I am a very honest person, but have learned to be careful with my honesty. Different situations require different approaches with honesty. In some situations, it’s best not to say nothing at all but listen.
Stay healthy by having peace of mind. People who feel the need to lie steer clear of them. I find them such bores .unfortunately you find them in all walks of life.
If you are honest in Nigeria parlance they call you “Mumu” he is not “Sharp” but we have been sharp and being an HardMan for long it didn’t get us anywhere! Honesty pays!
October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again A few weeks ago he apologized but i never responded and i’ve kept ignoring him and kept my distance from him at bible studies. I haven’t gone back to my church for a month now because of this situation that made it uncomfortable for me to want to go back to my church. My ex friend that introduced me to him was rude to me and said some harsh things that didn’t even make sense even after the fact she did me dirty and i even tried making amends in the relationship and put her in her place after receiving that shady rude message of hers. Definitely a lesson learned My “ex” was definitely immature and not committed after seeing the red flags and all the things he did to me. Even my friends asked if my ex friend was in love with him because she dropped me as a friend even when he did shit to me and ruined our friendship. I’ve been honest all the way in every situation
@@annapolismike traits you wish you had, honesty should be one of them, defensive remarks could be the truth, if you're not ready for it, you need to hear it, either way, trust issues could ruin relationships, if you don't have morals or integrity, if you care about your reputation, verbal abuse could be the result of unpopular people, if you're ashamed of your mistakes, seek the truth for the sake of justice 💥
But be careful, as some people can take this as an excuse to being rude. Be truthful and honest with a genuine interest in how to go about it in a respectful manner. I think that's something people fail to do in their endeavors to be honest and truthful.
There is a fine liine between brutal honesety and tact. You can be honest without decimating someone else' feelings. Part of friendship is consideration for the feelings of others.
Well we don't want to hurt others feelings so we try to make the brutal in brutally honest look not so brutal. And tact is definitely required. Sometimes saying nothing is good. Here's an example.... A friend has a new baby and the baby isn't as cute as most babies are so do we lie and tell them how beautiful their baby is or do we say something lime " he sure has a nice name'. And what a head of hair he has!!! Or when was he born etc. Avoiding doing or saying the inevitable. And sometimes we just say nothing..me I would sing to the kid so not to have to say anything.
Sometimes when you're being honest they hate you for it they hate you that you spoke up and let them know the truth what's really going on and for that reason they don't want to talk to you anymore but I'll never stop it's the only life I know is to be honest
@@davidoaikhena4380 While that may be true for you I hope, unfortunately it makes some people even worse because they have their own little puppets to manipulate right in their own home.
Being honest has caused me to lose everything dear to me family, friends, kids, partners, jobs, and also myself during some stretches. When you know someone is lying they have the tendency to turn it into blame on others and I remained firm. Now I see everything extremely clear and I am grateful that I did not lie to myself and I trust me only. Always tell the truth no matter what it cost you!
@Said Nasereddin Most the time yes the parents have been a model for them however some go against the grain when parents are wrongdoers. I've seen it myself because I observe human behavior out of curiosity. I think it is great that adult children choose what is right and true. ie. Knew a police officer in Toronto whose family was Italian mafia and he chose to go straight and narrow. Blessings
I would agree to that statement only if you are really doing the right thing although it might be unpopular. Otherwise, why wouldn't you want people to think well of you, and your having a good reputation in the community?
@@johnmcmullen456 It doesn't matter what others think of you. It matters what you think of yourself. I don't have the need to be a people pleaser,so others will think well of me. I know I'm a decent person,that's enough for me.
Mary Ann Garcia: If you are competing against others for a job promotion, definitely you need to be viewed positively by your superiors, and how you are perceived by your peers (via peer reviews) may play into it as well, especially if it's a supervisor position at stake. A person's respect is earned, the key to being a successful leader. Feeling you don't care what others think of you may result in many closed doors in the journey of life, and loneliness, as we are social beings. I see your point though in the context of sucking up to the "in crowd". If something doesn't feel right and natural to you, it probably isn't.
@@johnmcmullen456 Well I think most worldwide known successful leaders have this tendency to not mind what other people think about what their business is on about, so long as the leaders themself knew they are doing good for society and an specific industry including donating to charities out of kindness.
Yes, I embody these traits. Had to grow into it, coming from a family filled with secrets. Freedom to be authentic, is of key importance, to honest people.
You didn't lose them, they lost you.I credit brutal honesty for the quality of the few (is 3-5 a few ?)great friends I do have.But quality over quantity any day!
Yeap that's true. I live that about honesty. It really makes things so much less complicated. My husband is a pathological liar..his lies have lies. He is constantly contradicting himself.
I have recently realized that most people will not own up to their mistakes. Narcissism will not allow the ego to admit it was wrong. Honest people are strong and value truth over popularity.
I recently moved in with a roommate who is the most narcissistic mean lying person I've ever known. She can't grasp that not everyone lies and gossips like she does. She is draining the life out of me. 😭
ok, but it's hard then if others lie and create a distortion of reality.. that one was good. It creates an conflict perhaps. It's all physics probably..
You can be honest. But some times. You have to say it in a different approach than just to say what you think being blunt. As It mostly depends on what the answer to what ever is. As most people don't give a answer if they think it will be used against them. Or the I don't know is a around about way to say I can't afford to tell you. Or when a yes or no is up for question. Then you may here. Can I get back with you later on that.
Very accurate. I feel that I embody all seven traits. Although I prefer to be "tactfully" honest rather than "brutally" honest. The truth comes out either way. No need to be a jerk about it, even though the truth may still not be received well.
To all the honest people who have been ostracized for expressing sincere veracity, "to thine own self be true", Your value does not decrease based on other's inability to see your worth.
Calm liars exist,, true that.🙃But in conjunction with the other characteristics, maybe. Honesty is an aspect in the sense that the extrovert maybe demonstrative rather than calm or the introvert anxious...so yes, this is the weakness link. But the energy around the words are calm. There is that "ring of truth," as my Granny said; it is calm and maybe it goes unnoticed. Good point. or unsensed sometimes.
Once I was told: "What I like of you is that you always say what you think, although it is against your own interest"....and this was the best compliment I ever got...like a diamond in my memories 🍀
Honest people usually tend to suffer more than the dishonest ones, who happen to escape punishment by lying, and save themselves from the immediate embarrassment and other troubles. Dishonest people may win the battle but eventually end up losing the war. However, its exactly the opposite with honest people, ie, they may lose the battle but will definitely win the war.
Most of all, do not marry someone who is a straight face liar👹, And no Conscious about doing it.. People of Integrity are straight shooters👍 With Good Character....🛡️ If you sow lies, You will Reap many many lies....so be very careful 😮
Honesty is still the best policy.If you are really honest,it is guaranteed that you will be the winner at the end.I am 60 plus and now I am enjoying the fruits,though I suffered all these years.
I’m 60+ as well. I have definitely suffered from being honest. Although my honesty about myself when asked has cost me more. The thing I like most is the peace of mind that comes with not having to remember lies. If others prefer to live and get by with lying, that’s their choice. I don’t like it, but just as they have to live with my honesty, I have to live with others dishonesty. It definitely leads to a more solitary experience, although, those who are my friends will always be my friends.
Calm and consistent speaking voice - not applicable to people with anxiety issues, depression, confidence problems and some introverts - the best liars are actually very confident in anything they say. Good salesmen, successful speakers, politicians. They've got thick skin - also not true with the same group of people.
This video validated me to the core. The most difficult aspect of my life has been to understand and accept that the majority of people lie. I’ve never understood it. I am compulsive in my honesty. I’ve learned to be tactful and learned when to walk away instead of truth-telling. I was born into a family with dark secrets. I began to ask questions , trying to make sense of the gaping holes in the “truths” others were pushing on me vs my perception of reality. I was fed a pack of lies and told I must accept the lies as truth and spew them or be quiet. I’ve was called a big mouth and a tattletale and my safety was verbally and physically threatened. I learned to be quiet because I could not bring myself to lie, even as a kid. I’ve been silenced over and over by caregivers, lovers and authority figures to the point of cognitive dissonance and threatening mental illness. The past 3 years have been mind blowing as I’ve come out of the denial of the reality that most people, especially those whom I thought loved me, are liars. The truly honest are the ones that are frequently labeled “crazy”, “hysterical “, “insane”.
