clear about their breaks and siestas and all of that. We are humans, not machines. And I totally feel you. I'm treto design a life where I'm working for what I need to actually THRIVE, then taking that money and LIVING. I don't want a job. And I know that's triggering for a lot of folks... Or they'll say I'm entitled... But really, who wants to slave for the rest of their days??? 💛💛💛
@cantreace M Hey work twin! lol. This is totally my life now. Four months ago I decided no more 9 to 5 corporate jobs( especially after a traumatic experience on my last regular job, I'm sure most black women have gone through). To make it even better, I've made some of the best money I've ever made doing contract work. Idc what any says! I'm definitely not afraid to take leaps and I'm much happier. Especially not being around miserable and wicked people 8hrs a day smh.
I'm glad I am not the only one to feel this way. My first job at 17 working at a flower shop, the very first day, I felt it was unnatural for me to work at a job. I have been working several jobs most of my life. But know, I am content working on my own terms.
As an African believe me it's not for black people period. 😒
I've been decolonizing for MONTHS. Meaning I don't do anything on my days off except bathe, eat & NAP.
I only do the things I want. I let tasks go. I allow time to pass with ZERO plans/agendas to accomplish anything except...
REST.
I'm tired of being told how to do MY LIFE so I unsubscribe from it all.
Every. Single. Philosophy.
I'm now listening to my body, my heart & what my natural, gut instinct tells me.
"Hustle and grind" is a metaphor for exploitation.
Yessss
Slavery never left it only changed looks and strategy. I truly enjoy your content and truths. It's refreshing and nice to know see someone else sees the same truths I see. You got a new subscriber ❤✌❤✌
THAT PART! And thank you so much! You made my day! Much love and joy to you! 💛☺️🌺
@@AleciaRenece blessings, peace, love, and life from Texas❤💙❤💙
Beautifully spoken. I worked for two years 60 hours per week and isolated myself to save up money. I worked a minimum wage job but was working so many hours I hardly had energy to find something else. I neglected my looks, ate fast food, and did everything to save a penny (all in the name of saving money). For two years I lived without furniture in my apartment. I was so miserable I almost slipped back into a deep depression. I cried DAILY. I met my ex who ended up showing me how toxic I was being to myself. My mind was all over the place and I was starting to become very mean to myself. I realized my mistakes, and started to love myself more. I stopped working so hard and focused more on looking inwards to create opportunities. Those years you work yourself will NEVER come back. And one catastrophe can knock over your sandcastle. BUSINESS AND INVESTING is so important!
Hi friends! You are more than what you make, how much you have, how productive you are. *You are invaluable!* 💛😍🌺
@@angelah1970 LOOOOOOVE this!!! 💛💛💛💛💛
Girl! YOU’RE NOT WRONG! Needed this message this morning.
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!! I'm so glad you felt me on this!!! And I'm so glad you got what you needed! ☺️🌺💛
The bag people chase is filled with a void. So many people are chasing emptiness.
OOOOH! A WHOLE WORD!!!! SPEAK! Thank you for sharing that!!!
@Alecia Renece The Artist i appreciate your content. Best wishes to you
And also a lot of our culture has been gentrified from food to fashion. Even this "minimalist" fad.... minimalism isn't new. Sis I was minimal before it was a thing and not by choice but by survival ... I was just having a convo about this. Decolonizing my mind.
GIRL!!!! YEEEEEEEEEEES!!!!! YOU ARE ON IT! I definitely wrote down that I need to make a follow up video about decolonizing our minds. Imma shout you out, because YES. ALL. OF. THIS. Minimalism is definitely a gentrified version of survival. I'm SO over being sold something that has been repackaged for Western profit! ❤️❤️❤️
Same thing for me.with minimalism it was survival and when I found out it was like a thing I was like seriously
You no longer have to suffer!!! Please spread the news. The real work is inner work, not hustling. I’m waiting for the rest of us retire from the rat race and to join the party. May this video get a billion views and ADSENSE revenue.
David! Thank you so much for that blessing! I receive it joyfully! You're so generous. Thank you so much! And I'm waiting for the same! We deserve to REST. To be. To heal. To have choices! 💛🌺
I think this is right on point. I’m a firm believer in rest and enjoyment of life. I work smart and not hard. Great video!
Yaaaaaay! I'm so glad this resonated with you! And I am such a believer in the same. It took me a minute to get to this point, but I'm so glad hat I'm here!
I'm very sheltered and from birth to now I've always lived for other people and not myself. I don't like hustling and I don't like grinding. I want to make myself happy
Same.
