Why Some People HATE INFPs Instantly
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- Опубліковано 23 лип 2024
- Why Some People HATE INFPs Instantly
The Introverted - Intuition - Feeling - Personality type possesses some attributes why others love them, and at the same time, they display some characters which make some other people dislike them instantly.
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Not many people wanna be friends with a lie detector
LMAOO that's their problem tho
I can see into your soul OwO
@@timelessninja OwO
Wahahhaa just fact
You jealous or is it a praise????
“I’d rather people hate me for who I am, than love me for who I’m not” - Kurt Cobain
Words of wisdom .
very well said, RIP kurt. i don't know if this has been cleared but he was really high when he died maybe that's the reason no one understands the suicide note/he wouldn't have done it if he wasn't high. weird thought but yes.
It's really difficult if you're an INFP and you're also a people pleaser. I swear, I am trying my best to improve LOL
Isn't our weakness tho? "Despreate to please"
@@xaviermaster1 We want others to think well of us, and we are fearful that they might think less of us for something we did, said or didnt do or say.
Same here 🙁🙋♀️
Right💀💀💀
same here :( still trying ill get there soon probably-
The truth is, we can see through people. If you’re not genuine we don’t waste our time. And we don’t connect with everyone. We value extremely deep connections so our friendships are few. It doesn’t mean we don’t like people. We like a lot of people even if we don’t consider them friends. For our close friends we ride or die. We are extremely loyal. People seek me out to listen and talk to me because I can bring things into perspective that they haven’t thought of. I try my best to understand them and I’m empathetic towards others. But I am, by no means, a pushover as most descriptions would have it . I’m also an ambivert. So you can’t put all personalities in one basket. It’s hard for me to make friends but I will still attend a party. I’ll dance all night. I will perform in front of others. Audrey Hepburn, Johnny Depp, Bob Marley, etc all manage to speak and perform in front of others. We all come in different shades. I’m trying to improve my INFP personality but I love my quirks. 🌻
Awesome description ig 90% applies to me too I can relate so well damn!!
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Same.
I think that on the internet there is a lot of unhealthy INFPs who with their comments and posts exhibit all the most harmful and embarrassing stereotypes about INFPs. But I am an INFP and... I like to be sociable, I like to party, I can take the initiative with other people, I can speak up when no one else could, I have a highly individualistic Fi dom function, but I still use A LOT of Fe and help people, think of other people and take into consideration other people's opinions...which, isn't always the best trait to have. The best thing is that all these stereotypes about INFPs, eg. crybabies, pushovers, awkwardness, extreme laziness, fictional crushes...also refer to me in big part but I actually don't brag about it on the internet, cause I don't feel a need to let all the people show on the internet who don't know me from wherever God knows they come from...I just consider it pathetic a little bit. I just don't want other people to be stuck in the conviction that all INFPs are awkward, clumsy, complaining queens, moody, egocentric, and simps for fictional characters. It isn't a thing to be proud of. It can be adorable to some people, and you still can embrace those traits to your close ones...but not to the whole internet xd and INFPs are doing that, but I realize (as an INFP) that it comes from not being understood in a real-life... Life is sad. Having in your stuck Fi-Ne-Si-Te (especially in this order) is something you didn't choose and having that you have twice, maybe triple times harder in life than other types, because of extreme emotionality, fragility, imagination and really strong bond with past. This isn't easy to deal with, and nowadays' society doesn't necessarily respect those traits. I think these days it's more about productivity, hard work, and getting a better version of yourself every day, so I think ESTJs are these role-model types of nowadays' society, and we're as the INFPs, we are an exact contradiction to that, so...out of all types we are the most "unwanted" personality in this world. And that's why life is so hard for us, and no other type can understand the additional hardships we have to deal with besides ourselves. But if an INFP...will embrace who he/she is, and learn self-love, and will use cognitive functions in a healthy way...damn, then you can be sure this will be one of the best persons you'll ever meet in your life.
well said dear
This makes me so sad as an INFJ. INFP's are really smart, creative, intuitive, and empathetic souls. They are one of the few personality types I feel safe around like I could tell them anything and they would not betray my trust.
I am an infp with an infj friend. I'm so glad i can tell her anything without feeling judged. She supports my creativity too 🥺🥺
Thank you thats so nice of you
My infj brother talks to me literally all the time, and, in fact, I was the first person he told about his crush.
I'm not always in the mood to talk, but he'll talk to me anyways, and I'll do what burnt out infp's do best: at least half listen or pretend to listen.
He appreciates having someone to talk to. :]
I like listening to him ramble too, sometimes. He has very interesting thoughts, ideas, and interests.
I was that INFP and EVERYONE did that to me. For most of my life. I couldn't handle being an emotional tampon for everyone after I turned 35 or so. It kind of broke me.
As an INFP, I first must compliment your words is more beautiful than you think is so poetic and utterly gorgeous so much more than nice, I feel like I want to take your words and use it as a script and perform on a stage.. :0 forgive me, but I love it..
As an INFP I can tell you. Start your own business ASAP, not having a boss is priceless. Meet some ENFP INFJ and ESFP friends. Stop bottling up emotions and share your feelings and ideas to others, you will feel light as a feather.
First step: be your own friend first, then the door will be open to everything.
I hope I can hep at least some strugling INFP.
Edit:I just discovered I'm actually an ENFP lol 😅, after I looked up the functions and blindspots. don't trust these tests 100%.
Thanks for watching. Thanks for the comment as well
I agree and I’ve been delaying selling my art for so long…
I would add that probably ENFP understand us sexually the most.
words of wisdom
Sorry, but no. You don't just go around and share every thought with everyone. You need to be strategic and balanced otherwise you will be confronted with big surprises by assholes who just can't wait to know anything about you so they can use it against you.
Because we can read, and we read very well.
True.
Mam can you give some tips to grow as a human being an infp?
I am a student preparing for competitive exams that would land me a job.
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No. You can be quite distrusting when it comes to leadership, you are lazy, too much in your emotions and very very irritating when it comes to playing victim.
Speak for yourself
Cutting people off for no reason
I felt that 😭😂😂😂
There are too many people. I already have enough made-up ones in my inner world.
I don't know why I do it because I forgot and now I'm stuck trying to befriend them again LOL
Yeah, I'm a bridge burner... not sure why.
No, it’s not “no reason”, I think he means spontaneously and suddenly. Which yes, we do in fact do after being taken advantage of far too many times.
As an e/infp, there is clear reason when infp cut people out. It looks like ‘for no reason’ coz the first step Nfp takes is staying away quietly to avoid quarrel which means wasting energy n time. If this doesn’t work, then nfp would not mind any verbal quarrel to let them know clearly, to the point of being rude.
Don’t like INFP’s?
We don’t like you either.
😂
LMFAO YEAH
We don’t like most people anyway 🤣
shush.
Exactly 😂💯
True 😅🤣🤣
Some of us seem sweet and innocent and quiet so people love to try and bully us 😒
Then we flip into Mighty Morphin Power Rangers!!!!!
as an infp, i can confirm that, that bullying will not last forever. everyone has a dark side, we’re going to eventually snap if the bullying continues.
@@lilonezplayz845 YOU ARE SPOT ON! BEST COMMENT IN THIS COMMENT SECTION!
