This Facility Created A 1950s Town To Care For Alzheimer’s Patients
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- A facility in California mimics early memories for “reminiscence therapy”
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Ok
Thanos ok
VICE News I hope they will have this for others someday and just keep updating it to like further into the 60’s and then the 70’s etc
WHAT ARE THEY DOING NOW THAT THEY ARE IN QUARANTINE? My heart goes out to them
Robotic pets 😂 how are they gonna show affection?
“The past eases any pain of the present.” That’s a hell of a quote
Christian Wechter i looked at your comment as soon as she said that
i mean, regret is the exception, but yeah. nostalgia is my drug of choice.
Sometimes...I'll change the year on my pc...just comforting to look at the date and its 2011 😕
Doesnt work for people with traumatic pasts
@@arcticjungle4741 the good ol days, 2008-2011
Alzheimers is the truly one of the scariest diseases i can think of getting... its so sad for everyone involved
I worked in a care home, dementia and being completely incapacitated where someone has to take care of your every need is pretty scary, wonder how it feels to be in their shoes
ytrewqmcnoggin what’s the difference between dementia and Alzheimer’s
fatima traore dementia is a broad term, Alzheimer’s is a specific form of dementia
@@ytrewqmcnoggin4480 wow I always thought they were 2 different things and dementia was the more severe one.
For the victim I’m confident it’s painless
Imagine being with someone for 50 years and then one day she doesn't know who you are. That would be the biggest heart ache I'd have to endure
My poor grandma had to go through that for 10 freaking years, my grandpa had a heart attack and feel into the concrete, surviving but losing his memories and motor skills. She took care of him for 10 years until he passed away a couple of years ago... she's such a strong woman and I'm always in awe of her resilience and straight-up awesomeness.
My grandpa died at 72 - not young, but not that old either, considering he was pretty healthy and fit. (They changed his heart medicine and he died exactly a week later of a massive heart attack). It was a super shock losing him when we did but we always said it was a blessing he didn't have to see my grandma's decline. She was diagnosed about a year after his death (though my mom says looking back there were signs for as much as 5 years earlier and she thinks my grandpa was trying to hide it) and lived for another 15. She had a really slow progression and only really got nasty and forgot who I was in the last couple years, but I think it still would have been really hard for him to deal with.
My father's 62 with mother being 5somthing- and he's already not making much sense when I try to explain anything, it's scaring me.
Jered Alfredo :( that’s super hard. If it’s “not making sense” though it’s probably not Alzheimer’s. My grandma made basic sense until the very end, although maybe early onset has some different symptoms. It could also be something like my great grandpa - everyone though he’d had Alzheimer’s, but the autopsy showed he’d actually been having hundreds of repeated mini strokes. The classic test for Alzheimer’s is giving someone a blank clock face, the numbers, and hands (by which I mean like paper cutouts of all this) and asking them to put it together. For whatever reason Alzheimer’s affects how you can do that. My grandma could read a clock just fine her whole life but when asked to make a diagram of one she piled the numbers in one corner and didn’t know what to do with the hands; if you took him to a neurologist they would likely do this same test.
@@mokster5 The general term for repeated micro strokes is Vascular Dementia. How the term sounds insidious, is how the disease is: Slow paced, but irreversible. Every step is "well, I don't like any of what this is doing, but it wasn't as bad last week". 3 years later, you can't play bingo. 1 year later, can't put on a sweater. Another year, you are told that you're lying, and they want to go see their _real_ kids *right now* , and they're serious.
My uncle had dementia brought about by stroke. We tried placement in a nursing home but nothing pleased him. We noticed as we watched carefully that the dining room didn’t serve him more that a small bowl of soup because he ate too slowly. I was sitting in his room out of sight and heard the staff taking bets on the date of his death. Assisted living is simply assisted dying. We brought him home so he could have three meals and eat for as long as he liked with people who wanted to sit beside him. He got help from hospice with showering. We drove to parks and to the mountains, went to restaurants he liked. I miss him.
@Linda Hebert I think I was lucky to get to care for him. People miss something special when they don’t slow down to care for the old. The only problem is I lost my career and a significant amount of income. I am still trying to get back in the game but it is very difficult. I may never reach the level in competence I had.
i hope he rests in peace. thank you for sharing your emotional story
In Canada, we actually do have assisted death.
@@sharonrigs7999 We have assisted death here and I will chose it. The problem is finding a doctor who is willing to assist, and passing the careful regulations. If you have had a stroke or been diagnosed with a dementia related disease, or found to have a mental illness for which you took medication on a regular basis, your application will not be approved. I think the reason I would like assisted suicide is that it is so expensive and time consuming to die.
So glad you were able to do that.
ok but she is literally the cutest thing, when she started doo doing and blew the camera a kiss
That was adorable haha
especially this part 6:05
Whoop whoop!
Mina Dyana yea bruh she dead ass just dookied and farted and shit then they call it cute tf 🤦♂️🤦♂️
@@na9251 she was singing "doo doo doo"
People who work with those with Alzheimer’s and dementia are heroes to me.
Absolutely correct 😍
Thank you. I love my job.
My mom does that. She's so caring. I'm not sure how she does it. I could never do it.
I took care of my gramps fo' he died but he was very stubborn and had a habit of cussin everybody out lmao
what about the people who gave there life for your country
I love how her family tells her that “Town Square” needs her help. Sometimes, with Alzheimer’s, it is about the presentation. They resist losing their independence, and after a certain time, they don’t understand why they can’t be independent anymore. The key is kindness.
Another settlement needs your help, i'll mark it on your map.
That’s true, my dad got early onset Alzheimer’s when he turned 41, and he forgot how to take care of himself, he forgot how to tie his shoes, drive, he forgot who my brother and I were, it was horrible. It was a “rapid” Alzheimer’s too.
People with Alzheimers love to have "jobs" and things to do. Asking for help putting away the dishes, or folding clothes, or telling them you need them to come with you to the doctors, even if the appointment is for them. It is a comfort to have a purpose.
