Jack: I’ve lived all over the country and have the great blessing of a lot of friends. I’ve been in LA for 4 1/2 years and this is the loneliest town I’ve ever been in. You can find many acquaintances but few friends. My birthday was this past Sunday. I received tons of texts and calls from friends everywhere. Except from “friends” I’ve made in LA. No one came over. That’s a lonely feeling.
Understand to a T... glad I don't live there anymore. Super greatful for landing an amazing career there and now living in indiana working remotely from there. God is so so so good. The loneliness is gone because the California has so many lonely people that it radiates so big there. .... so sad I had to discover that on my own but like I said, so happy I landed there to gain and leave and still have but now not surrounded by fake parodies
I spent one birthday like that Tom. The next year, I didn't allow that to happen. I made a spa date, took in a movie and booked a table for one at my favorite steak house. The crew in the restaurant surrounded me with love and compassion. It was my favorite day of the year!
Thank you so much, Jack. This was really helpful and relatable to me. I once heard someone in the programme saying that there's a hole (void/ loneliness ...) in you that can only be filled by your Higher Power (not even by the presence of other people, let alone any form of addiction) and I realised over time that whenever I feel lonely or empty (that often goes hand in hand in my experience at least) I lost connection to my HP. And whenever I am having and cultivating a good connection to the God of my understanding I feel deeply connected to everything and everyone around me - even when I'm alone. Anyway, always looking forward to your uploads - have a blessed and fulfilled day :)
I find my higher power does fill a hole that no human can, but I also need humans as well. It’s a great thing to have both, a luxury for some. I hope you have an awesome day!
Being an introvert and 71 makes it difficult to create new friendships causing me to feel lonely at times. The way I deal with it is by going to the senior center for lunch and having a small group to make small talk with. The best way I deal with loneliness is with my UA-cam family making friendships all over the world. I understand how you feel as I have found myself in similar situations. Counseling has helped me in the past. Thanks for sharing, Jack. ❤🤠
Hi, Frank in Texas, this is Glenn in Louisiana. I was injured in a motorcycle accident 23 years ago, leaving me paralyzed from the chest down. I recently got an ostomy to help with bowel issues associated with paralysis. My body is broken and deteriorating, but my spirit remains strong. Loneliness does affect the spirit tremendously, which is why we need to find outlets. Hope all is well, Frank! God bless you, my friend!
@@endtimeawakening5557 Thank you for your kind words and thoughtfulness, Glenn. I am truly sorry for the unfortunate accident that you had and the devastating outcome. I also had an accident in 1974 in which I lost my left eye and had extensive neurosurgery, even though that never stopped me from working in manual labor jobs. I retired in 2010 and now at 71 diabetes is making life difficult for me. Other than that I'm doing well. I wish the best for you 💟.
@@endtimeawakening5557 something else that keeps me to myself is that I had an automobile accident when I was 19 and lost my left eye and had neurosurgery I learned to live with it.
I admire a lot how you open up and share your thoughts and feelings. I have felt alone my whole life since I've been verbally abused for years. Despite being 22, good looking and no problems meeting new friends and getting partners I've always felt disconnected from anyone because I just can't open up without feeling ashamed. While everyone sees my life as perfect I'm dealing with trauma and negative thoughts daily. Your videos made me realize how important and brave sharing our feelings is to help both ourselves but also others who are going through the same things Wish you all the best and thank you ♥
Thanks, Jack for being willing to be vulnerable. I believe everyone experiences loneliness, and the solution is to be honest to those who love us. It's hard to do. Thanks for your courage!
A few years ago, my best friend, who I have known for about two decades, told me that when she met me she could tell I was lonely. I was instantly offended. Then I sat down and thought about it.... She was right, though I could not have recognised my loneliness at that time. Besides, the word "lonely" has negative connotations in my mind, almost as though one has to be defective in some way to be lonely. It made me very uncomfortable to be thought of that way. The fact is... I _was_ lonely. In fact, I still am. Ever since I was a little boy, I've been an outsider. My being effeminate was the main reason. I couldn't hide my true expression. No-one wanted to associate themselves with me, thus I had no friends. So I had no choice but to find what comfort I could in being alone... and I thus grew to become a loner. As an adult, it has led me to self-isolate and be very anxious around people I do not know. And being gay, I am also lonely in a romantic sense (as many gay men are). In many ways, I am alone AND lonely, and I do not think that will change anytime soon. However, I do believe that abolishing the stigma surrounding loneliness is extremely important and that simply listening to someone express their loneliness is often many times better than launching into an overwhelming list of solutions. I, for one, just want someone to be present with me in those moments. It does help.
This one....struck me. Aside from everything I felt listening to this. It makes me happy you have a safe space with your gf and most importantly being able to talk about it and getting a little lighter in the heart and mind. You are so wise beyond your years. BRAVO
Hi Jack. Your ability to open yourself up to us is so admirable. It takes a lot of bravery, I think. I am so happy for you that you have an amazing person in your life that made you feel comfortable enough to take a chance and share how you were feeling.
40 never looked so GOOD!! Once you achieve getting clean and sober, there's nothing that can come your way that you won't be able to deal with. I'm clean and sober for 10 years. Most of my friends are gone, dead or in jail, Including my best friends who I grew up with in high school and I'm still here. Jack you're doing Great, I hear your message loud and clear! keep up the good work.
Greatly appreciate all the things you’ve covered recently. Today’s topic reminded me that when we share our grief it’s halved and when we share our joy, It’s doubled. It took me a long time to learn that one because of trust and shame and fear You know , why would I want to join a club that would have me as a member But today I know that there is a group of people who want me to be a part of them and ask me to keep coming back each and every day. And that way, I know I’m never alone.
Jack, we’re all here and with you in spirit. Sometimes it just 1 hour at a time for us to get over these feelings. Keep reaching out to us and your network. Doug
Jack, there's so much I personally could relate to and now, I'm a therapist specializing in helping others with their loneliness through Radically Open DBT. It's a unique approach that is not for everyone, but it maybe for someone. Thank you for your willingness to share; you are giving people hope with this video!
For me, self love helped a great deal regarding my bout with loneliness. It required a lot of work to find and create the love for myself necessary to get over that hurdle. I’m proud of you for speaking your truth and finding ways to express yourself. I trust you’ll continue putting in the time and effort to reach a place of peace within and the love you so richly deserve. ❤
I always love your videos. I think it’s amazing how you respond to every comment and every email you receive. That’s incredible and not an easy task. You have a good heart. Your girlfriend…not everyone would have responded to your vulnerability the way she did. I know that for a fact. She’s a keeper ❤
I’ve had a hardened heart for a while now. Because of this I tend to shy away from filling my schedule with plans. After being so exhausted by years of fight or flight mode, I very much prefer the peace of my own company. What scares me is I don’t feel lonely - I actually feel content. I prefer to live a simple stress free low key life. I love my hobbies, my home, my job, my self care. I am very blessed. I do not feel without or lacking. I know my life may look ‘boring’ to most - but I’ve gotten really used to sitting in the peace. I often wonder how this mentality will manifest as I get older, since I’m already so comfortable with it now. Is there something wrong with me that I don’t feel lonely by myself? Should that scare me?
"The person who follows the crowd - will usually go no further than the crowd. The person who walks alone - is likely to find themeslves in a place that no one has ever been to before'......Albert Einstein 'So, if you are too tired to speak, sit next to me, because I, too, am fluent in silence.'....Keanu Reeves Thanks for just being 100% YOU -Jack!!! After all that IS the greatest gift of all...to be comfortable living in your OWN skin 24/7!!
I have never thought about it like this! Thank you for opening my mind this morning! So empowering. I have been thinking im depressed. No I’m tired. I want to be alone but when I am I am wondering what others are doing. When I’m with others I feel so fake and I want conversation but tends to bore me. But loneliness yes. That is the feeling I have been feeling. I’m going to be mindful of this today and see how things go!!! Don’t get me wrong I am a very joyful person but underneath is someone looking to find….something. You always get my mind going with new thoughts and understanding. Thank you Jack!! Hope your day fun and enjoyable ❤
This resonates with me. I've been lonely a few times in my life and it's the worst feeling. Ever since then, I have been reaching out to friends regularly and the responses I get prove to me that it was needed.
