I needed to hear this. Thanks for making this video. I feel like the older I get, the more "just right' perfectionism invades every aspect of my life, even down to silly small things like my hobbies.
Bro, I'm right there with you. Sometimes, I get stuck in my head, thinking I'll do this thing tomorrow or the day after. Analysis paralysis combined with procrastination can be exhausting.
This has quickly become one of my favorite channels. Your timing is always suspsicously impeccable with what's going on in life. Booking hotels absolutely sucks, I did it this past weekend. I've been trying to just pull the trigger as quickly as possible to limit indecision, getting the decision-making process over with rather than trying to min-max everything, and the cost-benefit ratio has been pretty solid so far. Now let's just hope I don't get axe-murdered at this next hotel I booked 🤞
I've definitely learned as the years went on to be nice to myself and just start something. Also to not try to take on everything all at once. Great advice here.
they way youre speaking is almost like an asmr rp, the voice tone, pacing and notions and everything is just so similar i got my heartstrings strung on a little here
I've noticed I'm very similar to you when it comes to analysis paralysis, perfection, fear to start, etc. These videos have been very helpful and I appreciate the effort you're putting in.
I've been feeling the effects of falling off of this paralysis with my backlog I've been thinking less of every single game I'm going to play and thinking more about the great experiences and the fact that eventually I was going to play it and at some point I wanted to so I just do it. That alone has made me clear around 9 games this month alone from my backlog, starting a new video project and making several other videos, thinking less and doing more really gets productivity up there. Also knowing and accepting that sometimes things don't need to be perfect is good, you have to fail in order to know what succeeds.
My guy your video notification came in at the right time for this as I’m sitting here trying to decide on that career path at one point I did everything in my field and just got stuck on what to do next. You’re words of encouragement my have helped me to push to take that first step
Thanks for another upload, this video is like a self-talk almost and although I knew about all the things you mentioned it still works at giving you the subtle nudge that you might need to have, right now decisions and quite a few things are really messy and beyond my control but I'm trying to work on the things I can and let the other things that I don't have any control over for outcome but can give it my best to just be as it needs to be. 🙂
I've been thinking all day about eating that leftover from yesterday, this video gave me the courage to finally do so, i think i'm gonna start with one bite and see what happens. Thanks mate. Just found this channel few days ago, i like your content. 👍
The last minutes really struck with me cause I also have a UA-cam channel right now and last year I wanted to do 20-30 minute video essays about stuff I really wanted to talk about, along the way I started to feel the pressure in myself and with a potato of a PC, things got really hard and disencouraging so I had to take a step back and just do simpler videos, not worrying about the rest or if it is the right choice. Also, currently doing my backlog in alphabetic order and that strategy certainly helps me in not creating situations of Analysis Paralyzis, I play a certain game for half a hour or one hour even, don´t like it? Doesn´t create a spark? Move on to the next game, it´s been great! Guys, just fucking do it, it´s really simple, things will go along and nothing has to be perfect
First do what is necessary. Then do what is possible. And before you know it you are doing the impossible. - Saint Francis Assisi. Sometimes my mind races and churns away with problems and worries at inappropriate times. I have learnt to ask myself "is it necessary I think about this right now?" I have so many things I need to get done that I don't know where to start... start with what's necessary.
You beat analysis paralysis by treating life like it's predetermined. It's all in the code. You're just experiencing your life. The harder you push the worse the pushback gets. Let go, and it'll come.
I was a very young attorney - was hired as an aassistant state's attorney at 26. I thought it was what I wanted to do with my life, but as soon as I started I quickly realized I was completely in the wrong place. To make things worse, I caught covid which then turned into long covid. It messed up my heart and my brain (I basically had such bad brain fog that my IQ dropped below the normal functional adult threshold). It's taken me two years to recover, but the feeling I lost years of my life and wasted my time trying to seek out a career I hated made me depressed. Now I'm trying to put myself back together and apply for PhD programs, so that I can someday do what I actually enjoy - teach history. Things are getting better, but I'm still haunted by that "what if" anxiety. "What if I hate this career path too?" "What if I fail?" "What if I get sick again?" and so on. Your recent content has helped a lot with all of that, man. It's helped me be able to just tell myself to calm down and take one day at a time. Thank you.
