I’m and ENFJ and my boyfriend is an ISFJ and he always jokes about my “cocktail talk.” He always say I could keep up a conversation up with a wall 😂 idk, that is just how I am and I wouldn’t change a thing!
As an ENFJ of that was so accurate! I never understand how people don’t organise birthday parties and fun, exciting social gatherings. I’ve never been invited to any, I’m always the one organising everything. However, in a weird way I really enjoy organising these things and making people happy. Sometimes I find it hard when people don’t put so much back into a friendship as a put a lot of effort into these things so learning more about different personality types really helps.
same. sometimes i feel like it's a one sided friendship. I found out it's because as enfj's we can either love 0% or 100% so we throw ourselves into the friendship. they love it at first and try to keep up or some may even take advantage but at the end of it they get used to the love we give and take it for granted. just remember, our love we give is not the same love they give, people have different ways of showing love, especially introverts. :)
I am ENFP and I am not a good party host, but I often took action to bring people together. Go for a drink or in a pizzeria in group after Italian course ... Start a get together for media freelancers in my city ... and so little came back. Last year I got in contact with an untypical ENFJ. Inbetween I even asked myself if he could be ESTP because he was impulsive and pushy (loops are similar). Maybe he needed holiday from his life and all the demands on him ...
As an enfj I hate parties, but I have no problem attending one. That's why I can understand those who don't like to attend, some prefer something quieter and that's fine.
I'm An ENFJ! And Omg Yesss It's So Hard For Me To Quit. I Basically HATED College And Wanted To Quit Many Times Bt Something Wouldn't Let Me. I Think It's Because I Really Enjoyed & Was Passionate On Aspects Of My Major (Public Health). I Also Loved Taking Extra Classes On Art History, Psychology, And Education!
I am an EFNJ and my husband sadly passed away was an ENFP so we really had so much in common and loved fun and adventure .He was totally disorganized but it didn’t matter. Between us we managed to get through just about anything. Thankful for ENFP’s full of Joy!
It's because we spend so much time in conversation. If I mysteriously know something about what's going in Belgium or whatever, it's probably because I had a long conversation with a Belgian last week, lol.
I'm an ENFJ, and I'm fairly new to the Myers Briggs personalities concept.... I've never felt so understood, my entire life. I can't wrap my head around that, it seems like everything about me is outlined to an insane degree of accuracy. I've always felt alone with my burden to help the world, and at times the responsibility felt like too much for me to handle alone, especially with the constant reminder that no one else seems to care at all. Knowing that I'm not alone is a great relief 😊 However, because of how precisely these personality traits seem to describe me, I now almost feel like a cookie cut mould, taking all of my individuality away. 😒 Its truly beyond me, how I can be ALL of these traits of this type, and not just a random complicated output, due to unique DNA, Upbringing and life experiences. HOW!? 🤷♂️ If you're an ENFJ and you've made it this far into my post, and would like to get to know another ENFJ, please get in touch, as i'd like to get to know and understand you, and dissect each others personalities. -Jerome 😊
Jerome, just because you share these traits with 3% of the worlds population, does not mean you are not uniquely you. You are. You have your own interests and goals and values. The personality traits are just pretty much how we process them. I am an ENFJ. I always thought I was an Introvert but since taking the test and doing some research I had to say, I was wrong. I still can do public speaking in front of a lot of people but that is my own self confidence issue and maybe I should work on it. anyway....Hello from one weirdo to another!
@@suzannasmith6265that was a great respond🙌🏻💯 Have a great day And as reminder to any Enfj reading this : you got this and it’s never to late to start again and be a better version of yourself Keep going💪🏻
So true! I'm ENFJ and that's spot on about the desire of stability and organisation when at the same time have a hunger for new experiences, challenges and travels =) Also is true that ENFJ can be very commitment and truly cares for each one around
For my fellow ENTJ 1.they like to party 2.they genuinely want great experience for everyone 3.they are organized and adventurous 4.can be conversed with a wide variety of topics 5.they dont/rarely quit.
Great video man. I'm an enfj and id say all are spot on. One thing I'd add is we have particular interest in science and psychology. In so far as it provides us with a mental framework of understanding the people around us. You can say bolsters all we learn about people to logic. But ya everything else is right on. I like how enfps can be so spontaneous and quick to find new ideas. It's very charming as well. This is one of the downsides to having Ni, we are exceptional when we focus but only at a specialized few ideas.
Right before you said, “you might hear...” I said, “just don’t quit.” Then you said, “don’t quit.” Bottom line. I’m an ENFJ and I approve this message.
Strengths of ENFJ: 1. strongly people-oriented, so ENFJs like to host or attend social events. ENFJ authentically want people around them to enjoy themselves . 2. Balanced organization and adventure. ENFJs want adventure AND can plan the logistics of adventures. 3. Strong aesthetic eye and often have a lot of knowledge about certain interests, e.g. psychology theories. 4. Discipline and commitment. ENFJs tend to have a strong Why and so tend to keep going after what they want until they get it.
