The Biggest Mistake Men Make When They Catch Feelings
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Once the respect is gone it's over.
In most cases it doesnt take long at all
That is true. Good luck trying to keep that respect over the course of 30-40 years .
Nah you can get that back
MONEY is Respect 😂😂😂
This generation is so lost
Never chase women, only chase your potential
Definitely, when I chased it just gets you hurt
Don't operate in her frame. Have a world (frame) that she wants to enter. Don't make her the adventure. Take her on an adventure.
Thx, making her the adventure would be putting too much pressure on her I just realised.
Just like the whole 'let's meet at a bar or a restaurant crap.'
I'd rather go on a cooking together (LoL, To-Get-Her............) adventure, because that would be fun and an adventure for sure with me haha
And even better mindset is this - success isn't happiness; happiness is success. And you can will and choose it into your life every day. Choose to be likeable and competent, and have hope that good things are coming your way. This makes you open. And when you're open, the doors open to you. You can't control everyone's mind or being, but you can definitely control your own. And THAT is how you create a frame that others will want to enter is by creating the best frame for yourself that YOU want.
@smokingcrab2290 true. The right people (your tribe) will come into your life. The only time things can get controversial is when you speak your opinion about politics. Then no matter what you protect becomes irrelevant to people who disagree with you. You can have the exact same hobbies or interests and draw like minds into your life w that stuff but once they disagree w you politically, nothing you shared in common before matters to them. Like you said, you cannot control anyone's mind but your own.
💯
Not worth the juice
Bro had to show us that pump lol
Interesting take. Makes sense actually. She can’t love you if she can’t respect you.
The flip scenario is also true though too. Vvom3n don't love M3n that they respect. They also do not let Respectable M3n talk down to them or treat them badly.
The biggest mistake is to have feelings.
That's literally female logic
U r a human being. U will feel emotions n the feelings are outcome
The logical way is to acknowledge the difference between wrong n right
Because feelings comes n goes
@@ddnick thats cute.
I think the biggest mistake men make is they do not let the woman earn her position. There's been a change lately for the better. It's not your job to put her in such a high position when she's not even trying.
Recently I was at the car wash. I parked my car so I can wipe it down. There was a guy who was filling his tires & a female who was parked in the vacuum section. Both of their cars were parked parallel to each other. Mine was next to his but not parallel. He finished. Then he backed up a little to get out. This female honked at him even though she could move easily since she was still in the driver's seat. However, she chose to give him attitude. I was still sitting in my seat about to get out & I see him in the mirror just looking like he's sick of it. I whipped my whole car around for that man. I'm telling you, Brad was going through it. She got out, basic Amy. Looking slobbish. I was weak😂
Lately, I been noticing a pattern of chicks who are rude but aren't even all that. Especially at work. I've had to check some female guests & coworkers. Not so much with the guys. It's been like a 1:8 ratio.
The modern woman is like genx guys when they were 18. They go to work, come home, and do do shit citing their work (which probably doesnt produce anything economically unlike the genx 18 year old).
I don’t have feelings for love as I know it’s all a joke. You just get used and walked over. In my 25 years on this place not a single person ever loved me in a relationship. I’m going to live in a tent in the middle of nowhere. Away from humans.
Same here I don’t like people!! People are fake you think they like you but they always leave.. Only person you can count on is yourself..
Just get a dog. Woof !
You're way too young to have that mentality
Come on don’t be so bitter. Don’t expect to be loved, just love yourself
@@norbatdepaname Get out of here with that
Be a man on a mission and respect yourself. Do not be a bum.
I couldn't agree more with everything said in this video. Why try tirelessly to prove your love to someone when you yourself know that you do love them? if they don't believe you, then that's on them like life is too short to waste your time on people who doubt your love
Love is displayed through behavior. That doesn't mean that you have to prove your love but, love is shown through behavior.
Even if you have everything dialed in and you have your own purpose and you're on a mission, there will still be toxic women like my ex who will use you for all of your resources. And expect the best of you without earning it. And then drop you when they don't get all of the lovey dovey validation that they were expecting. It's tough out there right now, the dating pool is pretty toxic, just got to stay strong guys and keep on going this is a crazy time to be alive. Hope everyone here reading this makes it and achieves and gets everything they've ever wanted
Yep or they wanna date for 5 years to "see if it works out" joke
@@funkbros3141considering the average first marriage lasts just 8 years, not sure what's wrong with dating for 5. It was at the 5-year mark that one of my ex's mental illness presented itself. He was jailed and institutionalized repeatedly.
that's called a psychopath/narcissist not a woman mayt
@@LeeHarveyOswald.1963that’s the typical woman you’ll attract when you “play the game”.
