I’m not the first to say something of this iteration but I remind myself of it every single time I’m in a situation that warrants this pep talk ✨ it’s been immensely helpful!
I once saw a very famous very attractive actress at an event in LA while I was working security. If all the women who have ever felt insecure for not looking like her could only see her under natural light… I don’t want to body shame (or skeleton shame in her case) but if I met that star’s plastic surgeon I might question his skill at his job, let’s just put it that way.
I’m glad it found you! But I get it… especially when a subject matter is something I thought about, not spoke about… like how did you get into my mind?!
@@the.ashfiles it's the fact that i've recently been entering the "quiet rebellion" phase for probably the first time in my life, so the fact that your video came up in my feed where you essentially articulate the entire process makes it seem like youtube knows more than it should haha thank you for making this though, it's a message that many people (including myself) need to hear. life is about living, not playing a character
I'm with you EC. Same thing happened to me. I’ve been slowly realizing how much I’ve been living like I’ve been told to live and not how I want. Then I see this. Yes, the algorithm sent it, but we called to it first with our questions, searching, and learning we did to recognize it when it arrived. We did so many things before we even saw this video. It's all us. Ash sends it out and we bring it into ourselves. Best wishes on your new journey. 🩷
@@screamingmimi90 i think i got here because i started watching a bunch of videos about getting a paper notebook instead of scrolling on your phone lol for me it started with very simple things where i would realize i was acting in a way that didn't actually make sense to me. like laughing when everyone else laughs even if i didn't find anything particularly funny. or trying to sound more enthusiastic about something than i actually am. i started experimenting with just not doing these small things where i didn't feel like doing them, and realized the whole world doesn't end just because i don't act a certain way that i think i "should". they're small changes but they're very liberating
How often do we answer 'I'm fine' or 'it's fine' to people when it's really not. It's something I noticed I was doing almost daily... but I'm lying to not only them but also myself. ✨
@@the.ashfilesThat is the moment you begin to make your life better. Know your Worth, love yourself, and have Compassion for yourself. That works wonders, it really does. Start NOW.
During the summer, I scheduled "feral trips" where I'd take a bus out to the mountains for a day. I'd hike, soak in a hot spring, have some tea, read, journal, and generally try to ignore everyone around me. It kept me so grounded, and I grew a lot during each adventure. The buses don't run over the winter, so I'm struggling to find a replacement
I really hope you can find a replacement because this sounds like pure magic! I feel we often grow more into our true selves when we can tune out the world and just be with ourselves. ✨
Maybe plays/concerts? Maybe your library has offerings? Treating yourself to a coffee and peoplewatching? I would suggest getting out of the house though, at least a little each day. I hope you find something😍
I am watching this on Thanksgiving day in America in my house by myself because my sons are with their dad. It’s the first year I have not had cook anything or host anyone. I thought I might be a little sad - but I’m actually so happy that for the first time in 20 years I can actually enjoy this day off from work and do exactly what I want. This video is beautiful! ❤
Happy thanksgiving to you! Love your outlook! It’s so true, I’ve spent a few holidays over the years and I always thought it would make me depressed. Instead it was so nice to embrace the peaceful nature of the day. ✨ hope you continue to enjoy your day! 🥰🫂
“filling in the blanks of someone else’s blueprint” kinda fkn hit.. never being who i wanted to be bc it wasn’t everyone else’s idea of me or who i should be
@@DianeO-369 It was awkward at first. But it takes all the stress out. Friends will sometimes ask "why not?" And I'll just tell them that I just dont want that day. Its so simple but provides an immediate improvement on my mood (I tended to be a people pleaser)
@Jbird1988 , thank you for your response 🙏🏼 I completely understand 'people pleasing'. Yep, they expect more of an answer than just 'NO'. If pressed with 'why not' ... "that's the best answer for me" and leave it at that. If pressed again, you're being bullied or manipulated... that says more about them at that point.
I'm in a similar boat, and it has been a journey. Something that's supposed to be simple (ex: being honest and saying no when you don't want to do something) is a struggle when most of my life, "No," was not a good enough answer. My family didn't respect that, so I learned that saying no was selfish. Staying with family friends has been a huge help. I can say no and they respect it, and they don't ask for any explanations. It felt weird at first, but it's getting better. And it has helped me realize how much my own family took advantage of me growing up (which is a whole separate can of worms that hurts). Knowing that, "No," is an acceptable answer all on its own and will not invoke retaliation is wonderful.
All these words are meant for my tired,..daydreamer of a soul that keeps imagining life will get better & magically change for the better if I move abroad
I can’t say they will change for the better (as I’ve had my fair share of downs since moving abroad six months ago) but at the same time change in any capacity can help shift things for the better ✨🫂
I've moved into a new country 2 years ago, if you're still in your home country I just want to tell you "the grass is greener on the other side", sit with it....
I’ve lived abroad for five years now. Whilst there has been many good changes, some things have stayed the same, because I am the same person. I spent a long time daydreaming about moving, so mentally it has been better for me. It won’t become something I regretted in later life not doing when it’s no longer possible. I hope it becomes your reality too 😊
You are one of the most talented filmmakers on UA-cam. The aesthetics, the narration & the lessons are such a needed breath of fresh air, thank you so much!
Oh gosh, thank you so much Jordan! I doubt myself every single time I post a video, so reading something as kind as this really means so so much to me ☺️✨
this actually feels like a breath of fresh air. as a closeted trans person i always tend to brush my life off, thinking "i cant be me right now, time isn't right". I gotta get a degree, then get a good job, earn money, think how to move abroad, think if i can move abroad alone, think for how more years i should wait before id catch a glimpse of who i am; when in reality all i do is look how my life slips through my fingers. I don't tell people who I am, thinking they won't accept me, but not even giving them the chance to do so. and maybe I shouldn't wait for a magical moment to happen, or wait for a life I desire, and just let things be as they are. maybe i should learn how to be proud and happy just because this is me thank you for your work, this is truly something so full of life you feel it with your whole heart
Thank you so much for sharing your story and your heart here. I’m deeply moved by your words and your reflections on this journey. It takes so much courage to even put these thoughts into words, and I hope you give yourself credit for that. You’re so right-life isn’t about waiting for the ‘perfect moment.’ You deserve to live authentically as you are, not someday, but today. I’m rooting for you and sending so much support your way as you take these steps toward embracing yourself fully. This is your life, and you deserve to live it fully and proudly. ✨🫂
Honestly I’m in the same boat as you and this comment and the video really just kinda put life slipping through my fingers into perspective, it’s been really nice for helping me with trying to get things on track
I'm so happy that from the first minutes, I realised that this does not feel like me. I am where I wanted to be and while that was not the initial plan, it is so much better than I could have expected.
Well that was a delight. Welcome to the story, learning to say “no” has opened so many more doors than when I said yes to everything. The challenge though is one can become too accustomed to saying “no”, it must be modulated with some “yes’s”. Enjoy the adventure. Xoxo
At 5:50 you said "Life is not a project with deadlines". That just blew everything out of the water for me. That's exactly how I treat life--like a work project with an ever-approaching deadline that is never actually reached. So I procrastinate and make excuses and say "good enough for now" because it feels like it's too late to fix anything because The Deadline (tm) is going to hit soon and it's better to have something shitty to turn in as opposed to nothing at all. I keep expecting to be graded for my performance any moment, so there's no time for error or practice. It's gotta be stage-ready from the get-go. And that's not sustainable nor actually possible. I have a lot to think about now. Thank you for sharing your insights in such a succinct and informative way. This is huge. I'm so glad the algorithms sent me to your video today.
I’m so happy this piece resonated with you in this way! But it also says a lot about you for recognizing it. A lot of people are quick to shut down their truth when they’re confronted with it… but not you! Messages like this make me so happy and I know you can start to make the small shifts towards treating life in a more present way than with the deadlines. It’s your life, you can go at a pace that works for YOU. No one else - you’ve got this! 🥰✨🙌🏻
perfect timing, was crying last night, disappointed about life. woke up and decided to accept that all the fuck ups were experiences meant to be felt. then you came, so perfect for my new chapter! thank you for helping heal little broken hearts, much love 💗
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻 I’m so glad this piece resonated with you and I’m so excited for where you’re heading in life… awareness is step one and the biggest step of all! You’ve got this! 🙌🏻☺️✨
Once you stop lying to yourself about everything your life just opens up. It’s amazing. Simply tell yourself the honest truth and things just become clear. It takes a little time to unlearn all the bullshit we tell ourselves to make us feel good 👍🏾. Just try it. Start with a hour, day, week, month, year, the rest of your life. I also had to learn how to deliver the No’s gently and I’m a pro now. Thank you for this video my dear. It was refreshing.
