10 Things That Make You Unhappy Without Knowing
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- Опубліковано 22 лип 2024
- Have you ever thought to yourself: "Why am I so unhappy?" How happy are you right now? Do you struggle to find motivation and joy in your daily life? Do you know why? Did you know that seemingly small habits that can make you unhappy? From your mindset to your behavior, everything affects how you feel. The hard part is determining what causes certain emotions and learning how to cope with them. If you learn what makes you unhappy, you can tailor your life to avoid these habits. With that in mind, here are few common things you might do that make you unhappy without knowing.
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Mineo, L. (2018, November 26). Over nearly 80 years, Harvard study has been showing how to live a healthy and happy life. Harvard Gazette. news.harvard.edu/gazette/stor....
Simon-Thomas, E. (2015, November 09). Happiness Research: What Makes You Happy? Berkeley Wellness. www.berkeleywellness.com/heal....
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1. ignoring yourself 0:27
2. trying to control everything around you 0:57
3. seeking validation from outside sources 1:26
4. too much time regretting and not enough time learning 1:55
5. neglecting personal relationships 2:29
6. surrounding yourself with negativity 3:02
7. not allowing yourself to be happy 3:42
8. overthinking 4:21
9. fantasizing too much 4:53
10. being a perfectionist 5:21
I hope I could help!
18 hours ago??
Hello early access person.... thanks
Thank you, time traveler
@@scebedo I just thought the same thing-
They are a pateron or ect and due to that they have access to these videos that are unlisted
I never get tired of hearing this calming Angelic voice. Please don't ever stop making these videos with your voice in it.🙏💓😇👌
Honestly just talk about anything and I’d listen LOL
Same
Same
same.
Same
to everyone reading this, we will be okay, we will get through this
❤
Yessshhh 💞
@olafpenner don't let some stupid people with stupid thoughts let you feel down about yourself, you can do this,
I unironically hate these motivational quotes and they always end up demotivating me
dark comedy works for me tho lol
Thnx ❤️😀
Overthinking and trying to impress everyone was such a problem for me. Almost made me give me up on my passions a lot. While I've moved passed the impressing everyone shtick I used to have, overthinking tends to come back every now and then, but just rarely.
Same
Same bro!
Same dude/~tte..
Now I'm in the state where I'm trying to aware when I'm overthinking or trying to impress others too hard.
Good luck to all of us and our journey to true happiness! 😉👍
How’d you get past this? I’m struggling so much
Hey, nice job on the positive progress. How do you handle overthinking before, during, and after it shows up?
"The clock is ticking but there's no time to regret". Yes, indeed. But I regret to not have found this out earlier...
It's strange because, I feel like no matter how hard I try to be happy, I just can't do it.
Whenever I try things such as meditation, it gets foggy in my head and I hear many voices, most of which are linked with self-loathing.
I feel like I'm stuck, I see other people being happy and I become jealous unconsciously of them because they seem to be happy while I can't find happiness. Anger is very often the first emotion that comes to my mind whenever something goes wrong, and very often, this anger towards the world bounces back towards me because I always feel like if I tried harder I could understand some things but I struggle to find the motivation to do it. And this lack of motivation leads me to a lot of self-loathing because I know that, deep down, the problem doesn't come from the world but from me, I just don't know how to do it. All this anger then leads to a lot of sadness because I tend to feel like an anomaly because of the fact that I can be happy for others but not for myself.
I am currently seeing a therapist and, while it does help at the moment, I feel guilty about having all these problems because I never liked talking about my problems. I feel like all the time he passes listening to me is wasting his time but at the same time I know that I need to talk with him to get a better grasp on my mental health which is going all over the place in my head.
I always ended up stuck between perfectionism and procrastination and I grew up in a background that saw me as a smart kid with good grades who work hard, and all of this feels like a bunch of lies to me...