@@Jusmeh ty
trueeee-
I’m INFP and reading people in this comment section with different personality types expressing their appreciation for my type is making me tear up. I was bullied for the majority of my life for these exact reasons and it really affected me in the long run. Thanks so much for showing your support for us! You don’t know how much it means!
I was bullied and alienated for most of my life - both in the academic and professionak context.
You are not alone. I was too. But we are great people, know that.
Hope you know that just because people don't understand you, doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. You're great!! Keep going!!
It was the same with me. But remember, nothing wrong with you. You are awesome
@Toltecs Gaming you guys always bully us !!!!
I hate dishonesty and being lied to. If I can feel you're lying to me or putting up a fake character, I won't want to talk to or even be talked to by you.
Same. I abhor lying and don't understand why people do it so much. Hard to trust anyone once you know they've lied about something.
SAME! I told my daughter when she was about 11 that there’s nothing I can’t stand more than a liar. Told her, I’ll respect you more if you tell me a harsh truth than if you lie. So of course, she became a teen… at 15 I caught her in a big lie…. Oh my stars, she learned then to never lie like that again.
as an ENFP, I LOVE LOVE LOVE INFPs so much, I often feel misunderstood and yall are the very few who actually understand me and make me feel validated, so to all the INFPs out there, you are amazing, those who dislike u just ain't for u
As an INFP, I've always admired ENFPs soooo much. They are such fantastic role models for me because they manage to retain all the NFP ideals and still be the star of the show, they are so friendly and tend to leave a lasting impact on me. I love ENFPs
Omg just be my friend already
TOOK THE WORDS OUT OF MY MOUTH! :D
2 sides of the same coin
I'm INFP so thank youu💜
The thing about us INFPs is that people like us [perhaps due to stereotypes and all] until they don't [after meeting a real INFP]. I've met a lot of people who were jealous of me because despite not having much in my life I was completely contented, while they strive for things that don't matter to me and yet they're still unsatisfied with their lives, so they try to pull me back down to their level to see me miserable. People like those in this world only likes an INFP when it benefits them. (Which is also why i became a magnet for toxic people when I didn't know about boundaries and went through great lengths at helping people, even those who didn't deserve it.) It's not just that, but I slowly come to realize from my genuine friends that my intentions are often misunderstood (after years of being friends with them they've slowly come to understand I only do things out of good intentions) because people who meet us thinks our kindness is fake. Some people in my life in the past had spread malicious rumors about me due to this, and it worked exactly *because* people think my kindness is fake. I mean, at this day and age you can hardly find a kind and honest person without ulterior motives or ill intentions, so i understand where they're coming from.
But here's the thing; I understood that it doesn't matter if they don't like me, it doesn't matter if most people dislike me. I find more joy in having few, genuine people in my life liking me like my friends and family. I hope my fellow INFPs realize this truth for themselves, because it can be really freeing. I hope you all embrace yourselves no matter what people think, because not all people deserve your love and kindness for humanity.♡
Your comment is everything I am going through rn .
I had same issue like you did and just recently cut off all the toxic people from my life, because they were trying to bring me down and is also tiring especially with people who think our kindness is fake... Like is never enough to them...
you should get top comment
Mate, I'm in your exact situation rn, but as an high school student I can tell you that, after I changed school due to family problems, I went in a class in which all the people around me at first were trying to be my friend and I was like " What a great start" but as time went by, I feel that the most of my classmates were and are still using me and my kindness, like my old class did, and I've not all the strength to pull of all my toxic friends because it's hard to me to say 'no' to them, so I really don't know what to do...
Ps. Sorry for my bad English but I'm italian :D
you put it into words so perfectly
I always get so confussed whe someone hates me or dislikes me. I usually after one day know by intuition if this person will get along with me or not. If something is wrong. Infp's have really good intuition and highly developed observation and thanks to it we can avoid toxic people. But its rare for me to dislike someone, so when someone does it from the start It feels strange.
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Yes exactly we give people a chance. We aren’t hostile so it’s strange when people act hostile towards us. W
Yeah I usually give a benefit of a doubt. Thinking I could be wrong just because of fear anxiety. However, experience has shown me that My instincts or gut feelings about people, more often than not, turn out to be right. I find, I keep hoping that I'll be wrong About these people. the patterns that I see, and what i naturally foresee happening next.
@@wimsylogic65 i have similar experiences. You should never ignor it when you feel something is not okay. I always regret it
When someone dislikes infps, it's probably because they know that the infp can see through them. Most likely toxic ppl disliking infps
Because you can see through everyone's BS
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Yes
I think some people hate me because they can see how different I act to them and to people I feel connected to. I can’t show who I am to people who I can see that I cannot connect with. I talk a lot to those who I trust but don’t talk a all to people who might hate me because I just cannot care enough about them.
Thisss^^ I feel like extroverts have a prejudice towards me bc I’m not as open towards them. I don’t like trivial talk, I’d rather talk about something meaningful and/or controversial to have a better connection with them. This is why I tend to avoid those who can’t hold a deeper conversation, seeming “out of it”. We are readers after all, ig you can say the person has to pass the vibe check before we can reveal ourselves 😅
Omg exactly!
Yeah! Like I met a girl when I did an exam and immediately connected with her whereas someone who I knew all my life looked at me like I was a completely different person
Yeaah actually maybe? INFP’s can connect deeply with the right people, and if someone senses they’re not ”that” person maybe they feel insecure..? I have an ENFJ friend who seem to feel that way about me… We’re friends because we have lots of interests and values in commmon, still I have friends who I connect with better. But so does she 🤷🏼♀️
honestly the thought of someone hating something about me makes me anxious
Embrace it. Bad people choose hate over love. So why be bothered by a bad persons opinion
Even if you change, others will turn to also dislike you eitherway. Accept that not everyone will like or will vibe with you. We can't please everyone. I honestly stopped caring. If I'm happy, then I'm happy, no one is being harmed, their dislike is their problem. If they choose to hate you without an explanation, GIVE EM HELL 😈
I think people can hate us. I respect their choice. But we shouldn't blame us without proper grounds, and we have the right to defend when attacked.
I was annoyed when someone hated me. But now I try to respect their opinions. We are willing to accept criticism, providing appropriate grounds. I'll withdraw myself for them
Makes me anxious too~ but I've learned that the sooner we accept that, the better. It's almost always just a tall shadow cast by a small figure.
As an INFP, this question is pretty easy. We are non-conformists, and internally motivated. To us, this makes us trustworthy--but to the vast majority of people it makes impossible to trust.
Amen
extremely naive armchair activists with zero appreciation for logical nuance
😅😅😅
I see straight through people but it doesn't mean I hate them, in fact I love people. I just wish they didn't hate me for being different.
I don't hate people I just dislike them a reasonable amount.
I see all the flaws pretty much the first day I know someone. My problem is I think those flaws are "character" and have trouble figuring out exactly how much bullshit I should be expected to put up with.
I'm fine with people who dislike me just flat out not liking me. Simplifies _a lot._ Someone who says "I like you" but then proceeding to not act like they like you isn't a betrayal or a surprise, it's just more bullshit to deal with.
