ENFJ: Alpha State
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this is so useful. I'm ENFJ and am always running after the things that seemingly interest me, ending up with too many hobbies and overwhelmed, finally giving up. And than I feel unproductive and you know, not like I'm fulfilling my potential (ENFJ favourite word), so I start the cycle all over again.
This is so me!
I have some traits like this as well.
Actually not me haha.
I am having a few hobbies that all get enough love.
My hobbies are running, cycling, gardening and cooking. And you can count helping people and studying stuff I like.
This sounds like me
I feel the same way. This video is extremely helpful! TY!!
WAIT i feel like this perfectly describes the "finding your purpose" feeling we have. The feeling that you want to find that one thing you like that will help/benefit millions of people and completely immerse yourself/dedicate your entire soul to it
I have 2 close relatives that are ENFJs, one is Blast-Sleep and the other is Play-Consume.
The Blast-Sleep ENFJ is a social chameleon, able to match the tone and mood of whoever he's around to build rapport.
The Play-Consume ENFJ is able to quickly master complex tasks after just observing someone do them once.
Neither know what they want personally.
The First one Sounds more Likely Play-Blast, The other One indeed is Play-Consume. The Blast-Sleep Guy has Low Energy and you will find him more likely in His Room/ Workplace or Internet Teaching other people, Just Like Dave himself.
ya an ENFJ can't have sleep in a savior, too much of an extrovert. You can ask them their ideas and help them figure it out :)
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Im the B-S type and probably don’t look so extroverted until I start explaining something or getting people/things organized. People confuse me for Consume savior because when I get in the zone, I become the sponge. I am rendered useless for most of anything in that state other than purely absorbing, understanding, questioning, and applying. Which may seem odd to others because consume is technically my third animal. I can control it, I’m not overwhelmed by it.
@@mercury4960 Yes I go into a daze when Im in thinking mode and people think somethings wrong as all external energy and engagement is off. In that state Im just floating in a new idea internally and making new connections to old info.
Fe/Ni here. Hardest thing ever is disrupting external harmony to uphold my view
Upsetting people or making them think less of me by speaking up is really hard.
The hero's journey. A.k.a. Growing up
You'll get there once you realise that no one really cares about what you do and how you do it.
If anything, you'll get more respect by standing your ground instead of going with the flow.
You’re doing a good thing, just hold your ground and you’ll earn the respect that you deserve!
Yaaasss
Use Ni to project out the benefits vs. consequences of inaction and plan ahead for how to handle potential backlash. Your values are strong. Plan, prepare, execute. When the timing is right and the opportunity rolls into your lap do not hesitate.
Dude I’m the same way. I’m an ENFJ and can’t stomach disrupting others good feelings
Absolutely amazing to reach this alpha state, coming from an ENFJ. Guys we are natural born speakers. Dig into your Ti as soon as you can and apply your Fe! Step One: study the Carl Jung functions! Step Two: build your reasons to how you can use it. Step Three: practice practice then master!
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@@khairunishakhetikheti3273 yes omg
are enfj alpha males
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@@quruxleyqalanjo5485 Yes we are alpha males but unlike our ENTJ or even ESTJ, we do so without needing or desiring to prove it via objective Te means. Even ESFJs have a similar mentality but they aren't as ambitious in that Ni bulldozering way. We definitely have a sense of leading and obtaining maximum success.
I think Fe's can be happy! It's accepting the fact that you can't please everyone but so long as you can take care of your loved ones and yourself - everything is good. I'm an ENFJ in the technical field and really enjoy what I do. This could be the Fe/Ti alignment mentioned in the video and it feels like a good balance for me. Also... this video explains why I have so many hobbies that it becomes overwhelming xD
Looking forward on Dave's input on the Alpha State of the next 15 personality types.
DiedonD He better do it.
Yeah, I agree. I think it is on Dave's interest to "better do it" now while his rival Michael Pierce is not producing much lately. While Mike sleeps, Dave could gain an advantage.
I hope he does
The pressure builds
He didn’t do it. I’m upset.