SpaceCat. Hello and I hope truly that you are fine And smiling each day! Yes it has been really very bad for you and I know the brutal pain of liars and deceivers, they are not worthy of good honest people, their mouths talk from the gutter!!! However, because sadly you were lied to and other wrong was done and said to you, That does not mean Everyone is the same as those that treated you Wrongly. One of the reasons why people treated you wrongly as you explained is because THEY are Very Insecure! They are miles BELOW you! A Mos Powerful thing I want you to do for YOU IS..and you don’t have to stand in front of those YUK people, you can do this in privacy. Say through your mouth…I FORGIVE THEM. Yes I know it may sound crazy, BUT by doing that YOU are NO LONGER connect to them! YOU are FREE from THEIR insecure Pathetic controlling! Bullies are Just insecure idiots. Come on SMILE now!!! Lastly and this is very Important I want You to do a lot!….., LOVE YOURSELF…A LOT, and more! Please this is just as important is to… FORGIVE Yourself for anything whatever it is small or bigger! Do these things THEN you are completely FREE, and NO MORE of those hurts. They are GONE!!! Also Pray to love and guid you! Gods Big Happy blessings just for You. Stay safe peaceful and Smiling SpaceCat. 🙏🏻😀. JB. East Surrey. UK.
I enjoy my own company much more than having people around who prattle and think silence is something that needs to be filled, I'm learning to chase them off more politely. Also, I usually tell people who want to get too close to me too quickly that I don't have any friends, just associates. .. good ones are the ones I enjoy associating with more often. 'Friends' help friends move, or call it helping. More often they don't even move out of your way when you're carrying a couch. REAL friends help friends move bodies and only ask, 'Which end do you want?'.
I completely understand. True friends I don't really have that many, maybe three possibly four. But I do know a couple hundred associates traveling east and west coast. People should not be quick to say everyone is their friend because of a good time or a drink or two.
Throughout the roller coaster of my personal and social life, honesty has rewarded me with the priceless gift of true friends. The rest have ultimately proven to be either traitorous fair weather friends or very familiar acquaintances...
The fastest way to tell if someone is honest is if they can talk as freely about their shortcomings as they can about their assets. Sincerity is actually a higher value than honesty.
I find it so easy to be honest if people don't like the truth they have a problem don't make it youres I find it very refreshing being honest after all it is what it is I speak the truth and if people don't like it too bad at least I can sleep at night and it's more important to me what I think of myself not what other people think of me but some people are too weak to Speak the truth
shit is so fucked. being a lying and gossipy person gets you all the attention and friends in the world. until you better yourself and watch all the birds flock away, a selective few might stick around in hopes of some crumbs and an extremely minor amount will enjoy you. might even follow when you get off the bench to head home. sad world man
I have all of these qualities and they have been important to me my whole life and I'm not ever going to compromise who I am to be more liked or popular. I answer to God and myself only!
Alot of my anxieties or paranoia as I'm labeled are from experiencing dishonest people hiding behind fake personas. Violated by ppl who sleep soundly while gaslighting their way through life. I'm an over thinker who seems to excel in this at night when all is quiet. I seek the truth as embarrassing as it may be for me. I also have insomnia. 🤷♀️
That's not genuine honesty though if your motivation is fearing a god watching over you. I'm atheist, I'm honest because I want to be honest, I want a good conscience and avoid guilty feelings, those suck. Its probably why I like to admit when I'm wrong, it helps process the guilt and the right thing to do.
HONEST PEOPLE DO RAISE THEIR VOICE because its unfair and disrespectful to accuse them of a heinous act they never committed.Everyone sees this happen with children who are more honest than adults.
Very true ,especially now that I've learned the meaning of a new word ,narcissist ....new ball game now ,,it opened a new world right in front of my eyes,but honest I will remain.
You are right..but if you hornest then know one will take it away from you.. because God create you that way.and is a good thing trust .. because the truth hurts but it is good to help the next person to understand value of being hornest..
This is dead on. A person is only as good as their word. I'd rather have 1 honest friend in life, then a 100 who I have to analyze constantly to find the real truth.
everyone needs that honest friend. sometimes you gotta hear the hard truths. plus if i invite you somewhere and you can’t go, i appreciate someone who can be straight up
Then try to stop bad people from messing with good people. If not then it won't be enough good people to help other's be balanced in what's real facts. People who do good should not be published for it...
At one point my life was a complete lie. It was imperative that I look at myself own up to who I was and become honest. In doing so a tremendous load of guilt left my life. Today I can HONESTLY say I can live in my own skin without guilt or shame. Honestly is definitely worth it!🙃
How true, it's a good indication when you know you're honest and, because people who don't like you, are jealous, and feel guilty about their deceitful behaviours. Just wish people as such, good luck, and be on way. Namaste 🙏
This is so on the money. I consider myself a highly honest person. I feel honesty is key in all relationships. Sadly, I'm avoiding those who don't value my honesty. I have to go with my gut. I can't skirt around issues; it's spiritually painful. If I can't talk to people and say what is on my mind without them flipping out or saying dramatic things like, "Why are you doing this to me?" when I'm only responding to something negative that was said and done to me, I'd rather not be friends. Honesty is beautiful and valuable. If you can't be honest with friends, who can you be honest with? Life isn't about walking on eggshells or silencing yourself to appease other people.
It's okay to be honest as long as you're not being rude. Make your statement into something that you can't hurt others feelings just like you tell the truth in a good way.
That's all good until, after you've been gently and kindly helping someone to the truth, by using questions so you're not just telling them what to think, and out of nowhere they give you the silent treatment. When you finally get them talking, it's realized they're not REALLY mad at you for stating a KNOWN truth, but at themselves for wasting their life. No, when it gets to the point where all the good I've done gets trashed, I get very... Passionate about it. No one can twist the truth with me. No one can lie to me. I am painfully careful of my words. And if I do misspeak, I apologize as soon as possible afterwards. Without being asked. Generally, people only want to hear validations... Not truth.
AC Rush ...could I add that most people just want someone to listen to them. No need to answer if a question isn’t asked. Let them talk and they will eventually come around full circle to the answer they are seeking.
I don't consider myself an honest person but people around me always say I'm so honest. I can't lie because they say they can immediately distinguish through my expressions and speech. They even told me before when I say something that might sound impossible to happen and I look sincere when saying it, they would think whether its true or I just honestly misinterpreted it. I was taken aback once there was a co worker of mine who took an unannounced day off only to join his family (parents and siblings) to have fun. Next day everyone told him I was the one approached by our superior to ask about why his absent, he said out loud "oh my god why him his so honest", everyone laughed, I just told him I said he is out due to a personal family business. The good thing about always being honest is learning to say or do things that is still honest but would not hurt/offend other people.
The only people who are mad at you for speaking the truth are those people who are living a lie. Keep speaking the truth. I don't blurt out stuff to people like I used to . Even if it was true. I didnt see any harm if it if I were just being honest. But I read a quote that helped me understand that certain things are better left unsaid. An intelligent person knows what to say. A wise person knows whether to say it or not.
You wouldn't believe how many times I've been reported by co- workers for honesty because I didn't have a filter. I've trained myself & now they ask my opinion & I respond no comment.
I remember a colleague like you : she was "honest" in a very mean way : making horrible sarcasm about others clothes, habits, figure, speach. Well, now, she has lost everything : her job, her money, her man because to her, everybody was ugly, fat, stupid and needed to know it. It's sad...
Honesty has shown me who is real and who isn’t. I have rooted out those who have no integrity. I have no problem apologizing either. Honesty has enriched my life. Although it has made my circle very small.
I use to hate being honest because in my work life, I felt like people saw me as weak, but I'm glad I stayed that way because I'm in alignment with where I wanted to be and away from dishonest people completely now :)
@@sharonfelicia7045 yet those same co workers that suckered up to the boss by manipulating and lying to him are farther in their career as op. And op will die alone no one will look back and say he is a good guy for not playing the game and closing doors behind him(opportunities). Don't lie obviously but honesty is not a virtue. It doesn't make you good or better. Especially when you're living under so called dis honest folks.
When an honest person is asked to give an explanation pertaining to themselves they likely will remain calm when doing so. However, when they are accused unrighteously they may react aggressively or shocked and become angry or upset.
It is sometimes difficult to remain honest. People around you pressure you for example. Or they snap back on you because the truth hurts. So if I go through that pain to continue to be honest and then someone accuses me of something I didn't do I am suddenly very loud and aggressive. because not only do I not deserve that accusation, but I worked really hard for my status as an honest person. You want to lose me real quick? Accuse me of being dishonest. I will have no further use for you.
