One quality I didn't mention in the video: I like it when someone doesn't care what others think and isn't afraid to be themselves! What's a quality that you find attractive?
For me intelligence is important, but kindness is a must. What is the point of brains when the heart is absent? And laughter is the glue in a relationship as well. So the perfect, romantic relationship would be an intelligent, funny, sweet person. It may seen like a high standard, but if I commit myself to someone, settling is not an option.
As an INFP, I'm attracted to mysterious type of person, non-judgemental, a good listener, loyal, have a great love for family, a deep person, sees the light in you beside knowing your darkness, one who can handle me and my emotional personality, and one whom I can open my heart and talk my mind out with since INFPs are not sharers of personal problems, but most especially, one who loves God more than me (because if that man loves God more than myself, he'll not hurt me).
I'd like to share mine without watching the video first. As an INFP, even as a kid I always wanted someone who's "mature" or wise (not booksmart but life-smart, practical, realistic. I call it "someone who makes sense" 😂). I always felt I was too mature or old for my peers. I did not like such as immaturity, rudeness, recklessness, bullying. Now thinking back at it, I meant I like someone who's open-minded whom I could talk anything about without judgement. Someone who's willing to explore ideas, brainstorm with me. I like a well-rounded person who's up for "serious" talks but also knows how to have fun. My humour is often said to be witty, I'd like someone to be that way too. I noticed since I don't like people stepping on people. Offensive humour directed towards others like laughing at them is a big no for me. I noticed I appreciate people who could joke in a non-offensive way, often situational, witty, or humble humour. Honesty is also very important. I as an INFP is very suspicious as to other's intentions if I'm not familiar, comfortable, or haven't trusted them yet. I really need to see if someone's being honest with me or putting on a show. I am also easily touched by kind gestures and attentiveness.
The "person who's up for serious deep talks and also knows how to be fun" hit the spot for me. I literally thought about this exact quality so many times. Like I sometimes feel like I'm a very serious person bc I have very set and traditional values so that's why I need there to be someone who can relate to my values and could talk about those subjects with me for hours but I also am childlike sometimes and get very enthusiastic and goofy so I need that person to be adventurous and be able to keep up with my energy level at those times... like is that even possible..... maybe with another infp?🤔 idek my standards feel so impossible to match
Sum up: 1. Intelligently humorous 2. Stands out through his behavior or peace of mind. 3. An animal lover and nature lover 4. Genuine and gentle to everyone in the universe 5. Has creative pursuits that I admire 6. Boylish/soft facial features( Coles Spouse) As an Infp-t, I really agree what you share! And each point has its special meaning to me! And I had many crushes in my life which ended up soon when I found out the guy was less than I imagined.... 😂
Hey Ms Myrtle, can you let us know what was the imagination you had and what did you get disappointed with, I am an INTJ with INFP crush and I am trying not to make any mistake...
INFP here and one common quality in the people I've had crushes on (whether in real life or with fictional crushes) has definitely been kindness towards everyone :) I'm thinking of one guy in particular I had a crush on in high school, he had this kind and gentle vibe/aura/? that I found really appealing. (And he was cute! What a combination.)
Intelligence is the thing that attracts me the most, and I am also attracted to women who have a sense of humor. I think the reason why we don't see many women comedians is something more natural, usually, girls are not encouraged to tell jokes.
@@MeAnINFP Yeah, I remember learning several jokes from my uncles and older cousins when I was a kid, the same thing used to happen with the other boys, but not with the girls. I am attracted to funny women, for example, Tina Fey is not the kind of woman that attracts me physically, but I used to had a crush on her because of her personality and sense of humor.
Giiiiiiiirl! INFP here and I'm SHOCKED on how much I can relate to EVERYTHING you described!!! You got me hard when u spoked about that "female" appearance, and THE SAME happened to me! My sister pointed that out and I had the same reaction as yours and.... Am I looking into a mirror? 😆😆😆😆😆
I am an INFP and I can relate to all of the traits that you've mentioned! Except that when it comes to pursuits, I usually prefer someone who is more into STEM fields. I think it's because I'm intrigued by someone who is good at something I don't particularly excell at and by someone who I can learn a lot from. I would add that I like someone who is also into similar films/music as me or at least someone who's interested to understand what I like about those specific types of films and music and not say that I'm weird for being into them 😂. Finally, I can't believe I even relate to liking the same physical attributes in guys! Dylan o brien is my absolute favorite crush especially whilst playing the character of Stiles in Teen Wolf!!
I find expressionism attractive such as fashion male femininity painted nails jewelry I totally agree with how you say someone who stands out different people I find strangely intriguing
im an intp and i was listening to you talking about crushes before, because i think an infp (i think he is an infp ) guy might have been interested in me for a long time and (try to)kept it to himself .. And i think he is different then the rest so i decided finally to really dive deep into this and the things you said actually confirms my perception of him. And this video sounds like both of us.Thats why i always thought he was interesting and worth my respect. Every single word you say , i agree with them even though im an intp.
