Haha I seen a dumper go ballistic . She dumped her ex for another guy when their kid was two. She turned completely psycho rubbing it in his face. Flaunting. You name it. The guy didn't do anything wrong. Once she cheated n secured her new relationship she went out with a bang. N months before they were planning on getting married . Long story short. He stayed single n was a great dad n never once held a grudge against his ex. When their child turned 18 . He sold everything he owned.gave half his money to his daughter. got engaged to a beautiful woman he's been friends with for years and moved to Europe. His ex freaked out and actually went to try and beg for him to come back. Even though she was already married. She couldn't find him. Eventually his daughter came to live with him and now his ex got a divorce n is single and alone.
Hi Sly, thank you for sharing this story. It shows that life has many twists and turns, and no one knows when the story ends regarding their ex. If dumpees do the right things, then it's win-win. They either get their ex back or find someone even better.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t.
If a ex texts asking to meet up Ask why ? If they say so we can be friends Just say you’re busy and you got a lot of things on right now. Possibly another time If it’s to talk about getting back together Same answer but let her wait and then ask her when she’s thinking She’ll give a day Say you’re busy Make get work for you
No I think honestly the reason why so many people are hovering around my ex is the fact that she's a narcissist who loves having people under her thumb, they just don't see it yet
Facts! My ex unfollowed me when I limited contacted with her after she was using me for validation and an ego boost. Then she texted me a few days later and asked me for help her with something then began to beg about how great her life is now without me and how successful she has been. I didn’t react negatively and told her congratulations. She blocked me on WhatsApp after this lol. She’s been playing mind games with me since the breakup 3 months ago but I’ve ignored her every time she did.
My ex left me 3 weeks ago. Found out last weekend she has been hanging out with someone new. She is 5 months pregnant with our child.. it’s been rough but I’ve been moving forward. The new guy has to be a badass cause this happened out of nowhere. We have always been great and neither one of us like to argue or fight.
A dumper has no right to tell a dumpee how to live their life. The dumper ended the relationship and at that point should have no influence on future decisions by the dumpee. The dumpee should stay polite, respectful and not be drawn into drama with their ex.
@@vincentbos I just find it crazy that someone can leave a person, get into a rebound relationship with another married person, bread crumb the dumpee to death and then get jealous when the dumpee moves on. She recently told me that she wishes things were different and that she had done things differently. I feel so confused and lost
@@barbersmurff2592 if she wants to reconnect with you, she first needs to become single and then needs to make her feelings clear. Then you have a decision to make.
but what if they encourage u to move on? even before he dumped u he said i want u to find someone else. so then he would ever care if i do now we’ve broken up
If someone encourages you to move on, they are showing no interest in wanting to reconnect at that time. There is always the chance that feelings can change over time. However, it's very important you try and move forward with your life. There is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back, and if you have been encouraged to move on, the chance of reconciling is small.
@@vincentbos the first time he left me he told me leave him alone and meet someone else and it took him 3 months to message me. he was being so mean but this time he was being nice and said we both messed up meet someone else so idk plus he wasn’t acting jealous. and yes i guess i’ll have to move on even if i don’t want to, i’ll have to try.
@@mizzcrazygal you will find someone who is a better connection than your ex. You have an exciting future ahead of you. Keep moving forward and you will find happiness.
He broke up with me in August. 4 days after the break up , i noticed that my ex like this girl's photo. She is now with him a month and 3 days after the breakup. When my ex broke up with me, I didn't beg for him to come back, get dramatic or anything like that. I am in NC and that's how I intend to stay for a long time. I probably won't see him a whole lot (we had a long distance relationship, and i lived 5 hours away from him. His new girlfriend lives about an hour away). I am working out again and just focusing on my well being and over health... I also unfriended him on Facebook. It had to be done so that I could move on. Did i do the right thing?.
You have to put your mental health first and that's very important. Have you considered having audio coaching with me to help you with breakup support?
@@vincentbos no I haven't, how much is it?. I was thinking about maybe getting a relationship coach because of this breakup.. it still hurts and he seems so happy with her.
Great video it really made me calm 😀 how can I get over her 7 yrs together and she was my first everything and I mean everything. Kiss etc ..and we also have a kid . It hurts to know she's already in a rebound 2 weeks after. I can't eat sleep ot hurts so bad 😫
Hi Slate, thank you for your comment and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Here is a link to a video that I think could help you - ua-cam.com/video/p6W-PZQ3V5M/v-deo.html
@@vincentbos thanks im finally in no contact for 2 days after begging pleading and crying to her it hurts but I will keep watching your videos for healing thanks 😊
Thanks Vincent! Always appreciate the support! Finally getting back in the dating aspect of things and maybe this vid will happen? Looking forward to the future though!
3nd week in NC, I am slowly realizing how he didn't deserve me. I remember all the mean things he have said and done but somehow it's kind of making me want him back more (even though it's empowering me and making me value myself even more). We technically broke up but he said he'll think about it. I feel like maybe I want to be with him again despite him treating me badly because I was hurt and I want something done about it. After NC, or if he ever contacted me (I deleted my social medias) what should I say? How will I react if I am not yet sure? I don't want to show him that I don't know my answer yet because he might use that to his advantage.
Me and my ex broke up because she felt neglected, taken for granted. Also she has trust issues because of a misunderstood text she read in my phone. I tried to tell her that we can fix it, which pushed her away. I been silent and walked away she’s been hot and cold trying to be affectionate. Lol one day she’s nice then the next she’s shows indirect signs of jealousy/anger. Very confusing. We still live together until the end of this week. She’s been going out every single night(I don’t understand if that’s her way of escaping the problem) I could do the same and get new women, but I’m going to work on myself for the better.
