I'm 27 and haven't had a romantic partner since high school as well. I've been on dating apps since 2017. Dating is SO hard these days. You are not alone!!! 🖤
Can I just say, Im incredibly grateful i never settled in my 20s as a woman who just turned 33 and met the love of my life at 32 im so glad! i never settled until i found the right person who i finally feel safe with and who ticks all my boxes. I also tick all my boxes in terms of who i want to be in a relationship and how much i can give
So happy for you! You worded it beautifully. YOU also tick all your boxes for who YOU want to be. We should all meet this stage before love. It will feel so much more amazing. In my stage of becoming who I want to be. 😊
I’m 25 living in a city and god dating is so so hard. I just had a great two months with someone new, I felt vulnerable safe and connected to them in a way I haven’t felt in a very long time. They ended it over text a couple days ago and I’ll never see them again. I feel blindsided and obviously crushed, but at the same time the beautiful friends in my life dropped everything to show up and be with me. They made me laugh, got me flowers and made sure I ate for the next few days. As much as my brain wants to turn on myself and think what’s “wrong with me?”, I’m forced to look around myself to the most beautiful circle of people I have in my life and think- if I attract this, I must be this.
Girl your body is beautiful and healthy; it has carried you through everything and is strong and allows you to walk and breathe and that is so beautiful.
family truly is chosen. I moved away from my home town a year ago, and it amazes me how many more loving people ive met in one short year than I did in 18 years back home
Just turned 28 and have never had a boyfriend despite actively dating over the years. 2024 I took a step back and decided to focus on my business and myself instead. Every once in a while I get the urge to hop back on an app but I feel like it would only put me back in the same cycle 🙃 I also stopped listening to dating podcasts which really helped as well! Part of me feels like I’m running out of time when it comes to dating and having a family. But also, I don’t think I would trade my life in for anything different you know? Like it’s really gotta be the right fit for me to be anything but single, because I enjoy the life I’ve built
This is very comforting to hear as a fellow 26 year old who is almost in an identical situation. I don't have a well off man buying me luxury things, not jet setting across the world with the funds from one of 9 side hustle. No family photos for the Christmas in a well decorated home and feast and gifts. Not saying any of this is bad. Everyone leads a different life. But this is what is promoted and it can make you forget life isn't like that for a lot of people.
Hey I'm pretty much the same as you but would just like to know did you have any sexual experiences before you met your partner? And does your partners history affect you at all? I did not have any sexual experience before meeting my partner but he had many ex girlfriends.. this sometimes bothers me and makes me feel like I missed out. What are your thoughts on this? 😅 x
This video was recommended to be by the algorithm, ive never seen any of your other vids but I definitely feel what you said. Im 26, i’ll be 27 in January but Ive never had a real romantic relationship and it does suck sometimes. I also relate with your words about your mother… I definitely feel that with my family too.
The body image one is so real. As the one friend that was significantly bigger than my other friends who were naturally skinny and get full quicker when we’d go out to eat, and then pictures too! I would see one bad pic and it would send me into a downward spiral
Boo I can heavily relate to your feelings around your relationship with your mother. My family life has been my emotional sore spot my entire life. Feeling like the "black sheep" when everyone else in your life seem to have warm, loving relationships with their parents - ABSOLUTELY. Feeling jealous of the nurturing warmth that others receive from their mothers when I can't even get a phone call... GIRL I'm with you and I see you. Liiiiiiiterally tearing up typing this.... I love that you brought up the jealousy, because I have felt that *many* times and then it will send me into a guilt spiral. I feel so awful for having this negative, jealous energy towards my loved ones, for no reason other than they have a mother who truly cares about them. It's not their fault that my mom isn't capable of expressing love or nurturing me - but it's still a very difficult situation to experience. My friends are my chosen family and I have MANY deep and loving relationships in my life, but not having parents who are present and support me has had me walk through life many days feeling "alone" - like if push came to shove, I would have no one. Because as much as my friends are my family.... I'm not their family. I know that's over the top thinking and they'd slap me for saying that because my besties have my back ALWAYS.... but it just leaves an empty space in the heart. We learn to cope, we can fill that space with other things that cultivate joy, but there is nothing that can replace the love of a parent. Keep strong my girl, I'm with you !!
I just went through 3 years of singleness and felt incredibly defective and unloveable. I relate to your feelings so much. I thought it was all me! Then in March I met the love of my life and what occurred to me more than anything was I was exactly the same person before and after I found him, which means it WASNT ME- I just hadn’t found him yet! Keep going girl you will find him and you are exactly as wonderful and lovable now as you will be when someone finally sees it ❤️
when you talked about your mother my heart broke, i'm too a no contact with a volatile narcissist birthgiver since i was 17 yo. we need to talk more about abusive misogynist mothers and targeting daughters. a mother will always be a daughter first enemy. i'm so sorry darling and thank you for speaking, i know it takes great bravery. sending my love 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
I am like you with the dating and love seeing everybody else in the comments who is too. I'm 25 next month and my longest and only relationship lasted only a few days when I was 19. It literally sucks so much. I feel like my friends dont understand my priorities being completely different than theirs and never having that experience I am not planning my future life around it, and thinking ab it makes me upset more than anything else. I love that youve shared this bc u r a cool girl, and I am a cool girl too, and there is nothing wrong with us. I am tired of the canned advice many ppl in couples offer, it is such a lie that we need to change anything ab ourselves to be loved. Some of the WORST people I've ever known are consistently in relationships, fr. I'm not even on dating apps anymore either, the dating like ghosting and rejection just aren't worth it. Ty for sharing this!! ❤ Also I am no contact w my dad for a few years! So feel u on that too
i like never want to hear any advice from anyone who isnt actively in the situation too tbh it upsets me soo much "I thought I'd never meet my spouse but then I did! and now I am soo happy" its like ok, so u actually dont understand where I am rn at all lololll
I didn't date for 5 years! This past summer was my first taste of romance in such a long time. But it was worth the wait because finding someone who you're compatible with is actually pretty hard to find!
