Rosemary, you are not alone! There are still many honest people out there, so you can reach out to us, anytime! I get what you are saying. My only thought is that Honesty DOES have a place in this age of lies and manipulation, as you know. Without honesty, integrity, love, respect, and many other great values, the world will be a very bad place where even the dishonest people will not want to live here, right ! Also Rose, the dishonest people don't deserve our anger. Only pity them, as they don't know things. Try not to let dishonest people make YOU feel bad, even though I admit, it's hard to do sometimes. There is good in ALL people. Sometimes it's just harder to find in some.
jkreps.., yes, honesty tends to paint one as the bad guy in today's world. Sometimes being one of a few honest people in a setting makes you feel alone too.
You both are not lying I have been a ghost for a while cause I guess I surrounded myself with narcissist just not sure how it went on for so long it truly is lonely but I'm not gonna turn in to them too fit in I'd rather be alone then fit in
its better to have a good few friends, than many false friends. I know that's not always an easy thing to understand, but stay true to yourself, and people will eventually respect you.
@@michaelbest7872 I have always been honest, sometimes I can be brutally honest, I'm just not use too it casting so many out of my life, I've always been a loner but it seem a year ago even the ones I've been with since a kid turned narcissist it's a new learning curve for me lol but I won't change being a honest person for it shows any honest person who's true and who is fake. Plus those who know me know I can be a very outspoken and angry with passion and they will use it against me so I'm learning to not allow my angry side show cause it always tends to make me the bad guy cause I can be very mean.
Thanks Rii-Chan for offering this quote. I agree with it. Sometimes, in the right circumstance, telling the truth is the right thing, even though it may be difficult.
hahaha to be honest you don't really have to up that is not your quote *EVERYBODY KNOWS THAT PHRASE ALREADY* I appreciate people that appreciates my honesty NOT SOME MURDERER OR RAPIST I am shocked *YEARS AGO WHEN I STILL REALLY DON'T HARM OTHERS YET AND SO POSITIVE WITHOUT SPELL PROTECTIONS YET* that AFTER BEING RESPECTED BY A LOT FOR MY WORDS OF INSPIRATIONS SUDDENLY GOT HATED for NO REASON I DID NOT SEEN FIRST WHATS WRONG WITH WHAT I SAID? THEY PICKED UP THE POSITIVE ONES THAT ARE MADE TO UPLIFT THEM, but instead I got my name tagged and saying FCKYOUS and all that stuff and I am like "WHAT DID I DO? IS THAT ATTACK MEANT FOR ME OR THEY GOT THE WRONG PERSON?"
I only fit in with people who were patient enough to get to know me and has equal views on honesty with me, I have few friends and I'm okay with that, I will takecare of them my whole life, keep them protected as a return for accepting me and making me feel welcome, and most of all THEY'RE NOT LOOKING FOR LIES AND REGRET LATER.
I love honest people and try to be that way always. People can’t always take the truth and they often turn against you, but without honesty there can be no trust and it’s impossible to trust liars.
being honest makes your life easier.. and feel good with everything you do.. just dont lie even it hurts. they will definitely know the truth so just be honest..
I wish we could we live in a world where honesty is valued and respected, however in my experience when people don’t like your honesty, however carefully you try to say it, they can twist the truth and use it against you to portray you as a monster to others. I hate being fake, but am trying to learn that always being honest is not always the best policy, no matter your pure intentions.
That's the thing though, just because other people make it hard for you doesn't mean that you should disrupt your hard earned integrity. I don't want to be fake so I am not fake. Easy as pie. I don't have a TON of friends but the ones I do have are all honest as well and they value and respect me as I do them and we both have that understanding. My boyfriend is my soulmate and he too shares these qualities. I take comfort in the people that are like me and show me that I am not only accepted but also celebrated for just being who I am. These are the people I need to listen to. Some people think it is lonely to not be surrounded by lots of friends but honestly it depends on how you look at it. I would rather have a few trusted cherished friendships then a lot of toxic friendships. It should also be understood that we need to get rid of the grass is greener mentality out of our minds. That only leads to depression and disappointment. Life is not a numbers and stuff game. Life is in my opinion truly about the intangible. These intangibles are what give us piece of mind, show us where our priorities are, and can also provide a great deal of inner strength that we can use to deal with the every day obstacles. Also keep in mind that there will always be haters no matter what you do or who you are. It is a fact of life. You can either allow those haters to break you down or you can see it for what it is and focus on your personal growth and well being.
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Honestly, a lot of people confuse "honesty" with "opinion". Most of these examples involve one person judging another. If you think you don't have friends because you're too honest, you're probably wrong.
John MDM: I've run into my share of, "People can't handle me because I'm too real" type people. I just wanted to throw this out there. Honesty isn't always innocent, & it isn't always brutal, blunt, mean, cutting. The way my brain is wired makes constant little lies nearly impossible - I can't keep it all straight. I've had to learn to control it, & how to be honest in the gentlest ways I can. Actions & motives are the keys - are they trying to be discrete & gentle, making it clear that this is just their opinion, & honestly trying to help? Or are they saying whatever they want, whenever they want, & do they seem to enjoy the chaos & pain they cause - do they use "truth" as a weapon? Language misuse is something I'm seeing more & more - there's a big difference between: "I'm going to be honest now" & "I'm going to tell you my opinion now".
@@versuzzero5335 Couldn't what one person thinks honestly just be what they believe at that given time? Nothing wrong with opinions as long as you are willing to be receptive to new information. I also think people have a hard time with listening to information because they personalize it. That is not on the person stating an opinion. Like for instance some one asks you for your opinion you give it to them and they don't like it. You don't know how they are going to react before you tell them you just tell them because you are stating your honest opinion. Like people don't hold it against someone if they choose a peanut butter jelly sandwich over a cheese sandwich so why should they hold other opinions that differ from yours as off putting and instead evaluate if there is some grain of truth to what is being said or see what is false and point that out as their honest opinion. Also if people have differing opinions it really is ok. Just like we all have assholes and each one is different so are opinions. I honestly think that not taking things as personal and not owning how people see you as soul crushing we as a society can mature more and actually be more receptive to information that can help us in the long run.
