I had both parents telling me I was many things I was not, that I felt things I did not, negative qualities of all kinds, projections, happened my whole life. I became an artist, it saved me, I was able to express myself. Then married a Narcissist (just like my mother) :-( My parents, after many years of abuse took my son from me using the same gaslighting strategies with the rest of the family, together with my ex husband. My therapist says I was fighting a gang, a mafia, and it was really the case. It is just a miracle that I survived it all and got the chance to built a new life in another country. But I still have the dream of having my son back. He knows I am not what my parents say, he knows his father is a narcissist, but things are still stuck in a controlling game including money, status, political power. I feel good living a life I "created" here, no one treats me this way here. But deep inside I still have many wounds. YOur videos are helping me a lot. Thank you, Ross
Omg god I could almost copy this!!! I have daughter with a narc they are alienating her from me but I think and will stay independent but she is depend of their money (study) it’s like mafia I was fighting them a bit with my new boyfriend but he turned out to be one too! HORROR! I’m also an artist escaped 3 narcs or more. Didn’t know what it was. I was brought up in this. Big kiss from Amsterdam
Omg god I could almost copy this!!! I have daughter with a narc they are alienating her from me but I think and will stay independent but she is depend of their money (study) it’s like mafia I was fighting them a bit with my new boyfriend but he turned out to be one too! HORROR! I’m also an artist escaped 3 narcs or more. Didn’t know what it was. I was brought up in this. Big kiss from Amsterdam
It’s called gangstalking. Research about gang stalking. Learn about the scale of Dr. David Hawkins of emotions versus frequencies. He passed away but his videos are still on the UA-cam.
Regrets definitely twist my beliefs about myself. I say that I am enough, but don’t actually believe it. It’s like striving after the wind, but I see it, I have hope . Thank you for your wonderful insights.
The term makes such sense to me. I am 62 years old and suffered severe depression since I was 17. I always think I am not good enough, I don't work enough and I am no good.
I’m 72 and just fully realized that my upbringing has made it impossible for me to become truly attached to anyone except my cats. It’s not that I don’t care about people, but I can take or leave them. I’ve never actually understood loneliness. I’m an extrovert so I enjoy people if they’re around, but if not, I have so many interests I’m never bored. I’m the only person I know who had no negative feelings about being unable to see people during Covid. I didn’t enjoy not being able to go wherever I wanted but being with people....I was like “whatever. “
I worked hard and now I am like you describe. I enjoy it and I feel healthy. Most of people can’t be trusted. This is reality. I observe that each individual is unique - if they got more free from the collective to individuate.
This is so accurate and horrible - very destabilizing and destructive. Thank you for explaining projective identification. It takes absolute strength and courage to reidentify oneself in the face of this dehumanizing behaviour. Never give up on oneself! Thank you Ross Rosenberg.🌱
Tbank you Ross Rosenberg for all you free information on youtube. I have studied you videos and it helped me so much. My father was a narcissist. I know believe that my sister has a narcissistic borline personality disorder and my brother has a narcisistic anti social personality disorder. My oldest brother has scizofrenia. They are all very creative and talented people which makes it so hard go have to distance myself from them. But I moved for away, 25 years ago, to find my own live adventure and started a carpenterschool for children and adolescents that live in poverty. I was so happy at the art academy to work in art workshops that I wanted to offer this to kids that have so little lportunigies because of their economic situation. I still suffer but at least could built a live around my depressive disorder. You have helped me a lot. Thank you for that
I have DID. I wish so desperately you could help me. I've been, for several years now researching narcissistic abuse. I understand cerebrally everything you're saying. Your compassion is really coming through. I keep searching for therapists and they keep making things worse. I just can't get the help I need. The more I try, the worse it gets. When I reach out and I'm pushed away it just reinforces the belief I have that I will never be loved. Intellectually I realize this can't be true. But I exist in a million pieces and I can never hold this belief in my mind. I've reached a point of desperation. I don't think I can escape
I have DID, therapists never really helped me with any of it and it actually has come to really work for me; have you heard of Internal Family Systems theory? Voice Dialogue? The ‘traditional’ therapy approach to DID hasn’t really helped any system to create the internal ecosystem they personally need- working *with* my alters, not against, has transformed my life. Singular identity is a myth.
