Thank you so much for this absolutely insightful and helpful video! To summarize: 1) Keep things in perspective 2) Focus on the Good/Gratitude 3) Share struggles/feelings with others 4) Try to enjoy the journey
Well this made me feel a bit better. It always felt like I was a failure and my life was over even though I'm 20 years old. So many of my peers have done so much and I've just been barely hanging on in school and work. Glad to know I'm not alone.
So glad it was supportive! The crazy thing about school is how much it can skew your perspective and have you think you're not very smart. I know SO many people who did not do very well in school who are now crushing it as entrepreneurs, musicians, artists, etc. I firmly believe that everyone is brilliant in some way shape or form, and the game just gets to be figuring out what that is! You got this!
@@HaydenHumphrey I wish people at 20 years old can say that they are still young and can still dream. You've got roughly 50-60 maybe even 70 years left of your life left on this planet and the clock is ticking. In your 20s you just have a lot of time. It's not over by any means. Sure, you're either in university or have just graduated, going to an either fulfulling or unfulfilling 9-5 job or whatever that time is for the next 30-40 years, retire at 60 or 65 and die. I'm 22 years old now and I think I am still young and I can still dream, yes it goes quick and I'll be 30 in a blink of an eye.
My favorite line from this video is "appreciated times of struggle are far more valuable than rushed-through periods of success." I love the challenge of enjoying the process because it's a reminder to live in the present and absorb the human experience.
100% agree Julio! I find the more I lean into practicing presence and appreciate my current circumstances (regardless of what they look like), the happier and more fulfilled I feel. Thanks for sharing!
I am so grateful for my current volunteer work as a coach for my local college club waterpolo team. I am so grateful for my little orange tabby cat. I am so grateful for roommates who are in the trenches with me as entrepreneurs also in their 20's. This is beautiful. You are beautiful. Thank you.
Also, my favorite of the 4 - sharing the struggle with others. All 4 techniques share an embodiment of awareness, which is really important to me, but sharing awareness of struggle with others has been my most humbling and reviving of tactics. Again, thank you Hayden.
Thanks for the encouragement. I just turned 26, with no degree, no real savings and still crashing with my parents. I have the desire to go out and work hard, I just don’t know what for. Stuck is the perfect way to describe it.
You are welcome, and I feel you! Well at the very least, you're actively asking yourself the question, which is the most important part. When you're focused on finding an answer, the answer inevitably will come to you. Stay positive!!!
I used to feel stuck by seeing everyone around me doing more, but I’ve told myself to stop comparing and that I’m on my own path. This is great content!
I’m grateful for access to the internet. Even the fact I get to watch this video is something I can be grateful for. We now have the opportunity to self educate on a level that is honestly mind-boggling.
I’m 25 right now and felt calmed by this video. I’m completely feeling behind in life and stuck. And looking at Instagram and the 30 under 30 lists makes me feel awful. Thanks for the advice and talking about something that I think most of us go through.
I am grateful for this video! Made me feel so much better, I’m 23 and I’ve been feeling like an absolute failure, even though I have a job during this absolute unpredictable time. Thank you for putting this out. Means a lot❤️
@@HaydenHumphrey Hi Hayden, I hope you’re doing good, I was having a terrible, terrible day thinking about failing blah blah blah, I thought about this video and came back to this, made me feel better again. This is just a thank you. I usually dislike social media stuff, but it’s wonderful how a person in another continent can make you feel better when you have no one to talk about all of this. Thank you, hoping all your dreams come true
@@aisha1447 ! Wowow, thank you for sharing that. Makes me so happy to know this video continues to make a difference for you. And yes, social media isn't all bad 🤓 Appreciate you and hoping all your dreams come true too!!
Im almost able to figure out the idea that the most important thing in life is not about who was the most accomplished/who was the richest but it can be as simple as who enjoyed it the most.. I think life is not a "race" but an "adventure" so for now ill keep exploring life and try to enjoy discovering things along the way, good luck out there fellow travellers :)
Yes, love this. It's hard to remember when we're bombarded all day with messages about achievement and "doing more", but in reality, the sense of peace that you get from truly just focusing on the journey is the real prize. Thanks for watching and sharing!
Connections and being in the right place at the right to couldn't be more true. Dont compare yourself to other people your age because you have no idea what opportunities they've been given by pure chance. I say this because I got really lucky with my job, I only heard about it because my brothers Uni friend told me about it.
Life is like a video game. You want the highest level and most expensive car the whole time, but as soon as you have played through it completely and archived everything it gets boring. For me a good life means to have the possibility to learn new things and to always have a goal in front of you to archive. 🤙🏼 Great content, keep it up! 😊
Love that Mat! I think that's so true. As soon as you have everything you want you get bored 😂 so why not enjoy the journey and keep learning! Thanks for popping in and sharing
I feel really lost right now and really behind the people my age. Thank you Hayden. That's really freeibg and helping seeing things more clearly/getting a better perspective.🤗😊👍
Wow…How do you not have more followers?? This content is amazing! Advice for people in their 20’s feeling stuck, social media comparisons, figuring life out, all of these things resonated with me so hard and the biggest part that resonated with me was the fact that the best part of my life hasn’t even happened yet. I think that’s something that helps me to keep going. Keep up the great work Hayden!! You just earned a loyal subscriber
I appreciate the kind words Marshall! And I’m so glad to hear that it resonated with you 🙏🏻 I’d love to hear to - what other kind of content do you usually watch? Are there any topics you particularly like hearing/learning about?
