My husband has ADHD, depression and was on medication for many years. When we moved and he had to get a new Doctor. Unfortunately because my husband was nearly 68, the Doctor said ADHD medication was not recommended for someone his age and he wouldn't renew his prescription. The Dr didn't even offer to wean him off the meds! He left him with no meds and had him go. God so kind a friend recommended us to mushrooms (psilocybin) precisely. After his experience with shrooms five years ago till now there's no more ADHD, depression and mental disorder. Shrooms are life changing. There is no way you can put into words what it feels like..
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Yes sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, addiction. Shrooms can really help break the spell. Whatever spell you may be under.
I too love hearing about others that have made it back.I got addicted cause of a car accident in 2007 that I am still in pain from,that doctors say is only arthritis then they took my pain put me suboxone since Sept 2nd 2021. Even if I take it or not I still have that pain, so afraid I'm gonna git sucked back in to the pills cause I can't even work but can't get disability either so idk what folks like me do but prayer is all I have done and still the pain so idk anymore 😢 sorry for rambling. Just searched on chrome and sent him a message. I would really love to go with this treatment as well
When he started doing the zone out thing at the beginning I was like oh that's funny I do that a lot then realized I had zero memory of what he said before that point
AFABs with inattentive ADHD: the "gifted" kids who burn out sophomore year of college, lose all their friends, fall apart completely, and everyone wonders what happened
Great video, deserves way more views! I'm 27, at 22, my life was unraveling. Withdrawing out of courses at college, which led me to drop out all together, relationships were suffering, didn't keep friends, or make any new friends. My social anxiety and lack of focus, among countless other things were so bad it led me to seek out evaluation. After evaluation, he told me he didn't think I had ADHD, rather diagnosed me with severe depression and social anxiety. He didn't think I had ADHD because I wasn't disruptive at school as a child/teen. And I scored too high on some memory/intelligence test. I remember the test being such a joke, it was so easy, it felt as if it were for a child. Either way, I took his word for it, I didn't know any different at the time. At 27 my life hasn't gotten any better, probably continually worse. I've tried many different SSRI's and anti-depressants, none have seem to have any positive affects. I've got no focus, no motivation, extreme social anxiety, suicidal, no energy, nothing. Haven't been able to hold down jobs, let alone even get myself out there to get a job in the last few years. Recently, an ADHD video popped up on my feed, I watched it, watched some more. And one video from Dr. Stephen Humphries totally blew my mind. I started balling after watching it. He basically described my life word for word for 13 minutes. Mainly, by saying, not everyone is a hyper active, disruptive child at school. And intelligence has nothing to do with ADHD. The two main reasons I "didn't" have ADHD at 22. Every self test I take, I score off the charts for ADHD. Symptoms with anxiety/depression are very similar to adhd, hence the diagnosis. Now, no doubt I do deal with severe depression and social anxiety, but I believe ADHD is the true root of all my problems. As a child, I was very disruptive at home, but not at school. I was shy, quiet, calm, kept to myself, never wanted to get in trouble, make a scene, cause attention to myself. Those hold true to my entire life. And I believe my social anxiety is a big reason for all that. But, I've always, always, been a terrible day dreamer. In school, at church, in the shower, mid conversation, everything. I am intelligent. I was able to get through school on minimal studying/effort into homework. I am a TERRIBLE procrastinator, everything is absolute last minute with me. I never thought I had the hyper focus they talk about with ADHD, but Dr. Humphries mentioned computer games. And that was another eye opener. I have dealt with addiction to computer/xbox games since I was very young, and it's so bad, I was playing 14 hours per day when I didn't have school, or as much as I could when I did have school. And I believe that is my hyper focus. That is what I would focus on all the time, during class, during everything. And I would burnout after a few months, and start a new game. And in between games, everything is so boring, so dull. I can't pay attention to anything else more than 5 minutes without started to day dream. I have also always struggled with reading, despite being intelligent. I can read fine, I just can't comprehend what I am reading, whether it's day dreaming while trying to read or just being mind numbingly bored. I have to read a paragraph 10 times to understand it. And also like you, when someone is talking to me, I can't listen, I try. I either, start daydreaming, or just think about, okay, how to be normal, keep nodding, or just fixated on what I'm going to say next. I don't interrupt people but I have a very hard time comprehending what they are saying if it's longer than a few seconds. When I went to college, I did fine the first couple years, didn't make any friends, but met my girlfriend and probably had a B average. But I was an undecided major and taking mainly 101 classes in big lecture halls. The classes were easy. That third year, declared a major, classes got smaller, harder, and they expected you to be more involved. This is where I started to unravel. My study habbits caught up with me, which was basically do absolutely nothing until the day before an exam and cram and pull an all nighter. It would even take until 6 pm that night before my hyperfocus would kick in it was that bad. Anyways, I couldn't keep up, withdrew from a couple classes first semester and then completely withdrew all my classes in the spring and that was when I seeked out evaluation. I feel like I've been wronged by those people. The last 5 years have been miserable for me. Nothing has worked, I'm scared of just about everything socially. No energy, no motivation, no focus. Everything, literally everything about ADHD, I score off the charts or am answering with EXTREMELY AGREE to questions. I get excited about very little, but when I do, I hyper focus on it. All I can think about, whether it's a video game, when I met my girlfriend, when I started a small business, hell, even my small movie collection. But everything else... so dull. I like to watch movies alone (I love movies) because I get really bored and like to pause it and finish it later, sometimes it takes 4 times of doing that before finishing it. I have 30 tabs open on my computer at all times. Whether it's an article I want to get back to and never do, or a youtube video I started, and say I'll finish later. Frankly, I could go on and on with countless more examples. I am sorry for the insanely long comment, doubt anyone even reads it but I am fixated on this at the moment, it's all I can think about, I had to write it out somewhere! I am in the process of seeking out evaluation somewhere different again, somewhere more professional. My family has been somewhat supportive and are helping me with this. I just want the verification that, wow, maybe it wasn't all my fault for being a massive fuck up. A lazy underachiever. Anyways, awesome video, got a sub from me and I hope you get more recognition for this.
I just turned 31 and came across a video for adult ADHD a week or two ago and thought, wow that's weird that sounds just like me. I never knew I had any kind of problem. I am dealing with almost everything you commented except for the extreme daydreaming or spacing out. I would say I have a mild case of that. But the being smart in school, never studying and cramming everything last second is me all the way. No energy alot of the time and severe procrastination. I have an appointment scheduled to hopefully get some answers. Goodluck
Holy shit, this is 90% me. The other 10% is that I have been lucky enough not to hit depression and my social anxiety is somewhat manageable. I feel like we should connect and we can talk about our life's journeys so far. I totally relate to everything you said and it will be an absolute delight to talk to somebody who understands it. Love from Nigeria.
same here, i am like 90% like that. i do love reading but it just requires SO much effort. i re-read entire pages more then once in each sitting... always did good at school while being a heavy procrastinator. that youtube tab thing... damn i sometimes whatch half a video and go do something else on a different tab and come back to that video an hour later .
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. There are a lot of people (Including me) that can relate to your story! So please don't be sorry for the long comment either. The first time I went through the assessment (years ago), I was diagnosed with anxiety instead of ADHD and I thought the same when it comes to the assessment. It was as if the test were geared towards children. After doing some reading, I found out that some parts of the assessment have not been updated to accommodate adults. Mainly because ADHD use to be considered a child diagnosis and the child would grow out of it. Come to find out, children don't grow out of it. Thanks again.
I’m at a loss for words. I’ve spent my whole life bouncing between thinking I was lazy, dumb, or just unable to deal with the “normal” that everyone else did. I’ve tried to explain this to myself and others and could never quite articulate it-this video captures it perfectly. I don’t know how to describe what I feel after watching this. But thank you.
Teachers often tried to catch me not paying attention. I developed an ability to rewind time, a few seconds like an instant replay, and I could answer. So I was never diagnosed until ADHD destroyed my jobs over and over.
Did you find anything to help you with finding/ keeping work? Have you started considering new careers? I may need to find a new career, but whether it's mental or physical tasks, I take longer than anyone. (Oddly, barista is recommended as a good job for ADHDers. "You want coffee. Um, what?" Angry coffee-addict bites your head off and eats it. Other customers applaud.
@dawnbaker1970 I somehow ended up as a resource/inclusion aide at an elementary school. It has the perfect balance between structure and variety because keeping the same schedule and taking notes is a MUST part of the job, but every day each class is going to be doing something new. Pay is peanuts, but worth a look.
My 9yr old son was just diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD, and I've been busy researching facts and testimonies of people who have parented and/or have it. While doing so, I came across your video and my son happened to sit with me. He immediately said "I totally get this" and wanted to watch more of your channel. Thank you for sharing your story, taking the time to teach those that are new to this, and giving a space to those with Inattentive ADHD to feel like they are not alone. My son's eyes lit up and he felt understood. I actually felt like I was able to understand my son better because of you. So thank you! We are looking forward to watching more of your videos!
Too many people think of externally hyperactive kids (mostly boys) when they think of ADHD. Teachers had barely heard of dyslexia when I was in school but I wonder if I'd have been diagnosed even if they had been aware of ADHD because I didn't cause trouble while my brain was off doing something less boring.
Your comment moved me. I wish my mom or dad was looking for resources, but they did nothing at all. I lived with deep feeling of being not enough until my late diagnosis. My son is neurodivergent too and i will own it, i will treasure it!
Well done for trying to understand your sons experience! I was diagnosed as a kid in the 90s and while my parents gave me a lot of help, they never really understood and was pushed to be more "normal". As an adult it took me years to learn how to live with my ADHD but these days I lean into it as it comes with some advantages. I can focus better than neurotypicals in many situations, such as emergencies so I work in the emergency services. I live in a place that's quiet so I can concentrate better. I make getting enough sleep and exercise a priority as my brain functions best with this.
@@jagodalotz3034 Same here :( All they have to do nowadays is type adhd in youtube, yet they cba to learn and try to understand me. If the writer of this comment is reading this, know that your son is really blessed to have you as a parent! Understanding how his brain works and why he does things the way he does and helping him how to counter it with structure and with the planning etc will be so beneficial to him in life, you guys have no idea!
I wasn’t a clown. I tried to hide. Iived a life of trauma at home, in school and in my community. I was never safe and I had this disability untreated too.
I’m a 43 year old woman who was just diagnosed last year. It’s been an absolute revelation. I fell through the cracks as a kid because I was quiet, smart, and well behaved. Really, really wish I’ve could’ve gotten the help I needed because inside I was struggling so hard.
Welcome to the club. 🤗 43 years old and diagnosed this year too. But it wasn't a revelation, more a confirmation, as I'd already been researching all the possible mental disorders and conditions that could explain my case for years, and I found out for myself about two years ago. After numerous tests, the doctors confirmed without hesitation that it was ADHD, and finally ruled out the hypothesis of ASD which had been suspected by my less well-informed relatives. This permanent gap of several years between my understanding and what my environment understands or accept has always been difficult to bear, and this is not just ADHD. It's rather an extra difficulty.