@@KK-sg5glwhat game? I'm sorry but I'm clueless
Just be yourself and proud of who you are the rest will fall into place.
Scary to realize how programmed everyone is. A lot of people grew up with Disney as an example of how things should go instead of a real mentor. Unfortunately that leads to some soul-crushing results!
It's Hollywood propaganda yes! But it's their parents and grandparents that threw marriage away and had/have multiple partners throughout the child's life. The family has been obliterated
The dating scene is going down faster than Kamala during a job interview. Thanks for the advice. Probing my psyche for _imp strain.
😂😂
Lmao 😂.
damaged woemen don't appreciate men, good or bad.
yeah, you can preach to men all you want, and you *should*, **BUT**
the reality is that at this point, in america, and most of the western world, women are so damaged that there aren't enough quality women to go around.
women's behavior has to be controlled (as does men's). we desperately *need* a functional patriarchy.
Entitled women don’t appreciate men.
One thing I finally grasped is that it doesn't matter how good you treat a woman, if her feelings tell her otherwise she will drop you like nothing. As men when we catch feelings we invest alot of time, money, resources on a woman thinking that it builds some sort of rapport and that she'd be unlikely to leave us as long as we aren't toxic; truth is, NONE of it matters.
It doesn't matter how many dates, experiences, trips, memories etc you've done with a woman; again she will drop you if her feelings tell her to.
The mistake is catching feelings in the first place. That's the woman's job.
Happen too me couple months ago never again for sure
Facts bro, feelings and emotions are for woman. Men are logical.
@@edgarsoto2533 It happened to all of us man.
@@santo9032this type of statement is one reason men are generally so emotionally messed up. In my opinion, emotional issues are what makes the vast majority of men undateable, regardless of purpose, income, height, etc. I know lots of driven, purposeful men and most of them have the emotional maturity of an adolescent. A lot of married women actually have very low standards and that's why they're married. My older brother, for example, is determined to see himself as a life-long victim and he's been married for 20 years. I don't respect him but somehow his wife does? I don't think she actually had another option. I've had grown men in their 50s, men in the upper echelons, flip out on me for challenging their perspectives. Men are generally highly emotional people who never learn to process and deal with their emotions in healthy ways. I finally met an emotionally grounded man last year and he's awesome. But I abstained from dating for 11 years before I met him because men are generally too much to deal with and for many men, their concept of love is a woman just tolerating their emotional foolishness forever.
you guys are way immature - its all because of the lack of fathers and God in our lives. how come this is happening now n didn’t back in the day- because tv, media, bling, and out of marriage sex has corrupted it all.
all this didn’t need to be taught about who should or should not catch feelings, how to act in love etc- things just flowed because people followed principles and morals. now it is a set of rules that ppl are trying to tweak for results- just follow God n leave selfishness and everything will follow.
Great vid LFA…”are they proud to be with you?” It’s that simple.
6:00 yup "making a difference" is literally all we have as the root of all life satisfaction, respect & mutual respect experience
Once you truly understand women, you will never ever are able to love them anymore
Got this reality check at 26 approximately. I'm 43 and never "loved" another woman again. It's impossible when you truly know female nature.
facts
can you explain your reasoning?
@@FabianLimYTthey are incapable of genuine unwavering love
@@user-yg7kb1mt9z could you give me an example? it's sad to hear that you guys have so little faith in women when you're likely just attracting the wrong (toxic) types
Yea back in the day 30 to 40 years ago the second part was important. Today if u aint part 1 the good looking fboi its over. No woman is interested in ur mission if she doesnt find u physically attractive in the first place
Also they dgaf about your mission if it's a mission they don't resonate with. His ugly high school coach lucked out. Plain and simple. Not saying don't have a mission or don't make a difference. But that kind of a thing is very very rare.
What would be over?? You said" if you ain't #1 good looking it's over"??
Not true my friend. Looks are not very important to most women, unless they're really shallow. It's confidence they want, and, like the man said, ambition, a purpose you pursue.
You're slightly wrong. They will date/marry you if you're not attractive. But then they'll leech off your resources until they find someone better or they'll be perm unhappy in the marriage.
LFA is growin’ world wide baby! You love to see it!😎
I'm just above you in Kansas city and got to sing karaoke, eat barbeque, drink beer and made some new friends. It is a cool evening.
Some of the realest shit. Proving yourself is actually veiled manipulation, because the desire to prove is a nice-guy people pleasing trait that inadvertently proves your secret self: passive-aggressive. By truly rocking out as a good, solid dude you will win.