An honest person doesn’t lie, cheat or scheme/manipulate to benefit oneself. It’s doing the right thing with pure heart with in friendships, marriage relationships, work environments & spiritual regime. It has a lot to do with morals. “Honesty is the best policy.”
Loved this video....so right on!! However it does mean I walk through life alone....a lot....just as a previous person posted. But I would rather be authentic than to live a lie. Thanks for the video.
@@vintagelove2373 -- Stark, serves as an indication of his resistance to moral compromise. Adding to my previous comment about Honor. Yes, we must strive to be Honorable. However, should we find ourselves in a relationship with a person that is not honorable we must go to their level to survive the encounter. This is self defense.
@@Rooster1508 i agree, when dealing with those who aren't honorable, you need to play smart not honorably. it's easier said than done i guess, sometimes the conscious is louder than logic in those who try to do good
I got trust issues, bc people got lying issues. 😝 Quote from Jackie Price I feel a lot of people these days dosen't want to be honest with themselves. How can you be honest with others if you are not honest with yourself? Then you are living a lie. Do you want to be authentic? Start to be honest with yourself 😁👍🏻
When my son was little, I learned that knowing the truth was more important than punishing him for lying. What I taught him was, "If you tell me the truth now, you won't be punished; if you wait for me to find out on my own that you lied, you'll be punished for whatever you did wrong AND for lying.". Most of the time what was going on was that he had no idea what to do about a situation, & what he needed was someone to listen to & help him. Obviously this didn't work perfectly all the time, but overall it was the right thing for us.
@@artemisjr1237 : ☮💚😊 Thanks. Honestly, I've been thinking of writing a book about child rearing - I did so many things that were completely different than the traditional American upbringing (cuz heaven knows, we need a change). My son is 30 now, and thanks me for being such a weird mom.... 😜
honesty is the reason why I don't have any friends...... but on the other hand, they are not real friends, if they leave only because you've been honest with them.......
People tell me I'm too honest for my own good, and in the past that has been true. I'd still rather be honest. I'm known for being super blunt, so it took me a while to learn some tact. Also took me a while to learn that I don't have to share everything and I don't have to lie. I can say that I'm not comfortable talking about something, or just not share the information unless its necessary.
That is my statement: I do not feel comfortable discussing (specifically if they do not have a need to know) that matter with you. Simply. And I ask people when they are discussing something with me. Am I a sound board or do you want my advice or opinion? Simple💁🏽💯
Biggest advantage of being honest with your self is you always sense when the other person is faking something. You may not call them out, but you KNOW exactly what drama is being enacted around you. In India we say Dharmo rakshathi rakshithaha. Means your principles protect you.
Brainy Dose, Thank you for sharing this video. I love the positive content. Good medicine for the soul. I so agree; it is so much easier to be honest sprinkled with a dose of wisdom than it is to dishonest. In my case, my insides would feel out-of-sorts when I've lied... usually because I didn't want to offend a fragile ego. Wisdom is key. Over time, I've learned to pick and choose the right time to dispense honesty to certain folks. As you've stated, not every ego can handle honesty, and more importantly they will not receive it if it's not given at the right time. The name of the game for me is "When I know better, I do better". Thank you for listening. Shalom
Honesty is often said, to be the "best" policy. It is the "only" policy. Dishonesty, even the smallest lie, or deception can destroy people's lives and at the same time, the persons life who made the very bad decision to lie, or to not be forthcoming.
It doesn't matter, you can say it in the most refined polite etc way, people HATE being wrong, that's the problem with humans and will always be until they die.
I love people. I believe people are basically good. I also believe many people are wounded from the act of dishonesty. The only way to heal is to forgive. Forgive for you, so that you can heal and move forward in peace with your precious life. I love you... God Bless You!
Some times the truth in situations can be absolutely hilarious. I love it. There's so many benefits to being truthful. I love the truth. People that lie is only truly hurting themselves. if the situation is painful. truth will break you out of that cycle. That's causing you the pain.
Totally on point about taking honesty too far. We need to consider the influence or consequences our honesty might have. Considering what's in the best interest of others is vital. Great list
yes, we need to consider what is in the best interest of others, but the risk with that is that we are going to think for others, and take their right to truth away. But, my guess is that you already have found the balance.
The most important point about honesty is that it forms bonding trusting relationships which are important in general for relationships but most important for very close relationships such as between spouses and very close friends.
If you truly love others always have honesty even if it hurts others. Honesty isn't always liked and can generate hate against you. If you aren't the 1# hated person for honesty then you aren't honest.
@@darkapothecary4116 I also hate myself just because I can't/don't want to tell a lie. And whenever I do tell a lie which is rare, it becomes true. i.e, I was just pulling a prank on my friend, I lied that I saw that his name wasn't on the passers list, then when the time I looked for his name, it really wasn't. ... I never lie seriously, just when I'm joking which is rarely because my humour is by telling truths in a playful way. And telling a joke by stating the hard cold truth is clearly not funny for most people, yet I still find it funny.
@@versuzzero5335 don't let it be true stop it. Prank is one thing but lieing hurts others. It gets others hurt and certainly don't infict it onto others around you.
@@darkapothecary4116 One reason why I don't like lying is because some of my lies becomes true that it's scary. But if my lie becomes true, is that the truth now or was it still a lie? Sometimes it happens like this, a person lied to me without me knowing and I lied about it to another person and what I said was actually the truth. Out of all the things I could have said, I said the truth without me knowing and the person who lied to me was also confused how I could have known the truth. It's actually a part of my luck. I'm somehow the luckiest person I know, that it made me think that if something doesn't go my way now, it's because there's something better waiting for me. And that's how I can stay positive in the darkest moments.
I am honest and hold a high standard for honesty as I am accountable to God for every word, action and deed while I am a sojourner here. I watch every thought and try to examine a situation beforehand if possible.
Exactly but society is a screwed up thing in general because of the lack of honesty and actual care of others as well as nature. Personally if I seriously thought it possible I know one area I'd like to take a shot at because I see the mistreatment of others and nature supported in higher chairs, nothing overly personal against him but I don't think his values is within the greater good of others. But their isn't a chance in hell for that but time. Work on other things for now.
It’s true honesty gives you freedom and less drama in your life and when things do go wrong, eventually people begin to realise your truth know matter how much rubbish gets around. I’m a strong believer in karma 😊
@@stevetreloar6602 I actually don't insult anyone with honesty, I'm just brutally honest at times without even meaning too. I only tell toxic people that the truth hurts because usually they're the ones who try to argue when you're being honest with them.