I'm literally struggling with this right now. I let my 9-5 go to focus on my mental health, freedom and building the life of my dreams without feeling tied down. I wanted more room to focus on me and create on my own time (I dream of being a published author), but right now I feel like I'm going through a season of feeling really low. I know what I need to do, but I've just been on pause and because I'm not working as much or as hard as I was on previous jobs, I don't feel like I deserve a break, the life I want, or any luxuries. I feel so lazy and unmotivated now. Physically my body is ready to do the work, but mentally I talk myself out of it--like I need rest even if I haven't done anything for the day. I'm trying to get myself out of this way of thinking, but it's so haaaaard! I want to be able to take a break, build the easy, successful and fulfilled like I want and not feel lazy or unworthy for doing so. I keep telling myself there is more to life than money and materialistic things but it's always that other little voice ....
First of all, I celebrate you for prioritizing your mental health above all else. I'm sending you so much love today! I believe in your dreams and I KNOW they're going to come true, for sure! It's okay to be in a low energy season. Don't force yourself to be anywhere that you aren't. Mental health and rest are so necessary on your creative journey, and your over all well being. Take your time, don't feel rushed to go all in right now. You are NOT lazy. You never could be. Your body and mind are telling you that they need to rest, and you're doing the right thing by listening to them. I totally understand you. It is hard to reprogram your mind to actually have grace with yourself. We've been taught that if we're not always producing that we're lazy. That's not true. You are not a machine. You're a woman. A Living, breathing holy human being in need of rest and recuperation. Start small. Giver yourself 5 minutes to sit and not do anything. Then work up to ten minutes, then 15, then 30... Rest takes practice. Trust me, I know. Be gentle with yourself. Ease into rest and soon you'll be giving yourself permission to just be. Much love and joy!
@@AleciaRenece Thank you so much.
This topic is so important. 🙏🏽 I’m a recovering workaholic that , for many years, let my “hustle” and “grind” define me. What I thought was something to be proud of was literally ruining my life for all the reasons you explained perfectly. I’m so glad I’m making moves to let that old mindset go ☀️
Yeeeeeeeeeees!!!! Welcome, friend!!! I'm recovering as well. I literally looked up in life and was like "who am I without my work?" it was honestly depressing and heartbreaking. It's a daily work to relearn my worth and value has nothing to do with my hustle or grind... Or what I produce. I feel you wholeheartedly. Keep creating! I just subscribed to you! 🌈🤗💛🌺 And thank you so much for watching!!!
“I’m not willing to do that work! SURPRISE!” that took me out lmaooo but points were made
LOLOL! Listeeeen! It is not for me at ALL! 😂😂😂 I definitely know my limits, for sure.
I fully reject the notion that I was born to live a life that only benefits the systems in place to keep me marginalized. My life is valuable and I deserve to be happy. Thank you for this video. I just subscribed!
Young Sista, you are a “Breath of fresh air” and way ahead of your time in your thought process. The reason I say this is because I’m 63 (almost 64) and I didn’t figure this out until 12 years ago that this 9 to 5 hustle & grind is all part of the matrix. You’ve figured it out while you still have youth. I commend you for that. I opted out of the grind in late 2020 and took an early retirement. With that said. The “ Real test “ began due to a huge reduction in income and having to live off of a 1/3 of what I had before, however, I’m not looking back. Let me just add, now that I’m “FREE” it’s a double sided sword so to speak because, now I feel like “what do I do to survive” ?. We’re so accustomed to working for someone else , ensuring they’re rich, until we have difficulty figuring out how to financially provide for ourselves. Like yourself I’m into songwriting & singing but pursued it mostly as a hobby. I now have the time to pursue it FT and to figure out how to make it lucrative . My apologies for being long winded ,however , I’m happy to have found your page ( just a few days ago) and I’m a new subbie. By the way, I love your voice & music. Looking forward to joining some of your lives 💜💜💜
This is easier said than done. As a 9-5ver transitioning into a full-time entrepreneur I'm always working in some sort of way. It's hard to rest and genuinely be at peace when you're stressed over finances and bills. I don't think people have bought into hustle culture but I do believe that inflation is causing everyone to overwork themselves just to stay afloat. Especially for those of us who cannot call friends/family for help with anything.
I agree here. I see more people hustling because they have to. I know a man with a 9-5 who also does Doordash and Lyft. Why? His job no longer covers all his needs with his family. That was not the case prior to inflation. Think about the cost of gas alone. Some people have no choice. Im grateful I have a choice, because its hard out here.
