A Massive Advantage Shy Guys Don't Know They Have (WOMEN LOVE IT)
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I was once called mysterious, so I spilled my guts. She never called again.
lol happens like that every time
Had that same thing happen to me . Pretty much almost immediately after I did I realized the mistake I made and just felt the way attraction was being lost . It will happen to anyone . I am 6'1 , jacked , did martial arts and handsome , always being complimented by basically everyone for my looks/body but none of that matters . I have been described as fatherly , as a "blessing" and "the best she could ever have" but ... once you make that mistake of expressing too much its over and I had to learn that the hard way
Its insane how quickly they can choose and un-choose a guy.
The same happened to me! She instantly lost respect! Stay stoic and reserve.
@@justsomelochnessmonsterwit7247 Damn.
Yeah, man. I had an interesting experience with a girl who showed interest in me. We were sitting at a table, and she was talking non-stop while I listened. As she yapped on, she mentioned a problem she was facing. Wanting to be helpful, I started giving her detailed, step-by-step advice on how to solve her problem.
As I spoke, genuinely trying to help her, I noticed her attraction to me starting to fading. I could literally see her losing interest in real-time because I cared enough about her to offer her advice. She stopped talking completely and all her enthusiasm was GONE!
Seeing this, I quickly ended the conversation, politely bid her farewell (so she wouldn't make up some story about me), stood up, and left. That taught me a valuable lesson: DO NOT invest concern in a woman's well-being you've just met them.
They take that kindness to mean you're a low value human being. LESSON LEARNED!
Yep. Ive never had a way with words, but the women always found a way to continue the dialogue. This is why ive never subscribed to the idea that "alpha males are supposed to chase women"... when a women pursues a man, she'll do everything and anything. You wont need to convince her
Facts!
Yeah but like Rom Will's says you still have to talk to them. But I'm betting this comment will be ignored.
@jessebradford7130 obviously. What positive interaction in life happens by not speaking?
Men of culture we meet again
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I don't know if you're using this correctly... Maybe that is how you intend it?
Shy chad = mysterious ; normie shy = creepy. Mystery solved!
😂😂😂😂
The fantasy is better than the reality
Quiet or shy guys, who are on self improvement, are the most dangerous people out there. The quiet a person is, the deeper they are. We in Germany have a quote of this: „Still waters are deep and dangerous.“.
...another one from Denmark: "Big Dog Don't Need to Bark" :)
Yeah, and a lot of shy guys just got too many problems they haven't figured out yet and don't want to get ridiculed for it.
we in Bulgaria have the same idiom "The still waters are the deepest"
From Lithuania "A silent pig snout digs a deep root".
What about rough waters ? They are also deep and dangerous so the quote is complete bs
This is facts. I'm shy with ZERO rizz lol and most of the women I've attracted in my life have been reserved bookwormy-type girls. Honestly, I'm perfectly okay with it. The older I get, the less interest I have in "baddies"
By older you get, I'm assuming you turned twenty-two within the last four months.
@@edwardmorris3453 31. I use the term "rizz" semi-jokingly
Dude, you had some of the best natural lighting on this vid. It looks amazing with the red brick in the background.
I think he adds a low lit yellow ring light just to illuminate himself. Or some nice exposure settings. Not knocking. It’s just my thought. I think myself and many other men without parental father advice especially could learn some stuff here.
Agreed
He is omni-luminal.
Fuck the lighting. It’s about the message. Frankly I don’t even want to see this man’s face but great message
Impeccable
Im a shy guy myself but I always look for the shy girls. Gotta go after girls like yourself
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Shy girls are the ones who mostly ghost
@@AshTheDukeright 💯
im a shy guy but i look for a girl with big boobs
@@AshTheDuke I. Can't bare loud extroverted girls they do my head in though and they make me insecure coz I'm thinking that they're thinking this guys a lame and weird he can't make conversation and hes awkward. I feel more confident with shy girls
Dude this video couldn’t have come at a better time. LFA for the win💪🏻😎
The girls I want, don't want me, and I don't want the girls, who want me. It's quite difficult.
