How To Detach Yourself From Someone You Love
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2024
- If you're struggling to detach from someone you love, whether it's a partner, friend, or family member, here are a few effective strategies on how to detach from people and situations that no longer serve your personal growth and mental well-being.
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Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor & Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon / @littleghostyofficialtm
Animator: DELFINA
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
Is anyone feeling stuck in a situation where you can't let someone go for your own good? We hope this video will help those are feeling stuck
Thank you so much I've been trying to detach from my friend who keeps asking for money everyday :)❤
how do I help someone to move on?
I used this trick after being insulted by 2 girls at March 27th, 2023
Maybe this our greatest challange maybe. Thanks for the vid x This is a very tough one ❤
I broke up with my gf 3 days ago even tho I still love her because she told me she wanted to become a guy
We still want to be friends but it’s hard to just let go of my feelings
The timing was oddly right.......
For real. Even the artists I listen to or songs I’ve been recommended know, but makes sense 😢
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The timing on this is scarily perfect, not gonna lie
the algorithm knows all of us
It's scary sometimes, no?
YES
YESS FR.
God, right!?
It's important to note that detaching isn't the same as not caring. You can't help what you feel. It means channeling your energies into something constructive instead of something that keeps you stuck. I was stuck on someone, but I show love by acts of service. Instead of chasing a person, I am volunteering at the food bank. It lets me share love without romance, which is the thing that was keeping me stuck in the moment.
👍🕊
thank you for the advice
"Love without romance"
The summary of around 70% of all marriages.
That's actually very clarifying. In my own process I came to notice that my love language is touch and kind words, and even if it sounds cliché, I just want to make people smile and share a feeling of wonder.
So I embraced it, and instead of holding onto the person like I once did, I started to bring out my guitar more, learning songs that would indeed make others (and me) smile. I never linked this new energy outlet to my love language, but it's surprisingly fitting. Nice observation!
Sometimes detachment not only isn't not caring, it's actual care. I detached from somebody because I knew I wasn't good enough for them.
1. The art of surrender: just let go, challenging but liberating journey
2. Feel and process your emotions
3. Establish your boundaries
4. Focus and self-care
5. Cultivate a support system: from your family and friends
When you've never had a supportive group of friends or family in your entire life and now you have no one at all '-' Step 5 is literally impossible for me lol
@@psychedeliknightmare6988 same.... I don't have anyone I can lean on besides my gf but I had to take a major break from her because of stuff that's happened
@@psychedeliknightmare6988 I'm in the same situation. I have no one I trust to be genuine enough to support me, so I've decided to cultivate a support system within myself. Pray for me😊
@@psychedeliknightmare6988support Yourself bruhh, you're enough for yourself 🪿
@@psychedeliknightmare6988I‘m sorry for that. I‘d be glad to give you an ear an listen if you have something to pour from your heart. I‘ve been there… and kinda am and it still hurts even though I have good friends that listen to me. But believe me friends do like 30-40% of the work, your part is much more important. But still if you find yourself stuck get professional help… or answer here I‘ll wait.
People say the best thing to do after a breakup is to focus that energy on improving yourself when it’s really easier said than done, especially if you still love that person and had a very close connection. In theory, it sounds great to focus on working on yourself But in reality, it’s a rollercoaster of emotions and setbacks. It may take some time to recover, but for some of us, the pain becomes permanent. It’s like losing a part of your body that will never grow back.
Even if I focus on something else my brain will go back to my ex who betrayed my trust 😢
@@ChocoParfaitFraYo its completely fine.I was once in your situation before but keep in mind that your ex is not important anymore and you have to rebuild up your own paths and goals in your life and even if it is hard to let go but it is ok because I was struggling before and I have having a hsrd time letting go but when I talked to my family members or my friends about it it totally helps me out and you can find your own ways to get off your ex from your mind because I believe that we are strong and an independent people but it is always fine to ask for help 😊😊
Yes, we broke up a few months ago but definitely recently. He was my best friend, my confidant, my support when I needed him.... It has been and is very hard, and I have just spent a week that has seemed like a nightmare to me. Sometimes I'm hoping we'll come back and I try not to have such hope , but I can't help it, even through he made a lot of mistake, I do still love him and I wonder if he still feels the same.
