INTJ female here. You INFJs are so cute and fluffy without being stupid. I have two close INFJ friends and I just want to box them off so that the world won't poison my precious cupcakes
FourLeafPoker lol. Infj here. I always get told I am adorable and cute because of the way I present myself and how I express myself. Always wondered why I get told that, but just learned my type and can I understand that now.
To be honest, we INTJs are not that "highly" intelligent. It's just that, we just get curious really quick, which leads to us critically analyzing and studying things we are curious about, which then leads to us understanding those things. We can also present the things we study critically in a clear, organized, and smart manner, which gives people the impression that we are geniuses, which is often not.
Shhhhhh dont give away the secrets ;) you're right though, my iq is only 110 barely above average, but people are always impressed by all the things I know about, because 99% of my thoughts are questions that i'm trying to find answers to. My family thinks I'm the next Neil Degrasse Tyson. Lol iq definitely isn't everything but I'm sure it helps.
When people say (to me as an INTJ): "Is something wrong?" or "You're always so serious" or even "Why do you never smile?" When I'm literally doing nothing, just standing there or minding my own business. No negative emotions at all, I'm just doing whatever needs to be done
I am an INTJ and I smile all the time, mostly from me finding humor in everything though, one time in my chemistry class my professor said that if you drank one of the acids it would melt your insides and you would die and I audibly laughed at it, so there is that.
I can understand why INTJ's might like you. You have this clean and pure feeling. Not loud, but polite, well spokenly humble, really chill. :) Admirable! Stay yourself!
@Joen Delfiero absolutely. An INTJ would have figured it out.😊 & still played it the whole 9min, because you appreciate the better things in life. & judging by the observations skills, the original comment guy is ENTP.
We INFJs are very soft for INTJs since you guys are misunderstood most of the time and we know that feeling all too well and have great similarities between us we love understanding your minds because we’ve got each other’s back
I'm an INTJ, my husband is an INFJ and we get along really well. On dates, we just drive out to the library parking lot with the sunroof open and talk and talk. H'es my best friend. Great combo.
As an INTJ, the problem I find is that, basically if I voice an idea or type a sentence, some folks react to me as if I just murdered their cat. I've never really understood this, because I never get enough info to even start to figure out what it is I'm doing wrong.
i know what you mean. i like target shooting as a hobby, the way others like golf. of course the same old gun debate comes up and people say guns kill people, then the predictable people kill people is thrown out there. when i say, "no, you are both wrong, the bullet does all the damage." stating the obvious always brings out the speechless stares.
+Ian C I have the same problem. People have a hard time taking what we say lightly, for whatever reason. When people get mad at me, I tend to post this. It often relieves a lot of tension when they realize it's nothing personal. thomaslauer.com/start/How_to_handle_an_INTJ
+Julien Lombardi (Battista) i either always think everyone is always joking, OR i always think everyone (who is actually joking) is actually that stupid. not being able to tell makes me feel stupid and i hate it. i'm just too used to sarcasm and stupid people.
I'm an INTJ and my girlfriend is an INFJ, she once said to me "Don't worry, you can analyze for both and I can feel for both", I really will marry her. Update: Sorry guys. We didn't marry. My job dragged me around the world to different countries, and she was still in collage, she wanted to quit to be with me and I forbid it, so she could finish her carreer. Now she is a doctor. I lost her, but I think I did the right thing, sometimes I doubt it however.
INTJ here and the only thing that really upsets me is when I'm talking to someone who I think is really smart and then suddenly they say something completely stupid with utmost confidence and I'm like oh well there goes that.
well we certainly work towards perfection, but are of course fallible which is why I called out the logical inconsistency aka hypocrisy of the OP...ironically they were quite confident in blathering that nonsense...
Most INTJ don't show their emotion during the first time they meet people because we don't want to show our soft side. Hiding your emotions is like hiding your appearance against a potential enemy. I'm not saying that INTJ always act like that but sometimes pretending to be a cold person makes you know which people you can trust. I like people who can understand my crazy ideas and able to give me a good suggestion about it. As an INTJ I have difficulties in communicating my ideas. A friend who can understand me without asking to much is a valuable gift for me.
Me too, I'm INFJ... I kinda face the similar problems like you (but my dominant function is Feeling, either you, an INTJ is Thinking). Everytime I walk around, surrounded by lots of people (including family), the truth is, I cannot being satisfied deep inside, I must put this emotionless and cold-hearted facial expression, so they wouldn't know what's hidden through my mind, at least forced themselves read my whole brain schemes (duh). Meanwhile, they do not want listening carefully every philosophical idea, every heavy talk (worldwide issues or something shows an enormous correlation with science/literature/history/etc) that I firmly believe it would be my ONLY 100% needs. Until I lived now, I'm not be able find a friend who wish sharing same interests nor ideas as mine. Behind my back, they often complaining me because I love stay tuned on Natgeo, Discovery, also Animal Planet (that's no more than particular entertainment I've got, plus it pleased me much). Huhhh, it's hard, dude!
Kenneth Ultimate I've come to find that playing the weak is better than playing the strong. People will immediately let their guard down if they don't consider you a threat and with time give you tools to hurt them, if necessary.
I love telling intjs stories of stupid people i know because it causes them to go on a rant and intj's are hilarious when they are angry and dealing with stupid people. I recomend going to an intj and asking a stupid question. Their wit is hilarious.
I've been asked so many times if I am 'pissed off' or 'angry' when I am just looking around and thinking. Not even angry at all... Yeah, our resting face looks kind of scary, hahaha.
It's the look of deep contemplation. Something many don't/can't practice enough to know it's the same look on their face when they do. My favorite part is the look of amazement on their faces like I've pulled a rabbit out of my butt when I've come up with the answer they couldn't even have conceived of.
Oh yes, INFJs are actually Thinkers, while INTJs are really Feelers. Because of the INFJ's Ti function that is inward, and the INTJ's Fi function that is internally-directed! Thanks for this video Melody!
Simba yea i can tell this intj boy really likes me but im not sure if its as a friend or more than a friend. i only like him as a friend but i like to talk to him a lot and sometimes i just try not to talk to him because im afraid of being too close to him. im somewhat popular and sociable and he gets bullied because of his smarts, if i was seen with him people would attack me
I am an INTJ male and my wife of 7 years is an INFJ. We are great together. Pros and cons: Some Pros: 1.) We both love to be at home together more than anywhere else on planet Earth. 2.) We both love to talk deeply together for long periods of time about things that interest us. 3.) We are both EXTREMELY loyal to each other. As an INTJ, I consider finding a suitable wife a goal that has been accomplished and requires no further attention. 4.) We both understand firmly in each other the need to escape from annoying busy social situations. When one of us is uncomfortable, the other knows why and empathizes. No relationship is perfect, so here are some cons: 1.) I like to talk about my interests a lot, not really so great at the "listening to her interests" sometimes, unless they interest me - she is a great listener. I am trying to be better at this. 2.) My interests are very expensive, and I will stop at nothing until the goal has been reached. This has taxed the finances at times. 3.) She needs more attention from me than I of her. I am perfectly content sitting for weeks in my studio. She is more fidgety and cabin-feverish and needs time with me outside of the house, which I can consider a distraction sometimes. It annoys me sometimes, but I have to remember that is what she needs. And 99.9% of the time, I enjoy the time out anyway....it's hard for me to switch though. Neutral: 1.) She cares more about how other people feel than I do. This is both good and bad. Good in that I don't care at ALL about what people think of me, or us. I am way more secure with ourselves, where she can tend to think too much about what others might think of us. On the other hand, she is warmer with others and is better at understanding what they might want or need in a situation, whereas I am pretty unapproachable in those settings unless you want to talk about the exact thing that interests me. Overall: We are a great pairing and I love her very very much. I am thankful I found someone who understands me so much. We have great capacity to overcome our challenges together.
I'd definitely like to meet an INFJ. From what I've read and from watching your videos and some heartbreak comics by an INFJ, you guys seem like really nice people. Subtle, humble and emotionally expressive but not loud. I definitely share a likeness of your thought process. - INTJ
Great video, Melody. It matches my own experiences as an INFJ with an INTJ best friend. Our friendship was a catalyst for mutual personal growth, and there's a natural comfort and understanding that goes deeper than INFJ-ENFP connections. INFJ-ENFP feels more like mutual curiosity and attraction, while INFJ-INTJ is an experience of deep empathy -- we're on the same wavelength thanks to dominant Ni. INFJ-INTJ can coexist in empathetic silence, or get into Ni-Ni riffing that feels like a mind meld. We INFJs also notice that INTJs are using Fi behind the scenes, and they notice we're using Ti. The mutual comfort and respect wouldn't exist if we thought INTJs were psychopaths, and they though we were idiots.
I am an INTJ and my husband is an INFJ. Now I understand why he always wants to be home around me. He has told me several times that he feels relaxed around me and that he can be himself. I wish I could tell you the story of how we met for it is stranger than fiction. Everything went perfectly without a glitch. To be succinct, I made him take the personality test before I even agreed to meet with him on our first date! I knew exactly what I was looking for in a man (INFJ, ENFJ, ENFP and ENTJ were the only types that interested me and I was focused). I was overjoyed to learn that he was an INFJ. We have been married for 9 years now, created an awesome ENTJ daughter together who is 5 years old and I am in awe with his commitment and dedication to our relationship. I am very lucky to be married to an INFJ.
hey Roopa Dudley, I heart you because my husband is INTJ and I'm an INFJ. I want to always be around him, one of the reason is because I feel so relaxed and comfortable to be around him. Not only that, as an INTJ he's so intelligent and that's why I love him so much
Roopa Dudley thanks for sharing your story. I think an INFJ likes me and I've had some reservations about pursuing seriously but your words brings comfort. I don't want to like him (I know it probably sounds weird) but I do :)
Yeah, I feel like INFJ is the best personality mesh ive found in a girl (I'm INTJ).... Like you said about the unspoken calm. Its a pretty awesome thing, and no matter how silly i might find the INFJ sometimes... I never lose respect for them, they are very well intention people, and INFJs appreciate/have fun with the ideas a INTJ has instead of rebel... The unspoken, telepathic word thing is magical.
