WHEN BACK IN THE DAYS ,IF YOU HAD A NICKLE SHINEY & BRIGHT & YOU GOING TO BUY ALL SORTS OF CANDYS ( & YOU DID ) NOW THAT IT'S 2024 BY YEAR OF ; CAN ANY ONE DO THE SAME? ...WELL IF WE HAD A MOM & POP STORE : WHO CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN ," LIKE THAT.
Finally, someone else saying out loud, things I’ve always felt since I was young (I’m 50 now) but couldn’t express for fear of my friends/family thinking I’m “Lazy” or “Dreaming”. People say that’s not real life & get your head out the clouds! I’m not interested in hustling & grinding at 50. Hell, I’m tired. I long for simplicity!
I was wondering the same. When will I be enough? Why is there always something to fix? Something to achieve? It’s similar to what religion taught me as a child. You were born a sinner, and all your righteousness were as filthy rags…..I mean c’ mon, you mean , no matter what I do, I’ll never be good enough for God? This system was set up to make us feel like there’s always a void to fill and it’s very tiring and can take a toll on our mental health.
@@freespirit-111 The beauty of Jesus Christ is He offers us a way to be "enough" when we believe on Him for salvation. He gives us His righteousness for free because He paid for it with His life. All He expects is obedience and love...Do our mistakes (sins) relinquish the gift? No. Not if we repent. Jesus said 'Come to me all you who are heavy laden and I will give you rest.' Hope that helps. God bless you, sis.
@@freespirit-111your entire comment is 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 How tf can I be born into sin.. so from my very birth I'm not worthy or good enough? Never resonated with my soul !
I’ve seen so many black women pushed to work themselves into an early grave way before retirement age. Yet, most of the black women i know who are 85+ years old, including my mother did not work or worked part time. This is enough evidence for me. Unfortunately the men who’ve seen their mothers overworked expect the same of their wives and the vicious cycle continues to the detriment of positive black life experiences, our culture & family. Thank you for this very insightful and important video.
When I opted out of struggle life , many women insulted me . Saying me being a stay at home mom served no purpose . No , it does . And I want an easy life and the time to raise my kids . Oh well. I’m not a career woman. I do things I can enjoy for money but I’m not climbing a social ladder . And I have a bachelors degree and street smarts so I’m far for stupid . If you’re in Florida ... I live here ! Lol I would love to meet you !
First of all, Stay at home mothers are doing SO much work, so many jobs at one time. And you don't need to justify yourself to these women. You are doing BIG things. You're literally changing the world by you raising your children and being there for them. They will always remember this and appreciate you for it. Degrees and careers do not make us who we are. You are amazing because you ARE. I'm so proud of you, I see you and celebrate you! Much love and joy to you!!! 💛 🤗
I can relate, I am a stay at home mom now. It has been two years. I had to walk away from a high earning career. This transition has been difficult for me due to the culture here in the states. My experience has been awakening. As far as dealing with society as a black women that is not hustle and grinding anymore, I have noticed that it brings uncomfort to others when they have noticed I do not "work" at a "job".
I know exactly where you’re coming from. I had always wanted to take a hiatus from work and in December 2017 that’s what I decided to do. In my experience, most African American women asked why and wanted to know if I was starting a family. I said no. They acted as if I needed a reason. All of the Caucasian women I encountered were very supportive. That was the best decision I made for myself. I eventually did return to work but look forward to another hiatus.
Absolutely our men need to know this too! They can work hard but they don’t have to kill themselves. I know the world of being a man is far different then women but they need to know they too can have peace and a life of ease too
I'm so glad you enjoyed this! And yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! I'm so happy you're making steps towards joy and fulfillment in the simple life. Much love and joy to you! 🌺☺️💛
I remember having a full-time job when I was 16. I worked sometimes 7 days a week because my mom said you are lazy... hustle for more hours, you are only laying around the house. I had to pay 200.00 rent a month at 16, and I had to feed kids that lived in the house. The kids were not mine, but I was lazy.. I was making 4.25 an hour at that time, and I was really trying to take care of a lot of responsibility ... I almost had a nervous breakdown running from school. Work and I got screamed at to bring home more money.. I adopted all those kids at 18 and moved to texas..hustle started all over again..sad but true
I’ve been miserable for years being the strong overcomer on track to get her PhD. When did God tell me to do all this? NEVER. I’ve been listening to others put me in this box and it’s been 10 years of schooling!!! Wth? I am walking away today and following God. He is leading me to a life of success and EASE.
This message was everything and more. I am an entrepreneur who use to listen to speakers like Eric Thomas “Sleep is for suckers” and I knew in my spirit that this was not the life that I wanted. I am a Empath who NEEDS sleep and peace to recharge. I love this
Bill Gates is a billionaire and still believes in getting 8 hours of sleep. So that whole "sleep is for suckers" is toxic BS and doesn't always lead to wealth. You need sleep for your cells to regenerate and body to heal. Sleeping is as important as taking in nutritients. The lack of sleep and workaholism can lead to brain deterioration!!!
I was called Lazy a lot growing up. I don't blame my family because it looked like I wasn't motivated 😂. Recently I worked myself in the hospital. My heart told me ENOUGH!!!! Now I am healing living with my youngest son. Next month I am hitting the road living intentionally. Keep teaching!!!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS!! This is so real for so many of us. Literally working ourselves to death. I am SO happy that you're healing and on your way to thriving. I'm also grateful that you actually took the time to listen to your body. So many just keep going on. Much LOVE to you!!! And may you be 110% better than you were before!
OMG! Did I need this video! Oh yes! I am 54 and have been hustling and grinding for more than half of my life. What is worse is hustling and grinding for every job I had and still doing it! I am EXHAUSTED! I AM DISAPPOINTED and no further along than I hoped to be. Thank you for this. I prayed and here is my answer. I am ready to live in and with ease and flow.
