Why "moving on" attracts your ex narcissist back

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  • @directionfinderformen
    @directionfinderformen 5 місяців тому +107

    After 19 yrs of her infidelity? She finally pulled trigger and discarded me. I told her it was the best and only thing she had ever done for me. She helped me take out the trash in my life and throw it the landfill. She knows I'm doing damn good and hates it. Here's to my success without her. 🎉🎉

    • @ezdeezytube
      @ezdeezytube 5 місяців тому +16

      When the trash takes itself out, its the biggest blessing. Congrats!

    • @sonlightpsalm942
      @sonlightpsalm942 5 місяців тому +4

      It's a beautiful thing, brother! 😂❤😂

    • @MadeInTheStruggleProgram
      @MadeInTheStruggleProgram 5 місяців тому +10

      Thank god it was 19 years… I couldnt even survive 7 years… It taught me to love my self and there are 2 narcs per 1 empath… they come in flocks… I got closer to GOD after multiple Narcissistic abusive relationships…
      God really helps you to heal and to be even more blessed…

    • @assplundah
      @assplundah 5 місяців тому +5

      Great to hear mate! Yes, they absolutely hate it when thrive after enduring their psychological & emotional abuse. Love it!!👍👌💪💪

    • @angelakeely5859
      @angelakeely5859 5 місяців тому +3

      Well done on your new found Freedom,I wish you all the best and a *Blessed Life* ❤

  • @Z1nny
    @Z1nny 5 місяців тому +82

    Narcs are toddlers in adult bodies. There is nothing to be gained by being in a relationship with them.
    The only way to win with them is by not playing ⛔️

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 4 місяці тому

      True and accurate.

    • @QueenBee-fg1iz
      @QueenBee-fg1iz 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes. I’ve been no contact almost 3 years since I caught him cheating. That relationship blew up I heard and he’s cycling through his adult kids moms now.

    • @Ms_NewOrleans
      @Ms_NewOrleans 4 місяці тому

      Totally agree 👍🏾💯 Nola9Ward ⚜️💃🏽

  • @MrBogeyman00
    @MrBogeyman00 5 місяців тому +92

    I remember my ex saying at one time in her cocky & arrogant way,"I have enough confidence in myself that I can get you back anytime I want."
    Over 3 years later on my own....I don't think so...

    • @racebannon96
      @racebannon96 5 місяців тому +6

      Great. Good to hear that you have moved on.

    • @sonlightpsalm942
      @sonlightpsalm942 5 місяців тому +4

      Loven it! 😂❤😂 Lesson learned!

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 5 місяців тому +36

    Open the door, slide into the car, turn the key, put it in drive, burn rubber, and ride off into the sunset. Peace and prosperity await you at the horizon. Drive safe and rip the rear view mirror off the window. Breathe, just breathe! It’s all in God’s hands now.
    Thanks Joe!

  • @monarene44
    @monarene44 5 місяців тому +27

    Just being on their radar enables their addiction to themselves and their agenda. Fly far away.

  • @kiddytube3915
    @kiddytube3915 5 місяців тому +18

    The narcissist isn’t always the smartest person in the room.
    Sometimes, they leave you because their over inflated ego, that was pumped up by using you overplay their hands.
    And sometimes, you just being a good natured person, forever giving and kind, you give from a place of love and share yourself with whoever steps into your life.
    They sometimes don’t recognise that this is your greatest strength of all.

  • @deb2319
    @deb2319 5 місяців тому +36

    A real narc is the most immature meanest child and its nothing but drama and punishments.
    Not Worth It. They just love the control game that's all that matters to them in my opinion.
    Be Well. Thanks Joe for this talk. Have a great day!

  • @SheldonBrown567
    @SheldonBrown567 5 місяців тому +25

    Great analogy of the old classic car in garage gathering dust. Ignoring it until they lose access to it. 👍

  • @OhSoLovely
    @OhSoLovely 5 місяців тому +21

    I waited for 3 years for That Narc Nimrod to leave me.. but he would not.. i walked way...never to return! I am now thriving and glowing up! He text me that if it takes him 100 yrs to get me back he will do it. I never return a response. Its 2 yr of no contact. AND I LOVE IT! ❤❤

    • @ceyciemateo9411
      @ceyciemateo9411 5 місяців тому +3

      Then why u watching these videos still? Just asking curious way not in a condescending way I’m going thru the same and I don’t want him back but i keto ruminating

    • @OhSoLovely
      @OhSoLovely 5 місяців тому +3

      @ceyciemateo9411 I watch to further my education and studies! I'm attending a university becoming a psychologist, and these videos assist with my reports and instances! Demographics and more! I hope you are thriving and glowing as well. BE BLESSED!