I deffinitely had a clown class crush. He was funny and loud and sometimes he could be a little rude or blunt, but still. Loved him, specially since he never crossed me, he respected me and he made me laugh all the time. I really like guys that are eccentric in some way, and confident ofc. Theatrical even. OOR súper mysterious and inteligent, but these ones can make me feel a little intimidated hehe 😅 Of course I like inteligent guys, but I think the quality I'm more keen to is actually wisdom, and being willing to learn new things/being open minded. I don't think a guy must be a know-it-all, but wise in how to move in life. He may or may not like to read, he may or may not know many things, but he has to have the curiosity to learn and feel the world around.
I think girls who are capable, independent, and who I can respect are really attractive. Creativity and having an active imagination as qualities in someone are also very important. I also don't really care for a sense of humor in women, although I believe that's probably something society has taught us through gender roles, not so much a personality thing. For me too, a girl who's kind to animals is highly attractive. Maybe the most important thing though, is I like people who are sentimental rather than materialistic, girls who go to the mall all the time and buy stuff are really unattractive. I prefer girls who take walks and talk about interesting things and memories instead. It was interesting hearing what it's like for another INFP, thanks for this video!
Saving animals from pain, no matter how small they are, is a big thing to me too. Here's a trick to getting flies out of your house at night: Turn off all the lights. Go to a door and stand outside. Turn on your phone's flashlight. In about a minute, they'll all fly straight towards your phone and out of your house.
100% agree on everything.. Even the boyish feature !! (I just realized it when you pointed out). I only found your channel in like an 2hours and I'm binge watching your videos cz they are so relatable and make me feel comforted especially that I am going through this phase where I am questioning everything about me, hating every aspect that make me different and a weirdo cz that I thought the reason I am struggling in my social life... I was called narcissistic and rejected for being myself... It's heartwarming to listen to you explaining Fi and clearing the many misunderstanding about it's working. And I like how well you progressed in talking your thoughts throughout the years, I have the same problem (express my mind writing better than talking) and I would like a video where you talk about your journey. Thanks a lot for sharing your inner life with us, it's so inspiring.💜💜
for me intelligence and kindness is important. i love someone who is funny, willing to listen, does not judge, someone who can be protective, someone whose heart will melt holding a kitten/puppy (loves animals), someone who likes kids and just a genuine non toxic person, also with a bit of a weird side to them (nerdy, goofy, etc. though not too immature). (INFP)
Hi hi. am an INFP , i usually crush on guys that are social or popular but still really sweet to other people that are not as socially comfortable as they are; guys that are not afraid to be themselves and have a sense of humour; oh and guys that have similar interests to mine
As an INFP myself, I find creativity attractive especially when collaborating. Treating the most vulnerable with kindness and dignity is huge too. Uniqueness of mind is also really attractive, I think it’s an adventurous conversation to have with those that think differently. Always fun to create those journeys with another. And, women are absolutely funny. Carol Burnett for example. Most of the funny women I’ve known are so by character and not the material. Kool channel 😃
Hey there! Loved your video and the awesome insights on what you find attractive. As an INFJ guy, I totally resonate with the qualities you mentioned, especially the importance of being kind to animals. I mean, who wants to harm a bug just for fun, right? I wholeheartedly believe that everything, no matter how small, has a purpose. Sending positive vibes your way, and can't wait for more awesome content. Take care, and looking forward to the next video! 🙌🌟
I'm drawn to intelligence, travelers, ppl with substance, caring, respectful to other ppl, accepting of ppl who are culturally different, humor, artistic abilities, standing out in the crowd and the mysterious person. I'm a Sagittarius infp with a Sagittarius rising, which mean i have Gemini in my 7th house. I'm drawn to ppl with Gemini qualities .
Wow I really like your energy! I felt this powerful aura of calmness from you almost instantly. Just wanted to express that. I'm an INFP btw. Also, I agree with all of the qualities you listed in the video. The top 3 qualities I'm looking for in a partner are: 1. Authenticity/Open Communication 2. Bravery/Confidence 3. Kindness/Compassion/Empathy But there are still a lot more qualities I look for lol.
Important to point out that niceness and kindness are not the same thing. Niceness is often shallow and can be used to manipulate people by promoting a false self, while kindness is genuine and internal, and as such may not be nice. Sometimes a kick up the arse and a good verbal drubbing is the kindest thing you can do. There's also the occasions when dealing with bad or evil people where kindness can be exploited. It's best to be selective with kindness and understand where it's appropriate and where it's not.
I’d like to say first. I’ve happened to see a few of your videos. And they are very interesting for me to hear. I’m an INFJ enneagram 4 and strangely a Gemini also. I know our function stack is a little different and a lot of the ways we pursue people are different. But, I just wanted to tell you that I’ve enjoyed your videos.