Bro Wtf? How can you keep making videos for so many years when you only have just a few views in most of them? I cant believe your tenacity. I really wanna know how can you keep doing it when you dont have results yet. Dont misunderstand me i dont mean something bad im just curious as to how you still can keep going? I'm amazed.
Haha no love the question my man! Two things: 1. I’m more committed to the end-goal (building a successful channel), than I am committed to “looking good” or stopping when it gets hard. Everything is possible, if you’re unwilling to stop. 2. I love the process! I just love making videos and being on camera, so the lack of views doesn’t upset me or bother me all that much. What are you up to in the world my man? What do you want to create?
I am grateful for people who have supported me, when I didn't even feel worthy of support. Some of these people I know, some I have only conversed with online. I'm 24 years old and struggling with finding the right path for me. Both my older and younger siblings have pursued college degrees and are carving out lives for themselves. Meanwhile I have some health issues that have held me back, and I'm still living with my parents with not much on the horizon. I don't even have a driver's permit/car yet. It's really discouraging to see people my age or younger who kind of have their futures mapped out, meanwhile I feel stuck and completely lacking direction. I can only hope that I will one day find SOMETHING that will at least be a stepping stone to a career and lifestyle that I can truly enjoy AND hopefully be proud of. I am insanely grateful for the people who have shared their own fears with me, and have told me that it's okay to be apprehensive about the future, while still looking forward to being independent. The people who have reminded me that I don't have to fit the mold in order to find a place where I fit in, have been extremely encouraging.
Love this Anna, thank you so much for sharing where you're at! I totally get how that can be confronting/discouraging to feel like others have it mapped out and you don't. What I would share with you is that 1) most people don't have it figured out as much as they seem like they do (we rarely share our real struggles with strangers out loud on the internet), and 2) things can change insanely quickly. I actually was super burned out the last few months of last year, and questioning whether Coaching and this work was something I wanted to continue to do. But that's all totally shifted in the last few weeks, and I feel invigorated, excited, and clear on where I'm going. Again, thank you for sharing and keep us in the loop on how it's all progressing!
@@HaydenHumphrey I had a medication increased a few months back and my health issues have been more under control than they have been since I started having symptoms back in 2011. I just passed my driver's written test/got my learner's permit today! Feels surreal, I've been looking forward to this for a while (granted a lot of it was apprehension about driving) to the point where I questioned if I would EVER drive... Still quite a bit of anxiety, but with a touch of excitement. I also have had two house/pet-sitting jobs come up from people I know (one I did a few weeks ago...the other is coming up soon) which has given me the opportunity to earn some cash. I feel like my life is FINALLY starting to manifest, or I'm at least moving in the right direction for a change. Having something to look forward to has been GREAT for my mental health; true, the anxiety still kicks in, but I feel like my depression has improved and I'm feeling more positive.
Not making great content? Bro. You're there. This video is absolutely great man - very inspirational perspective. And yeah, I definitely feel lost/stuck quite often. But definitely enjoying the process of figuring it out!
It has been a while since I've enjoyed a UA-cam video this much. I was so into it omg, and could relate so bad, especially that quote by Elizabeth Gilbert, simply astonishing and so well said. Great job, wish you luck!!
So glad it resonated with you Albina! Could I ask, more specifically, what about the video felt so engaging? I'm always looking to grow and get better, so any feedback you have on what worked (and even what didn't) would be greatly appreciated!
@@HaydenHumphrey It felt so enganging just by the fact that we are searching for that "thing" or passion that sets our souls on fire. I personally study abroad, and everyday I be pushin myself to get better and grow, get myself outside of the comfort zone, try new stuff, deal with different situations. For as long as you don't put urself out there, into the unknown and uncertainty you will never learn or grow. Even if you fail,make mistakes, it is totally fine, absolutely okay. I bet you've heard of the saying: "Those who never failed, never tried." So yeah, by trying and experimenting I firmly believe that everyone can achieve whatever they feel fulfilled about.✌
I'm grateful for the awareness one can gain about life, the world, and about each other. It all helps us grow and understand ourselves better as we all take our steps through life!
Things I've been learning lately: comparison is definitely not a safe place, people have different contexts and stories, and people don't care with our progress as much as we think they do... realizing those things has been giving me the opportunity to live a more balanced and peaceful life in my 20's! So I fully agree with ur tips! Thnks for this video! 🔥
I really like this. I'm going to do a series on the issues of hustle culture and over expectations. Let me know if you'd like to do an interview on those type of matters. My about page has the ways to contact me . Either way keep up the great videos
I really needed to see this today. I often feel lost, and I'm late 30s. Although I have success in some parts of my life, I feel behind in others. Not only is this in comparison to friends and family, but I feel the social pressure at my age to get a move on with certain things (like starting a family, having more wealth). It bothers the hell out of me because in my early 20s I had achieved what I wanted to growing up. You know when kids are asked what they want to be when they grow up, and it's usually something pretty crazy or near unattainable? Well, I did it. And even cut it short having ticked that box. I've struggled to keep the same sort of motivation with things since.. I know I can achieve almost anything I want...just not really sure WHAT I'm working towards day-to-day.
Thanks for sharing friend. Totally understand where you're at. And at the very least, you're aware of it! Which is always the first step. If you don't already, I'd highly suggest a journaling practice of some sort. Really helps to get your thoughts in one centralized place. Then you can start to see patterns, common behaviors, things that might be getting in your way, etc. Thanks for watching and sharing!
@@HaydenHumphrey Wow, thanks for the suggestion. I've never done that before, but definitely open to the idea. Where would I get started putting pen to paper? Do you have any resources for that by any chance? Thanks for helping out!