Thank for your videos. Black women of all ages need to hear what you are saying. Some of us need to hear it twice even three times because we were too "tired" to actually hear it the first time. Keep being and doing you, Sis. I am here for it💜
I got this "hustle and grind" mentality from my mom lol. I spent so much time working and feeling not enough even when I was slaving away 3pm-11pm Monday-friday with a company that didn't allow me any time off because I refused to take additional weekend shifts. During this period my mother made me feel like I wasn't doing enough on top of me trying to pursue a nursing degree that I had to come to terms with that I don't even want. Mind you I am only 22 and I have 0 kids. I missed out on so much of my time trying to impress my mother and peers who came from better homes and I am EXHAUSTED. I should not be this depressed at such a young age and I feel like this mentality has made me believe that I don't deserve to be happy because I haven't earned it and these aren't even my beliefs or values, these are my moms. I am tired of rushing to have everything together when I don't even know what I like nor have I had a chance to even explore for that matter. I know deep down I am a creative and need to have fun and explore that side of myself, not work my life away in shitty minimum wage jobs and pursing a degree and Idek I even want. My mom used to yell at me every morning because my "laziness" "hurt" her because I would struggle to even get out the bed and do basic necessities. I am TIRED and I just want to be FREE.
sorry this was so long lol but your video was so impactful. I am also tired of feeling lame because idgaf about being a millionaire. I just want to be happy, for ONCE.
So glad your channel popped up .. not by accident. 61 year old AA female. I started simplifying my life in my 30’s.. very much a minimalist.. but all I know is work.. 36 year old son with Asperger’s I’m responsible for …. working like a slave comes from my parents, challenging cycle to break. I’m soo tired ..
Yes! Yes! Yes! This is why I resigned from my 'good' job without another job waiting for me. I have been watching Stephanie Perry, saving money from my paychecks since 2020. I plan to freelance for additional income, but first and foremost I plan to final have time to interact with people and relax. I worked crazy hours and was always 'too busy,' for any event or relaxation.
Same I just quit my high paying job last month with nothing lined up and I thank God for my savings. The job was high pressured and stressful. I am taking time to rest.
@@AngieDigitalCommunications yes I do. I feel that this is how Life should be. I am not even in a rush to get back to working again. I am giving my cares to God and letting Him take care of me and direct me where I should go. Tired of hustling and grinding. I want to always live in my soft feminine energy. That can never be disrupted again.
I had a good life ! Meaning 2 parent households and food on the table and traveling and going to church. I didn’t have an easy life though. If that makes sense!
I am an intentional being and I'm very much into self-preservation. I live my life simply and gracefully, one day at a time. I'm done with what other people are doing. I'm doing me. I claim strong vitality NOW not after I've ground myself to a pulp. I work to live, I don't live to work.
💛 I love this SO much!!! And this last line is it completely! Work to live, not live to work! This is exactly the balance I'm looking for in life. Determining what is enough and going for that and then... LIVING.
there is so much blessing in hard work, diligence and dedication, but somewhere we turned that into sacrificing family, joy, peace and health. instead of working for reward, we work for burnout. this video is a great reminder that rest and leisure are just as essential to your quality of life as diligence.
"instead of working for a reward, we work for burnout..." SPEAK!!! That is beautiful and such a sad truth. 😔 I'm so glad this resonated with you! Much love and joy to you! ☺️💛
@@AleciaRenece girl, i accidentally found a short video of yours this morning. since then i watched 4 more while working and followed you on insta 🤣🤣🤣 love at first sight 💗✊🏾🙏🏽🖤
We as women, especially black women, are accountable for being more responsible than everyone else. Meaning, we have to do the grocery shopping, shopping for the kids, go to work, make your partner happy, then you have nothing left for you. I thought it was just me but going to the grocery store is almost as exhausting as dating these days 😂 there used to be a time I would like going to the store with my grandma, but my God times have changed so much. Exhaustion seems to be a way of life at this point.
This was so refreshing to watch. I do not identify as a Black woman but I am Egyptian-Palestinian-American and I greatly appreciate how you place our daily living in a larger societal capitalist, white supremacist framework. This is so fundamentally grounded in a slave system and I also think a lot of the problem is how people label us as 'lazy' or 'productive' and how those labels can become a self fulfilling prophecy instead of tuning into your own intuition. Thank you again for the way you conveyed this message. It is so therapeutic for me
I live in Tampa 🌴& I love the beach. I try and go very often. This video is so in point it made me tear up. My passed last year. I have thought of her life in struggle & working 2 jobs to retire broken and beaten up, heart disease was a major player. I decided this year to break the cycle. I'm 50 and my life has and is changing to have more ease. Love your channel ❤️
This conversation makes me think of "Princess Tiana.." if you ever seen the animated film, "Princess and the Frog," Tiana always "hustled," and just never seem "rested."
❤🧘🏾♀️🙏🏾 It's draining hearing people say they are hustling/grinding!! They can have it..As you said I want no parts...They can also have the late nights/early morning...It can't be healthy lacking rest/sleep.
Thank you for saying these words. There is so much wisdom in this message. I'm feeling the pressure right now to constantly grind I don't know how to feel. I'm forcing myself 'retire' to early and thinking about working part-time. I can do it. I'm so tired.
Prioritize flow over force. That’s wise. Makes me think on what things I have been forcing to happen in my life vs what things have happened naturally with flow. I’m tired of forcing things to happen, I want to live in the land of flow in my life. ❤
I journaled very long and very hard on this video. I'm at a strange point in my life. Some might agree it's rock bottom. But as I start my climb back up, there are things I want to do differently. This video helped me hone in on those things and for that, I thank you so so much.
People need to be constantly reminded that words are spells! They mean things & because this is a bastardized language we call english, which is like a mixture of two languages, we really don't know the deeper meanings behind what we say all the time. Don't hustle & grind yourself into the grave. Flow > Grind. The right mindset is all that is necessary 💫💖💫 it's all within!
