I'm an ENFJ and when it comes to leadership, I don't wanna take the spotlight from somebody else so I offer to other people first but I'd take it if nobody else wants it
Same TBH. I don't mind being the leader. But I don't force myself into the position. If a situation is out of control or there's an issue and it needs to be fixed. I normally volunteer. Or I passively try to give advice, not to come across as aggressive. But as supportive. (I'm also ENFJ btw.
Funny thing is I'm INFJ but I might end up taking the lead in a group of introverted people just because they don't interact with each other when we need to get things done and I naturally know it's necessary.
As an ENFJ, I really don’t mind my alone time. As long as I’m in a good place emotionally, or I’ll go down fast. We think WAY TOO MUCH and OVERTHINK most everything. It’s exhausting sometimes. But being around people who I enjoy the company of, is my happy place! I do love small groups much more than large crowds. I think it’s because of the camaraderie and ability to have close interactions. Events with a lot of people can be overstimulating.
Absolutely! I'm an ENFJ and enjoy my time alone, but when I have positive interaction with people I'm elated and feel good, not drained. My brain has been stimulated especially if it revolves around laughing and doing something fun and silly. Over thinking is horrendous! It's something I have always struggle with.
William I feel your pain about overthinking. We are definitely the most introverted extroverts. It’s very confusing sometimes. May I ask you a question? Do you often feel like you don’t fit in? Yet people seem surprised when you say that?
@@truepeace3 In regards to you second to last question, I do feel like I don’t fit in. I have never asked or made a statement about my feelings to my friends about this. I would imagine they would be surprised.
INFJ here married to an ENFJ,and this is sooooo accurate here too. Honestly, and I always try to make him know that All his words matter to me. I started to even think perhaps he has met people in his life that probably thought he talked too much. But I really do love listening to him Lol I had to screenshot the comment to make him see that he’s not alone
HI! i am an ENFJ.. i would like to add up some more friends..and lucky me! i found you.. hehehe..i was hoping if I could get to know you better. :) hoping for your not so immediate reply.. nice video btw. God Bless you and your brother.
2 min in and yeah, as an ENFJ too I kind of need like a 12 - 14 hour break from people every 7 days or so to refuel myself and then I normally binge on people for like 2 days straight with small breaks in between. I DIE if I dont get an extended alone time period at bare minimum every 10 days. It feels like my N switches off or runs out of power and feel dull.
ENFJ, You are stunning, straight up. & your intelligence is top tier, i very much enjoy listening to your insights, and i am appreciative of your in depth comprehension of the attributes of ENFJs, thank you for this video.
I feel like Se also allows us ENFJs to be super present because we turn it on with people, although that can be pretty draining. I don't really realize or pick up on insight or perceptions until later when I'm alone and not with people, and able to use my Ni. I also realized that I use Se a lot more when I care about how I am coming off, almost checking to see other's reactions to Fe in the external world. So when I care about you, I will be 10x more present and Se with you than if I am on autopilot and not thinking about anything. I totally relate to the whole not noticing details in the real world and being clumsy thing, I am still pretty terrible at that most of the time, I just can turn it on when I care (usually I dont'). In response to the most extroverted extrovert thing, although most ENFJs dream of having large groups where they are ringleaders who belong, when Fe and Se are not getting any input back from social interactions it shrivels and ENFJs can be quite introverted when they become over aware of Fe and Se- trying not to say anything stupid or annoying, so they can be quite reserved. Loved your vid so much, it's nice to see other people so knowledgeable. Just some thoughts from an ENFJ :D
ENFJ here. You're right about not picking up on insights and perceptions until you're alone. That explains why I have to reflect on my day and meditate. I've had jobs where you have to pick up on those things quickly, and it made things difficult if I didn't, so I practice on it. Age and experience has helped. Thanks for your input!
As an ENFJ, I CANNOT be alone. I'd rather have someone to talk to or be in the presence of people. Being alone means being left with thoughts which sort of backfires. Our attention to detail is very high. We tend to overthink when left alone. This also means we pay attention to people, emotions and behaviors but also the physical world around us. The self image/grooming and organization is DEAD on (for me at least). My room HAS to be clean and organized. My day's usually planned. I do go to the gym and lead a healthy lifestyle. My motto has always been "there's never a second chance to make the first impression." Which usually means dressing dapper, being polite and being overall a people's person. Sorry for the long comment... However, Great video! Didn't know INFJ's would be such alike! You look absolutely amazing by the way!
Very good video ! :) I am ENFJ (male) and I've read a lot about the different personalities. Before when I was younger, around 15 years old - I remember always helping people with problems, I rarely had problems my self and therefore it was easy for me to help others. I kinda wanted them to feel happy and good about themselves. Now that I've grown older, I'm 24 now and I've actually learned to focus more on my inner. Often I chose to actually stay inside by myself to relax and gather some energy, but if I stay too long for myself (i'm talking a few days) then I have to interact with people to get my energy levels up again. I like to have it tidy in my house, it cleans up my head - but I also love to make a mess sometimes (but kinda hate it at the same time) :P But I really enjoy helping others, like teaching them things. At my work I train up new people, and it's a good feeling ! I know how to calm people if they're nervous and how to do things, it's like I feel what they feel and know how to work around that to make them feel better. I motivate them to do better. And I've always been into sports, either its from football, to gymnastics to bodybuilding I've always done something - when I don't workout it's like I feel rotten and get a really bad conscience, so I'm not taking a long break from it. My best friend is an INFJ, we are getting along super well. :-)
i love enfjs! i love my enfj friend. there're definitely a lot of times we had conflict but through the years i dont think anybody has been able to intuit my state and could be bothered to sort of bring me out of my shell as much as she did. and its also just such an amazing gift that we share a lot of thoughts. or rather she always is able (ok with a bit of time sometimes) to truly understand the depths of my emotions and motivations. its always fantastic to work with her as well because i think infjs are so much of dreamers that we just ponder and ponder. enfjs are able to understand the 'brilliance' and 'validity' of our ideas and where we are coming from instead of writing us off. and i think it's the shared Ni function as well because she really does get the whole picture and will feel equally invested in the vision. but then its even better because she then is able to actually set things into motion to actuallise it. i cant even count the number of times my enfj friend was extremely accommodating and listened to all my thoughts, and then kickstarted a process to bring them to fruition. i definitely rely on her way too much to execute things. having worked with her for so long it feels also impossible for me to work with anyone else because it seems nobody can match the level of chemistry i had with her and she just understands everything im trying to say and builds on it (makes me sound like an autistic kid or something, but i can be extremely picky and disagreeable when it comes to executing my ideas and she really could be bothered to be patient about it). that shared Ni and the heightened Se, is just simply a perfect accompaniment to us infjs who spend way too much time in our heads and can be very ivory tower-ish. cant rave enough about the chemistry. not to mention she's just a fantastic person as well who cares a lot about people around her. i definitely do rely on her way too much as well as a friendship safety net.. sounds horrible i know. but i think im just generally quite dependent on her in many ways. shes just really good at keeping friendships and a bunch of friends together. gees, didnt know i could have so much to say.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I’m an ENFJ and really enjoyed your take on us. I think you’ve summed it all up really well. 😅 we are natural leaders and are super comfortable with groups and are very organized! Hahaha. Although I get along with people from all walks of life and am able at rallying people together, most of my friends tend to be INFP. Thanks again for this interesting video! ❤
Here's the thing about ENFJs: I always feel like when I am talking with them they are thinking about how they can harness me for whatever scheme or empire they are building. The wonderful thing about INFJs is they do NOT have this 'agenda' with others.