This was the perfect message I needed to hear today. I just had a birthday and I felt lonely for my family. I did share it with my other half and I explained that I yearn for my family, but also know that it was me who cut all communications off with them. It was a healthy decision, yet on my b-day, I wished things were the way they were so many years ago. People change and they can't take back the things they said or did and we need to take care of our own self going forward. It is two days later (after my b-day) and I'm fine. I just had a momentary lapse of sadness. Thanks Jack for being YOU! G. (that Nbpt guy)
Nbpt in the house! Love to see you in here sharing, happy belated brother. Keep doing the right thing my man, we all have regrets and wishes… at the same time we are all doing the best we can.
i keep starting to write a comment, but then i delete it because my heads just been all over the place, so much is going on, i always pictured 5 1/2 years clean looking & feeling a lot different. so since i can’t get anything out right now i just wanna say this was such a good video, you speak very well & im always able to connect to you so thank you for that. keep doing you Jack!
Hey Jack I love how you identify the difference between being "alone" and being "lonely". And later how you were finally at a place in time where you could vocalize sitting there that you were lonely and hearing back, "How can I help?" Great simple little steps that took massive efforts to accomplish that I hope others will take away from this video. 39 years of baby steps! A great example for everyone to understand they are not always "Alone" just at a point somewhere between baby step 35 and 39 and that 39 will come soon.
Loneliness is toxic to the mind/spirit! Don't feel bad for reaching out when lonely, because it's the healthiest thing you can do. Men have way too much pressure on them to be strong and silent. Everyone needs to reach out for all kinds of help! Take care, Jack! God bless!!!
Everything you have shared with us here is of great substance. Never doubt that man. This loneliness topic... hits with me. My reasons are well known to me though. When I decided I wanted to quit alcohol and weed, nobody wanted to be around. When I wasn't able to help, nobody wanted to be around. So I decided that it's whatever and I cut ties with everyone here other than sister and aunt. I have 1 person I consider a friend that I met online (lives in another country). We chat quite regularly. But here it's just me. Most times I'm fine with it but there's still times I miss getting out for reasons other than just running errands and then coming back home. It's been many years ago I gave up the alcohol, weed and even cigarettes. I'm proud of myself for it but the lonely part of me wonders, if I still did that would I be out having fun compared to sitting here. But going back to all that is something I have no desire to do. Thank you for being the person you are Jack. For always making everyone feel who they are and what they are going through (no matter how big or small) important. 🤟
Love this Brad, thank you for the kind words. We all get lonely and that’s okay, I actually find that my loneliness tends to be of my own making. My mind tells me in lonely when there’s really no evidence that I should be. It’s a really strange thing.
@@jackunmasked The grooming process slowly prepares a person to withdraw into isolation and to never tell anyone what is going on! I still wish I had a cloak of invisibility at social events sometimes, I stand in the corner and watch, but I don't really want to participate!
Jack, I'm 57 years old from Michigan. Sometimes I feel lonely but all in all I'm not all that lonely. If that makes any sense. I feel it sometimes certain days, certain times of the day at night, etc etc. But I've learned that reminding myself that I have a lot of friends even though I don't hang out with all of them too often because of work life stuff like that. Meditation also helps. I often wonder why it changes so quickly for me sometimes. Thanks to being raised by amazing parents. I feel like I am pretty well adjusted and can cope with loneliness at times. It's never gotten extreme. Have never been extremely depressed. Just ups and downs like everyone else in life has.
Rob I appreciate the participation and honest sharing, this is what it’s all about. Thanks so much for continuing to show up, so grateful to have you here.
To me doesn't make any difference if you are with your shirt on or off, so just do as you please. I pop in to hear your words of wisdom :-) coming from a man is even more special! Once again this world needs more like you and loneliness is real for so many people. Elder, addicts, past traumas and unfortunately young ones who are stuck to their mobiles and pc and not able to create true friends, conversations or even eye contact. we all have no idea how all lonely we all are! Thank you for putting it together this way. Love from Malta x
Dear Jack, I listened to your videos every chance I get, you've been a positive influence on me. I'm not sure if this goes with the lonelyness your talking about. I do feel that if I let go of the pain from my past and childhood I feel like it's the only thing that I Own and not sure what to do afterwards if I let go
I’ve felt the exact same way. For a long time I found comfort in familiar feelings even if they weren’t good for me and it was real scary to think about letting them go. For me, once I decided it was best, the decision to let them go was nothing but positive & helpful. It means a lot to me that my videos are giving you some inspiration and motivation, thank you so much for being here and participating.
Hi, Jack…. Thanks for sharing this. To be honest, I feel lonely all the time. U do live alone & I have a lot of people who love & care about me. I don’t have the courage so do what you do & tell someone that. J feel that I will be a burden & they’ll just think I’m less of a man if I admit it. I admire your courage to say something to Megan. I hope I have someone like that one day that I can be as open & honest with. You’re an awesome guy & I’ve said it before & I’ll say it again. I really admire what you’re trying to do with this channel. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re on the right path.
I understand and relate to the feelings you’ve expressed. I’ve found myself closing off to friends because the ones I’ve chosen aren’t really willing to open up. How do you manage to find such great friends with whom you can have sincere and vulnerable relationships? Btw… I admire your ability to open up.
That’s a great question, and I think it comes down to my willingness to open up & be vulnerable right off the bat when meeting people. Throughout my life I’ve learned how to determine whether or not people are on my level. If not that’s okay, I can move on, but if they are then I try to begin crafting a relationship with them.
@@jackunmasked Thank you for your quick response. I just discovered your channel 2-3 days ago. I have watched several of your videos. Man, I can relate to your experiences as a child, but I just haven’t been able to overcome the effects. Do you have more private way of communication?
Thanks Jack, as always. I recall many years back, I was alone at my home, and I called a friend to say hello...He told me he and his buddies were going out, and in my heart, I wanted so bad to be included, but I wasn't. I just said.."oh, that's nice.." I hung up, cooked dinner..a hamburger, and sat down at this huge dinner table we had. I took one bite, and the silence of the house just overwhelmed me, and I broke down and cried. When I went to confession last, my priest asked, do you know how porn and masturbation became so habitual, and I said because I was so lonely as kid... Thanks for another great chat. Cheers my friend. xoxox Kevin
Jack, definitely have felt lonely and did not want to admit it to myself, much less to anyone else. Pride probably stopped me from telling others. My late hubby and I were successful together partially due to our both being loners - together. We said to each other that we accepted the truth that we both were social misfits - those square pegs in the society of round holes. And, after losing him to bowel cancer 17 months ago, the loneliness certainly recurred. And, at my age, which was 81 then and 82 now, I wondered often why I was getting up daily and what reason was out there to continue on. Obviously, an octogenarian is not very marketable, except to scammers who think there is $$ to grab. I still deal with it off and on. I think it just is a matter of fact in the latter years. Anyway, I admire your ability to be open and prove how similar all us imperfect humans are. All good things to you. Herman
Thanks so much Herman. I’m sorry you lost your partner 17 months ago, loss is never an easy thing to cope with. Your age is wonderful! Thank you for participating and opening up here, it has loads of value.
Jack, You are right. We can be lonely regardless of what seems to be going right in our lives. I'll email you more, because I think we have a definite connection here. Take care & God bless.
Being an extrovert and a need for constant human interaction can be difficult for me. Maybe why I started commenting on your videos. A need for connection. I have this lonely sensation often and trying to navigate it isn't straightforward sometimes. Keeping busy is sort of a defense mechanism to not let me be in my thoughts and thinking negatively. Anxiety starts to creep in. I don't really have anyone to reach out too about it without sounding crazy. Maybe I'll reach out at some point if i get the courage lol. It seems silly saying that, but I do appreciate this raw video and your willingness to listen to your followers. ❤
Hi jack, have u heard of book called the law of one.. its amazing teaching..its helped me alot..also there a pdcast of a guy called danny morel he really puts life in perspective. Hope you will at least give this a try. We are all connected, your not alone..you good man.. thanks for your honesty. Mr. Larry.
For me loneliness comes and goes. But I have always been a loner. So it makes my personality different and sometimes impatient. I think my issue is making sure I don't go crazy by myself.
Being a loner can be useful, I don’t think it necessarily causes more loneliness but I can’t be sure. Love your participation, thanks for being here Vince.
Loneliness has a way of finding me and I don't always recognize it. I'm 6'4 and usually surrounded by people. I'm easily noticed. At the end of the day, they all go their way and I go mine.
