SubhanAllah this is coming at the right time, yesterday i went on a first date with a guy and afterwards he told me that i was a catfish and didnt look like my pictures, but i didnt use any filters on my pictures, that comment really did hurt
I woke up today still feeling heartbroken after 2 months but had this inner voice telling me that I needed to get out of this thought pattern of shaming myself or trying to think negatively of the person with whom it didn't work out. I open UA-cam and this is the first video that shows up. Subhan Allah I'm tearing up! I'm so grateful to Allah for individuals like you within the ummah who help people understand what they're going through even through the toughest times. May Allah SWT grant you all the goodness and barakah in this world and the hereafter! Jazakillah khair
Girl I was in the same boat! It’s like not wanting to think bad or belittle that person that you liked but didn’t work out and so to make you feel better you need to put yourself on a pedestal instead but definitely it’s just healing with time and the comfort that Allah better ❤ and doesn’t take away from that person just wasn’t the one
Thank you Lama for explaining it so well. Your comments on the subject are very pertinent, and having been through it at the moment, I identify completely with what is being said. May Allah reward you and make your work flourish.
مَا شَاءَ ٱللَّٰهُ sister for everything you’re doing. جَزَاكَ ٱللَّٰهُ خَيْرً for your passing wisdom on these topics. It can be very hard to find answers to these questions. May الله سبحانه وتعالى grant you paradise
Jazaki allaho khayran for making these videos, it is very helpful for people who might live in a geographic location where they can not participate in the corses or people who are financially not able to pay for them, Thank You lama
Recently discovered your channel… luv you content! Thank you! Also great job using the Deen as a reference in your videos! I think that’s very important
Thank you Lama. What if it does mean something about us? eg we have bad communication skills which keeps causing issues with potentials etc. is the 'right' person going to see through those flaws and accept us or should we make the breakups mean something about us in terms of personal development so that we stop repeating the same mistakes?
@@m21285 If you attract emotionally unvailable people, is that because a part of you is also like that? I am dealing with that currently. If you see people who disrespect you sometimes, even as a joke, you can learn stronger boundaries & slowly getting to know potentials to stay protected. Manipulation can happen if you let it. So each person teaches us what we can work on via a lesson/what type of person we are willing to accept, shows us our level of self love. We attract who we are/the level we are at. So we can use these experiences to reflect on to better ourselves
i think it’s more the latter, these breakups are just building you up to become the person you need to be to find or attract the “right” person as long as you work on yourself and what you think went wrong on your end
I think it depends on the specific reason that caused the heartbreak. She is not saying if your communication skills are horrible don’t try and improve on it.. ofc if you’ve something that’s poor about you fix it and try to improve but she’s saying there no point of regretting and feeling shame because that only makes things worse.
@@abdifatahali4733 Thanks. I must have misunderstood her point. I feel like it could be both. We could on one hand look at where we potentially went wrong and improve on that (without shame. Being compassionate and extending ourselves grace). On the other hand, we could also assume the breakup was subjective to that persons preferences and we didnt do anything objectively 'incorrect'. I feel its more balanced and realistic to look at it that way
Be me Me likes a girl Both want a halal nikkah My parents are skeptical about the family of the girl (third world country belief problems) Tried reasoning with them in 6 long discussions Girl stays for a while as I was reassuring her that my parents will accept her one day, just need to give them the Islamic prespective Then all of a sudden she went radio silence on me Im crying my eyes now
This will pass with time. Be happy you realised now. If it was right for you, it will be easier for you. Pray hard, not for this person. But the Spouse Allah has for you. If it is this, it will start to work out of nowhere. Otherwise, this was never your person. Better this than divorce. The main thing is, your spouse cannot go to anyone else when Allah wrote them for you. Only time will tell you who that is. You will be okay. Pray Tahajjud today until you get relief & the answer you need
@@rushialeema8321 cant thank you enough But now, I have kinda learnt from this experience as to not 100% believe what a woman says, just believe what she does (NOT a redpill) Due to the fact that women are emotional beings, they are cute but too emotional They can get bored easily but dont show it And secondly, not to overlove them that they take you for granted Now I really am skeptical about the idea of marrying anyone, as you end up in loveless relationship with your wife after a few years Because throughout the years, you get to know each other too much that it gets boring for the other partner as to why can he/she be more rich handsome confident romantic etc She was a good woman, by all means, and now Ive lost her ** would love to know your opinions **
@@rushialeema8321 Means a lot but I get the feeling that Girls get bored if a man loves them too much So you have these loveless marriages where a woman is ungrateful to her man all the times Its a hard world
SubhanAllah this is coming at the right time, yesterday i went on a first date with a guy and afterwards he told me that i was a catfish and didnt look like my pictures, but i didnt use any filters on my pictures, that comment really did hurt
He sounds rude af and not a gentlemen, there’s a polite way to decline you dodged a bullet
The cameras these days do filter the pics…. I have been in his shoes on few occasions
I woke up today still feeling heartbroken after 2 months but had this inner voice telling me that I needed to get out of this thought pattern of shaming myself or trying to think negatively of the person with whom it didn't work out. I open UA-cam and this is the first video that shows up. Subhan Allah I'm tearing up! I'm so grateful to Allah for individuals like you within the ummah who help people understand what they're going through even through the toughest times. May Allah SWT grant you all the goodness and barakah in this world and the hereafter! Jazakillah khair
Girl I was in the same boat! It’s like not wanting to think bad or belittle that person that you liked but didn’t work out and so to make you feel better you need to put yourself on a pedestal instead but definitely it’s just healing with time and the comfort that Allah better ❤ and doesn’t take away from that person just wasn’t the one
Thank you Lama for explaining it so well. Your comments on the subject are very pertinent, and having been through it at the moment, I identify completely with what is being said. May Allah reward you and make your work flourish.