@@samwallaceart288look at me necroing comment threads, but... I've been a relationship with an INFP for sometime (8 years) and now i think i understands a few things... I don't think INFP's are as good at reading people as they are narrowing in on the traits in people and events they dislike. They also tend to struggle thinking others care about them when in reality they hardly trip others peoples radars. As an INTJ personally, i find her desire to wear fancy outfits and odd tastes perplexing when she talks about wanting to blend into the background, yet insists on making herself stick out. I strongly encourage you guys to stop concerning yourself with others opinions of you A. because most people don't have an opinion of you and B. most people are worthless and their opinions are even moreso.
I'm hardly an optimist, but nothing is perfect and theres value in seeing the good with the bad in both people and experiences. You aren't going to get the full range of experiences and growth if you cannot handle the bad with the good.
There's nothing wrong with being wrong or making a mistake, only not learning from that mistake.
I know my core mission of making myself better everyday is not something you guys often ruminate or on, and i know you INFPs are far less intrigued by the idea of tearing your thoughts and beliefs to shreds in hopes you might improve, but theres an incredible amount you can gain by worrying less and directing your energy towards being the best you, that you can be.
Sidenote: I don't really think my fiancee can read me well at all, but then again most people who have strong emotions about things can't. I can usually guess her thoughts though, the logic she lets drive her decisions is very different than my own, but she is predictable in her own way.
I just learned I am an INFP-T, and this video is so true! I can cut a person out of my life so quickly without any explanation! Also, I never tell people what I’m going through, and I am REALLY BAD at keeping up with deadlines! I’m always getting lost in my mind! 😂
Same! I'm an INFP-T... It's so hard to explain to people how you feel, when you're not even sure yourself ..
So, basically narcissists hate it when an INFPs kindness runs out and will no longer put up with being taken advantage of. Too bad, so sad, I guess? Trust me, after enough of that, the INFP is not exactly losing sleep over that isht.
I wouldn't say that... I feel sad for narcissists who cannot see the danger of their being... 😞
@@RosheenQuynh no need to waste sad feelings on narcissists.. 🙇🏾♂️
@@acharich You're asking me to not be myself by not feeling sad...
@@RosheenQuynh no, I’m asking u to steward ur emotions well by not wasting sadness on someone that doesn’t even deserve it.. 🥺
@@acharich Everyone deserves compassion.
I'm an infp... I think people become insecure around quiet people. I worked most of my life but I do enjoy a day of daydreaming.
As an INFP I was a loner as a kid. Then when I begun to make friends in high school, I didn't even know that the toxic people were gravitating towards me and I was too nice so I kept pushing away the inner voice that told me to stay away from those people, thinking it was just a dumb hunch etc.
Then those toxic "friends" left me so hurt and insecure and I sadly had do the "doorslam" to them in order to protect whatever pieces of me was left from their shark teeth.
Now I always listen to my inner voice when I have a negative hunch about someone. And as an infp, I look as naive as I look too friendly and thus toxic people keep coming to me to use me, take advantage of my non-assertive personality etc.
Currently going to therapy, listening to "therapy in a nutshell" on youtube (that lady is downright amazing, I recomment it to all INFP's) and I'm trying to more outspoken, be assertive, not be afraid to stomp my feet down and say no, be confident etc.
I hope all of us INFP's can be more confident and outspoken because God knows we need it😔
True. I wish I found my voice again. I got silenced by so many bad experiences I had in my life with the toxic people, narcissits and other decieving people. I find it very hard to talk publicly. When they make fun of my spelling something incoretly or if they act like what I am saying is boring - it causes me to shut down and keep quiet. Also I was and still I am getting picked up on very often. Like often I am target for bullies, online trolls, toxic people. I don't have sharp tongue to tell them something or to come with some good comeback. I can stay silent ot tell them that they are toxic but the damage is done. They bite me and took my energy and I am left for the rest of the day with bitter or angry feelings or even one nasty comment can make me cry because it reminds me of how I was bullied in past and I can't stop it. I wish I could. I wish I was able to tell them something bad in return. I do have low self-esteem because of being bullied. Can I ask how did you become more confident as INFP? What helped you?
Same story here...Sometimes it's too hard.
Its been a while since your comment but the world has gone upside down in the meanwhile and I learned it the hardway. I practice respecting myself and saying no when I need to.there is a fight going on and we need to participate in it. Maybe when we participate it's no more such chaos that we expected of it. It's a practice of having a place in this world. Have gone through the same journey as you written down here and I feel hopeful. Wish the best for you.
@@DZ-jz8bj once I was talking to a person about this feeling that I get that people are bullies and they fon't like me etc. In response he was a bit cruel but spit out truth, "nobody thinks about you". I think as infps we have to understand that people are responding to their history of trauma and not to Us specifically. That's liberating. Helps us strategize and blend in and accept ourselves. Always think of your personality as a mask. Noone sees behind it and everyone is just going by their own perspective, mostly just reacting to their own inner deficiency.
@@shallowwatersoriginal And also, fat people are treated much worse than thin / skinny people.
As an INTP, I love INFP’s. They’re really refreshing and they always have something interesting in their heads. 10/10 good friends to have
We are just different, I don't care about trivial stuff that others do. And I don't want to answer to people just because I am myself, if they don't like me, and some don't, they can move on. We only open up to people who are trustworthy. A lot of people are just looking for someone to bully or gangstalk. INFPs are the most gang stalked of all 16 personality types. Most of us try to keep our head down and stay out of other people's way.
I do not keep my head down, soeak for yourself 😂
I love cutting people . After I cut them , I feel my little world become so clean without those people 🥰. I don’t provide reasons when I cut toxic friends, because I think they know what they did to me + I hate confrontation/ conflict. I don’t care whether they want a reason or not since if they didn’t care about my feeling, I won’t care about their feeling.
Lol this sounds serial killer-y
Communication is important though! Express how you feel, for the sake of your own wellbeing 💌
Sometimes my parents tell me I know what I did wrong when I don't and that hurts. But I also do that so I guess I am a hypocrite I mean I do not have friends but I do that to people I don't like. Like Victoria.
Awwww SAME!
im still mad abt how some ppl hate us infp’s bcz our imagination gets in the way of doing our work. HOW ARE WE SUPPOSED TO CONTROL THAT??? i would love it if the ppl who hate us infp’s become one of us for day, to face the criticism that we receive from ppl like them.
you can get better at it as you grow as an infp
My imagination is a curse though. I lose so much time daydreaming. Also, I often hear fully formed songs in my head from my own imagination but get annoyed when I forget them and lose them forever.
@@richardrichard688 I hum a lot. The good songs are songs that resurrect themselves 3 times in a row even after I thought I forgot them. The songs I make a point to record on the spot the 1st time i think of it tend to be mediocre and I wonder ... _why_ did I record this? But there's a whole album of melodies I enjoy time and again that are that way only in my head and are that good because they survived my forgetfulness.
If you try to imagine yourself as the best possible warrior that has to have „No mind” basically zero thoughts.
It will leave you with No thoughts going on, it’s a huge relief
This is so true as a high schooler infp my classmates often look down on me because they think I have no ability to do those works or just can't do it, but that's not the case!
They hate you because you see what they are like a mirror, and the dont like human mirrors!
So true.
