Unemployed 35-Year-Old: ‘I Don’t Know How To Fix A Lot Of Things That I Believe Are Broken Inside…

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  • A man who says his mind “overpowers” him reaches out to Dr. Phil for help.
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  • @ililililil8385
    @ililililil8385 3 роки тому +798

    I feel like there should be more focus on the fact that this dude is miserable, and less focus on his unemployment.

    • @fibonaccisequins4637
      @fibonaccisequins4637 3 роки тому +7

      😉

    • @montypytho5636
      @montypytho5636 3 роки тому +142

      No one cares about that. People assume everyone's a lazy bum if you're unemployed.

    • @fibonaccisequins4637
      @fibonaccisequins4637 3 роки тому +53

      @@montypytho5636 yeah its really sad. I couldn't work in the past because of my mental health and I hated it because I wanted to work so badly. like I think most people would prefer to keep busy.

    • @leeloo255
      @leeloo255 3 роки тому +10

      @@fibonaccisequins4637 if you (as in anyone who acts like this) aren't getting any help for your issues, then honestly it's not an excuse for being non-functional, especially with mental health.
      If you are getting the help you need (therapy and actually TRYING to get better) then it becomes a bigger justifiable factor.
      People like this guy don't get help for their issues and just expect others to cave and baby them; that's laziness.
      He's also just making a bunch of petty and "first world problem"-like excuses instead of taking responsibility for his childish behaviour.

    • @fibonaccisequins4637
      @fibonaccisequins4637 3 роки тому +49

      @@leeloo255 what show were you watching? He literally said “yeah I need help what should I do?” and phil says “GET A JOB!!” Lmao like…he needs…help? Mental health is never an excuse for your actions but it can be an explanation. If the man is bipolar and/or has adhd that’s never been addressed, yeah it’s going to be hard for him to get a job.
      That’s why he came on the show. Not sure how shaming and humiliating him is going to help, which is why this show is trash.

  • @moonpleiades99
    @moonpleiades99 8 місяців тому +199

    This world is not easy for creative people. It's also not easy for people dealing with depression and trauma. I can relate to this guy.

    • @FireFoxGaming56
      @FireFoxGaming56 Місяць тому +1

      😔💯

    • @ohmannotnow272
      @ohmannotnow272 Місяць тому +2

      Dude. Same here. I hate to say this but i relate to this guy so much. Damn.

    • @michaelloranger3681
      @michaelloranger3681 Місяць тому

      You can relate to this no-talent tird that leaches of his parents.

    • @michaelloranger3681
      @michaelloranger3681 Місяць тому +1

      He got a chance to show his talents on national TV and did nothing.

  • @GhostRider-hy9zt
    @GhostRider-hy9zt 3 роки тому +639

    He’s much more normal and relatable than I originally thought

  • @killy374
    @killy374 2 роки тому +312

    I don't blame him. I have intense depression and I did nothing in the last 4 years because of it and I am 24.

    • @minakoa7178
      @minakoa7178 2 роки тому +21

      I’m sorry you’re going through that. My deepest and sincerest sympathies are with you, seriously. I’m not going to say I know exactly how you feel but I have suffered a severe depressive episode myself. People underestimate the seriousness of depression and other mental disorders. It’s a disease just like any other disease. It can be disabling. Please seek help from a therapist and/or psychiatrist, if you can. Therapy and medication changed my life.

    • @iamURHO
      @iamURHO Рік тому +8

      5, 25

    • @hineraable
      @hineraable Рік тому +4

      Same, have been like this since i was 14, I'm 22 now.

    • @ihavetheworldssmallestdick4568
      @ihavetheworldssmallestdick4568 Рік тому

      Lazy

    • @Rosie33Sophia
      @Rosie33Sophia Рік тому +15

      @@ihavetheworldssmallestdick4568 I don’t understand how anyone can view that as lazy . If someone is struggling with depression, they’re going through something very horrible . Why would anyone choose this ? Lazy means you have a choice but these people are genuinely going through it .

  • @jeffybooo6829
    @jeffybooo6829 2 роки тому +157

    There's a little boy deep inside of him that got trapped & never got to grow up, but he still did!

  • @noway6133
    @noway6133 2 роки тому +387

    Dr phil is the kind of guy that would argue with a blind person. "Im right infront of you, just look at me!"

  • @martincurran4985
    @martincurran4985 3 роки тому +308

    Probably the first time Dr Phil has ever had a guest on who wasn't deluded about their creative abilities, but was actually talented and just genuinely struggling to overcome their anxiety and depression.
    He seems like a nice guy and I really hope he's able to pull through because, from what I can see, he doesn't have a bad attitude and he isn't defensive, he's just a bit lost. Speaking as someone who has struggled with similar depression and anxiety and has had those days and weeks where getting out of bed and finding work was a struggle because you couldn't face the failure you feel that you are (it's not always as simple as "he's being lazy" which a lot of people seem to believe, sometimes this can be a sign of something else and should be taken seriously), I completely understand what he's saying.

    • @AnwesaChaudhury
      @AnwesaChaudhury 2 роки тому +3

      Well he's so much better than the 68 year old mooch

    • @triple_x_r_tard
      @triple_x_r_tard 2 роки тому +4

      it what manner is he remotely talented? again: produced nothing. this is why he has no job. a creative individual with talent produces works and acquires money to fund it. if he isn't willing to make the base agreement that he is on level with all humans, that he does not deserve to be the leader without application, he deserves nothing.