My opinion common sense and honesty are the best choices in life. Yes honesty hurts in the end it builds character and helps you focus just my opinion.
Grateful for the point here about "timing". I was one who waits for the right time but felt I was being dishonest by doing that. Clearing the air at any point is wonderful though risky. Being tactful is essential whenever. One more thing honesty does. That is it helps you keep your activities in line because you are open about them inevidibly.
Honesty is a double edged sword, and I have learned that the hard way. People will either love you or hate you for telling the truth. One thing I have noticed is that acceptance of the truth depends on one’s maturity. Kids and kids-alike will always see it as a form of attack while mature and open-minded people will see it as a gift.
An honest person is different from a person who can't tell lies. And I'm a person that can't lie, or just doesn't want to lie. It's weird but I lie by not telling the full truth, they will assume something and I just kept quiet. But some would just accuse me that I lied to them instead of remembering that they assumed it.
You can be honest with people, while still being kind. Sometimes the truth hurts, but the person delivering the truth, can still take care to be as kind as possible about it. Sometimes people use the fact that they’re honest as an excuse to hurt peoples feelings. You don’t have to be brutality honest!
Hell yeah! Self-honesty is the bomb. If you're really that type of person, do you really wish to abide delusions? Certainly not. For those of us that strongly believe in honesty, would we ever say that being honest with ourselves is not the basis of it all?
Whenever somebody says "trust me, I'm an honest person" they just lied so I wont trust them. Honest people don't have to convince you that they're honest. You will know without the sales pitch.
The most honesty person is a few in today's world. Why???? The environment of the social media and faster of technology have changed on human behaviors.... This is most sad feeling around a lot of a good peoples. Sometime you gave the honesty suggestion to someone, but you got the worse results in reward. Hope that the video will helping peoples to learn and going back to honesty behavioral to make the better society for brain development in adolescent. Sincerely thank you for the video!
A Shout Out to all who have commented about being alone as a result of being honest. You've all helped me hang on to my sanity. I've only recently experienced the trutch in this and it led to me questioning myself. But as others have commented, I'm not going to be dishonest just to fit in.
Noticed statement about NARCISSISTS which I wasn't aware of until recently. Narcissists consider their feelings as fact despite what evidence is shown to the contrary. Think people should know this because that is half the battle. Blessings
Excellent video. Always honest people also realise very quickly that there’s a price to be paid for their honesty at all times. Not least in the way they are also some of the most misunderstood people in the world. I agree with and can relate to everything said in this video. The joys and perils of being always honest; it is definitely very liberating but can also make you feel pretty lonesome too.
i have been a lone wolf for most of my life because i dont blend with the fake associates. people dont always like me but they respect me as i keep my association with them to a minimum and i prefer to work alone as much as possible.
Where honesty is most missed is in dating. Very rarely will anyone ever say ,there not interested, don’t feel a connection, or see you in that way. Usually it’s I’m busy, or I would but this one thing etc etc I do find it contradictory that it’s okay to point the brutal truth in some instances but then change the rules with regards obesity etc
So true! 😊 I was honest with now an ex of mine, when we were dating. And I got punished for that by him giving me the silentreatment and being passive aggressive towards me. Maby He didn't like my honesty?! I was very respectful and had thought tru my words and tried to be kind, when I expressed my feelings. 😊
Man the obesity thing is indeed dumb. I don't like how obesity is celebrated. Obesity can lead to many health issues and medical bills in the future. It is in mine and my partner's best interest to point out the obesity things so that we can be around for each other longer. Like I know that I need to maybe lose like 10 lbs (my boyfriend says I look perfect but I see things differently) but it doesn't stop me from being me. I just eat healthy and take care of myself. To me it is just as important as paying your bills or going to work. To me taking care of yourself is an investment in your future. Let me be clear here, there is no need to be a swimsuit model, a friggin Ken doll, or any other "ideal". Just be healthy.
@@darkapothecary4116 hahaha im not talked 'bout fear of someone.. because.. God Say to not fear of anybody or anything He just say if we want a wisdom first of all we have to fear to GOD first not fear of spider or something 😂
What truly honest ppl realize is when, how, why, and with whom to be honest. It's a gift that needs to be handled with care. Most ppl that pride themselves on being honest also pride themselves on being mean and hurtful in the guise of "speaking the truth" or "speaking their truth". If you're truly an honest person.. you should be honest with YOURSELF FIRST. Most "honest" people DON'T do that.
4:09 THIS. THANK YOU. I really need to work on my honesty, but I dont want to hurt peoples feelings and lie almost all the time. I tend to overreact to almost all jokes people say to me, I like it or not, and this almost all the time gets me friends I dont even want. I hate that. But this makes more sense, I really want to achieve this.
My southern grandmother always told us , be truthful , some folks would rather climb a tree to tell a lie than stand on the ground and tell the truth , and when folk show up for their funeral, and they know there lays the truth because it never came out
I live in the South. It's called the "Bible Belt" down here. I'm a Yankee from up North born & raised. These people in my current small, old fashion, southern town HATE my HONESTY & FRANKNESS! I get told this almost everyday. I tell people that I'm just keeping it REAL 100%. This "straight forward approach of communication" has made people strongly disliked me. They often disrespect & mistreat me like I'm their enemy. I've suffered a great deal of pain & anguish in my personal relationships, daily public affairs, working environments too. I've even been openly rejected at church for being too blunt & honest. These Christian folks want me to sugarcoating the TRUTH. I wish that I knew people who actually value my way of thinking & conversing with people.
I would rather Have & Give an “Honest Discomfort” rather than an “Dishonest Comfort” ☺️ sometimes I’m even brutally honest but finding the tender way of approach so I don’t make anyone feel wounded...
Well done Brainy-Dose team! After hearing this, I realized you'd summarized my unpublished manuscript called "A Philosophy of Honesty". Mine is too long to be read, let alone put on you-tube, it's about 300,000 words long. I particularly liked where you touch on what I call "justified dishonesty", also called white lies or social discretion. I noted you're aware that all lies, even white ones, have a time limit. The Christian idea of "speaking the truth in love", needs the reverse added. , "When speaking of love, be sure it's also truth". I, like you, live in a society where high levels of honesty are possible because of social security legislation. In many parts of the world, honesty is a luxury most people cannot afford. Become a bandit, or starve to death! I guess this is one reason why the religions of semi-arid countries all emphasize "forgiveness of sins". Thanks again for your well thought out and much needed message. Cheers, P.R.