Yes, totally we mirror what other people do
@@adriasorensen2249 Ohhhhhhhh so I'm not the only one who does that 🤣
It’s very easy for me to open up to people. But if someone hurts me, I dunno why I just don’t wanna tell them anything personal anymore-
if someone breaks trust of INFP they are gone forever lol, it's almost impossible to get the respect back
@@antzooma yeah that’s how it is with me. Or it’s very hard to get that back. Cause friendships and love is very special to me.
@@wroman1844 well as INFP you could judge for yourself, of course if you think someone made an honest mistake you can forgive, or you may want to give people the benefit of the doubt. As the video mentions it tends to be constant breaks in trust and you realize you can't do anything but cut them out
@@antzooma that’s abit accurate but sometimes a person messes up so much I can’t deal with it anymore. Even if it’s on accident.
@@wroman1844 yeah if you feel the trust is gone then there's nothing to do :)
55y/o INFP/HSP/Empath.
I have learned that we can see through those b.s artists, bullies and con man/women and all three hate it and will go to the ends of the Earth to discredit us, bully us, get us fired/make us leave.
Also, at 55y, I am finally moving up Maslow's Hierarchy, I got side tracked for decades with my Bipolar Disorder and my special needs child.
I am in a much better place and my child is doing good.Thank you God and Jesus Christ!
It's my time to grow again!
The world needs us!
Your comment is heartwarming !!
Thank you for sharing your experience with us .
Fellow INFP & HSP
Oh wow! It makes me happy to hear you seem to have found your place in life as an INFP. May I ask in which ways you connect the most with Jesus? How does He use you as an INFP Christian? I'm really eager to hear your wise advice, since as an immature believer and INFP I really struggle to find my place in the church and what the Lord wants me to be like.
Yes, share your story, wise one!
That's awesome. Reading your comment made me feel better. Could you send out some of your positive vibes to an INFP who struggles? 🤗
God bless you!
Yes, I understood it as well in my adult life, because in school it hurts a lot when somebody didn't like you just because you exist. I was bullied through all my school years, but actually it made me stronger. I also found my peace in faith in Jesus.
Im autistic so i'm not good at reading people, I learned through being hurt by others. Now I'm less trusting unless someone proves to me they're genuine and shows it with actions
The mindset to have
I think that's a really good thing
I have autism too
While I'm really good at reading people pretty much as soon as I meet them, I still struggle to find someone I can really open up to. A lot of people just up and leave me the moment I was just letting them get to know me. Always because of other life stuff I know for a fact had nothing to do with me, but the timing still feels somehow personal like, "No, _you_ don't get that." Bruh.
For 24 years I've always figured I was inherently 'bad' because people seemed to dislike me before I even knew them. I always had a good gut when it came to people. Now I am seeing a group of deep feeling and thinking, individualistic and strong willed people. I can see how others would find that threatening if they don't have the same internal world as us and can't see our perspective, turning the criticism on us instead of working on themselves.
To humilliate their mindset publicly, is what comes better for curing that. So whatever drives this toxic behaviour inside them gets pwned and exposed so everyone else knows their flaw any time they be thinking to repeat it again against anyone.
It’s so hard being an INFP seeing through people but also assuming the best of them
We don’t need an explanation to spend time with immature people.
I’m used to the instant hate by now, it used to bother me but now I don’t care 😂. As an INFP I just become an emotional dumping ground to 99% of people I encounter anyway 😂, or I attract narcissists.
This makes me feel depressed. I’m good with deadlines, I just wait until the last second to finish up my project. I’m an average student, but I talk less than everyone in my class
Same🤧
as an older infp it doesn't make me feel depressed yet i agree with everything in the video. as you grow as an infp you learn how to get better at some things and learn to let other things go that are out of your control
Story of my life
Same
As a Gemini ENTP, I cherish and love my Cancer INFP gf. I absolutely go out of my way to make sure that my antics don't harsh her vibe too hard. That said, she totally gets me and puts up with my particular brand of BS. We put each other in each other's place and we like it. I'm gonna hold on to her like Grim Death I love her so much.
Omg, where is this 'lazy' narrative stemming from? 😮💨 I'm an INFP. My dad is an INFP. My best friend is an INFP...and there is nothing, come hell or high water, that would ever stop us from doing a given task, *well.* Something I think gets overlooked in this function set is that we are people pleasers; the LAST thing we'd ever want is to be trusted with responsibility and then break that trust. That would hugely upset us, so how would it ever become a regular occurrence? Every INFP I've known, myself included, tries to over do what they've been asked, if anything. Our imaginations are not running out of control to the point where we're overwhelmed by life and can't function--how would we ever complete degrees or hold down any jobs? How would we run a household? Sure, it might take us a bit longer to adjust, but we work hard and we get things done--this is double true if we have a passion for our duties, and/or a supportive team to collab with.
Totally agree
The lazy stereotype are from an INFP who will prefer to spend time in their imagination and avoid interacting with the world. It is unhealthy to hide in your imagination when there is work to do, but it is fine when it is on your own time.
I believe the difference is between the turbulent type and the assertive type but I might be wrong. Turbulence is when your emotions are overwhelming and assertive is when you are able to focus and direct them (this is my own opinion from anecdotal life experience).
You are talking about healthy INFPs who will work day and night to make sure they have accomplished the task that was asked of them. Maybe having so many other INFP in your life has helped you from avoiding the unhealthy behaviours, which can arise from being misunderstood and feeling isolated or even mistreated.
It can be really unpleasant to try and please someone who is critical and never satisfied with your work, this can trigger unhealthy responses towards that person and snowball if you value them (my mom was like that) and are never able to please them no matter how hard you try or how good your work is.
Strangely I overheard her talk about what a good worker I was and that I did an excellent job when she did not know I was there. I was in my teens and this helped me change my feelings, I knew she was critical of me to get my best, she just failed to ever give me positive feedback as encouragement. Eventually once I was an adult she did start to acknowledge my hard work and accomplishments, we developed a much better relationship as a result.
I’m the INFP that is bad with deadlines 🙂 I work hard but I know that all deadlines are fabricated and they just don’t motivate me. It has been a constant struggle in school and work. Being a people pleaser makes it easy to get burned out and depressed and then deadlines REALLY don’t matter. Other people perceive me as lazy and they might be right, but it’s too bad that this perception affects other INFPs
I would say "distracted" rather than "lazy".
All the other replies above are great. I'd like to add my thoughts as an INFP. When I'm getting paid or when other people are really depending on me to complete a task, I'm on top of it and get it done in a reasonable amount of time. If a task is solely mine, where it's something personal and affects no one else directly, then that's when I tend to procrastinate, which looks an awful lot like laziness.
I'm an infp.. 19 years old... And people consider infp as kind and yk loving type but lately I've feeling like I'm not the kindest and nice person... I don't feel. Like a nice person in my past there were times where i used to gossip with other people or judge someone or hate someone without any reason and maybe selfish at time and i feel terrible and i also know that i don't like to gossip and judge other but when I'm with certain people i think i don't have anything to say and just to be with i used to gossip even though later I'll feel terrible it was about 2-3 years ago but i still feel terrible now i am really conscious about my word and try to be real and say when i want to be... And just yk i was in really dark and sort of depressing phase of my life... As an infp i don't feel I'm kind and nice person... Just wanted to let it out cause its been on my mind for few days...:)
Indeed - it's good to let you out. And I hope you find peace
No you don’t need to be always nice and kind. I’m not either and nothing defines us all wholly anyways. I see a lot of memes or writing about how Infp’s want to help everyone and do things for others almost as if we were selfless. That would be nice but not reality usually.
