"It's tough being a lazy perfectionsist who doesn't care about anything but also cares way too much about everything" You really didn't have to come for me like that
It's ridiculous. Is like dreaming about getting ready to work/class/whatever and then waking up having accomplished nothing yet, still in need to do all the things you already felt the stress of doing.
“INFPs want someone who they can share their entire life with but also someone who will leave them alone most of the time” I FELT THIS ON A WHOLE NEW LEVEL
to be honest , when you heard confirmation of your overthinking it does hurt cause it bassicaly goes like : HEY , all the stuff you've overthinked about , they are actually true and not only in your head , YOU ARE INDEED A PIECE OF GARBAGE .
Meee too. That was crazy, I always make up scenarios when I’m in the shower. I’ll be like a successful writer or something telling my celeb interviewer how I never imagined I’d get so far😂 meanwhile me: jobless, sitting on my bed watching tv and wondering why nothing exciting ever happens to me.
a few months later…oh my goodness! This is me! (I have reasons for taking a long time doing everything and one of them is having to explain all my reasons to other people).
dam i feel called out. every time i go through some sheet, i imagine myself at an interview with some famous people, 10 years later, and going into small details about why that happened and what it did with my life xD
Normal people: Put up a facade to hide their mean side in certain scenarios. INFPs: Go overboard to appear mean because they think they're being taken for a ride, but then realise that they've been too mean unnecessarily, overcome by guilt, they approach every person they thought they had been mean to and apologise, take a few hours to convince themselves that they've mended the damage, then swear in front of the mirror not to ever be mean again, while still being overcome by guilt altogether, again, for no reason.
What a coincidence. Today I was updating my online dating profile saying how I'm at my best when in love in a relationship and that I'm loving, caring, want to take care of the other person, affectionate, but I also need my alone time and I expect you do too.
I literally can so well. Making up stories of fictional characters if they did this instead, or was this instead. Makes me entertained pretty easily until I get bored of it. Most of this stuff is like “I thought everybody else felt this way”
@@CrunchyGreenWater Yeah I never understood how anyone can be bored unless their mind is broken and they need a repairman to fix it. But if you just hit it gently on the side a few times the pictures come back and you can enjoy the show again.
The video game comment hit me hard too, this whole video was spot on. I only collect skins in Albion by scavenging animals already killed. If I ever accidently hit an animal, I try to leave before it dies and feel horrible either way. I look away with the new way of cutting meat in the long dark. Funny how anthropomorphism can be a shared and general personality trait.
You made me laugh at myself. A mature INFP can take criticism without crying. But it will launch an internal audit. We will be thinking, i mean overthinking about it the whole month. But yes, we want somebody we could trust fully who will not mind if we only spend time with them in small amounts. We like staying in our minds for the most part. We are guilty of the self indulgence of amusing ourselves.
@@amytiffanyhemingway a different mindset will help I guess. Most people even the one giving the criticism will not lose sleep over it. Why should you? Just think if the criticism is valid then make some adjustment and change for the better. If not, ignore it.
@@angelicatrino2498 it's how INFP learn and grow, it's how we internalize and how we become self aware of our flaws. Don't judge us just because you don't get why we do things you don't.
the music taste one 😭 i will listen to anything and everything if i think the tunes are great and makes me feel good (+ triggers my daydreaming session) its a masterpiece to me and ill listen to it over and over again 🤣
Yes! But I really can not let other people critize me as well. That draws a line! Like I have already done perfectly capable job at that!!! I have critized the hell out of myself...how dare they critize me of not doing a good job of critizing myself in my head already!!! So rude!!! 😅
‘Extrovert looking monster’ is certainly one way to put it one time I was in a phone call with my friend and we spoke for literally 10 hours. Every other person that I’m not close with always comments about how I’m really reserved, withdrawn, quiet and shy. It’s either hard for you to get me to talk or it’s hard to get me to shut up.
yes, they assumed I was an extrovert just because I chat a lot, and I talk a lot when people come to me, wish they'd consider the fact that most of the time I'm alone in my room, and how I like being left alone in solitude.
Lol same. I was around some people I don't really know at school and my friend/crush came along. (Extrovert looking monster) They were like u can talk.
2:14 "All I ask is for you to get to know me on a deep and intimate level while I resist and obstruct your every attempt to do so." STAHP that's too close to home
The tying shoe scenario is so accurate, whenever someone ties their shoe I wait bc I feel bad when the others keep walking, but usually I'm the one tying my shoe laces- 😭
And then the person trying to tie their shoe is also an INFP so your presence near them instantly makes the them panic and forget how to do it so they fumble for 5 minutes and feel bad for making you wait and then you feel bad for making them nervous and then they feel bad for making you feel bad and you are stuck in an INFP holding pattern for eternity
@@lilgorgo Noooo....not like thissss...😅 I feel like after a little while, I'd work up the courage to ask them if they'd like me to help them, but I'd be really subtle about it, because I'd be trying not to embarrass them...🥺
Bruh not even just tying shoelaces- every other scenario that involves waiting- Istg feels like no one waits for me or anyone else. But maybe I’m just slow bc in most situations I’m the one ppl have to wait for 😭 feels bad man
This was painfully accurate. Absolutely loved "they want someone they can share their lives with but also someone who will leave them alone most of the time" LMAO 🤣
yeah, at every picture/music genre shown i was like "yep i listen to that". someone recently mentioned that they have 10 playlists on spotify and everyone else was like "wow that's quite a lot" and literally felt like i was thrown into a diffirent reality cause i have 10 FOLDERS with probably at least 50 playlists lmao.
it might sound depressing to be an infp from the outside point of view but my days are actually very colorful and beautiful because of my wild maladaptive daydreaming, i don't think i can live without it.
