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I don't agree that ENFJs brag about being succesful and number one. That would be ENTJ behavior. ENFJ cares about growth and feeling powerful to improve. We are competitive in the sense of being capable and not letting others down. We are more concerned with cooperation (and growing together with our rivals) than to be number one and brag about it. That is not a pathway to harmony.
I´m an ENFJ and I can definitly see what she is up to: As the ENTJ the ENFJ also has Te as 3rd or 6th function (depending which order you are using). So of course we are a bit more cooperative and wouldn´t just force somebody to do something. We would pretty much seek out common ground through Fe and than use Ni and Se to convince the other person that this would be the best option. This approach to power is a bit more sneaky, but it is definitly there. That´s how the secret Agenda works.
Irving Malcolm Cáceres I totally agree. I felt really misrepresented in this video, especially as she seems to disregard “intentions” and speaks in such absolutes. Although the video had some interesting insights, i found it was way too subjective to the self preservation of the infj to be productive.
I think the problem here is that we have all forgotten that every factor of the personality varies differently in everyone, a 55% intuitive and 45%sensing ENFJ would feel very differently from a 60% n, 40%s and you could only imagine how other more distant percentages would be. I am a 55%j 45%p and I definitely am different because I have a very strong ENFP side to me and that's the same difference in my F side, this personality typing is very simple but could be really complicated and confusing if you do not have a good enough insight.
Depends what your tri type is an ENFJ. That is what makes all the difference in the world.
MUCH greater levels of empathy from ENFJ than ENTJ.
I am a ENFJ guy and have a relationship with a INFJ girl and its going really well no complains from both sides and a lot of feeling synchronisity
Glad to hear that 😊👍
I'm an INFJ girl and my boyfriend is an ENFJ. we're getting along really well
@@Wenzesyou’re calling enfj as manipulators
INFJ here. I've been dating an ENFJ for 8 years, married for 3 years now. We're perfect. He's older than me and we feel as if we were of the same age. There are obvious differences, but it's so natural... just wow. He often seems more introverted than I am, but it's me who zones out every couple of minutes. He fully respects that. I've never had to be anything apart from my true self, he knows this mechanism and never had the problem, actually.
I am an Enfj and married an Infj.
One of the biggest struggles Is our empathy can be out of control. If I feel sad, he stars to feel sad too...and this works with phisical symptoms too! 😂 But we found a very solid communication made of pure honesty, and I agree with you saying we can learn A LOT from each other. I really love him, my misterious INFJ creative Genius. 😂♥️
Real quick I want to say that she's obviously describing an unhealthy enfj... A normal, healthy enfj should have no problem socializing with an infj
She's describing EIE(ENFJs) but with the inanely rigid and often poorly explained Socionics Reinin dichotomies.
Some enfjs are just authentic. They don't want to make you believe anything about their world. They know their weaknesses, and you choose to walk and introspect everything yourself.
It seems you really like ENFJ but you've had questionable experiences with some of them. What i can say about healthy ENFJs is that they don't pretend, they just have an amazing ability to adapt to the cognitive functions of the person they are interacting with. It's how ENFJs are people masters.It's their adaptive ability and charisma that draws people towards them.
Healthy ENFJ can take a lot of pain and convert it into progress making you feel very comfortable in the process. As for proving they are strong. A healthy ENFJ will always put their money where their mouth is. They will talk big because it makes them accountable, also because there is an audience. This was they can't backtrack on what they said and this allows other personality types to act as auditors (if you will).
Healthy ENFJs can take lot of criticism. They will be affected by it but they usually bounce back real quick!
Regarding their introverted intuition. ENFJ have powerful intuition, this can be evidenced from creative ENFJs. Their inner world has a lot of rich, complex tones that evoke a lot of emotion.
Most creative ENFJs' art has a sense of cathartic relief, power and freedom that can be felt by their intense physicality, intellect and experimental nature and even in the choice of musical notes they play.
Healthy ENFJs will respect your boundaries, they will even stand up for you when your values are being challenged in an unhealthy way.Healthy ENFJs want you to rant to them about what annoys you.They want to know you in every aspect. This can be very intense/intimidating/uncomfortable. But a healthy ENFJ will know how to go about it.