Thank you for the video LFA. Damn this is good. 👍🏿🔥
This is such a simple yet stern way to cut out the silly simp behavior thank you
Be THAT guy 👍 💯
Everything you said in this video is SO true and important! Appreciate it.
Those effin love songs, whether Power Ballads or R&B songs got many of us men effed up.
Thank you for thinking so deeply, This message is making it clear for all men out there what is their actual position should be. We can now pick our best position (Exciting or Respectful) and improve life.
So much wisdom and good advice in just a 15min. video. Every man should hear this and about the kind of man your coach was. It perfectly Illustrates what we should all be striving for.
It's nice to see you. Whenever I see/hear certain male UA-camrs - you included - I feel a bit more powerful and masculine, and therefore, a bit more confident in the way I am supposed to be in life. Thanks for it.
This was a great video!!!
She's not playin me, we were eating at Taco Bell
Nice
Great video, very well put
Yeah high test angry stocky guys of the 90's seemed to pull broads as they were so intense and high energy combined with confidence and passion.
Subscribed earlier today. You're probably the most intelligent UA-camr that I've ever listened to. Keep it up. You're doing good work here.
That’s really good what you’re saying.
Thank you. Feelings are fleeting. What people do speaks volumes. What your coach did for that community earned respect by action.
I am glad to see your channel growing over 100k it took long time but your channel is one of few manosphere channels I'm stil watching. You have valid information.
You're one of the coolest , wisest men I know of. Thank you brother
Thanks for the heads up on that attitude put me back on track.
13:21 "respect & admiration is at the back end it is what really matters" yes the wolf bond, she probably treated him super well & it was easy for her & he knew that & wanted that it was easy for him to treat her well just based off of that chemistry work & knows how rare that is so he kept her glowing & that energy spread into the whole community
By coincidence ran into this video, very informative and enlightening, straight to the point and no bullshit. Great video thanks man!
I recently started to just be flirtatious and be exciting. Shocker I got better results in text and woman saying they want to hang out. That was my missing link. The RP made me hyper analyitcial instead of displaying my positive up beat emotions. And yes, some woman are going to be annoying, you just move one.
Good stuff
I’m pretty much done with women or dating whatever it’s simplfyied my life so much tbh giving me time to focus on writing I don’t even know why we need em 😊
Yep
Yep nothing but games and BS
Im guilty resently she gave me the silent treatment and i fkn walked it was hard really but its about your frame and standards men
As a woman this video is so sad to watch. Because Women DO fall in love with you based on how you make them feel, how you feel about them and how you treat them, and that in itself affects how attracted they are to you. Ofc there needs to be compatibility, like humor, physical (if you're both active or inactive), cultures, communication styles etc.. And most importantly is there an emotional connection there, and has the guy embraced his inner child and let go of all the shame related to having feelings outside of rage. Please allow yourselves to feel guys, there is a woman out there that is your match. But in order to have a healthy relationship, you need to first create that with yourself, and more often than not that's doing attachment focused therapy, and figuring out what makes it so hard to connect in the first place. Much love to the creator of this video and anyone reading this
What do you think about polarity theory?
I am woman and what you say is total bullshit
Women fall in love according to how you make them feel at the end it still falls on how she feels “She “ not him it’s all about her own feelings
7:30 + "& he was about to change her sons life right?" awwww just gold angels, angel work :}*
love yor intelligence on the subject it all makes sense!
I absolutely unequivocally LOVE this video, all facts purpose out does looks all day long for women, respect is where it’s at ! 💯
Very interesting analysis this time, well done.
Great video. I never encountered anyone like the man you described...Im striving to be like him
Another great video LFA .. simple and clear , not like all the red pill bs .. thanks for sharing these thought’s … excitement is the first part , but respect and admiration is built over time with consistency and courage. Saludos desde Mexico
Best video he’s ever done
Thank you bro! ⚡👊⚡👍
Thank you LFA
You are giving these men very good advice right here keep it up. You have to have a real purpose in life. A purpose in life could be helping people during the coming events that are going to happen in the near future.
Yeah man dated girl three months she liked me very much until I got feelings and it went wrong in 2 days lol
Thanks brother!
That line about fighting for a ladies honor and another man getting up on her has me cracking up 😂. Great video as always!
You should do a video on LFA Powerhouse about your current nutrition plan and supplement regimen!
Hell nah I made my heart as cold as ice years ago. Never come back to a lovey dovey romantic. Been getting mad 🐈 ever since
This was geared more for marriage and long term relationships
You can't be getting diff 🐱 all your life and call that a life
@@jlakra5729 keeps things interesting
Getting mad all the time ain't no good either. Be loving, but measured in your love, back away when it's clear, obvious you're being used for money, a taxi service and/or other favors.