As an ENFJ I have the heart of a teacher/trainer/mentor. It brings me a lot of joy to help others learn and succeed. And yes, I love hosting a conversation and then taking a step back and watching folks interact and feeling good that i helped facilitate this interaction!
ENFJs find people endlessly fascinating. Some people hate small talk and cocktail talk, and find it shallow. But I love it. People are always giving you clues about themselves as they talk. It’s like treasure hunting.
As an ENFJ, you are spot on. Thank you 🙏. Relentless motivation is definitely a trait. It can be great and it can also be harmful to us. It is awesome at work. I have struggled in relationships with letting go and “giving up” on someone because I see their potential. Letting go of people that are hurting me has been a struggle as an ENFJ. Otherwise, I love being an ENFJ. I do enjoy going to parties and I love meeting new people.
I am an ENFP and my girlfriend is a ENFJ and it’s really intresting because I can see how we are very similar in most aspects except in college she has good grades and I’m over here trying to go and do something adventurous instead haha
I’m an ENFJ-T. I finished high school and completed two bachelor degrees and always get asked “how did you do that?” Many friends have admired my success but I couldn’t have done it with out all of them along the way. Very accurate to this personality type.
What I always say: “see I’m like weeds, no matter how hard you try, you can’t kill. Once I settled for something I will stay there” Or “just like a phoenix, I rise from my ashes again. Every failure becomes knowlegde for the next time”
ENFJ here. I don't think those things make ENFP's look bad lol We all have qualities that are necessary for the world. The free spirit and enthusiasm of the ENFP are lovely :-)
Fellow ENFJ here - so true! I think we are all into psychology. I've met other ENFJ's who I can talk to about both metaphysics, psychology, and esoterics. I'm always shocked at how deep we can get into the subject! It's because we love to know how people tick or think; the reasoning behind peoples behaviors. It's because we feel/absorb peoples emotions and/or pick up on them easily, but we also love to process them and make logic of it all. We also tend to put others feelings before our own, and even when we decide not to (for example - setting boundaries), we do so in the most graceful manner as possible. We like to be very upfront about our feelings when can, but sometimes it comes out more in our words, than actions. The "J" in us likes to have things settled and leave no room for misunderstanding. The biggest offense we could take is when people doubt our values and principles ....which we hold very deeply! Often find myself thinking, "Why would someone assume that of me? I'm not that type of person!" Many of us are honest and straightforward, but it's this extroversion of our personality and adaptability to environments which makes people sometimes assume we are not being genuine, when in actuality we are being genuine. We just have multiple facets to us, or duality in a sense. I've had people tell me - "You act different when around this person vs this other person." And it's not that I'm not being my true self at all times, it's that "adapting to the environment" or other person we are interacting with which is our way of showing we care. Also depends on how comfortable we feel opening up around others about certain things. If we pick up on the fact someone doesn't like discussing deeper meanings of life, we will discuss whatever they are interested in - even if it's mathematics or what they did this morning. We go with the flow! But overall, we love to bring out the best in others, and love showing people their true potential by always saying, "You'd be great at this, or that....you would make a fantastic this or/that....I'm so proud of you! I have a lot of respect for you...." and so forth. Because there's nothing better that can improve the world more-so than others being their best self, truest self, and following what makes them passionate.....this in itself can change the world. About myself; I have an identical twin sister and she is an INFJ. She always tells me, "You're definitely a game-changer and don't see it." This is because I advocate for niche and/or group of people in a field that is rarely discussed. I generally don't like being front and center, but when it comes to a cause and standing up for others, no matter how rare of a niche, I care about it and want to make a difference in my community/profession, and for future generations. Mainly because of been there and back....through hell and back....like the Lord of the Rings "There and back again..." hahaha. Life is too short, so might as well leave the world a better place than where you left it.
Sometimes I'm too honest with my own thoughts and I communicate about that. If I don't like some kind of behaviour of a person, I let me grow balls and talk to his face, more in a diplomatic way of course :-) Often I talk too much, this is rather annoying for some people. High moral standards and expect the most people to comply with that, otherwise I get angry. Well and not to forget: If you know your weaknesses just stay cool, accept yourself and lough about yourself :-)
the amount i talk is always based on the situation, people and enviroment. If i talk with friends in a familiar enviroment then i can talk alot, if I feel uncomfortable i can talk but not alot. just depends on the atmosphere. i dont let my mood affect talking, especially to those people i love, i simply cant help it.
Haha I really loved this! It's accurate! I always thought it was a contradictory thing to want stability and adventure. :P I'm glad there are people who admire it.
I love seeing a vidoe about ENFJ when somebody just says: "Hey! This is great about you!" And not be like: "Yeah, they are caring but just annoy people with that. Charismatic? Maybe but also have problems with making decisions." Thank you.
I am an ENFJ. Actually the test I took said I was an ENFJ-A which I don’t know what the A means. Everything in the profile seems correct except that I do like time alone and the profile seems to indicate that I wouldn’t. P.S. I liked your video, I found it very interesting. Thank you.
We are extremely stoic and resilient. We might get badly bruised by toxic people and carry the odd scar but we will come out of it wiser and that inner light will shine even brighter. Peace!
