Stages Dumper Goes Through During 'No Contact' (Podcast 398)

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  • @vincentbos
    @vincentbos  3 роки тому +1

    'GET YOUR EX BACK' Advice & Support
    www.dateme.tips/

  • @brandonrobertkersjes
    @brandonrobertkersjes 2 місяці тому +4

    I’m so lost. I’m so lonely. I don’t understand “love”. I have no clue how I was dumped. I literally settled for this girl. Ugh. I don’t understand.

  • @josselin3393
    @josselin3393 3 роки тому +18

    This works only when 1. The dumper was in love in you and did not only use you as rebound. 2. The dumper got a new relation quickly and moved on. She might dump the new guy but then just to move on to the next next one. Will be one year in few weeks, never a word of apology, never a regret, never a contact. She showed her true colors. Someone just caring about herself. I dodged a bullet :)

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому +1

      Thanks for your sharing your story. Keep moving forward with positivity and you will find an even better connection, where you can have a fulfilling relationship.

    • @murderah17
      @murderah17 3 роки тому

      You don't know that...she could be hurting ...you dont know what people are going through or what they are thinking.

    • @jorgeriera3337
      @jorgeriera3337 2 роки тому

      @@murderah17 no trust me he's right I know its been a few months but I went thru a bad situation a few months ago.
      3 years relationship
      Being a father figure to her boys
      Helped her out in everyway
      Helped refinance her house
      And I actually lived with the girl
      And the day it happened that morning I helped lease a new car
      That same night I asked if she Still love me she yes but are u in love with me she said no
      So I left she breadcrumb me for a month and I told her to please block me so she did.
      Let me be honest I was not perfect mistakes were done in my part.
      But 1 month later she has a new relationship so no they just move on.
      Good luck

    • @johnscott7937
      @johnscott7937 2 роки тому

      @@murderah17 they very well could be hurting and likely are. But, it doesn't matter. Take the opportunity to work on yourself and learn from your mistakes. Sometimes people get back together, but that shouldn't be a motivation for us. Often times you'll learn that they're not the person you fell in love with but you put them on a pedestal. They will suck u dry of energy if you give them the chance. Be kind, not stupid, imo lol.

  • @TimStJohn-xp8rv
    @TimStJohn-xp8rv 3 роки тому +11

    When my ex sent the text of the break up! My only response was ok! She is a fearful avoidant! In the past when she has broken up with me, I begged and pleaded. Over time she has always come back! Now I am in week three of no contact and was seeing a counselor before all of this came up! I do believe that counseling gave me the strength to accept it! Instead of looking weak in the past! Did I handle the breakup the correct way to possibly getting her back!

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому +1

      Hi Tim, thank you for your question. Here is a link to a video, which I explain my thoughts on this in depth - ua-cam.com/video/yqhFDP_4308/v-deo.html

  • @li1p1ayer
    @li1p1ayer 3 роки тому +4

    She left a month ago because “she wanted to be independent” but she got with another guy after a few days. She lined this guy up. Shes mad at me cause her family cut her out for what she did to me and they still talk to me and not her. They support me. She has messaged her brother to ask me if she could take the cat from me cause her cat is lonely and she still checks my Venmo account. She hasn’t reached out but I haven’t either.

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому +1

      I'm sorry to hear about this situation. Try to stay and positive and move forward with your life.

  • @gamegirl8945
    @gamegirl8945 3 роки тому +2

    Hi Vincent! Great video again!
    Just to say I believe I messed up as last time I seen my ex I got frustrated and tried to ask why they wanted to hang out with me and they said they just seen me as a friend so I told them not to contact me again unless they want to rekindle things so I’m focused on moving on now

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому +1

      Hi Gamegirl, thanks for your update. I'm sorry to hear that things have not progressed how you had hoped. However, you are now in a position to move forward and find an exciting and fulfilling future. Stay positive :)

  • @rwutube
    @rwutube Рік тому +5

    If they monkey branched, they don’t deserve respect. Move on and don’t look back.

  • @laxyoubexlove
    @laxyoubexlove Рік тому +1

    What if the dumper got into a new relationship 5 days after the break up would he still feel remorse during no contact ? Thanks

  • @Bucky1836
    @Bucky1836 3 роки тому +3

    So what do i do if everything my dumper ex does pisses me off? 🤔

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому +2

      Try to build a positive life without them.