Hey... fellow infp here. I know exactly where you're coming from. I've struggled with that as well. It was really hard for me but I realized that no matter how much good I do/ how nice I am I'm still a really bad person. In relation to the ten commandments (including you shall not lie, steal, lust, hate(Jesus said that lust and anger are just as bad as adultury and murder)) I was not at all good or kind and I was headed for hell (eternal spiritual death apart from God) rather than where I am headed now - eternal spiritual life with God. Only because Jesus has paid for my sins on my behalf on the cross I can be genuinely kind and unselfish. I realized that I couldn't be unselfish without Jesus (I'm still not perfect, but when I do wrong things I tell God I'm sorry, ask for forgiveness, trust that Jesus has saved me already, and try not to do it again.)
If you have any questions at all, feel free to reply, and I'll answer as best as I can!
I think that's what makes you a good person. Maybe you don't feel like you are nice, but you definitely are not a bad person if you are feeling this troubled now. Of course you won't like everyone, or will say/think bad stuff about others, especially if you are feeling more emotional at the moment, but nobody is perfect, recognizing your errors and trying to do something about it is what makes you a better person than you think.
Also, you are young! I'm not that much older but yeah, when I was a teen I could be really nasty at times, but it's not uncommon for teenagers to be like that from time to time.
@@lazyval27 thank you for your words , im feeling much better now
:))
I find that people either like me or they don’t. Those that don’t are usually narcissistic or are pretending to be something they are not, and they know I can see right through them which makes me a threat.
Those who like me or are drawn to me know that they can tell me anything and I will not judge them. They also know I will carry their “secrets” to my grave and never betray their trust.
I have learned to trust my gut. If something tells me to avoid a person, I do not waste time trying to figure out why.
If I have to work with them then I am polite and professional but I do not let my guard down, ever.
INFP’s are one of the rarest personality types so a lot of people do not get where we are coming from while we are able to easily understand where they are coming from. This can make for a lonely life at times because it is rare that we find others we are able to connect with on a deeper level. Which is why we spend much of our lives feeling emotionally and intellectually starved.
One reason I do not have many close friends is because most people take far more from me than they are able to give. It can be very exhausting so I’ve learned to establish healthy boundaries to prevent people from unintentionally or intentionally draining me dry.
Our introverted nature is our way of decompressing from the outside world. Too much stimulation, interaction, etc. leaves us drained and we withdraw to heal and bring peace back into our lives.
Not really. People don’t like immature INFPs because they’re flakes, can’t take being teased, can’t take a joke about themselves well at all, make everything about overly-feely stuff and a lot are actually very fake and pathologically lie and cheat in relationships. I’ve known 3 narcissists who were INFPs - the personality disorder. Anyone can be one regardless of Mbti type. I’ve never been in a romantic relationship with one or slept with one. Usually end up with ENFPs, INFJs, other ENTPs. The worst types as friends or lovers in my experience have been: ESFP & ESTP.
That’s the dark side stuff. I’ve had good relationships with INFPs besides that pattern of the above I’d noticed. I’m an ENTP though so I’m bound to be seen as antagonistic or high conflict, even when I’m not because I am an actual lie detector.
I think you’ve written some decent things though btw. Not totally dissing you. I agree with your approach to life for the most part. You seem a good person.
@@wetwhistlinwillyjohnson5743 Do you know all what happened those as you call them "immature INFP" ? What may seem to you as being "flakes", can't take being teased, can't take a joke, it can be in reality that what other see as joke / teasing is for them unpleasant not because they can't take a joke, but because it touches their deeper wounds or reminds them some trauma from past. Every person can be fake, lie and cheat no matter what personality type it is. And when it comes to narcissists - thats not pure INFP person. They are disordered and they do not wish to make world a better place. Need to take that in consideration.
Me :trying my best to focus in class
Also me : daydreaming while the teacher is teaching.
Yes, that's my pain
I am a pretty standard infp except I tend to over share. I think a long time ago as everyone I knew would dump their emotional problems in my lap I started sharing my troubles to help them feel better.
It's taken me a long time to figure out the correct amount of oversharing. Generally I try to read the room and share what can be made funny. Making it about humor and shared humanity helps avoid over-complaining and also gives me something to shoot for that isn't "dead silence". Trauma can be constructive rather than merely descriptive.
You know, I tried that for years on the basis that it would tend to open people up so they could share. But for some reason, in recent years, people started telling me, "This is not about YOU!" So.....I'm burned. What can I say? Maybe it's best to say something like, "I know someone who went through this and ..."
@@kalulu1675 That's a common issue
Scenario A: people are talking about many things in the abstract: *good time to share your own story* (albeit remembering to read the room and keep it to the details you think will fit into the current conversation)
Scenario B: one person is airing an on-going, emergent grievance yet unresolved: *bad time to share about yourself* because it downplays what is an urgent matter (to them, at least).
And if people clearly aren't stopping to hear your point, it's just not the right moment and there's no shame in pinning your thought for later
@@samwallaceart288 That's a good perspective on two different scenarios. I'll have to think about that one.
any other INFP's also struggle with getting their thoughts and feelings into words for other people to understand. cause the amount of times I think of something or wanna explain something weather its about me/my feelings or some out of the box idea, I just cant seem to find the right words and phrasing's to make it the way I see it in my head.
I have exactly the same problem! I wish I could just send to others (maybe in telepathic way) the picture or my feelings for them to understand. No matter how hard I try to explain how I feel, it looks like my words can't go throught them. I don't know why.
@@DZ-jz8bj yeah! its so frustrating cause i know what im saying makes sense or is smart but cause i can never get the words out correctly they always looks at me with the "uh huh..sure" look and it low key hurts XD
Yeah…I’ve been told by many that I am instantly adored or hated…no in between. For those that instantly hated me but were forced to be around me for awhile at work or in class, they always end up growing to love me…eventually they always end up telling me how much they hated me at first…usually because I am “really weird” or “too quiet” or am a “know it all.” As for never finishing anything…only when there’s no one I feel like I will disappoint…I can’t really help it. I go hard when I get into things and burn out fast because of it.
Most people that don't like me, ended up liking me or we have ended things amicably, sometimes with me slowly cutting them out of my life.
One person though, just hated me for being too nice. I said that I don't really get angry once, so she tried to prove me wrong by harassing me. I knew what she was trying to do and I wasn't going to cave in and get angry.
It didn't last long because being nice is my default and I've been nice to everyone. So they had my back whenever she tried anything, she tried and tried and tried until she just couldn't because people fought her every step of the way.
But the sweetest revenge for me is when I decided to continue being nice to her. I kept smiling at her knowing she hated it because she would never win this battle.... And that just made me smile even more.
We ended up losing touch but I reckon she still hated me till the last day we saw each other. Just thinking about her makes me smile again.
I hope she learned to later on be more mature and learned to give and receive kindness graciously now.