Hm good questions. I would say our kindred”ness” to things is very similar. I’m also a Christian, deal with anxiety, and also selective with whom I bring in my life. Differences I see a very minimal honestly. Except one would be when I’m interested in someone it’s hard for me to hide it. As you often mention giving mixed signals at times. I’m normally pretty straight forward. If you don’t mind me asking.., what state do you live in? What did you study in college? Hope you’re having better year to 2020
INFP and a Gemini here (June '89). Being a guy, I wouldn't care as much about facial features of a partner, but the rest of the video really checks out. I definitely like comedians across the board, but seem to lean more towards impromptu humor and especially PUNS. My celebrity crush would be Laura Bailey (harp sounds), and for a fictional character one I'd go with Felicity Smoak from Arrowverse, or Luna Lovegood from the Harry Potter franchise.
6:14 fr, i saw my (ex)crush, INTENTIONALLY crush a bug (a dragonfly) in front of my eyes. My mind scream "This guy is a red flag". glad to know im not alone, cause im starting to doubt myself, maybe im exaggerating or something..
I'm INFP and my Gemini sign Aries.. but i too like who is Intelligent, some good sense of humour, Depth emotionally but also funny, joking randomly when connected, Most important for me on s how much effort she put on me because i don't like who firstly put efforts and then suddenly become busy with stuffs and ignore me anyway.
@Demon Windu what about enfjs? Aren't they the "recommended" type for infps? Or is it only regarding infp women? I know it's really up to the individual, but Im curious of your opinion :b
@Demon Windu Wow, thanks for the very in-depth answer! I haven't figured my enneagram type out yet, but I'm pretty sure my mom is an enfj (lol), and as you described, she can sometimes come off as fake in some of her actions...
David Rud Pedersen Thanks Demon Windu. David if you are still figuring out your enneagram I’d look into the EnneaApp. I still look at it when I want a refresher on the information of different enneagrams. It has a test and then detailed info split up into sections, like childhood wound, growth, wings, etc.
You know... I fit all of these descriptions... so... just kidding, I am an ENTP and i can be an asshole sometimes, well most of the times... so I wouldn't even recommend myself.
@@aonaohafa Sort of, Ti has values but they are based of logic instead of feelings. But since we are Fi blind, I have no idea what it is like being offended or having my feelings hurt. It is not like I feel nothing, more like I can easily ignore them. And since our values are based on logic everything is up for questioning. Historically, the only thing that has ever triggered me is people not being able to question themselves or their beliefs.
I find you interesting, we are both INFP 4w5 and Ravenclaw lol, I still am discovering things, qualities I like is people who love nature, empathy, compassion, I am a water sign lol :) I need intelligence too, I don't get much crush or attractions on people like I am demisexual so its another layer of complexity to a already complexed mind. I am into easy going, really whoever I vibe well with, I never cared about ones gender or anything, I just go for good vibes, I am a Druid so other pagans are welcomed but I don't care about ones faith as long as they respect mine.
My wife (INFP) said she fell in love with me for my intelligence.. sure universities and tests say I'm smart... but I also drank out of a bidet thinking it was a mini water fountain while in Italy. She also thinks I'm 'kind hearted' because I do love animals and will avoid stepping on bugs... but I never had a problem shooting someone that I believe I needed to taken out. xD
I'm an infp boy. I sit and and wait. My previous partners came to me and they were always preditors haha. I get burnt so hard over and over again...help me.
Texas Viking You don’t have to be prey! Or at least, you don’t have to passively accept an aggressive advance into a relationship, you can choose to say no. Although there may be something you like about that dynamic, I’m not sure.
INTP here, regarding the "kind heart" thing... you just blocked like most of us 🤣 I am being extremely genuine so when I am not happy I am not happy and I'm just normal to everyone (cause we're all equal imo) Also very bold to say but I have a good heart but I have to trust you to show it and until then I am just tough introverted guy that sits alone and just has his shit together 😆 (that's what my friend said) Interesting how people usually come to me, do I really look that alone and careless about being alone that others like that or what?
What qualities attract me.... Ummm... I have no idea, and I know that isnt helpful to anyone but it's complicated to explain. It's actually a chemical thing. Which is probably why it wouldnt work. But that chemical thing is quite important, which is why it's such a rare thing?
It depends on the INFP, actually, since we’re so diverse within our type. I’ve seen INFPs attracted to thinkers and feelers. I personally want to end up with a feeler, because I think I would be better understood. But it’s all up to an INFP’s personal preferences!
It really depends! As an INFP, I've been attracted to both so I don't know. It has to be a person with at least a bit of emotional intelligence, that's for sure. I had a crush on my INFJ friend and she's the most compassionate, caring and mysterioys person in this world... Now she's one of my best friends. I've also been in love with an ENFP and it's an exciting and wonderful experience! To me, I don't like dominant extroverted feelers for long periods of time because I end up exhausted, they're just too much. So for a partner if there's Fe I prefer it auxiliary. I think it also depends on the enneagram, I'm a 4w5 so I don't like to share my emotions constantly, in fact i just share my feelings in calm and comfortable situations, not in the middle of the street because to me it's a hard thing to do. I love the dosis of honesty and reality that give me the thinkers, and also the compassion of the feelers.
