Should Guys Cold Approach More ?
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Best approach is indirect and non threatening. If women see you making other people laugh or engaged, you’re preselected. You can start being indirectly playful with them until they’re ready. If a hot girl is behind me at the grocery store, I’ll make small talk with the old person in front of me. Gives them a chance to observe your personality.
Yeah, this is good advice
Solid advice bro
This is horrible advice. Women hate men who aren't confident to go after what you "really" want. Congratulations, you have no balls to go after what you want and are now considered low value to her and other women. Real men go after what they want in ALL aspects of life.
This is not bad advice, but doing stuff like this makes me feel like a jack ass, I just don't like doing it, it's not natural. I'm not gonna talk to the person in front of me so I can give the hot girl behind me a preview, I'm gonna talk to them because I'm interested.
Good advice which I personally follow & more than often it works very well. That said I'll also be direct with the one I desire, if the situation presents itself positively, to do so.
Ie. If I see such a person in the supermarket, I'll start a conversation with her about a particular item she's looking at or already has in her basket. Make light humour, yet be engaging.
Your exactly right. If she's interested, she will let you know. Besides that situation, cold approach has very little benefit. Unless you are the high value guy. Tall, handsome, muscular, with the appearance of wealth and status. Those qualities are what makes the cold approach work. It's all about the attraction. I am pushing 60. I am the poster boy for passive. Gym, work, gym, home. Hike on the weekend. At my age I've become very comfortable with being alone for the remainder of my life. Gone are the days of typical dating. Now it's all got an agenda. I can tell men like myself that you need to be 100% responsible for your own happiness. NEVER leave it in the hands of something that lives by emotions, feelings, and hormones. Always look for equal effort if you do date. For you young men I would suggest tempering your physical desires. This is truly her only control over you. If you can control these desires. A woman can't bait you with sex into the roll of a provider.
I am retired at 63,.....and living the good life (mostly alone). Your post is my thoughts exactly,.....and my life is wonderful too.
Sweeeet man. I like that!
After a lifetime of different girlfriends, I'm much happier with my dog. Woof !
Cold approach is works for everyone, especially guys who don't do well on dating apps. A guy who gets no dates off apps can get 2 or more dates every single week for the rest of his life if he learned how to talk to women in real life.
solid advice. thank you
Cold approach is the biggest life hack for the average man who doesn't get as many dates or from the quality of women they really want off of dating apps. Even an average man who gets nothing online can go out there and get 2 or more dates every week, consistently. It's like a super power once you learn it.
It's always the people who have never done it or learned the right way to do it who disregard it. Anyone who does it will agree with me.@@InjectBleach
A man doing cold approaching has nothing to do with him not getting many dates from dating apps. A real man cold approaches women because he has BALLS. Dating apps are for guys who don't have the balls to approach women in real life. End of.
I disagree I think cold approach is very overrated and actually very ineffective
@@maskedman5657 Ineffective for YOU perhaps (that's if you've even tried it)....but for me it is hands down the most effective way of getting women (direct cold approach, no indirect nonsense). Check Alan Roger Currie's 'Mode One' and David X for more info on direct approach.
@@maskedman5657 How many total approaches have you done in your life?
I use to think I was nervous to approach woman but then I realized it wasn't that but instead it was because most modern women out there, for many reasons, aren't interesting and appealing enough to approach
Yea they used to be unique now they are boring copies of each other !
Most are lame npcs you aren’t missing out
Approach can be fun. But it has more to do with acting when you get IOI's. At least when a woman holds eye contact, smiles, etc, it communicates she's more open.
Plus, the city you're in is probably a huge factor. If a guy is in LA, Vegas, Miami, etc, there are fit and hot women everywhere. So, approach has way more appeal. 💯
But in regular cities, women tend to dress really casually and are often out of shape/obese. So when I see 200-300lb women in hoodies, old jeans, tshirts, stretch pants, etc I don't want to approach either. 😂
Aesop wrote about you thousands of years ago in the story of the fox and the sour grapes
@@beezowdoodoozoppitybopbopb9488 bravo. lmao
There are very few men that will get women without approaching.
I do online, but usually they’re like average wife material but I want a pretty faced girl hehe
@@bekabeka71the difficult part is getting a pretty face girl without mental illness
Gigachad get beautiful women without approaching
@@nikhil8892lol look at this spicy incel believing chad bullshit 😂
men approaching is one of few things women require of the old tradition now. They tend to cherry-pick the meat off of that 1950s carcass, because after that revolution in the 60s where they thought they could be men, that's the last time tradition meant anything........BUT in the absence of societal enforcement and shame, natural instincts take hold, albeit back-handedly and negatively. Whoever has the government in their sails wins the game. Up until the 60s, it was men. Women can only do what they do today because society allows it and the gov't backs it with the courts. Men used to have this advantage. One day, probably not within our lifetimes, we'll get it back and double down on the enforcement of it. Until then, walk away from them until they are ready to follow us again.
