A Marriage to Remember | Alzheimer's Disease Documentary | Op-Docs | The New York Times
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- Опубліковано 26 сер 2014
- In this short documentary, the filmmaker Banker White explores how Alzheimer’s disease has revealed the strength of his parents’ marriage.
Produced by: Banker White and Anna Fitch
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My partner had cancer and he was just bones. One day I was putting him into th bathtub to wash him and I remember him just saying to me. “Thank you for staying and taking care of me” and I said of course, besides where would I go, your my whole world. He replied. “Most people would leave”.
That broke my heart to even think about. I never ever considered doing anything other than getting him the best care and being as supportive as I could possibly be supportive. Life changes but true love does not. He left this world but he left all the wonderful qualities he had with me. I had a horrible child hood and he showed me what a beautiful and wonderful place life and the world really are. He took all of the hurt and pain I ever experienced completely away and showed me that love really does conquer all.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
I'm so sorry for your loss and at the same time I'm glad you got that true love and you were blessed with it, coz not everyone receives it. God bless ❤
That brought me to tears. I hope the idea of having supported him brings you happiness
Wow what a beautiful love you two had 😢😭. I’m so sorry for your loss. I met the kind hearted man who became my husband a couple of years ago. For the first time in my life I felt safe and loved back equally or greater than what I have given out. I hope our love will be as beautiful as yours. Our lives started late, as I didn’t have much trust in men and now only two years after being married we are welcoming our first child together. Your story really touched my heart my son is due near Halloween, and I totally relate with what you said- how “beautiful and wonderful life” is now with my husband. We are both in our 30s he’s 3 years older than me, I pray we have a long life together especially seeing our love and our lives started so late. I hope I can earn some beautiful wrinkles from a long life of laughing and giving all the smooches I can. God bless you and your amazing husband. I hope you are in peace til you two love birds meet again.
🤗 Kathleen
Italia 458driver you’re a wonderful woman
"I like being with her". Beautiful.
True Love for sure.
Very
Made me cry when he said that
RARE
The opposite of my husband
One of the hardest things in the world is mourning someone who is still alive.💔
Yeah....I feel that with my mom. She has had Alzheimers for 12 years now 😪
So true! I know , my mom was diagnosed with dementia, it's like my mom went for a vacation , and the woman that came back , looks like my mom, it's so sad, like where did she go.
When my mom was on so much morphine at the end for her cancer, she was pretty much gone...watching her for those last two weeks was very difficult...
I'm so sorry your loss, friend in Christ ,May comfort, give peace, assurance , strength, you were with her she didn't die alone, God received her into His Glory ❣️One day we will see all our family, love ones again , and there will no more pain , disease , war, hunger.
True. I cry over my mother whom I miss so much, even though she is still with me. I thank God for her. I promised her I will take care of her. I am keeping my promise and I have a wonderful husband helping me. I treasure every smile which is rare nowadays.♡🕊 Through it all God is good.♡🕊
"I've made a commitment to this beautiful woman that I'd live with her forever. So whatever happens, we're definitely doing this together." ❤
- Ed
😭😭😭❤️
Thank GOD for the Ed's of the world. ❤️
This may help ua-cam.com/video/akuAUvYpZ6U/v-deo.html
They were so lucky to have each other
I can only hope my husband loves me as much as Ed loves Pam. What a beautiful love story.
Michelle Gilland very touching. And even sad. Terrifying..😓
*Right?*
You give and you shall receive 💕
This is the way God means for it to be. Love and commitment forever thru good and bad times.
Their relationship is 40 years in the making... To have that kind of love, the two must work together, and not walk away when times are at there hardest.
My wife and I just celebrated 28 years together. We were married as teens.
I just read that she passed in June of 2016. I'm just happy we got to hear her story. RIP
How is her husband doing though? I hope he's ok. My cousin Eugene's wife had Alzheimer's and he found a lady before his wife died. It was the only way he felt he could live. I read the book "Still Alice" and saw the movie after I saw this.
No 😥
@@virginiaconnor8350 ....A man can easily replace his woman whereas a woman GRIEVES & stays single.
@@forreal245 That was true for my mother after my dad passed away after a heart attack. My cousin Eugene found a new woman before his wife-my aunt-died of Alzheimer's and married her sometimes later.