Hi. 😁 Bad guys are fun in movies, but kindness is a great quality to have. They can even be a mix-like Haru from the anime Fruits Basket. Kindest guy ever but he has a bit of a dark side 😜
@@MeAnINFP woah, hello there. I know what you're driving at, and that's logical, it's just that my Fi doesn't feel attracted towards kindness. I see an unexpected anime recommendation coming my way. Levi from AOT is another example. A truly fine man 😏
I remember when I was younger I had crushes on a lot of guys in my class, cause I had this tendency of seeing only their best qualities and kinda of just ran with them, ie I was idealizing them in my head without seeing the imperfections 😅 luckily as I grew older I don’t go straight to lala land and I’m more realistic about who I have a “crush” on 😂 though I’m probably too old to have those haha
Hey, um sorry for stalking your videos lol I thought I'd see if I could come up with some solutions.. (you had mentioned it being hard to find someone) Dude, so when you described what you like, you just described ENFPs to a T The introverted extrovert, they stand out a lot and are the class clown, and also deep thinkers This is classic ENFP. Actually funny enough, the last comment I made was when you had posted about dating, I recommended going through ENFPs. Like, once you make one ENFP friend.. they have loads of other friends, most of them being other ENFPs, and then those friends also have ENFP friends (and INFP friends). I swear, I would have no social circle without them, and probably no dating life. But yeah. Once you open that door, into ENFP-land, maybe you will start finding some guys that you like
@@MeAnINFP Im an ENTP and im drawn to INFPs more than any other type. I absolutely adore INFPs. Maybe being gemini is what draws me to you guys. I dont know. All i know is you INFPs are like a bean bag that envelops me. I like that
Typical of someone with this personality type who grew up in our decadent, western Fe society rather than a Christian, morality-based society. Each feels like a princess and is obsessed with issues like animal welfare.
One quality I didn't mention in the video: I like it when someone doesn't care what others think and isn't afraid to be themselves!
What's a quality that you find attractive?
I think u were literally just describing a healthy entj
For me intelligence is important, but kindness is a must. What is the point of brains when the heart is absent?
And laughter is the glue in a relationship as well. So the perfect, romantic relationship would be an intelligent, funny, sweet person. It may seen like a high standard, but if I commit myself to someone, settling is not an option.
same!
bro you literally defined my crush
I definitely relate to a lot of this especially the boyish looks over manly looks!!!
Toni Idowu I’m glad you relate to this as well!
I am a male INFP and I prefer boyish look even in girls xD
@@Mosznociatko98 ayyy INFPS Unite!
Mosznociatko98 Wow, interesting!
@@Mosznociatko98 same lol, girls look best in our hoodies
As an INFP, I'm attracted to mysterious type of person, non-judgemental, a good listener, loyal, have a great love for family, a deep person, sees the light in you beside knowing your darkness, one who can handle me and my emotional personality, and one whom I can open my heart and talk my mind out with since INFPs are not sharers of personal problems, but most especially, one who loves God more than me (because if that man loves God more than myself, he'll not hurt me).
“Because if that man loves God more than myself, he’ll not hurt me.” Wow, that’s a profound thought.
Ohh! Thank you!! 🤍
By the way, I edited my first comment because I got INFP typed wrong. I have written ISFP instead of INFP. My bad 😂
You just described some INFJ 😊!!
YESSS
Yes, I agree. Kindness is a big thing that attracts me very easly. I want to also add curiosity, being eager to discover and learn new things.
Ilona Yes, curiosity is a good one too. 🙌🏻
I'd like to share mine without watching the video first. As an INFP, even as a kid I always wanted someone who's "mature" or wise (not booksmart but life-smart, practical, realistic. I call it "someone who makes sense" 😂). I always felt I was too mature or old for my peers. I did not like such as immaturity, rudeness, recklessness, bullying. Now thinking back at it, I meant I like someone who's open-minded whom I could talk anything about without judgement. Someone who's willing to explore ideas, brainstorm with me. I like a well-rounded person who's up for "serious" talks but also knows how to have fun. My humour is often said to be witty, I'd like someone to be that way too. I noticed since I don't like people stepping on people. Offensive humour directed towards others like laughing at them is a big no for me. I noticed I appreciate people who could joke in a non-offensive way, often situational, witty, or humble humour. Honesty is also very important. I as an INFP is very suspicious as to other's intentions if I'm not familiar, comfortable, or haven't trusted them yet. I really need to see if someone's being honest with me or putting on a show. I am also easily touched by kind gestures and attentiveness.
Holy shit- you....omg you just describe my type. Like seriously, that is exactly my type of guy.