The one strongest ability of the ENFJs, is that of exposing darkness in the world. They love confronting it, exposing it and converting it into light.
And they love their INFJs :-)
Hopefully this helps.
Nailed it
wow, this is not how INFJs see you at all! The more you try to manipulate who you think I am - DOORSLAM
@@20sandi12 Cool
Preach! I’m an ENFJ, hoping to win over this pretty INFJ shy lady lol
ENFJ here. I really liked your video because it gave me some insight as to why my relationships with INFJs always feel like I'm walking on eggshells often. I mean, I love with passion the INFJs in my life, but I always have this sensation that they bear with me rather than really enjoy being with me (even if they tell me that they are having fun or are feeling ok when I ask them, and even if they rely on me when they need emotional support).
Maybe the misunderstanding can come from the idea that the personas we put out are intended to make US feel good. Our Fe being dominant tends to be very outwardly oriented. I don't think there's a lick of self reflection in the personas and worlds we create. I don't think it is something in the lines of I create this persona, then look at it and say "yup, this is me, I'm fabulous, everything is as it should be".
I think what makes ENFJs feel good is the emotional feedback (the perspectives of a less restless mind too). We put up personas we think the other person needs to see or would like to see. We'll try to know if you like something and try to relate to it and potentiate whichever liking for the same thing we have, because we want to relate to you and "tune in" with you. I think our mentality when it comes to creating worlds with Ni is more of a: "you have Ni too? Nice! I'll create this world and you can come over and play with me in it! We'll have so much fun!" (Which is a thing we do rather easily with ENTJs, who also have auxiliary Ni and with INFPs). So, yeah, I can see the INFJ looking at our playground from distance and being like: "Ok... it looks... pretty, I guess" and we being like: "You don't like it? What's missing in it? How can I make it more likable to you? What should I add to it?" So, be make it more grandiose and you like it less and... I suppose you can see where I'm going with this XD
Yes totally, I get exactly what you are saying and INFJs also just don't wanna show what they dislike about it (quite often) or too harsh at once...so the constant feedback that you need is not always giving because INFJs first need to learn to express themselves more authentically all the time...once they learn that I think an INFJ/ENFJ friendship is a great thing both can learn and grow from
THANK YOU SO MUCH! This explains so much for me. My niece who is a year younger than me just tested as an ENFJ. When we were younger I was always sort of jealous of her but I could never put my finger on what exactly. Now that im older I realize that she as an ENFJ is what I wish I was and how I feel that I am on the inside as an INFJ. To myself I imagine that I use a lot of Fe and thats who I want to be but I'm not. She recently came to visit me and all my friends we're in love with her. She's outgoing and positive and funny and creative and everyone just instantly loves her. I kind of got pushed to the sideline. And I felt this need to compete with her...but of course that isn't who I am so i didn't succeed and I started to not like who I was. One thing that I really can't stand about her is how obsessed she can be with herself. She's very showy, and enjoys lots of attention and talking about her success and for me, even when I know I'm good at something, I try ad down play it because I hate pulling attention to myself. But there's still a part of me that isn't yet content with myself.
She is not an Fi users, she is an INFJ. The INFJ Ni, when not masked by the Fe can often be confusing and unnerving for people. Especially for dominant feelers such as the INFP and the ENFJ. You may not believe her to be correct, but opinion is subjective. Her opinion is reflective of many INFJs including myself. It is not to be taken at face value. This video is intended to be a resource of guidance for the INFJ, not a critique of the ENFJ. So it is intended to help INFJs avoid conflict and archive harmonious relations with the ENFJ. Please don't take it to heart. INFJs have to talk about negative and unfaltering perspectives to create solutions
I agree, some ENFJ's commenting seemed a bit upset at the description as if it was a personal misrepresentation of their type, whereas most INFJ's (myself included) have found this video to be so resourceful, like hitting the nail on the head! The video nicely explained that indescribable uneasiness i have felt when interacting with multiple ENFJs. I think because she made the video to focus more on striking harmony and highlighting the areas of tension that ENFJs may not realize they cause, some have viewed it a bit harshly, but I think it wasn't necessary to state too many of the positives because we naturally hit it off and can become close relatively quickly. As you said, its not a critique on the ENFJ, is its a resource for us INFJs in dealing with them.