@@Ev-eq8zn Totally, actually made a video about it last year: ua-cam.com/video/fOfOxKSBrC0/v-deo.html Overall though I think the most important thing is just getting into the habit of writing something down about how you're feeling/thinking everyday. To me, lack of clarity or feeling lost comes from being out of touch with ourselves and our desires, and journaling is like having a conversation with yourself - it can help you reconnect with what you want most. Hope that's helpful! Keep me in the loop on how it's all going 👏🏻
@@HaydenHumphrey Aw thanks mate, I'll check that out now. This is definitely something I can incorporate into my "routine" as I look to make some changes. Subscribed too 👍
This is really interesting. I often thought people who have achieved amazing stuff in their early 20s, such as working a prestigous job, are well off forever. Your comment opened my eyes. Man, it sucks doesnt it, this feeling?
Just finished watching. I’m 24 years old , got my bachelors in exercise science. But still feel lost and don’t know what to do. Sometimes I feel I ain’t doing nothin with my life which sounds crazy. But after watching I feel a little better.
I'm grateful for the clarity I've been gaining lately in my craft, daily life and relationship with my parents. It's better now. I'm also grateful to have found this video which gave me this approach ( looking at the things that are going well rather than calling it gratitude journaling). It resonates more with me. Thank you very much 🤗.
I'm grateful that I found this video......last night was really heavy......bc I was constantly thinking about others achievements and was saying negative stuffs about me and my life to myself.......Thanks dude for this video and sending love and tight hugs......
And #3 is why I started my podcast Unstuck Yourself with Crystal Simmons because I wanted to be around people who would uplift me as I shared my struggles and others would do the same ❤
I needed this video! Thank you so much! I need to focus on what is going well and enjoy the process during times of struggle because I will figure it out and it will get better :)
Great content, great perspective. Gratitude practices have been scientifically proven to increase overall health and longevity - wish this was something we talked about more in our culture! Great stuff here, keep going!!
I really appreciate that Fuschia. I want to create the best quality content I can. Can I ask specifically what you enjoyed about this video vs. others?
@@HaydenHumphrey For one thing, you’re a very good and clear speaker, and you explain everything so eloquently, yet simply for everyone to understand. A lot of self-improvement content creators will make themselves sound like they’re above everyone else and have all the answers (at least those are the vibes I get) with their extra philosophical quotes, jargon, and such. You come across a lot more down to earth, as if you’re still on this journey, but you know what you’re talking about because you’ve taken the first steps. As someone who’s chronically ill and spends most of their time in bed, I also have a hard time finding videos that could be applied to people like me. I have an interest in this genre of content, just because I find life so fascinating, and I want to get the most out of it, even with a non-properly-functioning body. I’ve spent many, many hours in the past decade watching videos on motivation, inspiration, life coaching, time management, self improvement, etc., and this video was the first one in months I’ve come across that offers a fresh perspective on ideas I've come across in the past. I could go on and on because loved every point you made in this. I’ll save it for the future in case any of my friends seem like they could use your wise words. I’ll be checking out your other videos too. Wishing you the best of luck with your channel!
@@fuschiarose Fuschia thank you so much for taking the time to type this out and share it with me! Really helps me to better understand (and affirm in some cases) what folks are looking for, and what kind of style resonates with people. I love talking about how to live a better life, and the process of taking much larger, more complex ideas and breaking them up into more digestible bits and pieces, and that's what I hear from you is really working. Again, thank you for the feedback and kind words. Excited to have you in my community!
I've worked as a Data Scientist, and I'm happy that I realised that I hate that job in spite of being paid really well by going through so much pain and depression, and taking some decisions like quitting my proper MNC job while I was getting huge amounts of external validation!!
For some reason I always have to remind myself to enjoy the process of the struggle…I blame that m&m commercial when the therapist tell the lil candy men that “you feel stuck because you are stuck” (lol ik that’s childish but…you know) ….so I always end up forcing the process instead of relaxing
Thanks for sharing! I guess it's more of a turn of phrase - the idea that there's a core purpose for you in life; the thing that you are most lit up by and care most about. Once you find that thing, you won't need to continue searching - hence the figuring it out once.
I’m 24 and feeling a bit lost! I’m appreciative for my first son who was born at 28 weeks and I watched him fight for his life. My Dr. said he may not pull through but they will try everything to keep him alive. He is now 3 and you can’t even tell he was a preemie. My OB said that my next would most likely be born a preemie but he made it to 37 weeks and is a healthy 1 1/2 year old now. My most difficult time was deciding to leave my ex husband 3 years ago. Realizing it was the best year of my life I escaped the abuse after 6 years (I was 16 and he was 26.) After he moved back into his mom’s house it hit me no more abuse and I’m free. It’s been almost 3 years divorced (the best 3 years of my life!) Career wise I feel lost. I relied on dancing and adult content for money, I’m ready to be free from it. I want to feel like I’m more than just a body or empty shell.
Thanks so much for sharing. Sounds like you've had many challenging experiences, and I'm so glad to hear you're in an overall better spot! Totally understand the feeling stuck on career, I know I still find myself there sometimes. But I think you actively seeking answers and sharing is a huge piece of what's going to make the difference in the end. Keep going! You're doing great
@@HaydenHumphrey ahh thank you, I honestly didn’t expect a comment back. Thank you for your video it gave me a different perspective on life. Social media really has a habit of making someone feel behind in life. I’m trying to understand and cope with we all are on our own journey. Comparing myself to others isn’t living my own life, it’s trying to live in the shadow of someone else’s. Career wise I’m trying, I just don’t want to work a “traditional” job. I hate being underneath someone that controls how much free time I have with my children. But thank you so much for responding and have a good weekend! 😊
@@HandE06_22 Definitely! Well the cool part is there are *tons* of jobs with that kind of flexibility. It's cool too that you have that clarity around what's important to you in work (many people don't!). You have a great weekend too!
