First Time Hearing Girl That Never Was by James Blunt | Su!cide Survivor Reacts
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This is my reaction to my first time hearing Girl That Never Was by James Blunt. This absolutely ripped my heart out and gutted me. I lost a daughter to miscarriage and, despite extensive therapy, am still devastated and grieving and have no idea how to come to terms with it.
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💖Thank you for holding space for me through this. It was heartwrenching and I debated on whether to post it because I felt like a blubbering raccoon. This is a reminder that no matter where you are in your journey, you have a safe place here to share without judgment. This is how we shatter the mental health stigma.💖
Thank you for being so honest and open, that was a difficult watch because of the clear distress, music is an incredible outlet….. take care x
Why does no one watch his songs about the military showing light on them. Like no bravery, the greatest
You don't need to share if it brings you pain. But you have so many that are here for you, too. This is such a personal experience that no one will ever know your pain. But we have a "soft place" for you to share. Much love and support❤
@@josephbishop3590 yeah….. I think you need to look up what “reaction” means
You reaction was so raw and emotional.
Sorry for your loss.
God bless you. X
THIS was the single most painful and beautiful reaction I have ever seen. Music triggers every emotion and is so personal. You are so brave. God Bless. 💕🥺
I've never watched a more heart-felt reaction...
As a guy that only wanted to be a dad this song hits home because I have a box in my closet dedicated to the girl that never was
I have that box too.
I am so sorry for your loss! Losing a child is devastating. Stay strong and thank you for just being you and helping others that share your pain!
My niece said something the other day and I agree with her. She said James Blunt is the Van Gogh of music. Van Gogh took his pain and created beautiful paintings. James Blunt takes his pain and makes beautiful music.
"Van Gogh is the finest painter of them all. Certainly the most popular, great painter of all time. The most beloved, his command of colour most magnificent. He transformed the pain of his tormented life into ecstatic beauty. Pain is easy to portray, but to use your passion and pain to portray the ecstasy and joy and magnificence of our world, no one had ever done it before. Perhaps no one ever will again. To my mind, that strange, wild man who roamed the fields of Provence was not only the world's greatest artist, but also one of the greatest men who ever lived. " This was a quote from Doctor Who about Van Gogh. I think your niece is right, James Blunt has become something of a student of Van Gogh's though applying it to music. Never thought of that comparison before.
That's one of the best comparisons I've ever seen for him.
This song just rips you apart.
I love that it is a husband's perspective on the experience of the miscarriage.
My wife miscarried our 3rd child. She was supposed to be our last baby. My wife has never been the same.
I and others spent a lot of our time supporting her and I have no problem with that, but as a husband our grief is basically ignored.
For James to put a light on how helpless we feel watching our wives go through one of the most horrific things a woman can go through and the helplessness if not being able to fix it is just awful, but the message was needed.
Well said brother, I'm sorry to hear your pain and everyone elses. This doesn't hit home for me like it does so many on here but my heart goes out to all you. Sending positive vibes to you all!
OMG Amanda, been watching for a while, I saw instantly that this was personal. I'm so sorry for your loss. I was crying right with you.
Thirteen words. "We never should have picked a name, 'cause now she has a face." Thirteen words that pierce through any armor a heart can have, bypass the defenses erected around a damaged spirit--and can yet somehow still be wholly about the love and not the pain. James understands loss like no other, and knows how to unravel the pain to expose the love from which it is originally born and remind us that loss is only love's shadow.
I know the loss this songs feels it’s an amazing song for all of us that has delt with this pain
11 words, 1 letter like a does not constitute a word
@@sharronbrennon899I can't believe you're trying to correct someone's message composition, while they're leaving a heartfelt message to the creator, do you frequently belittle people who are struggling with their emotions? I think that say's more about you than anybody's language skills. And before you feel bold enough to comment on any mistakes in my message, English isn't my first language and i also happen to be dyslexic too, if you don't want to help people with their emotions, that's fine, but don't be part of the problem just to get a one up on someone you don't know, try reading the situation and behave accordingly.