Its human nature 😅
Simple answer: treat the girls you WANT the same as the one's that DON'T WANT you. It's a good practice to get into. Remember you have nothing TO PROVE to them, which is a FEMININE trait, stay in your center your MASCULINE frame. The one's you who you like will be drawn to you. Because your not chasing them just meeting for a drink, etc. If they don't like you then who cares? On to the next, remember there's another bus leaving in 15 minutes... 😄👍
Go to therapy, there may be a malicious thought in your subconscious holding you back
The girls you want know you want them, that’s why they don’t want you. The girls you don’t want know you don’t want them, that’s why they want you. Stop putting the pretty ones on the pedestal and treat them all the same… the way you treat the ones you don’t want. You don’t realize you’ve already figured it out, all you have to do is calibrate your behaviour. Good luck brother!
Then you have to be that guy the girls you want WANT ........GYM , APPEARANCE, WHITE TEETH , A BIT OF DRESSING won't hurt don't go buy name brand just dress nice.
Asian women are really easy to talk to, I've found that they don't really require much conversation to get things going and they'll straight up tell you yes or no.
True you can get married in less than 2 weeks. I did and
she’s young and hot. The more you respect or don’t shy away from their poor family the better though. You have be able to hang in 3rd world conditions
As an Asian man, I'll tell you the reason why. It's the same like anywhere else. It's because she's already interested in you. If she's not interested in you, you will always have to carry the conversation.
@@DionLYA They aren't tainted by woke western feminist women, but that can happen to Asian women when they come to Australia where I live, and they make friends with other women. So I don't go for those types, I like the more traditional working class asian women.
@@_Only_Zuul The thing that I noticed is that a lot of Asian women that move to the west after they are adults are hard to sway. They have a solid foundation so a lot of tiems the feminist movement really doesnt click with them. They also tend to despise and avoid the type of woke western women that you are talking about.
Though I didn't actually talk to her, I had an encouraging experience with a Japanese girl during my junior year of high school: it was a Friday night, and there was a post-football game dance at school. She was standing by herself, and I thought, "screw it, I'm gonna ask her to dance!" I did; to my surprise, she accepted. Won't listen to "Turn The Beat Around" by Vicky Sue Robinson the same way again after that. My deepest regret is not actively pursuing her: it wasn't a concern about our peer's opinions of us, but rather her parents likely not approving of a 'gaijin' scoping out their daughters (her sister was a freshman at the same school.) Plus, I didn't have my license yet. And she was on the Volleyball team, and likely an A-/B+ student. I was an outsider to the 'sport-os', and socially anxious. Ah, what might've been. 😢
great video LFA, think it's important for guys to understand that each one of us is made different & have there own advantages. Instead of playing by the standard rulebook of being the extroverted loud type at the clubs or bar for example, these types don't thrive to where the reserved & intelligent type would thrive like a bookstore or coffee shop for example. Find your niche & work with your strengths & you will come to find that you attract the right type of people for you.
Shy Guys are the Real Alphas 🐺
Meeks holding it down for the shy guy crew
I hope you’re not using alphas unironically💀
Nope
Hell yeah
Never get up,huh? 😆
Made some good points there my bro as always! I think females go off vibes she will either like a man or not, however some are 50-50. Just my experience it all depends on the woman the man the mood the vibes ect. Thank you for you videos bud. At 40 I'm not having much luck like I did 20 years ago but I've been there done that so at the stage where I just don't give a sh!t anymore. Just goin with the flow my brothers. Wishing you all the best.
What you described after 5:00 min is actually very normal behavior. It's not necessarily shy just slow. I don't hit on girls I don't know and I'm not desperate for sex. I do get approached but I'll find a respectful and nice way to tell her I'm no interested if I don't have serious feelings for her. There used to be a time when sex was a very special thing that you only did with the one person you truly loved and cared about. Now it's normalized and taken for granted by a lot of people but sex is a very powerful bond between two people so if you're dating and have multiple relationships you'll be thinking about what it really meant to the other person and how it compares to the others they've been with. There's no escape, it will haunt you more than anything else.
those are all great advise but at 52 I have not been on a date for the past 7 years, the videos guess don't take into account how women have changed over the last 20-30 years. When I was 45 they hired an internship 25y old women, all the men at my job went nuts even if she was not that hot. What they did not know is she was bipolar and bisexual, and more attracted by women than man,. that women almost made me lose my job when she though I had an eye on here which I did not.
The reality is that in today world any women who cries wolf will get a free pass even if she is lying. Last year I rejected a 62 year old hag at my job who at her age since she trains, goes to the tanning salon invest in her looks (lol) asked me out for drinks. She could not take the rejection and went to the boss with false accusations. A good thing I know my boss and he told her off.
