laziness doesn’t exist. The 40 hour work week isn’t even supposed to be normal. Wanting to rest our bodies and find fulfilment in relaxing shouldn’t be considered “laziness”
Yeah LMFAO it literally started in the industrial revolution. Companies were like how many hours can a person work without like essentially dying. Same w the 8 hour sleep thing. It's pretty interesting and fascinating that this still has an impact for than 100 years later.
I'd say laziness is when you ignore the necessities when you have the means to go for them but if you already have that then there shouldn't be anything wrong with being comfortable...
I would love a slow paced and stable job, which is also flexible. I want to be able to do normal, homely things because that gives me happiness. I don't want my work to define my entire existence.
@mizzmolly I know what you're saying but monetizing hobbies kinda takes the fun out of them when ya gotta do them in a disciplined manner or certain way in order to guarantee income?
@@Frichilsasta08 definitely, it shouldn't even have to be said, but it's ok to do things (or nothing) because it's fun, or not think too much about it!
@mizzmolly when you turn a hobby into a business, you no longer get to just enjoy the hobby for the sake of it. You have to deal with the business side...sales, marketing, accounting, taxes, customer service,, producing your product or services on a set schedule etc etc. Sometimes you end up spending just as much or more time on those things as on...baking, crafting, or whatever the hobby was to begin with. Its not fun for everyone to deal with business side and it can actually ruin the thing they once did for fun and relaxation.
we also need to kill the notion that we must have everything figured out at a certain point, or you're a failure. it's okay to not know wtf is going in life. it's okay to be where we are & move / grow from there.
Especially when you live under a government that was built off of slavery & poverty. When a system is designed to benefit only a certain party, & youre outside that party, chances are you're gonna have a harder time getting it together anyway.
People won’t get there because they abandoned their spirituality in any way they practice lol They are online too much & have too many emotional attachments lol
Pali. There’s a time and place. I wish I’d worked harder in my 20s. Definitely paying for it now. Stagnated career progression. My CA friends I was in school with are now all CFOs/Directors. I’m one too, but didn’t work hard at allllll as soon as I passed my exams. And it shows.
I hate how we've demonised being comfortable and settling; we shame people who choose simple jobs like being a truck driver or choosing t o live a low stress life in a small town, not everyone wants a high stress job in the city whilst working two side hustles and it shouldn't be normalised that everyone should have to do that much just to make a living.
i agree with your post but i'll take exception with truck driver being a simple job. I drive truck. Long-haul. All through the united friggin states on interstates, us national highways, state routes and county roads. you think this job is simple? Try it. I'll keep the indignant expletive laden reply to myself but you are likely under the impression my job consists of driving for 11 hours, pull over, sleep, repeat. No, my dear Baron, nonono... On YT start watching Smart Trucking vids. He's good though not ALL of it.
@@STScott-qo4pw I didn't mean to belittle truck driving I just think it's objectively a repetitive job, not simple as in dumb. I do nursing and I regret it because there's not a regular day or expected routine and it's very physically and mentally exhausting.
@@STScott-qo4pw I agree, my fiancé is a long haul trucker. For one, he constantly misses important family events and is away from home for weeks at a time. Also, I rode with him once and the amount of attention to detail needed to complete paperwork as well as sticking to schedule to deliver on time within the legal drive time parameters and loading delays was crazy! Not to mention the driving and safety aspect. People do not give the respect deserved to truckers. It has to be one of the jobs with the worst work life balance ever and you guys don’t get the respect you deserve for real. If you think it’s repetitive or remotely easy, you have no idea!
Hustle culture has one goal: to tell everyone that you should be unhappy and unsatisfied but energetic about it all the same. Basically a sadomasochistic mind set
I don’t think y’all understand hustling that much. Hustling is about setting a goal for yourself and working to achieve that goal. If someone is just working for the sake of working without getting anything out of it that’s stupid I will agree. However if someone has a goal in mind then they will have to work for it. You can’t dream big and expect it to fall in your lap on a silver platter. You have to work for that and that work will be difficult but you need to keep pushing in order to ACHIEVE. I will agree that if you are happy with a simple life and a regular 9-5 then you good you don’t need to hustle if you are happy with where you are. You only need to hustle if your goal is to achieve something.
Less is more. There is more and more evidence that shorter work hours/days/weeks creates a lot more productivity. The same with schools. We need to reform our whole work system, environment and culture.
@@mocny01 What bills though? This is the problem, people have accumulated so much "stuff" in their lives(loans, cars, mortgages, cable TV subscriptions, dining out, fancy clothes, etc)that they're working just to maintain the "yoke" that weara them down. It's madness really. Strip away the unnecessary things in your life and then you can work less and be free.
I understand this but also a lot of these gurus have adhd. I also have it pretty badly. I hyperfocus and forget to eat all the time. When they hyperfocus on an interest they are forgetful and get blasts of dopamine that the adhd mind needs in order to complete tasks. I think this is an important part of the conversation. Adhd ers are super lazy about things that they do not care about because there is not enough reward for the task. Hyperfocus hustle is not practical for neurotypical people.
I always say God forbid I drop dead tomorrow, my job will probably say “aww man, we will miss her”... & proceed to post my position. It’s not worth it. I honestly crave a life of joy in the simple things. I try to get it whenever I can on my off days
@@omomeidontaya3143 Exactly! It’s unfortunate, but it’s a business at the end of the day & they need to hit their bottom line. We have to take care of us & our mental well being
I worked for a company that announced a coworkers death through a memorial email and advertised for their position - in the SAME EMAIL.. I’ll never forget ..
A lot of companies don’t value employees.. employees are disposable at any time no matter how hard you slave for your corporation. We are taught to work hard but in return our corporations are not giving us the same respect. Exploited for productivity then thrown to the bin when your supply has been used. What life is this ?
I work in HR and you are 100% right companies really don’t care about employees lol they will be hiring someone for your role whilst smiling in your face!
@@pendafall2394 So true ! They were all smiling to me while they planned to fire me. I even found out that they were trying to get rid of me when I called a staff representative...
In Thailand surprisingly we have pretty good law for this. Basically if you're laid off they have to pay you certain amount depends on how long you've been working. Sometimes people get paid like 2 years salary when they've worked there for 10 years and get laid off
exactly, work is ok and has to be done but why are we being told we need to break ourselves to achieve success...you gonna be too damaged to enjoy it 😭
@T A there's a difference between rising to the occasion and making it through stressful situations that have been thrust upon you and creating your own stress for the sake of stress. Yes, getting through stressful times can build character. But, my goal in life is not to stay stressed out. Thats the "grind" aspect of what she's talking about and what becomes so toxic. You grind and grind and for what? Some mythical time when you can stop grinding and enjoy the fruits of your labor? I'd rather enjoy my life as much as possible evey day, while I'm living it right now. No one is even promised tomorrow.
Both are toxic, most people at 9-5 are working overtime, trying to make a decent living when they should be paying their workers livable wages. They barely get vacation days. Hustle culture, wannabe entrepreneurs, are just being played at the same time. They are all so burnt out trying to be a millionaire
@@madisoncontroversial7348 so much going on! I think to some extent yes both can be toxic...but think about it, if you love what you do, then some days when there's so much to do, you might need to do some overtime but that doesn't happen all the time.
BRUUUHH, I'm a Business student at my university, I said the same thing and everyone looked at me like I committed a crime. I just want an average job, being a business student doesn't mean I need to ASPIRE to be an entrepreneur and "be my own boss" LMFAOO.
As a young 21 year old haitian immigrant that lives in the states, its so fucking exhausting to have to grind/hustle for every damn thing. Its draining to have to always be chasing after a goal, i ask my cousin which come from the same background as me, when am I'm going to feel happy. Sometimes i truly wish i came from a wealthy family where I didn't have to work so hard for basic things. Mind you im graduating nuraing school next week, RN at 21, but I still feel like I can't enjoy this moment because it's on to the next thing.
Haitian- American that feels the same way! I’m happy to see a space of people with the same mindset and attitude I’ve been experiencing but sad that this space exists! I just want to live!! I wish we can all just live freely. Congratulations on graduating! Bon bagay!
I've embraced hustle culture hard, from the day I started working, have always had 2+ jobs even while going to school. The last 5 years, I worked literally everyday single day, and only had calendar holidays off. I am officially BURNT. OUT. I have since switched to night shift, and cut my hours, now I can never go back to hustling that hard again. I'm sick of people, work, everything, I can't do it anymore.
@Cassundra not necessarily bad, but its annoying because its so obvious when so many youtubers do it to pad their videos so they can pass youtube's "10-minute minimum" mark so they can monetize their video with more ads (& its kinda redundant to ask people for likes at this point. Anyone who consistently uses UA-cam knows about the whole "like & subscribe" mechanic. Vloggers dont need to remind us every video. If your content is genuinely great, I'll like & subscribe to you on my own. Im an adult, i dont need someone holding my hand & trying to make me like their video.)
I am not lazy, I am just not going to overextend myself. I want to live a nice comfortable life and that's it. I am not trying to work day in and day out.
Yesss 100% I'm currently in my last year of university getting a chemical engineering degree. My plan is to make enough money to retire my parents and send them back to the homeland and then I'm going to be an assistant librarian some day lol
But why are you there retirement plan should they not worry about there retirement. Then you worry about yours as your gonna want to that eventually or even support your family. No hate just wondering 💭
@@glenglen9958 In a lot of cultures sadly, the parents have kids to have them as their retirement plan. The irony of this is that it eventually tires out their kid since it shackles them in a way. People that say this usually don’t plan on having kids since it’s rooted in their head early on that they have to plan to help out their parents (who often come from low income and/or never wanted to work or save). Literally everyone I know and have met that has said this ends up not having their own marriage or kids. And while a lot are genuinely happy, most are indifferent. And a few are gay or lesbian.
@@joannacmakuchi4316 Even so I have bills and responsibilities so I cannot be my parents retirement income solely for me it sounds wild. I may be able to support them now and again but dependency is a complete different story.