  • @GimDandy6696
    @GimDandy6696 5 місяців тому +17

    7 months after the mask dropped & reverse discard and I'm still struggling because I can't go no contact. From best friend and love of my life to total stranger overnight - its like living with a ghost. Surreal and constantly disturbing.

    • @sonlightpsalm942
      @sonlightpsalm942 5 місяців тому +1

      My son has to do the same with his ex-wife, as they share the children. You've got a lot of strength to endure that. Soldier on brother! 😊

  • @mynewlife1911
    @mynewlife1911 5 місяців тому +7

    Some narcs circle back to you 20 plus years later. Narcs are gross. Please don’t define your worth by those creeps. You’re way better than that crap👌🏻

  • @sonlightpsalm942
    @sonlightpsalm942 5 місяців тому +10

    The problem is that as Christians, we've learned to "follow the rules" of loving others as ourselves.
    In general, I would agree with this principle, but when we don't love ourselves unconditionally, we fail to establish the proper boundaries, and they (the narcissist) play against our emotions, so we continue to give, give. give, to them out of pure goodness of our hearts. In doing so, essentially what's theirs is theirs, and what's yours, is theirs too!!! 😂 It's only when we wake up to the fact that they're abusive and don't care about our feelings, or what's best for us, in an equal exchange, it's only then that we can start the healing process. Understanding that there are evil people that can and do take advantage of us, or shall I say our kind (the empath)? Yes, Lil Suzzie, Santa 🎅 does exist in the hearts of little children all over the world ♥️, but teach them that Satan 😈 also dwells in the hearts, and minds ❤ of some little children that never grow up but learn to be selfish and destructive covert narcissists that rob, steal, and kill others, as well as hurt themselves. 😊❤😊
    One caveat. Yes the empath as well as the narcissist were both abused. It was all in how we were able to process the abuse.
    Remember, there's just one person on this plannet that you can change. I'll give you a hint. It isn't the other person! 😊

  • @smartsurvival2605
    @smartsurvival2605 5 місяців тому +14

    Hi, Joe. We were together 3.5 years. I was sick for three months, but I got better....and I did walk away. The new supply was another narc and dumped him. He does want me back......um, no. The car got a promotion at work and moved on with her life.

  • @angelakeely5859
    @angelakeely5859 5 місяців тому +4

    They like to believe your their *Property* and an *Extension* of them, and think they can come back after trying to break you, 😏🚩🏃‍♀️

  • @kerimorgan6665
    @kerimorgan6665 5 місяців тому +8

    A child with a toy who has yet to learn that toy is not a separate thing apart from their physical body. The problem is that there are real hearts, feelings and emotions involved. A child who has not progressed beyond a certain developmental stage.

  • @latchkeykid5529
    @latchkeykid5529 5 місяців тому +10

    You really do have the best Analogy’s and Metaphors when it comes to Narcissism Joe. This old Car is gone, gone, gone.

  • @Theinsomniac826
    @Theinsomniac826 5 місяців тому +15

    I dumped my ex in 1998 because he got the neighbor pregnant. Last Christmas he showed up unannounced with presents. I didn't open the door. I watched him on my Ring camera. He was on my porch looking all around especially on the side of my house.

  • @TheVaultwest
    @TheVaultwest 5 місяців тому +7

    I’m a dusty run down old car 😂
    He was so disdainful and full of disgust for me at the end, he’d helped to create a me that he no longer wanted. That’s the insanity of the relationship with a narcissist. I’m pretty sure he’ll never regret the end. It’s been painful as hell, but better for me that he’s moved on.

  • @risinggoddess559
    @risinggoddess559 5 місяців тому +3

    3 YEARS NARC FREE AND LOVING IT. DOING BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM. HEALED, WHOLED AND MOVED ON, NEVER IN LIFE LOOKING BACK AT THOSE THINGS AGAIN. GOD HAS BEEN BLESSING ME EVERY SINCE.😅

  • @user-ts5qw6tr9b
    @user-ts5qw6tr9b 5 місяців тому +11

    Not me I told her who she was and it wasn't pretty. I wouldn't get back with her on any level even if she did.