I don't feel smart, I feel dumb for not understanding basic things that many people would be able to grasp easily, and I know that, because of self sabotaging that I have done for nearly 10 years without even realizing it, I pretty much messed up my academic record, and I know that a smart person would never do something like this...
I just don't know how to do it. It seems so simple and yet it feels so out of reach...
Edit: Thank you for the support guys. I was in tears everytime I read one of your comments, but there aren't tears of sadness anymore. They feel more like tears of joy now. I am extremely grateful to live in an era where I am able to talk about my problems and feel like I am listened by many different people with their own perspectives on life, I trully mean it.
I feel like if it wasn't for the internet, chances are that I would have never found the confidence required to seek a therapist.
I am also trully grateful that a channel like Psych2Go exists. This channel helped in the most difficult moments of my life and it is still helping to this day because the community of this channel is extremely generous and ready to help anyone that struggles with their own life.
Please, just subscribe to this channel and give to the people that are running it all the love you can, because they really deserve it in my opinion.
I understand you and I wish you the best don't give up
You saying it’s so simple but out of reach perfectly describes math for me xd
I believe in you! You will find happiness. Don’t give up!
It takes time for right thinking to take effect and gather momentum. Don’t give up!
I’ve struggled a lot with this kind of stuff. Meditation isn’t just to have a quiet mind, it’s to work through stuff! If you purposely focus on those bad feelings (specifically the way it physically effects you like the tightness in your throat and such) and like purposely cry every once and awhile it lets you get out those emotions out so you don’t snag on them. That feeling if not dealt with just ISNT going to go away, so if you try to use it up in chunks on purpose, it’ll shrink a little. At least for me it’s worked, and I’m a lot less depressed and angry now.
As weird and counterintuitive as it may sound, being a perfectionist is not a good thing, I didn't realize that fact until I stumbled on a video on YT talking about it, I wanted to do things the right way all the time, I seek perfection in everything to the point where most of time I don't do something because I know I won't be able to do it perfectly, I spend a lot of time thinking about how good I can achieve my goals, trying to calculate every possible outcome, which makes achieving those goals 10x harder than they already are.
But now I learned my lesson, don't be a perfectionist, be someone who's always willing to do something the best way they can regardless of the outcome and learn from your failures, next time you'll be better at it.
In Japanese, there is a term for embracing imperfection: Wabi-Sabi. It's really amazing. The art of Kintsugi is also in the same mindset. You should check it out!
Thank you for this. So true
@@demorte2924 You are most welcome. 😁👍
@@CherryFlower24 Oh thanks for telling me about that, Wabi-sabi, got it! I'll definitely check it out, I appreciate it. 👌
Go for improvement not perfection 😍
"ignoring myself"
ironically that's what family and school (both teachers and good classmates) told me to do, always care for the rest but almost never for me unless actually "necessary" in their own words
"The art of being happy lies in the power of extracting happiness from the common everyday things in life" - Eeyore
Like what
I make all of these mistakes, and that's why I sometimes get very, very anxious when I have to face my problems. I'm always overthinking and not allowing me to be happy, like I'm waiting for the perfect time with no reason, for example. I want to thank you for making these videos because they make me notice about things that I usually don't see by myself. And thank you guys for your comments. Sometimes I find peace and hope on them. Remember, all's gonna be fine.
Edit: Sorry if there's something misspelled, I'm hispanic c:
Damn, I really hit 8/10 reasons in this video. These feelings of pessimism, self-loathing and jealousy of others have been going on for at least 2 years and I finally learned the general term for this: unhappiness.
Personally, laying awake at night and thinking about that one embarrassing thing I said in front of someone or thinking that people will remember that one mistake I made in the past is such a huge thing for me and only recently have I realized how toxic it is and am trying to get rid of it.