I don’t get this. After a break up why would you be sad?
@@ToniToniChopaaa Because you still could love that person a lot
What I've learned:
Detach. Rebuild. Rediscover.
Redetach rerebuuld rerediscover
Its scary how UA-cam predicts when you need videos like this
They listening 🤫
That's God
Getting through this situation is similar to a bereavement - Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance.
exactly this
Yep.
My girl friend broke up with me right before my college graduation, she mentioned that she wanted to focus on herself and mend her relationship with her parents. I'm still struggling to accept that she's gone from my life but this video helped me process it a lot better. Thank you
Literally... I'm having this "We are friends but more than friend but not dating... can't put a label on what we are..." situation and I am not for it.
I am tired of giving this woman my love and I'm tired of the mix signals... and tired of having hope that maybe her and I can be more.
same here
Bro all girls do that, they just want your attention and affection but believe me I don't think she'll ever be your..... of course things are different for everyone I know that and it happened to me to but in the end she just wanted my attention because I use to treat her very good and gave her priority. I think you should try to move on and just let go of it.
I’m a girl and I felt the same way about a guy friend of mine, but I was shy and never told him how I felt, he has a girlfriend now, so I am doing the honorable thing and letting him go. I regret not having told him but acknowledge that it is too late and time to move on.
That was me, about a year ago I think
I still think about her ngl, miss her even...
Breadcrumbing, I think that's the word for what she did
We were very closed friends, close enough to have heart-to-heart pillow talks.
After my confession, she didn't reply positively, rather being elusive
Eventually, I broke it off for my own mental health
Nobody should be other person's second choice
Love is a choice, a decision,
not something for them to fall back on when their fancy dreams turned to dust
@@yogendragupta1060yeah no please don’t spread that info. idk if you’re also hurting and if you are I’m very sorry but not all girls are like that and you should know that. I know there are a few bad apples out there but just because you personally had a bad experience with a girl doesn’t mean she’s the equivalent of every lady out there. Wish you well bro
This makes me want to cry. I don't want to detach from my friend for 12 years but current circumstances says this is the time to let go 🥺🤧
I know what you mean by that.. 😕
I definitely think that this is great advice for anybody who feels like they’ve lost themselves in their relationship - romantic or otherwise - with another person. There’s too many people who believe that that other person makes for their happiness, when in fact, they should only add to their happiness.
Plus, I feel like this would be especially useful for anybody who maybe there coming off of a break up with someone special who maybe it’s just not the right time for the other person… Not so much the case of a bad break up, but being on different positions in life and what you want at the time… A case of basically the right person but the wrong time… I feel like this advice would be great for anybody who is experiencing that.
It really felt like he was the one we had a strong connection with each other then he randomly decided to cut it off he thought that he couldn’t see us getting married though he loved me a lot and he started thinking about breaking up with me once life got difficult for him and he moved away with a new job and we both didn’t feel a strong connection anymore because we didn’t spend much time with each other like we used to before he moved away and we didn’t text much like we used to. It still hurts though the break up happened 4 months ago, I miss him desperately and we don’t talk anymore and all I want is to have that connection again even just as friends 😢
Been trying to get over close friends, who I cared deeply for. I would even argue that I felt a form of "Philia", love of family, because they were an online "family"/"tribe" for me...good timing
Letting go feels like going through hell.
Staying with the feeling when you process your emotions is truly maddening. It hurts like crazy, like you can feel it physically in your heart. It's heavy and suffocating. 🥺
It’s the holding on that feels like going through hell, you think you’re letting go and that’s what’s causing you pain but it’s not, it’s the idea of letting go and the fact you’re still holding on to something that isn’t there.
