I’m so grateful for your message this morning. I’m so so grateful for your words, kindness and love in my life. Thank you for helping us and reminding us we do not deserve any kind of abuse. Sending love to all those wonderful kind people who are feeling valueless because their kind heart and value has been undermined by a narcissist. Don’t listen!! You are precious and valuable.
Yes it does. I have low contact because of my situation. However, for each day I don't have to make contact, the more I heal and the stronger I become.
@@Ratgirl2I understand. For about four months I wasn't sure I would have a place to live. Each step I took over 13 months took time and careful thought not knowing how things would go with each step I took. It's scary, extremely stressful and a horrible nightmare to especially be in this situation when the person causing you this much pain and trauma was once someone you loved and trusted.
Thanks for the emotion. It's COLD out here. People don't know what to say. They don't know what to do. They don't want to be bothered. They don't even try to help or understand 99% of the time. They come across as not caring. Thank you for caring.
@Mom2J6073 So very true! And I just wanted to add one more thing. People are so very busy with their own lives and problems. I also feel you don't know who you can trust. 😌 Thank God for Dr C and Team Healthy!!! This is a safe place 🙏 ❤️ 🙏 We're all in the same boat.
I have been dealing with this problem for many years. I have essentially recovered but it is a complicated and multi-faceted struggle. It still rears its ugly head from time to time. Thank you for understanding the depth of the difficulties that narcissistic abuse survivors face. You are truly a gifted and insightful man. Thank you for your support. Your videos are lifesavers for many, many people.
Gus stood up and moved when you said, "Enough!" Powerful video from your heart! Thank you Dr. C for all your videos this year and many years past. Asking for prayers that I can find the resources to move forward; OUT of the pathology of the narcissist. I have had enough. Just retired and finding the resources really overwhelming to move out of this place of unhappiness.
@joannajohnson696 I hear you and will put you in my prayers 🙏 Take care! I'm going through the same thing right now. Please say a little prayer for me as well 🙏🫂🙏
Thank-you so very, very much, Dr. Carter. I really needed this podcast today. I have tears because of your compassion and heart-to-heart words. Explaining complex trauma along with complex grief helps me. I didn't realize I was suffering with complex grief which would explain my personal rollercoaster of trying to heal. I suffered every form of abuse that is possible. Some days of emotional pain feel like I'm never going to recover. Then after suffering for these few days, I feel a little bit stronger and a little bit more whole. Thank-you so much. I'm sending you a virtual hug. Wishing you and your family a very Merry Christmas.
Divine inspiration to overcome all obstacles begins with humility. This fundamental concept eludes narcissists, and their sadness for having embarked on an ill-fated journey is incongruent with those who are on the path to having a life of love and peace. The path to recovery begins with understanding narcissists, like others, are incapable of being judged by any mortal and they are solely responsible for meeting their own fate.
This absolutely hit the nail on the head! Two years of no contact with a horrifically narcissistic brother and his equally toxic wife. Two years of an endless stream of his flying monkeys. Having to walk away from my whole family just to recover. This video was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.
This video is so point on where those of us live who are recovering from the narcissistic abuse. Thank you for putting into words so such of what I have walked through and continue to feel as I heal. It is so helpful and encouraging to know there are those who truly understand the journey.
"...do unto others as you would have them do unto you..." flipped to "do unto yourself as you would have others do to you" In the beginning of my healing journey I couldn't make the leap to treat myself the way I would have others treat me, because I was mired too deeply into self-hatred, believing that their abusive treatment of me was just and reasonable. In fact I believed my abusers so completely that I was compusively abusing myself on their behalf. So I flipped this golden rule around in a different way than what was mentioned. I realized I had always treated others the way I wanted to be treated. So I thought, "from now on I'll surround myself only with those who do unto me the way I've always done unto others." It was a startling realization that I'd be pleased to encounter those who mirror me!😯 And once I realized how delighful it would be to meet myself, it simultaneously threw a wrench into the persistent self-hatred that I had developed because of the decades-long narc abuse. And finally I was able to stop the self-hatred and self-abuse. Thank you, DrC! Your videos have been a tremendous help! 🙏🏼💞
A very dear friend on the of the world has just been diagnosed with lung cancer. I am devastated. He was such a good friend to me while I grew the scapegoat child in a narcissistic home. He wasn't swayed by attempts at triangulation, to turn him against me. Sixty years of friendship continuing across the world. I so treasure that.
Personally for me the primary reason, the "root-cause", is the deep internalization of the splitting (saying things, meaning things and doing things were never aligned) which makes grasping the reality very difficult for me.
Expecting toxic behavior from non-toxic people was what resisted my recovery. My initial pause to watch and wait for red flags was kind of a red flag others saw in me.
I'm not very good at reading people. I try to be friendly but the mistrust sometimes takes away the joy and so I stay home or do gardening. I quite enjoy my own company because I think it's easier to relax and I feel safer. Perhaps that's me being self-centered. I like helping people and volunteering but that's not the same as 1to1 relationships is it?