We absolutely do Things, Relationships, Dreams, Prosperity, Wealth, Joy, Peace, & Happiness should all be easy for us! I began rejecting resolutions decades ago. I only set intentions. This helps me allow good things to come and flow into my life with ease🖤
Yeeeeeeeeeeeeees! I agree with ALL of this! And same! Setting intentions have been life changing for me. I can work towards these without killing myself to get there. 💛 🤗
I'm a bestselling Author and wife. Yet....I accomplished this successfully at my ease and pace. I'm not a hustling boss chick. Exhaustion is not for me. Hustle and grind= masculinity. I'm saving my energy for our lovely vacations and lifestyle, living in the moment. I'm 56 and really loving life the way God intends me to. 😊#softlife #softblackwoman
You are speaking from my heart I know it’s from our Father God. Your words are confirmation of what I’ve been hearing and sharing with family and friends for years!!! ❤You are so Beautiful!!! Look I just pulled up your song’s your voice is💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 So pretty. Thank you for your presence. May God continue to bless you in you beauty, obedience and love.
This is beautiful. Amen, dear Alecia. I realize this response is nearly three months late, but I wanted to share with you my New Year's resolution for 2022: "Be useless to capitalism in 2022". I know you said we don't need to make resolutions (and I agree!), but I felt like this fits what you are saying.
No worries at all! I completely understand. Take all the time you need and can I just say....? I LOOOOOVE THIS RESOLUTION SO MUUUUUCH! Much love and joy to you!
I’m good with being called lazy by society’s standards. I know myself better than anyone else so when my body calls for rest and relaxation I make it a priority. I definitely want to live an easy life. Thanks for sharing Sis!!
i haven’t been able to work and have severe depression because i’m so isolated and no one to talk to. i miss working cuz at least i socialized. i’m on disability for mental illness and worked a few hours a week at a school for disabled kids. no work lead to trouble (substance abuse, depression, isolation) stuff i wish i didn’t deal with … this is good if you got a partner and community that supports u and loves u. black community has each other. as a non black girl i don’t think anyone gives a shit about me unless i’m on fire. i wish i had a sense of culture and community because that’s who’s gonna help support you, family.. elders, kids. sadly i’m single and no kids. no coworkers to keep me in check sucks. i’m beyond happy to see this video and it all makes sense. take care of yourselves DONT ISOLATE. keep checking in with each other, family and good food over everything. much love ..
Keep going sis.❤ never give up. Things may fall apart and they come back together again. They may fall apart again but they will come back together again. ❤
@@HealthyHairJourney thanks so much… i really appreciate it… pray everyone stick together during these times. community, family , bonding at home. isolation isn’t good for anyone’s health. check in on each other ..💗
@Caitlin Quigley believe me this world cares a lot more about you than it does someone black. I mean do you think there would be so much concern if Ukrainians were black? Anyways I hope your depression improves.
I'm 24 and I've been feeling like this and I feel guilty sometimes but when I look around sometimes it just seem like alot of us just overwork ourselves just to feel worthy but we aren't really happy with the end result. It's so much I can say but I'm so glad I got a chance to watch, see, and take in your message. Thank you so much I appreciate this video, definitely a new subscriber. 🤗💝
I really think this is part of our healing as Black Americans in America. We have been the battery and fuel so many companies, systems, and start ups and buildings that didn't really appreciate blacks. I think part of my healing is just being present in environments and people that develop a better version of me. To chose to just BE instead of being the tool or resource for someone else/company to use. I agree daily life is hard in and of itself that why I never believed that people are born with a silver spoon in their mouths....cause even they have people problems, health problems, and mental conditioning problems.
Alecia, thank you so much for your videos. Sometimes, we wait for permission to give ourselves what we deserve. I am doing that I feel like I am being more intentional with my life. Please continue doing what you do.
WOW!!! What a refreshing video! I wasn’t even looking for you, YET, this was just the message I needed to hear. I’m a recent survivor of a brain aneurysm, and these messages of yours are exactly the reminders I needed. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I'm watching this today 8/14/23 and this whole video hits home. I have no desire to give in hustle culture. I just want to be at peace and able to maintain my health, hobbies, happiness and make sure I can remain financially stable and abundant. Not wanting to wealthy or rich. Just a calm, joyful, happy life while I'm here! 🙏🏽
Be kind to yourself and know that you are worthy of rest and leisure! AMEN, your message is right on time for me and all us black folks! AMEN 😭🙂🙏❤️💋🥰💔😭🙂🙏
Hi Beautiful, Yassss!!! I'm thrilled that you were able to press pause and play when you were ready again. Thank you so much for putting it out here. I literally just finished dancing with myself, which is part of my goal to live with more intention. This weekend I've been learning how to relax even more wih a Winter meditation retreat here online. I can't tell you how much I've lived rejecting this whole "hustle" culture mentality, especially for Black women. It is definitely not the community I want to be part of on a daily basis. It's a lifestyle that just doesn't resonate with my spirit. Your content is of great value and you already know I am here for it. Blessings to you and your family always 🌻.
Yaaaaaaaaaaaay!!! I love that so muuuuuuuch! Dancing with yourself can be so therapeutic and refreshing. I love it! And i am wintering my life as well. I may share more about that. But working in my seasons, you know? I LOVE that! I don't want to be a part of that community either. I love that you're choosing YOU and your well being and joy above all. Thank you so much Carla! You are such a joy to be connected with! 💛 🤗
How sobering...Thank you so much sharing this! I also follow Stephanie Perry and the Nap Ministry. I am getting on board with the EASE movement. 😑 My focus for the year is Community. I sincerely want to spend my time enjoying family and expanding my "tribe" instead of chasing money.. I think this is a good start. Thank you!
Thank you so much for hearing my heart on the matter. It truly means a lot. And you're absolutely right. There are so many women out there who are ditching being over worked, under appreciated and they are choosing themselves and I LOVE ALL of it!!! 💛 🤗 Community being your focus is absolutely BEAUTIFUL! Thank you so much for sharing! This encouraged and inspired ME! Much love and joy to you!
