That's why, for me, once that relationship ends, I'm no longer gonna attempt to try work things out, unless I get the same energy back. Cos you'll more than likely end up wasting your time, to find out something you didn't wanna hear.
@@vincentbos honestly, 50/50, but getting there. Focusing on what's important, I'm still kinda young, and meant to be moving out in May, so that's something to look forward to :) Great content mate!
You are right. Last July i lost my lover of 25 years. I'm still in so much pain but i have lost 15 lbs working out at home, no gym just at home. I feel so much better healthy and full of energy. Sometimes i feel so depressed but the pain will fade at one point.
This is exactly how my ex is feeling right now. She feels she is in heaven but rather she is in hell. To her life is easy but not true. Thank you Mr Vincent. You are 100% on point. Great video.
Buddy I'm in the same boat as you but you need to realize she's a woman. She's got Hella options. Guys will always hit on her and if she likes someone's game or even want a rebound she will have it. You could look like Chris Hemsworth and you still wouldn't wake up to the amount of DMS your 7/10 gf gets. Life is different for men. Best if you don't keep your hopes too much unless your love was really really ppowerful.
My son’s mom and I talked face to face after almost two months of no contact. Admitted to the fact that she thinks about me and after we hugged when I was leaving she broke down and started crying. I’m still in no contact but that just caught me off guard 😳.
@@vincentbos 😱! Also, both of us admitted to being sad about how things are now and she said she still mad at me about certain things. But we’ve accepted how things are right now. Overall I noticed I can still make her laugh and smile even if she is upset with me. Like I said I’m still doing no contact because I want to continue to focus on myself and my personal growth. I feel the time apart is needed not only for me but for her as well.
I'm in the same position right now. I was the dumpee. 12 years together. Nothing but pain. I'm in low contact obviously because we share our beautiful daughter. We broke up December 2022. I begged pleaded the first couple weeks into break up. Now I've stopped showing my emotions and instead have been upbeat and positive in interactions with her. We can have a laugh and talk about other things. I haven't brought up anything about the breakup. She told me she notices me being more happier. I've even had ballsy humour and flirted with her. We've laughed together. But I noticed I was doing more of the initiation. Now last few days I've now pulled back because I feel like I'm doing all the work. I have now stopped talking to her unless it's about our child and when I see her I still smile and great her positively. She changed her profile pic on social media of her looking incredible. She has not changed her status from being engaged to me. Mixed signals. What should I do. Let her initiate contact? If it's about our child then I will reply right away as our child is the most important in our lives. We Co parent equally with no drama whatsoever.we do get on great with each other for our child. Any advice pls. I know our break up has only been around 40 days.
My ex contacted me after 38 days of no contact, 2 days after Christmas. We were in a 5.5 year relationship. we met up 3 times for coffee and she told me she was finished with her rebound, but she then went back to her new boyfriend. There has been some contact made by her, since she went back to him, but she refuses to meet up again.
Hi Rainer, I'm very sorry to hear of your current situation. It sounds like you was very close to getting your ex back via NC. There is every chance this could work again, however I don't want you 'waiting' for her. There is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back, and you will find happiness with or without your ex.
@@vincentbos really good thanks! Just signed up with a personal trainer to couple with me giving up the drink. Just going to focus on being the best version of me that I can be ... and from there, what will be, will be. Hope you have a great day X
@@vincentbos thanks Vincent! I still miss my ex, but it’s coming from a place of, I miss her and the good times but I’m busy working on myself now as opposed to where I was as the dumpee at the start. Time is the great healer ey?
He cane back after 2 months of no contact. He said he miss me. Loves me. But i didn't handle the situation well. Behaved exactly like b4. Clingy, needy, anxious. N he went back. Will he ever come back?? I really love him .. i wnt him back. U think he will come back??
Great video presentation, great information, great mix of hope and reality as always, Vincent! Bravo! Your work helps keep us grounded and moving forward with proper expectations. Thanks for your fine work.