INTJ here. A few thoughts. I think the reason you don't have to perform with INTJ's is that we are freethinkers so we aren't that concerned with or judgmental about aspects of people we find superficial. We are more worried about the substantial things. I think many of us actually care a lot about relationships and will invest quite a bit in the important ones. But we are just very selective about which ones become important because it takes too much energy to invest in too many of them deeply. I agree INTJ's are very strategic and strong at following through with plans.
INTJs are confident... about how right we are, about everything. To us, everything is just a series of interconnected systems. We can see the end result of all actions provided we are sufficiently interested in said system, be it a job, a hobby or another person. Also not that we are mean, we just have two moods, obsessed or entirely uninterested. When we are uninterested, don't be surprised if we have no time for you.
Im INTJ, I like to think of myself as a Linux system thats always upgrading software versions, and everyone else is either stuck on memory hogging windows Vista or on windows 8 which still hogs resources and very few with updated versions but not as efficient as Linux. Just an analogy
+Dayan Yamin I wish I were in your shoes right now. Literally. I want to be a computer scientist. :D I'm an INTJ! Female at that. Crazy how these personality types are spot on o-o
I'm an INTJ and my best/only female friend is INFJ. I thought I was INFJ but realized how different we actually are in so many ways. Like you she has a very calm energy/presence and is very articulate and interested in philosophy, which she is studying actually. I am much more dominant, science-minded/clinical, more of a leader/alpha, resting-bitch-face, am asexual and hate being touched by ANYONE except my pets/partner. My long-term partner is an INTP, which is fantastic for me as we both are very logic-driven and love intense conversations about politics, science, social justice, environmentalism, dystopian future. We are both anti-children/status quo but have very strong ethics/principles which are unwavering. I am extremely hungry for information to the point that in the past at university, I went for 3 days working on a project without eating/drinking as I was too busy studying and blacked out from exhaustion/dehydration. I MUST have alone time, most of the time to focus on learning and information gathering. When i'm with my INFJ friend, she balances me out and brings out my warmer side. We are both EXTREME introverts and are happy to see each other once every few months, which actually feels perfect. We both never pick up the phone and hate venturing out. When we do, we get lost in adventure/conversation for about 6-8 hours at least, then back into the cave again. Animals are my true companions, and books.
It was a nickname my friends gave me 11 years ago. They've basically used it as a way to stay close. And I use it in modeling. So. That's that. But if we want to get technical, on written tests, I'm INXX
Maybe it's just with me but I think INTJ's have complex emotions and thoughts attached to those emotions, much deeper than it appears. We have feelings, we just often choose not to show them.
Yes, but they stay in your heads, and that is the problem. INTJs are the most likely to be narcissistic as well. That is a sign of shut down emotions that are not acknowledged. I think this is a difficult area for them and why they tend to focus on
From Murz i agree with you. I mean of course we have emotions, and we dont always act like cold emotioneless people . I personally find that specific emotions esp negative or hard ones , are more difficult for mw ti cope because of how complicated i view things
people always use those things against you. So don't give them ammo. That thing about narcisism is just plain wrong. INTJs don't even have instagram to begin with
In this case i wish I were Intj 😅 i can’t „choose“ to not show emotions... I can’t control them... they Control Me and it really sucks bc they don’t make fucking sense and are make Me soooo damn tired 🤦🏼♀️
I am an INTJ and my husband has said multiple times i come off as cold hearted and blunt. I agree that a lot of the stuff i read about INTJ personalities are negative. But there are so many great things about having an INTJ personality. I dont know about other INTJs but the most irritating thing for me is pretending to be enthusiastic about things I find so damn frivolous (like small talk conversation) It is exhausting! Another thing that is so annoying is when we are quiet, people automatically think we are mad. Like, no man we are just thinking, calculating, analyzing!! lol
what was negative about intj personality ? I have seen a lot of people claiming to be intj and have terrible personality, but from what I read the intj cognitive function should be the goal of any sentient being. I think intj should become the borg and make resistance futile.
I'm not a robot because a robot doesn't have my gift of scathing sarcasm. I try very hard to be nice to others, but there are times when it manages to slip out.
Heh, there was a clip of Robbie the Robot from way back when in which he said to a woman, "You are fat," in that monotone he had. His human companion said to him, "That's not nice, Robbie, apologize to the lady," and Robbie said, "I am sorry you are fat." So robots CAN be sarcastic, if only in fiction.
The creepiest thing I have done as an intj: All my friends have separate file folders on my computer. It's a quick reference guide to everything about them. I let slip and said "ok I'll put that in the (friend's name) folder". I was asked questions. I did not answer, and was able to change the subject.
INTJ checking in!. I feel like INTJ and INFJ are very similar. I feel like INFJ are much more presentable than INTJ in initial social conversation because of your warm and friendliness on the outside. I agree like INTJ look kind of cold on the outside because we aren't that aware of our external senses. When we have that cold look, we are either confused, not interested, or we are just thinking about something at that moment (like about 70% of the time it's most likely we are thinking about something at that moment. Holy crap, I think a lot). Our minds tend to drift to another world sometimes haha. Yeah...our minds need to be stimulated. I also agree as an INTJ, I'm not cold on the inside. I do care about certain people in my group, but sometimes we just have a harder time to express our emotions and we want to express them to people who we trust and care. Yes... INTJ have feelings. We love to write things on paper, jot down notes, and form a list of stuff on paper beforehand too haha.
That is what I've noticed, INTJs are more geared towards caring about specific people. And in regards to the "resting bitch face", I have an INTJ friend who has this and it's not like anything is necessarily wrong, but they're thinking about something. I have grown accustomed to it, although early on I would think something is wrong or they were not happy.
intjs are like coconuts and we are like peaches. know the difference? :) just cause we're friendly doesn't mean we welcome people into our lives. coconuts are more sincere btw.
Herotruth she doesn't strike me like being super hot sexy girl. I'm sure she can be, but in this video she's just adorable. She looks like she's from anime.
Both myself & my younger sister are INTJ type & we often are asked about the "Death Gaze", "Angry Stare" or "Resting Bitch Face". My sister's response to one inquiry was classic. "Yes, I have RBF, resting bitch face. Would you care to see the transition to Active Bitch Face?"
Wonderful video. :) My older brother is an INTJ and our relationship is one of the most understanding and visceral that one could think of. What I do really admire about them are that they're able to separate their thinking and feeling functions whenever we discuss any political/spiritual topics, not to mention their strategic mindsets that almost see everything like a puzzle or problem to be solved. They really do make some of the greatest friendships for an INFJ, especially when we can exchange/discuss different types of ideas (I wouldn't be surprised if that would set off a universe-destroying chain reaction, lol).
Nicholas Dawson yes I could not agree more with everything you said:) I actually wish I knew more INTJ females because I think we would get along great and be really good friends:) Haha and I totally know that dark weird sense of humor you are talking about! One of my friends can actually be really quirky and super blunt haha. Thanks for your comment:)
Miss Melody One of my closest girl friends is an INTJ, and I totally agree with Nicholas Dawson when it comes to the INTJs sense of humor and the dynamics of the INFJ/INTJ relationship. My INTJ friend is one of the few people that I feel I can be completely myself around, and I think a lot of that comes from the fact that she doesn't need the kind of emotional support that a lot of my other friends do. I feel that we can both be really honest with each other and not be offended by it, so we can have real conversations without having to tiptoe around certain subjects or issues.
The resting bitch face is certainly true. I'm an INTJ female and once I laughed loudly at a joke and I literally saw five heads turn towards me in surprise. They were so surprised that I showed emotion; I didn't know whether to laugh or cry xD
Female INTJ here, that bit about the resting bitch face is definitely true for me. To be honest, I do it purposely at times, especially in very social types of situations (like being out on a crowded street or train/bus, which happens often since I live in NYC). I do it to deter people from talking to me and it usually works : ) but I'm really not a mean person at all, at times I actually despise how caring and considerate I am deep down.
I can relate to it.. That's our empathy as you mentioned. But I know that not everybody deserves my empathy so I keep it under check. It helps a lot in protecting my sanity and avoiding fake people.
I must thank you for this video, one of the few that I have actually found appealing amongst an awful lot of other rubbish about people like us. It's nice to see a perspective of INTJs in a more friendly manner rather than just talking about our introverted problems. Without being told I'm a heartless, cold and lonely bastard :)
My old sister is an INTJ and I can say they are not cold, it's just that their soft side and their feelings work and are displayed in a different way from what we're used to see. But it's there. It shows, only differently And they love very deeply
Im an INFJ, and I had an INTJ childhood best friend. INTP is more of the machine mind. INTJs are experts of knowledge, and INFJs are experts of people, together theres no stopping them.
Serious, cold, perverted, too smart, half-criminal, have you ever talked to more than one? Usually pretty lazy but when up to speed I over ambitious, people start hating me for being too damn good, everyone starts being your enemy when you start reading and learning too much no matter how nice you are, world tries to equalize you and bring you down to their level, it's war against mother earth, triumph and win and don't give in.
