Did Nurse Fabricate Stories of World's Most Prolific Stalker? | Cindy James Case Analysis

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  • @royjudson4380
    @royjudson4380 Рік тому +187

    Let for sake of argument say she was telling the truth, then over the years it would cause mental health problem, it would of driven anybody to madness.

  • @CineMiamParis
    @CineMiamParis Рік тому +306

    Two more pieces of this puzzle though.
    The ex-boyfriend police officer was later thrown out of the force after serious harassment complains, in another town.
    Cindy’s body was found hogtied in a place that had been previously searched. No needles nor any drugs / paraphernalia were ever found, on her nor in her car. The car was deemed too far from the body for her to have walked the distance unseen.
    There are plenty more details in this case, some in favor of mental illness, some making it impossible for her to have acted alone.
    I’ve heard this case covered several times and still don’t know what to think.

    • @GenXfrom75
      @GenXfrom75 Рік тому +32

      She didn't do it

    • @penskepc2374
      @penskepc2374 Рік тому +20

      @@GenXfrom75 yeah, she did.

    • @GenXfrom75
      @GenXfrom75 Рік тому +6

      @@penskepc2374 k 🤣

    • @CraftySouthpaw
      @CraftySouthpaw Рік тому +19

      It also should be noted that the threatening message left on Makepeace's answering machine is available to hear, and sounds like a woman's voice.

    • @lindawells8167
      @lindawells8167 Рік тому

      It is entirely possible that she was both stalked, harassed, killed and suffered mental illness because of it.

  • @Lisalee5469
    @Lisalee5469 Рік тому +224

    I don’t know Dr. Grande.. I can tell you I was stalked for years, by annex boyfriend… he turned off the electricity underneath the house, he broke out lightbulbs, unscrewed the Lugnuts on my jeep sugar in my boat, stole my shoes, my keys, my cat.. and the list goes on…. The only time I was believed, as when there was a witness who caught him in the act, and that finally happened one day.….. but until then the authorities never consider this to be a fact…. So I really have to be careful when I judge people who say they have been stalked……

    • @someoneout-there2165
      @someoneout-there2165 Рік тому +26

      I 100% believe Cindy and you. I've been through something similar. I broke up with a guy like 10 years ago and he still to this day bribes people to follow me around, harassing me with methods that would make you seem crazy if you report it, have an active smear campaign where I work. He actually has some of them following me around work constantly reporting where I'm at and if I am using a phone, ect. this enables him to safely have someone else go through my personal property outside of work while knowing I wouldn't return back home from work suddenly. To some people Cindy's experience and mine are just too much to be believable but it certainly is if the person behind it has a lot of money / connections. A lot of people didn't believe any of this was actually happening until a guy started working where I was at the time and on break he was bragging to some other coworkers that he was being paid to follow me around from someone in my past. Also, this phone has been hacked, it was since the day I got it since he had someone follow me into the store and stand near me reporting everything as it was being activated.

    • @mrpussinboots4252
      @mrpussinboots4252 Рік тому +19

      @@someoneout-there2165 You're extremely delusional. Ones phone cannot be remotely hacked unless you've downloaded software or accessed shady websites.

    • @heathernikki5734
      @heathernikki5734 Рік тому +14

      @@someoneout-there2165 yikes…seek professional help. You sound very paranoid

    • @damnmuggle
      @damnmuggle Рік тому +9

      @@someoneout-there2165 seek help

    • @ioanaanaoi8232
      @ioanaanaoi8232 Рік тому +28

      @@mrpussinboots4252 probably she was told to seek professional help so why do you have to twist the knife?
      She may or may not be stalked. Why not let her vent here without putting her down?? It is her life after all that doesn't affect your.
      People, be more sympathetic. Either case sympathy might help her instead hurting someone that is already hurt. There's no heroism in hurting a fallen human being.

  • @momof1576
    @momof1576 Рік тому +211

    She hogtied her own hands and feet behind her back? Neighbours heard someone in her house and a man was seen several times. Roy Makepeace got messages threatening her. Who exactly was it that was seen and exactly who left the messages. I’ve had a stalker. The police didn’t take it seriously at all. They refused to come and collect evidence when it was there. They refused to listen at all. What finally put a stop to it was that I moved and my apartment and car were in someone else’s name and I had an unlisted number. I’m sure she had mental health issues by the end of this if she was indeed being stalked.

    • @williamleblanc2623
      @williamleblanc2623 Рік тому +16

      I've heard the message. It does sound like a woman could have done it.

    • @jeremysmetana8583
      @jeremysmetana8583 Рік тому

      It's actually much easier than you think to tie yourself up. It's been demonstrated on television many times. There are books that teach you all the knots you need to know to tie yourself up in just about any fashion. The preponderance of evidence (or lack thereof) is the issue here. If you tell the cops hundreds and hundreds of times, that somebody is standing outside your window at night, and they investigate hundreds and hundreds of times, but never find footprints, cigarette butts, broken branches, or anything at all, then the odds that somebody is really there become infinitesimally small. You're also assuming that anybody supposedly spotted, wherever, wasn't just some rando, or even just a matter of mistaken identity (Dr. Grande touched on this, if you listened), both of which are statistically much more likely than an actual stalker that did this anonymously for decades. Likewise, the phone calls. You have to believe they are real in the first place, so your point is largely suppositional. But it was the 'eighties. You know what we did as kids when we were bored in the 'eighties? We made prank phone calls. Again, statistically more likely than a decades-long anonymous stalker who is never discovered by anybody, and for whom there is otherwise no evidence. I've known people like Cindy. (I actually knew somebody like Cindy who was named Cindy, coincidentally). This happens. This behavior is real. It's scary to see.

    • @jhibbitt2896
      @jhibbitt2896 Рік тому +12

      i second that. the messages to roy's answer phone sound like a women hiding her voice. although some have speculated that roy's ex wife could have been behind it as i think he left her for cindy

    • @cynthiaschell7246
      @cynthiaschell7246 Рік тому +19

      @@Vexarax exactly right, it does not add up. No way could she drive herself to an abandoned house, ingest that amount of drugs and then be able to tie herself up. She would be too high or likely dead before she would be able to tie herself.

    • @rosalina2773
      @rosalina2773 Рік тому +8

      The only reason the police helped me when I was being stalked was bc it was occurring primarily on a college campus and campus police take any incident like that way more seriously…

  • @helenestiernstrand6575
    @helenestiernstrand6575 Рік тому +21

    I suffered a stalker for about 1 1/2 years. It was terrifyingly grippling. I got superstressed, could not sleep, feared for my child 24/7, never left the house w o my Rhodesian Ridgeback guard dog😖😖
    Stalking is usually not seen as a priority by the police n few who has suffered it fathoms how paralyzing it is.

  • @MsNooneinparticular
    @MsNooneinparticular Рік тому +296

    Well SOMEBODY was killing cats & harming dogs and that's effed up. Sounds like the lady was a Munchausen but with stalking. This case has always intrigued me so thanks for covering it. P.S. I found it hilarious that her boyfriend moved out of the house but kept dating her lol. He was like "nope, this place is not safe for me (but my gf can deal with it)." Nice guy.

    • @evelynwaugh4053
      @evelynwaugh4053 Рік тому +30

      His moving seems to indicate he wasn't convinced there was any real danger.