I am an INFJ and my BF is ENFJ. I have such respect for him because I see all of this in him. I feel like he is everything I want to be if I didn't suffer from anxiety. In group settings, I feel like he brings me back. It always happens. Sometimes in group settings, I spend my time thinking about how he is so good in group settings. Totally distracted. I am also clumsy. I trip over things all the time. Last time we went to goodwill together, I backed up into him and tripped and it was so embarrassing.
I absolutely love this video! As an ENFJ I love learning about people, and trying to understand and connect with them on an emotional and even spiritual level if possible. I have an INFJ best friend who is part of my group of very close friends, my "pack" or "family" if you will. It's so interesting to hear you speak because it reminds me of how she would describe herself. Also I sincerely appreciate your words about us ENFJ's. God bless, and keep being you! You're great!
I’m an ENFJ, and although like your ENFJs I am into health and fitness and all that, it’s really my mental/emotional state that I tend to neglect because I am always putting other people’s feelings before my own. I tend to not even notice when I am getting too stressed or pushing my feelings aside until it’s too late and I am utterly drowning in stress.
Well I took some tests and I’m labeled as ENFJ and I can confirm you that we can also be loners. Yes I used to prefer groups but after spending 5 years now being alone I became accustomed to it, yes it was very hard at first but it is a lifestyle now :) hope this helps you out
Enfj here! Love working out, love fitness and exercise and love structure and growth! Im an introverted extrovert- I need 12ish hours by myself at times to recharge after a long productive night out - but after that I find I’m keen to go out.
I like that you pointed out that you were heavily introverted. Since INFJs are usually considered one of the most extroverted of the introverts, it's nice to hear about someone who, as you put it, tests very high in their introvert percentage, lol. And the tones and looks people give when they find out you've been home all day? Priceless. Reading, writing, watching a mixture of documentaries and some other shows, drawing and painting. Though, TECHNICALLY I leave the house to walk and pick a nature site for photography, if I didn't drive somewhere or went somewhere "in town" many people count that as "not doing anything all day."
I love your videos and you are so beautiful! I am also an INFJ with a ENFJ brother :) We get along brilliantly and we just understand each other so well, he was my best friend growing up. I find that ENFJ's generally understand me better or at least, are more in-tune with my needs, which I really love. They are pretty cool :) My brother is a psychologist and I think it is a PERFECT fit for him and all well developed ENFJ's. I was laughing at your description about your unawareness about the external world, I am SO much the same, I walk into things and I am so oblivious to changes in the external world! My husband would shave his beard and I literally would not notice (physically) untill I can feel his emotion that he wants me to notice something and then I start searching for what I am suppose to see.... haha.. so, yes, I always joke and say that if you want me to SEE something, FEEL it and I will. :P
You're cool to listen to, Melody. I enjoy listening to woman who knows how to assert their inner world... With passion, to express the joy of their life experiences. Thanks! May the Lord God bless you with his love & Wisdom... And the fellowship of his holy spirit.
@@jonahlevi3178 advice from an ENFJ, tell her directly and clearly and show that you sincerely like her, nothing complicated, the simple the better (coz we think a lot but when it comes to ourselves we doubt it hhhh, if you cant do it ask for a friend help, all the best)
I'm an XNFJ, alternating between both Introverted inuition and Extroverted feeling as my principal cognitive function. I can relate strongly to both, depending on which "cycle" I am. Cycles can last a week sometimes a month. I can relate to the ditzyness/forgetfulness & always being in my head/disconnected even in group contexts vs. when I am in an extroverted 'phase' I thrive in groups and leadership positions, people are drawn naturally to follow my sense of authority and direction. It is interesting to have no actual preference because few social situations intimidate me, however my friends and family find me frustratingly inconsistent (life of the party vs unreachable hermit).
+Sam Antonia i can strongly relate to what your saying. I have not met someone i can relate to as well. Im still finding sense within my ENFJ (or XNFJ...jk).
+Sam Antonia Hello! I can definitely see that being a reality, and perhaps a frustrating one at that :) However, you might try looking at the rest of the cognitive functions! True, ENFJs and INFJs share the same functions, but they use them in very different orders. You might want to look at your tertiary and last functions and see whether they are Ti-Se (for INFJ) or Se-Ti (for ENFJ) :)
What do you think is your inferior, and what is your tertiary? Se or Ti? ENFJs are typically a lot more trusting of their athletic abilities, whereas INFJs are highly creative, but not very practical. ENFJs are also tend to look more polished, and they're one of the types who care the most about their appearance (www.16personalities.com/articles/dressing-for-success-or-to-excess). On the other hand, INFJs tend to be much more comfortable for example dealing with math or complex logical problems, and are also somewhat more intellectual. However they often have trouble living in the moment and are often uncomfortable with practical day-today tasks than the ENFJ. If you have trouble determining if you are an Fe-dom or an Ni-dom, you can see if you feel as uncertain whether your Se and Ti is tertiary or inferior. I think the best way to find out is to identify your inferior function.
Your observations of Enfjs are highly accurate. You probably described them better than they could describe themselves. However, have more confidence in yourself when it comes to determining the type of others assuming you understand the functions well. I found that the mbti tests online are highly inaccurate when measuring people's personality. The majority of my friends and family have mistype themselves and it was only through learning the functions were they able to type themselves properly.
yeah I agree. I usually give them the test and then explain cognitive functions after to help them decipher, which one if they do not totally resonate with the test.
As an ENFJ I'm very into fitness aswell, but also because I have so much excess energy that It needs to go somewhere. I also love being with people but in the lockdown my digital friendcircle shrunk insanely and I almost went insane alone in my room doing these online classes for uni (I live away from my family). Being alone means being alone with myself.
I am curious about a few things with INFJ's. Are you light-hearted? Are you optimistic? Do you like to organize your house and keep it neat and tidy? Are you morally judgemental? Do you like to have decisions made for you? When someone is critical of you, what is your first reaction? When people first meet you, do you feel like they like you? Do you prefer to wear "old" clothes or new clothes? Thanks for the videos. I like to understand people.
Beth, I'm a iNFJ (update 9/26/15: I feel like more of an iSTP, but everything I said still applies). As far as keeping my stuff neat and organized, it's something I have to prioritize more in my life. I don't really know what you mean by light-heartedness, but I'm usually quick to forgive unless I've felt disrespected. I got a sense of humor, but it mostly comes out when I'm around family and close friends. I think I'm optimistic. When it comes to judging others actions and behavior, I'm pretty judgmental. (More so of EF related errors than ET.) I get irritated when I have a say in something, but don't get a chance to decide. I'm trying to learn to be more assertive without coming across as a jerk. My reaction to criticism is one of a couple things: (one) I'll defend myself or others, (two) I'll sit back and reflect (and even dissect the reason(s) why I received the criticism. I think it's rare for when a person first meets me to have a good impression of me. I'm much too reserved and inhibited around strangers - usually (I think). If I could fix anything in my personality, personally I wish I had more of a sense of humor around strangers and acquaintances.