Perfect Timing 😭😭
we got your back
I love how UA-cam knows what to bring at the right time
0:00
1:15 1. The Art of Surrender
1:53 2. Feel and Process Your Emotion
2:35 3. Establish Boundaries
3:07 4. Focus on Your Self-care
3:47 5. Cultivate a Support System
4:18 outro
I just ended my 5 years of situationship with my first love. We didn’t take it as the usual romantic relationship as we’re too young to commit for such things. Tbf, it still hurts so much though. I cared for this person a lot and would initiate most of our conversations, believing in our “potential” to move into the next steps. Potential is just potential after all. Things happen and we came into conclusion that our life plan/goals would not go together. So here I am in the process of detaching.
If you’re reading this and going through the similar things as me, I hope you find the right person who cares for you, which you deserve. And please pray for the success of my detachment journey too :)
🤝 the road of healing is long (what feels like forever can be only a couple of months) but u got this, stay strong 💪 -> from someone in an almost identical situation
I'm in a very similar situation, it's tough. My mind tricked me that everything could be toughed out with enough willpower, but I see now that she needs to heal from her suffering and work on finding out, what she wants to achieve in her life and that's alright. You'll get through this too. It's tough, but I believe it's an important life lesson to learn.
I feel you,I have the same situation on me
Where's the female voice?😭😭😭😭
Agreed OG voice not being used anymore losses some of my interest in the videos...
Ye where iz amenda?!
Interesting that the female voice is more important than the information being conveyed.
@Jonnbgoodx got nothing to do with that, it's harder to understand a lot of times. Some of the other female voice overs have been hard to understand as well, not just the males.
Why is it needed? Just enjoy someone and still.work.om your own healing. The two are not mutually exclusive. Also it is important to distinguish between Self and self. If you leave for your own independence then you will likely just return back to the same place. Independence is still ego.
Fell in love with a old friend,absolutely smitten at 67 years old,feel like im 16 all over again,my heart took me for a ride i could not stop.🙄♥️ No amount of my head trying to reason with my heart would stop it.crazy heart.
Wow I know this feeling ! Its hard to detach but you've got to be strong and walk especially if care isn't reciprocated
@@nataliegallego6526 Gave back to me then changed her mind,scared ,unsure,?
You must learn to love yourself before loving another one"..💖
That part❤️ big facts!
Letting go is extremely hard but once it was done I made sure to detach completely. As much as it hurt, it was freeing, and I was able to meet better people and let my friends help me out. I don't think about her all the time anymore, but anytime I have a nightmare, it's her and she's hurting me in some way, which makes me wake up in tears. I hope my mind lets go of her too, however long it takes.
i feel this, you have some PTSD
@@liztowers2058 well it's not a serious as PTSD but it is trauma related
Building a healthy level of detachment in a relationship is crucial for maintaining balance and individual growth. One piece of advice is to prioritize communication and set clear boundaries early on. It's important to understand that while love and connection are essential, maintaining a sense of self and independence is equally important. Encouraging each other's personal growth, pursuing individual hobbies and interests, and respecting each other's space are all key aspects of fostering a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Ultimately, it's about finding the right balance between togetherness and individuality.💙💙
This is the exact video I needed to see right now. Heart break is killing me and I'm relieved to have this video recommended! ❤
“Love yourself” it’s real easy to say, but hard to do. When you have just left a relationship and that is the right thing to do , it’s still hard finding what loving yourself even looks like when you have sacrificed for another for so long, even years in some cases. Then there is the mental fortitude needed to stand in that decision even when you encounter new obstacles in your new way of living. I think that’s why many people backslide into negative thinking and negative relationships. Sometimes the devil you know seems like a better option than a new and scary endeavor. I love this advise and it’s a great video, just remember that doing the right thing can still hurt. 💜💜💜
It's hard to let them go because you still care about them and still love them it hurts to see someone who said that they really love you and that they can't live without you and after breaking up they replace you that fast like you never meant anything to them that was the worst pain I ever felt
Such a terrible thing to experience, I have personally been there. It gets better with time, I promise❤
@@GuidedLoveandWellness thank you so much it has been almost 4 months now I'm trying my best to stay strong but sometimes I just break down for holding everything inside for too long every day it's a battle and a challenging
Thank you I needed this ❤
Hope this video helps you!