This video showed up in my recommended feed out of nowhere and I've never been more happy to have watched something. I have never related more to a video, and seeing someone who I consider to be beautiful and interesting and smart express sentiments I've felt for a long time was extremely healing in a way I couldn't have guessed. I'm 27. I, also, have not been in a romantic relationship since high school, mine comes from trauma based on cheating and intimacy and a fear of rejection that I can't seem to get past, but it's made me feel stunted as an adult. I'm working through this, but it's extremely isolating because it's embarrassing to discuss, and feels impossible to talk about. I also, last year, lost 45lbs. I look very similar to you now (I think, because I have the same issue with perception from being fat and fear of it regardless of love for my body in all stages). And it's so extremely hard to parse when I'm still the "big" friend. I'm 6' tall, I will only ever be the biggest in a picture regardless of how much I don't want to take up space. So, thank you for making this video, your honesty and transparency was so meaningful to me and came at the perfect time for me.
I had to pause the video halfway just to type this: i wish I could give you a big and tight hug. You seem genuinely like nice person and I do hope you will find someone that will love you as much as you deserve - endlessly.
Girl you are like classically gorgeous and so eloquent! This video was super sincere and it resonated with me! Best of luck with your UA-cam! Keep building your self love, you deserve it!❤❤❤
i've thought of doing more publicly available online content andddd my estranged parent is (has always been) a certified internet creep. i've let that stop me (so far), but i'm happy that you haven't. sending virtual hugs to anyone in a similar situation
When my therapist suggested medication I felt disappointed in myself but at the same time I was so crushed at that moment that I understood it was the only possible solution. You are not alone in all of this ❤ I appreciated your honesty!
I rarely comment on UA-cam videos, but this one was too powerful not to. You’re so authentic and heartfelt, so raw with your emotions. It really made me reflect on my own experiences. Thank you for creating something so real and relatable. ❤️❤️
as somebody who's cycled through no contact and low contact with her parents, it's so refreshing to here you talk about your mum in such an open way. i totally get the fear too. even when i'm walking out of my house, i still get scared somebody is gonna tell my parents where i am. i'm 21 years old and i think you're incredibly brave and amazing. you've given me a sense of hope. i came across this video by chance but i'm definitely subscribing.
I resonated to everything you said about body image. It's tiring to constantly have these thoughts. For a while i accepted i would always have them, but recently ive been making the effort to call out that voice in my head. Its not always easy to recognize when you're being mean to yourself but I believe you'll get better at it. ❤
Just wanted to say, you're so beautiful! (and I too will be cutting contact with a parent as soon as I'm able, so I know the pain of having an abusive parent). I also wanted to share my story for those of you who feel hopelessly lonely - I had my first relationship at 23, it lasted a year and broke me completely when it ended. I was single and 'very picky' for 5 years and feeling so incredibly hopeless when I met the most incredible man I've ever known. Fast forward and we've been together for 10 years now and married for 5. I truly never thought I'd meet anyone who could love me as much as I love them, but I was SO wrong. You truly never know who you're going to meet or when, so just enjoy life and you will stumble upon love when you least expect it x
this was the first video i watched of you, got this recommended on my for you page and wanted to say thank you for being so honest and vulnerable sharing this!!!
This is my first time coming across your channel. I think we always need a reminder that we are all human at the end of the day. I appreciate your vulnerability to express that on a public platform 🖤
Hey girl, thanks for sharing this, I can relate to your experiences as well… I know how hard dating can be and I completely understand your struggles. I also haven’t had a long serious relationship in my life except for some long-distance stuff or short meaningless dating. People don’t seem to understand your loneliness and why you want to be loved. I have a feeling that modern men don’t want anything serious, and it just makes me so sad. In addition to that, everyone around just depreciates my feelings and says that I’m focusing too hard on finding a relationship or wanting or be loved. Your video made me realised that I’m not alone. Just like you, I feel that other people at least had some long connections and were desired, but I was always left behind… I can also relate to your family problems. My father hasn’t had any contact with me for 20 years now. It makes me so sad that even the only man in my life who has to love me unconditionally doesn’t care about me. And we even have so much in common regarding the way we see ourselves. I know the feeling of hating myself because of how I look. I can’t stop thinking that I’m worse than everybody because I’m not as skinny as them which adds to the fact that men never pay attention to me. Thank you for being honest and showing what you feel. I truly believe that you’re really cool, I like watching your videos and your openness is something that appeals to me as well. I wish you to find the right person, be always kind to yourself and just happy!! Thank you again and lots of love ❤
As an 18 year old who just started college and has been gaining weight bc of meds over the last two years, thank you. I appreciate you being so raw about your struggle with your body image because it helps me feel like I’m not alone. I appreciate it so much more than you know. I just found your channel and I already love you. Thank you for being you 🫶🏻
Fellow 26 year old here living in Sydney Australia. I want to make the move to New York, and your videos inspire me. Appreciate your storytelling and honesty.
The importance of getting away from a bad situation is so true..a lot of people don't realise this. They think they are "strong" and can handle it. There is no way to live a full life with abuse, it can be hard to realise but it's the truth. You have come a really long way since you see this!
I'm 20 and struggle with many of the things you talked about. Thank you so much for being real, this is the kind of content I needed. Sending you lots of hugs
I can relate to you so hard. I think I started off following you on TikTok but you popped up in my UA-cam recs. I also have a bad relationship with my mother and have been no contact with her since 17. I’m 25 now. Also can relate to the body image perspectives… super refreshing to see someone I can really relate to online!
