Skateboarding is a perfect vessel to embrace overcoming failure. You can spend hours trying to learn something new but once you get it the payoff is pure bliss. It has helped me apply the long suffering skills in all aspects of my life
I’m kind of in this weird stuck point right now. I finished school doing homeschool, and I work for my parents now. I know I’m lucky to have what I have but I feel so unaccomplished and unfulfilled for some reason. I pray to God that I may find my calling one day
Hey dude, as someone who has felt like that and is working to move forward, two pieces of advice I can give that I hope you find helpful are: 1. Be patient with yourself and life. Don't overthink or stress too much about where things are headed because if you put effort into life, things will fall into place. 2. Try things you find interesting instead of just sitting down and wasting time for long periods of time. If you're interested in writing, try it. If you're interested in programming, try it. Whatever it is, try it, and that way, you will find something that you feel excited to work towards. Gl my good man 🫡
Just a hot take, but maybe because these opportunities were presented to you. You didn't have to search and fight for it? If you're in the running for a job and make it through the eye of the needle it might feel more fulfilling. Just my take. But don't scoff at having gotten a job through family.
Coming from a younger guy myself, let life do its thing man. It’s a real struggle when you’re just coming out of school/in uni or college and feel like you aren’t doing enough but the reality is is as long as we keep pushing forward and don’t let ourselves stagnate something will come to us eventually. I think the way I’ve been trying to stop feeling like that is giving myself something else work related to do outside of uni work/work. Hope this helps .
You can be lucky to have what you have and still feel bored and unfulfilled, it's actually predictable. It's why trust fund kids do drugs and blow all their money even though they "have it all". Life is about pursuing and overcoming challenge, and if you don't feel challenged I would just take a look around and find one, even if it's a hobby like rock or mountain climbing, getting your pilot's license, or learning how to code.
This came (strangely) at the right time. Yesterday only I was talking to my SO about the failure I experienced recently when my game failed to sell copies. That made me leave my comfort zone (of learning and studying Game dev) and I jumped into more traditional programming. It was tough (and the market is in a rough state) but I feel happy that I didn't quit and gave up. I had to jump ship given the declining state of gaming industry (layoffs etc). I'm gonna fight until I end up getting what I deserve and what suits me. Just like Michael from GTA 5 said - "Surviving is winning, Franklin"
Bbk is on another level with these throwback style vids, man. I have been grappling with trying to 'be okay with failure' for yeara now! I have certainly improved, but I still have a long way to go with being comfortable with failure and even embracing making mistakes to learn from them. Appreciate what you're doing with these videos, bud. 😊
Love the mindset. I wish more people had it. I have friends who always have something to complain about when they're bad at a game, instead of just reflecting on themselves. They refuse to change the way they play regarding the scenario. You can complain all you want, but if you don't attempt to fix the issues, it's just empty words.
I had a professor say once "college is not about getting the degree, it's about coming out a better version of yourself. If you do that correctly you will also walk out of here with a degree"
I find personally that life is a series of cascading failures punctuated by intermittent success. If you're trying to accomplish anything new, challenging, and worthwhile, you will fail; probably multiple times, before you succeed. Failure is a necessary and anticipated part of any process. But knowing that doesn't necessarily make the experience any easier. Being upset by your own failure is normal- it's human. Just don't let it break your spirit.
Forget the small letters and stuff. Doing stuff for the pleasure of doing your best has so many benefits (and it does NOT backfire like other things do). I failed many classes because of procrastination (being smart enough to do well on exams after studying but not to finish homework on one night). But when I was putting effort it was notorious, it felt good and nothing bad comes from it.
I'm ALMOST tempted to get back into Ranked League of Legends and try to break Silver after hearing your SC2 story.... I'm not sure I'm mentally prepared for that again lol. For real though, this is a great lesson we all need to hear over and over and over again in life. Failure is not the end. And you won't ever succeed if you never fail.