If there is one advise I can give young men today is be very careful when dealing with women, even the below average ones, because today all women act like they are special and prize to be won even if they look like trash cans have 3 kids they will still dream of the 6 feet 6 pack model looking guy until reality sets in.
Consider that 99% of all relations don't last main reason why lots of men went there own way, there is no better reward than being free
True. We can't pretend like all women have the same personality.
Indeed. I'd like to think not all of the 'hotties' are cold, aloof narcissists (gonna avoid using the b-word here, for obvious reasons), and that the sub -5s going to be humble, receptive, gracious, or desperate for male company. Personally, I Wouldn't date Lizzo or Kate Moss. Just my 0.05 cents.
"Type A" people are annoying
LFA just summed up my whole life. I am a buff dude at 5ft 11 and all I run into are the nerdy girls because I do not like going to nightclubs to 2 in the morning. The problem is those nerdy girls are so shy around me. Do you got any tips to make them more relaxed? When I was leaner around the 170s' these problems did not exist.
I'd say don't say anything..... Unless she obviously is staring you down( Games come with that ).... If they pay you no mind ....they aren't interested.....
@@dissinlol Yah I agree with this. There is a huge difference between nervousness and not interested. Oh I have seen my fair share of woman that pretend I don't exist, but the shy ones are tricky. They keep glancing over at you and blushing but the guy has to lead the whole conversation.
My father always said with woman talk less butt have strong words
Her beauty cannot move you, so she is curious and trying to figure out who you are.
A guy who’s been burned a lot sometimes by pretty women
Informative and common sense keep those vids coming...
What LFA didn't say is some girls liking your shyness only works if you're an 8 or higher.
Little rant: While I wouldn’t exactly call myself shy, it feels like I’m going through peaks and valleys when it comes to being comfortable going up and talking to women. I wasn’t afraid to talk to women in my teens, but now at 24 I either steer clear or make calculated attempts of going up and talking to someone because of the current dating landscape and climate/ risks and because idk how many more times I can take getting rejected before I just say “F it” and take myself out of the game altogether. I appreciate what you do LFA because vids like this give me hope. I go back and forth on how to feel about my chances still being so young but not having success this far into my life. We’ll see how it all shakes out. Again, thank you for the content and musings, brother! I learn a lot from what you share!✊🏼
I get what you're saying. I'm the same way. I'm extroverted to a degree, but only when it's useful. I'm into guys like that as well.
The reason why extroverted,/not shy(shameless) guys are a no go because they overshare. They say inappropriate things at the worst times. Embarrass you. Flex too much. The flow of information is so important. I cannot emphasize that enough. It can be weaponized against you. Especially, in a familial dynamic.
I'm the same way with women as well. There are some women I've worked with for years who knew absolutely nothing about me. However, I knew their whole life story. Some people need to learn the art of moving in private. They're addicted to being seen. There's a certain type of negative energy that comes from that I just don't like. People start whispering things in your ear & trying mess with your mind.
Are you single?
@@SeanRussell-r1z No, I’m not. I do hope you find someone though.
I think there is a balance. As an introvert you still need to make a move and talk to the girl. You can’t be all aloof and “mysterious”. You have to Let her know you exist and have to get her attention. Where it goes from there is where it goes from there, but 99% of the time you HAVE TO make the first move.
I said it is a gift, no matter where you at, there will always be a girl that genuine like you for who you are than that PUA PLAYER. Dam, how strupid am i.
Totally random question my man. Where did you get that shirt? Looks super comfy and has a nice fit, it's exactly the type of shirt I would wear.
Alot of people confuse shyness with a person who is more on the quiet side and observant to his surroundings. The best players I have met were just like that. Quiet and serious but if you are him to her she will do anything to get with you..
Excellent video! We are evolving. The player is not the ideal archetype. You want to be the goal chaser who keeps pushing forward and the woman who is able to keep up is the winner. Meaning we don’t choose our partner, we observe and determine who will best compliment our mission.
well said LFA, aloofness goes a long way
A lot of dudes in this comment section love this video and hide behind this “shy personality” because they suck going up to women or conversing with them. This shy/mysterious thing will only work if you’re good looking. If not you’re just another quiet weirdo.
If you got the rizz and the physical with being reserved and shy, perfect combination there. Nothing will ever beat sigma males.
My goal is peace and quiet.