Outstanding vid , as an Enfj artist you literally just pulled me out of deep mental funk I was having , pick a style and dig in , thanks for the words of wisdom 👍🏾
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Oh man the part about putting up walls and playing it safe resonates with me so much. I've always tried to bring the wall down but really struggled to do so. We ENFJs are a peculiar and special breed, but then again we recognise that most other people are as well, save a few sociopaths
That was actually good advice towards the end, thank you 🙏😁
Something important to note is that to "value" something on the social spectrum doesn't mean it's always refering to deeming things in a positive light. For someone who constantly sees negative patterns in society/friend circles/family etc. and no consistent way to solve these things, being an Fe dominant person (especially paired with Ni) can be hell.
It's too easy to think of ENFJs (and ESFJs to some degree) as just "caring for people". It's like being constantly aware of how what everyone expresses in pretty much every situation, and automatically taking EVERYTHING into account that you know, have seen, heard, and-- any possible explanation outside of what you understand, (depending on how severe or important the expression could be under the surface.
Imagine being sucked into thinking about why someone stopped smiling 0.2 seconds earlier than they use to do, and then backtracking what someone else just said, what angle or tone of voice they had, whether or not the person either hesitated because they reacted slightly before they fully understood what was said, and cancelled the expression, or if they possibly have some bodily ache, if they had seen something that distracted them emotionally in the background, backtracing to see if their eye-movements a moment ago matches this etc. etc. etc. etc.
This can either go in the blink of an eye, or take a long time and sometimes when multiple people express a lot of things and it just hits you that there's hidden disharmony there-- you automatically feel responsible. Cause you're the one who suffers the most about it.
This stuff is especially true for an ENFJ with trauma and frenetically look for the smallest expressions from as far away as possible in order to try stop them from escalating.
Damn sorry for the wall of text btw.
Wow. Thanks for the breakdown of what Fe feels like. I now got more insight into how my ENFJ friend feels and just how she almost always knows how people feel. Very frustrating but powerful too.
Agreed! I think us Fe doms are some of the most caring, but probably the most judgmental at the same time.
It's exactly how I feel... 😒 How to escape that?
so true 😢💔
Thank you for speaking the truth for all of us who have been in hell for since who knows when.
I am Enfj and I am in hell for always able to pick someone's badmood from miles away. I actually don't care about people, no I infact doesn't want to do anything with people. Because I just want peace, but if I don't comply with people I'll be in so much problem. That's why I'm being too sensitive.
Thank you!! I laughed out loud here because today I did just what you saud... I was not very productive because something else came along inbetween what I was doing and I completely changed my focus just to engage with someone else... better watch that out in the future! Thanks again, earned my subscription right away! :-)
Another thing - exercise tends to be really good for bringing out your Se, and I've found it can really help relieve stress due to Ni overthinking
Ugh I totally relate with that “running” thing - and always looking for something new. Time to take a stand!
I can truly confirm that sticking to the "alpha" state is an arduous and sometimes crippling struggle. At least it's comforting to know that I'm on the right track.
Why this doesn't have 700k views at least? Weird youtube algorithm.
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As a Blast Sleep ENFJ, its ironic how i let myself be mentally tormented by prioritizing Ti. It’s not just irresistible, its essential, and then it’s fking stressful because I need to plan new Fe+Se actions around my Ti findings. Then I can’t ignore those Ti findings because I’ve found the answer to what works. There are a lot of jerks out there that aren’t worth my time. I might consider who they are through Fe and Ni, but thats just me trying to give the situation a chance so that I don’t ignore the reality and stick with a decision I made because Ni tells me the truth about who those people really are. They just want to take advantage of anyone who doesn’t have the guts to say no. To hell with them. After I get done what I need to, I’m always fking gone so they can go take advantage of someone else or drown in their blinded and greed-laced misery.
I'm liking these new illustrations
Because of this, I can actually see what I am doing habitually.
That part of, "Dropping their little Ti...." I see myself do this when I have a realization of something that would help me. I am quick to forget to do it and running off to take care of someone else's needs.
End of day, if I remember to do that thing, I am tired and need to be up early to continue to take care of other's in some way.
Side note, could this be why I tend to work in circles?
I am totally FeNi dominant. Always connecting the dots to find out why….
2:56 how specific!! that what i always think about when something or someone is trending
So this Alpha State you just introduced, it’s the balanced flow between the Dominant function & the Inferior function?