Reminds me of one of the bosses I had. Sheeeesh. Crazy women everywhere.
Why do these nutjobs exist?
Good shit 😂 that’s something I would totally do. Same here I’m nice to everyone but someone people don’t like me . At my uni campus club my friend and I saw 2 of our old flatmates in 1 st yr. they walked passed me and hugged my other friend. I was like ok cool Fuck U in my mind. I’m telling u it’s bitches that do the most.
I’m nice 2 everyone if u respect me and I respect u that’s it. Plain and simple . Sometimes I can get blunt as f or authentic I would like to say coz everyone is afraid to say it.
I wish more people instantly disliked me so they'd leave me alone 😆
Lots of people dislike me and I dislike them back but they do not leave me alone. I wish they did but if someone I did not dislike did not like me then that would make me sad.
Facts!👍
@@bastienx3420 I agree with that (:
Indeed.
we can work under pressure and finish things ... we have Te ... it is just not as easy for us as for some other Te users
I Finnish everything/but dont do well with fresher/yet I put lots on myself/just take lots of breaks!
@@gentianvandewerken929 the last few years I am trying to make difficult things into routine... but I can finish as well...just am a bit slowlier at times
As an INFP, its hard for me to find a someone like me lol
Me too
As a INFP-T I stood up in shock from how accurate this is
I'm in INFP and I was the most loyal, prompt and punctual student, and got all of my assignments done on time while striving do my absolute best....and left collage with a 4.0 gpa because of it. There where times when I even had to carry on group projects by myself and did their share of work because the rest of the students said it was a waste of their time. In addition to this I am an artist and have taken on and finished projects that I was told I was quote "in capable of" while I'm sure that some INFPs are lazy and find it hard to complete tasks not all of us are this way
Im an INFP too and i can tell most of the INFP's are not lazy just unmotivated. Sadly a lot of us have this problem and it often leads to depression.
90% of the time, its us not liking them or distancing ourselves from them because most people don't necessarily understand us. This is why when we do happen to make a few friends, they often are life long friends because they understand us.
"Cutting people out of their lives" oh that's so true. I feel guilty for that. I feel bad for my friends
My family is basically a bunch of INFPs. The way we "organize" family events baffles my husband. He refuses to get involved.
I'd love to know the full story 😂
Lmao, tell us more
As an infp this is actually so sad and i believe that everyone have a good heart and each personality type is awesome and first of all the haters should maybe get to know the person more before saying they're bad and some infps are not like other infps everyone is special in their way even if we have the same type and our creativity and passion about things we like help us communicate with others and if you still hate us for that i will respect your opinion even though it hurts and if youre still reading hope you're having a wonderful day!
@Toltecs Gaming np i think estjs are amazing love you
We cannot put up with fake or pretentious people. It is difficult and impossible for us. We seek genuine connections. We give it our everything when people around us are having a hard time but when they are selfish and treat us like an 'use and throw', we will simply move away. It breaks our heart too but we want to be valued and cherished as well. We call out on people's lies. Either that or we simply do not want to associate with such people. We do not judge. We like people who are honest with us rather than buttering us up with an underlying intention. We are gullible because we treat people with sincerity and believe they will too. So we get hurt when they aren't. We try our best to give people chances and are very empathetic even tho we know the other person is not sincere. This is because we care for them and 'hope' that someday they will treat us with sincerely but after taking in too much hurt, we get depressed and go back to our cave. We tend to cry easily cos we are often misunderstood and criticized unfairly.
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This. I think this is the most difficult thing in me to overcome. I very often wish I trusted someone so much to let them know about all the difficulties and traumas I've experienced, i know a lot of things I do are from lessons I told myself to take from passed hardships, to prevent them happening and hurting me again. If they understood my past they'll understand my present protective traits. Because I feel like my anxious traits make people not like hanging out with me, but I can't stop them, *trust me* I hate the traits more than they hate them
you couldn’t have said it any better!! i relate to this so much like, once in high school my then best friend did something that made me not trust her anymore and that made it harder to trust ANYONE anymore… if u know what i mean.. like even tho the other people have nothing to do with it, it’s difficult to gain my trust after going through something like that with someone
@@clairoscheetos4184 I get you
My teacher don't like me because i'm too nervous to talk with her, and she misunderstanding about me like i don't like her or don't need friends in class. She has firm and committed personality.
After that, i really hate her.
Because i hate, i can casually talk to her. Haha
Plzz you remind me of my previous teacher...the same thing was going on!! THANK GOD SHE'S NOT MY TEACHER NOW 😒
I used to want more friends (never usually had more than a couple at once) but being quiet and reserved made me come across as antisocial I think. Ironically, it took me a very long time to discover that talking to people became easier once I stopped caring about the outcome and whether they liked me or not.
I know this kind of teacher but I will never understand them, like as a far as I know being a teacher requires you to learn basic psychology while you're in training and I honestly don't get it how some teachers are way worst at reading others compare to us. I always wonder, can't you read my mind???
I'm a dreamer, a visionary. And my ideas have been carefully thought through and researched. Yet, when I open my mouth to speak, people laugh at me, shove my ideas aside and call it ridiculous and not possible. Where I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that my ideas will definitely work if everyone works together to the common goal. But people couldn't care less about their neighbors, or to better the community. They are too stagnant in their ways, no place for change for the better. I can't do things alone, I need a team to LISTEN to me, DO AS I SAY, and reep the wonderful results.
Yes! I have the solution for literal world peace, given to me by Jesus Christ, and I cannot do it alone. The plan is to befriend your literal neighbours, then gently encourage them to be friends with their literal neighbours. Then the overlapping circles of friendship = world peace.
I have long realised that we have the solution to every problem, it's just selfishness preventing implementation. I was hopeless about that for a long time, but then I met Jesus Christ and He made it all better. He has everything under control, I just have to step back and watch Him do it, and play my part as He guides me to. I love Jesus ❤
I have a love-hate relationship with the MBTI INFP. I'm an INTJ.
I like the empathetic and compassionate nature of INFPs but dislike how it seems as if being a pushover and people pleaser comes with it. I especially dislike their overthinking nature. Sure, everyone's insecure about something, but don't overthink cute details of the past that much. It's not necessary. I know you can't help it, since you're doing it unconsciously, but I can't count the amount of times my INFP friends randomly started screaming in chat because of something they did that happened like 4-6 years ago, how do you even remember that-
I dislike how INFPs have this kind of standards, well, ideals for themselves and when they fail to meet their ideals, they start to berate themselves. It's okay to want an ideal self, but you're not useless nor worthless if you don't meet up to your current standards. It's about small steps; And hey, maybe in another person's eyes you might have already become the person you wanted to become. Every perspective is different after all.
Contrary to the public opinion in the chat, I don't mind being analysed. I actually like knowing their analysis about the patterns in my behavior that I never even noticed. Well, too bad that my friends don't do that but at least I often do it to myself?