Yes! I can push through the pain and grief to get to a place of freedom and peace! I am going to hang on to this remark to help me get through tough times. ….We on Team Healthy have done hard things in the past. We can do hard things again! We are survivors! We are worth it! Hugs to all who are suffering narcissistic abuse.
Yes, healing always takes time, indeed. Amanda, I wish you good luck with your youngest 🙏💛🙏 If he is stepping over your boundary, tell him where the exit 👀is 😉💪🦵before ☄. Sending you positive vibes 💕🤗
@roxymovie3938 Thanks Roxy. I also need to set boundaries with the eldest if I'm going to get through this. Sending hugs 🫂 and positive vibes ✨️ in your direction too 🙏🕯💖
God is truly amazing!!! Thank you Dr. C, this message was a gift!!! The biggest challenge is finding a support system that truly understands. My hourly strength comes from God, he knows my heart!!! To ALL that suffer from people who are not willing to do any self reflection, know that God sees all, embrace HIS love deep in your heart!!! Merry Christmas to all, may the joy of the season fill your hearts!!🌟🌠🕊️
I have been treated by my ex husband who is a practicing forensic clinical psychologist with verbal and mental abuse from him repeatedly and almost total abandonment emotionally in our marriage. That’s extremely difficult to recover from…. I listen to Dr. C who I trust and the women who helped me at better-help counseling. Please be very careful who you interact with.
I always find it frightening how they get into such trusted position as psychologist or therapist. But then again of course they do, it's power and they end up somewhere.
I have limited contact with family due to a mix of abuse/care. I am late diagnosed autistic/CPTSD and waiting for mental health assessment for a dissociative disorder. I am 50 and can't work because of how my conditions affect me, I struggle with basic day to day functioning. I got some outside support and a few trustworthy people in my life and lots of youtube videos like Dr Carter, Jerry Wise, Dr Ramani and Jay Reid. Thanks for this video Dr Carter and seasons greetings to everyone from UK.
I needed no recovery after 56 years of "marriage." After 10 years of desperation, I came back to the Lord Jesus Christ. He took over the reigns of my life and after 56 years the narcissist was removed by the Court. I experienced such relief and peace which I enjoy to this day.🙌 🇵🇹
"Listen to yourself." Yes. "Do unto yourself" --whoa!!! I noticed when I give myself a break, I am more patient with others. I'm going to replay this video a few times! What a Christmas gift!
Recovery is possible and it’s worth every effort along the healing journey because the other side is full of light, love, joy and peace. Merry Christmas everyone ❤❤❤
I HAVE finally reached the point of “enough, I more”. It was a hard thing to accept because it was a parent… but thankfully I have chosen to surrounded myself by people who are NOT used to dysfunctional behaviour. Going to therapy and becoming a therapist myself, has been VERY HEALING
This was the sweetest message and the sweetest sentiment for the season, Dr Les Carter! 💙 🌹✨️ I am so grateful for the gift of you! God is good! Seasons Blessings to you and your family. 🕯✨️ Teresa
You have described by experience to a T. It helps so so much to know what I am dealing with. Merry Christmas to everyone from Beaverton Oregon! ❤ Thanks Dr C!!!
This is the second xmas my 60yr old son has left me on my own im 80yr old its so hard hes become a very cold cruel man i feel like giving up on life 💔 but i will not give him that satisfaction its a sad time of the year for myself and others who are dealing with these poeple merry Christmas to everyone from Australia 🇦🇺
Thank you so much dr C for every minute of this heartfelt message. You are a man who "walks with God", as the Bible says. Dr C, thank you! Thank you! Thank you! You are a blessing to me, to all of us. May God bless you and your family, abundantly 🙏💚 (( Gus pointed out very nicely and effectively the passage "enough is enough" 😇 ))
So true. Sadly, any narcissistic relationship is always abusive because they require you to abandon yourself and play a role. The only way you can stop the abuse is to quit playing the game, in whatever way you do that. I believe when you recognize the game and you find a way to stop participating in it, your recovery from it will start to take shape in the way you need it to. I hope so. Much love and Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays to all.
Thank you Dr Carter .. such timely message!! You Sir are an incredible blessing to me ... God bless you Dr C and here's to Team Healthy 🙏🕊️🕊️ LET PEACE BE YOUR UMPIRE!
I have listened to many of your UTube counselling sessions, and I'm happy to say this one falls at the top of the heap! What a blessing you are to those of us who have suffered alone under a heavy hand. God bless you sir and all of those closest to you. I am starting to think of you as a friend; one I can offer up prayers to God on your behalf. Peace on earth good will to man. Merry Christmas, Dr. Carter!