You don't have to do anything if she likes you,if not it doesn't matter what you do.
That moment when you happen to make eye contact with her and you two feel an immediate spark. Her eyes get wide with excitement and maybe your heart skips a beat. You see her melt for a split second and immediately composes herself. That’s the best time to approach, when it’s genuine.
That split second when part of her weird female brain thinks u might still be a pirate or a vampire
That’s literally gay af
@@jordancarlin9687 A surgeon, billionaire and there’s one more 🤔
I agree. You can’t understand fully until you experience it. The thing is majority of guys now will never experience that.
I try not to look women in the eye. Trying to be men isn't attractive nor will it garner attention. Take away attention and validation, a woman becomes nothing.
Appreciate all the wisdom LFA!! The big 100K right around the corner, Respect brother!
Im done with the approaching,
I’m working on my personal life,
- work
- hobbies
- homework 🏠
- fitness 5 or 6 times a week
A woman will fit in or stay away, either way I’m not regretting anything.
A funny approach experience I had recently was at the gym. A woman gave me a ton of IOI's prior with multiple held eye contacts, multiple smiles, etc..
When I approached, we had a good chat with flow, and I did the name ask test. This is where you ask for hers, and if she asks for yours in return, it's also an IOI.
Not only does she ask for my name but says, "That's one of my favorite names for a man," with another smile. So I go for the number and she says, "I'm actually married." It reminded me of getting dealt a 20 at blackjack and the dealer drawing out a six card 21. 😂
Asking for the number straight after the name does not work. It sounds like a detective interviewing you and gathering information, what you should have done is built up the attraction first for a few minutes then go for the number you would have better success and your lack of experience is showing
@rl7329 - I agree with you, and that's why I didn't do that. It seems like you didn't actually read my comment. 😆
1) Established many IOI's prior to approach.
2) We chatted with good flow for at least 5-10 min with a bit of flirting/banter.
3) At the end, when I asked for her name, she asked for mine back and also said "That's one of my favorite names for a man" with a huge smile again.
**So after the whole process, that's why I went for her number because of how receptive she'd been the whole time. She definitely wasn't acting married. LOL
You’re not alone in that. Thats just how some women roll. One of three things happened:
A. She wanted you as a possible side guy or plan B in case her marriage doesn’t work out.
B. She’s bored and wanted the emotional stimulation from flirtation and sexual tension. But never intended to allow you to follow through on it. Telling you she’s married hides what her real motive was and gives her a graceful, low-conflict exit.
C. It was a 💩test to see what kind of guy you are. Women often assume that men who have good game are players…and are just interested in sex. So she threw you a curve. If you’re a good guy, you’ll back up at the idea of her being married. If not, you’ll keep moving forward. That way she knows what she’s dealing with.
At any rate, that just part of the game. Not everyone plays fair or plays it with integrity.
@kellygreenii - My guess is "B" with her feeling bored in her marriage and just wanting the attn. But it does make for a good story, at least.
**It's funny, though. I'll never get the appeal of trying to push with a boyfriend or marriage objection. Either she's telling the truth, and you invite bad karma into your life. Or she's a game player that's not genuine. Either way, I avoid it. 💯
@@ryandeffley7652 If youre looking for a relationship and have reasonable character? Yeah, why would you?
But if you’re a dirtbag, only out for yourself, and only looking for sexual access…until you get bored of her? Why not.
It’s why it’s a perfect💩test. You are going to tell on yourself based on how you respond. But she also tells on herself. Because she’s interacting with you in a way no husband would want from his wife….if she actually is married.
I’ve done day game for years. I do it much less now. I’ll do an approach when I’m already out doing other things. Now it’s more like once or twice a month.
There was a time I went out 5-7 days a weeks. I’ve had many scenarios happen like same day lays and other fun experiences.
Now if I do it too much I feel like what a horrible misuse of time.
Cold approaching Vs. A warm a approach is vastly different in reactions.
sound just like me haha
I think we can all agree that it's better to ask than to live in regret of not asking. That isn't to say you'll regret not asking every single girl you walk past on the street. But if you are the type who will, I guess you should!