The same
Tbh, for me its not even intentional. I would just start thinking about random stuff and things like that would randomly pop into my head
Same here :P
Hey Elena, that's great to hear :) You're making progress no matter how small it may seem
The fact that I’m listening to this video as I type away in a cubicle, trying to get over a hectic work day. I’ve been thinking very negatively today and this video seriously made me take a deep breath and just go “it’s ok. It’ll be ok” 💜
Best channel on this app.
Oh and the narrator🥰, she makes this crucial help even better with her soothing voice.
Appreciate y'all
It is so true that you have to let yourself be happy. It is important to control the controllables. Letting yourself be happy is extremely significant to ones well being. Being happy, what a novel idea. Love it !!
I was just crying before I opened youtube just to distract myself and this video popped up. Thank you! this helped me feel so much better🤗🤗❤️
I would love to know if Amanda Silvera has done any book reading that might be available for listening to on "Chirp" or "Audible" or other. Her voice is AHHHHHMAAAAZING!
This came at the right time especially number 2 - trying to control everything. I’m engaged and I’m trying to plan everything well but unfortunately due to pressures from family, things aren’t going my way even when I’m trying to control everything as much as I can.
Easter eggs of the day!
0:10 - dream blob
0:35 - i feel like that plush is an easter egg but i have no idea what easter egg that is
1:20 - philza minecraft is so bravee
2:05 - MICHAEL MY BELOVED! (And an adorable mushroom nightlight)
2:45 - omori light and omori pic
Also! IT HAS SOUND EFFECTS NOWWW THATS CUTEE
I think 0:35 is Fall Guys.
*Hello people*
*Remember to drink water today and please take care of yourselves💕*
*I hope you have a good day/night 💖*
Thank you and take care of yourself too!
A few years earlier I was lagging in studies as OCD activated in puberty (before that i was normal/like everyone). There are many issues but one of the initials were to fear that my friends will make fun of/stop talking/insult me if I don't get good grades. Hits hard to know I was wrong and didn't knew at that time
The sound effects are an interesting addition, although they feel like they eclipse the voice over at times, you're hard work at quality improvement is noticed and appreciated!
Thank you for the kind feedback :)
4:23 I’m currently laying in bed overthinking something awful that happened in class today.😫 Stumbled upon this at the right time, thanks Psy! 😂
This audio and ur voice over is so soothing and calm i dont even need this whole points amd stuff to be happy, u are more than enough😄😄😄❤❤❤❤
2:43 oh my god
Context: that picture on the right is a reference to Omori, a game where you play as a boy who went through an event that was so traumatic he becomes a hikikomori, and pushes away his friends. The picture is a reference to a dream world he creates in his head, where everyone is okay (they're all at about the age they were before the event) and they go on adventures. It gets crazy though. If you want to play it, I highly recommend it. It's $20 on Steam, and is coming to consoles soon.
The therapists need therapy
@@devonbennett6559 they sure will after finishing it
Yes. Everyone that sees this needs to play the masterpiece that is Omori
Why does Hero have the cactus tho? I was expecting Kel-
I feel like I do this a lot, out of habit. Since I'm the youngest in the family, I often feel as though I'm being overlooked, since they have bigger problems, their opinions matter more. Recently, I feel as though it's made me insecure, I'm always apologizing for things that don't matter, asking if what I'm doing is okay with everyone, and that basically let everyone else talk first and follow what they want.
well I was having a small panic attack due to exam stress but guess what Amanda's voice made it all go away. she is my therapist !
It's cute how they added minecraft in the backgrounds like having dream, philza's hat and little Michel, really smart way to bring new people to their channel including their interests
Also Omori 2:43
I agree
Woah, I didn't noticed it! I wanna watch the whole video again ❤️
also jollibbee! yummy food
I know you won't react because you want to look mature
Dream Is a social climber and a coward, his fanbase Is cancer and this Is a fact
3. Seeking validation from outside sources
4. Too much time regretting and not enough time learning
7. Not allowing yourself to be happy
8. Overthinking
9. Fantasizing
Are my downfalls, and I don’t know how to fix it. I’ve gone through a form of therapy and I’ve talked to people and asked advice and I’ve looked up different things, taken quizzes and done some research. I just don’t know how to apply a change. My biggest hurtle is my career or lack of. I have a bachelor’s in a field I want to stay in, I just don’t know how to push past my fears. Low self esteem and confidence is a bitch.