Now, I'm not a stereotypical INTJ, nor is the person reading this is the stereotype of their MBTI. You might not have the characteristics that I mentioned, or you might, but you shouldn't beat yourself up if you do have them. Disliking your flaws isn't going to make things better, living happily is more on about addressing your flaws and appreciating your strengths
As an INFP who struggles with being an overthinker and who sets standards for myself I can't reach to then beat myself up over not reaching them ... I needed to read this, thank you
This is very sweet :')
Those must be the reasons INFP has the stereotype of being depressed XD It's hard to control those thoughts (and they might be the main reason I actually became depressed :') but it's super nice to read another person talk about their point of view of those behaviours
Thank you so much 💞💞💞
This comment is one of the reasons why I like INTJs. Thank you, insightful stranger!
@i .candy I agree with your first sentence; Gotta love good self esteem. Anyway, it's true that all types has self esteem issues, yes, even I do too. Though the problem is that it just seems as if the INFP type is more prominent and particularly deeper (Correct me if I'm wrong, this is opinionated) with the issues that I mentioned, which are the ones I get very concerned about. Sorry about the speeches lol, I do that too, though I wouldn't particularly consider it as 'jumping all over you', could you please give me an example?
I didn't really understand your last sentence. In my opinion, INFPs are very agreeable and I often ask them for their opinion when I do something out of the mundane
@i .candy They're talking about our Fi-Si loop. Sure, other types can be perfectionists as well. But we have a tendency to enjoy our own misery, so to say. Right now, you are the one making excuses for your own behaviors by directing the problem on others instead of being introspective about it. That is an excuse. And obviously, not everything we do is always wrong in people's eyes. Did you not see how this INTJ has compassion for us and is sadden that we belittle ourselves more than anyone can do? Your perceptions are... well only YOUR perceptions of yourself. Most of the time, I'm sure people don't think bad about you as much as you already do in the first place. Of course, I'm not saying this with any bad intention to hurt your feelings, fellow INFP. I just want you to understand that most of the time, and no matter the type, we are our worst critique in life. Change the rhetoric in your head. Talk to yourself with kindness everyday. It will be hard at first but will become an habit slowly but surely. It's a start. We can only change ourselves. 💜
Sorry for any mistake. English is not my main language. 😅
I can work under pressure. I don't have much choice. But I definitely the most slow worker in the line. My team hates me, because they have to make for my mistakes constantly, and I can do nothing to prevent my attention to have balanced focus(my work+ others movements+positions of all important objects around+needs of others+witty conversations)
As an ISTJ, I like INFP. They are awsome and I feel like I wanna protect them.
ALL of these negative traits CAN be defied as one matures. Self actualized INFPs would look like INFJs from the surface level, despite still having the same cognitive processes. Everyone can change and improve, INFPs are good in that.
Put an affirmation and make your promises, that you can actually organise things and get them done. Find ways to use your creativity, recognise situations that pose you difficulties, and try to come up with creative approaches to improve your experience without compromising the goal. Don't bottle up all your thoughts, it turns into a black hole of trouble. Identify those that you can open up to, and happily share your thoughts and experiences according to your comfort. Then others would find that you are more interesting and friendlier than what appears.
I agree with everything except not finishing via deadlines.
Deadlines are the only thing that helps me finish, granted I will stay up all night the day before the deadline to get things done, and if it takes longer than an entire day and night (I have literally worked 24hrs straight on things) I may not complete it on time.
Some jobs the other person shows up late and I continue to work until that time, so I am often very close to completion if time was prohibitive in getting it done. If I have 4 months to get something down, and it takes a week to complete (assuming I know how long) than I will not start the job before the last week except maybe in fitful bursts. If I do procrastinate and the fitful amounts were insufficient it is possible to be quite far from finishing. Give me no deadlines and years might pass with minor work being done. Not surprisingly, we never honour our own deadlines, unless they synch up with some other time constraint.
And of course INFP`s feel uncomfortable asking for help, even if we have helped you more times than either of us can count over decades of knowing you. So if you want to help and be supportive of your INFP, you actually have to present yourself and say here I am to help you, we will breath a sigh of relief and let you in. And if you do we are deeply appreciate, but may or may not say so at first since it might trigger our emotions. We will feel more comfortable telling you once the task is complete and we are able to process those emotions without interfering in the work at hand.
I love INFP’s personality. They are sweet, fun, funny, full of unique and creative ideas. But there are two things.
1. They struggle with confidence.
2. in a society they trust.
Perhaps never feeling understood or finding any one understanding caused a backwards perception because they are light in a dark brutal world.
I never hate, I can dislike someone or find hard to understand some aspects but never hate. When people hurt me they still won't be hated by me, but I will turn around and leave with no trace or explanation.
Because we're genuine, honest and despite hiding under our own surface, we're always ourselves in any situation.
"Normal" people can't stand that because many lifetimes of misinformation, fiction and paranoia has turned our personality into an enemy of the people.
Like; just existing is already seen as an attack on their "selves". Because we're not like them and that's not how it's supposed to be.
They think that we act out of arrogance and the idea that we're better than them. Which we are, but we never act on it.
It's just that they themselves séé that we're actually better than them, without having to make an effort. And that rubs them the wrong way. And rather than improve themselves, they're much more eager to point fingers and put the blame on those they feel threathened by.
And because most people are like that, that shit is considered normal.
While our uniqueness is considered "problematic" and has even gone so far that they've created medicine to try and change us to be more like them. But most of all, they created that medicine to give themselves some peace of mind. To know they thwarted a problematic individual before he could spread it to others.
There is quite literally a war on introverts that has been going on for millennia and no one's ever mentioning it. Because no one cares about introverts and everyone thinks bad of us, thinks we're up to something. Thank you misinformation, gullible people and corrupt, paranoide, governments for that shit.
I mean just look at spiderman (he is INFP) he made so many enemies because he always do right thing
@@xaviermaster1 I love that Spider-Man is an INFP. I can relate to him so much. Before I saw the movies (2 months ago) and found out he was an INFP, I felt shame towards who I am. He made me so much more grateful that we exist.
@@iHeartPiMore yeah but he always have a cost, he always lose someone after the battle/catch the villain
Right! We are truly better than them!
@@anandakai8028 hey since your infp i gotta ask, what do think/feel about the ukraine conflict?
They never finish what they start. You got me mate. ☺
It's so relatable, and the thing that even i as an infp despise about me is never being able to complete a task, it's hard and i have suffered a lot because of it, but still don't know what to do about it.....
... This sounds more like OTHER people's problems--not ours.
As an ISTJ who has an INFP as a bestfriend for years, im completely fine with her. I get confused as to why some of our classmates before don't get open with their real attitude when they're confronting her. Im glad her classmates now seems to be more friendly and chill with her around :'D
Also, they're the type of ppl i feel like trusting
The thing about infp is that we hate being insencere with our feelings, it tires us out. I guess some people don't like that or finds it weird.
so me being a serial ghoster and physically incapable of completing tasks is just an infp thing? good to know.
I thought i was an INFJ but i recently have been really opening up to the idea of being a INFP, this makes more sense now, i really hate when people start hating us and calling us akward or cringe, they never want to connect, im dealing with this my whole life and cant really find many people who understand me, well im happy you guys can relate, as if we kind of heal each other a bit because we know there are others like us
Don’t finish what we start, can’t work under pressure and can’t make deadlines 😂😭🙌
It depends on how well-developed your inferior function (Te) is. If it's not developed well, sure, but if it had the chance to evolve, we are going to use that to our advantage. And if that INFP in question knows what he is doing, expect him to not only complete tasks but to also beat deadlines by a solid margin.