@@virginiaconnor8350 ...Eugene is typical. The "unusual" is for a man to go thru the "entire" horrendous journey of an ailing wife without seeking comfort elsewhere. I'm not judging. Men seem to "need" a woman more than a woman "needs" a man. Women seem emotionally stronger. As for me, at 68, I do not want another man if my diabetic hubby goes first. I am not about to "nurse" another man when I have enough trouble caring for myself & it only gets harder as time flies. Blessings to you & your mom.
UA-cam recommendations: I heard you didn't cry today...here you are 👌
Wixa Wixa - Yup! 😢
Ikr. Like at first I was like I'm totally not going to cry. After one minute I was like I'm not crying!! while the tears were just falling from my eyes. It's so bittersweet (T_T)
I'm crying from reading some of the comments
*So sad, but anyone who has looked after a loved one with dementia will know how hard it is physically and mentally. My heart goes out to anyone/everyone affected by Alzheimer/Dementia. A huge shout out to any caregiver doing this alone! I feel your pain because I've been there. My mom was also diagnosed in her 60s. Feeling absolutely shattered, heartbroken and drained , working with different physicians across the country with little or no improvement. I was exhausted and overwhelmed to look any further. Crying a lot through frustration, anger and despair, but today with the help of Homeocure Worldwide Natural Medicine, my mother is completely healthy and well again. I think we only need more support and sunlight to overcome this dreadful disease. With Homeocure Worldwide treatment, there is hope*
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Lol
For those who don’t know, this lovely lady passed away in 2016. What a beautiful life she lived and condolences to her family.
😭
Soo sad.. rest in peace
😢
wow so it must’ve progressed very quickly
True lovers aren’t the ones that fix the things in the house that need to be fixed, they aren’t the ones that go to the gym and bench press 300lbs , they aren’t the ones that assert their dominance, they’re the ed’s who step up for the pam’s even when the pam’s can’t say thank you for it. They are patient, even when they can’t be patient for one more second. They are understanding of what life throws at them, and they are willing to do anything for the people they love even when the people they love don’t remember how to love them back. We need more Ed’s in this world.
How very true.
Wish more women in the world could understand and appreciate the wisdom expressed here.
Makes me believe in love, this story.
I had honestly waiting for the video to start and the woman to be taking care of the man because a lot of stories have evolved around that. This was refreshing.
@@un-huytan3563 True love exists. Just rare.
She was absolutely stunning back in the 60's/70's. Very touching.
Yes I was just about to say the same until I saw your comment. She certainly was a stunner. Very classy-looking woman.
vikingsailorboy yes! She looked like Genevieve Bujold and Lynne Frederick in her youth. She had that classic English Rose look.
not at all
Not at all what?
Still is. I hope I'm that beautiful at her age. And I hope someone loves me that fiercely.
"I don't mind doing it, I like being with her"
Such a true love.
My mom was 45 when she got sick and 47 when she was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. She passed away on my birthday 11/23/20 when she was 62. I never could have imagined how bad it would get. It is hands down the worst illness that could be imagined. I worked two weeks a month for the last five years of her life to spend all the time I could with her and I hate that I didn’t get to spend every minute with her. The first time she didn’t recognize me was the worst day of my life and I didn’t think i could ever feel any worse, until the day she died. I’m a self proclaimed momma’s boy and I always will be.
My husband didn't grieve at his mother's funeral because he had grieved from the first time she didn't recognize him
That’s truly heartbreaking. I’m sorry for your loss but what an incredible thing to make all that time together. Such a good son ❤
Even as she's changed and aged over the years, she still has that beautiful smile she had back in the 60's :)
Agree!
She is incredible radiant and beautiful still at 60+.
I thought it was '71 that they married, but yeah I agree!
@@Lindathemightywitch
*Even the picture says they were married for at least 40 years...So could very well be 71' (I missed that part) but logically; that would therefore make her 60+..*
4 years ago people were so nice.
@@un-huytan3563 ...LOL! "People" have NEVER been "nice"! We are all FLAWED humans.
God bless! I have taken care of two parents with Alzheimers, lost my sweet Mom in May and promised her I would take care of Dad until they were reunited, they were married 68 years and she died in his arms, the blessing is he doesn't remember her suffering
wow
sending love and prayers. you are all so strong ❤️
ya god sure blessed her
Paul moran hugs hugs hugs
💗💗💗
I wish there were a documentary on every “ordinary” person’s life. There’s just so much there, for every last one of us. I could watch a million of these. Thank you to her family for sharing her story with us, it looks like a beautiful life.
