‘He’s Dependent On Us, And He Just Seems Stuck,’ Says Mom Of 27-Year-Old Son
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- Опубліковано 22 вер 2020
- Susan and Randy’s 27-year-old college-educated son, Jacob, lives at home. The couple describes him as emotionally “incapacitated,” and claim he is virtually unable to do anything for himself.
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“Jake sleeps all day, he’s not paying for anything, he has no job. He doesn’t really have any prospects for getting a job,” says Randy
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Jacob says, “My motivation is essentially shot, and I barely feel motivated to get out of bed.”
“He’s dependent on us, and he just seems stuck,” says Susan, claiming that Jacob would likely end up homeless if she and her husband weren’t taking care of him.
When Dr. Phil asks, “Why are you doing this to him?” how does the couple respond?
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That bedroom screams DEPRESSION.
That is the root of his issues clean that mess up!
@@MrChickenselects no it's not hunny but it sure wouldn't hurt to do a spring clean.
Bobby Light lol no
you're right I've got physical disabilities standing for longer then 10 mins without something to lean on or sit I'd fall over from the amount of trouble my balance and things wrong with my right leg and back give me (im almost 30) and where I live my room and area would look like that..if I didn't have help from others' but my point is I've had (MDD) for a long time Major Depressive Disorder..
Yes it does, it looks legit like my bedroom when i was 12. And the not showering or changeing his clothes is what i did when i was 12. So yeah he is clearly depressed
I’m glad the parents aren’t too mad about it. They genuinely care.
Congrats 🎉🎊
He wouldn’t be living like this if they genuinely cared.
I wonder if they’ve even ever asked him what he *actually* wants in life. I’d wager the answer’s no.
@@FireFoxGaming56poor kid burnt himself out trying to impress the people who let him down . And then they label him a loser
Not gonna lie this is what my depression & anxiety does to me. My bed feels like a safe place . With my depression I feel like I could sleep all day. & I used too still do sometimes. I’ve battled it since 5th grade & now it’s so much better
Me too! I have graduated high school over 16 months ago and I have been doing nothing whatsoever since, my mental health has deteriorated more than ever and I know it’s at least partially my fault/responsibility, but the never ending depressive episodes make it impossible for me to function.
It’s a very productive day if I manage to clean my room a bit.
I’m 20 now and I’m so afraid I’m gonna be at the same place in life this man is when I’m 27, and realistically, it’s more than likely to happen. Seven more years isn’t that much time, once you’re stuck in the darkness it gets increasingly difficult to get out. I empathise with this man, he must be in so much pain.
A lot of people don’t realize that severe and chronic mental illnesses often do make you a prisoner in your own life, and can prevent you from functioning just as much as visible illnesses.
I’m glad he’s getting help. He needs it and deserves it.
Reading your message broke my heart. You are deserving and worthy of help too, stranger on the internet... I’ve been in a similar state myself. Medication helped me, but it’s not for everyone. Getting outside helps too. It seems daunting to get out of bed, figure out how to be “decent” to try to blend in with the world. But it doesn’t matter as much as it seems because it’s really just about you. I’d sit in my yard in my pajamas some days lol. Those would be slightly better days for me. I know what it’s like to be stuck in misery, and feel so ashamed about it that it just makes it worse. Any small thing to break the cycle helps. I’m sure you’ve heard it all before, I’m sorry. I went through something similar after high school, and it’s been a few years now, but I can only imagine how it would have been during a pandemic. My heart and prayers go out to you, my dear. You will be on my mind. I hope something makes you smile today.
I didn’t move out until I was 27. There are millions of guys like him around. Problem is bigger then him.
I can relate to this having depression for 10+ years...you literally feel like you’re stuck in a black hole with no motivation or happiness in anything and nowhere to go
Hope you're doing better!
Col. Cotton Hill not so much currently but I’m trying 🙏🏼 thank you it really means a lot
Marianne Havisham sending love to you as well! This game of life isn’t always easy
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@@Blernster I notice you have a similar response to a few of the comments on here. Do you mind if I ask why the eye roll?
That is the room of someone with SEVERE depression...
@Juicelad lol....
Absolutely
He seems like such a sweet guy. Would definitely be down to befriend him.