What a wonderful video. :) I'm not coming back to my life, I'm only just starting life at 46. Everything up to now was just surviving, I've had doctors tell me they were very impressed I'm still alive. I started life over at 40 with a dyslexia and autism diagnoses, it's taken me the last 6 years to reframe and rebuild my sense of self. I still have a ways to go but I think I'm through most of it. I know we're not meant to feel behind in life but at 46 I kinda feel like I should of gone on at least one date in my life. Most of my life, well half of my life really I felt dumb and broken somehow but didn't know how, turns out I was trying (and failing) to live a neurotypical life.
Thank you so much for sharing this-it takes incredible courage to start over, and your story is so inspiring. Rebuilding your sense of self after such a long journey shows a strength most people can’t imagine. You’re not behind, even if it feels that way sometimes-starting life on your terms at 46 is powerful, and I hope you give yourself credit for how far you’ve come. It’s not easy to live in a world built for someone else’s rules, but you’re showing up as yourself, and that’s what matters most. I’m cheering you on as you continue forward! ✨☺️
Literally 3 seconds into this video, the first I’ve ever seen of yours or this channel, and immediately subscribed. Already, this feels like the nourishment I’ve been needing. 😌
I think people pleasing is more common amongst us than not… and feeling stuck can be a result of that - choosing to put others before ourselves. So happy this piece resonated with you and I hope you can take the small steps to take back YOUR life 🥰✨
“Sometimes you end up right back where you started, but thats not failure- its part of the process”. I really needed to hear that. I recently got scammed and lost a lot of savings and am in a difficult position financially. I am just about to finish my 6th and final year of university and had it all planned out- including plans of moving to a different city. Suddenly, with what happened, I feel like I am back at square one or even -1 and everything feels wasted. This really helps me to remind myself that I didn’t reach a final destination, this is merely a part of the process to get back on track. Everything will be okay. Lovely video and advice. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing and it's definitely not you reaching a final destination and definitely not everything is wasted. It's all for learning and it always hurts so much in the moment. You have so much ahead of you though. I'm so sorry for what happened to you, but you have such a good sense of awareness, you're 100% going to be okay. Just keep following that sense of self and curiosity. Wishing you all the best!! ✨
This little film is perfect. Thank you with all of my heart for caring so much to curate each of the gorgeous scenes, and to pair them with ideal music and poignant narration of timeless wisdom. Thank you so much for your very thoughtful reminder that we are blessed with the beauty of living life-in all its simplicity and complexity-one moment and one day at a time, with the personal choice of seeing them as ordinary or extraordinary.
This was nice, the music reminds me of a fancy bar I used to go in when I was young and wait for my roommate to finish work. I had it all figured out but now my kids are 18 and 15 and I am figuring it out again and helping them too figure it out too
@@deborahmeek6529 life is just a series of moments where are figuring it out. I don’t think it ever ends.. which is both comforting and scary but at least we’re all doing the same ✨
Thank you for making this video. I’ve been stuck in a loop for years, 2024 was when I finally started breaking away, changing things in my routine, focusing less on video games. I hope I see more progress in 2025, but baby steps are a start!
Teared up, this was exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve taken a possible permanent hiatus from college, and feel like I’m drifting in my own life. I don’t know what I’ll do next, but after this video I hope my little victories will create the building blocks for finding myself again. Thank you for sharing!!
It's amazing to realize how many of us walk similar paths without even knowing it. I don't know how UA-cam came to put this video in the suggestions to watch next below another one (about an entirely different thing), but I'm glad it did. I'm also really glad I clicked on it. This hit so close to home that it brought me to tears. Thank you for putting into words many things I've been feeling recently, but that I didn't think made sense or were valid.
Thank you so much for sharing this-it means a lot to hear that the video resonated with you in such a deep way. It’s incredible how these shared experiences can connect us, even through something as random as UA-cam suggestions. I’m so glad this found you at the right time and gave words to feelings you’ve been holding. You’re not alone in this, and your feelings are always valid. Sending you so much love and gratitude! 🥰🫂✨
I adore your style of filming and editing, it reminds me of the way you’d talk to a friend at a coffee shop over the weekend. Picking apart what you did during the week and what could’ve gone better and what you did right. It’s a friendly chat, and while the message doesn’t specifically apply to me. The reminder that giving a solid simple No is always an option, is always appreciated. As is the reminder that when you're cultivating your own path, don't ask for anyones permission.
Wow, this is such a thoughtful comment-thank you so much! I love that it feels like a coffee shop chat to you, because that’s exactly the kind of vibe I hope to create: casual but meaningful. And yes, a solid ‘No’ and not asking for permission are such underrated superpowers. I’m so glad the message resonated, even in a small way. Appreciate you taking the time to share this! ✨☺️
This is exactly what i needed to hear, for months now. Maybe years. I've been slowly losing myself in the expectations, the deadlines, the social pressure to be "normal". Often i feel so dull and can't recognize myself, and when the real me comes out sometimes there's this deep shame, or guilt for not meeting the expectations of heing the responsible, perfect being I feel like I need to be. Genuinely this video is a piece of art and speaks to me like nothing has in a while. It's about time i started listening to myself, to letting myself live, to experience the world again without stifling myself. I know it starts slow, but also I know it can be done. I know I can feel like myself again. Thank you.
I’m so glad this resonated with you. It’s so easy to lose ourselves in the noise of expectations, isn’t it? But you’re right-it starts slow, and giving yourself permission to live, little by little, is where it begins. You’re not alone in this, and I hope you keep listening to that part of yourself that wants to BE again. Thank you for sharing ✨🫂
I redelegated a task at work today... It was something I helped out with while we were shorthanded. I told the new person it was their responsibility starting tomorrow. I sent a text to my boyfriend today that we need to talk soon. Our relationship is... Fine. We're friends, but that's it. I'm planning to change course tomorrow. Lastly, I need a new job. My job pays the bills, and I work from home, and the car industry sucks... But I can't stop thinking about going back into being a car salesman. I just really enjoy helping people find the right car for them. I'm not profit hungry, I'm solution hungry. The hours suck, and I'm sure it's not always roses. I'm terrified to leave what I have... But I can't stop wondering if I'd be happier.
I just gave notice at my well paying job pushing tons of reports, emails and sitting alone in my cushy private office because I know I’m meant to have a job being in front of people, helping them. You going back to sales sounds like a great choice for you!
Thank you for sharing all of this-it sounds like you’re navigating a lot of big decisions all at once, and that takes so much courage. It’s not easy to question what’s ‘fine’ and wonder if something better is out there, but that curiosity is such a powerful guide. I love how passionate you are about helping people in your industry-it’s clear that solving problems and connecting with others really lights you up. Whatever path you choose, I hope you give yourself credit for all the thought and care you’re putting into these decisions. Sending you so much support as you figure out what happiness looks like for you! ☺️✨
@@the.ashfiles thank you so much for the reply! I did end the relationship, and continuing to delegate more at work, but still can't take the leap to quit. Hopefully I can set myself up with a better job soon. But your response made me tear up a bit. It has been a stressful year. Thank you.
thank you for sharing this update-it sounds like you’ve been making some really tough but important moves. Ending a relationship and setting boundaries at work are no small feats, especially during such a stressful year. Take your time with the next steps; even small shifts are still progress. I have no doubt you’ll find that better job when the time is right, and until then, I’m cheering you on every step of the way. Sending you so much strength and hope for the year ahead-you’ve got this! ❤️🫂✨
I have watched this video every day for the last 7 days. And it's really been helping me go through a horrific marriage break down. It makes me feel like even though I have big feelings, that the grief is immense... so is the joy.. ✨🙏
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so sorry you’re going through such a difficult time, but I’m incredibly touched that this video has brought you even a little bit of comfort. Your strength in embracing both the grief and the joy is so inspiring. Sending you so much love and healing energy as you navigate this. 🫂❤️✨
i love the few seconds of silence at the end. after really heartfelt words, just taking a moment to let it soak in, watching beautiful views, reminding ourselves to just be in the present moment, and live
I think Gemini is running the new algorithm and it knows our hopes, dreams and desires. And it’s trying to optimize what we need. This is a beautiful video expressing my delight of what I’ve been experiencing lately
Your dog is adorable! 😍💗 I love how you share exploring London... perfect! And yes... life ISN'T a dress rehearsal, there’s very few do overs so >>enjoy
I can tell this is something I'll be coming back to again and again. Every other line was a quote just meant to be drawn next to a light switch, on a computer monitor, somewhere it will be seen, somewhere it will be absorbed. This video truly is a work of art and I cannot thank you enough for the work that went into it.
