Why Won't My EX Reach Out?
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I believe that my ex has to much pride to reach out.
Mines do to
They only reach out when they see you thriwing without you and when you are about to move on, they know, and reach out.
I am the opposite of this I broke it off with him because he wasn't treating me right and I finally was able to walk away. It's painful. I am interested to know after the pride is set aside if he will reach out. He knew he had a good thing and took complete advantage and I let him. But I know my worth and it was more painful taking that than being alone
Tbh if u broke up u should contact him if u want him back if he didnt improve u can still move on. My opinion still wish u luck
I'm the same as you
Me too
I’m in a similar situation. I wonder If he texted you? I can‘t believe he thinks he did everything right.
I think this is more common than all these 'ex' videos address.
Me too, I walked away because he wasn't making any effort this lady year. First 3 years were amazing. I have drastically improved myself over the last 8 months. Me walking away was a way of saying Im not getting what I need from this relationship, I'm hoping he will realise what he/we had and step up. So far nothing. I feels like he didn't care then really. What a waste of our time
✔️she is distracted by other men's attention
✔️ she's in another relationship (especially to avoid pain and anxiousness from the previous relationship)
✔️ ego/pride/stubbornness
✔️ person legit was over it and checked out fully before they left.
✔️ sedating themselves somehow.
The video is about the ex entering a moment where the pain of staying together was greater than the risk of breaking up. And how the pain of being apart can outgrow the pain triggering the breakup
Can i get her back if she really fully checked out?
@@K1NG2oo9 What makes you think she's fully checked out? Or what has she shown you that makes you think/feel that?
@@K1NG2oo9 yes. Because if it was truly unfixable, you would've known already and it wouldn't be a question. You would've talked about it and the breakup would feel mutual.
Right now, there's a miscommunication somewhere- there's something she doesn't know about herself, something she wasn't able to communicate with you effectively, or something you couldn't communicate or didn't know about yourself.
Either of you can believe and even say that one or the other is fully checked out. But it's really about the moment of the attraction level. That's why no contact works. Someone can think they hate you, but they deeply KNOW if they didn't give you guys the right chances to make things work.
If someone really loves you, you are continuing to grow, and you let them miss you, their mind will work to try to find loopholes to give you another chance. So when they come back, you want to be better than ever.
The thing is, your improvement is about you. You should recognize that anyone who would leave you has questionable judgment and didn't really believe in your development. So reuniting is up to you, your progress, and who you were being before.
Based on how you were living, were they right to assume that you weren't worth dating anymore and you couldn't improve?
Did you sort of neglect them until they decided they want someone better for them? Were you more focused on them than being your best version of yourself? Are you guys just not really a good match, fundamentally? Or was it a genuine miscommunication and failure to adapt from either of you that led to the breakup?
Time will tell. Right now, that relationship is over. You don't even want that version of it because it was obviously broken. So you HAVE to focus on yourself. Your health, your career, your "permanent" relationships like family and best friends.
@@TheUndergroundlab bro we broke up after nearly 6 years. The breakup came from both. We met up 2 weeks after and she told me she misses me, but shes okay with the Situation and that i do not need to have hope that we will work it out. She moved on waaay quicker than me. Cant believe it...I think she wants to Party and fuck around...
This is probably the best advice I've heard. It's not manipulative, no games. Just understanding the psyche of what makes an ex come back. The example of asking your friend to go to the gym with you was eye opening! Thankyou!
Coach that was a perfect analogy about your friend in the gym! Pain is a VERY powerful motivator💯
Every single time!
It really was.
I been ghosted from my situationship and she went for a new guy , it’s hurts honestly and I think of her occasionally but staying one spot and winning will only bring pain and agony. Face the pain and thrive for greatness and if she does reach out the choices is yours to make
One year of no contact, but she has bread crumbed me via text but won’t reach out. I truly believe she is another relationship at this point so I am basically done. Obviously she is not in enough pain to reach out. What compounds the situation is she is an extreme DA and always has been a little weird about having lots of space. It will be interesting to see if she ever reaches out? Stay strong everyone, it will get better!
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It's happening to me now ,he still ignoring me no contact I knew he doesn't care about me or maybe he's with another in relationship .