For my ex girlfriend it was easy to move on she is happy her and her kids they are happy and she found a new man only 3 weeks she found someone new and now they are a happy family. So there is no coming back
What if my ex girlfriend was monckey branching me for over 6 months ,and she left with the new man ,remember our relationship was 8 years we never forget for nothing major. My question is she in love with this dude
Hi Kris, anything and everything is possible in the future. Nothing works 100% of the time and nothing fails 100% of the time, so the main thing for you to concentrate on is becoming the best version of yourself and focusing on your own journey.
I love the mother of my kids with all my heart, we were together for just over 7 years and she broke up with me and I left, should I try and get back with her after we talk? I'm doing the no contact deal rn
I'm in the same position right now. I was the dumpee. 12 years together. Nothing but pain. I'm in low contact obviously because we share our beautiful daughter. We broke up December 2022. I begged pleaded the first couple weeks into break up. Now I've stopped showing my emotions and instead have been upbeat and positive in interactions with her. We can have a laugh and talk about other things. I haven't brought up anything about the breakup. She told me she notices me being more happier. I've even had ballsy humour and flirted with her. We've laughed together. But I noticed I was doing more of the initiation. Now last few days I've now pulled back because I feel like I'm doing all the work. I have now stopped talking to her unless it's about our child and when I see her I still smile and great her positively. She changed her profile pic on social media of her looking incredible. She has not changed her status from being engaged to me. Mixed signals. What should I do. Let her initiate contact? If it's about our child then I will reply right away as our child is the most important in our lives. We Co parent equally with no drama whatsoever.we do get on great with each other for our child. Any advice pls. I know our break up has only been around 40 days.
Another good podcast Vincent again my ex is only reaching out at moment too do with our kids really hope one day she reaches out an we can contact again
Vincent bos you know we love you man but is it possible you can minimize the ads on your videos? I like to listen to your videos while I shower. I randomly get hit with a 45 minute coach Corey Wayne ad while I got soap in my eyes and wet hands. 😂 Lol I respect your grind and entrepreneurship. Regardless brotha we appreciate your videos
Thank you Thomas for your kind words and I appreciate the frustration with the ads. Unfortunately, it's the only way I can afford to keep the channel going :( Thanks for your support :)
That shit hurts but if they did then they left for their selfish reason like for grass is greener syndrome , its kind of cheating . mine went in another relationship within 10 days like WTF.
First! I'm feeling better now as days passed by but it seems that watching your videos became a habit to me and they gave me more wisdom just in case I encounter another heartbreak in the future 🤣
Hi vincent. Quick update, he reached out after 3 months of NC... we’ve been talking for a month now and he said that he just wanted us to be friends.... i feel like he’s not gonna give the relationship a chance... should i just go with the flow and see where this goes? Or? 😓😓😓
He’s using you to ween himself off the relationship. I was doing this as a dumpee going round all the time ect In the end I rung up and said I need to respect your decision, you wanted to end it you’ve got your breakup
No do not accept friendship he change the dynamics of the relationship and you are not taking a low bid. Its like me saying I will buy your house 100k but it's really worth 300k are you going to take my offer of course not so why should you take his offer. Good luck
I overcome someone telling me she took a picture of her daughter happy idc anymore I'm better of alone focusing on me and my daughter I was in pain but got a really good job now my job is going to give me a better position 😌 than having females talking to me but I show I'm not interested because I'm better of alone
I was living my life on my own terms, never thinking I'd want another relationship. I was 57 so by now this made sense but this 24 year old entered my life out of nowhere! She and I ended up working together and had a great working relationship. Of course over some time we started dating, it was inevitable. I devoted my life to her and boom! She was gone, moved away and broke up with me. Moral of the story, stay single my friends! Haha, now I'm dating an absolute dream of a woman, she is everything a man could hope for. Another moral to the story, why do us men care about women in the first place? Wish me luck, I'll get invested in this new person and the young one will show up begging for me to take her back. Don't go back, move forward at all costs!