When people ask me what's my dream job, I say to make money in my sleep. People look at me crazy when I say that 🤷🏽♀️. My goal is to own 99.9% of my time. I want to spend my time doing things that enhance my life, improve my quality of life, and make me well-rounded and happy. I don't want to work 40 hours a week. I don't care to be a business owner either, working 100 plus hours a week with extra responsibility. More power to those who do it; I just don't want to🤷🏽♀️. I've been working since I was 11 and I'm now 40. I'm over working.
My job literally posted a obituary of one of our employees who worked there for 20 years explaining her time there at the company. She spent the first 7 years working Mon-Sat and they praised her for “rarely calling out”& all the family she left behind...do you know at the bottom of her post, they posted her job ID if anyone was interested in filling her position ASAP...Her death, her obituary & her job ID all in the same post...I will not give someone 20 years of my life, my weekends, my holidays(we ran 24/7), to only get 4 measly sentences to summarize my time here....fuck these jobs & corporations...
I hustled hard in my early 20s. One day, I started feeling ill. I was weak, nauseous, and hardly could eat anything. I saw a couple doctors and none of them could figure out what was wrong with me. I decided to take that summer off to rest. Almost instantly, I started feeling better. All the symptoms went away. That following fall when school and work started back up, the symptoms returned. I realized then that it was my body's response to prolonged stress. I truly believe all that stress did permanent damage to my body. I no longer wish to hustle, to stress, to stay busy 24/7. This isn't the way humans were meant to live. We are meant to experience stress in short bursts. Sadly, if you're not hustling in America, you're a loser. I'm glad some of us are trying to change that narrative!
Your story sounds like mine, however I hope you’re still in good health. I am a college student and I’m recovery from adrenal fatigue due to the prolonged stress I put myself under for a long time. We as people and our bodies have limitations.
@@ritaevergreen7234 I'm sorry to hear that you too have been affected by chronic stress. I looked up "Adrenal Fatigue Syndrome" and wouldn't you know, I experience(d) most of the symptoms. Sadly, I've been under a lot of stress the past year, but I am better able to manage it these days. I'm much more mindful of the news/social media/food I consume and try to spend at least an hour in nature a day. This has helped tremendously. Also since I am now in my early 30s, I have found that I care less about fitting in, with keeping up with the Jones'. I am content with what I have and where I am in life :). I wish you the best of luck with your journey as well!
Had the same experience. I'd study and work non stop until I got depressed, suicidal and had the worst anxiety ever, I think I was a workaholic, all I cared about was my career. Now I care more about my mental and physical health.
You're definitely not alone. I think everyone reaches this point in their mid to late 20s, sometimes even in their early 20s. You can't burn the candle at both ends forever. Human beings are actually incredibly sensitive to stress.
@@ritaevergreen7234 so sorry..hope you're good now? Im in uni as well and sometimes i completely shut down that i need a whole week to reset due to so much stress
Hustle culture is annoying AF. I love my little 9-5 job working in a brokerage office clearing shipments for a large corporate aero industry. It’s just me and two people in the office and I can work from home once shipments lessen in the afternoon. I’m off weekends and I get to spend quality time with my boyfriend, see friends, go pamper myself, cooking, grocery shopping, watch movies at home … the options are endless! Im so blessed for this job because in the past I worked in retail for YEARS and I never got a weekend off in my life unless I had to request it months in advance. Im grateful and I don’t care for a second stream of income because I was always stressing trying to get multiple jobs. I get paid more at this position than all other jobs I’ve held. I paid off my car loan last month with this one job and budget my money. Now I’m saving and spending on experiences ☺️
That whole hustle culture grinds my gears. Especially hearing them say things like “you sleep for 8 hours, work at the office for 8 hours, what are you doing for those other 8 hours of the day?!” As if commuting and breaks aren’t necessary parts of ones day.
@@HosCreates exactly. It's invalidating, literally like being gaslighted, makes you feel bad for doing "wasteful" " unproductive" stuff which can be things you love, but we need these things cus it's humanizing, and cus we're human, we need human things. It's dismissive of our need to slow down and enjoy life as it comes without being pulled into the hustle culture which can be extremely toxic for some
I was talking to a resident of mine and she was telling me how back in the 70s and 80s, her and her husband, made enough to buy their own home, have 2 cars and go on vacation, every now and then, while raising 3 kids. Her husband was a car mechanic and she was a nurse. She then told me that she felt bad for this generation because she sees how hard many people work, and they still can't have half of what her and her husband had at 25. It bothered me because it was all true. Honestly, I feel like hustle culture, is really there to show off to other people, what you've accomplished and if they want to be successful, then they need to make the same move. It's emotionally, mentally,physically and spiritually damaging and it gets old quickly.
Yes! We need a "girl boss" video. It's so crazy. I think it's even worse in America. The first thing people ask you in a conversation is "so what do you for a living?" Your career does not need to be your whole identity. You don't need to 5 jobs. You're not lazy if you only work one and only have one stream of income. There's this weird obsession with building generational wealth. Idk I'm literally just trying to survive and be happy and content during the survival, which currently I am🙂
Yeah, my next generation should pay their dues and work their own as*. Why am i working dog tired for them to have a luxurious life? Nah. That's weird.
This comment thread has literally opened my eyes to another perspective. I hadn't really looked at hustling for the next generation like this. I've wanted kids but there are some days when I think to myself, 'do I really?'. And even then, if you give everything to them, who is to say they know how to handle their finances or that they won't become spoiled? Why am I wasting my primary years away chasing after things that literally aren't making me happy..... it's all food for thought
No fr tho why do most introductions start with stating your job title. Even when your parents speak to relatives about you it's always ohh Jen is a pharmacist now like why is that the norm?a
@@Kayla-kd8ov I feel you I always thought I wanted kids so I could give them everything I didn't have. But then I'm like na I don't want spoiled brats. Idek at this point honestly.
I think people are so focused on finding a job they're passionate about/fulfilling because they are spending majority of their time at work so they look for a career that can completely fulfill them when in reality there is more to life than work you can't tie your entire identity to it.
My generation and younger are the ones having these conversations and now I realize why boomers call us "lazy." They want us to work ourselves to death and be miserable like them. 😩😩😩
Someone once told me that a German start up reduced their working days to 6h and had Wednesdays off (and weekends of course) and the employees got just as much work done.
Love this! Not everyone is supposed to build a billion dollar empire by the age of 26. That life isn’t for everybody and can suit some people but not others. Sometimes I think about this and ask myself what is it we are actually chasing.
@@commandery3574 Yeah I gets this this why it so important in my eyes to not hold your value in your job title but rather in who you are as a person and who you are in Christ (if you are a Christian).
@T A I get it people are chasing freedom and it’s true more ressources can mean more freedom in some cases but some never really access it. Because some people are then chained to the new lifestyle and the obligations that come with it. Having a business is 24/7 not so easy to just switch off when it’s on you to make stuff happen. I’m all for the hustlers but it becomes toxic in the sense that some people then can’t let go of the all work mentality and don’t take the time to step back and actually enjoy the freedom they said they were chasing in the first place.
@T A that is not at all true. You need to spend time in poverty. True poverty. Not "I can't pay my bills bc I prioritize starbucks" low middle class poverty.
This is why I'm a stay at home mom. It's not lazy to reject hustle culture, it's prioritizing peace and things that are most important to you. I think a lot of gen z(my generation) and millennials (husband's generation) think staying home isn't even an option because hustle culture tells us we are only as valuable as our careers. Nice video topic. 😊
I commend you for your decision. Somehow at some point it became frowned upon for a mother to stay at home and take care of her children. Kids need their parents, they don't need overworked, exhausted, angry, zombies who are so wiped out from work that they have no time for their own children. By choosing to not bow to that pressure your kids will turn out very well and their children will benefit too, your decision will have positive repercussions for generations to come.
I'm currently 24, got married last month and my wife and i have got a baby coming in December. I dropped outta school when I was 16 and worked 16 hour work days, 6 days a week on my business and several different side hustles until I got married last month.( I don't wanna lie I enjoyed every minute of it).I sold four of my businesses to bigger corporations and now I only work 6 hour days every other day (cause I just can't stay away from it). That was the best decision of my life. The only reason I worked so hard the last 8 or so years was so I could have this freedom to spend time with the love of my life and soon to be family, travel with them and spend all this time with them whenever I want. I want to enjoy these moments which I'm pretty sure I would've missed if I was constantly working. Ive heard so many stories of people on their death beds saying they wish they spent more time with their family. I don't want to be one of those people. Thank you for reading this far lol.
I think what i dislike most about hustle culture is the idea that where you are is never good enough and if you have not attained something (despite “working hard”) its somehow your fault/due to laziness. It’s honestly so draining. What happened to being happy and content with where you are? Thanks for the informative vid Adella 💕
My exact feelings!!! Thank you!!! I feel like I’m constantly thinking about what my next move will be or that I need to attain a certain wealth because of not I will be deemed lazy or not valuable
Yes! It’s so cringe idealising the ‘Girl Boss’ aesthetic🙄 honestly life doesn’t have to revolve around work; it’s important to figure out who you are, not just what you want to do 🤷🏾♀️
They are idealized because they are exceptional. It's fine if you want to live a normal life but it seems like everyone here is just trying to rationalize their own sense of inferiority
from someone who hates human interactions, i remember when i worked as a receptionist at a hotel.. everyday i cry my way to work, worried what type of people im gonna face, and fake a happy/helpful persona. it became too much that whenever im asleep my dream is about work.. i remember my last day at work.. walking out of that building.. aaaaa i cried. i felt free
I myself tried this hustle culture BS. Had a 9-5 and two side hustles. I couldn't keep up. No sleep. No rest. No time for yourself. Hustle culture is essentially a way of keeping up with the Joneses. It's a way of trying to impress upon people that you have it all, when it all has you. It's sick. And no you're not lazy for wanting a regular job with regular hours. You do not need the excessively big house, cars, clothes or anything that those who promote hustle culture tell you that you do. Money really and truly doesn't buy happiness. I do not want to be a boss babe. Tried it and I was tired as hell. It's too much. I do not know how people/women who do this sustain it over time.
Gurrrrrrrl!!!! I've been saying this! I'm so burnt out from the hustle culture. It's unfulfilling, purposeless, pointless... I'm getting myself out. Can't do it anymore.