    • @CineMiamParis
      @CineMiamParis Рік тому +20

      Actually, she is the one who asked him to move out.

    • @finwefingolfin7113
      @finwefingolfin7113 Рік тому +17

      ' Variation on Munchausen's Syndrome/Factitious Disorder with the animals being the 'by proxy' bit ( directed towards law enforcement rather than doctors) was my first thought too... maybe in conjunction with Schizotypal Personality Disorder? Perhaps some Borderline Personality traits too? People can be complicated!

    • @NewWorldBuddha
      @NewWorldBuddha Рік тому +7

      @@finwefingolfin7113 Very good analysis 👍

    • @PardonMyPresence
      @PardonMyPresence Рік тому +12

      Even funnier you add in the fact that he was a police officer.

  • @BarWatch
    @BarWatch Рік тому +24

    I once had a stalker about 11 years ago who did some really creepy af shyte, but nowhere on the scale of this Cincdy case. My stalker entered my home a few times and moved things around, and obviously took some rather insignificant items that he knew would be noticed since they were routine daily use items such as bar soap in the shower, finger nail clipper, a certain brush. The toilet paper rolls would be removed from the springing roller holder and placed on the vanity, and a few other weird things.
    The most disturbing thing he did was take some folded clothing I no longer wore from my basement laundry folding table, brought them upstairs into the living room and placed them across the coffee table with a few clothing items on the floor neatly folded.
    He was able to enter the house by picking the lock on the side door to the attached garage.
    creepy af.

    • @WangMingGe
      @WangMingGe 10 місяців тому +2

      The scale of Cindy's case is absurd because she was making up stories/causing scenarios for attention.

    • @oliviagonzalezgranados4352
      @oliviagonzalezgranados4352 4 місяці тому +6

      I also had a stalker as a child who would video tape me on one of those old school handheld recorders, in my window. Every time that I actually noticed, I would scream and my dad would run outside and he would be gone. My dad said I was paranoid.
      Until winter. There was snow outside and there was clearly multiple sets of mens shoes directly to my window and then back around the pond that was directly behind our house. Back and forth back and forth. My dad called the police. They took a report and nothing happened.
      Then, he broke into my room about 3 times. He would just be standing there, and as soon as I saw him he would get down and crawl back out my window.
      One night, I rolled over and he was standing in the middle of my room staring at me. I still remember that fear, I have never felt it since then again in my life. I couldn’t even scream or yell I just froze and stared at him and I silently cried, my mouth was open and I wanted to scream but nothing came out. And then he again, just crawled out my window. I told my dad that he was coming in my room, my dad said, I think you’re just scared because the pervert keeps trying to record you, so your mind is playing games with you. Don’t worry to much, he’s probably just some loser with a video camera.
      Then he broke into my room for the final time, when I getting up to go to school, I was in 5th grade. My alarm on my night stand went off a couple times I kept pressing snooze and rolling back over. I was half asleep. And it was the middle of winter, I noticed the curtain blowing. It didn’t click in my head immediately. My bed was directly in front of the window with my feet facing half of the window. And then, he grabbed my feet HARD and tried to drag me out of the window. I screamed and screamed for my little brother (not sure why? It’s just the first thing that came out my mouth.) my little brother was younger than me. But he came in my room and starting throwing things towards to window and I was holding onto my headboard. My dad ran into my room as soon as he let go of me and ran off. My dad didn’t see him but at least my brother did. I wasnt ‘crazy’ anymore. After that, I WALKED TO SCHOOL BY MYSELF IN THE DARK. I didn’t think anything of it at first, after i calmed down, but once I got in the distance form my house, I started hysterically crying and I was terrified.
      My dad filed a report while I was at school. A couple days later, the police came back to my house to ask me to make a statement and pick him out. They showed me a bunch of pictures and it took me awhile. I couldnt tell honestly. I had seen his face so many times, but everytime I was so terrified, that it just didn’t stay in my memory.
      But they eventually arrested him he had almost a HUNDRED videos of me. Most of them when I was changing clothes for school, into pajamas, or sleeping. Obviously I never saw them, but the police told my dad this and said that once the trial was over they videos would be destroyed. They also checked the make sure that I wasn’t on any ‘websites.’ He stalked me for years and I only realized like the last 6 months. I still can’t believe he didn’t kidnap me. I later found out he was a s. Offender and had a record for kidnap and assault of a girl younger than me.
      My point is, no one believed me. In fact, when I insisted people got pissed off. Even after they realized that someone was recording me, they said I was overreacting when it turns out I was actually majorly unaware how bad it actually was. I don’t know that I believe this case about Cindy 100% but I feel like maybe she was getting stalked originally, and she felt like no one believed her so she embellished more stalking behavior to get someone to take her seriously.

    • @lunalovebad5867
      @lunalovebad5867 2 місяці тому

      @@oliviagonzalezgranados4352holy shit, this is horrible. Were you able to get therapy to deal with the trauma? I’m so sorry you had to deal with this, and as a child, no less.

  • @Coffeedrinker291
    @Coffeedrinker291 Рік тому +144

    I don’t know if she did it herself or not but if she really had a stalker doing this to her can you imagine the horror of going through this and then having to go through people accusing you of not only making it up but then having you committed? It would be enough to actually drive you crazy.

    • @ceceliablazek6909
      @ceceliablazek6909 Рік тому +12

      A living nightmare. Yikes!

    • @1Roamingwolf
      @1Roamingwolf Рік тому +6

      Believe all women huh...right...

    • @ceceliablazek6909
      @ceceliablazek6909 Рік тому +20

      @@1Roamingwolf I don't believe we said that. Amanda and I were speaking about the experience itself which could happen to any gender. You brought up women. Which makes me think you have a problem with females.

    • @AMurderOfLobs
      @AMurderOfLobs Рік тому +3

      Yeah, I'm sure she was really just HORRIFIED out of concern for her own safety. That was probably the driving motivation behind her 3AM dog walks by herself. Give me a fucking break.

    • @marieepperley6033
      @marieepperley6033 Рік тому

      Thank you.

  • @leenygal9856
    @leenygal9856 Рік тому +357

    Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they're not after you

    • @PrecociousFriand
      @PrecociousFriand Рік тому +19

      I think you just answered your own question lol

    • @DaRussianSausage
      @DaRussianSausage Рік тому +28

      Doesn't mean they are after you either.

    • @Khaleesi_Of_Kittens
      @Khaleesi_Of_Kittens Рік тому +12

      I'd be super fecked up in the head if all that happened to me, too!

    • @skycloud4802
      @skycloud4802 Рік тому +18

      Sounds like something a paranoid person would say.

    • @BICustomer
      @BICustomer Рік тому +12

      Once I had a friend like Cindy, and beleive me NO ONE WAS AFTER HER!!!!!

  • @CL-lo4wd
    @CL-lo4wd Рік тому +15

    Thank you for covering this case. I have heard so many reputable clinicians address this case. It really is a mystery. And a tragedy regardless of what actually happened. As always, I am grateful for your thoroughness, compassion, and appropriate humor when needed.