My late grand-mother resisted for a long time to be put into a nursing home, instead opting to live alone in her large house (next to ours thankfully), but we eventually had no choice. Hats off to those who work in the nursery homes! ❤️
@@larsiparsii same happened with me it's sad my grand mother Is gone now
Her even knowing that she can be comfortable and funny around him even if she had no idea who he was at all speaks volume. She still know he is somebody she could trust ❤️🥺
I know, its beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time. But that's love. My favorite was when she goes "Oh! That was a goodie!" at 4:49
I liked 5:58 too, she interacted with the staff member so happily.
6:40 she keeps him even though I'm not sure she knows who he is 😭
I worked at a nursing home for a little over a year and something I noticed with one resident who was very far along in her dementia was that she didn’t remember new people but she was much nicer to you if she saw you almost every day and you especially if you gave her something sweet to eat. Not sure if you know this, but one of the last things to go for someone with dementia is their taste for sweets. This lady had a big sweet tooth and loved oatmeal cream pies with milk. I always had one in my shirt pocket to give her. She was by far my favorite resident. But she could be so mean if she didn’t like you and she truly knew who she didn’t like. It was pretty funny to watch. I really miss her.
@@winterkeptuswarm I'm sure she knows who that is still, she has a ways to go yet from time of filming
When she said " you're a good man, I'll keep you" to her husband my heart just melted.
My grandfather says that to my grandmother.
Their love is timeless (":
And then the “keep away from those people” 😂😂 she’s such a badass and made me laugh with her comments.
Goals
@Logan Lindsey 🙄 don't be an incel
Something important to note:
When she asks “who else is eating” it might be in reference to the STRANGE PERSON BEHIND THE CAMERA in their home. She might be wondering if they are going to eat too.
That's what I thought too
Well, yeah
That's what I wondered as well she looked right at the cameraman
Grandma just trying to feed everyone. 😇 that's what grandmas do! I love it!
i hate that this made me laugh
when she asked that lady “who’s girl are you?” and she replied “your girl” it was so cute what a precious woman
And then "that's right", gangsta grandma lmao
@Man Of The Dark Aka Darkman bruh
Ashton Payne Gma pimpN
@Man Of The Dark Aka Darkman creep
@Man Of The Dark Aka Darkman if your mother saw you rn smh
My great grandmother passed away in 2017. In the last few months of her life she started developing Alzheimer’s. She kept asking me to put some coffee and coffee rolls out for her best friend was coming by after to church to play bridge. I hated watching her face when they would tell her that she’s been dead for 15 years.
To save her the heartache I would set the table for three. A place for me, her and Ms.Catret. I would just tell her that she’s probably running late because she’s running her mouth after church. My granny would agree. I was a terrible bridge player but seeing that smile on her face made the lie I was telling less hurtful.
I pray when I get older I don’t lose my memories. I don’t want lose a single one
bless you, im so sorry you and your loved one had to deal with alzheimer's
That's so sweet 🥺
Beautiful story! So touching.
You have restored my faith in humanity 🙏
I had to lie to my grandma and tell her every day that her son was coming to visit her soon when he never did, or that he had just been there when he hadn't. It hurt that he never wanted to visit, but I chose to lie to her rather than break her heart with the truth. You did a good and kind thing.
She is the cutest old lady ever. It feels good to see someone being adequately taken care of.
Trizz Carter 🙌🏿
Trizz Carter imagine having corona virus and people are fine about old people dying
@@kimovvo2444 Hospitals in affected areas are at maximum capacity. Supplies only go so far, especially when many working-age people are being treated for COVID-19 and severe pneumonia among other illnesses and afflictions present in medical facilities. The elderly are, in most cases, too sick to be successfully treated. It's too inefficient and ineffective for the number of cases emergency staff are already dealing with. It's a sad reality, but it's the world we live in. The United States' tarnished healthcare system has begun to show its true colors as well. Do not let them leave their home for any reason. Sanitize all toilets, sinks, doorknobs, tables, counters, appliances, and all high-traffic areas. This virus is almost guaranteed to kill an elderly host.
Absolutely ❤️
She is obviously so happy and comfortable where she is
the “who’s girl are you?” “yours!” moment was the sweetest thing. 🥺 props to the professionals who work in places like this, it takes a special kind of caring person to do so.
It's a very rewarding experience. If you have the time to be trained specifically for an Alzheimer and dementia unit, I highly recommend it. Pay is shit though lol
TheRoyalHam That has nothing to do with my comment at all, why are you here.
TheRoyalHam of course you only video is about racism. Is that all you think about dawg
idontgiveafuck you need to calm tf down
Right as I was reading your comment, it popped up lol
"What am I doing?"
"You're just sitting there being a passenger."
"Oh. Okay."
I feel like I have had this conversation before.
I actually thought that as well, and I'm 24. So strange.
Very post-op memories for me.
CerpinTxt87 pretty much a summation of my life thus far 🥴
175 times a day 💔
Same
I used to know a guy well into his 80s with Alzheimer's. He was pretty far into the disease, but aware of it. He told me he knows he can't remember what he said 30 minutes ago, but he has learned to cope with it. He said that a few years ago it could frustrate him to no end, but he found peace with it and was one of the happiest individuals i've known. If anyone is interested in the stories from WW2 and afterwards he told me let me know
I am interested. I love to listen to old people talk about their past. Soon enough they will take their stories with them and it will be too late. Please share.
I'm interested!
I’m interested! He sounds like such a kind man
@@Taisie_Bunn Totally forgot about this comment, but here we go: After the war he joined the Navy, and basically sailed all over the world, one story he told me was about every few months when they went to shore the captain would let them visit prostitutes to ''keep the morale high''... He never participated since he had his wife at home and he'd feel like he was cheating on her if he did. I always really admired this, his wife was a lucky woman for sure!