This was right on time and so very helpful. I've been on this healing journey a while now and now realizing how impatient I have been with myself and the process but not anymore. There is no time frame on healing no matter how much I want it to be over already, so bad!🤦🏾♀️ Now I have a few confirmations and new reinforcement exercises to try! Thank you for this!🙏🏾😌🙏🏾
Incredibly toxic comment: she gave up on something incredible, and she's just going to have detachment handed to her. It's beyond unfair that she gets to cheat, give up, run away, and move on effortlessly, while I'm stuck clawing my way through every single step of detachment against my will. I hate the world we've created ... But I love and trust myself enough to become someone better than my pain.
It's part of being a man, unfortunately. We're slow to love and we invest over time in the relationship. Women are quick to love, but can also feel differently tomorrow no matter your history together, forget you, leave you and have someone new the next day. But even that is it's own hell for them as they become jaded the more they do it. It's just the hand we are dealt. Best to just detach and not catch feelings again.
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@@chari5151 I need an IRL hug so bad, thank you so much for you consideration
This sounds like me and my situation. He did the same.
That’s how life it is for men
Sometimes so cruel ..
U invest every bit of your last ounce and when they leave u just remain empty shell..
happened to me last month
Somehow keeping my sanity and moving on to something bigger and greater..
This timing is uncanny 😂
I really needed this today, it really seems these videos pop up at the right times fairly consistently :)
I’ve been dealing with this for months, thank you for helping
This is very true. I honestly feel that sometimes, taking a break from a romantic relationship or a relationship where you’re highly affectionate with someone, can really be helpful, it isn’t that you don’t care about that other person, but sometimes you may need to separate from them. It’s just that, at times, it can be better for your mental health/ well being and sometimes it’s just a healthier choice to make in any relationship, because it could possibly improve it or make it stronger, anyway, I really appreciate this advice in this video, it is extremely helpful. Thank you so much, Psych2go. This is just awesome, I really appreciate and love your videos, the content is so good and very useful, thanks again and I am really looking forward to more of these videos, for sure. ❤💕😘😊
The timing is scary perfect, just lost the only friend i thought i had and said that I'm always making a big deal of everything, but he doesn't know what it feels like to live eith severe depression, bad anxiety and bad trust issues and people sending pictures of me around school calling me names and bullying me on a basis like he knows what it's like
OMG thank you so much, i needed this ❤
Just recently had to detach from a toxic friendship. You think it would be easy because they're toxic. But it's not. Especially when you still genuinely care about this person, but you know they'll never change... This person was like an older brother to me... this freaking hurts so much...💔😭
The timing is too perfect, I’m still dealing with a breakup 2 months after the fact and I’m still hurting
I'm at 4 years and it's just not getting any better.
I’m at 4 months and I miss him desperately
@@baileyplayz1844 I’m sorry, I hope you heal
I feel like the point that stands out the most is ensuring a proper support system. For me at least, it made a world's difference. All other things require at least a bit of energy, but having a way to recharge your batteries can not only help process things better but also more efficient.
I found myself alone, things went south with my boyfriend who before that was my one and only best friend and he took with himself all the people that i thought were our people, i was just wrong. They were his people first. There was one in particular that i really loved and cherished. Being alone was ordinary for me but then i found in this girl someone really similar to me and it was awesome i didn't feel alone anymore. But then I discovered something else. You don't really know people, even if they were your shoulder, your rock. You don't know them and they don't really know you, right now I'm alone, again, but i want to cherish my loneliness, it was once a prison, something oppressive, but at the moment I can say that the loneliness is my friend and maybe a strength after all
@@serenapalleschi7821 You'll get through this for sure. Believe in yourself when no one else believes in you. Be your own best friend, because at the end of your life you'll always still have yourself even if everyone else is already gone.
