From 2010: Jan's story - A love lost to Alzheimer's
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- Опубліковано 14 лис 2020
- Jan Chorlton was a promising television reporter working with CNN, ABC and CBS News. She was lively and daring, one of those people who celebrated life. But at only 40 years old, the subtle changes of lapses in memory began. Correspondent Barry Petersen reports a personal story of early-onset Alzheimer’s, first broadcast on “Sunday Morning” June 20, 2010. [Jan Chorlton Petersen died on May 11, 2013.]
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My Nancy was diagnosed at 53, She was 63 when God took her home. I’ve remarried but still miss her terribly. God bless all of you who are being and have been affected by this devastating disease.
May God bless you ✝️🙏🏼
What a loving tribute to your Nancy. I am so happy that you remarried, and I am sure that Nancy is too. 🧡
"When I'm 64", was one of my favorite Beatles songs when I was a teen. I will be 64 in January!
@@lynnyhen Thank you for your kind words. I liked that song a lot too. I’m now pushing 67 so it does fit quite the same. I wish you the best in what’s coming. May the Lord bless and keep you and yours.
@@JetSkiSuper7 yes to the unrepentant He truly is..He is also very patient and is still giving you the chance to call on the name of Jesus and ask for forgiveness. If you are one of satans minions playing your cruel jokes your days are numbered and there is nothing you can do.
“We’ll meet again”
No judgement at all sir! You are still a great husband to Jan. You haven't turned away from her as you live your new life.
Exactly!
What a beautiful, candid story. My son has dementia from a brain infection and as I write this today he is slipping away. My heart just hurts.
I’m so sorry Cathy.
Praying for you right now
My thoughts & prayers go out to you & your family! 🙏🙏
Bless you both
So horrible. To see your child suffer. My prayers 🙏 for you and your family.
I'm so sorry - my heart and prayers go out to you
No judgements Mr. Petersen. Thanks for having the courage to tell this story.
I am 54 and have MS. I am showing early signs of dementia and I am living my life to the fullest. We never know how much time we have. Don’t wait to take that vacation. Don’t waste time on silly stuff. Spend your life with loved ones and write journals to all on your loved ones. They will know you!
Thank you for your comment! I hope you’re doing well
I saw the original broadcast of Jan's story in 2010. When Barry Petersen started wiping the tears from his face and eyes while with Jan, I started balling. I was shocked to learn that she left this earth just three years later. It was evident how special this woman was. Alzheimer's is a terrible disease. I hope that progress has been made since this story first aired.
My god, this is a deeply personal story and it is so beautiful, thank you for sharing.
Yeah, so beautiful her husband cheated on her......
@@kleeamd8274 No, he didn’t cheated on her, but now she’s like a child that needs care 24 hours a day.
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He dont cheat on her. He have not abandoned her. But he have the right to be happy and continue with his life. She is well taking care of .
We are no match against what our body and mind can do to us. Healthy, young, old, sick, rich, poor. This is heartbreaking.
Sadly, I do have a good idea what you mean.....
For the record, if you were confused,..this story is 10 years old and Jan Chorlton died in 2013 at the age of 63.
Thanks!
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Thanx i cause i was about to google her so thank u again fir the update
@@AB-qt1bs still look into her if you care! I mean we all fade into history but still
As sadness fades.. For
Dear Jan... 🙏🏽🕊️🕯️ Daily .. as for so many more families/people .. follow in these painful journey's..as all diseases rise..
MAY GOD HELP US ALL !
Why ...no cure to..
cancer..Alzheimer's..
researched..to no avail..
There has to be a cause..
a reason, for it all..and as our fights continue...
MAY GOD HAVE MERCY
ON US ALL...
“Attending someone’s funeral over and over again.” Exactly how it felt when my mother was passing of breast cancer. At 16 it was excruciating for me 😞
I so understand. My dad died of lung cancer when I was 17. I remember everyday hoping to go to the hospital and find him a little bit better, yet every single day he was a little bit worse
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So sorry.
🙏🙏🙏
Such a powerful story, it broke my heart ! Some day I hope we will find a cure for this devastating disease. I admire this man's courage.