When I was a kid, I use to think that everything needed to be perfect, but as I grew up, I got out of that everything needed to be perfect mentality, for me it just came naturally, and I grew out of it!
Im really feeling this analysis paralysis thing in my career, and it's actually starting to affect my life, too. It's frustrating coz I have tried different things, but I still feel lost at times. But, I know I just have to keep moving, and it will work out.
I've recently been looking at my favorite UA-camrs oldest videos to compare to where they are now. Respect to anyone making content with nothing but their potato phone and a dream lmao. 😂
One tip for over coming most over thinking issues, is a good night's sleep, I've learnt I need something to help me stop thinking, but also something to relax me when I try to sleep, for me I download some free binaural audio podcasts, usually one hour each, I put my earphones in and just listen, I generally fall asleep quicker, my mind closes down gently, I do not wake half way through my sleep pattern, my dreams are more relaxed and I wake with more of that get up and go spirit..... So have a look for binaural podcasts, totally free.
@TJB-Gaming yes. I love Anomaly. Especially after the main trilogy. Gives so much freedom. I even put together my own personal modlist. Was a bit of work to get all the mods to cooperate but I think I'm satisfied with the results
What you say is exactly the same as what one of the wisdom books of the bible says: Ecclesiastes 11:4 “One who watches the wind will not sow, and the one who looks at the clouds will not reap.”
Great video! So this might sound stupid and it's more towards gaming. I've always been the one to buy latest tech when it comes out, if I stop using it later down the line I'll just sell it. I work full-time as an analyst and sit on my desk for almost 9-10hours a day (5 days a week) infront of a laptop/pc. I also have an extremely beefy pc (4090, 7800x3D) and before this pc I had the rtx 2080 and 3070. On top of my PC, i have a legion go (because I've always wanted to play on the "go", but honestly whenever i am on the "go" i barely use it) and I have a ps5. Lately, for some reason I've been unable to stick to where I want to play. On one hand, everything will run great on PC but not being able to disconnect from work --> gaming puts me off gaming on pc. On the other hand, I randomly have times where I just miss the simplicity of consoles and have that ability to actually switch off from work. I seem to have that issue of... do I buy silent hill 2 on PC or PS5 (example). I also seem to start going into this weird spiral of, well I'm going to need to update my pc and pay a lot of money in a couple of years to ensure I maintain the "standard" to play recent games. Additionally, with alot of these games coming out being extremely stuttery. Sorry for the long post! Just wanted to share my headspace and see if anyone else has ever felt the same? If so, how did you overcome it?
My problem is I don’t know what I wanna do for a career, which is normal at 19 but it’s eating me up, I wanna try and avoid college but it seems like I don’t have a choice.
College is a double edged sword. You can meet new people, you can also meet new people by taking classes complete seperate from school like a pottery class for instance. Every day is a school day no matter your age or location. Good luck pal!
I think I have recently struggled majorly with this. Mainly with my career of esports and how I want to find the right game for me. A lot of the triple A games have a lot of problems with them and none are perfect. What often deters me from wanting the stay with them is that the community can often call them "dead games" or they are on the down trend. I have mainly been scared of this because of how I don't want to sink a bunch of time into something that with inevitably fail. I also have had a inner conflict of debating if I enjoy these games at all. I know I like parts of them and that I do have a preference of certain ones, but I find it hard to stick with them and not feel as though one bad day is the end of it lol. Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this? I understand how the stars won't align perfectly and that perfect game may never exist, but I do want a game that I feel is actually fun and endearing in which would help me stay motivated. Also thanks for the great vid, these topics are hitting very close to home and that is why keep coming back to this channel. 🧡
My advice as a former pro in Fortnite and apex legends, do not pursue esports. I’m assuming you’re young and you don’t exactly understand the repercussions that come with the lifestyle. You’re envisioning yourself as your favorite pros, and you’re looking at motivational quotes and people that tell you to “follow your dreams”, but that’s only half the truth. Dreams can change, and life shows you what path to take when you branch out. I was a complete anxiety ridden kid that grinded 18 hours a day and dropped out of school to grind these games, and when it worked it was cool, but it was NOT life changing money, and I also had no social life or connections afterwards. I fell on my face in a spiraling depression and it took me years to get a normal job, meet my wife, grow my family, and just now getting on track with a college degree and a high paying field. I am lucky. Some of my former teammates and friends are broke, no talent, no degrees, and are on the cusp of 30 or mid 30s with no future or family/wives. Do NOT mistake a gaming life as a career. Play on the side and pursue education first and foremost. Get it while you’re young and stack a healthy bank account so you can travel and make memories when your life calls for it, instead of struggling financially wishing you took care of that part a decade ago. Cheers buddy
Hey, I do want to make videos like yours but I don’t have any gameplay footage, I mainly play on switch and ps5 and don’t have recording gear. Can you or someone else provide me with some footage I could use maybe?
