BPD RELATIONSHIPS CAN WORK- HERE'S HOW
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This was INCREDIBLY helpful. Brian seems exactly like my bf (really healthy love-filled childhood, super affectionate towards me, super understanding) and I'm always working on taking responsibility for my actions and taking care of myself first, which is hard for me, but this video really helped me gain perspective on how to prioritize things during my recovery. Thanks guys, you're doing good in the world ❤️
So glad you found it helpful! Thank you!💖
More men need to be like Brian and more kind and understanding.
ALOT of men are like him, just y’all drive them insane
I’m joking but fr fr there are a lot of absolutely amazing guys out there
Why the fuck would you say that?
I mean, he gets laid like 3 times a day, so…. That probably helps. 😆
not only men🙄
Your speech is so different now! I’m so happy you look genuinely happy!
Sammy! You are glowing 🥰 I know with BPD, like anything else (even people without mental illness), you’ll experience ups and downs. But it seems like you are doing so well. You two are such an inspiration and as always, thanks so much for sharing.
You guys are goals. Thank you for being so transparent ❤
Wtf, it's like watching myself and my partner, so relatable. This was so helpful! Thank you Sammy and Brian x
So glad it was helpful!
Sammy you look gorg. Loving the dress!
First of all, this was very sweet and I love both perspectives. Second of all, this helped me. My guy has bpd, but he's not at the place you are- where he wants to take accountability/work on himself. Which everyone has to do, bpd or no, to have a good relationships! His apologies are more manipulative. And he refuses to really look deeper at himself. Seeing and hearing your perspective helped me identify that in him, and see that I need this in someone. But it also gave me hope for people struggling with BPD, just not hope for my relationship. And that's ok.
Great video. You two did an excellent job explaining your perspectives and advice, and you clearly share wonderful chemistry. I don’t have BPD but I do struggle with negative cyclical and intrusive thoughts at times, while my partner’s personality and level of mental stability are similar to Brian’s. I definitely picked up some helpful tips for my relationship from this video. Thank you for being so vulnerable!
My x wife was dignosed with PBD, BIP, and PTSD. I support her so much made her better person and then all eleaps. She with someone elese.
i love u so much.🥰 you are always talking right from your heart and that is what gives me strength. ❤❤
I've been following a long time. SO MUCH maturity and growth here! Keep up the good work!
I love all the questions and answers between you guys! I'm glad you have been working on relationship! It seems to be working, and I'm glad you guys can talk back and forth!
I loved this video so much. I've been a part of the sam fam for a long time now and it's so encouraging to see the love that has grown in your relationship with Brian and the way he makes you smile from ear to ear. And to see all that love reciprocated by him as well. Even through all the years it seems it's only gotten better. I hope that's the case for me and my husband but sometimes I'm not sure. Looking forward to hearing more about your life coaching!
Aw thank you for supporting for so long 💖
This was such a good video!! Thank you both ❤
Love this video, thank you Sammy!
So helpful! Thank you for making this
Such a good video! Thanks for sharing! 🖤
Your videos are helping me in my situation so much. I look to you in many ways and you have both helped me cope with my diagnosis. I love these tips!
Thank you both 💓
Thanks so much guys I really love your couples videos and Sammy, you are glowing girl!😍
Aw thank you!!💖
I happy for y'all!!
Your videos are so amazing together 💕
This is such a great video! It seems like you have found a good place and I hope to learn more from both you guys. Please post more relationship vids. This is so damn hard.
Damn, Brian sounds like a top bloke. You both lucked out 👍 I cannot believe how few likes this vid has... There's some really good insights in here and great advice. Thanks
And yes you can't fix people, you can be there for and with them though and I'm sure giving them a stable, loving environment can help them to heal.
This is why children need that environment too... Love, consistency and trust in those close to you... It's literally the most important thing imo.
8:14 very comforting and definitely valuable information
This is a great video having both of you speak on this subject thank you.
Thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed 💖
With an unaware and untreated BPD it cannot work unless you are willing to become a total doormat. And if you do so, they will not respect you and it won't work anyway.
RUN! It's the only hope!
Exactly. They just spent 30 minutes saying exactly that. Lol! This video could have been 15 seconds long. You cannot be in a relationship with one without accepting some abuse. Period. Nobody wants to be real anymore. So much to the point where we normalize everything, including dysfunctional behavior.
❤😊Fantastic!!
Yeah, my ex didn't tell me about it ... I knew something was wrong and told her to get help 399 times ... and she wouldn't. I got scorched from the angry outbursts and I had to leave .... I am sad that she wouldn't seek treatment. Now she is devastated that I left. Now were both left tragically alone. This was 18 years of my life. JUST BE OPEN and tell the truth.
I was like Brian but you can be as understanding as possible but sometimes it’s not enough!
2 people in the relationship bro, it's impossible to carry the relationship on your own. My girlfriend just left me after 6 years together, the 9th or 10th time it's happened. I have decided that this will be the last time, watching her switch on friends and family then fearing when I'd be next. It sucks bc I really fkn love her, but I've lost myself in the process. If your partner isn't getting help/dbt it was destined to fail. I feel like I've lost 6 years and half my heart.
@@daniellawson5127bro you have no idea how much I feel you on this lol mine was 22 times in 7 years lol this last one I said the same thing that it would be the last time and I have stuck to it even tho she’s tried to contact me…I definitely also lost myself but the journey of self improvement has been so great and wouldnt have been possible without that relationship chaos I went thru so yes I agree that it won’t work unless two ppl are in it and I always felt like I was the only one in it
Exactly mine was 6 years. Forever she told me she hated her sister and when I finally was like don’t hang out with her she’s a bitch it was then that she said “I don’t like that you called her a bitch. We’ve been working on our relationship.” And then left me over that and one other little thing.