@ the fact that you thought i was belittling someone says more about what goes through your mind than it does mine. It never crossed my mind, but it did YOURS.
i'm so sorry you sweet lady. nothing i say will stop your pain. just know that you're not alone. we lost our little boy almost 30 years ago. he lived for 3 minutes but for 3 minutes he was loved for a life time. the pain doesn't ever go away. you just learn to live with it. much love to you and yours.🙂🙂🙂❤❤❤
Thank you and I am sorry for you. I love your sentiment. They always live in our memories.
No rights. No wrongs. Only what is, and what feels! All the Love I could ever collect and ship over to you from Sweden!
There is nothing as sad as watching a lady crying you just want to give her a hug and a shoulder to cry on.
The way your face changed and you wept practically as the video started made it really clear that this was going to resonate with the volume turned up to 100.
Thank you for having the bravery to continue and share your experience and pain, because I think your actions and words will have been incredibly helpful to many many people.
I already knew this song well - what I didn't realise was that it was possible to "Double Cry" - once for the song (which it does to me every time) and once for your open and honest reaction.
"If the professionals can't help, maybe James Blunt can....." I think you may have something there!
I love your reactions, but this one was beautiful and so true. xxx
Thank you.
My wife and I had four miscarriages. Each one barely lasted a month, but we mourned them all. I told my wife we could stop because i could stand to see her broken again, but she insisted we try once more. Finally we were blessed with our beautiful little boy whom we named Nathan (shortened from Nathaniel, meaning gift from God.) He's our little miracle and we love him so much.
My wife and I suffered a miscarriage at 8 weeks, then we had our little boy, who is an amazing little man.
We then tried for another child, which our son was convinced was a girl (we opted not to find out, but he seemed to know), after returning from the hospital it was like he knew what happened because he gave us a cuddle and simply said "my sisters gone"😢
@@martinpeat8374 it's a horrible thing to go through, I'm so sorry for you and your family 💙
I am so happy for you!
This is healing. You needed to release the pain. I believe your daughter's spirit or energy or maybe an angel is within you or around you. You have loving hearts here, supporting you in your grief. Just know you are special and you are needed.
God bless you. I cried with you. I have a 3-year-old daughter and she has saved me than once.
Grief is such a strong and overwhelming emotion… those of who can relate truly understands
Sending love and light your way 💜
It’s a wound you can’t heal because you never got the chance I feel you in the feels because I had the girl that never was love all you guys hope you all have an amazing day
We love you too.
I'm so sorry,..that pain is always there, as long as you breathe,..her memory will remain..God bless
We lost our daughter Grace aged 5 on 27th Dec 2008. I was there when she took her first breath and didn't think 5 years later that I would be watching her take her last. Don't think that time takes away the pain, because it doesn't. Love you my beautiful funny little girl. Sweet dreams.
Time does nothing except allow us to gain the skills to learn to live with the hole in our heart. I hope that your beautiful Grace found peace and that you continue to find strength.
We're here for you Amanda. Try to be strong, there are bad days and good days. You bring sunlight into all our lives❤
My wife and lost two to miscarriages. We’re in our seventies now, but this song brought it back. My prayers to you.
Thank you. My sympathies for you as well.
I can't imagine it, we didn't have to experience this, but it seems something that really can take a very big and remaining toll.
All the best and warm regards from the Netherlands!
This is a untold anthem for everyone that ever lost a child and im so sorry Amanda this reaction hit too close to home but this is the beauty of life and music sometimes they hit to close to home you and millions or women feel your pain your not alone i will pray for every single one of yall
@Lloyd-Franklin im so sorry 😞 the world lost an angel but heaven gained an angel i hope she eventually gets some sort of inner peace i can't imagine the pain just let her know that she's not alone and there are people that are praying for her
Yes, this did hit me hard. Thank you.
I cried and suffered so much with you.... Thanks for sharing your story with us.
God I feel for you Amanda walking in to this song 😢
I knew that sooner or later this song would hit a reactor who'd been through it themselves. I'm so terribly sorry for your loss, and I hope that in some small way, this song has helped you.❤
I've never had kids or lost a child... yet I still cry watching this. This is such a honest reaction, it shows how much of a beautiful person you are. Well done for getting to the end...