I am tired and felt guilty. Your video made a lightbulb go on. I know what is wrong now and can think about what I need to do to achieve what God keeps showing me. He shows me the person I will be but I thought I was suppose to grind to get there. I know the truth now. I'm being arrogant and not trusting Him and for me to do unpopular things like sitting down for a while. Keep up your content you are helping people like me.
is anyone else easily triggered when you see your coworkers doing extra at work? sometimes the old perfectionist/workaholic/need to impress/self esteem from work me wants to jump in and volunteer, but i've been through so much and i know i have to keep my emotional bandwidth in check at work because my job just keeps asking for so much, it's like i feel compelled to work, but also don't, it's weird duality
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! Thank you so much! And yes!!! Ordering groceries have been LIFE changing! What have I been doing all of this time??? Stressing. Lol. Much love and joy to you! 💛🌺☺️
Yesss I agreee with you 1000% I tried to tell ppl that life is easy and you can live a easy life! I never understood why do you have to work hard and have a hard life?? I could not understand that and that I was told I didn’t do enough and blah blah but I don’t mind chillen and going by my own pace rather it’s slow or medium speed lol I’m good, if y’all want to keep rushing and move, move, move all the time everything they do will never be enough and they are killings themselves slow or shoot even quickly, just chill, It’s okay to slow downnnn, chill out take a break! And go by your own paceee pleaseeee😮💨😮💨
@19:06 Regarding procrastination I beg differ. It’s often fear or dishonesty based. I witnessed my husband & his entire family put off easy tasks until they had few if any choices. Or were dishonest about their participation in a task, and put it off it - it can be crippling. I’ve seen it. And yes, I don’t rush no where to do anything.
Where can I hear and see thw commercial song? Yes to this video, I have been watching several of your videos this week and they have been a true BLESSING!
Soo happy I found your channel, finally someone who speaks my language! 10 years ago I intentionally opted out of the hedonic principle, capitalistic way of life, now I live a simple life and do what I love, travel. Keep on thriving!
Thank YOU! 💛 In all the work you do and content you share, you are giving women permission to live their best lives, and that is amazing. That is life changing.
I’m loving your channel. You’re embodying so many lessons I’ve been trying to integrate for the past few years. I’m not a Black woman but I was raised by one so that informs a lot of my worldview, and it needs to continue changing lol!
"Nature does not hurry - yet everything is accomplished"
WHEN BACK IN THE DAYS ,IF YOU HAD A NICKLE SHINEY & BRIGHT & YOU GOING TO BUY ALL SORTS OF CANDYS ( & YOU DID ) NOW THAT IT'S 2024 BY YEAR OF ; CAN ANY ONE DO THE SAME? ...WELL IF WE HAD A MOM & POP STORE : WHO CAN MAKE IT HAPPEN ," LIKE THAT.
“Some people are so poor, all they have is money”
You're not lazy, you're just tired...I needed to hear that. 👍
To me its a trauma response. If you grew up poor you will work endlessly to not ever go back to that way of living
I know people who think that way!!
Finally, someone else saying out loud, things I’ve always felt since I was young (I’m 50 now) but couldn’t express for fear of my friends/family thinking I’m “Lazy” or “Dreaming”. People say that’s not real life & get your head out the clouds! I’m not interested in hustling & grinding at 50. Hell, I’m tired. I long for simplicity!
I was wondering the same. When will I be enough? Why is there always something to fix? Something to achieve? It’s similar to what religion taught me as a child. You were born a sinner, and all your righteousness were as filthy rags…..I mean c’ mon, you mean , no matter what I do, I’ll never be good enough for God?
This system was set up to make us feel like there’s always a void to fill and it’s very tiring and can take a toll on our mental health.
Say that!
Lol I heard that, sis!
@@freespirit-111 The beauty of Jesus Christ is He offers us a way to be "enough" when we believe on Him for salvation. He gives us His righteousness for free because He paid for it with His life. All He expects is obedience and love...Do our mistakes (sins) relinquish the gift? No. Not if we repent.
Jesus said 'Come to me all you who are heavy laden and I will give you rest.'
Hope that helps. God bless you, sis.
@@freespirit-111your entire comment is 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
How tf can I be born into sin.. so from my very birth I'm not worthy or good enough?
Never resonated with my soul !
I’ve seen so many black women pushed to work themselves into an early grave way before retirement age. Yet, most of the black women i know who are 85+ years old, including my mother did not work or worked part time. This is enough evidence for me. Unfortunately the men who’ve seen their mothers overworked expect the same of their wives and the vicious cycle continues to the detriment of positive black life experiences, our culture & family. Thank you for this very insightful and important video.
No one pushed black women to work, your foremothers fought to work to compete with men, because “we don’t need no man”.
You are a breathe of fresh air.
I completely own my laziness. I will live a life of ease and rest.
Love it lol
me too now lmaaoaooooo
Love it
When I opted out of struggle life , many women insulted me . Saying me being a stay at home mom served no purpose . No , it does . And I want an easy life and the time to raise my kids . Oh well. I’m not a career woman. I do things I can enjoy for money but I’m not climbing a social ladder . And I have a bachelors degree and street smarts so I’m far for stupid .
If you’re in Florida ... I live here ! Lol I would love to meet you !
First of all, Stay at home mothers are doing SO much work, so many jobs at one time. And you don't need to justify yourself to these women. You are doing BIG things. You're literally changing the world by you raising your children and being there for them. They will always remember this and appreciate you for it. Degrees and careers do not make us who we are. You are amazing because you ARE. I'm so proud of you, I see you and celebrate you! Much love and joy to you!!! 💛 🤗
@@AleciaRenece thank you so much. You are love and loved ❤️
I can relate, I am a stay at home mom now. It has been two years. I had to walk away from a high earning career. This transition has been difficult for me due to the culture here in the states. My experience has been awakening. As far as dealing with society as a black women that is not hustle and grinding anymore, I have noticed that it brings uncomfort to others when they have noticed I do not "work" at a "job".