    • @martincurran4985
      @martincurran4985 2 роки тому +3

      @@triple_x_r_tard I couldn't agree more. He needs to motivate himself and go out and work. I'm of the belief that an art (say music or design or dancing) is only a hobby until you can use it to actually earn a living. In the meantime, YOU MUST WORK. You have to go out and try and get a job and earn a living because that passion isn't going to suddenly pay the bills.
      I will admit, his depression aside, I'm disappointed that he seems to almost look down on the 'average joe' job as something beneath him. It's not beneath him. No one starting at the bottom is beneath any kind of paying employment. You have to suck it up and work your way up. If nothing else, it teaches you a lot about how to deal with people and what is expected from someone who wants to call themselves a professional.
      I know a lot of people who call themselves "actors" or "musicians" or "artists" but all they do is collect welfare cheques and spend their days avoiding getting jobs on the excuse that their calling is in the arts. I really hate when people use art as the excuse for their laziness like that.

    • @josephbletsas6314
      @josephbletsas6314 Рік тому

      @@AnwesaChaudhury almost 72 years old now

    • @virtuoussoulhealer3644
      @virtuoussoulhealer3644 Рік тому +1

      Completely obey God, then find a good therapist and stick with them. Don’t put everyone else through this nonsense 🙄. We all have anxiety and depression but we don't make it anyone else's problem.

  • @kylemonkiewicz2803
    @kylemonkiewicz2803 8 місяців тому +37

    25 with a degree in electronics and i still can't get a job and it makes me angry because i tried so hard just to be treated as a disposable

    • @RMike-xq1cm
      @RMike-xq1cm 2 місяці тому

      Mate,I am in a similar position 27 with a degree in Systems Engineering
      Competing daily with hundreds of people to get that one job .. Hang in there :(

    • @comforth3898
      @comforth3898 2 місяці тому

      Am also 25. Degree in electronic engineering. 5 months. A bunch of applications. No interviews. I'm gonna start applying for teaching roles and other jobs not related to my degree.

  • @KonicaHexanon
    @KonicaHexanon Рік тому +59

    Ten years ago I had a dream IT job, worked for 6 years straight, burned out epically, alcohol, to "cure" the stress, things got worse, extreme anxiety and apathy came into my life despite I had it all, money, respect. Health declined rapidly.
    I left my dream job, here I am, unemployed for 10 years, in constant search for the ultimate internal body and soul cure, I tried many things, drawing, woodworking, sport helped me a lot, I got into swimming and calisthenics, trying to eat healthy, and I maybe had 2 beers in the last 5 years.
    But there is this black hole of emptiness and unfulfilled ambitions, there are days I feel worthless and miserable, but I keep moving, maybe one day I will find my purpose and place.
    God bless you all, be strong, enjoy life, it's very short and is temporary.

    • @meme-vb7yi
      @meme-vb7yi 8 місяців тому +4

      Alignment. Do this and you'll feel much better forever. To get in alignment means to get healthy spiritually, mentally, and physically in that order because before anything happens physically it must first happen spiritually. It takes 10,000 hours to master something which is about 3 years of life. The amount of time Jesus trained his disciples. After 3 years of working on yourself, everything will be awesome. A future job for example will actually align with who you are.

    • @ksajamx
      @ksajamx 3 місяці тому +1

      This is what depression causes, and by the time it keeps getting worse, I lived that for so many years, I hope you already got help, if not that you can get soon!

    • @stewart2517
      @stewart2517 2 місяці тому

      @@ksajamxYeah I’ve lost lot due to depression. Now am on antidepressants for life. Just hurts to think of the opportunities I’ve lost and romantic relationships and one potential relationship that one hurts the most and it’s been years. Now am trying to move on quite my toxic job wasn’t for me I want a new career. Just hoping I find something I enjoy as I don’t have anything else going so. If I have to retrain or get qualifications I will.

    • @user-rb3tc3gr5e
      @user-rb3tc3gr5e 19 днів тому

      @KonicaHexanon
      “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
      Matthew 11:28-30
      Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life.“
      John 14:6

    • @user-rb3tc3gr5e
      @user-rb3tc3gr5e 19 днів тому

      ​@@stewart2517 By taking antidepressants or any drugs that affect the state of the psyche, a person is under the influence of a demon called Farmakia and he is found in all drugs, whether street drugs or in medicines.
      You don't need antidepressants, you need Jesus. Satan wants to bind you in chains and Jesus wants to set you free.
      Jesus is the only one who can heal you. He is the best medicine and the best doctor there is. Jesus is the solution.
      Btw, I was also depressed and Jesus healed me and saved me.

  • @kylemonkiewicz2803
    @kylemonkiewicz2803 2 роки тому +82

    Dr Phil offered no advice just belittled him

  • @deadpres9534
    @deadpres9534 7 місяців тому +32

    This dude's parents are part of the reason he is like this for sure. He seems cool... And it seems like he didn't have anyone to show him anything, people can talk all they want, but we need others to show us stuff, because life is scary. He seems scared, and yeah, i can relate to anyone who is scared.

  • @the100radsstalker93
    @the100radsstalker93 2 роки тому +77

    He turned out to be more relatable than i thought.

  • @letsmakeittothetop
    @letsmakeittothetop 3 роки тому +279

    I kind of understand what he is going through...

    • @4ngellvc874
      @4ngellvc874 3 роки тому +16

      Adult adhd?

    • @COrraThereal0ne
      @COrraThereal0ne 3 роки тому +1

      @@4ngellvc874 Same

    • @cassidycasimirisme
      @cassidycasimirisme 3 роки тому +10

      @@4ngellvc874 seems like manic depression

    • @fibonaccisequins4637
      @fibonaccisequins4637 3 роки тому +7

      @@4ngellvc874 he seems bipolar but adhd can cause similar issues.