+Beth Page I can be very light hearted and fun until I need to recharge. I am optimistic until something goes wrong. I like the idea of an organized tidy house but it never happens. I am morally conservative, but the intention of this is to protect people from harm. Don't like decisions made for me unless I can't decide. Criticism needs to be constructive otherwise I react very defensively. When I first meet people I feel that they think I am odd. I prefer old comfortable practical clothes and things.
I take great care of myself physically but I get caught up in trying to tend to others emotional or other needs and always leave myself stuck in the mud. Which is strange
This is quite accurate and astounding!! Some of my close friends tend to be INFJ's and I'm an ENFJ!!! I'm sure we can relate, when I speak to my INFJ friends, we have discussions over science, cultures and our goals in life. Thank you for making this video it's helpful and validates my experiences with INFJ's.
That is very like my mom! About the taking care of self thing, I don't think it's about physical care but more about mental care. Sometimes my mom would get back from a psychology conference (she's a psychologist) of three days and be literally sick (with headaches and stuff) from all the interaction and intense social situations she'd put herself in without realizing. Her Fe is built for this kind of things, but even for a super extraverted ENFJ, too much of it can't be good. I also think that for ENFJs other people's needs are often more important than their own, in the means of mental and social needs. So they can be very attuned to the needs of others within the group without taking care of their own needs and desires, and that's how my mom ends up sick after three intense days of taking care of other people's social and mental needs. And about the Se thing - that is so true! My INFJ friend is way worse at this than my ENFJ mom, and I don't think she's capable of differentiating between a couple of stimulations she gets at the same time and sometimes she'd be very unaware of something and at the same time too aware of something else, whereas for my mom it's not likely.
Awesome pawsome video!! You're so right about the self development part, right now I am exploring how to increase myself for a better future by studying my personality type, studying how I prefer learning, studying which intelligences I am better at, etc. :)
This did help clear some things.My sister got this type and i can see why now.She's generally very aware of feelings and the general situation in a group than i am.Her introverted intuition would explain why she's so restless at nights,when her mind just can't stop cycling through all these thoughts.Or at least that's my understanding of it.
I personally also gave my power and personal atta boy credit away to others…. ENFJ types I think learning to fight this often and it’s vital to be of more honest value to the tribe as a whole! We must all lead by example…. I think self checking is vital to all MBTI types! The “Check yourself before your wreck yourself”, thing!
You are sooooooo cute and the content quality of your video is second to none. A very well thought-out and constructed view of the ENFJ (me) personality type.
Great video, I love ENFJ's, they are amazing (I am an INFJ too)!❤️ My best friend is an ENFJ and I feel like this so applies to her! And it's not that surprising that people would think you're an ENFJ as INFJ's are actually called the "extroverted introverts" - many of us have blogs or UA-cam channels where we might appear extroverted and also we can fake being extroverts if we want or need to. And of course if we're with the "right" people (people we feel comfortable with), we can really enjoy the time with them and engage in the conversation which makes us seem like extroverts. But we definitely need our solitude to recharge afterwards as we get exhausted and drained after some time, even if it was a great conversation with deep and interesting people. I have sometimes been mistaken as extrovert, although I'm a huge introvert (I've also scored 98 % introversion). I mean, I definitely enjoy deep and meaningful conversations and discussions with interesting people (mostly N types) and can get really passionate, expressive and articulate if I talk about something I deeply care about. Also, I'm genuinely interested in people and what makes them tick, I really want to get how their mind works. However, I get drained easily and need a lot of solitude to recharge afterwards and I just like being on my own in general (just alone at home, reading a good book or a great article about MBTI, or painting/writing something). I feel like it also really depends on what environment people get to know you in - I guess my class mates would definitely agree on me being an introvert. I'm quiet and in my head most of the time and don't interact as much with them (except sometimes with my ENTP friend who is really deep and interesting, but we don't always talk when we're together, we just sometimes sit there quietly). And my family would probably also call me an introvert - I spend most of the time in my room, never go to parties etc. and they know overwhelmed and pissed I get when I had too much social interaction and too little alone time. ^^ Whatever, I'm rambling, sorry for this long comment... I really love your channel! xxx
My best friend is also a lot like you described and I also really like the things you said you like about ENFJs about her. She's now in a relationship and literally all her Fe is focused on the other person, I think ENFJs tend to really lose themselves in other people sometimes. But except for that, they're quite a good counterpart for INFJs and good company, yeah!
My ex ENFJ did not take care of himself and didn't assert his needs in our relationship it made it too hard for us me an ENTP I was too assertive of my own needs and he would get resentful and simmer because he didn't like conflict. Which seemed strange because he was such an outgoing confident leader!
RobynskiT enfj prefers harmony over leadership. And they often put others above themselves so by taking care of themselves it means physically. Not mentally
Hey! Love your videos. I have a question. My wife is an INFP (off the charts I) and I'm an ENFJ (just barely over on the E side). How do you think the use of social media factors into relationships? For example, I'm very happy to spend a day at home with her just the two of us, but I find myself having FB conversations with friends all over the world while I'm letting her recharge her introvert battery. What do you think? Is this pretty common? I guess my bigger question is how does social media affect the types?
i hope you can expand more on Sensing types : ) i've been struggling a lot trying to present myself to them as an INFJ, most of them think i'm just way off, apart from ISFPs and ISFJs. Thanks for the great video, Melody ^^
Miss Melody, that was an EXCELLENT video. Probably 'draining' for you to make, but you come across b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l-l-y and the info really helped me put the ENFJ Fe Ni Se functions together in my mind! - Now enjoy a couple of weeks on the couch with your ringer off, ...and we'll look forward to your next vid! :-)
On the taking care of ourselves point, I think you might have misread the underlying meaning there which is why it didnt line up with your 3 ENFJs too. What is meant by that is that we focus on everyone elses emotional needs so much that we neglect our own needs/values in order to satisfy those around us. Sacrificing our happiness for group harmony.
This was a great video. I always find the differences between me(ENFJ) and my best friend(INFJ) really interesting and definitely align with what was said here. I think the only thing I may clarify is that I believe the mbti meant that ENFJs don't take care of themselves emotionally sometimes. As in we are often so into helping other people that we neglect our own feelings a lot. But I would not say we don't physically take care of ourselves. That's all. :)
I, do , as an infj. I often look to my ENFJ mentor who died, 14 years ago. Now , I have an ENFJ proteque which I love to be their for and I also like being around people. I also hate being alone for long periods of time..... I get very drained by being alone when introverted intuition is ovetindulged.
FYI I actually think deep down im an ENFP but after being entrapped with judgement (J's) in a very overwhelming way, ive been forced to leave my freeflying home to protect myself.