As an enfj, I think you covered your bases pretty well. I had a nice laugh when you mentioned having good lengthy conversations. Keep up the great work! You asked one thing to comment on if you know / are an enfj so here you are. I feel like my Ni can be super organized but only if I really care enough to become organized. I'll always have an agenda and the metaphysical parts of my life are very organized but I can't keep my shit together in the real world. My room is a mess.
I am an ENFJ and I get really irritated when people do not do what they say they will do. I am successful because I do not quit. If I get knocked down, its ok because I will get up again. Showing up and meeting your commitment is an important part of gaining success and it sucks when people don't do it.
I am a Gen X ENFJ-A. All those points you shared are spot on. While it may appear that we are 'partiers', we just really like to be around activity and people. Definitely not the center of attention but making sure everyone is having a good time. Another interesting skill or quality is the ability to read people very quickly. Seeing opportunity to engage and finding common ground with minimal effort. Always on the lookout for those seeking help or guidance, in which I can use my experience to share. The desire to continuously find solutions and make people better. Turning bad situations into more positive perspectives. I love to mentor, coach, and counsel. I am currently a corporate trainer/HR. A very positive mindset and willingness to bring people up who are struggling or just having a bad day. Thanks for the video. Peace.
Spot on. I've done 7 years of work as a freelance UI designer, have an extremely high standard and keen eye for anything artistic from interior design to painting (rendering), and so on, as well the noted "Cocktail talk" though I've never perceived it as such. For instance, my want to constantly learn more will lead me down unending rabbit holes, from the aforementioned design to computer part fabrication and coordination, or the nuances of each political position I find in say an online test like isidewith, and of course tons of others, with there always being a great deal of retention others seem to lack (At least on such a broad spectrum). Great vid!
ENFJ here. So let me return a compliment. Yes, you ENFPs can upset our schedules with your impromptu ideas, lol. But that actually works great for us. Here's an example of me planning a night out with the girls: "Ok, so we'll go get something to eat first (get feedback from everyone about where they want to go), then we'll do a little barhopping until midnight or so, then we'll play it by ear." I'm actually relying on you, ENFP, for the "play it by ear" part. And I'm totally jazzed about it. Thank you!
This is so weird. I’m an ENFJ. My mentor had me take the personality test to help me with my strengths and weaknesses and I was really surprised how spot on it was. I really feel good about it! It’s like someone actually knows who I am... :)
Oh god yes. I'm an ENFJ, and "stop being so dramatic" makes my blood boil, lol. If I'm being dramatic, I have a reason. Just trust me and nod sympathetically.
Spot on! I have had various nicknames from people because they always seem to think I know everything! Glad I found your channels as well as some others because as an ENFJ I feel misunderstood in sometimes a bad way that makes people think I'm not sincere. Loving my fellow ENFJ folks in the comments!
I am ENFJ . Agreed on knowing what I want and I love determined - organized people (especially INTJ). But I realized that I can easily organize somebody, but not myself) I still need an advice or feedback from somebody to decide for myself. Also I hate people who are not reacting during me talking (I want a dialogue, but people like INFJ are dissociating and make my dialogie to become a monologue XD)
I also have a competitive side that is undying and I do not ever quit. What else do you do if you quit on something you truly can as value to? Don’t quit stay focused and your timeline can be different than others but as an ENFJ we are understanding things deeper than others so when our time comes it comes in big ways as long as we stay positive and trust the process. Enjoy the journey, hard times and good times. It’s all good for the end goal.
Oh my! You are so on point! I am exactly the one who host parties and invite family and friends to come over to eat while we watch a game, celebrate a milestone event or an accomplishment. Those who try to be shy I definitely get them smiling and talking. The go getter sure you bet. I’ll work every angle to get things accomplished with passion. Thanks for sharing!!
I am an ENFJ, this was great to listen to…. Who doesn’t want to hear good about themselves? However, the down side of being an ENFJ is learning when to let go of a situation that is not good for us…. Empathy and Altruism need a reality check with Fact vs. possibility! Thank you for your content! Very accurate😉
i am an enfj but i dislike meeting people or having group projects even tho im extroverted; i would rather stay at home or go out on my own, or do the project on my own, but i am good at connecting with people and understanding them, i am usually the one who starts the convo first when a new person comes, i can just go to people i see on street and tell them that their flowers are pretty etc. i was honest with the personality test i took but i am wondering if im introverted?
Hi! Im an enfj , and the cocktail conversation thing is spot on! I have memorized these "unnecessary and random but interesting facts" that I always share with my friends, the thing is I don't really know how I learned them? I mean I really like educational videos and reading about interesting topics but it amazes me that I have such a good memory for useless things
this was fucking awesome, goddammit why must the internet be so distant, i would really like to meet u, as an enfj i really enjoy listening to feedback so i can be better and stay positive, great job, the shit thing about us is, even if we don't give up, we don't do things as best as we can if we don't get feedback, kind of hate our self-fulfilling prophecy...