Or the fact that you can stay in one place for hours and not get bored because of your inner world, i think we been so depressed for so long, that does not bother us anymore,because our imagination keep us going.
INFP: Task: Read a sentence in a book. "John rode a bicycle home." INFP: John rode a bicy... but why? Hmm, who is John anyway? Hmm, could I relate to John in any way. I too did rode a bicy- wait, I'm supposed to read! John.... (sigh) again.... John rode a bicycle home. There, got it. Hmm, I wonder how his house looks. Wait, home can have different meanings. It could be a flat. Or a different planet. Wait wtf no this is a realistic story. *Wait, what was I reading again?!*
you forget about imaging yourself as John and how he feels about it, and how he is not aware of his reality and everything he is not awara nad tjings that they can think in that moment or even before
you forget about imaging yourself as John and how he feels about it, and how he is not aware of his reality and everything he is not awara nad tjings that they can think in that moment or even before
1. Imaginary talkshows for emotional venting 2. Reading one sentence countless times 3. Loving the whole spectrum of music styles (except the most cringy ones) 4. Racing mind during "chill time" This is basically me in 4 points.
Very extreme. I admit, in younger years I had many of these issues. Advice from an older INFP to a younger one. Keep moving forward, you have great strengths, use them! You'll recognize your weaknesses and can easily overcome them!
INFPs seem to age gracefully. We go from being perceived as naive to being perceived as wise. Other people who seem to have their acts together, because they spent their youths keeping up with the Joneses, age into people who seem unevolved.
Yeah, be so self critical can be rough in early life. But it also make us overcome things in a more healthy way than most people. I guess... Really hope so... Hehehe😄
@7:12 You forgot to add, if we commented, we will come back to check likes and feel bad if nobody likes it. And feel happy if someone likes and comment. And good chance to change mind and delete it altogether.
The "broke down car" part is so good it made me wheezed. Also, on the topic of music, there's a popular Tumblr post that could describe it well: "So what type of music do you listen to?" "Whatever music that triggers a daydream."
Benjamin, Benjamin, Benjamin - you've done it again! I can relate to everything you say in your videos, and I love how you make me laugh at myself. Yes, I'm an INFP, and I laugh! Is that wrong?
@@mimi1girl2dempsey3 Yes, I laughed. Not only am I feeling a great deal of remorse and regret over this, but I am also abashed, mortified, and humiliated. I've been wringing my hands since I posted that I laughed, and have not been able to sleep since. Never again will I even crack a smile. Actually, if I didn't laugh at things, I'd be in tears a lot more often. However, I will try to limit my laughter as it goes against the dark nature of being an INFP. 😂
@@adriannacostello3873 Weird observation here since coming to terms with my type. I don't feel so depressed now and always point to the way things are when feeling shame. It's a relief for the moment.Hope it lasts.
I can't even explain how this video accurately describes my entire life in 10:47 minutes. It's always a pain to try to explain to other people about my music tastes. Especially the scene about the surgery. Was in the hospital visiting family and every time they ask me to go get the nurse I always say 'Sorry to bother you'. I swear it's my most used phrase whenever I talk with strangers
I don't think that has to do with being an INFP. I am into lyrics. Although there are songs that are not meaningful at all but the instruments and music get me. I love a good lyric and the story behind the lyric.
I've noticed that I do prefer music without lyrics as well, but then again I do like lyrics sometimes. I think it's just that I like it better when the lyrics feel like they have some sort of meaning, and most songs don't feel that way to me. And a lot of songs have meanings that I'm not able to relate to very well so I end up not really liking the song, but I'll like the instrumental. There are so many songs that I like the sound of, but I'm not really a fan of the lyrics. I think that's why I tend to like fandom songs more often than regular music, because they will almost always have a story to tell that you can understand idk if I'm making any sense though lol
Oh my goodness, I thought I was the only one who made up an entire talkshow scenario in my head where I'm talking about my feelings and the seven "made up" divorces I've gone through 😳
For me I imagine a scenario where there are 2 of me and then one of me feels so bad that she messed up and has turned into this evil character that is just destroying everything, and the other one is like trying to stop this evil character and telling her its ok to mess up. So yea
@@sleverlight Thank you for sharing your story. I too have times like that, but in my case I've divided myself into tons of personalities,I have currently 12 alternate egos and still some more are developing. I think I'm slowly driving myself crazy but at the same I don't care.
@@mythsna I think there is nothing wrong with you. We may be a small percentage of society but we are needed for creative ideas for the future. This lady is really amazing she gives advice for INFPs ua-cam.com/video/1GsyVdcafCM/v-deo.html
Benjamin, Benjamin, Benjamin....once again you have exposed us to the world for not being normal. But honestly, you're not wrong about any of it. To anyone watching this hoping to better understand the infp in their life, you should notice how many times normal people are "very efficient" and how infps are not. Be patient with us. Things operate in an entirely different way in our worlds. Thanks for the fun infp video! (And yes...I always question my comments 🤣)
Thanks for the comment 😄 I was trying to be a bit sarcastic about "Efficiency" and imply that it's not necessarily the best quality to have 😄 INFPs have plenty more fun qualities 😄
@@BenjaminSpicy haha I guess you are right. I hadn't thought about it like that. Efficient means getting from point A to point B as quickly as possible so if life's about the journey and not the destination, then we're basically taking the scenic route. I guess that's not a bad thing (until I get distracted from the dishes to learn Morse code. True story.)
Your content does not resonate with me for the most part despite being definitively INFP. Possibly because I practice getting out of my comfort zone every single day.
@@antoinettenovella1630 I'm quite content in my hermit lifestyle so I relate 😂 Just curious...is there an extrovert in your life (like a parent, sibling or partner) who helps you get out of your comfort zone?