Dr Carter ☀️ I’m going to listen to this video often, very often, until I dig myself out of this hole I’m in. Every word is Golden. Thank you for the love, care and humanity you share with us. ☮️ ☮️ ☮️
The narcissist I met had already broken a kind, beautiful, humble woman before me, the mother of his children, so once I saw his strategy and how weak he really was although he thought he wasn't I knew I couldn't tolerate him trying to tear me down.I reflected his mess back on him and didn't buy his lies! I thank Holy God that His grace was sufficient to help me stand!!!!
I’m going through this now. I’m so grateful for these videos, I feel so much less alone in this experience. It’s really hard when this person is your father. ❤
I see my older sister stuck in a similar relationship much like mine was with nex. I think our upbringing contributed a lot to choices we made in partners. Dr. C is right. You gravitate toward that disaster. The trick is to learn a whole new set of behaviors and reactions that protect you, not expose you to more trauma.
Learning a lot of stress relief techniques helps recover such as breathing exercises, self massage, an Qi Kung for stress relief can help in recovery because abuse causes all kinds of tensions in the body that don't just go away.
Thank you so much, Dr. C for talking about Complex-PTSD. I affect so many ares in our lives. Merry Christmas & God bless you & your family, including Gus. Our loving mascot.🎄
Thank you, Dr. Carter, for your hope filled, kind and loving words. Blessings to you and your loved ones for a Happy Holiday Season. You have more gifts to give us than Santa himself. How truly grateful I am for your help and wisdom.🎄✝💜🎁💜✝🎄😌
❤ Such a beautiful empathetic heartfelt comforting video, understanding our pain and our tears and despair at times . Thankyou truly ❤ My beautiful cats stretch like Gus did. So sweet 🥰
🧡💛 I'm always soooo fascinated by how dogs can manage their ears 🥰 . We humans can't do that 🙂 . Observing beautiful and lovable realities in the outside world, (outside the prison of narcissists), has always been one of my lifelines
You're truly a Godsend,Dr. Carter. I can't even put into adequate words the depth of my gratitude to you. This particular message is so timely and apropos. Much love and blessings. Merry Christmas to you and yours.
Thank you again for another year with so many kind words and such good information. You are so helpfull to keep walking the path of dignity! Thank you so much. Wishing you a very good new year. Greetings from Holland
After listening to many narcissist help counsellors, i feel settled and confident that i understand a lot of the drama. Family: check neigbour: check but working on my reaction. Further in my circle: none so far. Thank you Is it bad that my nasty neighbour, when she screams and makes gagging faces when we pull into our house parking space, makes me double up laughing? The woman is dangerous i am sure but ridiculous and sad. All captured on security cameras for the police and judge when she tries to sue us again. She threatens and we just ignore her. She flashed me from her back deck. That was a first.😮 Horrible.
Thanks so much for your words Dr C. With your help and insight I've been healing well from narc neighbors ever since I started to listen to you last summer. I'm close to your age and agree it is never too late to get free from what a narcissist tries to dump onto a person. You are giving a fantastic gift by sharing what you do.
Thank you for all the video’s you made on the damaging effects of narcissism. I lost track of the amount of video’s I watched. I watch them all. To the people who could wonder what drives you to make so many video’s, I’d say look at your facial and vocal expressions at 10:30. It says it all ❤
Thank you so much Dr. Carter, indeed you are such a blessing, to all of us recovering from such a painful and destructive relationship with a narcissist. Bless you ❤️🙏🏻 Merry Christmas🎄🎄🎄
Thank you so much Dr. Carter, indeed you are such a blessing, to all of us recovering from such a painful and destructive relationship with a narcissist. Bless you ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you Dr. C, it’s been so hard for me after raising (4) step children along with my husband & dealing with their extremely toxic, selfish, demonized bio-mom and now the kids are 30+ and there is NEVER a phone call just to say hi and see how we’re doing? It’s always a complaint session because they need supply. It just hurts. I poured my entire life showing them God, financially, physically, emotionally, teaching them to love others, to give to others, and I just see their mother in all of them especially the two oldest really hurts and it’s heartbreaking. I’m just thankful I have an amazing and awesome husband through all of it. We’ve been married 26 years now. I found out last year that the bio mom is still telling everyone that she raised the kids and now I don’t want to go to any birthday gatherings nothing I can’t tolerate her, or the oldest stepdaughter who almost destroyed me while living here. So sad. 💔 It’s to the point where I dread having her here at Christmas. I’m working through it, It’s just hard She is disrespectful toward me. I’ve been a target for years probably decades.
Yeah, it's weird to be hypocritical in the negative - treating others better than you'd treat yourself. If there was a random person and I was treating them the way I treat myself, I would be appalled. Then I go and treat myself that way - it's a Tuesday. I'm not 'special' in some way that warrants that exception. Well, cognitively I can say I am not special in that way. Emotionally...that's ongoing work.