I’m 19, so fairly young. But I’ve never been in any relationships. And I’m also used to rejection, whether or not I find myself having standards. I feel I’ve become more cold than usual, but I’ve sort of found my peace in being alone. And the topic of weight I find has been more triggering. I feel the same. I’ve apparently lost a little, but people’s comments make me so uncomfortable. Whether it’s praising the loss, because was I not valued before? And I am almost at a year of no contact with my father. My family has not been supportive of this whatsoever. But this video was so insightful. Used to being misunderstood and just accepting the fact, but I feel less alone. Thanks for making this video. You’re a real one ✨
Omg this was like looking in the mirror, I could relate to everything specific thing you said (swap out the mum issues for dad issues and we’re duplicates hahha) - and it was so nice to hear that someone like me is also out there doing all the same things and being a girls girl and just living her best life!! You should be super super proud of yourself!!
So comforting and refreshing to hear such candid reflections on love and body image. Thank you for the vulnerability, I wish I lived in New York so we could be friends. Happy to have found your channel :)
Hey Kendall! Just wanted to say thanks for your vulnerability and honesty in this! It’s refreshing to watch something so candid. I also haven’t had a bf since high school and struggle with my body image daily. There’s such value in your videos like this one- helps us all feel less alone. ❤
Hey Kendall, nice to meet you! Just wanted to share a bit about my journey. I’m 26 too, and I’ve never been in a "serious relationship." Honestly, I’m kinda happy with that for now. Sometimes I catch myself thinking, "What would it be like to have someone right now?" But I feel like being single for so long has made me a bit scared of being loved and cared for. I’m from Brazil, São Paulo to be exact, people call it the Brazilian NYC. It’s just as hard to find someone you can really love and trust here, big city problems. Stay strong!
I really appreciate this video and you opening up about so many things❤. I turned 27 last month and I’ve been dealing with a lot of insecurities about my body and where I’m at with my life/career. I also have CPTSD and while not quite no contact I have little communication with my parents. Your video helps me feel a little less alone.
i honestly think you are one of my fav creators i follow on the internet. you’re very relatable for me specifically and i feel very seen by your videos and content. please keep making these kinds of videos! they really help me
giirl, I just found your channel, this is the first video of yours I'm watching and it couldn't be more relatable. I'm also 26 and have been single since highschool. I know all those thoughts about why am I still single, why does everyone else seem to find partners so easily etc. all too well! I still don't have an answer for it, but I feel like it's my highest priority to know myself and accept myself fully before actually feeling comfortable in a romantic relationship. So maybe that's why, who knows. I also struggle with body image/ED and even though I'm still occasionally talking to my mum, our relationship isn't good at all. Soooo I just think it's crazy how similar lives can be without having any actual connection. loved the video
I really love this kind of content! Feels like a diary entry and is so relatable. Thanks for being so candid. The world needs more content like this! ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm 25 and have never dated. It's a very isolating experience. I also relate to having a difficult relationship with your body. I've also lost fifty pounds, and no one talks about how strange that feels. It feels like you're caught somewhere between your past body and your current body. I hope you know that you're not alone in these feelings; you sharing these experiences has certainly helped me feel more "normal". Even though it feels reassuring to feel "normal", it's important to remember that "normal" is a myth sold to us by social media and Hollywood. We all move through life in our own way, at our own pace, and that unique journey is the beauty of it all.
No matter what experiences and feelings you had and have in your dating life… you are not alone! And all of your feelings are valid! I found you through Maddie‘s collaboration. I have only seen two Videos of yours and I really have to say you are so honest, authentic and incredibly lovable! When I was little I sometimes saw women who radiated and were so strong and I always thought back then: how great can women be?? When I grow up, I want to be just as strong and radiant. And you, dear Kendall, brought up these exact thoughts in me! Now i am 23 and I am in my journey to be that kind of Women in my unice way. And to become that, there is unfortunately no way without hard times. You are a big Inspiration because I see many qualities in you that are still hidden in myself which i want to develop… you can be so proud of yourself. I Hope you will feel and See how beautiful and radiant you are.
Like this is the content much needed because I struggle with body image issues and we all know no one would have listened to this content if she would have started the content before losing weight. For some people weight gain is so much easier and so hard to loose. There would have been more hate comments if you don't look a certain way. So yeah even if the world tells you to love yourself. We all know the world will only treat you better if, you looked a certain kind of aestheticly pleasing. I face with this shit and I'd really like more people to just show kindess and love and be brave enough to share their stories like her. Much love keep going. ❤
This video spoke to me and was sent to me by the universe. I'm 26 and happily engaged. But I haven't had friend/s that stuck for years since I was 20. Everyone has moved on and advanced into the next chapter. But even though I am engaged I feel stuck, alone, and like there's something wrong with me because I don't have friends. I also haven't moved forward into the career I want even though Ive been applying left and right lol. Thank you for this video, I'm still sad but Im also happy Im not the only one that feels alone, as selfish as that sounds
you are so cool. legit can relate to so much of this and it feels good to relate but also like damn i am sorry other people get the feeling and have been through similar stuff. I hope you are doing well and things get better
this video humanized you in so many ways. from someone who knows you personally - this was powerful. you speak in such beautiful ways about your human experience and I think it connects you to many. you are exceptional
this is the first video of yours i've ever seen and your vulnerability truly hit me like a ton of bricks. i feel like we just became best friends. and you are so cool!!!! thank you for sharing your story
Thank you so much for being real and showing us that we’re not alone 🫶 seeing so many UA-camrs portray these perfect lives makes me feel like I’m the only one struggling, even though I know that’s not true, seeing it non stop starts to mess with my head
I’m 26 too and in the exact same boat. The majority of my friends are either married or in long term relationships and I often feel lonely now they’ve somewhat moved on and their priorities are shifting. But I can only date someone if they align with me which isn’t all too common ❤ reminding myself that life isn’t a rush helps x thank you for this video