    • @nunyabiznes3901
      @nunyabiznes3901 3 роки тому +18

      He really seems bipolar. How can Dr Phil not recognize it? No child wants to live with their parent at 35. I’ve watched so many of these and every time he just accuses them of being lazy rather than dealing with the fact they have glaring mental health issues. So obnoxious!

  • @Da1Dez
    @Da1Dez 2 роки тому +157

    I feel I'm becoming this guy more with each passing year not giving me the ideal opportunity in life despite my endless perseverance.

  • @PCLHH
    @PCLHH 2 роки тому +221

    This guy might have Bipolar or ADHD. I don't feel he deserves the hate. And Dr. Phil can't help him.

    • @user-kk6ov4pd2s
      @user-kk6ov4pd2s 2 роки тому +10

      yeah or aspergers
      God help us Moms

    • @robdabanks
      @robdabanks Рік тому +5

      ADHD came to mind with his sleep pattern and "I'm lost in my mind." Very relatable. Same with that depression.

    • @redhat4363
      @redhat4363 Рік тому +2

      Dr Phil is virtue signaling way too much in this episode cuz he is too scared of the idiotic audience.

    • @kameryn2918
      @kameryn2918 Рік тому +2

      Does being bipolar or having ADHD mean you should be allowed to walk into spaces and demand jobs that require high levels of experience when you have no experience?

    • @dilionbananto
      @dilionbananto Рік тому

      @@kameryn2918 Movies suck any can direct.

  • @MrEarnbud
    @MrEarnbud 2 роки тому +105

    I swear I am this guy to a point. I'm 35, gonna be 36 soon. I'm also creative love of film, but hard to do that, when I need to focus on a day job. But then every job I get I know I'm just wasting my time and life. If the me as a kid knew how I turned out, he would be disappointed.

  • @Sebastian-nn2ou
    @Sebastian-nn2ou Рік тому +34

    My daughter could burn down the house and I’d still love her.
    The type of parent that could get to the point they say “I don’t love you” is probably the parenting that created an immature, manic depressed 35 yo

  • @caseykdeleon2097
    @caseykdeleon2097 2 роки тому +77

    Relatable 🙁
    Some people sometimes don't understand the feeling of extremely lost in track. The feeling of disappointment everyday because of pressure not getting a job(jobless). People often ask, " what you do for living ... Why didn't you have a job", those people asking these frequent question don't understand what it feels like to be in this situation. I understand him because It's relatable to me, i dont have a job, everyday disappointments. The anxiety. The depression. People think that it's an just a "depression" anxiety" but it's not! It is a serious Condition. And.. you can't just say oh "it's okay" it doesn't have to be like .. it doesn't always have to be cheerful you cheer them because they are sad or something. Sometimes, He need, I need, we need someone to ignite that lost flame inside our souls. Some people always says it is lazyness, we're in denial. We're making EXCUSES. Some people don't understand it is not excuses. You cannot just say "fix yourself!" .
    I hope someday we overcome this problem. I hope i overcome it.
    You don't have to understand what i am sayin.😐 don't reply something not helpful thank you.

    • @joelerastetaha7269
      @joelerastetaha7269 Рік тому +4

      I share your feelings, believe me…for the first time in my life my self worth and ego are at the lowest and that’s something new I got to deal with !!!
      I just try to cast my fears and trust in the providence of the universe…

    • @Zerin666
      @Zerin666 Рік тому +4

      I understand what you are saying because I am in your situation 😢😢

    • @thestraycat69
      @thestraycat69 Рік тому +1

      I feel the same pain, though I'm fighting the best I can, I'm trying to get myself together. My health needs to come together, my mind is starting to get it. I really need to get my act together both mentally and physically. Just push deep down and get it done. I'm being real, the only way we are going to do something is by doing it. I need to pull myself out of my depression and get stuff done. Get this degree, get my health back. Stop being a dreg, and fight damn it fight.

    • @ceooflonelinessinc.267
      @ceooflonelinessinc.267 Рік тому +3

      And the worst thing is, people judge you always because of this.

    • @newworldlord643
      @newworldlord643 4 місяці тому

      Can relate and am ALWAYS trying to FIX myself ot seems.😢😢 wishing you the best truly

  • @adasanti7312
    @adasanti7312 8 місяців тому +17

    Out of touch people who don’t understand unemployment.

  • @valaquenta220
    @valaquenta220 Рік тому +70

    Story time: I've been through something similar after getting a master's degree, I couldn't work for several years because of that. I got a proper start / a proper job when I was 33 (I faked all the aforementioned years where I did nothing thanks to a friend who's got his own business and made me a work certifcate and references, basically untraceable where I live, in Europe. Not exactly proud of it, but it was the only way to get recruited), and 10 years later I have my own business, I employ people, and I'm doing really well. I guess the experience made me way less judgemental than many out there, I feel like I turned that pain into kindness. There's always something positive to learn from painful experiences.
    Don't give up, cheat a little when you need to (don't lie about your degrees, it's a very bad idea), and at some point in the long-term no one will give a damn if you do the job properly.

    • @hineraable
      @hineraable Рік тому +21

      I don't blame you for faking your references, this day, companies be wanting you to be 25, have a masters degree, and 10+years of experience. You did what you had to to survive.

    • @valaquenta220
      @valaquenta220 Рік тому +8

      @@hineraable thank you for the comment

  • @stratocaster1986able
    @stratocaster1986able 9 місяців тому +21

    There is a cut off point of which you have been unemployed for so long that you can NEVER get a job, because as soon as an employer sees that CV with huge gaps in it they thinks its a red flag. Then you lose your sense of purpose altogether. You are basically discarded by society entirely.