Adrian Cantu you type of people are the reason suicide happens
Blah Blah Don't worry about him, people like Adam are so miserable with themselves the only way they feel better is to make other people smaller. Only losers bully people on a keyboard.
@Adrian Cantu If I did, would you want to be my friend? Ahaha. But no, I understand his issue and I think he's genuinely sweet.
@Adrian Cantu Shame on you.
Idk I feel like he’s not all there,, not saying that should stop someone from being friends,,, but I think that should be focus point as well
he's me but 27 and worse off, god damn wish i could just give him a hug and help him clean his room
Because hes depressed ? To live in the 1800s would be a kick in the face.
Same slooby, i'm with you two he's me but older and with less help than i had. We would tyde his room together and start taking him out of his shell
Brian Vent in the 1800 he would be locked away for being ‘crazy’ or he would be homeless. How does that help anyone? Doesn’t improve his life and only drains community resources. Now if he was treated for his issues, given a proper diagnosis and therapy, he would be able to contribute and be a functional member of society. That is what modern mental health care is about, improving the quality of the lives of those who need additional support so society as a whole can benefit from it.
@@bluebell6684 he must be one of those people claiming that "he's just another entaitled millennial with too much time to waste" without understanding that mental illnesses existed before too and that they're real and make you suffer so much that even with the best motivation it's incredibly hard to get free of them (when it is possible) or to live with them for the rest of your life in a functional way. Especially when you didn't get proper training from therapy
@@brianvent3043 You sound like my mom. "Your life is okay so you're not depressed. There are people worse off than you. Only people touched in the head have mental illness."
I never got the help I needed. Ever. Even when I wrote a suicide note and ran away, she STILL didn't think something was wrong and I "just wanted attention." and "being a dramatic teenager."
Being flippant about someone who has mental illness is probably one of the worse thing you can do to them. There will always be people worse off than you and sure things were worse back in the 1800s but that does not mean you should invalidate someone's mental illness that they cannot help. Also hate to break this to you but mental illness and depression was around back then too. You're not helping anyone.
He seems really kind and funny. He’s obviously dealing some severe depression and motivation issues and I really hope he finds help.
Unfortunately humor is the best cope for depression
The fact that all the people in the comments could diagnose and come up with solutions to this but dr Phil can’t 💀
None of us truly have an answer he’s the professional, we also aren’t seeing the full episode they show a lot more
wyatt perkins it’s obvious he has depression but not once was that even suggested, read the comments everyone else who isn’t a “professional” can work it out but Dr Phil can’t? 😂
Beth Collins he obviously knows how to help Jacob. We only know what we see in the clips but nobody here has the amount fo experience that dr Phil has
It gives me faith in humanity how everyone's so understanding about depression. I'm glad the comment section's open.
He's a quack more than anything. He only cares about ratings, not the person's problems regarding mental/physical health.
Phil blaming parents again. Not everyone is a billionaire who can have sons be a rock star and marry playboy playmates.
Tf are you sayin
@@CocGaming51299 may be andrew is like J 😂😂
It's easy to judge this guy and his parents when they didn't have the resources of someone like Dr. Phil & Robin McGraw.
I'm not sure this is a question of wealth. This seems more like parental attitude.
Having a room like that is a warning sign, not a failure. My room looked like that my whole life because I was so depressed and anxious. It turned out I had OCD and PTSD. I’m now 21 and on disability. He doesn’t need tough love, he needs resources and coping skills.
100%!
If you have OCD wouldnt your room be super clean
@@selahjames1267that’s a common misconception. It’s more about repeating an action or reoccurring intrusive thoughts and behaviors. Someone can keep their toilet clean but have a filthy house.
@@Smellanie4121 oh thats interesting
Was it a long process to get approved for disability?
wow, parents who didn’t just kick their kid out & act shocked when they find out the kid’s living in a car. what a nice turn of events.
Seem like Dr.Phil is fed up with his job. Hes just harsh, angry and ignorant with a cleary anxious and depressed man. It's sad, he just wanted help and got humiliated.
Thats what i felt. I felt bad for the parents who seemed to genuinely care and are sensitive to their son's emotions. And dr phil sounds like he's blaming the parents
I agree he’s depressed he needs help not judgment
Dr. Phil has been like this for months.
dr phil is the biggest professional idiot on tv
@@deuteronomy1651 Agreed, he's super unqualified to deal with 90% of the matters on his show
“This is Jacobs room.... hi Jacob”
“Hi Mom”
😂😂😂
Lovely people
The parents are so sweet. They just want to help their son and understand theres more to the story than him being a deadbeat.