The "person who's up for serious deep talks and also knows how to be fun" hit the spot for me. I literally thought about this exact quality so many times. Like I sometimes feel like I'm a very serious person bc I have very set and traditional values so that's why I need there to be someone who can relate to my values and could talk about those subjects with me for hours but I also am childlike sometimes and get very enthusiastic and goofy so I need that person to be adventurous and be able to keep up with my energy level at those times... like is that even possible..... maybe with another infp?🤔 idek my standards feel so impossible to match
Sum up: 1. Intelligently humorous
2. Stands out through his behavior or peace of mind.
3. An animal lover and nature lover
4. Genuine and gentle to everyone in the universe
5. Has creative pursuits that I admire
6. Boylish/soft facial features( Coles Spouse)
As an Infp-t, I really agree what you share! And each point has its special meaning to me! And I had many crushes in my life which ended up soon when I found out the guy was less than I imagined.... 😂
Hey Ms Myrtle, can you let us know what was the imagination you had and what did you get disappointed with, I am an INTJ with INFP crush and I am trying not to make any mistake...
INFP here and one common quality in the people I've had crushes on (whether in real life or with fictional crushes) has definitely been kindness towards everyone :) I'm thinking of one guy in particular I had a crush on in high school, he had this kind and gentle vibe/aura/? that I found really appealing. (And he was cute! What a combination.)
Intelligence is the thing that attracts me the most, and I am also attracted to women who have a sense of humor.
I think the reason why we don't see many women comedians is something more natural, usually, girls are not encouraged to tell jokes.
Olavo Nogueira That’s an interesting insight...so it could be from social upbringing, of males being encouraged to tell jokes and females not. 🤔
@@MeAnINFP Yeah, I remember learning several jokes from my uncles and older cousins when I was a kid, the same thing used to happen with the other boys, but not with the girls.
I am attracted to funny women, for example, Tina Fey is not the kind of woman that attracts me physically, but I used to had a crush on her because of her personality and sense of humor.
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Giiiiiiiirl! INFP here and I'm SHOCKED on how much I can relate to EVERYTHING you described!!! You got me hard when u spoked about that "female" appearance, and THE SAME happened to me! My sister pointed that out and I had the same reaction as yours and.... Am I looking into a mirror? 😆😆😆😆😆
I am an INFP and I can relate to all of the traits that you've mentioned! Except that when it comes to pursuits, I usually prefer someone who is more into STEM fields. I think it's because I'm intrigued by someone who is good at something I don't particularly excell at and by someone who I can learn a lot from. I would add that I like someone who is also into similar films/music as me or at least someone who's interested to understand what I like about those specific types of films and music and not say that I'm weird for being into them 😂.
Finally, I can't believe I even relate to liking the same physical attributes in guys! Dylan o brien is my absolute favorite crush especially whilst playing the character of Stiles in Teen Wolf!!
I find expressionism attractive such as fashion male femininity painted nails jewelry I totally agree with how you say someone who stands out different people I find strangely intriguing
im an intp and i was listening to you talking about crushes before, because i think an infp (i think he is an infp ) guy might have been interested in me for a long time and (try to)kept it to himself .. And i think he is different then the rest so i decided finally to really dive deep into this and the things you said actually confirms my perception of him. And this video sounds like both of us.Thats why i always thought he was interesting and worth my respect. Every single word you say , i agree with them even though im an intp.
I deffinitely had a clown class crush. He was funny and loud and sometimes he could be a little rude or blunt, but still. Loved him, specially since he never crossed me, he respected me and he made me laugh all the time.
I really like guys that are eccentric in some way, and confident ofc. Theatrical even. OOR súper mysterious and inteligent, but these ones can make me feel a little intimidated hehe 😅
Of course I like inteligent guys, but I think the quality I'm more keen to is actually wisdom, and being willing to learn new things/being open minded. I don't think a guy must be a know-it-all, but wise in how to move in life. He may or may not like to read, he may or may not know many things, but he has to have the curiosity to learn and feel the world around.
Wow yes hear hear
I think girls who are capable, independent, and who I can respect are really attractive. Creativity and having an active imagination as qualities in someone are also very important. I also don't really care for a sense of humor in women, although I believe that's probably something society has taught us through gender roles, not so much a personality thing. For me too, a girl who's kind to animals is highly attractive. Maybe the most important thing though, is I like people who are sentimental rather than materialistic, girls who go to the mall all the time and buy stuff are really unattractive. I prefer girls who take walks and talk about interesting things and memories instead. It was interesting hearing what it's like for another INFP, thanks for this video!
Saving animals from pain, no matter how small they are, is a big thing to me too.
Here's a trick to getting flies out of your house at night: Turn off all the lights. Go to a door and stand outside. Turn on your phone's flashlight. In about a minute, they'll all fly straight towards your phone and out of your house.