At work I am constantly being isolated for this same reason. I have been working on multi-million dollar corporate projects in a team of 30+ people in the same room and I always end up getting isolated because people don't understand how I know things and get very intimidated of me (especially the managers, program leaders, and other people of my same level!). It is in our nature to be independent, so the best thing I have found to deal with it is to fall back on the fact that I know i have a ton of ambition, and coupled with my knowledge, I will see opportunities that others don't and will get what I want in the end anyway. Small rant over :)
As an INTJ I must say I really enjoyed your take on "us". I can definitely see how you would get along with INTJs and vice versa. It's nice when someone understands, or at least is open minded about, how we present ourselves inside and out. Lastly, I love your hat. It works. :D
I love you! You get me! :-) I am a female 49-year old INTJ. I remember in my early twenties, I finally realized that I had this sort of 6th sense that NEVER did me wrong. Prior to that, I would try to make decisions based just on my feelings or Te and I would make mistakes but as soon as I realized that my Ni was TUNED IN to some force bigger than myself, I began to give it my full trust and attention and make all my decisions based on that. I literally have never since made a mistake when using my Ni. Also, my Mom was an INFJ. I love you guys. Thank you for the the sweet things you said about us INTJs. I think we are pretty sweet too, quite sensitive and tender-hearted actually when we care about you. Also, at least for me, I think INTJs are very driven to make the world a better place and I personally spend my whole life on a mission to do that with my goals. I think we are lucky to have INTJs in the world. :-) You INFJs are quite special yourselves!
Good job. As an INTJ, I think my favorite types are INFP and INTP. INFP are definitely judges, as hero Fi is constantly judging others. They're just quiet about it. INTJs with parent Te, just externalize that judgement: e.g we cannot suffer fools. But yes, we also feel deeply with innocent child Fi: but resources are limited, so it's typically reserved only for people we care about.
Thank you for this video! As an INTJ, it's so refreshing to come across a positive video about us. And you're right, when we care about someone we want to know everything about the person and take note of all the things they like/don't like. I guess that can come off a bit weird because my friends and boyfriend are always surprised by how well I remember the smallest details about them even years later.
I appreciate your comment about how INTJ's aren't "cold" to everybody. I think you hit the nail on the head. We care very much about the people we feel it worth our time to invest in.
You know what I find about INFJ's I've known? (You even seem this way sort of) You're never sure if they are very mature or like adult babies. I guess they look like super mature babies. It's cute though.
Many of us can be very childlike. It is that Ni-Fe idealism that we have in us, which resembles a child's idealism. But it is always in us. If you ever meet an INFJ child though... at least with me, at my healthiest I was always quite grounded in reality. My Ni was too refined and powerful to live in too much fictional fantasy, I desired truth and to live in accordance with the truth. I desired always to come back to reality. I realised that there was real hurt in the world, so I desired often and earnestly to come back to it. What I dived into was my Christian Faith. If only I had received early teaching in the matter of Doctrine, no telling how much of a useful tool my imagination could have proved to have been in the advancement of my Faith, and of hope, and of healing and reaching into the brokenness of the people that I came in contact with. For the real end of imagination is understanding of deep, rich, real, and true beautiful spiritual ideals, which in the Christian
religion are understood as realities finding their actuality in God. It is no mere coincidence that the philosophical school referred to as Idealism is at many times and in many places considered virtually synonymous with a Christian philosophical perspective. I would have been able to do some real good as an “alien”, because of my Faith more than my personality, if I had a more fleshed out understanding of reality, better categories fed to me from an earlier age... Good solid Trinitarian Doctrine, ancient creeds, and beautiful liturgies. I'm an evangelical Christian, and have been since my rebirth when I was 5, about to turn 6. For Christian virtue, compassion, and love is informed by the deep doctrines of the Faith, for the central tenet of the Christian Faith, that God is Love (not that love is God, that is to make God something abstract, mushy, and relative, because then He would be made irrelevant) being made most clear, along with the nature and kind of that Love,
in the Doctrine of the Trinity - that God is a Loving Relationship between Three Eternal Persons sharing One Essence before all time, the First Family - and the Doctrine of the Incarnation, because of which by Marriage to the Lamb, which is made possible by the self-giving sacrifice of Jesus, we are welcomed into that Eternal Relationship, this Eternal Family, which has existed before the beginning of the Universe. We are brought into the Family Business of that Family, which is the Business of Love, of healing, of forgiving, of redeeming, of reconciling, of peacemaking, of sacrificing self-interests and self-needs for the sake of other people. That's why Doctrine matters, and why I wish that more of my imagination had been put to that end - the contemplation of the Love of God - so that I would have been better able to understand how I myself am to be or at least present that Love to other people, so that I could have known better how to put it to use.
You just described the relationship between me and my best friend perfectly. I feel like he is the key to unlocking my "true" personality, no homo. The comfort I find being around INTJs is that we both know whats up, that the need for small talk is completely irrelevant, and that we're both in it for the real stuff. Great vids btw! Please keep making more videos it's so nice to hear fellow INTJs.
Good observations that ring true in my experience. I am an INTJ and dated an INFJ for a couple of years. Our greatest disconnect was over emotions, she needed emotional information and I couldn't provide it unless asked. Even then it might take a couple of hours to develop an accurate description for precisely what I was feeling. We get along better since breaking up, and it's good not to have lost a friend. "The face", as my sister calls it, is also interesting. It takes the place of many expressions such as concern, fear, sadness, interest, anticipation, anger, concentration, or just sitting and thinking. The INTJs that I know are all very caring people and will go great lengths for the small groups of close friends that they make, people they respect or even strangers. They just probably won't mention that it was them. Thanks for digging below the surface.
Typically, I find INFJs very compelling I think I'm drawn to their sweet and kind demeanor. I believe their personalities compliment the INTJ's behavior well, as we our known to be cold and the INFJs are very warm and comforting individuals.
Woah I am INTJ and everything your said is so correct. And it also warmer my heart how nice you were I'm so glad that someone understands us like this. Tysm for making this❤️
I really appreciate your video. Over the last few years I have probably taken 10+ tests along with further research just to make sure and have come to the conclusion that I am an INTJ ~85% of the time while the other ~15% being ENTJ. I never really understood myself very well and now with all of this information it's great to finally have some better perspective. Going off of that, I love your opinion and it really speaks true to/for me. Just wanted to thank you.
From what I remember Ni (Introverted Intuition) is logic outside of facts. Ni still has logic to it, just without all the necessary data to prove it's theory. Also the NTJs naturally robotic but still somewhat pluged into the world. It takes someone captivating enough to get the NTJ to invest in them long term. And NTJs are usually not impressed because our standards are high, but in that same breath we hold ourselves to the same standard we hold other's to. Even more so difficult the INTJ Vs the ENTJ because the INTJ is more focused on the world within one self while the ENTJ is focused on the world outside of one self. But that does not mean there cannot be a balance because ennagrams also can cause a shift in the percentages of preferences. The NTJs are seeking depth, in things and people, lack of depth is lack of their interests.
There are many people knowing few INTJs. How it is possible ? I am an INTJ and i usually sit in my home i have 33 years old and i had a chance to met better around 200-300 people in my life. Through this time i never met one.
As an INTJ, I treat people as a reflection of my own moral standards rather than how that person is acting. I really go out of my way to not make any decisions without emotional interference and I always try to stay level headed regardless of how I feel. I've never fit in and that is fine for the most part. The world is not made for people like us.
Awesome take on INTJs from your perspective as an INFJ! I'm an INTJ and one of my best friends is an INFJ (female). Not necessarily having to talk to each other even if we're in the same room (she was my roommate for a year) is true for us. But when it comes to engaging in deep discussions, what I finally realize is that our dominant + auxiliary functions tend to complement one another & have significant roles in contributing to a discussion. As an INTJ, INFJs are interesting to be friends with. p/s: the resting bitch face part is true. i get that a lot. haha. but ever since then i make an effort to light up my facial expressions upon 1st meeting. :)
Have known I was an INTJ for 5 years now. I find INFJ's infinitely interesting so I'm always trying to understand them. I only know 2 (1 male the other female) and one spoke w/ me about how the psychic mind works which I loved hearing about from an expert. I look forward to future videos.
As INTJ, I can guarantee you that we’re are not emotionless people, I feel very strong emotions but there’s this disconnect between the feeling and the expression, I believe most of not all INTJs wants to be socially accepted and even popular, but we’re socially awkward are easily drained by people talking things with little reason to care about, and therefore we mostly prefers solitude. Commitment is something of great value to me, I therefore don’t invest on others or take risks easily, like what I’m about to do here; I apologize if I sound a bit egoistic, no means to offend anyone.
Great video, thank you for sharing! I am an INTJ and after diving back into myers-briggs again, I have a newfound appreciation and love for you INFJ's, you all are fascinatingly smart and articulate and a rare breed. It's suspected that Christ himself was an INFJ, so I shouldn't be surprised.
Thanks for sharing your dating experience with an INTJ! Since I've always wondered what a date with an INTJ would look like, it was really interesting to find out from your perspective! Writing down what your interests were was such a sweet, thoughtful idea! I'd love it if someone did that for me! Thanks again for the great information!
I need to create structures in my mind so I can classify and categorize my relationships. Once, a few years ago, a friend asked my opinion about a certain aspect of her life. When I shared my thoughts with her, she said, "You are correct, but I feel so objectified."