Let’s talk about the fact in a common job, the “hustler” ends up taken advantage of, working longer hours, extra shifts, and higher expectations while others who really are lazy get to move up
Soooo true! I only LOVE the idea of hustling and grinding..but don't actually enjoy doing it...I'm an early morning person but I still rather relax in the morning than work and grind in the morning.
I love seeing a black women talking about this because society says we are supposed to work hard to the point of lack of sleep, suffer in silence, and put up with abuse. But then I realized that society doesn't care about black women.
@@dimitrescucrncevic9746 it is not victim culture at all it’s real life black woman “tired” don’t get taken seriously In the work space and in our own community ...our community expect us to go out and get it ...we are the moving force of the black community so we work harder put up with Abuse and exhaust ourselves to do so ..you can only understand An aspect of what ever after said and judge her as playing victim you don’t know the depth her statement go into
Oh my days stop with this victim mentality. Black people are the only race that complain so much about racism and inequality when in reality you are given the same rights and benefits as everyone else. You want things handed on a silver spoon. Look at all the immigrants in uk and usa..they never complain. They work hard and become successful.
@@sky-od8cq Are you black? Have you ever lived a day in a black woman's shoes? If the answer is no, then please take your ignorance else where. A lot of black women are raised to not take hand outs, work 10x hard than everyone else, give support to everyone else and never take time for ourselves when we have reached burn out. This is not just unique to one or two black women, there are a LOT of black women that have been raised this way. There is a difference between working hard to get the things you want in life while still caring about yourself and your mental health, and working yourself to burn out, depression, and many other health risks. It would be nice if people would stop trying to gaslight black women just because they don't understand and don't want to understand our struggles.
Achieving something is actually not really about working hard. It’s about working smart, developing skills, discipline and really connecting with yourself! For example: knowing when to rest, knowing what you enjoy, knowing what your good at and what you are not, self reflection etc.
I think Gen Xers have really figured this out but no one pays attention to us 🤣🤣 On a serious note, you know hustle culture has infiltrated the US society when employees are fearful to request to take their vacation days / PTO.
My brother and I are gen x. He’s been with the same company since he graduated college but he’s built a good life, has a good balance from what I can tell. I didn’t fit into corporate culture well (hence my google handle) and do what I did putting myself through school which pays what my career did, delivering food. I lasted 10 years in hospital imaging with call at night and holidays. I just can’t anymore. My body won’t let me.
Definitely agree with all the points raised in this video, nowadays you see people talking about having multiple streams of income, while I do understand why this is important, I do sometimes wonder why it has come to this. Why can't I just live a happy fulfilled life on one income? In today's society it almost seems like you are a failure, if you aren't earning an income from more than one source.
And it is definitely possible to gain financial independence while working one job. There are many people who earn low income and retired with enough savings to live comfortably. I think some people just don't know how to live within or below their means and therefore need to make more and more money. Multiple streams of income is okay, but not to the point of exhaustion.
It's not that we have 2 or 3 incomes because we love the hustle culture. It's because we are not being paid enough with one job. Also in my experience it's not a good idea to have just 1 income. That was me some years ago. I got severly depressed, couldnt function anymore and had to quit the only job I had. Now I have 3 jobs and can't do one of them because I got covid and many other physical and mental issues after that. Most people here in Argentina have more than 1 income not because we are workaholics but because the money is not enough even if we don't go on holidays or buy unnecessary things
No one asked but here's a tip on prioritizing yourself is: Do one thing for yourself every hour of the day. Like IDK drink a glass of water, lotion your hand, say an affermation... Note: time/duration is not the prime focus
hustle culture is soooo American Dream. you’re not working out of duty or necessity - it’s idolised, and people who don’t hustle are looked down on (BROKE PEOPLE SHOULD NEVER LAUGH) as if someone’s productivity determines their worth. also: love your lips ma’am
Really the goal is to make your money work for you instead of using all the hours in your day for money. If you hustle the point is to build passive income to free your time essentially stop exchanging time for money.
I totally agree with everything you have said. I am just finishing up my doctorate in education. I currently work as an elementary principal. I am freaking exhausted mentally. I just put in notice at my school and I feel I may need to take at least six months to a year off so that I can decompress. I literally want to scream. Instead, I just cry all of the time. It is just ridiculous.
What are you going to do now? I think about doing this every day. I'm trying to pursue a degree in another field but its exhausting and I feel stuck because I need to work fulltime.
I have worked as a teacher, I have worked for Wells Fargo, I have been a collegiate instructor, yet, the job I was the happiest doing was as a Barista at Pete's Coffee.....gosh, I miss those days. It was low paying but fun, social, and flexible.
Very good point you made about rebranding boomer struggles. Alot of us do approach work with fear and anxiety which sucks away any sort of passion we may have originally had. Overworking is often a trauma response (I have recently learned in therapy) A lot of us overwork because we are scared of rejection or failure or we feel we need to prove ourselves by proving those that doubted us wrong - but actually how we best do that is living a fulfilled, content and happy life full of rest. Even if we do want to work towards material success, we should not neglect ourselves along the way because you need your whole healthy self to truly enjoy any wealth.
Since I was 18 I been working. I had two jobs for 3 years while going to school- thinking that hustle was what I needed to do. Now my kids are 8 years and 6 and I stare at them and I think. Wow they are growing so fast. And just this year I realize that I all I want to do is be with my kids more. So I’m in the process of working smarter not harder.
What's strangest to me is that sometimes in hustle culture the amount of work you put in is valued more than the outcome. Isn't it better to work less but get out more?
It's great you are discussing this cos for me being a working mum I feel guilty that I'm not chasing positions (while my peers are moving up), im just working towards being excellent in my current position, being an excellent mum to my toddlers and being an excellent wife and somehow getting a balance. Especially cos God has blessed me financially so I don't want to be ungrateful.
I have an online business and a job and I don’t subscribe to hustle culture. I am pursuing my business because it’s my passion and I only want more money so I can travel more. I use to overwork myself but now I take breaks. I no longer work outside of my job description and I don’t force myself to work on my business when I’m exhausted.
I think going to college really makes one understand what it feels like to have no boundaries. You do classes, but then homework and studying just encroached on everything else. After that, being able to just leave work at work sounds *so* wonderful.
Well work has been harming the health since dawn of times. If we are so advanced as societies how we didn't find a way to live nicely without spending most of our time working🤷♀️ I loved the video and hearing your thoughts, this topic is major for me so that's so interesting🙌🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏
Hey girl! Love the video and I agree, but I wish there was some more nuance in the description of hustling/ working for material things. Because of the capitalistic society that we live in, most people are working so hard just to LIVE- to not be homeless, hungry. We are actually forced to work this hard. Working 40 hrs a week is too much, yet you can't get basic benefits (in the USA) without working this much. Hustle culture is just a new way we are baited into sacrificing what makes us happy and brings us together in order to advance corporate gains.
This remind me so, so much of back when I used to work at concerts during the summers (in security, and that's a whole 'nother can of beans) and how the hierarchical system there and the hustle culture/mentality of esp big productions just made those places such incredibly toxic places to work. I remember working 15h shifts 4 days straight and not even feeling human anymore at one festival and I mentioned how utterly exhausted I was to a coworker as I was heading back to our sleeping quarters after day 3 and they responded "oh I was scheduled for 16h shifts only [of course you were], but someone got sick, so I had to jump in and take the rest of their shift last minute. I've been working 17h and have 4 left to go today!" in the most sickeningly cheerful and self-righteous tone, a tone that was just rampant in the industry. And I think that could have been a point where I could have been further brainwashed into thinking that what was going on was ok, but I don't know if it was the fact that I was so exhausted or that I just wasn't down deep enough yet but that conversation just never sat right with me. Like, how could I possibly have worked harder after standing up for +15h for three days straight, barely having any time to even shower inbetween my shifts, much less eat breakfast and even then not getting enough sleep? Would love to say I never went back but I came for YEARS afterwards. Don't think I will ever be able to enjoy a big production concert.
We do need to work this hard because inflation keeps going up but our pay doesn’t. If you start having kids, it’s miserable to struggle financially and raise them
I’m new here but this got me thinking about something I read a few weeks back that said the 40 hour work week was built on the assumption that there is someone else who takes care of cooking, cleaning, chores and errands. That completely changed my perspective
Everything you said literally resonated with me so much ! This constant pressure of having to “grind” and pick up new skills regularly 🙆🏽♀️ making some feel guilty about something God has even instructed us to make time for=rest! Llol🙆🏽♀️ i’d love to hear a part two! I want to be a lady of relaxation personally🙃 but whilst still living in my purpose !😅
The moment that I realized how detrimental hustle culture can be was in 2016 when I was working for a top financial company here in the US and I got hired for a new job within the company. The weekend before I was supposed to start that new job, I had a death in my family and I was deeply affected by it, especially since we never got to lay that person to rest but that’s a whole other story. A couple of weeks after my relative’s death, I had a mental breakdown the night before I was supposed to come in to work and I called my boss to let him know I wasn’t going to be able to come in. And I swear this guy told me, “I understand but you know what helps me get through something like that? Going to work. So just try to push through that and get back to the hustle.” From then on, I knew my days were numbered at that office. Hustle Culture isn’t real, its just a made-up mindset made to keep you on a hamster wheel with the intention of getting rich. The irony with Hustle Culture, as I see it, is the same people telling you you are a slave to your job every day, are themselves slaves to their own ambitions, except it’s a 24 hour thing for them. It’s really sad imo
I appreciate this video so much! Cause I feel like I'm constantly fighting this mentality of hustle culture, without being perceived as lazy to others who don't understand.
Society got us trapped in the rat wheel and chasing things we don’t want or need! Still we work hard to buy them! Since I decided to quit my very stressful and demanding job, I’m feeling more and more like myself and more creative and grateful for what I already have!
I work in a place for a year and I was told after twelve months probation that they were letting me go because I wasn't working until 10 pm. Usually, I would have been mad be I was glad I was not part of the burnout team. I think it is by design that people are pushed to start earlier and work later.
Hustle is great. When what you're hustling for is something you're passionate about and you're not just working hard while not knowing exactly what it is you're even working hard for. Working hard often doesn't pay off. If you're working a job you hate and thinking that if you just work harder and make more money you'll be happy, you're chasing a lie. Happiness doesn't come from a particular dollar amount but rather, loving what it is you do to make that money.