@@vincentbos honestly I'm feeling hesitant with this new woman. I didn't expect to meet someone so soon after the last one broke up with me. Ironically by me being hesitant or taking things slow it's making this new person pursue me that much more! I'm feeling a bit confused.
Of course she moved on! You were 57 years old with more life behind you than ahead you & she was a young 24 year old who’s life just started. It was selfish & foolish of you to think you could be her Mr. Right! You would have had to be rich & even then she wouldn’t have stayed out of love.
Honestly if you’ve showed up as the best version of yourself during a relationship (even if you could have done things even better, I mean isn’t a relationship supposed to be a safe and loving respectful place to grow in as a person?). Just accept the fact that they did not see the potential in you, unlike you saw in them, and now they have no place in your life anymore because obviously they believed there were better options or greater blessings in their life for them. Stop disrespecting yourself any further. The dumper should stay in that dumpster which they’ve placed themselves in. They are not worthy of your energy. And even if it turns out their life becomes way better than when they were in a relationship with you. Maybe you were simply not compatible, nothing to do about it. Good for them and good for you! Cuz that likely means that their presence in your life was holding you back anyway. Choose yourself, you should spend most hours of the day thinking about yourself right now, that’s your responsibility - in both of yours best interest.
My ex (27) ended out 4.5 year relationship and started an 18 yo girl 2 days after. He obviously had contact with her prior to the break up. Our relationship was serious - were looking at buying a house, even out an offer on one in early 2020 and in fall 2020, he started questioning what he wanted to do in life. He didn't know what he wanted to do, liked it better back in his home province (he moved home to work because he got laid off) He's been with this girl for about 6 months now. Is this still a rebound?
Hi Steph, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. I would still think that this could be a rebound yes. If it lasted longer than a year, then we would have to consider it has evolved into something more serious. At this moment though, it seems that they are still in 'rebound territory'.
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That's why, for me, once that relationship ends, I'm no longer gonna attempt to try work things out, unless I get the same energy back. Cos you'll more than likely end up wasting your time, to find out something you didn't wanna hear.
How are you feeling today Gabriel?
@@vincentbos honestly, 50/50, but getting there. Focusing on what's important, I'm still kinda young, and meant to be moving out in May, so that's something to look forward to :)
Great content mate!
Thank you for your kind words. You will feel happiness again.
Keep moving forward :)
I agreed.... because more than likely they slept with another man..
If you love someone you never stop loving them. If you do you never loved them!
Move forward , don't take them back , their regret give you satisfaction
definitely keep moving forward. Everyone wins when you keep your health and fitness right!
You are right. Last July i lost my lover of 25 years. I'm still in so much pain but i have lost 15 lbs working out at home, no gym just at home. I feel so much better healthy and full of energy. Sometimes i feel so depressed but the pain will fade at one point.
So calming listening to these casts before bed. I feel bad got my ex. Poor girl hits me up daily
This is exactly how my ex is feeling right now. She feels she is in heaven but rather she is in hell. To her life is easy but not true.
Thank you Mr Vincent. You are 100% on point. Great video.
Thank you for your kind words :)
Did she come back
How do you know how she is feeling?
Buddy I'm in the same boat as you but you need to realize she's a woman. She's got Hella options. Guys will always hit on her and if she likes someone's game or even want a rebound she will have it. You could look like Chris Hemsworth and you still wouldn't wake up to the amount of DMS your 7/10 gf gets. Life is different for men. Best if you don't keep your hopes too much unless your love was really really ppowerful.
@@luciferbishop8134 this is not true
My son’s mom and I talked face to face after almost two months of no contact. Admitted to the fact that she thinks about me and after we hugged when I was leaving she broke down and started crying. I’m still in no contact but that just caught me off guard 😳.
You have experienced the power of NC :)
@@vincentbos 😱! Also, both of us admitted to being sad about how things are now and she said she still mad at me about certain things. But we’ve accepted how things are right now. Overall I noticed I can still make her laugh and smile even if she is upset with me. Like I said I’m still doing no contact because I want to continue to focus on myself and my personal growth. I feel the time apart is needed not only for me but for her as well.