Hi Jack. I've been lucky to have all kinds of friends over the years. I've even had and have what I like to call soul mate friends. At my age however I've been losing friends over the past few years to death. Part of life yes. I find myself at times now having those feelings of loneliness and it's been a challenge to deal with. At my age I no longer have the same desire to develop new friendships and find myself relying on the 3 good friends that are still here on this earth. Only recently have I been able to be more vulnerable with one of my good friends. He too has kept his emotions close to his chest for many years. We have been open with each other on a number of occasions recently sharing our fears and feelings. It's been eye opening and we feel closer than ever. I don't know why I'm telling you all this or what my point is but I guess it's heartwarming to see and hear a much younger man than myself taking these steps of healing that have taken me decades. Cheers to you for being so open and honest. By the way, Michelle sounds like a keeper! 😊
Jack I always see Your videos and think what I can Write to help You in your ways. Today I have to say Thank You so much. You help in a way that is dificut to express in words!!! Jesus bless You so much.❤
I relate totally to what you are saying. I call it my " little black cloud". Even in group or a crowd it can suddenly come over me. Also in noments of much happiness I am feeling lonely. I am amazed that a man like you- blessed with good looks and nice body would also have these feelings. I also have never verbalized these feelings. I always try to appear positive. Stay well man love yourvideo. Maybe I will try that. Peace.❤
Thanks so much Raymond. I don’t think feelings, problems, addiction, loneliness care what people look like or how much money they have. Life shows up with all its emotions and issues just the same. Thanks so much for being here.
I’m a believer that everyone , especially in this no contact digital world , everyone feels lonely. I think it’s a normal feeling. If its a feeling that interferes with your life in a negative way , then speak out and reach out without shame. Shame keeps us from saying what probably needs to be said. Loneliness like addiction can affect even the best and the brightest of us. I really think everyone experiences loneliness at some time. It’s a legit human feeling imo🖤
I never had the substance abuse issues you reflect on sporadically, so unfortunately I don't understand that lens of perspective, or depth of struggle. What you and I do have in common is the background of pre-consenting adult abuse! That is the tack I will come to this video with. I experienced the abuse within my own family, and also as the casual observer to a whole town that in my opinion ate their own young (levels of abuse... Sexual, physical, emotional, you name it) Sexual abuse regardless of gender was rife! Many of us who succeed long enough to come out the back end and still alive, most often end up feeling/ being the loneliest people on the planet, while sitting in a crowded room. It has taken me years and decades sporadically being in therapy and psychiatry to work on myself to put all the pieces back together... I hope you have access to that intensive level of resource and support!!
I’m a believer that everyone , especially in this no contact digital world , everyone feels lonely. I think it’s a normal regular feeling. If its a feeling that interferes with your life in a negative way , then we should talk and reach out without shame. Shame keeps us from saying what probably needs to be said. Loneliness like addiction can affect anyone. Even the best of us 🖤
To one degree or another, I suspect most humans experience loneliness on a semi-regular basis. Most of us are alone in the womb at the start of our lives and die alone (we go alone) at the end of our lives, even if surrounded by family, friends or medical staff. I have found that loneliness, if I treat it like a mood and I accept it and lean into it at the moment, it passes, eventually, like every other emotion. I recently read an article written by a nurse who worked in convalescent facilities all of her career. She said even patients with extensive families often spend most or all of their time alone with few or no visitors. So, I suspect loneliness is not something to always run from or find a remedy for, but it's important to find a way to understand and accept it as one of many passing emotions, conditions or experiences in a regular life.
I love this, and I agree with it. My loneliness tends to just be my mind playing tricks on me, it often I can’t really tell. It’s a real strange thing. Thanks so much for the input!
Thank you so much for being who you are and sharing your soul with us. I know this is a very dumb question, but what exactly is loneliness to you? I feel like I’ve never really understood what people meant by that term and yet I suspect in my gut it’s something I likely feel almost daily. Thank you
Good morning Jack, This video is very touching, deeply. I think I understand you. I have past many years lonely. Alone, very alone, enough to speak with my dog. After I read a lot, the night come over the city. Alone, alone. So I listen the radio, and sleep alone in a cold bed. After those years, I meet my wife. Everything change. « She fills my heart With very special things, With Angels songs, with wild imaginings. That anywhere I go, I am never lonely. With her around, who could be lonely? I reach for her hand, she’s always there. » (Popular song, 1970) I wish you that this sad feeling change for you. I wish you to never be alone. And I know it’s virtuel by the Web but you have thousand people who are with you. So far as I am in the north, ( we have 8c this morning), I wish you the best.
@@jackunmasked You are welcome,Jack. When we talk about loneliness, I think about the French poet, Baudelaire who wrote SPLEEN poem. It’s a very sad feelings without definitions, but a felling touching the soul. I don’t feel lonely since I have love ❤️ in my life. If loneliness touch you often, you are better to share with people that you love.
Is the center of loneliness about isolation? Like that no one can touch it? The more thinky I get the more isolated I feel. I have to work on staying on the plane where other people are. A daily thing. Love what you are doing here!
English is not my native language . I turned on subtitles to understand the video . I feel very much lonely. I never had any friends. I never made any and i dont even know how to make someone friend. I am introvert dont talk at all and dont have any information in any matter be it technology etc. Unfortunately there was not a single male around me in the form of cousin /brother/ friend etc so i never actually talked to any male. I never played any game. I now look like a kid and very slim but i am extremely good natured. I am living in pakistan and a boy should be very much social in order to survive here .i realized the solution of my problem if i find a male who accompanies me everywhere and guides me i will become social and know about society . I donot go outside house alone . I just had a choice to message random pakistani men at facebook which i did and told them about me and my life in detail .Not a single man understood me I just dont know if it is a big issue for men to add me as a friend in their lives. Does it make difference if i am not strong like them or look like a kid . I dont know what to do .
I think you’re in the right place here, try not to stress too much about looks or size just be yourself. There are people out there for everyone. Stick around brother I think this space could help you.
My heart breaks for you, Such a shame you don't have someone who really loves you. I was so very lucky, 31 yrs together 3 yrs widowed. Loneliness is the worst. 63 cincinnati oh here, I am a survivor of violently being raped at the age of 4. So I sadly know, I chose to move forward and staying positive. I wish you the best Jack I really do.
I’m very blessed to have people in my life who do care about me and love me. I still get plagued by loneliness, it comes and goes. Thank you so much for being here, I’m truly sorry you experienced such trauma in your early years. I understand.
Jack N I C E Your lady's warm response=a keeper I'm outa the box. I was terribly lonely within my family of origin. When they weren't violent, they were cold. Ever a misfit. My younger bro had the knack for pals & girlfriends, but not me. People were so dangerous there's safety in solitude. Resig 15:52 ned from dating, I am sexually/romantically lonely, but that's different. I'm old now. I still live with 2 roommates, a great roommate is a wonderful thing. We can blend in or blend out. I take better care of the place because of them. When I live alone, BRRR the place is a mausoleum. Probably I'm insane, but since i became superstitious (=belief in ghosts, spirits, what-not) umm never feel alone. Do you know that Annie Lennox lyric "...And when I think that I'm alone/Seems there's more of us at home..." 🤣
It would be possible your loneliness could be depression? Believe me, I have lived that situation, I looked for professional help and things are different. It takes long time, but totally I'm a different person now.❤❤❤
You might be suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). These feelings seem to always come back as much as we get counseling, get on medication, and try to live day by day. It a constant feeling of managing it but it can get tiring. Hang in there man.
@@jackunmasked Its nothing to be a shame of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), I had to correct the term my earlier post. It just take longer to coming back from being down to feeling better. I wish I had answers but I deal with it myself and I am still figuring it out at my age.
Great video as always (love seeing you with your shirt off). I definitely struggle with loneliness. I hate it. I trudge through though with the help from Jesus Christ.
Although I'm quasi-agoraphobic I don't necessarily feel lonely. I choose a very limited human contact for myself. It's again a coping mechanism from my abuse as a child. I feel safe in my meetings, and with my therapist, and around my immediate neighborhood, but not in the general public. I've thought about writing an autobiography and calling it "My near-life experience" LOL
So, thank you for allowing people to have at least one person they can talk to if they feel they do not have anyone else or at least someone that can listen and not just hear them. I did want to ask, you said you meditated...can you share how you meditate? What helps you? I kinda feel I need that. I have those thoughts of worthlessness sometimes... I dunno, just a request if you have some time to spare. I feel it would help a lot of people.
You are such a special person. I enjoy your videos a lot. And the shirtless oart is super hot, but also shows your vulnerbility and honesty. More videos, please.