Thanks for your voice man. I appreciate what you’re putting out there. For sure. I was married 20 years. I’m newly divorced in my 40’s, in good shape in a great financial place, and getting to know myself again. It’s nice seeing you coming across my feed. Cheers Bro 🍻
I'm extremely shy and some women do approach me and ask me out for drinks, I just say no
Shy *good looking guys
You nailed it Brother. It's great you speak on the nuance of this sort of topic. That was such a good video, exactly what I needed to hear. Well spoken
That's great hookup culture with "alphas" and baddies is superficial, if you want a relationship go for the deep connection with a girl with values and brains
Yeah it also shows self control and emotional stability. Often the loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room.
Always keep some mystery about yourself around women talk when you have something to say and never show your hand so to speak
I can just imagine your neighbour looking at you talking to the camera and they hearing nothing and just thinking " who does he talk to sitting for hours there ?" 😂
They probably just assume I'm making a new video.
From many of the different alpha dating coaches on youtube, i actually like your vids the best. You don't BS, and you actually provide advice that aligns with everyones day to day lifestyle of any type, and you don't insult others. Keep up the good work.
A lot of women are into silent type guys
Only if they are good-looking and RICH.
If they are attractive
The women are at the tennis court playing pickle ball baby!!!!
be careful, shy girls are wild when get drunk and may act completely nuts
It depends on the people im with. If the person is an a$$ hole. I dont want nothing to do with them. And. He/she will know I dont like them. If i like you and you're cool then I'll be more open or if i am having a good day.
I think when your shy it can make you come across mysterious and people can find that endearing, because shy people can sometimes be the most easy going people on the planet especially if you have chemistry with them.
Damn, what a pair of chesticles!
The younger coaches give different advice than the older coaches
Sigma. I get called a 'good listener'.
Don't care.
The goal is to focus on yourself and women will come to you don’t need to chase
I fit that description perfectly.
Respect to my dawg LFA
Shoutout to Steve The Dean Williams!
I understand what you’re saying, girls invest time in who they think is a potential mate. But boys should pursue girls always, wether you’re on the shy side or not, nothing wrong with shy as long as you have a connection, nerds rule;) I’m a nerdy girl not shy but never boisterous, a girly girl never have hung out at a club, that’s for 20 yr olds. Good to see you, love your words of wisdom.
How about girls should pursue guys
if you want man, you should pursue guys
Then you’d never know if he was into you. No thank you.
@@arash9255 you know why she's saying that because girls are the ones that always want to do the rejecting they don't want to be the ones getting rejected.
@bellavita3097its always about me me
I have never been the shyest guy in the world, but I get what you are talking about. I have some woman at work getting hung up on me. I was married for a decent amount of years, and have adult children in their early 20's. These woman probe me to see what my relationship status is. The more attractive ones act like they are not interested in me, but they are always walking past my field of vision just hoping I will say hello to them.
They are trying to extract and use you for free attention and conversation.
Great info thanks man😂
Don't really like the "shy" label, it insinuates insecurity and weakness. I'd say we're more reticent, or reserved. I myself have never been a gregarious man, though I've had this pull that gets both men and women to approach me, which is interesting.
I’d suggest not being insecure about the shy label.
@@LFA 😂
To be honest I don't disagree with you I have been that guy, if anything it has pushed to not be complacent, be the best version of myself mentally, physically socially etc, so my calm collected reserved nature has got them trying to get my attention. So you don't have to Mr Hungry all the time. Funny enough I am not obsessed with them 😂😂 so that makes them chase. Keep doing your thing. I understand why this grown keeps complimenting me but at the same showing signs of insecurity ie.e you are got nice clothes you're shape, he be feeling uncomfortable around me lol. Meanwhile am just minding business, lol he would have the timid boy now a courageous and chilled man would be making men uncomfortable.
So you have hit the nail on the head my friend.😂
Of course I have the confidence now to approach too. Even to the point where I had to approach some girls for one of the guys. So calm dude with the assertive and deadly side too lol.
Doesn't what you say in this video contradict what you say in the video on the difference between attractive and a creep?
No not at all. This video was about when she likes you, but, you’re being shy, so she wants to find out more about you. That video was about when you like her, and she basically rejects you, but you hover around hoping she will change her mind.
It’s easy to mix those two up. But they’re entirely different dynamics.
@@LFA thank you for the response I get it now
So basically, the woman pursuing you can be better than you pursuing the woman.