As someone who suffered the same type of depression, i can assure you that a clear mind starts with a clear environment around you. Cleaning your room is the first step of healing your depression.
Yes and nice music
First step is to ask for an exepert.
Dr. Phil is such a sell out. This is not how you speak with someone who is dealing with a loved one in depression. What were they supposed to do? Come down on him? That would have made it worse. That’s terrible
I'm glad I'm not the only one who noticed this. I'm at least as bad as him and all my mom and stepdad did was yell at me and now I'm even more emotionally crippled. This is not a joke, depression can be and is crippling. Extremely disappointed in how Phil handled this.
Saul Ristic I didn’t miss what he’s saying. It’s not that the standards are low. If they kick him out he’ll end up dead. They can tell him to do it. If they shame him he will just further become depressed. I’m not saying this with no background. Dr. Phil has moved away from actual mental health. It got put of hand, they need help and direction, but this is not the way you handle it. This is how you sell entertainment.
Olivia Veale I’m so sorry your parents didn’t support you and help you the way you needed. Have you considered trying to get therapy?
You have to watch the full episode before judging. He usually makes sure he doesn't favor one side only throughout the whole show. If you want the kid to take the advice seriously at the end, you have to get him to acknowledge that he's not completely powerless in this situation. All the therapy in the world can't help him if he's not willing to help himself. Dr. Phil almost always grills everyone at least a little to make sure everyone is ready to take accountability which is the only way to effect change.
Angel Black I did. In pieces.
how can dr phil be THIS insensitive?
Cuz it's Dr. Phil... He has a more tough love approach
The son is being insensitive. He's almost 30 and understand what his issue was and is refusing to deal with it. What is he going to do when his parents are inable to work?
@@rosegarden2014 that's easy for you to say, but if you haven't experienced moderate/severe depression, it's very difficult to be motivated for the simplest things. he clearly needs help. his parents are partly to blame as well.
Exactly. He reall pissed me off
They can’t see the most common sense things. Dr Phil needs to tell them like it is.
I understand this guy I was like this, he is in a terrible depression, he needs therapy and medication.
I had the same issues My room got cleaned up, I got a plan and it changed my life
I keep trying to clean but i get so tired
shergirl92 just do a little each day and one day it will be clean!
Okay so that is literally me at 28... I have aspergers, social anxiety, and depression...
As if I want to live this life? I don’t. I have dreamed about a job and completing high school since I was 16, but I can’t. I have tried and I fail every single time. Feeling defeated after failing at something so basic in life is only brewing further on my depression.
I think mental health should be taken seriously. That guy is severely depressed, and he needs help, not prejudice.
Praying for you. Make a small change today. Go for a run or walk. Exercise is my best medicine.
latorgator23 I go for walks every day. My life is not as miserable as his, and I keep my room clean and take care of my hygiene et cetera.
I do live with my mother, but I pay rent and I contribute financially to everything equal to her.
My point is that not everyone is able to get a job, finish high school and live up to the expectations of society due to various reasons.
He is severely depressed and he needs help first and foremost, and he might not ever be able to get a job and keep a job, and the way he is being portrayed in this episode on dr Phil is as if he is simply being lazy and spoiled.
Milly No offense fellow autistic here. I can relate, with the proper support and therapy living a fulfilled life is possible! I think he is on the spectrum as well, he is not receiving the proper support which can lead to depression and even more anxiety. I hope he gets help. Being diagnosed saved my life, now I believe I can do anything I set my mind to.
Bluebell true, and he has not even been diagnosed yet.
I went until 2 months ago undiagnosed, and not knowing what the heck was wrong with me.
No one really knew what it was, but they knew it was something.
Going undiagnosed until adulthood is often a reason why a lot of autistic humans fail to grow in their strengths and qualities, as well as learn to recognize their weaknesses and work on them from early on.
Milly No offense realizing I am not broken is the most wonderful feeling! I hope now that you’ve been diagnosed you are able to step out of your shell and follow your dreams 💜 we all deserve a life we are proud of and excited for!