I’m a new subscriber but I just wanted to comment about how seen I feel by the similar dating experience… I appreciate your vulnerability and I feel less alone
Hi Kendall! Just want to say I love you and your content! You’ve been a big source of style inspo for me lately. I didn’t realize how much I related to you, especially in terms of family and dating. I don’t talk to my dad and I’m 27 and have never been in a real relationship. It was comforting hearing you experience the same things ❤❤
just came across this video and your channel randomly!! I absolutely love everything about your video- I’ve been in the same position as you in regard to body image and body positivity. Getting out of the cycle of negative self talk is one of the hardest things I’ve done so far! Sending you love and warm hugs🫶🏼🥹
First, you look incredible. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself the same grace you would give a friend. ❤Second, I totally relate to you in so many ways. I’m 30 years old and have never been in a serious romantic relationship. It sucks! Dating sucks! It is so rough out here. Thank you for being so raw and honest and vulnerable with us. It means so much to us and makes us know that we’re not alone, and we’re going through similar things in the world 🤗🫂
im no contact with my mom for 2 years (finally). its liberating, and the only path to fulfilling life but it also forces you to see what you've never had compared to your peers. Also I feel similar to what you feel socially, I'm in a relationship, but cannot seem to find fulfilling friendships. Youre not alone, and you are understood
I didn’t have a long term relationship since 9 years. I met people, but never really liked anyone or had feelings, but they didn’t like me back. I recently met someone, whom I absolutely fell for, but sadly he want ready for a relationship, after his last relationship ended very dramatically. You are not alone, it’s very hard. And it’s only based on luck. And I have more friends that are no contact with their parents or parts of their family. You are not alone 😊
Oh girl, I’m watching your video as I’m working because I liked your thumb nail and I wanna say that just because you don’t have one thing like a relationship or maybe you don’t think that you’re skinny enough or beautiful enough or whatever it is (which you are extremely beautiful js) but you do have your person out there if that’s what you want God has a person for you, but you should be proud of everything that you’ve done on UA-cam. I’ll take a look and see if you have any other stuff out because Idk? you before now but you should be proud because this is a dream job and a lot of people well have much less amazing jobs and life is not always great and it does get bad. It gets really grim. Sometimes the only thing you can do is appreciate the things that you do have and God will then give you more. Love that beautiful body because it is enough. And be kind and have fun! God always has a plan.
Remember this song “you can’t hurry love” I need love, love to ease my mind I need to find, find someone to call mine But mama said you can't hurry love No you just have to wait She said love don't come easy It's a game of give and take You can't hurry love No, you just have to wait You gotta trust, give it time No matter how long it takes But how many heartaches must I stand Before I find a love to let me live again Right now the only thing that keeps me hanging on When I feel my strength, yeah, it's almost gone
Hey Kendall, I've loved your videos for a while and I really resonate with this one in particular. I'm 28 and similar to you, I've not had a relationship with my dad for the last 11 years. I know how this can really affect how you view yourself and how you attach to others! I live in London and being in a big city can be super lonely, but it's so wonderful when you finally form a community, which you sound like you have. You seem like such a lovely person, and the way you've followed your own path is very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your experience 💜
thank you for sharing the story with your mother! I've been no contact with my mother for 2 years now and it kinda helps to hear that other people make this decision too.
Your video feels like a gift tonight. Thank you for your vulnerability. I needed to be reminded I am not alone struggling with the same issues as you. ❤
Hey I can relate with you on your mom situation. Thank you for speaking honestly, gave me courage. Thank you for being so truthul and vulnerable on video.
Thank you for this truly im 23 and i understand the loneliness and family struggles in my own way and have struggled with my own mental health too but its such a beautiful thing to open ourselves and be vulnerable it makes us feel connected and not alone So thank you again for sharing a piece of you💗
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you are such a sweet soul. thank you for this video 😍
Thank you for this, Kendall 💜 ive been single for just about 10 years now and its comforting to hear and see in these comments that im not alone in that! You really are such a gem 💜
I lost my mother at 18, and have been NC with my father and stepmother over the last two years. I'm 28 now, and the verbal abuse got to me so badly -- really shook my sense of identity. But I'm thankfully beginning to get to the other side. Thanks for sharing the topic. It's definitely hard.
I’m a 26 year old girl from what can also be considered a bustling busy city (London) and I also don’t have a relationship with my mother. My parents got divorced when I was 4 and she was never a present and active parent, so I empathise with this. We got this 🤞🏼❤
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I'm 27 and haven't had a romantic partner since high school as well. I've been on dating apps since 2017. Dating is SO hard these days. You are not alone!!! 🖤
I am 25 and same. this is so validating❤
Can I just say, Im incredibly grateful i never settled in my 20s as a woman who just turned 33 and met the love of my life at 32 im so glad! i never settled until i found the right person who i finally feel safe with and who ticks all my boxes. I also tick all my boxes in terms of who i want to be in a relationship and how much i can give
So happy for you! You worded it beautifully. YOU also tick all your boxes for who YOU want to be. We should all meet this stage before love. It will feel so much more amazing. In my stage of becoming who I want to be. 😊
I’m 25 living in a city and god dating is so so hard. I just had a great two months with someone new, I felt vulnerable safe and connected to them in a way I haven’t felt in a very long time. They ended it over text a couple days ago and I’ll never see them again. I feel blindsided and obviously crushed, but at the same time the beautiful friends in my life dropped everything to show up and be with me. They made me laugh, got me flowers and made sure I ate for the next few days. As much as my brain wants to turn on myself and think what’s “wrong with me?”, I’m forced to look around myself to the most beautiful circle of people I have in my life and think- if I attract this, I must be this.
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Wow, girl, you sure are on another level of maturity than me and I'm way older than you. Good for you!
Loveeee this
Dang. I pray that God will align ur person to u soon. In Jesus Name, Amen.
same
Girl your body is beautiful and healthy; it has carried you through everything and is strong and allows you to walk and breathe and that is so beautiful.
Yesssss!!!!!!