I m honest with myself and I don’t have any secrets.Oooo I get lot of problems for that and Advice to keep some secret , but to be honest I feel very happy that I don’t have to worry about anything leaks out . My inside is as clean as outside.
morsheda meheriban looks can be deceiving judging bcz of the way an individual looks on the outside or visibly lives is NOT justice. 5 - 6 yrs ago I was a hygiene clean individual the way I lived cleaning and the way I showered and physically looked these 6 yrs and especially these 2 yrs what I gone through is beyond human comprehension from a legal battle everything true now looks as if as a lie and everything not true looks as if true instead of behind the scene manipulations through motivational channels and videos and theorys and conjuring deceitful set ups and slandering why not place Bret and Cary in front of eachother in front of an impartial Judge of integrity why not is the question the way people do things wins cases why not Cary and Bret face eachother in front of a living breathing integrity Judge nstead of videos on UA-cam and videos on the inside of 890 and 875 Westward why not question Cary and Bret in front of eachother in front of a Judge is the question I ask
I really don’t care who likes my face or who hates . It’s my face and nobody else has it in the entire universe, so it’s unique, isn’t it? I love my face, my children love my face ,my man loves my face, my parents and siblings love my face ,my dear friends love my face ... tell me do I have to care if someone whom I do not know like my face or not ?
Honestly, I don't tell the truth (on one subject). Because most people set the system up to where you are severely punished for telling the truth. But honestly, I'm starting to see that I probably should've told the truth in the beginning.
Lying is used to fill the void when energy is being stolen, and it must be given back at a later point in time in a repetitive cycle. Honesty fulfills and provides energy necessary in order to avoid negative consequences in the future, allowing sustainability and a foundation for building.
LMAO honesty has no place in this age of lies and manipulation. I'm always honest. I'm also always alone.
Wow...I can totally relate to that!!!
Right !
In times of scarcity is when things are better appreciated.
Rosemary, you are not alone! There are still many honest people out there, so you can reach out to us, anytime! I get what you are saying. My only thought is that Honesty DOES have a place in this age of lies and manipulation, as you know. Without honesty, integrity, love, respect, and many other great values, the world will be a very bad place where even the dishonest people will not want to live here, right ! Also Rose, the dishonest people don't deserve our anger. Only pity them, as they don't know things. Try not to let dishonest people make YOU feel bad, even though I admit, it's hard to do sometimes. There is good in ALL people. Sometimes it's just harder to find in some.
Very wise!
I’m always honest with people, it sometimes pisses people off but I’m always honest.
James Wilkinson yea me too and that is why I have no friends 😅🥺
Kawaii girl screw them anyway. 🤣
James Wilkinson 🥺aw
Same, like I just straight up told my friend I am sick of hearing about her boy problems😭🤚🏼
@@ruthgonzalez7202 wanna be friends?🥺
Honesty tends to paint you as a bad guy in today's world full of narcissist
jkreps.., yes, honesty tends to paint one as the bad guy in today's world. Sometimes being one of a few honest people in a setting makes you feel alone too.
You both are not lying I have been a ghost for a while cause I guess I surrounded myself with narcissist just not sure how it went on for so long it truly is lonely but I'm not gonna turn in to them too fit in I'd rather be alone then fit in
its better to have a good few friends, than many false friends. I know that's not always an easy thing to understand, but stay true to yourself, and people will eventually respect you.
So very true
@@michaelbest7872 I have always been honest, sometimes I can be brutally honest, I'm just not use too it casting so many out of my life, I've always been a loner but it seem a year ago even the ones I've been with since a kid turned narcissist it's a new learning curve for me lol but I won't change being a honest person for it shows any honest person who's true and who is fake. Plus those who know me know I can be a very outspoken and angry with passion and they will use it against me so I'm learning to not allow my angry side show cause it always tends to make me the bad guy cause I can be very mean.
Sometimes honesty can hurt both people at the time it's needed, but the honest person can have a clearer conscience.
angie Lamb I don’t have kne
Unless I ask them...does my butt look big in this? I'll put them on a guilt trip....wink wink.
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*_I respect people that tell me the truth, no matter how hard it is_*
(This quote is not mine.)
Thanks Rii-Chan for offering this quote. I agree with it. Sometimes, in the right circumstance, telling the truth is the right thing, even though it may be difficult.
its mine
I agree
hahaha to be honest you don't really have to up that is not your quote *EVERYBODY KNOWS THAT PHRASE ALREADY* I appreciate people that appreciates my honesty NOT SOME MURDERER OR RAPIST I am shocked *YEARS AGO WHEN I STILL REALLY DON'T HARM OTHERS YET AND SO POSITIVE WITHOUT SPELL PROTECTIONS YET* that AFTER BEING RESPECTED BY A LOT FOR MY WORDS OF INSPIRATIONS SUDDENLY GOT HATED for NO REASON I DID NOT SEEN FIRST WHATS WRONG WITH WHAT I SAID? THEY PICKED UP THE POSITIVE ONES THAT ARE MADE TO UPLIFT THEM, but instead I got my name tagged and saying FCKYOUS and all that stuff and I am like "WHAT DID I DO? IS THAT ATTACK MEANT FOR ME OR THEY GOT THE WRONG PERSON?"
I only fit in with people who were patient enough to get to know me and has equal views on honesty with me, I have few friends and I'm okay with that, I will takecare of them my whole life, keep them protected as a return for accepting me and making me feel welcome, and most of all THEY'RE NOT LOOKING FOR LIES AND REGRET LATER.
*Honesty is the first chapter of the book "Wisdom"*
◄ Proverbs 1:7 ►
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
Yes i agree w/ you
@keecefly lmao ikr
@keecefly no there is a god ok
I know that it aint from a book. It is something truly
I love honest people and try to be that way always. People can’t always take the truth and they often turn against you, but without honesty there can be no trust and it’s impossible to trust liars.
