Wow! This has answered so many questions I’ve had. Thank you for talking us through this. I honestly feel as if I’ve been broken beyond repair in 2 very dysfunctional relationships. 😢
It's the love bombing they do, they do something nasty like verbal abuse, physical to a point and after "it's a joke" and the cycle continues, ive been there done it all smh It's not love in my perspective experience, it's just reality!
Thank you so much Ross❤I have been following you for at least 3 years no. I am getting better and better every time i'm working with myself after your metod. You mean the world to me.🙏This video today was really importent to me, even if I have listening to you for a long time. I left my " danspartner" for 4 years ago. I still sometimes anser his mails/calls some times. (We were toogether for 20 years and I am 57 years old) It is newer to late to heal thanks to you. So again - Thank you Ross/ Maria from Sweden❤ PS. I think you still are a good looking man. Ds. Have a Nice evening💞
Ross, it gives me so much hope to see men discussing this. Unfortunately, every single person I've ever dated became very controlling and believed they owned me, i would find out that they didn't actually like me as a person but just wanted some sort of nanny maid. They only ever bothered to get upset when i was not compliant. Each one claimed they were normal and it was me, that i was wildly entitled, to expect the person to continue pretending to be interested in me. It made me afraid that it is a patriarchy thing. I am afraid that 25% of the worlds population believes i do not deserve equal rights and protections. The level of entitlement, where they thought they could just scare me into place, was so incredibly offensive. The last time i saw my ex husband, he held me hostage and physically prevented me from leaving. It was like none of them knew me at all; but each one had been attuned to me at one time. Each one had pretended to be kind, to be able to listen and understand, and by the end had turned into a monster. Each one used gender roles to their advantage. It made me really scared that "normal" men, who want a real partnership, to interact with their SO as a person, dont exist out there. When i find men talking about narcissistic abuse, it gives me hope that there are people out there who can care about me, beyond my immediate utility.
"it doesn't matter how smart you are." The reason people do not listen to victims is because they are in denial of their own vulnerability. I have been told so many times that "you must have missed something." Or, maybe, they were lying and manipulating and maybe I did nothing that "asked for" the violence I experienced.
Right now I’m in the stage where I can hold my own and end relationships with these people but I still pick them! I’ve gotten much better at boundaries, but how do I stop getting to the point where they end my relationships?!
@@CandyOnAChopstick hmm.. I see. Is it the boundaries that end the relationship or is it the person violating your boundaries that leads you to move backwards and end it? I guess I don't see this as a problem necessarily. Sounds like you are protecting yourself with strong boundaries. What do you think
@@marleyofficialmedia It’s about half. Half the time I’m the one who has to leave once they start gaslighting and half the time they leave on their own once I don’t fall for the manipulation. It’s progress, but I still waste months of my life at a time in dead-end relationships.
@CandyOnAChopstick hmm. I can relate to this actually but I don't see it as a bad thing. Its painful yes, true. But to spend a few months getting to know someone and finding out they are not safe, and then leaving.... I believe that's the normal process of getting to know someone. And I don't think you're wasting your time at all. You're doing what you have to do to vet people. And you get to decide who stays and leaves. Hope this helps in some way, or you feel supported 🙏 ❤
We need a Ross there when ever two souls meet on the face of the world , you know how much suffering this would mitigate , not to exalt you above Jesus , just saying. You know what I've been struggling with , when you meet someone , and you feel guilty of something , but not sure if you are supposed to feel guilty... but then feel highly anxious , so much so that I can barely breath. I'm just waiting for it to be over...it resembles my childhood , but then I don't know if I missed out on something monumental.
I just discovered your video, and I have to say, a person who goes around renaming and redefining established terms in the psychological sphere, is fairly narcissistic. I wish you well
Most people don't choose to date someone based on how unattracted they feel to the external, so as much as it ideally shouldn't be about looks, it is in reality the first step to vetting a potential partner. Don't know which context in which he was doing what he was doing, so
You are definitely not going to like my comment. Why. Because you are just exactly the person that he always fell for. You sound exactly like my ex narcissistic partner that I threw out. He was so fantastic at guilt transference. Sick
I wish that i would have seen this 7-8 years ago I might have been able to heal to find the right person for me. Too late for me now I am 78. And on the down slide. Happy alone.
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Wow! This has answered so many questions I’ve had. Thank you for talking us through this. I honestly feel as if I’ve been broken beyond repair in 2 very dysfunctional relationships. 😢
Look at family of origin, caregivers, for emotional unavailable patterns. Repetition compulsion.
This saved my life. Ross's work and my therapist and other educators.
It's the love bombing they do, they do something nasty like verbal abuse, physical to a point and after "it's a joke" and the cycle continues, ive been there done it all smh
It's not love in my perspective experience, it's just reality!