Dr. Phil handed this situation so poorly... have some empathy for the guy and his parents. His parents just want the best for him and Jacob is clearly depressed.
Yeah, but he is a 27-year-old man acting like a teenager. Everyone has depression but they do something about it. He and his parents were not doing anything to better the situation. They have just enabled him and felt sorry for him. He has not even gone to doctors to address his mental health in order to improve his life. The world does not care if you have a mental illness and the world will keep you in that state unless you do something about it. It's sad but it's a fact of life. Dr Phil is just simply trying to get this kid to hit the ground running which he successfully does when he gives him and his parents a life coach and he started to be more productive and even goes back to grad school in his update.
dr phil should give him money
If people only could understand how bad anxiety and depression can be
Its horrible, nobody wants to live like that.
Exactly.
I was going to say exactly... Exactly
Love this comment thread man....this episode really struck a chord with me as someone who has overcome mental problems.
It's a sin what depression does too people hes such an attractive intelligent man with so much potential.
Aw poor guy he was really good on stage !!! It's a shame. He has so much potential. I don't blame the parents at all he will pull himself out of it eventually
Depression and anxiety is horrible..
Severe dipression, poor guy, hope gets help and comes out of it soon. Be positive.
I don’t have depression so idk for sure, but I don’t think saying ”be positive” helps. It’s like telling someone with a broken leg to walk normally.
@@TheHetaliafan123 telling to be pisitive to a person who is dipressed is asking him to keep hope that he will come out of it. That much hope he should always have at least.
I lived at home until i was 26. Went down almost the same road. Moving out and getting my own place was the best thing i ever did. It gets better man.
27.. Imagine 35.
That's where i am.
Never again, condom
He’s clearly genuinely struggling I can relate to this
Although he’s way worse than I am
I hope he gets the help he needs I definitely wouldn’t blame him for it
Tough love doesn’t work for everyone it didn’t work for me it actually made me worse
I’d say also he’s so used to success in life failure later in life was like a hitting a brick wall
I went through the same thing
I dont like how he demonizes the parents
I am the same way. I have an above average IQ and should be functioning, but I just can't. I don't live with my parents but my apartment looks like his room most of the time and it's not because I want to live like that, I just can't motivate myself. Life seems so hopeless. I hope he finds a way to get back on track, but I don't think it's the parents' fault either. They just really care for him.
I hope you are doing better now
I wish nothing but the best for this man.
It’s called depression. Stop talking about what he used to be like. Depression takes that all of that away from you. And Dr. Phil come on... you should know better. He’s not lazy... people don’t not shower because they’re lazy... they neglect themselves because the effort it takes to upkeep with your appearance isn’t even obtainable when you’re that depressed. Show him ways he can motivate himself, get him on a track where his achievements boost his confidence in himself, don’t tear him down on national television and make his parents look like they’re enabling him to live this way. It’s much more deeper than that and you should be ashamed to pick this guy apart. I’ve been there. There wasn’t a single thing you could say to me to make me any more “motivated.” I literally wanted to stick a gun in my mouth. He needs some serious therapy and SSRIs
damn bruf . You wanted to stick a gun in your mouth ...that gave me goosebumps.
It made me cry how supportive his parents were. Sure they could push him more but the caring side they show is so needed.
I feel him so hard. Shame on you Phil.
There’s a lot of 20-something men in the world in the state of being, currently. The search for meaning/purpose in life has become arduous for some.....
I was depressed to, but life goes on.... you can’t stay with momma and papa for ever. You live your life and that’s it
Help this man. He needs good friends and a support system. He needs LOVE. 💗 help him! depression is hard!
I have dealt with anxiety and depression and I understand what Dr. Phil is saying. It very much so helps to face those fears every day. It used to terrify me to approach tables as a restaurant server, but I kept doing it. I have also failed at many simple jobs due to a traumatic brain injury, but even if I was crying my way through it I forced myself to stay at the job and keep trying. Everyone’s issues and situations are different, but I do know that sometimes not forcing yourself to do really difficult things makes everything sooo much worse. It slowly changed the course of my life to repeatedly make the decision to keep pushing through and trying no matter how many times I failed. I now use those experiences and pull on what it took to get through them with a variety of difficult situations that I face in life. It’s important to prove to yourself what you’re capable of.
