I walked away from a great position with a terrible commute. One week in, I called the manager and told him I was leaving, with nothing else lined up and life keeps bringing me abundance. We have to respect ourselves enough to walk away when it just doesn't work for us. ❤
The biggest lesson I learned: choosing yourself is not selfish, it is your right. You have to do that for yourself. And it started to change my whole life. Thank you for this amazing video. 💖
“Protect your agenda” resonated with me so deeply. As a creative working a 9-5 job, it can be hard to remember to hold space for my own agenda. The to do list is never ending and my own agenda always gets pushed to the bottom of the list. I can also admit that I don’t always utilize the pockets of time that I have. Thanks for the reminder!
you're so welcome!! yes, i totally know what you mean. mine also gets pushed to the bottom, it's so natural. so we have to continue to be conscious to choose ourselves, at least some of the time. thank you for your comment!
This is 100% me so don’t feel bad! A lot of us do what is REQUIRED to “survive” verse doing what we dream of which could push us past survival and into living life
This hit hard. I sacrificed 14 years of my prime working my ass off for another woman's dream. I broke free and am now in a gig with more free time, but I'm only now getting back my mojo.
Dang. Sorry that happened to you. I think men will do well to realize that they're not the answer to a woman's problems and dreams. I get that men are inherently programmed to give like that, but no human can save another human from their problems and magically make all of their dreams come true. I'm saying this as a woman. Do not let a woman be dependent on you. Not only are you screwing her over as a human being, but you're also screwing yourself out of your own life. I understand marriage is about sacrifice, but you can't sacrifice yourself and who you are for someone else. I'm saying this as a woman who is somewhat traditional.
She served you a great lesson that could've been worse. The Universe works in miraculous ways. Eventually you end up where you want to be but there has to be growth made along the way 🙌
I start at 3am to 6am. I exercise for one hour and read for two hours. I have done what needed to be done then the rest of the day happens.. Morning is best time, no distractions no one is up at that time.. Saying no is hard to do, but we must respect ourself. How many times we said yes, and regretted what were doing. Business is meeting others and spending 5 ministers , to listen what is going on. The forklift driver, the security guard and always seeing what is happening.. Macavalli. 😅
I'm so glad to hear so many people of older generations coming out to say these kind of things. You guys know better than anyone at this point, how much is at stake if we let ourselves be tied to work and realism despite the struggles. It feels like we have to because of the economy right now, but there arw always options. Just because a dream is unrealistic, doesn't make it impossible
I have been at mine for 11. I'm so drained mentally that I feel it's time to take a sabbatical leave in order to re-energize and come back. I have sensed and accepted my calling of something greater. To 2025 and beyond.
This all I need. I am a college student who always gives too much, but after this semester I started realizing that it is not my job to make everyone feel included or make deep connections and give my time to people who do not deserve it. I decided that I am not answering emails, doing homework, or texting classmates after 8 pm or before 9 am. That is my time and mine only. Thank you for making this videos, I truly need an older woman that guides me. I am a first generation college student and it is easy to feel lost, yet your video its like a hug to my soul.
O M G I made that realization very recently and it's been so so liberating - time, energy, social burden, prioritizing spending time and connecting with the people I actually like especially in group settings. I'm happy for you on your journey 😊
Learn and practice this NOW!!!! YES!! I am 55 and I wish I would have put myself first, now I can't, I'm caregiving for my folks & they genuinely need me & soon enough I'll be utterly alone :( so please go within & do what feels good to YOU!!!
As someone in their 20's, I only listen to credible people and some of my determining factors for such is experience and maturity (mentally, emotionally, etc.). So when you started to breakdown where the thoughts in your head came from ("was it from my ego/pride that I can say this to others...") I knew you have good self-awareness and I got hooked immediately. I am grateful for this video and I wish you the best in your own thing!
I love that your video started with discernment!! Discernment has been weighing heavy on mind as is being intentional with how I spend my time/energy. I'm so glad I found your videos at this time in my creative journey, love your wisdom!!
11:22 really resonated with me. I wanna become a writer and hustle for that, I work from 7am to 3pm a shitty job in a kitchen and I wake up at 4 every morning to write until I leave for work, go to the gym after work and go back home to write. Starting with 1000 words per day helps! I wanna speak up on depression and mental health through modern characters, people who go through that without knowing what it is, etc. I think it should be spoken about way more in novels and I have faith I'll make it! Your words were precise and empowering ! Hard work for yourself is an absolute necessity. Working as an employee for a business/vision that's not yours is wasted energy (if your working to pay the bills I mean). When you said you HAVE to be a leader of your own ideas and concepts, have that vision that no one has, your unique vision needs a leader! You found the right words. I needed that, God bless yall.
I sincerely hope your dream comes true!!! I have the same dream as you, to become a successful novelist & screenplay writer + to become a successful singer-songwriter. So far I only learned how to write songs by myself. I wanted to write my verse novel but I was too scared to write it, because the plot of the verse novel is related to my painful past and I thought that it would be painful to remember everything. But now I realize that that was just a silly fear, because when I write those sad and painful feelings pour out of me, out of my body, I can finally express them in some way and to not let them buried and hurt me, they turn into something positive.They turn into art. By the way what made you want to become a writer? What is your motivation?
As an Asian woman in my late 30s, I resonated with that “raise” story and view compensation as a top factor in working for a company. Long story short, I was denied a change in my role/salary after positive reviews over 5 years and soon learned that other employees felt it was a toxic and racist company. I now view salary and promotion as a sign of how management views their employees. Subscribed and appreciate your insight!