  • @emmylou2652
    @emmylou2652 Рік тому +59

    This case disturbs me & always has……I’m a nurse myself & it interests me that she was working in a clinical setting effectively (?) during this time - I feel we don’t have the whole truth of this case & probably never will 😞 so sad

  • @94Trish
    @94Trish Рік тому +12

    I know this was a highly requested subject over the past few years and so happy you got to it. One of the strangest and creepiest cases I have ever read about.

  • @1xoACEox1
    @1xoACEox1 Рік тому +22

    The psychologist who did her sessions when she was committed said she had a lot of rage toward her father and was very likely abused by him as a child.

    • @JS-bt8ul
      @JS-bt8ul Рік тому

      I was thinking the same thing. He was sexually abusing her and that was the reason she didn't go to Europe with them. I saw him on TV and he appeared very detached as if he was not talking about his daughter.

  • @Malepical
    @Malepical Рік тому +41

    Neighbor saw a strange man outside, bf catches the ex (a psychiatrist?) outside her house, but people think she did it herself.. how do you hogtie yourself after an OD but there's no meds anywhere? I honestly think the ex wanted to drive her catshit crazy and he succeeded..

    • @tessaducek5601
      @tessaducek5601 Рік тому +1

      He usually had an alibi. But he was also just as concerned about her and tried to help. You should look up how to tie yourself up. Not only is it possible but its been around for decades. Only now you can google it!

    • @Malepical
      @Malepical Рік тому

      @Tessa Ducek so how did she administer the drugs to herself, get them completely away from the scene and THEN tie herself up? By the time she got rid of the evidence the drugs would've been taking effect.. you can Google it but how well can you do it with all that pumping thru your system?

    • @salravioli
      @salravioli 7 місяців тому

      Cindy was nuts.

    • @Redwarfa
      @Redwarfa 7 місяців тому +4

      ​@@salravioliCindy was in charge of her ward at the hospital
      She was directed of Blenheim house before that
      People who are nuts do not hold down these positions and are not populate in the workplace

    • @Redwarfa
      @Redwarfa 7 місяців тому +4

      Her family and friends witnessed phonecalls and strange occurances

  • @lindseyhudson1274
    @lindseyhudson1274 Рік тому +95

    Whether she caused all these things herself or there was actually someone terrorizing her she lived a harrowing last few years. What a terrible ending to her life.

    • @troy3456789
      @troy3456789 Рік тому +8

      She became a lot less costly to her community and her [personal] torment was over. She was committing crimes by making things up, perjuring others too, even if she didn't know she was fabricating them. This story has a less than terrible ending in my opinion

    • @1xoACEox1
      @1xoACEox1 Рік тому +6

      Not really, if she was faking it none of the terrorising was real. It was all an act. She would have been enjoying the attention she was getting.

    • @batacumba
      @batacumba Рік тому +4

      @@1xoACEox1 exactly, it takes at least some degree of awareness of your actions to fake being a stalking victim. They’re acting like she was Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde and unaware of what the other was doing. That’s not typically how this stuff works. The whole motive would have been some form of attention seeking, she wouldn’t have perpetuated it for so long if she wasn’t getting something out of it so the idea that she was terrorizing herself is kind of absurd imo.

  • @MsSilverTulip
    @MsSilverTulip Рік тому +15

    THANK YOU SO MUCH Dr Grande! I have been requesting for you to cover this case for years and I am so happy you've finally covered it!

  • @rullmourn1142
    @rullmourn1142 Рік тому +81

    Interesting case. Too bad there were no doorbell cameras back then, it would have saved police a lot of time and effort. It may even have helped Cindy in the long run.

    • @SirenaSpades
      @SirenaSpades Рік тому +7

      It would not matter. I had trail cams. Multiple police reports resulted in absolutely nothing. The cops would not follow up with the man stalking me, despite the protection order. This went on for years.

    • @vladimirputindreadlockrast812
      @vladimirputindreadlockrast812 Рік тому +4

      When I watch old Charlie Chan movies, I'm always thinking, "They'd never get away with that today." DNA and cameras everywhere.

    • @googleslocik
      @googleslocik Рік тому +4

      Would it?
      They dont help now, why would they back then?
      I literally just saw a video of a random unarmed man getting shot by mistake by a SWAT unit, completely innocent man, and despite the video he was charged by the police anyway to cover it up, and the police chief refuses to answer any questions and says they will put more charges.
      Police dosnt care, they didnt care back then ether, their main job is to enforce the state rules, not to solve crimes, its called law enforcement not citizen help for a reason.
      Maybe im being a pessimist, but if they recorded on video someone who wasnt Cindy break the windows and set the fires they would just say "we cant find him", the same way they said they cant track the phone calls they recorded.

    • @ladylin1992
      @ladylin1992 Рік тому +8

      @@SirenaSpades Well at least you didn't find a way to make someone's tragic demise about yourself 🙄side eye

    • @vladimirputindreadlockrast812
      @vladimirputindreadlockrast812 Рік тому +1

      @@googleslocik Simplistic and naive pop culture. So, basically we don't need the police, because in every UA-cam video we ever see, they are only murdering unarmed citizens. Yeah, not sure I'm buying that.

  • @melodyfisher1512
    @melodyfisher1512 Рік тому +16

    Whatever was going on this is tragic. Poor woman was tortured either way you look at it. 😢

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 Рік тому +7

    Good morning 🌅🌄, Dr. Grande! I see you're awake, too! This Case totally fascinates me! Thank You!

  • @Khaotic450
    @Khaotic450 Рік тому +3

    This case is so fascinating to me, it’s almost like a real life Hitchcock movie. Thanks for the video, Dr. Grande! 🙏🏻

  • @missyskye_sea_land9424
    @missyskye_sea_land9424 Рік тому +7

    Hello Dr. Grande! I’m looking forward to the episode. Thank you!

  • @Lisargarza
    @Lisargarza Рік тому +206

    Big red flag: You’ve have a stalker and have been physically attacked several times, yet you take your dog for a walk at 3:00 am? Yeah……

    • @Aaron-kj8dv
      @Aaron-kj8dv Рік тому +32

      I must have missed that part but that's a huge red flag. I think with people in general it's important to not really listen to what they say but to watch what they do.
      I think you can get very good at spotting lying that way. I remember in college there was a girl who was essentially hysterical about "I'm afraid of going out because men might murder me" then no joke maybe 3 weeks later I was walking in campus with some friends after the bar and she was so drunk she was sleeping on the sidewalk outside her dorm lol pretty brazen if you're afraid you'll get murdered when you're sober.

    • @cramp4221
      @cramp4221 Рік тому +29

      @@Aaron-kj8dv men take advantage of wo.en any chance they get. If she was an alcoholic, and men attacked her in the past while she was unable to defend herself, she might have trauma from that, a drinking problem to cope, AND a very real fear that a man might attack her anytime she's drinks to cope. I see many ignorant sociopaths in the comments, callus towards women being murdered and assaulted.

    • @kellykane7586
      @kellykane7586 Рік тому +18

      @@cramp4221 yeah I was surprised to see comments like that when at the end of the day the woman was murdered

    • @trace9657
      @trace9657 Рік тому +3

      That jumped right off at me too.