I've been confused for a while now whether I'm INFP or INFJ. Now I know for sure. This is so me. INFPs home alone = literally HEAVEN. Also, I really do everything in my head... parties, having friends over, etc. This video was perfect. Thanks for this!
I don’t think I have ever related more to a video in my entire life 😂 Literally every single point is something I’ve experienced. I can’t believe this video knows me more than any friend I’ve ever had, it’s actually insane how accurate this is
The many long comments I have deleted.....how did you know? All the types of music I like....I didn't realize it's because I'm INFP, but that makes sense. This video was so spot on in so many ways!!!!!!!!!!
@@sunlight8299 not gonna lie you have a really good point with that, i can deffo see how that works It's really neat giving things like this some thought ain't it?
I have a vivid childhood memory where this one time I got lost on a trip with my mom and her stepmom and her dad and my brother. We were at some state park with lush pine forests, hills and a lake. I was maybe 7 or something. I remember being alone in the woods when it started to rain peacefully and I was just admiring the beauty. I had that feeling that I should probably head to the cars though, cause it might be time to leave soon or eat or something. So I walked toward the cars and shelter area and heard my name being called over a loud speaker. When I got to the shelter my family was there and my mom was hysterical, frantic, grabbed me and was crying and saying “please never do that again”. I was so confused because it had been one of my favorite days and to know it was her worst day still stuns me to this day. She’s and EN/SFJ and big time group person. I’m sure it was hard for her as I was growing up to keep an eye on me and not worry when I felt like wandering off, which was all the time. 😅 One of the things that still sticks out to me today is how she always used to tell me’ “stay with the group” when we went places and I still cringe when I hear those words because I hate staying with a group or doing what everyone else is doing.
The relaxing part in 8:20 is so accurate. I often times think about wanting to have an "off" switch for my brain because it runs 1000 miles/min, even when I try to rest or sleep.
"It's tough being a lazy perfectionsist who doesn't care about anything but also cares way too much about everything" and “The only thing they don’t really care about are themselves.” and "where they are celebrities on a talk show dramatically explaining what they're going through", are 100 % accurate in a scary way ,
I'm writing a comment about the writing a comment bit, while laughing *hysterically* because I had just done that exact thing this morning! A friend asked how my Christmas was and I started writing a novel, then deleted it to summarize in 3 sentences. And right now I'm obsessively reading and rereading my comment to ensure I'm expressing myself accurately and appropriately, as if anyone cares. because all my youtube comments are on par with the greatest writings in the world and will surely open up a new perspective to someone if I just write it well enough!! Right?
Same here - in the past 2 weeks I went from doing acrylic paint pours to taking nature pictures to draw and then paint. I'm now thinking of a short story I wrote for a class, and how I could turn it into a book. Sometimes I even want myself to leave me alone!! LOL
@@mertelmorris6421There are just too many cool things to do in this world! How could one possibly settle on just trying one or two things?!?! What are you writing?
@@adriannacostello3873 Im writing a story about a female laidback gentle giant who later will solve her fathers mysterious death with the help of her friend
@@mertelmorris6421 mystery and possibly murder? Sounds intriguing. I love a good fictional murder mystery trying to figure out who committed the crime. It’s a puzzle solving thing for me. Thank you for sharing that. After I asked the question of you yesterday, in true INFP fashion, I ruminated all day on whether my question was too personal or would be too intrusive.
The music taste was spot on. For those who heard my playlist, they will surely say something about it…even though I don't understand the language for example j-pop,bollywood, etc…cuz I like the rhythms
“The only thing they don’t really care about are themselves.” Realizing that you're never going to have anything that you want in life makes this a necessity.
You nailed my music taste 😂 I listen to every genre pretty much, including slipknot which you showed 😂 I just love music so much and love how every genre brings something different to the table. I never listen to “happy” or dance type songs tho, I like real authentic emotion in music that I can relate to.
4:58 soo true litterly if I'm eating in public and someone looks at me I just can't eat anymore...same for test if the teacher stands next to me and looks at my paper I just stop writing until she goes away :D
In a nutshell, everything that has to do with helping others and the world, we will give everything and then some to help. Anything that is good for our lives, we avoid, ignore, fight, procrastinate and shutdown :)
Lol...that part where reading the same sentence over and over is so true 🙂 my random thought just come out of nowhere and I don't remember what I just read about... it's so frustrating
6:45 This one is a true struggle for me. I'll spend most of the time trying to think of how I should what I want to say, write out a giant mess, try to reorganize it, slim it down to something reasonable, then be like "nah". My mind will also wander and I will constantly have to try to refocus. Sometimes I'll even get up and pace around a few times in the process.
So accurate indeed! Makes me laugh really hard! P.s. the 'expressing emotions on a talk show' remind me of all kinds of other scenario's. For example: I'm really really good at winning arguments..... In my head. In real life there's only avoiding arguments. Lol .
after realizing im an infp... ive always wondered what it would be like without my head racing... is it like... total silence? anyways this question has had my head racing for a while can anyone blow it off?
It's empty... Idk why I've reached the point where my mind stopped racing but it feels quite lonely... Everything feels and seems blank... Nothing really attract you anymore
Bruh, it's cool to think that much about good stuff, but sometimes when something bad enters my mind(I start thinking about it) and I think how to not think about, ending up thinking more about it, that hurts;( + The only time I'm not thinking is when I sleep(not counting dreams)
"It's tough being a lazy perfectionsist who doesn't care about anything but also cares way too much about everything"
You really didn't have to come for me like that
same
lol same though
Find a cause to fight for. Not like protesting but like changing old people's diapers
Yo so true
The most accurate statement I've ever heard about myself-
“The only thing they don’t really care about are themselves.” Ouch. I felt that lol
I think you need to work on that. I am trying to work on that too
it hurts... it burns worse than my soul when someone leaves me...
not all the time 😜 we can be un caring too putting ourselves first. Stop people pleasing
And You🥰
Oh- im a really selfish infp and i dont care that much about other people except some few friends help
"The only difference is that INFP's do that inside their heads."