I try to save my efforts for something like a girl at the grocery store that I've built a little rapport with. I've had a couple rejections that were still very positive experiences. Good-hearted girls will not be tough on your for daring to ask - quite the opposite, in fact. Good-hearted girls are generally taken, so they don't need to make up random excuses either. I've heard of happy families and lifelong marriages that started from the corniest crap.
💯
I respect your opinion but honestly if men do this it will do more harm than good. Imagine being a man and having to wait til your successful or a “girl” looks at you for you to make a move. This shit isn’t the movies. Men out here suffering from dating apps and are too scared to approach women. So your solution is wait til your successful for a woman to leech off you financially rather than “hey man that girl may be into you but she hasn’t seen you yet, talk to her and see what happens”. Sometimes a girl that may be into you doesn’t even know that cause she never seen you before. If you don’t introduce yourself how will you meet if you aren’t in the same vicinity at all times. Approaching women in the same place is stupid don’t do that but still approaching women for a man who wants a gf or wife is not bad. This isn’t the movies you have to put in effort if you want something in life. You’re saying it’s a numbers game. How many men are successful? Or are making a certain amount that will be considered attractive to women? Now what is harder grinding 80 hours per week or approaching a woman you found attractive in the store. lol crazy.
Not sure what that has to do with this video. But ok.
@@LFA you literally said that you should either wait for choosing signals or get money rather than approaching a lot of women in your opinion. If this isn’t what you said please correct me.
From the video the moral of it i gather. Is if you going to approach women do it responsibly. Anyway the idea in PUA of approaching 50 or 10 women a night. Wasn't because that should be the "method" it was for newbies to set a target otherwise they will chicken out and not approach anyone. After that stage approach can be more regulated and nuance. Especially as you learn more skills on how to approach and also u learn who is interested or not. Who is giving you choosing signals or not. Though this video says you will automatcially know she is interested. This isn't true. Its more varied than that is my opinion and needs to be learnt to some extent. I remember one comment from youtube. A guy said at a party the girl that never looks your way is actually the girl that is intersted in you. I never confirmed something like this. But I think its true to a degree.
@@2DarkHorizon I agree with your point. But this guy didn’t say do it responsibly he literally said wait for choosing signals. I agree with some of his videos but not this one although I respect differences of opinion. I think this video will harm more men than it will do good honestly.
If you think men are hurting themselves or are missing out by not cold approaching women that don’t even look their way then idk what to tell you I’ve learned once I started working on my purpose and my goals and stopped hanging out with fake friends I’ve gotten a lot more attention from
Women then worrying about it or making up strategies to approach we as man should have much bigger problems we want to solve then attracting the modern woman 😂
I’ve been cold approaching girls at my gym here in the UK .. the interactions have mostly been positive and I’ve got a few numbers which I have yet to convert .. just go say hello, comment on something they are doing/wearing etc and you’ve easily opened but escalation & conversion are a different matter .. practice your social game guys
Getting numbers is easy part... tends to go downhill once texting bs starts
That type of approach you do doesn't lead anywhere....it's just friendly banter, nothing more. If you want to escalate and close, you need to be direct. Check out Alan Roger Currie and his 'Mode One' stuff, plus David X. I'm in the UK and been using it since 2007.....no more 'friendly banter' with girls, just totally honest, balls out direct approaches.
Should I approach an angry dog?
Only with biscuit.
It’s 90% about looks, that’s the ugly truth…
Quickest most accurate answer to the title: Not unless you’re a Chad or Chad-lite. I suppose if you’re an upper tier normie it wouldn’t hurt if you don’t mind being friend zoned at a literal 99% frequency. If you’re just a normie or sub 5, absolutely not unless being maced and have the cops called on you sounds like a fun time.
Ive did a cold approach from a girl at work and got rejected at the end. Im going through counseling at the moment trying to get over it that i cant let go im mildly autistic.
W LFA. W brick wall. W starting the video with the word “greetings.” W dominance hierarchies.
My mate had a cold approach success rate of 1/1000 but after a few years of consistency he met his wife, married 2 kids later etc. so it does work
1/1000 is only because he didn't learn the right way, the ugliest guys should do better than that
My goal is 3K before giving up completely.
@@Sagefrakrobatik learning the right way is most important, just like business and making money. You can either most likely fail alone or find people who have exactly what you want and done the work. Ideally stay away from young 20 something's and find someone older who's don't at least 50,000 approaches during the day minimum
I always lolz at these types of questions. Its kinda like asking: "should the untrained and unskilled average joe get on the ring or the octagon with Mike Tyson or Jon Jones?" Sure. Go ahead, make a fool of yourself and give everyone around a good laugh.