So pleased to see this... I'm emotionally driven, impulse , often lacking any filter im blunt with the truth. I'll just say it as I see it. This pisses many off, their response often results in me being called a liar, told im twisting things, dismissed as too unreliable. When I'm upset or pissed off it shows in my extrene experiences of emotion. We judge others by how we see ourselves so often project like this to divert blame when caught out in their lies
Hi. Of course you're right, Miss N.G., self control is a different virtue to honesty, and dishonesty makes them angry. Being angry at injustice is not a sin, because without righteous anger, the injustice would never be corrected. Cheers, P.R.
"The truth will set you free" is a widely used phrase, but I have always said the truth will set "me" free. I'm the only one who has to live with me, I'm the only one who has to tolerate me for my whole life, after that it's my family and friends.
This was an eye opener for me. I have been known to be “too honest” .. many times being made to feel less about myself! I have been known as “rude” to tell a friend the truth..it was usually to spare a friend a ton of misery.
If someone is doing something that is obviously wrong, it's not your business to tell them otherwise. Someone really rude is the one who tells you that you are ugly, stupid or worthless, even if it's true. Someone honest will give you a good advice, you accept it or not, it's your choice. But telling horrible stuff to people has nothing to do with honesty.
Absolutely. You can actually tell the complete truth without having to tell everything you know. Sometimes I would think that the truth meant telling every little bit of something but I learned that isn't necessary at all. Just the simple truth will set you free and you don't always have to be brutally honest except for rare occassions. I still try to tap dance around and sweeten the pot so it doesn't sting as bad but for some you just have to hit them right between the eyes with it or they don't comprehend. Life is strange. Stranger than I 've always thought. Being single after 72 years of being with parents then hubby x2 is quite a shock to the old system. My children and grandchildren keep me on my toes tho. Thank goodness for them!!! Beautiful awesome creatures of mine!!! I look at them and cannot believe the were once residing inside me for 9 months. Such beauty brains talent and kindness along with toughness are their makeup.!!! I look at them and melt with love and disbelief!!! And I think me and their father created these magnificent people???? How can that be possible???? But it's true. We did good!!! Best 3 things I've ever done in my life. Honestly!!!
Don't ever feel lesser of yourself for telling the truth. Remember the truth will set you free. When in doubt tell the truth...Lol. I like that one. Always tell the truth if possible. And if ppl don't like it oh well. They will get past it.
I resonate with every word of this! It's liberating being honest and raw. I'm not a nasty person but I do say it like it is and I absolutely cherish when I meet others the same. I only ask a question if I want the honest answer and often warn people not to ask me questions if they do not want the truth. I don't try to upset people and am never intentionally rude but I won't butter anyone up and I don't stroke ego.
Most of my family have become hateful and rude because of my honesty. When they have asked what was wrong, I told them and most of my family had the same lies to try and hide, but my honesty brought those lies out and everyone who refused to believe the harsh truth that I shared decided to all turn against me. Now they only talk small talk with me and I could appreciate that. I do miss the way that I used to be respected for being quiet about certain subjects that I was aware would hurt people's ego, but when I was asked, I spilled the beans. After they have been liars for so long, it was shattering when I dropped the truth on them. 37 years of hard work covering up the truth went down the drain. Hopefully they will never ask me what my problems are again. I would prefer not to share them anyway. Thanks for this video, it has given me a better perspective on why certain people have extra loud opinions. LOL! Much love and blessings to all that read this. If you're not going to be honest then don't share your lies with an honest person, because they will get blamed for your lie, especially by you.
Honesty must be combined with sincerity. Otherwise it can fall in any category like Rudeness, antisocial, uncultured, blunt, no fun person, Honesty with sincerity and integrity is the best quality if someone have.
Very true ! Too many people confuse honesty and sincerity. What's the point in telling others that they aren't good looking enough, not too bright, not too slim ? That's just plain rude !
Honestly, your comment is one of the best in the Comment section, even though you don’t have many thumbs up. Because there are those who use it to just be mean spirited. Honesty spoken with love, sincerity and good intentions is the key. Well said.
Honesty cost me a relationship...even when I told the truth, she could not handle it or believe it. I told her I thought she was jaded because of her past...and she thought I was doing the same thing . It is unfortunate...some times being honest does leave you alone, but I am glad I was able to share the honest truth when it happened. Great video here!
The beauty of honesty is it strengthens your connection and lights your path, which is probably why an honest person learns that walking alone makes you stronger & allows you to develop spiritually, consciously.
Honest people make the best friends. Authenticity is the mark of true intelligence. Wisdom knows the right timing. "Be kind, everyone you is fighting a great battle" (Plato).
@Seal of Light No one is honest all the time because like would be a kind of hell that way, but a good friend will tell you the truth when you need it the most. Truth is something we should strive for if we want spiritual growth.
@@elisha2907 Agreed, I speak in relativistic term. The world we live in has lost the concept of truth. Wisdom is knowing the right measure and timing to communicate your views. "Be kind, everyone is in a great battle" (Plato).
Narcissistic people are magnets for us honest people. And the raising of the voice I know all too well. Now, if I am not sure if my honesty is appreciated, I don't say a word. Silence Is Golden.
I absolutely enjoyed this video. The content within spoke my language. The language of truth, honesty, morality, integrity, kindness, sincerity, and accountability resonates in my heart like a delicate flower. Healthy, and Happy New Year to all. Shalom
Being an honest person is the best thing I have ever done . It makes life easy it shows people how much you respect them . There s nothing to hide from .Yes people who are honest are calm . This took me a longtime but it was so worth it .
There are many kind and unkind ways of telling the truth. I like to practice telling the truth in the kindest way I can. And, it works. I rarely seem to offend people.
Honest people..always had a strong personality,love to speaks they mind..and also speaks with they hands..an a good sin for humor..🤣they are also very caring people with an big heart.Because someone who care's for you,..will always tell you the truest about yourself.This is also a sign of a loving personality.Keep up the goodness honest followers. thank you so much Brainy !!That's why they will hate us#.😜
I am 100% honest, always. I sometimes become frustrated with my inability to lie though, because not only do people regularly get offended by the truth, and shocked at my lack of sugar coating the facts, but simply just being one, lonely honest soul, immersed in a world of dishonesty, sometimes can feel truly disheartening!
I wholeheartedly agree with this video!! The most important quality in my life and that I like to find in others' lives as well is definitely honesty. This gave me some much-needed inspiration for areas that I can most certainly still work on though. 👌
Whenever someone asks me a question and I’m unsure of WHY they’re asking me or what they want me to say, I literally ask them, “Do you want the truth, or do you to be happy?” It’s always amusing to see them pause and really think carefully about what they’re REALLY asking from me.
To be very honest, I cannot remember the last time someone asked me a question, except my best friend, of course ! Most people talk about themselves and hardly have any interest in anyone else.
@@misstoujoursplus Well here’s a question for you lol: Are you excited for anything that happened in 2021? What are you most looking forward to in 2022? Any self-care habits that’s serving you well? I agree that most people are self-centered. But that’s why I reserve my energy to engage with people who are worth it.
One lie leads to a million to cover up just that one! You also have to have a very good memory to remember who you have said what to!! So much easier to tell the truth In the first place xxxxx
I lost my comments regarding this matter. So hopefully I don't repeat myself. But this video is dead on. It's exactly what I say almost word for word on a daily basis! I love it!
Me being honest makes feel good about myself and its required in my mind, so when i come across a wrong doer or liar i automatically either walk away or im going to tell the truth about what i seen or heard. Gossip does not i tnterest me at all
I have found that saying "I'm not a good choice to answer that." Or " I would rather not talk about that." Are ways of not hurting people as often. You don't have to respond in ways that hurt people. There is always a better way.
That right there should be a clue as to whether or not you are a honest person. If you can't face reality, like or not like what you are seeing, then you are not honest. I find that people who are not honest (the vast majority of people) live in a fantasy World of their own making. Pretending to be happy. But, I wonder if reality ever hits them ? I think it must at times.
Never knew my being was a sign of my being an honest person! Everything described in this video describes me to a T.! Learn something new everyday. Great video.
As the adage goes, "Honesty is the best Policy." This is how I give advice to those who are facing court cases whether they are the plaintiff or defendant especially if they are called as Witness. Being truthful can be hurtful and as a Christian, it can be a dilemma as I can not sugarcoat what is the real truth.
And how's it going standing up to the Corrupt Church? the ones who talk about God but their fruits are of the Devil? If wr can't even have Honesty in the House of God, how will anyone else be persuaded it's the right way to be?
Thank you! That sounded like a description of me. I have learned I am an H.S.P, and that has heightened over the years. I am definately enlightened today!
DAY MADE!!!! I'm on top of the world!!!! Have a Beautiful Day, I will and it's rainy, dreary and severe weather the next 3 days. But I just slept in my new bed in my new home for the first time! My other burned to the ground. Sending you Light & Love!