Ouch. Didn't have to come at me like that, bro. 😂😭
Me realizing why I procrastinate a LOT 🤣
And we feel stressed after that like we did that in real and need to relax
🤣🤣🤣
It's ridiculous.
Is like dreaming about getting ready to work/class/whatever and then waking up having accomplished nothing yet, still in need to do all the things you already felt the stress of doing.
💀🤣💀🤣💀
“INFPs want someone who they can share their entire life with but also someone who will leave them alone most of the time”
I FELT THIS ON A WHOLE NEW LEVEL
🙂
Yes, me too!
Exactly
The anchor to ground us to reality, but able to let the chain run when needed...
Ding‼️ Ding‼️ Ding‼️🥴
"You can't hurt an overthinker." words of wisdom
"It hurt itself in its confusion"
@@ununun9995 It's very effective! Somehow!
This is not true!!
"... in purpose." that fits better...
to be honest , when you heard confirmation of your overthinking it does hurt cause it bassicaly goes like : HEY , all the stuff you've overthinked about , they are actually true and not only in your head , YOU ARE INDEED A PIECE OF GARBAGE .
"where they are celebrities on a talk show dramatically explaining what they're going through" I do that almost on a daily basis 😭
Same😅
I can relate
I Do that every single day as if anyone would even bother to watch that 😭
Boi that one hit, guz das me everyday
PLEASE I WANT TO DIE
I've never told anyone about the talk show in my head so hearing this right now felt like a VERY personal invasion.
Like opera and I are email pals already
more like a podcast for me tho
same here i have a talk show in my head almost every day
Meee too. That was crazy, I always make up scenarios when I’m in the shower. I’ll be like a successful writer or something telling my celeb interviewer how I never imagined I’d get so far😂 meanwhile me: jobless, sitting on my bed watching tv and wondering why nothing exciting ever happens to me.
I felt attacked
this whole video knows me better than other people i have ever met in my whole life.
it's like I'm on top of a stage being presented to a big audience but I feel too confused to react.
Same
I tell you 😂😂
Same.... 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
a few months later…oh my goodness! This is me! (I have reasons for taking a long time doing everything and one of them is having to explain all my reasons to other people).
INFPs will also feel extremely guilty about fantasizing instead of doing, however not bad enough to change anything, apparently.
LMFAO…🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣..I laughed wayyy too hard at this.
This
I resemble that remark
LMFAO LITERALLY ME
:(
As an infp i can confirm that i’ve definitely imagined myself as a celebrity in a talk show talking about my issues when i’m going through stuff 🤣
😭😂😭😂
You're not alone.
Me too 😂🤧
Pero esta divertido 👍💖
I wasn't completely sure that i do that until i read your comment. Go figure! haha
dam i feel called out. every time i go through some sheet, i imagine myself at an interview with some famous people, 10 years later, and going into small details about why that happened and what it did with my life xD
Normal people: Put up a facade to hide their mean side in certain scenarios.
INFPs: Go overboard to appear mean because they think they're being taken for a ride, but then realise that they've been too mean unnecessarily, overcome by guilt, they approach every person they thought they had been mean to and apologise, take a few hours to convince themselves that they've mended the damage, then swear in front of the mirror not to ever be mean again, while still being overcome by guilt altogether, again, for no reason.
Finally someone put it in words
YESSSsssssss!!!!! Make me stop!
So true, it's still haunted me when I'm having flashback…
YES you have just described my life.
I don't apologize though, I'd go defense mode and tell them you don't even know me, stop assuming
"---INFPs on the other hand needs someone who they can share their life with and also someone who will leave them alone most of the time" the attack
What a coincidence. Today I was updating my online dating profile saying how I'm at my best when in love in a relationship and that I'm loving, caring, want to take care of the other person, affectionate, but I also need my alone time and I expect you do too.
Ah yeah, can totally relate!!
I found an enfp for that :D we do great together
Why this is so accurate ???
This me though
"They already thought they are bad, & you are just telling them what they know" this almost had me cry
@@Introvertedpoet yeah
Honestly
This is literally the only reason any kids’ attempt to bully me failed cause they couldn’t get me upset enough by making fun of me haha
Great thing about being an infp is, I'm able to entertain myself without anyone's help. That's how I survived quarantine 😂
I literally can so well. Making up stories of fictional characters if they did this instead, or was this instead. Makes me entertained pretty easily until I get bored of it. Most of this stuff is like “I thought everybody else felt this way”
As an INFP I didnt survive quarantine. I lived quarantine❤️
I've only been bored like one time in my whole life. I ended up taking a nice nap. 😇
@@CrunchyGreenWater Yeah I never understood how anyone can be bored unless their mind is broken and they need a repairman to fix it. But if you just hit it gently on the side a few times the pictures come back and you can enjoy the show again.
As an INFP I wouldn't have known there was a quarantine unless everyone kept talking about it
The not wanting to hurt NPC’s feelings in video games is what hit me the most. 😅
I cried when I killed my Minecraft horse by getting it drowned. It killed me inside. Devastated. I haven’t played since. It’s too stressful.
The video game comment hit me hard too, this whole video was spot on. I only collect skins in Albion by scavenging animals already killed. If I ever accidently hit an animal, I try to leave before it dies and feel horrible either way. I look away with the new way of cutting meat in the long dark. Funny how anthropomorphism can be a shared and general personality trait.