I've come back to this video about a handful of times since I first saw it a year ago or so. It's a beautiful reminder of how precious life is. I also came across another UA-cam recommendation video today called, "My Brother Jordan." It, along with this video, are some of the most beautiful videos I've ever seen on here, I highly recommend it.
That's such a beautiful thing to say
I mean, you’re literally on UA-cam. Where millions of people documentize their lives daily.
@@Hey_Jamie Your point?
Musiqueclassique
I was a Hospice nurse for 10 years until my mom got sick and I cared for her for almost 3 years.
After she passed away I had a break in my mental health. Caring for a parent is the hardest thing a child can do..... God Bless you ALL❤️🙏🏽
I’m so sorry for your loss. I can understand how you feel. I was my mom’s caretaker for the last 4 years of her life. I lost her in 2021 and am still very much grieving her. I think I always will ❤
She's lucky to have her family by her side. Her husband loves her so much. That can be seen through his eyes.
I agree and you're handsome.
So true
This may patients with dementia, ua-cam.com/video/akuAUvYpZ6U/v-deo.html
What a wonderful husband. You could tell this just kills him. Dang, it's so hard to see good people have to suffer like this.
She was absolutely beautiful when she modeled. Wow!
Shes still beautiful 💔
She was beautiful till the end...physical beauty is only skin deep...
Nobody said she wasn’t. Models now all look the same. I was just mentioning hoe beautiful she looked when she was a model. Thats all.
When I first watched this film I had just split up from a man who I know didn't care about me, the dynamic between us was so skewed that even though he treated me poorly he was very confident I would come back. After watching this it really gave me a backbone like this is the real deal and I really clung to this to remind myself that quality relationships do exist
I hope you’re doing well. That’s nice that this couple’s and family love helped you make that decision.
How are you doing?!
❤️
I couldn’t imagine how horrible life would’ve been like had I stayed with my ex-fiancé, especially after being married to the man who is now my husband. I never could’ve imagined how much one person can love you, respect you, and be loyal to only one person. This especially comforting after find out out both of my grandmothers had Alzheimer’s. One passed away fairly quickly after her diagnosis, and the other one will surely pass away any day now. I know my husband will be there for me every step of the way, but my exes definitely would’ve saw me as the greatest inconvenience and probably not even be too sad, or they would’ve been cheating on me all throughout the years. Don’t settle for less. I had to learn to be content with being alone for a couple years before finding someone worth my time. And honestly, I’d rather be single than to be with a terrible partner in old age, especially when facing life changing illnesses.
This man is the true definition of what a devoted husband should be. Every husband in the world should learn from him. God bless you sir and thank you for your service.
It very rare to get a faithful husband.
For better, or for worst. In sickness and in health. This is so beautiful. Good examples; when things get hard, you don't quit. Never. Love doesn't quit.
*#Right**? Nowadays tho..Our generation? Its **#NOTgoingTOhappen**! And get anyone away from Facebook and Instagram for hours and hours getting you ready to go to the Doctor's or grocery store? It's not going to happen! So stay close to your sisters/brothers/parents (who may or may not be alive when we get that age..) So yeah, this kind of thing is going to become extinct soon..*
@@changamuda7844 truth has been spoken
This may patients with dementia, ua-cam.com/video/akuAUvYpZ6U/v-deo.html
"I've made a commitment to this beautiful woman that I'd live with her forever. So whatever happens, we're definitely doing this together." this words from the husband is very heartwarming hope couples with marital problems will learn from their story
This may help ua-cam.com/video/akuAUvYpZ6U/v-deo.html
"One little glitch -- is that I have developed Alzheimer's..." Brave poignancy.
For all the young people who watch this I can assure you not to wait to live your lives. Life is not fair nor just at times. Love and live while you can and take nothing for granted.
It's unimaginable how fast time moves.
I've decided not to marry or have children so I avoid all these tragedies and sufferings.
How right you are.....currently I’m angry with my patient loyal husband and this prompts me to get over myself and get on with it
Glenn Davey if this happens to you.. youll be in a nursing home and forgotten... please reconsider...
A good husband never leaves his wife, no matter what.
@@MahaparaKohli your don't have to let it ruin your life. Go to church and read the Bible. You will see your life change.
I think in this case, yes. But that's a blanket statement that could hurt someone who's part of an abusive relationship. Was never happier than to hear an old friend finally left his wife, b/c she was mentally and physically abusive.