I was told over and over and over that I did not know how to communicate with her or her kids. I knew that I was a pretty terrible communicator in general and worked really hard on it for two years. She continued to tell me that nobody understood what I was talking about whenever I would try to bring up an issue. Near the end of the relationship we had a big fight and the next morning her best friend mediated for us and we talked for a couple of hours. At the end of the conversation, I said something about how bad I must still be at communicating if she still couldn't understand me and her friend turned to me and said that she thought I had conveyed everything incredibly clearly and understandably. That changed how I viewed my communication skills on the spot. I now get comments on my communication pretty regularly and I can credit my narcissistic ex with helping to teach me that ability.
I appreciate your LifeWork in describing normal people vs. the inhuman NPD in so many differing ways. Now it is time to step up to remove these banes on society. My abuser's current source of supply's blood is on my hands if I don't stop him. It is time to step up folks... I wish the woman before me (now missing and presumed dead) had taken steps for incarceration. My life would have been spared. NPD discard=spousal abuse, its as simple as that.
I think emotional dysmorphia could cover many conditions by definition of both emotion (a wide range of strong feelings) and dysmorphia (abnormality or deformity).
This is insulting, as a gang stalking target of decades, having lost all genuine career opportunities as well as the chance to ever have a family of my own. I will NEVER be able to regain EVEN HALF of what was GRATUITOUSLY STOLEN BY FREAKY EVIL PSYCHOPATHS.
I don't know what you believe in or not but reading your comment I feel a heavy weight in my heart. I went through it for a couple years and it was making me homicidal and I'm a kind caring animal lover. It has left lasting emotional and behavior changes in me. Anyway I'm praying for you. Don't give up. You're coward enemies WILL pay for there crimes. They will not get away with these crimes against humanity. They ALWAYS target the most special of God's children. You have probably seen some of these phycos get sick, or die, or fall one way or another because of God's wrath. You will be rewarded for enduring till the end.
❤NEVER SAY NEVER... EVERYTHING THAT RISES MUST CONVERGE...THE POWER OF INTENTIONS...I ENJOY EVERY LITTLE THING, NO MATTER HOW SIMPLE IT IS. THEY CAN'T TAKE WHAT'S IN YOUR HEART..💜🙏🌈
You have lost SO much. I have too. I felt so angry. I still do. But I've lately come to realize that they have not stolen all of me. I am still here. Not the way I wanted to be. But I am here. And I am proud to be here. Have faith in yourself. One thing I realized is that by being fueled by my anger instead of being the kind person I am at my core - I was letting them continue to steal from me. I was doing their work of destroying myself FOR them. I can't work for them. My energy has to go to myself now. Because I deserve it. I deserve a life where I can feel proud of myself. You deserve that too. If you can let go of them and grab onto yourself, you will take back from them some of what they stole. Wishing you peace 💜
@kristinmeyer489 i understand. You DO need justice and accountability. And I don't personally believe in karma. Life's not like the movies where bad guys get what's coming to them. But you might have to rethink what justice and accountability looks like. There will be no justice if you take matters into your own hands. You'll end up paying the price. They win again. They destroy you. Don't give yourself to them. They will never take accountability. Neither will the systems that protect them. Accepting that is extremely painful. But when you do, you'll be free. Free to focus on yourself. To focus on other victims. On survivors. To become whole. Justice starts with you and how you take care of yourself despite the pain and abuse you went through. Take the hard road. You will love yourself for it 💜
Who would not fall into this category? Every human has an image of either their physical body or their emotional sphere that is not correct to who they actually present themselves to be to the world that's kind of the point in the whole three self-perceptions at the same time thing it creates dichotomy
Thanks for sharing such valuable information! Could you help me with something unrelated: My OKX wallet holds some USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (alarm fetch churn bridge exercise tape speak race clerk couch crater letter). How can I transfer them to Binance?