You are truthfully the cutest person Kendall. Whoever going to end up with you is going to be the luckies person on this planet. You are a blessing
that is so very kind, thank you
family truly is chosen. I moved away from my home town a year ago, and it amazes me how many more loving people ive met in one short year than I did in 18 years back home
Just turned 28 and have never had a boyfriend despite actively dating over the years. 2024 I took a step back and decided to focus on my business and myself instead. Every once in a while I get the urge to hop back on an app but I feel like it would only put me back in the same cycle 🙃 I also stopped listening to dating podcasts which really helped as well!
Part of me feels like I’m running out of time when it comes to dating and having a family. But also, I don’t think I would trade my life in for anything different you know? Like it’s really gotta be the right fit for me to be anything but single, because I enjoy the life I’ve built
I've been no contact with my mother for 7 years. Thank you for sharing! I completely understand the impact.
This is very comforting to hear as a fellow 26 year old who is almost in an identical situation. I don't have a well off man buying me luxury things, not jet setting across the world with the funds from one of 9 side hustle. No family photos for the Christmas in a well decorated home and feast and gifts. Not saying any of this is bad. Everyone leads a different life. But this is what is promoted and it can make you forget life isn't like that for a lot of people.
i didnt have my first date til 27 and first long term relationship til 29 - and im still with him 5 years later (:
Hey I'm pretty much the same as you but would just like to know did you have any sexual experiences before you met your partner? And does your partners history affect you at all? I did not have any sexual experience before meeting my partner but he had many ex girlfriends.. this sometimes bothers me and makes me feel like I missed out. What are your thoughts on this? 😅 x
Kendall this video was so real and relatable
I'm 26 too and I've never been in any relationship, not even dating anyone. Glad i found your video
This video was recommended to be by the algorithm, ive never seen any of your other vids but I definitely feel what you said. Im 26, i’ll be 27 in January but Ive never had a real romantic relationship and it does suck sometimes. I also relate with your words about your mother… I definitely feel that with my family too.
The body image one is so real. As the one friend that was significantly bigger than my other friends who were naturally skinny and get full quicker when we’d go out to eat, and then pictures too! I would see one bad pic and it would send me into a downward spiral
Boo I can heavily relate to your feelings around your relationship with your mother. My family life has been my emotional sore spot my entire life. Feeling like the "black sheep" when everyone else in your life seem to have warm, loving relationships with their parents - ABSOLUTELY. Feeling jealous of the nurturing warmth that others receive from their mothers when I can't even get a phone call... GIRL I'm with you and I see you. Liiiiiiiterally tearing up typing this.... I love that you brought up the jealousy, because I have felt that *many* times and then it will send me into a guilt spiral. I feel so awful for having this negative, jealous energy towards my loved ones, for no reason other than they have a mother who truly cares about them. It's not their fault that my mom isn't capable of expressing love or nurturing me - but it's still a very difficult situation to experience. My friends are my chosen family and I have MANY deep and loving relationships in my life, but not having parents who are present and support me has had me walk through life many days feeling "alone" - like if push came to shove, I would have no one. Because as much as my friends are my family.... I'm not their family. I know that's over the top thinking and they'd slap me for saying that because my besties have my back ALWAYS.... but it just leaves an empty space in the heart. We learn to cope, we can fill that space with other things that cultivate joy, but there is nothing that can replace the love of a parent. Keep strong my girl, I'm with you !!
I just went through 3 years of singleness and felt incredibly defective and unloveable. I relate to your feelings so much. I thought it was all me! Then in March I met the love of my life and what occurred to me more than anything was I was exactly the same person before and after I found him, which means it WASNT ME- I just hadn’t found him yet! Keep going girl you will find him and you are exactly as wonderful and lovable now as you will be when someone finally sees it ❤️
when you talked about your mother my heart broke, i'm too a no contact with a volatile narcissist birthgiver since i was 17 yo. we need to talk more about abusive misogynist mothers and targeting daughters. a mother will always be a daughter first enemy.
i'm so sorry darling and thank you for speaking, i know it takes great bravery. sending my love 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
I am like you with the dating and love seeing everybody else in the comments who is too. I'm 25 next month and my longest and only relationship lasted only a few days when I was 19. It literally sucks so much. I feel like my friends dont understand my priorities being completely different than theirs and never having that experience I am not planning my future life around it, and thinking ab it makes me upset more than anything else. I love that youve shared this bc u r a cool girl, and I am a cool girl too, and there is nothing wrong with us. I am tired of the canned advice many ppl in couples offer, it is such a lie that we need to change anything ab ourselves to be loved. Some of the WORST people I've ever known are consistently in relationships, fr. I'm not even on dating apps anymore either, the dating like ghosting and rejection just aren't worth it. Ty for sharing this!! ❤
Also I am no contact w my dad for a few years! So feel u on that too
i like never want to hear any advice from anyone who isnt actively in the situation too tbh it upsets me soo much "I thought I'd never meet my spouse but then I did! and now I am soo happy" its like ok, so u actually dont understand where I am rn at all lololll
I didn't date for 5 years! This past summer was my first taste of romance in such a long time. But it was worth the wait because finding someone who you're compatible with is actually pretty hard to find!
This video showed up in my recommended feed out of nowhere and I've never been more happy to have watched something. I have never related more to a video, and seeing someone who I consider to be beautiful and interesting and smart express sentiments I've felt for a long time was extremely healing in a way I couldn't have guessed.
I'm 27. I, also, have not been in a romantic relationship since high school, mine comes from trauma based on cheating and intimacy and a fear of rejection that I can't seem to get past, but it's made me feel stunted as an adult. I'm working through this, but it's extremely isolating because it's embarrassing to discuss, and feels impossible to talk about.
I also, last year, lost 45lbs. I look very similar to you now (I think, because I have the same issue with perception from being fat and fear of it regardless of love for my body in all stages). And it's so extremely hard to parse when I'm still the "big" friend. I'm 6' tall, I will only ever be the biggest in a picture regardless of how much I don't want to take up space.