@rb5078 Totally relate. 50yo female officially diagnosed last month. Wasn't even a thought in my mind that I might have a neurochemical imbalance - I just thought I was lazy, a chronic procrastinator and a daydreamer. My family used to call me the absent-minded professor because I was intelligent but incredibly forgetful. Now I know why. I would have picked a completely different career path if I had known how totally wrong an office environment was for me, especially open planned! Working from home during the COVID lockdowns was a complete eye opener for me. Got so much more work done when I could focus!
@emjizone 42 here, diagnosed this yr. Also suspected beforehand, though I am still getting surprises about what is part of the adhd universe. Traits, habits, details, etc about myself that I never considered unusual. Thought patterns and conclusions that seemed so obvious... I'm not certain that the *augur* aspect is part of it (partially because I'd never put it to words) though I suspect it may be. When I saw your comment, it made me think of all the times I'd felt frustrated that no one listened, called me crazy, pessimistic, other unsavory words. I'm not clairvoyant, I don't have secret sources of info, I'm "smart" but I'm not *that* smart, I shouldn't be the only one seeing this outcome. Perhaps the "distracted" by details helps to form these understandings. The attention others put so easily into societal demands, is instead put into seeing connections and the "bigger picture". Or not, whatever, I'm just a stupid hillbilly, what do I know?
Thank you for this video. This is how I was/still am. I’m the goofy one that people laugh at my goofiness. I use it to mask my “slowness” as it seems everyone around me is quicker to understand everything. I feel like I’m less intelligent than everyone around me and I feel like I’m always failing at everything!
I can relate to this. A while ago, my wife said that it's funny how one minute i'm slow to pick up on somethings that seems simple, but the next moment I understand a complex concept very quickly. It is weird how our brains work and for the most part we feel the negative side more than the positive. It sucks! Thank you for sharing your comment!
I haven't been diagnosed either, and I have also researched a lot and I believe the same. I have also had friends do are either diagnosed, or had family diagnosed, and they are telling me I have ADHD. I have what I refer to as peer reviewed ADHD, because both my doctor and family just think it's just the way I am, and have always been like this. Also apparently tested at 8, and they said no, so apparently they also can't be wrong.
@@HaikesXO if it's causing it you might very well use it not as an excuse but an explanation. Also you could use the knowledge to seek a doctor or a specialist to get evaluated and understand your body and how it works.
The fact that while watching this video, I had to go back sometimes because I started thinking too deeply about scenarios with my ADD. I’ve been diagnosed for a while but man that felt weird
Lol I found myself spacing out and thinking random totally unrelated stuff and that I hadn't been paying attention for a bit and had to do the same. Exactly what was talked about in the video, just in terms of conversations. Just that it even happened with this video covering a subject I was really interested to
I will be 66 in a few weeks. I’ve not been diagnosed, but ADHD inattentive type would explain a lot! Recently, I have found a way to focus while doing meal prep and other chores- I listen to podcasts or audiobooks. This doesn’t always work. But it decreases the number of times I just stand in the middle of the room talking to myself in my head. So much more on this video that hits home too.
Diagnosed with inattentive at 37 years old, lifetime of zoning out and self doubting/critising. the beginning of the video where your second came was the nail on the head. All day every day thats what is going on.
Emotional dysregulation was strong for me growing up. But not in the angry outburst sense. I was lonely a lot even though I had friends. I remember always feeling, at least into middle school and on, that my friends never really wanted to hang out with me. They could all come to my house together and hang out and my parents didnt care. But i always felt that they just did that to hang out with each other. I was a hopeless romantic and I couldnt keep track of anything like birthdays or important dates or money, which lead to problems into adult life. And it seems like it only gets more difficult, especially with kids who jlhave similar problems. Thank you for the video. Today has been hard and it really helps to see im not alone.
This is exactly how I've always felt. Like my friends prioritize all their other friends and never include me unless I invite them. They never text me unless I text them. Same with my sibling; they were always excluding me when we were kids so I always felt like they've never really wanted anything to do with me. It's a horrible feeling to grow up with.
Wow, this was an excellent explanation of inattentive ADD. Has anyone experienced being able to stay on the computer for long hours? It's very satisfying for me, almost or close to daydreaming. Anything that pops in my head I look it up.
I need something in the background to stay focused tho. Multiple monitors helps, one for the task at hand, another for watching videos, another one for maybe another task lol Otherwise I get distracted and switch over to something else and forget I was even on the computer
Its so crazy that as I was zoning out its like you caught me just as the switch was happening This whole video is the first time I've actually felt heard and genuinely relatable!
Recently diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD, and the section you talked about daydreaming and no one being able to reach you because you were so zoned out hit so hard!
"I want people to laugh with me rather than at me" Totally on point!!! I didn't realize that I had ADHD until my adult daughter was diagnosed with it. By then I was in my 60s. As a younger person, I was told that I talked ALOT - to the point where I would drive people to distraction. I always felt somewhat out of place and felt people thought I was an odd-ball. Now at 70 I've come to understand that I'm a person with Inattentive ADHD. It took along time but I finally understand what's going on with me and I feel so relieved. Now, knowing, I embrace my neurodivercity and have no need to talk so much or try to explain myself. I feel so much more relaxed and content. It's so nice! Please keep making your videos. Hopefully they will help people with ADHD and educate those as to the issues.
Internal hyperactivity... I've never heard of it described that way but it makes so much sense. Do other poeple not day dream all the time? Is it not normal to be constantly having to call your mind back into the room? Do other people not struggle with having to focus on what the other person is saying? I'm not diagnosed but this is making me question if I have ADHD, among other symptoms.
Zoning out, day dreaming, etc, are thing anybody can do, doesn’t mean that they have adhd. Of course some people experience the same things as those with adhd, the difference is the severity of it, a neurotypical is far more likely to be able to control it with ease
@@Masked_SVincent Yeah I think what I was getting at is that for me it's almost constant, I can use a lot of energy trying to concentrate when I should be. Part of this is learning what is neurotypical and what isn't and I think that can be difficult. I'm not wishing that I have ADHD but it's certainly interesting to learn about and to look at my life through that lense.
YESSSSS I am so glad someone described it as that! It's as though the over-thinking and unfocused thoughts are exactly like a mental version of the physical hyperactivity. Jump from "this" to *this* to "this again." Round and round and off on a tangent.. Constantly.
To be fair, I can think fast and I can think well. I can think funny things and understand people. It's just the thoughts go a little.. Fucking mad basically.
Inattentive type here, diagnosed at age 33. I am 35 now, still trying to come to terms with and figure this all out. This video rang true 100%. It's like you were talking about me, right down to the family ignorance and poking fun of symptoms. Thanks for this.
I can identify completely. I was diagnosed at 38. It was a relief but also upsetting to ponder what could have been had I been diagnosed when still in school. What could I have accomplished? It's still somewhat difficult to reveal to some people since many don't believe it to be a real thing. Anyhow, thanks for such a good explanation about inattentive ADHD!
You basically just described my thought processes really well, and your demonstration of zoning out when on point. Hell, I zoned out multiple times during this video alone and had to go back. Verbal information processing is really difficult for me. Not only is it slow, but if there's anything within a conversation that I don't understand, I tend I think about it too hard, and now suddenly I'm lagging behind in a conversation because I'm thinking about what has been said, while things are being said. And the worst part is when it comes to responses, I find it really hard sometimes to have fun banter because I'm thinking about things too hard. This is why I enjoy talking to people whose native language isn't English. I feel like speaking with someone who doesn't speak English fluently actually helps a lot because we're sort of on the same page, and they like talking to me because I'm slow and understanding.
Diagnosed at 48, I am 63 now and still struggling with the lack of understanding from, well everybody seemingly. Nice to hear from somebody who has walked down this overlooked path. Up here✋my Space Cadet brother. I wonder if there's an online community of mutual support. If not, perhaps a few of my fellow ADD'ers would be interested in putting something together? We could be unstoppable by joining forces and teaching each other how to exploit our ADD Superpowers. Not just surviving, but thriving. 🤘🤜🤛 👍
This is the sacrifice we make for the extreme attention we have towards the subjects that interest us. Does anyone else encounter a new subject/activity and they deep dive into a research frenzy about said topic?
Just got diagnosed this week with ADHD and it seems to be mostly the inattentive type as well. I'm 42 and I've been ignoring and downplaying it my whole life. Thanks for the vid, I'm definitely resonating with most everything you said about your experience. My therapist also told me it;s very difficult to diagnose in adults - especially my case where there's also early trauma and lots of common symptoms.
It's also worth mentioning that people who were diagnosed with hyperactive adhd early in life may have instead had the combined variant of adhd. I feel like that's what happened with me. As I've gotten older, I've found myself having less hyperactivity symptoms and more inattentive symptoms. And looking back, I can see some inattentive symptoms that I wasn't even aware of at the time.
Aside from the family jokes, this is hands down the closest description of my life that I have EVER found. Now 48 I’m sadly watching my daughter struggle through the same issues. Fortunately I’m able to offer her support and insight from a very personal standpoint. Unfortunately her mother, not having had experience with this disorder is losing her mind. It doesn’t help that she also comes from a very strict, very academic Asian background either. The struggle is real in my household right now. At any rate, THANK YOU for making this video. I just sub’d and I’m gonna go take a deep dive in your other videos. 🍻
this video is phenomenal. EXACTLY correct. i laughed and almost cried at one point. emotional stuff. been a while since something's hit so close to home. felt alone out there. Steve, keep up the good work man. this video made my day.
This is amazing! I can’t believe how much you’ve captured what my brain is like. Only in the last week, as a woman of 50 gave I realised I have inattentive ADHD. I’ve cried and cried all week, this video made me cry. With relief! But also I’m so sad for the child me, the teenage me, all the things that have gone wrong and I didn’t know why! I’ve blamed and hated myself for years and I didn’t know!
Hey I just want to say thank you. My name's Anthony Hatton I'm 31 and it's only being brought to light last night that I may have inattentive ADHD as I think people have put it down to my dyslexia and epilepsy with how I've been growing up and now but you described me in that video to a T 😂 thank you so much for helping me understand things clearly now and in my past events. All the best in life your doing a great thing here 😊
Great video. I am not diagnosed yet, waiting on appointment. I zone out of conversations and I even zone out reading a book where I keep reading and I realize 5 pages later that I didn't catch what I had been reading. I also talk with my hands. It has been a huge problem in the past. I once back handed my own child in the face hard when she walked up to the side of me from behind.
I've only ever connected the dots this year when I turned 27. I'm just so glad that there is an explanation to the way my mind works. I used to think I'm just a lazy loner who daydreams too much, and who have a room full of random people in my head giving me suggestions on how to be efficient, be more empathic, and constant reminders of thoughts that I should explore further when I'm no longer working, etc. I never knew putting a label on it would make me understand myself this much.
@@TheLordboki yes I got meds. Yes, my life improved. However, it's important to note that meds aren't a magic bullet. They do help, but they won't magically solve all your problems. Diagnosis is the first step toward understanding, You must commitment yourself to gaining control over your cognitive powers through mental discipline, forming better habits, employing tactics and coping mechanisms and fine tuning medication. This in combination will have the biggest impact on your long term success.
@@rideroftheweek I'll be honest, I haven't been officially diagnosed with ADHD, but I suffer a lot of the debilitating symptoms nonetheless. I have already and will continue to implement commonly suggested lifestyle changes. I have to say some of these methods and mechanisms have bore fruit almost immediately. However, not every country has good mental healthcare services. I am terrified of being misdiagnosed, hooked up on debilitating meds or simply having long term consequences of entering the system. I think I will stick to lifestyle changes for now.