Amanda, I can appreciate your loss. I am very sorry for what you have gone through. My wife and I lost an unborn child. We went through IVF and ended up with my wife being pregnant with twins, but one was lost in the pregnancy. The other lived despite us nearly losing her in a premature birth. She survived and is on the autism spectrum but I am forever grateful that we have her in our lives. I could not imagine what the experience of having no child would be like. I think of our lost child every day.
I've never seen a "nicer" reaction! So honest, so pure. In the first few seconds I realized that you were also affected. My wife and I also had a miscarriage and I always come back to this song to give space to the feelings. We have now given birth to a healthy daughter, but the feeling of “what if” still remains.
Best regards and lots of strength from Germany!
Sending you a virtual hug from this old grizzled viet nam vet.
Thank you for the hug, and as a daughter of a Vietnam vet, thank you for your service.
One of the best and emotional reactions. My wife and I went through a miscarriage and it was devastating. We went on to have 2 children and sadly our youngest passed away at 2 months from cancer. A miscarriage is the loss of a child and the pain of that loss can last a lifetime. The song is painful but very special. I appreciate James Blunt and his love and talent for creating amazing touching music. Much love to you parents and family who have experienced loss in this way ❤
This is a really touching song and I know that this was extremely hard for you. You kept yourself together and opened your feelings to what this song was about. It was really emotional and I totally understand what you are going through and feeling. There are things in life that are out of our control. I love 😍 you Amanda and I'm not going to say anything on this subject because it's really hard to rap our minds around. All we can do and just be there for those who just need someone to be there for comfort. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
There will ALWAYS be a space for you.
My wife and I went through this. We had a name picked out, and he's so right - that made it more real somehow.
Bless you.
I can't imagine your pain, a big hug from the UK. James just writes what people feel.
As someone who will never be a mom, I totally get how you feel. My thoughts are with you girl. 💜😘
Thank you. I feel for you as well.
James and his wife suffered a miscarriage with a baby girl and then were blessed with 2 sons. He has a gift for making beautiful songs out of tragedy.
Yes! He has said that his music is his way of dealing with trauma!
You’re doing great work Amanda ❤ we see you and appreciate your kind sharing nature. You’re helping so many more people everywhere deal with their own loss.
Peace and love from Australia
Music is the voice for emotions, born from the pain of life and poetically shaped into a wonderfully warm blanket of sounds. Sometimes it hurts, but at the same time there is hope in it.
"What is grief, if not love persevering?" ❤
(This is the bravest reaction I ever saw, and it would have been so easy (and understandable) for you to think "too raw/too close").
I'm crying my eyes out right now. JB always pulls on my heartstrings .🖤
Sometimes the best thing you can do to support ppl going through this lose. Is to sit with them and Just be there. Create a safe space. Sending love
Very true. Often we may not even know what we need. Just being there may be everything we need.
There is a time in our life when we lose a love one, but one of the most powerful thing that can help us to heal our despair is to belief that one day you’ll see them again.
Just keep believing…… because then they’re always with you.
I'm a recovering opiate addict and I just want to tell you that I am so proud of both you and James for your vulnerability. I love you both for this. Vulnerability is something that I strive for when trying to encourage other addicts. I try and be completely transparent for them. So I just wanted to tell you I'm so proud of you! ❤❤
Thank you, I very much appreciate this.
Blimey, 20 seconds in, I didn't think you were going to make it. Kudos to you for making it to the end.
Shows that maybe you're stronger than you think?
(I hope you got a hug afterwards)
Thank you. I don't always feel that way. Yes, I got a big hug.
My understanding is this was about James and his wifes first pregnancy. As the song says, you can't replace them, you can't magically make it better, you can only struggle to get through it. James and his wife tried again, successfully, and I believe now have two boys. James has said that he uses these painful songs as a form of therapy, helping him to cope with the tragedy, that may be so, but you can still see the pain in his face and hear it in his voice.