@@stewart2313 I were in your shoes I snapped because I couldn't take lies anymore .Bro check her phone of course women erase messages but you can always request the data to your email I can promise its another man in her ear...sorry bro
@@smoothmentalitysmooth9226 lol it was my phone that she went through, that was a big part of the breakup.. she even tried to forgive me but couldn’t hold up no more.
You are so right... although I’ve been moving on and the interaction with my ex was positive, I haven’t heard from him for the past 10 days even though he wanted to video chat this week... people, stick to NC.
Hi Maribel, thank you for your comment. You have made great progress and I'm sorry to hear the video chat didn't take place. Hopefully he will contact you again and the video call can be definitely arranged with a set time and date.
Thanks Vincent! Great podcast as always. Was wondering, how would explain when a dumper ask dumpee to move on during the break up. My ex kept pushing me and saying just move on, if you don't move on your will harm your future. Does this podcast apply in such situation?
Hi Zack, I would suggest that moving forward is always the best option. Your ex was speaking as she felt at that moment. At the time, she didn't want to reconcile and also didn't want you waiting for her. This doesn't mean she will always feel this way, but even if she did, it would mean your best option is to move forward. So it's win-win.
So my ex was stalking my ig without following me and I’m sure she thought I was going to reach out on her birthday but I didn’t and she once again decided to stalk my page and even liked a few photos during my 50 days NC period. 3 days ago I looked and she now follows me on Insta and I didn’t not follow her back, is this a good sign?
Hi Tyler, yes I would say that things are moving in a positive direction. Your ex doesn't yet feel enough romantic emotional attraction to take things further, but this can be grown through a good social media strategy. However, I must say that it's not a good idea to keep checking your ex's social media usage. Try and concentrate on yourself rather than her actions.
@@tylerrock356 it's quite an in depth subject to create a proper social media strategy, but in answer to your question, you should post a lightly more frequently than you do currently, but not a lot more (don't make it obvious)
As someone who was dumped and moving forward, while I still have feelings for my ex, I have to keep telling myself, she left me, what's to keep her from doing it again, I actually have a date with my "highschool sweetheart" tomorrow, after almost 20 years of not seeing or hearing from her, and if it goes well, and things blossom between us, and my recent ex tries to come back, I'll probably have to tell her to kick rocks, I wasn't good enough for her a month ago, why would I be good enough for her now. It would be difficult as her and I have been together for the past year and a half, but in the end, she left me with no real good reason.
@@ryanjewell9832 thank you for your comment and good luck with your date! It would be a great story if you and your high school ex got back together after all this time.
I need everyone advice please “” on January 14 2022 my girl ended our 5 years and half relationship one week before her birthday just to be with someone she met one week prior . I went no contact from day till today. She finally reached out last Tuesday August the 6h via a text message asking for a meet up and I replied some 3 hours later “ I’ll let you know in 3 weeks “” what should I do guys ?
I was with my Ex for over 10 years he left me then within a week he met some chick at a party and hooked up with her right away and is still with her as far as I know. First, he denied her saying she is just a friend and far from his type, but of course, that was just more of his lies. It's been well over 4 months since I saw or talked to him. I don't know what he's doing and he has no clue what I've been up to because I don't go on Facebook and share anything about my life. However, it has been about 8 months since we separated now and I haven't dated anybody, and by choice for me that I don't want to get into another relationship at this time. However, I am in a long-distance relationship and haven't met this man in person yet. This man lives in NY so a long way away from where I live right now, and he is a popular and well-known actor who has lots of fans and can get almost any woman he wants just because of who he is. Therefore, who knows where it will go from here, I care about this new person but I am wanting to back off one moment and the next moment I want to move forward with hooking up with him.
@VBoss Ex broke NC after about 2 months or so and suggested to meet and talk. So I agreed bc figured she wanted to potentially reconnect the idea. Nope, she wanted to keep me in life as a friend. I initially hesitated bc I was in shock of the offer but wanted to see if behavior would change. It didn't so I reached out to her to say I can't just be friends etc etc and need to move forward. I got no answer but she is still viewing my social media. My question is when is it ok to start posting haning out and going on dates without it looking as if im trying to make jealous?
Hi Sam, social media 'game' can be a very powerful tool to try and grow romantic emotional attraction in an ex. It has to be done properly to be worthwhile.
@@vincentbos Its been 4 months since the BU, and 3 weeks since she offer friendship. I should be able to post pic with other dates without it looking as if out of spite
It depends on the relationship, when I was the dumper, my ex wouldn't stop pursuing me, for years, even if he was dating other girls but keeping me as his first option. I wanted him to move forward but I wasn't letting him do so by keeping a friendship with him. Later I realized that being the dumper and still wanting to keep him as a friend was awful even If I didn't do it on purpose. This is something you souldn't do because it will give the dumpee hope. When he finally moved on, I was ok with it to be honest but did feel jelous of him being a better version of himself with his new partner, even 3 years after we broke up, however I didn't want him back, I recognize I was being selfish with this feeling, I then was happy for him. His current girlfriend doesn't allow him to speak to me, and that's perfectly fine. I completely understand it
Hi Ana, thank you for sharing your experience. Yes, I believe that no one with romantic feelings (your ex for instance) should have an active platonic friendship because it will hold them back. How are you feeling today Ana? What situation brings you to my channel now?
@@vincentbos In this particular situation I'm here because I was dumped, about 6 months ago, however I'm feeling better now. I've done too many guilt trips on myself, my brain only started to get bored of it. It is interesting to see content from the perspective of both dumped and dumper
@@vincentbos yes, I was stupid enough to watch other ex related content channels and they were awful. You just have to move on man..don't keep people hoping, it'll prolong the recovery process.
Can you make a video about when to know you are a dumper. Because i feel like i was the dumper, but also he kind of made be dump him. He kind of ghostet me, just stopped replying, so i feel like i was dumped. Because he didnt really break up with me. I just had to accept it and walk away. And then i deleted him, to help myself move on.