I definitely feel this way, i was making lists and lists to be busy but for what? I was doing 100 things, when the panini began and it just made me tired lol Just productivity for nothing, or going made trying to make side hustles. I was so burnt out I had to channel "I can't come and die" because hustle culture is def a disease. Def can relate to having to be productive from fear of not appearing productive enough or being reprimanded.
thank you - I feel so bad for younger folks who grow up thinking they have to monetize every aspect of their lives. I work 8-430 m-f and I really love my life! I feel good about assisting my clients and making sure their work day goes smoothly, and then I get to just go live my life!
The key to success is to save hard and be committed to saving. I make $15 an hour and I work around 70 hrs a week as a home health aide taking care of family but in the last 4 years I have saved $150k. I live a simple life. I don't waste my money wearing Jordans or overly expensive clothing. I'm not a materialistic person. I have some clothing that I wear thts like 10 yrs old. If you learn to live simple and commit to saving money your bank account will be padded trust me. I save $1000 a month that's freakin ridiculous but I manage to do it every month.
I don’t think working hard is bad or trying hard at something. I think a big problem with hustle culture is that it is more than working hard. It’s about trying to maintain the image of being a hard worker. Social media also puts pressure on us to convey a certain image. I’m in a minimum wage job. I don’t mind it too much since I still live with my mum but one of my cousins was saying how I should be aiming higher. My job is minimum wage however I don’t mind too much as other things are a big priority for me in which I try hard at. For example, my health is a priority that I have been maintaining a low carb diet for about a year. I don’t show this off to everyone but this isn’t seen as much as me putting in hard work as if I was to be grinding at a job or going back to uni. I think the problem with hustle culture is that a lot of it is image.
"They really seem to have convinced people that if you aren't working harder than you wanna be working, at something you don't particularly enjoy, preferably under the orders of somebody you don't like, then you're just a bad person" - David Graeber
bring the video please! Your videos are very informative and well rounded. It is never a waist of time listening to you. Thank you Adella. Keep em coming. Blessings
I’m so happy I don’t feel alone in this matter. I’ve been dreading going to work because I’m like damn I’m working 40 hrs a week for $12…….. and If I didn’t have a partner I couldn’t afford my own apartment……. Wahhhhhh the price of living keeps going up and companies don’t value their employees enough to keep that in mind. Convince the only way to actually make a living is to have your own business. People don’t respect employees and it’s frustrating. Great video my love 💖
Yessss, listening to the body and self awareness. Thank you for this video. 💕 It only took me about 3-4yrs to burnout on hustle culture. A major difference between Boomers and Millennials & Gen Z is we’re course correcting 5-10yrs into this, where they never course corrected. Another reason we started with hustle culture is bc we had to, especially millennials. We didn’t inherit the same economy Boomers did. This effects things massively and we essentially started thinking out of the box to pay the bills and keep up, which meant some serious side hustling. Also in general Boomer’s don’t acknowledge facts (not all obviously, some are cool) and how things have changed so when they saw us not buying houses and not popping out babies on their same timeline they called us lazy, entitled perpetual children. ....when the truth is it’s simply not financially responsible to do either at this time. ....My personal take on this is they woke up one day and realized they’d never made a conscious choice in their life, they just followed the prescribed timeline and boxes they’re “supposed” to check. So when we weren’t doing it they were like “hey I didn’t know that was a option” and became bitter little jelly bells. When the truth is our generations were just forced to start making personal and conscious choices bc the old choices weren’t available anymore. And from that hustle culture was born, something we should consciously disengaged with. We’ve tried it. It felt necessary at some point. But it’s hurting us, so let’s change. Basically - It’d be helpful to question everything Boomers said and put on us, and examine what made us start acting the way we did. And then course correct. We are more conscious generations, we’ll get this soon enough.
I'm reluctantly agnostic but I find the idea of resting and taking joy in life and relaxation as a way to worship to be just such a beautiful way to look at it.
What you were talking about when you spoke of not being aware of your body and how it’s doing is called MINDFULNESS. Taking a couple mins to check in with your body and emotions thru out the day as an act of mindfulness will help
"Some people just like that they are good at their job" - this was the most eye-opening and profound thing (career/job-wise), I've heard in months! When asked, I haven't been able to pick out what it was exactly that I enjoyed about my job, but this right here might be it. Love your content, literally been on a bit of a binge of it all today, but thanking the algorithm Gods for sending you my way. - from, a new subscriber :)
Thank you for this message sis. I believe we are all working too much and clearly our bodies are not designed to handle all the stress. Rest is underrated but extremely important. Relaxing, eating well, painting or sewing , these activities rejuvenate the soul. A simple life can be a beautiful thing.
I’m a teacher and I used to work myself to the BONE. Creating intricate activities and lessons and events. Not for my admin but for the kids. Even though no one not admin not the kids were asking me to. This year I decided to focus on me and leaving work at work. I feel like I’m a WAY better teacher for my students.
I'm older and I always felt how the younger people felt about the work ethic. I agree with working smart not hard. And knowing your worth. Not all that hustle and grind BS. I still buck against the system because ppl my age think that very old school way to work. I'm still a work in progress. Thanks for your content. P.S we all don't think like that.
i don't enjoy working and what I hate more is that we have to act like it is something we LOVE and INSPIRE to do and DREAM about. Literally, 95 percent of the world does not have a DREAMJOB that they love. they are just glad they can make a living.
Very interesting take on the juxtaposition between millennial and boomer work culture. Hustle culture can be very toxic and we have to check in from time to time to make sure we're not getting lost in the sauce😭
Thank you, @Adella. You communicate some great points! It's not that engineering, being a lawyer, or a doctor, etc is inherently bad. Unfortunately, it's that corporate culture mentality that takes someone's passion and turns it against them. Imagine the potential these people have that is squashed by the companies they work for. Likewise, a manual labor job could be nice or bad depending on the company culture and the co-workers.
" I do not have a dream job.I do not dream of labor."James Baldwin.
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THIS❗🌸
That's a word right there
I just said this and my head exploded… smh
James Baldwin never said that.
laziness doesn’t exist. The 40 hour work week isn’t even supposed to be normal. Wanting to rest our bodies and find fulfilment in relaxing shouldn’t be considered “laziness”
THANK YOU
many jobs are 40 plus a week especially with the pandemic, my company is running at 100 percent with half the man power
Yeah LMFAO it literally started in the industrial revolution. Companies were like how many hours can a person work without like essentially dying. Same w the 8 hour sleep thing. It's pretty interesting and fascinating that this still has an impact for than 100 years later.
I'd say laziness is when you ignore the necessities when you have the means to go for them but if you already have that then there shouldn't be anything wrong with being comfortable...
exactly. "Lazy" is just something executives call you so they can guilt you into working to death for them.
I would love a slow paced and stable job, which is also flexible. I want to be able to do normal, homely things because that gives me happiness. I don't want my work to define my entire existence.
Same dude just go to work do your job get your check go home simple easy
@mizzmolly I know what you're saying but monetizing hobbies kinda takes the fun out of them when ya gotta do them in a disciplined manner or certain way in order to guarantee income?
@@Frichilsasta08 definitely, it shouldn't even have to be said, but it's ok to do things (or nothing) because it's fun, or not think too much about it!
@@eyitsyaboi4527 Its not that easy. People tend to want to get personal at work and when you don't play that you will get let go for not fitting in.
@mizzmolly when you turn a hobby into a business, you no longer get to just enjoy the hobby for the sake of it. You have to deal with the business side...sales, marketing, accounting, taxes, customer service,, producing your product or services on a set schedule etc etc. Sometimes you end up spending just as much or more time on those things as on...baking, crafting, or whatever the hobby was to begin with. Its not fun for everyone to deal with business side and it can actually ruin the thing they once did for fun and relaxation.
we also need to kill the notion that we must have everything figured out at a certain point, or you're a failure. it's okay to not know wtf is going in life. it's okay to be where we are & move / grow from there.
Amen👏
True. Life itself doesnt even make sense. You might figure out your own life, but you can never figure out life itself.
Certainly.
Especially when you live under a government that was built off of slavery & poverty. When a system is designed to benefit only a certain party, & youre outside that party, chances are you're gonna have a harder time getting it together anyway.
People won’t get there because they abandoned their spirituality in any way they practice lol They are online too much & have too many emotional attachments lol
I realized this months ago and decided to not work so hard anymore. I’ve been so happy
any tips i get this quilty feeling
Same at the end of the die we’ll all die and take nothing with us just be happy
When I started learning Financial Literacy and applying it opposed to the Hustle&Grind lifestyle, I became much happier.
Pali. There’s a time and place. I wish I’d worked harder in my 20s. Definitely paying for it now. Stagnated career progression. My CA friends I was in school with are now all CFOs/Directors. I’m one too, but didn’t work hard at allllll as soon as I passed my exams. And it shows.
Same, I worked so hard my first two years of college , and after covid I just learned to relax , idc about grades or anything anymore
Hustle culture is rooted in wanting more stuff beyond our basic needs being met. Its greed, discontentment driven and wanting more and more.
Facts. Whew Let’s unpack.
Is there anything wrong with that?
Isnt that how we have been, even before hustle culture??🤔😂
Outside of bills...I really have to force myself to spend money. I really don’t need any more clothes, makeup, shoes, art supplies, instruments...
@@PeteS_1994 YES being greedy and discontent is bad. People like that are NEVER satisfied regardless.
I hate how we've demonised being comfortable and settling; we shame people who choose simple jobs like being a truck driver or choosing t o live a low stress life in a small town, not everyone wants a high stress job in the city whilst working two side hustles and it shouldn't be normalised that everyone should have to do that much just to make a living.
I just want to be an artist and make little money
Exactly. A simple, peaceful life is nothing to sneeze at.
i agree with your post but i'll take exception with truck driver being a simple job. I drive truck. Long-haul. All through the united friggin states on interstates, us national highways, state routes and county roads. you think this job is simple? Try it.