    • @2009jadeorchid
      @2009jadeorchid 8 місяців тому +1

      that happened to my cousin she wanted a job a 21 year old could get at a clothing store the retail store took the 19 year old over her because of her age that did it and my cousin has not tried again for 14 years they looked at her application and said '' sorry position filled '' they also will take empty nest older moms over those of middle age that never had kids really sad past performance is more important than present determination all the employers view her as a liability she wants to learn but lacks college and experience my friend with physical problems got a job but my cousin's depression is seen as suspect

    • @arenuzzle6282
      @arenuzzle6282 Місяць тому +2

      ​@@2009jadeorchid what a bunch of excuses keep looking because you got turned down one job does not give the right to claim and not look for work

  • @Anouk95NL
    @Anouk95NL 9 місяців тому +20

    I have been unemployed for 5 months, I've never been happier. My mental health was at an all time low and I just coulnd't do it anymore. I'm going to start my new job tomorrow because society and the government made me feel pressured into getting a job. We will see how it goes.. I will put my mental health above everything, and if it doesn't work out, I'm out asap.

    • @MrAlio101
      @MrAlio101 8 місяців тому +1

      🤡🤡🤡🤡

    • @EmanuelGene
      @EmanuelGene 6 місяців тому +2

      how are things now

    • @seanlincoln7923
      @seanlincoln7923 Місяць тому

      You were doing the wrong job, then. Yes, you need to do things you don't want to do, it's part of being an adult and taking care of yourself but if you hate your job that much then you should be taking the time to find out what your passionate about or at least finding a job that you are more suited for, and if that's nothing then that still doesn't mean you're owed a living, that's just saying other people should work to keep me alive for free. If you have some kind of disability (including mental disabilities) that's different and there are plenty of programs to help you.

  • @lolarene210
    @lolarene210 3 роки тому +101

    He sounds bi polar. These highs and lows are so extreme. If he gets on meds and therapy he can focus on what he truly wants instead of these racing thoughts.

    • @blueguineapigz
      @blueguineapigz 3 роки тому +4

      That’s not bipolar girlfriend. Pls learn definitions before you throw them around on the internet. Bipolar highs and lows don’t happen in the span of 5 seconds

    • @audhdcreativity5899
      @audhdcreativity5899 3 роки тому +12

      To me, he sounds like he may have some neurodiversity going on- I relate so much to what he said and where he is in his life- I was diagnosed at 42 and lived for years being autistic and having ADHD thinking I was stupid, lazy, selfish, etc, but I am getting my life together now that I have specific support and understand myself.

    • @CayeDaws
      @CayeDaws 3 роки тому +10

      @@blueguineapigz and Brandon says that the highs and lows can last for days

    • @EggEnjoyer
      @EggEnjoyer 3 роки тому +9

      @@blueguineapigz That is literally bipolar disorder. Episodes of mania and depression is text book bipolar

    • @fibonaccisequins4637
      @fibonaccisequins4637 3 роки тому +11

      @@blueguineapigz when did he say anything about 5 seconds? He talked about how he sleeps for like 24 hours when he’s depressed and when he’s manic he goes on his adventures and stuff. Makes me sad that this poor guy’s problems were reduced to “yOurE lazy”

  • @BadEconomyOfficial
    @BadEconomyOfficial 2 роки тому +25

    “Things he doesn’t have the experience for.” And THAT is why we are living in a broken World.

    • @kameryn2918
      @kameryn2918 Рік тому +3

      Um how are we living in a broken world? 9 times out of 10 you don’t get a job without experience, especially the kind of jobs he wants to pursue. You can’t just walk onto the set of the next John Wick movie and ask to design the costumes. You have to work your way up to that stuff. That’s reality.

    • @Freshadventures_
      @Freshadventures_ Рік тому +11

      @@kameryn2918 Most companies require experience but if you cant get experience how do they expect you to have the experience in the first place?

    • @kameryn2918
      @kameryn2918 Рік тому +1

      @@Freshadventures_ I’m completely with you on that. Everyone has to start somewhere so I believe companies should give people experience because that’s the only way you’ll get it. I 100% believe in that. What I’m talking about is expecting to walk into a high paying/high level job with literally no experience like this guy is doing. He’s expecting a position requiring years and years of experience to just appear for him. That’s unrealistic and that’s the attitude I’m referring to.

    • @Josh-fp2qn
      @Josh-fp2qn 6 місяців тому +1

      @@kameryn2918 There's plenty of wage slave jobs for him to work at.

  • @theuncannyepicurean
    @theuncannyepicurean Рік тому +21

    This guy just needs a UA-cam channel. It will blow up in no time.

    • @TheRubberStudiosASMR
      @TheRubberStudiosASMR Рік тому +5

      From someone who has tried this, it is extremely hard

    • @Enochulate88
      @Enochulate88 10 місяців тому

      ​@@TheRubberStudiosASMRgrowing mushrooms is easy 😅

    • @ohmannotnow272
      @ohmannotnow272 Місяць тому

      Really. You are right.

  • @COrraThereal0ne
    @COrraThereal0ne 3 роки тому +62

    This is reminding me of myself.

    • @zah936
      @zah936 3 роки тому +3

      Same here.

    • @maryanncleary3227
      @maryanncleary3227 2 роки тому +5

      me too, but I work a full-time job for the state and part-time at a grocery store. I need the extra income to pay for my grad school. But I still feel like this guy

  • @FireFoxGaming56
    @FireFoxGaming56 10 місяців тому +24

    This man’s sentiments are so relatable for me that it’s scary.