It has been some time since I've felt this pressure against my chest, this emptiness inside never leaves me just like how I feel nothing towards most people and life itself. Once I finish my classes today I will go back to this video so I can watch it fully❤
I love how well you discuss the idea that making a change is in the little moments we choose to be honest with ourselves and how a lot of other humans just wants us for all that we are, not just the highlights. Some of my favourite points, thank you for your video!
I've been in my industry for 15 years, maybe more, and I'm about to leave it and the city I live in to pursue tattooing. I cannot resonate enough with your point of "someone else's life", this isn't the one I want, it's the one that was expected.
This change is so exciting! And tattooing?! How cool! I don’t know you but I’m proud of you! It’s hard to step out on your own, against everyone’s expectations, but you have to do it for yourself, it’s YOUR life! Wishing you all the best on this new adventure! ✨
I got pushed into this. Got fired from a job I was trying to leave. Saved by a friend on the rebound. Then. Quietly. Slowly. Kept walking toward the life I have left.
"You can't get away from yourself by moving from one place to another." - Ernest Hemingway, The Sun Also Rises. I tried the moving away. I tried the moving back. I realized that it wasn't going to fix anything for me - I needed to accept the things of myself I don't love. And that is where the journey is beginning again for me. It's helping me be more mindful of what it is I have never been. Thanks for this video. I needed it.
I think it’s such an important thing to realize but not all of us are fortunate to have the awareness. It’s hard, for sure, but necessary. Thank you for sharing and for being here ✨☺️
the second you stop caring about what others think, you make room for what *you* think. you start living in a way that feels true to you, not because it looks good on paper or fits neatly into someone else’s expectations but because it’s your life. So, make your choices and trust them.
Loved this and immediately sent it to my sister. I am in NJ and she is in LA. Before COVID we’d meet somewhere to spend some time together. In 2017 we visited Paris and London. After watching this beautiful video we are inspired to return and see it all again. Beautiful! ❤ TY
Awww I love this! I lived in LA for 10 years, and love that you find time to meet somewhere to spend that time together. You are so lucky! (I always wanted a sister)… I hope your next adventure together is the best one yet 🥰✨
3:10 I without hesitation signed up for weekly dance classes in Canada. I had just went for a weekend and was reminded of a dance studio i wanted to attend during the pandemic. I did it and made the commitment without ASKING my job first about my schedule. I went in the next shift and requested new availability. They denied it, I talked to my manager and firmly asked why? told them they have two options, either that availability or another two days for another course. They realized i was serious, and they agreed to another availability. It was the first time i didn’t let my job decide for me in full.
As small as some people might see this, this is such a big victory in our minds and our hearts can definitely feel said victory / achievement, I can imagine how air felt lighter after they agreed
This is such a power move, and I love to see it! Prioritizing yourself and standing firm on what you need is no small thing-major kudos to you for making it happen. That dance class sounds like it’s going to be so worth it! ✨🥰
This has already become a morning ritual to watch, to keep the message fresh, and to make me feel like I can make a difference, no matter how small today, to make my life just a bit better.
I think 90% of the world needs to see this video. This is so liberating I really needed to hear this. It’s life-changing whoever you are you are no joke. Thank you for the wisdom. I’m gonna share it with as many people as I know a lot of people.
Wow! Cant believe this came up on my timeline- I've got 2 months left of my job- then I'm taking a year out to travel. I'm going through a moment right now- finding moments of joy and god, in quiet moments- Knowing I defiantly need to get out of the city. I know I release my perfectionism and start living my life for me- my mum has currently got cancer and has been an alcoholic my whole life- its like this whole burden rock I've carried my whole life which is not mine. I want to move to Australia- thanks so much for making this video.
I know this post is 3 weeks old but I have just discovered your channel. Everything you say is spot on, even for me at my slightly more advanced stage of life. I retired 9 months ago and like many have had some transition trauma. This video is just what I needed. I look forward to your next with great anticipation. Thank you.
I needed this so much. It was so spot on. I coincidentally moved back home end of 2019 right before the pandemic without a plan, and been here since. I can’t believe it’s been 5 years. Within this time span I’ve taken on a lot more responsibilities than I had prior; I’ve been a people pleaser all over again and have felt like I’ve been reliving my teen years which has resulted in childhood wounds resurfacing. I’ve grown to realize a lot of things about my family & really put into perspective how they are and always will be let alone their perceptions of me. The longer I’m here the longer I notice the favoritism of siblings & the role I’m stuck with of being the oldest… as if I’m forced to always be the person to say yes & do everything otherwise I’m the bad guy. Some environments don’t allow you to grow and since I’ve been here for the last 5 years I haven’t grown much compared to how much I did when I wasn’t living at home. I feel like I backtracked. Sorry for steering into the deep end but this resonated so much. I love my family but they dim my desires and dreams. In 2025 I really want to choose myself & not care if my decisions make anyone upset. I need to do what’s best for me and keep the spark in me alive. Moving out again has been on my mind for sometime.. I want to explore living in New York even if it means being on my own.
Thank you so much for sharing Serina! I couldn’t agree with you more and I really do understand where you’re coming. I’m so glad you’re taking life into your own hands for 2025 and I’m so excited for you! Just keep moving in that direction, one step at a time ❤️🫂✨
Few years back, I couldn't even fathom that I lost myself because I didn't have any idea of who I really was before then. I went into deep blues but I was able to find my way out got to learn a lot from psychology and philosophy eventually. I settled with the idea of "where I find myself, there I am". Now, I feel like I'm living life on god-mode.
Thank you for sharing this. It’s amazing to hear how you found your way back to yourself-that’s no small thing. I’m so glad you’re in a place that feels right for you. ☺️✨
I am 26 years old and I am in tears because for the first time in my life, I’m actually free in believing I’m exactly who I’m supposed to be at exactly the right time and anyone who doesn’t like it can take their opinions and shove it.
This is the energy we all need! It’s such a powerful moment when you can stand fully in who you are and own it without apology. I’m so glad this resonated with you-here’s to keeping that freedom and letting everyone else’s opinions stay exactly where they belong: far away from your happiness! ☺️✨
@ Thank you so much for the reply! Last night I heard 4444 hz frequency and today a license plate 4444. In addition the Geminide meteor shower is tonight and I am a Gemini. 13 truly is my lucky number and I’ve been seeing that a LOT. AND A RAINBOW IN BROAD DAYLIGHT. Today IS the day!
It’s Amazing how your voice Is quite low and calm and at the same time convincing and encouraging. Thank you for creating this content. Please keep it up.
You don't have to settle, you don't have to pretend everything is fine when they are actually not.... i recently stood up to my narcissistic mother in law, and her daughter. It was actually horrible and she turned everyone against me and did awful awful things but my husband is standing by me. He's upset and shocked but sees her behaviour for the first time. I will never see those people again and ive never felt happier.
This video is so inspiring and really made me reflect on my life. It makes me want to work on myself and make positive changes. Honestly, everyone should watch this. You are incredible and the way you express everything is so thoughtful and genuine. I love the calm and relaxing vibe of the video, it is so comforting to watch. I just subscribed and I cannot wait to see all the amazing things you will achieve. You deserve so many subscribers. Wishing you so much success and thank you for creating this!💗
@@il4thv this comment made me so teary eyed. What beautiful words. Thank you for taking the time to share and for supporting me. It really means so so much to me ✨🥰🙏🏻
Thank you. I've lived my life by the book, followed every rules and made sure everyone around me was alright and now everything came crumbling down I don't know who I am anymore I thought I was a failure I still am but this video made me realize things happen for a reason and where I am right now is alright I may not be in college like my friends I'm still finding out who I am and who I want to become so thank you, this video is the only one that gave me assurance. I also need to learn how to say no hahaha...