@@HaydenHumphrey I try, I spend a lot of time with myself. I’m on medication that helps my thoughts be quiet so it gives me more room to actually think and meditate about what I want. Thank you 😊
Comparison is a big part of advertising and mass media, which informs the way we function on the street and in the workplace . Watching commercials, action movies and Romance flicks with actors who are sexier, smarter, tougher and slicker than us teaches us to feel we are not enough from a very young age. This leads to depression, rage, a loss of willpower and it also leads to massive envy. To say nothing about what happens starting in kindergarten all the way up to senior graduation in highschool. We're taught in a consumer culture that buying tons of stuff, getting "good grades" (instead of learning useful craft & labor skills), flexing our status within the system and scoring perfect peer conformity is "success", instead of honoring contentment, family values and the passing down of strong legacies to our kids. Were trained to become narcissistic, mentally ill, passive, guilty and delusional, not realistic, determined, resilient and sane. I unplugged from Television for a while now and never use (and could never get why anyone in their right mind would use) most popular social media apps like Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. It helped me find so much peace of mind. I'd say try getting out to nature more and try getting back into reading, even if it's only for 30 minutes a day, to increase your attention span and your thinking capacity is helpful. Read books that you personally enjoy and that benefit you spiritually and even financially. Share your knowledge with others face to face, those who you actually trust. Most people don't care about humbly learning new things, they've been trained out of common sense, so don't cast your pearls before swine, as the saying goes. Once you realize the corporate culture you live in is in a psychological war against you, your family and your self worth so it can make money off of your brokenness, then you'll see that all you have to do is unplug from the message that your TV set, your peers and your parents say, which is: "You are not enough if you don't buy X, Y, & Z. You must marry at this age, earn these degrees & licenses, have a house in the suburbs with this square footage, have this type of car and have this income or you are a worthless and weak loser." True winners set the standards for their own success. It is between them and God. The true losers allow others to dictate how they think, walk, talk and act on a second to second basis. A society that sets its own people up for a quarter and mid life crisis isn't very sustainable, obviously. Were not evolved to live in oversized metropolises and run on miserable wage treadmills to please peer groups, middle managers and corporate CEOS, were born to be free, moral, self determining and self reliant people who can defend their rights, have their own land, cultivate that land and to raise tough families who will not be pushed around by big business and big government into living standard issue, mass produced lies that don't fit who they are.
Thank you so much for this absolutely insightful and helpful video! To summarize:
1) Keep things in perspective
2) Focus on the Good/Gratitude
3) Share struggles/feelings with others
4) Try to enjoy the journey
Glad it was so helpful Nicole! Thanks for the summary
Well this made me feel a bit better. It always felt like I was a failure and my life was over even though I'm 20 years old. So many of my peers have done so much and I've just been barely hanging on in school and work. Glad to know I'm not alone.
So glad it was supportive! The crazy thing about school is how much it can skew your perspective and have you think you're not very smart. I know SO many people who did not do very well in school who are now crushing it as entrepreneurs, musicians, artists, etc. I firmly believe that everyone is brilliant in some way shape or form, and the game just gets to be figuring out what that is!
You got this!
hey I’m currently 20 and feeling this same way how did you over come it. How are you doing overall?
@@HaydenHumphrey I wish people at 20 years old can say that they are still young and can still dream. You've got roughly 50-60 maybe even 70 years left of your life left on this planet and the clock is ticking. In your 20s you just have a lot of time. It's not over by any means. Sure, you're either in university or have just graduated, going to an either fulfulling or unfulfilling 9-5 job or whatever that time is for the next 30-40 years, retire at 60 or 65 and die. I'm 22 years old now and I think I am still young and I can still dream, yes it goes quick and I'll be 30 in a blink of an eye.
@@linzhao2235 I have the same hope! Crazy a lot of people do, even at 20, feel like their time is up/over.
My favorite line from this video is "appreciated times of struggle are far more valuable than rushed-through periods of success." I love the challenge of enjoying the process because it's a reminder to live in the present and absorb the human experience.
100% agree Julio! I find the more I lean into practicing presence and appreciate my current circumstances (regardless of what they look like), the happier and more fulfilled I feel.
Thanks for sharing!
I am so grateful for my current volunteer work as a coach for my local college club waterpolo team. I am so grateful for my little orange tabby cat. I am so grateful for roommates who are in the trenches with me as entrepreneurs also in their 20's.
This is beautiful. You are beautiful. Thank you.
Amazing things to be grateful for my friend :)
And appreciate the kind words!! Thanks for jumping in
Also, my favorite of the 4 - sharing the struggle with others. All 4 techniques share an embodiment of awareness, which is really important to me, but sharing awareness of struggle with others has been my most humbling and reviving of tactics. Again, thank you Hayden.
Thanks for the encouragement. I just turned 26, with no degree, no real savings and still crashing with my parents. I have the desire to go out and work hard, I just don’t know what for. Stuck is the perfect way to describe it.
You are welcome, and I feel you! Well at the very least, you're actively asking yourself the question, which is the most important part. When you're focused on finding an answer, the answer inevitably will come to you.
Stay positive!!!
I used to feel stuck by seeing everyone around me doing more, but I’ve told myself to stop comparing and that I’m on my own path. This is great content!
Love that @Jaden! When you focus on your own path, everything gets easier and more enjoyable :) thanks for sharing!
I’m grateful for access to the internet. Even the fact I get to watch this video is something I can be grateful for.