Good take as usual. What I've noticed is I just can't respect someone who does not respect time. Just because you can, it doesn't mean you should. It starts at a young age too, where people don't understand the potential they have. The character they can build. The habits they can overcome before they become habitual. Thats tragic. Knowing what you want starts with not by knowing what you don't want, but knowing what you're willing to fight for. This generation seems stuck on the idea of novelty & is bored with sustenance. The best things you're gonna learn in your life isn't when you're happy nor chasing, but when you've learned what it is that you really want. Thats why I cannot respect males who approach every single female they come across as a way to "overcome". I can understand the "why." However, it doesn't help them "overcome" anything, but reinforces the fact that not everyone is gonna like them. I don't know if some will like that once they're on the other side. It kinda remind me of females who dress provocative cause they think males will want them.
Keep up the good work!
@@InjectBleach Clearly you’re slow. This is a shared account with my sister but ok. Feel free to ignore if you have trouble reading.
Female here! Toni. Age 73, never married, no children.
I just learned I'm a sigma female. That's been "my problem" my whole lifetime😅!
My high school - 3000 students. We had dances regularly. All the guys lined up on one wall, girls on the other. Only a few guys would go ask girls to dance. They would dance with 20 girls! They were fun & enjoyable guys, & I
always danced the night away!!! The other guys just stay along the wall...
Same thing during my adulthood. Bars that had dances - same thing.
Only OLD GUYS - asked me to dance!!! And, I would dance the night away!!!
I'm not a HOT beauty - but I'm happy, pleasant, fun- loving, outgoing & good-looking!!! Everywhere - I'm doing my business alone. Guys of all ages give me the "puppy-dog" look. Especially, older men doing their grocery shopping!
They want to start up something with me - BUT THEY DON'T. They have no social skills & no balls.
I REFUSE to do their "man work" for them!!!
I've said to myself - since junior high school, "IF A GUY DOESN'T HAVE ENOUGH BALLS TO COME OVER HERE TO ASK ME FOR A SIMPLE DANCE OR JUST BE FRIENDLY & SAY SOMETHING TO START A LITTLE CONTACT" - forget it!!! I could & can start contact & conversation with anybody. My Dad taught me that.
But I REFUSE to do it -
in "The Game Of Love"!!!!!
I want a guy "STRONGER" than me. As a sigma, I'm strong & very confident in many ways, lifetime, even as a kid. My parents taught me so many skills, & I've added a bunch more along the way.
Everything takes practice. And, I never look at - what you guys call "rejection", as rejection. To me - people have the right to make their own choices, for their own reasons. People are deep. We will not understand why. Does it hurt? YEEEES!!!! Go home, repair & move on.
Nike! JUST DO IT!
Wow 73
People at your time and even nowadays usually meet partners organically on social circles not approaching random strangers. I would love that it works but doesn't seem the case since most of womem looks to be not that receptive to talk to random men.
Bus stop girls. Cold approach heaven
The honest answer is no. Lol. Guys should not bother cold approaching strangers. Best thing to do is get involved with your community in extra curricular activities that you like such as book clubs, cooking classes, church or martial arts or even art/music. Meet people through there and work on establishing friendships first. Be confident and let them fall in love with you from there.
Do not just randomly bother the poor girl shopping at Target. I can’t believe anyone thought that was a good idea.
Men out of college and school years usually have hard-time to meet people organically, and even if the dude has a big social circle he will became holded to only that women who know him and might be taken or not being attractive enough, etc... Cold-approach give you more options but the downhill is that only works really well with very conventionally attractive men.
Guys, just work on yourself, get stronger & more confident in your own skin. Learn to be in solitude/content in your own company and boom- as you finally don't need approval of others to be happy, women gravitate to you.
Works the other way as well, been there done that.
How? I have been alone all my life, I’m comfortable in my own skin and have 0 results, I am in the gym and have more muscle and I cannot attract anyone. I’m close to self deletion because this is driving me insane. I need sex and women to be happy. I am alone and deprived of attention from women. How do you expect me to not blow my brains out? I’m dead inside working a career I hate. There’s nothing left to live for.
@@dandaman9009Unfortunately, from your words i can see some "needy" behavior. Your self improvement its only for yourself not to get laid. If you need some chicks attention, maybe cold approach its good option for you
@@dandaman9009 You're not in solitude with yourself, you suffer. That's the difference.
I miss s*x and touching too, but my peace is far more valuable than a mediocre relationship for just that.