Yesss to all of thisss! I always thought it was so crazy how we work, work, work ourselves to the bone and everyone sees it as normal! I'm not about that life and then get called lazy because I don't have that grind mentality. That's one reason I feel comfortable when I go to France and want to move there, they understand that it's important to enjoy life.
Yeeeeeeeeeees! Exactly! You feel me! We are literally conditioned and wired to work our entire lives like a machine and then MAYBE some day we can actually enjoy our lives. It's wack! And I feel you on the lazy part. I don't want to work hard, and that can be really triggering for folks to hear, but no. Not anymore. I'm not interested in proving my self worth based on how hard I work. And I have to grt to France. It seems so many other cultures get it. You work to support the life toy want to live, not the other way around. 💛💛💛 Thank you so much for sharing this with me and for watching. It means a lot to me. 😊🤗
@@AleciaRenece Yes, come join me!!! Also, just subscribed - love what you talk about and how you present it :)
Thank you.. I needed to see this. I am burnt out. Since 2016 I have worked 7 days a week. Yes. Not bragging. I had to fix my credit. I had an illness that disabled me. My credit is back on track and I am doing a career change so I can work and travel at the same time. After watching this video I have given myself permission to relax into my femininity. Once again, thank you.
I agree with this.And it’s better to work smart and not hard.
Yes! I completely agree with this! Work smart, not hard!
@@AleciaRenece Amen
Lately I have been aligned with so many people and videos that are showing me that I am not alone in my experiences. There is something wrong with the culture and this obsession with money and my soul is literally rejecting it. A dollar and material goods have become more valuable than time. Time to just take a walk, enjoy a nice bath, spend time with loved ones…
Well for my life that is luxury. Time. I want to spend it as pleasurable and as intentionally as I can.
I LOVE this so much! Thank you so much for sharing this with us!
Hustle and grind is not even in my vocabulary! I don't understand it either. I want to be around family and friends refreshed...not tired and stressed. I have always lived with somethings less than "average people". I worked partime so I could raise my child and be there for them after school, then to do full-time and daycare and be so tired on the weekend. This was my choice, not saying it's wrong if you do different. But girl...I'm with you. Health and mental rule money any day for me.
Listen!!! This is the truuuuth! If we're drained around the people we love the most, something is definitely wrong. Sadly, so many people work just to put their kids in daycare, so they're spending their time away from their kids just to pay for their care... It's crazy. And I loooove that you made a decision to honor what was important to YOU! And that you were unapologetic about that. 💛💛💛🤗🤗🤗 Thank you for being so encouraging! 🌺🌈
And I totally agree! Health and well being over money ALWAYS. 💛💛💛
I told this other guy that this is what I want to do and he was so shocked. His justification for his shock was “I grew up seeing my mom and grandmother work hard so it sounds strange to me that a woman doesn’t want to work that hard”. Lol idk but that’s a bit of a red flag 🙃but I understand why he has that kind of mentality. Hopefully he’ll grow out of it for his sake.
I've never heard anyone speak my own thoughts back to me in such a potent way. Obviously I can't relate to the history of slavery and the experiences of the black community, but just your view on life and capitalism, down to the detail of wanting it to be like you semi retired already. I didnt know there were other people out there thinking the same things as me. I know this video wasn't meant for me but it did reach me and I am grateful :)
PREEEEAACCHHH!!! This is the gospel! We are called to rest in what Jesus did for us on the cross! IT is done, it was prepared beforehand, we are called to WALK in it. Alecia your message is so needed. Thank you. As a mom, I do not want to pass down this self-sabotaging mindset to my children. You are reminding me of this.
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!! You're absolutely RIGHT!!! 💛💛💛 And I'm so excited to be able to share it and even more excited that other folks need to hear it. God is definitely renewing my mind when it comes to these and other matters. He's so good! And I LOVE THIIIIS!!! IT IS FINIIIIISHED!!! 💛💛💛🤗🤗🤗 And I totally feel you on that. Though, I'm not a mommy yet, it's definitely something I think about. I also think about my own mom and things she passed down to me unknowingly. We underestimate what children read and pick up on. Shout out to YOU!!! 💛💛💛🌺🌺🌺
Yes! RVing and Thrift shop points are so valid!!
I feel like I hustle and grind in my cleaning business. I make great money considering I have no college degree but I work very hard
My main goal has been to get more clients...more more more. I'm at a point now of just maintaining the client's we have because It's so hard for me to find employees and I really understand why. Like who the hell wants to work so hard? It's a mindgame to make people think they want to WORK!
