Thank you for continuing to post your videos. Many people with AVPD have little to no one with whom they can talk about their experiences, besides a therapist. It can be quite anxiety-provoking to open up. Being able to hear someone like you put the same feelings into words helps with understanding and cuts down on feeling like you are all alone and alienated. I'm glad you get something out of showing these videos yourself. Please continue.
I recently got diagnosed with avpd & im constantly between wanting to make friends but knowing the more I make the less energy ill have for myself. I also feel guilty when I'm with people I care about but then I get exhausted when around them for any more than an hour
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I just wanted to say that, being weird is excellent. We get taught that weird is bad, it's great to be weird and I find the weirdest people the most interesting ❤️ I'm pretty sure my partner has APD so I'm researching at the moment to see how I can support him and stumbled upon your videos. Sending love x
"be willing to lose people" ya sounds great on paper , but what if you lose and lose and lose , that was my experience and it doesnt rly works for me , i dont like , dont like how it feels , feels like failing
i can really relate to the autistic trait you talked about where you think you're too cold. i've been told i'm cold and i never imagined i was coming off that way. the other thing you said about wanting to explain your feelings to people also makes sense. i often feel so alien in that way. like everyone else gets eachother so easily and i'm trying to figure out what the trick is. anyway,, just thought I'd chime in ^^
As someone who constantly has to placate ie: lie to people to maintain connection, I know that internal conflict of wanting to be honest but lose connection or maintain connection but knowing its a fake and weak connection. I know my environment does not value my weirdness and I constantly have to wear a mask of pretending to be someone I am not and I am exhausted to the point where I know what to do to change my life but I don't care to do it because I am so exhausted. But I also know the pain of when l am losing connection I get that deep painful feeling of loneliness and leave myself asking is the pain of loneliness worth it and where are the people who truly want the truth of who I am? I wish I could be fully honest but being honest is going to equal loneliness because I see people seem to enjoy the lie and the fantasy even though they know its fake. Even I sometimes want to shy away from the negative truths about me but confront it because there is more power in truth than the lie. Plus logic in of itself is cold because its just what reality is and reality is painful. I can totally relate to where you come from and I feel your pain. Or at least I think I do. (lol) Correct me if I am wrong. I would like to hear more about in depth about how the relationship contract healing modality works. Thank you for being so courageous to talk about this I know it must be really hard to talk about such a vulnerable personal subject but . I wish you luck on finding people who can fulfil your needs and will happily agree to the terms of your relationship contract.
love your thoughts
Thank you for continuing to post your videos. Many people with AVPD have little to no one with whom they can talk about their experiences, besides a therapist. It can be quite anxiety-provoking to open up. Being able to hear someone like you put the same feelings into words helps with understanding and cuts down on feeling like you are all alone and alienated. I'm glad you get something out of showing these videos yourself. Please continue.
The first 2 minutes really resonated about feeling like an odd ball and an outsider
I recently got diagnosed with avpd & im constantly between wanting to make friends but knowing the more I make the less energy ill have for myself. I also feel guilty when I'm with people I care about but then I get exhausted when around them for any more than an hour
This is the one of the most relatable shit to me thank God people like me truly exist I thought I am all alone😭😓
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Love these, love the honesty and realness in them. 100 percent deserve more subs
"Relationship Contract" sounds a bit formal. Maybe "here is what Lisa likes ... and it is important to her".
It’s an exercise to define myself. Eventually it’ll become a natural thing
Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I just wanted to say that, being weird is excellent. We get taught that weird is bad, it's great to be weird and I find the weirdest people the most interesting ❤️ I'm pretty sure my partner has APD so I'm researching at the moment to see how I can support him and stumbled upon your videos. Sending love x
I don't think your weird, I can actually relate to you and don't feel alone.
i like you making your energy softer its lovely
"be willing to lose people" ya sounds great on paper , but what if you lose and lose and lose , that was my experience and it doesnt rly works for me , i dont like , dont like how it feels , feels like failing
I agree it does feel crap. We do as a society need to change the way we do things
@@LisaCaseyComedy yeah
i can really relate to the autistic trait you talked about where you think you're too cold. i've been told i'm cold and i never imagined i was coming off that way. the other thing you said about wanting to explain your feelings to people also makes sense. i often feel so alien in that way. like everyone else gets eachother so easily and i'm trying to figure out what the trick is.
anyway,, just thought I'd chime in ^^
Its funny but since very recently I LOVE feeling like an outsider hehe
As someone who constantly has to placate ie: lie to people to maintain connection, I know that internal conflict of wanting to be honest but lose connection or maintain connection but knowing its a fake and weak connection. I know my environment does not value my weirdness and I constantly have to wear a mask of pretending to be someone I am not and I am exhausted to the point where I know what to do to change my life but I don't care to do it because I am so exhausted. But I also know the pain of when l am losing connection I get that deep painful feeling of loneliness and leave myself asking is the pain of loneliness worth it and where are the people who truly want the truth of who I am? I wish I could be fully honest but being honest is going to equal loneliness because I see people seem to enjoy the lie and the fantasy even though they know its fake. Even I sometimes want to shy away from the negative truths about me but confront it because there is more power in truth than the lie. Plus logic in of itself is cold because its just what reality is and reality is painful. I can totally relate to where you come from and I feel your pain. Or at least I think I do. (lol) Correct me if I am wrong. I would like to hear more about in depth about how the relationship contract healing modality works. Thank you for being so courageous to talk about this I know it must be really hard to talk about such a vulnerable personal subject but . I wish you luck on finding people who can fulfil your needs and will happily agree to the terms of your relationship contract.