You are growing every single day Joe. You are much better than average.
@@samhouse9143 after 2yrs you are still doing NC you are too proud.
We don't know what the future holds...but, I DO KNOW WHAT IT DOES NOT HOLD...MY EX.
Me too
I’m definitely using this
“More ammo in the clip” a saying that we have in Philadelphia. The more knowledgeable you are, the more powerful you are.
Thank you Norris, I've never heard that before. You have improved my knowledge :)
@@vincentbos you can use it for your next video lol
If someone leaves you. Should you want them back ? I feel like its wrong that I feel this way
No, you are right to feel this way.
Not everyone lives through Social Media!
Yeah we dont know what the future holds which is why he left me because somehow he could see that it wouldnt work out..
I'm in the same position right now. I was the dumpee. 12 years together. Nothing but pain. I'm in low contact obviously because we share our beautiful daughter. We broke up December 2022. I begged pleaded the first couple weeks into break up. Now I've stopped showing my emotions and instead have been upbeat and positive in interactions with her. We can have a laugh and talk about other things. I haven't brought up anything about the breakup. She told me she notices me being more happier. I've even had ballsy humour and flirted with her. We've laughed together. But I noticed I was doing more of the initiation. Now last few days I've now pulled back because I feel like I'm doing all the work. I have now stopped talking to her unless it's about our child and when I see her I still smile and great her positively. She changed her profile pic on social media of her looking incredible. She has not changed her status from being engaged to me. Mixed signals. What should I do. Let her initiate contact? If it's about our child then I will reply right away as our child is the most important in our lives. We Co parent equally with no drama whatsoever.we do get on great with each other for our child. Any advice pls. I know our break up has only been around 40 days.
I pray God for strength to me that's all once I'm OK i don’t want the person who makes me depressed and left me cry.
My ex contacted me after 38 days of no contact, 2 days after Christmas. We were in a 5.5 year relationship. we met up 3 times for coffee and she told me she was finished with her rebound, but she then went back to her new boyfriend. There has been some contact made by her, since she went back to him, but she refuses to meet up again.
@UCz973KIaASnBPf-VbumDU3A get lost.
Hi Rainer, I'm very sorry to hear of your current situation. It sounds like you was very close to getting your ex back via NC. There is every chance this could work again, however I don't want you 'waiting' for her. There is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back, and you will find happiness with or without your ex.
@@vincentbos thanks for your reply vincent. Yes I thought she was back.
Hi, what happened next? Did she come back? Was she in a rebound or she monkey Branched?
let her go. she spoke to you then went back to another guy. she clearly doesn’t want to be with you. and i mean that respectfully
Thank you,you are a positive person
Vincent with the feel good monday videos as usual! Nice one!!!!
Thank you Michael!
How are you feeling today?
@@vincentbos really good thanks! Just signed up with a personal trainer to couple with me giving up the drink. Just going to focus on being the best version of me that I can be ... and from there, what will be, will be. Hope you have a great day X
Thanks Michael. You will be a version 2.0 of yourself very soon!
@@vincentbos thanks Vincent! I still miss my ex, but it’s coming from a place of, I miss her and the good times but I’m busy working on myself now as opposed to where I was as the dumpee at the start. Time is the great healer ey?
Needed this. She seems pretty happy, I mean I guess she has to look happy on social media cause this is what SHE wanted
You will get through this challenging time. Keep moving forward.
Lol same she block me and makes story everyday,pokerface
He cane back after 2 months of no contact. He said he miss me. Loves me. But i didn't handle the situation well. Behaved exactly like b4. Clingy, needy, anxious. N he went back. Will he ever come back?? I really love him .. i wnt him back. U think he will come back??
Did he come back?
that they imediately jumped into bed w someone else like we meant nothing 👍🏼
Insightful bos. You put it so well.🇰🇪
Happy to see a fellow Kenyan here👌😂😂
Fan of the chanel, thank you! Alot!!!