@@achanwahn I'm glad he got away. Men get horribly abused too. He is brave to leave and protect himself. God bless him ❤
@paisleyyama Maybe it's just from my own personal experience. But I laughed after reading your comment. We must live in different countries because from where I'm from I have seen so freaking many men cheat on their significant other, one notable case even cheated while his wife was dying of cancer.
@@tree1291 I swear...I laughed also because I was thinking "On what planet do that person live?"
It's sad that she is sick, but she is the luckiest person who has people around her who cares for her so much.
Some of us take marriage vows strongly:
"in sickness and in health,richer or poorer, till death do you part"
The sickness and the poorer will test the strongest of marriages.
I hate Alzheimer’s so much. You have to have to slowly loose someone you love so dearly, and watch their life fade away right in front of your eyes and it’s just heartbreaking. Before you know it the person you once loved and looked up to is gone and all that’s left is a shell. It’s so lonely
:(
Uhhhwhat depression does that too :/
Msfortune depression is not an equivalent comparison
@@rush33n umm can u not compare those two ever
I’m speaking from personal experience...my “comparision” was an indication that I resonated with “you have to slowly loose someone you love so dearly, and watch their life fade away right in front of your eyes and it’s just heartbreaking”. I resonate with the sentiments that were made by OP. Not by any means saying Alzheimer’s is like depression 🤦🏽♀️ though a person or persons can share the same sentiment towards different circumstances.
“Thank God for her smile, that’s huge” .... this broke my heart.
This story really got to me. My mom died a few years back of brain cancer, and while she didn't have Alzheimer's, she did have dementia like symptoms that got worse over time. I'll never forget walking into her house about 3 months before she passed, and her staring back at me completely bewildered. I didn't want to upset her, nor did I want to get upset, when she didn't recognize me. I smiled and reminded her who I was, and she looked at me even more confused and said " no your not, my daughter died years ago".... needless to say I wasn't expecting that. My mom did have moments of clarity, but as time went on it got less and less. Before my mom got sick, my husband was killed by a drunk driver. I used to wonder what would have been worse, loosing him suddenly like I had, or watching him slip away over time... I'm still not sure.
Bless you ❤
To lose your memory of everything that has made you a human being to me is the most cruel illness on the planet.. If you have cancer you still have your memories.. The devastation on family members is horrendous ... The fact that you don't know who your family is seems terrible to me.. Please find a cure for this terrible disease!
I am always saying that mind and your brain is the worst thing.. I have some mental problems and people cant even imagine how hard it is to fight with your brain...
I’m a Wife and my Husband has got Alzheimer’s at 49 he always has taken care of me until this happened and since he was such a good man I’ll will never leave his side.
You are a wife?
Why is your name John?
It’s my son’s UA-cam account
@@johnfolsom9682
Ohhhh gotcha❤❤
So young hegot it ..how are you doing
The older generation seems more committed to each other than today.....so beautiful....they know what real love is.
chloe gilbert
For better or worse!!
When they said it, they meant it!
Chloe gilbert you are absolutely right
Yes. People were very very devoted. Made for a great life:)
Very true. There's not many people I know my age who have been with the same person for as long as my partner and I. We're currently long distance at the moment, but I know that he'll be back with me some day.
chloe gilbert i disagree... people are always the same... my grandpa dumped my grandma in a home and got a gf.... its about the individuals, not the generations
My Nancy was diagnosed at 53. She died at 63. I cared for her the whole time. My time with her were the best years of my 68 year life. God bless us all in what’s ahead for this country.
RIP Pam. She went with a lot of love around her, judging by this video.
She passed away the day I gave birth to my son. Sad how people leave the world, as someone else enters it. My parernal grandmother had the disease. I wish with all of my heart that a cure could exsit.
Jeannie Feaster how do you know when she passed. I had to hit rewind to see if I missed anything... but I didn't or did you google her name?
Low fat whole food plant based diet will reduce your chances of getting the disease drastically - when japanese people started to adopt more western style diet and started eating more dairy and meat, the rate of alzheimer's disease went up 800%
We evolved as meat eaters . I believe tumeric helps this also maintaining blood pressure at normal levels. Whole fat I believe is better than low fat products.
She reminds me of Jackie Kennedy
Me too somehow
Yes that’s what I thought !!!
Ali McGraw is who I thought she resembled.