Thankfully I've been quite successful in all my creative and gaming pursuits, but it's only thanks to several past failures that I've been this persistent. I remember when I first started playing Soul Calibur IV, I would get rekt to my surprise. I thought I was the best seeing as how out of all my friends and family, I was the only person who knew how to understand characters gimmicks and somewhat memorize their movelists, so I always knew what I was doing while they mashed buttons. I started practicing combos and paying attention to enemy behaviours, and eventually I was able to go from a 40% win rate to 60% in SCIV in particular, and 70% winrate in SCV. It made me realize that if I just took the time to learn and understand the game to the level that I did, I could apply the same kind of dedication elsewhere and feel like I can fail and try again as safely as I did in these games. Not to mention a whole lot of other games I've had similar processes with. These days, I take much more risks in real life and know that it's not the end of the world if I fail. Video games taught me how to be patient with myself if I do. There are some anti-video game jackasses who think video games are a waste of time, and one of them even said they were embarrassed for me for learning how to deal with failure through video games. I say nuts to them because it's a valuable skill to learn in a very fun way, and yeah well it's their loss. Upon further investigation, I learned that these are the kinda people who have little to no joy in life so they hate to see others have fun, even when it comes to failing and learning from mistakes. It's their loss if they want to have that mindset. But anyways, sidetrack aside, thanks again for an introspective video to start the week off with! It has given me the best possible thing for me to meditate on this afternoon.
I am going through the same thing, where I am not a low GPA, but this semester I have not been doing work, and am feeling super pathetic for not doing it. This video came out the right time, had a maybe a half breakdown yesterday. I woke up this morning and started doing my work. But I am soooo behind on 2 of my major classes, that I don't feel like I can catch up to them.
As I've got older, I've come to realize NO just means it's time for the Next Opportunity. Most success in comes from constant trial-and-error, shame society teaches us from a young age to avoid failure like the plague.
releast channel i have been following and have watched in a while. had one bad year in 2021, but now being back on track is an understatement. believe in the comeback, folks
Then there's me who got 1 mark off from a 1st Class bachelors degree (i.e. the best award based on UK grading) and I felt like an absolute failure. I treated myself as such for years, even though i wasn't... even on paper I wasn't. I was awarded a 2:1 (2nd Class, 1st Division) which is the standard sought after when applying for work in th UK. For a bit more context, I have extremely high standards and put tonnes of pressure on myself due to expectations from others. I was also dealing with severe depression & social anxiety at the time which made my thought process more dramatic & waaaay worse than it needed to be. I'm thankfully in a much better headspace these days, not always 100% but taking it day by day 😊
I think you need to take an action and be okay with failing. I’m on that boat rn, stagnet and nervous to take action even though there are things I know I need to do.
I actually had a very similar story with starcraft. I played a lot of starcraft years ago and at the time i hit a wall in my rank around gold tier but it wasnt till i started to watch my own replays see what mistakes i did and i started looking up guides and useful information about little details with unit interactions that i eventually climbed from gold to diamond before i stopped really spending a lot of time with starcraft and moved on with my life at the time.
I wasted kind of 2 years of my college, now I have 4 backs et the starting sem of 3rd year, need to cover all the backlogs. While still learning different things for my Cs major. And get an internship. But I am doing pretty well.
I had a similar experience in college I remember to avoid getting kicked out I had to get a 97 or higher on a math final to get a C in the class to boost my gpa to stay in school. lol
Great video. Life doesn’t owe you anything, victim mentality is rampant in our society today. Take responsibility for your problems and you give yourself the power for fix them!
My now ex bf is the king of victim mentality. He broke up with me and disrespected me in my home that he was living in for free and played victim to his now ex friends when I threatened to kick him out if he isn't out by this weekend. The audacity. They're now my friends.
My biggest struggle right now is the upcoming election, and I’m hoping and praying that we can make it through this, it’s not easy, that’s why I’m taking breaks from gaming because of stress, and it won’t go away until the election is over, the election is on top of my mind right now!
Skateboarding is a perfect vessel to embrace overcoming failure. You can spend hours trying to learn something new but once you get it the payoff is pure bliss. It has helped me apply the long suffering skills in all aspects of my life
I’m kind of in this weird stuck point right now. I finished school doing homeschool, and I work for my parents now. I know I’m lucky to have what I have but I feel so unaccomplished and unfulfilled for some reason. I pray to God that I may find my calling one day
Hey dude, as someone who has felt like that and is working to move forward, two pieces of advice I can give that I hope you find helpful are:
1. Be patient with yourself and life. Don't overthink or stress too much about where things are headed because if you put effort into life, things will fall into place.