Hustle culture is toxic, physically and mentally exhausting. I'm not millionaire, and I've been doing it for 35 years. Most jobs that are not soul sucking don't pay the bills.T he alternative is welfare which I'm not ready to do either. I'm not black but this totally resonated with me.
I love this young lady, I have felt like this for years, but you’re looked at as lazy or that you have no ambition if you want to live with ease. I’m hear with you. God did not put on on this earth to work ourselves into an early grave.
Your mentality is remarkable. I used to always feel like I have to work to death and hustle, but I agree that we should not have to have that mindset. I couldn’t communicate it the way you did, but I can say that I’m building the life of ease.
I have a lot of freedom while running my business, but after years of sacrifice, I’ve tended to my able bodied mother and sibling, which has made me depressed, enslaved, and stuck. Not anymore, im 29, and im going to start living. Thank you for this video.
You are preaching in this video!!! 👏🏽 This resonates with me sooooo much!! I just uploaded a video yesterday about “embracing slow living” and mentioned how the hustle and bustle isn’t for me! Social media included. Thank you so much for this on time, edifying message. I just subscribed😊.
Yeeeeees!!! I am so glad this hit you!!! 💛😊 Embracing slow living! Yes ma'am! Let me go watch this now and get my LIIIIFE! That's exactly what I'm trying to; apply that mindset to my WHOLE LIFE!!! Yes. This social media thing is insatiable. It's never enough. We really have to be our best advocate. Thank you so much for subscribing! I'll be subscribing to you too!🤗
@@AleciaReneceThank you so much!🥰
I agree with you. You are preaching exactly what I realized 2 years ago. I realized that I had bought into a culture that the only way I was going to really make it, was to grind and hustle! When I first found it uncomfortable, I thought I was lazy. But when I really thought about it, I’m not lazy, I’m blessed to where I don’t have to work myself to death. I want my life to be filled with more ease and have really operated lately in “work smarter, not harder”. Life has only gotten better with my new perspective. I do what I want with no second thoughts or regrets.
Work smarter not harder! I'm doing the exact same thing! Much love and joy to you!
I love this talk about hustle culture. My generation bought into it and I’m so glad that you are spreading the word. I totally agree on your lifestyle. I’ll share!
Thank you so much!!! And I totally understand it. Seriously. It's so hard not to buy into that lifestyle, especially when it's everywhere all the time. I know a lot of folks do it because they feel like they don't have any other choice, so I totally empathize. 💛💛💛🤗🤗🤗
Let me tell you something. It's so REFRESHING to see a BLACK WOMAN talk about having a life of ease as a black creative. I get sooooo annoyed seeing on tiktok, IG, youtube women talk about how to earn 50k in 30 days. How to make 10k months selling digital products etc. I get sooo tired of this hustle culture and the obsession with 6 figures. I remember you said in another video if you make 30k thats successful. It based on what works for your lifestyle. It's not a lot of black creatives talking about not hustling. Everything is about hustling and it's rooted in oppression. Because let's be real if hustling/grinding was the real answer then our parents/grandparents.. hell ancestors would be multi-millionaires. So, thank you so much for the work that you do and the perceptive that you bring to UA-cam. It's so needed! Because I'm not buying anymore classes, coaching sessions, workshops on how to make money. I'm just going to continue to take inspired action and learn from my process. I don't want to be a millionaire. I just want to create and get paid for my art. I don't want to be a slave to money. I also don't want to chase what other people deem as successful.
Your message resonates regardless of sex, race, creed,or color. You have real leadership words and guidance for all. Keep it up.
I so agree. The world tells us that if we don’t reach certain pinnacles we’re not successful, it was a waste of a life. I’ve come to the realization that if I don’t become a millionaire one day, I’ll be okay with that. If I don’t have a brand new Audi, I’ll be okay with that. I’ve stopped equating my worth to the things that I can get and shifted it towards the experiences that I want. The owner of a Honda and the owner of a Maybach are both going in the ground one day…it really doesn’t matter. Enjoy your life.
I'm black and in my 50s; I was blessed to have a mentor who fearlessly questioned the notion of "You have to work twice as hard to get half as much" and called it out for the bullshit it was in an era where it was worn as a badge of honor. This isn't a new conversation, but it's great that the generation below me is running with it. I don't think anybody wants to look back on their lives and realize that it was all striving with no moments actually being enjoyed.
I don't quite understand people who are getting offended by her message, but if your automatic thought is "so she wants us all to live on the streets and be broke", ask yourself why you believe that hustle culture and abject poverty are the only choices.