I’m INFJ and my fiancé is INTJ. He can seem very emotionless at times but he has a lot of empathy and deep feelings for others. He just expresses them differently.
Wow! Glad to listen you, Miss Melody, I've recently read about INFJ personality type and I consider that it's the best personality for me, despite for INTJ like me other types are recommended (ENFP or ENTP) and I am happy to listen that a INFJ lady like you like INTJ personality, so that make me suppose that I'm not so lost in my way of thinking.
I'm an INTJ and people feel comfortable around me because they know I either don't care about their attempts to impress me, or because they know I can see right through it and then will call them on their shit. I've had friends come see me after a while away and start to act the way they would around others (either being overly animated or acting a certain way), at which point I look over at them with a slightly judging face as to say, "Are you fucking kidding me?" Then they stop and we just relax. It's nice, actually. People come to me and ask me for advise on things that confuse them. The main problem is that they also get a little irritated that I like staying home, I hate going to social events with lots of people (concerts or crowds bug the ever-living shit out of me), and sometimes just don't reply to them straight away (or at all, though I'm trying to work on that). I just like my space and like being alone sometimes (sometimes a lot of the time). I don't know if they think I'm mad at them or they think I'm flaky. I constantly hear, "You never go out." and think to myself, "Yeah, it's amazing!"
I am married to an INTJ. INTJs do pay A LOT of attention, if you are deemed worthy of their attention. They are extremely loyal and thoughtful friends. Totally, The Ni function as a lead function is often confusing for other types and is the rarest, so when it is encountered, is most likely somewhat unexpected. I personally know 5 INTJ women, (and 5 men, off the top of my head). -- which is a little insane given population numbers.
Wow what a thorough, thoughtful, intelligent, accurate analysis. This is amazing. I love it. So many precise truths. I relate so much. And you're gorgeous. I would date you in a heartbeat. -INTJ
oh we are very cold and dismissive...unless we respect you. if we don't respect you, though, we will have you questioning your life and if you even truly exist lol
Finally someone who doesn't speak of INTJs as hungry for power, I'm a INTJ and I don't manipulate people. I love my originality and my personality and for me it's very important make myself happy, but I try to do it without hurting other people :))
Thank you, just because you don’t understand that feelings don’t have to be expressed doesn’t mean they don’t exist. If an INTJ does you a favour (usually without ever being asked) you know they care about you. Believe it or not we are almost never thinking about ourselves.
L M Ok then Mr or Mrs stereotype. You do know MB is a spectrum and not set in concrete right? And you do know it's impossible that all people fit into 16 categories and there are bound to be people who fit more than type right?
L M Exactly. But this astrology is more fluid than people think. Think of it like ancient mbti. I see these things as lenses to see the world and myself through it helps me point out my own flaws and strengths and work on them. Each day i work on my big picture vision and perspective shift capabilities, never completely ruling something out without running it through my mind again and again. Quick question was school too easy for you as it is with me? I have also realized that the way in which the academic systems are set up and the way subject matter is taught 6/10 ten times is useless to us intj's since we are so rare.
hainley simpson Sure but astrology cannot predict anything that's the main issue I have with it, it simply doesn't work like that, to hold a mirror up to yourself OK but not too determine anything. In regards to school I like physics and maths and just good enough in other areas to get into a respectable university. Although I understand what you're mean "useless to us" because that's precisely what I think about English and I constantly complain about that such thing. So I do well in maths areas. Also am I an intp or intj do you think?
L M I know, it's impossible to predict the future, but you can predict a persons reactions if you watch them long enough. I don't like most things that are mainstream, there was a time when it was used to help people effectually, but like anything most humans touch it gets fucked up and shitty. Same thing happened to Christianity.
As an INTJ blend with INFJ (but more INTJ) I think where we come across as cold, is when you have no acceptance with us, yet you act as though you do. We can't stand pretenders acting as though they're our best friends, because we know it's phony, and we may demonstrate that in a rather cold manner because we think you're fresh basically. I don't think we will automatically rule out a former pretender just because they were phony once, because we all make mistakes, but if our judgement is of any importance whatsoever with that person, they best not repeat such a thing with us, or at least wait until they have much more groundwork laid.
I am an INFJ and my brother is an INTJ. It was really interesting to hear your insight about perception of INTJs, and I feel similarly in a lot of respects
if I may know, what age are you? I started having a lot of great friends as I got to college, I found some similar minded people that actually interested in my ideas
36, served in both Navy (5 years) and Marine Corps (4 years). Talking to you irritates me not because you do not understand what I just said, it is because you want to defy and ignore it.
I agree. I have only one person I consider a friend, but I'm rethinking it because she is becoming extremely frustrating to relate to. I like deep relationships and I'm discovering that she is shallower than I'd hoped, she flips out when I try to get deeper and I just don't see how the friendship can last. If I hadn't known her for ~12 years, where we had fun childhood adventures, I would have stopped trying already. Some (or most) are content with being mediocre and INTJs just aren't, I think that breaks a lot of our relationships.
Several online tests said that I'm INTJ, and I totally agree with your opinion. There are many misconceptions about INTJs. For example, INTJs don't have feelings... We DO. What is more, I think some INTJs can be sensitive.
I am an INTJ and I truly have only met one female ENFP and she was the only person that I would describe as a sort of "Love at First Sight" when I met her.
INTJ female here. You INFJs are so cute and fluffy without being stupid. I have two close INFJ friends and I just want to box them off so that the world won't poison my precious cupcakes
FourLeafPoker lol. Infj here. I always get told I am adorable and cute because of the way I present myself and how I express myself. Always wondered why I get told that, but just learned my type and can I understand that now.
That's true they are v fluffy
FourLeafPoker lol😂 my hubs is intj. I love him. I'm infj
Sen Palpatine yep
INTJ male here... Why aren't there more of you? Haha
To be honest, we INTJs are not that "highly" intelligent. It's just that, we just get curious really quick, which leads to us critically analyzing and studying things we are curious about, which then leads to us understanding those things. We can also present the things we study critically in a clear, organized, and smart manner, which gives people the impression that we are geniuses, which is often not.
Aulvikdngr So true.
Collateral Benchmarks HD True. I've never seen an INTJ who isn't.
Shhhhhh dont give away the secrets ;) you're right though, my iq is only 110 barely above average, but people are always impressed by all the things I know about, because 99% of my thoughts are questions that i'm trying to find answers to. My family thinks I'm the next Neil Degrasse Tyson. Lol iq definitely isn't everything but I'm sure it helps.
Aulvikdngr Well, technically INTJ's have the highest collective IQ of all the types... just sayin'.
Spencer Vaterlaus Collectively, but individually, our IQs vary greatly. And that's where the mystery on our intelligence kicks in. ;)
When people say (to me as an INTJ): "Is something wrong?" or "You're always so serious" or even "Why do you never smile?"
When I'm literally doing nothing, just standing there or minding my own business. No negative emotions at all, I'm just doing whatever needs to be done
From Murz true
From Murz yes so true! It is agitating
Yep
I am an INTJ and I smile all the time, mostly from me finding humor in everything though, one time in my chemistry class my professor said that if you drank one of the acids it would melt your insides and you would die and I audibly laughed at it, so there is that.
Yap
I can understand why INTJ's might like you. You have this clean and pure feeling.
Not loud, but polite, well spokenly humble, really chill. :)
Admirable! Stay yourself!
@Joen Delfiero absolutely. An INTJ would have figured it out.😊 & still played it the whole 9min, because you appreciate the better things in life.
& judging by the observations skills, the original comment guy is ENTP.
Agreed
We INTJs have a soft spot for INFJs
Ren Giron funny. Me and hubs are infj/intj
oh yeah, INFJ's usually seem a bit fragile to me.. brings out our protective side. (but note: INFJ's can be very strong ppl inside!)
We INFJs are very soft for INTJs since you guys are misunderstood most of the time and we know that feeling all too well and have great similarities between us we love understanding your minds because we’ve got each other’s back
+Insfires man!!.. yeah right on buddy :)
My sister's an INFJ and I definitely agree!! Their strong moral code and emotions are just fascinatingly cute
I'm an INTJ, my husband is an INFJ and we get along really well. On dates, we just drive out to the library parking lot with the sunroof open and talk and talk. H'es my best friend. Great combo.
An intj female and infj male !!! Rareeee
As an INTJ, the problem I find is that, basically if I voice an idea or type a sentence, some folks react to me as if I just murdered their cat. I've never really understood this, because I never get enough info to even start to figure out what it is I'm doing wrong.
i know what you mean. i like target shooting as a hobby, the way others like golf. of course the same old gun debate comes up and people say guns kill people, then the predictable people kill people is thrown out there. when i say, "no, you are both wrong, the bullet does all the damage." stating the obvious always brings out the speechless stares.
+John Does that is a joke, in case anyone who has had their humor gland depleted
+John Does Do INTJs have trouble getting it when someone is joking? It happens to me quite often.
+Ian C I have the same problem. People have a hard time taking what we say lightly, for whatever reason. When people get mad at me, I tend to post this. It often relieves a lot of tension when they realize it's nothing personal.
thomaslauer.com/start/How_to_handle_an_INTJ
+Julien Lombardi (Battista) i either always think everyone is always joking, OR i always think everyone (who is actually joking) is actually that stupid. not being able to tell makes me feel stupid and i hate it. i'm just too used to sarcasm and stupid people.
I'm an INTJ and my girlfriend is an INFJ, she once said to me "Don't worry, you can analyze for both and I can feel for both", I really will marry her.