This is better than the therapy I’ve payed real money for.
Same
Listen to this guy at work and my blood pressure drops.
Real
Alright, your video topics are getting creepily accurate lol.
TOO REAL!!!
yup
Agreed, this dude has his finger on the pulse.
I needed to hear this. Thanks for making this video. I feel like the older I get, the more "just right' perfectionism invades every aspect of my life, even down to silly small things like my hobbies.
Bro, I'm right there with you. Sometimes, I get stuck in my head, thinking I'll do this thing tomorrow or the day after.
Analysis paralysis combined with procrastination can be exhausting.
This has quickly become one of my favorite channels. Your timing is always suspsicously impeccable with what's going on in life. Booking hotels absolutely sucks, I did it this past weekend. I've been trying to just pull the trigger as quickly as possible to limit indecision, getting the decision-making process over with rather than trying to min-max everything, and the cost-benefit ratio has been pretty solid so far. Now let's just hope I don't get axe-murdered at this next hotel I booked 🤞
Dude, you didn't book into AxeMurder Inn did you?
@@sneezydeezymcdeluxe7015 .... But... But it was a great deal 😳
I've definitely learned as the years went on to be nice to myself and just start something. Also to not try to take on everything all at once. Great advice here.
Therapy for gaming. Love the topics, presentation and your voice is soothing. Like a chat with a mate over a cup of coffee on a rainy afternoon.
8:34 I don't know if it was intentional to use the word "replicate" while showing gameplay of the Nier franchise but it made me smile :)
they way youre speaking is almost like an asmr rp, the voice tone, pacing and notions and everything is just so similar
i got my heartstrings strung on a little here
I've noticed I'm very similar to you when it comes to analysis paralysis, perfection, fear to start, etc.
These videos have been very helpful and I appreciate the effort you're putting in.
I've been feeling the effects of falling off of this paralysis with my backlog
I've been thinking less of every single game I'm going to play and thinking more about the great experiences and the fact that eventually I was going to play it and at some point I wanted to so I just do it.
That alone has made me clear around 9 games this month alone from my backlog, starting a new video project and making several other videos, thinking less and doing more really gets productivity up there.
Also knowing and accepting that sometimes things don't need to be perfect is good, you have to fail in order to know what succeeds.
My guy your video notification came in at the right time for this as I’m sitting here trying to decide on that career path at one point I did everything in my field and just got stuck on what to do next. You’re words of encouragement my have helped me to push to take that first step
The gamers therapist 😎
Thanks for another upload, this video is like a self-talk almost and although I knew about all the things you mentioned it still works at giving you the subtle nudge that you might need to have, right now decisions and quite a few things are really messy and beyond my control but I'm trying to work on the things I can and let the other things that I don't have any control over for outcome but can give it my best to just be as it needs to be. 🙂
You've gotten really good at putting these things into words. Awesome content man.
I've been thinking all day about eating that leftover from yesterday, this video gave me the courage to finally do so, i think i'm gonna start with one bite and see what happens. Thanks mate. Just found this channel few days ago, i like your content. 👍
bro, thank you for your video, really felt it, your awsome!