This strangely fits what I’m going through right now. I fell in love with my now boyfriend and somehow, it woke me up. I never felt the need to leave the nest until very recently. Now, I’m going to visit him at the end of this month. For the first time, I made a vacation possible. I’m going on a flight by myself. I making my own decision. And the first step to move into my own place with him. And for the first time, I feel like an actual adult. I felt that sudden shift and it was much more aggressive than I thought would be. So take that leap. Take that chance. My whole journey has become a list of coincidences that lined up too well to be accidental. You deserve it.
all very good points, but if I may add (for my fellow Christians or really anyone who believes in God): when you start making one's own journey spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and in my case, when you become closer to God, everything just starts falling into place and nothing feels bad or by some script anymore. I handed the pen to my maker instead of to other people, and life is good. (not trying to push my beliefs on others here, just wanted to share my experience and God’s grace ❤)
I’ve decided to start my transition in 2024, I always hear my friends and family (and my own inner voice) all saying “what if it goes wrong?” And the answer to that question isn’t simple and I have considered not doing it but I know now that isn’t an option, so when someone asks “what happens if it goes wrong?” My reply is “I’ll handle it, because I’ll have to”
Your determination and self-awareness are so powerful. I admire the courage it takes to embrace what feels right for you, even when the questions are difficult. Sending you a big hug! ✨🫂
Oh, those shots of Daunt Books made my nose tingle. One of my (many) favourite bookshops. Gosh I miss London. You have captured its charm so well. And every word you spoke rings true. 🤗
This video has instantly changed and saved my life all at once. Thank you from the deepest part of my soul and the bottom of my heart. ❤ ~ a brand new subscriber, who saw this on her recommended page, and will be grateful for you for eternity. ❤
So many possible affirmations here (ex. I love choosing myself and what’s best for me) as well as lessons . I would love if somebody made bullet points on important points. I’ll have to take notes next time around! Thank you so much!
@ Affirmations♡ - I can say no w/o any explanation - I can make discussions w/o others approval - I can be myself unapologetically - The little wins matter too - There is no one path for everyone - Take your time there’s no rush - Live your life fully - Don’t settle for fine, ask for the best - I notice even the littlest things in my life
My friend and I was discussing all the things are speaking about today. Shout out to UA-cam for showing this in my recommendations. Shout out to you for making this video. New sub!
You are such a talented… articulate, full of empathy, funny and great video editor too.. do more of these type of videos.. you heal us.. and you’ll be a famous movie maker someday❤❤❤ love from Indonesia
But what can you do if you don't know what you want? I once felt that I knew what I wanted but then I lost my interests and it feels like my personality and mind aren't the same anymore. The first part of your film really spoke to me, but I don't know what can I do
Honestly, the fact that you’re aware enough to ask the question of what you want is huge! Because you know and realize something is missing. Start by taking notice, what feels good, what feels right with everything you do, down to the smallest thing. Whether in routine, or at home or work… and start getting curious. Try things that have always peaked your interest, even if small. If something doesn’t feel right, pivot to the next. This isn’t an overnight fix… it’s in the small choices we make towards coming back to ourselves. I know, that was cheesy… but it’s true. ✨
I completely understand where you are coming from! I don't want anything 🤷 anymore..... I spent 20 years trying to "find my place" but nothing ever fits right..... I do what I have to to keep the lights on and soldier forward. The reality is that we don't always know or get what we want. And sometimes we can't even define it....
@@ritalynb7070 unfortunately that happens, I stopped caring about time. First I used to panic because I felt that my life is passing and I didn't know what I actually doing but now I believe that it's never too late. I hope that one day we will come to clarity.
Good old youtube algorithm. Ive sorta been going through the motions of life the past few months now... hell more then that,, and idk i feel,,, for lack of wording... lost. Im in my final semester of college,,, but i feel i was thrown into this degree,, not really of my choosing and while i have come to love it... theres still part of me that wonders What if. I dont really know what im gonna do come January. Something you said in this video of living someones elses life... is sticking with me. I have sorta just gone with what everyome has said, but never really knowing if i truly want said things. Im just,,, lost and confused. But im hoping that i can make some changes so that 2025,, i start to feel like myself, even tho im not totally sure who that really is.
First off, thank you for being so open-it’s not easy to sit with these kinds of questions, let alone share them. It sounds like you’re starting to challenge the idea of living by someone else’s rules, and that’s huge. Feeling lost might not be fun, but it’s often where the best ideas about who we really are start to take shape. You don’t have to have it all figured out by January-or even 2025. Keep taking small steps toward what feels like you, and trust that the pieces will come together when they’re meant to. Cheering you on from here! 👏🏻✨☺️
@the.ashfiles of course, idk your video really stuck with me. And yeaaa it's not too fun honestly. You make a good point,,, on not having it all figured out in january let alone,,,2025,,, idk,, I guess I fee I need to cause ive been in limbo for so long. But I know your right in ur advice,, take little steps. Thank you so much, it means a lot
“the ones who get offended by your boundaries are the ones who benefited from you not having any” 💯
I’m not the first to say something of this iteration but I remind myself of it every single time I’m in a situation that warrants this pep talk ✨ it’s been immensely helpful!
"Comparing someone else's highlight reel to your behind the scenes" - is such a beautiful and concise way of putting it! Thank you!!
I once saw a very famous very attractive actress at an event in LA while I was working security. If all the women who have ever felt insecure for not looking like her could only see her under natural light… I don’t want to body shame (or skeleton shame in her case) but if I met that star’s plastic surgeon I might question his skill at his job, let’s just put it that way.
it's honestly concerning how youtube's algorithm manages to recommend me videos that are so relevant to me in a particular moment
I’m glad it found you! But I get it… especially when a subject matter is something I thought about, not spoke about… like how did you get into my mind?!
@@the.ashfiles it's the fact that i've recently been entering the "quiet rebellion" phase for probably the first time in my life, so the fact that your video came up in my feed where you essentially articulate the entire process makes it seem like youtube knows more than it should haha
thank you for making this though, it's a message that many people (including myself) need to hear. life is about living, not playing a character
@ 100%! You get it! Wishing you the best on your journey! You’ve got this! 🙌🏻✨
I'm with you EC. Same thing happened to me. I’ve been slowly realizing how much I’ve been living like I’ve been told to live and not how I want. Then I see this. Yes, the algorithm sent it, but we called to it first with our questions, searching, and learning we did to recognize it when it arrived. We did so many things before we even saw this video. It's all us. Ash sends it out and we bring it into ourselves. Best wishes on your new journey. 🩷
@@screamingmimi90 i think i got here because i started watching a bunch of videos about getting a paper notebook instead of scrolling on your phone lol
for me it started with very simple things where i would realize i was acting in a way that didn't actually make sense to me. like laughing when everyone else laughs even if i didn't find anything particularly funny. or trying to sound more enthusiastic about something than i actually am.
i started experimenting with just not doing these small things where i didn't feel like doing them, and realized the whole world doesn't end just because i don't act a certain way that i think i "should".
they're small changes but they're very liberating
"There's no secret permission slip for the life you actually want."
Nailed it🎯
Thanks! ☺️✨
"It's the decision to stop pretending that things are fine when they're really not."
How often do we answer 'I'm fine' or 'it's fine' to people when it's really not. It's something I noticed I was doing almost daily... but I'm lying to not only them but also myself. ✨
@@the.ashfilesThat is the moment you begin to make your life better. Know your Worth, love yourself, and have Compassion for yourself. That works wonders, it really does. Start NOW.
During the summer, I scheduled "feral trips" where I'd take a bus out to the mountains for a day. I'd hike, soak in a hot spring, have some tea, read, journal, and generally try to ignore everyone around me. It kept me so grounded, and I grew a lot during each adventure. The buses don't run over the winter, so I'm struggling to find a replacement
I really hope you can find a replacement because this sounds like pure magic! I feel we often grow more into our true selves when we can tune out the world and just be with ourselves. ✨
Maybe plays/concerts? Maybe your library has offerings? Treating yourself to a coffee and peoplewatching? I would suggest getting out of the house though, at least a little each day. I hope you find something😍
Snowshoeing?
Julia Cameron talks about “play dates” in her books on creativity..
I am watching this on Thanksgiving day in America in my house by myself because my sons are with their dad. It’s the first year I have not had cook anything or host anyone. I thought I might be a little sad - but I’m actually so happy that for the first time in 20 years I can actually enjoy this day off from work and do exactly what I want. This video is beautiful! ❤
Happy thanksgiving to you! Love your outlook! It’s so true, I’ve spent a few holidays over the years and I always thought it would make me depressed. Instead it was so nice to embrace the peaceful nature of the day. ✨ hope you continue to enjoy your day! 🥰🫂
Me too - there’s something beautiful in breaking tradition and finding new space
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Amazing experience 🖤
The cozy scenes and quiet jazz music really hit home. Time for a reboot!
Glad you enjoyed it ☺️✨
What is this lovely music?