  • @spec_wasted
    @spec_wasted 3 роки тому +177

    Kid : Can I get that action figure
    Parents : Buy it when you have your own money
    Kid : Grows up and buys
    Parents : 👁️👄👁️

  • @xan8123
    @xan8123 2 роки тому +36

    As unrealistic as it is it would be cool if someone gave him a chance even unpaid just let him volunteer and see how things work on set but thats not life.

  • @reginayfavors
    @reginayfavors 8 місяців тому +18

    Sometimes you just have to start somewhere. Take one goal at a time. See the goal to the end. Then begin the next goal. Visionaries get overwhelmed because they can see the vision, but they struggle with managing the individual work aspects. I like him. I think he has promise. He just needs to take one goal at a time and work it.

    • @vargusdread9519
      @vargusdread9519 7 місяців тому +1

      For sure, I was lost, much like him until around 26 and I just eventually realized the importance of setting realistic goals, picking one thing to try to specialize in, and get my physical and mental health right. I found out I had undiagnosed ADHD a year ago, which explains a ton of my struggles growing up but I was able to look for ways to better handle it as a result

    • @reginayfavors
      @reginayfavors 7 місяців тому +1

      @@vargusdread9519 I think the key word is "realistic." Realistic doesn't mean you can't have it. It just means what can you accomplish right now, in a day, in a week, in a month, and then keep going. I get excited! Then I have to manage what is a priority for now and work on what I want to do in the future. We will all get it done, but it just requires some realistic goal setting and per-task management. Have a great one.

  • @antdoesart1851
    @antdoesart1851 2 роки тому +36

    My father is unemployed , he's at home cooking food and doing the laundry, loving and also an ahole. I watch this to feel better.

  • @itsjackybova365
    @itsjackybova365 2 роки тому +56

    Ok so he literally has a condition where he goes through mania episodes followed by depression (bipolar disorder). So let’s not judge him for acting crazy or anything. Some of the most brilliant minds suffered from this too. This man is a creative genius it just needs to be harnessed

    • @tonyb5586
      @tonyb5586 7 місяців тому +1

      He's not a creative genius he's just manic he a literal super hero in his mind. INVINCIBLE lol

    • @Nithinithinith
      @Nithinithinith 5 місяців тому

      He is a bum who is leeching on people. I know people with worse bipolar and they have jobs.

  • @TheRisky9
    @TheRisky9 2 роки тому +18

    The problem I'm seeing is the same problem that a lot of creatives have. He has the raw materials to be super creative and make something people want, but raw materials is all he has. You have to learn to do something to translate that creativity into something people will enjoy. You have to learn to write, learn to draw, learn to speak.

  • @trowwzers5057
    @trowwzers5057 Місяць тому +2

    I’m 27 and been unemployed for my month and my mom doesn’t want me to get a job; but instead, I have to do all the chores and lawn work. I feel stuck

  • @Iquey
    @Iquey 29 днів тому +1

    It sucks to not want to get up in the morning, but every day we have to try to create a life we can feel excited to wake up for.

  • @rik-keymusic160
    @rik-keymusic160 2 роки тому +25

    the boy never really got his emotional needs met perhaps...i can relate to that.

  • @user-rt7dv6rt6g
    @user-rt7dv6rt6g 3 роки тому +56

    "I can talk to the dp and say push in right there" nice turn of phrase...

    • @iturtyou
      @iturtyou 3 роки тому +2

      😂

    • @jasonsexsmith3702
      @jasonsexsmith3702 3 роки тому +1

      BAHAHAHA!!!!! I was thinking the same!!! I wonder if he also does ATM

  • @unathimessi8126
    @unathimessi8126 8 місяців тому +5

    I can relate to what this is saying. Life can be depressing, there's lots of factors unemployment, society, family members, etc.

  • @danielarias777
    @danielarias777 3 роки тому +198

    It’s the parents fault. You were super in denial and you have enabled him to continue his obvious problem. Now it’s too late and you blame him, parents have to accept that they failed to get him help because of denial. It’s an ignorant issue that we need to address.

    • @gorillagorilla8192
      @gorillagorilla8192 3 роки тому +1

      Stfu there are millions of people who doesn't want to do anything under other's supervision

    • @davidharrow9025
      @davidharrow9025 2 роки тому +20

      Its not too late. He can get a regular job and work his way up. He should pursue his creative interests on the side and maybe one day he can make it a full time career. Dont give up on people.

    • @hrv8008
      @hrv8008 2 роки тому +4

      @Hank Lawton That's not how it works kid! Come back when you grow up.

    • @D_mc_999
      @D_mc_999 Рік тому

      @@davidharrow9025 nah society don't care until you pop yourself and even then they don't care.

    • @2009jadeorchid
      @2009jadeorchid 8 місяців тому +4

      my aunt made my now 59 year old cousin a nervous wreck about everything she always says what if you never blah blah blah this stagnated my cousin so much she never got married got a job or had children her life was made this way because of my control freak aunt the negativity my cousin grew up in made her think she is helpless and stupid she is neither she just needs to be around people that understand how to make her get on the way to her own life and interests

  • @helenarichard
    @helenarichard 4 місяці тому +3

    I'm 35, have anxiety, depression, had some toxic jobs, I'm hyper sensitive and introverted. I tried drugs and therapy. It doesn't fix much. I hate most about society. I had to justify to my parents and partner so often why I keep going for short term part time jobs. It's simply the only things I can manage. I do my best. And that should be enough. It's not like the companies throw the jobs at you.

