It's been a long minute since I've been here. 😬 My hair is shorter than this now. And yeah, feel free to comment I filmed this video three months ago, but it took me until now to feel able to edit & post.
I am training myself to live in the present alot learning violin helping people without nothing in my mind (no expectations ) expressing my feelings, developing self esteem. Sometimes observing other people learning from them how they do it. Its honestly alot of work ... alot of work
Fight or flight and the feeling that the "switch is always on". This happened to me a few months ago. It's a horrible feeling. I also just realized SAD started with a family member adult when I was a kid...and I realize that now (in my 30s) I still don't like it. Smh!! I think this is beyond my being INFP. lol. Well done and thanks for making these videos. As an INFP, I have struggled and still struggle with the idea of making UA-cam videos.
The unseen consequences to our unseen childhood anxieties is really tragic, since I avoid social interactions so much, I've become a hikikomori. But when im out, I have to put on such a front to function and sometimes even disassociate, then people tell me that im not awkward im doing fine etc. But in actuality im a mess during and before. I used to cry every morning before school, and summer camp until like 10th grade. That only stopped cause after a decade of knowing these people I actually acquired 'friends', but then we graduate and you lose all of them. xD Have to start all over! Or have only online friends from then on lol. I really wish I was a sensor, maybe actually participating/noticing the real world would help instead of just si to make me loop. Being alive sucks, at least everyone can agree with that.
I agree with you! Making friends is hard, and I haven’t mastered the ability to make myself likable to a lot of people, which might be easier if I was a sensor, if I desired to fit in more. 😅 But yes, it’s a long road to consciously learning how to function with anxiety and develop lasting social connections.
Yeah, thats why mbti is helpful I've found. After absorbing so much of it, its easier to understand myself and others. Dealing with our 'demons' for shadow work is hard, cause now its something to face every day like a level in hell, but often to end up making the wrong choices out of fear, exhaustion and escapism. But a positive thing is that it brings humility, cause other people are doing similar but in a completely different type of hell. I'm not religious but its hard not to wonder about ego death, religion, and meaning of life when always thinking of such things!
It's a struggle. No one ever tells you that you need to spend every day maintaining your balance in life but that's how it is. We do lots on autopilot: add salt, cool down, take breaks etc. yet we rarely reflect on the need for balance or how to attain it. -Anxiety is fear of some consequence that we imagine in our minds. There are tools that help, like meditation. But the very best prescription is to not fight it and just allow for life to unfold. When anxious you be anxious and it will go away. Anxiety is only a problem if it never goes away. And if you live an experience it kinda dies and another experience takes its place. I don't know if you like advice or not but I'd feel criminal not offering it. Haven't been on your channel for years but I always liked you. Skyrim live next!
Thank You SO much for this video!! I hear that you’ve felt anxious even posting this video, but it’s brilliant 👍🙏🏻✨.. I relate to all of this sadly as another INFP... I do a lot of avoiding especially lately! I have both GAD and Social Anxiety... it’s like we’re already misunderstood as an INFP, but when we’re afraid of more interactions that could cause us trauma or embarrassment can be really difficult... this video makes me feel less alone🙏🏻🙏🏻... I’m trying to take baby steps everyday to improve the feelings of feeling stuck, but it’s really hard to put into action! Just being willing to be patient with myself... and college was SO hard especially with public speaking!! I SO understand this whole situation so much! So happy your here on UA-cam! Hope you’re feeling supported during this time💞🙏🏻💚✨
You have very pretty eyes! I have SAD and *my gosh* does it freaking sucks on it’s own, I can’t imagine having 3 different types of anxiety. Wish you all the luck, and I hope you can find encouragement!
Oh youre rekt with anxienty and crippling depression too? Honestly, I'm so used to it. My earliest memories are sad. If I wake up and feel "normal" it freaks me out and I don't like that. It's part of me and I accept it.