I will add my condolences, respect and best wishes to the others expressed here in the comments. Its a very sad song that has reduced other reacters to tears, even without the additional personal tragedy that you suffered.
It really P's me off when bad things happen to good people for no reason. (Love lots from London England Ms Webster)
Oh my God, this has hit me very hard. I have never been where you are, but your pain is hard to see, along with this beautiful but heartbreaking song. I am so, so sorry, for all the hardships you have experienced, but especially this.
I have always wanted to have a daughter, but I never had the chance, and now it is too late for me to have children, so I never put a name to this person who was never even a twinkle.
I am not religious, but Bless You. 🖤
So sorry you had to go through this. Bless you!
much love and healing energy from Georgia
It breaks my heart watching you cry
I just want to give you a hug! You did nothing wrong! It’s more common than you might think. My wife and I lost 2 babies but it really makes our other 2 children that much more special.
Aw. You poor thing. My heart aches for you. That little life meant so much and to lose her…I can’t imagine how painful it must be. You make all these plans and are giddy with excitement and anticipation. Life is so cruel at times. James Blunt is writing (as he so eloquently does) from personal experience, so perhaps hearing some of your own thoughts expressed in his song, will help you a little.
I think it was brave of him to write this song, because it’s a subject people don’t like to talk about or they wrongly assume another child will ‘replace’ the one lost. My mother lost three babies and she never really got over it. It affected her the rest of her life, actually. I think there are things we feel we should ‘get over’ or are encouraged to ‘get over’ but really, how could anyone expect that to make sense? Your grief is real and deep. I wish there was something I could say to take away your pain, but of course, there isn’t. Lastly, please try not to blame yourself. Things happen and we simply can’t anticipate or control much of what happens in our lives. As James says in his song, “you’re not to blame.”
I follow you since a long time through your videos and i can assure you that your reaction isn't bad at all. You're so touching and make me cry each time i watch this video. The heart never lies. We can see it in your eyes, we can see all of your pain, nobody can say that it's a played reaction. Love you so much Amanda 🥺😢😗 . Laurent, frenchie guy.
She's with you everyday , She's in Heaven with your Mom and Dad their taking care of her waiting for the day you will all be united .God Bless
I am a 62 year old man. I was never blessed with children. Watching your video truly broke my heart. There is nothing that I can say that will heal your heart. I cried right along with you. I am so sorry.
We lost 2 boys very late on. 28 and 36 weeks. Feeling the babies movements as a father and then losing them. Never left me. And that was 20 years ago. I have 4 beautiful daughters now.
I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your girls bring you joy and help soften the pain.
I'm crying with you as I always do when this song comes on. I lost a daughter 14 years ago and the pain is just as raw as it was back then. Time may be a healer for a lot of things, but there is no way back from this. You just keep moving....
The only difference between now and when I lost her is that there is more time between my tears. They aren't constant like they were then. But something like this hits and it can take me right back to the moment I learned I lost her. You're right, we can't go back. We just have to try to find another path we can tolerate.
I am so sorry you had to endure such a loss. I lost a baby brother who was stillborn and was gutted, but for it to be your own child has to be immeasurable pain. I hate seeing how heartbroken you are, but I am also glad you got to hear this beautiful song and hope it help you navigate through your grief even a little. Keep up the wonderful work you're doing here. You make a difference!
I am truly sorry for your lose. Sibling or child, its all painful.
@@MentalAmanda Thank you.
I've never ever commented to a reaction video before. I'm an elderly guy in England and your pain was so obviously real in this reaction. You cannot ever forget or ignore the pain you've been through, but I would only say that as James says, YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME!!! I hope that when you're in a dark place you remember that. The pain will never leave but it's not your fault! If you ever need to reach out to a complete stranger then please do!
Thank you so much!
Heartbreaking, you deserve the best ,happy life Amanda,all the very best from England
omg this was the most saddest and real reaction I have seen. I feel so bad for you...hope you are ok
Sorry for your loss. What is grief, if not love persevering.
I am so sorry for what you have go through. I can't imagine the pain to lose a child and I hope I'll never have too.
Thank you.