Thank you very much :)
Great video presentation, great information, great mix of hope and reality as always, Vincent! Bravo! Your work helps keep us grounded and moving forward with proper expectations. Thanks for your fine work.
Thank you John, I really appreciate your kind words. How are you feeling today?
Please excuse the typo graphical errors. I am multitasking, and using voice to text.
For my ex girlfriend it was easy to move on she is happy her and her kids they are happy and she found a new man only 3 weeks she found someone new and now they are a happy family.
So there is no coming back
Just a rebound
Thanks for the advice
What if my ex girlfriend was monckey branching me for over 6 months ,and she left with the new man ,remember our relationship was 8 years we never forget for nothing major. My question is she in love with this dude
My ex of 2 yrs whent right to his ex fr 3 yrs ago.. because she was reaching out saying she changed..
Are these things still possible in this video?
Hi Kris, anything and everything is possible in the future. Nothing works 100% of the time and nothing fails 100% of the time, so the main thing for you to concentrate on is becoming the best version of yourself and focusing on your own journey.
I love the mother of my kids with all my heart, we were together for just over 7 years and she broke up with me and I left, should I try and get back with her after we talk? I'm doing the no contact deal rn
I'm in the same position right now. I was the dumpee. 12 years together. Nothing but pain. I'm in low contact obviously because we share our beautiful daughter. We broke up December 2022. I begged pleaded the first couple weeks into break up. Now I've stopped showing my emotions and instead have been upbeat and positive in interactions with her. We can have a laugh and talk about other things. I haven't brought up anything about the breakup. She told me she notices me being more happier. I've even had ballsy humour and flirted with her. We've laughed together. But I noticed I was doing more of the initiation. Now last few days I've now pulled back because I feel like I'm doing all the work. I have now stopped talking to her unless it's about our child and when I see her I still smile and great her positively. She changed her profile pic on social media of her looking incredible. She has not changed her status from being engaged to me. Mixed signals. What should I do. Let her initiate contact? If it's about our child then I will reply right away as our child is the most important in our lives. We Co parent equally with no drama whatsoever.we do get on great with each other for our child. Any advice pls. I know our break up has only been around 40 days.
Good video
Another good podcast Vincent again my ex is only reaching out at moment too do with our kids really hope one day she reaches out an we can contact again
Thanks Jason, try and stay positive. Happiness can be round your next corner.
@@bradjohnson3566 I have had 6 an all bed scammers money that’s all they want off you
@@bradjohnson3566 if he does not need money I will try as I lost everything my job home an partner
@UCz973KIaASnBPf-VbumDU3A what did he do an what did you after give him
Jason, I'm sorry to say that person was a scammer. I'm trying my best to remove all of his lies from my channel.
Vincent bos you know we love you man but is it possible you can minimize the ads on your videos? I like to listen to your videos while I shower. I randomly get hit with a 45 minute coach Corey Wayne ad while I got soap in my eyes and wet hands. 😂 Lol I respect your grind and entrepreneurship. Regardless brotha we appreciate your videos
Thank you Thomas for your kind words and I appreciate the frustration with the ads. Unfortunately, it's the only way I can afford to keep the channel going :(
Thanks for your support :)
What if they dumped you because they found someone else
That shit hurts but if they did then they left for their selfish reason like for grass is greener syndrome , its kind of cheating .
mine went in another relationship within 10 days like WTF.
First!
I'm feeling better now as days passed by but it seems that watching your videos became a habit to me and they gave me more wisdom just in case I encounter another heartbreak in the future 🤣
Hi Jann, thank you for being first again!
I'm so glad to hear you are feeling better each and every day :)
@@vincentbos Vincent... there’s no way...
I told you it would be at 2pm :)
@@xMikeyHardyx hahaha! I beat you again, Anthony!
I fully planned my lunch break in work around 2pm just to beat Jann and still lost. Am I that lame? 🤡🤣
A++++ as always Vincent!