Well I can certainly relate to a lot of what you said... 😟 I never knew there was an actual term for that, anticipatory anxiety. Something to add to the list! I always explained it to other people by using the analogy of riding a roller coaster. I don't mind the actual ride itself, actually most times I end up really enjoying the experience. However, it's the waiting in the line for 45 minutes that kills me. All that time for your brain to wreak havoc! And like you said in your video, life can sometimes feel like one giant consecutive roller coaster line; just anxiously waiting for the next thing, and the next. How do you break out of an endless cycle like that? I've been trying some yoga and meditation recently to help but was curious if there were any other outlets out there?? And once again, big thanks for posting these videos. It keeps blowing my mind to see how many similarities we INFPs have in common. 🤯
Thank you for sharing these experiences. How wonderful that you are able to share your gifts with us through these videos. It made me wonder if some of the polyvagal approaches that practitioners like Irene Lyon discuss would be helpful.
Never really thought about anxiety before, as I'm usually easy going, but the more I think about it. It's probably not normal to stand at the door holding the doorknob for an 1 hour trying to actually go out and not hide from the party, with that tense feeling in your chest. Amongst other things, like getting adrenaline and cleaning up evidence of my presence & retreat into my room when anyone pulls up the house (including my mom). Oh.. and I'm usually good with public speaking mentally (not always), but sometimes my body just shuts down and start shaking to where I almost couldn't hold the paper was reading from and tried to let it rest on my hands instead of trying to grip it. That shook me, pun intended.
I'm finding getting into the moment helps. What Ur feeling seeing hearing touching instead of being locked in Ur head but it takes dedication and consistency. Two things I'm really bad at.
I wish a psychologist could have explained this to me as well as you have. I have all anxieties but compared to where I was i have evolved and still am hopefully...I didn't leave home till I was 23 and still struggle as a single mother as I'm forced to be social, organised and consistent. All uncomfortable new things for me and don't get me started on phone calls. I avoid them like used to do school 😂
Oh I understand everything you talk about. 🙃 Wish my life would get a little easier. But in some situations I really learned how to deal with SAD, I really think that it doesn't matter if I am humiliated, or someone laughs about me, thanks to God I really learned this.
I know you maybe hear this a lot, but the best treatment for anxiety is exposure. So getting exposed a little bit to what you fear. For example, I think it's great that you do UA-cam, because in some way you're exposing yourself to "public speaking." It's really about the baby steps. I know i'm late but i hope y'all have a nice day! Edit: Oh, you also mentioned this!
What's your take on stoicism? I'm not a fan but someone who has anxiety may benefit from a bit of it (being too stoic is bad though imo). Also, great vid again! Also personal experience in college... I was asked once to come up in front of the class in chemistry for a problem... I told the professor 'Nah, ty though.' He kept staring like no one said no to doing it before... and so I broke up the silence with just telling him 'You got this, I got faith in you!'
Sometimes it sucks being an INFP *internet hug* This time is super stressful as it is, don't put pressure on yourself. I have social anxiety too. It gets easier with age and experience, honestly. I used to worry about most of the things you talk about, now I don't care as much 😄 Ps: Once I quit university I never had to do public speaking again, you don't need to if you don't want.
Hey I wanted to make a recommendation from a fellow INFP who is also currently suffering from clogged ears - there's this stuff called Dubrox that they sell at Walmart/Target etc., it's a solution that comes in a little dropper bottle, you squeeze a few drops in your ear and it works on breaking down earwax. The starter kit comes with a little squirter for flushing the ear with water afterwards. It's fairly inexpensive and it's helped me a bit. Just thought I would mention it! Thanks for making this video, I suffer from OCD and also have fear of public speaking so I can relate. You and I have a lot in common - I also studied in England 😀🇬🇧 & I think you posted once about being 4w5 enneagram which I am too. We even look somewhat alike haha, we could be cousins 😊
Awesome! Hello virtual cousin. ^-^ I went to a walk-in clinic for my ear, and it turns out I might have had a little bit of earwax build up. The stuff you recommended might be good for preventing it in the future. I wear earplugs nightly which can keep earwax from working itself out of your ears.
It's such a daily battle dealing with this type of anxiety. Pretty much everything you've expressed here, I've had since I can remember. Life is definitely a journey. I've come to the place of carefully pushing through it. Even so, it's exhausting, but worth it. Did I mention it's exhausting? :D
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It's been a long minute since I've been here. 😬 My hair is shorter than this now. And yeah, feel free to comment
I filmed this video three months ago, but it took me until now to feel able to edit & post.
@Cloud_00 Hi! I hope you're doing well too. It's been a hard year for me, so I'm not doing amazing, but I still am surviving. x 2020.