I feel for him. It is so hard to get back on your feet when you’ve been severely depressed and isolated for so long.
We're going to have a generation of people like this because of the lockdowns
yeah but if we all just quarantined like we were supposed to during the earlier months covid was announced. there would no reason we would still be in lockdown in SEPTEMBER
Kids have reacted this way before lockdowns and it’s called laziness.
Cynthia Tucker or depression bud
I don't think it's because of the lockdowns, I think people face real and hard issues everyday, even ones youd think have the best life could be in an abusive relationship or had a rough childhood or even just constantly working and stressing about money and stuff can have such a bad affect on the brain and body. And not to mention racism, sexism, you know feeling like you are fighting these huge battles all alone all the time can be hard and exhausting on top of having to survive in a super fast pace world that sees everything and everyone around them as nothing more than something to exploit. I dunno maybe I'm crazy and I have been just thinking too much about how racist Canada is towards Indigenous peoples, black peoples, and all minorities so I am all sad about it
I agree, I lost my post college internship and had to move home with my parents. I don’t know what to do, I lost all my future plans and honestly don’t know what to do. So I’m working retail until I can find a new internship 😞
me in my depression
I am almost 25 years old and im just lost in life ... still at my parent . Life is hard ... so i doo undestand too ... . And its hard to find motivation when you dont see' clearly"'
Hey Jacob! You're really cute!! I hope you find self care & happiness! ❤️❤️
thanks!
Poor guy, he deserves happiness and im sure he will get their at some point and make his parents and most of all himself proud.
Honestly, I've been there. This is what deep depression does to you.
I usually get up from 5pm-9pm. You can still live with his hours with the right job lol. Sounds like severe depression to me. I have it and can understand a little. I snap out of it enough to go to work and out of the house at times though.
You snap out of it? 👀👀👀
That's what I was thinking. I am on medication for severe anxiety and agoraphobia. It got so bad to where I had to move back in with my parents. Just this year I was able to buy a house and work on getting better. With my small support system we are doing well now.
J Shadows yea I have my own personal struggles with anxiety and when I go to work it’s never because I “snapped out of it”. If it were that simple there would be no need for diagnosis or medication because everyone would just “snap out of it”
Simions If only it was that easy!
Simions. Exactly there would be no such thing as psychologists. Psychiatrists. Mental health nurses. Psych wards either
i would really have thought dr phil would know better than this? he is clearly severely depressed, this isnt laziness, im very glad his parents have understood
He's depressed he needs some medical help therapy and slowly he will get back on task and live his life
Me: feeling called out
Bruh nahhh, this is me
This is exactly like me... but I’m 30. And I’m on maximum antidepressants. I’m hoping watching this will help me...
I assume you've seen a therapist?
My cousin is 33 years old, only child, unmarried, and still lives with his parents. He works full time, but had to go back to school to get his degree in Human Resources. He started out in criminal justice, but it was too hard on him. Additionally, he had two roommates after he majored in criminal justice, but the police department was too rough on him
Hes not dependant but rather enabled by the parents. Time to cut the cord.
The isolation is a sign of depression & anxiety. The enabling is only giving him the "get out of jail free card".
Dr. Phil is right. There's a fine line between caring for or enabling someone. Sometimes tough love is needed in place of coddling and that needs to start from the time that kid is a toddler and continue into adulthood. That guy is a prime example of not getting tough love at an early age.
He seems like a cool dude. He needs motivation
Cmon Jake, how about some resiliency! Life has some of those setbacks! Treat him like you believe in him!
This comment section is restoring my faith in humanity
right?!?!
My brother is like this, its sad because he refuses to have help and hes very angry. 😢
Proof that the typical 4 year college routine does not always lead to success..
Dr Phil, you lack compassion
Shame on you, old man. This is not the larents fault, this is not the poor boys fault. Any competent psychoatrist would know something about depression, this is just for the views.
I hope he gets the comeback to the real life he deserves
I was depressed once and I didn’t even get out of bed to do regular routines
Quarantine motivated me to become and new and improved human being as sort of a “comeback”
I wish you the best on improving yourself, I can empathise with how you felt before lockdown
I'm proud of you for using this terrible circumstance this year to make a positive difference in your life. You have inspired me. Thank you stranger.