I'll keep the indignant expletive laden reply to myself but you are likely under the impression my job consists of driving for 11 hours, pull over, sleep, repeat. No, my dear Baron, nonono... On YT start watching Smart Trucking vids. He's good though not ALL of it.
@@STScott-qo4pw I didn't mean to belittle truck driving I just think it's objectively a repetitive job, not simple as in dumb. I do nursing and I regret it because there's not a regular day or expected routine and it's very physically and mentally exhausting.
@@STScott-qo4pw I agree, my fiancé is a long haul trucker. For one, he constantly misses important family events and is away from home for weeks at a time. Also, I rode with him once and the amount of attention to detail needed to complete paperwork as well as sticking to schedule to deliver on time within the legal drive time parameters and loading delays was crazy! Not to mention the driving and safety aspect. People do not give the respect deserved to truckers. It has to be one of the jobs with the worst work life balance ever and you guys don’t get the respect you deserve for real. If you think it’s repetitive or remotely easy, you have no idea!
Hustle culture has one goal: to tell everyone that you should be unhappy and unsatisfied but energetic about it all the same. Basically a sadomasochistic mind set
This
i never thought about how its rooted in sadomasochism!! People love misery, pain, and suffering. They are addicted to it.
I can't tell you how golden this comment is
@@entset it’s true. They validate themselves and their worth to society off of it
I don’t think y’all understand hustling that much. Hustling is about setting a goal for yourself and working to achieve that goal. If someone is just working for the sake of working without getting anything out of it that’s stupid I will agree. However if someone has a goal in mind then they will have to work for it. You can’t dream big and expect it to fall in your lap on a silver platter. You have to work for that and that work will be difficult but you need to keep pushing in order to ACHIEVE. I will agree that if you are happy with a simple life and a regular 9-5 then you good you don’t need to hustle if you are happy with where you are. You only need to hustle if your goal is to achieve something.
Less is more. There is more and more evidence that shorter work hours/days/weeks creates a lot more productivity. The same with schools. We need to reform our whole work system, environment and culture.
Agreed 100% I’ve been working 6 hours shifts and it’s incredible.
Somebody don't want us to work less, we must work more and more to pay our bills
@@mocny01 What bills though? This is the problem, people have accumulated so much "stuff" in their lives(loans, cars, mortgages, cable TV subscriptions, dining out, fancy clothes, etc)that they're working just to maintain the "yoke" that weara them down. It's madness really. Strip away the unnecessary things in your life and then you can work less and be free.
I understand this but also a lot of these gurus have adhd. I also have it pretty badly. I hyperfocus and forget to eat all the time. When they hyperfocus on an interest they are forgetful and get blasts of dopamine that the adhd mind needs in order to complete tasks. I think this is an important part of the conversation. Adhd ers are super lazy about things that they do not care about because there is not enough reward for the task. Hyperfocus hustle is not practical for neurotypical people.
@@eoinMB3949 If people want to have fun and leisure they should have (not to an extreme amount) it's a basic need and right.
I always say God forbid I drop dead tomorrow, my job will probably say “aww man, we will miss her”... & proceed to post my position. It’s not worth it. I honestly crave a life of joy in the simple things. I try to get it whenever I can on my off days
Your post made me laugh. 😂🤣🤣
You’re right !
These companies won’t give a damn if anyone dies they’ll replace them in a heartbeat!
@@omomeidontaya3143 Exactly! It’s unfortunate, but it’s a business at the end of the day & they need to hit their bottom line. We have to take care of us & our mental well being
I worked for a company that announced a coworkers death through a memorial email and advertised for their position - in the SAME EMAIL.. I’ll never forget ..
@@RIZR. that is absolutely disgusting & disheartening.
Yep… like “ can we hurry up and get this dead body outta here…it’s taking up the space that a live working person could be using” smh it’s disgusting…
A lot of companies don’t value employees.. employees are disposable at any time no matter how hard you slave for your corporation.
We are taught to work hard but in return our corporations are not giving us the same respect. Exploited for productivity then thrown to the bin when your supply has been used. What life is this ?
I work in HR and you are 100% right companies really don’t care about employees lol they will be hiring someone for your role whilst smiling in your face!
@@pendafall2394 So true ! They were all smiling to me while they planned to fire me. I even found out that they were trying to get rid of me when I called a staff representative...
A life that's meant for automated machines...
Das capitalism baby!
In Thailand surprisingly we have pretty good law for this. Basically if you're laid off they have to pay you certain amount depends on how long you've been working. Sometimes people get paid like 2 years salary when they've worked there for 10 years and get laid off
exactly, work is ok and has to be done but why are we being told we need to break ourselves to achieve success...you gonna be too damaged to enjoy it 😭
Yesssss! I couldn’t agree more! It’s being too damaged to enjoy it for me 🥺
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@T A Or it could just stress you out.
@T A very true, but there’s a difference between challenge, even insurmountable odds...and straight up misery and sadomasochism
@T A there's a difference between rising to the occasion and making it through stressful situations that have been thrust upon you and creating your own stress for the sake of stress. Yes, getting through stressful times can build character. But, my goal in life is not to stay stressed out. Thats the "grind" aspect of what she's talking about and what becomes so toxic. You grind and grind and for what? Some mythical time when you can stop grinding and enjoy the fruits of your labor? I'd rather enjoy my life as much as possible evey day, while I'm living it right now. No one is even promised tomorrow.
hustle culture is soooo toxic!!! It's okay to want to live a 'normal' life and have a 9-5.
this!! for some reason some people have collectively decided to diss on others who are content with their 9-5's, like just don't get one!
And the world needs both 9-5 and entrepreneurs...so I don't get the fuss ...thanks sis!
Both are toxic, most people at 9-5 are working overtime, trying to make a decent living when they should be paying their workers livable wages. They barely get vacation days. Hustle culture, wannabe entrepreneurs, are just being played at the same time. They are all so burnt out trying to be a millionaire
@@madisoncontroversial7348 so much going on! I think to some extent yes both can be toxic...but think about it, if you love what you do, then some days when there's so much to do, you might need to do some overtime but that doesn't happen all the time.
BRUUUHH, I'm a Business student at my university, I said the same thing and everyone looked at me like I committed a crime. I just want an average job, being a business student doesn't mean I need to ASPIRE to be an entrepreneur and "be my own boss" LMFAOO.
As a young 21 year old haitian immigrant that lives in the states, its so fucking exhausting to have to grind/hustle for every damn thing. Its draining to have to always be chasing after a goal, i ask my cousin which come from the same background as me, when am I'm going to feel happy. Sometimes i truly wish i came from a wealthy family where I didn't have to work so hard for basic things. Mind you im graduating nuraing school next week, RN at 21, but I still feel like I can't enjoy this moment because it's on to the next thing.
Haitian- American that feels the same way! I’m happy to see a space of people with the same mindset and attitude I’ve been experiencing but sad that this space exists! I just want to live!! I wish we can all just live freely. Congratulations on graduating! Bon bagay!
Congrats! Try to acknowledge all the things you’ve already done, it’s okay to take a moment to enjoy what you’ve already done
I relate to this 100%, even the Haitian immigrant bit. You are not the only one.
@@Nunofyabizzzzz Yes, this is exactly how I feel !
You have my dream career how was nursing school?
I've embraced hustle culture hard, from the day I started working, have always had 2+ jobs even while going to school. The last 5 years, I worked literally everyday single day, and only had calendar holidays off. I am officially BURNT. OUT. I have since switched to night shift, and cut my hours, now I can never go back to hustling that hard again. I'm sick of people, work, everything, I can't do it anymore.
@Green Pasture National Holidays where everyone has off, like memorial day
@Green Pasture they said they were only off during holiday seasons, I myself don't know about most of the holidays unless I check the calendar.
Y’all are so mean in the comments🤦🏽♀️
@Green Pasture you're a special one🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
For real though, WHAT didn't you get??😳😳
Same here, but I’m grateful for the experience, because it made me not soft and lazy. I also know when things get real I can make happen.
i like how she gets straight to the topic, no bullshit intro, or asking for thumbs up,
@Cassundra not necessarily bad, but its annoying because its so obvious when so many youtubers do it to pad their videos so they can pass youtube's "10-minute minimum" mark so they can monetize their video with more ads
(& its kinda redundant to ask people for likes at this point. Anyone who consistently uses UA-cam knows about the whole "like & subscribe" mechanic. Vloggers dont need to remind us every video. If your content is genuinely great, I'll like & subscribe to you on my own. Im an adult, i dont need someone holding my hand & trying to make me like their video.)
I greatly appreciate it
I greatly appreciate it
@@natesamadhi33 I totally agree! Create the best video you can & I’ll decide if I like it or not, simple.
I am not lazy, I am just not going to overextend myself. I want to live a nice comfortable life and that's it. I am not trying to work day in and day out.
Same. I’ve proven to myself how hard of a worker I know I can be. I’m not hurting myself for the validation of others, my energy is for me
Agree! LOL!!
Yesss 100% I'm currently in my last year of university getting a chemical engineering degree. My plan is to make enough money to retire my parents and send them back to the homeland and then I'm going to be an assistant librarian some day lol
You'll achieve your goals 😉
But why are you there retirement plan should they not worry about there retirement. Then you worry about yours as your gonna want to that eventually or even support your family. No hate just wondering 💭
@@glenglen9958 Just a probability that they might not want a family.
@@glenglen9958 In a lot of cultures sadly, the parents have kids to have them as their retirement plan. The irony of this is that it eventually tires out their kid since it shackles them in a way. People that say this usually don’t plan on having kids since it’s rooted in their head early on that they have to plan to help out their parents (who often come from low income and/or never wanted to work or save). Literally everyone I know and have met that has said this ends up not having their own marriage or kids. And while a lot are genuinely happy, most are indifferent. And a few are gay or lesbian.
@@joannacmakuchi4316 Even so I have bills and responsibilities so I cannot be my parents retirement income solely for me it sounds wild. I may be able to support them now and again but dependency is a complete different story.
When people ask me what's my dream job, I say to make money in my sleep. People look at me crazy when I say that 🤷🏽♀️.