@@vincentbos my ex contacted me on Valentine’s Day. Told me she was still seeing somebody. Cut off contact with me next Sunday. So I’m in no contact. Opinion please
My ex and I broke up five months ago and I have been forcing myself to make her change her mind begging and she has blocked me everywhere and even the new accounts but now I have moved on since the day i tried to talk to her at the gym she was so mean and rude to me but now she hide from me anytime she see me outside. What does it mean?.. Can I still get her back?
No its done she hiding cause she does not want to talk or see you. That's the reason why she blocked you. I did the opposite I asked my ex to block me best thing i could have done for my mental well being I don't know nothing about her and she knows nothing about me we just moved on. Change gym and please stop that behavior move on move on
Your ex has started to feel trust that you won't bombard them with contact on Instagram. This is a first, positive step towards them possibly contacting you in the future (although nothing is guaranteed)
@@MorrisOp24 thank you very much. I always try to my best to reply to comments. Sometimes I don't get notified of a comment and I might miss one because of that.
@@chrisds3484 there is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back. Sadly, nothing works 100% of the time and nothing fails 100% of the time. However, it is more attractive to be shown as someone who is living their life. Uploading photos of you living life and mixing with new people is positive.
Takes years??? Who the hell has that kinda time to wait for someone? Also why the hell would someone wait that long? Seems more like obsession at that point.
Yes, you should never wait for anyone. If they contact you in the future and you happen to also be single, then that is something to consider possibly.
@@vincentbos maybe, but i find many exes are gunna have the "forrest and jenny" dynamic when ex finally reaches out when theyre dying, have some "unknown" disease. Has a kid with someone who could be literally anyone's, tryin to tell me its mine. Expecting me, when i have the world going for me, to just be like "duurrrr i luuvvv yuuu jennnayy" like wut? U.U
She broke up with me over 3 months ago (LDR) after been together for 2 years. I been in NC since the same day of the breakup. She reached out a few times but breadcrumbs. It’s been very tough I have some weak days but still didn’t contact her. Still miss her so much but there is nothing I can do. This is by far the worst breakup I ever been through. I have been trying to move on but can’t...she is in my head 24/7. What scares me the most is that I have not seen this girl in one year because of Covid 19. But even like that still can’t get over her. I have done everything right NC go out with friends party meet new girls have sex with other the girls, drink. Any advice is highly appreciate. Help please
Thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. My suggestion is you watch this video here (and the rest of the videos in the mini-series) - ua-cam.com/video/hhVwqlIEhDM/v-deo.html
Here almost half year break up , 3 months NC and he is already in the new relationship and I’ve done all the things like you’ve done .. I don’t know what to do but live with this pain till it disappeared, without seen me for 5 months he broke up with me and next month will be one year without meeting him
@@gaoang3391 thanks for replying. It’s been horrible for me. Time keeps going by but I don’t feel any relief. The pain and emptiness that I feel is devastating. Also from all this thinking I feeling physical pain in my stomach. Please let’s keep in touch so we support each other. Have a good day
yes but it doesnt really matter, the person who got dumped is always in a way worse place and deserves 100% more care, love and confidence to move on without getting traumatized along the way. The dumper is already there, so its kinda like caring for a child that's ok next to a child that tripped and broke their arm. Its good an healthy for the person who got trashed to have some sort of reassurance and some positive feedback coming their way. It helps them desensitize. And they need it more than the trasher
@@slimjim1104 not really, my ex was an annoying person who I tried to communicate my feelings to for months, didn't care to listen until I left. I came across this video on accident but it caught my attention.
@@shely_D7vil I hear what you're saying but what in the instance of say the significant other acting a fool to be able to make that person their partner break up with them? So basically what if your significant person starts becoming a raging asshole to you causing you to either choose between your self-respect or their pissy attitude? I think youre just glorifying a victim complex and that's disgusting. Dont buy into the crocodile tears. Youre probably the same person who turns their backs on people simply for what other people say.
It's been a year after breakup I tried to reach her many times but all she did is ignored me and Idk what to do I can't get over her she is 24/7 in my head I can't see her with anyone else .. and I guess she has found my replacement do you think. Is there any possibilities of getting her back ? We brokeup because her parents caught us and they didn't wanted her to keep relationship with me .. help !
Hello and thank you for your question. I'm very sorry to hear about your circumstances. The important thing is to try and stabalise your mindset. Always remember to speak with your friends, family and local doctor if you feel desperate or depressed. With or without your ex, you will have a positive future. These feelings are scary but they are temporary and you will get through them. Please may I ask how old you and your ex are? And what country do you live in?
Hi Vincent, not sure if you saw my comment on your “why am I still attached to my ex” video but my ex and I now coworkers again due to the circumstances I explained in the comment section in the other video. I kept it formal in the workplace upon my return and pretended as if nothing happened. However, I’ve got the feeling that my chances are null as he showed little to no interest. This was what I sort of expected seeing as he technically rejected my apology but I wasn’t ready for it in person. On the bright side, it doesn’t hurt as much as it did earlier. I guess I’ll continue to keep my distance from him as much as possible to not make things worst for me.
Hello 'Who Is She', thanks for your comment. I'm very sorry to hear of your situation and no I never saw your previous comment. It doesn't seem to always notify me on comments sadly. Keeping your dignity and staying as professional as possible are key in this difficult scenario. Maybe he will showcase interest i the future, maybe he won't but the important thing is you are polite and professional, doing the best job you can.
@@vincentbos thank you for your reply vincent, the first day back was extremely stressful since the person who replaced me literally did nothing. They only kept her because her family is very close to the owners and she was only gonna be there temporarily. I'm trying my best to cope with the situation and keep up with school at the same time. It's hard but I know I'll get through.