The loneliness for me is melancholy who come with sadness and anxiety and I try to fix it with try to remember good moment but more and more sadness take more place don’t know how to fix that ?!
Everyone is different, it’s a great question. Unfortunately I don’t know the best course for each individual person, mine is honesty, therapy, 12 step program and close friends. Let me put some thought into this one.
Good morning, my friend. Did you say at the end of your video that you're gonna upload something of substance soon newsflash that was something substance❤
@@dougl945 he drew us in by his life story. He’s an interesting guy. I’m just playing about the clothes. I believe he explains it in one of his first videos.
@@jackunmasked Take care of your mental health if you create a Twitter. Trust me, from experience, communication through that platform can get VERY toxic very quickly. UA-cam is still the best to make sure you and others don’t end up misunderstood.
Just happens sometimes, I just come as I am at the time I decide to make content. It was a very warm day and took a long walk on the beach. Thanks for being here Maury.
Jack, please don't take this the wrong way. You are incredibly handsome; however, I feel like your shirtless body is click bait. Please put on a shirt, so people are not distracted. Your message is strong enough on its own. Dont "use your looks" to gather eyes. Some may see it as cheap. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say
I do understand what you’re saying, but it is not my intent. The last thing I am going to do it change who I am or how I present myself in fear of how people will see me or view it. The right people will see what I’m doing the right way, the rest won’t stay… and that’s okay.
@@jackunmasked 😂.. I’m wondering if loneliness was missing the substances, to me there is many forms of it if makes sense. I’ve always had that something is missing feeling much through my life , sometimes still do and not sure why. I have what I need mostly anyhow but it’s from within not material.
Jack … pleeez explain to me why you never wear a shirt Lol How does Megan feel about it ?! Is it a visual bonus for all your subscribers ? … or is there a logical reason ?? Sorry I’m an overly curious person and it’s driving me crazzzzzy Not knowing 🖤
I’m honestly not sure why it’s such a big deal to everyone, I typically just don’t have a shirt on if I’m home relaxing. It’s California and it’s usually real hot during summer. I hope it doesn’t offend you or anyone else, it’s just me.
@@jackunmasked Curious is all. Takes a lot more to bother me Jack believe me. Took me decades to get here so chill . In the grand scheme of the bigger picture of life , not at all a bother to me Jack Lol … Just curious is all. Blessings to you and family. Keep doing you. I love listening and watching you with your buddies even though I cry. All sober men are spiritual sons and warriors of life ! Congratulations on every day of your sobriety. My son is twenty five years clean and sober. I’m blessed he’s with me bc there were years I held my breath and tried to brace myself for possibly a different reality , while at the same time , a single mom raising a little girl about your sons age. Most difficult time … most blessed time. Seven rehabs and jail until he surrendered and chose life. So long ago , but I’m even crying right now typing and recalling those scary and alone dark times. ALL GOOD NOW , THANK GOD 🖤 ITS HARD ON THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU AND HARDER ON THOSE WHO BIRTHED YOU ! I consider myself an extremely wealthy woman … and I’m not speaking of dollars 🖤
Living by the beach in California tends to be just shorts for me. Almost all of my videos are me wearing a shirt, once in a while it changes. No particular reason other than heat and sunshine. I hope you were able to get something from my content, glad you’re here.
Dude!! The guy has a great upper body and he is proud of it. It's also a draw for women and gay guys who appreciate the male form. Being shirtless is also a way to bear oneself, literally and figuratively. Most guys are either shirtless or wearing shorts in podcasts and videos. It's what people feel comfortable with.
@@jackunmasked no judgement. I live on Dudley right on the beach myself. So familiar with beach culture. Although I've not seen many women wearing bikinis on their social media. Just made me think. Thank you. It was a knee jerk reaction to inquire. My first thought went to the obvious use of Thirst Traps- which work. That said great content.
Jack... I really like watching your videos and this one really struck a chord with me because I am extremely lonely and I don't have any friends. I used to have a ton of friends but I no longer do. Is there a way to talk to you besides comments since it's rather personal in nature. I would totally appreciate it
You're welcome and I feel blessed to have you speaking on videos. In fact I played your video twice it really spoke to me you already made me feel better. Let me know if you received my email
Matt thank you so much! Your support means the world to me and my family. There should be an area that says Email Me… but here it is in case you still can’t find it. Didsydoherty@gmail.com
You are very welcome! I would like to donate on a monthly basis if that's okay with you. Um.. can you clarify your email does it really start with "Dids..."??
Jack: I’ve lived all over the country and have the great blessing of a lot of friends. I’ve been in LA for 4 1/2 years and this is the loneliest town I’ve ever been in. You can find many acquaintances but few friends. My birthday was this past Sunday. I received tons of texts and calls from friends everywhere. Except from “friends” I’ve made in LA. No one came over. That’s a lonely feeling.
Tom I 100% understand. I didn’t remember you’re in LA! We should get coffee sometime brother.
@@jackunmasked yes, we should. That would be lovely.
Find a group to volunteer at. Join a hobby club.
Understand to a T... glad I don't live there anymore. Super greatful for landing an amazing career there and now living in indiana working remotely from there. God is so so so good. The loneliness is gone because the California has so many lonely people that it radiates so big there. .... so sad I had to discover that on my own but like I said, so happy I landed there to gain and leave and still have but now not surrounded by fake parodies
I spent one birthday like that Tom. The next year, I didn't allow that to happen. I made a spa date, took in a movie and booked a table for one at my favorite steak house. The crew in the restaurant surrounded me with love and compassion. It was my favorite day of the year!
Thank you so much, Jack. This was really helpful and relatable to me. I once heard someone in the programme saying that there's a hole (void/ loneliness ...) in you that can only be filled by your Higher Power (not even by the presence of other people, let alone any form of addiction) and I realised over time that whenever I feel lonely or empty (that often goes hand in hand in my experience at least) I lost connection to my HP. And whenever I am having and cultivating a good connection to the God of my understanding I feel deeply connected to everything and everyone around me - even when I'm alone. Anyway, always looking forward to your uploads - have a blessed and fulfilled day :)
I find my higher power does fill a hole that no human can, but I also need humans as well. It’s a great thing to have both, a luxury for some. I hope you have an awesome day!
@jackdoherty1412 hey jack, I'll fill your hole. Come over
You are a lucky man to have a partner with so much empathy. I really enjoy your videos.
Susan thank you so much. I appreciate your kind words and you being here participating.
Being an introvert and 71 makes it difficult to create new friendships causing me to feel lonely at times. The way I deal with it is by going to the senior center for lunch and having a small group to make small talk with. The best way I deal with loneliness is with my UA-cam family making friendships all over the world. I understand how you feel as I have found myself in similar situations. Counseling has helped me in the past. Thanks for sharing, Jack. ❤🤠
Counseling and community also help me Frank, I love your input! Thanks so much for being here.
Hi, Frank in Texas, this is Glenn in Louisiana. I was injured in a motorcycle accident 23 years ago, leaving me paralyzed from the chest down. I recently got an ostomy to help with bowel issues associated with paralysis. My body is broken and deteriorating, but my spirit remains strong. Loneliness does affect the spirit tremendously, which is why we need to find outlets. Hope all is well, Frank! God bless you, my friend!
@@endtimeawakening5557 Thank you for your kind words and thoughtfulness, Glenn. I am truly sorry for the unfortunate accident that you had and the devastating outcome. I also had an accident in 1974 in which I lost my left eye and had extensive neurosurgery, even though that never stopped me from working in manual labor jobs. I retired in 2010 and now at 71 diabetes is making life difficult for me. Other than that I'm doing well. I wish the best for you 💟.
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You too, Frank! Much love and God bless!
@@endtimeawakening5557 something else that keeps me to myself is that I had an automobile accident when I was 19 and lost my left eye and had neurosurgery I learned to live with it.
I admire a lot how you open up and share your thoughts and feelings. I have felt alone my whole life since I've been verbally abused for years. Despite being 22, good looking and no problems meeting new friends and getting partners I've always felt disconnected from anyone because I just can't open up without feeling ashamed.
While everyone sees my life as perfect I'm dealing with trauma and negative thoughts daily. Your videos made me realize how important and brave sharing our feelings is to help both ourselves but also others who are going through the same things
Wish you all the best and thank you ♥
I love this! Thanks so much for being here and opening up, that’s what it’s all about.