    • @fakeshemp9599
      @fakeshemp9599 Рік тому +7

      ​@@cramp4221 Thank you for your comment! It added nothing of value unless you consider vague blanket statements about half the population enriching.. The pure speculation on behalf of the woman being an alcoholic bc she was assaulted by MEN™was really cute bc it reminded me of the thought process a small child goes through when dealing with a learning disability. Thank you for that behind the scenes look at how your brain processes and rationalizes information. I would recommend paying better attention to the way Dr. Grande analyzes the reality of a situation while being mindful of his biases and keeping them in check. Good day.

  • @CraftySouthpaw
    @CraftySouthpaw Рік тому +2

    So glad to see Dr. Grande finally cover this fascinating case!
    One thing that isn't mentioned in the video is that the threatening message left on Makepeace's answering machine is available to hear, and it sounds to have been made by a woman.

  • @SunShine-qk4rb
    @SunShine-qk4rb Рік тому +4

    I’ve been anticipating this video for a while now.thanks

  • @chynnadoll3277
    @chynnadoll3277 Рік тому +4

    I think Mr. Ballen covered this one too. I remember one person who commented thought that Agnes had something to do with it.

  • @lisabelle7553
    @lisabelle7553 Рік тому +124

    I fully believe she did it all. I think people were swayed by her beauty, and therefore inclined to believe her. I listened to another very detailed compelling podcast about the case, and as Dr.Grande pointed out- it would have been impossible for such a prolific stalker to exist without a shred of physical evidence of his existence. Thanks for sticking to the facts and presenting all the logic involved in your analysis.

    • @jamesa.romano8500
      @jamesa.romano8500 Рік тому +20

      Dreading? (Just a guess) I don't have strong feelings on either side but I've heard a few compelling arguments that its entirely possible a REAL stalker or predator might have had knowledge about her propensity for crying wolf and took advantage of the fact that her case would be less likely to be greeted with immediate seriousness (again because of her history of false claims) and he may have used said information of the alleged "stalker's" calling card or trademarks when conducting the act itself so that it would be seen as even just a possibility that she had tried to stage it herself and it went horribly wrong. Again I'm open to having my mind changed but after the Sherri Papini case I'm no longer unreceptive to the idea that someone could be THAT committed to a false story

    • @wolfumz
      @wolfumz Рік тому +14

      @@jamesa.romano8500 there have been cases of narcissistic personalities who killed themselves as a way of "legend building."
      I'm reminded of a psycho (I think he was a murderer, but I'm having a hard time verifying/remembering this right now)... as the justice system was closing in, he told everyone that he had a terminal illness, then committed suicide. It was kind of a bummer because when he killed himself, it was as though he had escaped justice...
      A forensic psychiatrist later discovered that he had no terminal disease at all. He had made it up. Apparently the guy's family didn't even know he had faked his illness, they took it to be true. The forensic psychiatrist then found the psycho came from a family where several generations of men- all outlaw types- had killed themselves in acts of defiance, and these suicides were glorified in local outlaw lore.
      So, just to say, it's not totally unknown for people to kill themselves, either intentionally or accidentally, due to some pretty outlandish motives.

    • @SirenaSpades
      @SirenaSpades Рік тому +17

      I've been stalked. I received no validation so I resent people like you discounting it. I put up cameras and got recorded proof, but police didn't care. They would reluctantly generate reports after I talked to the chief, but nothing was done to the man, even though I had a protection order. This went on for years.

    • @jamesa.romano8500
      @jamesa.romano8500 Рік тому +1

      @@wolfumz Not familiar with that one but doesn't Officer Joe Gliniewicz's case fall into that same line/category??

    • @heathernikki5734
      @heathernikki5734 Рік тому +11

      @@SirenaSpades 2 different things, there’s plenty of reasonable doubt to conclude Cindy was lying

  • @DressedForDrowning
    @DressedForDrowning 11 місяців тому +1

    "Maybe Roy Makepeace wasn't interested in making peace after all." LOL 😄😄

  • @friskykitten64
    @friskykitten64 Рік тому +3

    This is one of the most fascinating cases. I have heard a lot of different people cover it but this video is by far the most informative. Great job, Dr. Grande 💜💐🌈🖖

  • @AndreRMeyer
    @AndreRMeyer Рік тому +1

    in for my daily dose of Dr. Todd Grande
    Greetings from zee wintry climes of Basle, Switzerland

  • @djt8937
    @djt8937 Рік тому +11

    While most of this could have been the woman fabricating/imagining things, how about the neighbors seeing "strange" men lingering and what not. The one traced call going to a third party, etc. A tiny shred of credibility, as most of the incidents can probably be deduced to be her own actions.

  • @doggyfrienddoggyfriend9095
    @doggyfrienddoggyfriend9095 Рік тому +10

    I am middle aged, but in the mid to late 80’s I started to receive obscene phone calls (pre caller ID). They continued and the caller would describe clothes that I had been wearing. I called the police and they told me to change my number to an unlisted one, I did. The calls continued and became more threatening. I called the cops again after changing my number a second time. The feds became involved and began tracing the incoming calls. The man that was caught worked in a furniture store, that I had bought furniture from and I was making monthly payments by check. I would sometimes drop the check off in person and my phone number was always added to the check. He was arrested. Turns out he was married and had a new baby at home. The police acted quickly and solved the problem easily. I know that video was not as prevalent in the 80s, but it did exist. Why did they not send a car to sit outside her house and why did the cop move out? I am not saying it did not happen, but it happened to me and was resolved fairly quickly.

    • @thefirstsurvivor
      @thefirstsurvivor Рік тому +1

      they couldnt find a single trace of dna either

    • @Redwarfa
      @Redwarfa 7 місяців тому +1

      There was no DNA back then and the calls were traced but he never stayed on the line long enough

  • @elizabethg.1063
    @elizabethg.1063 Рік тому +1

    I have been waiting for this. very excited to hear your thoughts

  • @Reticence9zen924
    @Reticence9zen924 Рік тому +11

    Just an addition: her birth name was Cynthia Elizabeth Hack. 'James' was an assumed surname because she was encouraged to change her legal name due to the stalking.

  • @melindawhite3555
    @melindawhite3555 Рік тому +26

    I have listened to Dr. Grande for years and thoroughly enjoyed the videos and dry sense of humor, but he is off on this episode. I am disappointed as it appears the case has been under researched. Cindy James was surrounded by very dangerous people and any of them had a motive to harm and terrorize her. The police officer who lived with her - he later was imprisoned for sexually assaulting 2 women (one who stated he told her she reminded him of Cindy). Another was Dr. Makepeace's best friend Dr. Tyhurst - he did own a cabin and a former patient of his claimed he held her captive there. As well, a total of 3 women gave evidence in a criminal trial that Dr. Tyhurst beat and whipped them and forced them to sign "contracts" that they were his slaves. The Canadian criminal appellate court reversed his criminal convictions (though he still spent years in prison during the appeal) - but he paid his victims millions of dollars. Cindy and Makepeace went on trips with Dr. Tyhurst - Did she see something she shouldn’t have? Were they doing the same to her? Just being surrounded by such terrifying people who thought they were above the law (and I include her ex-husband in this) - would drive an already vulnerable person to paranoia. Let's not mock Cindy further.

    • @blymperopoulou5410
      @blymperopoulou5410 Рік тому +6

      And her father was believed to abuse her as a child even sexually. She was generally a very abused person and all this abuse can take a toll on you. Makepeace even admitted to hitting her a couple of times…. Even if she didn’t have a stalker who can really blame her for all the feelings she felt.