This sounds like my ex. He had ptsd and is bi polar. He was sexualy abused when a teen. He found his mother dead, then it lead to drugs, alcohol and sexual encounters with any gender. I did so much research on him to find so many things he did. He is a great liar, gaslight, and love bomb. I read that he stated in a book he left behind that he didn't connect with any women. I feel he is mentally not all there.
mr ross YOU HAVE HELPED ME sooooooooooo much man my life is starting to become sturdy again and you teach in a way that shows me how to be nice and not hospitalize my stalkers and induced convo narcs not sure how to thank you but bless you and your outstanding 🎉💯🪽😎
I had both parents telling me I was many things I was not, that I felt things I did not, negative qualities of all kinds, projections, happened my whole life. I became an artist, it saved me, I was able to express myself. Then married a Narcissist (just like my mother) :-(
My parents, after many years of abuse took my son from me using the same gaslighting strategies with the rest of the family, together with my ex husband. My therapist says I was fighting a gang, a mafia, and it was really the case. It is just a miracle that I survived it all and got the chance to built a new life in another country. But I still have the dream of having my son back. He knows I am not what my parents say, he knows his father is a narcissist, but things are still stuck in a controlling game including money, status, political power. I feel good living a life I "created" here, no one treats me this way here. But deep inside I still have many wounds. YOur videos are helping me a lot. Thank you, Ross
Omg god I could almost copy this!!! I have daughter with a narc they are alienating her from me but I think and will stay independent but she is depend of their money (study) it’s like mafia I was fighting them a bit with my new boyfriend but he turned out to be one too! HORROR! I’m also an artist escaped 3 narcs or more. Didn’t know what it was. I was brought up in this. Big kiss from Amsterdam
Omg god I could almost copy this!!! I have daughter with a narc they are alienating her from me but I think and will stay independent but she is depend of their money (study) it’s like mafia I was fighting them a bit with my new boyfriend but he turned out to be one too! HORROR! I’m also an artist escaped 3 narcs or more. Didn’t know what it was. I was brought up in this. Big kiss from Amsterdam
@@helder3951 I wish you all the luck and strength!!! We need to be strong and move on, things won’t be like this forever!
It’s called gangstalking. Research about gang stalking. Learn about the scale of Dr. David Hawkins of emotions versus frequencies. He passed away but his videos are still on the UA-cam.
This makes sense. We can gaslight ourselves or dissociate from being around a narcissist's own negative perception of reality.
hmmm, i have to agree, it seems like some kind of flight or flight mechanism, pretty much partly why i have PTSD i think
@@HUYI1 same here, I was diagnosed with C PTSD
Cptsd with dissociation
@@HUYI1same
Regrets definitely twist my beliefs about myself. I say that I am enough, but don’t actually believe it. It’s like striving after the wind, but I see it, I have hope . Thank you for your wonderful insights.
The term makes such sense to me. I am 62 years old and suffered severe depression since I was 17. I always think I am not good enough, I don't work enough and I am no good.
Well. You are, and you don’t have to do anything to become that. God made you and loves you❤
I’m 72 and just fully realized that my upbringing has made it impossible for me to become truly attached to anyone except my cats. It’s not that I don’t care about people, but I can take or leave them. I’ve never actually understood loneliness. I’m an extrovert so I enjoy people if they’re around, but if not, I have so many interests I’m never bored. I’m the only person I know who had no negative feelings about being unable to see people during Covid. I didn’t enjoy not being able to go wherever I wanted but being with people....I was like “whatever. “
I’m reading myself 💫 x
I need to become more like you.
I worked hard and now I am like you describe. I enjoy it and I feel healthy. Most of people can’t be trusted. This is reality. I observe that each individual is unique - if they got more free from the collective to individuate.