INFJ here, my prince charming is an ENFJ. Perfect match for me, he's a mature type ( much older than me) and due to mutual insights we work it out so smoothly it's like... *wow*. The understanding is insane. The only other type I'd ever consider getting together with could be an INTP, since I've always attracted them, at least as friends.
How is it going with the ENFJ? Or is it just a crush so far?
Wenzes been together for 8 years now, married for 3. He used to be my high school history teacher 😊 he's extremely selfless and incredibly perceptive of my mood swings. I taught him the cognitive functions and explained my Ni - Ti loops, and he understood it so well he always helps me get out of it by listening to my Fe rant. He's got that inferior Ti which makes him biased in certain situations, like approaching new people (you know, that he doesn't like someone because they do not behave a certain way) and I come in helping him understand the other person's processing.
Another thing I've noticed is his purpose- he usually seeks to be the leader and enjoys conducting people in a way that makes him feel like a beloved emperor. Absolutne power used to be accepted, praised, loved by his students- he's literally so nice they beg him to take charge in various undertakings. A very specific demeanor, cute nevertheless.
I used to struggle with bulimia (perfectionistic trap) and although I still suffer from self esteem issues, I can't imagine any other type being so understanding of the nature of the problem and so patient as to keep assuring me he loves me above all and that I'm perfect the way I am. He's determined to make me feel loved and appreciated in a spiritual way. Dom Fe is basically "I'm happy when you're happy.
I can be too critical of him at times - Ti - and the only times we clash are when he loses faith in himself. To NFJs it's all or nothing, when he's determined he *hopes* even against all objective data, but when he sees he's losing he suddenly becomes a mad child, chaotic evil, hating his defeats and dealing with lack of recognition by emotional revenge with no real purpose. I hate it and my first reaction is to make him realize his change of attitude but he's so stubborn it makes me angry and critical of him, instead of supportive.
In general - it's WOW in understanding, perfection to me and we barely ever clash, sharing the same beliefs, attitude, interests and goals. Much recommended.
Weird me too haha i had an relationship with a intp for 5 Years it was awesome and i had a flirt with entj same and now im in a relationship with a enfj and he is older than me(10 Years)
@@lailamtn8599 it's weird that the types l really adore are ENFJs, intps and entjs and l once fell for an ENFJ teacher (15 years older)but couldn't make out since he was married and l don't want to disturb the dynamics their relationship had
This just sounds like someone had a really negative experience with someone.
But it is extremely important to share such experience.
Being able to look at future challenges before you get yourself into some mess, I think , that's a good thing.
@@harsimranjitsingh1560 or it could just be victimization psychobabble of a blame game.
@@calipidgiousshe does sound hurt and hollering
This was a very interesting take that I totally could see. ENFJs I have noticed often like to mimic INFJs when they are around them and kind of wish they had some of the attributes that INFJs have. They tend to want to appear more virtuous than they are and like to show off quite a bit. They are difficult to be around sometimes. I have a good friend who is an ENFJ who needs a lot of validation and especially seems to seek out sexual validation I have seen a lot of enfjs seeking out attention through sexual validation from others. I really adore them sometimes, but I wish they didn't feel the need to be so competitive all the time for the attention of other people. I wish they could just enjoy the fact that they are who they are, which is great. Maybe just not overstep everyone else's interactions with people, because they always want the attention on them.
And for INFJs it‘s the exact opposite when we are not healthy. We tend to avoid attention, especially when in the presence of ENFJ because we want more of their energy
Conflating behaviour with cognition; this has nothing to do with the INFJs cognition nor the ENFJs
Somebody hurt you and that’s okay
I really enjoy your videos. I'm an INTJ and I am lost for words to express my admiration and appreciation for INFJ's, so let me just say that it feels like an intuitive feeling. That is an alien way for me to understand something (or explain something),but it is the best way I can describe the connection I feel with INFJ's. It must be the shared "Sixth Sense" (Ni).