“filling in the blanks of someone else’s blueprint” kinda fkn hit.. never being who i wanted to be bc it wasn’t everyone else’s idea of me or who i should be
I’m so glad it resonated with you… I hope you can step into who you want to be more and more ✨
As someone who grew up with extremely controlling parents I completely feel you. Now I’m 26 and just trying to make MY life. Not everyone else’s…
My favorite part of this is learning to say "No" with no excuses. I started this about a year ago and its been fantastic.
Such a good feeling right? ☺️✨
I love that, plain, simple, just .. NO ... no need to explain ❤
@@DianeO-369 It was awkward at first. But it takes all the stress out. Friends will sometimes ask "why not?" And I'll just tell them that I just dont want that day.
Its so simple but provides an immediate improvement on my mood (I tended to be a people pleaser)
@Jbird1988 , thank you for your response 🙏🏼 I completely understand 'people pleasing'.
Yep, they expect more of an answer than just 'NO'. If pressed with 'why not' ... "that's the best answer for me" and leave it at that. If pressed again, you're being bullied or manipulated... that says more about them at that point.
I'm in a similar boat, and it has been a journey. Something that's supposed to be simple (ex: being honest and saying no when you don't want to do something) is a struggle when most of my life, "No," was not a good enough answer. My family didn't respect that, so I learned that saying no was selfish.
Staying with family friends has been a huge help. I can say no and they respect it, and they don't ask for any explanations. It felt weird at first, but it's getting better. And it has helped me realize how much my own family took advantage of me growing up (which is a whole separate can of worms that hurts). Knowing that, "No," is an acceptable answer all on its own and will not invoke retaliation is wonderful.
All these words are meant for my tired,..daydreamer of a soul that keeps imagining life will get better & magically change for the better if I move abroad
I can’t say they will change for the better (as I’ve had my fair share of downs since moving abroad six months ago) but at the same time change in any capacity can help shift things for the better ✨🫂
@the.ashfiles thank u 🤗
I've moved into a new country 2 years ago, if you're still in your home country I just want to tell you "the grass is greener on the other side", sit with it....
I’ve lived abroad for five years now. Whilst there has been many good changes, some things have stayed the same, because I am the same person. I spent a long time daydreaming about moving, so mentally it has been better for me. It won’t become something I regretted in later life not doing when it’s no longer possible. I hope it becomes your reality too 😊
You are one of the most talented filmmakers on UA-cam.
The aesthetics, the narration & the lessons are such a needed breath of fresh air, thank you so much!
Oh gosh, thank you so much Jordan! I doubt myself every single time I post a video, so reading something as kind as this really means so so much to me ☺️✨
That is so well put.
this actually feels like a breath of fresh air.
as a closeted trans person i always tend to brush my life off, thinking "i cant be me right now, time isn't right". I gotta get a degree, then get a good job, earn money, think how to move abroad, think if i can move abroad alone, think for how more years i should wait before id catch a glimpse of who i am; when in reality all i do is look how my life slips through my fingers. I don't tell people who I am, thinking they won't accept me, but not even giving them the chance to do so.
and maybe I shouldn't wait for a magical moment to happen, or wait for a life I desire, and just let things be as they are.
maybe i should learn how to be proud and happy just because this is me
thank you for your work, this is truly something so full of life you feel it with your whole heart
wishing you the best, i hope you can be yourself soon and that people close to you will accept you as you are
thank u very much! I hope for that too
Thank you so much for sharing your story and your heart here. I’m deeply moved by your words and your reflections on this journey. It takes so much courage to even put these thoughts into words, and I hope you give yourself credit for that. You’re so right-life isn’t about waiting for the ‘perfect moment.’ You deserve to live authentically as you are, not someday, but today. I’m rooting for you and sending so much support your way as you take these steps toward embracing yourself fully. This is your life, and you deserve to live it fully and proudly. ✨🫂
@@the.ashfiles thank you for those words ☹♡♡
Honestly I’m in the same boat as you and this comment and the video really just kinda put life slipping through my fingers into perspective, it’s been really nice for helping me with trying to get things on track
I'm so happy that from the first minutes, I realised that this does not feel like me. I am where I wanted to be and while that was not the initial plan, it is so much better than I could have expected.
Well that was a delight. Welcome to the story, learning to say “no” has opened so many more doors than when I said yes to everything. The challenge though is one can become too accustomed to saying “no”, it must be modulated with some “yes’s”. Enjoy the adventure. Xoxo
I definitely agree! 🥰✨ there’s balance to be had!
“Who wants to be normal when you can be interesting” ❤️
At 5:50 you said "Life is not a project with deadlines".
That just blew everything out of the water for me. That's exactly how I treat life--like a work project with an ever-approaching deadline that is never actually reached. So I procrastinate and make excuses and say "good enough for now" because it feels like it's too late to fix anything because The Deadline (tm) is going to hit soon and it's better to have something shitty to turn in as opposed to nothing at all.
I keep expecting to be graded for my performance any moment, so there's no time for error or practice. It's gotta be stage-ready from the get-go. And that's not sustainable nor actually possible. I have a lot to think about now.
Thank you for sharing your insights in such a succinct and informative way. This is huge. I'm so glad the algorithms sent me to your video today.
I’m so happy this piece resonated with you in this way! But it also says a lot about you for recognizing it. A lot of people are quick to shut down their truth when they’re confronted with it… but not you! Messages like this make me so happy and I know you can start to make the small shifts towards treating life in a more present way than with the deadlines. It’s your life, you can go at a pace that works for YOU. No one else - you’ve got this! 🥰✨🙌🏻
perfect timing, was crying last night, disappointed about life. woke up and decided to accept that all the fuck ups were experiences meant to be felt. then you came, so perfect for my new chapter! thank you for helping heal little broken hearts, much love 💗
Thank you for sharing 🙏🏻 I’m so glad this piece resonated with you and I’m so excited for where you’re heading in life… awareness is step one and the biggest step of all! You’ve got this! 🙌🏻☺️✨
Once you stop lying to yourself about everything your life just opens up. It’s amazing. Simply tell yourself the honest truth and things just become clear. It takes a little time to unlearn all the bullshit we tell ourselves to make us feel good 👍🏾. Just try it. Start with a hour, day, week, month, year, the rest of your life. I also had to learn how to deliver the No’s gently and I’m a pro now. Thank you for this video my dear. It was refreshing.
@@Letstalkaboutit61 so glad you liked it! ✨☺️
What a wonderful video. :)
I'm not coming back to my life, I'm only just starting life at 46. Everything up to now was just surviving, I've had doctors tell me they were very impressed I'm still alive. I started life over at 40 with a dyslexia and autism diagnoses, it's taken me the last 6 years to reframe and rebuild my sense of self. I still have a ways to go but I think I'm through most of it. I know we're not meant to feel behind in life but at 46 I kinda feel like I should of gone on at least one date in my life. Most of my life, well half of my life really I felt dumb and broken somehow but didn't know how, turns out I was trying (and failing) to live a neurotypical life.
Thank you so much for sharing this-it takes incredible courage to start over, and your story is so inspiring. Rebuilding your sense of self after such a long journey shows a strength most people can’t imagine. You’re not behind, even if it feels that way sometimes-starting life on your terms at 46 is powerful, and I hope you give yourself credit for how far you’ve come. It’s not easy to live in a world built for someone else’s rules, but you’re showing up as yourself, and that’s what matters most. I’m cheering you on as you continue forward! ✨☺️
Literally 3 seconds into this video, the first I’ve ever seen of yours or this channel, and immediately subscribed. Already, this feels like the nourishment I’ve been needing. 😌
@@Nilaratna wow! Thank you so much! 🥹✨ I’m so happy to have you here!
Same!
Me tooooo🤗
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Im feeling stuck and i find myself people pleasing all the time so these word were magical! thank you
I think people pleasing is more common amongst us than not… and feeling stuck can be a result of that - choosing to put others before ourselves. So happy this piece resonated with you and I hope you can take the small steps to take back YOUR life 🥰✨
“Sometimes you end up right back where you started, but thats not failure- its part of the process”. I really needed to hear that. I recently got scammed and lost a lot of savings and am in a difficult position financially. I am just about to finish my 6th and final year of university and had it all planned out- including plans of moving to a different city. Suddenly, with what happened, I feel like I am back at square one or even -1 and everything feels wasted. This really helps me to remind myself that I didn’t reach a final destination, this is merely a part of the process to get back on track. Everything will be okay. Lovely video and advice. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing and it's definitely not you reaching a final destination and definitely not everything is wasted. It's all for learning and it always hurts so much in the moment. You have so much ahead of you though. I'm so sorry for what happened to you, but you have such a good sense of awareness, you're 100% going to be okay. Just keep following that sense of self and curiosity. Wishing you all the best!! ✨
This little film is perfect. Thank you with all of my heart for caring so much to curate each of the gorgeous scenes, and to pair them with ideal music and poignant narration of timeless wisdom. Thank you so much for your very thoughtful reminder that we are blessed with the beauty of living life-in all its simplicity and complexity-one moment and one day at a time, with the personal choice of seeing them as ordinary or extraordinary.