@@TheLordboki my friend, you don't need to automatically follow every doctor's advice. If you get misdiagnosed, go to another doctor. If you don't want to take meds, don't take them. I have found meds to be beneficial, but I went through some periods where I was on the wrong dose and it made things worse. It's up to you to keep evaluating if it's working for you and keep looking for a solution until you find what works. If you're struggling with these symptoms and it has been a problem all your life then there's a decent chance that you have ADHD. For me, it seemed obvious after I got diagnosed. People even told me I was ADHD before I even realised it.
Thank you so much for this video! I had a real "holy shit that's me and always has been" realization when you described the part where you hear the question but ask them to repeat it just to process the question even though you already have an answer. I catch myself doing it pretty often and I never understood why I did it :c But this felt really good because I have literally never heard anyone talking about this particular behavior. So thank you again! 😭 This video made me feel really understood about things I've never understood myself. I also zone out a lot in conversations just like you described. In fact I even did it while listening to this video so I had to rewind it a bit and focus on listening lol. This was really good and I needed it! I never thought I had hyperactive version of ADHD but I knew something was always off. But Inattentive ADHD explains me perfectly. Guess it is time to actually try to get the gears moving forward with that diagnosis! I was just hesitant with it because I didn't tick all the boxes of ADHD but it was likely because it was always the Inattentive version.
This video is awesome. I can't believe how well it describes how I feel and how I felt as a child. As a 53 year old who only got diagnosed at 50 I do wonder what my life would have been like if we knew then what we know now about the Inattentive type. There are also comments here that add to your observations that are spot on. For example someone mentions that we quite often appear to be top students (when we aren't daydreaming), quite often due to the 'last minute' surges we can achieve, but when we get to uni we often flunk out at some point during the course. I was pretty lucky with my course and managed to make it through (was touch and go in the final year though). For me your description of the audio processing issues we can have hit home as when I got to uni and some of the lessons in the final year became largely 'lecturer talks, you talk note, and you are expected to learn at the same time' I basically hit brickwalls in my learning that i couldn't work out why they were there as i understood the subject matter, but I had to effectively redo each lesson afterwards using other people's notes to have any chance of doing the associated assignments (luckily only about 25% were this way on my particular course, so I managed to pass it, not brilliantly but well enough to get a job afterwards that I enjoyed). It got so bad that for one lecturer I just stopped attending his lectures (luckily he only did 50% of one subject within the degree so I got enough marks from the other 50% to pass it, barely). It also didn't help that he tended to talk to the whiteboard rather than us. I still don't know how he never noticed that i stopped atrending, or maybe he just didn't care about his students (i think he thought we were beneath him as he only wanted to teach the 'honors student' class and saw the 'normal' class as not worth his time and felt he had been demoted when he was given our class to teach).
I just found out tonight from my therapist that I may have this; this inattentive type more specifically. I gotta say, it’s got me rattled and a little…concerned. However, I like the way you described it in such a down to earth way. I’m only at the beginning of this, but I am going to go further down this path to figure out how best to cope with it. Man I love UA-cam…
Thanks for the clip. I suffer from inattentive ADHD. Was feeling overwhelmed and frustrated that i cant focus on what i want to! This video made me feel less isolated. Thanks 🙏
This is so incredibly accurate to my own experience as a 39 y/o male, with ADHD-PI (diagnosed 2 years ago). Maybe not quite to the point where I was having a completely separate internal unrelated dialog with someone else, while in a separate actual conversation, but pretty dang close. Many commenters here feel the same way, providing additional info from their own experiences, that I also just shake my head in disbelief at just how similar they are to my own. It's remarkable. The kid in school who is self-deprecating, and also a bit of a class-clown. Someone who always wanted everyone to like them, so that they wouldn't bully or laugh at them. Someone who consistently zoned out in school and elsewhere when the subject didn't interest them. The doodler, who was actually pretty good at it (I'm also curious. As a lefty, are there more left-handed ADHDers than the average populous? I'm willing to bet there are!). I could barely even stay awake in many classes. My head would literally slip off my propped arm all the time, jolting me back to reality. I had a couple of teachers even tell me that they thought I had it, and should get tested, but it never got back to my parents. Again, I didn't get diagnosed until like, 2 years ago. The low self-esteem. Holy smokes... It sucks feeling so behind in life compared to others my age. Criticism feels super hurtful. I often, regretably, retaliate as a self-defence mechanism. It feels shameful sometimes. So is finding fault or worst-case outcomes in things that demand something from me to achieve a positive outcome. My dad (who does not have ADHD) says that I'm "always looking for a hole to fall into." My memory has always been absolutely HORRID. I've left many jackets, gloves, hats, etc. at restaurants, bars, houses. You name it. I'm also absolutely terrible at math... Like, certainly undiagnosed dyscalculia levels of bad. I just can't seem to wrap my head around most of it and can't even keep things like multiplication tables in my head. There is also so many times where I've needed someone else's help to get something done, like paying bills, getting jobs, etc. because they always seemed too daunting. This also has me believing I've got potentially undiagnosed social or general anxiety and depression. I have this anxiety that almost every task, is unreasonably too mounting a task, to just DO. Something as easy for most as getting a haircut, or getting an oil change. It really sucks, to feel like you're stuck in mud sometimes. Tack on speaking overly loud in pretty much every situation, regardless of ambient noise and while having good hearing, is another odd issue. Trying to hold onto too many things in my head, when they're all important, and need to get done immediately, makes me super anxious. I'm afraid of which I'm going to inevitably forget, or not get done in time. It's the "overwhelm". I don't want to have to change from something I've been working on, to other things, and then have to remember where I was in the 1st thing (if I even remember the thing). The feeling that I'll get in trouble for forgetting something or not doing it right... :( Yet, at the same time, I'm quick to get upset sometimes. It can be like 0-100 in 2 secs. I've heard it called "emotional disregulation". Well, I can definitely relate to that. Like losing in a game, when I feel like I really should've won, had it not been for something outside my control. I've had blowups with roadrage when someone drives super inconsiderately. The real fast drivers, or ones that change lanes all the time to try and get ahead. It's a rage at the feeling of indignation. Of inconsideration of others around them, to the benefit of themselves alone, and to the expense of everyone else. And lastly (although there is quite a bit more I could add, but this ties directly into THAT) is over-explanation and trying despirately to convince someone, especially a boss), that I'm telling the truth, when they have no reason to believe I wouldn't be. Like reasons to take off. Apparently, this plays into something called "imposter syndrom". It's the weirdest thing, this ADHD stuff. So many traits of my past and present , that I thought were completely disperate to ADHD, continue to shock the F out of me, as to how many others have the same, very specific traits in their own lives that have ADHD (and PI sub-type). Lastly, I have noticed that PI does tend to become the prevalant diagnosis as ADHDers age. I wasn't diagnosed as a child, but had the traits. I could promise that as a youth, I would've been ADHD-C, as my cousin currently is. Thanks for reading my novel. I imagine many of you out there will feel just as I do, when I read something that absolutely blows my my mind, like they've seen into my soul. You are not alone in this, friends!
Who else knows what it's like to struggle your whole life only to be diagnosed as an adult? ✋I was almost 40 before I was diagnosed with combined type. I often think about how I'd burned my life to the ground a few times, but I didn't understand the part I played in my own demise. I'm being treated but I still couldn't help myself from reading comments within the first minute, and when the music started that's all I heard 😂
Hi Steve. Thank you. I am late 50s and what you explained here is me all my life. Only I don't have any thoughts I can follow. My head is so jumbled most of the time and my thoughts jump from one thing to the next never stopping, even at night when I'm trying to go to sleep. I had never heard of this. I became a nurse 20 years ago with a lot of persistence as I love to help people. But it took me a long time to do this. Now I can't sit in meetings and follow along. Again. Thank you for sharing x
First thing I did after seeing your video was share it w/my husband who after 45 yrs of marriage, has finally recognized, come to terms with and shared w/me his ADD Inattentive. This realization and revelation has provided a overwhelming clarity to him and myself and to our relationship. I thank you for your videos and will continue to share them with him.
I took a test and the results showed my auditory processing was really slow. My parents used to think I was hearing impaired. At uni I got called on a lot because the lecturers thought I was slacking off. But I'd finishing processing and answer the questions fairly well.
This perfectly describes my life. And I absolutely express myself using my hands in the way you do! Am only realising now at 40 yrs old that inattentive ADHD has always been a major factor of my life.
Throughout my life the number one thing I had on my report cars was "Timothy is easily distracted", literally without fail. I also relate so hard to the auditory processing delay you mentioned, whenever someone says something if i'm out of focus i'll be like "what?" and then i'll process for a second or 2 and then be able to repeat what they told me, it frustrates everyone around me. I also shake my leg, chewed my pencils and talk with my hands (although that is a common thing many people do).
I was watching this video, about 1:30 in and remembered what i was doing today, thought "why didnt my tutor shout at me? my assignments are always in late, i look out the window a lot, i just cant focus on work for more than 15 minutes... wait i was watching a video" and had to rewind
I've noticed that while I was more physically hyper when I was a kid, it's internalized now that I'm older (early 20's) and while I do talk with my hands I'm pretty sure it's a side effect of taking sign language classes when I was younger. Also a tip for future uploads, I'd lower the background music a bit, I found it kinda distracting trying to listen :)
I’m 29, waiting for a diagnosis and I’m going through one of my I probably don’t have adhd phases and this video really validated my experience. I used to get in trouble for saying “huh” so much
I went through the "I'm not sure I have ADHD" phase as well. My therapist said something that really hit close to home. "You know yourself better than anyone else does." The problem is all the negative feedback we get in our lives makes us question what is real and what is not.
This is some good quality shit. ('shit' as in 'good shit') Im 34 and really believe i have the inattentive type, but havn't checked it out. I guess that's one of my biggies, cant get stuff done, including get my brainstuff checked. Thinking back in time. One thing i think is almost half of a diagnosis by its self is every teacher i ever had used the phrase "you're smart, but you're just not trying" in one way ot another. And here i am, watching youtube on my day off instead of nailing those last couple of cornices in our living room.. Great vid, you've got yourself a new follower! Cheers
Thank you so much for watching and for your comment. My teachers used to say the same thing. The one comment that I always received is even in the DSM-V criteria for ADHD. "You tend to make careless mistakes". I hated the word "careless". I want to do get good grades and do well, so who are you to say that I'm careless? You know yourself better than anyone, the trick is to find those strategies that work best for you.