You are very kind Eric, thank you!
Your content had helped me so much in the past an the present. Thank you.
Hi vincent. Quick update, he reached out after 3 months of NC... we’ve been talking for a month now and he said that he just wanted us to be friends.... i feel like he’s not gonna give the relationship a chance... should i just go with the flow and see where this goes? Or? 😓😓😓
Hi Shane, thank you for your update.
Here is a link to a podcast that I think will help you - ua-cam.com/video/VWiRIg7ez8s/v-deo.html
He’s using you to ween himself off the relationship.
I was doing this as a dumpee going round all the time ect
In the end I rung up and said I need to respect your decision, you wanted to end it you’ve got your breakup
No do not accept friendship he change the dynamics of the relationship and you are not taking a low bid.
Its like me saying I will buy your house 100k but it's really worth 300k are you going to take my offer of course not so why should you take his offer.
Good luck
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER accept friendship
Whatever. The deed is done. They are NEVER to be trusted again.
I overcome someone telling me she took a picture of her daughter happy idc anymore I'm better of alone focusing on me and my daughter I was in pain but got a really good job now my job is going to give me a better position 😌 than having females talking to me but I show I'm not interested because I'm better of alone
I was living my life on my own terms, never thinking I'd want another relationship.
I was 57 so by now this made sense but this 24 year old entered my life out of nowhere! She and I ended up working together and had a great working relationship.
Of course over some time we started dating, it was inevitable.
I devoted my life to her and boom! She was gone, moved away and broke up with me.
Moral of the story, stay single my friends!
Haha, now I'm dating an absolute dream of a woman, she is everything a man could hope for.
Another moral to the story, why do us men care about women in the first place?
Wish me luck, I'll get invested in this new person and the young one will show up begging for me to take her back.
Don't go back, move forward at all costs!
Thanks for sharing your story Golden. How are you feeling today?
@@vincentbos honestly I'm feeling hesitant with this new woman. I didn't expect to meet someone so soon after the last one broke up with me.
Ironically by me being hesitant or taking things slow it's making this new person pursue me that much more!
I'm feeling a bit confused.
@@Golden-ui5umnot to be ugly I hope she’s older lol .
Update? Lol
Of course she moved on! You were 57 years old with more life behind you than ahead you & she was a young 24 year old who’s life just started. It was selfish & foolish of you to think you could be her Mr. Right! You would have had to be rich & even then she wouldn’t have stayed out of love.
Honestly if you’ve showed up as the best version of yourself during a relationship (even if you could have done things even better, I mean isn’t a relationship supposed to be a safe and loving respectful place to grow in as a person?). Just accept the fact that they did not see the potential in you, unlike you saw in them, and now they have no place in your life anymore because obviously they believed there were better options or greater blessings in their life for them. Stop disrespecting yourself any further. The dumper should stay in that dumpster which they’ve placed themselves in. They are not worthy of your energy. And even if it turns out their life becomes way better than when they were in a relationship with you. Maybe you were simply not compatible, nothing to do about it. Good for them and good for you! Cuz that likely means that their presence in your life was holding you back anyway. Choose yourself, you should spend most hours of the day thinking about yourself right now, that’s your responsibility - in both of yours best interest.
My ex (27) ended out 4.5 year relationship and started an 18 yo girl 2 days after. He obviously had contact with her prior to the break up.
Our relationship was serious - were looking at buying a house, even out an offer on one in early 2020 and in fall 2020, he started questioning what he wanted to do in life. He didn't know what he wanted to do, liked it better back in his home province (he moved home to work because he got laid off)
He's been with this girl for about 6 months now. Is this still a rebound?
Hi Steph, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. I would still think that this could be a rebound yes. If it lasted longer than a year, then we would have to consider it has evolved into something more serious. At this moment though, it seems that they are still in 'rebound territory'.
No its a relationship just move on
Would love an update on this.
My girl cheated on my so I broke it off, but by her cheating who is actually the Dumper here
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