@@trishayamada807I play Minecraft
I fish and do nothing else. Just keep fishing
🤣 we have to read the same sentence at least 3 times so we can get the deeper meaning and how it’s connected to everything 😅
sometimes our minds are in the clouds and we can't concentrate 😅
same =)))))
Always 🌚
Or just to relive the scenes and fully enjoy the sensations.
@@janaangelicacatudan1931 right 😆 squirrel brain
You made me laugh at myself. A mature INFP can take criticism without crying. But it will launch an internal audit. We will be thinking, i mean overthinking about it the whole month. But yes, we want somebody we could trust fully who will not mind if we only spend time with them in small amounts. We like staying in our minds for the most part. We are guilty of the self indulgence of amusing ourselves.
“Launch an internal audit” frighteningly accurate tho
@@amytiffanyhemingway a different mindset will help I guess. Most people even the one giving the criticism will not lose sleep over it. Why should you? Just think if the criticism is valid then make some adjustment and change for the better. If not, ignore it.
@@angelicatrino2498 it's how INFP learn and grow, it's how we internalize and how we become self aware of our flaws. Don't judge us just because you don't get why we do things you don't.
@@janaangelicacatudan1931 actually I have an INFP personality. That's why I am self deprecating. I am kind to everyone except myself.
@@angelicatrino2498 INFPs are not the only kind people.
the music taste one 😭 i will listen to anything and everything if i think the tunes are great and makes me feel good (+ triggers my daydreaming session) its a masterpiece to me and ill listen to it over and over again 🤣
Ikr like I literally like every music which suits my taste 😂😂😭
yeah that's really relatable
if I'm not heavily enjoying the music, I'm daydreaming
Lol i thiugj i just love music but it actualy has to do with being an infp
Yes! Same! I thought I was crazy for doing something like that! And I haven't even asked the people I'm closest to if it's weird or not! 🤣
yes!!!
"You can't hurt an over thinker, because they already see it coming and you are just proving them right." Damn True😂
Actually most people can't take criticism while INFP naturally criticizes themselves
I can't take criticism but then seconds later I literally insult myself in some way lmao
Yes! But I really can not let other people critize me as well. That draws a line! Like I have already done perfectly capable job at that!!! I have critized the hell out of myself...how dare they critize me of not doing a good job of critizing myself in my head already!!! So rude!!! 😅
@@SatumainenOlento The spiraling is real!
‘Extrovert looking monster’ is certainly one way to put it one time I was in a phone call with my friend and we spoke for literally 10 hours. Every other person that I’m not close with always comments about how I’m really reserved, withdrawn, quiet and shy. It’s either hard for you to get me to talk or it’s hard to get me to shut up.
yes, they assumed I was an extrovert just because I chat a lot, and I talk a lot when people come to me, wish they'd consider the fact that most of the time I'm alone in my room, and how I like being left alone in solitude.
Lol same. I was around some people I don't really know at school and my friend/crush came along.
(Extrovert looking monster) They were like u can talk.
Finally! Now I know that I really am a true INFP and that it's normal for me to get really chatty if it's a topic I'm genuinely interested in!
@@janaangelicacatudan1931 Same but it was me thinking I am an extrovert.
@@janaangelicacatudan1931 THAT'S ME N I FEEL HURTED
'It's tough being a lazy perfectionist. . . . '
- ouch.
2:14 "All I ask is for you to get to know me on a deep and intimate level while I resist and obstruct your every attempt to do so." STAHP that's too close to home
Same! This is why I had trouble making friends at school 😂😫
It's the reason I'm suffering over recently
So True
I LOLed
I literally felt attacked deep inside! 😭
"because they dont want to hurt npc's feelings"
i felt that..
Felt that
That drive to bake tiny cupcakes at 2am and finish it up with a lesson in calligraphy is uncontrollable at this point
The tying shoe scenario is so accurate, whenever someone ties their shoe I wait bc I feel bad when the others keep walking, but usually I'm the one tying my shoe laces- 😭
Omg yes. And no one notices half the time. 😅
And then the person trying to tie their shoe is also an INFP so your presence near them instantly makes the them panic and forget how to do it so they fumble for 5 minutes and feel bad for making you wait and then you feel bad for making them nervous and then they feel bad for making you feel bad and you are stuck in an INFP holding pattern for eternity
@@lilgorgo Noooo....not like thissss...😅 I feel like after a little while, I'd work up the courage to ask them if they'd like me to help them, but I'd be really subtle about it, because I'd be trying not to embarrass them...🥺
How can someone not wait?
Bruh not even just tying shoelaces- every other scenario that involves waiting- Istg feels like no one waits for me or anyone else. But maybe I’m just slow bc in most situations I’m the one ppl have to wait for 😭 feels bad man
This was painfully accurate. Absolutely loved "they want someone they can share their lives with but also someone who will leave them alone most of the time" LMAO 🤣
"It's tough being a lazy perfectionist who doesn't care about anything, but also cares way too much about everything"
Damn! This hits me hard.
A beautiful paradox.. 😅
The music taste part got me laughing so hard because that's 100% accurate!
yeah, at every picture/music genre shown i was like "yep i listen to that". someone recently mentioned that they have 10 playlists on spotify and everyone else was like "wow that's quite a lot" and literally felt like i was thrown into a diffirent reality cause i have 10 FOLDERS with probably at least 50 playlists lmao.
I don't know why i'm laughing the whole time. This is so damn accurate
By writing this I'm doing 5 seconds of human interaction lol.
my daily 5 second dose of human interaction
Out of human interaction for the week already?!
Thanks for those 5 seconds ! It cost you a lot.
Damn that's a lot of seconds, it's over double of 2
Liking it was mine. Thank you for opening that door friend! 😆
it might sound depressing to be an infp from the outside point of view but my days are actually very colorful and beautiful because of my wild maladaptive daydreaming, i don't think i can live without it.
i'm still depressed tho but not for that reason
Or the fact that you can stay in one place for hours and not get bored because of your inner world, i think we been so depressed for so long, that does not bother us anymore,because our imagination keep us going.