My goal is to own 99.9% of my time. I want to spend my time doing things that enhance my life, improve my quality of life, and make me well-rounded and happy. I don't want to work 40 hours a week. I don't care to be a business owner either, working 100 plus hours a week with extra responsibility. More power to those who do it; I just don't want to🤷🏽♀️. I've been working since I was 11 and I'm now 40. I'm over working.
That’s why people have FIRE goals :/
@@Yas-hg1wi well, you know there is more than one way to skin a cat. I'm thinking more outside the box than just retirement funds.
Amen!
I would love this to and I’m hoping this can be attained at some point for me. Other also want this
My job literally posted a obituary of one of our employees who worked there for 20 years explaining her time there at the company. She spent the first 7 years working Mon-Sat and they praised her for “rarely calling out”& all the family she left behind...do you know at the bottom of her post, they posted her job ID if anyone was interested in filling her position ASAP...Her death, her obituary & her job ID all in the same post...I will not give someone 20 years of my life, my weekends, my holidays(we ran 24/7), to only get 4 measly sentences to summarize my time here....fuck these jobs & corporations...
I hustled hard in my early 20s. One day, I started feeling ill. I was weak, nauseous, and hardly could eat anything. I saw a couple doctors and none of them could figure out what was wrong with me. I decided to take that summer off to rest. Almost instantly, I started feeling better. All the symptoms went away. That following fall when school and work started back up, the symptoms returned. I realized then that it was my body's response to prolonged stress. I truly believe all that stress did permanent damage to my body. I no longer wish to hustle, to stress, to stay busy 24/7. This isn't the way humans were meant to live. We are meant to experience stress in short bursts. Sadly, if you're not hustling in America, you're a loser. I'm glad some of us are trying to change that narrative!
Your story sounds like mine, however I hope you’re still in good health. I am a college student and I’m recovery from adrenal fatigue due to the prolonged stress I put myself under for a long time. We as people and our bodies have limitations.
@@ritaevergreen7234 I'm sorry to hear that you too have been affected by chronic stress. I looked up "Adrenal Fatigue Syndrome" and wouldn't you know, I experience(d) most of the symptoms. Sadly, I've been under a lot of stress the past year, but I am better able to manage it these days. I'm much more mindful of the news/social media/food I consume and try to spend at least an hour in nature a day. This has helped tremendously. Also since I am now in my early 30s, I have found that I care less about fitting in, with keeping up with the Jones'. I am content with what I have and where I am in life :). I wish you the best of luck with your journey as well!
Had the same experience. I'd study and work non stop until I got depressed, suicidal and had the worst anxiety ever, I think I was a workaholic, all I cared about was my career. Now I care more about my mental and physical health.
You're definitely not alone. I think everyone reaches this point in their mid to late 20s, sometimes even in their early 20s. You can't burn the candle at both ends forever. Human beings are actually incredibly sensitive to stress.
@@ritaevergreen7234 so sorry..hope you're good now? Im in uni as well and sometimes i completely shut down that i need a whole week to reset due to so much stress
Hustle culture is annoying AF. I love my little 9-5 job working in a brokerage office clearing shipments for a large corporate aero industry. It’s just me and two people in the office and I can work from home once shipments lessen in the afternoon. I’m off weekends and I get to spend quality time with my boyfriend, see friends, go pamper myself, cooking, grocery shopping, watch movies at home … the options are endless! Im so blessed for this job because in the past I worked in retail for YEARS and I never got a weekend off in my life unless I had to request it months in advance. Im grateful and I don’t care for a second stream of income because I was always stressing trying to get multiple jobs. I get paid more at this position than all other jobs I’ve held.
I paid off my car loan last month with this one job and budget my money. Now I’m saving and spending on experiences ☺️
"Do not toil to acquire wealth; be discerning enough to desist." Proverbs 23:4
That whole hustle culture grinds my gears. Especially hearing them say things like “you sleep for 8 hours, work at the office for 8 hours, what are you doing for those other 8 hours of the day?!” As if commuting and breaks aren’t necessary parts of ones day.
It's also like saying: taking care of your kids, making food for yourself, or cleaning your home doesn't exist..
@@HosCreates exactly. It's invalidating, literally like being gaslighted, makes you feel bad for doing "wasteful" " unproductive" stuff which can be things you love, but we need these things cus it's humanizing, and cus we're human, we need human things. It's dismissive of our need to slow down and enjoy life as it comes without being pulled into the hustle culture which can be extremely toxic for some
I was talking to a resident of mine and she was telling me how back in the 70s and 80s, her and her husband, made enough to buy their own home, have 2 cars and go on vacation, every now and then, while raising 3 kids.
Her husband was a car mechanic and she was a nurse. She then told me that she felt bad for this generation because she sees how hard many people work, and they still can't have half of what her and her husband had at 25. It bothered me because it was all true.
Honestly, I feel like hustle culture, is really there to show off to other people, what you've accomplished and if they want to be successful, then they need to make the same move. It's emotionally, mentally,physically and spiritually damaging and it gets old quickly.
Yes! We need a "girl boss" video. It's so crazy. I think it's even worse in America. The first thing people ask you in a conversation is "so what do you for a living?" Your career does not need to be your whole identity. You don't need to 5 jobs. You're not lazy if you only work one and only have one stream of income. There's this weird obsession with building generational wealth. Idk I'm literally just trying to survive and be happy and content during the survival, which currently I am🙂
@DreaGonzalez right! I am someone who doesn't want kids, so I'm like what am I building for. I'll be in he ground dead😂 what's the point
Yeah, my next generation should pay their dues and work their own as*. Why am i working dog tired for them to have a luxurious life? Nah. That's weird.
This comment thread has literally opened my eyes to another perspective. I hadn't really looked at hustling for the next generation like this. I've wanted kids but there are some days when I think to myself, 'do I really?'. And even then, if you give everything to them, who is to say they know how to handle their finances or that they won't become spoiled? Why am I wasting my primary years away chasing after things that literally aren't making me happy..... it's all food for thought
No fr tho why do most introductions start with stating your job title. Even when your parents speak to relatives about you it's always ohh Jen is a pharmacist now like why is that the norm?a
@@Kayla-kd8ov I feel you I always thought I wanted kids so I could give them everything I didn't have. But then I'm like na I don't want spoiled brats. Idek at this point honestly.
I think people are so focused on finding a job they're passionate about/fulfilling because they are spending majority of their time at work so they look for a career that can completely fulfill them when in reality there is more to life than work you can't tie your entire identity to it.
My generation and younger are the ones having these conversations and now I realize why boomers call us "lazy." They want us to work ourselves to death and be miserable like them. 😩😩😩
Haha, so we could pay for their mistakes, sister.
The more we work
The more accessible their lives are.
@@marcelmendez6968 Right?! I just hope that we don't make the same mistakes.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 right, they hate seeing life in someone’s eyes lol
It’s literally not boomers tho most of the people who I see obsessed with hustle culture are younger people. Y’all blame everything on them 🤨
They don't even work that hard. It's all talk.
Someone once told me that a German start up reduced their working days to 6h and had Wednesdays off (and weekends of course) and the employees got just as much work done.
Love this! Not everyone is supposed to build a billion dollar empire by the age of 26. That life isn’t for everybody and can suit some people but not others.
Sometimes I think about this and ask myself what is it we are actually chasing.
they’re chasing the feeling lot finally being of finally being worthy
@@commandery3574 Yeah I gets this this why it so important in my eyes to not hold your value in your job title but rather in who you are as a person and who you are in Christ (if you are a Christian).
Also there are some people for whom no amount of work will make them a billionaire. They'll work 80 hours weeks just to stay poor.
@T A I get it people are chasing freedom and it’s true more ressources can mean more freedom in some cases but some never really access it.
Because some people are then chained to the new lifestyle and the obligations that come with it. Having a business is 24/7 not so easy to just switch off when it’s on you to make stuff happen.
I’m all for the hustlers but it becomes toxic in the sense that some people then can’t let go of the all work mentality and don’t take the time to step back and actually enjoy the freedom they said they were chasing in the first place.
@T A that is not at all true. You need to spend time in poverty. True poverty. Not "I can't pay my bills bc I prioritize starbucks" low middle class poverty.
This is why I'm a stay at home mom. It's not lazy to reject hustle culture, it's prioritizing peace and things that are most important to you. I think a lot of gen z(my generation) and millennials (husband's generation) think staying home isn't even an option because hustle culture tells us we are only as valuable as our careers. Nice video topic. 😊
I was intially sad Abt having to stay home but even workingnpart time with 2 baby babies would be over extending myself.bi thank God the 300 a month.
I commend you for your decision. Somehow at some point it became frowned upon for a mother to stay at home and take care of her children. Kids need their parents, they don't need overworked, exhausted, angry, zombies who are so wiped out from work that they have no time for their own children. By choosing to not bow to that pressure your kids will turn out very well and their children will benefit too, your decision will have positive repercussions for generations to come.
It wasn't hustle culture it was 2nd wave feminism
@@eoinMB3949 or they'll just turn out like everybody else and that's ok too
I plan on being a stay at home mother also when I have kids.I just turned 22
I'm currently 24, got married last month and my wife and i have got a baby coming in December. I dropped outta school when I was 16 and worked 16 hour work days, 6 days a week on my business and several different side hustles until I got married last month.( I don't wanna lie I enjoyed every minute of it).I sold four of my businesses to bigger corporations and now I only work 6 hour days every other day (cause I just can't stay away from it). That was the best decision of my life. The only reason I worked so hard the last 8 or so years was so I could have this freedom to spend time with the love of my life and soon to be family, travel with them and spend all this time with them whenever I want. I want to enjoy these moments which I'm pretty sure I would've missed if I was constantly working. Ive heard so many stories of people on their death beds saying they wish they spent more time with their family. I don't want to be one of those people.
Thank you for reading this far lol.
Hustle Culture: The romanticization of hard work
I think what i dislike most about hustle culture is the idea that where you are is never good enough and if you have not attained something (despite “working hard”) its somehow your fault/due to laziness. It’s honestly so draining. What happened to being happy and content with where you are? Thanks for the informative vid Adella 💕
My exact feelings!!! Thank you!!! I feel like I’m constantly thinking about what my next move will be or that I need to attain a certain wealth because of not I will be deemed lazy or not valuable
Yes! It’s so cringe idealising the ‘Girl Boss’ aesthetic🙄 honestly life doesn’t have to revolve around work; it’s important to figure out who you are, not just what you want to do 🤷🏾♀️
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lol its literally the aesthetic people chase. Registering a company and then putting CEO in their bio. Thats all.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Total Fake BS!!!