I walked away from a six figure job and took one year off to focus on that space I ended up manifesting a wonderful relationship with my Now husband having a daughter and starting my own business. It was definitely scary. I did not have a roadmap, but I knew that I couldn’t “know” my way to a “YES”
wow i love this, what kind of business, that's so exciting!!! it is definitely scary and there is NO roadmap, you just have to feel around in the dark. your intuition was definitely pulling you into the life you were supposed to live!
I clicked on this video randomly, so GLAD i did!! Such an eye opener. I’m newly 20 and took a leap year to work instead of pursuing college career, I noticed how much time and energy i put into working rather than focusing on that and will be going back to school this winter semester with a new year resolution that i can start early and have a practice i can use into the rest of my future :) thank you so much your words are inspiring ! Can’t wait to use my discerning views into the world to have a proper agenda, and saying no more often!
I think most people should work a few years before deciding what to actually do with their lives. College is actually not for the majority of people, and people tend to immature and mor0nic when they're that young. Working for a few years will instill a sense of maturity and reality in people; college is in fact not free and people will see this when they see taxes taken from their paycheck. Good for you for taking this path. There's seriously no need to rush going to school. I hope you do well at achieving your goals. It sounds like you will based on your mindset. 😊
I spent my life worrying about and taking care of my dad helping to achieve his ambition, only to realize that he doesn’t care about me. Now, at 31, I’ve decided to start over. Self love.
Immediately subscribed. I needed to hear this. This was SO reaffirming. Some times we need others to say we are allowed to say NO even though we have every right to. Thank you!
Always make your dream a priority ! Dont listen shiit of what people are saying ! They are not you ! You different I’ve been seeing that confirmed in my life each time ! And reflecting about the fact that if I had listened to people I wouldn’t have done what I’m doing and who I am today ! ✌🏾
Learning to say no might feel uncomfortable at first, but it’s a skill worth mastering. You deserve peace, and sometimes, “no” is the bridge that leads you there ❤
This just hit me. I feel undervalued as an employee in my 9-5 and you talking about not giving them more time off the clock. I took time off work to attend my grandpas funeral and I get a notification on my phone from them of my performance review and to look over it whenever I have a chance! They could not wait for me to return back after the weekend They knew and even said their condolences the day before how rude!! Love this video thank you
excuse me what?!? first of all, i'm so sorry to hear about your grandpa passing. ALSO this is soooo insane. i'm so glad you realize that this kind of behavior is a) so weird, b) inappropriate, c) RUDE, and d) just not kind or caring.
This is great advice. I drain myself every day at corporate grind. 2025 I'm going to look at my schedule like a scientist and super block 🚫 out time for ME. I never do this! 🥹 I'm done living this way. I want to swim 🏊♀️ 40 laps per day am pm, jog a few days a week and do yoga 2x a week. Thank you for this discussion. You are a blessing to us. Thank you 🌷
WOWWOWWOWWW I am feeling so much right now. I am not protecting my time enough. Period. I’m 36. Time to finally respect myself and get my shit TO👏GE👏THER👏
It’s crazy how today I planned to get my shit together and you pop up unprovoked. 😭😭💖💕 I’m so thankful you allowed yourself to be available for us, to share your precious time with us~
It’s so easy to get trapped in the ego stroking of prestige - especially in a hussle city like NYC. I’m 4 1/2 years in and stepping back to ask what I actually want versus what I’m being conditioned to strive for. This video came at the perfect time. I love your call to action to step up as a leader. We are all capable - we just have to make the choice 💪🏾
I understood the message of the video, but I wanted to say that I'm incredible grateful for the people that helped and me guidance about school, work and personal life even without knowing me. That's definitely change the path of my life
Wow. This really spoke to me and gave me chills. Thank you for this. I have suffered from people-pleasing, burning out, and working on goals that really were not my goals. I'm turning 30 next year and I feel low energy at my current position and don't even have dreams of promotions. I have always dreamt of owning my own vintage business and after burnout, I just started reselling as a side hustle. After a month, I was amazed myself how much money I had made from my side hustle. I wish I had started sooner. Now I have I have no idea what is lining up for me, but I just now in my gut that I do not wanna hustle in corporate. Thank you for your words.
My husband and I just purchased a house across the country without telling anyone so that we will have a forced nope of space and distraction free zone. We don't know anyone, and we sort of just chose a "random" spot that sounded nice and boring. I'm so excited for the final embers of my current commitments to die out in the spring which after then when we can finally make the move. It's terrifying, but less about the negative "what ifs" and more about the opportunities and possibilities that lie ahead when I'm finally able to devote my time to my mission! Thanks for reminding me why I'm leaving town.
thank you needed to hear this. I am a fresh college grad working my first 9-5 in NYC and need so badly to reclaim my time. In college, it felt like all my time was my own because I really enjoyed my studies. And although I have a job that I am grateful for, there's no getting around the fact that the hours of 9-5 are not my own. after work, I've found myself smoking a joint and laying in bed too often because, before, in college, I could smoke, do homework, see friends, knit, go to class, relax a bit, write for my blog, make a collage, go for a walk, go to midday yoga-- all in one day. my days were truly mine. but now after work I am tired and all I want to do its shut off my mind and body. but at the same time i have so much creative passion that doesn't have an outlet. I needed to be reminded that MY time is now before and after work. and if i laze all that time away, it is gone with no going back. so If i am tired maybe i need to re configure my sleep to get the most out of my waking hours. this seems daunting but it is worth it to invest in myself i know. thankyou for putting this at the forefront of my mind.