@@enfp i wish i could, i really really enjoy learning and finding a way to improve myself, just so i can be better at improveing others, im going to join as soon as i reach 18 years of age, for now, i have no cash hahaha
As an ENFJ I'm quite disappointed about little to no regard about fashion and the arts in some of the analysis of other videos talking about this type. I don't know if it's uncommon to our type since I've never met another ENFJ in my lifetime, (I did, just not in my circle, yet) But this video makes me not regret to pursue art anymore lol. Thank you!
I am also an ENFJ, this video resonates with me so well! For the part of the commitment maybe it would be better to add that an ENFJ go for anything if the vibes of environment matches with us. Otherwise it’s a red flag, it is all about the energy in the group and environment 😅
im 16 and an enfj and i have a best friend who an infp. the rest of our group are 3 other infjs. The infp is the only person i can be competitive with. I can be competitive with my other friends, BUT with my infp we go all out. I know she won't be salty if I win and she'll find another challenge to do. we always want to do the most in life. love her. btw am I the only enfj that's lowkey Competetive like im Competetive asf?
That was a very good video fun fact for those reading the comments ENFJ are the most introverted of all the extroverted personalities we all crave social activities but many of us don't like to party as much as you might think we very much value control and harmony being such strong empaths parties can be easily draining or overwhelming for us as people's emotions tend to be all over the place and drunk peoples actions can be somewhat unpredictable which can trigger are don't like conflict tendencies I personally have no problem with conflict but I do tend to withdraw in parties as there's just too much raw emotion however calmer parties are a lot of fun
@@enfp I will admit it is far less common I'm a bit of an oddball for my personality type but I do know other ENFJs who feel as I do in our cases we all have higher developed sub functions for me personally it took me a long time to really figure out if I was an ENFJ or an infj because of my recessive functions being so well developed
An ENFJ's line be like, "No one should be left behind". I dunno, that's jist what I feel.
I’m and ENFJ and my boyfriend is an ISFJ and he always jokes about my “cocktail talk.” He always say I could keep up a conversation up with a wall 😂 idk, that is just how I am and I wouldn’t change a thing!
Abigail Marina Thats funny! Lol.
Ik wut u mean hhhhhhhh they keep asking me how I find time but actually that's what I have learned from noticing ppl around me and listening to them
Omg I can relate!!😂😂😂
I’m an ENFJ and my wife is ISFJ!
I can talk to myself for years if nobody is there to listen to my circle conversations.
As an ENFJ of that was so accurate! I never understand how people don’t organise birthday parties and fun, exciting social gatherings. I’ve never been invited to any, I’m always the one organising everything. However, in a weird way I really enjoy organising these things and making people happy. Sometimes I find it hard when people don’t put so much back into a friendship as a put a lot of effort into these things so learning more about different personality types really helps.
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same. sometimes i feel like it's a one sided friendship. I found out it's because as enfj's we can either love 0% or 100% so we throw ourselves into the friendship. they love it at first and try to keep up or some may even take advantage but at the end of it they get used to the love we give and take it for granted. just remember, our love we give is not the same love they give, people have different ways of showing love, especially introverts. :)
Lol right!!
I am ENFP and I am not a good party host, but I often took action to bring people together. Go for a drink or in a pizzeria in group after Italian course ... Start a get together for media freelancers in my city ... and so little came back.
Last year I got in contact with an untypical ENFJ. Inbetween I even asked myself if he could be ESTP because he was impulsive and pushy (loops are similar). Maybe he needed holiday from his life and all the demands on him ...
As an enfj I hate parties, but I have no problem attending one. That's why I can understand those who don't like to attend, some prefer something quieter and that's fine.
You literally have just described my whole existence I felt quite understood thanks😄
I felt understood too cause I'm an ENFP and that is exactly how I would describe you
Same Here!
same
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SAME SAME
I'm An ENFJ! And Omg Yesss It's So Hard For Me To Quit. I Basically HATED College And Wanted To Quit Many Times Bt Something Wouldn't Let Me. I Think It's Because I Really Enjoyed & Was Passionate On Aspects Of My Major (Public Health). I Also Loved Taking Extra Classes On Art History, Psychology, And Education!
This proves you are an ENFJ allready alonguing and justifying and writing and writing🤣🤣🤣❤ENFJ are the best
@@joelhartman2312 🤣🤣🤣
Thought you said taking extra cheeeeese
I am an EFNJ and my husband sadly passed away was an ENFP so we really had so much in common and loved fun and adventure .He was totally disorganized but it didn’t matter. Between us we managed to get through just about anything. Thankful for ENFP’s full of Joy!
I'm sorry for your loss
I'm an ENFJ married for 35 years to an INFP. I don't know what I'd do without him, I'm so sorry for your loss, I hope you are doing well!
I'm an ENFJ and my friends always mention how many random things I know and that I always have something to say about everything hahhaa
It's because we spend so much time in conversation. If I mysteriously know something about what's going in Belgium or whatever, it's probably because I had a long conversation with a Belgian last week, lol.