If so then I guess as an INFP trying to get to their Alpha State I would need to be balancing Fi & Te. As a result I would have to force myself to step outside of my ‘safe space bubble of values’ (for lack of a better description atm) and find Te reality & facts.
YES! Absolutely do so, you may find yourself a ENFJ waiting for you!!!
Maybe you should step out of your comfort zone a little by spending more social time with a ENTJ or ESTJ friend, they can lead by example on what Te looks like.
Very informative and accurate! Thank you!
P.S. I'm much more of a Fe/Se user than Fe/Ni.
interesting.... this is so me, and i think i have done those Ti things. im dig into it and make it to be my identity. i think im in a right path
Great info!
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You're enfjay
Can/will you guys please do a new ISFP vid?
Hi, Clearly an ENFJ here... been feeling confident on balancing the Fe and Ti. Currently realizing that I need to develop better SI. So my question is which two functions, or single function that will give me access on perfecting Si? Let me know your thoughts
2:28 this’s so true i got shocked!!
Barbering in this case. I have had such a hard time choosing a career and sticking to it but I’m also in the military currently serving over seas(hell n back) so I can invest my money into a shop.
When you are an ENFJ a career is not just a way of making money. If you are not in any way worthwhile trying to make the world a better place, you will be stuck with having just one part of your personality fit your job and other parts crying to be heard. Also ENFJs can need some time to develop certain parts of themselves in different vocations, which serve different parts of their personalities, only to pursue a more integrated path for themselves later on. Where an ENFJ can say, that the path made sense. So choosing and sticking might just not be your thing (yet).
About barbering and owning your shop: you must become the very best in what you do. Don't just 'serve' people with what they ask for, but learn which look truly becomes them and learn how customers will take your advice (before and after photo's of others - with their consent - might help). And since you are not shallow, you might want to help low income families / the homeless for free for a few hours a month, just to make the connection. Isn't it amazing how people feel better about themselves, when they look their best?
The teacher/mentor in you might need you to become one of those, who train the next generation.
That's what I need to do then!
Thank you
Amazing. This just explained so much
Awesome video!! So true and i learned so much
Im trying to get this, but I dont think that I understood... Is it better to pick one thing and dig it than to go for newnewnewnew? Am I right?
I'm also trying to comprehend this. I get excited with a lot of different hobbies but can really excel if I dedicate my time into one. Maybe that's what they're saying? But also, having multiple hobbies is fun too, so just go with what works!
As always, great content. :)
I feel like this video is portraying F-Fe rather than M-Fe.
Based on what has been stated, F-Fe is the type that tries to internalize other people's values while M-Fe tries to convince others to share their values. This seems to lack the 'push the tribe' effect seen in M-De.
And I'll be it.
Can you do one for ENTP?
Just replace "Fe" with "Ne", "Ti" with "Si", etc. until you've exchanged all the terms and you've got it. This one is quite similar to how an ENTP vid would be as it's mostly about extroversion, rather than ENFJs in particular, so it should be a pretty simple one to practice this method on. You can do this with most of DSPs vids and you'll get a lot more out of his limited UA-cam content. You'll find it's a lot more about the underlying systems than the individual cases.
Infps watching videos on enfjs 👁👄👁
Haha INFP here, I need ENFJ’s
Can you do one for INTJ?
Now i know im the Ni - Fe ENFJ-A. Thank you
so helpful
I thought this was a chemistry video
So how can I help my son develop that when he probably isn’t able to understand that concept yet, but struggles so much with overly dominant Fe?
If he's still a kid or even a teen I seriously recommend that you do not make any attempts to suppress his Fe. He will naturally learn to be more tactful on his own as he grows older, but trying to adjust his Fe will just cause him unnecessary social anxiety and self-conciousness.
I just want to school lol awesome video
WTF did you just say?
So, is the alpha state generally a balance of first and third functions? If so, then jumpers who emphasize first and third functions (instead of first and second functions) would more easily reach their alpha state.