@ I’ve also realized that some unhappy people resent it when you’re not and will try to ruin your happiness.
Are you a Gemini?
This is so accurate and horrible - very destabilizing and destructive. Thank you for explaining projective identification. It takes absolute strength and courage to reidentify oneself in the face of this dehumanizing behaviour. Never give up on oneself! Thank you Ross Rosenberg.🌱
What a beautiful soul. His heart is with serving the people through his ability to disseminate the truth that sets us free.
Tbank you Ross Rosenberg for all you free information on youtube. I have studied you videos and it helped me so much. My father was a narcissist. I know believe that my sister has a narcissistic borline personality disorder and my brother has a narcisistic anti social personality disorder. My oldest brother has scizofrenia. They are all very creative and talented people which makes it so hard go have to distance myself from them. But I moved for away, 25 years ago, to find my own live adventure and started a carpenterschool for children and adolescents that live in poverty. I was so happy at the art academy to work in art workshops that I wanted to offer this to kids that have so little lportunigies because of their economic situation. I still suffer but at least could built a live around my depressive disorder. You have helped me a lot. Thank you for that
You are the best therapist on this subject on UA-cam in my opinion. You woke me up to everything
I have DID. I wish so desperately you could help me. I've been, for several years now researching narcissistic abuse. I understand cerebrally everything you're saying. Your compassion is really coming through. I keep searching for therapists and they keep making things worse. I just can't get the help I need. The more I try, the worse it gets. When I reach out and I'm pushed away it just reinforces the belief I have that I will never be loved. Intellectually I realize this can't be true. But I exist in a million pieces and I can never hold this belief in my mind. I've reached a point of desperation. I don't think I can escape
simular feeling for me too 😥😥
@HUYI1 💜
I have DID, therapists never really helped me with any of it and it actually has come to really work for me; have you heard of Internal Family Systems theory? Voice Dialogue? The ‘traditional’ therapy approach to DID hasn’t really helped any system to create the internal ecosystem they personally need- working *with* my alters, not against, has transformed my life. Singular identity is a myth.
@@Ninsidhe that's interesting. Thanks for your reply. I'm going to look into it. What you say makes sense
Yes IFS!!!!! 🎯
I was told over and over and over that I did not know how to communicate with her or her kids. I knew that I was a pretty terrible communicator in general and worked really hard on it for two years. She continued to tell me that nobody understood what I was talking about whenever I would try to bring up an issue. Near the end of the relationship we had a big fight and the next morning her best friend mediated for us and we talked for a couple of hours. At the end of the conversation, I said something about how bad I must still be at communicating if she still couldn't understand me and her friend turned to me and said that she thought I had conveyed everything incredibly clearly and understandably. That changed how I viewed my communication skills on the spot. I now get comments on my communication pretty regularly and I can credit my narcissistic ex with helping to teach me that ability.
I appreciate your LifeWork in describing normal people vs. the inhuman NPD in so many differing ways. Now it is time to step up to remove these banes on society. My abuser's current source of supply's blood is on my hands if I don't stop him. It is time to step up folks... I wish the woman before me (now missing and presumed dead) had taken steps for incarceration. My life would have been spared. NPD discard=spousal abuse, its as simple as that.
Thank you for clarifying codependency. I don't know how to spin that so much !
I stand up for myself now!
New healing prayer unlocked 🔓 🙏🏾 thank you Ross you're a brilliant genius lifesaver
I think emotional dysmorphia could cover many conditions by definition of both emotion (a wide range of strong feelings) and dysmorphia (abnormality or deformity).
My Mom must've suffered with this. 50 years ago and now it is killing me too. Also RSD.
This is insulting, as a gang stalking target of decades, having lost all genuine career opportunities as well as the chance to ever have a family of my own. I will NEVER be able to regain EVEN HALF of what was GRATUITOUSLY STOLEN BY FREAKY EVIL PSYCHOPATHS.