Good luck
Yall do good work. And see the brunette statement got super serious i see thats cool y..yall keep the faith n keep up the good work ty for AlLl you do God Bless
SOOOOOO MUCH GRATITUDE FOR YOUR COURAGE AND VULNERABILITY. BOTH YOU AND BRIAN! My partner has BPD (Childhood traumas) and PTSD from serving in the army for about 10 years. She felt safe enough to share that with me after we've already been together for a couple of months. I was taken aback at first, not really "knowing" what BPD was... It was and still is very difficult to experience things like splitting because on the lower side of her moods, as I'm sure you guys may know, I go from being the most amazing Goddess to then someone who couldn't possibly love her or want to be around her...then comes the questions and statements as she attempts to re-regulate herself (Which are at times, hurtful questions or statements towards me). I do my best to remain calm and empathetic, consciously aware that these behaviors are symptoms too and not to take it personally but also to truthfully express myself when my feelings have been affected when we are better able to communicate with calmer energy. She is absolutely such an amazing person and I love her infinitely! I am so willing to do all it takes to stay and show up for her, me and us as a union in the face of such intense instability. These videos are important and very valuable to me because I truly feel that every being is worthy of the deepest and most immense love and sometimes, it feels that our love tends to get lost to the BPD and not only is she looking to me for some sort of understanding, but I myself get overwhelmed and lose the ability to even think or respond to the many questions she needs to ask to gain grounding in her body. We are a work in progress as we navigate through the many ups and downs of thriving with BPD. You guys are right, it takes special people to really be able to coexist in harmony with a person who may suffer from bpd or any mental illness for that matter and I am grateful to be blessed with so much love in my heart. Please keep creating content because your purpose has greatly brought so much light into our space. She split on me this morning before work after her mom was late picking her up from work yesterday (Childhood triggers) and she woke me up today, already in crisis and began behaviors of self harm such as banging her head on the wall or punching herself anywhere on her body...I felt really bad because my brain hadn't even had a chance to grasp everything going on and my lack of ability to be able communicate at that time was pretty hazy and distressed her more. She was terrified to go to work this morning until she received multiple confirmations that I'd still be home after she gets off work because she fears that I will leave her because of her behaviors. Is it difficult at times? Yes but there is such a strong love in my heart that leaving her is the furthest thing from my mind. I have so much more that I'd like to express and I'm probably jumping all around right now, lol but again, THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!! SENDING YOU AND BRIAN SO MUCH LOVE AND LIGHT AS YOU CONTINUE TO PROSPER AND BE YOUR BEST WITH THIS CONDITION. I AM PROUD OF YOU BOTH AS A WONDERFUL TEAM OF LOVE, BECAUSE AT THE END OF IT ALL AND ABOVE ALL ELSE, ALL WE ARE IN THE TRUEST PART OF OUR BEING, IS LOVE... BEYOND THE BODY AND MIND, WE ARE AND WILL ALWAYS BE, LOVE ✨️ ❤️
You don’t get BPD from adult trauma
Splitting sucks bad 🔥
Hey guys I know it's been a year since you posted this video I'm new to your channel I am a co-dependent with a BPD bipolar girlfriend that means the world to me I have a situation or question for you guys both hopefully it doesn't trigger you guys because it doesn't seem to have a solution to this so it always keeps reappearing itself so I have a question on how to handle I guess when she splits and sees people or things that never happened like for instance girls staying under the mattress for me to have sex with later how do I address that because it seems to be an insecurities of her and I know for a fact it did not happen but telling her simply it never happened of course does not fix the problem
sometimes I feel like I'm better off alone 😥
Currently running my 13 year relationship into the ground because of my bpd.......it definitely feels Impossible to ever have a healthy life.
I relate to you maintaining anything feels impossible for me :( however I know this is a bunch of false fear based beliefs stemming from shame which are basically the lies we have been told about ourselves and internalized. But damn 13 years is a long time.....
How long have you guys been dating?
oh 7 years, did you face promiscuity and attention seeking ?
I really wanted to watch the whole video. But the camera constantly going in and out of focus was way to distracting for me. Sorry. Fingers crossed for the next one though ❤
Lol cameras do that! You can also listen to it without watching it if it really bothers you that bad! Lmao
@@SammyGrimm yeah I know, wasn’t trying to be rude.
@@SammyGrimmthey don’t if you set the focus.
Is it just me or are those windchimes going straight through anyone else? 🙉 Lol struggling to concentrate on what your saying 😞 thank you for your videos tho ❤
They can work if the other person is OK with an abusive emotional Rollercoaster and sacrifices their peace and identity
B o o h o o
@@SammyGrimm typical bpd lack of empathy. This responce you gave is why no one should put up with bpds. They're evil uncaring selfish brats
Yeah BPD people are not to be trusted. I guess her bf loves the abuse.
Sammy, you're so beautiful here. I love you two helping to relieve the stigma on mental illness / bpd. The alpha crew / Jordan Peterson bit is real, even though mental heath issues are globally on the rise.. pretty discouraging.
Content of the video aside…. I was taken aback by a woman saying she talks about mental health advice…. while looking like she’s about to go trick-or-treating 😂
lol what?