🤗🤗🤗
Its a reliable coping technique
Lmao this, my imagination is amazing thank you
INFP:
Task: Read a sentence in a book. "John rode a bicycle home."
INFP: John rode a bicy... but why? Hmm, who is John anyway? Hmm, could I relate to John in any way. I too did rode a bicy- wait, I'm supposed to read! John.... (sigh) again.... John rode a bicycle home. There, got it. Hmm, I wonder how his house looks. Wait, home can have different meanings. It could be a flat. Or a different planet. Wait wtf no this is a realistic story. *Wait, what was I reading again?!*
Hahaha this is SO accurate!
This is me all the time
you forget about imaging yourself as John and how he feels about it, and how he is not aware of his reality and everything he is not awara nad tjings that they can think in that moment or even before
you forget about imaging yourself as John and how he feels about it, and how he is not aware of his reality and everything he is not awara nad tjings that they can think in that moment or even before
That's soo meee!!!!!!!
Looking at the ceiling with a small amount of daydreaming can lift up my mood. 😊
Ok. Dude. This is important. From all the dozens of videos about INFPs i watched, yours was THE BEST of them all. It is so accurate, i just can't 😲
1. Imaginary talkshows for emotional venting
2. Reading one sentence countless times
3. Loving the whole spectrum of music styles (except the most cringy ones)
4. Racing mind during "chill time"
This is basically me in 4 points.
Me either 😂
Me too😂😂
What is a cringy music style?
Very extreme. I admit, in younger years I had many of these issues. Advice from an older INFP to a younger one. Keep moving forward, you have great strengths, use them! You'll recognize your weaknesses and can easily overcome them!
INFPs seem to age gracefully. We go from being perceived as naive to being perceived as wise. Other people who seem to have their acts together, because they spent their youths keeping up with the Joneses, age into people who seem unevolved.
Thank you both😇
I'm very depressed I hate my situation in the world of "one size fits all" 😔
Yeah, be so self critical can be rough in early life. But it also make us overcome things in a more healthy way than most people. I guess... Really hope so... Hehehe😄
Issues? How are these issues? As I've grown older I accepted that's just how I am.
The struggle is real… We are complicated souls 😔 This video is spot on!
São almas q querem se adequar ao mundo ao invés de vivê-las como são
@7:12 You forgot to add, if we commented, we will come back to check likes and feel bad if nobody likes it. And feel happy if someone likes and comment. And good chance to change mind and delete it altogether.
I like this comment 😉
😂
😅😂😂😂 Accurate!!! 😅
The "broke down car" part is so good it made me wheezed.
Also, on the topic of music, there's a popular Tumblr post that could describe it well:
"So what type of music do you listen to?"
"Whatever music that triggers a daydream."
Yk someone is an INFP if they're roasting our own personality type 😂
He INTP tho
@@aethericphoenix3423 Oopsie-
😅😅😅
This is the most accurate video I have EVER watched
IKR! I was saying "oh, yeah" "ohh, it's me" "same, I can relate to" ALL THE FUCKIN VIDEO AJDKWBDKBAJDJDKABDBDBD
Ikr
Benjamin, Benjamin, Benjamin - you've done it again! I can relate to everything you say in your videos, and I love how you make me laugh at myself. Yes, I'm an INFP, and I laugh! Is that wrong?
nope, I do too.
You laughed?!?!? You should be ashamed!!!!
Was that helpful?
@@mimi1girl2dempsey3 Yes, I laughed. Not only am I feeling a great deal of remorse and regret over this, but I am also abashed, mortified, and humiliated. I've been wringing my hands since I posted that I laughed, and have not been able to sleep since. Never again will I even crack a smile. Actually, if I didn't laugh at things, I'd be in tears a lot more often. However, I will try to limit my laughter as it goes against the dark nature of being an INFP. 😂
@@adriannacostello3873 Weird observation here since coming to terms with my type. I don't feel so depressed now and always point to the way things are when feeling shame. It's a relief for the moment.Hope it lasts.
I do too 😂
I can't even explain how this video accurately describes my entire life in 10:47 minutes. It's always a pain to try to explain to other people about my music tastes. Especially the scene about the surgery. Was in the hospital visiting family and every time they ask me to go get the nurse I always say 'Sorry to bother you'. I swear it's my most used phrase whenever I talk with strangers
Other people don't say that do they?
The number of call-outs I feel through this video is astounding.
"because they already see it coming, and you are just proving them right" hahahahah lol this is so accurate!!
Anyone else find they prefer music with no one singing? I feel more alone if it's just instrumental which is what I want 😆
Ikr! Instrumentals are more soothing. Even in a normal song a lot of times I just directly skip to the guitar solos and then I'm kinda done with it.
I don't think that has to do with being an INFP. I am into lyrics. Although there are songs that are not meaningful at all but the instruments and music get me. I love a good lyric and the story behind the lyric.
I've noticed that I do prefer music without lyrics as well, but then again I do like lyrics sometimes. I think it's just that I like it better when the lyrics feel like they have some sort of meaning, and most songs don't feel that way to me. And a lot of songs have meanings that I'm not able to relate to very well so I end up not really liking the song, but I'll like the instrumental. There are so many songs that I like the sound of, but I'm not really a fan of the lyrics. I think that's why I tend to like fandom songs more often than regular music, because they will almost always have a story to tell that you can understand
idk if I'm making any sense though lol
Lyrics or no lyrics, either one is fine to me
I like lyrics that I relate to. Music that makes me want to dance and instrumental that I can feel the emotion in it.