Amen sister, I desire to be a stay at home wife and mom too and Abi believe God will give me just that when I meet the right man.
I know exactly where you’re coming from. I had always wanted to take a hiatus from work and in December 2017 that’s what I decided to do. In my experience, most African American women asked why and wanted to know if I was starting a family. I said no. They acted as if I needed a reason. All of the Caucasian women I encountered were very supportive. That was the best decision I made for myself. I eventually did return to work but look forward to another hiatus.
I'm overwhelmed with the jewels dropped in this video...black brothas need to watch this too...I most certainly am🙌🏾🙌🏾
My heart is so full! Take what you need and spread the love to your brothers! I'm so grateful for you. Much love and joy to you! 💛🌺☺️
NO THEY DONT THEY DEFINITELY NEED TO BE SOMEWHERE WORKING DEAR! LOL TF
@@neosoulsofree883 they can do both love....its real easy ....real easy🙏🏾
@@briankenneth5818 YEAH THEY COULD BUT ITS BEEN MORE RESTING ALOT LESS WORKING LOL 😆 😅 😂
Absolutely our men need to know this too! They can work hard but they don’t have to kill themselves. I know the world of being a man is far different then women but they need to know they too can have peace and a life of ease too
This was a refreshing video to watch. And Let me tell you at 47 years oId I am finally making moves toward My simple life.
I'm so glad you enjoyed this! And yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! I'm so happy you're making steps towards joy and fulfillment in the simple life. Much love and joy to you! 🌺☺️💛
Me too!
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Yes!!! This!!👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾❤️
Good for you, sis! Closing in on 45 and still figuring things out myself. Alecia is refreshing indeed!
Same !! 45 and on my way
I remember having a full-time job when I was 16. I worked sometimes 7 days a week because my mom said you are lazy... hustle for more hours, you are only laying around the house. I had to pay 200.00 rent a month at 16, and I had to feed kids that lived in the house. The kids were not mine, but I was lazy.. I was making 4.25 an hour at that time, and I was really trying to take care of a lot of responsibility ... I almost had a nervous breakdown running from school. Work and I got screamed at to bring home more money.. I adopted all those kids at 18 and moved to texas..hustle started all over again..sad but true
Girl you are right black people need rest praise the Lord thank you
I’ve been miserable for years being the strong overcomer on track to get her PhD. When did God tell me to do all this? NEVER. I’ve been listening to others put me in this box and it’s been 10 years of schooling!!! Wth? I am walking away today and following God. He is leading me to a life of success and EASE.
🫂🌻🌺💛 Much love and joy to you, Sis. I'm right there with you!!!
This message was everything and more. I am an entrepreneur who use to listen to speakers like Eric Thomas “Sleep is for suckers” and I knew in my spirit that this was not the life that I wanted. I am a Empath who NEEDS sleep and peace to recharge. I love this
I COMPLETELY feel you on this. I definitely be out whe folks talk about "team no sleep". Naw, I need sleep, vacation, weekends and all of that. ☺️💛
Bill Gates is a billionaire and still believes in getting 8 hours of sleep. So that whole "sleep is for suckers" is toxic BS and doesn't always lead to wealth. You need sleep for your cells to regenerate and body to heal. Sleeping is as important as taking in nutritients. The lack of sleep and workaholism can lead to brain deterioration!!!
I was called Lazy a lot growing up. I don't blame my family because it looked like I wasn't motivated 😂. Recently I worked myself in the hospital. My heart told me ENOUGH!!!! Now I am healing living with my youngest son. Next month I am hitting the road living intentionally. Keep teaching!!!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING THIS!! This is so real for so many of us. Literally working ourselves to death. I am SO happy that you're healing and on your way to thriving. I'm also grateful that you actually took the time to listen to your body. So many just keep going on. Much LOVE to you!!! And may you be 110% better than you were before!
OMG! Did I need this video! Oh yes! I am 54 and have been hustling and grinding for more than half of my life. What is worse is hustling and grinding for every job I had and still doing it! I am EXHAUSTED! I AM DISAPPOINTED and no further along than I hoped to be. Thank you for this. I prayed and here is my answer. I am ready to live in and with ease and flow.
Thank for your videos. Black women of all ages need to hear what you are saying. Some of us need to hear it twice even three times because we were too "tired" to actually hear it the first time. Keep being and doing you, Sis. I am here for it💜
I got this "hustle and grind" mentality from my mom lol. I spent so much time working and feeling not enough even when I was slaving away 3pm-11pm Monday-friday with a company that didn't allow me any time off because I refused to take additional weekend shifts. During this period my mother made me feel like I wasn't doing enough on top of me trying to pursue a nursing degree that I had to come to terms with that I don't even want. Mind you I am only 22 and I have 0 kids. I missed out on so much of my time trying to impress my mother and peers who came from better homes and I am EXHAUSTED. I should not be this depressed at such a young age and I feel like this mentality has made me believe that I don't deserve to be happy because I haven't earned it and these aren't even my beliefs or values, these are my moms. I am tired of rushing to have everything together when I don't even know what I like nor have I had a chance to even explore for that matter. I know deep down I am a creative and need to have fun and explore that side of myself, not work my life away in shitty minimum wage jobs and pursing a degree and Idek I even want. My mom used to yell at me every morning because my "laziness" "hurt" her because I would struggle to even get out the bed and do basic necessities. I am TIRED and I just want to be FREE.
sorry this was so long lol but your video was so impactful. I am also tired of feeling lame because idgaf about being a millionaire. I just want to be happy, for ONCE.
So glad your channel popped up .. not by accident. 61 year old AA female. I started simplifying my life in my 30’s.. very much a minimalist.. but all I know is work.. 36 year old son with Asperger’s I’m responsible for …. working like a slave comes from my parents, challenging cycle to break. I’m soo tired ..