Yes. Also looks like Danica McKellar, who played Winnie on The Wonder Years.
Jackie Kennedy was ugly, this woman was beautiful!
My Mom has vascular dementia and my Dad has really risen to the occasion like Ed has. They are truly wonderful men 🥺
This may patients with dementia, ua-cam.com/video/akuAUvYpZ6U/v-deo.html
Can you tell me, Is your mom still living, my mom was diagnosed last year with vascular dementia.
"I like being with her"
That is so touching....
This is so sweet and sad at the same time.
What a great man to take care of his wife. Working in a nursing home has broken my heart, a lot of residents that have Alzheimer’s rarely get visitors.
So very true. My dad was in a nursing home with dementia for a few years, and just passed in April. Most of his friends and family more or less abandoned him. Even though he was enormously popular before this (dancer/actor), they all seem to scatter when he got really ill. A few visited him once or twice, and then never again. Only a very few stuck with him to the end. I'm still a bit bitter about it all, but it was very sobering.
During our first meeting with his care team, they told us that they were happy that he had family advocating for him because they said most of the people on his ward had no one. ☹️
Thank you for working there, Erin. It's one of the most important things you could do for people in this world. Thank you. Thank you.
"Old age rarely arrives alone", as someone once said.
And it arrives far too quickly.
Never underestimate the value of good health, folks ✌🏽🧡
Low fat Whole Food Plant based diet will reduce your chances of getting this disease drastically. Cases of alzheimer's went up 800% in Japan when they adopted more western style diet eating more dairy and meat
@@animalsarebeautifulpeople3094 i'm a strict vegetarian never ate any meat , never touched eggs either. I can confirm im succeptable to disease no matter what i eat. eating sometihng else wont fix your problem trust me i've tried it my whole life. hit the gym and live life happy :D thats proven to reduce alzhimers and its the universal cause of disease reduction
What a beautiful and sad story. My mother suffered from Alzheimer‘s for around 10 years. I watched the person she was get slowly swallowed by this horrible disease until she didn’t know any of us anymore. And my dad was by her side through it all. They were married 64 years when she passed away. It was a true example of Love and devotion. Just like this loving couple.
It's easy to throw people away, staying is the hard part, but love(real love) will make you do it
My Mother suffered from Alzheimer's as well, she died in 2008. I have so much advise, thousand's of words to say regarding what your family will experience during this trying time. I'll only mention a few. I lived with my Mother for the last nine years, there were wonderful caregivers, plus my sisters and I shared weekend duties. Take time for YOU, your Mother's needs will be met, she'll be clothed, fed, kept warm/cold, etc., it's important that your Father, yourself, any family member that will assist to take care of themselves. When the time comes, hide the car keys, remote control, wallet/purse, have a designated place for these things. When you go to the store, always keep her in your sight, play her favorite music daily, (musicality is one of the last things to fade), adjust with her, be her advocate, (it's okay to tell a Doctor "no" to unnecessary medical procedures), prepare (living will, do not resuscitate decisions, etc.) Don't forget to laugh, sometimes laughing will save your sanity. Good luck, sending positive thoughts and prayers to your family.
I'm very sorry to hear. My grandpa had it too :(
Beautiful words of wisdom m jaimez!!! thank you for sharing.
m jaimez great advice but as you seen in the movie his mom shuffled, not walked. Taking the keys, wallet or slippers for heaven sake won't help or aid this man's situation. But nice gesture.
Champ Leads You should have seen how badly my grandpa refused to be locked in the house, or the original owner of the car in which I learned to drive and his wife's refusal to keep the car keys away from him. They get insistent and the personalities can change, so keeping things from them and maintaining personal safety can be the challenge sometimes.
Amen My Dad 79yrs also had Aliz. for 5 1/2 yrs. Mom & I finally put Dad in VA Nsg Home 40 minutes away. Thank GOD. Mom would go 1 day then 1 would go next day. 4 siblings in all. 2 sibling trying to finish finish retirements 2-3 yrs away. Another sister lives
1 state over. Then my sister was so afraid she would get Alz.then she died 2012 with Pancreatic CA. My other sister & I would take turns going to stay for 10 days @ a time so family would be with her.It was a 7 hr. going ,7 hrs back
Our Mom had gotten Alz. for about 4 yrs before. Our sister died 6 months later, 4 yrs later our brother dies after 9 months of Throid Ca . So its my sister & I left.