We now have the opportunity to self educate on a level that is honestly mind-boggling.
Totally Jacob, I agree! Pretty much anything you want to learn, you can learn.
Thanks for hopping in here and sharing!
I’m 25 right now and felt calmed by this video. I’m completely feeling behind in life and stuck. And looking at Instagram and the 30 under 30 lists makes me feel awful. Thanks for the advice and talking about something that I think most of us go through.
So glad it helped you feel better @Lena! Thanks for being here
I am grateful for this video! Made me feel so much better, I’m 23 and I’ve been feeling like an absolute failure, even though I have a job during this absolute unpredictable time. Thank you for putting this out. Means a lot❤️
I'm so glad it was supportive Aisha. Wishing you the absolute best!
@@HaydenHumphrey Hi Hayden, I hope you’re doing good, I was having a terrible, terrible day thinking about failing blah blah blah, I thought about this video and came back to this, made me feel better again. This is just a thank you. I usually dislike social media stuff, but it’s wonderful how a person in another continent can make you feel better when you have no one to talk about all of this. Thank you, hoping all your dreams come true
@@aisha1447 ! Wowow, thank you for sharing that. Makes me so happy to know this video continues to make a difference for you. And yes, social media isn't all bad 🤓
Appreciate you and hoping all your dreams come true too!!
this is great man i really appreciate this movie
Glad it was supportive my man!
One thing I'm wondering is why i got this video and other similar videos the time i was thinking about being lost, do phones read our minds or what???
The algorithm works in mysterious ways!!!
And glad you're here :)
Im almost able to figure out the idea that the most important thing in life is not about who was the most accomplished/who was the richest but it can be as simple as who enjoyed it the most..
I think life is not a "race" but an "adventure" so for now ill keep exploring life and try to enjoy discovering things along the way, good luck out there fellow travellers :)
Yes, love this. It's hard to remember when we're bombarded all day with messages about achievement and "doing more", but in reality, the sense of peace that you get from truly just focusing on the journey is the real prize.
Thanks for watching and sharing!
Connections and being in the right place at the right to couldn't be more true.
Dont compare yourself to other people your age because you have no idea what opportunities they've been given by pure chance.
I say this because I got really lucky with my job, I only heard about it because my brothers Uni friend told me about it.
Very true! A lot of luck is outside your control. All you can do is show up and be ready
Life is like a video game. You want the highest level and most expensive car the whole time, but as soon as you have played through it completely and archived everything it gets boring. For me a good life means to have the possibility to learn new things and to always have a goal in front of you to archive. 🤙🏼
Great content, keep it up! 😊
Love that Mat! I think that's so true. As soon as you have everything you want you get bored 😂 so why not enjoy the journey and keep learning!
Thanks for popping in and sharing
it’s all a game
Good comparsion
I feel really lost right now and really behind the people my age.
Thank you Hayden. That's really freeibg and helping seeing things more clearly/getting a better perspective.🤗😊👍
I definitely feel you! Glad the video was helpful and glad you’re here 👏🏻
First of your videos I’m seeing, thanks for the great advice! The way you speak makes it very easy to listen to
Ayyee thanks @Austin! Glad you’re here
I needed this. Great recommendation from UA-cam here. Well performed!
Glad it resonated my man!
Right place and the right time + connections - you’re so right about that!
@Ash 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Grateful to have had a dope conversation with you the other day and so much so you shared this video with me!
Brilliant truth of & for LIVING!!!
Just think 🤔 You can make THE ENERGY OF & FOR JOY THE BALANCED CORE EVERY DAY OF YOUR LIFE!!!
Thanks for the insight! It was really sensible unlike those overly positive/motivation cringe videos with dramatic background music.
Haha glad it resonated with you!
Wow…How do you not have more followers?? This content is amazing! Advice for people in their 20’s feeling stuck, social media comparisons, figuring life out, all of these things resonated with me so hard and the biggest part that resonated with me was the fact that the best part of my life hasn’t even happened yet. I think that’s something that helps me to keep going. Keep up the great work Hayden!! You just earned a loyal subscriber
I appreciate the kind words Marshall! And I’m so glad to hear that it resonated with you 🙏🏻
I’d love to hear to - what other kind of content do you usually watch? Are there any topics you particularly like hearing/learning about?
Bro Wtf? How can you keep making videos for so many years when you only have just a few views in most of them? I cant believe your tenacity. I really wanna know how can you keep doing it when you dont have results yet. Dont misunderstand me i dont mean something bad im just curious as to how you still can keep going? I'm amazed.
Haha no love the question my man! Two things:
1. I’m more committed to the end-goal (building a successful channel), than I am committed to “looking good” or stopping when it gets hard. Everything is possible, if you’re unwilling to stop.
2. I love the process! I just love making videos and being on camera, so the lack of views doesn’t upset me or bother me all that much.
What are you up to in the world my man? What do you want to create?
I am grateful for people who have supported me, when I didn't even feel worthy of support. Some of these people I know, some I have only conversed with online.
I'm 24 years old and struggling with finding the right path for me. Both my older and younger siblings have pursued college degrees and are carving out lives for themselves. Meanwhile I have some health issues that have held me back, and I'm still living with my parents with not much on the horizon. I don't even have a driver's permit/car yet. It's really discouraging to see people my age or younger who kind of have their futures mapped out, meanwhile I feel stuck and completely lacking direction. I can only hope that I will one day find SOMETHING that will at least be a stepping stone to a career and lifestyle that I can truly enjoy AND hopefully be proud of. I am insanely grateful for the people who have shared their own fears with me, and have told me that it's okay to be apprehensive about the future, while still looking forward to being independent. The people who have reminded me that I don't have to fit the mold in order to find a place where I fit in, have been extremely encouraging.