Thank you so much for this video! I finished my master's in graphic design this year, and have been in a bit of a limbo ever since... Managed to work on a really cool project that paid well, but I have no interested in working in a design studio or agency making someone else's dream a reality. However, the pressure to have something figured out is really crippling, so thank you for making me realize that it's okay to keep this field open and protecting this space, so that my yes can flourish!
You popped up in my recommendations, and i decided to give this video a listen tonight. Everything you said here are my exact thoughts and feelings, its as if the entire world gaslights you into believing their needs and visions are more valuable or important than yours! What's worse is that they have no regard to hold much or if ANY space for you, because they are too busy being absorbed into their own agenda. Being able to start carving out that time and space, even when my business is trying to grow and saying no to someone else utilizing my skills and abilities was a huge reassuring message for me to hear. This was the first time I heard anyone else, aside from my own inner dialogue coming to this exact conclusion. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video, and I wish you a wonderful Happy New Year of 2025. May many more blessings come your way 💗🙏🏼✨
Fantastic video! Back in September, I also did the "NOPE" (with people, career and clutter) and am still in the process of making room for myself before taking my next creative step! Thanks for sharing the knowledge, I subscribed!
Dearest Mandy, your videos really resonate with people. YOU really resonate with people. I am so grateful I found your channel. You've inspired me to start up my YT channel again, even if no one sees it. It's a fun creative outlet for me (given that my 9-5 job is not). Thank you for your inspiration!
Girlll!!! This is probably the single most relatable, helpful, and actually tangible video I’ve ever watched about this topic. So many truths in this. Most videos are regurgitated bullshit we’ve heard a million times or lofty thoughts that are lacking actionable steps
!!! this is so nice. it's honestly so kind because i try really hard to write everything so that it's real and original. like i can't stand regurgitated BS either so i'm trying to create the content that i would want to watch. this is why this comment is so supportive!
I really resonated with this video… i have yet to put my degree to use, I love the idea of working with it… yet there’s this pressure , family & societal to have children because “it will only get harder” but i am not ready for that I want to pursue my dream without pressures
Let's go!! Nobody knows about the future but I'm here to take control of mine because I'm the only one responsible and able for it. 18 years in the game of life and I am figuring myself bit by bit. Thank you for sharing your message!!
This is some of the realest shit I've heard Mandy.. As someone who was laid off from a company that literally told me "everything was gonna be fine" a week prior and decided to repost my job position 2 weeks prior to my last day without notifying me of departure, (I checked the company website and saw the position for a 3rd LESS than what I was paid.) Best thing to happened now I get to focus on a new career path. All the people I supported and thought I was cool with never reached out or nothing... Maybe 2 or 3 people but it be like that I got to make my dreams come true. This just makes it easier for me to get to where I need to be 💯
new watcher, how did you know i am a perfectionist/high achiever? Then I realised that I'm watching this at 9pm on a Sunday in my downtime. This advice is spot on the sort of things that keep cropping up as I graduate and slowly join the working world. I do my best to keep my work in my working hours. And being part-time, that means that there is a lot of moments where I'm not working and I feel like I sort of should be, even when I have met my working hours for the week. You are do right. Don't feel bad. I'm doing my best. And this is my time to enjoy.
This is amazing, thank you for the pickme up and truth! no one tells you the truth to be a succeessful fill in the blanks! Between you and Dan Koe, I got this!
omg i can't believe you mentioned me and dan koe in the same sentence, i watch him all the time and he's like my inspo! thank you thank you for watching!!!
“there is greatness inside of you waiting to be born” 😮💨 thank you for your time and knowledge! great message, great video! 😊 and i love the passion and authenticity in your facial expressions 😂
I genuinely appreciate your time and effort in making this video. Im 28 and I’ve found myself in these exact situations all year long. Thank you for ur advice ❤
I really needed this video. I recently lost my mom, and it’s been hard to find motivation for anything. I’ve been questioning the future and whether it’s worth it. While I know these feelings are part of the grieving process, I don’t want this grief to consume me or define my life.
Ur makin me realize im starting to get to an age where I might need life coaching 😅 been just following my immigrant mothers dream since birth b/c i feel guilty for being born but i have so many creative projects and ideas i want to commit to but only have so much time in the day to commit to...i feel u so much on tryna so No more often!!
omg the pull of the immigrant parent's dream, and then realizing, wait, this may not be mine, and then holding space for yourself and also loving your parents but equally loving YOU
Thank you coach Mandy for the realization of >me first> You are spot on with a lot of what is said in your video! Took notes and will be following your videos!They give that push:)
I've had these thoughts lately. I'm 31. That my energy is lots lower than it was in my 20s and soon ill wish I had the energy I have now. I'm going to take the leap and bet on me, I feel I have the courage and the vision. Thank you for this video ❤
Hello Mandy! thanks for your valuable insight. I was locked in that circle you talked about for a long time thinking that it's just normal and it was truly draining to me until lately when I broke the circle and became more mindful and more selfish prioritizing myself and my personal life. Things got so much better now that I put clear boundaries between work time and personal time.