    • @chicgal3
      @chicgal3 2 місяці тому

      Wow, thank you for that information. I’m seeing this like a year after, but I can’t help but think if a soccer wanted to really instill fear in someone they would do exactly what Dr. grand is accusing them of not doing which is not killing them, but showing them that they can come to their home anytime they want they can intimidate and harass them again and again and again they can even go as far as Physically restraining them and then showing them that they could kill them but they won’t at that moment not yet the fact that he’s a psychologist as well and had to pay millions a dollar so he’s rich and powerful spent time in prison but still got out of the eventual sentence shows you the kind of diabolical person she was around, and her husband was around to even said that her husband in back of her house in the alley saying he was looking for the stocker I don’t believe that for a moment he wanted to be committed so he wouldn’t have to pay alimony or he just wanted to pay her back for finally leaving him he was abusive and controlling, and if her father was somewhat abusive, that would be a pattern that we see many times women who have abusive fathers wind up in relationship with men who abusive so I feel really horrible for her. I think she was being stocked, and I don’t think she was able to tie herself up, inject herself with an amount of drugs that has already been explained by Mr. Ballin, as so deadly she would have succumbed to the drug immediately and no syringe was found near her body or anywhere on that property. She also had no shoes or socks on and her feet were clean and had no scratches or marks on them yet her car was parked on my own and a half away from the abandon house she was found, I think that she was murdered. Her body was placed there and I hope that the truth is revealed one day if it’s her husband who is a sicko and was abusive to her, I would hope that his last what he did! 💔RIP Cindy ✝️🕊️

  • @Kat-tr2ig
    @Kat-tr2ig Рік тому +85

    The police dropped the ball on this case. They should have set up security cameras inside and outside the house. That way they would have seen the stalker or discovered that Cindy was lying.
    I'm not 100% sure, but I think she was really being stalked, and that affected her mental health (because, duh). I also think that might have led her to fabricate some of the incidents- since the police weren't taking her seriously, maybe she "added" some incidents so that they'd believe her.

    • @zarabota
      @zarabota Рік тому +16

      Absolutely. Who's going to remain sane if being harassed like this for nearly a decade?

    • @2Bad4YOUuu
      @2Bad4YOUuu Рік тому +6

      It's an excellent point.

    • @jeremysmetana8583
      @jeremysmetana8583 Рік тому

      The police spent millions of dollars investigating. I think you are saying they dropped the ball because they didn't arrive at an outcome you would prefer. I think they arrived at the correct outcome: she was not being stalked. Your scenario is way more complicated. Likely, the simplest answer is correct. Cindy was suffering from mental illness.

    • @buttersstotch6752
      @buttersstotch6752 Рік тому +4

      Security cameras inside the house would just reveal a lie, i doubt she'd ever have been willing to allow it.

    • @sarahjaye4117
      @sarahjaye4117 Рік тому +1

      That makes the most sense.

  • @kerrye3901
    @kerrye3901 Рік тому +2

    As always, thank you! Being a native of Tucson, AZ, in the middle of the Saguaro National Forest, I enjoy your cacti display! ☀️🌵😎

  • @anonymousstrangeness7348
    @anonymousstrangeness7348 Рік тому +2

    I'm here to watch this ☺ Thank You, Doctor Grande !!!

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 Рік тому +6

    Love your sense of humor, Dr. Grande!

  • @nhmooytis7058
    @nhmooytis7058 Рік тому +34

    I’m guessing her stalker was a cop or someone in authority over cops and they tried to make it look like she was staging it all. The assertion her death was a suicide is ludicrous.

  • @karenneill9109
    @karenneill9109 Рік тому +16

    I have been accused by several psychiatrists of faking my illness (at the same time, several said I was mentally coping well with a severe illness). I now know that it was in fact a severe illness (MCAS, EDS, POTS). There is nothing more frustrating than not being believed, so my personal bias is strongly in Cindy’s favour. She wasn’t getting attention when she kept having story after story, she was being accused of wasting police’s time, lost many friends, moved several times, wasn’t able to have a good partner, and got diminishing attention from it. Why would she have continued? What would be her motivation? If she was doing it for attention it would have shifted over time, the stories would have changed over years of telling. She would have come up with better stories that would have garnered more attention. Nobody fakes the same thing over and over again- people get bored with it. There wouldn’t have been a gradual escalation pattern like this had.
    There’s plenty of reasons that a stalker would do weird things like unscrew a lightbulb, set a little fire, break a window. Fear, power and control. Which is also why she refused to change her life- she refused to let him control her. That probably made him madder and madder. He didn’t want to kill her, he wanted to control her. But he couldn’t, so he ended up killing her.

    • @anusthing
      @anusthing Рік тому +2

      A similar thing happened to me as well. Doctors accused me of attention seeking or trying to get meds. Turned out to be a rare spinal disease, and now I'm half paralyzed

    • @karenneill9109
      @karenneill9109 Рік тому +3

      @@anusthing Oh no! I’m actually battling a spinal infection right now, two vertebrae have started fracturing, T9, T10, but they’re still stable 🤞 If they’d figured you out sooner, would it have made a difference?

    • @kmdn1
      @kmdn1 Рік тому +3

      Oh I know... EDS symptoms are so weird and come and go with flare ups. Its frustrating that doctors always brush off chronic pain from it to being attention seeking or whatever.

    • @anusthing
      @anusthing Рік тому +2

      @@karenneill9109 yes, it would have. It's a degenerative disease, and if they had intervened earlier, they could have slowed it down

    • @karenneill9109
      @karenneill9109 Рік тому +2

      @@anusthing I’m sorry to hear that. I’m not sure how to fix it, but doctors need to get better at listening to their patients.

  • @hooverkinz
    @hooverkinz Рік тому +2

    Been waiting for you to cover this case!!!

  • @blynch2117
    @blynch2117 Рік тому +49

    I find it puzzling that she was able to maintain employment during all this craziness 🤔🤔

    • @iettord3124
      @iettord3124 Рік тому +11

      People with this kind of problems can often be highly functional at work or among friends and family. On the inside there is a different story and their inner "demons" comes boiling up when they are alone. Just look at BTK or the Canadian Airforce officer. I have met a few woman that was totally normal on the outside but bat shit crazy on the inside.

    • @dontworryaboutit4255
      @dontworryaboutit4255 Рік тому

      Its the same with my cousin my dad and i live with. As of recently they have her on 5 different types of anti-psychotics and she has been losing her freaking mind. She's not even herself anymore but the moment you say anything about her like that she flips out and tells you that she's changed, she's not a nice person anymore and if we don't like it when we can kiss her a$* and get the hell out of her house. I can go on and on for days on all of the abuse we have to go through in order to not be homeless.
      On the bright side, I'm working my butt off to save up money, I'm a full time college student so I will be receiving my financial aid here very soon and as soon as I do that I will be putting in applications to get us out of this phychward. She is an up and down roller coaster where you never know if one minute shes happy and laughing, the next she's telling you Fu*K yoOoOoUuUu and the ONLY reason she's able to keep her job is because she has two children that are 13 who are autistic and she works for IHSS. On the other hand she is the most neglectful parent I've ever met. Those kids spend their entire lives on the computer and only get up for food, water and to use the toilet. She spends no time with them at all and they are receiving no socialization as she told me to stop hanging out with them because it makes their dad jealous. But to everyone else they think she's just fine. She also lies about my dad and I to everyone and talks to much crap that everyone thinks were the bad ones who are always in the wrong. This woman needs constant drama to survive in her day to day life or else i think she would have a mental breakdown and die.