I'd add: People tend to have a hard time reading an honest person. I guess, they simply can't believe that they are a truly honest person.
being honest makes your life easier.. and feel good with everything you do.. just dont lie even it hurts. they will definitely know the truth so just be honest..
Honesty brings progress - sugar coated words don't!
Honesty is the only way, no matter if it hurts. The truth will always be the truth, it makes you free. A cleared mind.
I find that very few people appreciate honesty. Honestly.
Honesty and truthfulness brings courage. Falsehood and telling lies brings tension and misery! Concealment & silence brings Peace!
Not true. Concealment and silence almost always bring bitterness and a broken heart.
@@troycarpenter3675 concealment and falsehood buys peace only for a short time.
I wish we could we live in a world where honesty is valued and respected, however in my experience when people don’t like your honesty, however carefully you try to say it, they can twist the truth and use it against you to portray you as a monster to others.
I hate being fake, but am trying to learn that always being honest is not always the best policy, no matter your pure intentions.
That's the thing though, just because other people make it hard for you doesn't mean that you should disrupt your hard earned integrity. I don't want to be fake so I am not fake. Easy as pie. I don't have a TON of friends but the ones I do have are all honest as well and they value and respect me as I do them and we both have that understanding. My boyfriend is my soulmate and he too shares these qualities. I take comfort in the people that are like me and show me that I am not only accepted but also celebrated for just being who I am. These are the people I need to listen to. Some people think it is lonely to not be surrounded by lots of friends but honestly it depends on how you look at it. I would rather have a few trusted cherished friendships then a lot of toxic friendships. It should also be understood that we need to get rid of the grass is greener mentality out of our minds. That only leads to depression and disappointment. Life is not a numbers and stuff game. Life is in my opinion truly about the intangible. These intangibles are what give us piece of mind, show us where our priorities are, and can also provide a great deal of inner strength that we can use to deal with the every day obstacles. Also keep in mind that there will always be haters no matter what you do or who you are. It is a fact of life. You can either allow those haters to break you down or you can see it for what it is and focus on your personal growth and well being.
Yasser Malik sounds like you're dealing with narcissists but hey now you know who to avoid and ignore right
Sometimes it is best to just know but not say your honesty.😁
@@artemisjr1237 Best response I've read on this topic.
@@artemisjr1237 your opinion is amazing👌
honesty is the light in the darkness ..
& sometimes you get shunned for that. For being the bright color.
Yup,like court!!! If you lie they can check what you said with your shrink
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Honestly, a lot of people confuse "honesty" with "opinion". Most of these examples involve one person judging another. If you think you don't have friends because you're too honest, you're probably wrong.
John MDM: I've run into my share of, "People can't handle me because I'm too real" type people. I just wanted to throw this out there. Honesty isn't always innocent, & it isn't always brutal, blunt, mean, cutting. The way my brain is wired makes constant little lies nearly impossible - I can't keep it all straight. I've had to learn to control it, & how to be honest in the gentlest ways I can. Actions & motives are the keys - are they trying to be discrete & gentle, making it clear that this is just their opinion, & honestly trying to help? Or are they saying whatever they want, whenever they want, & do they seem to enjoy the chaos & pain they cause - do they use "truth" as a weapon? Language misuse is something I'm seeing more & more - there's a big difference between: "I'm going to be honest now" & "I'm going to tell you my opinion now".
Great observation
Honesty is stating truths, while opinion is stating what one personally thought.
It's very different things, how could people mix these two up?
@@versuzzero5335 Couldn't what one person thinks honestly just be what they believe at that given time? Nothing wrong with opinions as long as you are willing to be receptive to new information. I also think people have a hard time with listening to information because they personalize it. That is not on the person stating an opinion. Like for instance some one asks you for your opinion you give it to them and they don't like it. You don't know how they are going to react before you tell them you just tell them because you are stating your honest opinion. Like people don't hold it against someone if they choose a peanut butter jelly sandwich over a cheese sandwich so why should they hold other opinions that differ from yours as off putting and instead evaluate if there is some grain of truth to what is being said or see what is false and point that out as their honest opinion. Also if people have differing opinions it really is ok. Just like we all have assholes and each one is different so are opinions. I honestly think that not taking things as personal and not owning how people see you as soul crushing we as a society can mature more and actually be more receptive to information that can help us in the long run.
An honest person doesn’t lie, cheat or scheme/manipulate to benefit oneself. It’s doing the right thing with pure heart with in friendships, marriage relationships, work environments & spiritual regime. It has a lot to do with morals. “Honesty is the best policy.”
Loved this video....so right on!! However it does mean I walk through life alone....a lot....just as a previous person posted. But I would rather be authentic than to live a lie. Thanks for the video.
Well said 👏 agree 100%
honest people's major inhibition is living in a world of perpetual liars.
So agree when guys ghosting Gosling jealous man who manipulate women aren't honest truthful guys.
I moved away from California year's ago. Happier
Honestly I have figured out that 97% of people are 100% full of sheit
Social media is not helping either!!
Live your life with Honor and you will never regret.
Rooster1508 yes staying in honor is the first priority in any case. I wish to be honorable as in dishonor one always is the loser.
@Street Deacon -- When a person lives without Honor they betray themselves and all those they care about.
@Rooster1508 not sure what Ned Stark would say to that
@@vintagelove2373 -- Stark, serves as an indication of his resistance to moral compromise. Adding to my previous comment about Honor. Yes, we must strive to be Honorable. However, should we find ourselves in a relationship with a person that is not honorable we must go to their level to survive the encounter. This is self defense.
@@Rooster1508 i agree, when dealing with those who aren't honorable, you need to play smart not honorably. it's easier said than done i guess, sometimes the conscious is louder than logic in those who try to do good
I got trust issues, bc people got lying issues. 😝
Quote from Jackie Price
I feel a lot of people these days dosen't want to be honest with themselves. How can you be honest with others if you are not honest with yourself? Then you are living a lie. Do you want to be authentic? Start to be honest with yourself 😁👍🏻
When my son was little, I learned that knowing the truth was more important than punishing him for lying. What I taught him was, "If you tell me the truth now, you won't be punished; if you wait for me to find out on my own that you lied, you'll be punished for whatever you did wrong AND for lying.". Most of the time what was going on was that he had no idea what to do about a situation, & what he needed was someone to listen to & help him. Obviously this didn't work perfectly all the time, but overall it was the right thing for us.