Love you for this message! Especially at 10:18 !!! This is where I am now and I respect the major truths “I wasn’t ready, I didn’t have the courage, I didn’t have the vision” !!!! OMG major 🔑!!! Thank you so much for directing us and being straight forward about it! I value you! ❤
This is sooo reall... those examples just happened to me 2 weeks ago.. I am crying so hard over many "yes" that tryna get rid ma dreams. Although I've said sorry, I can't help them, since my energy is limited, people switched hating me and talking badly :")
POCKETS OF TIME!! As a paralegal my “real life” exists in the pockets of time I carve out in my day, before and after work. Professionally, my whole day is tracked in measurements of 6 minutes, so I’m very aware of how valuable 6 minutes can be. You gotta do what you can with the time that you have.
Thank you for this. I’m 20 and I’m really trying to use my time wisely while I’m giving a lot of it to my college for volunteering and building communities.
Wow, this is exaclty how I went through a severe burnt out and depression. I'm still recovering from the damage but I'm super glad I was finaly able to block everything and spent a complete alone time for months. I stoped doing anything, meeting anybody, being on messenger or social media. After about 3 months of resting, I started to realized what I had been doing wrong for myself, which is what you are explaining over here. I wish I knew this sooner. I'm so much happier doing so much less now. 😊
Learning my lessons! Intuitively I knew corporate America was a joke over 20 years ago I set out to follow my dreams. All these laid off stories of people dedicating themselves to these jobs that don’t care are incredibly not surprising to me! Go for the gusto people! Love your work on here! ❤
Mandy, this video and what you shared was sooo good. Lesson 2-protect your agenda, was solid truth, because the aim of other peoples' agendas is often what's best for them.
This video stumbled across my page after weeks of feeling stuck, burnt out, and paralyzed when acting toward my dreams. AThankyou, thank you, THANK YOU for posting this. I am still in awe of these new ways of thinking, and I can't wait for the challenge of saying no to things and sticking to my agenda. Sending tons of love!!!!
Wow, this is on time. I've been thinking about this for a while. Sacrificing my time for others. Being there for people rather than myself. I felt like i dont spend time and invest in me that much. Ive become lazy when it comes to my life. I find myself just scrolling away for hours, and i know my youth is so precious. I should be exploring the world and myself...
This resonated with me to the deepest level. I don't have anything lined up but I am saying no to a lot of things because they do not align with me. I cannot see what the Future holds but I know that I deserve the best and I need to own my own business because I just have a feeling. I don't know, I am so confused
I walked away from a great position with a terrible commute. One week in, I called the manager and told him I was leaving, with nothing else lined up and life keeps bringing me abundance. We have to respect ourselves enough to walk away when it just doesn't work for us. ❤
yessss! i see you creating amazing content and inspiring others with your story!!! go get it!! i love that. yes to all of the abundance.
I just did the same .. my last day is tomorrow.. your message makes me so happy .
Just subscribed ❤
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Wow❤
The biggest lesson I learned: choosing yourself is not selfish, it is your right. You have to do that for yourself. And it started to change my whole life.
Thank you for this amazing video. 💖
“Leadership often means standing alone in the cold and having a vision before anybody else knows what the hell you’re even doing”
“Protect your agenda” resonated with me so deeply. As a creative working a 9-5 job, it can be hard to remember to hold space for my own agenda. The to do list is never ending and my own agenda always gets pushed to the bottom of the list. I can also admit that I don’t always utilize the pockets of time that I have. Thanks for the reminder!
you're so welcome!! yes, i totally know what you mean. mine also gets pushed to the bottom, it's so natural. so we have to continue to be conscious to choose ourselves, at least some of the time. thank you for your comment!
*suluxy* almost identical, i couldn´t see the difference until you said which one was replica & authentic. Anyway thanks for sharing.
This is 100% me so don’t feel bad! A lot of us do what is REQUIRED to “survive” verse doing what we dream of which could push us past survival and into living life
@@_iamshaenatelove thisss
This hit hard. I sacrificed 14 years of my prime working my ass off for another woman's dream. I broke free and am now in a gig with more free time, but I'm only now getting back my mojo.
Dang. Sorry that happened to you. I think men will do well to realize that they're not the answer to a woman's problems and dreams. I get that men are inherently programmed to give like that, but no human can save another human from their problems and magically make all of their dreams come true. I'm saying this as a woman. Do not let a woman be dependent on you. Not only are you screwing her over as a human being, but you're also screwing yourself out of your own life. I understand marriage is about sacrifice, but you can't sacrifice yourself and who you are for someone else. I'm saying this as a woman who is somewhat traditional.
She served you a great lesson that could've been worse. The Universe works in miraculous ways. Eventually you end up where you want to be but there has to be growth made along the way 🙌
I start at 3am to 6am. I exercise for one hour and read for two hours. I have done what needed to be done then the rest of the day happens.. Morning is best time, no distractions no one is up at that time..
Saying no is hard to do, but we must respect ourself.
How many times we said yes, and regretted what were doing.
Business is meeting others and spending 5 ministers , to listen what is going on. The forklift driver, the security guard and always seeing what is happening.. Macavalli. 😅
morning is the best time! say it louder for those in the back!
What time do you go to sleep?
@ 8pm About 7 hrs. The benefit is no distractions in morning no social Meade. Just exercise and then read.
@@Californiansurferdo you have school aged kids?
Thanks 🎉
I'm so glad to hear so many people of older generations coming out to say these kind of things. You guys know better than anyone at this point, how much is at stake if we let ourselves be tied to work and realism despite the struggles. It feels like we have to because of the economy right now, but there arw always options. Just because a dream is unrealistic, doesn't make it impossible
auntie mandy is heeeeere!!!! thank you so much for watching and sharing.