Difficult to accept, even his the one who hurts me physical and mentally abused. I'm the one who's begging for his love attention and care.LDR for 3 years.
@angelm1115 I know it's hard. I was in LDR too. But, you don't have him at rhis moment so you might as well do something to try to make yourself feel better. Coach is right about sunshine and walking. It helps your mind more than you will recognize the days you are getting out. Going to the library and looking at books, just doing somethings that you haven't done in years dies something to reprogram your mind in a very positive way. Please try to do a few of those things every week. You have to make an effort because you are your best friend, after all. God bless.
Been in no contact with me ex since February and mutual friends kinda bring her up saying she's coming down to visit and she wants to move back down to work at her old place. All I've said to them was good luck to her.
Great content. It was helpful to remind that the pain of going back into a relationship is greater than being alone for the person who broke up with you.
Great example about motivation and small things. Those little choices add up to things like weight gain, and sometimes those little gains add up to relational conflict, feeling rejected by potential dates, etc. Eventually it's enough to stimulate change
I broke NC to apologies and end things on a better note. A mistake! don't do it.
The example of ur friend u articulated was excellent. I heard that too somewhere (TD Jakes) the only way ppl change IS PAIN PERIOD.
Coach blac, will you ever do a personal story of when you went through a bad breakup and got dumped and how you handled it?
He did not communicate..when that's all he had to do was sit with me and talk about it...but narcissist personality disorder defines all his decisions..therefore order is null and void
How can I value me so he does? Your right its painful now without them and its taking every ounce of energy not to reach out to them.
I always like the video before you’ve uttered one word....because I know what you say is TRUTH. Love the stories you share. Best relationship coach bar none.
Watching hundreds of hours of these videos helps me truly accept that my ex has appropriately evaluated me and forever moved on. I am not the best catch she can and would ever find and I’m quite comfortable with that. She took the bait about this that I kept telling her and left. That just made me realize the truth that she never loved me from the start. That made it all the more convincing she wasn’t the one for me. Win Win. Hey Coach Blac, OSU was great. Met my first gf there, post grad. Good times.
What do I think? 🤔 I think you’re right of course! I still miss him, like I feel like I’m losing him or losing my connection to him. But I was losing him when I was chasing him too. 5.5 weeks radio silence from me. Sigh. 😮💨 But I’ve made it this far.
Keep going! Stay strong
Guys trust me dont even think about getting back I was in the same Situation 10 year relationship. I though she was the one. Still she broke up and is having some fun. Even if u get back together it will never be the same... the pain the fear breaking up again will remain.. inprove urself like u would for her someday u will find some one better! I thought i will never find someone else and bam i found someone who fits better. Never thought it would happen. I still like
2 watch those videos because i like this coach. But in my expierience it wont work out.. go to the gym numb the pain talk with ur friends if u dont have friends go to the gym everytime u feel down u will find friends there trust me. I wish u best of luck improving. Maybe u get ur ex back maybe u dont. Its not in ur hands.
I agree. Leave others to figure an decifer for themselves.
Dear Coach Black, thank you so very much for your amazing video. Your calmness helps me a lot. I'm in no contact since the first second he interrupted communication with me about 1.5 months ago. Even if I''m quite sure that my ex unfortunately won't come back, in my ❤ I hope you are right 🙏 that a miracle will happen and he reverses his decision. Kind regards from Switzerland!
Keep working on self healing. I’ve been in NC for approximately 4 months
Thank you for your words, how are you now after 4 months? I hope that with time we will be able to forget and stop thinking about them. Wish you happiness
I’m able to manage the hurt by being around positive friends and focusing more on self improvement. I’m improving everyday. It’s a long journey we will get to that destination of happiness.
@@jreid72081 you are doing great!!! I have also good friends and I can count on their highly appreciated support as well as affection. I go walking, do fitness, reading and shopping. Healthy food and sleep. 💚
My ex experienced pain at the end and the moment she decided she wsnts to end this relationship. After that she stopped caring. I told her i crashed and she didnt even ask how i was. She said you get ehat u are asking for.
I told her i wanna kms and she hated me even more. Never cared never asked how im doing. She doesnt wanna see me and doesnt eanna talk to me neither. I also believe she has BPD but she doesn't know and idk how to tell her to take a look. She keeps telling me i prefer not to take my stuff from ur apartment instead of seeing you. I prefer my mental health over some stuff. She moved on. Thats whag she always does eith previus relationships and idk how to stop it.