Update: Sorry guys. We didn't marry. My job dragged me around the world to different countries, and she was still in collage, she wanted to quit to be with me and I forbid it, so she could finish her carreer. Now she is a doctor. I lost her, but I think I did the right thing, sometimes I doubt it however.
+Rafael R. S. Robles haha nice!
wish i found one of those, all the ones i find want too much feelings that i dont have time for xD
So its been four years since you commented this.. did you marry her? ~INTJ
DID YOU MARRY HER?! ;)
Rafael R. S. Robles bro, you have to tell us what happened?
> Go on a date
> Be bored
> Tell her youre taking notes on your phone to remember what she likes
Genius.
SAVAGE APPROVED
🤔 #finnesse
baby turtle ||| LMFAO I wasn’t ready!!!!
@baby turtle r/niceguys
@baby turtle Can you explain?
INTJ here and the only thing that really upsets me is when I'm talking to someone who I think is really smart and then suddenly they say something completely stupid with utmost confidence and I'm like oh well there goes that.
haha i am like that too (INTJ here also)....
so I'd imagine that applies to yourself also then..?
@@lordsesshoumaru8596 No, nothing negative ever applies to INTJs, they are absolute perfect (sarcasm)
well we certainly work towards perfection, but are of course fallible which is why I called out the logical inconsistency aka
hypocrisy of the OP...ironically they were quite confident in blathering that nonsense...
dito :`D
Most INTJ don't show their emotion during the first time they meet people because we don't want to show our soft side. Hiding your emotions is like hiding your appearance against a potential enemy. I'm not saying that INTJ always act like that but sometimes pretending to be a cold person makes you know which people you can trust. I like people who can understand my crazy ideas and able to give me a good suggestion about it. As an INTJ I have difficulties in communicating my ideas. A friend who can understand me without asking to much is a valuable gift for me.
Me too, I'm INFJ... I kinda face the similar problems like you (but my dominant function is Feeling, either you, an INTJ is Thinking). Everytime I walk around, surrounded by lots of people (including family), the truth is, I cannot being satisfied deep inside, I must put this emotionless and cold-hearted facial expression, so they wouldn't know what's hidden through my mind, at least forced themselves read my whole brain schemes (duh). Meanwhile, they do not want listening carefully every philosophical idea, every heavy talk (worldwide issues or something shows an enormous correlation with science/literature/history/etc) that I firmly believe it would be my ONLY 100% needs. Until I lived now, I'm not be able find a friend who wish sharing same interests nor ideas as mine. Behind my back, they often complaining me because I love stay tuned on Natgeo, Discovery, also Animal Planet (that's no more than particular entertainment I've got, plus it pleased me much). Huhhh, it's hard, dude!
Mario Pchy didn't understand a word
Kenneth Ultimate I've come to find that playing the weak is better than playing the strong. People will immediately let their guard down if they don't consider you a threat and with time give you tools to hurt them, if necessary.
Lexus Fox I agree. You can learn more from them if you play as the sentinel owl.
Kenneth Ultimate I'm an infj and I do the samething
I love telling intjs stories of stupid people i know because it causes them to go on a rant and intj's are hilarious when they are angry and dealing with stupid people. I recomend going to an intj and asking a stupid question. Their wit is hilarious.
here's a yellow card for you
No Patrick, mayonaise is not an instrument.
I've been asked so many times if I am 'pissed off' or 'angry' when I am just looking around and thinking. Not even angry at all... Yeah, our resting face looks kind of scary, hahaha.
+MWestover haha interesting!
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Same
It's the look of deep contemplation.
Something many don't/can't practice enough to know it's the same look on their face when they do.
My favorite part is the look of amazement on their faces like I've pulled a rabbit out of my butt when I've come up with the answer they couldn't even have conceived of.
MWestover same xD
It's true that INTJ's and INFJ's usually share an intuitive connection.
Oh yes, INFJs are actually Thinkers, while INTJs are really Feelers. Because of the INFJ's Ti function that is inward, and the INTJ's Fi function that is internally-directed!
Thanks for this video Melody!
"they're not likely to try to impress people" "they're chill"
what if i told you that's on purpose
we're really good at faking it
ur mom m8
TheFloatingSheep dad, i feel bad
TheFloatingSheep PREACH. Lol
Characters not the same as mbti type
SuperUdochi
Characters: Personalities (Subjectivity).
MBTI types: Categorisation (Generalisation).
Yes, you're right.
It's NOT the same.
personalitycafe.com/myers-briggs-forum/24022-public-service-announcement-five-common-functional-misconceptions.html#/forumsite/20588/topics/24022?page=1
As an INTJ, INFJ friends are my favorite type.
+Simba Ditto
Simba yea i can tell this intj boy really likes me but im not sure if its as a friend or more than a friend. i only like him as a friend but i like to talk to him a lot and sometimes i just try not to talk to him because im afraid of being too close to him. im somewhat popular and sociable and he gets bullied because of his smarts, if i was seen with him people would attack me
as an intj i dont have friends :D
Thank you. We deeply value you too.
pretty sure once you have friends you must turn in your intj card
I am an INTJ male and my wife of 7 years is an INFJ. We are great together. Pros and cons:
Some Pros:
1.) We both love to be at home together more than anywhere else on planet Earth.
2.) We both love to talk deeply together for long periods of time about things that interest us.
3.) We are both EXTREMELY loyal to each other. As an INTJ, I consider finding a suitable wife a goal that has been accomplished and requires no further attention.
4.) We both understand firmly in each other the need to escape from annoying busy social situations. When one of us is uncomfortable, the other knows why and empathizes.
No relationship is perfect, so here are some cons:
1.) I like to talk about my interests a lot, not really so great at the "listening to her interests" sometimes, unless they interest me - she is a great listener. I am trying to be better at this.
2.) My interests are very expensive, and I will stop at nothing until the goal has been reached. This has taxed the finances at times.
3.) She needs more attention from me than I of her. I am perfectly content sitting for weeks in my studio. She is more fidgety and cabin-feverish and needs time with me outside of the house, which I can consider a distraction sometimes. It annoys me sometimes, but I have to remember that is what she needs. And 99.9% of the time, I enjoy the time out anyway....it's hard for me to switch though.
Neutral:
1.) She cares more about how other people feel than I do. This is both good and bad. Good in that I don't care at ALL about what people think of me, or us. I am way more secure with ourselves, where she can tend to think too much about what others might think of us. On the other hand, she is warmer with others and is better at understanding what they might want or need in a situation, whereas I am pretty unapproachable in those settings unless you want to talk about the exact thing that interests me.
Overall:
We are a great pairing and I love her very very much. I am thankful I found someone who understands me so much. We have great capacity to overcome our challenges together.
Ahhhh… so well-said! I will come back to read this again.
I am INTJ and i am more sensitive and empathic than most other people, but most people wont ever notice that because of my introvetion
you have manga eyes
Lol
She’s a Pokémon
I needed to stop the video to regain concentration. Her face is distractingly beautiful. 🤣
Marky Mark lmao
I get that a lot
I'd definitely like to meet an INFJ. From what I've read and from watching your videos and some heartbreak comics by an INFJ, you guys seem like really nice people. Subtle, humble and emotionally expressive but not loud. I definitely share a likeness of your thought process. - INTJ
Great video, Melody. It matches my own experiences as an INFJ with an INTJ best friend.
Our friendship was a catalyst for mutual personal growth, and there's a natural comfort and understanding that goes deeper than INFJ-ENFP connections. INFJ-ENFP feels more like mutual curiosity and attraction, while INFJ-INTJ is an experience of deep empathy -- we're on the same wavelength thanks to dominant Ni.
INFJ-INTJ can coexist in empathetic silence, or get into Ni-Ni riffing that feels like a mind meld. We INFJs also notice that INTJs are using Fi behind the scenes, and they notice we're using Ti. The mutual comfort and respect wouldn't exist if we thought INTJs were psychopaths, and they though we were idiots.
I am an INTJ and my husband is an INFJ. Now I understand why he always wants to be home around me. He has told me several times that he feels relaxed around me and that he can be himself. I wish I could tell you the story of how we met for it is stranger than fiction. Everything went perfectly without a glitch. To be succinct, I made him take the personality test before I even agreed to meet with him on our first date! I knew exactly what I was looking for in a man (INFJ, ENFJ, ENFP and ENTJ were the only types that interested me and I was focused). I was overjoyed to learn that he was an INFJ. We have been married for 9 years now, created an awesome ENTJ daughter together who is 5 years old and I am in awe with his commitment and dedication to our relationship. I am very lucky to be married to an INFJ.
that is so cute ~ ♡
hey Roopa Dudley, I heart you because my husband is INTJ and I'm an INFJ. I want to always be around him, one of the reason is because I feel so relaxed and comfortable to be around him. Not only that, as an INTJ he's so intelligent and that's why I love him so much
How the hell do you know the type of a 5 year old
autobotftwww Precisely my wondering
Roopa Dudley thanks for sharing your story. I think an INFJ likes me and I've had some reservations about pursuing seriously but your words brings comfort. I don't want to like him (I know it probably sounds weird) but I do :)
Yeah, I feel like INFJ is the best personality mesh ive found in a girl (I'm INTJ).... Like you said about the unspoken calm. Its a pretty awesome thing, and no matter how silly i might find the INFJ sometimes... I never lose respect for them, they are very well intention people, and INFJs appreciate/have fun with the ideas a INTJ has instead of rebel... The unspoken, telepathic word thing is magical.