Hello Antoinette, I'm not aware of the situation regarding your relationship and breakup. If you have been blocked, then that is a clear sign that your ex is not wanting to reconnect at this time. I have known many dumpers who blocked dumpees and then changed their mind. However, there is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back or know what is going to happen in the future.
@@vincentbos that’s an easy answer. I already know that. He has broken up with me over and over in nine years. Long distance and has blocked me but he’s always come back every time. This last time he hooked up with his sister-in-law’s niece who is also long distance and that didnt last. Now, he’s on to somebody else. His family got in the middle when they moved to North Carolina. They kept interfering in our relationship. He has written horrible things about me all over Facebook and is still running my name out of his mouth on his Facebook page 19 months later. Why is he still talking about me ? Do you really think this can turn around? I could never imagine him ever doing this to me because I thought he was the love of my life. He called me every single morning texted In the afternoon from work and the second he got out of work he called me. When He showered after work he would call me on Skype and we will talk till the end of the night.I was accused of contacting the girl he cheated withd family and he texted me a nasty texts but it was his sister who contacted her family. He is 62 years old. After that I have never contacted him. Just when we initially broke up I said I miss him and I don’t want to go down this world again of arguing. He said he wanted us to be together and if it wasn’t me it would be nobody. He was jumping through hoops & doing throwing everything for me. 2 1/2 months later he hooked up with the sister-in-law‘s niece. His sister Set up the whole thing up. I did stay no contact all this time . I never posted anything on my Facebook page and now I have deleted my Facebook page altogether. Do you think this man is really going to miss me or ever regret this? Thank you so much for responding I appreciate that.This video made me believe that he would miss me in time.
@@antoinetterocco3701 thank you for explaining the situation. We never know when the 'story ends'. I have heard of some very unlikely reconciliations after many years in some instances. However, nothing can be guaranteed and his current attitude isn't showcasing positive interest towards you. My advice is to move forward with your life. If wants to reconnect, then he will reach out. There is no benefit to standing still and 'clock watching'. With or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
Diamonds are not easy to get! I don’t agree with this! They have standards and are high value and stay single until they believe someone is worthy of getting them!
Everyones ex isnt a narcissist. You just feel that way bc you were dumped. While you were with them you never saw them that way or you wouldve been the dumper, and if you did see them that way, then why are you watching get my ex back videos
I want my ex but i dont need him. Life goes on. funny thing he is with his missus but wants to.talk to.me about emotional stuff. He has a missus chat to.her. peace at last
@@forgetmenot5297 just wanted to know. I was the dumper in my relationship. I came back and she said no. We must move on. I have the Lord Jesus Christ to help me in my life journey.
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Haha I seen a dumper go ballistic . She dumped her ex for another guy when their kid was two. She turned completely psycho rubbing it in his face. Flaunting. You name it. The guy didn't do anything wrong. Once she cheated n secured her new relationship she went out with a bang. N months before they were planning on getting married .
Long story short. He stayed single n was a great dad n never once held a grudge against his ex. When their child turned 18 . He sold everything he owned.gave half his money to his daughter. got engaged to a beautiful woman he's been friends with for years and moved to Europe.
His ex freaked out and actually went to try and beg for him to come back. Even though she was already married. She couldn't find him. Eventually his daughter came to live with him and now his ex got a divorce n is single and alone.
Hi Sly, thank you for sharing this story. It shows that life has many twists and turns, and no one knows when the story ends regarding their ex. If dumpees do the right things, then it's win-win. They either get their ex back or find someone even better.
Aw savage haha
Karma
Talk about karma
Thanks a beautiful story, and the prince lived happily ever after.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t.
I don't believe in creating jealousy in the dumper. Playing games is dishonorable.
If a ex texts asking to meet up
Ask why ? If they say so we can be friends
Just say you’re busy and you got a lot of things on right now. Possibly another time
If it’s to talk about getting back together
Same answer but let her wait and then ask her when she’s thinking
She’ll give a day
Say you’re busy
Make get work for you
No I think honestly the reason why so many people are hovering around my ex is the fact that she's a narcissist who loves having people under her thumb, they just don't see it yet
Facts! My ex unfollowed me when I limited contacted with her after she was using me for validation and an ego boost. Then she texted me a few days later and asked me for help her with something then began to beg about how great her life is now without me and how successful she has been. I didn’t react negatively and told her congratulations. She blocked me on WhatsApp after this lol. She’s been playing mind games with me since the breakup 3 months ago but I’ve ignored her every time she did.
She leaves you and hooks up with somebody else... let her go she is TAINTED go find a younger hotter one...
younger??
@@forlyssa Yeah, younger and hotter. Early 20s would be ideal.
Hahaha
@Kirsten Walker you are screwed and tainted to him now it’s best that you moved on
I've found a hotter one but didn't tell me ex about her yet
Best explanation ever!!
My ex left me 3 weeks ago. Found out last weekend she has been hanging out with someone new. She is 5 months pregnant with our child.. it’s been rough but I’ve been moving forward. The new guy has to be a badass cause this happened out of nowhere. We have always been great and neither one of us like to argue or fight.
I’m so sorry to hear your situation. May I ask how old you and your ex are?
It's not your baby
She is disgusting! I wish u best and all the karma to her!
Yup, not his baby. Advice to this guy, ghost and let the other guy sign the paperwork.
What should a dumpee do if the dumper tries to guilt trip them for moving on or getting into a relationship with someone else?
A dumper has no right to tell a dumpee how to live their life. The dumper ended the relationship and at that point should have no influence on future decisions by the dumpee. The dumpee should stay polite, respectful and not be drawn into drama with their ex.
@@vincentbos thank u so much for the advice
@@vincentbos I just find it crazy that someone can leave a person, get into a rebound relationship with another married person, bread crumb the dumpee to death and then get jealous when the dumpee moves on. She recently told me that she wishes things were different and that she had done things differently. I feel so confused and lost
@@barbersmurff2592 if she wants to reconnect with you, she first needs to become single and then needs to make her feelings clear. Then you have a decision to make.