I k Oe, there is some promising new research
Read Dr Bredesen's work, he's REVERSING Alz.
I’m glad he has someone who understands and can ease the pain for him. It would be a devastating journey to travel alone. Anyone who judges doesn’t have enough empathy.
Absolutely right. He is entitled to some comfort and just because Jan is in care doesn’t mean that he has to stop living too. Thankfully his new partner is a lovely caring human being.
The long goodbye, it's worse than death!
especially that part when Jan was talking about her husband lovingly, not realizing he is in front of her... not even thinking "why is this guy tearing up?"... that's what it means to "being worse than death"... so so sad...
It is. I nursed my wonderful mum in law who’d led such an amazing life. Widowed and worked hard to bring up three children. In the early days she begged me to help her die before her mind went all together. I couldn’t and it was heartbreaking.. I felt I’d let her down. I’m praying assisted dying is legal if I get it.
“Attending someone’s funeral over and over again.” that is exactly what the process of losing a loved one feels like.
I’m a nurse and I take care of people with Alzheimer’s . This personal story move my heart and I’m crying 😢. God blessed you. Probably your wife can’t recognize you anymore but you still remember her love for you and all the good things she share with you. Visiting her is always going to be an act of love and appreciation for a shared love
ua-cam.com/video/ZOX2eg1nfAs/v-deo.html Please play this by your loved ones side, hopefully it can help them. God bless!
My beautiful momma is in the late stages of dementia. I basically don’t work anymore, don’t leave the house much. I’m her full time care giver with A LOT of help from my brother. I miss her every single day more than words can say. Losing someone to this horrific disease is hurts sooo bad. The way I describe it is- there is NOTHING harder in life than mourning someone you love while they are still alive. It’s very confusing to the senses. I’ve lived in mourning now for a good solid 3 1/2 years. I’m so exhausted sone days it’s hard to even get myself up and out of bed but I love my momma so much I just can not even think about letting strangers cate for her. We have many difficult days. I cry a River of tears daily in private but this is our home and here she will stay no matter what happens!
Gif bless you all who love or have lost a precious loved one to dementia. I know and understand your pain 💜😢😗
You’re such a great daughter. I’m so very sorry about how extremely difficult it’s been and I wish you and your family well.♥️
More power to you!
So understand him .. no pain on her it’s all on him, glad he found someone else to be with
My grandmother had Alzheimer’s and it is truly a hard thing to see. Thanks for sharing this Mr. Peterson.
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This is the worst, most painful thing. My dad was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia in his early 60s, and we took care of him for about 10 years before he died. Doctors told us that he wouldn't completely forget who we were like Alzheimers patients. But in his final years it was really painful seeing him, and not recognizing that instant love and adoration in his eyes that we'd known all our lives. As his son, who grew up to look so much like him, I truly fear what my future mental health will bring. I have no children who could care for me if I go his way....but I also have no children who would mourn me in this slow and painful way. These are terrible diseases, and we should be researching the crap out of them. In 10 years this'll be the new cancer, as the biggest disorder our elders face.
I lost my dad a few years ago to cancer, however in the years preceding his death his personality and behavior had been changing to the point that I "knew" something was wrong. Me and my mom (who was a GP) thought it might be the beginning stages of FTD. Perhaps his cancer was a blessing in disguise as it caused a quick death with relatively little pain. Now I watch in horror as I am losing my mom to vascular dementia. It is heartbreaking to see how this cruel disease is taking everything from her. I share your fear for our own future as well. Like you I have no kids. I try to think of other things as I can't influence it and enjoy life as much as I can. I hope there will be a therapy available in the future.
God bless you
I am 87, my husband with Alzheimer's is 89, we have been married 22 years. Cancer does not scare me at all. Dementia scares me because if I get it, who will look out for him. He has no children and his niece wants me gone, she offered me $90,000. of his money to leave. Her plan is to put him in an "inexpensive" facility and take the house. He doesn't understand and she cares not for his well being.