@@mariomaniac581 i interviwed my grandma about ww2 she was really young and lived near a occupied Japanese garrison in the phillipens she ranted about how GANNAP members tryed to get information outta her about her father. She said that he was a gurrila and dident know anything else about his wear abouts. She also said that the Japanese were cruel and tied people arms behind there back strung em up and beat them with sticks. Thats the oldest liveing memeory she told me i miss her
"You could go kiss Ray with that breath."
"I don't want to."
Ray: :(
Thank you for this! I watched the video and felt so down, but your comment has me still laughing audibly, much to the assured annoyance of my fellow housemates during this lockdown
I felt that
@@KBcollision ;)
Amanda C
“I asked her out twice, and then I asked her out again”
Damn.. even back then these two had Alzheimers
Ray: Aw cmon that was uncalled for :(
The daughter helping them is a gem. Really rare nowadays.
James, you are right on. She's a peach.
Really rare in the western world, yes.
Born 2 Pew it’s really hard.
My grandpa has Alzheimer’s and he’s stubborn as a mule
Everybody with elderly parents that I know that lives in the same city or area as their parents takes care of them wdym
I did for 10 years with both of my parents. Youngest out of 2 older siblings and I reached my breaking point exactly 5 months ago today and escaped. I just could not anymore because it was literally killing me physically, emotionally, mentally, and psychologically. It takes superhuman strength which I lack.
“How many kids do you have”
“Ohh probably 4”
Ms. Mary is too cute 😌😂
Agreed. 😂
Kassandra Noemi yo what’s good you got Instagram ?
@@alejandrosantos147 shooters gotta shoot 💀
@@grxy5316 lol
Alejandro santos 😂😂
I was doing a paper for my senior year in High school about music therapy and it’s effect on Alzheimer’s dementia. This is actually one of the places that I found and I always thought it was pretty cool. Btw I found that there was no negative side effect of music therapy and almost everyone that underwent this therapy showed improved signs.
musics always a mood boost/memory unlocker for me so that makes total sense
music helps everyone, proven by science 🙂
If I get alzheimers, I hope they don't play singers that I hate to me!
Isn’t that common sense tho? 😅
Makes sense, because music seems to be a whole other side of our mental faculties. It instantly changes my mood.
Poor Ray. That man loves her with all his heart
Why is he “poor”
Alejandro Gutierrez His wife is going to die. Alzheimer’s is a fatal disease.
Jack Panozzo he seems happy, and we all die.
Alejandro Gutierrez he’s poor because eventually she’ll forget him and the memories they’ve made together. I have people in my family who have Alzheimer’s and it’s absolutely heartbreaking. Some days they don’t even know who you are.
Love is blind
we start off with being cared for, and we end with being cared for.
Ideally, yes.
And in between I have no doubt she took care of Tanya and Ray and the others. She served her country in the Army and paid taxes. It's fitting and fair that someone is there to help her now.
Dale Strain i never said anything was wrong with it stupid i was trying to be deep
@@dalestrain7086 Truthfully.
• hxiz • Do you understand what this man meant?
They took the saying “you’re living in the past” literally
Which is nice
Well depending on what race you in the 50s you might want to adjust
Very true alan
White Only signs everywhere
You can tell by the way she lights up at the facility that she feels safe. ❤️ I love that there are people who take the time to care for our elders so thoughtfully.
When she started “doo doo doo ing” I literally died of cuteness
Bryan Wu honestly I couldn’t be the only one who thought you said, “doo dooing” was
Oh my gosh, I saw your comment before I saw the clip and I was still not prepared for how cute it was 😂❤️
That little "Boop Boop" is what killed me. She's so full of joy
That's how I wanna go out. Rest in peace.
i had to stop the video there. it started to get too real for me. i can distinctly remember hearing my grandma making those sounds as she danced around her room. this whole video was t he most intense trip down memory lane for me. i miss my grandma.. so much..
Imagine being 30 years old and going to your local grocery store, then the clerk tells you you're actually 90 and have dementia and you're in this dementia village.
This whole thing seems cruel.
Sounds horrific.
You don’t tell them that
It's all coming together
He said dementia village
“how many kids do you have?”
“oh i think about 4”
Kid #5- :((
ROFL
Ah shiiit
And it could be anyone of them
In her defense... she did say “about.”
My Mom would say 3, one of each
I work at a senior living facility as an activities assistant. This just warms my heart to see this level of interactive care for those who have memory issues. 🥺☺️
Same. Love and hugs and fun to you🤍
Whenever she said "do do do doo doo do do, boop boop" I felt that
Reminded me of Papa Jim
same
She sounded like a furby _bye_
Ying papa Jim badumbuddumbum
I know!
imagine the first person to develop alzheimers and everybody thinking they’re just joking around
viancaa. The first case of Alzheimer’s was a woman born in 1850 in Germany. It’s great research.
@@tiffanydickert1360 That's the first recorded case. That's most definitely not the first person to develop Alzheimer's.
Tiffany Dickert - wow. ill take a look into that
I guess back in the day, it was called becoming senile.
Oh I'm sure they thought they were possessed or something as the symptoms of Alzheimer's are basically the same as those of a Schizophrenic.
Only difference is when you're old, having a mental disorder is seen as ok versus as if you have a mental disorder in your 20s or 30s.
getting old scares the crap out of me.
Work on the things you can help and don’t fear what you can’t. If anything, we’re lucky to reach our golden years as so many die before then. It’s nothing to be afraid of.
Consistent exercise and not drinking or smoking goes a long way to help
Everything to do with death scares me, it's natural. I remember Grandpa having a cigarette with me in the old country, telling warm jokes and watching some old western on his cold war television set. I took him for granted, thinking that I'd always have him around. A few months later I got a call telling me that he passed away (what's worse is that I live in the U.S., which is very far from home). It just happens so suddenly. I just don't think about it, best we can do. Be thankful that you are alive (and hopefully healthy). Even when we do eventually pass, remember that we will continue to exist in some sense. Memories live on.