Oh my goodness, I thought I was the only one who made up an entire talkshow scenario in my head where I'm talking about my feelings and the seven "made up" divorces I've gone through 😳
Its common for INFPs to talk to themselves.
@@angelicatrino2498 true
For me I imagine a scenario where there are 2 of me and then one of me feels so bad that she messed up and has turned into this evil character that is just destroying everything, and the other one is like trying to stop this evil character and telling her its ok to mess up. So yea
@@sleverlight Thank you for sharing your story. I too have times like that, but in my case I've divided myself into tons of personalities,I have currently 12 alternate egos and still some more are developing. I think I'm slowly driving myself crazy but at the same I don't care.
@@mythsna I think there is nothing wrong with you. We may be a small percentage of society but we are needed for creative ideas for the future. This lady is really amazing she gives advice for INFPs
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Hahaha, jep. I usually don't laugh watching videos, but you nailed all the secret struggles.
P.S. INFPs have geat sense of humour 🤣
I can't express how good I feel about seeing people who are like me and a video that 100 percent resonates with me. Thank you.
Benjamin, Benjamin, Benjamin....once again you have exposed us to the world for not being normal. But honestly, you're not wrong about any of it.
To anyone watching this hoping to better understand the infp in their life, you should notice how many times normal people are "very efficient" and how infps are not. Be patient with us. Things operate in an entirely different way in our worlds.
Thanks for the fun infp video! (And yes...I always question my comments 🤣)
Thanks for the comment 😄 I was trying to be a bit sarcastic about "Efficiency" and imply that it's not necessarily the best quality to have 😄 INFPs have plenty more fun qualities 😄
@@BenjaminSpicy haha I guess you are right. I hadn't thought about it like that. Efficient means getting from point A to point B as quickly as possible so if life's about the journey and not the destination, then we're basically taking the scenic route. I guess that's not a bad thing (until I get distracted from the dishes to learn Morse code. True story.)
Your content does not resonate with me for the most part despite being definitively INFP. Possibly because I practice getting out of my comfort zone every single day.
@@antoinettenovella1630 I'm quite content in my hermit lifestyle so I relate 😂 Just curious...is there an extrovert in your life (like a parent, sibling or partner) who helps you get out of your comfort zone?
@@Random_ness The females in my life are extroverts, the males introverts so yes :) How about you?
The summary of the 6 pages essay: Very very thoroughly analyzed! Slightly exaggerated though :) (from anINFP)
I wanted to answer you, but deleted the comment, but now I won't remove it so you can know. The truth is harsh
I wrote a para long comment and later deleted it cause dealing with the replies is way to tiring .
I've been confused for a while now whether I'm INFP or INFJ. Now I know for sure.
This is so me.
INFPs home alone = literally HEAVEN.
Also, I really do everything in my head... parties, having friends over, etc. This video was perfect. Thanks for this!
I don’t think I have ever related more to a video in my entire life 😂 Literally every single point is something I’ve experienced. I can’t believe this video knows me more than any friend I’ve ever had, it’s actually insane how accurate this is
The many long comments I have deleted.....how did you know? All the types of music I like....I didn't realize it's because I'm INFP, but that makes sense. This video was so spot on in so many ways!!!!!!!!!!
1:58 YES, "either nothing matter or everything has its purpose", I FINALLY HEARD IT FROM SOMEONE ELSE, THANK YOUUUU
My version is 'everything is sacred or everything is profane ' . I came to this conclusion after a lot of deep thinking
@@sunlight8299 not gonna lie you have a really good point with that, i can deffo see how that works
It's really neat giving things like this some thought ain't it?
It’s really crazy how accurate this video is. Absolutely MINDBLOWN!
Exception for the last 2 proofs.
I love getting lost though, it's so peaceful
I have a vivid childhood memory where this one time I got lost on a trip with my mom and her stepmom and her dad and my brother. We were at some state park with lush pine forests, hills and a lake. I was maybe 7 or something. I remember being alone in the woods when it started to rain peacefully and I was just admiring the beauty. I had that feeling that I should probably head to the cars though, cause it might be time to leave soon or eat or something. So I walked toward the cars and shelter area and heard my name being called over a loud speaker. When I got to the shelter my family was there and my mom was hysterical, frantic, grabbed me and was crying and saying “please never do that again”. I was so confused because it had been one of my favorite days and to know it was her worst day still stuns me to this day. She’s and EN/SFJ and big time group person. I’m sure it was hard for her as I was growing up to keep an eye on me and not worry when I felt like wandering off, which was all the time. 😅 One of the things that still sticks out to me today is how she always used to tell me’ “stay with the group” when we went places and I still cringe when I hear those words because I hate staying with a group or doing what everyone else is doing.
The good thing about INFPs though is once we get out of our own way, we’re absolutely amazing
The relaxing part in 8:20 is so accurate. I often times think about wanting to have an "off" switch for my brain because it runs 1000 miles/min, even when I try to rest or sleep.
I often say I need a vacation from my brain. I've yet to figure out how to do that. ☹
I feel like showing this to each and every person I know... then finally they will be able to understand "ME" 😂😂
Same
I feel like I should. But I have supplied vids like this so many times that I think they already know me, yet I still wanted them to know "more." 😂😂😂
@@CuriousWanderer_ same here 😂
I will be really ashamed if I share this video, I feel that people will know all of me...
PD: I'm from Catalonia, sorry if my english isn't perfect
The urge is SO STRONG 🤣
1:36 how tf did you know
That's literally how I vent
"It's tough being a lazy perfectionsist who doesn't care about anything but also cares way too much about everything" and “The only thing they don’t really care about are themselves.” and "where they are celebrities on a talk show dramatically explaining what they're going through", are 100 % accurate in a scary way ,
It's hard for us infps to let people in. We love so hard and hurt hard too. It's better not to get close to people than to get hurt. 😢
Also in the job: has no place for judgement, ever
😅 Most of the video described me perfectly. 😂 I even thought 4 times for this comment, imagined the reactions and my reaction to the reactions.