I am training myself to live in the present alot learning violin helping people without nothing in my mind (no expectations ) expressing my feelings, developing self esteem. Sometimes observing other people learning from them how they do it. Its honestly alot of work ... alot of work
Fight or flight and the feeling that the "switch is always on". This happened to me a few months ago. It's a horrible feeling.
I also just realized SAD started with a family member adult when I was a kid...and I realize that now (in my 30s) I still don't like it. Smh!! I think this is beyond my being INFP. lol.
Well done and thanks for making these videos. As an INFP, I have struggled and still struggle with the idea of making UA-cam videos.
The unseen consequences to our unseen childhood anxieties is really tragic, since I avoid social interactions so much, I've become a hikikomori. But when im out, I have to put on such a front to function and sometimes even disassociate, then people tell me that im not awkward im doing fine etc. But in actuality im a mess during and before.
I used to cry every morning before school, and summer camp until like 10th grade. That only stopped cause after a decade of knowing these people I actually acquired 'friends', but then we graduate and you lose all of them. xD Have to start all over! Or have only online friends from then on lol. I really wish I was a sensor, maybe actually participating/noticing the real world would help instead of just si to make me loop. Being alive sucks, at least everyone can agree with that.
I agree with you! Making friends is hard, and I haven’t mastered the ability to make myself likable to a lot of people, which might be easier if I was a sensor, if I desired to fit in more. 😅 But yes, it’s a long road to consciously learning how to function with anxiety and develop lasting social connections.
Yeah, thats why mbti is helpful I've found. After absorbing so much of it, its easier to understand myself and others. Dealing with our 'demons' for shadow work is hard, cause now its something to face every day like a level in hell, but often to end up making the wrong choices out of fear, exhaustion and escapism. But a positive thing is that it brings humility, cause other people are doing similar but in a completely different type of hell. I'm not religious but its hard not to wonder about ego death, religion, and meaning of life when always thinking of such things!
Love your channel! Glad to see an upload. *Hugs*
It's worse when you're an introvert, Pisces and an INFP type.
You called?
It's a struggle. No one ever tells you that you need to spend every day maintaining your balance in life but that's how it is. We do lots on autopilot: add salt, cool down, take breaks etc. yet we rarely reflect on the need for balance or how to attain it.
-Anxiety is fear of some consequence that we imagine in our minds. There are tools that help, like meditation. But the very best prescription is to not fight it and just allow for life to unfold. When anxious you be anxious and it will go away. Anxiety is only a problem if it never goes away. And if you live an experience it kinda dies and another experience takes its place.
I don't know if you like advice or not but I'd feel criminal not offering it. Haven't been on your channel for years but I always liked you. Skyrim live next!
Thank You SO much for this video!! I hear that you’ve felt anxious even posting this video, but it’s brilliant 👍🙏🏻✨.. I relate to all of this sadly as another INFP... I do a lot of avoiding especially lately! I have both GAD and Social Anxiety... it’s like we’re already misunderstood as an INFP, but when we’re afraid of more interactions that could cause us trauma or embarrassment can be really difficult... this video makes me feel less alone🙏🏻🙏🏻... I’m trying to take baby steps everyday to improve the feelings of feeling stuck, but it’s really hard to put into action! Just being willing to be patient with myself... and college was SO hard especially with public speaking!! I SO understand this whole situation so much! So happy your here on UA-cam! Hope you’re feeling supported during this time💞🙏🏻💚✨
I get anxious very easily and I'm an INFP as well. I'm autistic as well.
You have very pretty eyes! I have SAD and *my gosh* does it freaking sucks on it’s own, I can’t imagine having 3 different types of anxiety. Wish you all the luck, and I hope you can find encouragement!
Oh youre rekt with anxienty and crippling depression too? Honestly, I'm so used to it. My earliest memories are sad. If I wake up and feel "normal" it freaks me out and I don't like that. It's part of me and I accept it.