@@kthx1138 I always love unconditionally, the key is to not get attached 😉
When I first saw your thumbnail, jacked dude with sunglasses, I thought this was gonna be super superficial but from the moment you started talking i knew you were a real one. Great video, and I completely agree it’s definitely all about being a high quality man for yourself with good intentions and sense of purpose in order to make a high quality woman interested in you. Thanks for the advice KING 👑
I find it helpful to accept i don't have much to offer in terms of admiration. Working, doing what i want, and committing to a religious life is not going to turn heads, and I'm not very willing to do more than that. It is what it is.
Excellent. Lived Experiences. 100%.
Tis be true. Remaining alone is better than to be around those who make you feel alone.
Thank you bro
I search for sources of power everyday , I'm never disappointed
good vid ma g 😎
We're all gonna make it brazzz
LFA…100% on point. That’s how I originally met my wife
Is this a Clint Eastwood version of Rich Coopers videos…?! 😂😂😂
Even if you don’t like people, you still need to communicate. You may not like them today, but later on as you grow you may change your mind set and you become in agreement with what you didn’t agree on before so Chill out!
Living the rest of your life because you haven’t found the right partner will not provide stability inside of you ever. Doesn’t matter you are rich or poor.
Stay strong 💪
Human are wonderful 🎉
Guys, if you have bad teeth and or poor oral health, that is your # 1 priority to fix and go see a dentist on a regular basis or you will always scare the women away no matter what. Then start working on yourself: heal trauma, clean up your diet and exercise and hydrate, get on a simple skin care routine, grow as a person for yourself first.
If you have insurance/dental insurance and a wage, you have to prioritize those dental cost over dumb “stuff” such as smoking, gaming, and so on. 🤷🏻♀️
How will you become a virgin again? Explain that for us.
@@tuinov6286 sir, you if you are not a virgin at your age you will not get a virgin. 🤦🏻♀️🥜 Plus with your grooming and oral habits, the only way you will get a younger virgin girl is a girl with some mental health problems or with the same traumas you have.
You can “try” putting women down all you want but you fleaMales lose testosterone and sperm every year just like how women lose, we are all on the damn SAME boat.
Buy a dog 🐶
@@tuinov6286ur wild bro 😆😆😆
Dump the make up lady, then we will see the real faces of females. And dump the push-up bra, high heels and so on.
Back to the kitchen
Men get punished for their emotions , others get justification for theirs…….
13:00+ yes "none of that means anything" mutual "respect" is how inspired by each other they inspire everyone else too passively discreetly & directly like your mentor friend & his core life experience with his partner & daughter spreading the self respect & the mutual respect to weave it into life gold & life satisfaction & health
Women don't respect anything stop yapping.
Be distinguished and if someone puts you down dont f..i.n take it
I genuinely would love to hear LFA just start with "snap into a slim jim !!".
That's the ONE key to happiness 😪
great great great!
11:40+ yes respect is the language that builds life satisfaction & meaning with the tools that you work hard for the tools alone are nothing without respect respect cannot be fake in any venture or it will fly in our face
I would teach this to my son 😊❤👍
2 of the biggest mistakes most guys make. Having kids and getting married and buying a house together. The house always wins
No homo, but I love you LFA. Thank you so much
Haven't checked in in ages. Hope all is well!
The truth stated here is often easy to forget
So easy…
"Indifference is the way to a woman's heart."
"Treat 'em like dirt, and they'll stick like mud."
I wonder....after how many decades of marriage is it acceptable for a man to let it slip to his wife.... that she means something to him?
@@glennmarz652 I do exactly as you say. It doesn't work unless one is born magnetic.
Like a man should be immovable even in his expression of his feelings still having that internal strength.
It’s the internal strength that is attractive, like you can’t break him, leaving him won’t break him, if you mess up, He tells you what to do and he still loves you, but he still ensures that you don’t do somethings, like he has Boundaries.
Yeah Boundaries!
Love without boundaries in place you can’t keep a woman safe, especially when she can walk all over you, it’s not about the money, it’s about the knowing he is firm in his resolve and he loves you and treats you lovingly, so I can’t wish for any other man when a man has a perfect blend of hard and soft
@LFA yo man sweet haircut, but hope you're doing well man. Missed your live shows to watch
You boys better think about money. And how to get it invested. Because when you get old nothing else is going to matter.
At some point, even hyperinflation will wipe all that away and people's money won't be worth a darn thing.