Hi ☺️👋 I am an ENFJ all the personality test went on dexlaring me ENFJ but what I have seen is when I am with people in the beginning I starts talking and making friends with strangers and I try to ensure that the one sitting beside me is really comfortable but after 2-3 hours with the group I fill as if I am drained off my energy then I wants to leave the group and tries to be alone and when I am alone I am comfortable with it FOREVER so at that time I starts thinking that I am INFJ so I am still little confused and the video cleared lot of my doubts thank you
I've recently taken the MBTI and I've become a little obsessed with the process as a whole lol... I'm not sure if I'm unique when it comes to the test but I've taken it multiple times and I either come out as ENFJ or ENFP. I read both personality profiles pretty thoroughly and I still can't decide which one I most closely resemble. I really feel like I grab traits from both. How would you go about determining if you are one or the other? Any suggestions such as an activity or game that could go about discovering it? Sorry if that's a really vague question, but out of all these MBTI channels yours seems the most informative and easily understandable for a newbie like myself. Thanks!
Greg Goodfellow Hey Greg:) Great question and I feel like it is one that many people ask often. My advice would be to study the cognitive functions within those specific types. So for the ENFJ the cognitive functions would be Fe Ni Se Ti and for the ENFP the cognitive functions would be Ne Fi Te Si. Cognitive functions are the foundation for MBTI and what make up the core of the types. The personality descriptions are helpful but hard to determine your type sometimes because we can relate to a lot in many different descriptions. Study them and see which cognitive functions you relate to better and think you operate in :) Hope this is somewhat helpful!
Hi! Awesome video. Im a pretty serious ENFJ (also a 7 on the enneigram). You helped me get some clarity in the awareness order that an enfj goes through (introverting then extraverting then....)....so i made a short video on it. tell me what you think Yosef
But you neglected to mention the more developed Ti that we INFJs have compared to our ENFJ bretheren. I can see the logical, systemic thinking you demonstrate in your presentation....Ti in action.
Lady's IAM a INFJ we love you all it's a matter of minutes until I realized how to make you comfortable infj verse nothing we are different but want you to be happy
My personality always have changed in those quizzes but currently I'm getting ENFJ. I don't believe we have the same personality throughout life. I think personality can change in years or even seconds. This is because I don't believe that nature controls our personalities but mostly nurture does.
Hey :) Great video! I was wondering whether you could do a video on the differences between an INFJ and an ISFJ please? I'm struggling to decide which I am because depending on which tests I take, the result changes. I've read up on it and I seem to still be a mix of both? :( xx
Infj - foucus on inner workings/ understanding people so they will ask ALOT of questions on what makes you YOU! It’s an never ending fascination of people and all things in the universe and how and why they are the way they are. Isfj - focus on the needs of others in their physical environment. Ex. I have made food, come eat! Make sure you’ve done your homework! You need to go to school to be a doctor so you will be able to support yourself in the future! That sort of stuff.
Let me explain the obvious we are all different types but all of us wish to understand how to let you be you and you don't need to think twice it's ok we all understand each other how cool is that
Interesting that you mention male ENFJs taking care of themselves. Female ENFJs take care of others and put themselves last, where males usually have less responsibility in taking care of others. ENFJ women have to work to make time for themselves.
That’s sounds really true for me😭😭😭 I tend to make some effort to have more time for me and take care of if , of course I will take care of me and work in my goals but really some time I get stressed dealing with everyone needs , and that make me keep my self in second place, but not anymore , I became aware of this and made myself priority🧘🏻♀️, Fighting Enfj , you can and you will with hard work…
the tests that I taken says I'm enfj. Which is true, I am one. But I don't mind being alone but I am a narraciasts. I lead aswell. I understand when people are sad and five them emotional support and ideas. I'm not bragging but I'm really smart. But I don't neglect myself cause in school I'm not popular but I still leads groups. I also like to work out.
Hi, I met this awesome woman on SOCIAL media and she's ENFJ and i'm a INFJ i like her very much. So how do i approach her without crossing her boundaries,, thank you... you nailed it...will u give me advice or whatever you want to call it....even if i don't want to hear it, seriously...thnx ..
well if you see my comment would love your thoughts on what I have said. I am in the middle. That is what the test have told me. In regards to leader ship I am a band leader. But my singer who is a extreme INFJ leads and guides me on certain things. She has a way of getting me to do things and when it comes to certain things we do in the band I always seek her permission. She manages our social media stuff. I manage our Productivity and Book most of our shows. so we both are leaders but in different ways
Idk...being an enfj is a double edged sword...I just happen to be in a pessimistic mood. Needing a healthy social environment means if the environment is unhealthy that prevents our mental wellbeing as well
I'm an ENFJ and when it comes to leadership, I don't wanna take the spotlight from somebody else so I offer to other people first but I'd take it if nobody else wants it
same is not like I can't do it, it just I don't want any conflicts hhhh or someone might want that position ahhh it's tiring to calculate every step
Agree!!!!!
Agree
Same TBH. I don't mind being the leader. But I don't force myself into the position. If a situation is out of control or there's an issue and it needs to be fixed. I normally volunteer. Or I passively try to give advice, not to come across as aggressive. But as supportive. (I'm also ENFJ btw.
Funny thing is I'm INFJ but I might end up taking the lead in a group of introverted people just because they don't interact with each other when we need to get things done and I naturally know it's necessary.
As an ENFJ, I really don’t mind my alone time. As long as I’m in a good place emotionally, or I’ll go down fast. We think WAY TOO MUCH and OVERTHINK most everything. It’s exhausting sometimes. But being around people who I enjoy the company of, is my happy place!
I do love small groups much more than large crowds. I think it’s because of the camaraderie and ability to have close interactions. Events with a lot of people can be overstimulating.
Absolutely! I'm an ENFJ and enjoy my time alone, but when I have positive interaction with people I'm elated and feel good, not drained. My brain has been stimulated especially if it revolves around laughing and doing something fun and silly. Over thinking is horrendous! It's something I have always struggle with.
William I feel your pain about overthinking. We are definitely the most introverted extroverts. It’s very confusing sometimes. May I ask you a question? Do you often feel like you don’t fit in? Yet people seem surprised when you say that?
I completely agree!
@@truepeace3 In regards to you second to last question, I do feel like I don’t fit in. I have never asked or made a statement about my feelings to my friends about this. I would imagine they would be surprised.
@@truepeace3 OMG! Yes to everything you said.
ENFJ might take care externally, on their physic/healthy life, but they tend to neglect their own needs because they are focussing on helping others.
INFJ here and I love my ENFJ! He's like a puppy 😊 He worries that he talks too much but I always enjoy listening to him, heehee.
INFJ here married to an ENFJ,and this is sooooo accurate here too. Honestly, and I always try to make him know that All his words matter to me. I started to even think perhaps he has met people in his life that probably thought he talked too much. But I really do love listening to him
Lol I had to screenshot the comment to make him see that he’s not alone
INFJs have so much grace its almost ridiculous.
Oh interesting, why? Am an INFJ and really curious to see your perspective on that!
I'm thinking they have the social skills of an ENFJ but are more introverted making them more purposeful in their actions.
@@ForTheGreys Oh interesting. Thanks for your perspective :)
Most of them are not really INFJs though.
@@enchantedlakes-2150 maybe you're right 👌
as an INFJ I let the ENFJ(s) take the lead and then I lead the ENFJ(s). it's way more efficient this way :D
Yeah me too. My bf is enfj and I usually wait to see what he has to say about things first before expressing my views lol
ENFJ here! Excellent video! :) I just love you INFJs!!!
hey! thanks:) I love ENFJs to:)
Nfs.... lol XD
HI! i am an ENFJ.. i would like to add up some more friends..and lucky me! i found you.. hehehe..i was hoping if I could get to know you better. :) hoping for your not so immediate reply.. nice video btw. God Bless you and your brother.