Thannnnnk you ! I shake my legs tap my foot etc. and now I had to pause video bc I IMMEDIATELY wanted to type this comment and I stopped listening but I dint want to miss anything you’re saying. I also talk ALOT with my hands (but I’m also Italian soooo🤷🏻♀️) but anyway thank you for addressing inattentive bc it’s what I am diagnosed with since last year and I’m 45 yrs old!!! Out of all the adhd stuff I find most is geared towards reg hyper ADHD . Ok back to video
Bro….there’s a lot of videos talking and describing ADHD but none, that does describes it as they show you what’s it’s like. I’m an adult and have always know I’ve had ADD/ADHD but just last week self diagnosed myself with Inattentiveness (off the chart) and have an appointment to get professional diagnosed in about a week. I’ve gotten pretty at keeping a poker face when people call me out, Them: “Hey…are you even listening to me?” Me: “Yeah…of course.” Them: “Oh…it looked like you were spacing out.” I’ve been able to travel, hitchhike and live around the world for years, start my own business, and have done a lot of cool creative projects. But, all the other practical life responsibilities and tasks are nearly impossible for me…and when I do try to accomplish them, it’s torture. I kinda like the chattering voice in my head, but dang, I wish he’d shut the heck up when I’m trying to do my bills, taxes or try going to sleep! Anyways, keep up the great vids Steve!👊🏽
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. Sorry it took so long for me to reply. Having ADHD the only thing I know i'm consistent with is being inconsistent. LOL. I'm with you in regards to the chattering in your head. I like it as well. I could come up with some good Ideas, but I would like some piece and quiet every now and then. 😀
I noticed when I was talking with someone the other day that I used my hands loads in such a short discussion, and then went and thought about it for while after. I was diagnosed with ADHD about 7 months ago now and scored 8 out of 9 for inattentive ADHD. The last few weeks I have been so anxious and stuck in my head with exact thoughts like how you have described in this video. I never realised that my hyper part was related to the thought patterns in my head!
I wasn't what I call slow but definitely was hard to focus on subjects I didn't like or when teachers took too long to explain something and my mind would wander and I'd miss something but because I was normally the quiet one no one caught on until I started not turning in homework or incomplete work.
Dude…that zoning out description when there were “two” of you was the best example of this phenomenon. That’s *exactly* what goes on & thanks for helping me to explain it to others when the need arises!!
What hurt the most is being sensitive and not wanting to be. I developed my mask to make people laugh, but I couldn’t lie to myself about my own scars and I prayed that I could stop being hurt. It was only when I reached adulthood that I got diagnosed
Thanks for sharing your experiences, I relate to so much of this! Except i withdrew and developed really bad social anxiety rather than becoming the class clown. I'm thriving now, but it's taken me years to unpack it all, and i only realised that a lot of it is probably related to ADHD in the past couple of weeks!
inattentive ADHD is basicly not to destinguish from maladeptive daydreaming for me. it does not matter what it is called, i have it anyway. thx for the vid!
THANK YOU for this video! ADHD resources are so heavily hyperactive-focused that it's frustrating... and even had me questioning whether I had the wrong diagnosis. Yours is the first video that validated my experience.
Thanks for this video Steve, I appreciate it. I had a girlfriend who compared me with Winnie the Pooh because that was the expression on my face all the time she was talking at me. I now realise very much later its me masking. When she'd say what are you thinking? I couldn't say how the chords change in the guitar solo from the theme from Noel's House Party. I'm only realising this stuff now which is why I think UA-cam offered me this video. Subscribed!
I very much have inattentive ADHD so really related to this! It's veerrryy easy for me to disappear into my own head and also talk with my hands. I definitely also process verbal things slower than the people around me do. Thank you for sharing!
I was diagnosed in 1993 at 10 as ADHD inattentive... it was a misdiagnosis or at least an under diagnosis... I have an LD. When I watch your video it's interesting how you simulated the 'experience' of having ADHD, it confirms for me that I'm much more 'dyslexic' 'dyscalculic' etc than ADHD. It's really important I think to get the correct diagnosis right at a younger age, together with a proper explanation of the condition,,, so you can make better choices and make better adaptions. Thanks so much for the fabulous video. I really really appreciate the simulation especially!!
This is so relatable. What an amazing video. My family always calls me the absent minded professor. They don't treat me bad either, or mock me in a bad way. My dad would often get mad at me as a kid because I wasn't "listening". I didn't intentionally not listen. I would've just not processed what he said I guess. Now at 24 years old, I hear the same thing being said to me by my driving instructor. "You're not listening". That got me thinking. At work I would underperform like crazy. I know I could do way more than I was doing, but I just didn't. I started googling 'underperforming at work' and stranded upon inattentive ADHD. I'm going to a psychiatrist soon. This explains so many things. I would often feel bad about myself for underperforming. I know having ADHD is not an excuse, but it helps a great deal with accepting yourself and knowing yourself.
Something I’ve noticed about talking with hands- I have inattentive ADHD & there’s a storyteller on UA-cam called MrBallen, he uses his hands and is very animated when he tells a story and has such amazing enthusiasm, he even adds little sounds in the background to help make the story feel alive (like when he explains someone shut a door in the story, he plays the sound of a door shutting) and I’ve realized that I pay more attention & don’t have to rewind the video as often if my mind drifts. I also am able to watch his videos even if there are no CC available. Just a random realization I had that I got excited about. So I appreciate your hand-talking, it’s very helpful 😊
I was diagnosed in the last two weeks with inattentive ADHD and you’ve managed to put it much better than I ever could. Still wrapping my head around it as I’m in my mid 30s and kinda feeling like I’ve missed the boat on a lot of opportunities
I´m 38 (Women) and just recently found out I got Inattentive ADHD. I only found it out, because my son got diagnosed. All you said in this Video is my experience too. When you talked about the Intern Dialog, about how your parents and Family reacted, all the same with me. I absolutly get it all. Thanks for steppping in for us ADHDers.
Totally agree. I was diagnosed 2 years ago but it's like I'm forgetting some of the symptoms. This video just touched me deeply... Zoning out. Having multiple streams of thoughts at the same time. It's like I'm narrating everything in my life in my head constantly. The moment I start analyzing something that is happening new ideas pop up in my head and boom, there's even more chaos making it harder to catch up with the conversation. And becoming a funny guy that makes everybody laugh and owns the conversation turned out to be my solution, too :(
Diagnosed last week at 24. Tried my prescription for the first time yesterday, and it was a lifechanging experience. Adult life has been harder than I realized, and the rest of my life got easier by knowing that the meds enable me to do housework after a full day of work and without urgency. Anyway, what I intended to say after the first sentence (I'm very excited about the meds, whoops) was this: the beginning and end of this video make me feel more seen than any other video I've watched so far (as far as ADHD content goes). Granted, I haven't really delved the rabbit hole too deep to find content creators I like, but if this video is any measure to go by, you're definitely one of them
I stopped paying attention after about the 3 minute mark because I became hyper focused on wondering just how long he spent on creating that 'twin rolling in effect' and I had to go back, and became hyper focused on trying to find the line between the two, and then I imagined even more how he probably became fixated on making it perfect. For someone with only 4k subs you're overall studio is very well done, and this effect was something usually only those who've been on youtube a long time would even bother doing. I understand this myself very well because its the thing that has prevented me from even creating my first youtube video because my studio setup isn't "perfect" yet... and I've been working on it for months! Good job and overcoming it, and getting everything spot on. Unfortunately I have a bad heart and can no longer take my meds, so it's an incredible struggle.
I can so relate to this video. I was diagnosed at 50. Until then, I had just taken on the lovable space cadet role. My family also made jokes about me when I was growing up. It is so clear now that I was struggling but didn't know what to do or how to explain it. I am grateful that people understand ADHD more now. I hope future generations get the support they need.
Just want to say that I came across the video last year and it changed my life. My wife had always thought I had ADHD but I disagreed because I'm not hyperactive. This video made everything click and I immediately got tested and was in the severe range. Been on meds for a year and it has changed my world. It even fixed anxiety that was rooted in the add. Thanks for making this video man.
I don't think I've ever been described so perfectly. This has made completing engineering school a nightmare for me and added so much stress to my life.
Nice to find a a fellow man who’s dealing with this. Ive had ADHD all my life, didn’t even think i did. I’m 41 now, and my wife was the one that said to me, have you ever been tested for ADHD? Then it all came crashing down. All my life ive struggled. You are a breath of fresh air. Seems like all the adhd channels are basically 19 year old girls who think everything they do is adhd, and all the comments are from tweens.
My husband has ADHD, depression and was on medication for many years. When we moved and he had to get a new Doctor. Unfortunately because my husband was nearly 68, the Doctor said ADHD medication was not recommended for someone his age and he wouldn't renew his prescription. The Dr didn't even offer to wean him off the meds! He left him with no meds and had him go. God so kind a friend recommended us to mushrooms (psilocybin) precisely. After his experience with shrooms five years ago till now there's no more ADHD, depression and mental disorder. Shrooms are life changing. There is no way you can put into words what it feels like..
Hey mates! Can you help with the source? I suffer severe anxiety, panic and depression and I usually take prescription medicine, but they don't always help. Where can I find those psilocybin mushrooms? I'm really interested in treating my mental health without Rxs. I live in Australia don't know much about these. I'm so glad they helped you. I can't wait to get them too. Really need a reliable source 🙏
Yes sure of mycologist Pedroshrooms. I have the same experience with anxiety, addiction. Shrooms can really help break the spell. Whatever spell you may be under.
Where do I reach this dude pls? Can I find him on Google
Yes he's Pedroshrooms. I know few friends who no longer suffer ptsd and anxiety with the help of shrooms. Never had to take shrooms after then.
I too love hearing about others that have made it back.I got addicted cause of a car accident in 2007 that I am still in pain from,that doctors say is only arthritis then they took my pain put me suboxone since Sept 2nd 2021. Even if I take it or not I still have that pain, so afraid I'm gonna git sucked back in to the pills cause I can't even work but can't get disability either so idk what folks like me do but prayer is all I have done and still the pain so idk anymore 😢 sorry for rambling. Just searched on chrome and sent him a message. I would really love to go with this treatment as well
When he started doing the zone out thing at the beginning I was like oh that's funny I do that a lot then realized I had zero memory of what he said before that point
RIGHT??
Yeah, I had to back up the video a few times because I kept zoning out lol
I was about to write a similar comment lol
Dang, was about to say something aaannnnnnddd it’s gone
This is the only video I found that actually describes what it is like for me with inattentive
Right must be a rarer one idk but i wish there was more on this
@Sam Bourgeois Then why is there no info basically around :/
Same. The way he described how we develop masking hit so hard.
I agree
.. it's so difficult to explain.. no body believes
Its very insightful
AFABs with inattentive ADHD: the "gifted" kids who burn out sophomore year of college, lose all their friends, fall apart completely, and everyone wonders what happened
Can you explain more what you are meaning?
Yep. Pretty spot on, but didn’t burn out until senior year
Hhahahahahahahha, yeah. The "gifted, only-needs-to-check-his-notebook-and-study-more kid". "You are smart, but you need to concentrate a bit more".
@@WingspeedGarage To those that can relate, no further explanation is needed. Honestly, most of us can't explain it.
I feel insulted😂
Great video, deserves way more views! I'm 27, at 22, my life was unraveling. Withdrawing out of courses at college, which led me to drop out all together, relationships were suffering, didn't keep friends, or make any new friends. My social anxiety and lack of focus, among countless other things were so bad it led me to seek out evaluation. After evaluation, he told me he didn't think I had ADHD, rather diagnosed me with severe depression and social anxiety. He didn't think I had ADHD because I wasn't disruptive at school as a child/teen. And I scored too high on some memory/intelligence test. I remember the test being such a joke, it was so easy, it felt as if it were for a child. Either way, I took his word for it, I didn't know any different at the time. At 27 my life hasn't gotten any better, probably continually worse. I've tried many different SSRI's and anti-depressants, none have seem to have any positive affects. I've got no focus, no motivation, extreme social anxiety, suicidal, no energy, nothing. Haven't been able to hold down jobs, let alone even get myself out there to get a job in the last few years.