I think the things I do that make me unhappy and emotionally drained is when I’m try so hard to meet someone’s expectations and don’t end up getting there, the fact that I’m trying to be flawless without making a mistake be it college, trying to be good at a game or hobby etc, that I don’t really feel comfortable starting up conversations with new people and reject their friend requests on socials or change myself as a person (by trying to be like them) to try and make them accept me into their life.
That omori reference was Epic though, congrats to the animator
i know, i came here because someone else pointed it out to me
@@mfield942 yes, thanks r/omori
Thank you, Omori subreddit. That said. AYO THE PIZZ-
Thanks to Naphia! Super cute animations!
I find it hard to interact with people or meet new people because of my insecurities which in the end makes me unhappy ..
You have no idea how much I needed this! Thank you so much for making this video! I hope whoever out there needs help gets it and learns to see the beauty in life once again 💕
Be happy with who you are 😄
Be happy at the present 😊
Don't wait for things to get easier and simplier... or we will run out of time 🙃
As Dalai Lama said "The purpose of our lives is to be happy". Wishing you happiness today and always ❤
These videos are very beneficial for me to work on myself when it comes to being unhappy.
Your voice is so calming, I can’t get enough of these videos 😌
Thank you so much to this video I had all the tops and i couldn't understand why I'm upset and unhappy until I found this. You're a life saver to everyone.
oh my, i can relate to all of these especially number 4. I am struggling with it right now and I kept on telling myself not to dwell in the past but i have to admit it’s pretty hard not to beat myself up about it. Praying helped me though :)
Your voice and the music are so calming
Ikr
This is very important content / video. I would say I have 8/10 of these and "never" even realised it. And even though I know I have a few of them, realizing that I have a whole bunch of them, it opened my eyes.
I will work on it in a very positive way and try to overcome it.
This channel is such a blessing!
I really needed this now, thank you
"Do you relate to any of these things?" ... all of them 💔 bruh
Im sorry to my good friends who I turn down offers to game sessions or group call, im sorry to my colleagues for wanting to control everything my way, im sorry to myself for neglecting basic needs and self care. Im trying to be better and happier ❤
Thanks Psych2go, you always come up with videos I need ! ❤❤❤
I love this so much, you do such amazing job I watch your videos ever day and just cant stop!
3:04 It depends;
if the glass is being filled then it’s half full. However, if the glass is being emptied then it’s half empty. And if it’s just standing then it’s simply halfway.
Love the videos! Allows lifts me up when I angry. Thank you! :)
I m so grateful that I found a channel like this, I got to realize so many things. Thank you.
You people have quality and quantity both
For some reason every time I get sad, tense, sad mad, and other bad feeling. I watch Psych2Go so I can stop it ( and just by watching one second, it already helps.)
crying helps too for some reason
2:55 omori references made my day 🔥🤩🔥
Omari gang wya 😈
Omori mu shindeiru
@@greatwavefan397 NANIIIII XD
bagel gang
@@user-pp6pr5fg8w haha yes
I LOVE THIS CHANNEL SO MUCH
this literally the best video on youtube i’ve ever seen , the vibes the music the animation everything is just perfect and i bet the next video will be more fun✨✨
Thank you so much :) Glad you like it!!
I love this channel thanks for giving knowledge
Love the content!
Brilliant list. Couldn’t have made it better myself.
Agh I can't get over with this cute adorable art style so much!! This is why I subscribe to this channel! 😍
I did everything on this list and I was doing a couple of theses things before I watched this video! Thank you so much now I'm more aware of my actions🤔
I just realized that I do almost all of these things! I am so glad I saw this so I can benefit from this advice! Your channel has helped me a lot in the past week! I am so glad I discovered your channel! Thanks you! 🥰
Normally I don’t like background music at all but I like yours. Love your calming voice and information!