  • @rajashribaruah5800
    @rajashribaruah5800 10 місяців тому +5

    My brother is 33 years old, unemployed, no motivation to find a job, takes money from my old and heartbroken mother to smoke weed and party. Sleeps till noon, is out of the house the whole day and returns late at night. He doesn't contribute to houselhold tasks, has no sense of responsibility whatsoever. He doesn't even seems to care how much everyone is worried sick for him. He is very stubborn and throws a fit whenever we try to talk some sense. He shouts and scream at my poor mother. I want to throw him out of the house however I fear he will end up living in the streets and die eventually by starving. I don't want him to waste his life away. However he never listens to me or anyone. How can I help him before its too late?

    • @yomyom584
      @yomyom584 9 місяців тому +9

      Hey there!
      I think you should try to spend more time with him to understand why is he acting this way. Most of the time, those people just need to feel that they are loved and worthy of success and also that it's never too late to have a good life. Go with him once or twice to those parties and see how he's acting with his friends. For your mother, i guess that's really not easy for her but just be there and support her, that's the only solution i see. Wishing you all the best!

    • @rajashribaruah5800
      @rajashribaruah5800 8 місяців тому

      @@yomyom584 Thank you so much for replying. I really needed that.

  • @ramauldramharack2138
    @ramauldramharack2138 3 роки тому +46

    This is so sad that we all experience this because of our parents🙂🙃

    • @turnovertheleaf5505
      @turnovertheleaf5505 3 роки тому +6

      Lol, who do they blame? Their parents also? Eventually, you have to take ownership of your on actions.. ya know? Self regulation? Usually happens as a teenager.

    • @ramauldramharack2138
      @ramauldramharack2138 3 роки тому +6

      @@turnovertheleaf5505 yeah but not everyone gets that also i hope im not like that in the future cause i take action.

    • @thaanos7144
      @thaanos7144 2 роки тому +1

      People like us if we can break are mentally just think what else we can achieve

  • @JesamisusTheJester
    @JesamisusTheJester 8 місяців тому +15

    25 year old male that still lives with his parents. Work 2 jobs, got an IT certification, job hunting, and workout daily.
    Even with all that I struggle with similar issues like this dude.
    See all these comments here ridiculing this dude. Bunch of self absorbed people who beat down on others without knowing the demons these folk deal with on a daily basis.
    Irritating to live in a world with such people like yourselves. Karma will humble ya'll for sure one of these days.

  • @jon6309
    @jon6309 Рік тому +12

    Dr. Phil contradicts himself a lot. In his “Quiet Quitting Episode” he told workers to stop and pursue their passion. Then this guy is trying to pursue his passion and Dr. Phil is now talking against it!

  • @normagarcia8657
    @normagarcia8657 3 роки тому +28

    I didnt see entire show. So from what I have seen, he seemed logical and had alot of self control during interview. That shows self discipline when needed. Take him out of parents home....then get him some help mentally. His parents need to be taken out as the security blanket. His eyes show intelligence and creativity. His logic....well there are obvious concerns..I think he can live an acceptional life...but his mind is too fast. So many creative genius in our past and present..have had same issues. Acceptional beyond compare on some area...and irrational behavior in the other. Im no Dr so what do I know...but he appears to WANT HELP. I pray he gets it with all my heart.

  • @kailashkumar-dd4zh
    @kailashkumar-dd4zh Рік тому +8

    It seems like as though hardly anyone in society thinks about the employment seekers . It's a constant struggle . Why aren't college kids taught on how to correctly ace interviews ? It’s such an important issue.

  • @geoffbuj1647
    @geoffbuj1647 Рік тому +9

    I wish this guy was my friend

  • @thomasletimla4055
    @thomasletimla4055 2 роки тому +25

    If he wants to pursue rap, all these things he's going through he should use it as strength. Rap about what's happening in his life.

    • @kylemonkiewicz2803
      @kylemonkiewicz2803 2 роки тому +1

      Maybe that what he was missing channeling the depression instead of fighting it

  • @masterofgarden3472
    @masterofgarden3472 2 роки тому +16

    I'm here because i'm unemployed and too lazy to find work. There I said it.

    • @bellak2140
      @bellak2140 2 роки тому +10

      Laziness is caused by something. Possibly procrastination caused by having a critical parent that made one feel like one needs to be perfect to be good enough. Or it could be depression, anxiety, hopelessness etc.

    • @therealsapdad1942
      @therealsapdad1942 2 роки тому

      Go find a job

  • @adamnewuc2216
    @adamnewuc2216 2 роки тому +13

    "Claims Brandon wears Superhero costumes and has light saber fights alone" Brandon the legend is truly free

  • @weirdtuberjournalism9757
    @weirdtuberjournalism9757 2 роки тому +16

    READ ME!!!!-can we just take a minute to appreciate the fact aht he had a record label that was interested in him and even signed, him, only to drop him due to laziness/depression.

    • @therealsapdad1942
      @therealsapdad1942 2 роки тому +2

      well he does have to work to keep that contract.....

  • @MrBiswas123
    @MrBiswas123 2 роки тому +23

    Our entire generation in a nutshell.

  • @gracedumas2707
    @gracedumas2707 3 роки тому +22

    Don’t be shy show us the paintings

  • @shawnsuave5694
    @shawnsuave5694 4 місяці тому +2

    People are not capable of understanding this guy. That's all that's going on here.

  • @albertt755
    @albertt755 5 місяців тому +3

    I am 32. I worked only 6 months. I want to find a good paying career to lead a good life but I am accustomed to laziness.