This is fantastic advice that I really needed. Thank you.
Dude, your thought patterns, makes you my twin brother from another mother.
The last minutes really struck with me cause I also have a UA-cam channel right now and last year I wanted to do 20-30 minute video essays about stuff I really wanted to talk about, along the way I started to feel the pressure in myself and with a potato of a PC, things got really hard and disencouraging so I had to take a step back and just do simpler videos, not worrying about the rest or if it is the right choice. Also, currently doing my backlog in alphabetic order and that strategy certainly helps me in not creating situations of Analysis Paralyzis, I play a certain game for half a hour or one hour even, don´t like it? Doesn´t create a spark? Move on to the next game, it´s been great! Guys, just fucking do it, it´s really simple, things will go along and nothing has to be perfect
seriously when ever i get a problem this guy comes up with a video(solution) about it 😂
Top video man, very accurate 👌 keep it up ❤
First do what is necessary.
Then do what is possible.
And before you know it you are doing the impossible.
- Saint Francis Assisi.
Sometimes my mind races and churns away with problems and worries at inappropriate times. I have learnt to ask myself "is it necessary I think about this right now?"
I have so many things I need to get done that I don't know where to start... start with what's necessary.
Every day is a school day, and a planned itenerary is key. You can also just throw it away and go wherever your heart strings pull you.
You beat analysis paralysis by treating life like it's predetermined. It's all in the code. You're just experiencing your life. The harder you push the worse the pushback gets. Let go, and it'll come.
Really this video feels like my life in a nutshell i need to get out of that mindset of i need something to start to start something else
I was a very young attorney - was hired as an aassistant state's attorney at 26. I thought it was what I wanted to do with my life, but as soon as I started I quickly realized I was completely in the wrong place. To make things worse, I caught covid which then turned into long covid. It messed up my heart and my brain (I basically had such bad brain fog that my IQ dropped below the normal functional adult threshold). It's taken me two years to recover, but the feeling I lost years of my life and wasted my time trying to seek out a career I hated made me depressed.
Now I'm trying to put myself back together and apply for PhD programs, so that I can someday do what I actually enjoy - teach history. Things are getting better, but I'm still haunted by that "what if" anxiety. "What if I hate this career path too?" "What if I fail?" "What if I get sick again?" and so on.
Your recent content has helped a lot with all of that, man. It's helped me be able to just tell myself to calm down and take one day at a time.
Thank you.
When I was a kid, I use to think that everything needed to be perfect, but as I grew up, I got out of that everything needed to be perfect mentality, for me it just came naturally, and I grew out of it!
I really needed this
Im really feeling this analysis paralysis thing in my career, and it's actually starting to affect my life, too.
It's frustrating coz I have tried different things, but I still feel lost at times.
But, I know I just have to keep moving, and it will work out.
Thanks man you are chill advice god.
I've recently been looking at my favorite UA-camrs oldest videos to compare to where they are now. Respect to anyone making content with nothing but their potato phone and a dream lmao. 😂
Reunite gamers Dragoon has another therapy session for us
One tip for over coming most over thinking issues, is a good night's sleep, I've learnt I need something to help me stop thinking, but also something to relax me when I try to sleep, for me I download some free binaural audio podcasts, usually one hour each, I put my earphones in and just listen, I generally fall asleep quicker, my mind closes down gently, I do not wake half way through my sleep pattern, my dreams are more relaxed and I wake with more of that get up and go spirit..... So have a look for binaural podcasts, totally free.
Me: "I don't know what to play."
Also me: *boots up S.T.A.L.K.E.R Anomaly*
Man of culture, i see. XD
@TJB-Gaming yes. I love Anomaly. Especially after the main trilogy. Gives so much freedom. I even put together my own personal modlist. Was a bit of work to get all the mods to cooperate but I think I'm satisfied with the results
Was literally thinking about this 2 minutes ago
What you say is exactly the same as what one of the wisdom books of the bible says:
Ecclesiastes 11:4
“One who watches the wind will not sow,
and the one who looks at the clouds will not reap.”