Learned alot of this with Corey Wayne and other coaches. Love your perspective on things bro.
I HAD been doing well during no contact. I have not even told anyone about the breakup. We are no longer friends on social media ( another story) . So someone calls and tell me what they saw him doing on social media. It was not until that moment, I actually experienced the pain.
Phew 😮💨 battling this now… but it’s my fault … changed my ways - turned to Christ, she couldn’t support/respect/receive or talk about my faith and that’s where I had to walk away and be with someone who aligns to the walk I’m on, it takes two warriors
Coach you calm me down along with the calming music that plays in the background. I go to you when i start to feel down and want to reach out to her.😊
Pain has always been my motivation
You have a way to calm me down! Ty
My ex broke up with me 7 days ago. I’ve been struggling but i’m doing better today until i saw his family and friends post recent pictures of him after the break up and he’s smiling. I feel very hurt. He told me he loves me and during the break up he still treated me like a girlfriend. I don’t understand how he could move on so fast like that. We also didn’t have a bad relationship either and that’s why the breakup was so hard on me. NC is very hard right now.
Same exactly but she is a girl. I literally wiped her tears off of her face as she was crying and she was breaking up with me and holding hands. The relationship was really healthy and good too. It’s just this summer has been really hard for me and that caused me to not do enough dates and stuff with her, which made her frustrated and feel like I didn’t care about that stuff as much as she did. There were other things and her emotions that built up and also caused this, and it’s really complex. And she has shown in the past that when she has a lot of negative emotions pushing her down, she just decides to leave or quit, like when we first were friends and about to start dating she took a long time and pretty much gave up, but we worked through it together and dated for more than a year. but this summer is when it went bad because of my mistakes. Last words we said were I love you. Has been almost 5 weeks NC.
@@breadguy7962 his last words to me were also I love you. It’s crazy because how she felt is how i felt about wanting more dates and asking for more things. He felt like he was trying his best and he was asking me for changes too. He just didn’t have the patience to see those changes and decided to break things off. It sucks because he told me in the beginning that he’d never be the one to end things, yet he did. I still love him and that’s why I don’t know what to do. It’s been 12 days now and I don’t know if i should reach out and fight for him or let him be. I just want to be with him again and for things to work out 😞
@@ImHeyItsDana it’s crazy how similar our situations are. And I even told her that I want to put the effort in to save it and show her that I can do it, I can do more dates and make the changes she wanted to see, as long as we stuck with it and believed we could fix it. I don’t know if it was her not having patience or if she just felt so bad that she decided to break it off. It’s also crazy because she told me so many times she never had any intention to end the relationship ever and she wanted to spend her life with me! And we had futures that lined up really well, and a little scenario that we both imagined we would have in 10-20 years together. I also still love him and am torn between staying no contact and reaching out and fighting for her. I’ve always told her I would fight for her but when we ended it she made it clear she loved me but “she can’t” and she needed space. I feel exactly the same, I just want it to work out and to be with her again. I just want another chance to show her! I’ve made so many positive changes in such a short time. Luckily for you it has only been 12 days, for me it has been 36. And it’s hard to say if it’s gotten easier, as so many bad (and some good) things have happened that just make me miss her more. And my emotions fluctuate from doing ok to feeling really bad. And everyone from all over either says there is no hope or “if you really had a good relationship and loved each other, she’ll come back” but I don’t know. I just don’t want to mess up by choosing wrong between doing no contact or fighting for her too hard and pushing her away, especially if one of these two options may work in the end. There’s just no way to know or to decide for sure.