  • @EMGEE718
    @EMGEE718 5 місяців тому +15

    My man Joe B! Thank you for the content.

  • @bellod.p
    @bellod.p 5 місяців тому +3

    Prey for me , my narcissistic is also the mother of my children that I had a 7 year relationship with
    We’ve been broke up for months now but since we have kids it’s hard to do no contact
    I’m learning how to control my emotions and stay away from her unless it’s about the kids
    I tried moving on and she definitely came through like a reckon ball once she saw me happy
    Surviving a narcissist that you once loved with all your heart is traumatizing but I’m getting better
    Prey for me and my journey
    I’m currently looking for work !

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 5 місяців тому +6

    Good morning ! 🌞Here is our favorite podcaster. 😊 Lets have a cup of joe ☕☕with Joe and enjoy his new and always magical video ! We were with narcs till we finally woke up and saw who the hell we dealing with. From this point we will find our way out of this narcissistic cobweb, it takes time , but we will ! Thank you Joe ! 🤗❤

    • @joebhouse
      @joebhouse  5 місяців тому +1

      Thank you L ❤️ 😊

  • @Skank_and_Gutterboy
    @Skank_and_Gutterboy 5 місяців тому +5

    "Why "moving on" attracts your ex narcissist back". Simple, they're not done dominating your life and poisoning everything yet.

  • @user-dh4lp2hh5b
    @user-dh4lp2hh5b 5 місяців тому +3

    After going no contact and ghosting her for 28 years there is no coming back ever...

  • @manbearpig7950
    @manbearpig7950 5 місяців тому +5

    And how would they react when they see their old car restored and someone else driving it past their house

  • @louiseelliott6404
    @louiseelliott6404 4 місяці тому +1

    I was his puppet/slave/doormat. Spent almost 12 months grieving but now I’m ready to focus on me. If you’re grade A supply which I know I was then it is ultimately their loss. Now I’m doing me. Can’t wait to get to the point of indifference but I know you can’t rush healing. I just know it will happen organically and naturally over time. He’s lost out on me but I lost my finances and that’s been the hardest part for me. Accepting he stole my money by borrowing it under false pretences. My bad but lessons learnt which the narcissist taught me. Rest assured I’ve learnt from those lessons!

  • @idrawpeopleandanimals7252
    @idrawpeopleandanimals7252 4 місяці тому +1

    The car analogy is PERFECT! 💯 🚗 💔

  • @CL-ro9te
    @CL-ro9te 5 місяців тому +6

    This is just brilliant Joe. Thank you❤

  • @rbizzle18
    @rbizzle18 4 місяці тому +4

    a natcissists life is very similar to the move 'toy story'.
    the narcissist would be Andy, and you can probably imagine how FREAKED OUT he would be if he ever saw the toys moving.
    and the toys are able to move around freely and have their own incredible lives ... when the narcissist isn't around.

  • @user-ib6dg3bu5e
    @user-ib6dg3bu5e 5 місяців тому +2

    Bumped the narc bought the car , touch the Highway!! Try to catch me,, never happen in my life time !!

  • @cowboynohorse
    @cowboynohorse 4 місяці тому +1

    Joe B. Your videos are amazing. Thank you.

  • @hiranokaze8442
    @hiranokaze8442 5 місяців тому +3

    Thank you Joe !!! You are the best 🫶😊

  • @gangGreenthumb
    @gangGreenthumb 4 місяці тому +3

    Narcissist-Ex, not Ex-Narcissist. My Ex is still a narcissist.

  • @MIDNIGHTSUNALASKA
    @MIDNIGHTSUNALASKA Місяць тому

    Excellent content Joe.

  • @WillyNillyBaptistBilly
    @WillyNillyBaptistBilly 5 місяців тому +4

    I love your videos Joe Thank You so much!!

  • @prunelle9051
    @prunelle9051 16 днів тому

    ''' You will want it until you get it'' Ugh ? LOL , what a turn off. 4 years later, complete no contact, complete indifference and unbothered. He met an educated empath, the absolute karma for a narcissist, as each dismissed encounters create a domino effect on all his supply, the mask falling off to others. Narc grenade walking.

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 29 днів тому

    That’s by the way where his heirom garage lies n I never understood what the heck he kept asking if I had a heirom

  • @anneyoung2310
    @anneyoung2310 5 місяців тому +1

    Not a chance. Did I sign?