They are idealized because they are exceptional. It's fine if you want to live a normal life but it seems like everyone here is just trying to rationalize their own sense of inferiority
from someone who hates human interactions, i remember when i worked as a receptionist at a hotel.. everyday i cry my way to work, worried what type of people im gonna face, and fake a happy/helpful persona. it became too much that whenever im asleep my dream is about work.. i remember my last day at work.. walking out of that building.. aaaaa i cried. i felt free
I myself tried this hustle culture BS. Had a 9-5 and two side hustles. I couldn't keep up. No sleep. No rest. No time for yourself. Hustle culture is essentially a way of keeping up with the Joneses. It's a way of trying to impress upon people that you have it all, when it all has you. It's sick. And no you're not lazy for wanting a regular job with regular hours. You do not need the excessively big house, cars, clothes or anything that those who promote hustle culture tell you that you do. Money really and truly doesn't buy happiness. I do not want to be a boss babe. Tried it and I was tired as hell. It's too much. I do not know how people/women who do this sustain it over time.
Wow “it’s a way to impress people that you have it all, when it all has you” 👏🏼👏🏼
Great topic to discuss..I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I don’t want to work hard, I want to work well, for my mind, body and spirit.
Thank you for this content! ✨ “Trusting God = rest” I needed to hear that! ✨
Gurrrrrrrl!!!! I've been saying this! I'm so burnt out from the hustle culture. It's unfulfilling, purposeless, pointless... I'm getting myself out. Can't do it anymore.
Let’s talk about the fact in a common job, the “hustler” ends up taken advantage of, working longer hours, extra shifts, and higher expectations while others who really are lazy get to move up
THIS!
Soooo true! I only LOVE the idea of hustling and grinding..but don't actually enjoy doing it...I'm an early morning person but I still rather relax in the morning than work and grind in the morning.
Same. I wanna be up at five sipping tea and writing, not working lol.
It's so hard to escape this hustle culture though when closing your eyes feels like the world is leaving you decades behind. Damn!
I love seeing a black women talking about this because society says we are supposed to work hard to the point of lack of sleep, suffer in silence, and put up with abuse.
But then I realized that society doesn't care about black women.
That's not specifically targeted towards black women. Everyone's currently being encouraged to work themselves to exhaustion.
People like Ever After are the type you want to avoid, and is part of victim culture.
@@dimitrescucrncevic9746 it is not victim culture at all it’s real life black woman “tired” don’t get taken seriously In the work space and in our own community ...our community expect us to go out and get it ...we are the moving force of the black community so we work harder put up with Abuse and exhaust ourselves to do so ..you can only understand An aspect of what ever after said and judge her as playing victim you don’t know the depth her statement go into
Oh my days stop with this victim mentality. Black people are the only race that complain so much about racism and inequality when in reality you are given the same rights and benefits as everyone else. You want things handed on a silver spoon. Look at all the immigrants in uk and usa..they never complain. They work hard and become successful.
@@sky-od8cq Are you black? Have you ever lived a day in a black woman's shoes? If the answer is no, then please take your ignorance else where. A lot of black women are raised to not take hand outs, work 10x hard than everyone else, give support to everyone else and never take time for ourselves when we have reached burn out. This is not just unique to one or two black women, there are a LOT of black women that have been raised this way. There is a difference between working hard to get the things you want in life while still caring about yourself and your mental health, and working yourself to burn out, depression, and many other health risks. It would be nice if people would stop trying to gaslight black women just because they don't understand and don't want to understand our struggles.
I felt this! I'm trying to recover from the hustle culture and wrongly labeled myself lazy. It can become an unhealthy habit.
Achieving something is actually not really about working hard. It’s about working smart, developing skills, discipline and really connecting with yourself! For example: knowing when to rest, knowing what you enjoy, knowing what your good at and what you are not, self reflection etc.
I didnt even realize im overworking. When you said you wake up at 7 and come home at 10...its so normalized for me 🥴😭
A Tony Robbins ad showed up just before your video.. the way he speaks stresses me out so much tbh 😅
His voice is soooooo stressful to hear! 😫
Omg! Lol I agree 😂
I think Gen Xers have really figured this out but no one pays attention to us 🤣🤣
On a serious note, you know hustle culture has infiltrated the US society when employees are fearful to request to take their vacation days / PTO.
We have! We are quietly enjoying the shift. 🙂
My brother and I are gen x. He’s been with the same company since he graduated college but he’s built a good life, has a good balance from what I can tell. I didn’t fit into corporate culture well (hence my google handle) and do what I did putting myself through school which pays what my career did, delivering food. I lasted 10 years in hospital imaging with call at night and holidays. I just can’t anymore. My body won’t let me.
🎯🎯🎯 exactly
Definitely agree with all the points raised in this video, nowadays you see people talking about having multiple streams of income, while I do understand why this is important, I do sometimes wonder why it has come to this. Why can't I just live a happy fulfilled life on one income? In today's society it almost seems like you are a failure, if you aren't earning an income from more than one source.
Lots of people including me lost there main stream of income when covid happened.
@@PeteS_1994 I'm so sorry about that :(
And it is definitely possible to gain financial independence while working one job. There are many people who earn low income and retired with enough savings to live comfortably. I think some people just don't know how to live within or below their means and therefore need to make more and more money. Multiple streams of income is okay, but not to the point of exhaustion.
If you live in California you need multiple streams of income.
It's not that we have 2 or 3 incomes because we love the hustle culture. It's because we are not being paid enough with one job. Also in my experience it's not a good idea to have just 1 income. That was me some years ago. I got severly depressed, couldnt function anymore and had to quit the only job I had. Now I have 3 jobs and can't do one of them because I got covid and many other physical and mental issues after that. Most people here in Argentina have more than 1 income not because we are workaholics but because the money is not enough even if we don't go on holidays or buy unnecessary things
No one asked but here's a tip on prioritizing yourself is:
Do one thing for yourself every hour of the day. Like IDK drink a glass of water, lotion your hand, say an affermation...
Note: time/duration is not the prime focus
Fantastic tip. Thanks for sharing
hustle culture is soooo American Dream. you’re not working out of duty or necessity - it’s idolised, and people who don’t hustle are looked down on (BROKE PEOPLE SHOULD NEVER LAUGH) as if someone’s productivity determines their worth.
also: love your lips ma’am
Really the goal is to make your money work for you instead of using all the hours in your day for money. If you hustle the point is to build passive income to free your time essentially stop exchanging time for money.
What stood out for me is when she says “I trust God to take care of the things I can’t while I’m resting”. I needed to hear that
I totally agree with everything you have said. I am just finishing up my doctorate in education. I currently work as an elementary principal. I am freaking exhausted mentally. I just put in notice at my school and I feel I may need to take at least six months to a year off so that I can decompress. I literally want to scream. Instead, I just cry all of the time. It is just ridiculous.
You quit your job?
@@FTYC2022 Yes. I just quit. Liberating.
What are you going to do now? I think about doing this every day. I'm trying to pursue a degree in another field but its exhausting and I feel stuck because I need to work fulltime.
Enjoy your newly found freedom
@@FTYC2022 I will be using the passive income I earn and some of my savings.
I have worked as a teacher, I have worked for Wells Fargo, I have been a collegiate instructor, yet, the job I was the happiest doing was as a Barista at Pete's Coffee.....gosh, I miss those days. It was low paying but fun, social, and flexible.
Very good point you made about rebranding boomer struggles.
Alot of us do approach work with fear and anxiety which sucks away any sort of passion we may have originally had. Overworking is often a trauma response (I have recently learned in therapy) A lot of us overwork because we are scared of rejection or failure or we feel we need to prove ourselves by proving those that doubted us wrong - but actually how we best do that is living a fulfilled, content and happy life full of rest. Even if we do want to work towards material success, we should not neglect ourselves along the way because you need your whole healthy self to truly enjoy any wealth.
Since I was 18 I been working. I had two jobs for 3 years while going to school- thinking that hustle was what I needed to do. Now my kids are 8 years and 6 and I stare at them and I think. Wow they are growing so fast. And just this year I realize that I all I want to do is be with my kids more. So I’m in the process of working smarter not harder.
What's strangest to me is that sometimes in hustle culture the amount of work you put in is valued more than the outcome. Isn't it better to work less but get out more?
Build your own ✨PASSIVE✨ empire. Build something that grows even when you’re not working on it!
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Hustle UNTIL...
It's great you are discussing this cos for me being a working mum I feel guilty that I'm not chasing positions (while my peers are moving up), im just working towards being excellent in my current position, being an excellent mum to my toddlers and being an excellent wife and somehow getting a balance. Especially cos God has blessed me financially so I don't want to be ungrateful.
Hustle culture really sometimes get out of hand, so busy working and grinding and no time for enjoyment..not everyone can find that balance
It's healthy to have boundaries. That 100% includes boundaries with work.
I have an online business and a job and I don’t subscribe to hustle culture. I am pursuing my business because it’s my passion and I only want more money so I can travel more. I use to overwork myself but now I take breaks. I no longer work outside of my job description and I don’t force myself to work on my business when I’m exhausted.
I think going to college really makes one understand what it feels like to have no boundaries. You do classes, but then homework and studying just encroached on everything else. After that, being able to just leave work at work sounds *so* wonderful.
Well work has been harming the health since dawn of times. If we are so advanced as societies how we didn't find a way to live nicely without spending most of our time working🤷♀️ I loved the video and hearing your thoughts, this topic is major for me so that's so interesting🙌🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏
This spoke to me on so many levels! I thought I was the only one who thought like this! Beautiful perspective!
Hey girl! Love the video and I agree, but I wish there was some more nuance in the description of hustling/ working for material things. Because of the capitalistic society that we live in, most people are working so hard just to LIVE- to not be homeless, hungry. We are actually forced to work this hard. Working 40 hrs a week is too much, yet you can't get basic benefits (in the USA) without working this much. Hustle culture is just a new way we are baited into sacrificing what makes us happy and brings us together in order to advance corporate gains.