@@breadguy7962I completely understand how hard it is. we had so much lined up for our future as well and similarly he was too impatient to wait for change. I had broken no contact two days ago because my anxiety of losing him got the best of me. I was going to fight for him but he said he wasn’t ready to talk. Again my heart filled with sorrow. I started nc again afterwards. My feelings keep fluctuating as well. Sometimes i feel like i’m doing okay and other times i’m just sitting and bawling my eyes out thinking of the memories we’ve had together. Frustrating to think how they could just go one day of talking to us to then being ok with never hearing from us again. I truly want to fight for him but understand that if they were meant to be by hen they’ll come back. something in my gut just tells me that he’s the one even though he has hurt me with this break up. I feel so hopeless sometimes 😞
@@Collins7.3lhey collin, i truly hope we make it through this as well. Similarly i have a small age gap between my ex and I as well. He’s still in college where as i just finished and am currently working and finding a new job. He also mentioned that it’s difficult to give me everything i deserve due to where we are in life rn but similar to you I think that love should be able to conquer anything. I broke no contact after 12 days but have had to restart it again. I am still in so much pain and every morning i wake up with so much anxiety. I truly hope that we’ll heal from this and possibly reconcile with our past partners. I guess right now all we could really do is try to accept it no matter how hard it is. I’m wishing the best outcome for you and your ex :,)
Thanks for this. I'm hoping this is why my ex broke us up. If so it makes sense. If not, I just have to continue to improve myself
so im litterly on a verge of a mental breakdown and i need a tiny bit of hope. me and katie broke up on july the 4th , we stopped talking on the 14th and since then ive been getting my friends and family to check up on her ,... she confronted me about it said im over you and to leave her alone so hears what i NEED TO KNOW: right so before she unfriended me she watched my stories(breadcrumming and or curiosity phase ) curiousity phase is what im going through on my end , anyway, is she over me or is it clearly the relief phase cause honestly i miss her but i also at the same time coming to a point where i hate her guts... the only reason why she is over me like shes saying is cause shes in a rebound which means she might come back if i change for the better yeah sure i stalked her but i love her i just wanted to make sure shes ok
Fantastic! Too worn out to say more
I Left my ex, at the time it was the right thing to do, and a year later we in touch here and there... she texts me saying “I’m in OUR coffee shop and thinking of you”.. also invited me camping last month, but when I try and initiate it, she swears she didn’t invite me, or that nothing romantic will ever happen between us.. but when we spoke, we shared a silence, and smile, like we used to share when we were at our most passionate. Anyway I’ve kinda tried to initiate a meet up but, she’s a lot colder now.. what should I do bro
If she bread crumps u and is cold tell her that u cant be friends with her if she doesnt want a relationship she should stop texting. If she truly wants u back she will hopefully Text u one day. If u still chit Chat with her like that u only hurt urself because u get hope, that gets crushed.
Thank you bro.. I just feel there is an energy, but it’s almost like someone is telling her not to follow it.. I’m assuming she’s likely moved on with someone else, hence why she tried to act like she never invited me to these things etc.. which I feel is gas lighting me. We had amazing times.. but her father passed away last year, and she became rather aggressive and hard to reason with in rather basic circumstances.. I had to make some space between us, hoping she would calm down, and as I clearly didn’t feel like I was making her mourning her father loss any easier.. she begged for a while but I was hurt too.. I’d just like to share some time to be happy like we were 90% of the time. Buy do we have some awesome memories.. thank you for listening and responding.. not sure what I should do tho
I want her back
So we both are 18 year old, we were madly in love for 2 years first I fell for her then she fell for me. We were in a long distance relationship, we used to talk every single day every single night basically she can't sleep without me that is we sleep on the call and there are times when I call her late she will be waiting for crying sleepless, she was such a cute girl. I always had anger issues, I get mad and lose my shit, I even told her that. She said she will help me with it but that didn't end really well so our relationship is very unique. We fight and we make love like animals we are so attracted to each other. Basically she is only attracted to me and I am to her this is actual fact because her friends told me that she cannot find other guys attractive they are not lying. But one time she hid some chat of a guy I found it but she confessed after I asked her multiple times but this was in our initial stage of our relationship basically they both shared playlist and she thought I would be mad if I got to know that but from that issue my trust issues got worse basically it was like an trauma to me. Considering this I get really mad when it comes to this topic. She always tells me I have to work on my trust issues and start to validate her. So this May we had a fight and during that fight I called her