Thank you for such a kind and beautiful response, I really appreciate it 🥰✨
This was nice, the music reminds me of a fancy bar I used to go in when I was young and wait for my roommate to finish work. I had it all figured out but now my kids are 18 and 15 and I am figuring it out again and helping them too figure it out too
@@deborahmeek6529 life is just a series of moments where are figuring it out. I don’t think it ever ends.. which is both comforting and scary but at least we’re all doing the same ✨
Thank you for making this video. I’ve been stuck in a loop for years, 2024 was when I finally started breaking away, changing things in my routine, focusing less on video games. I hope I see more progress in 2025, but baby steps are a start!
Baby steps really feel like the only manageable way. Good for you for starting, that’s the hardest part! ☺️✨
Teared up, this was exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve taken a possible permanent hiatus from college, and feel like I’m drifting in my own life. I don’t know what I’ll do next, but after this video I hope my little victories will create the building blocks for finding myself again. Thank you for sharing!!
The fact that you have this awareness is huge! It’s going to take you so far! You’ve got this my friend, I’m rooting for you! ✨🙌🏻
letting yourself be authentic is so life changing, a one day decision to let yourself be yourself (or even learn who you are) can change everything
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It's amazing to realize how many of us walk similar paths without even knowing it. I don't know how UA-cam came to put this video in the suggestions to watch next below another one (about an entirely different thing), but I'm glad it did. I'm also really glad I clicked on it. This hit so close to home that it brought me to tears. Thank you for putting into words many things I've been feeling recently, but that I didn't think made sense or were valid.
Thank you so much for sharing this-it means a lot to hear that the video resonated with you in such a deep way. It’s incredible how these shared experiences can connect us, even through something as random as UA-cam suggestions. I’m so glad this found you at the right time and gave words to feelings you’ve been holding. You’re not alone in this, and your feelings are always valid. Sending you so much love and gratitude! 🥰🫂✨
I adore your style of filming and editing, it reminds me of the way you’d talk to a friend at a coffee shop over the weekend. Picking apart what you did during the week and what could’ve gone better and what you did right. It’s a friendly chat, and while the message doesn’t specifically apply to me. The reminder that giving a solid simple No is always an option, is always appreciated. As is the reminder that when you're cultivating your own path, don't ask for anyones permission.
Wow, this is such a thoughtful comment-thank you so much! I love that it feels like a coffee shop chat to you, because that’s exactly the kind of vibe I hope to create: casual but meaningful. And yes, a solid ‘No’ and not asking for permission are such underrated superpowers. I’m so glad the message resonated, even in a small way. Appreciate you taking the time to share this! ✨☺️
part about “moved thinking it would fix everything, but no grand gestures will fix what’s inside” a little TOO real 😭
Sorry 🫣✨
At 65 I asked myself Am I running from something or to something, after all I'd be taking me along!
This is exactly what i needed to hear, for months now. Maybe years. I've been slowly losing myself in the expectations, the deadlines, the social pressure to be "normal". Often i feel so dull and can't recognize myself, and when the real me comes out sometimes there's this deep shame, or guilt for not meeting the expectations of heing the responsible, perfect being I feel like I need to be. Genuinely this video is a piece of art and speaks to me like nothing has in a while. It's about time i started listening to myself, to letting myself live, to experience the world again without stifling myself. I know it starts slow, but also I know it can be done. I know I can feel like myself again. Thank you.
I’m so glad this resonated with you. It’s so easy to lose ourselves in the noise of expectations, isn’t it? But you’re right-it starts slow, and giving yourself permission to live, little by little, is where it begins. You’re not alone in this, and I hope you keep listening to that part of yourself that wants to BE again. Thank you for sharing ✨🫂
I redelegated a task at work today... It was something I helped out with while we were shorthanded. I told the new person it was their responsibility starting tomorrow.
I sent a text to my boyfriend today that we need to talk soon. Our relationship is... Fine. We're friends, but that's it. I'm planning to change course tomorrow. Lastly, I need a new job. My job pays the bills, and I work from home, and the car industry sucks... But I can't stop thinking about going back into being a car salesman. I just really enjoy helping people find the right car for them. I'm not profit hungry, I'm solution hungry. The hours suck, and I'm sure it's not always roses. I'm terrified to leave what I have... But I can't stop wondering if I'd be happier.
I just gave notice at my well paying job pushing tons of reports, emails and sitting alone in my cushy private office because I know I’m meant to have a job being in front of people, helping them. You going back to sales sounds like a great choice for you!
Thank you for sharing all of this-it sounds like you’re navigating a lot of big decisions all at once, and that takes so much courage. It’s not easy to question what’s ‘fine’ and wonder if something better is out there, but that curiosity is such a powerful guide. I love how passionate you are about helping people in your industry-it’s clear that solving problems and connecting with others really lights you up. Whatever path you choose, I hope you give yourself credit for all the thought and care you’re putting into these decisions. Sending you so much support as you figure out what happiness looks like for you! ☺️✨
@@the.ashfiles thank you so much for the reply! I did end the relationship, and continuing to delegate more at work, but still can't take the leap to quit. Hopefully I can set myself up with a better job soon. But your response made me tear up a bit. It has been a stressful year. Thank you.
thank you for sharing this update-it sounds like you’ve been making some really tough but important moves. Ending a relationship and setting boundaries at work are no small feats, especially during such a stressful year. Take your time with the next steps; even small shifts are still progress. I have no doubt you’ll find that better job when the time is right, and until then, I’m cheering you on every step of the way. Sending you so much strength and hope for the year ahead-you’ve got this! ❤️🫂✨
I have watched this video every day for the last 7 days. And it's really been helping me go through a horrific marriage break down. It makes me feel like even though I have big feelings, that the grief is immense... so is the joy.. ✨🙏
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so sorry you’re going through such a difficult time, but I’m incredibly touched that this video has brought you even a little bit of comfort. Your strength in embracing both the grief and the joy is so inspiring. Sending you so much love and healing energy as you navigate this. 🫂❤️✨
What you said about success is something I've been trying to live and explain for decades.
I’m so glad it resonated with you! ✨ thank you for watching!
‘no amount of new starts can solve what you’re avoiding inside.’
i love the few seconds of silence at the end. after really heartfelt words, just taking a moment to let it soak in, watching beautiful views, reminding ourselves to just be in the present moment, and live
So glad you enjoyed it! ✨☺️
I think Gemini is running the new algorithm and it knows our hopes, dreams and desires. And it’s trying to optimize what we need. This is a beautiful video expressing my delight of what I’ve been experiencing lately
What a beautiful things to say - thank you so much 🥹✨🙏🏻
Exquisite. The images, the music, the insights. Absolutely exquisite. Thank you.
Thank you so much! ☺️🙏🏻
Your dog is adorable! 😍💗 I love how you share exploring London... perfect! And yes... life ISN'T a dress rehearsal, there’s very few do overs so >>enjoy
Thank you! 🥰✨
I can tell this is something I'll be coming back to again and again. Every other line was a quote just meant to be drawn next to a light switch, on a computer monitor, somewhere it will be seen, somewhere it will be absorbed. This video truly is a work of art and I cannot thank you enough for the work that went into it.
Thank you so much, that means the world to me. 🙏🏻✨
It has been some time since I've felt this pressure against my chest, this emptiness inside never leaves me just like how I feel nothing towards most people and life itself. Once I finish my classes today I will go back to this video so I can watch it fully❤
I hope it resonates with you in some way 🫂✨
I love how well you discuss the idea that making a change is in the little moments we choose to be honest with ourselves and how a lot of other humans just wants us for all that we are, not just the highlights. Some of my favourite points, thank you for your video!
Thank you so much, I’m so glad it spoke to you in this way! ☺️✨
I've been in my industry for 15 years, maybe more, and I'm about to leave it and the city I live in to pursue tattooing. I cannot resonate enough with your point of "someone else's life", this isn't the one I want, it's the one that was expected.