I'm an ENFJ, and I'm fairly new to the Myers Briggs personalities concept.... I've never felt so understood, my entire life. I can't wrap my head around that, it seems like everything about me is outlined to an insane degree of accuracy. I've always felt alone with my burden to help the world, and at times the responsibility felt like too much for me to handle alone, especially with the constant reminder that no one else seems to care at all. Knowing that I'm not alone is a great relief 😊 However, because of how precisely these personality traits seem to describe me, I now almost feel like a cookie cut mould, taking all of my individuality away. 😒 Its truly beyond me, how I can be ALL of these traits of this type, and not just a random complicated output, due to unique DNA, Upbringing and life experiences. HOW!? 🤷♂️
If you're an ENFJ and you've made it this far into my post, and would like to get to know another ENFJ, please get in touch, as i'd like to get to know and understand you, and dissect each others personalities.
-Jerome 😊
Jerome, just because you share these traits with 3% of the worlds population, does not mean you are not uniquely you. You are. You have your own interests and goals and values. The personality traits are just pretty much how we process them. I am an ENFJ. I always thought I was an Introvert but since taking the test and doing some research I had to say, I was wrong. I still can do public speaking in front of a lot of people but that is my own self confidence issue and maybe I should work on it. anyway....Hello from one weirdo to another!
Sounds like the exact thing I was about to type! 🤣😁 hello fellow ENFJ
@@suzannasmith6265that was a great respond🙌🏻💯
Have a great day
And as reminder to any Enfj reading this : you got this and it’s never to late to start again and be a better version of yourself
Keep going💪🏻
So true! I'm ENFJ and that's spot on about the desire of stability and organisation when at the same time have a hunger for new experiences, challenges and travels =) Also is true that ENFJ can be very commitment and truly cares for each one around
For my fellow ENTJ
1.they like to party
2.they genuinely want great experience for everyone
3.they are organized and adventurous
4.can be conversed with a wide variety of topics
5.they dont/rarely quit.
Great video man. I'm an enfj and id say all are spot on. One thing I'd add is we have particular interest in science and psychology. In so far as it provides us with a mental framework of understanding the people around us. You can say bolsters all we learn about people to logic. But ya everything else is right on. I like how enfps can be so spontaneous and quick to find new ideas. It's very charming as well. This is one of the downsides to having Ni, we are exceptional when we focus but only at a specialized few ideas.
I totally agree!
Astrology for my enfj-ness! Of course I usually say that it’s not real but for psychology understanding
Oh my god i feel called out. I really want to major in psych just to want to know people better!
As an ENFJ-A I was just nodding like “ oop that’s mee”😌
Me too lol
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Hello soul sister ENFJ-A 🖐
I finally found another ENFJ-A ! Hello my friend!
I'm also an ENFJ-A and I feel like they were just talking about me
Right before you said, “you might hear...” I said, “just don’t quit.” Then you said, “don’t quit.”
Bottom line. I’m an ENFJ and I approve this message.
Strengths of ENFJ:
1. strongly people-oriented, so ENFJs like to host or attend social events. ENFJ authentically want people around them to enjoy themselves .
2. Balanced organization and adventure. ENFJs want adventure AND can plan the logistics of adventures.
3. Strong aesthetic eye and often have a lot of knowledge about certain interests, e.g. psychology theories.
4. Discipline and commitment. ENFJs tend to have a strong Why and so tend to keep going after what they want until they get it.
As an ENFJ I have the heart of a teacher/trainer/mentor. It brings me a lot of joy to help others learn and succeed. And yes, I love hosting a conversation and then taking a step back and watching folks interact and feeling good that i helped facilitate this interaction!
ENFJs find people endlessly fascinating. Some people hate small talk and cocktail talk, and find it shallow. But I love it. People are always giving you clues about themselves as they talk. It’s like treasure hunting.
As an ENFJ, you are spot on. Thank you 🙏. Relentless motivation is definitely a trait. It can be great and it can also be harmful to us. It is awesome at work. I have struggled in relationships with letting go and “giving up” on someone because I see their potential. Letting go of people that are hurting me has been a struggle as an ENFJ. Otherwise, I love being an ENFJ. I do enjoy going to parties and I love meeting new people.
That’s actually cute😭🙌🏻🤍
I hope you’re doing great
And you got this keep going it’s never to late to start again, to be better version of yourself
I am an ENFP and my girlfriend is a ENFJ and it’s really intresting because I can see how we are very similar in most aspects except in college she has good grades and I’m over here trying to go and do something adventurous instead haha
It's a good combination :)
I’m an ENFJ-T. I finished high school and completed two bachelor degrees and always get asked “how did you do that?” Many friends have admired my success but I couldn’t have done it with out all of them along the way. Very accurate to this personality type.
what careers did you go into?
Pretty accurate! It's hard to find someone with a different personality who really understand us. Thanks, man!