Mike's d you can hit that subscribe button below the video. Hehehe
2 min in and yeah, as an ENFJ too I kind of need like a 12 - 14 hour break from people every 7 days or so to refuel myself and then I normally binge on people for like 2 days straight with small breaks in between. I DIE if I dont get an extended alone time period at bare minimum every 10 days. It feels like my N switches off or runs out of power and feel dull.
I'm am ENFJ-T. I am sort of introverted extrovert. I agree with you completely. It's the same for me. I love people, true. But I need solitude as well
ENFJ, You are stunning, straight up. & your intelligence is top tier, i very much enjoy listening to your insights, and i am appreciative of your in depth comprehension of the attributes of ENFJs, thank you for this video.
EnlightCLH aww thank you so much :) I am flattered.
Np beauty.
I feel like Se also allows us ENFJs to be super present because we turn it on with people, although that can be pretty draining. I don't really realize or pick up on insight or perceptions until later when I'm alone and not with people, and able to use my Ni. I also realized that I use Se a lot more when I care about how I am coming off, almost checking to see other's reactions to Fe in the external world. So when I care about you, I will be 10x more present and Se with you than if I am on autopilot and not thinking about anything. I totally relate to the whole not noticing details in the real world and being clumsy thing, I am still pretty terrible at that most of the time, I just can turn it on when I care (usually I dont'). In response to the most extroverted extrovert thing, although most ENFJs dream of having large groups where they are ringleaders who belong, when Fe and Se are not getting any input back from social interactions it shrivels and ENFJs can be quite introverted when they become over aware of Fe and Se- trying not to say anything stupid or annoying, so they can be quite reserved. Loved your vid so much, it's nice to see other people so knowledgeable. Just some thoughts from an ENFJ :D
ENFJ here. You're right about not picking up on insights and perceptions until you're alone. That explains why I have to reflect on my day and meditate.
I've had jobs where you have to pick up on those things quickly, and it made things difficult if I didn't, so I practice on it. Age and experience has helped.
Thanks for your input!
Wow I never realised that I don't pick up on perceptions until after the conversation. But its so true!!!
As an ENFJ, I CANNOT be alone. I'd rather have someone to talk to or be in the presence of people.
Being alone means being left with thoughts which sort of backfires. Our attention to detail is very high. We tend to overthink when left alone.
This also means we pay attention to people, emotions and behaviors but also the physical world around us.
The self image/grooming and organization is DEAD on (for me at least). My room HAS to be clean and organized. My day's usually planned. I do go to the gym and lead a healthy lifestyle.
My motto has always been "there's never a second chance to make the first impression." Which usually means dressing dapper, being polite and being overall a people's person.
Sorry for the long comment... However, Great video! Didn't know INFJ's would be such alike! You look absolutely amazing by the way!
The way you ended your comment by complimenting her... that's an ENFJ right there 😉
Very good video ! :)
I am ENFJ (male) and I've read a lot about the different personalities. Before when I was younger, around 15 years old - I remember always helping people with problems, I rarely had problems my self and therefore it was easy for me to help others. I kinda wanted them to feel happy and good about themselves. Now that I've grown older, I'm 24 now and I've actually learned to focus more on my inner. Often I chose to actually stay inside by myself to relax and gather some energy, but if I stay too long for myself (i'm talking a few days) then I have to interact with people to get my energy levels up again.
I like to have it tidy in my house, it cleans up my head - but I also love to make a mess sometimes (but kinda hate it at the same time) :P
But I really enjoy helping others, like teaching them things. At my work I train up new people, and it's a good feeling ! I know how to calm people if they're nervous and how to do things, it's like I feel what they feel and know how to work around that to make them feel better. I motivate them to do better.
And I've always been into sports, either its from football, to gymnastics to bodybuilding I've always done something - when I don't workout it's like I feel rotten and get a really bad
conscience, so I'm not taking a long break from it.
My best friend is an INFJ, we are getting along super well. :-)
Awesome!! I love to hear it. You're a true ENFJ! Looking for the best in others and helping them bring it out.
i love enfjs! i love my enfj friend. there're definitely a lot of times we had conflict but through the years i dont think anybody has been able to intuit my state and could be bothered to sort of bring me out of my shell as much as she did. and its also just such an amazing gift that we share a lot of thoughts. or rather she always is able (ok with a bit of time sometimes) to truly understand the depths of my emotions and motivations. its always fantastic to work with her as well because i think infjs are so much of dreamers that we just ponder and ponder. enfjs are able to understand the 'brilliance' and 'validity' of our ideas and where we are coming from instead of writing us off. and i think it's the shared Ni function as well because she really does get the whole picture and will feel equally invested in the vision. but then its even better because she then is able to actually set things into motion to actuallise it. i cant even count the number of times my enfj friend was extremely accommodating and listened to all my thoughts, and then kickstarted a process to bring them to fruition. i definitely rely on her way too much to execute things. having worked with her for so long it feels also impossible for me to work with anyone else because it seems nobody can match the level of chemistry i had with her and she just understands everything im trying to say and builds on it (makes me sound like an autistic kid or something, but i can be extremely picky and disagreeable when it comes to executing my ideas and she really could be bothered to be patient about it). that shared Ni and the heightened Se, is just simply a perfect accompaniment to us infjs who spend way too much time in our heads and can be very ivory tower-ish. cant rave enough about the chemistry. not to mention she's just a fantastic person as well who cares a lot about people around her. i definitely do rely on her way too much as well as a friendship safety net.. sounds horrible i know. but i think im just generally quite dependent on her in many ways. shes just really good at keeping friendships and a bunch of friends together. gees, didnt know i could have so much to say.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I’m an ENFJ and really enjoyed your take on us. I think you’ve summed it all up really well. 😅 we are natural leaders and are super comfortable with groups and are very organized! Hahaha. Although I get along with people from all walks of life and am able at rallying people together, most of my friends tend to be INFP. Thanks again for this interesting video! ❤
I cried laughing, it was so close to home! I'm ENFJ and my fiancée is INFJ and this video couldn't have been more true.
Here's the thing about ENFJs: I always feel like when I am talking with them they are thinking about how they can harness me for whatever scheme or empire they are building. The wonderful thing about INFJs is they do NOT have this 'agenda' with others.
I am an INFJ and my BF is ENFJ. I have such respect for him because I see all of this in him. I feel like he is everything I want to be if I didn't suffer from anxiety. In group settings, I feel like he brings me back. It always happens. Sometimes in group settings, I spend my time thinking about how he is so good in group settings. Totally distracted. I am also clumsy. I trip over things all the time. Last time we went to goodwill together, I backed up into him and tripped and it was so embarrassing.
I absolutely love this video! As an ENFJ I love learning about people, and trying to understand and connect with them on an emotional and even spiritual level if possible. I have an INFJ best friend who is part of my group of very close friends, my "pack" or "family" if you will. It's so interesting to hear you speak because it reminds me of how she would describe herself. Also I sincerely appreciate your words about us ENFJ's. God bless, and keep being you! You're great!