Had Mom for @ assistant living. for 5 1/2 yrs. then Hospitalized forgot how to walk, so I told my siter she had to take her to her home town and put her in
Nsg home there. My sister goes every day for 1-2 hr. Like i did when Mom was here. Plus I had to go to dr. Appt, buy diaper, snacks.when she was in a assisted living 5 1/2yrs. now
Nsg home. Its exhausting job. Mom’s been at Nsg Home 3rd year. has no idea who we are. CASH ONLY PAYMENTS.$6,000.
My gosh, the love these two people have for each other is something to admire and aspire to. Ed & Pam are the very definition of a marriage that can weather any storm. I became teary-eyed as I watched and listened to Ed's words. He loves Pam so much, and you can hear the heartache in his voice that he misses the person she used to be. Heart-wrenching and beautiful at the same time.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
My grandmother lived with this disease for 17 years. She passed last year on July 28th 2019, I had the unfortunate/fortunate however you would like to see it, memory of watching her take her last breaths, and was the one that notified my family that she was no longer breathing. It still is raw today almost a year later. The disease is so ugly, but the people it affects are so beautiful.
It's so rare to see People so dedicated and in love with someone for so long nowadays. You just don't see this anymore.
I don't know why but something about the young her is sooo very familuar. And also she is extremely beautiful even in her sixties. God bless xoxo
Erika Miles Maybe Jackie Kennedy.
she looks so much like maia mitchell
Sally Field I would say
She reminds me of Allie McGraw
Edie Sedgwick
That is the real definition of love ...
My mom just died of this terrible disease last month. I'll be forever changed from this experience. 😢
My dad has this awful disease and my mother is showing the strength if a true champion right now. Hats off to this lovely couple.
I just love them painting of her. So beautiful
Alzheimers is very unfortunate.
I've worked with elders with alzheimers and it's sad to see them lose themselves, always confused. Looking for their spouse or parents that have passed long ago.
But I seriously applaud this man and this womans family for not putting her in a home.
I've seen way to many sweet elders being dumped off because it becomes too difficult for the family to be that. . A family.
Do you believe that they feel the difference among a nursery home and their home at the late stages?Please let me know your opinion about this!It is important to me ...
If you dont mind me answering your question, I work in the place where 30 of the resident has alzheimers all different stages and some days they don't know where they are and other days they are confused, and in their bad days they know who they are where they are and the realization of all makes them very upset.
@@angiekar6995
In late stages, they wouldn't know where they are
What really causes this illness? Is bad food, bad air, what? Did we have this illness in old days? Or did not have a name for that.
This may patients with dementia, ua-cam.com/video/akuAUvYpZ6U/v-deo.html
My mother is 61 & was diagnosed with Dementia about 2 yrs ago. She has no idea who my sister & I are, our children or her husband! I cried throughout seeing the love & dedication he has for Pam. Thank you so much for sharing!
My Grandma has had Alzheimer’s for 12 years now, she doesn’t know anyone in her family except her husband of 65 years and even in some moments she forgets him. My grandpa cared for her by himself as long as he could and hired part time care. She has recently been placed in a nursing home and it was extremely hard for my grandfather. He wants nothing else but to be with his wife and lifelong companion.
What a beautiful love story, he's the best husband God could've given her.😟
The family portraits are so beautiful, bright and full of joy.
She was loved. That is most important. Rest in peace beautiful lady.
I lost my mom 3 Weeks Ago. She had vascular dementia.
Seeing her fade away especially in the last 6 months was the Biggest pain i have felt in 35 years. I will never ever forget it
Every woman needs a Ed♥️♥️♥️
M Palmer ......I have one.
„an Ed“ - sorry had to say this.
And every Ed needs a Pam. Not every woman is a Pam.
@@negativ88 good grief
an Ed*
Beautiful documentary it brought some tears to my eyes to see the love her husband has for her even in difficult times.