@@barbersmurff2592 it's my pleasure
Diamonds are not scarce. The illusion of diamond scarcity is a con to keep the prices artificially inflated.
hasjjsdkjsaahahhash I mean thats true, whats the point though???
This! Not many people are conscious, though. But it’s getting better with more awakening!
Find me one outside of the artificial inflation
but what if they encourage u to move on? even before he dumped u he said i want u to find someone else. so then he would ever care if i do now we’ve broken up
If someone encourages you to move on, they are showing no interest in wanting to reconnect at that time. There is always the chance that feelings can change over time. However, it's very important you try and move forward with your life. There is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back, and if you have been encouraged to move on, the chance of reconciling is small.
@@vincentbos the first time he left me he told me leave him alone and meet someone else and it took him 3 months to message me. he was being so mean but this time he was being nice and said we both messed up meet someone else so idk plus he wasn’t acting jealous. and yes i guess i’ll have to move on even if i don’t want to, i’ll have to try.
@@mizzcrazygal you will find someone who is a better connection than your ex. You have an exciting future ahead of you. Keep moving forward and you will find happiness.
@@vincentbos i think u are right :) thank u ♥️
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He broke up with me in August. 4 days after the break up , i noticed that my ex like this girl's photo. She is now with him a month and 3 days after the breakup. When my ex broke up with me, I didn't beg for him to come back, get dramatic or anything like that. I am in NC and that's how I intend to stay for a long time. I probably won't see him a whole lot (we had a long distance relationship, and i lived 5 hours away from him. His new girlfriend lives about an hour away). I am working out again and just focusing on my well being and over health...
I also unfriended him on Facebook. It had to be done so that I could move on. Did i do the right thing?.
Hi Cowgirl,thanks for your comment. May I ask how old you and your ex are? and how long you were in a relationship with him?
@@vincentbos I was with him for a little over a year. I had to unfriend him on Facebook so I could start healing. Did I do the right thing?
I am.29 and he was 25 or 26.
You have to put your mental health first and that's very important. Have you considered having audio coaching with me to help you with breakup support?
@@vincentbos no I haven't, how much is it?. I was thinking about maybe getting a relationship coach because of this breakup.. it still hurts and he seems so happy with her.
Great video it really made me calm 😀 how can I get over her 7 yrs together and she was my first everything and I mean everything. Kiss etc ..and we also have a kid . It hurts to know she's already in a rebound 2 weeks after. I can't eat sleep ot hurts so bad 😫
Hi Slate, thank you for your comment and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. Here is a link to a video that I think could help you - ua-cam.com/video/p6W-PZQ3V5M/v-deo.html
@@vincentbos thanks im finally in no contact for 2 days after begging pleading and crying to her it hurts but I will keep watching your videos for healing thanks 😊
@@slate5490 if you have just started NC, then here is a link to a video which will help you through this - ua-cam.com/video/MpW8lJV3MJ4/v-deo.html
I’m so sorry. I know that feeling. 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️
@@antoinetterocco3701 yep it hurts deeply .and I don't have too many friends so its worse.
Get them back?? Lmbo! Good riddens..press
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Thanks Vincent! Always appreciate the support! Finally getting back in the dating aspect of things and maybe this vid will happen? Looking forward to the future though!
Exciting times ahead for you DaMi!
Great video Mr Boss keep it coming for 2021
Thank you Nim, how are you today?
@@vincentbos
Good Mr Boss Hope you're well
3nd week in NC, I am slowly realizing how he didn't deserve me. I remember all the mean things he have said and done but somehow it's kind of making me want him back more (even though it's empowering me and making me value myself even more). We technically broke up but he said he'll think about it.
I feel like maybe I want to be with him again despite him treating me badly because I was hurt and I want something done about it.
After NC, or if he ever contacted me (I deleted my social medias) what should I say? How will I react if I am not yet sure? I don't want to show him that I don't know my answer yet because he might use that to his advantage.
Here is a link to a video which explains my thoughts of what to do if your ex contacts you - ua-cam.com/video/yqhFDP_4308/v-deo.html
Me and my ex broke up because she felt neglected, taken for granted. Also she has trust issues because of a misunderstood text she read in my phone. I tried to tell her that we can fix it, which pushed her away. I been silent and walked away she’s been hot and cold trying to be affectionate. Lol one day she’s nice then the next she’s shows indirect signs of jealousy/anger. Very confusing. We still live together until the end of this week. She’s been going out every single night(I don’t understand if that’s her way of escaping the problem) I could do the same and get new women, but I’m going to work on myself for the better.
she using that as a excuse to get out
@@smoothmentalitysmooth9226 Once trust is broken , hard to fix
@@stewart2313 I were in your shoes I snapped because I couldn't take lies anymore .Bro check her phone of course women erase messages but you can always request the data to your email I can promise its another man in her ear...sorry bro
@@smoothmentalitysmooth9226 lol it was my phone that she went through, that was a big part of the breakup.. she even tried to forgive me but couldn’t hold up no more.
@@stewart2313 Dam fam I would say send a big apology then give her space 2 weeks then hit up asking how she is doing take it slow
You are so right... although I’ve been moving on and the interaction with my ex was positive, I haven’t heard from him for the past 10 days even though he wanted to video chat this week... people, stick to NC.
Hi Maribel, thank you for your comment. You have made great progress and I'm sorry to hear the video chat didn't take place. Hopefully he will contact you again and the video call can be definitely arranged with a set time and date.
@@vincentbos I hope so, as I promised myself not to contact him again unless he contact me first. If he doesn’t, I’ll consider it over!
If that happens, you will find someone even better. You are a high value lady and deserve respect, love and an exciting future.