Its important to note: An honest person would rather risk hurting your feelings by telling you the truth rather than letting you feel good about a lie because at some point, the truth will be known and it will hurt even more because not only are you upset about whatever the truth is, but now youre also upset because the truth could have saved you ebarassment or heartache etc.
Do you embody these traits? How has honesty or dishonesty impacted your life?
Sometimes honesty is the best policy... sometimes not!
Honesty has brought me lots of difficult situations and dislike, but honesty is more important than anything else. 👍💪
I am a very honest person, but have learned to be careful with my honesty. Different situations require different approaches with honesty. In some situations, it’s best not to say nothing at all but listen.
Be honest...but always be kind in your honesty.. It puts some sugar on the bitter truth.
🙏50,,%😇 Yes 🙏
Being honest give you a peace of mind and for me that’s priceless.
Peace of Mind! Money can’t buy it! You sleep like a day old baby and your detractors will be worried!
Call it bad luck but I don't think I've ever met an honest person
I suppose I'm categorised as one of those weirdos who prefers animals!!
absolutely..and when a person lies it can lead to more and more of them. I don't like ppl to lie to me about even a little thing. it breaks all trust.
Stay healthy by having peace of mind. People who feel the need to lie steer clear of them. I find them such bores .unfortunately you find them in all walks of life.
Amen I agree.
Honest people do what is right, rather than what is popular.
They do what is right for them only.
If you are honest in Nigeria parlance they call you “Mumu” he is not “Sharp” but we have been sharp and being an HardMan for long it didn’t get us anywhere! Honesty pays!
Or trying to be honest just because the bible says so.
That's a true statement. But most love popularity.
October 2020 i was seeing a very hardcore Christian guy that my close friend introduced me to, keep in mind i was very hesitant on giving a new guy a chance because i’ve been hurt in the past by confusing guys who weren’t ready to commit to me prior before to meeting this Christian religious immature boy. My friend at the time kept convincing me to take a chance on him and even promised me that he wasn’t going to hurt me but he did at the end. Long story short i took my friend’s word for it and i took a chance on her guy friend. Obviously me and this new guy i was seeing were pretty great in the beginning but a month or two later he told me he was waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him since he was hurt in the past and wants to find his wife. I was started to lose hope relationship wise. I was a new Christian and still am but i was kinda caught off guard with the guy waiting on specific signs and deadlines from God to see if i was the one or not for him. I was honest with him and told him how come he doesn’t make his own personal choice since God gives us that free choice. He still was persistent on doing the sign bullshit thing. I left it alone for awhile and had low expectations from that and tried to keep things as a friendship. Well months went by I was building resentment towards my guy and in January 2021, he basically said he had big good news to say which really wasn’t tbh, basically he said that he wanted to postpone dating for a year. At that point i clearly felt more discouraged and frusterated with him more and more as time went on. I even told him i was upset about it and again he was persistent on waiting on God (i shouldn’t have ignored the red flags). Just recently which was two weeks ago, i asked him if we could hangout one-on-one as FRIENDS to get to know eachother better since we’ve all hungout in groups, we should also hangout one-on-one to see where our friendship grows into. He didn’t think it was a good idea because he didn’t want our feelings to be more invested than we already are, i told him that we needed to separate our feelings versus a friendship to get to know eachother as people and as friends since we’ve only hungout in groups. He still didn’t think it was a good idea and says he will ask God when and where we could hangout. At that point i was fed up with him, and said if that’s how he feels then i guess do it. At that point i vented to our mutual friend and asked her how come she introduced me to this complicated guy because relationship and friendship wise it was all too much. I basically needed space from both of them but mostly him and my friend took my words to heart and didn’t wanna be friends anymore after that. That guy i was seeing ended up telling me i wasn’t the “one” for him and that God gave him 6 signs that prove i wasn’t the “one”. Keep in mind that this guy was so immature and caused me nothing but pain and stress within these 6 months for nothing. One of his signs from God was complete bullcrap, he then says there’s this chinese lady (keep in mind that he doesn’t know this lady personally) but someone from our church knows this lady, my guy asked God if this chinese lady is still single by december 2020, then that was the first sign that means I wasn’t the “one” for him. All these consistent stupid excuses one after another, i even asked him why did you even pursue me in the first place and clearly it showed you weren’t ready. I knew in my gut feeling that he was too much for me and he wasn’t my type to begin with either but i cared about him and took a real chance on someone. I bet you that nobody would’ve waited as much as i did for a guy to be this complicated and immature. I understand God is a big part of our lives but this guy took it to the extreme. Relationship wise, i kept my expectations low as he was showing his true colors, friendship wise i couldn’t believe that he felt the need to ask God when and where we could hangout when i sincerely want to at least be his friend. He did some other shit i didn’t like and it costed me and my friend’s friendship to end. Me and my friend never had issues or fought prior to her introducing me to this immature religious freak. I knew in my gut that was the main thing i was afraid of, taking a chance on her guy friend and what if things went wrong and could destroy my friendship which it did. But it comes to show how people show their true colors. I never went off on this religious dude i was seeing, he went off on me a few times, showed so many red flags, clearly wasn’t ready for anything serious, he would call me twice a day and text me everyday too, my friend always being put in the middle because she introduced me to him, my friend did shady shit too like whenever i would vent to her about stuff or about the guy... she would send him my personal messages that was only for her to read. I felt betrayed, depressed, angry and irritated all in one by those two. They would play the victim card also. I haven’t gone back to church since that situation a few weeks ago. I know im not perfect and i’ve made mistakes but it was no where close to them doing me dirty at the end especially mostly the guy i dated. Even after all of that i went to bible study a week ago to return my ex friend’s mask that she left in my car awhile back ago, i wanted to be a good person despite them doing me wrong. I think that will be my last bible study session for me to go to since now i don’t feel comfortable going back again. I know i should worship God despite what happened but in all honesty, i would rather preach alone than to go somewhere where i feel uncomfortable seeing my “ex” and my ex friend. That guy truly lost me because no girl probably would’ve wasted that much time and bullshit on someone that is too radical and always asking for God on every little thing to the extreme. Keep in mind, I’m a Christian, I believe in signs but when i received signs from God (which i have received signs from God personally) i never once asked God to send me a sign on a specific deadline or anything. You can’t force God for your own benefits. God gives us what He can give us, and again He also gives us a free choice in our lives. There’s a fine line between being reasonable and being too radical. I learned a valuable lesson from all this bullshit from guys and im still healing from this. Honestly i don’t know if i’ll ever want to date again since its alot harder for me to give a new person a chance if the opportunity ever presented itself again
A few weeks ago he apologized but i never responded and i’ve kept ignoring him and kept my distance from him at bible studies. I haven’t gone back to my church for a month now because of this situation that made it uncomfortable for me to want to go back to my church.
My ex friend that introduced me to him was rude to me and said some harsh things that didn’t even make sense even after the fact she did me dirty and i even tried making amends in the relationship and put her in her place after receiving that shady rude message of hers. Definitely a lesson learned
My “ex” was definitely immature and not committed after seeing the red flags and all the things he did to me. Even my friends asked if my ex friend was in love with him because she dropped me as a friend even when he did shit to me and ruined our friendship. I’ve been honest all the way in every situation
Truly honest people do the right thing even when nobody’s around to see it!
Integrity!
@@annapolismike I’ve got it!
Very true
That’s called integrity❤️
@@annapolismike traits you wish you had, honesty should be one of them, defensive remarks could be the truth, if you're not ready for it, you need to hear it, either way, trust issues could ruin relationships, if you don't have morals or integrity, if you care about your reputation, verbal abuse could be the result of unpopular people, if you're ashamed of your mistakes, seek the truth for the sake of justice 💥
"Hurt me with the truth rather than comfort me with your lies."
@Said Nasereddin Beautiful proverb, thank you!
True as .. I hear ya
You nailed it. Thank you.
Then you might have too live with the fact..that someone ended it all because instead of encouragement..you were were instrumental in them dying.
But be careful, as some people can take this as an excuse to being rude. Be truthful and honest with a genuine interest in how to go about it in a respectful manner. I think that's something people fail to do in their endeavors to be honest and truthful.
Being honest doesn't get you many friends, but it does get you the right friends.
Exactly
That's so true
👍🏻Rightly said!
Agreed
Or avoid you from a sudden back stab and many shape and form to become ruin because of betrayal.
There is a fine liine between brutal honesety and tact. You can be honest without decimating someone else' feelings. Part of friendship is consideration for the feelings of others.