It isn't getting old that should scare someone. It is losing control of your mental or physical capabilities.
whozthisguy God helps a ton with that brother
As a retired Geriatric Nurse, this is an absolute pleasure to know that this facility is an active program in place for our aging family members. We absolutely need to have many more of these facilities across North America and beyond. Lovely!
I remember seeing a facility even better than this. It was a town like place where people actually lived there. They could go to the store and buy things, but didn't ever need to pay. So they don't need to fumble with money or math or inflation. It was in some other country though, not the US
I was expecting an actual small town replicating the 50s 😭
I was thinking the same thing. Then i was thinking maybe they could have an outdoor area or ‘main street’ that continues the theme.
I think they have a place like that somewhere in Germany or Scotland. I forgot exactly where. Whats really cool about the town is that all the "working" people like cashiers, waitress, etc are actually nurses and medical staff. they couldnt get lost, even if they want to.
Yuppp got swindled
I was expecting Nuketown from Call of Duty but only for old people lol
For real, I was convinced their old house was part of it, like The Truman Show living in a bubble type town.
She said “you’ll such a good man...I’ll keep you”*grabs his hand* ughhh so cute 😍😍
I melted when she said that. ♥️
loved that part too
I guess
Lol something my mom would say to my dad
Women.. Lol
Can I just say, playing bingo with people with Alzheimer’s and dementia is an absolute wild experience.
Oh yeah, it's fun. Same with the art, it's amazing when you see the kaleidoscope of colors in their minds.
Playing bingo in the nursing home period is an experience a serious yet funny one. Them old folks take bingo seriously
Nicole Boynton oh super.
@@047Kenny .
Oddly enough one-time I was forced to play bingo with a room of senior citizens when I was like 8 and I know exactly what you mean 😂
We need these centers nationwide. I'm only 35 and my mom would benefit from a program like this. She forgets and blends so many things together. She is stuck in the 1960's and 70s. That's when she remembers the most vividly.
My grandmother died of Alzheimer’s last year and my advice to anyone who’s family member is battling this disease is to get out old scrapbooks and photos from when they were younger. Get them to talk about the pictures and just listen. It makes them feel better
Garrett Soto sorry for your loss, thanks for the advice.
How old was your GM?
Iil Yea same my grandmother has no clue what’s going on right now it’s tough
My Gigi has “early” Alzheimer’s and she has been battling it for 2 years. She’s so special to me, and my all time favorite person in the world! She looooves talking about being a little girl. And another word of advice - never tell them that they already told you!! Just listen and soak up the precious time you have with them 💛
@@OliviaBrookeee this brought tears to my eyes
When I’m 85 these are gonna be an internet cafe where everyone is playing League and CoD and a movie theater that’s always showing Endgame... maybe they’ll have an art gallery with the ancient memes
I'd be cool w a Sleeping pod and take out wen I'm old. Gimme my check
Its gonna be all lan and shitty bots and nobody is gonna notice
Even now I want to be able to set my browser to a certain year and browse the net like I did 10 years ago or something.
Mycel nope, what’s that?
So basically, your memories are all fake?
Spend your time more wisely man.
Her daughter is very special the way she takes care of her mother...
Agree really nice to see
Is it really that uncommon in the US for kids to take care of their parents? Where I'm from, it's a given. You're considered a lowlife if you don't care for your parents in their old age.
Malek Jendoubi most of the times it uncommon , people in the US tend to forget about their parents or grandparents a lot and it results in them dying alone or being alone. So it’s actually quite nice seeing a child take care of his or hers parents/grandparents .
@@wguid in the U.S. it is financially hard to do so. There is very little government help and these programs are very very expensive. Not to mention, not everyone has a relationship with their parents. Some people are estranged and never see their parents again. Not all parents are good, not all children are good. People get addicted to drugs, commit crimes, sometimes, even when it's your mom, or your daughter, you have to separate to prevent financial ruin or legal risk of your own family.
@@VeritasInsights Well most countries where most children still take care of their parents are still developing countries, so there's little to no government help that into supporting our parents. In fact, families have take care of each other because the government doesn't have any money to support its citizens financially.
This made me cry. I lost my grandpa to Alzheimers in 2016. 💔
2013 for me 💔 I was dealing with some problems myself and wasn’t even allowed to go to the funeral because I was hospitalized in a facility
I lost my Grandma one day before 9/11. She had Alzheimer's for about 3 years.
You lyin out yo ass or tellin it like it is?
I worked at a homecare facility for people with Alzheimer's and dementia. This is awesome. They sometimes are living in the past
@@matty6878 ua-cam.com/video/NKDXuCE7LeQ/v-deo.html
Looks like politicians in a meeting
@Coolerthan Afrieza I'm not expert but I think that it would definitely help. You should also try making some kind of a memory book/box that contains pictures and things from that time period.
My Grandfather passed from alzheimers last year. The care facility he ended up in was specifically for people with Alzheimers. Those people there knew how to rock. I would walk in and they would have Johnny B Goode blasting from the radio or some other song from Chuck Berry, Little Richard, or Elvis going full volume.
I remember in about 2002-03 talking to an old lady about how much she had been paying for a very old life insurance policy. The premium had been set in the 1950s. When I told her she was paying 15p a month, she asked "Is that three shillings?" The old money had already been gone over 30 years before.
Alzheimer’s is one of the worst things ever to be. It literally eats away at your brain until you are gone and it does it twice, first when it takes away all of your memory, and second when it takes your life. It makes me tear up writing this and I don’t even know anyone who has it so far but I hope they find a cure
It's very sad, I lost my grandfather to Parkinson's and my grandma has severe Alzheimer's due to a brain tumor and she's not even there anymore it's like someone took her and trapped her somewhere else.
Not just memory but also Brain function, talking, and even treatment of others. My Grandma can't lift up a gate, It is truly a sad thing. Ik what I'm going to say sounds really bad but I hope she passes away so she can be with Jesus.
Watched my grandpa go through it, my grandmother loved him so much she was there everyday watching him slowly get worse and forget who she was. I remember going to see him before he died and he was a shell, no more the joking loving man he once was, instead just looking around like he had no clue where he was or who we were. Runs in my family so I'm terrified that my dad will go through it or even myself.