The timing on this video is impeccable.🙏🏼🙏🏼
Detaching from someone just means setting a boundary for yourself and not just for the person you love but it doesn't mean you should stop caring...
Absolutely, setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining your well-being and preserving healthy relationships. But how do you strike the balance between detachment and caring deeply for someone?
@@Psych2gocan i ask one question? my wife of 12 yrs just ended our relationship 4 months ago. but i just recently started no contact 2 weeks ago. but the thing is, we have a child so im not sure exactly how can i continue this. we have a 7 yr old daughter. im not sure exactly what to do.. im really hurt right now so im trying my hardest to detach from her.
I am on the journey for about 3 months and a half now. And I get distracted quite often during the last half month. I will now take a pause, go back to remind myself the reason I started to walk this path of learning to surrender and letting go. And I will then resumed the journey again.
I know I love myself. I am learning how to love myself correctly. Everything will be okay.
Thank you. I needed this today❤
I NEEDED this so bad right now, thank you for posting this. I am in this situation right now, and it is a struggle sometimes to just know what to do to take that step to heal and get better. Feeling so lost what can do is also very tiring.
We got you
Thank you, I’ve been struggling for a while…
That makes 2 of us, we'll get there, it can take some time. Now it's time to bulster yourself up
We hope this video helps :) How did you feel after watching this video?
I've needed this. Thank you for making it ❤
We hope this helps :) How did you feel after watching this video?
@@Psych2go I felt sort of enlightened. I was in an online relationship with someone long distance, and we've never met one another. I still love her but I want to branch out to someone else, cause she says were not dating. My main worry is not finding someone like her in real life, which is why I struggle to detach.
I wish I had the ability to watch this about 5 years ago, when I had been struggling with a messy end to a connection I had with someone I loved. I'd have done just about anything for them, only for them to eventually start using me, and then accuse me of being toxic when I (at the urging of family, friends, and therapists) questioned why they kept avoiding/pushing me away further.
I have a new friend whom is far more accepting of my feelings and things are much more honest and open, and my only refret is if I hadn't had previous mistakes, we could have been happier that much more quickly.
Self Love is the best. At the right time, the right person will come your way. Thank you for this. ❤
Perfect timing! I just went through unrequited love.
What a great video to reinforce what I've been trying to do. Thank you - from someone internet person that's healing
Perfect timing, thank you, you helped a lot
SOUTH AFRICAN VOICEOVER YEEE!! It's so nice to hear a south african person doing the voice for this message.
What a perfect timting to find this video in my recommended. Love it! I cannot thank enough.
I'm glad the video came at the perfect time for you! What stood out to you the most in it?
Great video as always helped me find some helpful tips to gain a better self. Keep the good work up! To those who are going through hardships remember there is light for every shadow so don’t give up yet you can use it to strengthen the knowledge you’ll gain through this experience. Anyway stay safe out there y’all!
Thank you for your kind words! It's wonderful to hear that the video resonated with you and provided some helpful insights. How do you personally stay motivated during challenging times?
@@Psych2go well I think of life as a book. Every chapter of this book leads up to the climax of the story which in this case is the challenging times of life, but with every climax there is always a falling action. so in short I think of life like a book and the challenging times as the climax of that book. Also remember guys challenging times are there to make you stronger, so stay strong and safe my friends!
Join us in the gym brother
I got the Preworkout!
Dab me in I got da water
Gymcels are soo into cope
Deadlifting is key!!💪😎
@@xiphine least we look good while doing it. 🔥
Hey! Thank you for this video! I need this video now.
Can’t believe the timing of this video perfect timing thankyou ❤️😊
We hope this video helped :) did you resonate with the message of this video?