Honestly you are awesome! :)
@@artemisjr1237 : ☮💚😊 Thanks. Honestly, I've been thinking of writing a book about child rearing - I did so many things that were completely different than the traditional American upbringing (cuz heaven knows, we need a change). My son is 30 now, and thanks me for being such a weird mom.... 😜
honesty is the reason why I don't have any friends...... but on the other hand, they are not real friends, if they leave only because you've been honest with them.......
I honestly can read people like a book, that's why I avoid most.
Me too!!
Yes! When you're fundamentally honest, liars really repulse you.
Me too!!🤷
Me too, i avoid everyone but everyone latches onto me! I’m a well-known weirdo😱
I honestly dont worry what people think as I am honest first to myself
*Understanding people is so important. It’s not always about us, but about US!* 🙏
Mind Now 😘🙏👍
Honest is not always the best. It usually is better than lieing.
Indeed Honesty is the best policy.
Yh. I would rather be quiet than lie
Honesty is lost in this society.but one thing for sure Honesty never goes out of style.Never.....
An honest person knows there is very real chance of being punished for being honest, but they do it anyway!
People tell me I'm too honest for my own good, and in the past that has been true. I'd still rather be honest. I'm known for being super blunt, so it took me a while to learn some tact. Also took me a while to learn that I don't have to share everything and I don't have to lie. I can say that I'm not comfortable talking about something, or just not share the information unless its necessary.
That is my statement: I do not feel comfortable discussing (specifically if they do not have a need to know) that matter with you. Simply. And I ask people when they are discussing something with me. Am I a sound board or do you want my advice or opinion? Simple💁🏽💯
Biggest advantage of being honest with your self is you always sense when the other person is faking something. You may not call them out, but you KNOW exactly what drama is being enacted around you. In India we say Dharmo rakshathi rakshithaha. Means your principles protect you.
In the South we just call it shit.
@@karishort7561 : ..... why???..... how does "your principles protect you" = shit?
Dharmo rakshathi rakshithaha so cool!
Brainy Dose, Thank you for sharing this video. I love the positive content. Good medicine for the soul. I so agree; it is so much easier to be honest sprinkled with a dose of wisdom than it is to dishonest. In my case, my insides would feel out-of-sorts when I've lied... usually because I didn't want to offend a fragile ego. Wisdom is key. Over time, I've learned to pick and choose the right time to dispense honesty to certain folks. As you've stated, not every ego can handle honesty, and more importantly they will not receive it if it's not given at the right time. The name of the game for me is "When I know better, I do better". Thank you for listening. Shalom
Honesty is often said, to be the "best" policy.
It is the "only" policy.
Dishonesty, even the smallest lie, or deception can destroy people's lives and at the same time, the persons life who made the very bad decision to lie, or to not be forthcoming.
Honesty doesn't always have to be painful. It depends on the delivery.
I so agree
Sometimes saying it with rainbows doesn't always get the message across
@@ariyablaese9204 Agree. For some people, it doesn't matter how you say it. I really resent walking on eggshells.
It doesn't matter, you can say it in the most refined polite etc way, people HATE being wrong, that's the problem with humans and will always be until they die.
I love people. I believe people are basically good. I also believe many people are wounded from the act of dishonesty. The only way to heal is to forgive.
Forgive for you, so that you can heal and move forward in peace with your precious life. I love you... God Bless You!
Some times the truth in situations can be absolutely hilarious. I love it. There's so many benefits to being truthful. I love the truth.
People that lie is only truly hurting themselves. if the situation is painful. truth will break you out of that cycle.
That's causing you the pain.
honesty starts with yourself, the truth sometimes hurts but in the end is the best. ONE must always face the truth
Totally on point about taking honesty too far. We need to consider the influence or consequences our honesty might have. Considering what's in the best interest of others is vital. Great list
yes, we need to consider what is in the best interest of others, but the risk with that is that we are going to think for others, and take their right to truth away. But, my guess is that you already have found the balance.
Honesty....you think it way before you decide to say it.
@@jane-cn6nd yes, no thinking necessary. honesty is not even about what you think it is what you already know
The most important point about honesty is that it forms bonding trusting relationships which are important in general for relationships but most important for very close relationships such as between spouses and very close friends.
I love honesty...it helps me to understand them better...and help them easily 👍
If you truly love others always have honesty even if it hurts others. Honesty isn't always liked and can generate hate against you. If you aren't the 1# hated person for honesty then you aren't honest.
@@darkapothecary4116
I also hate myself just because I can't/don't want to tell a lie.
And whenever I do tell a lie which is rare, it becomes true.
i.e, I was just pulling a prank on my friend, I lied that I saw that his name wasn't on the passers list, then when the time I looked for his name, it really wasn't.
...
I never lie seriously, just when I'm joking which is rarely because my humour is by telling truths in a playful way. And telling a joke by stating the hard cold truth is clearly not funny for most people, yet I still find it funny.
@@versuzzero5335 don't let it be true stop it. Prank is one thing but lieing hurts others. It gets others hurt and certainly don't infict it onto others around you.
@@darkapothecary4116
One reason why I don't like lying is because some of my lies becomes true that it's scary.
But if my lie becomes true, is that the truth now or was it still a lie?
Sometimes it happens like this, a person lied to me without me knowing and I lied about it to another person and what I said was actually the truth.
Out of all the things I could have said, I said the truth without me knowing and the person who lied to me was also confused how I could have known the truth.
It's actually a part of my luck. I'm somehow the luckiest person I know, that it made me think that if something doesn't go my way now, it's because there's something better waiting for me. And that's how I can stay positive in the darkest moments.
@@versuzzero5335 still not right to lie. Reduce the lies.
I am honest and hold a high standard for honesty as I am accountable to God for every word, action and deed while I am a sojourner here. I watch every thought and try to examine a situation beforehand if possible.
U had me until "society appreciates honesty". It does not, people prefer their politicians to lie to them, whether they will admit it or not.
Exactly but society is a screwed up thing in general because of the lack of honesty and actual care of others as well as nature. Personally if I seriously thought it possible I know one area I'd like to take a shot at because I see the mistreatment of others and nature supported in higher chairs, nothing overly personal against him but I don't think his values is within the greater good of others. But their isn't a chance in hell for that but time. Work on other things for now.