INFP/ENFP and INTP are also magical creatures to an INTJ.
INTJ here. A few thoughts.
I think the reason you don't have to perform with INTJ's is that we are freethinkers so we aren't that concerned with or judgmental about aspects of people we find superficial. We are more worried about the substantial things.
I think many of us actually care a lot about relationships and will invest quite a bit in the important ones. But we are just very selective about which ones become important because it takes too much energy to invest in too many of them deeply.
I agree INTJ's are very strategic and strong at following through with plans.
Allll the time. People tell me I look miserable all the time. When I am so happy. I don't get it.
Kat A. Hhhhh don"t care about them
INTJs are confident... about how right we are, about everything. To us, everything is just a series of interconnected systems.
We can see the end result of all actions provided we are sufficiently interested in said system, be it a job, a hobby or another person.
Also not that we are mean, we just have two moods, obsessed or entirely uninterested. When we are uninterested, don't be surprised if we have no time for you.
Im INTJ,
I like to think of myself as a Linux system thats always upgrading software versions, and everyone else is either stuck on memory hogging windows Vista or on windows 8 which still hogs resources and very few with updated versions but not as efficient as Linux. Just an analogy
As an INTJ and computer scientist I congratulate you on great analogy
+Dayan Yamin
I wish I were in your shoes right now. Literally.
I want to be a computer scientist. :D
I'm an INTJ! Female at that.
Crazy how these personality types are spot on o-o
Hey man, be more self congratulatory, you're a little too humble.
I'm an INTJ and my best/only female friend is INFJ. I thought I was INFJ but realized how different we actually are in so many ways. Like you she has a very calm energy/presence and is very articulate and interested in philosophy, which she is studying actually. I am much more dominant, science-minded/clinical, more of a leader/alpha, resting-bitch-face, am asexual and hate being touched by ANYONE except my pets/partner. My long-term partner is an INTP, which is fantastic for me as we both are very logic-driven and love intense conversations about politics, science, social justice, environmentalism, dystopian future. We are both anti-children/status quo but have very strong ethics/principles which are unwavering. I am extremely hungry for information to the point that in the past at university, I went for 3 days working on a project without eating/drinking as I was too busy studying and blacked out from exhaustion/dehydration. I MUST have alone time, most of the time to focus on learning and information gathering. When i'm with my INFJ friend, she balances me out and brings out my warmer side. We are both EXTREME introverts and are happy to see each other once every few months, which actually feels perfect. We both never pick up the phone and hate venturing out. When we do, we get lost in adventure/conversation for about 6-8 hours at least, then back into the cave again. Animals are my true companions, and books.
If the guy you went out on a date with was a true INTJ he would write those notes down on his brain not his "smartphone".
lol true, that's exactly what came to my mind
+JonathonTheAsshole Haha, that's actually true. I always do that but sometimes I over analyze something and get lost in thoughts.
yeah I literally visualize notepads and filing cabinets in my brain, especially when I'm trying to focus on others
+Empress Komlo Obviously you aren't an INTJ. Would one ever give themselves a title like "Empress" so arbitrarily?
It was a nickname my friends gave me 11 years ago. They've basically used it as a way to stay close. And I use it in modeling. So. That's that. But if we want to get technical, on written tests, I'm INXX
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Maybe it's just with me but I think INTJ's have complex emotions and thoughts attached to those emotions, much deeper than it appears. We have feelings, we just often choose not to show them.
Yes, but they stay in your heads, and that is the problem. INTJs are the most likely to be narcissistic as well. That is a sign of shut down emotions that are not acknowledged. I think this is a difficult area for them and why they tend to focus on
From Murz i agree with you. I mean of course we have emotions, and we dont always act like cold emotioneless people . I personally find that specific emotions esp negative or hard ones , are more difficult for mw ti cope because of how complicated i view things
Why should we.
We don't like reality shows. Why make our own.
Fuck the drama. Ain't it man.😊🍻😊
people always use those things against you. So don't give them ammo. That thing about narcisism is just plain wrong. INTJs don't even have instagram to begin with
In this case i wish I were Intj 😅 i can’t „choose“ to not show emotions... I can’t control them... they Control Me and it really sucks bc they don’t make fucking sense and are make Me soooo damn tired 🤦🏼♀️
I am an INTJ and my husband has said multiple times i come off as cold hearted and blunt. I agree that a lot of the stuff i read about INTJ personalities are negative. But there are so many great things about having an INTJ personality. I dont know about other INTJs but the most irritating thing for me is pretending to be enthusiastic about things I find so damn frivolous (like small talk conversation) It is exhausting! Another thing that is so annoying is when we are quiet, people automatically think we are mad. Like, no man we are just thinking, calculating, analyzing!! lol
+Michelle Jones sister!
I feel you! My gosh, there isn't much of us, and to finally be understood is quite exciting.
hi INTJ's sisters :)
what was negative about intj personality ? I have seen a lot of people claiming to be intj and have terrible personality,
but from what I read the intj cognitive function should be the goal of any sentient being. I think intj should become the borg
and make resistance futile.
yes
I'm not a robot because a robot doesn't have my gift of scathing sarcasm. I try very hard to be nice to others, but there are times when it manages to slip out.
Heh, there was a clip of Robbie the Robot from way back when in which he said to a woman, "You are fat," in that monotone he had. His human companion said to him, "That's not nice, Robbie, apologize to the lady," and Robbie said, "I am sorry you are fat." So robots CAN be sarcastic, if only in fiction.
The creepiest thing I have done as an intj:
All my friends have separate file folders on my computer. It's a quick reference guide to everything about them.
I let slip and said "ok I'll put that in the (friend's name) folder".
I was asked questions. I did not answer, and was able to change the subject.
INTJ checking in!. I feel like INTJ and INFJ are very similar. I feel like INFJ are much more presentable than INTJ in initial social conversation because of your warm and friendliness on the outside. I agree like INTJ look kind of cold on the outside because we aren't that aware of our external senses. When we have that cold look, we are either confused, not interested, or we are just thinking about something at that moment (like about 70% of the time it's most likely we are thinking about something at that moment. Holy crap, I think a lot). Our minds tend to drift to another world sometimes haha. Yeah...our minds need to be stimulated. I also agree as an INTJ, I'm not cold on the inside. I do care about certain people in my group, but sometimes we just have a harder time to express our emotions and we want to express them to people who we trust and care. Yes... INTJ have feelings. We love to write things on paper, jot down notes, and form a list of stuff on paper beforehand too haha.
That is what I've noticed, INTJs are more geared towards caring about specific people. And in regards to the "resting bitch face", I have an INTJ friend who has this and it's not like anything is necessarily wrong, but they're thinking about something. I have grown accustomed to it, although early on I would think something is wrong or they were not happy.
intjs are like coconuts and we are like peaches. know the difference? :) just cause we're friendly doesn't mean we welcome people into our lives. coconuts are more sincere btw.
HOLY SHIT you're adorable
And I'm over here thinking sh'es sexy AF...lol
Herotruth she doesn't strike me like being super hot sexy girl. I'm sure she can be, but in this video she's just adorable. She looks like she's from anime.
dligac I know what you're saying.
I fell in love with her just by watching her speak in this video!
JoeAnim IDN. Just date an INFJ
I am an INTJ and I think an INFJ would be the perfect partner, INFJ's and INTJ's are the perfect match.
I’m an INTJ male who met an INFJ woman recently. No one has ever made me feel more understood than her.
Both myself & my younger sister are INTJ type & we often are asked about the "Death Gaze", "Angry Stare" or "Resting Bitch Face". My sister's response to one inquiry was classic. "Yes, I have RBF, resting bitch face. Would you care to see the transition to Active Bitch Face?"
Wonderful video. :) My older brother is an INTJ and our relationship is one of the most understanding and visceral that one could think of. What I do really admire about them are that they're able to separate their thinking and feeling functions whenever we discuss any political/spiritual topics, not to mention their strategic mindsets that almost see everything like a puzzle or problem to be solved. They really do make some of the greatest friendships for an INFJ, especially when we can exchange/discuss different types of ideas (I wouldn't be surprised if that would set off a universe-destroying chain reaction, lol).
Also, in my experience they have an amazingly dark sense of humor that I personally find hilarious.
Nicholas Dawson
yes I could not agree more with everything you said:) I actually wish I knew more INTJ females because I think we would get along great and be really good friends:) Haha and I totally know that dark weird sense of humor you are talking about! One of my friends can actually be really quirky and super blunt haha. Thanks for your comment:)
Miss Melody
One of my closest girl friends is an INTJ, and I totally agree with Nicholas Dawson when it comes to the INTJs sense of humor and the dynamics of the INFJ/INTJ relationship.
My INTJ friend is one of the few people that I feel I can be completely myself around, and I think a lot of that comes from the fact that she doesn't need the kind of emotional support that a lot of my other friends do. I feel that we can both be really honest with each other and not be offended by it, so we can have real conversations without having to tiptoe around certain subjects or issues.
The resting bitch face is certainly true. I'm an INTJ female and once I laughed loudly at a joke and I literally saw five heads turn towards me in surprise. They were so surprised that I showed emotion; I didn't know whether to laugh or cry xD
They saw your emotions. You must now silently eliminate them one by one as they sleep, lest they tell others.
Fellow INTJ.
Female INTJ here, that bit about the resting bitch face is definitely true for me. To be honest, I do it purposely at times, especially in very social types of situations (like being out on a crowded street or train/bus, which happens often since I live in NYC). I do it to deter people from talking to me and it usually works : ) but I'm really not a mean person at all, at times I actually despise how caring and considerate I am deep down.