Hi Dr C! This is a timely video for me. Thank you 😊 I'm going to show it to my sons so they can truly understand what's happening in my life. You have given me the courage to move forward. I'm so very grateful for all that you do for Team Healthy! What would we do without you!?!? ❤ Wishing you and your family, Gus and Team Healthy a very Merry and Peaceful Christmas 🎄 ❤🎄 God bless!
Merry Christmas, Dr. C! This video is 100% on the mark for my experience. It's been 9 years since my last nightmare, the worst of them this far, and I don't know that I will ever trust a man again. Yep I know therapy would be required!
Id like to make an amendment Dr C. I think it's relationship that we find daunting. Relationship is making connection. They are disconnected with their cognitive dissonance. There is no relationship because of all the things you've said Dr C. It bothers me as I don't like seeing anyone hurt. I try to stay strong for the sake of others. If I'm going to be honest meaning vulnerable, I make my honesty clear using principles. My vulnerability has well grounded principles. Everyone knows the principles and the boundaries they have. It's hard to argue with a principle and if they do, I'd like them to explain themselves using their tactics of making me look bad, it's explain yourself to see how good you are. It's hard to argue with reality and principles support reality.
Thank you and Merry Christmas. healing during the holidays is tough especially when you were duped into awaiting for him while he is on holidays with his ex wife but sorry,not accepting those terms, pulled away, resatrting for 2025
Thank you for your content, dear professor... I have help for your honorable followers. I have read many books about this topic and I found that pornography destroys a person. If a person watches these things, first he will feel internal weakness, and second his interaction with people or with the "narcissist" will be weak. I hope that I have provided help in a brief summary, and any help I am ready
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Thank you for saying that we aren’t supposed to respond well when someone mistreats us!
Definitely
Yep! Such a great point 👍✨️
You are such a blessing to those of us struggling to recover. Thank you. 🙏
Often you just know something is off or dysfunctional and gradually realise, even if you're not aware of the term narcissism.
I’m so grateful for your message this morning. I’m so so grateful for your words, kindness and love in my life. Thank you for helping us and reminding us we do not deserve any kind of abuse. Sending love to all those wonderful kind people who are feeling valueless because their kind heart and value has been undermined by a narcissist. Don’t listen!! You are precious and valuable.
Thanks so much, Andrea.
Rediscovering self worth after years of devaluation is my biggest hurdle. ❤️
Yes.
Amen❤
@istateyourname4710 You'll get there coz you're so worth it 🫂❤️
You can do it!💪🏾
PTSD
Staying No Contact really helps
100% correct
Yes it does. I have low contact because of my situation. However, for each day I don't have to make contact, the more I heal and the stronger I become.
Another round of abuse doesn't help in recovery.
@@JackieFerrell-f6o
Yes but what if you are financially cut off my Narcissistic partner keeps saying come back and you fix yourself. It's like hell
@@Ratgirl2I understand. For about four months I wasn't sure I would have a place to live. Each step I took over 13 months took time and careful thought not knowing how things would go with each step I took. It's scary, extremely stressful and a horrible nightmare to especially be in this situation when the person causing you this much pain and trauma was once someone you loved and trusted.
Thanks for the emotion. It's COLD out here. People don't know what to say. They don't know what to do. They don't want to be bothered. They don't even try to help or understand 99% of the time. They come across as not caring. Thank you for caring.
Same experience here, feel for you
@Mom2J6073 So very true! And I just wanted to add one more thing. People are so very busy with their own lives and problems. I also feel you don't know who you can trust. 😌 Thank God for Dr C and Team Healthy!!! This is a safe place 🙏 ❤️ 🙏 We're all in the same boat.
I have been dealing with this problem for many years. I have essentially recovered but it is a complicated and multi-faceted struggle. It still rears its ugly head from time to time. Thank you for understanding the depth of the difficulties that narcissistic abuse survivors face. You are truly a gifted and insightful man. Thank you for your support. Your videos are lifesavers for many, many people.
Gus stood up and moved when you said, "Enough!" Powerful video from your heart! Thank you Dr. C for all your videos this year and many years past. Asking for prayers that I can find the resources to move forward; OUT of the pathology of the narcissist. I have had enough. Just retired and finding the resources really overwhelming to move out of this place of unhappiness.
Prayer request granted, Joanna.
@joannajohnson696 I hear you and will put you in my prayers 🙏 Take care! I'm going through the same thing right now.
Please say a little prayer for me as well 🙏🫂🙏
Thank-you so very, very much, Dr. Carter. I really needed this podcast today. I have tears because of your compassion and heart-to-heart words. Explaining complex trauma along with complex grief helps me. I didn't realize I was suffering with complex grief which would explain my personal rollercoaster of trying to heal. I suffered every form of abuse that is possible. Some days of emotional pain feel like I'm never going to recover. Then after suffering for these few days, I feel a little bit stronger and a little bit more whole. Thank-you so much. I'm sending you a virtual hug. Wishing you and your family a very Merry Christmas.