100% agree on everything.. Even the boyish feature !! (I just realized it when you pointed out). I only found your channel in like an 2hours and I'm binge watching your videos cz they are so relatable and make me feel comforted especially that I am going through this phase where I am questioning everything about me, hating every aspect that make me different and a weirdo cz that I thought the reason I am struggling in my social life... I was called narcissistic and rejected for being myself... It's heartwarming to listen to you explaining Fi and clearing the many misunderstanding about it's working. And I like how well you progressed in talking your thoughts throughout the years, I have the same problem (express my mind writing better than talking) and I would like a video where you talk about your journey. Thanks a lot for sharing your inner life with us, it's so inspiring.💜💜
for me intelligence and kindness is important. i love someone who is funny, willing to listen, does not judge, someone who can be protective, someone whose heart will melt holding a kitten/puppy (loves animals), someone who likes kids and just a genuine non toxic person, also with a bit of a weird side to them (nerdy, goofy, etc. though not too immature). (INFP)
Intelligent, authentic, kind, funny, in touch with their feelings and creative.
Hi hi. am an INFP , i usually crush on guys that are social or popular but still really sweet to other people that are not as socially comfortable as they are; guys that are not afraid to be themselves and have a sense of humour; oh and guys that have similar interests to mine
As an INFP myself, I find creativity attractive especially when collaborating. Treating the most vulnerable with kindness and dignity is huge too. Uniqueness of mind is also really attractive, I think it’s an adventurous conversation to have with those that think differently. Always fun to create those journeys with another. And, women are absolutely funny. Carol Burnett for example. Most of the funny women I’ve known are so by character and not the material.
Kool channel 😃
Hey there! Loved your video and the awesome insights on what you find attractive. As an INFJ guy, I totally resonate with the qualities you mentioned, especially the importance of being kind to animals. I mean, who wants to harm a bug just for fun, right? I wholeheartedly believe that everything, no matter how small, has a purpose. Sending positive vibes your way, and can't wait for more awesome content. Take care, and looking forward to the next video! 🙌🌟
Uniqueness. Kindness. Honesty. Thoughfulness. Understanding. Patience. Unconformity. Steadfastness Loyalty. "Dark Confidence". INTJ GENTLENESS. ENFJ PASSION. ENTP HUMOUR. ENTJ BRAVADO
I'm drawn to intelligence, travelers, ppl with substance, caring, respectful to other ppl, accepting of ppl who are culturally different, humor, artistic abilities, standing out in the crowd and the mysterious person. I'm a Sagittarius infp with a Sagittarius rising, which mean i have Gemini in my 7th house. I'm drawn to ppl with Gemini qualities .
Wow I really like your energy! I felt this powerful aura of calmness from you almost instantly. Just wanted to express that. I'm an INFP btw. Also, I agree with all of the qualities you listed in the video.
The top 3 qualities I'm looking for in a partner are:
1. Authenticity/Open Communication
2. Bravery/Confidence
3. Kindness/Compassion/Empathy
But there are still a lot more qualities I look for lol.
Important to point out that niceness and kindness are not the same thing. Niceness is often shallow and can be used to manipulate people by promoting a false self, while kindness is genuine and internal, and as such may not be nice. Sometimes a kick up the arse and a good verbal drubbing is the kindest thing you can do. There's also the occasions when dealing with bad or evil people where kindness can be exploited. It's best to be selective with kindness and understand where it's appropriate and where it's not.
I’d like to say first. I’ve happened to see a few of your videos. And they are very interesting for me to hear. I’m an INFJ enneagram 4 and strangely a Gemini also. I know our function stack is a little different and a lot of the ways we pursue people are different. But, I just wanted to tell you that I’ve enjoyed your videos.
I’m glad you’ve enjoyed them. 😊 I’m curious what makes them interesting to you-different perspectives? Similarities?
Hm good questions. I would say our kindred”ness” to things is very similar. I’m also a Christian, deal with anxiety, and also selective with whom I bring in my life. Differences I see a very minimal honestly. Except one would be when I’m interested in someone it’s hard for me to hide it. As you often mention giving mixed signals at times. I’m normally pretty straight forward. If you don’t mind me asking.., what state do you live in? What did you study in college? Hope you’re having better year to 2020
INFP and a Gemini here (June '89). Being a guy, I wouldn't care as much about facial features of a partner, but the rest of the video really checks out. I definitely like comedians across the board, but seem to lean more towards impromptu humor and especially PUNS. My celebrity crush would be Laura Bailey (harp sounds), and for a fictional character one I'd go with Felicity Smoak from Arrowverse, or Luna Lovegood from the Harry Potter franchise.
I relate to the stuff about the boyish looks too! Great video:)
6:14 fr, i saw my (ex)crush, INTENTIONALLY crush a bug (a dragonfly) in front of my eyes. My mind scream "This guy is a red flag". glad to know im not alone, cause im starting to doubt myself, maybe im exaggerating or something..