The Uber type A masculine alpha turns a lot of women off. That personality is not for every woman. The reason the alphas get laid more often is because of the law of averages. The only thing you can do is be the best version of yourself.
Agreed 👍🏼 and am only shy guy around hot beautiful girls 😅not with average looking ones
This is not the year to date man, I know the election is around the corner. People just need to wait until the storm passes and then possibly date when things get calmer.
Shy is not my problem at all when it comes to women I'm opposite of being shy my biggest problem that's working against me is my age 60.
Im not shy just introverted
Women want to be heard. Listen to them, don't talk much. It makes them want to be with you. They try to figure out the mystery guy who doesn't talk much.😎
Type A has advantage with both girls imo
Women have to feel comfortable enough to open up. Type a scares a lot of them off.
Mysterious, you are mysterious.
Making fantasy of the ideal you, and thus, wanting to pursue you 😅
important to note there's a difference between being shy and being introverted
1000% CORRECT....
Im at the point in life were women no longer phase me like they used to and they are no longer a priority on my to do list..
Thats when your winning you can listen or take advice from anyone but untill you reach this point they just come to you. hey il be friendly if they chat but i couldn't care less if they are or are not interested or if i score if 1 pokes my ears up hey i may give a little more but dont hold it to heart
Some women like a “Shy guy”. Or in other words “reserved”, maybe calculated. I’m pretty outspoken but not in an aggressive way. It’s turned a few women off I’ve seen. It’s good to keep them guessing and on their toes until things get serious
Are you referring to the couple weeks in spring and fall?lol
It’s scary how much they love it
I had this happen recently, hopefully it continues.
I guess they like the mystery-guy-effect
This is true when i was shy years ago i was crushing on this baddie and she was sitting next to me looking at me and giving me the choosing signals
Why you no smash?
Cool Chad tries to explain nerd love lol
See yuh
What’s happening LFA! Another great video by the infamous brick wall! Happy day to you SIR! ❤
You know it!
🎉🎉
Well I’m a shy,reserved man, but vvomen are still repulsed by my sub3,subhuman looks.
If you want to improve your chances with the l.adies, take the bl.a.ckpill and looksmax as much as possible.
Nah bro you don’t need all of that my brother just build a relationship with Jesus , workout , eat healthy , groom urself (nice haircut that fits you,great facial hair,clean teeth), dress nice and be authentic that’s all
Take the christpill my dude
@@eashanahluwalia9599
I have, I believe in Jesus Christ and God (I’m a sinner), but I have completely lost faith in humanity.
@@masteryoda498 this world is temporary bro we both belong in heaven we’re here for our mission 🧡🙏🏾also f all that blk pill rubbish tbh when I live for God that’s when I get girls even if I am on a low streak be we want a wifey not sneaky links
@@masteryoda498 forget girls bro we all are sinners but through Christ alone we are righteous through Christ. Also Yeshua coming soon and he will be together with him and even before that we will be in Africa in safety
More great content brother
Good man
So true
Banger 🔥🔥🔥
Truth.
Salute bro
☝️
Stoic not shy
Buff alpha chad
Be quiet, calm and strong with a confident demienor.
the thing about those kind of women who are nerdy and date nerdy guys is that those are the absolute thirstiest for the alpha guy's attention. they are nice to hang out with but the instant the captain of the football team invites her over, she is gonezo.
Nah... it's the other way around.
People attract whatever they view themselves as. Law of attraction. Similar people date similar people.
No that nerdy girl does not have the confidence to date the alpha of the football team. You have to stop watching all those types of videos online. Hypergamy does not work in the way you claim it does. She just needs to want to look up to you.
@@BigG6179 she doesnt need to be confident to say yes to coming to his place for "studying" lol. Im talking about hooking up. Not having a committed relationship
@@BigG6179 wrong. She doesn't need confidence. The Alpha basically tells her, you're worthless but I'll be generous and feel pity for you and take you out (add you to my rotation) and the response is giggles and uhmmm okay teehee! Literally watched it play out twice right before my eyes. Go out and experience life instead of believing videos is good advice I encourage you to follow.
The word you were looking for might have been "aloof" rather than shy. An aloof guy is doing his own thing and noncommittal about his interest. Shy guys typically get no interest from women at all, thats why they're shy.
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LFA is there a difference between - the chicks that you've hit up on and the chicks that did hit up on you?
like personality , if the girl is hittin up is she she easy and more keen to cheat etc