This video is a wonderful Christmas present, Dr. Carter. I know you mean it that way, and it is very much appreciated.
Divine inspiration to overcome all obstacles begins with humility. This fundamental concept eludes narcissists, and their sadness for having embarked on an ill-fated journey is incongruent with those who are on the path to having a life of love and peace. The path to recovery begins with understanding narcissists, like others, are incapable of being judged by any mortal and they are solely responsible for meeting their own fate.
🙌🏼🕯
Eloquently and beautifully put.
After my divorce, I used a phrase to help myself, "his burdens were never mine to bear."
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God bless you, Dr. Carter
This absolutely hit the nail on the head! Two years of no contact with a horrifically narcissistic brother and his equally toxic wife. Two years of an endless stream of his flying monkeys. Having to walk away from my whole family just to recover. This video was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.
This video is so point on where those of us live who are recovering from the narcissistic abuse. Thank you for putting into words so such of what I have walked through and continue to feel as I heal. It is so helpful and encouraging to know there are those who truly understand the journey.
"...do unto others as you would have them do unto you..."
flipped to
"do unto yourself as you would have others do to you"
In the beginning of my healing journey I couldn't make the leap to treat myself the way I would have others treat me, because I was mired too deeply into self-hatred, believing that their abusive treatment of me was just and reasonable. In fact I believed my abusers so completely that I was compusively abusing myself on their behalf. So I flipped this golden rule around in a different way than what was mentioned. I realized I had always treated others the way I wanted to be treated. So I thought, "from now on I'll surround myself only with those who do unto me the way I've always done unto others." It was a startling realization that I'd be pleased to encounter those who mirror me!😯 And once I realized how delighful it would be to meet myself, it simultaneously threw a wrench into the persistent self-hatred that I had developed because of the decades-long narc abuse. And finally I was able to stop the self-hatred and self-abuse.
Thank you, DrC! Your videos have been a tremendous help! 🙏🏼💞
A very dear friend on the of the world has just been diagnosed with lung cancer. I am devastated. He was such a good friend to me while I grew the scapegoat child in a narcissistic home. He wasn't swayed by attempts at triangulation, to turn him against me.
Sixty years of friendship continuing across the world. I so treasure that.
Thank-you Dr. Carter. You are appreciated more than you know.❤
Personally for me the primary reason, the "root-cause", is the deep internalization of the splitting (saying things, meaning things and doing things were never aligned) which makes grasping the reality very difficult for me.
This is multiplied when it was your lifelong experience, you have to be able to discern.
❤well said
@@roxymovie3938 Yes. It wears you down ❤️
Expecting toxic behavior from non-toxic people was what resisted my recovery. My initial pause to watch and wait for red flags was kind of a red flag others saw in me.
I am cautiously forming new relationships.
@ Caution up front is a good idea. But once you are convinced, don’t hold back.
I'm not very good at reading people. I try to be friendly but the mistrust sometimes takes away the joy and so I stay home or do gardening. I quite enjoy my own company because I think it's easier to relax and I feel safer. Perhaps that's me being self-centered. I like helping people and volunteering but that's not the same as 1to1 relationships is it?
This is an issue for me as well. I'm so guarded.
@@jwilson6315No it's not.
I find I am much more aggressive towards those who give me a hard time, and I see no resolve in the communication. ABSOLUTELY No tolerance 😊
I have become the same way. And one particular narcissist is in danger of me. I just don’t seem to have any other roadmap.
Yes! I can push through the pain and grief to get to a place of freedom and peace! I am going to hang on to this remark to help me get through tough times. ….We on Team Healthy have done hard things in the past. We can do hard things again! We are survivors! We are worth it! Hugs to all who are suffering narcissistic abuse.
Thank you ❤❤
There is no quick fix. It takes time!
Yes, healing always takes time, indeed.
Amanda, I wish you good luck with your youngest 🙏💛🙏
If he is stepping over your boundary, tell him where the exit 👀is 😉💪🦵before ☄.
Sending you positive vibes 💕🤗
@roxymovie3938 Thanks Roxy. I also need to set boundaries with the eldest if I'm going to get through this.
Sending hugs 🫂 and positive vibes ✨️ in your direction too 🙏🕯💖
It took me years to recharge energy that was drained by energy vampires.
@@yukio_saito I'm still working on it 💪
God is truly amazing!!! Thank you Dr. C, this message was a gift!!! The biggest challenge is finding a support system that truly understands. My hourly strength comes from God, he knows my heart!!! To ALL that suffer from people who are not willing to do any self reflection, know that God sees all, embrace HIS love deep in your heart!!! Merry Christmas to all, may the joy of the season fill your hearts!!🌟🌠🕊️
To you as well. Nicely stated.