the B word she felt disrespected so she wanted to break with me and she did I begged her to stay and everything but she didn't listen so after a week she called me on my birthday and from that I spoke to her and showed her my changes and we got back together. From that we were happy but again I was going through something because of my family and she knows that I was in a bad mental stage I cried every single night and one day I cried in the call too she basically compelled me to open up so I did. But because of my mental health we had fight every day but we never failed to be cute each other and do sex on video call. So after that on the month of July she kept complaining about my behaviors and she wanted me to change them like understanding her validating her and trusting her one day she started a fight stating that I she felt peaceful without me for two days but with me she is always fighting so she wanted take a break till December 31 I again begged for her because I was in my lowest because my grandfather was in his deathbed he is the one who raised me and he died on 2nd of August. She took the break when her college was about to start which in a week so during that break she contacted me multiple times and we sexted and was cute together and everything but when I contacted she didn't appreciate it. One day she said that she started hanging out guys and everything and wanted to go to pub, I said no because of boundaries she was like no you don't have rights to ask me that in a break. I said I need you now or I don't want anything, she called me ungrateful because the break is for me to change and she was waiting for me but I wanted her at that moment. I said “I understand where you coming from, but try to understand that I changed” but she was like I don’t trust 2 week changes and I couldn’t say anything. She started to cry make a scene and she said I did nothing for her and all I did is hurt her and she don’t remember any good times together she became very cold and hateful she went like “I don’t respect you anymore, I see you as a weak man now, you can’t really change” and she broke up with me. Then the next day I called her and apologised and respect her decision then the day after that I caller her again and wanted to speak to her but she didn’t like to talk to me she was very rude, cold and hateful towards me. She said her friends hated me too. And last sunday I spoke to her she was very mean towards me but I didn’t react to it I kept my cool made fun and was nonchalant. She said she was glad about the break up because she gets to experience things in college this after a week after our breakup. She is very cold to me. Will I get her back if I go no contact
This video is brilliant! Thank you 🙏🏽
I thought I was over the relationship but started getting panic attacks again after 4 months. We were married over two decades any helpful hints?
Has anyone filed for divorce? Have you been in no contact the whole time?
I feel for you. Its been a month for me 11 year relationship I think he wants me back but I'm still doing no contact. When he reaches out I accommodate him warmly and it literally hurts not getting texts from my husband. Its just wait n see game. But I would suggest maybe see your doc for anxiety. My do. Prescribed something to stop my ache and sleepless nights. Everyday I'm anxious but.... im starting to hmmm about it as I don't want to hurt again like I did for the first two weeks I was terrible. Now I'm cleaning and I mean digging everything out cleaning like I've never cleaned before. Doing the garden. Just trying to cope. I hope you'll be okay. X
@@Mummabear543 hello, big support for you Zoe and congratulations in staying no contact for 1 month✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
Have you considered resolving your anxieties directly, inwardly. May be you have an anxious preoccupied attachment style which is on of the 3 types which is insecure. I am and i work on it to be able to stay the course in the correct way: taking care of me, my life externally doing my fitness, caring for appareance, setting some projects on, stabilizing my financials, etc but also internally healing my wounds, clarifying my needs, understanding what my emotions point to as signals, accepting my feelings, unveiling my identity.
I learn to be joyful, and at peace. I say learn because it is a skill to be understood than practiced and secured from what blocks it.
Consider this wait and see as a dance, in which you taste all the moves, the silence, the slow rythm, the attraction having more and more space express itself. I know it is difficult and i am now succeeding in doing so but since the break up and even before, i always had a negative sad connection with my feelings and it blocked me in my life. Now i view them positively and accept them in a stable way, folowing the process, the science of breakups and giving it my all, feelings included.
So when i think about her it will not be from a place of sadness and loss and desperate hope, which are weak and not attractive by the way, but of enthusiasm and serene hope without downsides to it, which is strong and very attractive.
It is a bit like in a movie when the man and the woman break up, then meet again after a good amount of time without contact, and whatever they decide, either to get together again with huge attraction and love, or to say goodbye for good, they now do it from a mature standpoint without pain and suffering but with peace and serenity in their heart and mind.
They have grown in this distance and they decide if it was only a separation or a real breakup.
Shout out from Paris!