Thanks, Jack for being willing to be vulnerable. I believe everyone experiences loneliness, and the solution is to be honest to those who love us. It's hard to do. Thanks for your courage!
Sometimes courage is all we have, grateful to have you here.
A few years ago, my best friend, who I have known for about two decades, told me that when she met me she could tell I was lonely. I was instantly offended. Then I sat down and thought about it.... She was right, though I could not have recognised my loneliness at that time. Besides, the word "lonely" has negative connotations in my mind, almost as though one has to be defective in some way to be lonely. It made me very uncomfortable to be thought of that way. The fact is... I _was_ lonely. In fact, I still am. Ever since I was a little boy, I've been an outsider. My being effeminate was the main reason. I couldn't hide my true expression. No-one wanted to associate themselves with me, thus I had no friends. So I had no choice but to find what comfort I could in being alone... and I thus grew to become a loner. As an adult, it has led me to self-isolate and be very anxious around people I do not know. And being gay, I am also lonely in a romantic sense (as many gay men are). In many ways, I am alone AND lonely, and I do not think that will change anytime soon. However, I do believe that abolishing the stigma surrounding loneliness is extremely important and that simply listening to someone express their loneliness is often many times better than launching into an overwhelming list of solutions. I, for one, just want someone to be present with me in those moments. It does help.
Frans I understand the feelings. You’re in the right place, you are welcomed here and I appreciate your presence.
This one....struck me. Aside from everything I felt listening to this. It makes me happy you have a safe space with your gf and most importantly being able to talk about it and getting a little lighter in the heart and mind. You are so wise beyond your years. BRAVO
Thanks so much Lalac, means a lot to me. Blessed to have you here.
Hi Jack. Your ability to open yourself up to us is so admirable. It takes a lot of bravery, I think. I am so happy for you that you have an amazing person in your life that made you feel comfortable enough to take a chance and share how you were feeling.
Thanks so much Melanie! Always good to see you here participating.
40 never looked so GOOD!! Once you achieve getting clean and sober, there's nothing that can come your way that you won't be able to deal with. I'm clean and sober for 10 years. Most of my friends are gone, dead or in jail, Including my best friends who I grew up with in high school and I'm still here. Jack you're doing Great, I hear your message loud and clear! keep up the good work.
Thank you so much, so blessed to have you here. I will keep showing up if you keep showing up!
Greatly appreciate all the things you’ve covered recently. Today’s topic reminded me that when we share our grief it’s halved and when we share our joy,
It’s doubled.
It took me a long time to learn that one because of trust and shame and fear You know , why would I want to join a club that would have me as a member
But today I know that there is a group of people who want me to be a part of them and ask me to keep coming back each and every day. And that way, I know I’m never alone.
Never alone. So blessed to have you here.
Thank you for your share and insight 🙏🏽
Thank you for being here, I hope you stick around.
Jack I applaud you for bringing this subject to the light.I too have been in that place and I had someone who really cared enough to listen.
You’re welcome Jim, I appreciate you relating. Also it is a very fortunate situation to have someone who really cares enough to listen.
Jack, we’re all here and with you in spirit. Sometimes it just 1 hour at a time for us to get over these feelings. Keep reaching out to us and your network. Doug
Always great to see you here Doug, thanks brother.
Jack, there's so much I personally could relate to and now, I'm a therapist specializing in helping others with their loneliness through Radically Open DBT. It's a unique approach that is not for everyone, but it maybe for someone. Thank you for your willingness to share; you are giving people hope with this video!
Love it David, thank you so much!
For me, self love helped a great deal regarding my bout with loneliness. It required a lot of work to find and create the love for myself necessary to get over that hurdle. I’m proud of you for speaking your truth and finding ways to express yourself. I trust you’ll continue putting in the time and effort to reach a place of peace within and the love you so richly deserve. ❤
Thank you so much Kona. I too have found self love helps a great deal with loneliness. I appreciate your participation and input!
I always love your videos. I think it’s amazing how you respond to every comment and every email you receive. That’s incredible and not an easy task. You have a good heart. Your girlfriend…not everyone would have responded to your vulnerability the way she did. I know that for a fact. She’s a keeper ❤
She is the best! Thanks for the kind words, it helps keep me focused on the way I’m doing things knowing it’s noticed. Grateful to have you here.
I’ve had a hardened heart for a while now. Because of this I tend to shy away from filling my schedule with plans. After being so exhausted by years of fight or flight mode, I very much prefer the peace of my own company. What scares me is I don’t feel lonely - I actually feel content. I prefer to live a simple stress free low key life. I love my hobbies, my home, my job, my self care. I am very blessed. I do not feel without or lacking. I know my life may look ‘boring’ to most - but I’ve gotten really used to sitting in the peace. I often wonder how this mentality will manifest as I get older, since I’m already so comfortable with it now.
Is there something wrong with me that I don’t feel lonely by myself? Should that scare me?
Absolutely not, many many people strive for what you’re explaining. Cherish it. That is a wonderful place to be.
"The person who follows the crowd - will usually go no further than the crowd. The person who walks alone - is likely to find themeslves in a place that no one has ever been to before'......Albert Einstein
'So, if you are too tired to speak, sit next to me, because I, too, am fluent in silence.'....Keanu Reeves
Thanks for just being 100% YOU -Jack!!! After all that IS the greatest gift of all...to be comfortable living in your OWN skin 24/7!!
Heck yeah Steve, thanks so much for being here and the kind words.
I have never thought about it like this! Thank you for opening my mind this morning! So empowering. I have been thinking im depressed. No I’m tired. I want to be alone but when I am I am wondering what others are doing. When I’m with others I feel so fake and I want conversation but tends to bore me. But loneliness yes. That is the feeling I have been feeling. I’m going to be mindful of this today and see how things go!!! Don’t get me wrong I am a very joyful person but underneath is someone looking to find….something. You always get my mind going with new thoughts and understanding. Thank you Jack!! Hope your day fun and enjoyable ❤
Love this Jessie, thanks so much for the understanding and kind words!
This resonates with me. I've been lonely a few times in my life and it's the worst feeling. Ever since then, I have been reaching out to friends regularly and the responses I get prove to me that it was needed.
Love to hear this, you’re doing the right thing Rik.
This was the perfect message I needed to hear today. I just had a birthday and I felt lonely for my family. I did share it with my other half and I explained that I yearn for my family, but also know that it was me who cut all communications off with them. It was a healthy decision, yet on my b-day, I wished things were the way they were so many years ago. People change and they can't take back the things they said or did and we need to take care of our own self going forward. It is two days later (after my b-day) and I'm fine. I just had a momentary lapse of sadness. Thanks Jack for being YOU!
G. (that Nbpt guy)
Nbpt in the house! Love to see you in here sharing, happy belated brother. Keep doing the right thing my man, we all have regrets and wishes… at the same time we are all doing the best we can.
i keep starting to write a comment, but then i delete it because my heads just been all over the place, so much is going on, i always pictured 5 1/2 years clean looking & feeling a lot different. so since i can’t get anything out right now i just wanna say this was such a good video, you speak very well & im always able to connect to you so thank you for that. keep doing you Jack!
5 and a half years is amazing congratulations! Blessed to have you here, try not to overthink it just enjoy the ride. Thank you for being here.
Hey Jack
I love how you identify the difference between being "alone" and being "lonely".
And
later how you were finally at a place in time where you could vocalize sitting there that you were lonely and hearing back, "How can I help?"
Great simple little steps that took massive efforts to accomplish that I hope others will take away from this video.
39 years of baby steps!
A great example for everyone to understand they are not always "Alone" just at a point somewhere between baby step 35 and 39 and that 39 will come soon.
Love it Ken, thanks so much for being here brother.
Loneliness is toxic to the mind/spirit! Don't feel bad for reaching out when lonely, because it's the healthiest thing you can do. Men have way too much pressure on them to be strong and silent. Everyone needs to reach out for all kinds of help! Take care, Jack! God bless!!!
Love this! Thanks so much, I hope you continue to show up here and participate.
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Thanks, Jack. Love your new channel! Much love!
Everything you have shared with us here is of great substance. Never doubt that man.
This loneliness topic... hits with me. My reasons are well known to me though. When I decided I wanted to quit alcohol and weed, nobody wanted to be around. When I wasn't able to help, nobody wanted to be around. So I decided that it's whatever and I cut ties with everyone here other than sister and aunt. I have 1 person I consider a friend that I met online (lives in another country). We chat quite regularly. But here it's just me. Most times I'm fine with it but there's still times I miss getting out for reasons other than just running errands and then coming back home.