Merry Christmas 🕊🕯✨️
I have been treated by my ex husband who is a practicing forensic clinical psychologist with verbal and mental abuse from him repeatedly and almost total abandonment emotionally in our marriage. That’s extremely difficult to recover from…. I listen to Dr. C who I trust and the women who helped me at better-help counseling. Please be very careful who you interact with.
I always find it frightening how they get into such trusted position as psychologist or therapist. But then again of course they do, it's power and they end up somewhere.
My sociopathic sister is a licensed psychologist. I understand completely. 😢
I have limited contact with family due to a mix of abuse/care. I am late diagnosed autistic/CPTSD and waiting for mental health assessment for a dissociative disorder. I am 50 and can't work because of how my conditions affect me, I struggle with basic day to day functioning. I got some outside support and a few trustworthy people in my life and lots of youtube videos like Dr Carter, Jerry Wise, Dr Ramani and Jay Reid. Thanks for this video Dr Carter and seasons greetings to everyone from UK.
I needed no recovery after 56 years of "marriage." After 10 years of desperation, I came back to the Lord Jesus Christ. He took over the reigns of my life and after 56 years the narcissist was removed by the Court.
I experienced such relief and peace which I enjoy to this day.🙌 🇵🇹
Amen. Waiting on this right now
I now realize that my faith is what saved my sanity! I am moving on to freedom.
🙌🏼🕯
Aww! God bless you!
"Listen to yourself." Yes. "Do unto yourself" --whoa!!! I noticed when I give myself a break, I am more patient with others. I'm going to replay this video a few times! What a Christmas gift!
@@sage9836 All the best 👍
@amandaliverpool3374 Hi Amanda! Holiday Greetings to you!
Recovery is possible and it’s worth every effort along the healing journey because the other side is full of light, love, joy and peace. Merry Christmas everyone ❤❤❤
Heading to your healing
I HAVE finally reached the point of “enough, I more”. It was a hard thing to accept because it was a parent… but thankfully I have chosen to surrounded myself by people who are NOT used to dysfunctional behaviour. Going to therapy and becoming a therapist myself, has been VERY HEALING
This was the sweetest message and the sweetest sentiment for the season, Dr Les Carter! 💙 🌹✨️ I am so grateful for the gift of you! God is good! Seasons Blessings to you and your family. 🕯✨️
Teresa
You are so welcome. Happy holidays for you as well.
You have described by experience to a T. It helps so so much to know what I am dealing with.
Merry Christmas to everyone from Beaverton Oregon! ❤
Thanks Dr C!!!
Merry Christmas 🕯✨️
As you most likely know, DrC, I am looking forward to this one. Holidays are rough.
Same here. A big hug
You know I'm in your corner, KellyJean.
We are in this together. ❤
In your corner too missy. Really struggling over holidays. No family & totally alone.
This is the second xmas my 60yr old son has left me on my own im 80yr old its so hard hes become a very cold cruel man i feel like giving up on life 💔 but i will not give him that satisfaction its a sad time of the year for myself and others who are dealing with these poeple merry Christmas to everyone from Australia 🇦🇺
What a wonderful message, thanks Dr.C. Blessings to all of you ❤
God bless you Dr. C! You've been like a wise grandpa that I never had and I am so thankful to God for your wise counsel and advice!
You are very welcome
Thank you so much dr C for every minute of this heartfelt message.
You are a man who "walks with God", as the Bible says.
Dr C, thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
You are a blessing to me, to all of us.
May God bless you and your family, abundantly
🙏💚
(( Gus pointed out very nicely and effectively the passage "enough is enough" 😇 ))
You are very welcome, lishmah!
So true. Sadly, any narcissistic relationship is always abusive because they require you to abandon yourself and play a role. The only way you can stop the abuse is to quit playing the game, in whatever way you do that. I believe when you recognize the game and you find a way to stop participating in it, your recovery from it will start to take shape in the way you need it to. I hope so. Much love and Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays to all.
Thank you Dr Carter .. such timely message!! You Sir are an incredible blessing to me ... God bless you Dr C and here's to Team Healthy 🙏🕊️🕊️ LET PEACE BE YOUR UMPIRE!
Thanks, Julie! Merry Christmas.
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I have listened to many of your UTube counselling sessions, and I'm happy to say this one falls at the top of the heap! What a blessing you are to those of us who have suffered alone under a heavy hand.
God bless you sir and all of those closest to you.
I am starting to think of you as a friend; one I can offer up prayers to God on your behalf.
Peace on earth good will to man.
Merry Christmas, Dr. Carter!
The word heals❤
So pleased for this feedback. Peace to you in this Christmas season. Dr. C
Thank you, Dr. C! I so needed this video right before the holidays ❤ have a wonderful Christmas time and God bless you 💫
A bright and rich Christmas for you, Doc. Much appreciation for all your thoughtful, supportive information.
You are very welcome, and I hope you have a meaningful Christmas as well.