YAAASSSS!! Love this + so with you that EASE/FLOW is possible. Agree that hustle culture is soooo toxic! I believe hustle mentality is a TRAUMA RESPONSE of trying to prove self/be worthy.
Yeeeeeees! We have been conditioned to really prove our worth out here, and we are ALREADY worthy!
Wow! Wow! Wow! This video right here took "Freedom" to a whole new level for me. THANK YOU SO MUCH SIS!!!💡🤔🧐🤯❤
You are so welcome! It was my pleasure!
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥. I am currently on a leave of absence from my job, I’ve entered a vow of silence and I am dry fasting for a breakthrough and clarity. Your videos have been showing up in my feed. This is …I mean it’s like you are saying EVERYTHING I’VE BEEN TRYING TO EXPLAIN TO THE HUMANS AROUND ME. THANK YOU SOOOOOOO MUCH!!!! 💚💚💚
It’s crazy to have to work work work and when you’re gone your position will be up and posted in a day or two. I was working so many hours, taking day and some night shift 2 times out of the week and that took me away from my kids. So I decided to work from home and guess what those hours were crazy too! I couldn’t even be mom when my kids got home because I was taking back to back calls until 7pm. I didn’t feel like talking to my one by the time I clocked out due to talking all day and those work from home call center jobs will destroy your mental health and destroy what your home is meant to be (your peace and place of decompression) My children hated it all! I was truly scared I was going to end up homeless again. Shoot I made more money and had more time with my kids selling food plates and making my treats. Eventually I’m going to move out of the country and leave Americas fake American dream and all of it’s pressures.
Recently I've been looking into working smart and hard but honestly I just want to work smart. Working smart to me is making the task easier to do. I want to be happy and not feel like I'm a loser compared to my peers. I want to be very happy and fulfilled as I'm only 25.
in my mind right now i just want to break away from all the systemic racism, stereotypes, differences group shunning and be free especially at work
This video right here 🙌🏽🙌🏽💐 I’ve always thought this way and finally hearing someone who confirms that I’m not crazy for falling for the “who wants to be a millionaire” lifestyle lol 😆
For an "ENTREPRENEUR" success does not come without an extreme amount of hustle and grinding...for anybody! The truth is, entrepreneurs are "Born" not made, regardless of race. Entrepreneurs spend enormous amounts of time, energy and expertise, often spending many years building their businesses. It only looks easy from the outside. Most people were not born to go hard 16-20 hour days. The average "employee" can barely make it through an 8 hour day...Amen? But, nowadays everyone with a cell phone, a laptop and a couple hundred dollars stashed away wants to invest into becoming a CEO, and will give away all of their money trying to learn the "secrets" from internet scam artists. My advise to the average person...Keep your day job, get those benefits, your days off, your vacations, and enjoy a wonderful retirement when the time comes. That's how the system was built. If you want a side-hustle, go for it...but don't walk away from you steady just because some person on the internet told you that you won't amount to anything if you don't. On a more important note, "Alecia", if you found you're not built to be an entrepreneur, it's ok...most people aren't (including other races) But, please, do not say that we as a race are not built to hustle and grind and be entrepreneurs. All of us can not be entrepreneurs, but neither can all whites, Asians or Latinos. To say African-Americans specifically can't achieve on that level is not true, first of all. Secondly, it is actually a kind of racist thing for you (or anybody else) to say. Entrepreneurship is VITAL to our community. We need to be Job Creators so that we can hire from among our people. We can't fall to depending on other people to hire us, and our friends and our family members. That is not what Black Excellence is about. I'm just sayin!
You obviously missed thr point everything I said. Lol. It's not about entrepreneurship at all... I'm really confused by your comment... You're off based and you seem a little triggered by what I said. I am an entrepreneur. I don't get it... Also, any entrepreneur will tell you that you need to take care of your mental health. And this system only exists because we allow it too... The system is failing. It's oppressive. Its literally built off of our enslaved ancestors... I refuse to uphold that system. We're obviously not gonna agree (and that's okay) because I don't even believe in Black Excellence. We're excellent because we exist. I literally made a video about that. It's slave theology. Free yourself. We can employ our people without having to hustle and grind. Black folks been doing that for hundreds of years and have nothing to show for it. This system was not created for us to thrive. It's time to consider a different way of life. If you want to work hard, go for it. I don't. I'm not interested. That's a ticket to an early grave. No thanks.