So, thank you for making this video, your honesty and transparency was so meaningful to me and came at the perfect time for me.
I had to pause the video halfway just to type this: i wish I could give you a big and tight hug. You seem genuinely like nice person and I do hope you will find someone that will love you as much as you deserve - endlessly.
Girl you are like classically gorgeous and so eloquent! This video was super sincere and it resonated with me! Best of luck with your UA-cam! Keep building your self love, you deserve it!❤❤❤
i've thought of doing more publicly available online content andddd my estranged parent is (has always been) a certified internet creep. i've let that stop me (so far), but i'm happy that you haven't.
sending virtual hugs to anyone in a similar situation
When my therapist suggested medication I felt disappointed in myself but at the same time I was so crushed at that moment that I understood it was the only possible solution. You are not alone in all of this ❤ I appreciated your honesty!
I rarely comment on UA-cam videos, but this one was too powerful not to. You’re so authentic and heartfelt, so raw with your emotions. It really made me reflect on my own experiences. Thank you for creating something so real and relatable. ❤️❤️
as somebody who's cycled through no contact and low contact with her parents, it's so refreshing to here you talk about your mum in such an open way. i totally get the fear too. even when i'm walking out of my house, i still get scared somebody is gonna tell my parents where i am. i'm 21 years old and i think you're incredibly brave and amazing. you've given me a sense of hope. i came across this video by chance but i'm definitely subscribing.
I resonated to everything you said about body image. It's tiring to constantly have these thoughts. For a while i accepted i would always have them, but recently ive been making the effort to call out that voice in my head.
Its not always easy to recognize when you're being mean to yourself but I believe you'll get better at it. ❤
Just wanted to say, you're so beautiful! (and I too will be cutting contact with a parent as soon as I'm able, so I know the pain of having an abusive parent). I also wanted to share my story for those of you who feel hopelessly lonely - I had my first relationship at 23, it lasted a year and broke me completely when it ended. I was single and 'very picky' for 5 years and feeling so incredibly hopeless when I met the most incredible man I've ever known. Fast forward and we've been together for 10 years now and married for 5. I truly never thought I'd meet anyone who could love me as much as I love them, but I was SO wrong. You truly never know who you're going to meet or when, so just enjoy life and you will stumble upon love when you least expect it x
this was the first video i watched of you, got this recommended on my for you page and wanted to say thank you for being so honest and vulnerable sharing this!!!
When I first saw the title I for real forgot that I am also 26 for a minute 😂
Omg me too until I read your comment 😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is my first time coming across your channel. I think we always need a reminder that we are all human at the end of the day. I appreciate your vulnerability to express that on a public platform 🖤
Hey girl, thanks for sharing this, I can relate to your experiences as well… I know how hard dating can be and I completely understand your struggles. I also haven’t had a long serious relationship in my life except for some long-distance stuff or short meaningless dating. People don’t seem to understand your loneliness and why you want to be loved. I have a feeling that modern men don’t want anything serious, and it just makes me so sad. In addition to that, everyone around just depreciates my feelings and says that I’m focusing too hard on finding a relationship or wanting or be loved. Your video made me realised that I’m not alone. Just like you, I feel that other people at least had some long connections and were desired, but I was always left behind…
I can also relate to your family problems. My father hasn’t had any contact with me for 20 years now. It makes me so sad that even the only man in my life who has to love me unconditionally doesn’t care about me.
And we even have so much in common regarding the way we see ourselves. I know the feeling of hating myself because of how I look. I can’t stop thinking that I’m worse than everybody because I’m not as skinny as them which adds to the fact that men never pay attention to me.
Thank you for being honest and showing what you feel. I truly believe that you’re really cool, I like watching your videos and your openness is something that appeals to me as well. I wish you to find the right person, be always kind to yourself and just happy!! Thank you again and lots of love ❤
the video was the perfect way to start my morning and felt like a facetime call with an old friend
As an 18 year old who just started college and has been gaining weight bc of meds over the last two years, thank you. I appreciate you being so raw about your struggle with your body image because it helps me feel like I’m not alone. I appreciate it so much more than you know. I just found your channel and I already love you. Thank you for being you 🫶🏻
Fellow 26 year old here living in Sydney Australia. I want to make the move to New York, and your videos inspire me. Appreciate your storytelling and honesty.
everything you said is me. Almost shed a tear
I just discovered you and I immediately felt I was in a safe space ✨ I’m going to be binging your videos this winter 💕
The importance of getting away from a bad situation is so true..a lot of people don't realise this. They think they are "strong" and can handle it. There is no way to live a full life with abuse, it can be hard to realise but it's the truth. You have come a really long way since you see this!
I completely understand. I am 75 and have lived what you are explaining. I will always tune in.
dating is not for the soft hearted (ironically) its so difficult. you're not alone
First video and already my comfort youtuber
I'm 20 and struggle with many of the things you talked about. Thank you so much for being real, this is the kind of content I needed. Sending you lots of hugs
I can relate to you so hard. I think I started off following you on TikTok but you popped up in my UA-cam recs. I also have a bad relationship with my mother and have been no contact with her since 17. I’m 25 now. Also can relate to the body image perspectives… super refreshing to see someone I can really relate to online!
I’m 19, so fairly young. But I’ve never been in any relationships. And I’m also used to rejection, whether or not I find myself having standards. I feel I’ve become more cold than usual, but I’ve sort of found my peace in being alone. And the topic of weight I find has been more triggering. I feel the same. I’ve apparently lost a little, but people’s comments make me so uncomfortable. Whether it’s praising the loss, because was I not valued before? And I am almost at a year of no contact with my father. My family has not been supportive of this whatsoever. But this video was so insightful. Used to being misunderstood and just accepting the fact, but I feel less alone. Thanks for making this video. You’re a real one ✨
Omg this was like looking in the mirror, I could relate to everything specific thing you said (swap out the mum issues for dad issues and we’re duplicates hahha) - and it was so nice to hear that someone like me is also out there doing all the same things and being a girls girl and just living her best life!! You should be super super proud of yourself!!