Thank you, Dr. C, from the bottom of my heart. Merry Christmas 🎄
You are very welcome, Linda. Merry Christmas to you as well.
Topman Les so clear to see through these narcs now ,unbelievable cruel creatures........know your worth and never let anyone tell you different !! 💪
Dr Carter ☀️ I’m going to listen to this video often, very often, until I dig myself out of this hole I’m in. Every word is Golden. Thank you for the love, care and humanity you share with us. ☮️ ☮️ ☮️
So glad it resonated! Dr. C
@@Teacher369 ☕️🫖☕️all the best 👍
The narcissist I met had already broken a kind, beautiful, humble woman before me, the mother of his children, so once I saw his strategy and how weak he really was although he thought he wasn't I knew I couldn't tolerate him trying to tear me down.I reflected his mess back on him and didn't buy his lies! I thank Holy God that His grace was sufficient to help me stand!!!!
I’m going through this now. I’m so grateful for these videos, I feel so much less alone in this experience. It’s really hard when this person is your father. ❤
You have described by experience to a T. It helps so so much to know what I am dealing with.
Merry Christmas to everyone from Beaverton Oregon!
I see my older sister stuck in a similar relationship much like mine was with nex. I think our upbringing contributed a lot to choices we made in partners. Dr. C is right. You gravitate toward that disaster. The trick is to learn a whole new set of behaviors and reactions that protect you, not expose you to more trauma.
@@Hatbox948 I'm sorry for your sister. It must be hard for you to see ❤️🫂
Learning a lot of stress relief techniques helps recover such as breathing exercises, self massage, an Qi Kung for stress relief can help in recovery because abuse causes all kinds of tensions in the body that don't just go away.
Thank you so much, Dr. C for talking about Complex-PTSD. I affect so many ares in our lives.
Merry Christmas & God bless you & your family, including Gus. Our loving mascot.🎄
Eloquently and beautifully put.
I love you so much, Dr. Carter.
You're so kind, Jennifer. Love received with gratitude.
Thank you, Dr. Carter, for your hope filled, kind and loving words. Blessings to you and your loved ones for a Happy Holiday Season. You have more gifts to give us than Santa himself. How truly grateful I am for your help and wisdom.🎄✝💜🎁💜✝🎄😌
❤ Such a beautiful empathetic heartfelt comforting video, understanding our pain and our tears and despair at times . Thankyou truly ❤
My beautiful cats stretch like Gus did. So sweet 🥰
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I'm always soooo fascinated by how dogs can manage their ears 🥰 . We humans can't do that 🙂 .
Observing beautiful and lovable realities in the outside world, (outside the prison of narcissists), has always been one of my lifelines
Thank you Dr. C., Team Healthy and Gus❤
Thank you Dr C! I needed to hear this. Merry Christmas!
Trust is so difficult.
Hearing your emotions come through some is appreciated by me.
I’ve forgotten what that sounds like coming through another person.
Love life faith
Thank you so much Dr. C, you have no idea of how much I needed to hear this today! Thank you, and Merry Christmas 🤗🎄
You're truly a Godsend,Dr. Carter. I can't even put into adequate words the depth of my gratitude to you. This particular message is so timely and apropos.
Much love and blessings.
Merry Christmas to you and yours.
Thank you again for another year with so many kind words and such good information. You are so helpfull to keep walking the path of dignity! Thank you so much. Wishing you a very good new year. Greetings from Holland
Glad to be with you there in Holland...your land is on my bucket list.
Thank you for giving us hope! Sometimes is so hard to trust and make plans again.
After listening to many narcissist help counsellors, i feel settled and confident that i understand a lot of the drama.
Family: check
neigbour: check but working on my reaction.
Further in my circle: none so far.
Thank you
Is it bad that my nasty neighbour, when she screams and makes gagging faces when we pull into our house parking space, makes me double up laughing?
The woman is dangerous i am sure but ridiculous and sad.
All captured on security cameras for the police and judge when she tries to sue us again. She threatens and we just ignore her. She flashed me from her back deck. That was a first.😮 Horrible.
THANK YOU so much for this message! It really is encouraging to me, and I appreciate it. Perfect timing!
Absolutely Excellent!!!!!
Thanks so much for your words Dr C. With your help and insight I've been healing well from narc neighbors ever since I started to listen to you last summer. I'm close to your age and agree it is never too late to get free from what a narcissist tries to dump onto a person. You are giving a fantastic gift by sharing what you do.
Thank you for all the video’s you made on the damaging effects of narcissism. I lost track of the amount of video’s I watched. I watch them all.
To the people who could wonder what drives you to make so many video’s, I’d say look at your facial and vocal expressions at 10:30. It says it all ❤
Thank you.
Thank you so much Dr. Carter, indeed you are such a blessing, to all of us recovering from such a painful and destructive relationship with a narcissist.