Mandy, honey, you look so young and glowing ❤️
This message found me. 6 years at my job, and I'm so ready to leave. Thank you so much.
you can do it!
I have been at mine for 11. I'm so drained mentally that I feel it's time to take a sabbatical leave in order to re-energize and come back. I have sensed and accepted my calling of something greater. To 2025 and beyond.
Making space for guitar in my day has changed my life, i am a workaholic but making this a priority has helped alleviate stress for me
This all I need. I am a college student who always gives too much, but after this semester I started realizing that it is not my job to make everyone feel included or make deep connections and give my time to people who do not deserve it. I decided that I am not answering emails, doing homework, or texting classmates after 8 pm or before 9 am. That is my time and mine only. Thank you for making this videos, I truly need an older woman that guides me. I am a first generation college student and it is easy to feel lost, yet your video its like a hug to my soul.
O M G I made that realization very recently and it's been so so liberating - time, energy, social burden, prioritizing spending time and connecting with the people I actually like especially in group settings. I'm happy for you on your journey 😊
Learn and practice this NOW!!!! YES!! I am 55 and I wish I would have put myself first, now I can't, I'm caregiving for my folks & they genuinely need me & soon enough I'll be utterly alone :( so please go within & do what feels good to YOU!!!
As soon as you said “discernment” I clicked subscribe so fast.
me too
Its like you wrote this comment for me… i clicked in thid by accident scrolling. I was like wth is this. “Discernent”. Then i stay and and listen.
Why
Girl SAME!
So true my work is eating into my free time. Not because I need to work but I mentally drained nearly everyday and I am feeling burned out its awful
As someone in their 20's, I only listen to credible people and some of my determining factors for such is experience and maturity (mentally, emotionally, etc.). So when you started to breakdown where the thoughts in your head came from ("was it from my ego/pride that I can say this to others...") I knew you have good self-awareness and I got hooked immediately. I am grateful for this video and I wish you the best in your own thing!
wow that's such a compliment thank you so much for noticing, and also for being a thoughtful viewer, this means so much!! thank you.
Absorb what is useful, reject what is useless, add what is uniquely your own.
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Discernment vs people pleasing. Very important to weigh cost vs benefit. 😊
I love that your video started with discernment!! Discernment has been weighing heavy on mind as is being intentional with how I spend my time/energy. I'm so glad I found your videos at this time in my creative journey, love your wisdom!!
thank you so so much! yes, i feel like it's this subtle shift of awareness but can make such a difference. i appreciate your comment so much!
11:22 really resonated with me. I wanna become a writer and hustle for that, I work from 7am to 3pm a shitty job in a kitchen and I wake up at 4 every morning to write until I leave for work, go to the gym after work and go back home to write. Starting with 1000 words per day helps! I wanna speak up on depression and mental health through modern characters, people who go through that without knowing what it is, etc. I think it should be spoken about way more in novels and I have faith I'll make it!
Your words were precise and empowering ! Hard work for yourself is an absolute necessity. Working as an employee for a business/vision that's not yours is wasted energy (if your working to pay the bills I mean). When you said you HAVE to be a leader of your own ideas and concepts, have that vision that no one has, your unique vision needs a leader! You found the right words.
I needed that, God bless yall.
I sincerely hope your dream comes true!!!
I have the same dream as you, to become a successful novelist & screenplay writer + to become a successful singer-songwriter.
So far I only learned how to write songs by myself.
I wanted to write my verse novel but I was too scared to write it, because the plot of the verse novel is related to my painful past and I thought that it would be painful to remember everything.
But now I realize that that was just a silly fear, because when I write those sad and painful feelings pour out of me, out of my body, I can finally express them in some way and to not let them buried and hurt me, they turn into something positive.They turn into art.
By the way what made you want to become a writer? What is your motivation?
.Protect your time
.Protect your agenda
.Saying NO will lead to your YES!
As an Asian woman in my late 30s, I resonated with that “raise” story and view compensation as a top factor in working for a company. Long story short, I was denied a change in my role/salary after positive reviews over 5 years and soon learned that other employees felt it was a toxic and racist company. I now view salary and promotion as a sign of how management views their employees. Subscribed and appreciate your insight!
I walked away from a six figure job and took one year off to focus on that space I ended up manifesting a wonderful relationship with my Now husband having a daughter and starting my own business. It was definitely scary. I did not have a roadmap, but I knew that I couldn’t “know” my way to a “YES”
wow i love this, what kind of business, that's so exciting!!! it is definitely scary and there is NO roadmap, you just have to feel around in the dark. your intuition was definitely pulling you into the life you were supposed to live!
I clicked on this video randomly, so GLAD i did!! Such an eye opener. I’m newly 20 and took a leap year to work instead of pursuing college career, I noticed how much time and energy i put into working rather than focusing on that and will be going back to school this winter semester with a new year resolution that i can start early and have a practice i can use into the rest of my future :) thank you so much your words are inspiring ! Can’t wait to use my discerning views into the world to have a proper agenda, and saying no more often!
I think most people should work a few years before deciding what to actually do with their lives. College is actually not for the majority of people, and people tend to immature and mor0nic when they're that young. Working for a few years will instill a sense of maturity and reality in people; college is in fact not free and people will see this when they see taxes taken from their paycheck.