Kindness to animals means something!! Poor dragonfly 😔
I'm an INFP and personality is very important as well as intelligence.
I'm INFP and my Gemini sign Aries.. but i too like who is Intelligent, some good sense of humour, Depth emotionally but also funny, joking randomly when connected, Most important for me on s how much effort she put on me because i don't like who firstly put efforts and then suddenly become busy with stuffs and ignore me anyway.
I'm INFP and pansexual. And I agree with about 90%. And it fits not only on men, but on all people in general. 😁👌
I want to see an interaction between INFP & ESTJ cuz I don't get how those two are duals.
@Demon Windu hmm seems accurate
@Demon Windu what about enfjs? Aren't they the "recommended" type for infps? Or is it only regarding infp women?
I know it's really up to the individual, but Im curious of your opinion :b
@Demon Windu Wow, thanks for the very in-depth answer! I haven't figured my enneagram type out yet, but I'm pretty sure my mom is an enfj (lol), and as you described, she can sometimes come off as fake in some of her actions...
David Rud Pedersen Thanks Demon Windu. David if you are still figuring out your enneagram I’d look into the EnneaApp. I still look at it when I want a refresher on the information of different enneagrams. It has a test and then detailed info split up into sections, like childhood wound, growth, wings, etc.
Here's an INFP and ESTJ relationship exactly what you are looking for: ua-cam.com/video/rRukOrQVr54/v-deo.html
Hiii 🤠
I'm ESFP an I just discovered your channel 🤭 😊😊😊😊
Awesome, welcome! ☺️
i agree with every single point you mentioned. i feel understood loll i love your videos!!!
I’m happy you feel understood and relate to my videos! ☺️
For some reason the video is unwatchable between 12:11-12:16. Odd.
I can watch it fine on my end. :/
Yes i was waiting for four minutes
Thanks 😂
Introverts are actually more common than extroverts by a slight margin.
You know... I fit all of these descriptions... so... just kidding, I am an ENTP and i can be an asshole sometimes, well most of the times... so I wouldn't even recommend myself.
ENTPs typically do have the sarcastic nerd thing going for them. 😆 Yes, that also seems common for ENTPs. In what ways are you an asshole?
Lol ENTP are asshole due to the lack of depth in their own values (Fi blind)
@@MeAnINFP Not intentionally mind you, but mostly speaking my mind when people do not want to listen or taking jokes too far.
@@aonaohafa Sort of, Ti has values but they are based of logic instead of feelings. But since we are Fi blind, I have no idea what it is like being offended or having my feelings hurt. It is not like I feel nothing, more like I can easily ignore them. And since our values are based on logic everything is up for questioning. Historically, the only thing that has ever triggered me is people not being able to question themselves or their beliefs.
I find you interesting, we are both INFP 4w5 and Ravenclaw lol, I still am discovering things, qualities I like is people who love nature, empathy, compassion, I am a water sign lol :) I need intelligence too, I don't get much crush or attractions on people like I am demisexual so its another layer of complexity to a already complexed mind. I am into easy going, really whoever I vibe well with, I never cared about ones gender or anything, I just go for good vibes, I am a Druid so other pagans are welcomed but I don't care about ones faith as long as they respect mine.
rebel girl but still kind I would say as a male INFP
but not sure that would work in everyday life since I might be too sensitive
OH MY GOOOOSSSSHHHHHHH INTELLIGENCEEEEEEEE
I'm into creative writing. Are you into creative writing?
thank u for the video😁
rocking art You’re most welcome!
You are awesome 👍
My wife (INFP) said she fell in love with me for my intelligence.. sure universities and tests say I'm smart... but I also drank out of a bidet thinking it was a mini water fountain while in Italy. She also thinks I'm 'kind hearted' because I do love animals and will avoid stepping on bugs... but I never had a problem shooting someone that I believe I needed to taken out. xD
What's your personality type?
@@davidrudpedersen5622 God-like.
@@wes9809 okay
How can you not have a problem killing people, you psycho
@@wes9809 NTJ? STP?
I'm an infp boy. I sit and and wait. My previous partners came to me and they were always preditors haha. I get burnt so hard over and over again...help me.
Texas Viking You don’t have to be prey! Or at least, you don’t have to passively accept an aggressive advance into a relationship, you can choose to say no. Although there may be something you like about that dynamic, I’m not sure.
INTP here, regarding the "kind heart" thing... you just blocked like most of us 🤣 I am being extremely genuine so when I am not happy I am not happy and I'm just normal to everyone (cause we're all equal imo)
Also very bold to say but I have a good heart but I have to trust you to show it and until then I am just tough introverted guy that sits alone and just has his shit together 😆 (that's what my friend said)
Interesting how people usually come to me, do I really look that alone and careless about being alone that others like that or what?
What qualities attract me.... Ummm... I have no idea, and I know that isnt helpful to anyone but it's complicated to explain. It's actually a chemical thing. Which is probably why it wouldnt work. But that chemical thing is quite important, which is why it's such a rare thing?