I think that the best I've ever been able to manage is steps 3 and 4. For whatever reason, completely letting go, processing emotions and anything resembling a support system aren't things that I seem to be capable of.
Yess…lets learn ♥️
Now, that's a video I needed!
a month after a break up i needed this thank you.
These videos always turn up at the right time
The timing is absolutely on point
Oh my god.....the timing and what I'm going through ❤
Already went through and mastered this. Proud of myself ❤😌
Thanks really been needing this
This came at the right time. Yet also somehow the worst time. Thank you.
You’re right! I went through that 40 years ago. This video is correct. It works. You must get on with the rest of your life. 😅
I actually went through this a few weeks ago.
I made myself scarce for two weeks, during which time I detached successfully and though it was rough, I had to do it.
The worst part to me was the thought that something as innocent, pure and precious as new love, had to be snuffed out.
Such a shame and a waste, but sometimes when the love is unrequited, it's the only healthy choice.
Psych2go Ive been away for a while but Im rejoining your videos. I miss the wonderful woman's voice we had before. I am current going through a fallout with an unrequited romance so this video comes in clutch. Thank you for helping change lives.
Omg i needed that thank you so much
I’m in highschool, he said we would have many more years to find someone new, and wishing me happiness and all is well. He’s a tear older than me, but I really believed in us in making it out together.. This has been impacting my performance at school, and I wish he could have trusted me a bit more.
The video is actually very positive ......I tried hard to be with him and then a time came when I realized that it is hurting me more so I let him go and I got myself back , I realized my self worth , I got back my positivity and power. Thanks to God to let me embark on the new journey of positivity and self care.❤❤
It all sounds logical, reasonable and even brave to move on, yet a great sadness still overshadows all reason.
Currently experiencing heartbreak. Thank you for this. 🥺♥️
Sorry to hear that :( hope this video helps
Perfect time to see this❣️
Thank you. 🦋
You are so welcome :) We hope this video helped. Did you resonate with any of the points?
The timing of this video. I’m literally going through a break up as we speak
why did this appear so perfectly timed
I'm going thru the same thing--Self Care is tantamount!! Thank God we're dating! This has enabled me to open my heart to him. "Independence," i.e. interdependence, is key. Otherwise, I feel we would have a trauma-bond if we tried to rush things!!
There was no break up. I just have the feelings that I can’t share because of a ton of reasons but the most important one is they don’t feel the same way.
You can stand on your own.
Once you realise, you understand the power of Love.
We kinda get addicted to the chemicals of our experience in the past, get addicted to who we were and loop those over and over again. You need to let yourself go, let yourself change..
really needed this one today. i love someone. we live together but i find myself needing to move out to possibly help our relationship @needing space
Yesterday (today) I sent an important mail. Now I'm watching this...thank you 💕
This was certainly advice I needed to hear. I need to detach from my ex and start moving on. I thought I had been, but something would trigger thoughts of her again and I get depressed. I hope that after hearing this I can finally take the steps to move on.
This timing was perfect for me...
ps - This voice is 🔥
Perfect timings!!!!!!!
Self care point was excellent ❤
Might need this here before too long depending on how things go. The guys are gonna take me out to either celebrate or console me.
The timing of this video is impeccably perfect... It scares me
I haven't been in love in such a long time I don't even remember how it feels
When it happens again take your time and feel them out. Not only physically, xbut emotionally and mentally ❤
@@GuidedLoveandWellness thanks i will
This is exactly what I'm going through. 🥺. Really struggling. I feel guilty for wanting to let this person go and at the same time I feel I've been taken advantage of by the other person.