I can relate to it.. That's our empathy as you mentioned. But I know that not everybody deserves my empathy so I keep it under check. It helps a lot in protecting my sanity and avoiding fake people.
I do the same shit. Hahahaha!
Then you get people to tell you to “smile”.
INTJ here. Lmao during "bitch face" part.
I love how calmly you speak, it makes your videos pleasant to watch.
I must thank you for this video, one of the few that I have actually found appealing amongst an awful lot of other rubbish about people like us. It's nice to see a perspective of INTJs in a more friendly manner rather than just talking about our introverted problems. Without being told I'm a heartless, cold and lonely bastard :)
My old sister is an INTJ and I can say they are not cold, it's just that their soft side and their feelings work and are displayed in a different way from what we're used to see. But it's there. It shows, only differently
And they love very deeply
Im an INFJ, and I had an INTJ childhood best friend. INTP is more of the machine mind. INTJs are experts of knowledge, and INFJs are experts of people, together theres no stopping them.
Serious, cold, perverted, too smart, half-criminal, have you ever talked to more than one? Usually pretty lazy but when up to speed I over ambitious, people start hating me for being too damn good, everyone starts being your enemy when you start reading and learning too much no matter how nice you are, world tries to equalize you and bring you down to their level, it's war against mother earth, triumph and win and don't give in.
FinalMythology That's adorable
At work I am constantly being isolated for this same reason. I have been working on multi-million dollar corporate projects in a team of 30+ people in the same room and I always end up getting isolated because people don't understand how I know things and get very intimidated of me (especially the managers, program leaders, and other people of my same level!). It is in our nature to be independent, so the best thing I have found to deal with it is to fall back on the fact that I know i have a ton of ambition, and coupled with my knowledge, I will see opportunities that others don't and will get what I want in the end anyway.
Small rant over :)
mediocre people always feel intimidated by good people. Specially human resources idiots
As an INTJ I must say I really enjoyed your take on "us". I can definitely see how you would get along with INTJs and vice versa. It's nice when someone understands, or at least is open minded about, how we present ourselves inside and out. Lastly, I love your hat. It works. :D
I love your precise way of talking (infj here as well). Not boring, very concise, on point.
I love you! You get me! :-) I am a female 49-year old INTJ. I remember in my early twenties, I finally realized that I had this sort of 6th sense that NEVER did me wrong. Prior to that, I would try to make decisions based just on my feelings or Te and I would make mistakes but as soon as I realized that my Ni was TUNED IN to some force bigger than myself, I began to give it my full trust and attention and make all my decisions based on that. I literally have never since made a mistake when using my Ni. Also, my Mom was an INFJ. I love you guys. Thank you for the the sweet things you said about us INTJs. I think we are pretty sweet too, quite sensitive and tender-hearted actually when we care about you. Also, at least for me, I think INTJs are very driven to make the world a better place and I personally spend my whole life on a mission to do that with my goals. I think we are lucky to have INTJs in the world. :-) You INFJs are quite special yourselves!
This is true! NTJs are assumed a-holes and NFPs are assumed sweet and sensitive. I am an NFP who is an a-hole dating an NTJ who is sweet and sensitive
+Bree glad to see someone else who likes anal aswell on the internet
Good job. As an INTJ, I think my favorite types are INFP and INTP. INFP are definitely judges, as hero Fi is constantly judging others. They're just quiet about it. INTJs with parent Te, just externalize that judgement: e.g we cannot suffer fools. But yes, we also feel deeply with innocent child Fi: but resources are limited, so it's typically reserved only for people we care about.
Using my phone to jot down notes about the girl on a date. I'll have to remember that one. I hope the INTJ doesn't mind me stealing his idea.
haha what is your type?
Miss Melody ISTP.
+Celebok it is all good lol
Thank you for this video! As an INTJ, it's so refreshing to come across a positive video about us. And you're right, when we care about someone we want to know everything about the person and take note of all the things they like/don't like. I guess that can come off a bit weird because my friends and boyfriend are always surprised by how well I remember the smallest details about them even years later.
I appreciate your comment about how INTJ's aren't "cold" to everybody. I think you hit the nail on the head. We care very much about the people we feel it worth our time to invest in.
You know what I find about INFJ's I've known? (You even seem this way sort of) You're never sure if they are very mature or like adult babies. I guess they look like super mature babies. It's cute though.
Many of us can be very childlike. It is that Ni-Fe idealism that we have in us, which resembles a child's idealism. But it is always in us. If you ever meet an INFJ child though... at least with me, at my healthiest I was always quite grounded in reality. My Ni was too refined and powerful to live in too much fictional fantasy, I desired truth and to live in accordance with the truth. I desired always to come back to reality. I realised that there was real hurt in the world, so I desired often and earnestly to come back to it. What I dived into was my Christian Faith. If only I had received early teaching in the matter of Doctrine, no telling how much of a useful tool my imagination could have proved to have been in the advancement of my Faith, and of hope, and of healing and reaching into the brokenness of the people that I came in contact with. For the real end of imagination is understanding of deep, rich, real, and true beautiful spiritual ideals, which in the Christian
religion are understood as realities finding their actuality in God. It is no mere coincidence that the philosophical school referred to as Idealism is at many times and in many places considered virtually synonymous with a Christian philosophical perspective.
I would have been able to do some real good as an “alien”, because of my Faith more than my personality, if I had a more fleshed out understanding of reality, better categories fed to me from an earlier age... Good solid Trinitarian Doctrine, ancient creeds, and beautiful liturgies. I'm an evangelical Christian, and have been since my rebirth when I was 5, about to turn 6.
For Christian virtue, compassion, and love is informed by the deep doctrines of the Faith, for the central tenet of the Christian Faith, that God is Love (not that love is God, that is to make God something abstract, mushy, and relative, because then He would be made irrelevant) being made most clear, along with the nature and kind of that Love,
in the Doctrine of the Trinity - that God is a Loving Relationship between Three Eternal Persons sharing One Essence before all time, the First Family - and the Doctrine of the Incarnation, because of which by Marriage to the Lamb, which is made possible by the self-giving sacrifice of Jesus, we are welcomed into that Eternal Relationship, this Eternal Family, which has existed before the beginning of the Universe. We are brought into the Family Business of that Family, which is the Business of Love, of healing, of forgiving, of redeeming, of reconciling, of peacemaking, of sacrificing self-interests and self-needs for the sake of other people. That's why Doctrine matters, and why I wish that more of my imagination had been put to that end - the contemplation of the Love of God - so that I would have been better able to understand how I myself am to be or at least present that Love to other people, so that I could have known better how to put it to use.
Aha my intj says similar
That's very true. My fiancé is an INFJ and she's very young looking. Childish mannerisms too.
You just described the relationship between me and my best friend perfectly. I feel like he is the key to unlocking my "true" personality, no homo. The comfort I find being around INTJs is that we both know whats up, that the need for small talk is completely irrelevant, and that we're both in it for the real stuff.
Great vids btw! Please keep making more videos it's so nice to hear fellow INTJs.
+ilubCHRISTsomach Hey thanks! I imagine that would be an awesome friendship. INTJs are loyal to the people they love just like INFJs are :D
Great video! Thanks for making it. It helped me on my journey to understand myself more and realize that maybe I'm not just an asshole.
Good observations that ring true in my experience. I am an INTJ and dated an INFJ for a couple of years. Our greatest disconnect was over emotions, she needed emotional information and I couldn't provide it unless asked. Even then it might take a couple of hours to develop an accurate description for precisely what I was feeling. We get along better since breaking up, and it's good not to have lost a friend. "The face", as my sister calls it, is also interesting. It takes the place of many expressions such as concern, fear, sadness, interest, anticipation, anger, concentration, or just sitting and thinking. The INTJs that I know are all very caring people and will go great lengths for the small groups of close friends that they make, people they respect or even strangers. They just probably won't mention that it was them. Thanks for digging below the surface.
Typically, I find INFJs very compelling I think I'm drawn to their sweet and kind demeanor. I believe their personalities compliment the INTJ's behavior well, as we our known to be cold and the INFJs are very warm and comforting individuals.
Woah I am INTJ and everything your said is so correct. And it also warmer my heart how nice you were I'm so glad that someone understands us like this. Tysm for making this❤️
+Sina S Hey no problem :) Just trying to break some stereotypes! Hoping to offer a different perspective :D
I've never seen someone pull that hat off so well. Bravo.
I really appreciate your video. Over the last few years I have probably taken 10+ tests along with further research just to make sure and have come to the conclusion that I am an INTJ ~85% of the time while the other ~15% being ENTJ. I never really understood myself very well and now with all of this information it's great to finally have some better perspective. Going off of that, I love your opinion and it really speaks true to/for me. Just wanted to thank you.
From what I remember Ni (Introverted Intuition) is logic outside of facts. Ni still has logic to it, just without all the necessary data to prove it's theory.
Also the NTJs naturally robotic but still somewhat pluged into the world. It takes someone captivating enough to get the NTJ to invest in them long term. And NTJs are usually not impressed because our standards are high, but in that same breath we hold ourselves to the same standard we hold other's to.
Even more so difficult the INTJ Vs the ENTJ because the INTJ is more focused on the world within one self while the ENTJ is focused on the world outside of one self. But that does not mean there cannot be a balance because ennagrams also can cause a shift in the percentages of preferences.
The NTJs are seeking depth, in things and people, lack of depth is lack of their interests.