Thank you for those kind words. Ill make sure to always be the best version of me around kind souls like you. Dont forget to take care of yourself too
I’m an ENFJ, and although like your ENFJs I am into health and fitness and all that, it’s really my mental/emotional state that I tend to neglect because I am always putting other people’s feelings before my own. I tend to not even notice when I am getting too stressed or pushing my feelings aside until it’s too late and I am utterly drowning in stress.
Well I took some tests and I’m labeled as ENFJ and I can confirm you that we can also be loners. Yes I used to prefer groups but after spending 5 years now being alone I became accustomed to it, yes it was very hard at first but it is a lifestyle now :) hope this helps you out
im an infj and my mom is an enfj so the dynamic between us i supper great. this video was great thank you
Olivia Snyder that's awesome:) I am sure you guys are really close:) and thanks!
INFJs have a beautiful mind (I'm ENFJ-T).
ENFJ here, INFJs are the real MVP!
:grins: As an INFJ {-T} I really hope you mean Most Valued Player and not Minimal Viable Product :lol:
Enfj here!
Love working out, love fitness and exercise and love structure and growth!
Im an introverted extrovert- I need 12ish hours by myself at times to recharge after a long productive night out - but after that I find I’m keen to go out.
Yes. I am planning on being a life coach, that is so funny lol... my biggest joy is seeing myself and the people around me become their best selves
I like that you pointed out that you were heavily introverted. Since INFJs are usually considered one of the most extroverted of the introverts, it's nice to hear about someone who, as you put it, tests very high in their introvert percentage, lol. And the tones and looks people give when they find out you've been home all day? Priceless. Reading, writing, watching a mixture of documentaries and some other shows, drawing and painting. Though, TECHNICALLY I leave the house to walk and pick a nature site for photography, if I didn't drive somewhere or went somewhere "in town" many people count that as "not doing anything all day."
First time I've watched your channel, what a beautiful aura you have about you. You're such a sweetie!!!.....
Fazz
INFJ.
Sometimes I feel like INFJs are just nerd ENFJs.
I love your videos and you are so beautiful! I am also an INFJ with a ENFJ brother :) We get along brilliantly and we just understand each other so well, he was my best friend growing up. I find that ENFJ's generally understand me better or at least, are more in-tune with my needs, which I really love. They are pretty cool :) My brother is a psychologist and I think it is a PERFECT fit for him and all well developed ENFJ's.
I was laughing at your description about your unawareness about the external world, I am SO much the same, I walk into things and I am so oblivious to changes in the external world! My husband would shave his beard and I literally would not notice (physically) untill I can feel his emotion that he wants me to notice something and then I start searching for what I am suppose to see.... haha.. so, yes, I always joke and say that if you want me to SEE something, FEEL it and I will. :P
You're cool to listen to, Melody. I enjoy listening to woman who knows how to assert their inner world... With passion, to express the joy of their life experiences. Thanks! May the Lord God bless you with his love & Wisdom... And the fellowship of his holy spirit.
My best friend is enfj, and I'm infj, it's a complicated relationship, but we synergize pretty well most of the time 🙂
Fellow ENFJs, let's go save the world now
I'm am an INFJ and in a relationship with an ENFJ
me too! Doesn't it teach you a lot?
I am an ENFJ and want to be in a relationship with an INFJ. How do I do it?
the girl i like is enfj!
@@jonahlevi3178 advice from an ENFJ, tell her directly and clearly and show that you sincerely like her, nothing complicated, the simple the better (coz we think a lot but when it comes to ourselves we doubt it hhhh, if you cant do it ask for a friend help, all the best)
Me too... how’s it for you?
Me and my brother also are INFJ/ENFJ and it's good not being the only empathetic weirdo around. I think as INFJ we can learn a lot from them.
The smile is magnetic.
I'm an XNFJ, alternating between both Introverted inuition and Extroverted feeling as my principal cognitive function. I can relate strongly to both, depending on which "cycle" I am. Cycles can last a week sometimes a month. I can relate to the ditzyness/forgetfulness & always being in my head/disconnected even in group contexts vs. when I am in an extroverted 'phase' I thrive in groups and leadership positions, people are drawn naturally to follow my sense of authority and direction. It is interesting to have no actual preference because few social situations intimidate me, however my friends and family find me frustratingly inconsistent (life of the party vs unreachable hermit).
+Sam Antonia i can strongly relate to what your saying. I have not met someone i can relate to as well. Im still finding sense within my ENFJ (or XNFJ...jk).
+Sam Antonia was just thinking to that to myself, i think im an ENFJ that has to hibernate once in a while, even during a conversation.
+Sam Antonia Hello! I can definitely see that being a reality, and perhaps a frustrating one at that :) However, you might try looking at the rest of the cognitive functions! True, ENFJs and INFJs share the same functions, but they use them in very different orders. You might want to look at your tertiary and last functions and see whether they are Ti-Se (for INFJ) or Se-Ti (for ENFJ) :)
What do you think is your inferior, and what is your tertiary? Se or Ti? ENFJs are typically a lot more trusting of their athletic abilities, whereas INFJs are highly creative, but not very practical. ENFJs are also tend to look more polished, and they're one of the types who care the most about their appearance (www.16personalities.com/articles/dressing-for-success-or-to-excess).
On the other hand, INFJs tend to be much more comfortable for example dealing with math or complex logical problems, and are also somewhat more intellectual. However they often have trouble living in the moment and are often uncomfortable with practical day-today tasks than the ENFJ.
If you have trouble determining if you are an Fe-dom or an Ni-dom, you can see if you feel as uncertain whether your Se and Ti is tertiary or inferior.
I think the best way to find out is to identify your inferior function.
Sam Antonia lol i know this life well
You have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen!!!
Your observations of Enfjs are highly accurate. You probably described them better than they could describe themselves. However, have more confidence in yourself when it comes to determining the type of others assuming you understand the functions well. I found that the mbti tests online are highly inaccurate when measuring people's personality. The majority of my friends and family have mistype themselves and it was only through learning the functions were they able to type themselves properly.
yeah I agree. I usually give them the test and then explain cognitive functions after to help them decipher, which one if they do not totally resonate with the test.
As an ENFJ I'm very into fitness aswell, but also because I have so much excess energy that It needs to go somewhere.
I also love being with people but in the lockdown my digital friendcircle shrunk insanely and I almost went insane alone in my room doing these online classes for uni (I live away from my family).
Being alone means being alone with myself.
I am curious about a few things with INFJ's. Are you light-hearted? Are you optimistic? Do you like to organize your house and keep it neat and tidy? Are you morally judgemental? Do you like to have decisions made for you? When someone is critical of you, what is your first reaction? When people first meet you, do you feel like they like you? Do you prefer to wear "old" clothes or new clothes? Thanks for the videos. I like to understand people.
Beth, I'm a iNFJ (update 9/26/15: I feel like more of an iSTP, but everything I said still applies). As far as keeping my stuff neat and organized, it's something I have to prioritize more in my life.
I don't really know what you mean by light-heartedness, but I'm usually quick to forgive unless I've felt disrespected. I got a sense of humor, but it mostly comes out when I'm around family and close friends. I think I'm optimistic.