Hands up if you're both an INFP and a gemini (June 19th) 🙋🏻♀️ let's find our birthday twin twin * WINK WINK *
infp and gemini june 24
My twin brother says I like girl next door looks and he was right lol
I have no idea how to describe Avi Kaplan but... everything that he is, that's my type 😂
Girls: I find guys with big forearms attractive.
Me with only 2 arms: 😢
lol
Are you infps attracted more to thinkers or feelers ? What has been your experience?
It depends on the INFP, actually, since we’re so diverse within our type. I’ve seen INFPs attracted to thinkers and feelers. I personally want to end up with a feeler, because I think I would be better understood. But it’s all up to an INFP’s personal preferences!
Perhaps a thinker that has a good grip on their feelings
It really depends! As an INFP, I've been attracted to both so I don't know. It has to be a person with at least a bit of emotional intelligence, that's for sure. I had a crush on my INFJ friend and she's the most compassionate, caring and mysterioys person in this world... Now she's one of my best friends. I've also been in love with an ENFP and it's an exciting and wonderful experience! To me, I don't like dominant extroverted feelers for long periods of time because I end up exhausted, they're just too much. So for a partner if there's Fe I prefer it auxiliary. I think it also depends on the enneagram, I'm a 4w5 so I don't like to share my emotions constantly, in fact i just share my feelings in calm and comfortable situations, not in the middle of the street because to me it's a hard thing to do. I love the dosis of honesty and reality that give me the thinkers, and also the compassion of the feelers.
Most ENTJ’s don’t have boyish features yet we are y’all number 1 contenders 🤣
I’ll give them a free pass. 😛😆
Yes. All that!!
Man your voice is so good.. and you're really cute all infps are cute. I love them. (Intj here)
I kind of like, like kind ppl like rly kind u know
Like, for sure
Intuition and astrology 🙂
Thanks
im into bad guys, for me kindness is a turn-off sometimes.
im intj, by the way, hi
Hi. 😁 Bad guys are fun in movies, but kindness is a great quality to have. They can even be a mix-like Haru from the anime Fruits Basket. Kindest guy ever but he has a bit of a dark side 😜
@@MeAnINFP woah, hello there. I know what you're driving at, and that's logical, it's just that my Fi doesn't feel attracted towards kindness.
I see an unexpected anime recommendation coming my way.
Levi from AOT is another example. A truly fine man 😏
Your Fingertips look like they've been crushed, are they ok?
Her body is changing, she's going through metamorphosis as we speak, she's turning into a magical fairy.
Demon Windu Well...I’d be a water bender, so make that water, ice, or possibly I’m learning blood-bending. 👀 🩸
aren't these qualities just other infps?
😮
@@MeAnINFP 😂
Hey I check all your boxes!! You still single? Lol just kidding…..a little bit.
I remember when I was younger I had crushes on a lot of guys in my class, cause I had this tendency of seeing only their best qualities and kinda of just ran with them, ie I was idealizing them in my head without seeing the imperfections 😅 luckily as I grew older I don’t go straight to lala land and I’m more realistic about who I have a “crush” on 😂 though I’m probably too old to have those haha
Hey, um sorry for stalking your videos lol
I thought I'd see if I could come up with some solutions.. (you had mentioned it being hard to find someone)
Dude, so when you described what you like, you just described ENFPs to a T
The introverted extrovert, they stand out a lot and are the class clown, and also deep thinkers
This is classic ENFP.
Actually funny enough, the last comment I made was when you had posted about dating, I recommended going through ENFPs. Like, once you make one ENFP friend.. they have loads of other friends, most of them being other ENFPs, and then those friends also have ENFP friends (and INFP friends). I swear, I would have no social circle without them, and probably no dating life.
But yeah.
Once you open that door, into ENFP-land, maybe you will start finding some guys that you like
So you basically have crushes on fellow NFs. You could have just made the video 3 seconds long video saying: I crush on NFs.
Other types can have these qualities too. For instance, some INTJs really love and are kind to animals.
You just describing an INFJ male
Will you larry me?
Consider yourself larried.
Lol
You lost me at gemini
@@FloridaMarlinWrangler Geminis are the best (at least the female ones)
@@MeAnINFP Im an ENTP and im drawn to INFPs more than any other type. I absolutely adore INFPs. Maybe being gemini is what draws me to you guys. I dont know. All i know is you INFPs are like a bean bag that envelops me. I like that
Typical of someone with this personality type who grew up in our decadent, western Fe society rather than a Christian, morality-based society. Each feels like a princess and is obsessed with issues like animal welfare.
I'm so deep you might drown in me!😃
motey99 Better bring my life vest!
@@MeAnINFP don't worry I'll save you so I can hear that amazing accent again!😛
motey99 😂
INFPs don't need life vests, cuz their hearts are so big it keeps them afloat.