2. Try things you find interesting instead of just sitting down and wasting time for long periods of time.
If you're interested in writing, try it. If you're interested in programming, try it. Whatever it is, try it, and that way, you will find something that you feel excited to work towards.
Gl my good man 🫡
Just a hot take, but maybe because these opportunities were presented to you. You didn't have to search and fight for it?
If you're in the running for a job and make it through the eye of the needle it might feel more fulfilling.
Just my take. But don't scoff at having gotten a job through family.
Coming from a younger guy myself, let life do its thing man. It’s a real struggle when you’re just coming out of school/in uni or college and feel like you aren’t doing enough but the reality is is as long as we keep pushing forward and don’t let ourselves stagnate something will come to us eventually. I think the way I’ve been trying to stop feeling like that is giving myself something else work related to do outside of uni work/work. Hope this helps .
It helps for sure. It’s nice seeing another perspective. Thank you both
You can be lucky to have what you have and still feel bored and unfulfilled, it's actually predictable. It's why trust fund kids do drugs and blow all their money even though they "have it all". Life is about pursuing and overcoming challenge, and if you don't feel challenged I would just take a look around and find one, even if it's a hobby like rock or mountain climbing, getting your pilot's license, or learning how to code.
This came (strangely) at the right time. Yesterday only I was talking to my SO about the failure I experienced recently when my game failed to sell copies. That made me leave my comfort zone (of learning and studying Game dev) and I jumped into more traditional programming. It was tough (and the market is in a rough state) but I feel happy that I didn't quit and gave up. I had to jump ship given the declining state of gaming industry (layoffs etc). I'm gonna fight until I end up getting what I deserve and what suits me.
Just like Michael from GTA 5 said - "Surviving is winning, Franklin"
talking about leaving comfort zone, overcoming oneself is the hardest
Bbk is on another level with these throwback style vids, man.
I have been grappling with trying to 'be okay with failure' for yeara now! I have certainly improved, but I still have a long way to go with being comfortable with failure and even embracing making mistakes to learn from them.
Appreciate what you're doing with these videos, bud. 😊
Love the mindset. I wish more people had it.
I have friends who always have something to complain about when they're bad at a game, instead of just reflecting on themselves. They refuse to change the way they play regarding the scenario.
You can complain all you want, but if you don't attempt to fix the issues, it's just empty words.
I had a professor say once "college is not about getting the degree, it's about coming out a better version of yourself. If you do that correctly you will also walk out of here with a degree"
I find personally that life is a series of cascading failures punctuated by intermittent success.
If you're trying to accomplish anything new, challenging, and worthwhile, you will fail; probably multiple times, before you succeed. Failure is a necessary and anticipated part of any process. But knowing that doesn't necessarily make the experience any easier. Being upset by your own failure is normal- it's human. Just don't let it break your spirit.
Forget the small letters and stuff. Doing stuff for the pleasure of doing your best has so many benefits (and it does NOT backfire like other things do).
I failed many classes because of procrastination (being smart enough to do well on exams after studying but not to finish homework on one night). But when I was putting effort it was notorious, it felt good and nothing bad comes from it.
I'm ALMOST tempted to get back into Ranked League of Legends and try to break Silver after hearing your SC2 story.... I'm not sure I'm mentally prepared for that again lol. For real though, this is a great lesson we all need to hear over and over and over again in life. Failure is not the end. And you won't ever succeed if you never fail.
Thankfully I've been quite successful in all my creative and gaming pursuits, but it's only thanks to several past failures that I've been this persistent.
I remember when I first started playing Soul Calibur IV, I would get rekt to my surprise. I thought I was the best seeing as how out of all my friends and family, I was the only person who knew how to understand characters gimmicks and somewhat memorize their movelists, so I always knew what I was doing while they mashed buttons.
I started practicing combos and paying attention to enemy behaviours, and eventually I was able to go from a 40% win rate to 60% in SCIV in particular, and 70% winrate in SCV.