*I promise you most husbands would RUN! Women tend to stay more compared to men because we birth humans and are naturally predisposed to being more nurturing as a result..Guys have been wired to be concerned about bringing home the bacon not "baby sit" the wife and VERY PATIENTLY for that matter..Nah, very few will do..Our generation is doomed (am 40..) By the time we get to 75 and crippling arthritis kicks in, or in this case, Alzheimer's..The husbands are going to still be worried about what's up on Facebook or Instagram, or a young chic 25-30 years his junior..*
@@changamuda7844 this one didn't, not all men are the same
How I wish every husband is like him. His love is definitely unconditional..God bless him
not many are sadly x
@@tracyfun6918 so true x
Bless this couple. I have stage 4 cancer and I just got married to the love of my life. He is my angel. ❤
my mother had a devastating stroke in her early 60's that left her unable to speak or walk. She spent the next 16 years of her life either in bed or a chair. My father along with the help of nurses cared for her until the day she passed away Dec 24, 2017. Dad lived to Sept 3, 2014. They were married on July 15, 1950. He loved her till the day she died with all of his heart. I miss mom when she was "mom" and not a day goes by that I don't miss dad too. No matter how old you are when you lose your parents there is a kid in you that lost your mom and dad. It will still hurt and you will always wish there was something you could ask them that only they would know.
How devastating, I wish you all the best in life !
THis scares the hell out of me. I have no husband, no family alive never had kids. Im alone and i would suffer so much. God bless Ed.
Fear not. Trust God. Pray to Him to always protect you. And be at peace. Jesus is real.
There will be caring people if you are in that state. Have faith that care would happen . Meanwhile learn new things ,keep sharp,eat well (Sugar and other things are not good for the brain). Blessings.
Don’t be afraid. Whatever comes in any of our lives we can rely on God to give us the strength to see us through, if we ask Him that is. And when God helps you, that’s all you need.
I went through this with my father, I saw him fade away every day, it was so hard for me and for my family, I'm the youngest of my siblings, when he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's I was 16 years old, it was so hard and still is, he past away three years ago, and still I feel his presence around the house, and I miss him every day, even though I've technically lived with him for only 16 years, but I have so many memories, he was a great man a national hero that people don't know because he was in the secret service, something i knew only a year before his passing, I'm proud of him and always will. I love you dad rest in peace, from Algeria 🇩🇿
My mom had Alzheimer’s. It was difficult. My dad did everything just like this man, but he finally crumbled and broke down because he couldn’t do it any longer after about four years. Once my mom was placed into a safe Alzheimer’s residence, my dad would visit every day and my mom settled in quite nicely with the other folks on the unit. It is a devastating condition because it robs you of your loved one while they are still alive and then it takes their life so it feels like you lose them twice.
@Hello there, how are you doing this blessed day?
God bless you sir. You are the definition of a loving husband.
Sorry for your loss.prayers as you go forward.til you meet again.
What a beautiful love story. I’m so lucky: my husband loves me like Sue’s husband loves her, but our roles are reversed (he’s sick, and I take care of him). 27+ years (and going), and I’d do it again in a second!
What a extrodinary marriage. Both have such enduring values. Although this is very sad, neither one is alone. Like he said, they are both in it to the end. I admire both for their commitment. ♡
It feels like he is giving up. Spouses need support systems too. Not only is it hard to witness your loved one getting more and more sick, the person you fell in love with really isn’t the same person anymore and society tells you you have to withstand everything because you’re not the one who is sick. It’s unbearable alone. I just want to hug them both.
This is very true. I've been a struggling caregiver with my grandfather for my grandmother who has Alzheimer's disease with strongly held delusions. The three of us live alone at home. How the illness has deteriorated their relationship, even though they dearly love each other, to the extent of constant struggles, really shatters me.
This may help ua-cam.com/video/akuAUvYpZ6U/v-deo.html
He definitely aged in those years, its so sad
your dad is a hero
So sad...but so wonderful that she has such a loving and devoted husband.
I am 8 years in with my mother and I sometimes wonder what it's like inside her head. I'm grateful she doesn't know what's happening.
What a lucky woman to have someone that will be there thru it all.
I hope God gives me a husband like this man. Wow now days a man leaves you for stupid reasons.
Nathasha Love Men and women have been leaving one another for stupid reasons since the beginning of humanity.
Maybe you can wish god doesn't give you alzheimer instead?
It works both ways love..
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What a positive person. She is able to look at her life and be thankful for everything she has even though something horrible is causing her to deteriorate. I would be so frustrated knowing that my mind was slowly becoming weaker and weaker. She is taking it so well
So touching and beautiful to see how this man cared for his wife the way he did. She had the loveliest smile, even deep into her illness, I can see how it meant so much to him to experience just that and no more from her.
Alzheimer’s is the thief of the mind, it tries to break the spirit. This family is truly blessed to have had parents that showed their children what true love is. Beautifully bittersweet.