Bless you ❤️🙏🏻
Merry Christmas🎄🎄🎄
Thank you so much Dr. Carter, indeed you are such a blessing, to all of us recovering from such a painful and destructive relationship with a narcissist.
Bless you ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you! I needed to hear this today
Stay blessed
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you Dr. C, it’s been so hard for me after raising (4) step children along with my husband & dealing with their extremely toxic, selfish, demonized bio-mom and now the kids are 30+ and there is NEVER a phone call just to say hi and see how we’re doing? It’s always a complaint session because they need supply. It just hurts. I poured my entire life showing them God, financially, physically, emotionally, teaching them to love others, to give to others, and I just see their mother in all of them especially the two oldest really hurts and it’s heartbreaking. I’m just thankful I have an amazing and awesome husband through all of it. We’ve been married 26 years now. I found out last year that the bio mom is still telling everyone that she raised the kids and now I don’t want to go to any birthday gatherings nothing I can’t tolerate her, or the oldest stepdaughter who almost destroyed me while living here. So sad. 💔 It’s to the point where I dread having her here at Christmas. I’m working through it, It’s just hard She is disrespectful toward me. I’ve been a target for years probably decades.
Yeah, it's weird to be hypocritical in the negative - treating others better than you'd treat yourself. If there was a random person and I was treating them the way I treat myself, I would be appalled. Then I go and treat myself that way - it's a Tuesday. I'm not 'special' in some way that warrants that exception. Well, cognitively I can say I am not special in that way. Emotionally...that's ongoing work.
Hi Dr C! This is a timely video for me. Thank you 😊 I'm going to show it to my sons so they can truly understand what's happening in my life. You have given me the courage to move forward. I'm so very grateful for all that you do for Team Healthy! What would we do without you!?!? ❤ Wishing you and your family, Gus and Team Healthy a very Merry and Peaceful Christmas 🎄 ❤🎄 God bless!
That warms my heart. I wish you a merry and meaningful Christmas.
Thank you 🌻
Merry Christmas, Dr. C! This video is 100% on the mark for my experience. It's been 9 years since my last nightmare, the worst of them this far, and I don't know that I will ever trust a man again. Yep I know therapy would be required!
Thanks Dr. C. Happy holidays!
It is a quick fix: Knowing the person is a narcissist is recovery in full.
So grateful for this message, doc - thanks so much 🙏
Glad it was helpful!
Such a nice message, thank you!!
The word heals
Gosh. This was so encouraging. Thank you. ❤
You have just made my day. Merry Christmas!
Remain blessed
All of this! Thank you, Dr. C!
My favorite video to date. Thanks.
Thank you DRC
Exactly what I am going through
Thank you for all your insight over this past year and beyond. You've helped me so much ❤
Love this as with all with Dr. C.
Merry Christmas ⛄🎁
Team healthy, Dr.C,Gus and family, I wish you very merry Christmas and happy new year 🥳!
Thank you, Fred, and the same to you and your family🎄 And thanks for all your insightful comments during the past year 🎄❤🎄
@ thank you Marianne! I wish you all that your heart desires!
@fred.k9875 Thanks again, Fred! You're very kind 😇 and an angel for me today!
God bless 🙏🫂🙏
Thanks, Fred! I wish you a merry Christmas as well.
@ thank you Doc!
Thank you 🙏🏼
Love heals
Id like to make an amendment Dr C. I think it's relationship that we find daunting. Relationship is making connection. They are disconnected with their cognitive dissonance.
There is no relationship because of all the things you've said Dr C.
It bothers me as I don't like seeing anyone hurt. I try to stay strong for the sake of others.
If I'm going to be honest meaning vulnerable, I make my honesty clear using principles. My vulnerability has well grounded principles. Everyone knows the principles and the boundaries they have. It's hard to argue with a principle and if they do, I'd like them to explain themselves using their tactics of making me look bad, it's explain yourself to see how good you are.
It's hard to argue with reality and principles support reality.
You make sense, Ross.
@SurvivingNarcissism for us who grew up with principles that our parents gave us.
I know for me recovering from the effects means that it is "Just For Today" practice..
This has been on my mind for a while. I have no idea how to start recovery.
@@patrick8116 You’ve already started by educating yourself on what you’re dealing with. ☮️
Merry Christmas Dr C
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Thank you, and Merry Christmas to you as well.
Thank you and Merry Christmas. healing during the holidays is tough especially when you were duped into awaiting for him while he is on holidays with his ex wife but sorry,not accepting those terms, pulled away, resatrting for 2025
After 40 years of marriage and last ten or so extraordinary abuse it will take a while.
Thank you for your content, dear professor... I have help for your honorable followers. I have read many books about this topic and I found that pornography destroys a person. If a person watches these things, first he will feel internal weakness, and second his interaction with people or with the "narcissist" will be weak. I hope that I have provided help in a brief summary, and any help I am ready
Yes!!