It's been many years ago I gave up the alcohol, weed and even cigarettes. I'm proud of myself for it but the lonely part of me wonders, if I still did that would I be out having fun compared to sitting here. But going back to all that is something I have no desire to do.
Thank you for being the person you are Jack. For always making everyone feel who they are and what they are going through (no matter how big or small) important. 🤟
Love this Brad, thank you for the kind words. We all get lonely and that’s okay, I actually find that my loneliness tends to be of my own making. My mind tells me in lonely when there’s really no evidence that I should be. It’s a really strange thing.
Thanks for this Jack, that feeling you describe is typical for abuse survivors !
Ain’t that the truth Philip.
@@jackunmasked The grooming process slowly prepares a person to withdraw into isolation and to never tell anyone what is going on! I still wish I had a cloak of invisibility at social events sometimes, I stand in the corner and watch, but I don't really want to participate!
Jack, I'm 57 years old from Michigan. Sometimes I feel lonely but all in all I'm not all that lonely. If that makes any sense. I feel it sometimes certain days, certain times of the day at night, etc etc. But I've learned that reminding myself that I have a lot of friends even though I don't hang out with all of them too often because of work life stuff like that. Meditation also helps. I often wonder why it changes so quickly for me sometimes. Thanks to being raised by amazing parents. I feel like I am pretty well adjusted and can cope with loneliness at times. It's never gotten extreme. Have never been extremely depressed. Just ups and downs like everyone else in life has.
Rob I appreciate the participation and honest sharing, this is what it’s all about. Thanks so much for continuing to show up, so grateful to have you here.
@@jackunmasked Thanks man! Glad I discovered you on here and I will continue to show up.
Thank you Jack for sharing this video. It meant alot to me.
It means a lot to me that you are here Scotty.
You change my life each day for the better! Peace & Love, Brother
Peace & Love right back at you brother! Thanks so much for being here.
Jack, my friend, thank you for sharing your truth with us. It touches lots of hearts. ~Lorna
Love having you here Lorna, thanks so much for the kind words!
To me doesn't make any difference if you are with your shirt on or off, so just do as you please. I pop in to hear your words of wisdom :-) coming from a man is even more special! Once again this world needs more like you and loneliness is real for so many people. Elder, addicts, past traumas and unfortunately young ones who are stuck to their mobiles and pc and not able to create true friends, conversations or even eye contact. we all have no idea how all lonely we all are! Thank you for putting it together this way. Love from Malta x
Always appreciate the Malta love!
@@jackunmasked well deserved cause that is what is coming this way! :-)
Dear Jack, I listened to your videos every chance I get, you've been a positive influence on me.
I'm not sure if this goes with the lonelyness your talking about.
I do feel that if I let go of the pain from my past and childhood I feel like it's the only thing that I Own and not sure what to do afterwards if I let go
I’ve felt the exact same way. For a long time I found comfort in familiar feelings even if they weren’t good for me and it was real scary to think about letting them go. For me, once I decided it was best, the decision to let them go was nothing but positive & helpful. It means a lot to me that my videos are giving you some inspiration and motivation, thank you so much for being here and participating.
Hi, Jack…. Thanks for sharing this. To be honest, I feel lonely all the time. U do live alone & I have a lot of people who love & care about me. I don’t have the courage so do what you do & tell someone that. J feel that I will be a burden & they’ll just think I’m less of a man if I admit it. I admire your courage to say something to Megan. I hope I have someone like that one day that I can be as open & honest with. You’re an awesome guy & I’ve said it before & I’ll say it again. I really admire what you’re trying to do with this channel. Keep doing what you’re doing. You’re on the right path.
You’re in the right place Steve, you’re welcomed here. Thanks so much for being here and participating.
Thank you. I needed to hear this. Thank you for being an genuine, authentic soul.
Doing my best Dawn, thank you for being here!
I understand and relate to the feelings you’ve expressed. I’ve found myself closing off to friends because the ones I’ve chosen aren’t really willing to open up. How do you manage to find such great friends with whom you can have sincere and vulnerable relationships?
Btw… I admire your ability to open up.
That’s a great question, and I think it comes down to my willingness to open up & be vulnerable right off the bat when meeting people. Throughout my life I’ve learned how to determine whether or not people are on my level. If not that’s okay, I can move on, but if they are then I try to begin crafting a relationship with them.
@@jackunmasked Thank you for your quick response. I just discovered your channel 2-3 days ago. I have watched several of your videos. Man, I can relate to your experiences as a child, but I just haven’t been able to overcome the effects. Do you have more private way of communication?
San Diego is my town! I love it here!
Thanks for sharing yourself with us.
I didn’t know that brother! Love seeing you here as always.
Excellent video, thank you.
Thank you Robert, happy to have you here.
Thanks Jack, as always. I recall many years back, I was alone at my home, and I called a friend to say hello...He told me he and his buddies were going out, and in my heart, I wanted so bad to be included, but I wasn't. I just said.."oh, that's nice.." I hung up, cooked dinner..a hamburger, and sat down at this huge dinner table we had. I took one bite, and the silence of the house just overwhelmed me, and I broke down and cried. When I went to confession last, my priest asked, do you know how porn and masturbation became so habitual, and I said because I was so lonely as kid... Thanks for another great chat. Cheers my friend. xoxox Kevin
I appreciate the honest sharing Kevin, I’ve been there too. Thanks so much for being here and participating.
I dont know why i cant get out of my loneliness and just open up to ppl .. that makes me rlly feel sad but thank you this vid meant a lot to me
More to come, stick around and maybe we can work through that together as a community.
Jack, definitely have felt lonely and did not want to admit it to myself, much less to anyone else. Pride probably stopped me from telling others. My late hubby and I were successful together partially due to our both being loners - together. We said to each other that we accepted the truth that we both were social misfits - those square pegs in the society of round holes. And, after losing him to bowel cancer 17 months ago, the loneliness certainly recurred. And, at my age, which was 81 then and 82 now, I wondered often why I was getting up daily and what reason was out there to continue on. Obviously, an octogenarian is not very marketable, except to scammers who think there is $$ to grab. I still deal with it off and on. I think it just is a matter of fact in the latter years. Anyway, I admire your ability to be open and prove how similar all us imperfect humans are. All good things to you. Herman
Thanks so much Herman. I’m sorry you lost your partner 17 months ago, loss is never an easy thing to cope with. Your age is wonderful! Thank you for participating and opening up here, it has loads of value.
Appreciated ❤️
Thanx for being vulnerable.
Always Keller, thank you for being here.
it amazing to post this thank you
Thank you so much for being here.
Jack, You are right. We can be lonely regardless of what seems to be going right in our lives. I'll email you more, because I think we have a definite connection here. Take care & God bless.
Love the emails, and your participation. You’re in the right place!
Getting through loneliness can be a bitch. It helps to remind yourself that it will pass. Thanks Jack
Thanks Michael, this too shall pass.
Being an extrovert and a need for constant human interaction can be difficult for me. Maybe why I started commenting on your videos. A need for connection. I have this lonely sensation often and trying to navigate it isn't straightforward sometimes. Keeping busy is sort of a defense mechanism to not let me be in my thoughts and thinking negatively. Anxiety starts to creep in. I don't really have anyone to reach out too about it without sounding crazy. Maybe I'll reach out at some point if i get the courage lol. It seems silly saying that, but I do appreciate this raw video and your willingness to listen to your followers. ❤
Thanks so much Susie, I struggle with the same things. Blessed to have you here and thank you for participating!
Hi jack, have u heard of book called the law of one.. its amazing teaching..its helped me alot..also there a pdcast of a guy called danny morel he really puts life in perspective. Hope you will at least give this a try. We are all connected, your not alone..you good man.. thanks for your honesty. Mr. Larry.
Thank you for being here Larry. I will check them out as soon as I can.
For me loneliness comes and goes. But I have always been a loner. So it makes my personality different and sometimes impatient. I think my issue is making sure I don't go crazy by myself.
Being a loner can be useful, I don’t think it necessarily causes more loneliness but I can’t be sure. Love your participation, thanks for being here Vince.
Loneliness has a way of finding me and I don't always recognize it. I'm 6'4 and usually surrounded by people. I'm easily noticed. At the end of the day, they all go their way and I go mine.
Mike I understand, although I’m only 6”1’ I relate deeply to what you’re saying. You’re in the right place brother.