Being kind sometimes requires a white lie.
Well we don't want to hurt others feelings so we try to make the brutal in brutally honest look not so brutal. And tact is definitely required. Sometimes saying nothing is good. Here's an example.... A friend has a new baby and the baby isn't as cute as most babies are so do we lie and tell them how beautiful their baby is or do we say something lime " he sure has a nice name'. And what a head of hair he has!!! Or when was he born etc. Avoiding doing or saying the inevitable. And sometimes we just say nothing..me I would sing to the kid so not to have to say anything.
Sometimes when you're being honest they hate you for it they hate you that you spoke up and let them know the truth what's really going on and for that reason they don't want to talk to you anymore but I'll never stop it's the only life I know is to be honest
@@dellamilek247 It is better than being a liar! I will always love how honest you are, but I hate you for telling me I`m an ugly, old junkie!
Tact is the ability to tell someone to "go to Hell" in such a way that they will look forward to the trip.
"I'd rather be hated for who I am then loved for who I am not."❤🌎
yes Kurt Cobain!!!!!!!!! good
@@melanie.l6282 exactly...
So right..✔️☑️🙏✌️👏🏾👩🏫
Andre Hide, peter nice👍
Damn spell check Peter, Andre Gide 👍
People today don't cherish honest people, they try to use them.
Or abuse them.
Well I was a badass before and a bit dodgy! But later on as my life progressed and having kids makes you a better person
@@davidoaikhena4380 While that may be true for you I hope, unfortunately it makes some people even worse because they have their own little puppets to manipulate right in their own home.
Bingo
Why you so right hon...check my profile
Being honest has caused me to lose everything dear to me family, friends, kids, partners, jobs, and also myself during some stretches. When you know someone is lying they have the tendency to turn it into blame on others and I remained firm. Now I see everything extremely clear and I am grateful that I did not lie to myself and I trust me only. Always tell the truth no matter what it cost you!
This is so true. Honest people don't need the validation of others for their good deeds. The good deed itself gives them joy and purpose.
@Said Nasereddin
Most the time yes the parents have been a model for them however some go against the grain when parents are wrongdoers. I've seen it myself because I observe human behavior out of curiosity.
I think it is great that adult children choose what is right and true.
ie. Knew a police officer in Toronto whose family was Italian mafia and he chose to go straight and narrow.
Blessings
You are so right......however someone with a corrupted mind and heart can't relate to that.
They think everyone is wicked like them.
Blessings
@@ronfirek5824 Yes, I agree!
That's true
So very true, we know who we are and what we are!
Not caring about what people think is so liberating
Very true! As a dear friend of mine used to say, and which I've often quoted, "What other people think about me is none of my business."
I would agree to that statement only if you are really doing the right thing although it might be unpopular. Otherwise, why wouldn't you want people to think well of you, and your having a good reputation in the community?
@@johnmcmullen456 It doesn't matter what others think of you. It matters what you think of yourself. I don't have the need to be a people pleaser,so others will think well of me. I know I'm a decent person,that's enough for me.
Mary Ann Garcia: If you are competing against others for a job promotion, definitely you need to be viewed positively by your superiors, and how you are perceived by your peers (via peer reviews) may play into it as well, especially if it's a supervisor position at stake. A person's respect is earned, the key to being a successful leader. Feeling you don't care what others think of you may result in many closed doors in the journey of life, and loneliness, as we are social beings. I see your point though in the context of sucking up to the "in crowd". If something doesn't feel right and natural to you, it probably isn't.
@@johnmcmullen456 Well I think most worldwide known successful leaders have this tendency to not mind what other people think about what their business is on about, so long as the leaders themself knew they are doing good for society and an specific industry including donating to charities out of kindness.
Yes, I embody these traits. Had to grow into it, coming from a family filled with secrets. Freedom to be authentic, is of key importance, to honest people.
I’ve lost friends by telling the truth to them that they didn’t like. I don’t miss them!
Does this make me look fat?
I know exactly that. Thank you.
Agreed.. Sadly sibilings acted the same way
You didn't lose them, they lost you.I credit brutal honesty for the quality of the few (is 3-5 a few ?)great friends I do have.But quality over quantity any day!
barry Carey they weren’t real friends
When you speak the truth you never have to remember anything.❤🌎
good one!!!!!!!!!!
One of my favorite quotes 💯
That's what my mom told me about lying!
I can’t lie. I have a *terrible* memory. Everybody knows this...
Yeap that's true. I live that about honesty. It really makes things so much less complicated. My husband is a pathological liar..his lies have lies. He is constantly contradicting himself.
When the truth hurts, there is a place for tactfulness, kindness, and gentle wording.
I do say, "do you really want me to answer that?" often that is enough to get people to say never mind, or not really.
“If you’re looking for an honest person, it’s probably because you’re honest” aww 🥰
Bättre vänta
God creates them... And then they gather
Yes and no. Dishonest and cunning people look for honest ones to prey on.
Will I Am, indeed so TRUE👍👍. Seems like we're watching our backs 24/7.
Or you value honesty. All have Alme lies and truth telling in Their behaviour
I have recently realized that most people will not own up to their mistakes. Narcissism will not allow the ego to admit it was wrong. Honest people are strong and value truth over popularity.
Yes, I'm noticing the same thing more and more
Absolutely!
I recently moved in with a roommate who is the most narcissistic mean lying person I've ever known. She can't grasp that not everyone lies and gossips like she does. She is draining the life out of me. 😭
@@angelaharris1112 move
@@Truthman1-o3u I only get a small check from SSDI, I have no car and I'm 125 miles from home. I'm hopeless...
Honesty is the highest point of a person's dignity, self respect and integrity.
Honesty will also make people hate you. Thats the fun part
So true
ok, but it's hard then if others lie and create a distortion of reality.. that one was good.
It creates an conflict perhaps. It's all physics probably..
Honest people raise their voice. Especially if they feel accused wrongly
Good point!😂🤣😅😁😄😆😃😀
honest people raise their voice because no one wants to listen to the truth. They have to drown out all the lies coming back at them in protest
If I get accused wrongly, I will fight tooth and nail to rectify the accusation. If I screw up, I'll readily admit it.
@@TheLadybughug snap
I never find I have to raise my voice if accused wrongly, because I would be allowing them to use my energy when it isn’t about me, it’s about them
Now I understand why my life seems a bit hard. Not many people like honesty as much as i do. Great video!
Ain't THAT the truth!
You can be honest. But some times. You have to say it in a different approach than just to say what you think being blunt. As It mostly depends on what the answer to what ever is. As most people don't give a answer if they think it will be used against them. Or the I don't know is a around about way to say I can't afford to tell you. Or when a yes or no is up for question. Then you may here. Can I get back with you later on that.
Very accurate. I feel that I embody all seven traits. Although I prefer to be "tactfully" honest rather than "brutally" honest. The truth comes out either way. No need to be a jerk about it, even though the truth may still not be received well.
To all the honest people who have been ostracized for expressing sincere veracity, "to thine own self be true", Your value does not decrease based on other's inability to see your worth.
Bingo!
True
Yes 🙌
Thank you.
That’s why I openly admit that I am glaringly unpopular.
I loved someone's comment that calmness is NOT a good trait to determine if someone's honest!
I know people who speak calmly to control a person.
Calm liars exist,, true that.🙃But in conjunction with the other characteristics, maybe. Honesty is an aspect in the sense that the extrovert maybe demonstrative rather than calm or the introvert anxious...so yes, this is the weakness link. But the energy around the words are calm. There is that "ring of truth," as my Granny said; it is calm and maybe it goes unnoticed. Good point.
or unsensed sometimes.
Yes really...
Very true.....because I raise my voice when I'm passionate about something it's just how I communicate. I've been like that since birth!!!
Its not.
Once I was told: "What I like of you is that you always say what you think, although it is against your own interest"....and this was the best compliment I ever got...like a diamond in my memories 🍀
Honest people usually tend to suffer more than the dishonest ones, who happen to escape punishment by lying, and save themselves from the immediate embarrassment and other troubles. Dishonest people may win the battle but eventually end up losing the war. However, its exactly the opposite with honest people, ie, they may lose the battle but will definitely win the war.
Yes
On the surface, yes...but it always crumble and crushes them at the end of the day🤓
So so true
I really hope you are right. Signed, hurt by dishonest people.
Most of all, do not marry someone who is a straight face liar👹,
And no Conscious about doing it..
People of Integrity are straight shooters👍
With Good Character....🛡️
If you sow lies,
You will Reap many many lies....so be very careful 😮
Honesty is still the best policy.If you are really honest,it is guaranteed that you will be the winner at the end.I am 60 plus and now I am enjoying the fruits,though I suffered all these years.