Good for you for taking this path. There's seriously no need to rush going to school. I hope you do well at achieving your goals. It sounds like you will based on your mindset. 😊
Yeah..i pay for my own college! So it was more of a break of breaking my bank lol! Taxes suck.
I spent my life worrying about and taking care of my dad helping to achieve his ambition, only to realize that he doesn’t care about me. Now, at 31, I’ve decided to start over. Self love.
Love that for you! You deserve the best.
Immediately subscribed. I needed to hear this. This was SO reaffirming. Some times we need others to say we are allowed to say NO even though we have every right to. Thank you!
thank you so much. yes, we literally have EVERY RIGHT to say no. a hundred percent.
Always make your dream a priority ! Dont listen shiit of what people are saying ! They are not you ! You different I’ve been seeing that confirmed in my life each time ! And reflecting about the fact that if I had listened to people I wouldn’t have done what I’m doing and who I am today ! ✌🏾
There is GREATNESS INSIDE OF YOU WAITING TO BE BORN . 👏🏿 👏🏿
Learning to say no might feel uncomfortable at first, but it’s a skill worth mastering. You deserve peace, and sometimes, “no” is the bridge that leads you there ❤
This just hit me. I feel undervalued as an employee in my 9-5 and you talking about not giving them more time off the clock. I took time off work to attend my grandpas funeral and I get a notification on my phone from them of my performance review and to look over it whenever I have a chance! They could not wait for me to return back after the weekend
They knew and even said their condolences the day before how rude!! Love this video thank you
excuse me what?!? first of all, i'm so sorry to hear about your grandpa passing. ALSO this is soooo insane. i'm so glad you realize that this kind of behavior is a) so weird, b) inappropriate, c) RUDE, and d) just not kind or caring.
I believe nothing is ever random. Thank you. Your message connected at the perfect time.❤
Yes I’m 39 and I have spent too many years debating on what I want to do 😩
Same 🤯
The UA-cam algorithm did it’s thing helping me find you! Thanks Mandy for your words.
YT algo is so great! thank you for watching!!
This is great advice. I drain myself every day at corporate grind. 2025 I'm going to look at my schedule like a scientist and super block 🚫 out time for ME. I never do this! 🥹 I'm done living this way. I want to swim 🏊♀️ 40 laps per day am pm, jog a few days a week and do yoga 2x a week. Thank you for this discussion. You are a blessing to us. Thank you 🌷
WOWWOWWOWWW I am feeling so much right now. I am not protecting my time enough. Period. I’m 36. Time to finally respect myself and get my shit TO👏GE👏THER👏
you totally already have it together!!! but yes, if we keep protecting our time we will have it even MORE together than we ever thought possible.
It’s crazy how today I planned to get my shit together and you pop up unprovoked. 😭😭💖💕 I’m so thankful you allowed yourself to be available for us, to share your precious time with us~
unprovoked!!! bhahahah i'm laughing. i love it. thank you so much!!
It’s so easy to get trapped in the ego stroking of prestige - especially in a hussle city like NYC. I’m 4 1/2 years in and stepping back to ask what I actually want versus what I’m being conditioned to strive for. This video came at the perfect time. I love your call to action to step up as a leader. We are all capable - we just have to make the choice 💪🏾
Hands down one of the most valuable videos I've ever seen on UA-cam. Straight to the point and clear. You didn't waste a second. Absolute value..
wow thank you so much! i think because i'm new to YT it didn't even occur to me to do like music or intros or anything LOL just straight to the point.
I understood the message of the video, but I wanted to say that I'm incredible grateful for the people that helped and me guidance about school, work and personal life even without knowing me. That's definitely change the path of my life
This is confirmation that I need to start going to bed at 7pm and waking up at 2am to work on my dreams. Thank you 💖
loving this energy! sometimes we have to go into beast mode!
Time is not really the problem it’s energy
I agree however two things can be true. Time and Energy can be a problem
Wow. This really spoke to me and gave me chills. Thank you for this. I have suffered from people-pleasing, burning out, and working on goals that really were not my goals. I'm turning 30 next year and I feel low energy at my current position and don't even have dreams of promotions. I have always dreamt of owning my own vintage business and after burnout, I just started reselling as a side hustle. After a month, I was amazed myself how much money I had made from my side hustle. I wish I had started sooner. Now I have I have no idea what is lining up for me, but I just now in my gut that I do not wanna hustle in corporate. Thank you for your words.
My husband and I just purchased a house across the country without telling anyone so that we will have a forced nope of space and distraction free zone. We don't know anyone, and we sort of just chose a "random" spot that sounded nice and boring. I'm so excited for the final embers of my current commitments to die out in the spring which after then when we can finally make the move. It's terrifying, but less about the negative "what ifs" and more about the opportunities and possibilities that lie ahead when I'm finally able to devote my time to my mission! Thanks for reminding me why I'm leaving town.
thank you needed to hear this. I am a fresh college grad working my first 9-5 in NYC and need so badly to reclaim my time. In college, it felt like all my time was my own because I really enjoyed my studies. And although I have a job that I am grateful for, there's no getting around the fact that the hours of 9-5 are not my own. after work, I've found myself smoking a joint and laying in bed too often because, before, in college, I could smoke, do homework, see friends, knit, go to class, relax a bit, write for my blog, make a collage, go for a walk, go to midday yoga-- all in one day. my days were truly mine. but now after work I am tired and all I want to do its shut off my mind and body. but at the same time i have so much creative passion that doesn't have an outlet. I needed to be reminded that MY time is now before and after work. and if i laze all that time away, it is gone with no going back. so If i am tired maybe i need to re configure my sleep to get the most out of my waking hours. this seems daunting but it is worth it to invest in myself i know. thankyou for putting this at the forefront of my mind.