I hope you'll someday find a woman who makes you forget the pain of today.
Cold approach is very efficient and you have little competition as not many guys do it. However I would not go out of your way to do it, it’s best to do it whilst already out living your life
So you think you’re the only one approaching them? You don’t think they get approached by a dozen men per day.?
@@LFA Most of the women I’ve approached were flattered and surprised. They don’t usually get approached and wished it happened more. They do however get lots of online attention
@@LFAAt the party yes, Daytime HELL NO!
Lol this is like saying 3 point shooting is an efficient way to score in basketball but I wouldn't go out of my way to practice in thw gym, just learn to do it during a game especially when your forced to make the game winning shot. Terrible advice.
@@TheCasanovaPugilist147 I mean don’t leave the house with an intent to pickup a girl. If you leave the house for groceries, a walk, or whatever, and if a pretty girl crosses your path, you approach, that simple
man you naild it thanks a lot & after my exams i’ll be coming in on the live stream again ❤
LFA the GOAT. love your work mate
11:00 absolutely not true! You can be her biggest crush and she acts like completely not interested…
Rarely!
I've met more women from facebook dating in the past few months than I ever have cold approaching, I never thought it would work but it does. PoF doesnt work, tinder doesnt work, for some reason facebook dating works.
PoF was lit back in the 2010’s… the apps changed a bunch it sucks now since post 2020
Is FB dating really good to find women ?
@@Andrew_406 facts POF WAS THE SHIT !!!!! ......BUT YEA fb dating where it's at now.... Maybe tinder no luck on hinge
For me it is@@desertraider8628
For 40+ divorced with 3 kid obese whales it's perfect@@desertraider8628
I heard random dude and fire. Sir you have my attention...
get pepper sprayed for being a 6/10 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol no man got pepper sprayed while approaching women
My approach is peace quiet and freedom going away on my own going for a quiet walk just looking at a nice 🌲 tree , flower 🌸, or sitting by a lake just me and God.
@LFA hey thanks for your content I really enjoy listening to you and the insights are real world stuff
But on this one could you be much more specific? I think you have to share more detail or this video isn’t useful. In what cases are you saying it’s ok and where is the line? I don’t do dating apps, I’ve met my last two girlfriends cold approaching and had a lot of other unbelievable life memories because of it. My life would not be as great at all if I wasn’t doing it. Maybe I’m low value. But if I see an attractive girl and can talk to her I will do it. I’d be nowhere without doing that, girls don’t come up to me and I’m not sure how I’d have had any dates otherwise. I think you’re right about a lot of other stuff but I’m not getting this all the way. Btw how did you get with hundreds of girls if you don’t cold approach? Apps are the exact same as cold approach but it’s so lame
I’ve already finished the video. Of course, there were a lot of details left out as there always are. However, maybe in the future video, some of those details will be revealed.
Cheers sounds good 👍
No. Do not cold approach. Total waste of time, confidence and sanity. If you are average or below average, you will approach 1000 women and maybe get one date. It’s an utter black hole. The only quality version of talking to a new woman is when she gives you choosing signals. If you don’t receive those from her first, just keep walking
Cringing at the memory of myself doing exactly that, setting a "goal number" of girls to approach and just went with it. With no result of course other than making the girls feeling on a spectrum from uncomfortable to annoyed to terrified..
Exactly. Occasionally, a cold approach will work, but not very often. Woman are often hesitant to connect with guys they don't know anything about.
I haven't approached a vvoman since 2012. I only do online.
In this day and age, they do the approaching and prolly might dump their boyfriends if you have a lot to offer. Don't bring your gf to the gym 😂
I only cold approach in the winter
Something as simple as a genuine smile from a girl is such a rarity nowadays... If I see that i'll approach ! Is that so much to ask for nowadays ?
I don’t think I would even consider that to be a cold approach. That sounds more like accepting an invitation.
My opinion the conditions vary so much that u need to trust your instinct too sometimes then waiting on a strong signal. I had a girl that I randomly made eye contact with and saw she was already looking at me and she turned her eyes away. this was on a busy street I decided to talk to her it went well, though she had a friend with her and i didn't win her over, so nothing materalised. Btw I rarely approach. @@LFA
Cold approach is always creepy unless you're a Chad or Tyrone....
Cold approach is a very good way to cheat and circumvent the competition on the dating apps. It is the best way to "boost" yourself 1000x and be seen. A real life cold approach definitely makes you stand out in the woman's mind for better or for worse. Unless you are built like LFA, you should consider cold approach.