This change is so exciting! And tattooing?! How cool! I don’t know you but I’m proud of you! It’s hard to step out on your own, against everyone’s expectations, but you have to do it for yourself, it’s YOUR life! Wishing you all the best on this new adventure! ✨
I got pushed into this. Got fired from a job I was trying to leave. Saved by a friend on the rebound. Then. Quietly. Slowly. Kept walking toward the life I have left.
"You can't get away from yourself by moving from one place to another." - Ernest Hemingway, The Sun Also Rises. I tried the moving away. I tried the moving back. I realized that it wasn't going to fix anything for me - I needed to accept the things of myself I don't love. And that is where the journey is beginning again for me. It's helping me be more mindful of what it is I have never been.
Thanks for this video. I needed it.
I think it’s such an important thing to realize but not all of us are fortunate to have the awareness. It’s hard, for sure, but necessary. Thank you for sharing and for being here ✨☺️
the second you stop caring about what others think, you make room for what *you* think. you start living in a way that feels true to you, not because it looks good on paper or fits neatly into someone else’s expectations but because it’s your life. So, make your choices and trust them.
Loved this and immediately sent it to my sister. I am in NJ and she is in LA. Before COVID we’d meet somewhere to spend some time together. In 2017 we visited Paris and London. After watching this beautiful video we are inspired to return and see it all again. Beautiful! ❤ TY
Awww I love this! I lived in LA for 10 years, and love that you find time to meet somewhere to spend that time together. You are so lucky! (I always wanted a sister)… I hope your next adventure together is the best one yet 🥰✨
Thank you for the comforting words and capturing London in such a beautiful way 🤍
I’m so glad you enjoyed it 🥰✨
3:10 I without hesitation signed up for weekly dance classes in Canada. I had just went for a weekend and was reminded of a dance studio i wanted to attend during the pandemic. I did it and made the commitment without ASKING my job first about my schedule. I went in the next shift and requested new availability. They denied it, I talked to my manager and firmly asked why? told them they have two options, either that availability or another two days for another course. They realized i was serious, and they agreed to another availability. It was the first time i didn’t let my job decide for me in full.
As small as some people might see this, this is such a big victory in our minds and our hearts can definitely feel said victory / achievement, I can imagine how air felt lighter after they agreed
@ yes! i was very proud of myself for being stern about my decision. I felt very accomplished
This is such a power move, and I love to see it! Prioritizing yourself and standing firm on what you need is no small thing-major kudos to you for making it happen. That dance class sounds like it’s going to be so worth it! ✨🥰
@ awww
i really appreciate your kind words and kudos!
This has already become a morning ritual to watch, to keep the message fresh, and to make me feel like I can make a difference, no matter how small today, to make my life just a bit better.
This comment means so much to me, I’m so glad it’s resonated with you in this way ✨🥹🫂
Your video is stunning! Your voice is very soothing and perfect for the subject matter and the visual aesthetics are enchanting.. Thanks for sharing.
@@RAiNE_ARTIST thank you so much! That’s so kind! 🥰✨
I think 90% of the world needs to see this video. This is so liberating I really needed to hear this. It’s life-changing whoever you are you are no joke. Thank you for the wisdom. I’m gonna share it with as many people as I know a lot of people.
Thank you. For This little reminder. It is easy to get lost, and it is nice to be reminded that it’s okay, that I am a human being too. ❤
So happy it resonated ✨❤️
This video feels like the older sister that hasn’t seen me in a while, and starts talking about life with me at a family holiday
I love that it comes across that way ☺️✨
So well written, well said, great scenes, soothing music, great advice. Exactly where I am and have been so many times. Thank you.
@@Frenchstarfish3 thank you so much! ✨
Wow! Cant believe this came up on my timeline- I've got 2 months left of my job- then I'm taking a year out to travel. I'm going through a moment right now- finding moments of joy and god, in quiet moments- Knowing I defiantly need to get out of the city. I know I release my perfectionism and start living my life for me- my mum has currently got cancer and has been an alcoholic my whole life- its like this whole burden rock I've carried my whole life which is not mine. I want to move to Australia- thanks so much for making this video.
I’m so glad to hear this resonated with you… and I’m so excited for you to have this adventure ahead of you! Enjoy every moment ✨
The g in God needs to be capitalized 💯
I know this post is 3 weeks old but I have just discovered your channel. Everything you say is spot on, even for me at my slightly more advanced stage of life. I retired 9 months ago and like many have had some transition trauma. This video is just what I needed. I look forward to your next with great anticipation. Thank you.
Thank you so much! It's never too late to reclaim your life, even in retirement 😊✨
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Lol, I _felt_ that. And very glad to hear this is actually how it starts. I stopped responding in the office group texts.
It’s felt glorious.
@@In_time we can’t put our time into things that don’t serve us… congrats to you for starting! It’s a big step! Doesn’t it feel good?✨☺️
I needed this so much. It was so spot on. I coincidentally moved back home end of 2019 right before the pandemic without a plan, and been here since. I can’t believe it’s been 5 years. Within this time span I’ve taken on a lot more responsibilities than I had prior; I’ve been a people pleaser all over again and have felt like I’ve been reliving my teen years which has resulted in childhood wounds resurfacing. I’ve grown to realize a lot of things about my family & really put into perspective how they are and always will be let alone their perceptions of me. The longer I’m here the longer I notice the favoritism of siblings & the role I’m stuck with of being the oldest… as if I’m forced to always be the person to say yes & do everything otherwise I’m the bad guy. Some environments don’t allow you to grow and since I’ve been here for the last 5 years I haven’t grown much compared to how much I did when I wasn’t living at home. I feel like I backtracked. Sorry for steering into the deep end but this resonated so much. I love my family but they dim my desires and dreams. In 2025 I really want to choose myself & not care if my decisions make anyone upset. I need to do what’s best for me and keep the spark in me alive. Moving out again has been on my mind for sometime.. I want to explore living in New York even if it means being on my own.
Thank you so much for sharing Serina! I couldn’t agree with you more and I really do understand where you’re coming. I’m so glad you’re taking life into your own hands for 2025 and I’m so excited for you! Just keep moving in that direction, one step at a time ❤️🫂✨
12:37 the melt down in the grocery store isle hit home for me!!!
I’ve had too many in my lifetime 🙃✨
"What if you already are?"
I don't think I realized just how badly I needed to hear that right now..got me tearing up.
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Few years back, I couldn't even fathom that I lost myself because I didn't have any idea of who I really was before then. I went into deep blues but I was able to find my way out got to learn a lot from psychology and philosophy eventually. I settled with the idea of "where I find myself, there I am". Now, I feel like I'm living life on god-mode.
Thank you for sharing this. It’s amazing to hear how you found your way back to yourself-that’s no small thing. I’m so glad you’re in a place that feels right for you. ☺️✨
THANK YOU @@the.ashfiles
❤❤oh wow I feel like I’m listening to my favorite book on audio. Thank you for sharing the message is simple and magical all at the same time.
Thank you so much, what a compliment. I really appreciate it! ☺️
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A great way to describe it! Simple and magical at the same time...the way we want our lives to be.
I am 26 years old and I am in tears because for the first time in my life, I’m actually free in believing I’m exactly who I’m supposed to be at exactly the right time and anyone who doesn’t like it can take their opinions and shove it.
This is the energy we all need! It’s such a powerful moment when you can stand fully in who you are and own it without apology. I’m so glad this resonated with you-here’s to keeping that freedom and letting everyone else’s opinions stay exactly where they belong: far away from your happiness! ☺️✨
@ Thank you so much for the reply! Last night I heard 4444 hz frequency and today a license plate 4444. In addition the Geminide meteor shower is tonight and I am a Gemini. 13 truly is my lucky number and I’ve been seeing that a LOT. AND A RAINBOW IN BROAD DAYLIGHT. Today IS the day!
I love this kind of soft cozy chat. I definitely needed this today and I'm glad I stumbled upon it. 😊
I'm so happy this video resonated with you! ☺️
It's beautiful to see London in a story 😍
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We are really in such a rush, I am trying to slow down and think carefully about my decision before it’s too late
Thank you for the comforting advice
Anytime! 🥰✨
It’s Amazing how your voice Is quite low and calm and at the same time convincing and encouraging. Thank you for creating this content. Please keep it up.
Thank you so much! ☺️✨
You don't have to settle, you don't have to pretend everything is fine when they are actually not.... i recently stood up to my narcissistic mother in law, and her daughter. It was actually horrible and she turned everyone against me and did awful awful things but my husband is standing by me. He's upset and shocked but sees her behaviour for the first time. I will never see those people again and ive never felt happier.