I’m 60+ as well. I have definitely suffered from being honest. Although my honesty about myself when asked has cost me more. The thing I like most is the peace of mind that comes with not having to remember lies. If others prefer to live and get by with lying, that’s their choice. I don’t like it, but just as they have to live with my honesty, I have to live with others dishonesty. It definitely leads to a more solitary experience, although, those who are my friends will always be my friends.
Calm and consistent speaking voice
- not applicable to people with anxiety issues, depression, confidence problems and some introverts
- the best liars are actually very confident in anything they say. Good salesmen, successful speakers, politicians.
They've got thick skin
- also not true with the same group of people.
This video validated me to the core. The most difficult aspect of my life has been to understand and accept that the majority of people lie. I’ve never understood it. I am compulsive in my honesty. I’ve learned to be tactful and learned when to walk away instead of truth-telling. I was born into a family with dark secrets. I began to ask questions , trying to make sense of the gaping holes in the “truths” others were pushing on me vs my perception of reality. I was fed a pack of lies and told I must accept the lies as truth and spew them or be quiet. I’ve was called a big mouth and a tattletale and my safety was verbally and physically threatened. I learned to be quiet because I could not bring myself to lie, even as a kid. I’ve been silenced over and over by caregivers, lovers and authority figures to the point of cognitive dissonance and threatening mental illness. The past 3 years have been mind blowing as I’ve come out of the denial of the reality that most people, especially those whom I thought loved me, are liars. The truly honest are the ones that are frequently labeled “crazy”, “hysterical “, “insane”.
SpaceCat.
Hello and I hope truly that you are fine
And smiling each day!
Yes it has been really very bad for you and I know the brutal pain of liars and
deceivers, they are not worthy of good honest people, their mouths talk from the gutter!!!
However, because sadly you were lied
to and other wrong was done and said to you, That does not mean Everyone is the same as those that treated you Wrongly. One of the reasons why people treated you wrongly as you explained is because THEY are Very
Insecure! They are miles BELOW you!
A Mos Powerful thing I want you to do for YOU IS..and you don’t have to stand in front of those YUK people, you can do this in privacy. Say through your mouth…I FORGIVE THEM. Yes I know it may sound crazy, BUT by doing that
YOU are NO LONGER connect to them!
YOU are FREE from THEIR insecure Pathetic controlling! Bullies are Just insecure idiots. Come on SMILE now!!!
Lastly and this is very Important I want
You to do a lot!…..,
LOVE YOURSELF…A LOT, and more!
Please this is just as important is to…
FORGIVE Yourself for anything whatever it is small or bigger!
Do these things THEN you are completely FREE, and NO MORE of those hurts. They are GONE!!!
Also Pray to love and guid you!
Gods Big Happy blessings just for You.
Stay safe peaceful and Smiling SpaceCat. 🙏🏻😀.
JB. East Surrey. UK.
And that’s why I only have, and have ever had, few real friends. That’s perfectly fine with me. Solitude is my groove more often then not. Cheers!
Minivan Tripping Not lonely when aompanied w noble/pure/true thoughts.Alone not = lonely.
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That's why my dogs are my best friends are always happy to see me and they don't ask me for any money and they don't lie to me
I enjoy my own company much more than having people around who prattle and think silence is something that needs to be filled, I'm learning to chase them off more politely.
Also, I usually tell people who want to get too close to me too quickly that I don't have any friends, just associates. .. good ones are the ones I enjoy associating with more often.
'Friends' help friends move, or call it helping. More often they don't even move out of your way when you're carrying a couch.
REAL friends help friends move bodies and only ask, 'Which end do you want?'.
I completely understand. True friends I don't really have that many, maybe three possibly four. But I do know a couple hundred associates traveling east and west coast. People should not be quick to say everyone is their friend because of a good time or a drink or two.
😎💜😎💜
Throughout the roller coaster of my personal and social life, honesty has rewarded me with the priceless gift of true friends. The rest have ultimately proven to be either traitorous fair weather friends or very familiar acquaintances...
The fastest way to tell if someone is honest is if they can talk as freely about their shortcomings as they can about their assets. Sincerity is actually a higher value than honesty.
I find it so easy to be honest if people don't like the truth they have a problem don't make it youres I find it very refreshing being honest after all it is what it is I speak the truth and if people don't like it too bad at least I can sleep at night and it's more important to me what I think of myself not what other people think of me but some people are too weak to Speak the truth
True!
Sincerity is actually a trait of an honest person 😉 par me for being candor but without honesty, sincerity can’t exist.
@@Campanita1313 Actually the correct usage is "candid" for your reply. There's no such thing as "being candor." 😉
@@godsnobody2915
I’m happy to see that you know what I mean 🙃
Honesty is such a lonely word. Many are so untrue. If you have found honest people , keep them. They're rare gems.
Yep 🎶🎵🎶
shit is so fucked. being a lying and gossipy person gets you all the attention and friends in the world. until you better yourself and watch all the birds flock away, a selective few might stick around in hopes of some crumbs and an extremely minor amount will enjoy you. might even follow when you get off the bench to head home. sad world man
You are so right. Some people will lie just to look good. It's a sad thing when it has to be that way.
I use to petty lie about my insecurities. But I've become raw honest now and I am proud of myself.
I'm proud of you also
I love honesty, honest people are true friends. Always connect with people that tell the truth.
VF That's the beauty of Honesty, it does the connecting for you, and you don't have to memorize Honesty. Joy
I am excruciatingly honest with no problem to admitting when I'm wrong. I liked the video which verified the truth.
Jeanie
I have all of these qualities and they have been important to me my whole life and I'm not ever going to compromise who I am to be more liked or popular. I answer to God and myself only!
Honest people sleep better.
🙌🏾🙌🏾💕🙌🏾🙌🏾👍🏾
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I know I do
Alot of my anxieties or paranoia as I'm labeled are from experiencing dishonest people hiding behind fake personas. Violated by ppl who sleep soundly while gaslighting their way through life. I'm an over thinker who seems to excel in this at night when all is quiet. I seek the truth as embarrassing as it may be for me.
I also have insomnia. 🤷♀️
Not really
A genuine honest person is honest even when no one is around ! He is always aware of God watching over!👍
A person who never doubts has no faith at all. Honest words. How do you like them?
@@superclue l don't get u ! Clarify.
@@superclueYou say that those are honest words as if you have no doubt about it, so I have to ask, do you have no doubt about it?
That's not genuine honesty though if your motivation is fearing a god watching over you. I'm atheist, I'm honest because I want to be honest, I want a good conscience and avoid guilty feelings, those suck. Its probably why I like to admit when I'm wrong, it helps process the guilt and the right thing to do.
@@MG-ot2yr Did a thought cross your mind about who made u such an honest person that u want to be what u r rather than somebody wants u to be so!
HONEST PEOPLE DO RAISE THEIR VOICE because its unfair and disrespectful to accuse them of a heinous act they never committed.Everyone sees this happen with children who are more honest than adults.
Came here to say this
Honest people are HATED, Parents hate them, siblings hate them and so on and on .......I dont care
Interesting!
Very true, I've experienced this
Very true ,especially now that I've learned the meaning of a new word ,narcissist ....new ball game now ,,it opened a new world right in front of my eyes,but honest I will remain.
You are right..but if you hornest then know one will take it away from you.. because God create you that way.and is a good thing trust .. because the truth hurts but it is good to help the next person to understand value of being hornest..
You care...and I do too. You are right though. Honest people face loneliness.
This is dead on. A person is only as good as their word. I'd rather have 1 honest friend in life, then a 100 who I have to analyze constantly to find the real truth.
Your word is the only thing that can not be taken away from you.
Honestly this is the most honest video I have ever seen!!!
everyone needs that honest friend. sometimes you gotta hear the hard truths. plus if i invite you somewhere and you can’t go, i appreciate someone who can be straight up
Then try to stop bad people from messing with good people. If not then it won't be enough good people to help other's be balanced in what's real facts. People who do good should not be published for it...
avoid introverts...
Real Life Psych: You are so right! This is an aspect of LOVE.
Me too
@@robertholloway6612 wrong.. Its extroverts who needs to be avoided
At one point my life was a complete lie. It was imperative that I look at myself own up to who I was and become honest. In doing so a tremendous load of guilt left my life. Today I can HONESTLY say I can live in my own skin without guilt or shame. Honestly is definitely worth it!🙃
That's me too.
Who was it that you were and how did you go about owning up to it?