Very insightful! This is something that I'll probably listen to more times. It's a good analysis and actually gives some good insight into the ENFJ as well.
Some notes, from having an ENFJ parent: an ENFJ can go into any space you want them to go into. It's all about how you show the energy, and where you lead them to. If you want an ENFJ to go into Ni space, ask a complex, thoughtful question that shows an interest in some aspect of their opinion or personality. ENFJs love that -- it's hard to accept attention straight-up through Fe, but tapping into Ni like this bypasses that hiccup and allows them to both feel validated and use Ni to engage with you. Win win.
Uhhh...I love that. I have an ENFJ acquaintance that I can‘t really get to close to without him shutting off! I‘ll definitely try that 👍 thanks
Very good! Never been able to thoroughly convince my ENFJ partner using rational thought alone, whereas as soon as I mentioned something intuitively seen and suggest, they were onto it as a worthwhile challenge and life goal. Needless to say the ENFJ's energy is quite addictive up to the point where we have to recharge and retreat to a quite place for a while...
Are you sure they're an ENFJ? Fe and Ti are on an inextricable axis...unless they're a very unhealthy ENFJ and don't have much in the way of cognitive fluidity. I'm a divergent ENFJ and Ti is my strongest function
Thank you so much for this post, as a fellow INFJ it is nice to have this explained in a way that makes sense. I've had a lot of ENFJ relationships throughout my life and it can be very frustrating running into the same problems over and over again. This is very helpful with what you said about setting limits. I appreciate the post.
+chrisellis thank you! :)
I'm an ENFJ, I used to do that behavior more as a kid on the playground not a lot but mor often. But I do have a lot more self confidence now so it's changed. I try and make others feel as comfortable as possible instead of trying to make myself be known as a force to be reckoned with in any aspect....unless I'm in a group full of infp's. It's too tempting not to. Very easy leadership there. But I don't take advantage of it in a malicious way. I use it to benefit them. I establish myself as their pillar of strength and try and let them know I am there to protect and guide.
In addition to explaining our relationships with ENFJs you make such a good point about us not being phony in putting out too much Fe. We are not touchy-feely and we need an emotional distance from most people and situations. That doesn't make us bad people, not at all. It just makes us different, as we should be used to by now! (: Love your videos & TY!
thanks for the feedback! much appreciated
Fe isn't not synonymous with being 'touchy feely or phoney' I'm afraid even in excessive doses; I wish people would actually take typology seriously and do their Ne-Te homework
ENFJs find criticism very challenging.
I met a enfj guy two months ago and i have been stressful for a month. I want to speak with him more but i feel like that he don't have time for me. I'm like "He must have important goals, he consider his time well and there must be many people that he takes care of" This video really helped me at some points but i still don't know what to do about what i wrote. I will think about what you said in this video more. Thanks, love you 💖
Glad it helped Derin, I actually did an update on exactly this video today :D maybe it will help even more. Here is the link: ua-cam.com/video/asZUj83URXg/v-deo.html
Thank you so much for your kind words 💖
This was a crazy watch. I am a young INFJ guy and this basically explained the awful relationship I had with an ENFJ girl. The whole dominant Fe vs Ni thing. I'm kind of mind bended right now, but thanks for your insight! Haha
I've dated an unhealthy ENFJ, she was too controlling. Works great as friends but in a relationship it was bad.
I've spent months in my labyrinth trying to figure this shit out and you legit just smashed it off the top in 13 minutes lol TYVM
😉 glad it helped
I don't think it's so complex. My mother and my closest friend are ENFJs and I just found it out. And that ENFJ friend is married to an INFJ woman. All this time, I didn't know it and we have got along extremely well. So, for me at least, it looks that the natural buddies of an INFJ are the ENFJs. Only they can understand me and support so much as they do. It's like we both are the same, but they (ENFJ) are the extroverted version of what we are and like. Haha!
Thanks for this. I had a very painful friendship with an ENFJ for 4 years and this helps me understand the dynamics between us and what went wrong.
Thank you, this is perfect! I have an ENFJ mother and I couldn't have explained it better.