Recently, an ADHD video popped up on my feed, I watched it, watched some more. And one video from Dr. Stephen Humphries totally blew my mind. I started balling after watching it. He basically described my life word for word for 13 minutes. Mainly, by saying, not everyone is a hyper active, disruptive child at school. And intelligence has nothing to do with ADHD. The two main reasons I "didn't" have ADHD at 22. Every self test I take, I score off the charts for ADHD. Symptoms with anxiety/depression are very similar to adhd, hence the diagnosis. Now, no doubt I do deal with severe depression and social anxiety, but I believe ADHD is the true root of all my problems.
As a child, I was very disruptive at home, but not at school. I was shy, quiet, calm, kept to myself, never wanted to get in trouble, make a scene, cause attention to myself. Those hold true to my entire life. And I believe my social anxiety is a big reason for all that. But, I've always, always, been a terrible day dreamer. In school, at church, in the shower, mid conversation, everything. I am intelligent. I was able to get through school on minimal studying/effort into homework. I am a TERRIBLE procrastinator, everything is absolute last minute with me. I never thought I had the hyper focus they talk about with ADHD, but Dr. Humphries mentioned computer games. And that was another eye opener. I have dealt with addiction to computer/xbox games since I was very young, and it's so bad, I was playing 14 hours per day when I didn't have school, or as much as I could when I did have school. And I believe that is my hyper focus. That is what I would focus on all the time, during class, during everything. And I would burnout after a few months, and start a new game. And in between games, everything is so boring, so dull. I can't pay attention to anything else more than 5 minutes without started to day dream.
I have also always struggled with reading, despite being intelligent. I can read fine, I just can't comprehend what I am reading, whether it's day dreaming while trying to read or just being mind numbingly bored. I have to read a paragraph 10 times to understand it. And also like you, when someone is talking to me, I can't listen, I try. I either, start daydreaming, or just think about, okay, how to be normal, keep nodding, or just fixated on what I'm going to say next. I don't interrupt people but I have a very hard time comprehending what they are saying if it's longer than a few seconds.
When I went to college, I did fine the first couple years, didn't make any friends, but met my girlfriend and probably had a B average. But I was an undecided major and taking mainly 101 classes in big lecture halls. The classes were easy. That third year, declared a major, classes got smaller, harder, and they expected you to be more involved. This is where I started to unravel. My study habbits caught up with me, which was basically do absolutely nothing until the day before an exam and cram and pull an all nighter. It would even take until 6 pm that night before my hyperfocus would kick in it was that bad. Anyways, I couldn't keep up, withdrew from a couple classes first semester and then completely withdrew all my classes in the spring and that was when I seeked out evaluation.
I feel like I've been wronged by those people. The last 5 years have been miserable for me. Nothing has worked, I'm scared of just about everything socially. No energy, no motivation, no focus. Everything, literally everything about ADHD, I score off the charts or am answering with EXTREMELY AGREE to questions. I get excited about very little, but when I do, I hyper focus on it. All I can think about, whether it's a video game, when I met my girlfriend, when I started a small business, hell, even my small movie collection. But everything else... so dull. I like to watch movies alone (I love movies) because I get really bored and like to pause it and finish it later, sometimes it takes 4 times of doing that before finishing it. I have 30 tabs open on my computer at all times. Whether it's an article I want to get back to and never do, or a youtube video I started, and say I'll finish later. Frankly, I could go on and on with countless more examples.
I am sorry for the insanely long comment, doubt anyone even reads it but I am fixated on this at the moment, it's all I can think about, I had to write it out somewhere! I am in the process of seeking out evaluation somewhere different again, somewhere more professional. My family has been somewhat supportive and are helping me with this. I just want the verification that, wow, maybe it wasn't all my fault for being a massive fuck up. A lazy underachiever.
Anyways, awesome video, got a sub from me and I hope you get more recognition for this.
I just turned 31 and came across a video for adult ADHD a week or two ago and thought, wow that's weird that sounds just like me. I never knew I had any kind of problem. I am dealing with almost everything you commented except for the extreme daydreaming or spacing out. I would say I have a mild case of that. But the being smart in school, never studying and cramming everything last second is me all the way. No energy alot of the time and severe procrastination. I have an appointment scheduled to hopefully get some answers. Goodluck
Holy shit, this is 90% me. The other 10% is that I have been lucky enough not to hit depression and my social anxiety is somewhat manageable. I feel like we should connect and we can talk about our life's journeys so far. I totally relate to everything you said and it will be an absolute delight to talk to somebody who understands it.
Love from Nigeria.
same here, i am like 90% like that. i do love reading but it just requires SO much effort. i re-read entire pages more then once in each sitting... always did good at school while being a heavy procrastinator.
that youtube tab thing... damn i sometimes whatch half a video and go do something else on a different tab and come back to that video an hour later .
@@stellarVoid123 I can totally relate. I'd really love a chat if you are up for it.
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. There are a lot of people (Including me) that can relate to your story! So please don't be sorry for the long comment either. The first time I went through the assessment (years ago), I was diagnosed with anxiety instead of ADHD and I thought the same when it comes to the assessment. It was as if the test were geared towards children. After doing some reading, I found out that some parts of the assessment have not been updated to accommodate adults. Mainly because ADHD use to be considered a child diagnosis and the child would grow out of it. Come to find out, children don't grow out of it.
Thanks again.
I’m at a loss for words. I’ve spent my whole life bouncing between thinking I was lazy, dumb, or just unable to deal with the “normal” that everyone else did. I’ve tried to explain this to myself and others and could never quite articulate it-this video captures it perfectly.
I don’t know how to describe what I feel after watching this. But thank you.
Same here. I thought I was the only one
Likewise… 58 and only finally figured it out.
Ditto 63 years old
Same here 60. This makes complete sense now.
Gotta love it /s :P
Teachers often tried to catch me not paying attention. I developed an ability to rewind time, a few seconds like an instant replay, and I could answer. So I was never diagnosed until ADHD destroyed my jobs over and over.
Did you find anything to help you with finding/ keeping work? Have you started considering new careers? I may need to find a new career, but whether it's mental or physical tasks, I take longer than anyone. (Oddly, barista is recommended as a good job for ADHDers. "You want coffee. Um, what?" Angry coffee-addict bites your head off and eats it. Other customers applaud.
@dawnbaker1970 I somehow ended up as a resource/inclusion aide at an elementary school. It has the perfect balance between structure and variety because keeping the same schedule and taking notes is a MUST part of the job, but every day each class is going to be doing something new. Pay is peanuts, but worth a look.
@@wordforger Thank you!
@@dawnbaker1970 I was going to ask this. It's destroying my work and life balance.
@@RichardPrice-m6m Thanks for your response, and I hope your work-life balance becomes more balanced!
The fact that I had to play this over and over because it fades out from my attention haha. Classic.
Because the music is too distracting
My 9yr old son was just diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD, and I've been busy researching facts and testimonies of people who have parented and/or have it. While doing so, I came across your video and my son happened to sit with me. He immediately said "I totally get this" and wanted to watch more of your channel. Thank you for sharing your story, taking the time to teach those that are new to this, and giving a space to those with Inattentive ADHD to feel like they are not alone. My son's eyes lit up and he felt understood. I actually felt like I was able to understand my son better because of you. So thank you! We are looking forward to watching more of your videos!
Too many people think of externally hyperactive kids (mostly boys) when they think of ADHD. Teachers had barely heard of dyslexia when I was in school but I wonder if I'd have been diagnosed even if they had been aware of ADHD because I didn't cause trouble while my brain was off doing something less boring.
Your comment moved me. I wish my mom or dad was looking for resources, but they did nothing at all. I lived with deep feeling of being not enough until my late diagnosis. My son is neurodivergent too and i will own it, i will treasure it!
Well done for trying to understand your sons experience! I was diagnosed as a kid in the 90s and while my parents gave me a lot of help, they never really understood and was pushed to be more "normal". As an adult it took me years to learn how to live with my ADHD but these days I lean into it as it comes with some advantages. I can focus better than neurotypicals in many situations, such as emergencies so I work in the emergency services. I live in a place that's quiet so I can concentrate better. I make getting enough sleep and exercise a priority as my brain functions best with this.
@@jagodalotz3034 Same here :( All they have to do nowadays is type adhd in youtube, yet they cba to learn and try to understand me. If the writer of this comment is reading this, know that your son is really blessed to have you as a parent! Understanding how his brain works and why he does things the way he does and helping him how to counter it with structure and with the planning etc will be so beneficial to him in life, you guys have no idea!
Bless your son, lovely to hear that he feels helped and understood from this video ❤
I wasn’t a clown. I tried to hide. Iived a life of trauma at home, in school and in my community. I was never safe and I had this disability untreated too.
I'm praying you have been able to heal from the trauma. And it looks like you're trying to get help now.❤❤❤ You can do this.❤
I’m a 43 year old woman who was just diagnosed last year. It’s been an absolute revelation. I fell through the cracks as a kid because I was quiet, smart, and well behaved. Really, really wish I’ve could’ve gotten the help I needed because inside I was struggling so hard.
Welcome to the club. 🤗
43 years old and diagnosed this year too.
But it wasn't a revelation, more a confirmation, as I'd already been researching all the possible mental disorders and conditions that could explain my case for years, and I found out for myself about two years ago.
After numerous tests, the doctors confirmed without hesitation that it was ADHD, and finally ruled out the hypothesis of ASD which had been suspected by my less well-informed relatives.
This permanent gap of several years between my understanding and what my environment understands or accept has always been difficult to bear, and this is not just ADHD. It's rather an extra difficulty.
@rb5078 Totally relate. 50yo female officially diagnosed last month. Wasn't even a thought in my mind that I might have a neurochemical imbalance - I just thought I was lazy, a chronic procrastinator and a daydreamer. My family used to call me the absent-minded professor because I was intelligent but incredibly forgetful. Now I know why. I would have picked a completely different career path if I had known how totally wrong an office environment was for me, especially open planned! Working from home during the COVID lockdowns was a complete eye opener for me. Got so much more work done when I could focus!
46!! :)
I hear ya, 42 and just diagnosed.
@emjizone
42 here, diagnosed this yr. Also suspected beforehand, though I am still getting surprises about what is part of the adhd universe. Traits, habits, details, etc about myself that I never considered unusual. Thought patterns and conclusions that seemed so obvious... I'm not certain that the *augur* aspect is part of it (partially because I'd never put it to words) though I suspect it may be. When I saw your comment, it made me think of all the times I'd felt frustrated that no one listened, called me crazy, pessimistic, other unsavory words. I'm not clairvoyant, I don't have secret sources of info, I'm "smart" but I'm not *that* smart, I shouldn't be the only one seeing this outcome. Perhaps the "distracted" by details helps to form these understandings. The attention others put so easily into societal demands, is instead put into seeing connections and the "bigger picture".
Or not, whatever, I'm just a stupid hillbilly, what do I know?