I am so grateful that youtube started recommending your videos. My current employment is literally hurting my body physically and I cant do it anymore. Also sis. They used to sell our bodies for profit. We are changing the stigma sis and im very grateful for you.
❤ Thank you. These conversations among ourselves are soo, soo important. If we don't understand, support, and encourage one another who will? There's healing in creating the types of communities that you are.
Love your commentary. The universe sent this to me because I’ve been battling with this notion of working multiple jobs just to make ends meet. My ancestors are probably not happy with me and so I’m about to change that. Thanks so much!
This video hits home so much to me and I'm going to tell you why? I lost my mum in February 2022, she was somewhat a workaholic, I think a part of it was fear of not having money to buy stuff that she wanted when she wanted as she was somewhat fancy (home decor and all). Now it breaks my heart to share, giveaway, and sell so much beautiful stuff of hers and this makes what Life truly means Slap me in my Face. Now I've not only decided to relocate in a year and a half or so but to also be a minimalist in every area of my life, I am learning so much as a result of her death it's frightening. So you are right is there truly a reward to Hustle and Grind culture and how many of us are Physically if any at all able to enjoy the fruits of it. Awesome video.
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. 😔💛💛💛 I am sending you so much love, peace and support. I do love the lessons you're learning, I'm just sorry it had to be this way. *BIG HUGS*
I love this video. As a banker, living and breathing on Wallstreet I appreciate this perspective. It wasn’t until I turned 28 that I started to rest and work well. Being intentional, setting boundaries, and also taking my time off when I need it. You can build wealth, and do it with rest, yet I will say that I have difficult days. It is not easy, but it’s a great and balanced way to look at life.
Everything you said straight facts 🔥🔥
Ayyyye! I'm so glad this resonated with you! Thank you so much!!!
@@AleciaRenece you’re welcome💕
I love you sister, you are so unique and intelligent with this point of view, I am a holistic coach in her 60s trying to start a business. What you are saying is what I’m supposed to teach, but I am stressing myself out, with “I am in the flow with ease and joy taped on the wall”. I personally needed to hear your message today. Thank you for your energy and the committment in your message, thank you, for sharing, keep on taking good care of yourself!!
Very important topic in my opinion especially when in our times it is all about Hustling, Grinding, Making it big.
We tend to follow trends unconsciously most of the time and it is very important we self reflect and see why should we do things one way or another. Any positive movement or idea that becomes a trend can lose it's essence if we forget why we started doing it in the first place. I like how you gave the thrift shop and RV examples. I noticed that in minimalism culture where people forgot the reason behind it is to simplify ones life and instead they got to such extreme they over complicated it again.
Comparison is the biggest thief of joy and I think Hustle Culture doesn't help either. How many of us have started something and compared our selves to someone that does it better, works more, grinds? And we end up feeling lazy, not good enough, talentless, worthless. And since when does acquiring more material goods equals happiness and inner contentment? We are programmed from day 1 in school how we should be productive and give to the community. How to be responsible, be on time, be obedient, goal driven, number 1 at what we do. I am sure all of these do come in handy in our lives but...
What about us giving to our selves? Learning that our worth isn't dependent on how good we are at our job, our social status, our economical status. No we don't have to learn any of that. Our souls by default know it. We are just conditioned to believe otherwise along the way.
(Edit: and seriously? Are we really brought into this world to work our selves back out of it? Or are we here to experience life?
Love how you said , we choose to hustle our selves back in the ground. )
Don't hustle. Work on your self(inner work, self love and acceptance) and define in what you find happiness regardless of what you have been taught.
I remember watching on of Baba Mooji's videos where he speaks about how we dont really need a purpose to live our lives and be happy . We are worthy by default
Thank you for ALL of this!!! YES, YES, YES!!! I agree with EVERYTHING you said here. Thank you so much for sharing all of this. And I COMPLETELY agree with you. We are worthy by DEFAULT! 💛🌸😊 I've seen a few Baba Mooji's videos and they are so inspiring and thought provoking.
@@AleciaRenece I am happy to be seeing your content and seeing more people discussing those topics and focusing on self actualization . It gives hope for a better future for all of us. 😁🙏🏻❤️🍀🎶
Alecia, u did it again! You have given some Black people a new perspective, a good thing! Two days ago at Big Lots lot, a lady asked me when did I retire. I told her that I was almost 63 then. (Now 70.). Seems she became very angry, incensed, when she asked me Why and got my answer! I told her I was 'worn out and tired'. I did not tell her about my BP going sky high and chest pains! Just because she wants to work her fingers to the Bone (metaphorically speaking), don't get mad at me because I choose Not to, and it's working for me. 👍♥️
Also, Alecia I love reading all the comments from various people. It's Amazing and I'm sharing.