@@blacademic No-one has filed for divorce yet. She was sad when I mentioned the words custody during our conversation last week. We do have a child so she normally texts about arrangements etc. We had no contact throughout the four months but last week we chatted about the meet-up groups as we are trying to avoid each other but also regarding property and what we are doing in terms of separation or divorce briefly(she wants to continue separation not divorce). She acknowledged that she should’ve just left and not say some of the things she said. I called her(I normally don’t this but didn’t want a back and forth) after she was sending me loads of texts re meetup group . Couple days later she came over as she technically owns half the property and had a coffee with my mum and I but didn’t talk about the relationship. She chatted about her family and trivial things before leaving. She did look over the rooms etc. of the house. I like to keep no contact but sometimes it is unavoidable as we have a child together. Also not sure if I can overcome her infidelity she treated me horribly at the end of the relationship. She did bring up some of the issues in the past and was asking about family etc. I am no angel definitely and could’ve done things better but she practically left her family barely saw us until a month ago. I believe she was trying to leave for good with her limerence but it didn’t work out fully. Speculation perhaps but the change in her behaviour indicates as such. We had over two dozen years together so it is hard to break away completely for me. Lastly she is offering to help me with going back to school etc. sorry for the little random facts but think it helps get a better picture.
@@Mummabear543 Thank you I hope you are doing well too. I’ve been working out etc but lately it has gotten to how I preform at work as I think of her texts etc. I’ve been reading some books and trying to make some friends which is helping but hard to know people from scratch. It takes time. Doing well lately but last week wasn’t great. Lucky I have my family. My brother btw thinks no contact doesn’t apply to me as too much time has passed and not sure if I am trying to get her back etc but I believe it is the best way. At least it shows the other person you are valuable.
My relationship was toxic. She lied a lot and I called her out a lot. So I argued but she caused the argument by lying and texting other guys. I was in love and rather than walking I stayed and argued. Now I feel like I'm the toxic one. And boy do I miss her. But I am adamant not to reach out but don't think she will either because of the pain of the arguments
She’s done w you that’s why she won’t reach out
Go Pokes! Grew up in the area myself!
I made him promise not to contact me when he was breaking up with me so I doubt he ever will. We have held on for so long and it needed to be done. I am crushed but I hope it is for the best.
Very good video❤
Great video. Thank you.
Nice analogy bro ❤ if I said I didn’t want to see her or speak to her anymore , is there still a chance she will reach out? I was rightfully upset and my limit had been crossed
I'm from Houston too! 😃
I have a ex she said to me that she will never ever come back to me she has a lot of pride hey and if she says something she means it I have to go to church that is the only time she see me I did beg like you said she just text when it comes to the property we have so what to I do
I stay away, and she will reach out to me when she is down and out, or if she’s depressed. She got into a bad car accident and her own mother who she lives with now, was making fun of her about the accident. Which is very sick. My wife could have been killed. Going 40+ MPH, brand new car, had it 2 days, and her mom makes fun of her. So my ex just randomly texted me yesterday saying “ I swear to god the next joke I get from mom about my accident I’m gonna lose it” and then I called her and she FaceTimes me and she has our daughter. She calls me because I calm to down, and because like she said , I know her and she has nobody else to call. I hope we get back together. Once she gave birth to our daughter, it was a whole different person. Not kidding, those hormones are no friggin joke, I’m lucky to be writing this, she’s a Latina, muito locooooo
Hey coach.. I'll really appreciate if you answered my question
Do your methods work regardless of different cultures and traditions? I'm in the middle east and mind sets are different from Americans so I really don't know if I should stick to the plan or trying with tenderness to approach..please help..
Thanks!
She contacted me 18 after days of no contact, it was a Friday night and we were both out drinking.. We had a chill quick 5 minute convo and I said to come have a drink with me, she said she can't as she had a friend with her for the night but then she suggested Sunday to meet up...
I never heard back from her about Sunday... It's been three weeks since that reach out.... Any advice please?
Continue with no contact or?
Please leave her alone. She's playing mind games with you while entertaining other guys in sure. Sounds like she just wanted to know if she could still get you. Please leave her and don't allow her back in
@@KayciazWorld but she is the one that reached out and said she was thinking about me ...
She was the one that suggested to meet Sunday not me ...
Surely she wants to see me otherwise why would she suggest to meet? The goal is to get her back here I just don't know if it's time for me to reach out
Leave it be, sounds like shes playing mind games
Great video!
Ty, that helped me from texting him. 😊
Sister thanks for recommendation, I keep in touch with him I'm already seeing positives results already.