It’s true honesty gives you freedom and less drama in your life and when things do go wrong, eventually people begin to realise your truth know matter how much rubbish gets around. I’m a strong believer in karma 😊
Whenever I'm being honest with someone and they still try to argue with me, I always tell them, "The truth hurts," and I end the argument there.
How condescending. An insult disguised as a platitude. How honest is that? gtfo.
Man,we needed this honesty...it is lacking in all areas!?
@@stevetreloar6602 I actually don't insult anyone with honesty, I'm just brutally honest at times without even meaning too. I only tell toxic people that the truth hurts because usually they're the ones who try to argue when you're being honest with them.
Honesty is the key for improving strong relationships and also the thing you are saying was completely right and correct, thanks for your videos
It's better to be honest then lying or faking something out.😊
Most of the time I'm 90%honest for fear to hurt people's feelings but I see now honesty IS the best policy for it benifits everyone involved thanks!😌
No matter how rude you come off.
@@darkapothecary4116 😏
My opinion common sense and honesty are the best choices in life. Yes honesty hurts in the end it builds character and helps you focus just my opinion.
Yeah, humans hate me, yet "act" like they want to know me. I love spending quality time with myself.
100 Agree! Born with a strong backbone and a funnel instead of a filter so I'm guilty of being honest even if it hurts sometime .
Grateful for the point here about "timing". I was one who waits for the right time but felt I was being dishonest by doing that. Clearing the air at any point is wonderful though risky. Being tactful is essential whenever.
One more thing honesty does. That is it helps you keep your activities in line because you are open about them inevidibly.
Honesty is a double edged sword, and I have learned that the hard way. People will either love you or hate you for telling the truth. One thing I have noticed is that acceptance of the truth depends on one’s maturity. Kids and kids-alike will always see it as a form of attack while mature and open-minded people will see it as a gift.
We create a lot of enemies in the moment but later on when they find out the truth, people kind of like us
It is an old fashioned value, you are kind and caring, and truthful.
Also the more honest you are the more trusting you are
An honest person is different from a person who can't tell lies.
And I'm a person that can't lie, or just doesn't want to lie. It's weird but I lie by not telling the full truth, they will assume something and I just kept quiet.
But some would just accuse me that I lied to them instead of remembering that they assumed it.
Honest people, are my people! 👊😁 thank you for your honesty guys! It is so appricated 🎉
I 💜 honesty. Honest people are those with intergrity 👍🏻
Well said Daughter of the King! Don't mind the haters.
I appreciate your support 😁👍🏻 thank you ❤
I am Always happy that I am HONEST
It doesn't Matter What Prize You Pay,
but HONESTY IS THE POLICY
Thanks for this Video.
Well done vid. Complex topic. Honesty is always best but tact is indispensable.
You can be honest with people, while still being kind. Sometimes the truth hurts, but the person delivering the truth, can still take care to be as kind as possible about it. Sometimes people use the fact that they’re honest as an excuse to hurt peoples feelings. You don’t have to be brutality honest!
To be honest, I knew all of this already. Been living this for 70 years now.
This makes me feel better about myself. Thanks kind human!
We do view things differently. Thanks for explaining that. It helps to know why we are like we are
Hell yeah! Self-honesty is the bomb. If you're really that type of person, do you really wish to abide delusions?
Certainly not. For those of us that strongly believe in honesty, would we ever say that being honest with ourselves is not the basis of it all?
Honesty derives longer relationships. Eventually, lies cannot be hidden, so the person who never lies makes someone comfortable and joyful:)
Yes honestly 💯
Gets me in trouble people say they want it but they don't.
All the points are true.I agree.If you are honest,there is no need to be fear.
Whenever somebody says "trust me, I'm an honest person" they just lied so I wont trust them. Honest people don't have to convince you that they're honest. You will know without the sales pitch.
The most honesty person is a few in today's world. Why???? The environment of the social media and faster of technology have changed on human behaviors.... This is most sad feeling around a lot of a good peoples. Sometime you gave the honesty suggestion to someone, but you got the worse results in reward. Hope that the video will helping peoples to learn and going back to honesty behavioral to make the better society for brain development in adolescent. Sincerely thank you for the video!
A Shout Out to all who have commented about being alone as a result of being honest. You've all helped me hang on to my sanity. I've only recently experienced the trutch in this and it led to me questioning myself. But as others have commented, I'm not going to be dishonest just to fit in.
And a Big Thanks to all the Folks at Brainy Dose for posting this. It's very helpful!!
Noticed statement about NARCISSISTS which I wasn't aware of until recently.
Narcissists consider their feelings as fact despite what evidence is shown to the contrary.
Think people should know this because that is half the battle.
Blessings
Excellent video. Always honest people also realise very quickly that there’s a price to be paid for their honesty at all times. Not least in the way they are also some of the most misunderstood people in the world. I agree with and can relate to everything said in this video. The joys and perils of being always honest; it is definitely very liberating but can also make you feel pretty lonesome too.
Its taken me a long time to learn when not to be honest. When you tell someone something thats hard for them to swallow. They will dislike you for it.
Being a truly honest person isn't easy.
Honesty in the moment hurts but in the long run the best.
i have been a lone wolf for most of my life because i dont blend with the fake associates. people dont always like me but they respect me as i keep my association with them to a minimum and i prefer to work alone as much as possible.
Where honesty is most missed is in dating.
Very rarely will anyone ever say ,there not interested, don’t feel a connection, or see you in that way.
Usually it’s I’m busy, or I would but this one thing etc etc
I do find it contradictory that it’s okay to point the brutal truth in some instances but then change the rules with regards obesity etc
So true! 😊 I was honest with now an ex of mine, when we were dating. And I got punished for that by him giving me the silentreatment and being passive aggressive towards me.
Maby He didn't like my honesty?!
I was very respectful and had thought tru my words and tried to be kind, when I expressed my feelings. 😊
I agree it is ok to say this may not work or I am not feeling it but I guess we have to say it nicely.