Thank you for this video. This is how I was/still am. I’m the goofy one that people laugh at my goofiness. I use it to mask my “slowness” as it seems everyone around me is quicker to understand everything. I feel like I’m less intelligent than everyone around me and I feel like I’m always failing at everything!
I can relate to this. A while ago, my wife said that it's funny how one minute i'm slow to pick up on somethings that seems simple, but the next moment I understand a complex concept very quickly. It is weird how our brains work and for the most part we feel the negative side more than the positive. It sucks!
Thank you for sharing your comment!
You’re not alone. ❤
Whew this hits different. I feel seen! I hope you find comfort in knowing you're not alone.
this is exactly how I've always felt!
Super relatable.
So this is where my entire life went... I have not been diagnosed, but the more research I do, I feel like this is the answer.
Did you go get diagnosed yet?
I haven't been diagnosed either, and I have also researched a lot and I believe the same.
I have also had friends do are either diagnosed, or had family diagnosed, and they are telling me I have ADHD.
I have what I refer to as peer reviewed ADHD, because both my doctor and family just think it's just the way I am, and have always been like this.
Also apparently tested at 8, and they said no, so apparently they also can't be wrong.
Just diagnose yourself and then you can use it as an excuse for inadequacies!
@@HaikesXO facts
@@HaikesXO if it's causing it you might very well use it not as an excuse but an explanation. Also you could use the knowledge to seek a doctor or a specialist to get evaluated and understand your body and how it works.
The fact that while watching this video, I had to go back sometimes because I started thinking too deeply about scenarios with my ADD. I’ve been diagnosed for a while but man that felt weird
Lol I found myself spacing out and thinking random totally unrelated stuff and that I hadn't been paying attention for a bit and had to do the same. Exactly what was talked about in the video, just in terms of conversations. Just that it even happened with this video covering a subject I was really interested to
Yeah.. that was me today
Ha me too
Same.
I started a imaginary conversation mid video ffs, this is bad
Wow.... I never considered I'd have ADHD... but this is exactly what I experience on a daily basis.
I will be 66 in a few weeks. I’ve not been diagnosed, but ADHD inattentive type would explain a lot! Recently, I have found a way to focus while doing meal prep and other chores- I listen to podcasts or audiobooks. This doesn’t always work. But it decreases the number of times I just stand in the middle of the room talking to myself in my head. So much more on this video that hits home too.
Diagnosed with inattentive at 37 years old, lifetime of zoning out and self doubting/critising. the beginning of the video where your second came was the nail on the head. All day every day thats what is going on.
Emotional dysregulation was strong for me growing up. But not in the angry outburst sense. I was lonely a lot even though I had friends. I remember always feeling, at least into middle school and on, that my friends never really wanted to hang out with me. They could all come to my house together and hang out and my parents didnt care. But i always felt that they just did that to hang out with each other. I was a hopeless romantic and I couldnt keep track of anything like birthdays or important dates or money, which lead to problems into adult life. And it seems like it only gets more difficult, especially with kids who jlhave similar problems.
Thank you for the video. Today has been hard and it really helps to see im not alone.
omg, thank you for this comment. i have to look up "emotional dysregulation" but the way you described your feelings is me 100%.
This is exactly how I've always felt. Like my friends prioritize all their other friends and never include me unless I invite them. They never text me unless I text them. Same with my sibling; they were always excluding me when we were kids so I always felt like they've never really wanted anything to do with me. It's a horrible feeling to grow up with.
@@youlleatamuffinandlikeit4596 i love your user name btw lol is that in reference to the Cunningham Muffins skit?
@@bradandsarahibbard1831 It is! You're the first person who's realized it!
Wow, this was an excellent explanation of inattentive ADD. Has anyone experienced being able to stay on the computer for long hours? It's very satisfying for me, almost or close to daydreaming. Anything that pops in my head I look it up.
Hi everyone, My name's Mick and I'm a Wikipedia addict.😮
Watch movies all day. Keeps me from thinking about myself all day. I'd rather do anything to avoid that😢
@@terrijohnson3401 I totally get it, hypervocusing on past traumas.
@@unclemick-synths 😁
I need something in the background to stay focused tho. Multiple monitors helps, one for the task at hand, another for watching videos, another one for maybe another task lol Otherwise I get distracted and switch over to something else and forget I was even on the computer
Wow! I'm 65, never been diagnosed, but you're singing my song!
Its so crazy that as I was zoning out its like you caught me just as the switch was happening
This whole video is the first time I've actually felt heard and genuinely relatable!
Recently diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD, and the section you talked about daydreaming and no one being able to reach you because you were so zoned out hit so hard!
"I want people to laugh with me rather than at me"
Totally on point!!!
I didn't realize that I had ADHD until my adult daughter was diagnosed with it. By then I was in my 60s. As a younger person, I was told that I talked ALOT - to the point where I would drive people to distraction. I always felt somewhat out of place and felt people thought I was an odd-ball. Now at 70 I've come to understand that I'm a person with Inattentive ADHD. It took along time but I finally understand what's going on with me and I feel so relieved.
Now, knowing, I embrace my neurodivercity and have no need to talk so much or try to explain myself. I feel so much more relaxed and content.
It's so nice!
Please keep making your videos. Hopefully they will help people with ADHD and educate those as to the issues.
Internal hyperactivity... I've never heard of it described that way but it makes so much sense. Do other poeple not day dream all the time? Is it not normal to be constantly having to call your mind back into the room? Do other people not struggle with having to focus on what the other person is saying? I'm not diagnosed but this is making me question if I have ADHD, among other symptoms.
Zoning out, day dreaming, etc, are thing anybody can do, doesn’t mean that they have adhd. Of course some people experience the same things as those with adhd, the difference is the severity of it, a neurotypical is far more likely to be able to control it with ease
@@Masked_SVincent Yeah I think what I was getting at is that for me it's almost constant, I can use a lot of energy trying to concentrate when I should be. Part of this is learning what is neurotypical and what isn't and I think that can be difficult. I'm not wishing that I have ADHD but it's certainly interesting to learn about and to look at my life through that lense.
YESSSSS I am so glad someone described it as that! It's as though the over-thinking and unfocused thoughts are exactly like a mental version of the physical hyperactivity. Jump from "this" to *this* to "this again." Round and round and off on a tangent.. Constantly.
To be fair, I can think fast and I can think well. I can think funny things and understand people. It's just the thoughts go a little.. Fucking mad basically.
Yes a calm out wards busy brain
Inattentive type here, diagnosed at age 33. I am 35 now, still trying to come to terms with and figure this all out. This video rang true 100%. It's like you were talking about me, right down to the family ignorance and poking fun of symptoms. Thanks for this.
Dude same here! And also diagnosed at 33 🫠
@@Gallahaut We are more common than I ever thought, it seems.
I can identify completely. I was diagnosed at 38. It was a relief but also upsetting to ponder what could have been had I been diagnosed when still in school. What could I have accomplished? It's still somewhat difficult to reveal to some people since many don't believe it to be a real thing. Anyhow, thanks for such a good explanation about inattentive ADHD!
I have that same disappointment
You basically just described my thought processes really well, and your demonstration of zoning out when on point. Hell, I zoned out multiple times during this video alone and had to go back.
Verbal information processing is really difficult for me. Not only is it slow, but if there's anything within a conversation that I don't understand, I tend I think about it too hard, and now suddenly I'm lagging behind in a conversation because I'm thinking about what has been said, while things are being said. And the worst part is when it comes to responses, I find it really hard sometimes to have fun banter because I'm thinking about things too hard.
This is why I enjoy talking to people whose native language isn't English. I feel like speaking with someone who doesn't speak English fluently actually helps a lot because we're sort of on the same page, and they like talking to me because I'm slow and understanding.
Diagnosed at 48, I am 63 now and still struggling with the lack of understanding from, well everybody seemingly. Nice to hear from somebody who has walked down this overlooked path. Up here✋my Space Cadet brother. I wonder if there's an online community of mutual support. If not, perhaps a few of my fellow ADD'ers would be interested in putting something together? We could be unstoppable by joining forces and teaching each other how to exploit our ADD Superpowers. Not just surviving, but thriving. 🤘🤜🤛 👍
Diagnosed 2023 at the age of 49, struggeling my whole life. Online support group? I‘m in!
Although a month late, count me in please.
This almost had me in tears (actually it did) this is the closest anyone has ever described what I go through.
Just diagnosed last year at age 40, along with ASD. I’m always happy to watch videos like this as I never really knew how to articulate it.
42 just got adhd diagnosis... and fairy certain on asd being likely as well.
The irony of this video having a straight 4 minutes of you talking. I zoned out and had to restart parts of it.
I'm 35. Was diagnosed last year. Every single second of this video is the story of my life. Incredible.
This is the sacrifice we make for the extreme attention we have towards the subjects that interest us. Does anyone else encounter a new subject/activity and they deep dive into a research frenzy about said topic?
Just got diagnosed this week with ADHD and it seems to be mostly the inattentive type as well. I'm 42 and I've been ignoring and downplaying it my whole life. Thanks for the vid, I'm definitely resonating with most everything you said about your experience. My therapist also told me it;s very difficult to diagnose in adults - especially my case where there's also early trauma and lots of common symptoms.
It's also worth mentioning that people who were diagnosed with hyperactive adhd early in life may have instead had the combined variant of adhd. I feel like that's what happened with me. As I've gotten older, I've found myself having less hyperactivity symptoms and more inattentive symptoms. And looking back, I can see some inattentive symptoms that I wasn't even aware of at the time.
I have add with Asperger's never had any energy from birth and have fybromyalgia
Aside from the family jokes, this is hands down the closest description of my life that I have EVER found. Now 48 I’m sadly watching my daughter struggle through the same issues. Fortunately I’m able to offer her support and insight from a very personal standpoint. Unfortunately her mother, not having had experience with this disorder is losing her mind. It doesn’t help that she also comes from a very strict, very academic Asian background either. The struggle is real in my household right now.
At any rate, THANK YOU for making this video. I just sub’d and I’m gonna go take a deep dive in your other videos. 🍻
this video is phenomenal. EXACTLY correct. i laughed and almost cried at one point. emotional stuff. been a while since something's hit so close to home. felt alone out there. Steve, keep up the good work man. this video made my day.
Haven’t finished the video. Had to pause it because I realized I zoned out! Hitting the rewind button is a common occurrence.
This is amazing! I can’t believe how much you’ve captured what my brain is like. Only in the last week, as a woman of 50 gave I realised I have inattentive ADHD. I’ve cried and cried all week, this video made me cry. With relief! But also I’m so sad for the child me, the teenage me, all the things that have gone wrong and I didn’t know why! I’ve blamed and hated myself for years and I didn’t know!
A perfect description of my head....especially the 'looking at the person talking but not hearing them' part.
Hey I just want to say thank you. My name's Anthony Hatton I'm 31 and it's only being brought to light last night that I may have inattentive ADHD as I think people have put it down to my dyslexia and epilepsy with how I've been growing up and now but you described me in that video to a T 😂 thank you so much for helping me understand things clearly now and in my past events. All the best in life your doing a great thing here 😊
This is the single best demonstration of my struggles
Great video. I am not diagnosed yet, waiting on appointment. I zone out of conversations and I even zone out reading a book where I keep reading and I realize 5 pages later that I didn't catch what I had been reading. I also talk with my hands. It has been a huge problem in the past. I once back handed my own child in the face hard when she walked up to the side of me from behind.