A lovely video for a follower of Truth. Honest people almost never say 'Let me be honest with you, ...', coz they always are. Thanks for sharing.
That's just an expression, same as "To tell you the truth..." Wouldn't read anything into that.
"Integrity is the first chapter in the book of wisdom"
... and the last.
How true, it's a good indication when you know you're honest and, because people who don't like you, are jealous, and feel guilty about their deceitful behaviours. Just wish people as such, good luck, and be on way. Namaste 🙏
This is so on the money. I consider myself a highly honest person. I feel honesty is key in all relationships. Sadly, I'm avoiding those who don't value my honesty. I have to go with my gut. I can't skirt around issues; it's spiritually painful. If I can't talk to people and say what is on my mind without them flipping out or saying dramatic things like, "Why are you doing this to me?" when I'm only responding to something negative that was said and done to me, I'd rather not be friends. Honesty is beautiful and valuable. If you can't be honest with friends, who can you be honest with? Life isn't about walking on eggshells or silencing yourself to appease other people.
God bless everybody reading this
Bless you more ❤️
God bless you too
@@triciakevini9859 can we follow each other on ig?
Likewise, thanks.
@@namboozeruth5125 my Instagram is @theboistunner
It's okay to be honest as long as you're not being rude. Make your statement into something that you can't hurt others feelings just like you tell the truth in a good way.
That's all good until, after you've been gently and kindly helping someone to the truth, by using questions so you're not just telling them what to think, and out of nowhere they give you the silent treatment. When you finally get them talking, it's realized they're not REALLY mad at you for stating a KNOWN truth, but at themselves for wasting their life. No, when it gets to the point where all the good I've done gets trashed, I get very... Passionate about it. No one can twist the truth with me. No one can lie to me. I am painfully careful of my words. And if I do misspeak, I apologize as soon as possible afterwards. Without being asked. Generally, people only want to hear validations... Not truth.
AC Rush ...could I add that most people just want someone to listen to them. No need to answer if a question isn’t asked. Let them talk and they will eventually come around full circle to the answer they are seeking.
I don't consider myself an honest person but people around me always say I'm so honest. I can't lie because they say they can immediately distinguish through my expressions and speech. They even told me before when I say something that might sound impossible to happen and I look sincere when saying it, they would think whether its true or I just honestly misinterpreted it. I was taken aback once there was a co worker of mine who took an unannounced day off only to join his family (parents and siblings) to have fun. Next day everyone told him I was the one approached by our superior to ask about why his absent, he said out loud "oh my god why him his so honest", everyone laughed, I just told him I said he is out due to a personal family business. The good thing about always being honest is learning to say or do things that is still honest but would not hurt/offend other people.
The only people who are mad at you for speaking the truth are those people who are living a lie.
Keep speaking the truth.
I don't blurt out stuff to people like I used to . Even if it was true. I didnt see any harm if it if I were just being honest. But I read a quote that helped me understand that certain things are better left unsaid.
An intelligent person knows what to say. A wise person knows whether to say it or not.
Yes
Yh, If they didn't ask then there's no need to mention the unnecessary... but if they ask or keep asking then i'll tell them what needs to be said.
You wouldn't believe how many times I've been reported by co- workers for honesty because I didn't have a filter. I've trained myself & now they ask my opinion & I respond no comment.
Yes thats me! I'm a genuine human, never sugar coat anything, say it like it is.
I remember a colleague like you : she was "honest" in a very mean way : making horrible sarcasm about others clothes, habits, figure, speach. Well, now, she has lost everything : her job, her money, her man because to her, everybody was ugly, fat, stupid and needed to know it. It's sad...
Honesty has shown me who is real and who isn’t. I have rooted out those who have no integrity. I have no problem apologizing either. Honesty has enriched my life. Although it has made my circle very small.
I use to hate being honest because in my work life, I felt like people saw me as weak, but I'm glad I stayed that way because I'm in alignment with where I wanted to be and away from dishonest people completely now :)
Your stronger than them. Selfishness and people pleasing cause people to lie and that is weak. Blessings ☀️
@@sharonfelicia7045 yet those same co workers that suckered up to the boss by manipulating and lying to him are farther in their career as op. And op will die alone no one will look back and say he is a good guy for not playing the game and closing doors behind him(opportunities). Don't lie obviously but honesty is not a virtue. It doesn't make you good or better. Especially when you're living under so called dis honest folks.
When an honest person is asked to give an explanation pertaining to themselves they likely will remain calm when doing so. However, when they are accused unrighteously they may react aggressively or shocked and become angry or upset.
I agree with you Miss Nancy Graves.
The one thing that boils my blood is being accused of Lying!!!
It is sometimes difficult to remain honest. People around you pressure you for example. Or they snap back on you because the truth hurts. So if I go through that pain to continue to be honest and then someone accuses me of something I didn't do I am suddenly very loud and aggressive. because not only do I not deserve that accusation, but I worked really hard for my status as an honest person. You want to lose me real quick? Accuse me of being dishonest. I will have no further use for you.
So pleased to see this... I'm emotionally driven, impulse , often lacking any filter im blunt with the truth. I'll just say it as I see it.
This pisses many off, their response often results in me being called a liar, told im twisting things, dismissed as too unreliable. When I'm upset or pissed off it shows in my extrene experiences of emotion.
We judge others by how we see ourselves so often project like this to divert blame when caught out in their lies
Hi. Of course you're right, Miss N.G., self control is a different virtue to honesty, and dishonesty makes them angry. Being angry at injustice is not a sin, because without righteous anger, the injustice would never be corrected. Cheers, P.R.
"The truth will set you free" is a widely used phrase, but I have always said the truth will set "me" free. I'm the only one who has to live with me, I'm the only one who has to tolerate me for my whole life, after that it's my family and friends.
This was an eye opener for me. I have been known to be “too honest” .. many times being made to feel less about myself! I have been known as “rude” to tell a friend the truth..it was usually to spare a friend a ton of misery.
If someone is doing something that is obviously wrong, it's not your business to tell them otherwise. Someone really rude is the one who tells you that you are ugly, stupid or worthless, even if it's true. Someone honest will give you a good advice, you accept it or not, it's your choice. But telling horrible stuff to people has nothing to do with honesty.
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Absolutely. You can actually tell the complete truth without having to tell everything you know. Sometimes I would think that the truth meant telling every little bit of something but I learned that isn't necessary at all. Just the simple truth will set you free and you don't always have to be brutally honest except for rare occassions. I still try to tap dance around and sweeten the pot so it doesn't sting as bad but for some you just have to hit them right between the eyes with it or they don't comprehend. Life is strange. Stranger than I 've always thought. Being single after 72 years of being with parents then hubby x2 is quite a shock to the old system. My children and grandchildren keep me on my toes tho. Thank goodness for them!!! Beautiful awesome creatures of mine!!! I look at them and cannot believe the were once residing inside me for 9 months. Such beauty brains talent and kindness along with toughness are their makeup.!!! I look at them and melt with love and disbelief!!! And I think me and their father created these magnificent people???? How can that be possible???? But it's true. We did good!!! Best 3 things I've ever done in my life. Honestly!!!
Don't ever feel lesser of yourself for telling the truth. Remember the truth will set you free. When in doubt tell the truth...Lol. I like that one. Always tell the truth if possible. And if ppl don't like it oh well. They will get past it.
The key is to be tactful.
I resonate with every word of this! It's liberating being honest and raw. I'm not a nasty person but I do say it like it is and I absolutely cherish when I meet others the same. I only ask a question if I want the honest answer and often warn people not to ask me questions if they do not want the truth. I don't try to upset people and am never intentionally rude but I won't butter anyone up and I don't stroke ego.
If you’re honest, you have no questions 🤔 it is only the ego that has questions and the ego of course, is anything but honest
Most of my family have become hateful and rude because of my honesty. When they have asked what was wrong, I told them and most of my family had the same lies to try and hide, but my honesty brought those lies out and everyone who refused to believe the harsh truth that I shared decided to all turn against me. Now they only talk small talk with me and I could appreciate that. I do miss the way that I used to be respected for being quiet about certain subjects that I was aware would hurt people's ego, but when I was asked, I spilled the beans. After they have been liars for so long, it was shattering when I dropped the truth on them. 37 years of hard work covering up the truth went down the drain. Hopefully they will never ask me what my problems are again. I would prefer not to share them anyway. Thanks for this video, it has given me a better perspective on why certain people have extra loud opinions. LOL! Much love and blessings to all that read this. If you're not going to be honest then don't share your lies with an honest person, because they will get blamed for your lie, especially by you.
Honesty must be combined with sincerity.