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My goodness man..the bravery to pull the curtain back and show us what it's like to love and be loved by someone with this affliction
Thank you - but I’m seeing the video loop twice (the first 2 min or so) while the origin audio continues to play on, going quite out of sync. Is anyone else seeing this?
yes... but whatever clip that was covered by the loop must be painful to see... I feel Barry's pain when he visited and can't remember him and always refer to him in the third person... we can't blame or judge him for moving on but he hasn't deserted her either... in fact, it has helped ease his pain... so sad, considering her age... sometimes, in life, you have to make that decision no matter how painful...
Seriously? This is a free UA-cam video, not a film student’s assignment. Who cares.
@annette bogert I cared for a woman, my boyfriends dying wife of 30 years, with early onset Alzheimer’s for 3 years until death … I met him and we became close only when her fate was sealed and she barely knew her own name, but was in need of a sister/ best friend to care for her until the end … I have been up close, and lived that life of a caregiver, and therefore I see Jan’s story for the beauty that it was, without regard for out of sync audio loops
I restart the video and that usually puts it back in sync.
Same. I thought it was intentional but I felt I was missing out on something. Glad it synced up. Fascinating video. Sooo sad.
I’m so sorry you and your lovely wife are dealing with this horrible disease. You are an awesome husband, and she knows that too. Praying you have peace during this difficult time of life
Jan died in 2013.
Oh man...thanks for the repost CBS. And thanks for sharing your personal story Barry.
My Mom passed from Alzheimer's in 2017, passing after 13 years which they termed "a slow progression". It was the hardest thing I've ever witnessed. Now she is free & can dance again.
Jan. was surrounded by much MORE LOVE...please cherish your time her...I write this with compassion...because I see the love you have for her...not criticisms or judgement...bless you for standing by her and getting her the best care possible!
I have a family friend that met a woman at the Alzheimer's home while both of them were visiting their spouses eventually by spouses died and eventually they became partners. It was a very sad process to watch but I must tell you I'm delighted that you're moving on that's so very important. Thank you for sharing this very poignant story.
That's so beautiful
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My mum passed away last year from this disease. She was diagnosed 14 years ago. My father also got together with another woman before she died. Her husband also had alzheimers, that was how they met...that and they bonded over a mutual love of art. She was nervous to meet me, but I was just happy for him as I knew he had felt lonely and stretched to the max for a long time. Of course he will never forget my mum - they were together for over 50 years, since they meet eachother as teens in the 60's. I miss mum almost every day - I also did that while she was still alive. I missed who she was before she got sick and missed her hugs and advices ❤
And this is why we need to both educate the generations in school about Alzheimer's AND create more adult daycare programs for caregivers throughout the U.S. (& elsewhere.) 💜🙏
I totally agree with what Barry was saying. I lost my mother to alzheimer's. It's a never ending grieving process. It's like the person you knew is already passed but their physical being is standing right in front of you, year after year, not recognizing you. When I finally got to be a mom late in life, I brought my baby daughter to see her and she thought I was her sister and that my daughter was a little boy - heartbreaking
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I'm sorry 😞
What an amazing story. And how wonderful that he can move on and find a new love. Jan would surely agree.
This is like the real life version of The Notebook. How utterly heartbreaking. 😢 I'm glad he found someone that makes him happy.
This story hit me like a ton of bricks! No judgment sir...no judgment at all...just prayers, respect & admiration to you & your family...you, Jan & your new life companion! Love & light! 🙏🙏🙏
My spouse developed it in his late 50"s. At 66 he developed bladder cancer and was given 6 months to live and made it it 3 months as Covid shutdown started. He did not know he was dying, I kept him at home to the very end.
It wasn't supposed to end like this! 😞
It's not my place to judge. At least you took care of her till the end! My mother had Dementia, she lived with the family for 5 year. Up and down, I miss her so. It was hard in the end, a blessing 😍
It's also heartbreaking to have the opposite happen like it did to my grandmother. Very sharp mind but...lost her sight, lost her hearing, no longer could walk... locked in a body that refused to cooperate while her mind was still fully there. She lived to be 92 lost in silence and darkness. Very heartbreaking to see that wonderful woman so helpless and sad.
RIP Grandma. We love you.
Thank you for sharing this.