Wtf? I have the same problem with reading, I didn't even know this was a thing.
I've only ever connected the dots this year when I turned 27. I'm just so glad that there is an explanation to the way my mind works. I used to think I'm just a lazy loner who daydreams too much, and who have a room full of random people in my head giving me suggestions on how to be efficient, be more empathic, and constant reminders of thoughts that I should explore further when I'm no longer working, etc. I never knew putting a label on it would make me understand myself this much.
I got diagnosed with inattentive ADHD at age 35. This is 100% accurate.
Did you get meds? Has your life improved?
@@TheLordboki yes I got meds. Yes, my life improved. However, it's important to note that meds aren't a magic bullet. They do help, but they won't magically solve all your problems. Diagnosis is the first step toward understanding, You must commitment yourself to gaining control over your cognitive powers through mental discipline, forming better habits, employing tactics and coping mechanisms and fine tuning medication. This in combination will have the biggest impact on your long term success.
@@rideroftheweek I'll be honest, I haven't been officially diagnosed with ADHD, but I suffer a lot of the debilitating symptoms nonetheless. I have already and will continue to implement commonly suggested lifestyle changes. I have to say some of these methods and mechanisms have bore fruit almost immediately.
However, not every country has good mental healthcare services. I am terrified of being misdiagnosed, hooked up on debilitating meds or simply having long term consequences of entering the system.
I think I will stick to lifestyle changes for now.
@@TheLordboki my friend, you don't need to automatically follow every doctor's advice. If you get misdiagnosed, go to another doctor. If you don't want to take meds, don't take them.
I have found meds to be beneficial, but I went through some periods where I was on the wrong dose and it made things worse. It's up to you to keep evaluating if it's working for you and keep looking for a solution until you find what works.
If you're struggling with these symptoms and it has been a problem all your life then there's a decent chance that you have ADHD.
For me, it seemed obvious after I got diagnosed. People even told me I was ADHD before I even realised it.
As a man with an attentive adhd, this video has summed up my experience better than anything else I've ever seen, thank you.
Thank you so much for this video! I had a real "holy shit that's me and always has been" realization when you described the part where you hear the question but ask them to repeat it just to process the question even though you already have an answer. I catch myself doing it pretty often and I never understood why I did it :c
But this felt really good because I have literally never heard anyone talking about this particular behavior. So thank you again! 😭 This video made me feel really understood about things I've never understood myself.
I also zone out a lot in conversations just like you described. In fact I even did it while listening to this video so I had to rewind it a bit and focus on listening lol.
This was really good and I needed it! I never thought I had hyperactive version of ADHD but I knew something was always off. But Inattentive ADHD explains me perfectly. Guess it is time to actually try to get the gears moving forward with that diagnosis! I was just hesitant with it because I didn't tick all the boxes of ADHD but it was likely because it was always the Inattentive version.
This video is awesome. I can't believe how well it describes how I feel and how I felt as a child.
As a 53 year old who only got diagnosed at 50 I do wonder what my life would have been like if we knew then what we know now about the Inattentive type.
There are also comments here that add to your observations that are spot on. For example someone mentions that we quite often appear to be top students (when we aren't daydreaming), quite often due to the 'last minute' surges we can achieve, but when we get to uni we often flunk out at some point during the course. I was pretty lucky with my course and managed to make it through (was touch and go in the final year though). For me your description of the audio processing issues we can have hit home as when I got to uni and some of the lessons in the final year became largely 'lecturer talks, you talk note, and you are expected to learn at the same time' I basically hit brickwalls in my learning that i couldn't work out why they were there as i understood the subject matter, but I had to effectively redo each lesson afterwards using other people's notes to have any chance of doing the associated assignments (luckily only about 25% were this way on my particular course, so I managed to pass it, not brilliantly but well enough to get a job afterwards that I enjoyed). It got so bad that for one lecturer I just stopped attending his lectures (luckily he only did 50% of one subject within the degree so I got enough marks from the other 50% to pass it, barely). It also didn't help that he tended to talk to the whiteboard rather than us. I still don't know how he never noticed that i stopped atrending, or maybe he just didn't care about his students (i think he thought we were beneath him as he only wanted to teach the 'honors student' class and saw the 'normal' class as not worth his time and felt he had been demoted when he was given our class to teach).
I just found out tonight from my therapist that I may have this; this inattentive type more specifically. I gotta say, it’s got me rattled and a little…concerned. However, I like the way you described it in such a down to earth way. I’m only at the beginning of this, but I am going to go further down this path to figure out how best to cope with it. Man I love UA-cam…
Thanks for the clip. I suffer from inattentive ADHD. Was feeling overwhelmed and frustrated that i cant focus on what i want to! This video made me feel less isolated. Thanks 🙏
Diagnosed this year at 51. Definitely eye opening to find out why I’m the way I am
This is so incredibly accurate to my own experience as a 39 y/o male, with ADHD-PI (diagnosed 2 years ago). Maybe not quite to the point where I was having a completely separate internal unrelated dialog with someone else, while in a separate actual conversation, but pretty dang close.
Many commenters here feel the same way, providing additional info from their own experiences, that I also just shake my head in disbelief at just how similar they are to my own. It's remarkable.
The kid in school who is self-deprecating, and also a bit of a class-clown. Someone who always wanted everyone to like them, so that they wouldn't bully or laugh at them. Someone who consistently zoned out in school and elsewhere when the subject didn't interest them. The doodler, who was actually pretty good at it (I'm also curious. As a lefty, are there more left-handed ADHDers than the average populous? I'm willing to bet there are!). I could barely even stay awake in many classes. My head would literally slip off my propped arm all the time, jolting me back to reality. I had a couple of teachers even tell me that they thought I had it, and should get tested, but it never got back to my parents. Again, I didn't get diagnosed until like, 2 years ago.
The low self-esteem. Holy smokes... It sucks feeling so behind in life compared to others my age. Criticism feels super hurtful. I often, regretably, retaliate as a self-defence mechanism. It feels shameful sometimes. So is finding fault or worst-case outcomes in things that demand something from me to achieve a positive outcome. My dad (who does not have ADHD) says that I'm "always looking for a hole to fall into."
My memory has always been absolutely HORRID. I've left many jackets, gloves, hats, etc. at restaurants, bars, houses. You name it. I'm also absolutely terrible at math... Like, certainly undiagnosed dyscalculia levels of bad. I just can't seem to wrap my head around most of it and can't even keep things like multiplication tables in my head. There is also so many times where I've needed someone else's help to get something done, like paying bills, getting jobs, etc. because they always seemed too daunting. This also has me believing I've got potentially undiagnosed social or general anxiety and depression. I have this anxiety that almost every task, is unreasonably too mounting a task, to just DO. Something as easy for most as getting a haircut, or getting an oil change. It really sucks, to feel like you're stuck in mud sometimes. Tack on speaking overly loud in pretty much every situation, regardless of ambient noise and while having good hearing, is another odd issue. Trying to hold onto too many things in my head, when they're all important, and need to get done immediately, makes me super anxious. I'm afraid of which I'm going to inevitably forget, or not get done in time. It's the "overwhelm". I don't want to have to change from something I've been working on, to other things, and then have to remember where I was in the 1st thing (if I even remember the thing). The feeling that I'll get in trouble for forgetting something or not doing it right... :(
Yet, at the same time, I'm quick to get upset sometimes. It can be like 0-100 in 2 secs. I've heard it called "emotional disregulation". Well, I can definitely relate to that. Like losing in a game, when I feel like I really should've won, had it not been for something outside my control. I've had blowups with roadrage when someone drives super inconsiderately. The real fast drivers, or ones that change lanes all the time to try and get ahead. It's a rage at the feeling of indignation. Of inconsideration of others around them, to the benefit of themselves alone, and to the expense of everyone else.
And lastly (although there is quite a bit more I could add, but this ties directly into THAT) is over-explanation and trying despirately to convince someone, especially a boss), that I'm telling the truth, when they have no reason to believe I wouldn't be. Like reasons to take off. Apparently, this plays into something called "imposter syndrom". It's the weirdest thing, this ADHD stuff. So many traits of my past and present , that I thought were completely disperate to ADHD, continue to shock the F out of me, as to how many others have the same, very specific traits in their own lives that have ADHD (and PI sub-type).
Lastly, I have noticed that PI does tend to become the prevalant diagnosis as ADHDers age. I wasn't diagnosed as a child, but had the traits. I could promise that as a youth, I would've been ADHD-C, as my cousin currently is.
Thanks for reading my novel. I imagine many of you out there will feel just as I do, when I read something that absolutely blows my my mind, like they've seen into my soul. You are not alone in this, friends!
thanks. wish there was an easy way to clip comments from the youtube app on mobile. i read em, uaually make screnshots but it's not the best way.
Who else knows what it's like to struggle your whole life only to be diagnosed as an adult? ✋I was almost 40 before I was diagnosed with combined type. I often think about how I'd burned my life to the ground a few times, but I didn't understand the part I played in my own demise.
I'm being treated but I still couldn't help myself from reading comments within the first minute, and when the music started that's all I heard 😂
Wow. Thank you. This was me growing up in the 70’s when you just got clipped over the ear for not paying attention.
Hi Steve. Thank you. I am late 50s and what you explained here is me all my life. Only I don't have any thoughts I can follow. My head is so jumbled most of the time and my thoughts jump from one thing to the next never stopping, even at night when I'm trying to go to sleep. I had never heard of this. I became a nurse 20 years ago with a lot of persistence as I love to help people. But it took me a long time to do this. Now I can't sit in meetings and follow along. Again. Thank you for sharing x
Tom's wife here. I'm 66 female, and combined ADHD. You and I sound like we're wired the same.
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First thing I did after seeing your video was share it w/my husband who after 45 yrs of marriage, has finally recognized, come to terms with and shared w/me his ADD Inattentive. This realization and revelation has provided a overwhelming clarity to him and myself and to our relationship. I thank you for your videos and will continue to share them with him.
I took a test and the results showed my auditory processing was really slow. My parents used to think I was hearing impaired. At uni I got called on a lot because the lecturers thought I was slacking off. But I'd finishing processing and answer the questions fairly well.
This perfectly describes my life. And I absolutely express myself using my hands in the way you do!
Am only realising now at 40 yrs old that inattentive ADHD has always been a major factor of my life.
Throughout my life the number one thing I had on my report cars was "Timothy is easily distracted", literally without fail. I also relate so hard to the auditory processing delay you mentioned, whenever someone says something if i'm out of focus i'll be like "what?" and then i'll process for a second or 2 and then be able to repeat what they told me, it frustrates everyone around me. I also shake my leg, chewed my pencils and talk with my hands (although that is a common thing many people do).
it's like we have to dissect what we heard and rebuild it in our head again to make sense for us, hence the 2 second lag.
@@kiegetthipszter haha, yeah.
I was watching this video, about 1:30 in and remembered what i was doing today, thought "why didnt my tutor shout at me? my assignments are always in late, i look out the window a lot, i just cant focus on work for more than 15 minutes... wait i was watching a video" and had to rewind
I've noticed that while I was more physically hyper when I was a kid, it's internalized now that I'm older (early 20's) and while I do talk with my hands I'm pretty sure it's a side effect of taking sign language classes when I was younger.