@@unclesniffer7166 sorry man
don’t worry, when i become a med student, and then a neurosurgeon, i will hopefully find the cure to alzheimer’s and dementia
when she hugs Ray and says "What a nice man you are" oh man, my heart shattered
i hope one day i'll be as deeply in love with someone as she is with that nice, nice man
@Man Of The Dark Aka Darkman bruh
@Man Of The Dark Aka Darkman bruh
Man Of The Dark Aka Darkman nooooo
@Man Of The Dark Aka Darkman [shockedpikachu.png]
Algrenion lol.
This is what happens when people actually care! ♥️
My grandmother has Alzheimer’s. She’s reverted to a childlike state of mind. I’m crying over this. I don’t want her to forget me.
Edit: by gods Grace she passed away July 30th 2022. She never forgot how much she loved me and she fought hard till he called her home. Bless everyone who provided me comfort over that time.
Im really sorry youre having to go through that. Just keep in mind that its a disease like any other, and just because they may not be able to remember you doesnt mean you arent important to them. Its just like how somebody might be delirious from a blood infection. Just because they cant recognize you doesnt mean the love isnt there deep down
aw im so sorry you're going through that. you have such a kind soul that the thing you're worried about is her forgetting you. I'm a healthcare worker and I take care of memory care patients daily and one on one, while it may seem like they're going to forget you while you're with them, they have moments of clarity where people like you are all they can talk or ask about. It's so hard being the family member having to watch them change back to when they were a kid, but trust me you being there means more than you could ever imagine. I wish you the best of luck and I'm sending nothing but love to you and your grandmother.
Everything homie...
Hope Drentea wut happend
I’m sorry but it’s going to happen. My grandpa has Alzheimer’s also and he isn’t in the childlike stage yet but he already forgot who I was. Sometimes he’ll remember but then a few minutes later or the next day he’ll totally forget
Imagine if they made a nursing home like this, nursing homes are so depressing and a change like this would make the residents happier.
edit: holy frickityfrackfrit 3.4k likes?!
In the past few years one near my house has added a lot of features a bit like this sort of thing. Obviously there’s only a certain amount that an already established nursing home can do without a full renovation but they’ve done up some of the day rooms in a homely vintage style and there are faux shop windows in a number of the hallways with displays full of items the residents would recognise from back in their day so they can kind of do window shopping and reminisce ☺️
That would be adorable. I’m sure there would be some limits as far as technology they have to have to be up to code but they could make it so much more inviting.
Well, there is active research on "reminiscence therapy", and obviously this one is more... uhh, through in its dedication to immersion.
Now the downside is obviously that it's gonna cost ya. And in the era where cost-cutting is king everywhere, I don't foresee this happening everywhere.
We have one which is decorated into a town with a cinema, a sweet shop, a hair dressers etc
should look up nursing homes in japan, they actually pair them with daycare centers and during certain parts of the day, the kids and elderly will have group activities.
a lot of these diseases has a lot to do with having lil to no interaction. (as they get worst with having limited contact)
6:31 "Am i allowed to touch the star?" oh man that was so sweet.
Vince Jhon Donton this is Fr goalsss
nice profile picture 😅
I'm 74 and I would love to live in that neighborhood if I didn't have any memory loss! Might keep the memory going longer!
I'd love a cool 50's kinda walk-thru exhibit and then at the end you could sit down in a 50's style restaurant.
@@CrowXiX I haven’t been in a while but there’s a place called Dollywood in Tennessee that had something similar!!!
@@pyao fucking Dollywood is so funny I’m sorry
@@Ashh602 IKR it is, she bought an old silver dollar city amusement park and named it after herself like you fuckin go LOL it’s honestly super beautiful and there’s a lot of stuff to do there and in the surrounding area too
@@pyao I hear there’s a ton of Pepsi 😂😂 my grandma is a Dolly Parton fan and she took my mom there once
We asked my grandma one time if she’s worried about getting Alzheimer’s , it runs in her family , and she said “I hope so I’m tired of all of you” 😭😭😭💀💀💀
I'd imagine a lot of introverts becoming elderly and pretending to have Alzheimer's to get out of everything
@@VindexRex 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@VindexRex my pops does that. He also does it with his hearing. He has really bad hearing loss, but mostly when it’s convenient and never when he wants something.
Lmaooooo based
Lmaoo omg !
Daughter: "You could kiss ray with that breath!"
Mother: "I don't want too."
If that's not 52 years of marriage idk what is😅
Daughter: "Say whatever you desire"
Ray: "Whatever"
🤣🤣🤣
this comment's replies are wholesome wtf
I’m also ray! Ion kno why I felt the need to say this 🤣🤣🤣
To
When she started going " doo, doo, do, do, doo " I felt warmth everywhere.
She's doing that cos her brain is melting
Mondo Prime uhm
I know!!! So sweet!☺️
Mondo Prime lol shut up
@@mondoprime this is the most sad and funniest comment in the platform
This is not only a wonderful place for Mary to go where shes obviously relaxed and happy which gives her relief, but also for Ray because it gives him respite from being a career. Having that respite means their relationship can stay strong and loving instead of becoming all about caring for Mary. What a wonderful place!
Him: "People make their strongest memories between the ages of 10-30."
Me: *Horror flashbacks between 2004-2024*
Hugo Hamblin-Agosto terrible
def untrue
Lmaoooo
Ok 25/26 year old
Hugo Hamblin-Agosto we’re gonna miss these weird ass times tho aren’t we 😂
6:30 "Am I allowed to touch the star?"
What a beautiful relationship.
I'm not crying about how adorable that is! Someone just keeps cutting onions!
@@MatthewBaran Im glad im not alone, im not even an emotional guy .. but that brought tears to my eyes "Am i allowed to touch the star" Jesus.. that phrase was just soo fucking perfect..