The hair style suits you very well, dear. The golden curls highlight your lovely self. 💐⭐️
So comforting and refreshing to hear such candid reflections on love and body image. Thank you for the vulnerability, I wish I lived in New York so we could be friends. Happy to have found your channel :)
Hey Kendall! Just wanted to say thanks for your vulnerability and honesty in this! It’s refreshing to watch something so candid. I also haven’t had a bf since high school and struggle with my body image daily. There’s such value in your videos like this one- helps us all feel less alone. ❤
This video and honesty is so so so refreshing
Hey Kendall, nice to meet you! Just wanted to share a bit about my journey. I’m 26 too, and I’ve never been in a "serious relationship." Honestly, I’m kinda happy with that for now. Sometimes I catch myself thinking, "What would it be like to have someone right now?" But I feel like being single for so long has made me a bit scared of being loved and cared for. I’m from Brazil, São Paulo to be exact, people call it the Brazilian NYC. It’s just as hard to find someone you can really love and trust here, big city problems.
Stay strong!
I really appreciate this video and you opening up about so many things❤. I turned 27 last month and I’ve been dealing with a lot of insecurities about my body and where I’m at with my life/career. I also have CPTSD and while not quite no contact I have little communication with my parents. Your video helps me feel a little less alone.
i honestly think you are one of my fav creators i follow on the internet. you’re very relatable for me specifically and i feel very seen by your videos and content. please keep making these kinds of videos! they really help me
giirl, I just found your channel, this is the first video of yours I'm watching and it couldn't be more relatable. I'm also 26 and have been single since highschool. I know all those thoughts about why am I still single, why does everyone else seem to find partners so easily etc. all too well! I still don't have an answer for it, but I feel like it's my highest priority to know myself and accept myself fully before actually feeling comfortable in a romantic relationship. So maybe that's why, who knows. I also struggle with body image/ED and even though I'm still occasionally talking to my mum, our relationship isn't good at all. Soooo I just think it's crazy how similar lives can be without having any actual connection. loved the video
i am 19 but i see myself in you so much , this was a very comforting video, thank you for existing!!
Thank you, hugs. I'm 26 too and I relate so much. You've no idea how positively your vulnerability and strength is finding people in the world
I'm about to be 31, and I found this video so relatable!! You just got a new subscriber. ❤
I really love this kind of content! Feels like a diary entry and is so relatable. Thanks for being so candid. The world needs more content like this! ❤❤❤
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm 25 and have never dated. It's a very isolating experience. I also relate to having a difficult relationship with your body. I've also lost fifty pounds, and no one talks about how strange that feels. It feels like you're caught somewhere between your past body and your current body. I hope you know that you're not alone in these feelings; you sharing these experiences has certainly helped me feel more "normal". Even though it feels reassuring to feel "normal", it's important to remember that "normal" is a myth sold to us by social media and Hollywood. We all move through life in our own way, at our own pace, and that unique journey is the beauty of it all.
No matter what experiences and feelings you had and have in your dating life… you are not alone! And all of your feelings are valid! I found you through Maddie‘s collaboration. I have only seen two Videos of yours and I really have to say you are so honest, authentic and incredibly lovable!
When I was little I sometimes saw women who radiated and were so strong and I always thought back then: how great can women be?? When I grow up, I want to be just as strong and radiant.
And you, dear Kendall, brought up these exact thoughts in me!
Now i am 23 and I am in my journey to be that kind of Women in my unice way. And to become that, there is unfortunately no way without hard times.
You are a big Inspiration because I see many qualities in you that are still hidden in myself which i want to develop… you can be so proud of yourself.
I Hope you will feel and See how beautiful and radiant you are.
Like this is the content much needed because I struggle with body image issues and we all know no one would have listened to this content if she would have started the content before losing weight. For some people weight gain is so much easier and so hard to loose. There would have been more hate comments if you don't look a certain way. So yeah even if the world tells you to love yourself. We all know the world will only treat you better if, you looked a certain kind of aestheticly pleasing. I face with this shit and I'd really like more people to just show kindess and love and be brave enough to share their stories like her. Much love keep going. ❤
This video spoke to me and was sent to me by the universe. I'm 26 and happily engaged. But I haven't had friend/s that stuck for years since I was 20. Everyone has moved on and advanced into the next chapter. But even though I am engaged I feel stuck, alone, and like there's something wrong with me because I don't have friends. I also haven't moved forward into the career I want even though Ive been applying left and right lol. Thank you for this video, I'm still sad but Im also happy Im not the only one that feels alone, as selfish as that sounds
I'm so sorry about what your mother put you through. Just wanted to point that and send you a hug. Family (or not) can be very hush.