Man the obesity thing is indeed dumb. I don't like how obesity is celebrated. Obesity can lead to many health issues and medical bills in the future. It is in mine and my partner's best interest to point out the obesity things so that we can be around for each other longer. Like I know that I need to maybe lose like 10 lbs (my boyfriend says I look perfect but I see things differently) but it doesn't stop me from being me. I just eat healthy and take care of myself. To me it is just as important as paying your bills or going to work. To me taking care of yourself is an investment in your future. Let me be clear here, there is no need to be a swimsuit model, a friggin Ken doll, or any other "ideal". Just be healthy.
I thought I was the only one who noticed
Proverbs 1:7
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
Nailed it.
Seriously?
Stop fearing if you actually love him fear of some one is typically a red flag for any god.
@@AngelaMerici12 of course read your bible if u have
@@darkapothecary4116 hahaha im not talked 'bout fear of someone.. because.. God Say to not fear of anybody or anything He just say if we want a wisdom first of all we have to fear to GOD first not fear of spider or something 😂
Being honest with yourself is the basis and gives us freedom! This video is very helpful! Thank you.
What truly honest ppl realize is when, how, why, and with whom to be honest. It's a gift that needs to be handled with care. Most ppl that pride themselves on being honest also pride themselves on being mean and hurtful in the guise of "speaking the truth" or "speaking their truth". If you're truly an honest person.. you should be honest with YOURSELF FIRST. Most "honest" people DON'T do that.
I know what it is like to be honest with someone and being told that I'm dishonest. Because they don't whant to hear the truth.
4:09 THIS. THANK YOU. I really need to work on my honesty, but I dont want to hurt peoples feelings and lie almost all the time. I tend to overreact to almost all jokes people say to me, I like it or not, and this almost all the time gets me friends I dont even want. I hate that. But this makes more sense, I really want to achieve this.
Honesty is the base of all relationships
Truly honest people KNOW society does NOT value honesty!
My southern grandmother always told us , be truthful , some folks would rather climb a tree to tell a lie than stand on the ground and tell the truth , and when folk show up for their funeral, and they know there lays the truth because it never came out
😂😂😂😂.. nice one.
I live in the South. It's called the "Bible Belt" down here. I'm a Yankee from up North born & raised. These people in my current small, old fashion, southern town HATE my HONESTY & FRANKNESS! I get told this almost everyday. I tell people that I'm just keeping it REAL 100%. This "straight forward approach of communication" has made people strongly disliked me. They often disrespect & mistreat me like I'm their enemy. I've suffered a great deal of pain & anguish in my personal relationships, daily public affairs, working environments too. I've even been openly rejected at church for being too blunt & honest. These Christian folks want me to sugarcoating the TRUTH. I wish that I knew people who actually value my way of thinking & conversing with people.
Cool! And I’m glad you also mentioned tact and timing.
I find everything presented to be absolutely true! Well done!
Saying you are 100% honest 100% of the time is in itself being dishonest.
I would rather Have & Give an “Honest Discomfort” rather than an “Dishonest Comfort” ☺️ sometimes I’m even brutally honest but finding the tender way of approach so I don’t make anyone feel wounded...
Well done Brainy-Dose team! After hearing this, I realized you'd summarized my unpublished manuscript called "A Philosophy of Honesty". Mine is too long to be read, let alone put on you-tube, it's about 300,000 words long. I particularly liked where you touch on what I call "justified dishonesty", also called white lies or social discretion. I noted you're aware that all lies, even white ones, have a time limit. The Christian idea of "speaking the truth in love", needs the reverse added. , "When speaking of love, be sure it's also truth".
I, like you, live in a society where high levels of honesty are possible because of social security legislation. In many parts of the world, honesty is a luxury most people cannot afford. Become a bandit, or starve to death! I guess this is one reason why the religions of semi-arid countries all emphasize "forgiveness of sins". Thanks again for your well thought out and much needed message. Cheers, P.R.
The more honest people are with you, and you with them, then the quicker you all heal….👍😎
I m honest with myself and I don’t have any secrets.Oooo I get lot of problems for that and Advice to keep some secret , but to be honest I feel very happy that I don’t have to worry about anything leaks out . My inside is as clean as outside.
morsheda meheriban
looks can be deceiving judging bcz of the way an individual looks
on the outside or visibly lives
is NOT justice.
5 - 6 yrs ago I was a hygiene clean individual the way I lived cleaning and the way I showered and physically looked
these 6 yrs and especially these 2 yrs what I gone through is beyond human comprehension from a legal battle everything true now looks as if as a lie
and everything not true looks as if true
instead of behind the scene manipulations through motivational channels and videos and theorys and conjuring deceitful set ups and slandering
why not place Bret and Cary in front of eachother in front of
an impartial Judge of integrity why not is the question
the way people do things wins cases
why not Cary and Bret face eachother in front of
a living breathing integrity Judge
nstead of
videos on UA-cam and videos on the inside of 890 and 875 Westward
why not question Cary and Bret in front of eachother
in front of a Judge is
the question I ask
keecefly
the truth I'm saying is what you hate
or 😶 you hate I don't say everything I should say
yet I haven't said or written
I really don’t care who likes my face or who hates . It’s my face and nobody else has it in the entire universe, so it’s unique, isn’t it? I love my face, my children love my face ,my man loves my face, my parents and siblings love my face ,my dear friends love my face ... tell me do I have to care if someone whom I do not know like my face or not ?
morsheda meheriban
I agree your human heart
or Christ spirit-heart is what truly matters
This is so me ans i ll never change am unapologetic about that straight of my personnality it's my best asset in life
I'm always honest but thats why some people think I'm rude cruel and weird. But others think I'm kind and nice
That opening statement is just so well said.
That's me. It's interesting how honesty is appreciated and some people don't like honest people at times.
The truth will NEVER hurt you if you're honest with yourself.
If you always tell the truth, you don’t have to remember what you said. #11 👏🏼👌🏼
Honestly, I don't tell the truth (on one subject). Because most people set the system up to where you are severely punished for telling the truth. But honestly, I'm starting to see that I probably should've told the truth in the beginning.
It's All True I am a honest person I love this video. I am happy that I am always happy.
Thank you young man
Good Talk!!!!
Lying is used to fill the void when energy is being stolen, and it must be given back at a later point in time in a repetitive cycle. Honesty fulfills and provides energy necessary in order to avoid negative consequences in the future, allowing sustainability and a foundation for building.