I had to come back and comment because I've noticed that thing where the ENFJ makes me feel like I'm "bad" or something. I don't even know if he really thinks that, but he does seem to at least be "confused" about me. I try to remember your advice and calm myself with it when I am around him. I hate how I feel like I have to try extra hard to prove that my heart is good around him.
just don't try to convince him...be okay if he thinks you are not good. ENFJs are really great at projecting feelings but remember this projecting has more to do with him than with you. Sometimes it is easier if you just do something that you know he is not going to like although you don't have any negative intentions.
Just very important: stop trying to convince him.
Yes. You're right. "Stop trying to convince him," is what I'm going to clothe myself with as I enter my next interaction with him. I think he doesn't quite know how to take me yet because he is used to everyone seeing him more as a "father" facilitator in the world he's making on the outside (which IS a beautiful world), but I approach him more as an "equal" (so to speak) while I have a ton of respect and genuine admiration for him. I feel like I want to put him at ease. But I also want to be free to be me around him.
p.s. Also, thank you for helping me with this. That was thoughtful, and I appreciate it because this had really bothered me.
I'm an INFJ and my girlfriend is ENFJ 😂
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@@Wenzes what ?
I just meant, it‘s a very intriguing combination and you can learn a lot from each other 😊...like: that‘s interesting 😏
@@Wenzes kk
Please make more of these videos, I can see you are not only well educated but mostly you have super observed valuable experience :D these videos are great and helpfull and not many like these are on youtube
The older you is wiser and better at explaining things
Facts! Can lead a horse to water but can’t force em too drink until they ready! Scorpio InFj here ayyyyyye always learning because I’m a brand new yet old yet very young infj if that makes any sense 😂 she’s always teaching me new tricks tho and Vice versa bit it’s rough!!!!! Just came across your video and I’ll be back ❤️🤙🏼
Ohhh yeah it makes all the sense
I'm INFJ, my father is ENFJ, and he is so annoying, it was very hard growing up with his controlling ways, always wanting to feel powerfull. Now I only see him now and then but it's still difficult, cause he can't connect to my feelings and we're both very opinionated.
My mum in an enfj I'm infj. She would make every decision in my life if she could. And demonizes me whenever she can. Very difficult...xx
+Ela Iliesi
Same. I've never connected with my father. Now our relationship is just like "ok, let's no fight"
Your analysis is very accurate. ENFJ is always treated like an asshole to INFJ. The problem is that ENFJ can not be harsh and strict like INFJ. Here is not a question about capitation, it's about understanding positively. Anyways, all the best to all of INFJ.
I gave my friend ENFJ as an INFJ extreme realistic Ti and it almost blow up our relationship. I've learned it's best to live with him shoulder to shoulder versus face to face. Emotional roller coaster of thoughts that's really hard for me to handle and I'll bet he'll say the same. Intense drama fest if both kids are looking and wanting the same toy on the playground.
I was contemplating a relationship with an enfj girl and this was incredibly helpful. Thank you so much.
I am still going forward with this because I believe that enfj can make our life easy as well. It's just how you set the silent agreement with them from very first day.
I am a male infj and I refrain from giving off nice guy persona via fe.
I usually put on an intense or slightly intimidating face until I feel comfortable.
Bitch can always become a good girl.
But going other way around is not that easy.
I had the worst experience ever in my life with an enfj last year. I felt so violated and judged for one year. We were in class and I developed a crush on him but I just couldn't handle his level of energy and constant analyzing. I was depressed and just overwhelmed and I felt like he could see right through me and just kept trying to get me to open up. I basically stone walled him and it definitely created silent tension and I could sense he was uncomfortable or mad I still can't determined.
You've hit the nail on the head hunny!
I thought I am INFJ, then I did the official test. Guess what, I am INFP!
Woooah you nailed it!!!
He is running to save the world to creating artistic projects to travel around, collect people to enthuse them while forgot to live any prescoius moment with us as a family. I am an artist but i was never enough good to participate in any project of his, also he ignored to create any family event or trip. He is keep on saying he is a kind of jealous of me and wants to be like me. I could not get this bs before. I am so pissed off. I said is enough and i am not proud of what he is doing is a fake shit for me. I am done with him and i am so much better now. I tried to make him happy so hardly while he seemed so depressed, but he just needed to show up public and talking small talk with half strangers. Big fat slap in the face with wet towel.