As an ENFJ, I had so many crushes on ENFPS in cartoons, animes and stuff. Never thought ENFPs view us like that 😂
Omg wait til you meet one in real life!!! Fireworks immediately 🤩
What I always say: “see I’m like weeds, no matter how hard you try, you can’t kill. Once I settled for something I will stay there”
Or “just like a phoenix, I rise from my ashes again. Every failure becomes knowlegde for the next time”
I am an ENFJ and I have never felt so understood till I found this video 🧡 so accurate ! Haha
ENFJ here. I don't think those things make ENFP's look bad lol We all have qualities that are necessary for the world. The free spirit and enthusiasm of the ENFP are lovely :-)
Fellow ENFJ here - so true! I think we are all into psychology. I've met other ENFJ's who I can talk to about both metaphysics, psychology, and esoterics. I'm always shocked at how deep we can get into the subject! It's because we love to know how people tick or think; the reasoning behind peoples behaviors. It's because we feel/absorb peoples emotions and/or pick up on them easily, but we also love to process them and make logic of it all.
We also tend to put others feelings before our own, and even when we decide not to (for example - setting boundaries), we do so in the most graceful manner as possible. We like to be very upfront about our feelings when can, but sometimes it comes out more in our words, than actions.
The "J" in us likes to have things settled and leave no room for misunderstanding. The biggest offense we could take is when people doubt our values and principles ....which we hold very deeply! Often find myself thinking, "Why would someone assume that of me? I'm not that type of person!" Many of us are honest and straightforward, but it's this extroversion of our personality and adaptability to environments which makes people sometimes assume we are not being genuine, when in actuality we are being genuine.
We just have multiple facets to us, or duality in a sense. I've had people tell me - "You act different when around this person vs this other person." And it's not that I'm not being my true self at all times, it's that "adapting to the environment" or other person we are interacting with which is our way of showing we care. Also depends on how comfortable we feel opening up around others about certain things. If we pick up on the fact someone doesn't like discussing deeper meanings of life, we will discuss whatever they are interested in - even if it's mathematics or what they did this morning. We go with the flow!
But overall, we love to bring out the best in others, and love showing people their true potential by always saying, "You'd be great at this, or that....you would make a fantastic this or/that....I'm so proud of you! I have a lot of respect for you...." and so forth. Because there's nothing better that can improve the world more-so than others being their best self, truest self, and following what makes them passionate.....this in itself can change the world.
About myself; I have an identical twin sister and she is an INFJ. She always tells me, "You're definitely a game-changer and don't see it." This is because I advocate for niche and/or group of people in a field that is rarely discussed. I generally don't like being front and center, but when it comes to a cause and standing up for others, no matter how rare of a niche, I care about it and want to make a difference in my community/profession, and for future generations. Mainly because of been there and back....through hell and back....like the Lord of the Rings "There and back again..." hahaha. Life is too short, so might as well leave the world a better place than where you left it.
Wow that was pretty good🙌🏻❤️
Keep going and you got this
Have a nice day
Sometimes I'm too honest with my own thoughts and I communicate about that. If I don't like some kind of behaviour of a
person, I let me grow balls and talk to his face, more in a diplomatic way of course :-)
Often I talk too much, this is rather annoying for some people.
High moral standards and expect the most people to comply with that, otherwise I get angry.
Well and not to forget: If you know your weaknesses just stay cool, accept yourself and lough about yourself :-)
That happens with me too
the amount i talk is always based on the situation, people and enviroment. If i talk with friends in a familiar enviroment then i can talk alot, if I feel uncomfortable i can talk but not alot. just depends on the atmosphere. i dont let my mood affect talking, especially to those people i love, i simply cant help it.
Haha I really loved this! It's accurate! I always thought it was a contradictory thing to want stability and adventure. :P I'm glad there are people who admire it.
I'm an ENFP, my daughter is ENFJ. She's like me only better!!!💖💖💖
As an ENFJ, thank you! Great video, accurate points (especially #2 very spot on)! Looking forward to your next videos about us!😊
You're very welcome. Looking forward to filming them and would love any suggestions for topics.
I am ENFJ! This video is so good and well done. I think ENFJ is the most sensitive and kind because of the fact that we wan't hurt anyone
ENFJ'S are really dependant on relationships, so if they go bad it really hard for them to deal with
I love seeing a vidoe about ENFJ when somebody just says: "Hey! This is great about you!" And not be like: "Yeah, they are caring but just annoy people with that. Charismatic? Maybe but also have problems with making decisions." Thank you.
Finally we get some appreciation. People tend to forgot us I think
I am an ENFJ. Actually the test I took said I was an ENFJ-A which I don’t know what the A means. Everything in the profile seems correct except that I do like time alone and the profile seems to indicate that I wouldn’t.
P.S. I liked your video, I found it very interesting. Thank you.
We are extremely stoic and resilient. We might get badly bruised by toxic people and carry the odd scar but we will come out of it wiser and that inner light will shine even brighter.
Peace!
As an enfj who bicycled thru Europe with my enfp friend I agree.
As an enfj, I think you covered your bases pretty well. I had a nice laugh when you mentioned having good lengthy conversations. Keep up the great work!
You asked one thing to comment on if you know / are an enfj so here you are. I feel like my Ni can be super organized but only if I really care enough to become organized. I'll always have an agenda and the metaphysical parts of my life are very organized but I can't keep my shit together in the real world. My room is a mess.
Every time I see Dan I’m like DAAAAN THE MAN WITH A PLAN! Lol
Enfj here who works in fashion. You hit the nail on the head.