I’m so happy your husband is on your side. I understand how difficult that dynamic is but I’m so glad you stood up for yourself ☺️✨
This video is so inspiring and really made me reflect on my life. It makes me want to work on myself and make positive changes. Honestly, everyone should watch this. You are incredible and the way you express everything is so thoughtful and genuine. I love the calm and relaxing vibe of the video, it is so comforting to watch. I just subscribed and I cannot wait to see all the amazing things you will achieve. You deserve so many subscribers. Wishing you so much success and thank you for creating this!💗
@@il4thv this comment made me so teary eyed. What beautiful words. Thank you for taking the time to share and for supporting me. It really means so so much to me ✨🥰🙏🏻
Thank you. I've lived my life by the book, followed every rules and made sure everyone around me was alright and now everything came crumbling down I don't know who I am anymore I thought I was a failure I still am but this video made me realize things happen for a reason and where I am right now is alright I may not be in college like my friends I'm still finding out who I am and who I want to become so thank you, this video is the only one that gave me assurance. I also need to learn how to say no hahaha...
I'm so glad you're finding your way back to YOU. Keep going! 🫂✨
I actually started the "actually, no" a while ago. Last night my husband said I have been being selfish for the last month or so.
It’s really hard for others to accept, sometimes it’s even harder for those closest to us, but I’m proud of you. It’s a really hard thing to do! ✨🫂
i don't know how i got this in my recommendation but i needed the reminder because i almost lost my self for a moment. thank you!
So glad this was the one for you! ✨
I enjoyed what you had to say. You're pretty smart for a young woman. I'm almost 60 and I'm just starting to learn things. ❤
At this point “fine” is everything I want 😩
Just the most talented filmmaker, the best motivational speaker, and the realist. You are a blessing
Wow, that means so much to me, thank you! ✨
This strangely fits what I’m going through right now.
I fell in love with my now boyfriend and somehow, it woke me up. I never felt the need to leave the nest until very recently. Now, I’m going to visit him at the end of this month. For the first time, I made a vacation possible. I’m going on a flight by myself. I making my own decision. And the first step to move into my own place with him. And for the first time, I feel like an actual adult. I felt that sudden shift and it was much more aggressive than I thought would be.
So take that leap. Take that chance. My whole journey has become a list of coincidences that lined up too well to be accidental. You deserve it.
Beautiful and so happy for you! Be proud of yourself! ✨🫂
Beautiful scenery
Thank you ✨
all very good points, but if I may add (for my fellow Christians or really anyone who believes in God): when you start making one's own journey spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and in my case, when you become closer to God, everything just starts falling into place and nothing feels bad or by some script anymore. I handed the pen to my maker instead of to other people, and life is good.
(not trying to push my beliefs on others here, just wanted to share my experience and God’s grace ❤)
Thanks!
Thank you 🙏🏻🥹✨
I’ve decided to start my transition in 2024, I always hear my friends and family (and my own inner voice) all saying “what if it goes wrong?” And the answer to that question isn’t simple and I have considered not doing it but I know now that isn’t an option, so when someone asks “what happens if it goes wrong?” My reply is “I’ll handle it, because I’ll have to”
Your determination and self-awareness are so powerful. I admire the courage it takes to embrace what feels right for you, even when the questions are difficult. Sending you a big hug! ✨🫂
Wow... This is exactly what I needed, feel like. Thank you so much
I’m so happy to hear it resonated with you! ☺️✨
“life isn’t about ticking boxes, it’s about making room for the things that actually matter.”💘
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a beautifully made video with a point that needs to be spoken more often. i loved every second of it
Thank you so much! So glad you enjoyed it, it means a lot to me 🥰✨
thank you for this, caught myself genuinely smiling for the first time in a long time, and felt myself breathing a little easier :)
@@martingoo oh wow! What an honor that it moved you in such a way. I’m so glad it resonated with you ✨🫂☺️
Oh, those shots of Daunt Books made my nose tingle. One of my (many) favourite bookshops. Gosh I miss London. You have captured its charm so well. And every word you spoke rings true. 🤗
Thank you so much Melanie ✨🥰
This video has instantly changed and saved my life all at once. Thank you from the deepest part of my soul and the bottom of my heart. ❤
~ a brand new subscriber, who saw this on her recommended page, and will be grateful for you for eternity. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing that-it means the world. 🫂✨
Oh my goodness- absolutely fantastic! Thank you so very much!
Glad you enjoyed it! ✨☺️
The best view is the one that is already here .. wow 💕💕💕
100% 🥰✨
So many possible affirmations here (ex. I love choosing myself and what’s best for me) as well as lessons . I would love if somebody made bullet points on important points. I’ll have to take notes next time around! Thank you so much!
If happily write an affirmation for each one! Will circle back 🥰
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Affirmations♡
- I can say no w/o any explanation
- I can make discussions w/o others approval
- I can be myself unapologetically
- The little wins matter too
- There is no one path for everyone
- Take your time there’s no rush
- Live your life fully
- Don’t settle for fine, ask for the best
- I notice even the littlest things in my life
This is so well done!! Love the music, love the video...and I found this at the perfect time! Thank you. ❤
So happy to hear it resonated! ✨
I've just 'travelled' to London with this video. I miss London a lot. Thanks for sharing.
So glad you enjoyed it and I could bring you a little bit of London 🥰✨
I’m so thankful this video found me when it did. It gave me a reassuring hug I very much needed :’)
So happy to hear! 🫂✨
My friend and I was discussing all the things are speaking about today. Shout out to UA-cam for showing this in my recommendations. Shout out to you for making this video. New sub!
Thank you so much! And welcome! ☺️✨
how tf did this video come exactly when i needed it to
It was meant to find you ✨🥰
When the student is ready the teacher will appear?? 💕
So beautifully read. No AI voice. Perfect. I love it. Thank you❤
Thank you so much! ☺️✨🙏🏻
You are such a talented… articulate, full of empathy, funny and great video editor too.. do more of these type of videos.. you heal us.. and you’ll be a famous movie maker someday❤❤❤ love from Indonesia
Thank you so much, that means the world! 🙏🏻✨
But what can you do if you don't know what you want?
I once felt that I knew what I wanted but then I lost my interests and it feels like my personality and mind aren't the same anymore. The first part of your film really spoke to me, but I don't know what can I do
Honestly, the fact that you’re aware enough to ask the question of what you want is huge! Because you know and realize something is missing. Start by taking notice, what feels good, what feels right with everything you do, down to the smallest thing. Whether in routine, or at home or work… and start getting curious. Try things that have always peaked your interest, even if small. If something doesn’t feel right, pivot to the next. This isn’t an overnight fix… it’s in the small choices we make towards coming back to ourselves. I know, that was cheesy… but it’s true. ✨
@@the.ashfilesThat's true, I'll try
Thank you ❤
@ you’ve got this! Just one small step at a time ✨
I completely understand where you are coming from! I don't want anything 🤷 anymore..... I spent 20 years trying to "find my place" but nothing ever fits right..... I do what I have to to keep the lights on and soldier forward. The reality is that we don't always know or get what we want. And sometimes we can't even define it....
@@ritalynb7070 unfortunately that happens, I stopped caring about time. First I used to panic because I felt that my life is passing and I didn't know what I actually doing but now I believe that it's never too late. I hope that one day we will come to clarity.
Good old youtube algorithm. Ive sorta been going through the motions of life the past few months now... hell more then that,, and idk i feel,,, for lack of wording... lost. Im in my final semester of college,,, but i feel i was thrown into this degree,, not really of my choosing and while i have come to love it... theres still part of me that wonders What if. I dont really know what im gonna do come January. Something you said in this video of living someones elses life... is sticking with me. I have sorta just gone with what everyome has said, but never really knowing if i truly want said things. Im just,,, lost and confused. But im hoping that i can make some changes so that 2025,, i start to feel like myself, even tho im not totally sure who that really is.
First off, thank you for being so open-it’s not easy to sit with these kinds of questions, let alone share them. It sounds like you’re starting to challenge the idea of living by someone else’s rules, and that’s huge. Feeling lost might not be fun, but it’s often where the best ideas about who we really are start to take shape. You don’t have to have it all figured out by January-or even 2025. Keep taking small steps toward what feels like you, and trust that the pieces will come together when they’re meant to. Cheering you on from here! 👏🏻✨☺️
@the.ashfiles of course, idk your video really stuck with me. And yeaaa it's not too fun honestly. You make a good point,,, on not having it all figured out in january let alone,,,2025,,, idk,, I guess I fee I need to cause ive been in limbo for so long. But I know your right in ur advice,, take little steps. Thank you so much, it means a lot