Yes! Yes! Yes! This is why I resigned from my 'good' job without another job waiting for me. I have been watching Stephanie Perry, saving money from my paychecks since 2020. I plan to freelance for additional income, but first and foremost I plan to final have time to interact with people and relax. I worked crazy hours and was always 'too busy,' for any event or relaxation.
Same I just quit my high paying job last month with nothing lined up and I thank God for my savings. The job was high pressured and stressful. I am taking time to rest.
@@ms.a806 Do you have a greater peace of mind now? I am so glad I made this decision 🙌🏾!!!
@@AngieDigitalCommunications yes I do. I feel that this is how Life should be. I am not even in a rush to get back to working again. I am giving my cares to God and letting Him take care of me and direct me where I should go. Tired of hustling and grinding. I want to always live in my soft feminine energy. That can never be disrupted again.
I spent one day of hustle I give to my job gave it to myself and secured my future for life in one day
Listen I've realized why I'm so stressed tf out and feel like my life isn't goin anywhere and how I'm paying endless bills.
I had a good life ! Meaning 2 parent households and food on the table and traveling and going to church. I didn’t have an easy life though. If that makes sense!
I just want to LIVE LIFE AND BE HAPPY.🤗
Yeeeeeeeeeees!
This is the message I needed. So tired of putting undue pressure on myself. Thank you and happy New Year!
*BIG HUGS* I am so glad this encouraged and inspired you. No more unnecessary pressure. MORE kindness and grace and LOVE. Happy New Year!
@@AleciaRenece Thank you and God Bless You!
I am an intentional being and I'm very much into self-preservation. I live my life simply and gracefully, one day at a time. I'm done with what other people are doing. I'm doing me. I claim strong vitality NOW not after I've ground myself to a pulp. I work to live, I don't live to work.
💛 I love this SO much!!! And this last line is it completely! Work to live, not live to work! This is exactly the balance I'm looking for in life. Determining what is enough and going for that and then... LIVING.
Taking my time and not running the rat race has saved my life.
there is so much blessing in hard work, diligence and dedication, but somewhere we turned that into sacrificing family, joy, peace and health. instead of working for reward, we work for burnout. this video is a great reminder that rest and leisure are just as essential to your quality of life as diligence.
"instead of working for a reward, we work for burnout..." SPEAK!!! That is beautiful and such a sad truth. 😔 I'm so glad this resonated with you! Much love and joy to you! ☺️💛
@@AleciaRenece girl, i accidentally found a short video of yours this morning. since then i watched 4 more while working and followed you on insta 🤣🤣🤣 love at first sight 💗✊🏾🙏🏽🖤
We as women, especially black women, are accountable for being more responsible than everyone else. Meaning, we have to do the grocery shopping, shopping for the kids, go to work, make your partner happy, then you have nothing left for you. I thought it was just me but going to the grocery store is almost as exhausting as dating these days 😂 there used to be a time I would like going to the store with my grandma, but my God times have changed so much. Exhaustion seems to be a way of life at this point.
I enjoy a simple life, and like you said, just living on ENOUGH. I don’t care about a lot of money.
This was so refreshing to watch. I do not identify as a Black woman but I am Egyptian-Palestinian-American and I greatly appreciate how you place our daily living in a larger societal capitalist, white supremacist framework. This is so fundamentally grounded in a slave system and I also think a lot of the problem is how people label us as 'lazy' or 'productive' and how those labels can become a self fulfilling prophecy instead of tuning into your own intuition. Thank you again for the way you conveyed this message. It is so therapeutic for me
I live in Tampa 🌴& I love the beach. I try and go very often. This video is so in point it made me tear up. My passed last year. I have thought of her life in struggle & working 2 jobs to retire broken and beaten up, heart disease was a major player. I decided this year to break the cycle. I'm 50 and my life has and is changing to have more ease. Love your channel ❤️
Yea I deserve an easy life!!!!
I don't think I can love this anymore than I already do 🦋.
Carlaaaaaa!!! 💛 🤗 Thank you so much for always being so generous!!! Much love and joy to you!! And the butterflies were absolutely BEAUTIFUL!!!
First off thank you for sharing your story, I have depression as well. That song is absolutely beautiful, you have a beautiful voice.
At 62yr , I Love this I am so glad I found your channel ❤️ My Tribe 😌😌
Amen thats nice my tribe
This conversation makes me think of "Princess Tiana.." if you ever seen the animated film, "Princess and the Frog," Tiana always "hustled," and just never seem "rested."
52 and embracing ease🥰
LOVE
❤🧘🏾♀️🙏🏾 It's draining hearing people say they are hustling/grinding!! They can have it..As you said I want no parts...They can also have the late nights/early morning...It can't be healthy lacking rest/sleep.
Yes, good for you. It is not healthy at all.
Exactly! I'm out of it. No thank you!
Thank you for saying these words. There is so much wisdom in this message. I'm feeling the pressure right now to constantly grind I don't know how to feel. I'm forcing myself 'retire' to early and thinking about working part-time. I can do it. I'm so tired.
I love your voice so much. Your aura puts me in an instant state of calm and peace. And i fully agree with your messages...all of them.❤🎉.
Prioritize flow over force. That’s wise. Makes me think on what things I have been forcing to happen in my life vs what things have happened naturally with flow. I’m tired of forcing things to happen, I want to live in the land of flow in my life. ❤
Saving this video to rewatch a million times over when I’m feeling down ❤❤
I journaled very long and very hard on this video. I'm at a strange point in my life. Some might agree it's rock bottom. But as I start my climb back up, there are things I want to do differently. This video helped me hone in on those things and for that, I thank you so so much.
30 seconds in and I’m hooked.
People need to be constantly reminded that words are spells! They mean things & because this is a bastardized language we call english, which is like a mixture of two languages, we really don't know the deeper meanings behind what we say all the time. Don't hustle & grind yourself into the grave. Flow > Grind. The right mindset is all that is necessary 💫💖💫 it's all within!
🙌🏾soft, easy, financed, w champagne 🍾🥂
We absolutely do
Things, Relationships, Dreams, Prosperity, Wealth, Joy, Peace, & Happiness should all be easy for us!