Love this Anna, thank you so much for sharing where you're at! I totally get how that can be confronting/discouraging to feel like others have it mapped out and you don't. What I would share with you is that 1) most people don't have it figured out as much as they seem like they do (we rarely share our real struggles with strangers out loud on the internet), and 2) things can change insanely quickly. I actually was super burned out the last few months of last year, and questioning whether Coaching and this work was something I wanted to continue to do. But that's all totally shifted in the last few weeks, and I feel invigorated, excited, and clear on where I'm going.
Again, thank you for sharing and keep us in the loop on how it's all progressing!
@@HaydenHumphrey I had a medication increased a few months back and my health issues have been more under control than they have been since I started having symptoms back in 2011. I just passed my driver's written test/got my learner's permit today! Feels surreal, I've been looking forward to this for a while (granted a lot of it was apprehension about driving) to the point where I questioned if I would EVER drive... Still quite a bit of anxiety, but with a touch of excitement. I also have had two house/pet-sitting jobs come up from people I know (one I did a few weeks ago...the other is coming up soon) which has given me the opportunity to earn some cash. I feel like my life is FINALLY starting to manifest, or I'm at least moving in the right direction for a change. Having something to look forward to has been GREAT for my mental health; true, the anxiety still kicks in, but I feel like my depression has improved and I'm feeling more positive.
You have a very calming energy ! I needed this , thank you !!
Appreciate that 🙏🏻🙏🏻 glad it was helpful!!
I’m 25 and unemployed because I needed a break my last job was making me lose it and I feel like everybody around me is rich and I’m a complete loser
Not making great content? Bro. You're there. This video is absolutely great man - very inspirational perspective.
And yeah, I definitely feel lost/stuck quite often. But definitely enjoying the process of figuring it out!
Haha appreciate that my man! Funny how perspective can skew things 😬
Appreciate you jumping in!
@@HaydenHumphrey For sure dude. I'm all about supporting my "new" friends on all the platforms! That's how we'll all finally "make it" - together!
It has been a while since I've enjoyed a UA-cam video this much. I was so into it omg, and could relate so bad, especially that quote by Elizabeth Gilbert, simply astonishing and so well said. Great job, wish you luck!!
So glad it resonated with you Albina!
Could I ask, more specifically, what about the video felt so engaging? I'm always looking to grow and get better, so any feedback you have on what worked (and even what didn't) would be greatly appreciated!
@@HaydenHumphrey It felt so enganging just by the fact that we are searching for that "thing" or passion that sets our souls on fire. I personally study abroad, and everyday I be pushin myself to get better and grow, get myself outside of the comfort zone, try new stuff, deal with different situations.
For as long as you don't put urself out there, into the unknown and uncertainty you will never learn or grow. Even if you fail,make mistakes, it is totally fine, absolutely okay. I bet you've heard of the saying: "Those who never failed, never tried."
So yeah, by trying and experimenting I firmly believe that everyone can achieve whatever they feel fulfilled about.✌
@@albinamehmeti8328 Love this! And you're so right, failing is actually a really important part of the game! Thanks for sharing
I'm grateful for the awareness one can gain about life, the world, and about each other. It all helps us grow and understand ourselves better as we all take our steps through life!
I just want a job that I don’t hate that pays well
You are really under-rated:))
Appreciate that 🙏🏻🙏🏻 !!
Thanks man. I was surprised how come there's only 500 subs.. there should be a hundred gran!
Thanks man! Working on that 😉
Things I've been learning lately: comparison is definitely not a safe place, people have different contexts and stories, and people don't care with our progress as much as we think they do... realizing those things has been giving me the opportunity to live a more balanced and peaceful life in my 20's! So I fully agree with ur tips! Thnks for this video! 🔥
That's great to hear! Thank you for sharing
I really like this. I'm going to do a series on the issues of hustle culture and over expectations. Let me know if you'd like to do an interview on those type of matters. My about page has the ways to contact me . Either way keep up the great videos
Just DM'd you!
I really needed to see this today. I often feel lost, and I'm late 30s. Although I have success in some parts of my life, I feel behind in others. Not only is this in comparison to friends and family, but I feel the social pressure at my age to get a move on with certain things (like starting a family, having more wealth). It bothers the hell out of me because in my early 20s I had achieved what I wanted to growing up. You know when kids are asked what they want to be when they grow up, and it's usually something pretty crazy or near unattainable? Well, I did it. And even cut it short having ticked that box. I've struggled to keep the same sort of motivation with things since.. I know I can achieve almost anything I want...just not really sure WHAT I'm working towards day-to-day.
Thanks for sharing friend. Totally understand where you're at. And at the very least, you're aware of it! Which is always the first step.
If you don't already, I'd highly suggest a journaling practice of some sort. Really helps to get your thoughts in one centralized place. Then you can start to see patterns, common behaviors, things that might be getting in your way, etc.
Thanks for watching and sharing!
@@HaydenHumphrey Wow, thanks for the suggestion. I've never done that before, but definitely open to the idea. Where would I get started putting pen to paper? Do you have any resources for that by any chance? Thanks for helping out!
@@Ev-eq8zn Totally, actually made a video about it last year: ua-cam.com/video/fOfOxKSBrC0/v-deo.html
Overall though I think the most important thing is just getting into the habit of writing something down about how you're feeling/thinking everyday. To me, lack of clarity or feeling lost comes from being out of touch with ourselves and our desires, and journaling is like having a conversation with yourself - it can help you reconnect with what you want most.