مَا شَاءَ ٱللَّٰهُ sister for everything you’re doing. جَزَاكَ ٱللَّٰهُ خَيْرً for your passing wisdom on these topics. It can be very hard to find answers to these questions. May الله سبحانه وتعالى grant you paradise
Always a good video that makes me understand more about myself. Jazakiallah for making this video May Allah reward you!
This is a gem ❤
Jazakalla haira for your efforts
Jazaki allaho khayran for making these videos, it is very helpful for people who might live in a geographic location where they can not participate in the corses or people who are financially not able to pay for them, Thank You lama
Recently discovered your channel… luv you content! Thank you! Also great job using the Deen as a reference in your videos! I think that’s very important
What if this happens more times than you can count and it’s not you who feel the blame but others around you are the ones putting the blame on you?!
Thank you Lama. What if it does mean something about us? eg we have bad communication skills which keeps causing issues with potentials etc. is the 'right' person going to see through those flaws and accept us or should we make the breakups mean something about us in terms of personal development so that we stop repeating the same mistakes?
@@m21285 If you attract emotionally unvailable people, is that because a part of you is also like that? I am dealing with that currently. If you see people who disrespect you sometimes, even as a joke, you can learn stronger boundaries & slowly getting to know potentials to stay protected. Manipulation can happen if you let it. So each person teaches us what we can work on via a lesson/what type of person we are willing to accept, shows us our level of self love. We attract who we are/the level we are at. So we can use these experiences to reflect on to better ourselves
i think it’s more the latter, these breakups are just building you up to become the person you need to be to find or attract the “right” person as long as you work on yourself and what you think went wrong on your end
I think it depends on the specific reason that caused the heartbreak. She is not saying if your communication skills are horrible don’t try and improve on it.. ofc if you’ve something that’s poor about you fix it and try to improve but she’s saying there no point of regretting and feeling shame because that only makes things worse.
@@abdifatahali4733 Thanks. I must have misunderstood her point. I feel like it could be both. We could on one hand look at where we potentially went wrong and improve on that (without shame. Being compassionate and extending ourselves grace). On the other hand, we could also assume the breakup was subjective to that persons preferences and we didnt do anything objectively 'incorrect'. I feel its more balanced and realistic to look at it that way
@@m21285 exactly! It’s a bit of both.. I don’t agree with the line of thinking it doesn’t mean anything about us.
Be me
Me likes a girl
Both want a halal nikkah
My parents are skeptical about the family of the girl (third world country belief problems)
Tried reasoning with them in 6 long discussions
Girl stays for a while as I was reassuring her that my parents will accept her one day, just need to give them the Islamic prespective
Then all of a sudden she went radio silence on me
Im crying my eyes now
This will pass with time. Be happy you realised now. If it was right for you, it will be easier for you. Pray hard, not for this person. But the Spouse Allah has for you. If it is this, it will start to work out of nowhere. Otherwise, this was never your person. Better this than divorce. The main thing is, your spouse cannot go to anyone else when Allah wrote them for you. Only time will tell you who that is. You will be okay. Pray Tahajjud today until you get relief & the answer you need
@@rushialeema8321great advice mashaa Allah… would appreciate your thoughts on my comment I posted in the comment section pls 🙏🏼
@@rushialeema8321 I cant thank you enough
@@rushialeema8321 cant thank you enough
But now, I have kinda learnt from this experience as to not 100% believe what a woman says, just believe what she does (NOT a redpill)
Due to the fact that women are emotional beings, they are cute but too emotional
They can get bored easily but dont show it
And secondly, not to overlove them that they take you for granted
Now I really am skeptical about the idea of marrying anyone, as you end up in loveless relationship with your wife after a few years
Because throughout the years, you get to know each other too much that it gets boring for the other partner as to why can he/she be more rich handsome confident romantic etc
She was a good woman, by all means, and now Ive lost her
** would love to know your opinions **
@@rushialeema8321 Means a lot but
I get the feeling that Girls get bored if a man loves them too much
So you have these loveless marriages where a woman is ungrateful to her man all the times
Its a hard world
Any chance you can get on Spotify 😭🫶🏼