I am an ENFJ and I get really irritated when people do not do what they say they will do. I am successful because I do not quit. If I get knocked down, its ok because I will get up again. Showing up and meeting your commitment is an important part of gaining success and it sucks when people don't do it.
I am a Gen X ENFJ-A. All those points you shared are spot on. While it may appear that we are 'partiers', we just really like to be around activity and people. Definitely not the center of attention but making sure everyone is having a good time. Another interesting skill or quality is the ability to read people very quickly. Seeing opportunity to engage and finding common ground with minimal effort. Always on the lookout for those seeking help or guidance, in which I can use my experience to share. The desire to continuously find solutions and make people better. Turning bad situations into more positive perspectives. I love to mentor, coach, and counsel. I am currently a corporate trainer/HR. A very positive mindset and willingness to bring people up who are struggling or just having a bad day. Thanks for the video. Peace.
Ridiculously accurate!
ENFJ here! Pretty good video I enjoyed your perspective and actually feel identify it. Thanks!
Glad you enjoyed it! :)
I am an ENFJ, and i hate small talk. I long for meaningful and deep conversations.
Spot on. I've done 7 years of work as a freelance UI designer, have an extremely high standard and keen eye for anything artistic from interior design to painting (rendering), and so on, as well the noted "Cocktail talk" though I've never perceived it as such. For instance, my want to constantly learn more will lead me down unending rabbit holes, from the aforementioned design to computer part fabrication and coordination, or the nuances of each political position I find in say an online test like isidewith, and of course tons of others, with there always being a great deal of retention others seem to lack (At least on such a broad spectrum). Great vid!
ENFJ here. So let me return a compliment. Yes, you ENFPs can upset our schedules with your impromptu ideas, lol. But that actually works great for us.
Here's an example of me planning a night out with the girls: "Ok, so we'll go get something to eat first (get feedback from everyone about where they want to go), then we'll do a little barhopping until midnight or so, then we'll play it by ear." I'm actually relying on you, ENFP, for the "play it by ear" part. And I'm totally jazzed about it. Thank you!
I’m an ENFJ. You’re description is so accurate it’s scary!
As a ENFJ I found this description a 10/10. Thanks for uploading it! :)
As an ENFJ I feel understood ! Thanks for this video !
You're so welcome, Deborah!
I guess I understand why I often am very intuitive of what others are thinking/feeling
ENFJ and I am the shit lol I feel validated and appreciated. Well done captain! Well done 🙌👏👏👏👏
I just discovered that I'm an ENFJ and all this sounds spot on!
I’m an enfj and I loved this ✨ thanks for sharing! I could relate so much with many things and it made me feel good ☺️
Awesome to hear Gabrielle and welcome :)
Amazed about how accurate this discription was. Me all the way.
This was so amazing! I'm not good at cocktail conversation, but I wholeheartedly agree with everything else! Thank youu
Hi I'm an ENFJ from México and I really like this video is amazing, thanks!
As an ENFJ I love knowing everything. It helps to form bonds with others and gives me a view point into others perspectives.
This video reminded me to get back to my commitment 🔥
Glad it's helpful :)
Ughhh, I’m an ambivert... so I’m not a social person. I fall under ENFJ ... but i also get INFJ.... so I’m so confused..
What tests were you using?
I'll suggest you to have multiple tests with different questions. Hopefully that'll be helpful.
This is so weird. I’m an ENFJ. My mentor had me take the personality test to help me with my strengths and weaknesses and I was really surprised how spot on it was. I really feel good about it! It’s like someone actually knows who I am... :)
We like to party with people who are mentally present with us. Quality time. Not quantity time.
I agree!
It's just scary how accurate this is
"He can make friends with a rock" -my mom
Never say.."Stop being so dramatic." even though we clearly are 😜
Oh god yes. I'm an ENFJ, and "stop being so dramatic" makes my blood boil, lol. If I'm being dramatic, I have a reason. Just trust me and nod sympathetically.
Spot on! I have had various nicknames from people because they always seem to think I know everything! Glad I found your channels as well as some others because as an ENFJ I feel misunderstood in sometimes a bad way that makes people think I'm not sincere. Loving my fellow ENFJ folks in the comments!
I am ENFJ . Agreed on knowing what I want and I love determined - organized people (especially INTJ). But I realized that I can easily organize somebody, but not myself) I still need an advice or feedback from somebody to decide for myself. Also I hate people who are not reacting during me talking (I want a dialogue, but people like INFJ are dissociating and make my dialogie to become a monologue XD)
I also have a competitive side that is undying and I do not ever quit. What else do you do if you quit on something you truly can as value to? Don’t quit stay focused and your timeline can be different than others but as an ENFJ we are understanding things deeper than others so when our time comes it comes in big ways as long as we stay positive and trust the process. Enjoy the journey, hard times and good times. It’s all good for the end goal.
Im an ENFJ and that was the most accurate video Ive ever watched!