So so sad, my Oma had late Alzheimer’s she was 98 when she was taken from me too early for me. I thank god she wasn’t as bad as Jan she always remembered me. She died in 2009 and I miss her every day. I’m so glad he found a woman with the heart to love Jan also I think it’s beautiful and wonderful she has the capacity to be there for both of them
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"my Oma had late Alzheimer’s she was 98 when she was taken from me too early for me." Is this a freaking joke?
This is sad, I've lived something similar except my husband had mental illness not Alzheimer's but it's just as devastating. Many people do not understand that as spouses sometimes we do have to go on but we do continue to care for that loved one I have a lot of compassion and understanding for this man.
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Mr. Petersen. I along with my brothers and father, dealt with our mom having this same disease. My heart and best wishes go out to you and your family. Thanks for sharing.
Such a great husband! His wife is truly gone and he deserves a woman, a lover and best friend
Thank you for sharing this very passionate story!!!...
I'm glad Barry found someone to help him through that difficult time but if is was me I don't think I could ever do it
Thank you for sharing a difficult/loving story. Alzheimer's is such a cruel disease for everyone involved...
That is a beautiful life story and takes courage to write and share it. Not just your normal family dynamic story unless, a family member is effected by this condition. Jan's Story is of celebrating life the way Jan lives it, vibrant, peaceful and how she still remembers, speaks and shares experiences. Compassion ,transparency, integrity and accountability for all!
This is a beautiful story. My father went through a similar trajectory with Alzheimers and the slow fading away of the person is one of the most difficult things to watch and live with .
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What a poignant, heartbreaking story. I'm one month younger than Barry. My husband and I are both having significant memory problems (and seeing doctors). I wonder if a cure is possible? Hoping so, so that others like my grandchildren won't have to experience it. Brave and honorable for Barry sharing his pain!
Thank you for sharing Jan with us. She is darling. Alzheimer's and Dementia are absolutely horrible. We need unlimited patience, understanding and strength to help our families with the diseases.
This is so sad to watch, but good to know about it..
Wow, this was like a kick to the stomach. My heart and prayers go out to them!
I'm not saying he's right. I can't judge. At least he's honest.
So many emotions seeing this report. Jan and Pat are just as resilient as those who care for them. As someone who has experienced multiple people close to me suffer from mental illness (i.e. dementia), it is important to let them be the best version of themselves while offering as much support as needed. So, it broke my heart when Pat stated she did not want her granddaughters to visit her upon her reaching the later stages. I hope everyone who is diagnosed gets proper support until the end.
My parents have it and it is devastating watching them go....it is as if I say goodbye while they are alive. I am sorry to all of you experiencing this. Love the time you have with them. Love those around you.
Sometimes Life is unfair. Life is a journey and often we do not know where it brings us . Blessings.
"sometimes"
@@ejnaygfantzcg Yes, not always. The beauty of a language is its imaging expression.
Thank you for sharing! No judgment here! I'm glad you have someone to share the load! And, for Jan I'm glad that she seems to be happy! 💞
Thank you for this story. Now understand -- a little -- about what my friend is going through with his wife who has Alzheimer's. Their marriage was the same year I married my husband who is now no longer with me. But, in my case he died. In this story, Jan has forgotten her husband. These stories from CBS Sunday morning always make us think.
Heart breaking. Thank you for sharing such an incredibally personal and devastating circumstance that many face.
This is so heartbreaking! I hope they find some happiness together. They are BOTH incredibly special people. God Bless you all
Touching in ways I didn’t expect it to be. Dementia, Alzheimer’s…..any ailment that robs us from each other is the cruelest kind,
Thank you for bringing us your story. It helps us understand this horrible disease a little more. May you be happy ...that is what Jan would want for you.
Bless them Lord
I visited my dad a few weeks before he passed. He didn't know who I was for most of the visit, but then at the end his face lit up and he said "oh, I remember who you are!". It turned out to be a great last memory.
This is a magnificent piece
The video and sound isn't synced in the beginning
Ok I thought it was just us. Thanks for commenting.
It works for me?
Thank you for sharing this!
Both very sad and very sweet! Thank you for this report! --Bonnie Robinson
Yes they say life goes on.My police officer husband of 38 years took the good bye road for 5 years before he left me with his body too.