Awww Naphia's animation is cute
Thank you :) Would you like to see more of this animation?
@@Psych2go yes of course!,looking forward for more ^_^ . I'm also a fan of Naphia.
This is the most accurate of the videos I saw on this channel because it describes behaviors specifically without trying to categorize them under diagnoses. I find that diagnoses conflate. Is it really helpful to know if someone is a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath when they're stepping on our face?
Thank you so much for these truth said, your videos are really helping me out ❤
Tbh, the last one's literally my problem. I wanna be perfect at everything n if I don't, I push myself so hard towards being a perfectionist n that takes me away from happiness and giving myself less time. Ty
I like the sound. And the video was something to really take in about oneself! Thankyou
Thanks for the help
First comment
This channel is helping me alot,
Thank you very much ❤️
When I was younger, I related to all of these things. Now I overthink, but much more rarely.
I'm really frustrated tonight. I have a strong desire to move a couple of States over as I'm retired and the cost of living is about half of what it is where I'm at. But I've always been a bit of a scaredy cat when it comes to a big move and I'm going to be doing it all by myself. What I'm upset is my brother is talking about all the things that could go wrong and the reasons that I should stay here. It feels something like gaslighting. What little confidence I have he's knocking down. I really need to get away from this. It's not such a weird thing for a retiree to want to try somewhere new? He's making me feel afraid like it'll all fall apart, and life has fallen apart for me. But it feels like such a good choice. It's a state that my ancestors are from maybe something's calling to me
This was very helpful. Thank you.
Which points do you resonate with the most?
1. Unknowing yourself. 6. Surrounding yourself with negativity.
9. Fantasising too much.
Why don't you make a whole season of episodes on each personality type, the most compatible personality for them, their characters, how to deal with them, jobs most suited to them, etc....
You mean the MBTI? That would be interesting.
However, because there are already so many MBTI videos on UA-cam, perhaps they can put their own twist. I'd love to see the following info:
- Books/Websites to study more about the MBTI
- Common misbeliefs about each part of an MBTI debunked (I/E is not social; the real meaning of T/F; J/P is how you organize processed info, why -A/-T exist, etc.)
- Why some jobs/activities drain some MBTI types but energize others (why most INTJs would hate being a salesman, but why ENTJs would prefer it more)
- How each cognitive functions works depending on where it is in the stack and how they tell you how to mature
- Types of opposite MBTI types (INTJs don't just have ESFPs, ENTPs, and ISFJs as opposites; may be unnecessary info, but slightly insightful; optional)
I'm sure psych2go has already done that before, or partially. If you search the channel name and MBTI they you may find some of the many videos they've made! (Or just a certain personality type if you want)
Took their time but was worth it 😅
Thank you so much for sharing this 10 things that make ourselves unhappy. I now understand I should not be thinking too much for all the things happen into my life.
I will keep reminding myself everything has a reason, so I should not focus to my failures. Instead make this as a step ahead for my emotional growth.
Thank you Psycho togo. I really love all of your contents. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
honestly this channel helps me destress so much
Things I do that makes me unhappy: Living.
this really helps me find out why do i feel so depress recently THANK YOU SO MUCH
Thankyou fir all your good tips my husband often tell me similar things but I couldn’t understand what I was doing you guys explain it well . Ignoring mysel, , trying to control everything ,being around other drama to much , weighs you down , I don’t allow myself to be happy, overthink , to much fantasy not enough living and taken action , being a perfectionist .
your sound effects made my day thanks a lot:)
Thank you so much this channel is hepling me a lot and her angelic vioce is so calming it makes me forget my problems every time i hear it im so happy that i came accros this channel 💜💜💜
Great video! 👍
i love your videos!