@@vincentbos thanks for your kind words! I’d like to think I’m high value even tho my ex don’t think so...
@@TheMaribelisima Play your cards right, No contact, move forward and work on yourself. Space grows attraction, your value will grow in his eyes.
Thanks Vincent! Great podcast as always. Was wondering, how would explain when a dumper ask dumpee to move on during the break up. My ex kept pushing me and saying just move on, if you don't move on your will harm your future. Does this podcast apply in such situation?
Hi Zack, I would suggest that moving forward is always the best option. Your ex was speaking as she felt at that moment. At the time, she didn't want to reconcile and also didn't want you waiting for her. This doesn't mean she will always feel this way, but even if she did, it would mean your best option is to move forward. So it's win-win.
@@vincentbos Thanks Vincent!
@@davidmark5997 Who? What's his name?
So my ex was stalking my ig without following me and I’m sure she thought I was going to reach out on her birthday but I didn’t and she once again decided to stalk my page and even liked a few photos during my 50 days NC period. 3 days ago I looked and she now follows me on Insta and I didn’t not follow her back, is this a good sign?
Hi Tyler, yes I would say that things are moving in a positive direction. Your ex doesn't yet feel enough romantic emotional attraction to take things further, but this can be grown through a good social media strategy. However, I must say that it's not a good idea to keep checking your ex's social media usage. Try and concentrate on yourself rather than her actions.
@@vincentbos should I not post anything else like radio silence it more? Or should I continue to post alittle
@@vincentbos and I don’t check her usage at all. I don’t go to her pages or make any kind of contact
@@vincentbos 🤔
@@tylerrock356 it's quite an in depth subject to create a proper social media strategy, but in answer to your question, you should post a lightly more frequently than you do currently, but not a lot more (don't make it obvious)
I don't want him back.
Why are you watching this then?
Hi Boss
What if your dating and your ex wants you back ?
Hi inserter, they will likely make their feelings known and you will then have a choice to make.
@@vincentbos how does a man choose between the woman he is still deeply in love , who dumped
And the woman he is currently with.
@@inserter400 the man has to consider both options and make a decision based on the likelihood on long-term happiness.
As someone who was dumped and moving forward, while I still have feelings for my ex, I have to keep telling myself, she left me, what's to keep her from doing it again, I actually have a date with my "highschool sweetheart" tomorrow, after almost 20 years of not seeing or hearing from her, and if it goes well, and things blossom between us, and my recent ex tries to come back, I'll probably have to tell her to kick rocks, I wasn't good enough for her a month ago, why would I be good enough for her now. It would be difficult as her and I have been together for the past year and a half, but in the end, she left me with no real good reason.
@@ryanjewell9832 thank you for your comment and good luck with your date! It would be a great story if you and your high school ex got back together after all this time.
I need everyone advice please “” on January 14 2022 my girl ended our 5 years and half relationship one week before her birthday just to be with someone she met one week prior . I went no contact from day till today. She finally reached out last Tuesday August the 6h via a text message asking for a meet up and I replied some 3 hours later “ I’ll let you know in 3 weeks “” what should I do guys ?
ALWAYS ENJOY your podcasts!! Let me now when we can gwt the coffee😊🎉
I was with my Ex for over 10 years he left me then within a week he met some chick at a party and hooked up with her right away and is still with her as far as I know. First, he denied her saying she is just a friend and far from his type, but of course, that was just more of his lies. It's been well over 4 months since I saw or talked to him. I don't know what he's doing and he has no clue what I've been up to because I don't go on Facebook and share anything about my life.
However, it has been about 8 months since we separated now and I haven't dated anybody, and by choice for me that I don't want to get into another relationship at this time. However, I am in a long-distance relationship and haven't met this man in person yet. This man lives in NY so a long way away from where I live right now, and he is a popular and well-known actor who has lots of fans and can get almost any woman he wants just because of who he is. Therefore, who knows where it will go from here, I care about this new person but I am wanting to back off one moment and the next moment I want to move forward with hooking up with him.
What if the dumper dumped the dumpee because she was already talking/seeing to another guy?
@VBoss
Ex broke NC after about 2 months or so and suggested to meet and talk. So I agreed bc figured she wanted to potentially reconnect the idea. Nope, she wanted to keep me in life as a friend. I initially hesitated bc I was in shock of the offer but wanted to see if behavior would change. It didn't so I reached out to her to say I can't just be friends etc etc and need to move forward. I got no answer but she is still viewing my social media. My question is when is it ok to start posting haning out and going on dates without it looking as if im trying to make jealous?
Hi Sam, social media 'game' can be a very powerful tool to try and grow romantic emotional attraction in an ex. It has to be done properly to be worthwhile.
@@vincentbos
Its been 4 months since the BU, and 3 weeks since she offer friendship.
I should be able to post pic with other dates without it looking as if out of spite
@@user-pq9jv5xu4h I'm very glad that baba David helped me with my relationship problems ,he can also help you
@@user-pq9jv5xu4h call or text him
Do it just think it’s pics of friends enjoying a night out and not trying to make someone jealous
Moving Forward 👍
It depends on the relationship, when I was the dumper, my ex wouldn't stop pursuing me, for years, even if he was dating other girls but keeping me as his first option. I wanted him to move forward but I wasn't letting him do so by keeping a friendship with him. Later I realized that being the dumper and still wanting to keep him as a friend was awful even If I didn't do it on purpose. This is something you souldn't do because it will give the dumpee hope. When he finally moved on, I was ok with it to be honest but did feel jelous of him being a better version of himself with his new partner, even 3 years after we broke up, however I didn't want him back, I recognize I was being selfish with this feeling, I then was happy for him. His current girlfriend doesn't allow him to speak to me, and that's perfectly fine. I completely understand it
Hi Ana, thank you for sharing your experience. Yes, I believe that no one with romantic feelings (your ex for instance) should have an active platonic friendship because it will hold them back.