As a nurse who worked in a nursing home this is sad every damn day
Thank you for everything you do for the people in your nursing home. It means so much to the families.
Man, this just shows how badly Alzheimer’s sucks. It robs you of all you memories and turns loved ones into strangers.
I will never understand why a disease like this even has to exist.
Thank you for so sweetly and accurately explaining the loss of a loved one, be that family or friend. It’s such a “long goodbye”.My heart breaks for all of those experiencing this existence presently or that may in the future. And I wonder why? And why nothing can be done.
I worked in a high dependency dementia unit. We had doctors, teachers, vicars, housewives, bus drivers. It strikes randomly. Intelligence has no effect. Doesn’t matter who you are or what you do. The end is the same. It’s horrific.
Thank you for sharing your very personal story...
The ultimate decision to go forward must be difficult- you want happiness but it can’t be shared with the spouse
Heart breaking and courageous thank you for telling your story.
This is such a blessing and beautiful story. I am so thankful that you shared this. My mother has alzheimers and I feel so alone. This has given me light that I am not alone!
This is such a powerful story. Thank you for sharing your private journey. I lost my mother to Alzheimer's in 2018. We watched her slow decline for 16 years before she was free. I feel for you and I love how you have handled it. Take care.
Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for such a beautiful story ❤️
Such a beautiful yet sad story, thank you for sharing. May God Bless you all.
Wow. This is such a beautiful and human story. God Bless you and Jan, and the unconditional love you have for Jan. Not that you need me to tell you, but you are a beautiful soul and a good person. Great story Sunday Morning you never disappoint.
How painful! Thank you for sharing something so personal. Absolutely, no judgment here. This is a love story period.
Crying tears of empathy. Thank you for sharing this heart-rending story. So relatable.
My mother died of this disease. She lingered many many years with not knowing who any of her family was. It was as though the disease reached a certain stage, then stopped progressing leaving her and our family stuck in limbo. This is an awful way to leave this planet and an awful way to watch someone you love leaving this planet. I think this man has faced an unthinkable decision but I do not fault him for choosing to still live while he is able to live life. It's very fragile and fleeting so you must enjoy it while you can. I see no harm in him having some comfort and happiness in his life even though his wife is still alive.
💔😭 Bless them all.
Thank you for sharing this. I'm crying as I write this. All 3 of you are special.
wow. this man. I am gobsmacked.
Wow.. what an incredible love story..blessings to you all in this incredible personal story..
God bless you and for anyone with this horrible disease. I recently lost my brother to this, watching him disappear into existence. Breaks your heart.
Enjoy life....for you just never know.
Thank you for the touching remembrance of Jan, Barry.
Hello I must be going...I'm crying for love, loss, loyalty et al. 3 is a beautiful number. God bless you all.
Hi Elaine, how's your day going with you?
Can’t argue with any of this story. Jan is gone. What remains is her core niceness which was always there and is her spirit. Dealing with this loss is helped by the comfort of his new relationship. Good idea.
So extremely touching.😢😢
Thank you very much for taking the courage to share your personal story and embracing life fully with hopefully good times as well as fondly holding joyous memories. Alzheimer's is truly a diagnosis that effects more than just the evaluated person. How dear of you and your new friend to visit and help keep your wife's joy in the forefront. "Mr Happy" you deserve the very best!
love this , thanks for making this video
No judgement here... I lost my Mom to Alzheimers and it is an insidious disease and to any loved ones involved it is filled with grief and guilt. Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. Anyone who is dealing with this needs love and support where they can find it....
My husband was recently diagnosed with dementia, he is 78 and I am 65. He still works and can do many daily activities but seems really lost on days he doesn’t have to work. We are planning a cross country move so we can be closer to his sons. I find he had good days and bad days. He is on medication that will hopefully slow the process. Our lives are in Gods hands now ❤️❤️🙏👍
Thank you for sharing your personal story ❤
Gosh this must be so painful for him and his new wife🥺 I know Jan doesn't realize what's happening but I know it would break her heart if she did but he has the right to have love again we all need love God bless him and his new wife for still taking care of Jan 🥰😭
I am not going to judge you. You have my best thoughts. Jan is right. Each day is precious.
Thank you for sharing!