I LOVE that so much @Barbara!!! That's awesome!!! 💛🤗🌺☺️ I'm so proud of you!
Please tell women that they don’t wanna date a dude in that lifestyle. Many women wonder why I’m not on that, I tell them been there done that. Almost died and then my girl still left to find another man she could run into the ground. So now I chill. And the women who like to just chill are way more loving open minded and spiritual imo. The only work should be to get food. I out every other ounce of energy into doing what I want, and I’m able to live and enjoy life more than ever
You are absolutely amazing!!!
I'm so glad you posted this because omfg I have been trying to stress this to so many ppl for years now!!! It makes zero sense to work to a point that you have money but that money is going to medical bills and health coverage because just to hustle and accrue tons of wealth the traditional way you need the healthcare! Working 40 to 60 hrs a week will wear your body and mind down, ESPECIALLY if its for another company/entity!! Why that's something we've accepted I do not know but I stopped accepting it earlier this year and it made a huge difference in my overall mental and physical health!
I needed this. I want to get a fiction book actually completed but I get caught up in rushing the process and it exhausts me.
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! And congratulations for even STARTING your book in the first place. I am celebrating you! 🎊💛😊 And I totally understand that feeling of exhaustion from rushing. Take your time. There is no rush and there is no race. Go at a pace that feels good to you and your soul and be unapologetic about that. You are in your own lane and creating something you're proud of takes as long as it needs to take ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ the process has difficulty, for sure. But the process should be life giving, not life taking. I believe in you and I see you!!! 💛💛💛💛💛
Much success on your book!
I just found your channel..I wholeheartedly agree with everything you stand for . It's awesome to find like minded people. Keep up the great work!! New Subbie!!
I am so glad that you're here! Thank you so much for joining the journey! This is making my heart full! Much love and joy to you!!! 😊💛🌺
Sitting in a cubicle on the plantation of one of the world’s largest insurance companies for 8 years was NOT worth it...soooo much more I could say, I won’t. THIS is truth you speak cuz it bespeaks BALANCE. Realize gotta stop beating myself up for sitting there suppressing a plethora of gifts. Smh
I reject the belief I must suffer to live. Thank you for this affirmation. ❤
All truth here. For example, the RV/tiny home movement. The entire point was affordable housing and now these gentrifiers on here with 300K subscribers showing off a $100,000 closet on wheels, parked on their parents’ 10 acre ranch.
Yeeeeeeeeeees! Yes to ALL of this! 💛 My husband and I rv and we're moving back into the RV and the prices for everything has gone up because of the culture around it. It is CRAZY.
Subscribed! I may have found my tribe! Looking forward to more content (whenever you choose to upload.) Do You!
You are so kind and generous! Thank you so much! And thank you for being so patient. It truly makes a difference. Much love and joy and Happy New Year to you! 😊🌸💛
I’m glad That this video came across my feed because now that I’m a mom. I keep trying to make a 9-5 work but it just don’t. I refuse to missed family moments. I figure God is telling me make a job and income that works for me.
Sis you ain't wrong you RIGHT! I wish you could start a movement against these corporations. 💯💯💯💯🙏
Much love and joy to you! 💛☺️ I'm starting my own little revolution by opting out of exhausting myself. There are so many folks pushing back on what we've come to know as "normal". I'm so inspired and encouraged by them. Check out The Nap Ministry. She and her movement are AMAZING.
We can. Divest.
Nothing but FACTS here. I feel the same way. Solange has this song ,"Stillness is the Move," and i finally realized what that song meant 3 years ago, after having listened to it for like 7 years.
If wealth is the end all, be all...why is there still such suffering in the world if there's all these billions and trillions floating around? What is the use of money if you're not using it to make the world a better place? To alleviate the suffering of others?
Awesome message! Praying the community can receive it and let it bless them even if they never implement it. Knowledge is key 🔑 . I am Seventy. It was never my desire to be a millionaire. My desire was to pursue my goals and dreams, Ms. Golden Girl.
Thank you so much!!! And thank you so much for sharing this with us! You are a gem! 💛💎 And I completely understand that. My goal is to be happy, healthy, holistically wealthy, whole and filled to the brim with joy while making an impact on the lives of others. Much love and joy to you!
I resonate with ALL of this! I'm digging deep into this new mentality. Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for sharing your perspective. It's so refreshing and thought provoking.