More than half would video the interaction and mock you on SM
lmao
Gigachad get beautiful women without approaching
Tell them them jeans sitting right on that tail!!! Put another one on the Barby!
Unfortunately, I'm too short and ugly to cold approach women.
I really hate myself
This might be weird but I like women approaching me. It’s only happened twice but both turned into good relationships that ended mutually. That girl boss shit turns me on. Not be dominated or anything like that I guess it’s just nice to have a woman with confidence that can handle her own shit
I think the only time I cold approached in my life is when I was my freshman year of college. Then I started to work out as a 19 year old, observed how my attractive friends were flirting and the rest is kind of history.
The only thing that slowed me down was listening to all these dating coaches and red pill content creators. I started to convince myself woman did not like me and the worse case scenario would happen. The good thing is that conditioning is starting to wear off and now I pay attention to how my parents are still happily married 25+ years later and steal what my dad used to get here.
I will have to come on this stream sometime. I have been watching since 2018.
Absolutely not
Perfect 👌😊
Yo!
I've been considering the idea of initiating conversations with women, not necessarily with the intention of asking them out, but more as a way to build my confidence through experiencing rejection. It's sort of a social experiment.
Yes
I'd start with a sincere compliment and see if anything pans out from that. If not, at least you're spreading positivity.
Don't just consider it, go & do it. You'll be delighted you started. I did many many years ago & the experiment works, plus my phone is full of womens numbers.
Don't just do it to be build confidence (which you will) do it to learn. See how they react and respond. Women lie with their physicality, make up and so on. Men often lie with their words. Your words are so much powerful to a woman.
I am below average height man. I dont do things like approaching 50 per day because that’s pathetic and waste of time and most importantly you are not genuine. However I still cold approach whenever I find a woman that catches my attention. But I do it without expectations. I get rejected five times already but yesterday I got one girls number and had a nice date with her today. She is quite young for my age so I doubt it will turn into something lasting but nevertheless I see the point of cold approach. It is about the act of being proactive for your own happiness. So guys, just do it but don’t do it for the sake of doing it. Be authentic dont try to be alpha shit but just do it. Let yourself be shy if you are and of course you could look like a retard but with more failures you will learn that you got nothing to lose and will be more comfortable with your own skin. That itself is a good thing and dates are byproducts. If you want something in life, ask for it. It’s as simple as that.
Its easy to criticise guys doing CA to bring their options from zero when youve had an abundance of women from an early age. Should we just write off all the guys who werent so fortunate?
So then, I wonder, what are guys’ take on women approaching them?? I haven’t done it but at this point I feel like I’m gonna have to, since I don’t seem to attract guys that engage my curiosity very often…
Do it. It builds confidence and gets your addrenleine going
The rapture is coming
Yea cold approach is dead. I tried and I’m burnt out lol
Great advice, LFA.
You can never win lol, mgtow all the way
Men should approach women more appropriately. Unfortunately, in today's society, it has become .......no comment.
Do you mean like a church or mosque?
I know men in there 70's who are married and are still cold approaching young women in the workplace.
Creeps
Good video. The conclusion after a lot of analyzing different strategies and behaviors of people. Really insightful.
From my point of view if you are single, one should do a few cold indirect approaches a week, so that you have less approach anxiety when it counts. That could also mean to move to a big city.
babe I had a quota that day.... and it was getting real rough round about numbers 46, and 47 ... but then there you were... in all your glory... I knew...
lol
i didnt think you read these ha@@LFA
"Hi-yah... so what-what do you guys want to eat?"
I agree with most of your videos. This might be, however, be an exception. There's no need to disclose how many women you've approached before getting to "the one." She should already have the notion that it is expected for a guy to get rejected a few (if not many) times beforehand. It is simply a number's game for us.
What are you disagreeing with?
12:41
If i were cold approaching numerous women, I would make sure to have standards, and not just approach anything that moves. And if I was being completely honest from that question, I would tell her "because you caught my eye, and wanted to get to know you," or something geard towards that.
The fact that I actually got a date out of a cold approach would be quite a win imo. So I wouldn't degrade myself by telling her how many times I got rejected prior., since that's to be expected anyways.
I haven't watched the video yet but I think the cold approach is really difficult today. I live in a major urban area where everyone is looking at their phones and it makes you seem crazy if you talk with a stranger and ask for their contact info (even if you just ask for social media info). Unfortunately, it's too much too fast. Women will sense you want something from them and I think most will be hesitant. Unfortunately, there are unhinged people "out there" although they are not the majority. With that said, does it work for a few? Yes. But very few. In major cities, I think most women would view a cold approach as an invasion of privacy.