How are you feeling today Ana? What situation brings you to my channel now?
@@vincentbos In this particular situation I'm here because I was dumped, about 6 months ago, however I'm feeling better now. I've done too many guilt trips on myself, my brain only started to get bored of it. It is interesting to see content from the perspective of both dumped and dumper
I'm glad to hear you are feeling better and I hope my channel has helped you in some way. Thank you for being a part of my channel community.
@@vincentbos yes, I was stupid enough to watch other ex related content channels and they were awful. You just have to move on man..don't keep people hoping, it'll prolong the recovery process.
Karma did it to you. I love it 😂
Can you make a video about when to know you are a dumper. Because i feel like i was the dumper, but also he kind of made be dump him. He kind of ghostet me, just stopped replying, so i feel like i was dumped. Because he didnt really break up with me. I just had to accept it and walk away. And then i deleted him, to help myself move on.
This video might help - ua-cam.com/video/_ltu6_DPka8/v-deo.html
@@davidmark5997 wow. Do you understand how creepy and pathetic what you are doing here is?
Great video
Thank you Jeff, how are you today?
@@vincentbos my ex contacted me on Valentine’s Day. Told me she was still seeing somebody. Cut off contact with me next Sunday. So I’m in no contact. Opinion please
@@vincentbos do you think she’ll call back
My ex and I broke up five months ago and I have been forcing myself to make her change her mind begging and she has blocked me everywhere and even the new accounts but now I have moved on since the day i tried to talk to her at the gym she was so mean and rude to me but now she hide from me anytime she see me outside. What does it mean?.. Can I still get her back?
No its done she hiding cause she does not want to talk or see you. That's the reason why she blocked you.
I did the opposite I asked my ex to block me best thing i could have done for my mental well being I don't know nothing about her and she knows nothing about me we just moved on.
Change gym and please stop that behavior move on move on
@@jorgeriera3337 every ex is not the same. You don't even know why she blocked me
You're awesome 👌 real
What does it mean when my ex recently unblocked me on instagram?
Your ex has started to feel trust that you won't bombard them with contact on Instagram. This is a first, positive step towards them possibly contacting you in the future (although nothing is guaranteed)
@@vincentbos thank you for replying back means a lot and also great videos 👍🏼
@@MorrisOp24 thank you very much. I always try to my best to reply to comments. Sometimes I don't get notified of a comment and I might miss one because of that.
was it wrong when i posted a Instagram story with a female friend in my car?
Hi Chris. You are a single man and can post a photo with any of your friends. It will increase your value via social proofing.
@@vincentbos my sister and another female friend said it might let her do some thinking and maybe kick in the Fear of loss
@@chrisds3484 there is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back. Sadly, nothing works 100% of the time and nothing fails 100% of the time. However, it is more attractive to be shown as someone who is living their life. Uploading photos of you living life and mixing with new people is positive.
@@vincentbos guess im doing right then
@@chrisds3484 I think so yes. Stay positive and live life in a positive way :)
Takes years??? Who the hell has that kinda time to wait for someone? Also why the hell would someone wait that long? Seems more like obsession at that point.
Yes, you should never wait for anyone. If they contact you in the future and you happen to also be single, then that is something to consider possibly.
@@vincentbos maybe, but i find many exes are gunna have the "forrest and jenny" dynamic when ex finally reaches out when theyre dying, have some "unknown" disease. Has a kid with someone who could be literally anyone's, tryin to tell me its mine. Expecting me, when i have the world going for me, to just be like "duurrrr i luuvvv yuuu jennnayy" like wut? U.U
@@PricelessBinkey1337 😂😂😂
She broke up with me over 3 months ago (LDR) after been together for 2 years. I been in NC since the same day of the breakup. She reached out a few times but breadcrumbs. It’s been very tough I have some weak days but still didn’t contact her. Still miss her so much but there is nothing I can do. This is by far the worst breakup I ever been through. I have been trying to move on but can’t...she is in my head 24/7. What scares me the most is that I have not seen this girl in one year because of Covid 19. But even like that still can’t get over her. I have done everything right NC go out with friends party meet new girls have sex with other the girls, drink. Any advice is highly appreciate. Help please
Thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. My suggestion is you watch this video here (and the rest of the videos in the mini-series) - ua-cam.com/video/hhVwqlIEhDM/v-deo.html
Here almost half year break up , 3 months NC and he is already in the new relationship and I’ve done all the things like you’ve done .. I don’t know what to do but live with this pain till it disappeared, without seen me for 5 months he broke up with me and next month will be one year without meeting him
@@gaoang3391 thanks for replying. It’s been horrible for me. Time keeps going by but I don’t feel any relief. The pain and emptiness that I feel is devastating. Also from all this thinking I feeling physical pain in my stomach. Please let’s keep in touch so we support each other. Have a good day
Same situation Bro.But i get dump for another dude
@@siangwedding748 I hope you are feeling OK
What i find funny is how the dumper always seems like the enemy in these situations, not knowing that chances are the dumper had a reason.
yes but it doesnt really matter, the person who got dumped is always in a way worse place and deserves 100% more care, love and confidence to move on without getting traumatized along the way. The dumper is already there, so its kinda like caring for a child that's ok next to a child that tripped and broke their arm. Its good an healthy for the person who got trashed to have some sort of reassurance and some positive feedback coming their way. It helps them desensitize. And they need it more than the trasher
I dont think anyone coming here for these videos was dumped for something they did to deserve it. Its usually being blindsided or cheated on.
@@slimjim1104 not really, my ex was an annoying person who I tried to communicate my feelings to for months, didn't care to listen until I left. I came across this video on accident but it caught my attention.