I don't know what you believe in or not but reading your comment I feel a heavy weight in my heart. I went through it for a couple years and it was making me homicidal and I'm a kind caring animal lover. It has left lasting emotional and behavior changes in me. Anyway I'm praying for you. Don't give up. You're coward enemies WILL pay for there crimes. They will not get away with these crimes against humanity. They ALWAYS target the most special of God's children. You have probably seen some of these phycos get sick, or die, or fall one way or another because of God's wrath. You will be rewarded for enduring till the end.
❤NEVER SAY NEVER... EVERYTHING THAT RISES MUST CONVERGE...THE POWER OF INTENTIONS...I ENJOY EVERY LITTLE THING, NO MATTER HOW SIMPLE IT IS. THEY CAN'T TAKE WHAT'S IN YOUR HEART..💜🙏🌈
You have lost SO much. I have too. I felt so angry. I still do. But I've lately come to realize that they have not stolen all of me. I am still here. Not the way I wanted to be. But I am here. And I am proud to be here. Have faith in yourself. One thing I realized is that by being fueled by my anger instead of being the kind person I am at my core - I was letting them continue to steal from me. I was doing their work of destroying myself FOR them. I can't work for them. My energy has to go to myself now. Because I deserve it. I deserve a life where I can feel proud of myself. You deserve that too. If you can let go of them and grab onto yourself, you will take back from them some of what they stole. Wishing you peace 💜
@@lexbest I NEED JUSTICE AND ACCOUNTABILITY AND CANNOT SETTLE FOR LESS. GOD WON'T DO THAT, AND I DON'T HAVE THOUSANDS MORE YEARS TO FAITHFULLY WAIT
@kristinmeyer489 i understand. You DO need justice and accountability. And I don't personally believe in karma. Life's not like the movies where bad guys get what's coming to them. But you might have to rethink what justice and accountability looks like. There will be no justice if you take matters into your own hands. You'll end up paying the price. They win again. They destroy you. Don't give yourself to them. They will never take accountability. Neither will the systems that protect them. Accepting that is extremely painful. But when you do, you'll be free. Free to focus on yourself. To focus on other victims. On survivors. To become whole. Justice starts with you and how you take care of yourself despite the pain and abuse you went through. Take the hard road. You will love yourself for it 💜
And then some of them know how to escalate to the point they call services in. Also knowing there’s more abuse in those locked facilities.
Always great ❤
Could you add the Turkish version of UA-cam subtitle options? Thanks
i feel no self love within and with others, i don't know if it's hard to describe or not 🤔
Who would not fall into this category? Every human has an image of either their physical body or their emotional sphere that is not correct to who they actually present themselves to be to the world that's kind of the point in the whole three self-perceptions at the same time thing it creates dichotomy
It appears to be rooted in the patriarchy
^^^
Stop. This is a serious issue.
Thanks for sharing such valuable information! Could you help me with something unrelated: My OKX wallet holds some USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (alarm fetch churn bridge exercise tape speak race clerk couch crater letter). How can I transfer them to Binance?
what if we both were narcs?
Do you work with people with schizophrenia?
This sounds like my ex. He had ptsd and is bi polar. He was sexualy abused when a teen. He found his mother dead, then it lead to drugs, alcohol and sexual encounters with any gender. I did so much research on him to find so many things he did. He is a great liar, gaslight, and love bomb. I read that he stated in a book he left behind that he didn't connect with any women. I feel he is mentally not all there.
Lovely how compassionate women are to Male Victims of sexual ( & psychological) abuse 👌
😱😱😱😱😭💔🥶💥💥💥💥 so accurate!!
mr ross YOU HAVE HELPED ME sooooooooooo much man
my life is starting to become sturdy again and you teach in a way that shows me how to be nice and not hospitalize my stalkers and induced convo narcs not sure how to thank you but bless you and your outstanding 🎉💯🪽😎