Not jumpers, but certain preference with the Animals (Blast, Sleep, Consume, Play) may have an advantage in this area. Take ENFJ for example. A Blast-Play ENFJ favors Fe-Ni and then Fe-Se. There's no Ti in there. Blast-Sleep ENFJs, however, favor Fe-Ni and then Ni-Ti. That gives them a more comfortable relationship with Ti, at least when it's coupled with Ni. The same can be said for Play-Consume ENFJs, they have access to Ti via Se-Ti in the Consume Animal.
So the conflict is unmissable?
Oh wow, the exact opposite of me! lol.
It is so me😂😂😂
What's really a mystery to me is the ESFJ type. I find them to be some of the most difficult people to relate to.
They are something else aren't they?! But they will walk through fire for the people they care about and usually they have hearts of gold. They're just a little bossy in my experience lol
@@megangilbert3112 Yes that sounds accurate.
Enfj here
Interesting
Ni dominate here!
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I know it's a bit unrelated, but could you make a video comparing INTJs and INTPs, please?
Unnamed Muffin INTJs and INTPs are very very different in Dave Powers’s theory. So different that I highly doubt they’ll do a video directly comparing them.
But think about it in terms of how they explain it. INTP would be TiNe or TiSi. INTJ would be NiTe or NiFi.
So INTP thinks their own reasons are the most important, and then either gathers new concepts or organizers facts.
INTJ organizes concepts and abstract ideas, and either thinks others’ reasons are the most important, or their own values.
FYI, Dave and Shannon typed me as NiTe (INTJ).
KayKayBayForever Thank you. I understand that these types are different in their functions, but I think they tend to behave similarly in real life and most people would put them into the same broad "nerdy" category. I also struggle to understand the difference between Ti and Fi, which is why I can't quite figure out my own type. I might be an Ni/Fi type or a Ti/Si type, or something else entirely.
Unnamed Muffin Yeah, I get it, it’s super hard to figure out your own type. Some ways to help that is to ask family and friends, “Am I more controlling or gathering?” etc. and then to think hard about how you actually act.
For example, I first realized I had Te when different people guessed my type, and as each person guessed, I changed my guess to match theirs. Because their reasons seemed what I should go with over my own values or reasons. Then Dave and Shannon confirmed that when they typed me.
So try going that route instead of thinking: INTP or INTJ??
Try thinking, “In the end, do I immediately go with my own choice, or do I ask around and get others’ choices?” Once I really thought about it, I realized I asked others’ opinions even for what ice cream flavour for me to get. I am DEFINITELY Te.
Then ask yourself, “In the end, do I feel more responsible for organizing or for gathering new ideas/information?”
Figure out what makes you most upset, most anxious, what you feel responsible for, what your failings are. Look for the extremes, and that’ll usually be an indication. (It’s important that it’s the extremes because everybody does everything.)
Unnamed Muffin And it looks like you already have an idea that you’re Organize and Self, rather than Tribe or Gather. So that’s a huge first step. In my opinion, the rest doesn’t matter all that much. And I can’t help you all that much with the differences between NiFi or TiSi or whatever. You could try watching Sam Harris videos, because I believe he’s a TiSi. And Dave himself is a NiFi.
I’d suggest getting the F/T thing down first. Values or reasons? And you’ll use both of course, but which is, deep down, more important to you?
Unnamed Muffin Also, FYI, I originally thought I was TiNe, then moved to NeTi, then SiTe, and finally got typed as NiTe. So I got closer and closer the more I thought about it, talked about it with my brother, watched their class videos, and realized what Te actually looks like, and what Organize actually looks like.
To all Fe doms out there. Please learn how to think for your self
Anthony, your comment shows little knowledge and insight. Often an ENFJ, because of his/her deep felt need to make the world a better place (because of them feeling other people's pain so much), searches for more knowledge and is willing to study hard and deeply think about what is taught, to do just that: make the world a better place. It is the ENFJ that will optimize a team, that will optimize a process and as such is often asking him/herself if anybody else is capable of some thinking for themselves, instead of just running after their own petty goals in life.
@@gardenjoy5223 Well said.
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Pretty over complicated and hard to understand
This isn't beginner content. I didn't understand at first either. Check out Meghan Levota, Eric Thor, or whoever's content you are attracted to. And Objective Personalities class is amazing.
Deanna Hunt I could do that and it would make it easier to understand by why do that when I could define my own personality