Hi Jack. I've been lucky to have all kinds of friends over the years. I've even had and have what I like to call soul mate friends. At my age however I've been losing friends over the past few years to death. Part of life yes. I find myself at times now having those feelings of loneliness and it's been a challenge to deal with. At my age I no longer have the same desire to develop new friendships and find myself relying on the 3 good friends that are still here on this earth. Only recently have I been able to be more vulnerable with one of my good friends. He too has kept his emotions close to his chest for many years. We have been open with each other on a number of occasions recently sharing our fears and feelings. It's been eye opening and we feel closer than ever. I don't know why I'm telling you all this or what my point is but I guess it's heartwarming to see and hear a much younger man than myself taking these steps of healing that have taken me decades. Cheers to you for being so open and honest. By the way, Michelle sounds like a keeper! 😊
Lamar I love your openness here, it goes a long way. Thank you for sharing yourself with us and I really hope you continue to show up and participate.
Jack I always see Your videos and think what I can Write to help You in your ways. Today I have to say Thank You so much. You help in a way that is dificut to express in words!!! Jesus bless You so much.❤
Love this Antonio, thanks so much. Blessings.
I relate totally to what you are saying. I call it my " little black cloud". Even in group or a crowd it can suddenly come over me. Also in noments of much happiness I am feeling lonely. I am amazed that a man like you- blessed with good looks and nice body would also have these feelings. I also have never verbalized these feelings. I always try to appear positive. Stay well man love yourvideo. Maybe I will try that. Peace.❤
Thanks so much Raymond. I don’t think feelings, problems, addiction, loneliness care what people look like or how much money they have. Life shows up with all its emotions and issues just the same. Thanks so much for being here.
I hope this honesty spreads through the world 🌎 because it’s such an important message for everyone 💚💜 much love new friend!!
Much love right back at ya! Thanks so much for being here.
I’m a believer that everyone , especially in this no contact digital world , everyone feels lonely. I think it’s a normal feeling. If its a feeling that interferes with your life in a negative way , then speak out and reach out without shame. Shame keeps us from saying what probably needs to be said. Loneliness like addiction can affect even the best and the brightest of us. I really think everyone experiences loneliness at some time. It’s a legit human feeling imo🖤
That is great insight, I appreciate you being here.
❤❤❤❤ ❤ Jack I love your videos.
I never had the substance abuse issues you reflect on sporadically, so unfortunately I don't understand that lens of perspective, or depth of struggle. What you and I do have in common is the background of pre-consenting adult abuse! That is the tack I will come to this video with. I experienced the abuse within my own family, and also as the casual observer to a whole town that in my opinion ate their own young (levels of abuse... Sexual, physical, emotional, you name it) Sexual abuse regardless of gender was rife! Many of us who succeed long enough to come out the back end and still alive, most often end up feeling/ being the loneliest people on the planet, while sitting in a crowded room. It has taken me years and decades sporadically being in therapy and psychiatry to work on myself to put all the pieces back together... I hope you have access to that intensive level of resource and support!!
I sure do have access to all of it, check out the rest of my videos you will see where I am today. Thanks for checking out my channel John.
I’m a believer that everyone , especially in this no contact digital world , everyone feels lonely. I think it’s a normal regular feeling. If its a feeling that interferes with your life in a negative way , then we should talk and reach out without shame. Shame keeps us from saying what probably needs to be said. Loneliness like addiction can affect anyone. Even the best of us 🖤
Completely agree.
To one degree or another, I suspect most humans experience loneliness on a semi-regular basis. Most of us are alone in the womb at the start of our lives and die alone (we go alone) at the end of our lives, even if surrounded by family, friends or medical staff. I have found that loneliness, if I treat it like a mood and I accept it and lean into it at the moment, it passes, eventually, like every other emotion. I recently read an article written by a nurse who worked in convalescent facilities all of her career. She said even patients with extensive families often spend most or all of their time alone with few or no visitors. So, I suspect loneliness is not something to always run from or find a remedy for, but it's important to find a way to understand and accept it as one of many passing emotions, conditions or experiences in a regular life.
I love this, and I agree with it. My loneliness tends to just be my mind playing tricks on me, it often I can’t really tell. It’s a real strange thing. Thanks so much for the input!
Thank you so much for being who you are and sharing your soul with us.
I know this is a very dumb question, but what exactly is loneliness to you?
I feel like I’ve never really understood what people meant by that term and yet I suspect in my gut it’s something I likely feel almost daily. Thank you
Good morning Jack,
This video is very touching, deeply.
I think I understand you. I have past many years lonely. Alone, very alone, enough to speak with my dog.
After I read a lot, the night come over the city. Alone, alone. So I listen the radio, and sleep alone in a cold bed.
After those years, I meet my wife. Everything change.
« She fills my heart
With very special things,
With Angels songs, with wild imaginings.
That anywhere I go, I am never lonely.
With her around, who could be lonely?
I reach for her hand, she’s always there. »
(Popular song, 1970)
I wish you that this sad feeling change for you.
I wish you to never be alone.
And I know it’s virtuel by the Web but you have thousand people who are with you.
So far as I am in the north, ( we have 8c this morning),
I wish you the best.
Thanks so much for being here.
@@jackunmasked You are welcome,Jack. When we talk about loneliness, I think about the French poet, Baudelaire who wrote SPLEEN poem.
It’s a very sad feelings without definitions, but a felling touching the soul. I don’t feel lonely since I have love ❤️ in my life.
If loneliness touch you often, you are better to share with people that you love.
You are an angel with the heart of a lion. I love you.
That means a lot to me, sending love right back at you!
Is the center of loneliness about isolation? Like that no one can touch it? The more thinky I get the more isolated I feel. I have to work on staying on the plane where other people are. A daily thing. Love what you are doing here!
Love that you’re here loving it! Thank you for participating Geza, grateful to have you here. Awesome insight also.
English is not my native language . I turned on subtitles to understand the video .
I feel very much lonely. I never had any friends. I never made any and i dont even know how to make someone friend. I am introvert dont talk at all and dont have any information in any matter be it technology etc. Unfortunately there was not a single male around me in the form of cousin /brother/ friend etc so i never actually talked to any male. I never played any game. I now look like a kid and very slim but i am extremely good natured. I am living in pakistan and a boy should be very much social in order to survive here .i realized the solution of my problem if i find a male who accompanies me everywhere and guides me i will become social and know about society . I donot go outside house alone . I just had a choice to message random pakistani men at facebook which i did and told them about me and my life in detail .Not a single man understood me
I just dont know if it is a big issue for men to add me as a friend in their lives. Does it make difference if i am not strong like them or look like a kid . I dont know what to do .
I think you’re in the right place here, try not to stress too much about looks or size just be yourself. There are people out there for everyone. Stick around brother I think this space could help you.
@@jackunmasked okay . I watched your video for the first time. Thank you.
My heart breaks for you, Such a shame you don't have someone who really loves you. I was so very lucky, 31 yrs together 3 yrs widowed. Loneliness is the worst. 63 cincinnati oh here, I am a survivor of violently being raped at the age of 4. So I sadly know, I chose to move forward and staying positive. I wish you the best Jack I really do.
I’m very blessed to have people in my life who do care about me and love me. I still get plagued by loneliness, it comes and goes. Thank you so much for being here, I’m truly sorry you experienced such trauma in your early years. I understand.
Jack N I C E Your lady's warm response=a keeper
I'm outa the box. I was terribly lonely within my family of origin. When they weren't violent, they were cold. Ever a misfit. My younger bro had the knack for pals & girlfriends, but not me. People were so dangerous there's safety in solitude. Resig 15:52 ned from dating, I am sexually/romantically lonely, but that's different. I'm old now. I still live with 2 roommates, a great roommate is a wonderful thing. We can blend in or blend out. I take better care of the place because of them. When I live alone, BRRR the place is a mausoleum.
Probably I'm insane, but since i became superstitious (=belief in ghosts, spirits, what-not) umm never feel alone. Do you know that Annie Lennox lyric "...And when I think that I'm alone/Seems there's more of us at home..." 🤣
Carlo this is great input, I enjoy it! Thanks so much for opening up and participating.
That’s cool you came down here for the day. I live in San Diego and love PB. I just don’t like trying to find parking.
Good to see you here Christopher.
It would be possible your loneliness could be depression? Believe me, I have lived that situation, I looked for professional help and things are different. It takes long time, but totally I'm a different person now.❤❤❤
There was a time when I was for sure depressed, today I’m in a much better place. Thanks so much for being here and participating.