This is a tough one. I've heard it a lot and it still gets to me. Hang in there, girl!
There is no easy side of loss. Be it the girl that never was or the girl that was and never will be again. I have experienced both sides of that coin and both are painful in their own way. I wish I could ease your pain but I can not. I can however bend a knee and ask for healing and happiness.
She is dancing Amanda. It may not be with you but her soul was obviously to beautiful for the Lord to part with. You will meet her in time, stay strong and know that why we may not always understand, God has a plan for us all. I continue to pray for you Amanda.
Thank you for such a wonderfully heartfelt reaction. My wife and I went through IVF and had a few losses but it brought me two beautiful girls. I wanted a boy so badly but my wife had a miscarriage. It was the worst day of my life...and I watched my dad pass away in front of me. This journey has made me a stronger person and I don't take my children for granted. Much love from Illinois!
Request:
"I Am Broken Too" by Killswitch Engage
Sorry for your struggles, and thanks for the support.
Aaaawwwww bless you love I’ve been through this it was so long ago 1988 and it hurts still to this day time never heals
I remember when I was a little kid one of my friends was gonna be a big brother for the second time. his mom was pregnant with twins. She miscarried both of them. They were girls. I will never forget that funeral. His mom was a tall, stout, intimidating woman but that day burying her girls; she looked smaller than her toddler son. I can't imagine how strong someone has to be to come out the other side of that.
It weighs a ton, and it is heartbreaking. I am sorry friend's mother.
I can't say or anything to take away the pain but I can listen.
You keep telling your story you helped me understand some thank you
bless you,you did so well to get through that video i hope you find peace.
I feel with you and cried with you. My wife and i lost our first child and yes, we named her. We were devastated and heartbroken to the core. I understand your pain. We have two beautiful daughters and very grateful. But we never forget.
Feel free to share their names here so we can help you keep their memories alive 💖
Amanda, I came across this video today, so sorry I'm a bit late. I usually don't comment, but you are such a blessing to this world... I couldn't help but send you a big hug from across the pond. A dad, sitting in his little room in southern germany, watching this video and crying with you. I have tons of digital photos of all my 6 children, each of them in a separate folder on the harddisk with their name, but for 2 of them there's just a bunch of ultrasound pictures ...
Thank you. Even ultra sounds carry value and love.
I’m so so sorry for your heartbreaking loss😥😥 Maybe this song can help you heal ❤❤
Hugs from a mum in Australia with one in heaven and 2 with me 🐨
James Blunt you will know her and hold her and you and your wife will show her your love when you see her again it’s never goodbye
I am a Man and I haven't got 1 10th of the strength you have. You are such a strong Lady who wear her heart on your sleeve and I hope for nothing but happiness for you and your family. Thank you for your honest response on this song.
Thank you.
I have been there to. While it gets easier to cope with it never goes away. Sending you hugs.
Even though I will never feel your pain Amanda 😢 I will always be here beside you ❤❤❤❤❤ Ryan Barron
I am by your's too!!!!!
You can always tell reactors who have lost babies when they see this. Your reaction is the same that i have every time i hear this song. Thank you for making me feel less alone and for getting showing the strength to get through the song.
I hope you find peace, not forgetfulness. Bringing feelings into the light gives them validation and is part of the healing process. I am sure your reaction will help others that have shared your experience put a voice to their emotions. That word seems to small, but I don;t have another. Peace.
My wife and I lost our child from a miscarriage and it was never meant to be. Dead inside from it to thus day.
I am so sorry for your lose. I understand the feel. Please try to move forward. Keep their memory, but move forward.