Still good looking Mr. Ross 😊
Thank you so much Ross❤I have been following you for at least 3 years no. I am getting better and better every time i'm working with myself after your metod. You mean the world to me.🙏This video today was really importent to me, even if I have listening to you for a long time. I left my " danspartner" for 4 years ago. I still sometimes anser his mails/calls some times. (We were toogether for 20 years and I am 57 years old) It is newer to late to heal thanks to you. So again - Thank you Ross/ Maria from Sweden❤ PS. I think you still are a good looking man. Ds. Have a Nice evening💞
Thank you for breaking it down 💯🙏😁🫶
Ross you saved my life ❤
Thank you so much for your books. ❤🙏
Ross, it gives me so much hope to see men discussing this. Unfortunately, every single person I've ever dated became very controlling and believed they owned me, i would find out that they didn't actually like me as a person but just wanted some sort of nanny maid. They only ever bothered to get upset when i was not compliant. Each one claimed they were normal and it was me, that i was wildly entitled, to expect the person to continue pretending to be interested in me.
It made me afraid that it is a patriarchy thing. I am afraid that 25% of the worlds population believes i do not deserve equal rights and protections. The level of entitlement, where they thought they could just scare me into place, was so incredibly offensive. The last time i saw my ex husband, he held me hostage and physically prevented me from leaving. It was like none of them knew me at all; but each one had been attuned to me at one time. Each one had pretended to be kind, to be able to listen and understand, and by the end had turned into a monster. Each one used gender roles to their advantage. It made me really scared that "normal" men, who want a real partnership, to interact with their SO as a person, dont exist out there.
When i find men talking about narcissistic abuse, it gives me hope that there are people out there who can care about me, beyond my immediate utility.
"it doesn't matter how smart you are."
The reason people do not listen to victims is because they are in denial of their own vulnerability. I have been told so many times that "you must have missed something." Or, maybe, they were lying and manipulating and maybe I did nothing that "asked for" the violence I experienced.
This made perfect sense
Thanks Ross. You've helped me so much since I found you in 2021. 🥰
It is like the God seed spiral with the back flow return through the plus and minus. The narcissist superimposes a metatronic version on top of that.
newton Brasil , gosto demais dos vídeos tem sido de grande ajuda pra mim.obrigado.
Right now I’m in the stage where I can hold my own and end relationships with these people but I still pick them! I’ve gotten much better at boundaries, but how do I stop getting to the point where they end my relationships?!
Do you mean that your "boundaries end the relationship?" Maybe I'm misunderstanding
@ Yeah, that’s what I’m saying. I’ve gotten better at that stage, but I keep still having to get to that stage and I’m trying to figure that out.
@@CandyOnAChopstick hmm.. I see. Is it the boundaries that end the relationship or is it the person violating your boundaries that leads you to move backwards and end it? I guess I don't see this as a problem necessarily. Sounds like you are protecting yourself with strong boundaries. What do you think
@@marleyofficialmedia It’s about half. Half the time I’m the one who has to leave once they start gaslighting and half the time they leave on their own once I don’t fall for the manipulation. It’s progress, but I still waste months of my life at a time in dead-end relationships.
@CandyOnAChopstick hmm. I can relate to this actually but I don't see it as a bad thing. Its painful yes, true. But to spend a few months getting to know someone and finding out they are not safe, and then leaving....
I believe that's the normal process of getting to know someone. And I don't think you're wasting your time at all.
You're doing what you have to do to vet people. And you get to decide who stays and leaves.
Hope this helps in some way, or you feel supported 🙏 ❤
I attract mostly BPD type women.. it has been a nightmare recently.
poucas pessoas no mundo intende a co dependência como o senhor pra mim que descobri recente esse problema posso dizer que o senhor é fera no assunto.
Familiar equals familiar spirit. It's a demon.
NOOOOOO!
A way to cope: cognitive dissonance
Are gamblers NP?
We need a Ross there when ever two souls meet on the face of the world , you know how much suffering this would mitigate , not to exalt you above Jesus , just saying.
You know what I've been struggling with , when you meet someone , and you feel guilty of something , but not sure if you are supposed to feel guilty... but then feel highly anxious , so much so that I can barely breath. I'm just waiting for it to be over...it resembles my childhood , but then I don't know if I missed out on something monumental.
Good to know I think I'm cured. Saving this video to watch again. Be well.
I just discovered your video, and I have to say, a person who goes around renaming and redefining established terms in the psychological sphere, is fairly narcissistic. I wish you well
That's cause you went for looks which is very shallow.. hope you learned your lesson
Most people don't choose to date someone based on how unattracted they feel to the external, so as much as it ideally shouldn't be about looks, it is in reality the first step to vetting a potential partner. Don't know which context in which he was doing what he was doing, so
This is all gibberish
Ross why dont u talk about gender dysmorphia? There are therapists out there who encourage this BS. Lets hear u talk about it
You are definitely not going to like my comment. Why. Because you are just exactly the person that he always fell for. You sound exactly like my ex narcissistic partner that I threw out. He was so fantastic at guilt transference. Sick
I wish that i would have seen this 7-8 years ago I might have been able to heal to find the right person for me. Too late for me now I am 78. And on the down slide. Happy alone.