My Dear Mother had Alzheimer's and I took care for 5 years. She was a blessing so kind and loving she knew me right to the end.
I’m a cna in a nursing home that specializes in Alzheimer’s and dementia, I see these people struggle everyday and it breaks my heart.
True fricken love. Oh God the emotions this brought up for me. I'm so moved. I'm so glad Pam and Ed had each other. They are both beautiful people.
She was a knockout as a young girl and kept her looks as she got older. Hard for a family to go through. Such a dreadful, soul destroying illness. I hope they find a cure!
It's 8 in the morning and here i am weeping.
What a beautiful example of two as one! My dad had MS and my mom was his main caretaker until he died. It was very, very hard, but a testament to who they were together.
I can only hope to be loved the way he loves his wife. The things of fairy tales, I tell you.
Lost my Mother to this cruel disease in 2016 also. I still have my DAD and as he says " I still have my marbles" at 88. No matter how many people I meet that go through this, the names are different but the faces are the same. My deepest sympathy to all who endure, care and Love the ones who slowly "go away"
From a daughter with an Alzheimer Dad, God bless your family.
Marriage is a commitment - Bless you - great husband
7:52 that’s what actual love is. And that’s what people should see as goals not the immature passionate for the moment love so many go for. My heart goes out to them, that last part really got to me.
The embodiment of love, respect, and commitment.
These type of videos help me remember why I love my wife. The small things are not relevant when the prize is your love.
What an awesome man your dad is. How is momma now? My mother has Alzheimer's too. We are also blessed with a good loving dad and husband. My mom is in a nursing home because my dads health was going down hill. It tore him up to let her go. They both will be 90 at their next birthday. I do know that when you get it earlier in life it happens way faster. I am sorry your family has to go through this. I can't believe this is my first time seeing this video. I have been on UA-cam for 2 years with videos of my mother. I have meet some amazing people through this awful disease.
that is not correct. the older you get it the quicker it progresses
Kelly Gunderson Check out Poss cure for Alzheimer's doctor Mary Newport UA-cam curing her husbands Alzheimer's with raw organic virgin coconut oil amazing good luck and God bless
Pam White died June 6th 2016.
Nosy Hausfrau oh, that’s so very sad.
Hickry Docker-You are incorrect. Life expectancy varies for each person with Alzheimer's Disease. The average life expectancy after diagnosis is eight to 10 years. In some cases, however, it can be as short as three years or as long as 20 years. However, for those diagnosed with Early Onset Familial Alzheimer's Disease, studies show that onset of symptoms before age 45 may indicate more rapid progression.
I cried through this. My 72 year old dad has dimentia and slowly losing him is heartbreaking
Thank for sharing your family’s story. I am in the first stages of EOAD. I was married for 20 years but he chose not to stay for many reasons but I do have my own apartment now & it is lovely. I live alone with my cat Rosie & my family comes by daily. I do not look forward to the time when I know I won’t be able to live alone & that saddens me but for now I live one day or one hour at a time. This disease forces me to live moment by moment & I kinda like that because it causes me to not have to think & stress about all the days troubles. I can only think in the moment so I do what I can at that time. I know that I have lost the ability to do things I used to do but mostly I don’t remember what they are so I don’t miss them. Your wife is so lucky to have you. Bless your heart sir.
Kimberly
GOD BLESS YOU HON!! YOU ARE NEVER EVER ALONE, GOD AND JESUS ARE ALWAYS WITH YOU, AND IN MY PRAYERS EVERYDAY!! YOU DO NOT NEED THAT MAN, HE WILL THOUGH HAVE TO TALK TO GOD SOMEDAY WHY HE DID THAT TO YOU
How are you now?
I am just so happy that she had such a loving husband. You can see the love he has for her in his eyes.
This story touched me so much. My grandmother died of Alzheimer’s and watching her slowly forget how to do everything she loved to do was heartbreaking. Watching someone you love and slowly loose their independence and their memory is one of the hardest things. She was such a huge part of my life, only living a few minutes away and i would do anything to get to have another day with her. So much respect for this husband and wife. I hope she rests in peace❤️
I don’t mind doing it, I like being with her.
🥺 My heart melt.
Scary and upsetting. What a beautiful woman. The paintings of her are gorgeous. You can still see the love between them and it’s sad to think that she won’t remember him eventually.