When it comes to judging others actions and behavior, I'm pretty judgmental. (More so of EF related errors than ET.) I get irritated when I have a say in something, but don't get a chance to decide. I'm trying to learn to be more assertive without coming across as a jerk.
My reaction to criticism is one of a couple things: (one) I'll defend myself or others, (two) I'll sit back and reflect (and even dissect the reason(s) why I received the criticism.
I think it's rare for when a person first meets me to have a good impression of me. I'm much too reserved and inhibited around strangers - usually (I think).
If I could fix anything in my personality, personally I wish I had more of a sense of humor around strangers and acquaintances.
+Beth Page I can be very light hearted and fun until I need to recharge. I am optimistic until something goes wrong. I like the idea of an organized tidy house but it never happens. I am morally conservative, but the intention of this is to protect people from harm. Don't like decisions made for me unless I can't decide. Criticism needs to be constructive otherwise I react very defensively. When I first meet people I feel that they think I am odd. I prefer old comfortable practical clothes and things.
I’d love to hear yours thoughts on ESFJ. One of my best friends is an INFJ and I see so much of her in you (and I’m the ESFJ). I love your videos!
Thanks Laura! Appreciate your feedback! I will have to keep this in mind for future videos
I take great care of myself physically but I get caught up in trying to tend to others emotional or other needs and always leave myself stuck in the mud. Which is strange
This is quite accurate and astounding!! Some of my close friends tend to be INFJ's and I'm an ENFJ!!! I'm sure we can relate, when I speak to my INFJ friends, we have discussions over science, cultures and our goals in life. Thank you for making this video it's helpful and validates my experiences with INFJ's.
I adore my ENFJ friends. They get me and see me.
That is very like my mom!
About the taking care of self thing, I don't think it's about physical care but more about mental care. Sometimes my mom would get back from a psychology conference (she's a psychologist) of three days and be literally sick (with headaches and stuff) from all the interaction and intense social situations she'd put herself in without realizing. Her Fe is built for this kind of things, but even for a super extraverted ENFJ, too much of it can't be good.
I also think that for ENFJs other people's needs are often more important than their own, in the means of mental and social needs. So they can be very attuned to the needs of others within the group without taking care of their own needs and desires, and that's how my mom ends up sick after three intense days of taking care of other people's social and mental needs.
And about the Se thing - that is so true! My INFJ friend is way worse at this than my ENFJ mom, and I don't think she's capable of differentiating between a couple of stimulations she gets at the same time and sometimes she'd be very unaware of something and at the same time too aware of something else, whereas for my mom it's not likely.
I feel you, I think ENFJ guys are amazing! :)
Awesome pawsome video!!
You're so right about the self development part, right now I am exploring how to increase myself for a better future by
studying my personality type, studying how I prefer learning, studying which intelligences I am better at, etc. :)
This did help clear some things.My sister got this type and i can see why now.She's generally very aware of feelings and the general situation in a group than i am.Her introverted intuition would explain why she's so restless at nights,when her mind just can't stop cycling through all these thoughts.Or at least that's my understanding of it.
Where my fellow ENFJ’s? What what
Ayyy
I personally also gave my power and personal atta boy credit away to others…. ENFJ types I think learning to fight this often and it’s vital to be of more honest value to the tribe as a whole! We must all lead by example…. I think self checking is vital to all MBTI types! The “Check yourself before your wreck yourself”, thing!
Just took the test and this helped with understanding my personality type, thanks!
Your voice is so soft,you're pretty too. I really like it.Thanks for that video
aww thanks!
Your shirt had me thinking your body shrunk. Or that your shoulders were very small xD hahaha
haha!
Miss Melody your spot on. I'm an end I and I can't agree more about your video. I'll definitely be subscribing
You are sooooooo cute and the content quality of your video is second to none. A very well thought-out and constructed view of the ENFJ (me) personality type.
Dag! This is an excellent video! Well said and well presented!
Dag!
ENFJ here. Thank you so much for making this video!
Great video, I love ENFJ's, they are amazing (I am an INFJ too)!❤️ My best friend is an ENFJ and I feel like this so applies to her! And it's not that surprising that people would think you're an ENFJ as INFJ's are actually called the "extroverted introverts" - many of us have blogs or UA-cam channels where we might appear extroverted and also we can fake being extroverts if we want or need to. And of course if we're with the "right" people (people we feel comfortable with), we can really enjoy the time with them and engage in the conversation which makes us seem like extroverts. But we definitely need our solitude to recharge afterwards as we get exhausted and drained after some time, even if it was a great conversation with deep and interesting people. I have sometimes been mistaken as extrovert, although I'm a huge introvert (I've also scored 98 % introversion). I mean, I definitely enjoy deep and meaningful conversations and discussions with interesting people (mostly N types) and can get really passionate, expressive and articulate if I talk about something I deeply care about. Also, I'm genuinely interested in people and what makes them tick, I really want to get how their mind works. However, I get drained easily and need a lot of solitude to recharge afterwards and I just like being on my own in general (just alone at home, reading a good book or a great article about MBTI, or painting/writing something). I feel like it also really depends on what environment people get to know you in - I guess my class mates would definitely agree on me being an introvert. I'm quiet and in my head most of the time and don't interact as much with them (except sometimes with my ENTP friend who is really deep and interesting, but we don't always talk when we're together, we just sometimes sit there quietly). And my family would probably also call me an introvert - I spend most of the time in my room, never go to parties etc. and they know overwhelmed and pissed I get when I had too much social interaction and too little alone time. ^^ Whatever, I'm rambling, sorry for this long comment... I really love your channel! xxx
My best friend is also a lot like you described and I also really like the things you said you like about ENFJs about her. She's now in a relationship and literally all her Fe is focused on the other person, I think ENFJs tend to really lose themselves in other people sometimes. But except for that, they're quite a good counterpart for INFJs and good company, yeah!
You know THREE male ENFJ's? It would be fantastic to even know one.
Bingo, just learned i was one 40 minutes ago now im researching.
My ex ENFJ did not take care of himself and didn't assert his needs in our relationship it made it too hard for us me an ENTP I was too assertive of my own needs and he would get resentful and simmer because he didn't like conflict. Which seemed strange because he was such an outgoing confident leader!
RobynskiT enfj prefers harmony over leadership. And they often put others above themselves so by taking care of themselves it means physically. Not mentally
Hey! Love your videos. I have a question. My wife is an INFP (off the charts I) and I'm an ENFJ (just barely over on the E side). How do you think the use of social media factors into relationships? For example, I'm very happy to spend a day at home with her just the two of us, but I find myself having FB conversations with friends all over the world while I'm letting her recharge her introvert battery. What do you think? Is this pretty common? I guess my bigger question is how does social media affect the types?
i hope you can expand more on Sensing types : ) i've been struggling a lot trying to present myself to them as an INFJ, most of them think i'm just way off, apart from ISFPs and ISFJs. Thanks for the great video, Melody ^^
mayainmotion yes I do plan on getting to sensing types after some NJ videos:)
Something kind of funny, I’m an INFJ male and my sister is an ENFJ. It’s kind of funny that we both are identical in that matter .
Miss Melody, that was an EXCELLENT video. Probably 'draining' for you to make, but you come across b-e-a-u-t-i-f-u-l-l-y and the info really helped me put the ENFJ Fe Ni Se functions together in my mind!