Don't mean to be rude but you have a Thinker vibe. You don't seem warm to me. Perhaps you are an INTJ?
+Irving Malcolm Cáceres no problem, I have a very strong TI, not TE, plus I am leavin out all my FE out in these videos specifically since I want to get my points out. I am professionally typed as INFJ and if you watch more videos I am sure it will become more apparent :)
+INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem Ok =)
+Irving Malcolm Cáceres It's because her tertiary function is Ti (introverted thinking). A common mistake that people make when typing other is assuming their tertiary function is their dominant function because both functions tend to appear together. In reality, the psyche tends to grab for the tertiary function because it has the same (introversion-extroversion) orientation as their dominant function. For an INFJ, it can cause them to appear analytical (and not much like a feeler) but in reality it takes a lot of energy to sustain the tertiary function and it can burn the user out if they indulge it too much.
Irving Malcolm Cáceres
Ni
I'm INFJ, as well my mother is.
We both are beyond analytical (since early childhood), it doesn't affect our energy.
you’re actually a genius
You’re describing my relationship with my best friend in a way that makes me uncomfortable 😆😬 The detail and specificity is unnerving... and I am freaked out to follow your advice!! If I tell her I don’t believe her bullshit will she ever talk to me again?! Omg... 😂😜
Thanks a lot because I’m an infj in an enfj relationship.
You could not be more wrong about ENFJ
Yeah, what you describe is a more ENTJ, commander characteristic. ENFJ are very considerate with others actually!
Wing Sum Tsui "Considerate" is a subjective term. What ENFJ sees as being considerate, the INFJ can see as masterful manipulation to get a certain result. We can see motivations in others where you don't. This video was from an INFJ to other INFJs to show how to create a boundary when dealing with a type that is forcefully "considerate". That type sometimes doesn't realize that being considerate and good has its limits, because it's subjective truth to them.
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MJ Lewis thanks, it's from IKEA :)
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Try to use functional/IME dynamics instead of Socionics' poorly substantiated Reinin dichotomies; makes types super rigid and impossible to account for their natural idiosyncrasies.
I don't like how infj's treat enfj's
I believe I am an ENFJ but thought I was an INFJ for a long time. You make so many good points here and I'm feeling blind-sighted - wanting to understand better what I'm doing. What does it look like that I'm creating my own world with my Ni and how do I Know the difference between that and my own mental reality? What does it mean that who we are is having Fe and Ti present and what does healthy Ti look like for ENFJ? Can you point me to some good information or do a video on ENFJ? Thanks so much. Very insightful.
I don't think you know/interacted with well adjusted ENFJs
Fu S No, I haven't. I am sorry if this is the way this all comes across...the thing is that I think INFJs ego and ENFJs ego can clash, if we expect each other to see the world the same way. If both types are aware of themselves, their needs and their boundaries it can be a great beneficial relationship.
Thanks for the reply. The reason I stated this is because happy/well adjusted ENFJ's don't feel the need to manipulate or paint a false perception. Also as both are intuitive I would have thought INFJ's would understand and have more empathy regarding unhappy ENFJs. Anyhoo we are all entitled to our own viewpoints
@@Wenzes This video helped me immensely. I'm and INFJ Male and my ex was an ENFJ. It was just like this, and it wasnt so much that was were immature, but like you mentioned, we clashed.
Wenzes ?❤
You are really an ?" 0ld ?' Soul " !!! I love your videos !
Thank you 😊 glad you like them!
INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem...
Could you present some examples of the general principles and experiences you discuss in your video? A lot of what you discuss is clear enough but at the same time nebulous. Could you concretize some of your thoughts with specific examples and/or anecdotes?
This isn't criticism as much as it's me just being wildly fascinated by the things you discuss; to the extent that I really want to get into it even more and feel some more concrete examples of what you describe, as your descriptions are obviously very Ni dominant, meaning that they are rich and compelling but also assume a lot of the listener (challenges the listener).