Your video was incredibly moving and I'm struggling to stop crying in my reaction to your feelings. As a man (a 57 year old man) who has been blessed to have children, and now blessed to experience grandchildren and realize how precious these little lives are in our lives your reaction really moved me. I honestly wish there was a magic wand that could erase pain, and if so, I would gladly use it to help you feel some relief from your experiences. My wife and I have been blessed with the birth of 5 children (3 boys followed by 2 girls), and after that we felt a calling to consider adoption and did so with 2 girls. My wife and I experienced loss through a miscarriage, and I do not want to make you believe I understand your situation, but your pain struck me so strongly that I felt compelled to respond. I will tell you this, if you are unable to have children (for whatever reason), you may want to consider adoption. Our two adopted (now over 21-year-old daughters) are beautiful reminders to my wife and I how there is so much love you can bring to a family. I was worried (honestly) that I could feel the same love and devotion to an adopted child, as I felt to our biologic children, and it scared me. When the adoption was complete there was brief period where I felt I was holding someone else's child and I was so afraid, and then almost immediately when that child looks into your eyes it evaporated. Suddenly, my wife and I were her parents, we felt it and she knew it. If you want children, and you cannot have them "naturally", I encourage you to consider adopting and I promise you it is every bit as magical and amazing as having your own. I love all my kids and honestly do not see a difference between them. Anyway, my tears are subsiding a bit, but I wanted to comment and say that your pain was so sad and beautiful, and I understand you. I hope you find a path to children because you seem like you would definitely be a great person to raise them. I'm sending you blessings your way in hope you find peace and happiness on this journey.
I feel like God takes, them home,..to protect them from me and you...we have to change that Amanda..thank you for your work,..thank you for your reactions,..mostly thank you for being you
I'm an old man and you had me balling my eyes out , that personal connection you had just killed me , stay strong little sis , new sub.
i lost my son when he was thirteen, and i believe that was more painful, having seen him growing into a young man, than if i lost him during pregnancy, or infancy. you need to come to terms, that it was a consolation prize, that you lost the child, as beautiful as their presence and potential was, before their loss would seem worse., that seems hard, but, mybe your next one will heel. i won't know, as my hurt partner could not cope. i miss my son and wife so much. please look forward, talk with other', it's the only way forward.please feel that i feel a bond with you, and wish you the best. try while you can, for another, it might be your most helpful therapy., i wish you the best.
I am sorry for your loss, that sounds beyond painful. Thank you for the advice.
Thank you for your reaction ❤
This was so emotional. James Blunt deals with hurt and trauma by writing raw, emotional songs as his kind of therapy. He went to Kosovo as a young soldier, and took his guitar. Monsters, with this fathers illness. But, he and his wife do now have two healthy sons. I have had my own trauma - James Blunt helped me deal with those, so I guess his therapy has worked for me too. God bless.
so sorry you went through that :( nothing noone says is ever going to make it better so im just sorry you had to go through that
Your face in the first few seconds of the video told us your story. All the love i can i send to you, i do. ❤
13 seconds in I knew you’ve gone through this. I’m so sorry. 😢
Your reaction had me in tears. My sister had a miscarriage. It wrecked her 😞
The only positive is that he made such an amazing tribute to the girl that never was RIP ❤
Bless you❤️unfortunately I was never fortunate to be a dad and it breaks my heart.
Hang in there sweet soul. Life can hit pretty hard.
Could see on your face this was real for you from the first second. God bless
James has a way to put over a situation and mostly all his songs have an effect on someone.
Please let me say first you werent rambling, you were sharing which is the most precious thing and even if you were rambling then thats ok, its what you needed to do. I was born with a disability - I didnt have the relationship with my father like James did so Monsters hit me for something I never had. With this one, what hit me was that after my father passed, I found out that he blamed my mother for my disability, so the taking the blame part breaks me because I cannot understand how he could do that to my mother. I share your thoughts on the "afterlife" Thank you for sharing this video with us *hugs*
Thank you for the validation. I can see why that lyric would be upsetting to you. That's so heartbreaking that your father blamed your mother like that. I'm sure that she already harbored so much guilt and needed her loved ones to reassure her, not make it worse. I hope that she realizes that it wasn't her fault and that you are a beautiful person just as you are.
It was hard when my popa died he passed away back in 2019 on Christmas Eve and every time I go out and see a Fantail I know that it's him watching over me in everything I do
Don't worry about showing us your tears. We don't watch reactions to a song like this and expect the reactor to just shrug and discuss the performance technique. If you didn't feel pain with this song, something would truly be broken inside. Let it be cathartic.