  • @iainowsiany7424
    @iainowsiany7424 2 роки тому +14

    His father said he’s a creative genius. LOL. That’s the problem right there. The parents created this mess

  • @phouqyu9150
    @phouqyu9150 2 роки тому +8

    This is my homeboy 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @subv1089
    @subv1089 2 роки тому +17

    this guy is so me...35 and broke

    • @jacoryarnett7347
      @jacoryarnett7347 2 роки тому +6

      Thats what depression and anxiety do to you.

  • @ohmannotnow272
    @ohmannotnow272 Місяць тому +3

    To be honest, i can relate to this dude, but long story short, some people are just cursed. This guy is just misunderstood. People just judge him on what they see on the outside but don't know his life on the inside. People are just quick to be judgmental.

  • @Carpenters_Canvas
    @Carpenters_Canvas 3 роки тому +12

    What I don’t get is why don’t they link full episodes in the description

  • @Enochulate88
    @Enochulate88 10 місяців тому +3

    My thoughts and sleeping is awful i feel him.

  • @ohmannotnow272
    @ohmannotnow272 Місяць тому +3

    Unless you have been in someone else's shoes, know their entire life story, then you should be able to judge and give advice.

  • @minakoa7178
    @minakoa7178 2 роки тому +5

    This guy was traumatized as a child

  • @kingstonshacklebolt1431
    @kingstonshacklebolt1431 12 днів тому

    I know how he feels. I am also 35 and i haven't held a job longer than 9 months, other than 3 years in the military, in my entire life. Don't presume to know why people do the things they do. I suffer from depression that is so bad it has led to several severe conditions

  • @shahzebabdulmunim9163
    @shahzebabdulmunim9163 Рік тому +6

    There is actually no reason to hate your son

  • @Goleary1
    @Goleary1 5 місяців тому

    I came to this video from a clip i saw of this guy on tiktok and at first i was here to laugh and meme on the guy but hearing him speak it’s obvious he would be 100% normal and productive if he went to therapy and got treatment for his mental health issues. Having had friends in really dark places before hearing him talk about shutting himself in his room unable to do anything but stay stuck in negative thoughts is a huge red flag and I hope his parents eventually recognized that and helped him out

  • @retrodemos9062
    @retrodemos9062 2 роки тому +6

    He is the man

  • @pokemongo-up3rq
    @pokemongo-up3rq 2 роки тому +12

    I'm unemployed because I'm fat and lazy and I want to stay inside and play video games all day while leeching off the government. At least I'm honest with myself. And I bet there's a load of people that want that too deep down.

    • @penelopek9645
      @penelopek9645 2 роки тому +1

      Darling my boyfriend does this and he is feels miserable only not when he is with me, we do many things then together

    • @penelopek9645
      @penelopek9645 2 роки тому +1

      Go outside

    • @thestraycat69
      @thestraycat69 Рік тому

      Touch grass, get in shape, go to work, get laid.

  • @DannyHidalgo
    @DannyHidalgo Рік тому +8

    His biggest issue is that he wants to be in those top creative positions but he doesn't want to put the effort and work it takes to get there.

  • @kadiraydukureh7680
    @kadiraydukureh7680 2 роки тому +5

    The parents messed him up

  • @jonesparza2323
    @jonesparza2323 2 роки тому +5

    This is what happens when rich people have kids that they never wanted

  • @arclcs
    @arclcs 2 роки тому +31

    How in the world does Dr.Phil not know he has autism?!!

  • @Rileys_dad
    @Rileys_dad 3 роки тому +7

    The answer to the question of why he should be allowed to have the acting job is divine order.

  • @geoffbuj1647
    @geoffbuj1647 Рік тому +8

    LMAO isn't Dr. Phill some guy off the street acting like a psych doctor with no experience telling people what to do or not to do?

    • @dalladi
      @dalladi Рік тому +2

      Yes, he is, as is everyone participating in media. The truth lies beyond that and is much more complex and substantial. 😊😊😊

  • @ispartacus1337
    @ispartacus1337 3 роки тому +90

    My weaknesses are "I'm too creative" "I'm a perfectionist" "I'm too talented" lmao his parents are feeding this delusional fantasy.

    • @shannonlocklear3707
      @shannonlocklear3707 3 роки тому +15

      For real telling him he can wim a Grammy and is borderline creative genius...not that you shouldnt lift your children up but dont lie to them when theyre already delusional

    • @jackiekjono
      @jackiekjono 3 роки тому +13

      Actually, the bit where they showed him rapping, he sounded really good! I wish I could see the superhero movie he is creating in his head but, I get it. Creating in your head is the fun part, bringing it into the world is hard work.

    • @CheesemanJones
      @CheesemanJones 3 роки тому +2

      ....

    • @bapbirb
      @bapbirb 2 роки тому +1

      @@shannonlocklear3707 I don't think they're lying. They truly believe that their son is special and one of a kind but just cant get himself work harder. They've enabled him over the years because they believed in him so strongly because its his son. They've been waiting! Its sad but their son is never going to change if they don't do anything about it..

  • @Wario_Man
    @Wario_Man 2 роки тому +6

    he does seem kinda chad

  • @maltratar
    @maltratar 4 місяці тому +1

    Too many people living that life, I'm not going to judge him.