This is just cope because you need an excuse to be afraid and not go after what you want in life. 100% wrong. Cold approach is easier now than it's ever been, because almost no men do it. Cold approach is how you set yourself apart from every other guy in her world. Instead of being 100,000 men in her city on a dating app, you're now the ONLY GUY who had the balls to actually go and talk to her and go after what you want in real life. Cold approach is like a super power where the average guy can get an unlimited amount of dates consistently, week after week, year after year.
Uh...I'm a woman (not a guy) and I've been cold approached. It's not comfortable.@@TC-yx1qt
I'm not a guy. I'm a woman and I've had this happen to me. It's not pleasant.@@TC-yx1qt
Anyone man or woman who asks what did you like about me? I already can’t stand them they’re insecure. They have no self-esteem move on. Worst question ever. You shouldn’t have to ask someone you’re dating what they like about you because they should be telling you every day what they like about you.
some old mummy who can´t put down the cookies talking about others self-esteem is wild
Does cold-approach even works on you?
If there were more social functions this may be a good question, men are too intimated to approach you plus it’s usually the wrong type meaning not your type. But there are no social functions for this to even happen. Yes I’ve been pursued my whole life and you can approach a women if you have the chance to do so. But also follow through with your approach.
@@bellavita3097 i use to approach women at gym but from about 40 i could only go to dates with 2.
He said gang member .and ten baby's mothers. He is for sure talking about a black dude all man lol 😅😅😅😅
Lmao didn’t really mean it that way but I see what you’re sayin.
@LFA all good i watch your videos all the time. Great content makes alot of sense.
Wise tip; Only cold approach woman in church. Delay sex and get to know HER. Build a relationship and use Jesus as your guide. The Devil is taking over our society.
That same day Jesus went out of the house and sat by the lake. 2 Such large crowds gathered around him that he got into a boat and sat in it, while all the people stood on the shore. 3 Then he told them many things in parables, saying: “A farmer went out to sow his seed. 4 As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. 5 Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. 6 But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. 7 Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. 8 Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop-a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown. 9 Whoever has ears, let them hear.”
Start with the end in mind (heaven)
God bless!
Maybe approaching random women is a good practice if a man isnt that confident. But i don't think that our confidence should be driven by external things. That is low quality of a man, who is trying to convince himself something.
They would have to leave their childhood bedroom first. Ain't gonna happen.
Don't do this anywhere near your hometown. This guy is knowledgeable and charasmatic. Handsome guy too. Looks like a mix of a couple of Hollywood stars.
Cold approach? Nah, women who want you to approach usually give you an opening, or look/smile. I’m not trying to put in all that effort 😅
11:30 you can tell if shes interested in you by the way that she is looking at you
-he describes it well
-seems to be contradicting other advice here that hes given in other videos. The cold approach she be apart of the play book
But even if women are interested in you 99/100 times they won’t approach you or let you know in any way
You can just tell!
@@LFAoh so if you approach after getting choosing signals then that’s not considered cold approach?
Nope
@@LFA yeah get lots of looks at the gym but it’s tough especially since everyone is wearing headphones so it’s kind of an awkward
Place to approach
@@LFAnot really. If I had waited for Choosing Signals I wouldn't have met most of the women I did.
The answer to that question is an emphatic NO. Most women I meet I deem unworthy of my attention.
I get women cold approach me or strike up a convo with me it goes both ways
Absolutely. Only way. Best relationships come from cold approaches. Dating 🕸 are bs.
Absolutly perfect. In truth, I think it's ridiculous cold approach. I already did it my self, but I came to the conclusion that it's simple ridiculous.
If a lady approaches a dude and she's asked why she came up to him but answers "idk" that's a red flag. She can suddenly lose interest/attraction for you and officially get on a relationship with some random dude within a day or week.
I wanna see you do a video while you saw firewood
maybe next fall
When I go out I never go out with the idea of meeting women , and yet they keep following me . If u go into a room with 10 women are 10 looking for mr it .
It's really not that complicated to talk to women. Just have a normal conversation and get to know her. If you want to see her again, nad she doesn't give you her phone number at the end, just move on.
What if you do day game , but only do warm approach?
Legend Friend Affirmation.
Guys should cold approach more women. Abroad.
Talk about retention.
Is retaining just for porn addicts? or is it a way of life? 🤔
The ironic thing about cold approach...it is for men that already have options. They're just shopping in person rather than being on tinder. They get tinder matches but just choose to go out in the wild.