Otherwise it can fall in any category like Rudeness, antisocial, uncultured, blunt, no fun person,
Honesty with sincerity and integrity is the best quality if someone have.
Very true ! Too many people confuse honesty and sincerity. What's the point in telling others that they aren't good looking enough, not too bright, not too slim ? That's just plain rude !
Honestly, your comment is one of the best in the Comment section, even though you don’t have many thumbs up. Because there are those who use it to just be mean spirited. Honesty spoken with love, sincerity and good intentions is the key. Well said.
Honesty cost me a relationship...even when I told the truth, she could not handle it or believe it. I told her I thought she was jaded because of her past...and she thought I was doing the same thing . It is unfortunate...some times being honest does leave you alone, but I am glad I was able to share the honest truth when it happened. Great video here!
The beauty of honesty is it strengthens your connection and lights your path, which is probably why an honest person learns that walking alone makes you stronger & allows you to develop spiritually, consciously.
Honest people make the best friends. Authenticity is the mark of true intelligence. Wisdom knows the right timing. "Be kind, everyone you is fighting a great battle" (Plato).
Yes, indeed! Honest people experience lasting friendships.😀
@@ancyjaeljames7134 It takes courage to be truthful and wisdom to know the right timing.
@Seal of Light No one is honest all the time because like would be a kind of hell that way, but a good friend will tell you the truth when you need it the most. Truth is something we should strive for if we want spiritual growth.
Not true. U can loose people due to honesty.
@@elisha2907 Agreed, I speak in relativistic term. The world we live in has lost the concept of truth. Wisdom is knowing the right measure and timing to communicate your views. "Be kind, everyone is in a great battle" (Plato).
There is nothing better than the truth no matter how hard it is
I whole heartedly agree with a lot of these. Especially the dont need to be liked part. We'd rather be liked for who we are rather than who we're not.
Narcissistic people are magnets for us honest people. And the raising of the voice I know all too well. Now, if I am not sure if my honesty is appreciated, I don't say a word. Silence Is Golden.
I absolutely enjoyed this video. The content within spoke my language. The language of truth, honesty, morality, integrity, kindness, sincerity, and accountability resonates in my heart like a delicate flower. Healthy, and Happy New Year to all. Shalom
Most people get mad at the truth. I respect the one who speaks it
Being an honest person is the best thing I have ever done . It makes life easy it shows people how much you respect them . There s nothing to hide from .Yes people who are honest are calm . This took me a longtime but it was so worth it .
what is the worst thing you have ever done?
Honesty must always be accompanied with love. Always say the truth in love.
There are many kind and unkind ways of telling the truth. I like to practice telling the truth in the kindest way I can. And, it works. I rarely seem to offend people.
Also known as “tact”. Honest people must learn to be tactful in order to survive.
Honest people..always had a strong personality,love to speaks they mind..and also speaks with they hands..an a good sin for humor..🤣they are also very caring people with an big heart.Because someone who care's for you,..will always tell you the truest about yourself.This is also a sign of a loving personality.Keep up the goodness honest followers. thank you so much Brainy !!That's why they will hate us#.😜
I am 100% honest, always. I sometimes become frustrated with my inability to lie though, because not only do people regularly get offended by the truth, and shocked at my lack of sugar coating the facts, but simply just being one, lonely honest soul, immersed in a world of dishonesty, sometimes can feel truly disheartening!
Oh yes!
Your inability to lie is a gift. Embrace it. Blessings ☀️
we walk alone in this world. I have a hard time relating to most people. If you have even one real friend you are very lucky
Loneliness Is a virtue, if you can keep your thoughts and intent positively driven.
I wholeheartedly agree with this video!! The most important quality in my life and that I like to find in others' lives as well is definitely honesty. This gave me some much-needed inspiration for areas that I can most certainly still work on though. 👌
Have you become more honest this past year?
I've often raised my voice when I wasn't lying. And I've told lies in the calm, consistent speaking voice that this video associates with honesty.
Whenever someone asks me a question and I’m unsure of WHY they’re asking me or what they want me to say, I literally ask them, “Do you want the truth, or do you to be happy?”
It’s always amusing to see them pause and really think carefully about what they’re REALLY asking from me.
To be very honest, I cannot remember the last time someone asked me a question, except my best friend, of course ! Most people talk about themselves and hardly have any interest in anyone else.
🤣🤣😂Right!
Lol, yes, I've done that! 😂
@@misstoujoursplus Well here’s a question for you lol: Are you excited for anything that happened in 2021? What are you most looking forward to in 2022? Any self-care habits that’s serving you well?
I agree that most people are self-centered. But that’s why I reserve my energy to engage with people who are worth it.
Being honest is great but it is how you deliver what you say. If someone is depressed you could push someone over the edge. Just be aware
Right. Being honest doesn't give someone the right to be a jerk and hurt people. One can temper their words without lying.
Whatever you said it's like you talking about me, this is exactly who I am and I cannot change forever.
Integrity and honor has made living a godly lifestyle much easier in the hard places.
One lie leads to a million to cover up just that one! You also have to have a very good memory to remember who you have said what to!! So much easier to tell the truth In the first place xxxxx
I lost my comments regarding this matter. So hopefully I don't repeat myself. But this video is dead on. It's exactly what I say almost word for word on a daily basis! I love it!
Me being honest makes feel good about myself and its required in my mind, so when i come across a wrong doer or liar i automatically either walk away or im going to tell the truth about what i seen or heard. Gossip does not i tnterest me at all
You CAN tell the absolute truth AND be tactful and polite!!!
Often, I find it not worth my time to be polite.
Being honest is very important in the first place for the own person, and then for other persons.
I have found that saying "I'm not a good choice to answer that." Or " I would rather not talk about that." Are ways of not hurting people as often. You don't have to respond in ways that hurt people. There is always a better way.
The first person To be honest with is yourself.
Duh🤣👍
That right there should be a clue as to whether or not you are a honest person. If you can't face reality, like or not like what you are seeing, then you are not honest. I find that people who are not honest (the vast majority of people) live in a fantasy World of their own making. Pretending to be happy. But, I wonder if reality ever hits them ? I think it must at times.
@@djg5950 everyone lives in the moment, especially in their heads and so yeah, we all have our own realities 🤷♀️every single individual 👍
That’s very true!
That why I talk to God about everything so at least I know my concours is clear and my complains are in front of him..
Being honest is the way to be it gives you happiness and calm if you know someone or anyone who not they get very loud and out control thank you
Honest people have better health.
"Tell the truth, or at very least, don't lie!"
- Professor Jordan B. Peterson
I love Jordan Peterson he's doing great things for so many people in the world today!
@@ryanmaines6290 absolutely!
"...and that's THAT!" 😄 Have you heard AJ Comedy and Cody expressions of our well loved JBP? Hillarious! 👍
Never knew my being was a sign of my being an honest person! Everything described in this video describes me to a T.! Learn something new everyday.
Great video.
8...Honest ppl ending up ve lonely, unfortunately. But extremely happy and complete with them selfs. !
The best way I have found to avoid telling a lie, is not doing what would put me in a position I might feel I have to.
Amen!!!
I can't be the only one who had chills during this..... Overthinking a lot but making sure I take calculated steps
Honesty is a virtue that has become rare nowadays. Materialism is what most people adhere to.
As the adage goes, "Honesty is the best Policy." This is how I give advice to those who are facing court cases whether they are the plaintiff or defendant especially if they are called as Witness. Being truthful can be hurtful and as a Christian, it can be a dilemma as I can not sugarcoat what is the real truth.
And how's it going standing up to the Corrupt Church? the ones who talk about God but their fruits are of the Devil? If wr can't even have Honesty in the House of God, how will anyone else be persuaded it's the right way to be?
Interesting. I've yet to find a "Christian" that doesn't lie through their teeth.
I'm the honest person. No one is worth lying to. To lie is to fear the other's reaction. I fear no one.
Thank you!
That sounded like a description of me. I have learned I am an H.S.P, and that has heightened over the years. I am definately enlightened today!
DAY MADE!!!!
I'm on top of the world!!!!
Have a Beautiful Day, I will and it's rainy, dreary and severe weather the next 3 days. But I just slept in my new bed in my new home for the first time! My other burned to the ground.
Sending you Light & Love!
Its important to note:
An honest person would rather risk hurting your feelings by telling you the truth rather than letting you feel good about a lie because at some point, the truth will be known and it will hurt even more because not only are you upset about whatever the truth is, but now youre also upset because the truth could have saved you ebarassment or heartache etc.
I embody all of the qualities with the exception of occasionally raising my voice in order to argue a point of truth with those I love.