Hope that's helpful! Keep me in the loop on how it's all going 👏🏻
@@HaydenHumphrey Aw thanks mate, I'll check that out now. This is definitely something I can incorporate into my "routine" as I look to make some changes. Subscribed too 👍
This is really interesting. I often thought people who have achieved amazing stuff in their early 20s, such as working a prestigous job, are well off forever. Your comment opened my eyes. Man, it sucks doesnt it, this feeling?
Just finished watching. I’m 24 years old , got my bachelors in exercise science. But still feel lost and don’t know what to do. Sometimes I feel I ain’t doing nothin with my life which sounds crazy. But after watching I feel a little better.
I have total confidence you will figure it out my man. Glad the video helped!
I'm grateful for the clarity I've been gaining lately in my craft, daily life and relationship with my parents. It's better now. I'm also grateful to have found this video which gave me this approach ( looking at the things that are going well rather than calling it gratitude journaling). It resonates more with me. Thank you very much 🤗.
Love that Kamal! Thank you for sharing
I'm grateful that I found this video......last night was really heavy......bc I was constantly thinking about others achievements and was saying negative stuffs about me and my life to myself.......Thanks dude for this video and sending love and tight hugs......
So glad it was helpful! Thanks for commenting and sharing 💛
And #3 is why I started my podcast Unstuck Yourself with Crystal Simmons because I wanted to be around people who would uplift me as I shared my struggles and others would do the same ❤
Love it! Can't wait to listen
I needed this video! Thank you so much! I need to focus on what is going well and enjoy the process during times of struggle because I will figure it out and it will get better :)
Yes!! 100% it will 👏🏻 thanks for sharing
I am grateful that I am getting to see a great video on a great channel at the time of its inception.
Glad it resonated!
Great content, great perspective. Gratitude practices have been scientifically proven to increase overall health and longevity - wish this was something we talked about more in our culture!
Great stuff here, keep going!!
Appreciate that John! Thanks so much for hopping in and sharing, great to have you here
Man, I needed this video. Better said than others I’ve been watching on this subject. You did well, my friend.
I really appreciate that Fuschia. I want to create the best quality content I can.
Can I ask specifically what you enjoyed about this video vs. others?
@@HaydenHumphrey For one thing, you’re a very good and clear speaker, and you explain everything so eloquently, yet simply for everyone to understand. A lot of self-improvement content creators will make themselves sound like they’re above everyone else and have all the answers (at least those are the vibes I get) with their extra philosophical quotes, jargon, and such. You come across a lot more down to earth, as if you’re still on this journey, but you know what you’re talking about because you’ve taken the first steps.
As someone who’s chronically ill and spends most of their time in bed, I also have a hard time finding videos that could be applied to people like me. I have an interest in this genre of content, just because I find life so fascinating, and I want to get the most out of it, even with a non-properly-functioning body. I’ve spent many, many hours in the past decade watching videos on motivation, inspiration, life coaching, time management, self improvement, etc., and this video was the first one in months I’ve come across that offers a fresh perspective on ideas I've come across in the past.
I could go on and on because loved every point you made in this. I’ll save it for the future in case any of my friends seem like they could use your wise words. I’ll be checking out your other videos too. Wishing you the best of luck with your channel!
@@fuschiarose Fuschia thank you so much for taking the time to type this out and share it with me! Really helps me to better understand (and affirm in some cases) what folks are looking for, and what kind of style resonates with people.
I love talking about how to live a better life, and the process of taking much larger, more complex ideas and breaking them up into more digestible bits and pieces, and that's what I hear from you is really working.
Again, thank you for the feedback and kind words. Excited to have you in my community!
I'm constantly in this loop of thinking I have enough time & don't have enough time LOL thanks for the reminder that I've actually just started 😭
You're so welcome Jamil! Thanks for jumping in and sharing
@@HaydenHumphrey No problem, as a new a relatively new UA-camr THIS is something I'm always trying to remember
@@JamilJarvis keep after it man!
What an amazing video. Keep up the amazing work! This helped me so much and was one of the only videos that actually helped me 😀
Woohoo! Glad it was so supportive 🙌🏻 thanks for watching
Just found you and love your videos lol Time to binge 💕
Ayeee, appreciate the kind words! Happy you're here!
I've worked as a Data Scientist, and I'm happy that I realised that I hate that job in spite of being paid really well by going through so much pain and depression, and taking some decisions like quitting my proper MNC job while I was getting huge amounts of external validation!!
Congrats on making the change Ganesh! Hope you're in a better place 🤙🏻
@6:22 I am grateful for where I am today and all the ups and downs I've been through that led me here.
Love to hear it brother! Grateful for you jumping in here
You’re amazing I needed this
Yay! Glad it resonated!!
Hard to choose just one thing to be grateful for after watching this!
An abundance of gratitude! Love it Jess, thanks for sharing
That last point was really profound. Glad I heard that at the age of 22, could've easily gone another 10 or 20 years feeling bad without that in mind
I really appreciated the simplicity of the video, the editing and the content. Thank you for sharing :)
Thanks for the kind words! So glad you found it helpful 😁
Thank you♥️ This was a big hug.
Glad it resonated @Evin :) thanks for being here!
What's one thing you're grateful for right now?
Thank you for doing this video, it helped me a lot
Hey Andrew! I'm so glad to hear that it resonated with you! Cheers brother
Golden words
🙌🏻 appreciate you! Glad it resonated
Eventually you will figure it out-thanks
Thanks for popping in Lich
For some reason I always have to remind myself to enjoy the process of the struggle…I blame that m&m commercial when the therapist tell the lil candy men that “you feel stuck because you are stuck” (lol ik that’s childish but…you know) ….so I always end up forcing the process instead of relaxing
It’s a practice for sure!