Yep, and even providing a comfortable home for love to flourish requires a lot of money.
"They", global elites, are trying to seize control over all our accounts, tell us what to buy and how much to spend, so we will "own nothing and be happy".
If your bank goes under, guess what happeneds to your money?
These are all reasons why bitcoin exists. Don’t believe me? Good luck in the future if you don’t…
There are plenty of loyal women out there...but that doesn't mean that they are also faithful. There's a difference. Plenty of women that stay with their man and don't go anywhere...but still b*ng other guys on the side from time to time
No, there are not plenty of loyal Vv0m3n out there. That's very overly optimistic.
Rather have that hknestly than drama
You should really Google the synonyms for the word loyal.
I rarely if ever get caught in an position of feeling something....im 38, only once has it happened until last week...the first time I spent years with the woman. So this is new to me, I came here having my own answers just say to hell with it. But when you spend you whole life worrying about surviving, bills etc. there's not time for this stuff and when it happens you get caught slipping
Great talk. The big issue, I believe is men get too comfortable. We need to be seen as driven, strong, no petty, on the run with life beings. You mix that with being loving, caring, there for her.... you're a drug! But it all has to be there. As men, it's true, we have more tension of being seen as attractive to women than they have of us seeing them attractive. To be seen manly and a kind badass at all times is fuckin hard! That's why single life is easier. But if you want marriage or a relationship, that thrives at least, there needs to be continuous strength and love simultaneously. Yeah, not easy. At least I don't think.
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things”- Albert Einstein.
ALL vídeos yours that i watch learn mutch, i am your fa,This is true, i am the guy that exicite but no porpuse
I'm LOOKING for a deeper, more heartfelt purpose than just chasing the bucks or visual beauty. At this point, it's just being a loving, crazy uncle to my nieces and nephews. I'd make a wonderful husband and dad too.
Adopt a teenager out of the foster system and help them get a good start into adulthood.
9:50 So true, you have to be that guy
I never said to a woman to break up until second relationship after my marriage. It was the first relationship that i broke my own feelings because i cared but i was already starting to feel the first signs of disrespect. She told me thst if i loved her i wouldnt leave her. U see at that point that u r able to see the future life while she was stuck to an addiction. Remember: After explaining u first go for respect, the first destespect sign vanish from her life. Never come hack. Its a bad seed. If its there it will grow. U cant be therapist
Its been 2 months and I still cannot let go I have gotten a better job, moved to a new place, made new friends and gotten new hobbies and I still constantly think about her, the thought of her with another man kils me and I know shes with someone else now who she actually treats well when she dismissed me like I was nothing after telling me how much she wanted to be with me and how safe she felt around me. Its actually traumatised me.
You must master your mind and redirect thoughts every time you catch yourself thinking about her. It's very simple, but not necessarily easy.
I was there too years ago but Im not going to say just get over it. I found my way back to enjoying my own company through realizing I was deeply resentful of how she played me (just like your girl did you) and used me and threw me away, and deep down inside it pissed me off that I was so easy to use and had no self respect, and that translated into action; you are already on the right track but she has her hooks into you, and you think you cant get over it, but when you remember just how selfish she really turned out to be, how callous and cruel towards you, your feelings will turn to rooting out your deficiencies and dealing with them head on, now its time to see her as she really is, just another mercenary, looking to suck the resources out of you, and dont think for one moment that she'll treat the new guy any better, he'll get the same treatment and she move on to the next, etc. Face your fears about yourself and you will find out that you are really a good man, and she's just the reactant to start you on your personal journey. She wont change and will trigger depression in every guy she meets! But to waste your day away thinking about how much you miss her is really just allowing others to shit on you, and its time to appreciate your good qualities while not forgetting her awful manipulations that cause you all this grief. You will recover, it wont be easy or quick but it will give you yourself back and its time you remember that!!
@@gkauto1959 Thank you for this, she is now trying to contact me again going off about how depressed she is but all her actions say otherwise, I will not fall for this again.
Your mind is lieing to you thats why. The mind will convince itself that shes having a killer time. One mans trash, is another mans problem. The guy shes with now has to deal with her baggage now the same way you did . One day you will die. It can even have been today. Clear your mind, the truth is , you were better off without her. Breathe. Pray. And live. It will all be over soon
She. Is. Not. Worthy. Of . YOU.
Vice versa too. Just as she loves to see me doing unprompted handywork around the house, I love it when she tries a new recipe for dinner. If I come into the kitchen while she's working her magic, she'll pause her show and shoot a death glare until I leave. 😂 Passion is attractive. Find a partner whose passions compliment yours!