Great video!
So this might sound stupid and it's more towards gaming.
I've always been the one to buy latest tech when it comes out, if I stop using it later down the line I'll just sell it.
I work full-time as an analyst and sit on my desk for almost 9-10hours a day (5 days a week) infront of a laptop/pc. I also have an extremely beefy pc (4090, 7800x3D) and before this pc I had the rtx 2080 and 3070. On top of my PC, i have a legion go (because I've always wanted to play on the "go", but honestly whenever i am on the "go" i barely use it) and I have a ps5.
Lately, for some reason I've been unable to stick to where I want to play. On one hand, everything will run great on PC but not being able to disconnect from work --> gaming puts me off gaming on pc. On the other hand, I randomly have times where I just miss the simplicity of consoles and have that ability to actually switch off from work.
I seem to have that issue of... do I buy silent hill 2 on PC or PS5 (example). I also seem to start going into this weird spiral of, well I'm going to need to update my pc and pay a lot of money in a couple of years to ensure I maintain the "standard" to play recent games. Additionally, with alot of these games coming out being extremely stuttery.
Sorry for the long post! Just wanted to share my headspace and see if anyone else has ever felt the same? If so, how did you overcome it?
I do this everyday getting home from work and end up not doing anything until bed 😭
Good vid
Thanks
My problem is I don’t know what I wanna do for a career, which is normal at 19 but it’s eating me up, I wanna try and avoid college but it seems like I don’t have a choice.
College is a double edged sword. You can meet new people, you can also meet new people by taking classes complete seperate from school like a pottery class for instance.
Every day is a school day no matter your age or location.
Good luck pal!
Perfectionism really is my biggest enemy.
I think I have recently struggled majorly with this. Mainly with my career of esports and how I want to find the right game for me. A lot of the triple A games have a lot of problems with them and none are perfect. What often deters me from wanting the stay with them is that the community can often call them "dead games" or they are on the down trend. I have mainly been scared of this because of how I don't want to sink a bunch of time into something that with inevitably fail. I also have had a inner conflict of debating if I enjoy these games at all. I know I like parts of them and that I do have a preference of certain ones, but I find it hard to stick with them and not feel as though one bad day is the end of it lol.
Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this? I understand how the stars won't align perfectly and that perfect game may never exist, but I do want a game that I feel is actually fun and endearing in which would help me stay motivated.
Also thanks for the great vid, these topics are hitting very close to home and that is why keep coming back to this channel. 🧡
My advice as a former pro in Fortnite and apex legends, do not pursue esports. I’m assuming you’re young and you don’t exactly understand the repercussions that come with the lifestyle. You’re envisioning yourself as your favorite pros, and you’re looking at motivational quotes and people that tell you to “follow your dreams”, but that’s only half the truth. Dreams can change, and life shows you what path to take when you branch out.
I was a complete anxiety ridden kid that grinded 18 hours a day and dropped out of school to grind these games, and when it worked it was cool, but it was NOT life changing money, and I also had no social life or connections afterwards. I fell on my face in a spiraling depression and it took me years to get a normal job, meet my wife, grow my family, and just now getting on track with a college degree and a high paying field. I am lucky. Some of my former teammates and friends are broke, no talent, no degrees, and are on the cusp of 30 or mid 30s with no future or family/wives. Do NOT mistake a gaming life as a career. Play on the side and pursue education first and foremost. Get it while you’re young and stack a healthy bank account so you can travel and make memories when your life calls for it, instead of struggling financially wishing you took care of that part a decade ago.
Cheers buddy
2:00 bro sounded like Sam sulek here
How did/do you figure out what to create? I’ve known I wanted to for a while, but am hard stuck on the ‘what’
Bacon, in a continental breakfast?
Uh oh...I suspect that might not have been a real hotel review. Think I'll look up some other UA-cam videos on this topic
U know me well 😢
Hey, I do want to make videos like yours but I don’t have any gameplay footage, I mainly play on switch and ps5 and don’t have recording gear. Can you or someone else provide me with some footage I could use maybe?
What game is this? The shmup.
erm what the sigma