Oh my! You are so on point! I am exactly the one who host parties and invite family and friends to come over to eat while we watch a game, celebrate a milestone event or an accomplishment. Those who try to be shy I definitely get them smiling and talking. The go getter sure you bet. I’ll work every angle to get things accomplished with passion. Thanks for sharing!!
I’m a financial advisor ENFJ, coaching is our gift.
I'm an enfj and we love giving gifts
I am not into parties but even in highschool I loved going to school and even now in university
Lol: I am an ENFJ and I am a flight attendant..kuddos for me i guess lol
I'm an ENFJ and avoid conflict (or love harmony :-)) and have difficulty keeping from being distracted. I'm a better teammate than a boss.
I am an ENFJ, this was great to listen to…. Who doesn’t want to hear good about themselves? However, the down side of being an ENFJ is learning when to let go of a situation that is not good for us…. Empathy and Altruism need a reality check with Fact vs. possibility! Thank you for your content! Very accurate😉
i am an enfj but i dislike meeting people or having group projects even tho im extroverted; i would rather stay at home or go out on my own, or do the project on my own, but i am good at connecting with people and understanding them, i am usually the one who starts the convo first when a new person comes, i can just go to people i see on street and tell them that their flowers are pretty etc. i was honest with the personality test i took but i am wondering if im introverted?
Take the Enneagram test, too. I’m ENFJ 4w3; you sound like me. I’ve always been a loner but blossom around a group of people.
I am enfj but I am a bit uncomfortable in new environments
I like everyone to come to my comfort zone, I guess these stems from past trauma
No wonder why I love throwing parties haha. This is definitely me
I’m an enfj, this makes total sense. I don’t quit and usually will die before I quit on my dreams
pls don't devalue yourself to make us feel better man don't forget what you have achived
that commitment thing was right on spot ...I always answer people like that XD
Hi! Im an enfj , and the cocktail conversation thing is spot on! I have memorized these "unnecessary and random but interesting facts" that I always share with my friends, the thing is I don't really know how I learned them? I mean I really like educational videos and reading about interesting topics but it amazes me that I have such a good memory for useless things
this was fucking awesome, goddammit why must the internet be so distant, i would really like to meet u, as an enfj i really enjoy listening to feedback so i can be better and stay positive, great job, the shit thing about us is, even if we don't give up, we don't do things as best as we can if we don't get feedback, kind of hate our self-fulfilling prophecy...
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@@enfp i wish i could, i really really enjoy learning and finding a way to improve myself, just so i can be better at improveing others, im going to join as soon as i reach 18 years of age, for now, i have no cash hahaha
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Truly appreciate this!
Enfj here, this is definitely me!
I am an ENFJ and agree with everything you said
As an ENFJ I'm quite disappointed about little to no regard about fashion and the arts in some of the analysis of other videos talking about this type. I don't know if it's uncommon to our type since I've never met another ENFJ in my lifetime, (I did, just not in my circle, yet) But this video makes me not regret to pursue art anymore lol. Thank you!
I am ENFJ the most interesting thing about this personality is that they know it all due to empathetic nature they can absorb all energies.
Aaaaaay, as an enfp I value stability (si) and adventure too (ne). Lol.
I am also an ENFJ, this video resonates with me so well! For the part of the commitment maybe it would be better to add that an ENFJ go for anything if the vibes of environment matches with us. Otherwise it’s a red flag, it is all about the energy in the group and environment 😅
ENFJ here! Spot on!
Great video 🥰🥰
Thank you 🤗
Great video dude! Keep it up.
Thank you, thank you!
I'm an ENFJ, who doesn't party much.... Or at all lol
I don’t either bc I am Christian but I do LOVE hanging out with people! A lot!
@@Michael-vz3wn What do you like to do?
@@Michael-vz3wn what does being a christian have to do with not going to parties?
Im a ENFJ and related to every single thing you said
Thanks Kazi
Wow. So informative! This is beautiful. Thanks!! #GiveLove
You're welcome! :)
*mic drop*
A spot on reading! To the tee.
Bro you just described me 😂❤️
im 16 and an enfj and i have a best friend who an infp. the rest of our group are 3 other infjs. The infp is the only person i can be competitive with. I can be competitive with my other friends, BUT with my infp we go all out. I know she won't be salty if I win and she'll find another challenge to do. we always want to do the most in life. love her.
btw am I the only enfj that's lowkey Competetive like im Competetive asf?
That was a very good video fun fact for those reading the comments ENFJ are the most introverted of all the extroverted personalities we all crave social activities but many of us don't like to party as much as you might think we very much value control and harmony being such strong empaths parties can be easily draining or overwhelming for us as people's emotions tend to be all over the place and drunk peoples actions can be somewhat unpredictable which can trigger are don't like conflict tendencies I personally have no problem with conflict but I do tend to withdraw in parties as there's just too much raw emotion however calmer parties are a lot of fun
I'm fairly sure that isn't true :)
@@enfp I will admit it is far less common I'm a bit of an oddball for my personality type but I do know other ENFJs who feel as I do in our cases we all have higher developed sub functions for me personally it took me a long time to really figure out if I was an ENFJ or an infj because of my recessive functions being so well developed
any ENFJ hate college but love the people!?!