It's literally me lol😅
Nah because going on a walk and looking at the sky really is my elite form of therapy 💀
I feel so attacked right now😂
I'm writing a comment about the writing a comment bit, while laughing *hysterically* because I had just done that exact thing this morning! A friend asked how my Christmas was and I started writing a novel, then deleted it to summarize in 3 sentences.
And right now I'm obsessively reading and rereading my comment to ensure I'm expressing myself accurately and appropriately, as if anyone cares. because all my youtube comments are on par with the greatest writings in the world and will surely open up a new perspective to someone if I just write it well enough!! Right?
That mood swing thing... That could not be closer to the truth, I swear I sometimes think I have a bipolar or something
i cant stop finding new projects
Same here - in the past 2 weeks I went from doing acrylic paint pours to taking nature pictures to draw and then paint. I'm now thinking of a short story I wrote for a class, and how I could turn it into a book. Sometimes I even want myself to leave me alone!! LOL
@@adriannacostello3873 I even started writing and i gave up on knitting XD
@@mertelmorris6421There are just too many cool things to do in this world! How could one possibly settle on just trying one or two things?!?! What are you writing?
@@adriannacostello3873 Im writing a story about a female laidback gentle giant who later will solve her fathers mysterious death with the help of her friend
@@mertelmorris6421 mystery and possibly murder? Sounds intriguing. I love a good fictional murder mystery trying to figure out who committed the crime. It’s a puzzle solving thing for me. Thank you for sharing that. After I asked the question of you yesterday, in true INFP fashion, I ruminated all day on whether my question was too personal or would be too intrusive.
The music taste was spot on. For those who heard my playlist, they will surely say something about it…even though I don't understand the language for example j-pop,bollywood, etc…cuz I like the rhythms
“The only thing they don’t really care about are themselves.”
Realizing that you're never going to have anything that you want in life makes this a necessity.
I'm so happy that atleast I'm not suffering alone 😂, good luck fellow infps😁❤️
You nailed my music taste 😂 I listen to every genre pretty much, including slipknot which you showed 😂 I just love music so much and love how every genre brings something different to the table. I never listen to “happy” or dance type songs tho, I like real authentic emotion in music that I can relate to.
As an INFP 😌 every point is 100% relatable 💜
Exception for the last 2 proofs, seriously. Even I'm the reverse.
The talkshow part really got me. Last night I spoke to my mirror as if I was giving an interview about my life.
The re-reading things a lot is SO DAMN relatable
After every point I went : Benjamin, staappp!!
It's like he opened my brain and started to read it out loud every single details!! 😅
You know me better than I even know myself. Impressive.
4:58 soo true litterly if I'm eating in public and someone looks at me I just can't eat anymore...same for test if the teacher stands next to me and looks at my paper I just stop writing until she goes away :D
“Too scared to click rude dialogue because they don’t want to hurt NPC’s feeling” 😂
I can agree on 4:51
I did 3 mistakes when people are behind me *simply walking*
Imagine that when you die, you're condemned to spend eternity inside the mind of an INFP. Now that'd be scary.
I already deleted my essay, so I'll just say this is the most relatable video I've ever seen.
5:40
I’ve never been so seen😭 then- “luckily, they still can breath…”
To be honest, I always thought everybody was like this and we're just pretending to be "normal". Lol
I don’t like normies and mainstream thinking 🤢 - INFP
REEEEEEEEEEE
2:20 This is so INCREDIBLY precise!!! 😂🎉🙈
Totally!! It's happened to me many times 😢😂
In a nutshell, everything that has to do with helping others and the world, we will give everything and then some to help. Anything that is good for our lives, we avoid, ignore, fight, procrastinate and shutdown :)
Omg 😂😂 it’s like you have literally been inside my mind
Lol...that part where reading the same sentence over and over is so true 🙂 my random thought just come out of nowhere and I don't remember what I just read about... it's so frustrating
6:45 This one is a true struggle for me. I'll spend most of the time trying to think of how I should what I want to say, write out a giant mess, try to reorganize it, slim it down to something reasonable, then be like "nah". My mind will also wander and I will constantly have to try to refocus. Sometimes I'll even get up and pace around a few times in the process.
😅😅😅
it's just too overwhelmed for me... knowing that someone can understand me not as much as how peoples around me does...
We’re walking contractions, we’re in a healthy, toxic relationship with ourselves
The accuracy is off the charts - I was literally thinking about listening to all-time low today 8:13.
So accurate indeed! Makes me laugh really hard! P.s. the 'expressing emotions on a talk show' remind me of all kinds of other scenario's. For example: I'm really really good at winning arguments..... In my head. In real life there's only avoiding arguments. Lol .
after realizing im an infp... ive always wondered what it would be like without my head racing... is it like... total silence? anyways this question has had my head racing for a while can anyone blow it off?
It's empty... Idk why I've reached the point where my mind stopped racing but it feels quite lonely... Everything feels and seems blank... Nothing really attract you anymore
Bruh, it's cool to think that much about good stuff, but sometimes when something bad enters my mind(I start thinking about it) and I think how to not think about, ending up thinking more about it, that hurts;( + The only time I'm not thinking is when I sleep(not counting dreams)
Try meditation and find out... it's bliss
This was funny. Dark funny but funny nonetheless. Hope you’re okay
@@the_snow9068 this is 100% true for me-
I love the "INFP vs normal People" 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣I really am not as normal as I want to be.
I fucking gasped at "The only thing they don't really care about are themselves"