I began rejecting resolutions decades ago. I only set intentions. This helps me allow good things to come and flow into my life with ease🖤
Yeeeeeeeeeeeeees! I agree with ALL of this! And same! Setting intentions have been life changing for me. I can work towards these without killing myself to get there. 💛 🤗
I'm a bestselling Author and wife. Yet....I accomplished this successfully at my ease and pace. I'm not a hustling boss chick. Exhaustion is not for me. Hustle and grind= masculinity. I'm saving my energy for our lovely vacations and lifestyle, living in the moment. I'm 56 and really loving life the way God intends me to. 😊#softlife #softblackwoman
You are speaking from my heart I know it’s from our Father God. Your words are confirmation of what I’ve been hearing and sharing with family and friends for years!!! ❤You are so Beautiful!!! Look I just pulled up your song’s your voice is💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 So pretty. Thank you for your presence. May God continue to bless you in you beauty, obedience and love.
This is beautiful. Amen, dear Alecia. I realize this response is nearly three months late, but I wanted to share with you my New Year's resolution for 2022: "Be useless to capitalism in 2022". I know you said we don't need to make resolutions (and I agree!), but I felt like this fits what you are saying.
No worries at all! I completely understand. Take all the time you need and can I just say....? I LOOOOOVE THIS RESOLUTION SO MUUUUUCH! Much love and joy to you!
Easy like Sunday morning!!!
Flow over force ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥✨✨✨
I am binge watching you today. Keep going!❤👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💅
Ahhhhhh! Thank you so muuuuuch! I'll try! Lol! Happy Wednesday!
Thank you for this video. I’m so tired being strong and the hustle mindset.
I am so glad this encouraged you. You deserve rest, and ease. Much love and joy to you! 😊🌺🌻💛
I’m good with being called lazy by society’s standards. I know myself better than anyone else so when my body calls for rest and relaxation I make it a priority. I definitely want to live an easy life. Thanks for sharing Sis!!
I'm not lazy I'm intentional. We love this for us .
Butterflies represent transformation, change
i haven’t been able to work and have severe depression because i’m so isolated and no one to talk to. i miss working cuz at least i socialized. i’m on disability for mental illness and worked a few hours a week at a school for disabled kids. no work lead to trouble (substance abuse, depression, isolation) stuff i wish i didn’t deal with … this is good if you got a partner and community that supports u and loves u. black community has each other. as a non black girl i don’t think anyone gives a shit about me unless i’m on fire. i wish i had a sense of culture and community because that’s who’s gonna help support you, family.. elders, kids. sadly i’m single and no kids. no coworkers to keep me in check sucks. i’m beyond happy to see this video and it all makes sense. take care of yourselves DONT ISOLATE. keep checking in with each other, family and good food over everything. much love ..
Keep going sis.❤ never give up. Things may fall apart and they come back together again. They may fall apart again but they will come back together again. ❤
@@HealthyHairJourney thanks so much… i really appreciate it… pray everyone stick together during these times. community, family , bonding at home. isolation isn’t good for anyone’s health. check in on each other ..💗
@@mariecait yes. So true. 😘😘😘🤗🤗🤗🤗 please accept my virtual hug.
@Caitlin Quigley believe me this world cares a lot more about you than it does someone black. I mean do you think there would be so much concern if Ukrainians were black? Anyways I hope your depression improves.
I'm 24 and I've been feeling like this and I feel guilty sometimes but when I look around sometimes it just seem like alot of us just overwork ourselves just to feel worthy but we aren't really happy with the end result. It's so much I can say but I'm so glad I got a chance to watch, see, and take in your message. Thank you so much I appreciate this video, definitely a new subscriber. 🤗💝
I really think this is part of our healing as Black Americans in America. We have been the battery and fuel so many companies, systems, and start ups and buildings that didn't really appreciate blacks. I think part of my healing is just being present in environments and people that develop a better version of me. To chose to just BE instead of being the tool or resource for someone else/company to use. I agree daily life is hard in and of itself that why I never believed that people are born with a silver spoon in their mouths....cause even they have people problems, health problems, and mental conditioning problems.
I love the beach too. I have a vacation at Myrtle Beach, SC planned in August. Thanks for sharing🥰
Alecia, thank you so much for your videos. Sometimes, we wait for permission to give ourselves what we deserve. I am doing that I feel like I am being more intentional with my life. Please continue doing what you do.
Thank you for setting me free sis! I’m tired of being strong. Peace and blessings to you! ❤
You are part of my tribe, love this conversation... thank you :)
Yeeeees! Thank you so much for having me! Much love and joy to you!!!
WOW!!! What a refreshing video! I wasn’t even looking for you, YET, this was just the message I needed to hear. I’m a recent survivor of a brain aneurysm, and these messages of yours are exactly the reminders I needed. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I'm watching this today 8/14/23 and this whole video hits home. I have no desire to give in hustle culture. I just want to be at peace and able to maintain my health, hobbies, happiness and make sure I can remain financially stable and abundant. Not wanting to wealthy or rich. Just a calm, joyful, happy life while I'm here! 🙏🏽
No matter the push back, just know that you are going to free some people if they are willing to change. Keep doing you>☮️💟💰
Woooooooow! Thank you so much!!! 🤗🌻☺️ Thank you so much for sharing this with me. It is so encouraging to me. Much love and joy to you!
Be kind to yourself and know that you are worthy of rest and leisure! AMEN, your message is right on time for me and all us black folks!
AMEN 😭🙂🙏❤️💋🥰💔😭🙂🙏
Im watching from the UK and relate to everything you saying. Thankyou for stepping out of the box.