you are so cool. legit can relate to so much of this and it feels good to relate but also like damn i am sorry other people get the feeling and have been through similar stuff. I hope you are doing well and things get better
this video humanized you in so many ways. from someone who knows you personally - this was powerful. you speak in such beautiful ways about your human experience and I think it connects you to many. you are exceptional
this is the first video of yours i've ever seen and your vulnerability truly hit me like a ton of bricks. i feel like we just became best friends. and you are so cool!!!! thank you for sharing your story
Thank you so much for being real and showing us that we’re not alone 🫶 seeing so many UA-camrs portray these perfect lives makes me feel like I’m the only one struggling, even though I know that’s not true, seeing it non stop starts to mess with my head
Your vulnerability is so beautiful. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and a bit of your life with us
Despite of your experiences you came out As a really strong and brave person! Thats really inspiring to see that❤
I’m 26 too and in the exact same boat. The majority of my friends are either married or in long term relationships and I often feel lonely now they’ve somewhat moved on and their priorities are shifting. But I can only date someone if they align with me which isn’t all too common ❤ reminding myself that life isn’t a rush helps x thank you for this video
I’m a new subscriber but I just wanted to comment about how seen I feel by the similar dating experience… I appreciate your vulnerability and I feel less alone
Acabo de descubrir tu canal y me hace mucho sentido lo que compartes. Tengo 27 y me siento de la misma manera. Qué bonito conocer tu contenido🇲🇽✨
Hi Kendall! Just want to say I love you and your content! You’ve been a big source of style inspo for me lately. I didn’t realize how much I related to you, especially in terms of family and dating. I don’t talk to my dad and I’m 27 and have never been in a real relationship. It was comforting hearing you experience the same things ❤❤
just came across this video and your channel randomly!! I absolutely love everything about your video- I’ve been in the same position as you in regard to body image and body positivity. Getting out of the cycle of negative self talk is one of the hardest things I’ve done so far! Sending you love and warm hugs🫶🏼🥹
I really REALLY appreciated this video
First, you look incredible. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself the same grace you would give a friend. ❤Second, I totally relate to you in so many ways. I’m 30 years old and have never been in a serious romantic relationship. It sucks! Dating sucks! It is so rough out here. Thank you for being so raw and honest and vulnerable with us. It means so much to us and makes us know that we’re not alone, and we’re going through similar things in the world 🤗🫂
This video is exactly what I needed right now. Thank you for your honesty. ❤
im no contact with my mom for 2 years (finally). its liberating, and the only path to fulfilling life but it also forces you to see what you've never had compared to your peers. Also I feel similar to what you feel socially, I'm in a relationship, but cannot seem to find fulfilling friendships. Youre not alone, and you are understood
your openness about your relationship with your mom!! felt like i was listening to a big sis, instant follow
found you through maddie and so this is exactly the vibes i’m looking for in a creator 🫶 i hope you keep making youtube videos
hi-first time watcher. i have the same no-contact with my dad since age 17. know you're not alone and i see you!
I didn’t have a long term relationship since 9 years. I met people, but never really liked anyone or had feelings, but they didn’t like me back. I recently met someone, whom I absolutely fell for, but sadly he want ready for a relationship, after his last relationship ended very dramatically. You are not alone, it’s very hard. And it’s only based on luck. And I have more friends that are no contact with their parents or parts of their family. You are not alone 😊
Oh girl, I’m watching your video as I’m working because I liked your thumb nail and I wanna say that just because you don’t have one thing like a relationship or maybe you don’t think that you’re skinny enough or beautiful enough or whatever it is (which you are extremely beautiful js) but you do have your person out there if that’s what you want God has a person for you, but you should be proud of everything that you’ve done on UA-cam. I’ll take a look and see if you have any other stuff out because Idk? you before now but you should be proud because this is a dream job and a lot of people well have much less amazing jobs and life is not always great and it does get bad. It gets really grim. Sometimes the only thing you can do is appreciate the things that you do have and God will then give you more. Love that beautiful body because it is enough. And be kind and have fun! God always has a plan.
Remember this song “you can’t hurry love” I need love, love to ease my mind
I need to find, find someone to call mine
But mama said you can't hurry love
No you just have to wait
She said love don't come easy
It's a game of give and take
You can't hurry love
No, you just have to wait
You gotta trust, give it time
No matter how long it takes
But how many heartaches must I stand
Before I find a love to let me live again
Right now the only thing that keeps me hanging on
When I feel my strength, yeah, it's almost gone
Hey Kendall, I've loved your videos for a while and I really resonate with this one in particular.
I'm 28 and similar to you, I've not had a relationship with my dad for the last 11 years. I know how this can really affect how you view yourself and how you attach to others! I live in London and being in a big city can be super lonely, but it's so wonderful when you finally form a community, which you sound like you have. You seem like such a lovely person, and the way you've followed your own path is very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your experience 💜
thank you for sharing the story with your mother! I've been no contact with my mother for 2 years now and it kinda helps to hear that other people make this decision too.
Your video feels like a gift tonight. Thank you for your vulnerability. I needed to be reminded I am not alone struggling with the same issues as you. ❤
You have such a beautiful presence! This whole video felt like talking to an old friend
Gurl i relate to u so much 🥹💕 ngl i felt so much better after watching this video! Love u
Hey I can relate with you on your mom situation. Thank you for speaking honestly, gave me courage. Thank you for being so truthul and vulnerable on video.
I’m so glad I found your channel! You’re such a true gem❤
Thank you for this truly im 23 and i understand the loneliness and family struggles in my own way and have struggled with my own mental health too but its such a beautiful thing to open ourselves and be vulnerable it makes us feel connected and not alone
So thank you again for sharing a piece of you💗
you are such a sweet soul. thank you for this video 😍
Hugsss girl. You are not aloneee
Thank you for this, Kendall 💜 ive been single for just about 10 years now and its comforting to hear and see in these comments that im not alone in that! You really are such a gem 💜
I lost my mother at 18, and have been NC with my father and stepmother over the last two years. I'm 28 now, and the verbal abuse got to me so badly -- really shook my sense of identity. But I'm thankfully beginning to get to the other side. Thanks for sharing the topic. It's definitely hard.
I admire this video so much you hit so many key points that I to have struggled with things that i thought only I related to thank you for making this
I’m a 26 year old girl from what can also be considered a bustling busy city (London) and I also don’t have a relationship with my mother. My parents got divorced when I was 4 and she was never a present and active parent, so I empathise with this. We got this 🤞🏼❤
My first time watching your videos, and automatically subscribed. Such an inspiration, and relief to hear the truth.
You are refreshingly authentic and seem like such a kind retrospective soul. Absolutely loved this video and I could relate a lot to your experiences.
you are sooo sweet!! glad to have discovered you
Finally someone who doesn’t try to influence me:) Love the music so much❤