Oddy Chanz ライトニング YES, you're amazing!
My nigga. You nailed it!! Imma add you on g+.
Oddy Chanz ライトニング Exactly.
There are many people knowing few INTJs. How it is possible ? I am an INTJ and i usually sit in my home i have 33 years old and i had a chance to met better around 200-300 people in my life. Through this time i never met one.
Thanks for adding more MBTI stuff on the internet, especially from the alluring INFJ! Very knowledgeable, also, love the style.
As an INTJ, I treat people as a reflection of my own moral standards rather than how that person is acting. I really go out of my way to not make any decisions without emotional interference and I always try to stay level headed regardless of how I feel. I've never fit in and that is fine for the most part. The world is not made for people like us.
Awesome take on INTJs from your perspective as an INFJ! I'm an INTJ and one of my best friends is an INFJ (female). Not necessarily having to talk to each other even if we're in the same room (she was my roommate for a year) is true for us. But when it comes to engaging in deep discussions, what I finally realize is that our dominant + auxiliary functions tend to complement one another & have significant roles in contributing to a discussion. As an INTJ, INFJs are interesting to be friends with. p/s: the resting bitch face part is true. i get that a lot. haha. but ever since then i make an effort to light up my facial expressions upon 1st meeting. :)
Have known I was an INTJ for 5 years now. I find INFJ's infinitely interesting so I'm always trying to understand them. I only know 2 (1 male the other female) and one spoke w/ me about how the psychic mind works which I loved hearing about from an expert. I look forward to future videos.
Thanks for sharing these interactions and experiences - they're quite insightful.
Great explanation. Intelligence takes many forms. I'm an INTJ and this video is encouraging.
I like it when you look through me with those giggles, kinda making me feels defenseless.
OK, that just gave away how desperate I am in real life.
+berserker oh funny man INTJ's laughs :)
As INTJ, I can guarantee you that we’re are not emotionless people, I feel very strong emotions but there’s this disconnect between the feeling and the expression, I believe most of not all INTJs wants to be socially accepted and even popular, but we’re socially awkward are easily drained by people talking things with little reason to care about, and therefore we mostly prefers solitude. Commitment is something of great value to me, I therefore don’t invest on others or take risks easily, like what I’m about to do here; I apologize if I sound a bit egoistic, no means to offend anyone.
Great video, thank you for sharing! I am an INTJ and after diving back into myers-briggs again, I have a newfound appreciation and love for you INFJ's, you all are fascinatingly smart and articulate and a rare breed. It's suspected that Christ himself was an INFJ, so I shouldn't be surprised.
Thanks for sharing your dating experience with an INTJ! Since I've always wondered what a date with an INTJ would look like, it was really interesting to find out from your perspective! Writing down what your interests were was such a sweet, thoughtful idea! I'd love it if someone did that for me! Thanks again for the great information!
I need to create structures in my mind so I can classify and categorize my relationships. Once, a few years ago, a friend asked my opinion about a certain aspect of her life. When I shared my thoughts with her, she said, "You are correct, but I feel so objectified."
I’m INFJ and my fiancé is INTJ. He can seem very emotionless at times but he has a lot of empathy and deep feelings for others. He just expresses them differently.
Wow! Glad to listen you, Miss Melody, I've recently read about INFJ personality type and I consider that it's the best personality for me, despite for INTJ like me other types are recommended (ENFP or ENTP) and I am happy to listen that a INFJ lady like you like INTJ personality, so that make me suppose that I'm not so lost in my way of thinking.
I'm an INTJ and people feel comfortable around me because they know I either don't care about their attempts to impress me, or because they know I can see right through it and then will call them on their shit. I've had friends come see me after a while away and start to act the way they would around others (either being overly animated or acting a certain way), at which point I look over at them with a slightly judging face as to say, "Are you fucking kidding me?" Then they stop and we just relax. It's nice, actually. People come to me and ask me for advise on things that confuse them. The main problem is that they also get a little irritated that I like staying home, I hate going to social events with lots of people (concerts or crowds bug the ever-living shit out of me), and sometimes just don't reply to them straight away (or at all, though I'm trying to work on that). I just like my space and like being alone sometimes (sometimes a lot of the time). I don't know if they think I'm mad at them or they think I'm flaky. I constantly hear, "You never go out." and think to myself, "Yeah, it's amazing!"
All Infj girls have those shiny eyes. I have to watch video again now cause I’ve been staring at her eyes and not listening
I am married to an INTJ. INTJs do pay A LOT of attention, if you are deemed worthy of their attention. They are extremely loyal and thoughtful friends.
Totally, The Ni function as a lead function is often confusing for other types and is the rarest, so when it is encountered, is most likely somewhat unexpected.
I personally know 5 INTJ women, (and 5 men, off the top of my head). -- which is a little insane given population numbers.
i like when you talk about dating an INTJ and you like it :)
and its nice to see someone analyze us so well :)
Wow what a thorough, thoughtful, intelligent, accurate analysis. This is amazing. I love it. So many precise truths. I relate so much. And you're gorgeous. I would date you in a heartbeat. -INTJ
I'm an INTJ-T and my wife is an INFJ and we have a wonderful relationship!!
oh we are very cold and dismissive...unless we respect you. if we don't respect you, though, we will have you questioning your life and if you even truly exist lol
+Empress Komlo yep...my "respect" is much more important than my "like".
hahaha
Finally someone who doesn't speak of INTJs as hungry for power, I'm a INTJ and I don't manipulate people. I love my originality and my personality and for me it's very important make myself happy, but I try to do it without hurting other people :))
Thank you, just because you don’t understand that feelings don’t have to be expressed doesn’t mean they don’t exist. If an INTJ does you a favour (usually without ever being asked) you know they care about you. Believe it or not we are almost never thinking about ourselves.
I am an INTJ and I'm in love with an INFJ girl. Wish me luck! :)
Try being a male, Capricorn, INTJ, living in the ghetto where personal space and alone time don't exist. Basically i live in my own personal hell.
***** Thank you.
L M Ok then Mr or Mrs stereotype. You do know MB is a spectrum and not set in concrete right? And you do know it's impossible that all people fit into 16 categories and there are bound to be people who fit more than type right?
L M Exactly. But this astrology is more fluid than people think. Think of it like ancient mbti. I see these things as lenses to see the world and myself through it helps me point out my own flaws and strengths and work on them. Each day i work on my big picture vision and perspective shift capabilities, never completely ruling something out without running it through my mind again and again. Quick question was school too easy for you as it is with me? I have also realized that the way in which the academic systems are set up and the way subject matter is taught 6/10 ten times is useless to us intj's since we are so rare.
hainley simpson Sure but astrology cannot predict anything that's the main issue I have with it, it simply doesn't work like that, to hold a mirror up to yourself OK but not too determine anything. In regards to school I like physics and maths and just good enough in other areas to get into a respectable university. Although I understand what you're mean "useless to us" because that's precisely what I think about English and I constantly complain about that such thing. So I do well in maths areas. Also am I an intp or intj do you think?
L M I know, it's impossible to predict the future, but you can predict a persons reactions if you watch them long enough. I don't like most things that are mainstream, there was a time when it was used to help people effectually, but like anything most humans touch it gets fucked up and shitty. Same thing happened to Christianity.
As an INTJ blend with INFJ (but more INTJ) I think where we come across as cold, is when you have no acceptance with us, yet you act as though you do. We can't stand pretenders acting as though they're our best friends, because we know it's phony, and we may demonstrate that in a rather cold manner because we think you're fresh basically. I don't think we will automatically rule out a former pretender just because they were phony once, because we all make mistakes, but if our judgement is of any importance whatsoever with that person, they best not repeat such a thing with us, or at least wait until they have much more groundwork laid.
I am an INFJ and my brother is an INTJ. It was really interesting to hear your insight about perception of INTJs, and I feel similarly in a lot of respects
I'm an INTJ and my twin sister is an INFJ and I really admire her.
INTJs don't have friends. I never had friends for long, people bore or annoy the shit out of me.
if I may know, what age are you? I started having a lot of great friends as I got to college, I found some similar minded people that actually interested in my ideas
36, served in both Navy (5 years) and Marine Corps (4 years). Talking to you irritates me not because you do not understand what I just said, it is because you want to defy and ignore it.
Yup. Same here lol. My age is 20, Mechanical Engineer student.
I agree. I have only one person I consider a friend, but I'm rethinking it because she is becoming extremely frustrating to relate to. I like deep relationships and I'm discovering that she is shallower than I'd hoped, she flips out when I try to get deeper and I just don't see how the friendship can last. If I hadn't known her for ~12 years, where we had fun childhood adventures, I would have stopped trying already.
Some (or most) are content with being mediocre and INTJs just aren't, I think that breaks a lot of our relationships.
Bron Stormborn INTP with the same problem.
You are very intelligent and charming. Thank you for your excellent video. Best regards from an INTJ.
Semper Fidelis
Bruce.
Several online tests said that I'm INTJ, and I totally agree with your opinion. There are many misconceptions about INTJs. For example, INTJs don't have feelings... We DO. What is more, I think some INTJs can be sensitive.
Do you know INTJs have a high fear of beautiful girls, so they avoid them. I can't even look at this video
Taking notes about a date is something I have definitely done. >.<
Never in front of her, though! Jeez! I do it after the date. :p
I am an INTJ and I truly have only met one female ENFP and she was the only person that I would describe as a sort of "Love at First Sight" when I met her.
I (INFJ) really appreciate this video even though I'm late to the party. It helped me understand my cousin and why he feels like a brother to me