Hi Beautiful, Yassss!!! I'm thrilled that you were able to press pause and play when you were ready again. Thank you so much for putting it out here. I literally just finished dancing with myself, which is part of my goal to live with more intention. This weekend I've been learning how to relax even more wih a Winter meditation retreat here online. I can't tell you how much I've lived rejecting this whole "hustle" culture mentality, especially for Black women. It is definitely not the community I want to be part of on a daily basis. It's a lifestyle that just doesn't resonate with my spirit. Your content is of great value and you already know I am here for it. Blessings to you and your family always 🌻.
Yaaaaaaaaaaaay!!! I love that so muuuuuuuch! Dancing with yourself can be so therapeutic and refreshing. I love it! And i am wintering my life as well. I may share more about that. But working in my seasons, you know? I LOVE that! I don't want to be a part of that community either. I love that you're choosing YOU and your well being and joy above all. Thank you so much Carla! You are such a joy to be connected with! 💛 🤗
How sobering...Thank you so much sharing this!
I also follow Stephanie Perry and the Nap Ministry. I am getting on board with the EASE movement. 😑
My focus for the year is Community. I sincerely want to spend my time enjoying family and expanding my "tribe" instead of chasing money.. I think this is a good start. Thank you!
Thank you so much for hearing my heart on the matter. It truly means a lot. And you're absolutely right. There are so many women out there who are ditching being over worked, under appreciated and they are choosing themselves and I LOVE ALL of it!!! 💛 🤗 Community being your focus is absolutely BEAUTIFUL! Thank you so much for sharing! This encouraged and inspired ME! Much love and joy to you!
❤️❤️❤️ I agree with this message and I decided some years ago On a life of ease and joy. I invite ease and joy💚
Yeeeeeeeeeees! I LOVE this so much! You DESERVE! ☺️💛🌺
Thank you for putting this message into the world ❤️
💛 It was my literal pleasure! I'm sending you love and joy today and for the future!
Great message and the retaught perspectives are helpful. 🧡
This was church!! Thank you!!
I literally have nothing else to say- you said it all girlfriend!
This is a big eye 👁 opener!!! 👊🏽
I am so glad this resonates with so many! It confirms that we're all looking for rest and a fulfilling life.
Slow and steady ❤ I moved near the beach and it was the best decision
I LOOOOOOVE this!!! This is goals. Thank you so much for sharing this with us. This brought me so much joy.
I am tired and felt guilty. Your video made a lightbulb go on. I know what is wrong now and can think about what I need to do to achieve what God keeps showing me. He shows me the person I will be but I thought I was suppose to grind to get there. I know the truth now. I'm being arrogant and not trusting Him and for me to do unpopular things like sitting down for a while. Keep up your content you are helping people like me.
Thankyou so much for saying this true TRUTH bless you💜💜💜💜💜💜💚💚💚💙💙
This was so good Alecia! I’ve been craving an easier life but not really know how to let go. I’m looking for a slow living community for black women.
Maia!!!!! It's so good to see you!!!! 🫂🌻🌺💛 Yeeeeeeeeeees! This sounds BEAUTIFUL.
So true! Being busy (hustle and grinding) doesn't always equate to being productive.
is anyone else easily triggered when you see your coworkers doing extra at work? sometimes the old perfectionist/workaholic/need to impress/self esteem from work me wants to jump in and volunteer, but i've been through so much and i know i have to keep my emotional bandwidth in check at work because my job just keeps asking for so much, it's like i feel compelled to work, but also don't, it's weird duality
I looove this video! I also started ordering groceries and wonder what took so long!
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! Thank you so much! And yes!!! Ordering groceries have been LIFE changing! What have I been doing all of this time??? Stressing. Lol. Much love and joy to you! 💛🌺☺️
Yesss I agreee with you 1000% I tried to tell ppl that life is easy and you can live a easy life! I never understood why do you have to work hard and have a hard life?? I could not understand that and that I was told I didn’t do enough and blah blah but I don’t mind chillen and going by my own pace rather it’s slow or medium speed lol I’m good, if y’all want to keep rushing and move, move, move all the time everything they do will never be enough and they are killings themselves slow or shoot even quickly, just chill, It’s okay to slow downnnn, chill out take a break! And go by your own paceee pleaseeee😮💨😮💨
I’m just seeing this 2024..thank you for this timeless message ❤. May God continue to bless you on your journey.
Yeah life is about the lovely connection we make . I am trying to stopped the overwork and do it all habit. And allow myself and accept ease.
I LOVE ALL OF THIS!!! 😊💛🌸🌞
Awesome revelations…thank you. Love butterflies!!! I am making a “ceramic” butterfly garden for my granddaughters.
I love this so much!!! 🌺💛🌻🦋
Wonderful video…
New subscriber ❤
@19:06 Regarding procrastination I beg differ. It’s often fear or dishonesty based. I witnessed my husband & his entire family put off easy tasks until they had few if any choices. Or were dishonest about their participation in a task, and put it off it - it can be crippling. I’ve seen it. And yes, I don’t rush no where to do anything.
YOU GIVE ME SO MUCH LIFE!!! 🙌🙌
This was really good and encouraging thank you ❤
So true! As a new subscriber I'm not looking for someone to post frequently - it's definitely about quality and connection.
Thank you SOOOO much! And your grace and understanding is so greatly appreciated. It means a lot to me. Welcome! I'm happy you're here!
Where can I hear and see thw commercial song?
Yes to this video, I have been watching several of your videos this week and they have been a true BLESSING!
I honestly feel like God made me find this channel
Soo happy I found your channel, finally someone who speaks my language! 10 years ago I intentionally opted out of the hedonic principle, capitalistic way of life, now I live a simple life and do what I love, travel. Keep on thriving!
Yeeeeeees! I love this so much!!!
Thank you for saying this.
Thank YOU! 💛 In all the work you do and content you share, you are giving women permission to live their best lives, and that is amazing. That is life changing.
I totally am with you on the hustle life, grinding and striving to be...what? Thanks for your videos on this!
I’m loving your channel. You’re embodying so many lessons I’ve been trying to integrate for the past few years. I’m not a Black woman but I was raised by one so that informs a lot of my worldview, and it needs to continue changing lol!