I am really obsessed with your voice 💜
Thanks for your daily vidéos ❤️ Can you talk about OCD/anxiety/overcontrol ?
Thank you. I got a lot out of this.
Tysm
ignoring yourself> I do that
trying to control everything around you> Nope
seeking validation from outside sources> I use it to see where i'm lacking, Example i use a text and focus on the question i got wrong to find where i need to focus.
too much time regretting and not enough time learning > I feel like I do this
neglecting personal relationships> I had 2 friends one ghosted me, other is just to busy with his medicine university.
surrounding yourself with negativity>I'm almost a hermit that don't talk with anyone.
overthinking> i do this
fantasizing too much> i think i do this
being a perfectionist> when is something that i'm doing alone.
I'm addicted to this voice!
Your voice is so calming and nice
The fantasies didn't start making me unhappy until they got so mundane that I found myself fantasising about mediocre relationships with low quality people and noticing it was still beyond my reach in real life.
This video is so helpful!
Happy to help :) Which points do you resonate with the most?
@@Psych2go The 4th and 8th! I always think back to some mistakes I made when I was a kid =w= I'll try to laugh about it now!
WOW!....Alot of these topics are very relevant....I'm conscious of them and trying to change but can be difficult when you've programmed yourself over years of repetitive behaviour!
From today my journey starts to make my life better I've learning lot from you I hope I will cure my depression and stress soon !!
i reallyyyyyy needed this video
It's so difficult to find the balance between spoiling myself and caring for myself. How do you guys know the limit?
As long as you done your obligations like getting money, studying, doing projects, throughout your workdays it's fine to relax and do fun things on your free time and a couple of hours after dinner
I have to be honest with myself. Am I in need of the assistance being provided or am I taking advantage of someone else’s generosity? My therapist tells me not enough people are honest about what they need.
@@lula_freebird don't worry it's a bot 😂 I've seen these comments everywhere
Perhaps spoiling oneself is to be happy doing it and it doesn't require a lot of work. While caring for oneself takes time, energy, and practice. Sometimes we can care easily for others while not realizing that we won't do that same thing for ourselves.
This helps so much
I am really feel unhappy most of the time but when I watch this I knew that what I was doing all my life thank you very much for this video I never knew who I am and never try to find who I am I just pretend to be now I will really try to be happy avoiding all these bad things
Pych2go:Humans are social creatures.
Me:(Who's a shy and quiet introvert with social anxiety.)Uh about that.......
esse video foi de muita ajuda , muito obrigada
Falling I love with people who aren't attracted to me back is a big one for me.
Yes I loved the background sound tracks 💜💜
Ever since deleting facebook, and not using social media platforms like twitter, insta, tiktok, I've found it so much easier to just sit and relax. Not only is comparison the killer ambition, but with all the constant bad news, its hard to feel happy when you see news reports of people being killed, people who are living in poverty, natural disaster, and denial of basic human rights. Its important to know whats going on in the world, but if its all in your face all day every day, you never get any time to truly process what you see.
Yep I relate.
I remember a lot of things I refused to do with my little sister, just because I wanted to be alone. A lot of things I refused to do with my family and friends altogether, just because I wanted to be alone. I would often get bored quickly, whenever I was alone, and would want to spend time with them, but whenever I did spend time with them, it didn't take long before I would want to be alone. It's just an agonizing and sudden cycle between the desire for solitude and the desire for company, and I hate that it still happens today. My friend tries to help me with it, but even that is refused, more often than not, just because I know at some point, shortly after I start spending time with him, I'm gonna want to be alone again. It happens with everyone I'm close to. The time I wasted, trying to push my sister away, may have driven her to a very similar condition, because she hardly ever (if ever nowadays) wants to spend time with family, and I feel like that was my fault. Even if not entirely, I feel like I played a big part in that.
I feel you. I've got that too sometimes.
I can understand you so well