It made me realize that if I just took the time to learn and understand the game to the level that I did, I could apply the same kind of dedication elsewhere and feel like I can fail and try again as safely as I did in these games. Not to mention a whole lot of other games I've had similar processes with.
These days, I take much more risks in real life and know that it's not the end of the world if I fail. Video games taught me how to be patient with myself if I do.
There are some anti-video game jackasses who think video games are a waste of time, and one of them even said they were embarrassed for me for learning how to deal with failure through video games. I say nuts to them because it's a valuable skill to learn in a very fun way, and yeah well it's their loss.
Upon further investigation, I learned that these are the kinda people who have little to no joy in life so they hate to see others have fun, even when it comes to failing and learning from mistakes. It's their loss if they want to have that mindset.
But anyways, sidetrack aside, thanks again for an introspective video to start the week off with! It has given me the best possible thing for me to meditate on this afternoon.
I am going through the same thing, where I am not a low GPA, but this semester I have not been doing work, and am feeling super pathetic for not doing it. This video came out the right time, had a maybe a half breakdown yesterday. I woke up this morning and started doing my work. But I am soooo behind on 2 of my major classes, that I don't feel like I can catch up to them.
As I've got older, I've come to realize NO just means it's time for the Next Opportunity. Most success in comes from constant trial-and-error, shame society teaches us from a young age to avoid failure like the plague.
Gamer therapist never misses
releast channel i have been following and have watched in a while. had one bad year in 2021, but now being back on track is an understatement. believe in the comeback, folks
Man I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
Then there's me who got 1 mark off from a 1st Class bachelors degree (i.e. the best award based on UK grading) and I felt like an absolute failure. I treated myself as such for years, even though i wasn't... even on paper I wasn't. I was awarded a 2:1 (2nd Class, 1st Division) which is the standard sought after when applying for work in th UK.
For a bit more context, I have extremely high standards and put tonnes of pressure on myself due to expectations from others. I was also dealing with severe depression & social anxiety at the time which made my thought process more dramatic & waaaay worse than it needed to be.
I'm thankfully in a much better headspace these days, not always 100% but taking it day by day 😊
You’re quickly becoming my favorite UA-camr. You have the same content that I always wanted to start creating!
what if i'm just anxious and stressed and stagnating? what If i'm not necessarily outright failing, but just stagnating?
I think you need to take an action and be okay with failing. I’m on that boat rn, stagnet and nervous to take action even though there are things I know I need to do.
I actually had a very similar story with starcraft. I played a lot of starcraft years ago and at the time i hit a wall in my rank around gold tier but it wasnt till i started to watch my own replays see what mistakes i did and i started looking up guides and useful information about little details with unit interactions that i eventually climbed from gold to diamond before i stopped really spending a lot of time with starcraft and moved on with my life at the time.
I wasted kind of 2 years of my college, now I have 4 backs et the starting sem of 3rd year, need to cover all the backlogs. While still learning different things for my Cs major. And get an internship. But I am doing pretty well.
Great Video, thanks for sharing
I love your videos.
Ads are so intrusive that I am avoiding youtube as much as possible. 3 already here... Yours is one of the channels I can try. F youtube...
Dave the diver is something on my list to play
Went through something similar. Don’t remember much about graduation though besides being profoundly exhausted.
8 am to 10pm on campus is fucking titan mode. Wow.
I had a similar experience in college
I remember to avoid getting kicked out I had to get a 97 or higher on a math final to get a C in the class to boost my gpa to stay in school. lol
Great video. Life doesn’t owe you anything, victim mentality is rampant in our society today. Take responsibility for your problems and you give yourself the power for fix them!
My now ex bf is the king of victim mentality. He broke up with me and disrespected me in my home that he was living in for free and played victim to his now ex friends when I threatened to kick him out if he isn't out by this weekend. The audacity. They're now my friends.
My biggest struggle right now is the upcoming election, and I’m hoping and praying that we can make it through this, it’s not easy, that’s why I’m taking breaks from gaming because of stress, and it won’t go away until the election is over, the election is on top of my mind right now!
Failure is always a way to improve yourself, it makes your mistakes into an opportunity to improve yourself in every way!
Thanks
Smart Clip I like ❤
Awesome vid! All facts
What game is this btw?:)