Well I can certainly relate to a lot of what you said... 😟 I never knew there was an actual term for that, anticipatory anxiety. Something to add to the list! I always explained it to other people by using the analogy of riding a roller coaster. I don't mind the actual ride itself, actually most times I end up really enjoying the experience. However, it's the waiting in the line for 45 minutes that kills me. All that time for your brain to wreak havoc! And like you said in your video, life can sometimes feel like one giant consecutive roller coaster line; just anxiously waiting for the next thing, and the next. How do you break out of an endless cycle like that? I've been trying some yoga and meditation recently to help but was curious if there were any other outlets out there?? And once again, big thanks for posting these videos. It keeps blowing my mind to see how many similarities we INFPs have in common. 🤯
Thank you for sharing these experiences. How wonderful that you are able to share your gifts with us through these videos. It made me wonder if some of the polyvagal approaches that practitioners like Irene Lyon discuss would be helpful.
WOW! I really resonated with your video
Never really thought about anxiety before, as I'm usually easy going, but the more I think about it. It's probably not normal to stand at the door holding the doorknob for an 1 hour trying to actually go out and not hide from the party, with that tense feeling in your chest. Amongst other things, like getting adrenaline and cleaning up evidence of my presence & retreat into my room when anyone pulls up the house (including my mom).
Oh.. and I'm usually good with public speaking mentally (not always), but sometimes my body just shuts down and start shaking to where I almost couldn't hold the paper was reading from and tried to let it rest on my hands instead of trying to grip it. That shook me, pun intended.
You are Awsome! You are perfect just the way you are, and just in case you forget it - i'll remind you! ^.^
I'm finding getting into the moment helps. What Ur feeling seeing hearing touching instead of being locked in Ur head but it takes dedication and consistency. Two things I'm really bad at.
You can get over your fear of public speaking. Start with a small group. It's easer than it feels.
I wish a psychologist could have explained this to me as well as you have. I have all anxieties but compared to where I was i have evolved and still am hopefully...I didn't leave home till I was 23 and still struggle as a single mother as I'm forced to be social, organised and consistent. All uncomfortable new things for me and don't get me started on phone calls. I avoid them like used to do school 😂
Oh I understand everything you talk about. 🙃 Wish my life would get a little easier. But in some situations I really learned how to deal with SAD, I really think that it doesn't matter if I am humiliated, or someone laughs about me, thanks to God I really learned this.
I know you maybe hear this a lot, but the best treatment for anxiety is exposure. So getting exposed a little bit to what you fear. For example, I think it's great that you do UA-cam, because in some way you're exposing yourself to "public speaking." It's really about the baby steps. I know i'm late but i hope y'all have a nice day!
Edit: Oh, you also mentioned this!
What's your take on stoicism? I'm not a fan but someone who has anxiety may benefit from a bit of it (being too stoic is bad though imo). Also, great vid again!
Also personal experience in college... I was asked once to come up in front of the class in chemistry for a problem... I told the professor 'Nah, ty though.' He kept staring like no one said no to doing it before... and so I broke up the silence with just telling him 'You got this, I got faith in you!'
Sometimes it sucks being an INFP *internet hug* This time is super stressful as it is, don't put pressure on yourself. I have social anxiety too. It gets easier with age and experience, honestly. I used to worry about most of the things you talk about, now I don't care as much 😄 Ps: Once I quit university I never had to do public speaking again, you don't need to if you don't want.
I'm an INFP-T.
As an INFP I relate to this.
Hey I wanted to make a recommendation from a fellow INFP who is also currently suffering from clogged ears - there's this stuff called Dubrox that they sell at Walmart/Target etc., it's a solution that comes in a little dropper bottle, you squeeze a few drops in your ear and it works on breaking down earwax. The starter kit comes with a little squirter for flushing the ear with water afterwards. It's fairly inexpensive and it's helped me a bit. Just thought I would mention it! Thanks for making this video, I suffer from OCD and also have fear of public speaking so I can relate. You and I have a lot in common - I also studied in England 😀🇬🇧 & I think you posted once about being 4w5 enneagram which I am too. We even look somewhat alike haha, we could be cousins 😊
Awesome! Hello virtual cousin. ^-^ I went to a walk-in clinic for my ear, and it turns out I might have had a little bit of earwax build up. The stuff you recommended might be good for preventing it in the future. I wear earplugs nightly which can keep earwax from working itself out of your ears.
It's such a daily battle dealing with this type of anxiety. Pretty much everything you've expressed here, I've had since I can remember. Life is definitely a journey. I've come to the place of carefully pushing through it. Even so, it's exhausting, but worth it. Did I mention it's exhausting? :D
Anxiety makes me fart...
I'm just kidding 😂 I totally relate to this video ❤