@@lindsay833 thx
I’m so proud of you
Twin
They don't want him to leave...they r as dependent on him as he is on them...
If he's going to bed at 6 am and waking up at 6 pm, he can always get a 3rd shift job. I know the situation is far beyond getting a just a job. Dr.Phil can help him as long as the parents do their jobs as parents and hold their son accountable.
This sounds like a sleep disorder or biological issue. Definitely beyond just getting a job
Harsh but true. His son would be perfectly fine on his own eventually. The parents need to believe in him and his resourcefulness, and also need to show him some tough love.
He’s the problem with dr phill blaming the parents
Let’s say parent kick kid out
Kid gets homeless steels end ups in jail
Media why are their some many homeless criminals out their
I 100% feel for him. I've been there. I was lucky to have someone in my life that required me to keep things clean and organized during my worst downward spirals. I too am a gamer with severe depression with a career. I'd totally be this guy's friend
Wtf Dr. Phil.. this is not how a psychiatrist would handle this case. Smh
He's not a psychiatrist. He's a experimental, clinical, and forensic psychologist. He has a post doc and Frank Lawless was his advisor, so he can, and does vouch for dr phil. He used to practice but after the show really took off, left practice so he stopped renewing his license.
But He's even said he's not a psychiatrist.
I disagree the parents need to recognise how they enabled his behaviour, it’s important for his parents to check his behaviour.
They should have gotten him help sooner.
@@sophiauwu5661 he is blaming the parents for what? Not kicking their depressed son into the street? Not controlling every aspect of his life? What?
Raul For not getting him help sooner? Once they noticed that he was not functioning they should have gotten him help. Do they just expect his depression to magically vanish? He obviously wasn’t in a place to help himself. Enabling this self destructive behaviour is not the right thing to do.
I can understand what he’s been through. I went through the same thing when I was suffering depression. You just don’t want to get up from your bed because sleeping is a form of escaping the reality of the life you have to face, which is causing you depression. I graduated high school but still wanted to get more credits, but my high school denied me saying I wasn’t capable of doing higher academics, which got me very frustrated, brought down my self-esteem and made me feel completely dumb and worthless. I tried for 2 years to resume classes to get more credits until I found an open door.
I feel so bad because I'm in this position just waiting for the courage to end it all. No energy to change things. But no courage to unalive so I sleep and hide in room
@rashminegi6539 same here
“Jake has such a bizarre life. He’s getting up at 6pm &+ going to sleep at 6am.” That’s a sign of depression right there, either sleeping too little, or too much, &+ at odd hours.
I had severe depression from 2019-2020 I was just like jake (expect the hygiene part, I still showered, brushed my teeth, granted I did stay in my pjs all day if I could, but I washed my clothes.) just like him tho I felt more comfortable in my bed. I isolated myself, I ignored people’s calls and texts, I was also in a “terrible funk” as jake called it.
Today I have anxiety more than depression. I still have depression, there’s a lot of days where I have to push myself to stay motivated, but I no longer feel like a burden or feel like I don’t belong. I’ve started talking to my friends and family more, and it really helps. Keeping it inside doesn’t help, it’s embarrassing (I get it) but it’s SO much better to talk about it. You won’t always find the right person at first so keep talking to people and someone will understand, someone will be there to help you, keep trying, try not to give up. 👏🏼😁😋😎
My mom wants me to be unemployed. I’m also 27M. She wants to take my disability money and every time I apply for a job, my mom threatens to kick me out of the house and take my car away. The jobs I want are 30+ miles from home and I feel completely stuck and hopeless
What makes it worse was while I was driving to a job interview yesterday, my car almost caught on fire on the freeway and I ended up not making it to the interview. I genuinely feel stuck and screwed
😢
It's over
Never began
I been watching a lot of these dr phil vids Im glad It finally let me put a comment, can’t wait for the next dose of knowledge from the doc
His parents care so much and have his best intentions at heart. He's very lucky!
Dr.phil should NOT blame that full grown MANS parents for his decisions. Him feeling depressed bc of that teaching certificate or whatever is not the fault of the parents. Clearly the parents are concerned and they just don't know what to do. I used to live like that guy my room was messy like his and depressed. It was NEVER my parents fault it was MINE. shame on Dr.Phil.