    • @dgsmith9969
      @dgsmith9969 11 місяців тому +4

      I was a single mother being stalked. I had to work to have a roof and food for my kids. And, if I didn't, they would be taken from me.

    • @scottdavidson526
      @scottdavidson526 11 місяців тому

      I thought the same.

    • @WangMingGe
      @WangMingGe 10 місяців тому +1

      There's plenty of full-blown addicts who maintain sometimes very successful careers, at least for a couple decades. Also, it was different times. I'm a millenial. When I was just out of high school, working a few years before I went to uni, I spent time in some factories, brickyards, etc. Coming from a middle-class suburban family in Toronto, I was shocked to discover that there were a fare number of older guys around/past average retirement age (baby boomers) who couldn't read or write. Yet they had big houses, usually a second vacation home/cottage, multiple cars, etc. Now, at least in Toronto, you can have Masters and might end up in Starbucks on minimum wage. So, back then, there was clearly different standard as to whether people got employed or not.

  • @estherhastime777
    @estherhastime777 Рік тому +7

    Hi night shift. I'm just in time for my break. Ty Dr. Grande.
    Nurse Esther 😳

  • @dissidentfairy4264
    @dissidentfairy4264 Рік тому +18

    The alarming part of this story is that she was actually hired to work as a nurse in the health care industry. She could have done a lot of damage. Imagine having her in charge of your IVs and medications. The second most concerning thing is her treatment of animals. There was evidence that her dog was mistreated and a dead cat was found in her home. The woman was certifiably insane. I'm just glad no one else other than the poor cat had to pay the ultimate price. The money and time that was spent on her insanity was unreal.

    • @faithlesshound5621
      @faithlesshound5621 Рік тому

      Was she "certifiably insane?" In the UK, and I presume also in Canada, to be detained on account of mental illness you have to pose a risk your own health or safety or that of other people due to mental disorder. Harming or killing animals does not count.
      There are thousands of people who cut themselves or take overdoses, and they do not get locked up these days. To be detained in hospital she would need to have done something more serious: but then, we know she WAS detained once.
      Usually you need to seem mentally disordered between episodes of self-harm to be detained for treatment, and some jurisdictions prefer the disorder to be treatable: mental health professionals often label those they can't/don't want to treat as having a personality disorder.

  • @shaestewart5261
    @shaestewart5261 Рік тому +3

    I agree with Dr Grande’s analysis 100%. The only thing I have questions about is CJ’s death. Did she mean to kill herself or was it accidental OD? Perhaps she wanted the doctors and police to find drugs in her system, but she took more than her body could handle so she died accidentally? Or perhaps she really did want to die?

  • @lindastewart1794
    @lindastewart1794 Рік тому +16

    Never heard of this but true or false - the incidence of stalking should never be dismissed or underestimated. A stalker is a sad, deranged individual who has invented a life for him/herself where he/she has significance in the life of the object of his attentions, and they can go on for years. They become nasty and unhinged when their delusions are exposed. This is a way of life for them, a way of enduring their own lives by way of a parasitic clinging to another's life, wherein they believe they are somehow involved. I agree there is so much more stalking goes on than we think, as, for their world (as they know it ) to exist the truth cannot be discovered. Whatever sad circumstances have led to this cannot be fathomed, however the violation of others privacy and human rights cannot be justified.

  • @richardpaulcaird9192
    @richardpaulcaird9192 Рік тому +1

    Another great vid, very informative as always Dr Grande, getting straight to the facts of the case... 👍🏻👌🏻🕵🏻‍♂️ Could you please, please, please kindly do a vid on the following creepy unsolved cases:
    *1) The Lipstick Killer
    *2) The unsolved Isdal Woman murder
    *3) The unsolved Hinterkaifeck murders
    &
    *4) The unsolved 'Who put Bella down the Wych Elm' murder
    ❔❓❔❓

  • @SmilerORocker
    @SmilerORocker Рік тому

    Was looking for a video on this case,... Most annoyed me for some reason.... The last one was a whispered ASMR which was just beyond creepy!!! Whispering about a murder case is just too weird. But then... HELLO!! Dr Grande.... Sometime who can make some real sense of this case. Here i stay 😊.

  • @mollierainbow3486
    @mollierainbow3486 Рік тому +6

    Such a crazy story

    • @clayhackney3514
      @clayhackney3514 Рік тому +1

      You can't have watched it yet how do you know

    • @wholelottagangshid
      @wholelottagangshid Рік тому +2

      @Clay Hackney Jeez it's almost like this isn't one of the most famous unsolved mysteries

  • @Gilbert_Dice_Gottfried
    @Gilbert_Dice_Gottfried Рік тому +48

    The part about her first husband is very strange. I don’t think that has anything to do with the stalker but it sounds like losing her husband to suicide could’ve traumatized her. I think it’s very eerie that her whole family didn’t even know who her first husband was. Maybe it’s possible he never existed and she also made that up.

    • @pyry1948
      @pyry1948 Рік тому +38

      She most likely made him up competely

    • @kimberlyroland9394
      @kimberlyroland9394 Рік тому +27

      I had a very good friend who was a pathological liar and I don't know to this day why but she made up entire relationships and people who died in her life it was very detailed and her emotions seemed very real and none of it was reality

    • @heathernikki5734
      @heathernikki5734 Рік тому +17

      He didn’t exist

    • @NewWorldBuddha
      @NewWorldBuddha Рік тому +12

      @@kimberlyroland9394 A good way to get attention and sympathy.

    • @faiza515
      @faiza515 Рік тому +12

      @@kimberlyroland9394 I knew someone who had twin daughters that didn't exist.

  • @easttowest5984
    @easttowest5984 Рік тому +30

    Is it possible she somehow did this and didn’t know or remember? Like she disassociated? It seems she went to great lengths to investigate it. It is very hard to believe her story but I guess anything is possible.

    • @thelogicaldanger
      @thelogicaldanger Рік тому +4

      There has been speculation that she has multiple personalities, with 1 personality tormenting her, and her main personality having no idea that was happening.

  • @clayhackney3514
    @clayhackney3514 Рік тому +5

    Do we have an explanation on the cactus love out of Delaware?

  • @raymolver9959
    @raymolver9959 Рік тому +51

    It seems that her parents moving to France and her staying behind could have been the start of her feelings of loneliness and abandonment?
    It also seems that her first boyfriend did not actually exist?

  • @antonydrossos5719
    @antonydrossos5719 Рік тому +12

    Stories of stalkers always unnerve me because of how they don’t just happen to celebrities. Faking something like that is baffling

  • @rachaelb.
    @rachaelb. Рік тому +5

    I think this case needs more investigating! Who was killing all the animals? Imagine having all those things done to you, would it eventually give you PTSD? What could she do?

    • @ursodermatt8809
      @ursodermatt8809 Рік тому +6

      how would you investigate the killing of a cat 40 years ago?