Exactly. It’s all over UA-cam
@@shely_D7vil I hear what you're saying but what in the instance of say the significant other acting a fool to be able to make that person their partner break up with them? So basically what if your significant person starts becoming a raging asshole to you causing you to either choose between your self-respect or their pissy attitude? I think youre just glorifying a victim complex and that's disgusting. Dont buy into the crocodile tears. Youre probably the same person who turns their backs on people simply for what other people say.
It's been a year after breakup I tried to reach her many times but all she did is ignored me and Idk what to do I can't get over her she is 24/7 in my head I can't see her with anyone else .. and I guess she has found my replacement do you think. Is there any possibilities of getting her back ? We brokeup because her parents caught us and they didn't wanted her to keep relationship with me .. help !
Hello and thank you for your question. I'm very sorry to hear about your circumstances. The important thing is to try and stabalise your mindset. Always remember to speak with your friends, family and local doctor if you feel desperate or depressed. With or without your ex, you will have a positive future. These feelings are scary but they are temporary and you will get through them. Please may I ask how old you and your ex are? And what country do you live in?
@@vincentbos I'm 22 and she's 18
@@vincentbos I from india
Hi Vincent, not sure if you saw my comment on your “why am I still attached to my ex” video but my ex and I now coworkers again due to the circumstances I explained in the comment section in the other video. I kept it formal in the workplace upon my return and pretended as if nothing happened. However, I’ve got the feeling that my chances are null as he showed little to no interest. This was what I sort of expected seeing as he technically rejected my apology but I wasn’t ready for it in person. On the bright side, it doesn’t hurt as much as it did earlier. I guess I’ll continue to keep my distance from him as much as possible to not make things worst for me.
Hello 'Who Is She', thanks for your comment. I'm very sorry to hear of your situation and no I never saw your previous comment. It doesn't seem to always notify me on comments sadly.
Keeping your dignity and staying as professional as possible are key in this difficult scenario. Maybe he will showcase interest i the future, maybe he won't but the important thing is you are polite and professional, doing the best job you can.
@@vincentbos thank you for your reply vincent, the first day back was extremely stressful since the person who replaced me literally did nothing. They only kept her because her family is very close to the owners and she was only gonna be there temporarily. I'm trying my best to cope with the situation and keep up with school at the same time. It's hard but I know I'll get through.
@@whoisshe9548 you will get through the tunnel of struggle and into a happier future.
He left me and moved on he got dumped and is on to the next. I was blocked by him
It’s been 19 months. You think he’s missing me. Do t look like it
Hello Antoinette, I'm not aware of the situation regarding your relationship and breakup. If you have been blocked, then that is a clear sign that your ex is not wanting to reconnect at this time. I have known many dumpers who blocked dumpees and then changed their mind. However, there is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back or know what is going to happen in the future.
@@vincentbos that’s an easy answer. I already know that. He has broken up with me over and over in nine years. Long distance and has blocked me but he’s always come back every time. This last time he hooked up with his sister-in-law’s niece who is also long distance and that didnt last. Now, he’s on to somebody else. His family got in the middle when they moved to North Carolina. They kept interfering in our relationship. He has written horrible things about me all over Facebook and is still running my name out of his mouth on his Facebook page 19 months later. Why is he still talking about me ? Do you really think this can turn around?
I could never imagine him ever doing this to me because I thought he was the love of my life. He called me every single morning texted In the afternoon from work and the second he got out of work he called me. When He showered after work he would call me on Skype and we will talk till the end of the night.I was accused of contacting the girl he cheated withd family and he texted me a nasty texts but it was his sister who contacted her family. He is 62 years old. After that I have never contacted him. Just when we initially broke up I said I miss him and I don’t want to go down this world again of arguing. He said he wanted us to be together and if it wasn’t me it would be nobody. He was jumping through hoops & doing throwing everything for me. 2 1/2 months later he hooked up with the sister-in-law‘s niece. His sister Set up the whole thing up. I did stay no contact all this time . I never posted anything on my Facebook page and now I have deleted my Facebook page altogether. Do you think this man is really going to miss me or ever regret this? Thank you so much for responding I appreciate that.This video made me believe that he would miss me in time.
@@antoinetterocco3701 thank you for explaining the situation. We never know when the 'story ends'. I have heard of some very unlikely reconciliations after many years in some instances. However, nothing can be guaranteed and his current attitude isn't showcasing positive interest towards you. My advice is to move forward with your life. If wants to reconnect, then he will reach out. There is no benefit to standing still and 'clock watching'.
With or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
@@vincentbos I know. I don’t see it happening.. your video gave me hope . I knew it was too good to be true.
@@antoinetterocco3701 we never know what the future holds :)
Diamonds are not easy to get! I don’t agree with this! They have standards and are high value and stay single until they believe someone is worthy of getting them!
Everyones ex isnt a narcissist. You just feel that way bc you were dumped. While you were with them you never saw them that way or you wouldve been the dumper, and if you did see them that way, then why are you watching get my ex back videos
I want my ex but i dont need him. Life goes on. funny thing he is with his missus but wants to.talk to.me about emotional stuff. He has a missus chat to.her. peace at last
How are you feeling today Lucy?
@@vincentbos I feel ok. Its been a journey but realise the issue isnt me. The grass isnt always greener
Two years of no contact. He never reached me.
Are you the dumper or dumpee?
@@ivanjuarez1160 dumpee..why?
@@forgetmenot5297 just wanted to know. I was the dumper in my relationship. I came back and she said no. We must move on. I have the Lord Jesus Christ to help me in my life journey.
@@ivanjuarez1160 yeah..✨Life goes on, Let's live on✨😊
@@ivanjuarez1160 how long was it before you came back?
YALL HEAAALL BEFOR EU STARTING DAYONG OTHER PEOPLE FORGET SOCIAL PROOFING UR EX AND YOU NEED TO TAKE TOME OUT TO BE BY YOURSELVES
The dumpee the dumper datating the value....is sex