Imagine being 80 years old and you get taken to a building across town to play minecraft.
I look forward to it
Jokes aside I really wonder what that’s gonna be like, I’m 19 right now and I honestly hope when I’m 80 or something I’ll be going to play Minecraft in vr or in some new futuristic way
TheEmojiMan 6471 you can play minecraft in vr now
TheEmojiMan 6471 i just hope they make striking vipers from black mirror a thing
I sure fucking hope someone does this for me or I'll be bitter forever
I didn't expect to cry today but here I am weeping. My grandmother is showing what may be early signs. For now it's just forgetfulness, less verbal restraint, stubbornness, but it gets bad in the evenings. She isn't her. It was worse once, when she was in the hospital with pneumonia, but that was from the morphine. Now it's just a daily struggle. I worry about her so much. She already struggles with mobility from arthritis, and she lives with my parents but they constantly argue, nobody in the household could be a full time caretaker either.
It scares me for so many reasons. That condition is one of my biggest fears. I'm scared she'll do something she'll regret, say something she doesn't mean, I'm scared she'll forget me. I came out as trans to her two years ago and sometimes she still can't remember my name. Most of all I just imagine how scared she must be at times, how scared she will be. And to know there's nothing I can do, it hurts. I just want my grandma back.
@Ithecastic seek help
So sorry- my grandma was diagnosed just last year. I had noticed it for a couple of years and it took that long to get her children to take it seriously. It’s tough and I miss my grandma everyday even though I talk to her on the phone. But it isn’t “her”- I can’t talk to her about anything serious like i used to and she was my best friend. It’s truly a brutal disease. Wishing you the best and my advice is to just be in the moment with her because really it’s all we have in the end. Love to you.
@Ithecastic you just looked into the mirror or what's grossing you out sweety?
@@ktay9187 Your last sentence says it all. Be in their moment, not yours, and enjoy everyone of those precious moments.
@@ithecasticwhy are you commenting this nonsense to someone who is slowly losing a loved one to a disease? Seriously learn how to interact in a good way god damn I lost both my grandparents to dementia it’s no joke! Get some social competence
My grandmother’s first assisted-living home had a little taste of this. All their activities took place in an “ice-cream parlor” (within the building) where they’d serve snacks, play games, listen to music, etc. all done up in a 50’s style. I can also attest to older memories being powerful. She was an accomplished pianist and many times we would come to visit and find her playing whole concerts for the other residents. They’d call songs and she would know them by heart, 40, 50, 60 years after she first learned them!
That truly is amazing. I believe they return to a time when they were the happiest
That's beautiful
That's beautiful!
"Is someone else eating here?"
"No, just me."
"Oh." *looks over at camera man in confusion*
Lol, but on a serious note it made me sad, it seemed like a glimpse of her forgetful moment that alzheimer's causes.
@@Ayveh she was wondering if the camera guy was joining them to eat
She's onto us. Quick blend in and increase the sleeping gas.
*Looks into the camera like it's the office*
nobody ever thinks about the camera man.
This is so cute. I really wish every old person could get this type of care.
If you know of any who would benefit from this, you can immerse their room/house with memorabilia from the past...pictures, music, period furniture, etc...much of this is available 'cheap' on ebay, or flea markets. Prior to seeing this video, I read articles about the positive impact this has on people who, in one way or another, realize that time has passed them by. Everyone is comforted by how the world was when they were young, strong, and relevant. They understood that world. They grew into it.
@Factsarefacts Bruh I used to work in a dementia unit. It's sad how very many of them don't get visits from family.
@Factsarefacts Bruh There is a British TV series called Derek, set in a nursing home and tackles some of these topics. It's beautifully written, and one of the funniest shows I've ever watched. You should check it out if you haven't seen it!
Nice MF DOOM pfp
no, you shouldnt wish a home on anyone, people deserve houses wtf. why cant you accept that people deserve private homes to live in?
There using nostalgia as a way to better equipment patients and their families for when the patient eventually moves to a long term care facility. This is genius! Absolute genius!! There need to be more of these.
They're
"how many kids do you have?"
"probably around 4"
breaks my heart but I gotta laugh
Mothers at 85 are fathers at 45.
It s not sad ... it s they re illness not them so you can laugh... my mom has Alzheimer and doesn t even know she has kids...it doesn t bother me she s still my mom
This is the story captain America didn't want to talk about.
:)
Nah it defintly wasnt, captain America was a super soldier who dosnt forget anything, and after that he was an old man who lived a perfectly happy life, and him and his wife didnt get any alzheimers or dementia in the comics or the movies....soooooooo this comment makes 0 sense
The Kerbalist bet you’re fun at parties
@@smokeylebear1062 LMAO fr that was the lamest response to something clever
This is my favorite UA-cam comment of all time, thank you
My Grandmother has Alzheimer's and is at the stage where she forgets to eat. She still thinks that the nursing home she and my Grandfather moved into is a hotel.
Jed I’m sorry about your grandmother. That’s got to be so hard.
That’s rough. For my grandmother, she thought she was staying in her college dormitories.
Jed same with my great aunt 😔
Jed it gets better... in death...
Grandpa wasn’t at the best place and just wanted to go home... we couldn’t do nothing for him though...
My Grandad on my dads side has it. He’s convinced he’s in a hotel with his old streets cloned around it and people go into his house and play poker and steal his money.
Mary is the sweetest, cutest old lady I've ever seen. My mom used to work at an assisted living facility as a CNA when I was a little kid, and she'd take me to work with her. I always loved being around all the lovely elderly people. This brought back a lot of happy memories for me.
My grandmother had Alzheimer’s. Such a cruel disease.
My grandma has parkinsons its terrible to
My uncle got lumbago
Hasan Chowdhury Yea, my grandmother was a zombie. She kept hurting herself accidentally. It was sad
@Hasan Chowdhury There are states where assisted suicide is legal. There are facilities that are kind of like a hotel, with comfortable bed and nice staff and pretty views, and then you just take a pill when you're ready to go.