    • @JenJen8970
      @JenJen8970 Рік тому

      There was never any proof that cats were killed.

  • @carlsmith9091
    @carlsmith9091 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this one. Can you do the Bill and Dorothy Whaker case? It was on an unsolved mysteries episode as well.

  • @MikeBaxterABC
    @MikeBaxterABC 3 місяці тому

    Interesting Story Dr. !! Very complicated and even scary!

  • @LDiamondz
    @LDiamondz Рік тому +1

    I just noticed I get all the notifications for your full videos, Dr.Grande, but haven't been getting them for the shorts. That's odd. Maybe my settings are off?

  • @RightsForZombies
    @RightsForZombies Рік тому +41

    Stalking happens far more often than people realise. even though Cindy fabricated evidence and her story implausible, it's important not to be dismissive when people claim to be victims of stalking, as it can have dangerous consequences. It's a shame nobody was able to help her.

    • @kitkatclawz
      @kitkatclawz Рік тому +4

      When I heard this story, it totally reminded me of when people are "gang stalked". This happens a lot more often than people realize, but most people don't really know about this type of stalking. As a result they tend to dismiss it & think the person who is being gang stalked is just making things up or crazy... :(

    • @SirenaSpades
      @SirenaSpades Рік тому +1

      Agree 100%

  • @dennisdistant
    @dennisdistant Рік тому

    I remember asking for this on your channel and I have only now seen it. I still don't know what to think about it this case. Anyway great video!

  • @marisawoods
    @marisawoods Рік тому +1

    Dr. Grande, please do an analysis of Dr. Patrick Henry. The case is so creepy. The prosecutor, William Randolph Stevens, wrote a book on the case called, "Deadly Intentions." There are 2 movies on the case. His wife had to go into witness protection...AND HE WENT AFTER HER. He was very highly disturbed, and I'd SO LOVE to hear your take on the case! Pretty please.

  • @nimsa2000
    @nimsa2000 Рік тому +5

    Hello 👋 good Dr. Grande 😀

  • @troy3456789
    @troy3456789 Рік тому +11

    She must've been miserable. Good analysis, and tragic story.

  • @camuscat123
    @camuscat123 Рік тому +1

    I just wonder about the use of drugs in this vendetta. I find this so tragic. Sometimes I wonder how many people w personality disorders are misdiagnosed and never receive evidenced based treatment. I found this tragic but really interesting. Have we come a long way in the case of personality disorders? Thanks so much. That must have taken a great deal of time to put together.

  • @TheFakeyCakeMaker
    @TheFakeyCakeMaker Рік тому +6

    The police and mental health, never a good combo

  • @jhibbitt2896
    @jhibbitt2896 Рік тому

    yay, i've been waiting for you to talk about this one for ages

  • @kimmyfreak200
    @kimmyfreak200 Рік тому

    oh my! never even saw this! i requested this...thanks Dr. Grande

  • @wendiwonderly1419
    @wendiwonderly1419 Рік тому +20

    Dr grande. Please consider doing an episode on the teacher in the pocono mountains in Pennsylvania who framed another teacher for stalking and harassing her simply to gain sympathy and attention. A very bizarre case

    • @easttowest5984
      @easttowest5984 Рік тому +3

      I saw that on Forensic Files. That was a strange one.

    • @wendiwonderly1419
      @wendiwonderly1419 Рік тому +1

      @@easttowest5984 forensic files was shot right in Allentown PA and had a number of episodes of local interest. Allentown is south of the pocono mountains in eastern Pennsylvania

    • @easttowest5984
      @easttowest5984 Рік тому +2

      @@wendiwonderly1419 Right, I remember the names if we are speaking of the same case. Joanne Chambers and Paula Norocki ( I have no clue how to spell the name)

  • @suzf5045
    @suzf5045 Рік тому +2

    🌵Hi, Dr. Grande! 🌵Thank you, for another entertaining and informative analysis. Very interesting indeed…..
    I always look forward to your uploads. Have a great rest of your week! ☺️🌵

  • @robertschwarz603
    @robertschwarz603 Рік тому +2

    I have read about this case over 10 years ago. Cindy over a period of several years claimed to know who was doing this. She refused to share that info with the police. The voice of the caller sounded like a woman faking a male voice. This is a very strange case

  • @davidng8870
    @davidng8870 Рік тому

    Props for not mincing words on this one. Imo for those without an emotional attachment to the subject matter one side of the argument is clearly more likely than the other

  • @yanghao8351
    @yanghao8351 Рік тому +2

    Oliver BC is a nice little town. Been there a few times.

    • @jdanielcramer
      @jdanielcramer Рік тому

      I’ve just retired north of there 🙀

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 Рік тому +24

    This is an Absolutely Terrifying , and Disturbing Case! I feel so bad for Cindy!

  • @rejaneoliveira5019
    @rejaneoliveira5019 Рік тому +8

    It’s amazing the things people do and say for attention. At the same time I feel bad for her, she definitely needed a lot of help.
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Dr. Grande.❤

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 Рік тому +2

      Hi Rejane. I agree, feel bad for her but believe she needed help. Hope your new year is going well😊🌷💚🌅

    • @rejaneoliveira5019
      @rejaneoliveira5019 Рік тому +3

      @@zenawarrior7442 Yes, she was on a self made prison.
      Thank you Zena, I hope yours is going very well too. Send my love to mom.❤️

    • @zenawarrior7442
      @zenawarrior7442 Рік тому +1

      @@rejaneoliveira5019 Great point...the self made prison! Thanks so much. I will 💜Busy year so far here😊🏜

  • @hellotoday5069
    @hellotoday5069 Рік тому

    Best episode yet Dr. Double G!

  • @ThisEpicLife
    @ThisEpicLife Рік тому +41

    I'll be blunt: it's absolutely incredible to me that there are people who are so gullible as to believe her story.
    I work in a field in which you get pretty good at spotting B.S... so when I hear a story like this, or like Jussie Smollett's, it kind of blows my mind that anyone could possibly buy into it.

    • @G274Me
      @G274Me Рік тому +11

      Yeah, I can’t imagine a stalker having such dedication and restraint at the same time. No one would go to all that risk for years; slowly escalating.

    • @Aaron-kj8dv
      @Aaron-kj8dv Рік тому

      I think sometime like the Jussie Smollet case people WANT to believe it's real so much that they ignore evidence to the contrary.
      Probably the same in this case, it's so interesting if it is real and who knows? Maybe the cops know it's BS but they have to do their due diligence anyway.

    • @djquinn11
      @djquinn11 Рік тому +2

      You don’t believe Jussie? He’s the most credible person in Hollywood

    • @cramp4221
      @cramp4221 Рік тому +1

      What do you do for a living

    • @ursodermatt8809
      @ursodermatt8809 Рік тому

      confirmation bias

  • @buschovski1
    @buschovski1 Рік тому

    awesome. i cant wait for your analysis on this one.

  • @dustydamsel6314
    @dustydamsel6314 Рік тому

    I completely agree with this assessment.

  • @nealstarling5422
    @nealstarling5422 Рік тому +1

    Mental illness, to those not aquatinted with the person, is not always apparent. A person can be perfectly functional, make good money, drive a car exceptionally well, act completely normal in short bursts, yet in a relationship be the poster person for a particular disfunction. The mind works in strange ways. “She was her own worse enemy” says it all.