This recently happened to me. I had someone that we both had great chemistry between us but on the communication level it didn't work out. I came to the conclusion that this isn't going to work, the best thing is to detach yourself from that person, yes it hurts but without a solid communication both ways then you only delaying the eventual hurt anyway. A romantic relationship is like building a solid bridge that must last centuries in all kinds of weather and traffic. If it is built to brittle then it won't last, better to nope out early before you get too emotionally intertwined with that person. Also I am looking for work in a big city where I hope to meet other people with same interest and core values, I miss having a tribe of trusted friends and hopefully someone to connect with love. But for now I am stuck in middle of nowhere, the only thing I can do is to work on my hobby because everything else around me is falling down in chaos, I am like a round Lego brick that won't fit anywhere where everyone is squared, hence I wish to move in to big city where people like me are drawn into.
This let me know that I’ve been doing all the right things. Thanks 💪🏾💪🏾
That's fantastic to hear! It's always reassuring to know that you're on the right track. What are some of the things you've been doing that align with the video's message?
@@Psych2go literally the whole video, as stock as that answer sounds lol. I was so geeked as I listened & even spoke w/my homie about it to confirm 💪🏾💪🏾
Perfect timing! I need to detach from my ex-best friend. I'm struggling with it :(
It's oki to struggle btw❤️🩹
@@BriBriBriYT I have had a friend since the last 7.5 years or so. And he was the best possible friend one could have. I can't emphasize how important he was in my life. In some cases, friendships which have so much depth turn into romance, but that didn't happen for us. In a platonic way though, he was much more than a friend. The lengths to which he would go for me were unimaginable. He was the one I went to for everything - be it stinging memories of an ex, family issues, relationship shenanigans, work pressure and whatnot. The list is unending.
And he always turned up wherever I needed him - both physically and virtually. It sounds too good to be true but it was.
I was also the one he shared his deepest secrets with. I'm not taking any names here, so I guess it's safe to say this. Last year, he fell in love with someone already in a relationship. He confided in me initially, but stopped after a few months. And not just about that issue, about everything. He just stopped talking to me. And I had literally no clue what I did wrong. I did ask him eventually, but he only said he was going through a difficult phase and needed to close off from everyone.
Except that he did not. I was the only one he withdrew from. He declined to meet me or talk to me, but went on outings with many other friends, including those he used to complain to me about. And most shockingly, even _that_ girl herself.
I was hurt but I tried my best to give him the space I wanted. But after a few months I reached my limit. I finally asked him for an explanation regarding his attitude towards me. And he just said some traumatic events (related to the girl) had happened to him, and since I knew about it a little, I became a trigger for him. So he was avoiding me while mingling superficially with others. And he needed more time before he could meet me.
Well we finally met a couple weeks ago. It was bittersweet; while I was finally glad to see him, he didn't want to share what happened. He only told me he's still quite worn out and struggling. And I could see he wasn't his former self.
It's just that - it's been more than a year now since our distance grew. And it _still_ hurts the same. I know he can't be blamed but I've not been able to come to terms with how he treated me. And how undesired he made me feel. And all those past years, all the memories of how different things were keep causing me a lot of pain.
I really dk what to do. I've tried everything - giving him space, trying to talk about other stuff, trying to help. At this point I gravely doubt that our friendship can go back to how it was.
I'm worried about him too, but even talking to him and getting those one-liner responses hurts too much now. I really can't figure out how to deal with this without getting hurt repeatedly. I don't want to cause him pain but my threshold is getting breached too.
I needed this video more than I realized
Dear Psych2Go crew,
I do not need videos about love. The type of videos I need are the videos that focus on mental illnesses and how to deal with them. I am currently in my exam year and the pressure of having only one shot is basically destroying me. Not only my mental health but my physical health got worse and worse. I know for a fact that I have depression and I do have symptoms of bipolar disorder.
I would really love to see you focus on these two topics (and other mental illnesses too)
With love and hope...
My 2 cents. Detach SPIRITUALLY. There is a condition referred to as a "soul tie", it is a spiritual bond that occurs as a result of a covenant usually. Research spirit spouses, as well. I speak from experience. A MUST to spiritually sever that bond....
I was going to get married this may but my fiancée and me parted ways just 2 days ago but thank you for this. I needed this❤
Exactly what I need