  • @constantincosmindumitrache7549
    @constantincosmindumitrache7549 3 місяці тому +1

    they are making an example of him to scare others to bahave and not question a brainless culture . it is the worst in " Niponia " :D

  • @Enochulate88
    @Enochulate88 10 місяців тому +4

    This guy should start his own business and hed be the boss...😅❤🎉p

  • @soonsuicidal
    @soonsuicidal 3 роки тому +10

    And I'm experiencing this now... 💔

    • @4islandbeauty
      @4islandbeauty 3 роки тому +1

      Please reach out to someone who can listen. Praying for you

    • @soonsuicidal
      @soonsuicidal 3 роки тому +1

      @@4islandbeauty thank you so much. Really appreciate it mate. Have a nice day. 🙏🏼

    • @raziel69sin
      @raziel69sin 2 роки тому

      Me too...😞

  • @Tadpoletofrogs
    @Tadpoletofrogs 2 роки тому +3

    Probably on the Spectrum.

  • @nataliep2973
    @nataliep2973 3 роки тому +10

    If you're not a working actor at 52, you'll never be! Get a job!

  • @Circuitssmith
    @Circuitssmith 2 роки тому +5

    I’m not really seeing the “creative genius” part. He got asked to make something and he couldn’t cough it up. I think his parents still treat him like a kid, never introduced him to what the real world is like where putting in time and effort is non-negotiable. I know everybody wants to believe he’s just misunderstood, but when asked about what he needs to improve about himself he just says “I’m too creative, I can’t control it.” No mention of responsibility, taking other people’s needs and wants into account, lying to his parents about spending money on toys instead of food, or any other item on the laundry list of improvements he needs to make.

    • @kylemonkiewicz2803
      @kylemonkiewicz2803 2 роки тому +3

      How could we possibly know they showed us so little information and you can't believe what everyone says word by word memories lie maybe they didn't see him when he was working and you can't tell someone who is depressed to just stop being depressed that ableism he is trying to stay positive and talking about improving asking Phil hey your criticizing me how do I get there so I can make an effort but man everyone wants to believe something you have a right to your opinion as do i

  • @summery111
    @summery111 2 роки тому +9

    He's probably INFJ. Same happens to me now.

  • @Nimue333
    @Nimue333 2 роки тому +15

    Dr Phill is disgusting 🤢🤢🤢🤢

  • @jessicaderosa9625
    @jessicaderosa9625 2 роки тому +5

    He has horrible parents that probably abused him

  • @SuperiorAmericanGuy
    @SuperiorAmericanGuy 6 місяців тому +1

    I have a poor job like that guy on Dr Phil. I want to be on Dr Phil to tell everyone about my poor quality jobs.

  • @RockinwithSami
    @RockinwithSami 2 місяці тому

    What I love about the older generation is that they’re sympathetic, mature and kind in the comment section

  • @domjones_who3849
    @domjones_who3849 2 роки тому +10

    THIS IS BAD PARENTING... WHEN YOUR CHILD IS OVER 25 AND YOUR STILL LETTING HIM BUY CHILDREN'S TOYS AND JUMP AROUND THE BACKYARD IN SUPER HERO OUTFITS...IT'S YOUR PARENTING NOT THE 35 YEAR OLD "CHILD" IJS

  • @Euphr05yn3
    @Euphr05yn3 3 роки тому +7

    He can't even put together a coherent sentence.

  • @JimmyJaxJellyStax
    @JimmyJaxJellyStax 7 місяців тому +3

    He needs a UA-cam

  • @Stillreal312
    @Stillreal312 3 роки тому +16

    Dude still getting over his break with Rachel

  • @imthebest7290
    @imthebest7290 Рік тому +2

    Feel bad for him.

  • @Nature_lover_Bnda
    @Nature_lover_Bnda 4 місяці тому +1

    Its like my reflection 💀💀💀

  • @earthandouterspace446
    @earthandouterspace446 3 місяці тому +2

    is helped now ? what happend to him

  • @milothegreatful
    @milothegreatful Рік тому +3

    why do we think dr phil is qualified to talk.

  • @spring448
    @spring448 Рік тому +1

    he is me ... but i havent get any break till now

  • @wanderingfree149
    @wanderingfree149 3 роки тому +28

    Wonder if he has maladaptive day dreaming?

    • @abdelll9737
      @abdelll9737 3 роки тому +6

      I believe I suffer from that but I can still get myself to do my job when I’m at work. But I’ve suffered from daydreaming my whole life. And I’ve suffered from difficulty to concentrate on doing daily tasks my whole life. But I know how to fight against it though. It’s really difficult but I can get myself to “act normal” and get things done.

    • @AmazingRebel23
      @AmazingRebel23 3 роки тому +1

      I was thinking bipolar but I’m glad you mentioned this disorder as I just last month found out about it. Wow, people really go through a lot sometimes.

    • @tibetan.music.universe
      @tibetan.music.universe 3 роки тому

      thats what i had for years

  • @tatianaallen913
    @tatianaallen913 Рік тому +2

    I have a brother like that, he is 49 and lives with my mother and nobody hires him since he was out of school.

    • @lexol3102
      @lexol3102 Рік тому +1

      Its sad . Does he has a diploma?

    • @tatianaallen913
      @tatianaallen913 Рік тому

      @@lexol3102 yes

    • @lexol3102
      @lexol3102 Рік тому

      @@tatianaallen913 its sad . I wish him best .

    • @llooz2288
      @llooz2288 Рік тому

      Has he been unemployed his whole life?

    • @tatianaallen913
      @tatianaallen913 Рік тому

      @@llooz2288 my mom give him money to put a business, my mom paid a rent for him to have an office, then gave him a little room to continue his business, then gave him a job in her little store, all of that failed and now he is living with her, looking for a job since 2019 is 2023 and he says he can’t find or the jobs pay to little 🫤

  • @billchessmen
    @billchessmen 3 місяці тому +1

    This guy ought to start writing down his ideas then expand on them a bit. Maybe he'll come up with something good