  • @KimberlyLetsGo
    @KimberlyLetsGo Рік тому +2

    That's a long time for someone to keep up such activities.

  • @matthewneufer1758
    @matthewneufer1758 Рік тому +3

    She could be a victim of that f****** stalking victim all this s*** could have been done just to drive her crazy

  • @lnc-to4ku
    @lnc-to4ku Рік тому +7

    This video was so intense the way you layered out this case. I couldn't wait to hear your analysis on this! It was both gripping and hilarious the way you told it!
    "The police couldn't figure out the motive for this pillow homicide." 😅
    "He could be among one of the most greatest masterminds who ever lived."
    I can't tell you how much I appreciate everything you put out into this world, Dr. Grande! (With all due respect, I also have to say how deeply you've wedged into my heart! Your whole extraordinary and beautiful being!)

  • @cynthiaschell7246
    @cynthiaschell7246 Рік тому +4

    Very hard to believe that anyone with HPD would commit suicide. Someone who really wanted to mess with her would make several 'attempts', all with the intention of just scaring her until they were ready to actually do it. For some evil people, they actually enjoy torturing people. It's a thrill for them and they would wait to kill the person until every circumstance was just as they needed it to be. If any little thing were 'off', they wouldn't finish the job, they would wait and try again later. It wouldn't be hard for them to deliberately try to make it seem like she did it to herself. How could she tie herself up after ingesting that amount of drugs?

    • @kjean8605
      @kjean8605 Рік тому

      My husband of over 20 years had HPD and committed suicide. After many years of attention seeking behavior he had pretty much isolated himself. I had grown so weary of his behavior (and the fact that he was abusive) and finally called it quits. A few months later, he took his life in a way that assured that there would be A LOT of attention. He was willing to go that far to get the attention he thought he needed. It is entirely likely that Cindy staged an elaborate death for attention. People are still talking about it decades later. But honestly, I’m not fully convinced it wasn’t her ex husband. I’m just saying it’s possible she did this.

    • @blymperopoulou5410
      @blymperopoulou5410 Рік тому

      Totally agree. Also, her ex husband had a motive to scare her back to him, but when he realised or accepted that she wasn’t actually returning and that this whole thing backfired he probably just got rid of her. I can’t believe the theory she was vindictive of her ex or anything like that, it seems that simply wanted to break up with him but was attached to him due to the years they spent together.

  • @anonymousstrangeness7348
    @anonymousstrangeness7348 Рік тому +11

    No matter how you consider the possibilities and implications in this story, it's puzzling and fascinating ☺ 👍

  • @TheMYERSFAN25
    @TheMYERSFAN25 Рік тому +2

    I agree with Dr. Grande: This person (the stalker) would have to be the LUCKIEST person in the world. I think when she was tied up the final time, (self-inflicted) she took it too far and accidentally killed herself.

  • @jackwalls7170
    @jackwalls7170 Рік тому +4

    Hey Doc

  • @debrarouse2794
    @debrarouse2794 Рік тому +2

    IDK...I've survived through similar situations...I've lived to tell...+✌

  • @ashleypearson7848
    @ashleypearson7848 Рік тому +2

    Thanks for covering this! I believe she was stalked and killed! No way she did that to herself either way very tragic

  • @MikeBaxterABC
    @MikeBaxterABC 3 місяці тому

    16:29 ... The "perpetrator never left ANY physical evidence behind" .. Like not even a footprint or a fingerprint, nothing!

  • @cristinesomerville4522
    @cristinesomerville4522 11 місяців тому +1

    This is something I believe is called a “factitious disorder.” Ive read many of the comments insisting that her “stalker” was real but i can promise you that this “stalker” did not exist…. There is ZERO independent evidence of her “stalker” and Cindy would always refuse to identify him or provide useful descriptions of him to the police.

  • @dee-annminer-evans
    @dee-annminer-evans Рік тому +38

    Why is it so hard to believe that there was someone out to get her? She died in the end after all?

    • @kimmyfreak200
      @kimmyfreak200 Рік тому +4

      this kinda reminds me of the case of denise huskins ... I saw it on that chapter i shook my head the entire time saying "the kidnapped victim is fabricating everything" but at the end..she was telling the truth...but it was so insane and dramatic...i was sure it was a hoax

    • @animula6908
      @animula6908 Рік тому +10

      Because why would you break in and attack someone and leave a note saying you are trying to kill someone, yet leave them alive with a note pinned to them in a way that is guaranteed not to be terminal? It requires the most masterful yet also incompetent supervillain, or just a mentally Ill woman who is a threat to herself. Either way it’s very sad.

    • @rupertsmith5815
      @rupertsmith5815 Рік тому +2

      Because everytime the police would watch the house and tap the phone lines there would be nothing as soon as they took it off it would happen again.
      He broke into her house on several occasions yet never left any physical evidence.
      And when the fire was set there was no sign of intrusion and cindy was fully clothed when asked why she answered
      Oh I was out walking the dog .
      A woman constantly assaulted by a stalker who’s calls the police hundreds of times and who has friends sleeping over because she is so afraid.
      Yet she walks a dog a 3 am all by herself………. Doesn’t sound right
      And a security expert installed a panic button that would alert authorities if there was an emergency immediately, at all 3 days paces she lived during the time yet during an attack it was always disconnected
      When you look at that even the most hardcore believer would raise an eyebrow

    • @dee-annminer-evans
      @dee-annminer-evans Рік тому

      @@rupertsmith5815 wow I made this comment over five months ago and he wrote a book. Do you really reply to all comments like this?

    • @rupertsmith5815
      @rupertsmith5815 Рік тому +2

      @@dee-annminer-evans do you always take issue with time ?

  • @jeandalgleish6460
    @jeandalgleish6460 Рік тому +3

    Very interesting case .... Dr. Grande, could you do a video on the case of Jodi Huisentruit - the morning news presenter in Mason City, Iowa who knew she was being stalked and was terrified, then one early morning (3am?) she was kidnapped then likely raped and murdered by this stalker and her remains have never been found.

  • @pernilladomander7648
    @pernilladomander7648 Рік тому +1

    I thought DrG was the stalker at first based on the thumbnail. So funny!

  • @glmccomb
    @glmccomb Рік тому

    Very good observations

  • @Thechangelingpnw
    @Thechangelingpnw Рік тому +3

    Is this one of those, “The calls were coming from inside the house” things?

  • @mindhunterspirithunter1374
    @mindhunterspirithunter1374 Рік тому +3

    Thank you Dr. Grande, I have been waiting for your analysis on Cindy. ❤

  • @rayross997
    @rayross997 Рік тому +1

    Please cover Jane Stafford who's story is told in The Life With Billy movie?

  • @btetschner
    @btetschner Рік тому +1

    WOW, that is a very unusual case!
    Maybe there is no legal way officers can send someone like that to some type of institution? A single incident would have been enough to send her away for treatment.
    Very unique case!

  • @sox1085
    @sox1085 Рік тому +7

    I believe that I believe her. Even if it is exaggerated , if it is 1% truth, it needs to be taken seriously.

  • @deborahmilan8807
    @deborahmilan8807 Рік тому +1

    Hi dr. Grande, can you analyze the case of Janet Marie Chandler?