    • @josselin3393
      @josselin3393 3 роки тому +2

      Stop caring about what she does. She is not part of your life anymore. Cut all contact. Find somewhere beter and forget her

  • @Zsuluap
    @Zsuluap 2 роки тому

    What does it mean if the dumper suddenly sent a meme during no contact. Then talks in very short sentences but does not ask questions. after a week she started liking stuff and liking messages but she dissapears again and is not highly responding

  • @tinkerbellUK
    @tinkerbellUK 2 роки тому +1

    What to do if your ex after a month of me reaching out (im dumpee) expresses tremendous guilt and regret. Admits he has problems and wants to work on himself. Before break up he was either being dismissive avoidant or narcissistic - for all his flaws, there is a good man inside just extremely messed up and i do love him. 💔 i am no contact again and trying to forget him

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  2 роки тому

      Hi Tinkerbell, thanks for your question and I’m very sorry to hear about your situation. So to clarify, you were dumped originally but now your ex wants to come back and you aren’t sure anymore?

    • @tinkerbellUK
      @tinkerbellUK 2 роки тому

      @@vincentbos i was dumped and after a month of no contact i reached out to my ex, he does not want me back but does feels guilt and regret.

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  2 роки тому +2

      Ok, my suggestion is you fully implement my version of the ‘no contact rule’ from this moment to give you the best chance of success in growing his guilt and it evolving into missing you and wanting to reconnect

  • @krisg2640
    @krisg2640 3 роки тому

    What if the dumper went immediately to someone else?

  • @vishnunot7920
    @vishnunot7920 3 роки тому +2

    what if she reach out, then asks a favor and i suggest, meeting she agrees, make a meeting a week then on the day she cancels saying perhaps i'll plan another time, i ask for when she free i dont hear back till next day, and she say maybe go for coffee afterlockdown, i did not reply back

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому

      If she contacts you again, see if you can confirm a date, time and place for your meeting.

    • @vishnunot7920
      @vishnunot7920 3 роки тому +1

      @@vincentbos Thanks, should i not try to contact, was ignoring her response the right move?

  • @liltin8476
    @liltin8476 3 роки тому +2

    Hey vincent my ex is in another relationship but when she still has my stuff at her house and before i got im no contact (3 weeks) she didnt want to give it to me and she still has our photos on Facebook and still has her relationship status as mine and hers date. Do i still have a chance?

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому +2

      Hi Lil, thanks for your question. There is always a chance of reconnecting, but it will all depend on whether your ex regrows romantic, emotional attraction.

    • @liltin8476
      @liltin8476 3 роки тому +1

      @@vincentbos thanks for the tip. Im just doing no contact maybe shell miss me or not but all im doing now is just self improvement i even started learning to play the guitar for myself. The only thing now is if she and him work out but i cant do nun about it so im just going to keep moving on and if she comes back then she does if she doesnt then so be it
      (We dated for 5+ years)

  • @proudmasculine
    @proudmasculine 3 роки тому +3

    Heads and tails above anyone on this subject

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you :)

    • @proudmasculine
      @proudmasculine 3 роки тому +2

      Absolute truth..We've worked together

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому +1

      Joe! Great to hear from you!
      How are you?

    • @proudmasculine
      @proudmasculine 3 роки тому +2

      Long story...

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому +1

      Stay positive and keep moving forward. You are a great guy and have lots of potential :)

  • @Bucky1836
    @Bucky1836 3 роки тому +4

    Its funny vince it seems like roles reversed now...she lurks around at work and last night she got in my way 5 times all i did is piss me off , everything she does to reach out pisses me off. I feel like she wanted this my feelings are not an on off switch for her to push when ever her "feels" dictate....im moving in a month im tired of seeing her i dont speak to her ive lost all respect for her now 😣

    • @josselin3393
      @josselin3393 3 роки тому +2

      Good, find a better person and leave her behind. Her loss. You deserve beter

    • @Bucky1836
      @Bucky1836 3 роки тому +2

      @@josselin3393 im. Moving in a month it cant ger here fast enough, and it if it was as easy as " forget about her " this channel wouldnt exist 🙄

    • @vincentbos
      @vincentbos  3 роки тому

      A new start sounds like a great opportunity to make new connections.