@@Literallyryangosling777 *GET UP!*
The people who work at this facility seem so kind. They must have huge hearts.
it is probably expensive so they probably get pay well too
Denis Lara nope. I do this work. The ones that do this, do it for the greater good. The most I made was $10.00 per hour. That’s in the DFW area in Texas 2020.
There are many, MANY ppl with big, loving hearts. I am one of those ppl - however I hurt and cry and bleed like regular ppl. No man is an island. Ppl need ppl. Being the Poet I am I see myself giving and blessing and I've learned my reward is up in Glory because many ppl here on Earth are consulate takers. They don't feel they have anything to give but they do. A smile. A warm hello. Perhaps a compliment..... none of these cost us a thing but (TBT) ppl hold back out of fear. It's enough to make you haul off and cry. I say a prayer for sufferers of mental health because it would appear to be 100% of us. Yes, me too! :-)
"What a nice man you are-- I'll keep you!!" *grabs his hand and jokingly tries to run off with him* God... She is the cutest little lady I've ever seen
I see a lot of comments saying things like, “it takes a very caring person to work in a place like this/with people like this”. Kindly, I disagree! Before I started working with dementia patients, I thought I wasn’t the kind of person suited for it. I thought that kindness and generosity were these magical qualities that someone like me would never have that much of. I was wrong!
Kindness isn’t innate, it’s a pattern of deliberate, learned behavior. Anyone can be kind. You could be the cruelest person alive, and you could still learn to be kind. The same goes for being patient and for being empathetic. Caregivers aren’t superhuman; we’re normal people, just like you, who just happen to have a specific skill set. You could do it, too! You are capable of so much more than you think.
I reckon kindness is innate, people just need to learn how to reach it
Hell yeah :)
I want to live in a 90s town when I am old and watch Nickelodeon, play Mortal Kombat, drink Coca Cola, and eat Gushers all day.
Hey Arnold playing while eating some cheeto balls 😂 🤙
And nirvana blairing oh wrong 90s time
For me it’d be a 2000s but that sounds amazing too
A 90's town would be heaven.
Yessss
Say “whatever you desire”
Ray: “whatever.. whatever”
Sym pathetic man :^}
Edit: space
C4sper close enough 💀
Agh marriage....
Wtf yall mean this man is like in his 80s chill out
He’s like if I knew, two ladies be bossing me around, I would have put more whiskey in this coffee.
I’m disappointed the employees aren’t in costume. It could be an Alzheimer’s Disneyland
E H duuuuude yesss let them believe they are in the 50’s for real
I think it’s so they can get used to the attire similar to that of those working in assisted living.... I would think from what they said at least
There could be a Marilyn Monroe and a Richard Nixon handing out bingo cards
it’s all fun and games till they separate colored wit whites
Vinlyguyx420x PAGHABSHAHDKAO
This is amazing!!!! I can't imagine how comforting this must be for any older person especially an older person with dementia and memory issues. It is true that my grandparents used to light up when they were talking about old stories from their youth and early adult years. I love this idea and I would like to see this style of day center open in many more places ❤️❤️
"This Facility Created a 2020's style town" It's just a single room with a bed, a phone and a switch.
DragoonBoom mini fridge
Lmaoo
It's a four sided room with nothing but an iphone.
I demand a xbox one, Galaxy phone, and a chemistry set.
@@styldsteel1
the floor and ceiling?
I took care of my grandmother with Alzheimer's when I was in high school. She forgot who I was and often asked me if I was a doctor, repair man, or someone else. At that point, to avoid upsetting the person, you have to just go along with it; I think I could be a pretty good actor, because I always sold it even when I didn't know who she thought I was, I acted it out and she believed it and it kept her happy. It broke my heart, and it was so hard on my mother (who I was also taking care of; she has mental health problems so I was looking after them both). Instead of going to graduation or having birthday parties, I was always in hospital waiting rooms or talking to care agents.
I graduated at 16 years old, two years early, despite everything, but it was so hard on me. If we could have had an environment that felt more familiar to her, I think it would have been a lot easier, even though her Alzheimer's was a lot worse than this woman's. This man is a good man. Not everyone can do something like this or we would, but he could and he did, and that's an act of genuine love.
I respect you for what you did for your family. To be honest the thought of growing old scares the hell out of me and I hope that when I grow old brave people like you can take care of me and help me.
if no one has told you recently, i’m proud of you
You're an angel
Yo da real MVP
For real, reading this made me think of my grandmother. Much love
You could become a really good doctor or a nurse...you know patient care
“am i allowed to touch the star?”
“yesss ohhh yes!”
“ohhhh, what a nice man you are”
“i’ll keep you”
“keep away from those people!”
made me cry like a baby it was the sweetest think ever
Seriously, my pillow is drenched
I work in nursing homes, and it is sometimes an industry with profit at a higher priority over care. I know a place like this one in the video has to make money, but it seems like they really try to do what's right for their residents. This warms my heart.
Ray: Am I allowed to touch the star?”
Her: aww what a nice man you are. I’ll keep you!
🤧
6:15 “let’s get out of here I’m with you honey”
The interaction with the nurse was so wholesome. People like the nurse and moments like this are the best of humanity
I’m with you! It takes a very special person to work with a dementia patient. I’d argue that the patience and humor required in that field takes precedence over any qualifications or degrees.
I want to find me a guy like Ray. I can’t imagine what it must be like to watch the woman you love forget her life. That’s probably why he seems a little gruff in this. But he clearly loves her to pieces. I want that kind of love.
I did homecare for an older couple n the wife had Alzheimer's. so sad he loved her so much. she would get pissed and start talking n Spanish. they met when he was in the military
That’s what is happening with my grandparents and I visit them as much as I could and talk my I don’t know how much my grandad can handle
That kind of love lasts. These people promised to love each other in sickness and in health- and they meant it.