Thank you so much for this video! I finished my master's in graphic design this year, and have been in a bit of a limbo ever since... Managed to work on a really cool project that paid well, but I have no interested in working in a design studio or agency making someone else's dream a reality. However, the pressure to have something figured out is really crippling, so thank you for making me realize that it's okay to keep this field open and protecting this space, so that my yes can flourish!
Love this. Our time is so precious and sacred. Our creativity & dreams are so important.
aww thank you. yes. SO important.
You popped up in my recommendations, and i decided to give this video a listen tonight. Everything you said here are my exact thoughts and feelings, its as if the entire world gaslights you into believing their needs and visions are more valuable or important than yours! What's worse is that they have no regard to hold much or if ANY space for you, because they are too busy being absorbed into their own agenda.
Being able to start carving out that time and space, even when my business is trying to grow and saying no to someone else utilizing my skills and abilities was a huge reassuring message for me to hear. This was the first time I heard anyone else, aside from my own inner dialogue coming to this exact conclusion.
Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video, and I wish you a wonderful Happy New Year of 2025. May many more blessings come your way 💗🙏🏼✨
You are a timely message from God, sent at just the right moment. Thank you so much for your wisdom and generosity of time ❤
This is what i need after this year.. i don't have any clear goal..but I don't want to have to do what i really don't want for other people wants
12:45 This is synchronistic. I am currently a job coach and considering working for myself. Mine is part-time, too.
Fantastic video! Back in September, I also did the "NOPE" (with people, career and clutter) and am still in the process of making room for myself before taking my next creative step! Thanks for sharing the knowledge, I subscribed!
As a business owner & mom… listen. THIS IS INVALUABLE INFORMATION!! 🔥🔥
17:17 “there’s the dream of something, and then there’s the reality of it” ELPHABA!!!!
it's meeeee!!!
Dearest Mandy, your videos really resonate with people. YOU really resonate with people. I am so grateful I found your channel. You've inspired me to start up my YT channel again, even if no one sees it. It's a fun creative outlet for me (given that my 9-5 job is not). Thank you for your inspiration!
Girlll!!! This is probably the single most relatable, helpful, and actually tangible video I’ve ever watched about this topic. So many truths in this. Most videos are regurgitated bullshit we’ve heard a million times or lofty thoughts that are lacking actionable steps
!!! this is so nice. it's honestly so kind because i try really hard to write everything so that it's real and original. like i can't stand regurgitated BS either so i'm trying to create the content that i would want to watch. this is why this comment is so supportive!
I really resonated with this video… i have yet to put my degree to use, I love the idea of working with it… yet there’s this pressure , family & societal to have children because “it will only get harder” but i am not ready for that I want to pursue my dream without pressures
thank you so much
Let's go!!
Nobody knows about the future but I'm here to take control of mine because I'm the only one responsible and able for it. 18 years in the game of life and I am figuring myself bit by bit. Thank you for sharing your message!!
I'm adding this to the playlist I repeatedly listen to while I take my long walks!
i'm honored!
Yes!! I am a dance teacher! And I own my dance studio.. yes sure, I need to learn the video again and do it!
This is some of the realest shit I've heard Mandy.. As someone who was laid off from a company that literally told me "everything was gonna be fine" a week prior and decided to repost my job position 2 weeks prior to my last day without notifying me of departure, (I checked the company website and saw the position for a 3rd LESS than what I was paid.) Best thing to happened now I get to focus on a new career path. All the people I supported and thought I was cool with never reached out or nothing... Maybe 2 or 3 people but it be like that I got to make my dreams come true. This just makes it easier for me to get to where I need to be 💯
This is everything I needed to hear building my own firm. Thank you. Couldn't thank you enough.
new watcher, how did you know i am a perfectionist/high achiever? Then I realised that I'm watching this at 9pm on a Sunday in my downtime. This advice is spot on the sort of things that keep cropping up as I graduate and slowly join the working world. I do my best to keep my work in my working hours. And being part-time, that means that there is a lot of moments where I'm not working and I feel like I sort of should be, even when I have met my working hours for the week. You are do right. Don't feel bad. I'm doing my best. And this is my time to enjoy.
I love how UA-cam always recommended me the best things I have ever wish for !
This is amazing, thank you for the pickme up and truth! no one tells you the truth to be a succeessful fill in the blanks! Between you and Dan Koe, I got this!
omg i can't believe you mentioned me and dan koe in the same sentence, i watch him all the time and he's like my inspo! thank you thank you for watching!!!
“there is greatness inside of you waiting to be born” 😮💨 thank you for your time and knowledge! great message, great video! 😊
and i love the passion and authenticity in your facial expressions 😂
i so appreciate you watching and leaving such a nice comment!
Excellent topic! We must make the time. As women we are expected to volunteer and take less. We have to know our value.
I genuinely appreciate your time and effort in making this video. Im 28 and I’ve found myself in these exact situations all year long. Thank you for ur advice ❤
This is exactly what I need this morning
I really needed this video. I recently lost my mom, and it’s been hard to find motivation for anything. I’ve been questioning the future and whether it’s worth it. While I know these feelings are part of the grieving process, I don’t want this grief to consume me or define my life.