A lot like me unfortunately. Im 27, horrible depression and anxiety, dont shower like i should, or brush my teeth like i should. My pain and childhood trauma is what put me here is the difference. But my wife and kids push me to do better, unfortunately he doesn't have anyone to other than his parents but that isnt enough for a grown man.
At least you have a family lol I have nothing
Lol why does he have so many banjos?
Poor Jake... I feel bad for him. Cuz I am him sometimes but I'm working out of it
*me, 21, living at home with no job, eating chips while garbage and laundry piles up next to me*
Also me: this shits crazy
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I hope you doing better now god bless you
You're too young. Imagine being 27
He has an “above average iq” (114-130) and a collage degree and he isn’t being pushed to try again after being turned down to be a teacher. He even seems like he’d be the cool teacher.
This almost described me. I also went to college straight out of high school. Dropped out the University and ended up spending years at a CC, dropped out of CC to work retail, kept quitting retail to pursue higher education, finished degree, but still ended up unemployed and jobless. I have anxiety and depression that is shown in different ways. I hate that it’s affecting the quality of my sleep, eating on much, and having social anxiety.
Except my parents called me a whole bunch of names in the book saying I was useless, trash, and etc. Then they say it hurts to see me not doing anything with my life because I’m stuck at home repeating the same motions everyday. I feel stuck too since I can’t find anyone to hire me. Then my big sister is calling me a leech because I’m still living with parents.
I see part of myself in this guy. I'm 20, living with my parents and taking college classes online (pre-pandemic as well). My anxiety and depression has limited me from finding a job, and I feel really guilty about it. I'm surprised that Dr. Phil didn't see this as depression (at least from what I can gather in this video he didn't).
just needs consistent encouragement. He doesnt seem like a bad guy or one of the other mooch types on this show. Finally a worthy case for this show.
In the wise words of Jordan Peterson “you need to start by cleaning your room”
Dr. phil isn’t mocking him , he’s being real with him and not sugar coating it
He is beng a jerk. Tough love does not work for everyone
‘after i smoke and make coffee’ or ‘after i smoke my coffee’ can’t even space his words lol
I was diagnosed with anxiety but I clean my own room, pay my rent, go to work, drive, shower, change my clothes, etc. So, that is just plain ridiculous. Yeah, granted the social aspect of it is scary but I don't let that hold me back and Jacob shouldn't either.
He's clearly depressed.
And really? Everyone's symptoms are different. My anxiety holds me back from driving.
Laura, don't judge him. Pray you don't end up like him cause then you wouldn't brand it anymore "plain ridiculous". People don't understand until it happens to them.
I'm curious as to whether or not Covid will affect the new model long enough for us to witness the first person to "storm off the stage" by simply stepping away from their webcam.
So sad to see a young person be depressed. Does he possible also have a type of autism?
I love dr Phil but sometimes I feel like he’s unfair towards parents acting like parents should just automatically see things point blank like him when I truly believe when living it it’s not just black and white like that. I think he should go a little easier, they clearly care ❤️❤️
Dr Phil you really let me tf down with this one.
This is my little brother and older sister... they are 24 and 31, and have never lived independently (except my older sister when my parents paid for an apartment/university for 4 years... she left the apartment and moved back home after 8 months).
My brother has his gf and baby living in the basement of my parents house with him.
They kicked me out when I was 15, and I have never moved back home. They let me be homeless for 2.5 years on the streets, but I made it on my own and still do.
I don't understand why they were so keen to not ever help me, but enable my siblings to the point where they do not know how to be adults at all.
The sad part is my parents HATE their life. They resent their kids. But they won't kick them out and my siblings will never leave on their own.
He has a lot of potential. Jake, you’ll be fine. And it’s not too late and you aren’t old!
start with the small things
start with smaller goals
promiss yourself you'll fix your room, go out more, take a jog in the weekends, start small and grow bigger and you'll climb back up
As of now, this is quite common
So this is what happened to Jake from state farm
Hahahahahahahh!aaaaaaa! Hillarious!!
I feel bad for him actually... I know what it feels like. He needs counseling. His mental health comes first. He can't just work, his mind gotta be in the right place
I have a 24 yr old just like this...it is so difficult!!!
It's difficult for everyone involved
@Marianne Havisham No worries