I agree. Thanks for posting.
Thank you so much for watching! I'm so glad this resonated with you!
Great video! This perspective is very counter culture to the world we live in, and it's super needed! I definitely agree that there's more to life than the grind and riches we can't take with us. Great job, darling. Keep the content coming! =)
Thank you so much, baby! And you're right about that! We CANNOT take it with us at ALL. Let's actually LIVE!
@Beatuiful mil I agree that a lot of the world does not operate like that, but I think we have to address that we were indoctrinated and forced to work and hustle... literally for free. And we didn't buy into it, it was kind of forced on us. We didn't have a choice. But now we do. And the world we live in IS the "Western world". And the Western world is very hustle and grind focused, exploiting the labor of other people. It's sad, but it's true. I hope that makes sense.
As I was feeling Sooo overwhelmed, I came across your Video and I needed this Soo Much! Thank you!
This definitely resonates. I didn't have the words for why I didn't want to work my business anymore, I didn't have the words for why I was so physically spiritually exhausted until I just stopped. It is now the 7th month of doing nothing. I deserve this and I love it. I Loveth your content😁
Yeeeeeeeeeees! You definitely deserve. There is this lie spread about chasing joy and contentment, but all of that comes from inside. We have to choose it. In this culture, there is never enough. There's always more. Always. I'm so glad that you chose yourself. 💛🤗 Much love, joy and rest to you! You are worthy!
I work Monday to Friday, Saturday and Sunday are for me. Not going to work my self over and loose time for myself. Not interested in being a millionaire, I buy most things cash and I save. Love to travel and appearance wise, I'm what you call dull, mentally and emotionally I'm at peace.
So uplifting. Thank you!
AMEN 😭, please make another video to dive in deeper about how this affects black women especially black moms!
AMEN 😭🙂❤️🙏
I totally agree with you.
I totally agree with you
Thank you for this!
Hey Sis! I totally agree! My ego self wants to stay in corporate America in HR. But the reality is my true self wants to be a creator! I love painting, freely dancing, skating, reading, eating fresh fruits. I don’t want to wear a blazer n pointed pumps. I want to wear natural fiber clothing, linen dresses, silk caftans, super sexy cowboy boots and gold sandals to show off my pedicure. I want to wear my waist beads, I want to loc my hair. I’m just tired of having to separate myself.
I am halfway there. I actually live in my car and feel like I’m on a crossroads. Do I go back to corporate or do I get my natural hair license recertification and start creating in all avenues? I know that’s what I want to do. Last night I had a discussion with a friend and I told her I realized that I had attached my goals and dreams to a job. It’s like I could see visions of wonderful experiences but some how I always attached it to a job. I think I know what I need to do. I appreciate this message. I’m happy to see more black women putting down the cape and really trying to live the best life according to us💜✨
I agree with you 100% especially on the thrifting. I can honestly say it’s because of social media especially TikTok. These trends are constantly thrown in our faces and sometimes we let it get to us and we feel as if we have to be like everyone else or at the same pace and position as them.
I really love this you make a lot of great points. I have been thinking about this myself for a while trying to balance my goals, happiness, and health 💗💗💗
Absolutely love your content. 💕💕I truly feel it in my spirit that I am not willing to sacrifice the quality of my life for this so call "reward" after the grind. I choose to be free within my journey as well as in my destination.
Your videos are a true blessing to my life. Thank you ❤
Oh wow! I'm so happy these are encouraging to you! I'm sending you so much love and joy 💛☺️
I agree. I walked away from a job because of the office politics and the nonsense. I took a big cut in pay but I am good and not regretting my decision.
Very Good POINT and OUTSTANDING Video.
Thank you so much for watching! I'm so happy you resonate with this! 😊💛
It’s 2:30 in the morning, I have deep insomnia and I literally just typed into UA-cam search “improve my own quality of life black woman” and your video popped up. I appreciate every single point you made and it’s really great to know that I’m not crazy and I’m not the only one who feels this way. Thanks to you and the Nap Bishop of the Nap Ministry, my perspectives are being affirmed and also enhanced. Thank you!
Watching this October 2023
And I resonate with this.
Thank you
Im just starting learning this,i think i m half way in reaching the american dream,it stopped right here.i was doing a lot because this is all i know as a foreigner coming here.We come for the American Dream.I think God wanted to find ur page.
I love this soooooooo much it hit home for me thank you so much for doing as God led you to speak your mind to shed light and help others break from that mindset of bandage ❤️ I love you sister in christ
Thank you❤
I needed to hear this