You're wrong. Cold approach is the biggest life hack for the average man who doesn't get as many dates or from the quality of women they really want off of dating apps. Even an average man who gets nothing online can go out there and get 2 or more dates every week, consistently. It's like a superpower once you learn it.
@@TC-yx1qtaverage dudes who cold-approaching will get with this a looks-matche at the very best.
@@masterwerneck You'll almost always be able to get girls 1-2-3+ points above your SMV level by cold approach vs dating apps etc. Plus if you're an average guy, 10x-100x more dates
@@TC-yx1qt theres a korean dude who made a video of himself approaching 100 girls on a mall in Las Vegas. Name of the vídeo is something like "shy asian dude approachs 100 girls"; The dude has great game despite of video clickbait, is not horrendous and out of 100 girls got only 15 contacts which of those only about 5 seemed to be from very "yes girls". I would doubt that your game and looks are greater than his, so what's the point of defending a system that barely works?
@@masterwerneck Most girls are "maybe girls", your problem is your mindset and strategy because you should also be turning a lot of those "maybe" girls into "yes" girls as well.
I've seen that video, his strategy is garbage, he makes the biggest mistake that 99% of all dating coaches make, and why most of the numbers don't lead to dates.
Exactly what I'm saying, you watch guys that do almost everything wrong, then wonder why you keep failing.
Best move to make. Move out of parents house love by yourself in the city, quit habits that keep you indoors (weed, booze, fapping). Go out to singles nights, speed date, salsa, events that are organic and where can meet ppl for long term. Eventually u will find one.
How are you moving out which what money?
@@Big_talks. Aim to make 60-100k a year. Then save 8-10k and you should be fine to rent. If you want to buy then save for a down payment.
@@saadk8905 yeah I’m trying I’ve just gotten a cdl and going back to college but if you work dead end jobs it’s a no
@@Big_talks. You just need to take a risk
@@saadk8905 what risk do you think?
def had that feeling many times 16:20 guess you cant try all the flavors at baskin robins ... you gotta pick one and leave the store..
Good stuff yet again dude and I csn vouch for a lot of what you say as I am of a similar age to you. I do feel that in this day and age though, as red pilled as it might sound an established older guy should then go for a girl in her early twenties for dating.
For marriage again due to the way most modern women think and are, he should aim for a woman in the same age bracket of between 21 to 23 who is virgin and traditional. He is more likely to get this abroad unless maybe he finds an Amish girl 😂
You are perhaps the most socially intelligent person I’ve ever encountered, either in person or online.
64 degrees? I had less in my room in my flat here in Poland lol
fortunately now is warmer and I have about 65 in my room lol
What ever happened with just going with the flow, the good old days.
“He’s got ten baby’s mothers or whatever “ lmao
No matter if you make a move “cold” or warm and welcomed you’re still gonna need some sort of social Game.. this is where the pua’s get a bad rap cuz they teach social interaction dynamics… and yes the more u talk to the more comfortable you will become.. just like anything, practice
I’ve always thought the best social game was none what so ever. Just talk to people the same way you’d talk to your own brother or sister. It will work wonders.
True and that really is best, but there’s a lot of guyz, young and old prolly what we use to call in high school (nerds) lol but they have to be taught how to communicate..
The so called Manosphere is so funny, just grow a beard and fake lots of ego and talk on UA-cam, ridiculous. I have had relationships in 4 countries, lived in 3 countries, worked many years in a so called man‘s man role, the military blah blah. I have ten years on this guy of life experience and let me tell you young guys, be careful who you listen to on YT. Follow what you love to do, find a passion in your life, travel; Garantie you the women will follow effortlessly 10:15 .
Every man has value, there are no high and low value men, just men in various stages of life. Just be a good man whatever you do, and live your life understanding that one day we All will drop dead. No wealth or so called Value will go with you beyond the grave.
I cant tell if you're agreeing with me or disagreeing.
@@LFA It seems rather obvious that he does *NOT* agree with you in any way whatsoever.
What's not clear? The very first phrase tells it all:
_"The so called Manosphere is so funny, just grow a beard and fake lots of ego and talk on UA-cam, ridiculous."_
I feel like guys like this dude are an archetype they all have their hair the same way dress the same way speak the same way, my boss at work is a print copy of him, really freaked me out when I saw him in the thumbnail I thought it was him, don’t need him popping to me in UA-cam too I have had enough of him
Lol
OMG! Good job Wheat Waffles. Keep preaching your BS.
I’m not sure what that has to do with this video but OK