Also a tip for future uploads, I'd lower the background music a bit, I found it kinda distracting trying to listen :)
dang it, i spaced out while watching this video thinking about a bunch of times i spaced out and now i gotta rewatch it...
good info. Just wish the music wasn't so loud and distracting. It was hard to stay focus and I drifted off listening to the music.
I have never seen someone describe my mental processes so eloquently. Thank you!!
I’m 29, waiting for a diagnosis and I’m going through one of my I probably don’t have adhd phases and this video really validated my experience. I used to get in trouble for saying “huh” so much
Oh yeah, thank you 😅
I went through the "I'm not sure I have ADHD" phase as well. My therapist said something that really hit close to home. "You know yourself better than anyone else does." The problem is all the negative feedback we get in our lives makes us question what is real and what is not.
@@stevewithadhd my therapist said the exact same thing! Thank you for reminding me of that
I'm 40 and this is the first time I have seen some1 explain what my brain does so well. Thank you. I had to show this to my wife.
This is some good quality shit. ('shit' as in 'good shit')
Im 34 and really believe i have the inattentive type, but havn't checked it out. I guess that's one of my biggies, cant get stuff done, including get my brainstuff checked.
Thinking back in time. One thing i think is almost half of a diagnosis by its self is every teacher i ever had used the phrase "you're smart, but you're just not trying" in one way ot another.
And here i am, watching youtube on my day off instead of nailing those last couple of cornices in our living room..
Great vid, you've got yourself a new follower! Cheers
Thank you so much for watching and for your comment. My teachers used to say the same thing. The one comment that I always received is even in the DSM-V criteria for ADHD. "You tend to make careless mistakes". I hated the word "careless". I want to do get good grades and do well, so who are you to say that I'm careless?
You know yourself better than anyone, the trick is to find those strategies that work best for you.
Thannnnnk you ! I shake my legs tap my foot etc. and now I had to pause video bc I IMMEDIATELY wanted to type this comment and I stopped listening but I dint want to miss anything you’re saying. I also talk ALOT with my hands (but I’m also Italian soooo🤷🏻♀️) but anyway thank you for addressing inattentive bc it’s what I am diagnosed with since last year and I’m 45 yrs old!!! Out of all the adhd stuff I find most is geared towards reg hyper ADHD . Ok back to video
I had to rewind this video 5 times 😅
That’s me. My late diagnosis came when I was 55. It explained so much!
Bro….there’s a lot of videos talking and describing ADHD but none, that does describes it as they show you what’s it’s like. I’m an adult and have always know I’ve had ADD/ADHD but just last week self diagnosed myself with Inattentiveness (off the chart) and have an appointment to get professional diagnosed in about a week. I’ve gotten pretty at keeping a poker face when people call me out, Them: “Hey…are you even listening to me?” Me: “Yeah…of course.” Them: “Oh…it looked like you were spacing out.”
I’ve been able to travel, hitchhike and live around the world for years, start my own business, and have done a lot of cool creative projects. But, all the other practical life responsibilities and tasks are nearly impossible for me…and when I do try to accomplish them, it’s torture.
I kinda like the chattering voice in my head, but dang, I wish he’d shut the heck up when I’m trying to do my bills, taxes or try going to sleep!
Anyways, keep up the great vids Steve!👊🏽
Thank you so much for watching and commenting. Sorry it took so long for me to reply. Having ADHD the only thing I know i'm consistent with is being inconsistent. LOL. I'm with you in regards to the chattering in your head. I like it as well. I could come up with some good Ideas, but I would like some piece and quiet every now and then. 😀
I noticed when I was talking with someone the other day that I used my hands loads in such a short discussion, and then went and thought about it for while after. I was diagnosed with ADHD about 7 months ago now and scored 8 out of 9 for inattentive ADHD. The last few weeks I have been so anxious and stuck in my head with exact thoughts like how you have described in this video. I never realised that my hyper part was related to the thought patterns in my head!
I wasn't what I call slow but definitely was hard to focus on subjects I didn't like or when teachers took too long to explain something and my mind would wander and I'd miss something but because I was normally the quiet one no one caught on until I started not turning in homework or incomplete work.
Dude…that zoning out description when there were “two” of you was the best example of this phenomenon. That’s *exactly* what goes on & thanks for helping me to explain it to others when the need arises!!
99% of the daydreaming scenario I can completely relate to on the daily at home and at school.
What hurt the most is being sensitive and not wanting to be. I developed my mask to make people laugh, but I couldn’t lie to myself about my own scars and I prayed that I could stop being hurt. It was only when I reached adulthood that I got diagnosed
I talk with my hands A LOT too 🤣. 50 years old a d had ADD my whole life. Was called a “daydreamer” in school in the ‘70s.
Thanks for sharing your experiences, I relate to so much of this! Except i withdrew and developed really bad social anxiety rather than becoming the class clown. I'm thriving now, but it's taken me years to unpack it all, and i only realised that a lot of it is probably related to ADHD in the past couple of weeks!
Now you gotta write a children’s book about ADHD called “Tales of Zorion” 😎
That is not a bad Idea. I just may do that. LOL 🤔
inattentive ADHD is basicly not to destinguish from maladeptive daydreaming for me. it does not matter what it is called, i have it anyway. thx for the vid!
THANK YOU for this video! ADHD resources are so heavily hyperactive-focused that it's frustrating... and even had me questioning whether I had the wrong diagnosis. Yours is the first video that validated my experience.
that intro was killer, exactly what it's like
Thanks for this video Steve, I appreciate it.
I had a girlfriend who compared me with Winnie the Pooh because that was the expression on my face all the time she was talking at me.
I now realise very much later its me masking.
When she'd say what are you thinking?
I couldn't say how the chords change in the guitar solo from the theme from Noel's House Party.
I'm only realising this stuff now which is why I think UA-cam offered me this video.
Subscribed!
This is the first... and Only video ive seen that literally describes my everyday life struggles
I very much have inattentive ADHD so really related to this! It's veerrryy easy for me to disappear into my own head and also talk with my hands. I definitely also process verbal things slower than the people around me do. Thank you for sharing!
I was diagnosed in 1993 at 10 as ADHD inattentive... it was a misdiagnosis or at least an under diagnosis... I have an LD. When I watch your video it's interesting how you simulated the 'experience' of having ADHD, it confirms for me that I'm much more 'dyslexic' 'dyscalculic' etc than ADHD. It's really important I think to get the correct diagnosis right at a younger age, together with a proper explanation of the condition,,, so you can make better choices and make better adaptions. Thanks so much for the fabulous video. I really really appreciate the simulation especially!!
Finally at 65 have figured out I am inattentive ADHD, trying to cope now. Don't know if I am relieved or pissed. Thanks for the video.
This is so relatable. What an amazing video. My family always calls me the absent minded professor. They don't treat me bad either, or mock me in a bad way. My dad would often get mad at me as a kid because I wasn't "listening". I didn't intentionally not listen. I would've just not processed what he said I guess. Now at 24 years old, I hear the same thing being said to me by my driving instructor. "You're not listening". That got me thinking. At work I would underperform like crazy. I know I could do way more than I was doing, but I just didn't. I started googling 'underperforming at work' and stranded upon inattentive ADHD. I'm going to a psychiatrist soon. This explains so many things. I would often feel bad about myself for underperforming. I know having ADHD is not an excuse, but it helps a great deal with accepting yourself and knowing yourself.
Something I’ve noticed about talking with hands- I have inattentive ADHD & there’s a storyteller on UA-cam called MrBallen, he uses his hands and is very animated when he tells a story and has such amazing enthusiasm, he even adds little sounds in the background to help make the story feel alive (like when he explains someone shut a door in the story, he plays the sound of a door shutting) and I’ve realized that I pay more attention & don’t have to rewind the video as often if my mind drifts. I also am able to watch his videos even if there are no CC available. Just a random realization I had that I got excited about. So I appreciate your hand-talking, it’s very helpful 😊
I was diagnosed in the last two weeks with inattentive ADHD and you’ve managed to put it much better than I ever could. Still wrapping my head around it as I’m in my mid 30s and kinda feeling like I’ve missed the boat on a lot of opportunities
The amount of times i had to rewind bc i saw something interesting or read something while you were talking and missed everything is INSANE
I´m 38 (Women) and just recently found out I got Inattentive ADHD. I only found it out, because my son got diagnosed. All you said in this Video is my experience too. When you talked about the Intern Dialog, about how your parents and Family reacted, all the same with me. I absolutly get it all. Thanks for steppping in for us ADHDers.
Totally agree. I was diagnosed 2 years ago but it's like I'm forgetting some of the symptoms.
This video just touched me deeply...
Zoning out. Having multiple streams of thoughts at the same time. It's like I'm narrating everything in my life in my head constantly. The moment I start analyzing something that is happening new ideas pop up in my head and boom, there's even more chaos making it harder to catch up with the conversation.
And becoming a funny guy that makes everybody laugh and owns the conversation turned out to be my solution, too :(
Diagnosed last week at 24. Tried my prescription for the first time yesterday, and it was a lifechanging experience. Adult life has been harder than I realized, and the rest of my life got easier by knowing that the meds enable me to do housework after a full day of work and without urgency.
Anyway, what I intended to say after the first sentence (I'm very excited about the meds, whoops) was this: the beginning and end of this video make me feel more seen than any other video I've watched so far (as far as ADHD content goes). Granted, I haven't really delved the rabbit hole too deep to find content creators I like, but if this video is any measure to go by, you're definitely one of them
I was literally eyeing other videos as I listened...
I stopped paying attention after about the 3 minute mark because I became hyper focused on wondering just how long he spent on creating that 'twin rolling in effect' and I had to go back, and became hyper focused on trying to find the line between the two, and then I imagined even more how he probably became fixated on making it perfect. For someone with only 4k subs you're overall studio is very well done, and this effect was something usually only those who've been on youtube a long time would even bother doing. I understand this myself very well because its the thing that has prevented me from even creating my first youtube video because my studio setup isn't "perfect" yet... and I've been working on it for months! Good job and overcoming it, and getting everything spot on. Unfortunately I have a bad heart and can no longer take my meds, so it's an incredible struggle.
I can so relate to this video. I was diagnosed at 50. Until then, I had just taken on the lovable space cadet role. My family also made jokes about me when I was growing up. It is so clear now that I was struggling but didn't know what to do or how to explain it. I am grateful that people understand ADHD more now. I hope future generations get the support they need.
Just want to say that I came across the video last year and it changed my life. My wife had always thought I had ADHD but I disagreed because I'm not hyperactive. This video made everything click and I immediately got tested and was in the severe range.
Been on meds for a year and it has changed my world. It even fixed anxiety that was rooted in the add. Thanks for making this video man.
I don't think I've ever been described so perfectly. This has made completing engineering school a nightmare for me and added so much stress to my life.
Nice to find a a fellow man who’s dealing with this. Ive had ADHD all my life, didn’t even think i did. I’m 41 now, and my wife was the one that said to me, have you ever been tested for ADHD? Then it all came crashing down. All my life ive struggled. You are a breath of fresh air. Seems like all the adhd channels are basically 19 year old girls who think everything they do is adhd, and all the comments are from tweens.