Here is just one of the things I'd be interested to know more about specifically: "..but we know that they're [ENFJ's] never going to be able to convince us of that vision, so they try even more, they try to be more controlling, they try to create a better world so that they can really get that across."
Could you give us a specific example of this happening in your experience?
Also, based on this message, can you guess my type? :D
+TheOriginalGankstar it is just that our NI, as in our own vision, is always going to be stronger than that of the ENFJ. It is much more dominant in INFJs. Same goes with FE, I can try to show the ENFJ that I value external harmony, but I am never going to be that aware of it as an ENFJ would.
+INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem
Say an ENFJ (or anyone) questions or even attacks your "vision" (say, a forecast on a future trend in X area) based on some brainstorming they've done which highlights some thing that the more highly focused and single-minded NI of the INFJ might miss. How would you generally deal with that? I realise that's potentially quite personal.
Wow. I get everything now lol
This is so interesting because my younger brother is ENFJ and I have always thought he is one of the "best" persons I have ever met...just naturally "good" in a way I am not, as you were explaining. So, to all those out there, it is very possible to have a good (actually GREAT) relationship with ENFJs you just have to accept that they are better people than you :)
+Danielle Thomas I think we can be colder in a sense than ENFJs but that doesn't have to be a bad thing. I don't think that makes ENFJs 'better' people than INFJs...that is what I used to think and therefore I let the ENFJ in my life get away with too much which wasn't healthy for either one of us. I think we have to include ourselves in the circle of life and understand that we should all have the same rights and we all have to have to set boundaries in order to get our needs met, that is something I definetely learned from ENFJs.
+INFJ:BelowtheRadar-AbovetheSystem yes of course! Like I said, I can't relate to that type of conflict so it's really more of a light-hearted joke. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Thank you for these videos by the way. They are really helpful!!!
+Danielle Thomas :)
You are so wrong it's not even funny. Infj thinks of self as Gandhi princess... Enfj is love princess. If you need to prove yourself that's on you.. No enfj is coming toward infj as that way. You just called them fake and creating a world of lies. What a biased perspective... Don't feel pressured to change yourself. If you feel less good, go talk to an enfj and they will explain why that's wrong..
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are you sure you are not confusing ENTJ with ENFJs? And Fe with Ti?
that was an exceptional video ! I always know when I'm in the presence of an ENFJ - i can sniff them out for you !!!! keep me posted.....
So im farsighted but I'm purposely wearing goggles?
How do you give Ni?
It depends on who you are asking ;) For ENFJ it looks like they are projecting this future image of who they are for INFJs it looks like "freedom" to project whatever the other one wants to see about their future and life 😉
@@Wenzes I'm kind of getting it but can you put it in an example using INFJ and ENFJ. I really have had the worst luck with ENFJ your video captured it so well I just want to enjoy their company :)
So let's say you meet an ENFJ who thinks you are only a good person if you are vegan. They will hold on to that and only accept people in their life who share this belief system (this is just an example, I am not saying all ENFJs are like that) - then an INFJ enters their life who loves steak. The INFJ wants to give the ENFJ all the freedom in the world (giving the ENFJ the opportunity to live out their NI) to live out their truth even if that means that they give up eating steak. The ENFJ though won't accept anybody as a good person who doesn't internally believe that being vegan is the only choice (sticks to their FE and projects their worldview NI). Disclaimer: This is just an example and is not supposed to make one type look better than the other one. What both types could to better in general: INFJ: don't give up your own believe systems so often to accommodate others. Others have no chances to know who you are if you do not stick up for your own believes even if the other one disagrees. ENFJs: be mindful that you are missing out on opportunities and people if your believesystem is too narrow.
This makes a lot of sense. Whenever I'm around them I tried to accommodate them because I wanted harmony but the more we interacted it felt like there was this "goodness" I couldn't step out of. Eventually passive agressive started bubbling and it seemed like no matter what i did it was viewed with the most negative assumptions. How do you get ENFJ's to open up about themselves they like to "know" me but they dont like to be "known"
Best way is for you to be honest, so to show them even sides of you that you know they are not gonna like. The more you are "really" being authentic (so showing also your "not so perfect" sights) the more they open up as well.
me and my brother :(
This haircolour really suits you.
Too confusing