Not a narcissist they have a cycle
O.S.U. ❤ great video t.y.
Thank You
I don’t get the gym analogy at all
Dear Coach, what does the following statement mean?
I tot you have a girlfriend, what's your issue? Face her now and enjoy.
Sure you're good 😊🙂bye
Hey Coach, im in 2 months NC, i archived our pics in social media 3 weeks after breakup bc it was making me depressed. Was that a bad idea bc she then removed our pics from hers
Need some help if any can been together with me exgf on and off 6 years she finished it about a week ago done the whole begging and pleading thing went NC 2 days ago been blocked in everything last night she unblocked me messaged me deleted the message then blocked me again I have no idea what's going on
Hi Coach. I am after 1st date with ex ( he proposed to meet for a coffee after 2 weeks of NC (in the meantime there was one reach out from his side). At the end of the date he proposed to meet again but since then 11days silence (I am in NC) yesterday he sent me a picture related to some our memories and joke that we had between us. The date was very nice and positive so I don't understand his cold behavior and breadcrombs now...during the breakup he proposed to be friends but I do not act as a friend and I don't want it. Do you think, his intention was to meet as a friends?
Coach do they still go through the pain whilst in a rebound?
How long ago was the breakup?
April but I do believe he monkey branched and still seeing her. I have been doing no contact but he also has cut me off. He seems to have completely moved on. Doesn't come around to see his step daughters who live with me. He could have a separate relationship with them but hasn't really chose to. When he first left he stayed in touch with them etc but now over the past 3 weeks not much of anything for them and doesn't come to see them. Is this typical behavior?
Asking myself the same thing. Rebound startet one week after the breakup. It‘s been 3 weeks now.
Alright everyone, all we gotta do is wait for our ex to get fat. Simple enough
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He did gain weight, now what? Is he going through pain?
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I think I messed up at 3rd week of no contact. We adopted a cat together and I thought she should know that she got sick and ALMOST passed away. I let her know the cat was sick and she used that as a way to try and talk to me but i left it at that. I was not ready nor do I think she was, I didn’t want to give her the chance to ignore me again. Unfortunately that’s what happened when I told her that the cat was ok and she can sleep well. No reply 🤷🏽♂️ guess that selfish bitch don’t even care about the cat neither.
Coach ❤ how to book a session with you? I am really scared 2 do and in a way i feel a little bit ashamed. But it is so hard for me to move on and i wanna know what to do.
Hope you can help me?
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coach black please help me understand my situation. we just broke up just a month now..but 3 weeks b4 she jump into a relationship but LDR..a foreigner..but I saw some sign that maybe she miss me I dont know..and he post that her new guy in Facebook.but she didn't tagged him and didn'teven comment on that post please help me understand our situation.also we are in a LDR
relationship ..hoping for your kind consideration..thank you
My ex reached out of FRIDAY. we talked like for 4 minutes then nigga ghosted me 😂😂😂😂these Mfs are mean.😂😂😂😂im hurt bro
Hey coach, I have a question. What should I do if I’m starting to implement no contact but she still has to come back to the house to get stuff. Should I ignore her when she says she’s coming to get her stuff? Should I not be at the house when she does? I’m conflicted on this
Just let her get her stuff, just ask how she doing if she needs help, keep the communication flat and short, and accept it
Coach can u help me bro idk anymore 😢
Just broke it off with my ex, I said I want to move forward with my life and not go back to the past. I liked the memories we shared but he was not good for me. I told him I appreciate the relationship we had but I don’t want any of it back. He said he understands and hopes all my dreams come true… that’s the end of that chapter 😊
Ok,good. Why you are here than?
It doesn’t sound like the end!
And you watch that kind of videos. No sense
I'm lost 😂
I have been 7 days of no contact with my ex her birthday is in two days. Should I wish her happy birthday or say nothing?
Treat her like she’s stranger, would you wish happy birthday to a stranger? Keep strong!!
She’s not a stranger, unless the relationship was abusive or hateful wish her a happy birthday - especially if you want her back, after 7 days being a dick isn’t going to serve you. Go NC after.
Should I try to contact her considering she broke up with me
Come on bro
Nooooo!!!
My man comic through with the wisdom of the Grand sceme, thx a lot