The only thing that won't change is working under pressure, especially if it's other people attempting to force us to act like headless chickens.
most of the infps i meet are so genuine and eventually fun to be around when youre familiar to them
Be better INFP's cuz you deserve better.
1) It's really what your morals and values are. Learn to harness them. Once you accept healthy things as your values, like not letting anyone hurt you emotionally, and prioritizing yourself first., it's an easy game from there.
2) Start doing tasks as soon as you get them. and finish at least half of it in the 1st day. I know we suck with deadlines but this method helped me a lot. Don't be like "there are this many days left" be like
"I know i will end up daydreamng later so i better get off as much pressure now as possble"
3) Stop caring. Really. I'm an INFP and i don't give a F abt what anyone thinks of me anymore. they can say i'm oody, closed off, isolated, whatever. There are more people who like me and that's enough for me.
4) You're not responsible for other people. Let them work out their problems on their own. you can offer an ear, or some advise, but you cannot step into their shoes and walk on their path. You can only see their prespective, but not alter anyone's actions.
5) Only keep in your life the people who are sncere with you. We are pro lie/intention detectors so yeah, we know who wats what from us. and if it is a deep connection, then i'm up for it. and if you are forced to live with toxic people (parents, siblings etc) just don't let them enter your mind. Disturb your peace.
6) don't turn into a bitch. Kindness costs nothing. Don't trust people but it doesn't mena be blunt with them and spit insults on their faces. Don't be a bitch.
Hey, thank you for your advices it really helps me. 24th March, 2024
I'm an ENFP and I like INFPs a lot!!
My INTP friend was listening to this with me and he agreed on everything as I did 100% 😭😭
"adverse effect" this is so true yet the very people who reacted that way seems too dense even after I adjusted my words to express what I felt, trying to make them understand is tiresome after what seems like a hundred explanations so I just regress to being hesitant 😔
I hate me too, sometimes I don’t blame them 😀
Finally, a video that explains me so well!! Love to all the other INFPs out there💚
1. I like how the P in INFP stands for "personality"
2. Having a hard time finishing tasks are more of an ENFP thing, INFPs have more trouble starting them. Procrastination ("meeting deadlines") is a thing that many other types also suffer with.
Are you mbti certified?
I have trouble starting and finishing 😊
I think INFP can be a great friend. I don´t hate people because their MBTI. I think a weakness of the INFP is sometimes not enough to consider reality and that not everyone believes in his dreams as much as he does. That's a problem when you have someone in a position of power with unrealistic goals who insists on it and that can make me angry. - INTP.
I love infps! I'm also proud of my continued collection of infps in my life. My dearest infps, find the enfps in your life and you will always be understood and loved ❤️ From your beloved enfp comrade ❤️😘
Adversary came from every direction for an INFP it seems. I mean, they are hard to fit into social norm (which is a rather daring trait to have, if I'm being honest) and often completely detached from the world. It is always easy to get judged that way. I am an INFP myself, regarding the many social problem I have to face, no matter what others will always judge. But let me quote my favorite Chinese warlord from the Han Dynasty:
"I would rather betray the world than let the world betray me"
-Cao Cao
Just stay focus on your goal don't let it be another distraction, otherwise we will ended up having another unfinished draft..
All 4 valid points. 🙌
Trust me the list could be longer.
So let's just be happy that only 4 are mentioned.
Sometimes because of my behavior or my appearance, (I hate when it's because of my appearance).
It often happens to me that people only hate me the first time they see me act as I am, for example a classmate from the first class hated me just for being sensitive and trying to be nice to her, she told me I was presumptuous and irritating and never spoke a word to me other than to ask me for a favor or manipulate me and I always thought she would change and forgive her by falling into her trap again
How presumptuous and irritating of her. I would've used her own words against her.
As an INFP I can sense and detect many people's feelings and BS from a mile away and when they do came up to me I gave off this dreamy starry stare at them which are also how a lot of INFP look to them we looked high and disinterested but when we try to engage with them we ended up overdoing it making it more awkward than it needs to be.
So in a way they hated us as who are and we're simply unable to fake it to make it like most can when making friends.
I got treated as an emotional punching bag to a lot of my high school clasmates out of all the chaos going around them I'm their only outlet, their calm listener and receiver both good and bad at schools and that leave a lot of marks on me both physically and mentally
Now I didn't offered that help they just saw me as the odd one out and simply came to me.
I'm beyond bullied by the time I'm a senior high schooler.
Now as an adult people simply avoided me like a plague because I have the ability to make any one felt very awkward when they try to engage a conversation with me, that sense of sheer uncertainty and dread that I gave off to them just scared the hell out of them and I also felt them as well.
This is why I don't have much friends I felt and knew too much burned too many bridges without any effort and can't fake it.
The kicker is I'm doing fine without befriend a lot of people but for those that do befriend me they better be real and deep with it I have no room for BS and opportunists.
All the points in the video all are spot on by the way.
INFPs don't know how to make an argument without applying this same long winded, subjective and self serving idea of people around them
We don’t want others to know our problem because we know that they will disappoint they they do
This is so true and Im tired to be INFP. In the same time, other people seems so boring to me ... Crazy
Relatable.
(There Is so many thing that onself want to express, but will will settle with grattitude för now)
P means perceiving not personality
i'm trying to improve myself and this video makes me recognize my flaws so thanks! good luck infps out there ^^ i hope we all can be the best version of ourselfs
I would never cut anyone out of my life without telling them why. People deserve to know why. It seems pretty narcissistic to do otherwise. A sense of control and one upmanship must come of it. A lack of true equality and empathy. And moral.
I am an INFP few days back searching a lot about that and found about me for an interview some of strengths and weakness too like confident open-minded creative perfectionist etc...
"I don't trust no body and no body trusts me"🎶🎵.. Cutting is also true, the only problem i find myself having with it is, I don't do it soon enough. so now I've fixed that. But #2 is also on point, what i most dislike about myself is starting projects and having so many ideas yet never ever being able to finish them and see it trought. Still waiting to see some project (that requires more than a month of work) I create from start to finish.
I do cut connections with people especially when they're trying to get to know me deeper, being an infp is hard tbh like everything is so messed up, i like being with people as much as i like being alone, yet I don't have any friends cause I'm not a good listener sometimes (I'm always in my imaginations) and they think of me as weird (i often get bullied but I'm not that type of person that will let them bully me, i fight back and when that happens the teacher always believes me cause they know I won't start such violent things), but i attract people too, only those who appreciates my works or just attracted to weirdos and mysterious people, me and my mom aren't really close as I don't tell my parents about my own struggles because there's no reason to tell them and that makes them wander why do I don't get school works done in time, well because if I don't enjoy doing things it takes me time to overthink and do them, but if it excites me and I'm happy doing it, I'll get it done on time.
I've always found that people either love me or loathe me. It used to bother me, but I've built some pretty sturdy walls now.
Yeah, I do tend to cut people off without warning. I give enough chances and there’s a line they must never cross. I sense bs a mile away and don’t let myself get hurt. I close up completely unless I trust you.
Hi thank you for this I am an INFP myself
Thanks for watching