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Now enjoy a couple of weeks on the couch with your ringer off, ...and we'll look forward to your next vid! :-)
On the taking care of ourselves point, I think you might have misread the underlying meaning there which is why it didnt line up with your 3 ENFJs too. What is meant by that is that we focus on everyone elses emotional needs so much that we neglect our own needs/values in order to satisfy those around us. Sacrificing our happiness for group harmony.
I'm an ENFJ who really has a lottt of friends and few dears ones but I really get along with my INFJ best friend way better
Would love to have you on our channel one of these days.
Would love to be on it :)
really good video you capture the audience well! well done x
This was a great video. I always find the differences between me(ENFJ) and my best friend(INFJ) really interesting and definitely align with what was said here. I think the only thing I may clarify is that I believe the mbti meant that ENFJs don't take care of themselves emotionally sometimes. As in we are often so into helping other people that we neglect our own feelings a lot. But I would not say we don't physically take care of ourselves. That's all. :)
I, do , as an infj. I often look to my ENFJ mentor who died, 14 years ago. Now , I have an ENFJ proteque which I love to be their for and I also like being around people. I also hate being alone for long periods of time..... I get very drained by being alone when introverted intuition is ovetindulged.
UGGHHH, your videos are so on point
hey thanks! I am glad they resonate with you:)
I'm an INFJ and my brother is an ENFJ as well! I really related to what was said and how I see my brother.
FYI I actually think deep down im an ENFP but after being entrapped with judgement (J's) in a very overwhelming way, ive been forced to leave my freeflying home to protect myself.
Hi ☺️👋 I am an ENFJ all the personality test went on dexlaring me ENFJ but what I have seen is when I am with people in the beginning I starts talking and making friends with strangers and I try to ensure that the one sitting beside me is really comfortable but after 2-3 hours with the group I fill as if I am drained off my energy then I wants to leave the group and tries to be alone and when I am alone I am comfortable with it FOREVER so at that time I starts thinking that I am INFJ so I am still little confused and the video cleared lot of my doubts thank you
Mis melody, have you got any thoughts on relationship potential between INFJ's and ENFJ's?
It seems that strong leadership is linked to the extraverted judging functions (Fe and Te), which EJs lead with.
I've recently taken the MBTI and I've become a little obsessed with the process as a whole lol... I'm not sure if I'm unique when it comes to the test but I've taken it multiple times and I either come out as ENFJ or ENFP. I read both personality profiles pretty thoroughly and I still can't decide which one I most closely resemble. I really feel like I grab traits from both. How would you go about determining if you are one or the other? Any suggestions such as an activity or game that could go about discovering it? Sorry if that's a really vague question, but out of all these MBTI channels yours seems the most informative and easily understandable for a newbie like myself. Thanks!
Greg Goodfellow Hey Greg:) Great question and I feel like it is one that many people ask often. My advice would be to study the cognitive functions within those specific types. So for the ENFJ the cognitive functions would be Fe Ni Se Ti and for the ENFP the cognitive functions would be Ne Fi Te Si. Cognitive functions are the foundation for MBTI and what make up the core of the types. The personality descriptions are helpful but hard to determine your type sometimes because we can relate to a lot in many different descriptions. Study them and see which cognitive functions you relate to better and think you operate in :) Hope this is somewhat helpful!
Hi! Awesome video. Im a pretty serious ENFJ (also a 7 on the enneigram). You helped me get some clarity in the awareness order that an enfj goes through (introverting then extraverting then....)....so i made a short video on it. tell me what you think
Yosef
Hello,
May I ask, do you have a video on the INFJ- INFP dynamic according to your experience?
Good Self-Editing to stay on topic. Nice Video!
Thumbs up. Awesome stuff. Thanks for sharing.
But you neglected to mention the more developed Ti that we INFJs have compared to our ENFJ bretheren. I can see the logical, systemic thinking you demonstrate in your presentation....Ti in action.
Lady's IAM a INFJ we love you all it's a matter of minutes until I realized how to make you comfortable infj verse nothing we are different but want you to be happy
My personality always have changed in those quizzes but currently I'm getting ENFJ. I don't believe we have the same personality throughout life. I think personality can change in years or even seconds. This is because I don't believe that nature controls our personalities but mostly nurture does.
I am a twin my brother is a enfj I'm a infj.
Hey :) Great video! I was wondering whether you could do a video on the differences between an INFJ and an ISFJ please? I'm struggling to decide which I am because depending on which tests I take, the result changes. I've read up on it and I seem to still be a mix of both? :( xx
Infj - foucus on inner workings/ understanding people so they will ask ALOT of questions on what makes you YOU! It’s an never ending fascination of people and all things in the universe and how and why they are the way they are.
Isfj - focus on the needs of others in their physical environment. Ex. I have made food, come eat! Make sure you’ve done your homework! You need to go to school to be a doctor so you will be able to support yourself in the future! That sort of stuff.
You're so pretty! I love your eyes 😍
yeah INFJs women are very bubbly but yet very introverted
nice! would you make a video on how growing up was for you and your brother
Let me explain the obvious we are all different types but all of us wish to understand how to let you be you and you don't need to think twice it's ok we all understand each other how cool is that
Your so beautiful! And you have such a beautiful name too!
Interesting that you mention male ENFJs taking care of themselves. Female ENFJs take care of others and put themselves last, where males usually have less responsibility in taking care of others. ENFJ women have to work to make time for themselves.
That’s sounds really true for me😭😭😭 I tend to make some effort to have more time for me and take care of if , of course I will take care of me and work in my goals but really some time I get stressed dealing with everyone needs , and that make me keep my self in second place, but not anymore , I became aware of this and made myself priority🧘🏻♀️, Fighting Enfj , you can and you will with hard work…
the tests that I taken says I'm enfj. Which is true, I am one. But I don't mind being alone but I am a narraciasts. I lead aswell. I understand when people are sad and five them emotional support and ideas. I'm not bragging but I'm really smart. But I don't neglect myself cause in school I'm not popular but I still leads groups. I also like to work out.
I think if we all take the test from time to time ,I would say that some changes appear with time.
Hi, I met this awesome woman on SOCIAL media and she's ENFJ and i'm a INFJ i like her very much. So how do i approach her without crossing her boundaries,, thank you... you nailed it...will u give me advice or whatever you want to call it....even if i don't want to hear it, seriously...thnx
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well if you see my comment would love your thoughts on what I have said. I am in the middle. That is what the test have told me. In regards to leader ship I am a band leader. But my singer who is a extreme INFJ leads and guides me on certain things. She has a way of getting me to do things and when it comes to certain things we do in the band I always seek her permission. She manages our social media stuff. I manage our Productivity and Book most of our shows. so we both are leaders but in different ways
You're neither, you're actually a red panda cleverly disguised as a person. :3
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I think the fact they are Fe dominant makes them extra extroverted, along with ESFJs. Other extroverted types are more likely to be loners.
Slack3rG3nius yeah I would agree Fe doms tend to have a more extroverted function it appears:)
Would you consider ENFP to be a loner?
Idk...being an enfj is a double edged sword...I just happen to be in a pessimistic mood. Needing a healthy social environment means if the environment is unhealthy that prevents our mental wellbeing as well