You might be suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). These feelings seem to always come back as much as we get counseling, get on medication, and try to live day by day. It a constant feeling of managing it but it can get tiring. Hang in there man.
Thanks for being here.
@@jackunmasked Its nothing to be a shame of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), I had to correct the term my earlier post. It just take longer to coming back from being down to feeling better. I wish I had answers but I deal with it myself and I am still figuring it out at my age.
Great video ❤
Thanks Carlos!
Great video as always (love seeing you with your shirt off). I definitely struggle with loneliness. I hate it. I trudge through though with the help from Jesus Christ.
Jesus is always there for me, it’s wonderful to have a solid belief and foundation. Great to see you here again participating Alexander!
@@jackunmasked - thank you Jack!!!
Although I'm quasi-agoraphobic I don't necessarily feel lonely. I choose a very limited human contact for myself. It's again a coping mechanism from my abuse as a child. I feel safe in my meetings, and with my therapist, and around my immediate neighborhood, but not in the general public. I've thought about writing an autobiography and calling it "My near-life experience" LOL
I understand that Witt, and that’s ok. You’re in the right place and I always appreciate your participation. Grateful to have you.
So, thank you for allowing people to have at least one person they can talk to if they feel they do not have anyone else or at least someone that can listen and not just hear them.
I did want to ask, you said you meditated...can you share how you meditate? What helps you? I kinda feel I need that. I have those thoughts of worthlessness sometimes... I dunno, just a request if you have some time to spare. I feel it would help a lot of people.
I will 100% get the answers to that in a video!! Awesome question Maxine.
@@jackunmasked Thank you kind Sir!
You are such a special person. I enjoy your videos a lot. And the shirtless oart is super hot, but also shows your vulnerbility and honesty. More videos, please.
Thanks so much Jorge.
The loneliness for me is melancholy who come with sadness and anxiety and I try to fix it with try to remember good moment but more and more sadness take more place don’t know how to fix that ?!
Everyone is different, it’s a great question. Unfortunately I don’t know the best course for each individual person, mine is honesty, therapy, 12 step program and close friends. Let me put some thought into this one.
Jack, your lonliness is a hole no *human can fill. I'm praying that in your lonliness you ask Jesus to be you traveling companion.
Jesus is always with me, I lean on him constantly.
Damn. He is hot. But I really enjoy his videos. He shares alot and it helps . Keep it up . Great video
Thanks brother, glad to have you here.
Good morning, my friend. Did you say at the end of your video that you're gonna upload something of substance soon newsflash that was something substance❤
I appreciate that Torrey, always good to see you here.
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Hey Summer
Sir! Sir! Clothes on NOW! lol
You know sometimes these things happen hahaha
Sex sells 🎉😊
@@dougl945 he drew us in by his life story. He’s an interesting guy. I’m just playing about the clothes. I believe he explains it in one of his first videos.
❤ 💯
Thanks Anthony.
This is so inspiring brother. Sir, I'ma need you do to create a twitter 🤤
Never been on twitter, but I will for sure look into it! Thanks for being here.
@@jackunmasked For sure 😉
@@jackunmasked Twitter/X is okay. It can get pretty toxic and is certainly political...
@@jackunmasked Take care of your mental health if you create a Twitter.
Trust me, from experience, communication through that platform can get VERY toxic very quickly. UA-cam is still the best to make sure you and others don’t end up misunderstood.
Hi jack :) why are you always shirtless?
Just happens sometimes, I just come as I am at the time I decide to make content. It was a very warm day and took a long walk on the beach. Thanks for being here Maury.
@@jackunmasked got it! Thanks for answering :)
Not that I'm complaining.... do you wear shirts??:)
Honestly I don’t very often unless it’s necessary. I tend to put one on before creating content but sometimes I just come as I am.
@jackdoherty1412 lol busting ya a little bit! And from someone e 15 years sober, gratz on your journey!!
Next time please in Tanga briefs🎉😊
Hahahahaa
Jack, please don't take this the wrong way. You are incredibly handsome; however, I feel like your shirtless body is click bait. Please put on a shirt, so people are not distracted. Your message is strong enough on its own. Dont "use your looks" to gather eyes. Some may see it as cheap. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say
I do understand what you’re saying, but it is not my intent. The last thing I am going to do it change who I am or how I present myself in fear of how people will see me or view it. The right people will see what I’m doing the right way, the rest won’t stay… and that’s okay.
@@jackunmasked love you
What’s your work out routine? Great body 🖤👌
Thank you so much, I actually need to work harder and get back into my routine.
@@jackunmasked really ? You already look great …very handsome 🖤🖤👌
@@jackunmasked I need to know your routine lol
That thumbnail 😂.. 🥵
Hahaha I know it’s terrible
@@jackunmasked 😂.. I’m wondering if loneliness was missing the substances, to me there is many forms of it if makes sense. I’ve always had that something is missing feeling much through my life , sometimes still do and not sure why. I have what I need mostly anyhow but it’s from within not material.
Jack … pleeez explain to me why you never wear a shirt Lol How does Megan feel about it ?! Is it a visual bonus for all your subscribers ? … or is there a logical reason ?? Sorry I’m an overly curious person and it’s driving me crazzzzzy Not knowing 🖤
I’m honestly not sure why it’s such a big deal to everyone, I typically just don’t have a shirt on if I’m home relaxing. It’s California and it’s usually real hot during summer. I hope it doesn’t offend you or anyone else, it’s just me.
@@jackunmasked Curious is all. Takes a lot more to bother me Jack believe me. Took me decades to get here so chill . In the grand scheme of the bigger picture of life , not at all a bother to me Jack Lol … Just curious is all. Blessings to you and family. Keep doing you. I love listening and watching you with your buddies even though I cry. All sober men are spiritual sons and warriors of life ! Congratulations on every day of your sobriety. My son is twenty five years clean and sober. I’m blessed he’s with me bc there were years I held my breath and tried to brace myself for possibly a different reality , while at the same time , a single mom raising a little girl about your sons age. Most difficult time … most blessed time. Seven rehabs and jail until he surrendered and chose life. So long ago , but I’m even crying right now typing and recalling those scary and alone dark times. ALL GOOD NOW , THANK GOD 🖤 ITS HARD ON THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU AND HARDER ON THOSE WHO BIRTHED YOU !
I consider myself an extremely wealthy woman … and I’m not speaking of dollars 🖤
Why shirtless tho? Not complaining just stuck on huh?
Living by the beach in California tends to be just shorts for me. Almost all of my videos are me wearing a shirt, once in a while it changes. No particular reason other than heat and sunshine. I hope you were able to get something from my content, glad you’re here.
Dude!! The guy has a great upper body and he is proud of it.
It's also a draw for women and gay guys who appreciate the male form.
Being shirtless is also a way to bear oneself, literally and figuratively.
Most guys are either shirtless or wearing shorts in podcasts and videos. It's what people feel comfortable with.
@@jackunmasked no judgement. I live on Dudley right on the beach myself. So familiar with beach culture. Although I've not seen many women wearing bikinis on their social media. Just made me think. Thank you. It was a knee jerk reaction to inquire. My first thought went to the obvious use of Thirst Traps- which work. That said great content.
What are thirst traps?@@johnjohn1009
Jack... I really like watching your videos and this one really struck a chord with me because I am extremely lonely and I don't have any friends.
I used to have a ton of friends but I no longer do.
Is there a way to talk to you besides comments since it's rather personal in nature. I would totally appreciate it
My email is in the channel description brother.
I was able to donate through PayPal but I am not finding your email
It's not much but I did make another donation I really hope it helps you and your family!
Every single donation helps brother, more than enough. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! Incredibly blessed to have you here.
You're welcome and I feel blessed to have you speaking on videos. In fact I played your video twice it really spoke to me you already made me feel better.
Let me know if you received my email
I would like to donate to you on a monthly basis are you okay with that@@jackunmasked
I was able to donate via Paypal but I'm sorry I can't find your email address anywhere
Matt thank you so much! Your support means the world to me and my family. There should be an area that says Email Me… but here it is in case you still can’t find it. Didsydoherty@gmail.com
You are very welcome! I would like to donate on a monthly basis if that's okay with you.
Um.. can you clarify your email does it really start with "Dids..."??
@@jackunmasked this was such an inspiring video ❤️
@@andrewbalogh9868 thank you so much Andrew! I hope you decide to stick around.
@@jackunmasked I will !