I love you ❤
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Ah yes, getting to live 7 more years til 32 lol
HAHA thank you for this 😂
I keep my fingers crossed for you!
Right place at the right time for sure 💯
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I'm not in my 20s
Hope you still found it helpful!
Why are you only going to get to figure out your life purpose once? That doesn't make sense.
Thanks for sharing! I guess it's more of a turn of phrase - the idea that there's a core purpose for you in life; the thing that you are most lit up by and care most about. Once you find that thing, you won't need to continue searching - hence the figuring it out once.
I’m a cleaner which I don’t mind it, plus my family have always been doing low wage jobs and sometimes l need should do better..
You can be anything you want to be my man! Everything is possible if you're willing to put yourself out there for it
I worked so hard in my 20's for an employer who wrecked my health. Go take a break, kids, time to quit. Time to lie down.
No one cares about my struggles as a man
I’m sorry to hear that my man!
I’m 24 and feeling a bit lost!
I’m appreciative for my first son who was born at 28 weeks and I watched him fight for his life. My Dr. said he may not pull through but they will try everything to keep him alive. He is now 3 and you can’t even tell he was a preemie. My OB said that my next would most likely be born a preemie but he made it to 37 weeks and is a healthy 1 1/2 year old now. My most difficult time was deciding to leave my ex husband 3 years ago. Realizing it was the best year of my life I escaped the abuse after 6 years (I was 16 and he was 26.) After he moved back into his mom’s house it hit me no more abuse and I’m free. It’s been almost 3 years divorced (the best 3 years of my life!) Career wise I feel lost. I relied on dancing and adult content for money, I’m ready to be free from it. I want to feel like I’m more than just a body or empty shell.
Thanks so much for sharing. Sounds like you've had many challenging experiences, and I'm so glad to hear you're in an overall better spot!
Totally understand the feeling stuck on career, I know I still find myself there sometimes. But I think you actively seeking answers and sharing is a huge piece of what's going to make the difference in the end.
Keep going! You're doing great
@@HaydenHumphrey ahh thank you, I honestly didn’t expect a comment back. Thank you for your video it gave me a different perspective on life. Social media really has a habit of making someone feel behind in life. I’m trying to understand and cope with we all are on our own journey. Comparing myself to others isn’t living my own life, it’s trying to live in the shadow of someone else’s. Career wise I’m trying, I just don’t want to work a “traditional” job. I hate being underneath someone that controls how much free time I have with my children. But thank you so much for responding and have a good weekend! 😊
@@HandE06_22 Definitely! Well the cool part is there are *tons* of jobs with that kind of flexibility. It's cool too that you have that clarity around what's important to you in work (many people don't!).
You have a great weekend too!
@@HaydenHumphrey I try, I spend a lot of time with myself. I’m on medication that helps my thoughts be quiet so it gives me more room to actually think and meditate about what I want. Thank you 😊
Thanks friend, love you bro.
Love you too bro
My mentor
Grateful just to be breathing
Great thing to be grateful for!
Thanks for sharing Spencer
thanks for the video!
Thanks for watching and commenting!
Whoa! What a video!
Thanks for the kind words Zainab! Anything in particular that resonated with you?
Heyyy
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Comparison is a big part of advertising and mass media, which informs the way we function on the street and in the workplace . Watching commercials, action movies and Romance flicks with actors who are sexier, smarter, tougher and slicker than us teaches us to feel we are not enough from a very young age. This leads to depression, rage, a loss of willpower and it also leads to massive envy. To say nothing about what happens starting in kindergarten all the way up to senior graduation in highschool. We're taught in a consumer culture that buying tons of stuff, getting "good grades" (instead of learning useful craft & labor skills), flexing our status within the system and scoring perfect peer conformity is "success", instead of honoring contentment, family values and the passing down of strong legacies to our kids. Were trained to become narcissistic, mentally ill, passive, guilty and delusional, not realistic, determined, resilient and sane. I unplugged from Television for a while now and never use (and could never get why anyone in their right mind would use) most popular social media apps like Facebook, Instagram or Twitter. It helped me find so much peace of mind. I'd say try getting out to nature more and try getting back into reading, even if it's only for 30 minutes a day, to increase your attention span and your thinking capacity is helpful. Read books that you personally enjoy and that benefit you spiritually and even financially. Share your knowledge with others face to face, those who you actually trust. Most people don't care about humbly learning new things, they've been trained out of common sense, so don't cast your pearls before swine, as the saying goes. Once you realize the corporate culture you live in is in a psychological war against you, your family and your self worth so it can make money off of your brokenness, then you'll see that all you have to do is unplug from the message that your TV set, your peers and your parents say, which is: "You are not enough if you don't buy X, Y, & Z. You must marry at this age, earn these degrees & licenses, have a house in the suburbs with this square footage, have this type of car and have this income or you are a worthless and weak loser." True winners set the standards for their own success. It is between them and God. The true losers allow others to dictate how they think, walk, talk and act on a second to second basis. A society that sets its own people up for a quarter and mid life crisis isn't very sustainable, obviously. Were not evolved to live in oversized metropolises and run on miserable wage treadmills to please peer groups, middle managers and corporate CEOS, were born to be free, moral, self determining and self reliant people who can defend their rights, have their own land, cultivate that land and to raise tough families who will not be pushed around by big business and big government into living standard issue, mass produced lies that don't fit who they are.
I’m grateful for the blueberries I’m eating cuz they’re bomb
Haha love that Lindsey! Thanks for sharing