Getting a Tony Robins ad on a anti-husstle culture video. The irony✨
Ohhh that's a new trend then...
That bit about seasons of life was so spot on 👏🏻 I needed this.
This remind me so, so much of back when I used to work at concerts during the summers (in security, and that's a whole 'nother can of beans) and how the hierarchical system there and the hustle culture/mentality of esp big productions just made those places such incredibly toxic places to work. I remember working 15h shifts 4 days straight and not even feeling human anymore at one festival and I mentioned how utterly exhausted I was to a coworker as I was heading back to our sleeping quarters after day 3 and they responded "oh I was scheduled for 16h shifts only [of course you were], but someone got sick, so I had to jump in and take the rest of their shift last minute. I've been working 17h and have 4 left to go today!" in the most sickeningly cheerful and self-righteous tone, a tone that was just rampant in the industry.
And I think that could have been a point where I could have been further brainwashed into thinking that what was going on was ok, but I don't know if it was the fact that I was so exhausted or that I just wasn't down deep enough yet but that conversation just never sat right with me. Like, how could I possibly have worked harder after standing up for +15h for three days straight, barely having any time to even shower inbetween my shifts, much less eat breakfast and even then not getting enough sleep? Would love to say I never went back but I came for YEARS afterwards.
Don't think I will ever be able to enjoy a big production concert.
We do need to work this hard because inflation keeps going up but our pay doesn’t. If you start having kids, it’s miserable to struggle financially and raise them
You CONSTANTLY speak what my mind is thinking but not articulating properly! You just gained a new subscriber, I love it 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I’m new here but this got me thinking about something I read a few weeks back that said the 40 hour work week was built on the assumption that there is someone else who takes care of cooking, cleaning, chores and errands. That completely changed my perspective
Everything you said literally resonated with me so much ! This constant pressure of having to “grind” and pick up new skills regularly 🙆🏽♀️ making some feel guilty about something God has even instructed us to make time for=rest! Llol🙆🏽♀️ i’d love to hear a part two! I want to be a lady of relaxation personally🙃 but whilst still living in my purpose !😅
You are Beautiful!! ✨✨
@@pyt8344 thank you so much 🥰!x So are you !
The moment that I realized how detrimental hustle culture can be was in 2016 when I was working for a top financial company here in the US and I got hired for a new job within the company. The weekend before I was supposed to start that new job, I had a death in my family and I was deeply affected by it, especially since we never got to lay that person to rest but that’s a whole other story. A couple of weeks after my relative’s death, I had a mental breakdown the night before I was supposed to come in to work and I called my boss to let him know I wasn’t going to be able to come in. And I swear this guy told me, “I understand but you know what helps me get through something like that? Going to work. So just try to push through that and get back to the hustle.” From then on, I knew my days were numbered at that office. Hustle Culture isn’t real, its just a made-up mindset made to keep you on a hamster wheel with the intention of getting rich. The irony with Hustle Culture, as I see it, is the same people telling you you are a slave to your job every day, are themselves slaves to their own ambitions, except it’s a 24 hour thing for them. It’s really sad imo
I appreciate this video so much! Cause I feel like I'm constantly fighting this mentality of hustle culture, without being perceived as lazy to others who don't understand.
Society got us trapped in the rat wheel and chasing things we don’t want or need! Still we work hard to buy them! Since I decided to quit my very stressful and demanding job, I’m feeling more and more like myself and more creative and grateful for what I already have!
I work in a place for a year and I was told after twelve months probation that they were letting me go because I wasn't working until 10 pm. Usually, I would have been mad be I was glad I was not part of the burnout team.
I think it is by design that people are pushed to start earlier and work later.
Hustle is great. When what you're hustling for is something you're passionate about and you're not just working hard while not knowing exactly what it is you're even working hard for. Working hard often doesn't pay off. If you're working a job you hate and thinking that if you just work harder and make more money you'll be happy, you're chasing a lie. Happiness doesn't come from a particular dollar amount but rather, loving what it is you do to make that money.
I definitely feel this way, i was making lists and lists to be busy but for what? I was doing 100 things, when the panini began and it just made me tired lol Just productivity for nothing, or going made trying to make side hustles. I was so burnt out I had to channel "I can't come and die" because hustle culture is def a disease.
Def can relate to having to be productive from fear of not appearing productive enough or being reprimanded.
thank you - I feel so bad for younger folks who grow up thinking they have to monetize every aspect of their lives. I work 8-430 m-f and I really love my life! I feel good about assisting my clients and making sure their work day goes smoothly, and then I get to just go live my life!
We need an universal, unconditional income for every citizen.
The key to success is to save hard and be committed to saving. I make $15 an hour and I work around 70 hrs a week as a home health aide taking care of family but in the last 4 years I have saved $150k. I live a simple life. I don't waste my money wearing Jordans or overly expensive clothing. I'm not a materialistic person. I have some clothing that I wear thts like 10 yrs old. If you learn to live simple and commit to saving money your bank account will be padded trust me. I save $1000 a month that's freakin ridiculous but I manage to do it every month.
I don’t think working hard is bad or trying hard at something. I think a big problem with hustle culture is that it is more than working hard. It’s about trying to maintain the image of being a hard worker. Social media also puts pressure on us to convey a certain image.
I’m in a minimum wage job. I don’t mind it too much since I still live with my mum but one of my cousins was saying how I should be aiming higher.
My job is minimum wage however I don’t mind too much as other things are a big priority for me in which I try hard at. For example, my health is a priority that I have been maintaining a low carb diet for about a year. I don’t show this off to everyone but this isn’t seen as much as me putting in hard work as if I was to be grinding at a job or going back to uni.
I think the problem with hustle culture is that a lot of it is image.
"They really seem to have convinced people that if you aren't working harder than you wanna be working, at something you don't particularly enjoy, preferably under the orders of somebody you don't like, then you're just a bad person" - David Graeber
bring the video please! Your videos are very informative and well rounded. It is never a waist of time listening to you. Thank you Adella. Keep em coming. Blessings
I’m so happy I don’t feel alone in this matter. I’ve been dreading going to work because I’m like damn I’m working 40 hrs a week for $12…….. and If I didn’t have a partner I couldn’t afford my own apartment……. Wahhhhhh the price of living keeps going up and companies don’t value their employees enough to keep that in mind. Convince the only way to actually make a living is to have your own business. People don’t respect employees and it’s frustrating. Great video my love 💖
Yessss, listening to the body and self awareness. Thank you for this video. 💕
It only took me about 3-4yrs to burnout on hustle culture. A major difference between Boomers and Millennials & Gen Z is we’re course correcting 5-10yrs into this, where they never course corrected.
Another reason we started with hustle culture is bc we had to, especially millennials. We didn’t inherit the same economy Boomers did. This effects things massively and we essentially started thinking out of the box to pay the bills and keep up, which meant some serious side hustling.
Also in general Boomer’s don’t acknowledge facts (not all obviously, some are cool) and how things have changed so when they saw us not buying houses and not popping out babies on their same timeline they called us lazy, entitled perpetual children. ....when the truth is it’s simply not financially responsible to do either at this time. ....My personal take on this is they woke up one day and realized they’d never made a conscious choice in their life, they just followed the prescribed timeline and boxes they’re “supposed” to check. So when we weren’t doing it they were like “hey I didn’t know that was a option” and became bitter little jelly bells. When the truth is our generations were just forced to start making personal and conscious choices bc the old choices weren’t available anymore. And from that hustle culture was born, something we should consciously disengaged with. We’ve tried it. It felt necessary at some point. But it’s hurting us, so let’s change.
Basically - It’d be helpful to question everything Boomers said and put on us, and examine what made us start acting the way we did. And then course correct. We are more conscious generations, we’ll get this soon enough.
I'm reluctantly agnostic but I find the idea of resting and taking joy in life and relaxation as a way to worship to be just such a beautiful way to look at it.
I agree with that "passion" topic. I foud that tho there are some stuff that I like, I am not crazy passionate about anything. And that's okay.
What you were talking about when you spoke of not being aware of your body and how it’s doing is called MINDFULNESS. Taking a couple mins to check in with your body and emotions thru out the day as an act of mindfulness will help
"Some people just like that they are good at their job" - this was the most eye-opening and profound thing (career/job-wise), I've heard in months! When asked, I haven't been able to pick out what it was exactly that I enjoyed about my job, but this right here might be it. Love your content, literally been on a bit of a binge of it all today, but thanking the algorithm Gods for sending you my way. - from, a new subscriber :)
Thank you for this message sis. I believe we are all working too much and clearly our bodies are not designed to handle all the stress. Rest is underrated but extremely important. Relaxing, eating well, painting or sewing , these activities rejuvenate the soul. A simple life can be a beautiful thing.
I’m a teacher and I used to work myself to the BONE. Creating intricate activities and lessons and events. Not for my admin but for the kids. Even though no one not admin not the kids were asking me to. This year I decided to focus on me and leaving work at work. I feel like I’m a WAY better teacher for my students.
I'm older and I always felt how the younger people felt about the work ethic.
I agree with working smart not hard. And knowing your worth. Not all that hustle and grind BS. I still buck against the system because ppl my age think that very old school way to work. I'm still a work in progress. Thanks for your content. P.S we all don't think like that.
i don't enjoy working and what I hate more is that we have to act like it is something we LOVE and INSPIRE to do and DREAM about. Literally, 95 percent of the world does not have a DREAMJOB that they love. they are just glad they can make a living.
Exactly
For most people, the birth and raising of their child will be the most meaningful thing in their life, not filling in excel spreadsheets at work.
Very interesting take on the juxtaposition between millennial and boomer work culture.
Hustle culture can be very toxic and we have to check in from time to time to make sure we're not getting lost in the sauce😭
Thank you, @Adella. You communicate some great points! It's not that engineering, being a lawyer, or a doctor, etc is inherently bad. Unfortunately, it's that corporate culture mentality that takes someone's passion and turns it against them. Imagine the potential these people have that is squashed by the companies they work for. Likewise, a manual labor job could be nice or bad depending on the company culture and the co-workers.