Couldn’t agree more, with 2 toddlers, those two hours before they wake up and after they go to sleep are so precious.
as a recent grad at my first 9-5 already daydreaming of entrepreneurship this was everything
Beautiful Message and Major Congrats to you on taking that leap all those years ago and choosing yourself first. Thank you for sharing
saying know will lead you to your yes.
Ma'am, live your life,please. You don't have to be bothered with me. Live your life and be happy.
Ur makin me realize im starting to get to an age where I might need life coaching 😅 been just following my immigrant mothers dream since birth b/c i feel guilty for being born but i have so many creative projects and ideas i want to commit to but only have so much time in the day to commit to...i feel u so much on tryna so No more often!!
omg the pull of the immigrant parent's dream, and then realizing, wait, this may not be mine, and then holding space for yourself and also loving your parents but equally loving YOU
Omgsh!! So glad I found your channel!! This hits home! EXACTLY where I’m at right now. Here’s to focusing on myself in 2025!!
Thank you coach Mandy for the realization of >me first> You are spot on with a lot of what is said in your video! Took notes and will be following your videos!They give that push:)
I've had these thoughts lately. I'm 31. That my energy is lots lower than it was in my 20s and soon ill wish I had the energy I have now. I'm going to take the leap and bet on me, I feel I have the courage and the vision. Thank you for this video ❤
Hello Mandy! thanks for your valuable insight. I was locked in that circle you talked about for a long time thinking that it's just normal and it was truly draining to me until lately when I broke the circle and became more mindful and more selfish prioritizing myself and my personal life. Things got so much better now that I put clear boundaries between work time and personal time.
Mandy, thank you for being a mentor when I need one. 🙏❤️
Love you for this message! Especially at 10:18 !!! This is where I am now and I respect the major truths “I wasn’t ready, I didn’t have the courage, I didn’t have the vision” !!!! OMG major 🔑!!! Thank you so much for directing us and being straight forward about it! I value you! ❤
Love this! Brilliant, I work a 9 to 5. Thank you for your time ❤
This is sooo reall... those examples just happened to me 2 weeks ago.. I am crying so hard over many "yes" that tryna get rid ma dreams. Although I've said sorry, I can't help them, since my energy is limited, people switched hating me and talking badly :")
You have no idea how the timing is beyond incredibly perfect for your video coming accross my feed!!!!!!!!! thank you!!!!!
OMGGG thank you!!
POCKETS OF TIME!! As a paralegal my “real life” exists in the pockets of time I carve out in my day, before and after work. Professionally, my whole day is tracked in measurements of 6 minutes, so I’m very aware of how valuable 6 minutes can be. You gotta do what you can with the time that you have.
i love this comment so much. thank you.
Hello Mandy! Thank you for showing up and being here. Your advice is exactly what I need and a lot of others do. Thank you! ❤
Thank you for this. I’m 20 and I’m really trying to use my time wisely while I’m giving a lot of it to my college for volunteering and building communities.
Wow, this is exaclty how I went through a severe burnt out and depression. I'm still recovering from the damage but I'm super glad I was finaly able to block everything and spent a complete alone time for months. I stoped doing anything, meeting anybody, being on messenger or social media. After about 3 months of resting, I started to realized what I had been doing wrong for myself, which is what you are explaining over here. I wish I knew this sooner. I'm so much happier doing so much less now. 😊
Learning my lessons! Intuitively I knew corporate America was a joke over 20 years ago I set out to follow my dreams. All these laid off stories of people dedicating themselves to these jobs that don’t care are incredibly not surprising to me! Go for the gusto people! Love your work on here! ❤
Mandy, this video and what you shared was sooo good. Lesson 2-protect your agenda, was solid truth, because the aim of other peoples' agendas is often what's best for them.
i needed to hear this today. keep putting off my creative endeavors bc i give too much time to others
Saying no and protecting my time is still an issue even in my late 60s AND I’m running out of time for sure!
This video stumbled across my page after weeks of feeling stuck, burnt out, and paralyzed when acting toward my dreams. AThankyou, thank you, THANK YOU for posting this. I am still in awe of these new ways of thinking, and I can't wait for the challenge of saying no to things and sticking to my agenda. Sending tons of love!!!!
Wow, this is on time. I've been thinking about this for a while. Sacrificing my time for others. Being there for people rather than myself. I felt like i dont spend time and invest in me that much. Ive become lazy when it comes to my life. I find myself just scrolling away for hours, and i know my youth is so precious. I should be exploring the world and myself...
i am now a member of the church of mandy, im subscribed and will be starting my days watching you - holy shit this is exactly what i needed
Exactly what I needed to hear todaY, and I sit in my office on a Sunday playing catch up while my kid and husband ate at home 🫠
I love her for saying 'no' to these people who wanted to give 30 for her job
This resonated with me to the deepest level. I don't have anything lined up but I am saying no to a lot of things because they do not align with me. I cannot see what the Future holds but I know that I deserve the best and I need to own my own business because I just have a feeling. I don't know, I am so confused
you're literally mother thank you so much i needed to hear all of this. you just got a new subscriber!
You have no idea how much you’ve helped me! ✨😭
Yazmin, thank you soo much!!!!! THIS comments helps ME!
This came on my feed at the most perfect moment. I'm definitely in this cycle and have given no time to myself. I don't even know where to begin. 😢
Oh my goodness, every single thing you said, is talking about me! Thank you God!
Saying no will lead to your yes - it took me so long to understand why we say no🙄…glad I heard this version which helps me say no better now 😊