My great grandma stopped being able to understand any technology that existed after the eighties towards the end of her life. This idea is actually genius, putting people in an environment they grew up in and recognize and keeping them comfortable
Man forgets that he has Alzheimer’s and remembers everything
My grandfather with Alzheimer’s forgot he died
SouthLondonMemes remembers he as Alzheimer’s, forgets everything
Watch the notebook, its kinda true but only for a min or less
Man forgets he's blind
Remind me of this in 70 years
My grandma said her “black ass ain’t going back to the 50’s” 😂😂
omg lmaooo same my grandma is a mexican american
Braxton Miller Fr bro they gonna be having black ppl sitting on the other side of the place
lmaoooo my kinda gma!
Jason Grevy god bless your soul
Jason Grevy what was the point of posting that coment
i will work my ass off to be able to afford this level of care for my mom. this is truly amazing. greetings from germany
Hallo!! :)
@@ariana_208 Servus 👋
Alfred Rieder wurst
Randomly Interesting wir könnten sowas auch bei uns gebrauchen
Thankfully you weren’t born in America, you most likely won’t have to work your ass off.
I love her....she reminds me of my mumma who passed last year from Vascular Dementia . I just wanna give her the biggest cuddle. Crying watching this as I miss my Mum and Dad both so much. 😪💓
In the year 2080 they'll make these for us, but it'll just be a town full of vapes and memes.
Morgan_Fucking_Freeman and genderless cyborgs that we know as the LGBT
First Name Last Name haha lmao
I like the memes part.
Wait till you see grandpas dabbing
It'll just be me sitting in my room on my computer.
I hope when I get older they don’t make a a old folk town facility that is set in 2020 that shit be a reliving deja vu nightmare
Shelter in place, there's a zombie virus going around. Everything is closed, we're all out of toilet paper and you just lost your job. O_O
I was thinking that about patients of color or gay patients for the 50s. But looks like most if not all patients were white so thankfully that probably isn’t an issue.
Let’s not forget the horrors that followed into 1950s. WW2 was a massive event, alongside many rights movements and the Red Fear. If anything, we’d just have the romanticised idea of the time period.
@@iant2064 theres no zombie virus, its upper respiratory :/
POLO MASERATI 500 lmao
This kind of innovative thinking about how to approach quality of life for those suffering from Alzheimer’s/Dementia is a blessing.
absolutely amazing. i'm completely floored by how innovative, yet obvious this whole idea is. it's perfect, and gives those elders that we love the best and most comfortable time in their final years
We hope to find a cure to it, I've heard from my Psychology class that down syndrome is the gateway in discovering the reasons for it, and a way to stop it from occurring in future generations.
My grandpa died a couple weeks ago.... he would have loved this place.... Rest In Peace grandpa
“What am I doing?”
“You’re just sitting there being a passenger.”
“Oh okay.”
when your friend is drunk and you give him a ride
Reminds me of my grandma
Too many pots later....
I cryed because she doesn't know what's kinda going on and it hurts because I knew a family member with the condition and it hurts know they dont know u
When I’m 90 it’s gonna be a recreation of people in Starbucks pretending to work but they’re really watching ancient vines on UA-cam, Netflix Movies and playing Roblox on their MacBooks and iPhones.
@DEVIN POHL and assuming UA-cam, Netflix, and Roblox even lasts that long.
@@BicyclesMayUseFullLane They can always make fake, less intricate versions. And a lot like super Nintendo games being upgraded to be used in modern platforms today
Lmao
@@IfYouMeetAWolf They'll make fake, ultra-sophisticated versions, and have to commission special editions for the old farts that are only as good as the original ones so they won't confuse you.
You won't live that long. Lol I'm just kidding.
The nurse who realized who she was in the military. You can she the respect when she says it. Warms my heart.
I think it was just a song
ummmmmm
@@moth300 🤣
She's the boogie woogie bugle gal of town square.
why respect murdering thugs?
As a memory care unit manager, this is amazing. I wish long term facilities would realize how important these memories are 😍❤️
As a memory care manager..you need to convince your bosses to try something new innivative !
I’m a nurse and I work specifically with the elderly. This. This is what we need in every state ! Build one in northern VA !
You are pretty darn good lookin
Edit: the person below me is lgbtqrstuvwxyz.
I would tongue your fart box
@@johncuervo3019 this is neither the time nor the place for this, John
glenner.org/town-square/town-square-locations/
theres a bunch of planned franchised locations
It won't matter once the corona comes for them...
@@johncuervo3019 lmaoo
I am in awe of this facility. We need these everywhere.
I wish I could live in a 50s town, obviously not including the bad parts of the 50s but I love the aesthetic.
@@alleycat616 Same here!
No, we dont need this.
we don’t need you either, 🤷🏻
@@sandroinocencio1623 What do you suggest for Alzheimer's patients?
Elexis: I bet you didn't know Mary was a drill sergeant in the Army, did you?
Mary: You know who I am? Who am I?
Elexis: (Singing) *MISS MAARYY*
Mary: (Singing) *I'm in the Army now! I'm in the Army now!*
My heart
We definitely need good stories like this right now.
Lets get out of here! Haha
I’m a Care Aide who works in an advanced dementia unit, so these people and this illness are very familiar to me. I think that this is a beautiful idea. This is great.
I wish we could've sent grandma to this. She has dementia, and she is at the stage of her brain not telling her to eat or drink anymore and this woman looooved her sweets. She lives with my aunt and uncle full time and my aunt has to make her eat/drink.
That's telling you it's time to go to sleep...
I'm so sorry to hear that! It's so sweet that your family is supporting her.
The first reply is ignorant. I had a mental rejection of food too and all it meant was that I needed medication, not that I should die. Grow a brain and compassion.
That's awesome that you guys are looking after her. Good job 💕
@@nikanika4003 hey how about you go get this bad and horrible thing and see if you are happy.Considering you are a 8 year old that plays cod and rage quits you probably have 1iq NICE JOB IDIOT.
6:31
"Am I allowed to touch the star ?"
*tender hug*
I cried
"whose girl are you?" yours! "that's right sweetheart"
So cute